1 00:00:02,560 --> 00:00:09,039 Speaker 1: This is Let's Be Clear with Shannon Dorny. We're back 2 00:00:09,160 --> 00:00:12,799 Speaker 1: with another episode of Let's Be Clear, and today I 3 00:00:12,840 --> 00:00:16,439 Speaker 1: am joined by my absolute best friend in the entire world, 4 00:00:16,880 --> 00:00:21,360 Speaker 1: Chris Cretazzo, renowned real estate agent and the man who 5 00:00:21,520 --> 00:00:25,040 Speaker 1: has had my heart from day one. I love you, Chris, 6 00:00:25,160 --> 00:00:25,639 Speaker 1: I love you. 7 00:00:25,720 --> 00:00:28,560 Speaker 2: To Shannon Doty, I'm so happy that you're here. 8 00:00:30,600 --> 00:00:33,519 Speaker 1: I feel like I don't know, it's it's like I 9 00:00:33,520 --> 00:00:36,440 Speaker 1: didn't feel anything was right until like you did this 10 00:00:36,560 --> 00:00:36,800 Speaker 1: with me. 11 00:00:37,159 --> 00:00:38,920 Speaker 2: Well, I cannot write to do it with you. 12 00:00:39,320 --> 00:00:42,519 Speaker 1: I'm so excited. I'm so excited. A lot of people 13 00:00:43,080 --> 00:00:47,040 Speaker 1: have asked me how we met, So can you explain 14 00:00:47,080 --> 00:00:48,000 Speaker 1: how we met. 15 00:00:48,320 --> 00:00:50,919 Speaker 2: We met on a showing and you were with your 16 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:55,240 Speaker 2: beautiful mom and dad and they said to you when 17 00:00:55,280 --> 00:00:57,360 Speaker 2: they met me, you're going to be marrying this man, 18 00:00:58,040 --> 00:01:00,160 Speaker 2: and their prediction will come true. 19 00:01:01,720 --> 00:01:06,160 Speaker 1: That is true. So we yes. Chris was my father's 20 00:01:06,240 --> 00:01:09,480 Speaker 1: like dream guy for me, still my mother's dream guy 21 00:01:09,520 --> 00:01:12,959 Speaker 1: for me. And it's excellent because you have two children 22 00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:16,000 Speaker 1: and so it's like a it's built in family. 23 00:01:16,120 --> 00:01:17,440 Speaker 2: It's a built in family, is right. 24 00:01:17,760 --> 00:01:20,039 Speaker 1: It's so awesome for me. 25 00:01:20,600 --> 00:01:23,240 Speaker 2: And you're the best basically. 26 00:01:23,120 --> 00:01:26,679 Speaker 1: Mama, Mama. I mean now, I am right. Your daughter 27 00:01:26,840 --> 00:01:28,160 Speaker 1: scared me to death. 28 00:01:28,400 --> 00:01:31,319 Speaker 2: She is a very powerful soul. 29 00:01:31,520 --> 00:01:34,720 Speaker 1: Oh so his kids names for our listeners are and 30 00:01:34,920 --> 00:01:37,720 Speaker 1: Yellow and More. Just in case you didn't know, Chris 31 00:01:37,760 --> 00:01:43,280 Speaker 1: is obviously Italian last name car but then you have 32 00:01:43,440 --> 00:01:48,400 Speaker 1: like Ann Yello and Amore, so obviously he's very Italian. 33 00:01:48,920 --> 00:01:52,280 Speaker 1: And and Yellow was always kind of like easy for me, 34 00:01:52,560 --> 00:01:57,320 Speaker 1: but a more Oh my goodness. She would look at me, 35 00:01:58,720 --> 00:02:01,840 Speaker 1: just look at me with like ew like who are 36 00:02:01,920 --> 00:02:05,880 Speaker 1: you lady? Or she would cry like the minute I 37 00:02:05,920 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 1: would try to like hold her or touch her. She 38 00:02:09,760 --> 00:02:13,400 Speaker 1: was not having it. And I have never been scared 39 00:02:13,440 --> 00:02:17,440 Speaker 1: of a kid before. I'm excellent with children, and this 40 00:02:17,600 --> 00:02:21,239 Speaker 1: kid scared me to death. 41 00:02:21,480 --> 00:02:24,720 Speaker 2: And have to be honest with you, it actually thrilled 42 00:02:24,760 --> 00:02:27,120 Speaker 2: me because you're afraid of no. 43 00:02:27,000 --> 00:02:31,600 Speaker 1: One, no one except for Amore Amour. 44 00:02:31,880 --> 00:02:35,960 Speaker 2: That is one powerful spirit. Aunt. You know what, You 45 00:02:36,080 --> 00:02:39,679 Speaker 2: stuck with it, and she loves you. All she wants 46 00:02:39,720 --> 00:02:41,360 Speaker 2: to do is go to Anti Shannon's. 47 00:02:41,680 --> 00:02:46,440 Speaker 1: So I my tactic was to start ignoring her when 48 00:02:46,480 --> 00:02:48,240 Speaker 1: I would come over. I don't like I think I 49 00:02:48,280 --> 00:02:49,200 Speaker 1: discussed it with you. 50 00:02:49,120 --> 00:02:50,640 Speaker 2: But you came on too strong. 51 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:54,079 Speaker 1: I came on too strong at first. And what I realized, 52 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:56,840 Speaker 1: and what Chris talked to me about, is that she 53 00:02:57,919 --> 00:03:02,920 Speaker 1: could basically be my kid because our personalities are very similar. 54 00:03:03,240 --> 00:03:05,080 Speaker 1: So when you come on too strong with me, I 55 00:03:05,120 --> 00:03:09,040 Speaker 1: get a little wary. I get suspicious of you. And 56 00:03:09,680 --> 00:03:13,200 Speaker 1: that's what happened with me and Amorey came on too strong. 57 00:03:13,280 --> 00:03:15,080 Speaker 1: I really wanted her to love me. I wanted to 58 00:03:15,080 --> 00:03:17,600 Speaker 1: start developing this relationship with her, like right out of 59 00:03:17,600 --> 00:03:20,440 Speaker 1: the gate, because I've always wanted a little girl, like 60 00:03:21,720 --> 00:03:25,840 Speaker 1: just always wanted a little girl. So I was like, Okay, 61 00:03:25,880 --> 00:03:27,840 Speaker 1: she's mine, she's mine, she's mine, she's gonna love me. 62 00:03:27,880 --> 00:03:29,400 Speaker 1: I'm going to make her love me. And it was 63 00:03:29,440 --> 00:03:31,280 Speaker 1: too much. So then I was like, all right, I'm 64 00:03:31,280 --> 00:03:34,680 Speaker 1: going to ignore her, and I did, and she would 65 00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:36,400 Speaker 1: kind of like when I would walk in the house 66 00:03:36,440 --> 00:03:39,320 Speaker 1: and I would be like and yello and amour. I 67 00:03:39,360 --> 00:03:41,440 Speaker 1: just wouldn't even say hi to Moray and she I 68 00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:43,280 Speaker 1: would like glance at her and she would look at 69 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:47,120 Speaker 1: me with this like suspicious almost like she would like 70 00:03:47,200 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 1: tilt her head a little bit, almost like a t 71 00:03:49,280 --> 00:03:49,880 Speaker 1: rex does. 72 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:53,640 Speaker 2: It was the raptors drassword Park totally. 73 00:03:53,720 --> 00:03:58,480 Speaker 1: That's what she reminds me of. Sweet And I just 74 00:03:58,560 --> 00:04:01,720 Speaker 1: kept going with that because I'm like, Okay, least at 75 00:04:01,840 --> 00:04:05,240 Speaker 1: least I'm intriguing her now, which is great, and I'm 76 00:04:05,240 --> 00:04:08,520 Speaker 1: throwing her off her game because now I don't want 77 00:04:08,600 --> 00:04:11,040 Speaker 1: anything from her. Do you remember when I called you 78 00:04:11,080 --> 00:04:13,320 Speaker 1: and told you that there was a breakthrough? I do 79 00:04:14,360 --> 00:04:20,159 Speaker 1: outside Christie's and I was there, having like an very 80 00:04:20,160 --> 00:04:23,680 Speaker 1: early dinner because I loved like the Senior Citizen early 81 00:04:23,720 --> 00:04:28,760 Speaker 1: bird specials. It's our thing, and like, if we're not 82 00:04:28,800 --> 00:04:30,880 Speaker 1: at dinner by five point thirty, we just won't even 83 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:36,440 Speaker 1: bother going to dinner. We're so pathetic, but I love 84 00:04:36,480 --> 00:04:40,480 Speaker 1: it. It makes me so happy. And they were playing, and 85 00:04:40,560 --> 00:04:42,680 Speaker 1: so I kind of like went out there to say 86 00:04:42,760 --> 00:04:46,520 Speaker 1: hi to an yellow and Amore sort of stood next 87 00:04:46,600 --> 00:04:52,440 Speaker 1: to me and she handed me her straw, and I 88 00:04:52,520 --> 00:04:54,920 Speaker 1: like I had to leave. I was like, thank you, 89 00:04:55,160 --> 00:04:57,320 Speaker 1: and I had to go because I started crying, and 90 00:04:57,360 --> 00:04:59,600 Speaker 1: I called you and I was like, we had a breakthrough. 91 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:02,080 Speaker 1: We had a breakthrough. She gave me her straw. 92 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:03,400 Speaker 2: This is so exciting. 93 00:05:03,800 --> 00:05:07,520 Speaker 1: And then the other breakthrough actually came very recently. Then 94 00:05:08,200 --> 00:05:11,440 Speaker 1: I had you guys, over for pizza night at the house. 95 00:05:11,640 --> 00:05:16,800 Speaker 2: That sealed. That was the ceiling of your bond. Yes, sure, yes, 96 00:05:16,880 --> 00:05:19,680 Speaker 2: And all they say is every Sunday are we going 97 00:05:19,720 --> 00:05:20,880 Speaker 2: to Anti Shamman's. 98 00:05:21,160 --> 00:05:23,440 Speaker 1: And the answer should be yes, every Sunday. 99 00:05:23,520 --> 00:05:24,600 Speaker 2: So we'll see you this Sunday. 100 00:05:24,640 --> 00:05:30,680 Speaker 1: Absolutely you will. I actually have pizza dough mate, great, 101 00:05:31,120 --> 00:05:33,719 Speaker 1: So right, So that's okay. So we met. I don't 102 00:05:33,720 --> 00:05:37,000 Speaker 1: even know how. I mean, was I like twenty twenty one. 103 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:39,599 Speaker 2: Twenty something years ago? Is it? No? 104 00:05:39,839 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 1: It was longer than that when we met thirty years ago. 105 00:05:42,640 --> 00:05:49,279 Speaker 2: Yes, no, way, yeah, I got another glass of wine. 106 00:05:49,279 --> 00:05:51,080 Speaker 1: I know. Well, you got to finish that one first. 107 00:05:51,839 --> 00:05:54,640 Speaker 1: It wasn't like we became best friends instantly. 108 00:05:54,920 --> 00:05:56,840 Speaker 2: No, but we were intrigued with each other. 109 00:05:57,080 --> 00:06:00,560 Speaker 1: Yes, well I wanted to date you and you wanted 110 00:06:00,560 --> 00:06:01,360 Speaker 1: to sell me a house. 111 00:06:03,680 --> 00:06:09,279 Speaker 2: Eventually I did. But our bonding moment was when my 112 00:06:09,440 --> 00:06:15,160 Speaker 2: dad passed, and we had such an appreciation for our 113 00:06:15,200 --> 00:06:19,039 Speaker 2: love for our parents, and I loved that about you. 114 00:06:19,680 --> 00:06:23,640 Speaker 2: That was what really cemented my respect and love for 115 00:06:23,720 --> 00:06:26,800 Speaker 2: you is how great you were with your mom and dad. 116 00:06:27,279 --> 00:06:29,760 Speaker 2: They reigned supreme in your life, and they reigned supreme 117 00:06:29,839 --> 00:06:33,200 Speaker 2: in my life. And I lost my dad first. And 118 00:06:33,240 --> 00:06:36,560 Speaker 2: then when I got the call that your dad passed, 119 00:06:37,040 --> 00:06:40,080 Speaker 2: I instantly have you go up to the ranch, which 120 00:06:40,120 --> 00:06:43,360 Speaker 2: is the most healing property in the world, and you 121 00:06:43,400 --> 00:06:46,960 Speaker 2: and your moment up there and just nestled in and 122 00:06:47,000 --> 00:06:49,000 Speaker 2: healed as best you could. 123 00:06:49,240 --> 00:06:54,120 Speaker 1: Yes, it was it was the first time since my 124 00:06:54,279 --> 00:06:59,479 Speaker 1: dad had passed away. And you know, he passed away 125 00:06:59,480 --> 00:07:01,640 Speaker 1: in a way that like I as you know, I 126 00:07:02,440 --> 00:07:07,320 Speaker 1: wasn't settled with because definitely not I was. There wasn't 127 00:07:07,400 --> 00:07:09,400 Speaker 1: a time he didn't go in the hospital. There wasn't 128 00:07:09,400 --> 00:07:12,120 Speaker 1: a time that he you know, when he had I 129 00:07:12,160 --> 00:07:15,440 Speaker 1: don't even know, like nine heart attacks, ten strokes, eleven strokes, 130 00:07:15,800 --> 00:07:19,880 Speaker 1: quintuple bypass, heart surgery, full kidney failure. There wasn't one 131 00:07:20,040 --> 00:07:25,080 Speaker 1: time that I wasn't present. And I went on a 132 00:07:25,120 --> 00:07:29,240 Speaker 1: book tour and I was in New York when he 133 00:07:29,280 --> 00:07:31,960 Speaker 1: got rushed to the hospital and I left all my 134 00:07:32,040 --> 00:07:37,400 Speaker 1: clothes in the in the hotel room, like just grabbed 135 00:07:37,440 --> 00:07:41,160 Speaker 1: a taxi, ran to the airport. And I got to 136 00:07:41,200 --> 00:07:43,840 Speaker 1: the airport and my mom called me and said he's gone. 137 00:07:44,520 --> 00:07:49,200 Speaker 1: And you know, then it like once I landed, it 138 00:07:49,240 --> 00:07:53,560 Speaker 1: became about getting my mom through it getting my brother 139 00:07:53,680 --> 00:07:59,320 Speaker 1: through it, like picking out a casket, like figuring out 140 00:07:59,520 --> 00:08:02,920 Speaker 1: how the service was going to go down, who should 141 00:08:02,960 --> 00:08:06,960 Speaker 1: be there. It was like a really weird thing. So 142 00:08:07,040 --> 00:08:10,400 Speaker 1: I just went on you know, remote control. I was 143 00:08:10,440 --> 00:08:13,440 Speaker 1: like a robot. It was like, you know, like a rumba, 144 00:08:13,560 --> 00:08:16,400 Speaker 1: like going around you were, by the way, I really 145 00:08:16,480 --> 00:08:19,920 Speaker 1: need one of those things going around your house and 146 00:08:19,960 --> 00:08:23,520 Speaker 1: like automatically vacuuming. I was just on autopilot. 147 00:08:23,680 --> 00:08:26,040 Speaker 2: And well, you're in shock mode. 148 00:08:26,120 --> 00:08:32,360 Speaker 1: I was in shock and I couldn't hear him, and 149 00:08:32,400 --> 00:08:36,320 Speaker 1: it was freaking me out that, like I couldn't hear 150 00:08:36,320 --> 00:08:38,560 Speaker 1: my dad because I was used to speaking to him 151 00:08:38,679 --> 00:08:42,320 Speaker 1: every day, multiple times a day and seeing him all 152 00:08:42,400 --> 00:08:48,480 Speaker 1: the time. So when you said after his service, you 153 00:08:48,520 --> 00:08:51,160 Speaker 1: were like, go to the ranch. Go to the ranch. 154 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:54,440 Speaker 1: It's a ranch up in the in the mountains of Malibu. 155 00:08:54,960 --> 00:08:58,440 Speaker 1: You were like, go, it's healing, it's everything. And I went. 156 00:08:59,520 --> 00:09:02,080 Speaker 1: We were in side. We had just you know, had 157 00:09:02,120 --> 00:09:05,600 Speaker 1: some food and because you made sure that there was 158 00:09:05,640 --> 00:09:09,880 Speaker 1: food there for us, like everything, and there was this 159 00:09:10,000 --> 00:09:13,560 Speaker 1: wind and probably what some people don't know about me, 160 00:09:13,640 --> 00:09:16,040 Speaker 1: you know this is that I'm Native American Indian, I'm 161 00:09:16,240 --> 00:09:21,240 Speaker 1: part Native American Indian and I feel that tie all 162 00:09:21,280 --> 00:09:24,840 Speaker 1: the time to that that part of my heritage and 163 00:09:25,080 --> 00:09:30,640 Speaker 1: where Chris's Ranches is surrounded by like Indian sacred ground. 164 00:09:30,720 --> 00:09:36,280 Speaker 1: Really yeah. And I went outside and I set on 165 00:09:36,600 --> 00:09:41,520 Speaker 1: the steps outside and just sat there and I was like, 166 00:09:42,960 --> 00:09:45,600 Speaker 1: why can't like I can't believe, like I don't get 167 00:09:45,600 --> 00:09:49,480 Speaker 1: to talk to my dad again. And this wind picked 168 00:09:49,559 --> 00:09:55,760 Speaker 1: up and I heard my father and his arms literally 169 00:09:55,840 --> 00:09:58,800 Speaker 1: I felt his I know it gives you his I 170 00:09:58,840 --> 00:10:02,360 Speaker 1: felt his arms go around me and he said it's 171 00:10:02,400 --> 00:10:05,840 Speaker 1: gonna be okay, baby, I love you. I'm here, And 172 00:10:05,920 --> 00:10:12,520 Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, like he is still here, 173 00:10:12,760 --> 00:10:17,439 Speaker 1: like he's everywhere, He's everywhere. Yeah, And it was such 174 00:10:17,480 --> 00:10:23,920 Speaker 1: a crazy powerful moment and something that I know, I 175 00:10:24,120 --> 00:10:26,640 Speaker 1: thank you for giving me that moment. You know, you're 176 00:10:26,720 --> 00:10:31,719 Speaker 1: so ridiculously giving to begin with, and you don't ever 177 00:10:31,800 --> 00:10:36,040 Speaker 1: need to thank you, but I just it meant the 178 00:10:36,040 --> 00:10:39,000 Speaker 1: world to me because it gave me a little bit 179 00:10:39,040 --> 00:10:41,400 Speaker 1: of closure in something that was so hard to have 180 00:10:41,480 --> 00:10:44,680 Speaker 1: closure with, you know, much like probably your experience with 181 00:10:44,760 --> 00:10:45,200 Speaker 1: your dad. 182 00:10:45,360 --> 00:10:47,640 Speaker 2: Well, you know, it's interesting that we both got a 183 00:10:47,679 --> 00:10:50,840 Speaker 2: phone call. My parents were in Canada, My dad left 184 00:10:50,880 --> 00:10:53,959 Speaker 2: his body there, and I always say, your one phone 185 00:10:53,960 --> 00:10:57,480 Speaker 2: call away from your whole life changing. And it happened 186 00:10:57,520 --> 00:11:01,760 Speaker 2: to both of us, and we were the people who should. 187 00:11:01,440 --> 00:11:03,240 Speaker 1: Have We should have been there. 188 00:11:03,160 --> 00:11:05,280 Speaker 2: We should have been there, but the universe did not, 189 00:11:06,040 --> 00:11:07,600 Speaker 2: or they or they, I know. 190 00:11:07,760 --> 00:11:12,120 Speaker 1: You know because they they both. Your dad passed away 191 00:11:12,120 --> 00:11:15,680 Speaker 1: with your mom present. My father passed away with my 192 00:11:15,800 --> 00:11:19,640 Speaker 1: mother present. And I didn't think that they did not 193 00:11:19,800 --> 00:11:20,440 Speaker 1: want us there. 194 00:11:21,240 --> 00:11:24,800 Speaker 2: I think it would have been too intense for us 195 00:11:24,840 --> 00:11:27,719 Speaker 2: because of our bond with our dads. 196 00:11:28,040 --> 00:11:29,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean it would have been. 197 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:31,160 Speaker 2: I think we would have been crippled. 198 00:11:31,840 --> 00:11:33,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, he was my best friend. 199 00:11:34,040 --> 00:11:37,640 Speaker 2: The fact that they went so quickly is a blessing 200 00:11:37,679 --> 00:11:40,920 Speaker 2: because I'm dealing with someone today that I had to 201 00:11:40,920 --> 00:11:48,680 Speaker 2: say goodbye to, and it's to watch someone go through 202 00:11:48,960 --> 00:11:52,480 Speaker 2: the emotions of passing is a very interesting scenario. 203 00:11:53,760 --> 00:11:55,240 Speaker 1: So you could have canceled. 204 00:11:55,760 --> 00:12:02,360 Speaker 2: Absolutely not. So that was our love bond was the parents, 205 00:12:02,360 --> 00:12:06,040 Speaker 2: and I think that just it sealed our friendship and 206 00:12:06,040 --> 00:12:07,120 Speaker 2: our respect for each other. 207 00:12:07,520 --> 00:12:09,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, from that moment on, I think we 208 00:12:09,640 --> 00:12:15,680 Speaker 1: were like, not inseparable in the physical sense, inseparable in 209 00:12:15,720 --> 00:12:19,280 Speaker 1: that in that too, But like inseparable in that like 210 00:12:19,360 --> 00:12:22,360 Speaker 1: we had to connect, we had to talk to each other, 211 00:12:22,440 --> 00:12:24,680 Speaker 1: We had to like there was even if it was 212 00:12:24,720 --> 00:12:27,480 Speaker 1: a text at phone call, like there was always something 213 00:12:28,080 --> 00:12:32,000 Speaker 1: where you know, we we just kept gravitating to each other. 214 00:12:32,679 --> 00:12:37,679 Speaker 2: And I don't think there's a day we don't touch base. No, 215 00:12:38,320 --> 00:12:40,760 Speaker 2: because I'm a wreck. If I don't get to hear 216 00:12:40,800 --> 00:12:44,320 Speaker 2: from you, I go into sheer panic mode. 217 00:12:44,800 --> 00:12:48,240 Speaker 1: I mean, yes, and we have so many different aspects 218 00:12:48,240 --> 00:12:50,400 Speaker 1: of our friendship that I think is really funny. Like 219 00:12:50,440 --> 00:12:54,240 Speaker 1: when you and I fight, it's crazy brutal. 220 00:12:56,920 --> 00:12:59,319 Speaker 2: Oh we do. If we get in a big to do, 221 00:12:59,520 --> 00:13:01,280 Speaker 2: we don't talk to each other for a few days, 222 00:13:01,600 --> 00:13:05,920 Speaker 2: and then someone will send a meme to break the ice. 223 00:13:05,840 --> 00:13:10,079 Speaker 1: When honestly, the longest time we've gone without speaking twenty. 224 00:13:09,800 --> 00:13:11,120 Speaker 2: Four hours, thirty six hours. 225 00:13:12,000 --> 00:13:14,840 Speaker 1: I don't even think we reach thirty six hours. I 226 00:13:14,840 --> 00:13:18,440 Speaker 1: think it's more brutal for everybody else than it is 227 00:13:18,440 --> 00:13:20,760 Speaker 1: for you and me. Oh yeah, because I think you 228 00:13:20,800 --> 00:13:21,679 Speaker 1: and I kind. 229 00:13:21,480 --> 00:13:23,880 Speaker 2: Of like, oh, we just it's it's catnip. 230 00:13:24,200 --> 00:13:28,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, every now and then we want we want 231 00:13:28,040 --> 00:13:28,360 Speaker 1: to fight. 232 00:13:29,559 --> 00:13:32,880 Speaker 2: But I have to say the most remarkable thing with 233 00:13:32,920 --> 00:13:36,880 Speaker 2: you is You're the easiest person in the entire world 234 00:13:36,880 --> 00:13:37,520 Speaker 2: to travel with. 235 00:13:37,920 --> 00:13:38,400 Speaker 1: Thank you. 236 00:13:38,400 --> 00:13:42,040 Speaker 2: You're just so are you. We're so united and you 237 00:13:42,160 --> 00:13:46,240 Speaker 2: let me work. We do our own thing, and you're 238 00:13:46,400 --> 00:13:49,240 Speaker 2: just which no one does. Everyone wants to kind of 239 00:13:49,280 --> 00:13:50,439 Speaker 2: control my situation. 240 00:13:50,920 --> 00:13:53,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, not me, I know, but it's the same with you. 241 00:13:54,200 --> 00:13:55,960 Speaker 1: I mean, I just don't need that from you, like 242 00:13:56,120 --> 00:14:02,760 Speaker 1: I don't. Your presence is enough for me. I don't 243 00:14:02,840 --> 00:14:06,960 Speaker 1: need you constantly engaging in conversation with me. And I 244 00:14:07,000 --> 00:14:11,440 Speaker 1: have so much respect for you. I've I honestly don't 245 00:14:11,440 --> 00:14:15,120 Speaker 1: know anyone that works harder than you. The hours that 246 00:14:15,160 --> 00:14:20,120 Speaker 1: you work are insane and it is NonStop, and it 247 00:14:20,200 --> 00:14:24,520 Speaker 1: is from so many different personalities because you know, you're 248 00:14:24,520 --> 00:14:27,520 Speaker 1: the number one real estate agent in the world basically, 249 00:14:28,080 --> 00:14:33,040 Speaker 1: and you represent all sorts of people, but everybody wants 250 00:14:33,120 --> 00:14:36,440 Speaker 1: to be considered special and like number one, and you 251 00:14:36,520 --> 00:14:39,240 Speaker 1: honestly make everyone feel special in number one, and you 252 00:14:39,280 --> 00:14:41,560 Speaker 1: treat everyone as if they're the most special in the 253 00:14:41,640 --> 00:14:44,520 Speaker 1: number one. Like you care about your clients more than 254 00:14:44,560 --> 00:14:47,120 Speaker 1: anybody else that I've met. And it doesn't matter if 255 00:14:47,120 --> 00:14:50,760 Speaker 1: the house is you know, a small house that's normally 256 00:14:50,840 --> 00:14:53,600 Speaker 1: like not even a budget that you would normally represent 257 00:14:54,280 --> 00:14:57,840 Speaker 1: you you represent it with one hundred percent of yourself, 258 00:14:57,920 --> 00:15:01,320 Speaker 1: just like you represent the life like one hundred million 259 00:15:01,360 --> 00:15:02,120 Speaker 1: dollar houses. 260 00:15:03,200 --> 00:15:06,560 Speaker 2: That's my personality. But I think you're comfortable with that 261 00:15:06,640 --> 00:15:14,240 Speaker 2: because you know you're number one. Okay, so you're like, 262 00:15:14,320 --> 00:15:16,440 Speaker 2: it's okay. I don't kind of have a piece of view. 263 00:15:17,800 --> 00:15:20,720 Speaker 3: But the listeners really need to see this video because 264 00:15:20,760 --> 00:15:27,400 Speaker 3: my face was like, yes, exactly, it's true though I 265 00:15:27,440 --> 00:15:28,360 Speaker 3: am number one. 266 00:15:28,400 --> 00:15:31,760 Speaker 2: You are number one. I know that. 267 00:15:30,960 --> 00:15:33,480 Speaker 1: I said that spot with your mom, like your mom 268 00:15:33,600 --> 00:15:36,040 Speaker 1: is number one, and the children, yeah, and the children 269 00:15:36,160 --> 00:15:38,720 Speaker 1: like we all your family is number one, and I'm 270 00:15:38,720 --> 00:15:39,440 Speaker 1: part of the family. 271 00:15:39,520 --> 00:15:43,240 Speaker 2: You're part of the family. Yeah. Yeah, You're the fourth 272 00:15:44,440 --> 00:15:48,560 Speaker 2: the fourth wheel, and that's how my life runs because 273 00:15:48,560 --> 00:15:52,480 Speaker 2: of you. And everyone says what is so special about Shannon? 274 00:15:52,520 --> 00:15:58,440 Speaker 2: I go, I feel protected and I feel secure when 275 00:15:58,480 --> 00:16:03,840 Speaker 2: I'm in your orbit and it's the biggest compliment. 276 00:16:04,400 --> 00:16:04,800 Speaker 1: Thank you. 277 00:16:05,000 --> 00:16:05,640 Speaker 2: They're welcome. 278 00:16:07,040 --> 00:16:09,440 Speaker 1: Did a although can I tell the story? 279 00:16:09,800 --> 00:16:12,480 Speaker 2: Which one, no, you can't, so. 280 00:16:13,400 --> 00:16:19,000 Speaker 1: Uh the Tennessee story. We're in Tennessee and and Chris 281 00:16:19,080 --> 00:16:23,360 Speaker 1: has bought this beautiful farm, tons of acreage. 282 00:16:23,440 --> 00:16:25,680 Speaker 2: And that we're living together. 283 00:16:25,920 --> 00:16:29,080 Speaker 1: Yes, and I have, you know, done a lease purchase 284 00:16:29,160 --> 00:16:32,520 Speaker 1: in a lesser part of the town and a much 285 00:16:32,600 --> 00:16:34,600 Speaker 1: cheaper house, a much smaller house. There's not I have 286 00:16:34,640 --> 00:16:37,080 Speaker 1: a house, there's just a barn. But I was like, oh, 287 00:16:37,120 --> 00:16:42,080 Speaker 1: I need something to call my own. And I'm trying 288 00:16:42,120 --> 00:16:44,880 Speaker 1: to show Chris the proper, like I'm like, you gotta 289 00:16:45,120 --> 00:16:48,680 Speaker 1: you know, because I basically just did it online. So 290 00:16:48,760 --> 00:16:50,280 Speaker 1: I was like, Chris, you have to come and see it. 291 00:16:50,560 --> 00:16:55,960 Speaker 1: And he's following me with our good friend Kirby and 292 00:16:55,960 --> 00:16:59,400 Speaker 1: and Honor Raise in the car with me and Julie 293 00:16:59,480 --> 00:17:02,680 Speaker 1: and they like, I don't know, I made a left 294 00:17:02,720 --> 00:17:04,560 Speaker 1: hand turn or I mess, you're going. 295 00:17:04,640 --> 00:17:07,280 Speaker 2: One hundred miles an hour. And I was enjoying the 296 00:17:07,320 --> 00:17:08,400 Speaker 2: country roads. 297 00:17:08,200 --> 00:17:10,600 Speaker 1: Right, and I also missed a few turns and I 298 00:17:10,680 --> 00:17:14,840 Speaker 1: kept on having to like swivel back around. And Chris 299 00:17:14,880 --> 00:17:17,280 Speaker 1: called me and we gotten this like. 300 00:17:18,119 --> 00:17:20,400 Speaker 2: Screaming match, gemy match. 301 00:17:20,680 --> 00:17:24,680 Speaker 1: And it was just to anybody else, it was the 302 00:17:24,680 --> 00:17:29,320 Speaker 1: most horrifying thing ever. Like Kirby was like, oh my god, 303 00:17:29,359 --> 00:17:31,800 Speaker 1: I'm not okay with this. Honore was like, let me. 304 00:17:31,760 --> 00:17:33,840 Speaker 2: Out of the car, Let me out of the car. 305 00:17:33,960 --> 00:17:36,200 Speaker 2: She jumped out of the car. It was black Hawk down. 306 00:17:37,000 --> 00:17:42,119 Speaker 1: It was and like Chris and I literally five seconds 307 00:17:42,200 --> 00:17:44,800 Speaker 1: later laughing hysterically about. 308 00:17:44,560 --> 00:17:48,360 Speaker 2: It traumatized everyone, and it was just like, oh, well. 309 00:17:49,160 --> 00:17:52,240 Speaker 1: I mean it it was like it was for a 310 00:17:52,280 --> 00:17:56,000 Speaker 1: play for us, completely for a play. I mean it 311 00:17:56,080 --> 00:17:58,600 Speaker 1: might have been actual sucks for us. We were like, 312 00:17:58,640 --> 00:18:02,280 Speaker 1: we're good now, good for the month. 313 00:18:03,440 --> 00:18:05,600 Speaker 2: What about the time that we got in a fight 314 00:18:05,640 --> 00:18:06,160 Speaker 2: over at the. 315 00:18:06,160 --> 00:18:09,880 Speaker 1: Tempe Well, you know I won that one. 316 00:18:10,240 --> 00:18:13,640 Speaker 2: You didn't it? Did I even say that you were right? 317 00:18:13,720 --> 00:18:17,440 Speaker 2: I think I studied a year later. I couldn't bear myself, 318 00:18:17,640 --> 00:18:18,720 Speaker 2: yeah to say it was wrong? 319 00:18:18,880 --> 00:18:19,760 Speaker 1: Yeah? 320 00:18:20,160 --> 00:18:22,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, how that were so snooty on the plane? 321 00:18:22,920 --> 00:18:26,640 Speaker 1: Well, Chris was trying to like tell me how good 322 00:18:26,720 --> 00:18:29,840 Speaker 1: Tempe was for me, and I was like, Tempe is 323 00:18:29,960 --> 00:18:34,640 Speaker 1: not good for people with cancer because like lammatory, it's 324 00:18:34,680 --> 00:18:37,240 Speaker 1: got soy in it, And not that it's not good 325 00:18:37,240 --> 00:18:39,280 Speaker 1: for people with cancer, but my particular cancer with like 326 00:18:39,320 --> 00:18:41,920 Speaker 1: breast cancer, and you know the pathology of my particular 327 00:18:41,960 --> 00:18:44,520 Speaker 1: cancer is just not good for me. It's it's too 328 00:18:44,560 --> 00:18:47,080 Speaker 1: much of like a fungus. I can't I can't do it. 329 00:18:47,359 --> 00:18:50,480 Speaker 1: Chris is a vegetarian, has been one for how many. 330 00:18:50,640 --> 00:18:52,920 Speaker 2: Like thirty seven years right, No fish. 331 00:18:52,800 --> 00:18:56,560 Speaker 1: No nothing, no nothing, And so he was really just 332 00:18:56,600 --> 00:18:59,920 Speaker 1: trying to like drive home the like temphe vegetarian thing. 333 00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:02,359 Speaker 1: And I was He's like, it's not bad for you. 334 00:19:02,400 --> 00:19:03,720 Speaker 1: I'm like, you want to make it. He's like, it 335 00:19:03,760 --> 00:19:07,000 Speaker 1: doesn't have soy. I'm like, it is nothing but soy. 336 00:19:07,520 --> 00:19:10,280 Speaker 1: And it was just this argument back and forth until 337 00:19:10,320 --> 00:19:11,480 Speaker 1: I finally was not like. 338 00:19:11,640 --> 00:19:13,600 Speaker 2: Did you know you did? 339 00:19:13,760 --> 00:19:15,120 Speaker 1: I did? Yeah, of course I did. 340 00:19:15,520 --> 00:19:18,719 Speaker 2: Such bossy pants instantly googled. 341 00:19:18,760 --> 00:19:21,560 Speaker 1: I'm like and I just like handed him my phone 342 00:19:22,119 --> 00:19:24,040 Speaker 1: like read this and I. 343 00:19:23,920 --> 00:19:27,760 Speaker 2: Switched the subject immediately immediately. 344 00:19:28,119 --> 00:19:30,440 Speaker 1: But you never ever offered me tempay now. 345 00:19:31,080 --> 00:19:35,520 Speaker 2: No, just coconut oil and strawberries. 346 00:19:35,040 --> 00:19:36,560 Speaker 1: Just the things that I'm allergic to and that will 347 00:19:36,680 --> 00:19:39,000 Speaker 1: kill me anyway. So now you guys know that we 348 00:19:39,040 --> 00:19:51,200 Speaker 1: love to fight and that's like sex with uh what 349 00:19:51,280 --> 00:19:54,919 Speaker 1: was it like for you? And do you remember uh 350 00:19:55,320 --> 00:19:57,680 Speaker 1: me telling you when I got diagnosed the first time? 351 00:19:58,200 --> 00:20:03,080 Speaker 2: Yes, we're in pairs, and well there's two different stages. 352 00:20:03,680 --> 00:20:05,760 Speaker 2: There was the first age when we were in Paris 353 00:20:05,800 --> 00:20:09,800 Speaker 2: at Hotel cost having such a wonderful time. 354 00:20:10,640 --> 00:20:11,920 Speaker 1: That's our spot, that's our. 355 00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:16,000 Speaker 2: Spot, and we're having a beautiful dinner, and I could 356 00:20:16,000 --> 00:20:18,480 Speaker 2: tell you that you were nervous, and you said, I 357 00:20:18,520 --> 00:20:23,600 Speaker 2: have something to tell you, and you started crying, and 358 00:20:23,640 --> 00:20:28,480 Speaker 2: of course I started crying. And you said, my dog 359 00:20:29,040 --> 00:20:34,199 Speaker 2: is smelling my breasts and I have a lump and 360 00:20:34,240 --> 00:20:37,880 Speaker 2: I think I have cancer. And we both burst into tears. 361 00:20:38,359 --> 00:20:42,240 Speaker 2: And it kind of shook my whole world because it 362 00:20:42,320 --> 00:20:45,760 Speaker 2: was the first time I thought, wow, you could go, yeah, 363 00:20:46,520 --> 00:20:53,680 Speaker 2: you can really leave me. And it was a lot 364 00:20:53,720 --> 00:20:57,160 Speaker 2: to process, and I just I felt so much love 365 00:20:58,440 --> 00:21:00,560 Speaker 2: and I just always want to protect you. You You're 366 00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:03,480 Speaker 2: always protecting me, and it was just, you know, you 367 00:21:03,480 --> 00:21:08,360 Speaker 2: feel so helpless. And then the second time you call 368 00:21:08,520 --> 00:21:14,000 Speaker 2: me in the car, you could barely speak and you said, 369 00:21:14,040 --> 00:21:18,719 Speaker 2: I have cancer. I have cancer. I have cancer, and 370 00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:24,240 Speaker 2: it was just we I think we both knew it. 371 00:21:24,320 --> 00:21:27,520 Speaker 2: The confirmation was it was the confirmation and the realness 372 00:21:27,560 --> 00:21:31,879 Speaker 2: of it all and then knowing the journey beyond. But 373 00:21:33,920 --> 00:21:36,639 Speaker 2: and everyone's always saying, how is Shennon doing. How is 374 00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:41,600 Speaker 2: Shannon doing? I said, She's always amazing. But the one 375 00:21:41,640 --> 00:21:46,560 Speaker 2: thing with you that you are the strongest person I 376 00:21:46,640 --> 00:21:52,080 Speaker 2: know in a situation that you're confronted with, You're getting chemo. 377 00:21:53,320 --> 00:21:59,320 Speaker 2: You are sick as a dog. You never complain and 378 00:21:59,400 --> 00:22:03,160 Speaker 2: you're just so to a warrior. But it's so brutal. 379 00:22:03,480 --> 00:22:06,080 Speaker 2: I know what you're going through. I know you know, 380 00:22:06,080 --> 00:22:09,720 Speaker 2: I see how sick you are and you just never 381 00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:12,760 Speaker 2: complain and you are this. I just you're on such 382 00:22:12,800 --> 00:22:18,159 Speaker 2: a different level than anyone I know that you just 383 00:22:18,240 --> 00:22:23,480 Speaker 2: you're never the victim. And it's unbelievable, Shannon, And it 384 00:22:23,680 --> 00:22:28,520 Speaker 2: just it just further reinforces my respect and love for you, 385 00:22:29,480 --> 00:22:34,679 Speaker 2: and as a friend on the friend slash future husband, 386 00:22:36,800 --> 00:22:42,640 Speaker 2: it's it's just a it's a it's a it's a journey. 387 00:22:43,840 --> 00:22:45,639 Speaker 2: And it was so great for you to call me 388 00:22:45,720 --> 00:22:49,399 Speaker 2: the other day and give us good news. Yeah, and 389 00:22:49,440 --> 00:22:54,679 Speaker 2: it's just encouragement. But my god, you're amazing and you know, 390 00:22:55,560 --> 00:22:59,200 Speaker 2: you see all your fans and everyone and then encourage 391 00:22:59,320 --> 00:23:01,400 Speaker 2: the encouragement that you give to so many people. We're 392 00:23:01,440 --> 00:23:04,800 Speaker 2: at NOBU And remember that lady when the picture with 393 00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:07,920 Speaker 2: you and her daughter and she was I have cancer. 394 00:23:07,840 --> 00:23:10,760 Speaker 1: And her daughter was like my mom, Like I know. 395 00:23:10,880 --> 00:23:14,600 Speaker 2: But it's just like you give, you give so much 396 00:23:14,680 --> 00:23:19,080 Speaker 2: and you're so open about it and you document it, 397 00:23:19,280 --> 00:23:21,719 Speaker 2: and it's it's really inspiring. 398 00:23:23,000 --> 00:23:26,919 Speaker 1: I mean, I thank you. I think it's Listen. I 399 00:23:26,920 --> 00:23:30,240 Speaker 1: do complain. I just don't complain in front of people. 400 00:23:30,800 --> 00:23:33,760 Speaker 1: I do complain, like I have. You know, I have 401 00:23:33,800 --> 00:23:38,200 Speaker 1: a lot of moments where I h I tend to 402 00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:44,440 Speaker 1: be the person who cries in a closet by themselves. Basically, yeah, 403 00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:47,040 Speaker 1: like you like, we're you know, we're we're very similar 404 00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:51,239 Speaker 1: in that sense where we appear to be, you know, 405 00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:55,440 Speaker 1: very strong and warriors and we can get through everything, 406 00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:58,960 Speaker 1: but like we'll have breakdowns, but we were in a 407 00:23:59,040 --> 00:24:03,440 Speaker 1: closet hiding having our breakdowns, and I definitely do that, 408 00:24:03,520 --> 00:24:06,399 Speaker 1: you know, Like I'm not nearly as strong as people 409 00:24:07,359 --> 00:24:09,719 Speaker 1: you're strong. I am strong, but I'm not. You know. 410 00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:14,159 Speaker 1: My point is one hundred percent have those moments where 411 00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:19,160 Speaker 1: I feel all of it and I wish for something different, right, 412 00:24:19,359 --> 00:24:23,159 Speaker 1: Like I wish this wasn't what I was dealing with 413 00:24:23,200 --> 00:24:25,040 Speaker 1: in life. But then I always have to look at 414 00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:26,359 Speaker 1: the other side of it and go, well, then what 415 00:24:26,400 --> 00:24:29,879 Speaker 1: else would you be dealing with? And would it be 416 00:24:30,119 --> 00:24:34,200 Speaker 1: as impactful and would it be as meaningful as this? 417 00:24:34,520 --> 00:24:37,080 Speaker 1: Like you know, my obviously, my biggest thing is I 418 00:24:37,160 --> 00:24:38,879 Speaker 1: just don't want to die too soon because I have 419 00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:43,280 Speaker 1: a lot to accomplish, so that weighs heavy on my 420 00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:45,879 Speaker 1: brain of like I haven't raised enough money for cancer. 421 00:24:45,920 --> 00:24:48,920 Speaker 1: I haven't you know, spoken up, I haven't rescued enough, 422 00:24:49,119 --> 00:24:52,520 Speaker 1: like I just haven't. I haven't changed the slaughter laws 423 00:24:52,600 --> 00:24:55,000 Speaker 1: in the United States of America, I haven't. Like there's 424 00:24:55,040 --> 00:24:57,040 Speaker 1: just so many things that I want to do that 425 00:24:57,119 --> 00:25:00,640 Speaker 1: I haven't done, and I just, you know, every night, 426 00:25:00,760 --> 00:25:04,080 Speaker 1: like my prayers to God, like, please give me enough 427 00:25:04,119 --> 00:25:06,800 Speaker 1: time to accomplish all of the things that I want 428 00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:11,000 Speaker 1: to do, but also to accomplish what you have me 429 00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:13,440 Speaker 1: on this earth to do. Like I know that there's 430 00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:16,520 Speaker 1: a reason for all of this, and you know that reason, 431 00:25:16,560 --> 00:25:19,399 Speaker 1: and I trust in you, but please just allow me 432 00:25:19,480 --> 00:25:23,080 Speaker 1: the time to figure out what it all is. Like 433 00:25:23,119 --> 00:25:25,639 Speaker 1: that's my biggest thing. So I think, like what I 434 00:25:25,680 --> 00:25:29,600 Speaker 1: really appreciate, appreciate about you and our friendship is that 435 00:25:29,720 --> 00:25:33,480 Speaker 1: you have You're very strong and you're very supportive, but 436 00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:37,399 Speaker 1: you're not afraid to cry in front of me and 437 00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:42,280 Speaker 1: be scared in front of me, which allows me to 438 00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:46,639 Speaker 1: show you my fear for myself also, and I don't 439 00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:48,640 Speaker 1: have that with a lot of people because a lot 440 00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:53,960 Speaker 1: of people just are like, she's so strong, nah, but you, 441 00:25:53,960 --> 00:25:56,720 Speaker 1: you know, you're an open book with me, and so 442 00:25:56,840 --> 00:26:01,840 Speaker 1: when you're scared for me, you show it and it 443 00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:06,119 Speaker 1: breaks down all of those walls and allows me to 444 00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:07,960 Speaker 1: like frigaking cry. 445 00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:11,720 Speaker 2: Well we cried when we were in Croatia. Yeah, but 446 00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:15,320 Speaker 2: it was great though, because you actually cried because you 447 00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:19,000 Speaker 2: can't stand see me cry. I hate it, and it 448 00:26:19,080 --> 00:26:23,720 Speaker 2: really broke down. It showed a vulnerability amongst each other 449 00:26:23,800 --> 00:26:25,719 Speaker 2: because they're always trying to be the pillar of strength. 450 00:26:26,440 --> 00:26:29,320 Speaker 2: And it was a very powerful moment. 451 00:26:30,320 --> 00:26:35,639 Speaker 1: I agree, and I think a needed moment because sometimes 452 00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:41,119 Speaker 1: strength is everybody thinks that strength is being you know, 453 00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:48,200 Speaker 1: stoic and and putting forth like you know this exterior 454 00:26:48,320 --> 00:26:52,800 Speaker 1: of I'm good, I'm fine. But what I have discovered 455 00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:57,879 Speaker 1: and with your help, is that strength is in every 456 00:26:58,080 --> 00:27:01,840 Speaker 1: tear that falls out of my eye. Of course, that's strength. 457 00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:07,440 Speaker 1: Like the more that I'm able to embrace my vulnerability 458 00:27:07,560 --> 00:27:12,080 Speaker 1: and my fears, that's how I get stronger, the same 459 00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:12,520 Speaker 1: with you. 460 00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:16,480 Speaker 2: I agree, but it was it was such a needed 461 00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:19,760 Speaker 2: release because I think we both had so much emotion 462 00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:22,560 Speaker 2: built up because none of us want to say good 463 00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:23,440 Speaker 2: by to each other. 464 00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:25,399 Speaker 1: Right, But as you always say, it can happen to 465 00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:25,920 Speaker 1: any of us. 466 00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:29,320 Speaker 2: We're one phone call away, right, one phone call. 467 00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:30,600 Speaker 1: I mean we just. 468 00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:35,159 Speaker 2: I mean remember and I said, you know, Shannon, I 469 00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:37,320 Speaker 2: can leave this earth before you Yeah, you were. 470 00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:42,440 Speaker 1: Like what that blew my die was like that's that. No, 471 00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:47,439 Speaker 1: that's not happening. That's not happening. You're dude. You're the 472 00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:53,000 Speaker 1: executor of my will, like you, you control everything when 473 00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:54,760 Speaker 1: I'm dead, like you got to take care of my 474 00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:58,720 Speaker 1: mom likes it's almost spelled out for you, my love. 475 00:27:58,960 --> 00:28:02,200 Speaker 2: I know. I haven't and I haven't read it. 476 00:28:02,240 --> 00:28:05,280 Speaker 1: I know it which is hysterical. 477 00:28:13,720 --> 00:28:22,200 Speaker 2: Funeral list three people, Mama, Rosa, and Bowie. 478 00:28:22,359 --> 00:28:26,719 Speaker 1: So this came up when I was well. It's come 479 00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:28,840 Speaker 1: up a couple of times, but it really came up 480 00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:30,960 Speaker 1: when I was about to go in for brain surgery 481 00:28:30,960 --> 00:28:34,719 Speaker 1: in January, and you know, I didn't think that I 482 00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:37,280 Speaker 1: was going to make it. I redid my will and 483 00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:40,760 Speaker 1: I made sure everything was like super clear, and I 484 00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:44,400 Speaker 1: transferred who was executor of my will to Chris because 485 00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:46,800 Speaker 1: before it was my attorney, who I loved madly, but 486 00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:50,000 Speaker 1: it's too much responsibility for him. And you know, me 487 00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:54,440 Speaker 1: better than anyone else. And I also knew that you 488 00:28:54,480 --> 00:28:57,720 Speaker 1: would take the money and grow at the best possible. 489 00:28:58,080 --> 00:29:00,560 Speaker 1: I was like, anybody can take what money I have 490 00:29:00,880 --> 00:29:04,520 Speaker 1: to make me, you know, really really really wealthy. It's 491 00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:08,080 Speaker 1: Chris and Richard, so I was pretty I was like, yep, yep, 492 00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:10,480 Speaker 1: my mom needs a lot of money. So we got it. 493 00:29:11,040 --> 00:29:13,840 Speaker 1: But I taught to you a little bit, and I 494 00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:15,960 Speaker 1: spoke to my mom. It really upsets her to talk 495 00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:18,800 Speaker 1: about it, but then she starts laughing through it about 496 00:29:19,240 --> 00:29:23,360 Speaker 1: like a funeral, because I've been to a few. I'm 497 00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:26,040 Speaker 1: horrible at funerals. I don't know if anybody's actually good 498 00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:29,360 Speaker 1: at funerals. But I'm the girl who like literally sobs. 499 00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:32,800 Speaker 1: I can't handle it like death to me, like it 500 00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:36,560 Speaker 1: just I mean my dad's it was very hard to 501 00:29:36,640 --> 00:29:39,880 Speaker 1: keep anything together. But it was also like I was 502 00:29:39,960 --> 00:29:43,360 Speaker 1: pleasantly surprised at my dad's of who showed up. But 503 00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:46,360 Speaker 1: it made me start thinking about who would show up 504 00:29:46,400 --> 00:29:50,920 Speaker 1: to mine. And there's a lot of people that I 505 00:29:50,920 --> 00:29:54,760 Speaker 1: think would show up that I don't want there, Like 506 00:29:54,840 --> 00:29:58,200 Speaker 1: I don't want them there because the reasons for showing 507 00:29:58,280 --> 00:30:02,280 Speaker 1: up aren't necessarily the best reasons. Like they don't really 508 00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:06,560 Speaker 1: like me, and you know, like they have their reasons 509 00:30:06,640 --> 00:30:11,560 Speaker 1: and good for them, but they don't actually really like 510 00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:13,400 Speaker 1: me enough to show it to my funeral. But they 511 00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:16,160 Speaker 1: will because it's the politically correct thing to do and 512 00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:19,400 Speaker 1: they don't want to look bad, and so I kind 513 00:30:19,400 --> 00:30:22,480 Speaker 1: of want to take that pressure off of them. And 514 00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:26,160 Speaker 1: I want my funeral to be like a love fest. 515 00:30:26,200 --> 00:30:28,760 Speaker 1: I don't want people to be crying or people to 516 00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:31,560 Speaker 1: want people to privately being like thank God that they're 517 00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:35,560 Speaker 1: just dead now, you know, bye bye bitch, right, Like, 518 00:30:35,640 --> 00:30:37,720 Speaker 1: those are the things I don't want. I'm going to 519 00:30:37,760 --> 00:30:40,600 Speaker 1: pour you a little bit more wine. So, by the way, 520 00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:43,400 Speaker 1: you guys were drinking my favorite wine, which is called 521 00:30:43,920 --> 00:30:47,240 Speaker 1: I call it Hanata, but it's j o Na Ta 522 00:30:47,600 --> 00:30:51,760 Speaker 1: Hanata from Sinninez and I decided that this was so 523 00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:56,320 Speaker 1: far the very first podcast recording I've done where I 524 00:30:56,440 --> 00:30:58,200 Speaker 1: drink with someone, and I was like, it's definitely going 525 00:30:58,240 --> 00:30:59,600 Speaker 1: to be with Christopher. 526 00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:02,640 Speaker 2: And it tastes so good, doesn't it. So who do 527 00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:04,400 Speaker 2: you want? So? Who do you want to be there? 528 00:31:04,880 --> 00:31:07,880 Speaker 1: Because that's the shorter that's the better list. I can't 529 00:31:07,920 --> 00:31:09,840 Speaker 1: give you a list of who I don't want because 530 00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:10,640 Speaker 1: that's way. 531 00:31:10,440 --> 00:31:12,160 Speaker 2: Too long, And where do you want to be? 532 00:31:12,560 --> 00:31:15,520 Speaker 1: Let's do it here at my house, but like party. 533 00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:19,520 Speaker 1: Do you remember one of my mom's birthdays that I 534 00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:21,880 Speaker 1: threw here where I tinted like the back off the 535 00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:24,120 Speaker 1: kitchen and I had a DJ playing and it was 536 00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:28,080 Speaker 1: like super fun, Like that's what I want. I want 537 00:31:28,120 --> 00:31:30,040 Speaker 1: it to be a celebration. 538 00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:32,120 Speaker 2: And where do you want your ashes? 539 00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:36,360 Speaker 1: I haven't figured that out yet. This is such a 540 00:31:36,400 --> 00:31:39,680 Speaker 1: morbid conversation, but it's also so fun. I want to 541 00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:41,600 Speaker 1: be mixed with my dog and I want to be 542 00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:45,320 Speaker 1: mixed with my dad. I do not want to be buried. 543 00:31:45,480 --> 00:31:46,680 Speaker 1: I want to be cremated. 544 00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:49,320 Speaker 2: I would definitely not bury you. 545 00:31:49,720 --> 00:31:54,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, And I was reading about a thing where you 546 00:31:54,200 --> 00:31:58,560 Speaker 1: can take your ashes and and grow a. 547 00:31:58,520 --> 00:32:01,800 Speaker 2: Tree that I can I can wear you around my neck. 548 00:32:02,880 --> 00:32:04,840 Speaker 1: I did that with my dad. I had my dad 549 00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:07,080 Speaker 1: around my neck for a little bit. I actually don't 550 00:32:07,120 --> 00:32:09,840 Speaker 1: know where that necklace went, but I was having nightmares. 551 00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:12,080 Speaker 2: Could I have a little PCU around my neck? 552 00:32:12,240 --> 00:32:13,160 Speaker 1: You may thank you. 553 00:32:14,240 --> 00:32:16,440 Speaker 2: I'll probably just be left with Bowie. 554 00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:23,680 Speaker 1: You just get her toenailail and tail. It'll be nothing 555 00:32:23,720 --> 00:32:28,320 Speaker 1: of me whatsoever. We'll get their hands in it and 556 00:32:28,400 --> 00:32:32,640 Speaker 1: like really mix it up so it's a healthy mixture 557 00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:34,959 Speaker 1: of my father, me and Bowie. 558 00:32:35,080 --> 00:32:38,080 Speaker 2: I would love that. But where where am I going 559 00:32:38,120 --> 00:32:39,040 Speaker 2: to scatter you? You can't. 560 00:32:39,080 --> 00:32:42,120 Speaker 1: You have to direct I mean maybe maybe I just 561 00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:44,760 Speaker 1: like part of me just sits on your bedstand and 562 00:32:44,800 --> 00:32:45,360 Speaker 1: stares at you. 563 00:32:47,080 --> 00:32:49,160 Speaker 2: Make sure I don't fall in love with anyone else 564 00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:51,480 Speaker 2: in my life. Right, you are horrible. 565 00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:54,640 Speaker 1: I know I am, But I think like I could 566 00:32:54,720 --> 00:32:57,960 Speaker 1: pick out like a really beautiful, like little container for 567 00:32:58,160 --> 00:33:01,240 Speaker 1: me and then have my face. It's like, no, it's. 568 00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:03,240 Speaker 2: Going to be with your It's going to be a cutout, 569 00:33:03,280 --> 00:33:06,920 Speaker 2: so I could see the ashes. Your eyes will be 570 00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:07,560 Speaker 2: looking at me. 571 00:33:08,360 --> 00:33:11,920 Speaker 1: It'll be like clear, so you see my ashes, and 572 00:33:11,960 --> 00:33:15,280 Speaker 1: then like my face like somewhere on there just staring 573 00:33:15,320 --> 00:33:18,720 Speaker 1: at you. I know I'm diabolical. 574 00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:19,640 Speaker 2: You're diabolical. 575 00:33:19,720 --> 00:33:25,280 Speaker 1: And at the same time, I don't know the things 576 00:33:25,280 --> 00:33:28,400 Speaker 1: that I want, I know the things that I don't want. 577 00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:31,040 Speaker 1: I don't find it difficult to have this conversation with you. 578 00:33:31,120 --> 00:33:34,520 Speaker 1: Like most people would say this is the most morbid, 579 00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:39,520 Speaker 1: you know, weird conversation, But I find there's something to 580 00:33:39,560 --> 00:33:44,040 Speaker 1: me reassuring about it. Along with very funny, and I 581 00:33:44,240 --> 00:33:47,760 Speaker 1: like being funny about certain situations, especially when they're dire. 582 00:33:49,000 --> 00:33:49,280 Speaker 2: Right. 583 00:33:49,440 --> 00:33:51,400 Speaker 1: So, how does it make you feel when you have 584 00:33:51,440 --> 00:33:53,040 Speaker 1: a conversation like this with me. 585 00:33:54,400 --> 00:33:59,440 Speaker 2: About your feel Yeah? I love it, of course you do. 586 00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:04,840 Speaker 2: Sick of hello, No, but it's an important conversation. I 587 00:34:04,840 --> 00:34:06,800 Speaker 2: don't want to be scrambling at the end trying to 588 00:34:06,840 --> 00:34:12,880 Speaker 2: figure it out. And your mom's like Mississippi. 589 00:34:11,719 --> 00:34:16,320 Speaker 1: I will haunt you. I have to find a place 590 00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:20,480 Speaker 1: that my dad and I both really loved and it 591 00:34:20,520 --> 00:34:21,520 Speaker 1: meant a lot to us. 592 00:34:22,320 --> 00:34:25,040 Speaker 2: And where was meaningful? Where did you spend most of 593 00:34:25,080 --> 00:34:27,279 Speaker 2: your most precious times beside malibll I. 594 00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:30,080 Speaker 1: Mean Malibu was really good? Are you? 595 00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:32,400 Speaker 2: And the you want to go in the ocean the hills? 596 00:34:33,160 --> 00:34:35,920 Speaker 1: He always wanted a Viking funeral. He wanted to like 597 00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:40,600 Speaker 1: be set on like a you know, canoe boat whatever 598 00:34:40,840 --> 00:34:43,120 Speaker 1: and some on fire and like set out to see 599 00:34:43,280 --> 00:34:44,560 Speaker 1: That's what he always wanted. 600 00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:47,759 Speaker 2: My luck, it will be like westerly breezes and I'll 601 00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:50,879 Speaker 2: throw you guys in the ocean right back in my face. 602 00:34:52,239 --> 00:34:55,680 Speaker 1: Totally in your mouth. You're like swallowing us. 603 00:34:55,760 --> 00:35:00,160 Speaker 2: Oh god, no, I don't think it's a more big conversation. 604 00:35:00,239 --> 00:35:04,239 Speaker 2: I think everyone should have this conversation. And just so 605 00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:07,680 Speaker 2: you know, I want if I do go first, I 606 00:35:07,719 --> 00:35:11,000 Speaker 2: want some a little doom. I want some at the ranch. 607 00:35:12,120 --> 00:35:14,520 Speaker 2: I would like some in Canada. 608 00:35:15,120 --> 00:35:19,439 Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's it, that makes sense to me. Yeah, 609 00:35:19,680 --> 00:35:25,040 Speaker 1: those three spots precious spots. And what about your funeral, 610 00:35:25,160 --> 00:35:29,279 Speaker 1: like you know everybody like yours would be filled with 611 00:35:29,360 --> 00:35:30,960 Speaker 1: like six hundred people. 612 00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:34,960 Speaker 2: I want an Indian wedding funeral. I want it to. 613 00:35:35,120 --> 00:35:37,040 Speaker 1: Mean what what does that mean? 614 00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:38,439 Speaker 2: Like a thousand people? Come? 615 00:35:39,600 --> 00:35:43,319 Speaker 1: Oh, I want a huge So you don't even care 616 00:35:43,360 --> 00:35:47,280 Speaker 1: if your arch nemesis shows up. You're like, yeah, let them. 617 00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:50,200 Speaker 2: Let them, let them see how much I'm loved. God. 618 00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:51,600 Speaker 1: What a healthy attitude to have. 619 00:35:52,320 --> 00:35:53,320 Speaker 2: I think I'm gonna switch you. 620 00:35:53,960 --> 00:35:56,759 Speaker 1: I mean maybe I think about how many fans you have. 621 00:35:56,880 --> 00:35:59,280 Speaker 2: You could have one, two million. 622 00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:02,759 Speaker 1: I don't my fans showing up like those are you know, 623 00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:05,200 Speaker 1: those are people who've supported me my entire life and 624 00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:07,680 Speaker 1: my career. I love you and I love them Like 625 00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:10,959 Speaker 1: that's different. I'm talking about like people that really don't 626 00:36:11,080 --> 00:36:14,319 Speaker 1: like me. I just don't want those people there. And 627 00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:15,359 Speaker 1: I know who they are. 628 00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:17,400 Speaker 2: I know, but don't you think when you leave your body. 629 00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:20,439 Speaker 2: I mean, we're in such a different plane that maybe 630 00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:20,960 Speaker 2: it's no. 631 00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:25,319 Speaker 1: I hate fakeness. I hate fakeness, A horror fakeness. I 632 00:36:25,360 --> 00:36:28,000 Speaker 1: can't stand people who you know, want to all of 633 00:36:28,040 --> 00:36:32,799 Speaker 1: a sudden pretend like they you know, found Jesus and 634 00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:36,239 Speaker 1: they're so sorry and they repent and they didn't mean 635 00:36:36,280 --> 00:36:38,879 Speaker 1: anything bad that they said about you, blah blah blah. 636 00:36:38,880 --> 00:36:41,520 Speaker 1: I can't stand that. I'm like, no, no, no, I 637 00:36:41,600 --> 00:36:45,240 Speaker 1: know you're still the exact same, petty human being. Don't 638 00:36:45,680 --> 00:36:47,839 Speaker 1: just stay away from me like we're good. I don't 639 00:36:47,840 --> 00:36:49,600 Speaker 1: need to say something bad about you. You don't need 640 00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:51,360 Speaker 1: to say something bad about me. But we can just 641 00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:54,200 Speaker 1: un the podcast, just ignore each other. 642 00:36:54,280 --> 00:36:57,719 Speaker 2: But we could to say everyone you don't like I know, right, 643 00:36:58,239 --> 00:37:01,400 Speaker 2: And you know what, it's in one sense, we've lived 644 00:37:01,520 --> 00:37:04,480 Speaker 2: so much more because we do have the threat of 645 00:37:04,520 --> 00:37:07,080 Speaker 2: your cancer. And I think when we're with each other, 646 00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:10,520 Speaker 2: our connection is even deeper because every time I look 647 00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:13,080 Speaker 2: in your eyes, I'm like, oh my god, those eyes 648 00:37:13,120 --> 00:37:17,520 Speaker 2: are so gorgeous, and it's just but you, we live 649 00:37:17,760 --> 00:37:21,080 Speaker 2: deeper because we know there could be a limited time. 650 00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:25,160 Speaker 1: There's a lot of people that are not fortunate enough 651 00:37:25,440 --> 00:37:32,279 Speaker 1: to have this relationship. You know, you've sort of been 652 00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:36,400 Speaker 1: like my my savior through a lot of situations. 653 00:37:36,920 --> 00:37:38,880 Speaker 2: And when you're a little safety blanket. 654 00:37:39,000 --> 00:37:41,520 Speaker 1: You're more than a little safety blanket. Like you're the 655 00:37:41,680 --> 00:37:46,319 Speaker 1: entire comforter. It's love that like, I know that I 656 00:37:46,360 --> 00:37:48,279 Speaker 1: can count on you, and I know that I can 657 00:37:48,360 --> 00:37:53,200 Speaker 1: be me. I know that I can be bitchy and 658 00:37:53,640 --> 00:37:58,319 Speaker 1: you're gonna dive right in there with me. I know 659 00:37:58,360 --> 00:38:01,320 Speaker 1: that I can cry and you're going to like hold 660 00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:05,800 Speaker 1: me and cry with me. You you are the one 661 00:38:05,920 --> 00:38:11,080 Speaker 1: person who gets every aspect of my personality. And I 662 00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:14,840 Speaker 1: hope vice versa without question. 663 00:38:15,320 --> 00:38:18,120 Speaker 2: But I have to say, if you are bitchy, there's 664 00:38:18,160 --> 00:38:21,359 Speaker 2: a reason for you being bitchy. I don't think you're 665 00:38:21,400 --> 00:38:22,640 Speaker 2: bitchy just to be a bitch. 666 00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:25,920 Speaker 1: I think except on the drive from like Tennessee to 667 00:38:25,920 --> 00:38:26,759 Speaker 1: the plane. 668 00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:35,680 Speaker 2: We had so much pent up energy. We screamed at 669 00:38:35,719 --> 00:38:41,840 Speaker 2: each other for over an hour, in loving every breath 670 00:38:41,880 --> 00:38:42,560 Speaker 2: that came out of. 671 00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:43,920 Speaker 1: Our mouth, every breath. 672 00:38:53,040 --> 00:38:55,399 Speaker 2: I have a question for you, what's your biggest fear 673 00:38:55,440 --> 00:38:55,880 Speaker 2: on death? 674 00:38:56,719 --> 00:39:00,640 Speaker 1: Not accomplishing what God put me on this earth? 675 00:39:00,680 --> 00:39:06,240 Speaker 2: Bloor are you afraid of death itself, like the process 676 00:39:06,280 --> 00:39:06,720 Speaker 2: of dying. 677 00:39:06,920 --> 00:39:12,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, for sure, you know, I as you know, one 678 00:39:12,760 --> 00:39:20,560 Speaker 1: of my best friends, Deborah died during the pandemic. Did 679 00:39:20,600 --> 00:39:24,360 Speaker 1: not die of COVID. She died of cancer. And she 680 00:39:24,800 --> 00:39:29,440 Speaker 1: got diagnosed with cancer after I got diagnosed, but I 681 00:39:29,520 --> 00:39:33,520 Speaker 1: wasn't stage four yet, and she was like instantly stage 682 00:39:33,560 --> 00:39:35,640 Speaker 1: four because she had waited too long to go to 683 00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:38,920 Speaker 1: the doctors. And then when I became stage four and 684 00:39:38,960 --> 00:39:41,359 Speaker 1: she was stage four, it was like, you know, talking 685 00:39:41,400 --> 00:39:45,120 Speaker 1: about the protocols together and everything else. And then she, 686 00:39:45,960 --> 00:39:48,920 Speaker 1: you know, she died alone. Again. It was during the pandemic, 687 00:39:49,080 --> 00:39:52,319 Speaker 1: and it was towards sort of the beginning and they 688 00:39:52,360 --> 00:39:54,040 Speaker 1: weren't really allowing people. 689 00:39:54,800 --> 00:39:56,840 Speaker 2: And which was also so insane. 690 00:39:57,360 --> 00:40:02,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, and she you know made the decision to you know, 691 00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:06,480 Speaker 1: not take any more meds that would keep her alive. 692 00:40:06,800 --> 00:40:10,160 Speaker 1: And that was her decision. She didn't discuss it with me, 693 00:40:10,360 --> 00:40:12,800 Speaker 1: I know, she discussed it with her husband and her daughter, 694 00:40:14,480 --> 00:40:17,480 Speaker 1: who I love dearly. It's been really hard for me 695 00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:20,520 Speaker 1: to like talk to them on a regular basis because 696 00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:23,960 Speaker 1: I still struggle with like Debra's death in such a 697 00:40:23,960 --> 00:40:26,719 Speaker 1: way that I've kind of blocked it a little bit, 698 00:40:27,239 --> 00:40:30,560 Speaker 1: but I wasn't able to go to the hospital, and 699 00:40:30,760 --> 00:40:35,400 Speaker 1: so I just remember calling the unit that she was 700 00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:39,960 Speaker 1: in and saying to the nurse, like, can you please 701 00:40:40,200 --> 00:40:44,520 Speaker 1: just put the phone next to her ear and let 702 00:40:44,520 --> 00:40:47,040 Speaker 1: me talk to her, Like I know that she's sort 703 00:40:47,080 --> 00:40:50,120 Speaker 1: of has had slipped into like this sort of cooma 704 00:40:50,200 --> 00:40:55,080 Speaker 1: at this point, but she'll hear me. And you know, 705 00:40:55,200 --> 00:40:58,760 Speaker 1: I talked to her for an hour and a half. 706 00:40:59,120 --> 00:41:02,319 Speaker 1: I think just say, like this, you don't have to 707 00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:06,000 Speaker 1: make this decision, like there are clinical trials, but if 708 00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:08,279 Speaker 1: this is your decision, like I love you and I 709 00:41:08,320 --> 00:41:12,879 Speaker 1: support you. I think that I don't want to die 710 00:41:12,960 --> 00:41:16,080 Speaker 1: like that. I don't want to die alone. I want 711 00:41:16,120 --> 00:41:20,040 Speaker 1: to go out fighting, to be honest, and you know, 712 00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:23,680 Speaker 1: I'm I'm like every person, none of us want to 713 00:41:23,719 --> 00:41:26,719 Speaker 1: feel a ton of pain when we die. We all 714 00:41:26,800 --> 00:41:30,360 Speaker 1: would prefer to you go, oh, I'll die in my sleep, 715 00:41:30,400 --> 00:41:31,920 Speaker 1: And I'm like, I don't want to die in my 716 00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:37,640 Speaker 1: sleep necessarily, Like that's that's weird for the other people 717 00:41:37,719 --> 00:41:38,440 Speaker 1: in your life. 718 00:41:38,520 --> 00:41:40,319 Speaker 2: I think, I think it's a blessing, but. 719 00:41:41,239 --> 00:41:44,040 Speaker 1: I want to die like looking at people going I 720 00:41:44,120 --> 00:41:50,200 Speaker 1: love you, it's my time. It has been fantastic. I'm 721 00:41:50,200 --> 00:41:54,399 Speaker 1: going to close my eyes in sixty seconds and I'm 722 00:41:54,400 --> 00:41:55,839 Speaker 1: going to go to a better place. 723 00:41:56,440 --> 00:41:59,600 Speaker 2: Right, But that usually doesn't happen because you're gasping for air. 724 00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:04,399 Speaker 1: Because but that's my that's my ultimate like wish list 725 00:42:04,520 --> 00:42:07,400 Speaker 1: of how I die. I just want to like reassure everybody. 726 00:42:07,480 --> 00:42:11,000 Speaker 2: And you know, do you know it's the only time 727 00:42:11,040 --> 00:42:17,520 Speaker 2: I saw fear in your eyes was when I sery. Yes, yeah, And. 728 00:42:18,320 --> 00:42:21,560 Speaker 1: I did not think I was gonna be me after 729 00:42:21,600 --> 00:42:22,640 Speaker 1: that surgery. 730 00:42:22,360 --> 00:42:22,600 Speaker 3: I know. 731 00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:27,960 Speaker 2: But seeing you and seeing your mom look at you, 732 00:42:28,239 --> 00:42:30,239 Speaker 2: and you looking at your mom because it was the 733 00:42:30,320 --> 00:42:36,920 Speaker 2: three of us, and watching you look into each other's 734 00:42:36,960 --> 00:42:43,239 Speaker 2: eyes literally broke my heart. And you're so powerless as 735 00:42:43,280 --> 00:42:47,520 Speaker 2: a friend because there's nothing you can do, and you 736 00:42:47,640 --> 00:42:50,680 Speaker 2: just said, I love you, mommy, And you know, we 737 00:42:50,840 --> 00:42:53,399 Speaker 2: held your hand going down the hallway and you had 738 00:42:53,400 --> 00:42:56,760 Speaker 2: to say the final you know, I had to say 739 00:42:57,719 --> 00:43:02,239 Speaker 2: your mom had to say goodbye, and it was brutal. 740 00:43:02,719 --> 00:43:04,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, it was brutal. 741 00:43:04,719 --> 00:43:06,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, that was the only time I saw, for here 742 00:43:06,600 --> 00:43:07,080 Speaker 2: in your eyes. 743 00:43:08,360 --> 00:43:10,200 Speaker 1: I was positive I was going to die. 744 00:43:10,560 --> 00:43:12,480 Speaker 2: Not only die, though, but I think you thought you could. 745 00:43:12,600 --> 00:43:14,000 Speaker 2: You're going to be dead or you're going to have 746 00:43:14,000 --> 00:43:16,320 Speaker 2: brain damage and you would not be the same. 747 00:43:16,480 --> 00:43:18,759 Speaker 1: I thought it was, Yes, it was one of those two. 748 00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:22,520 Speaker 1: I didn't think there was any other outcome but brain 749 00:43:22,600 --> 00:43:25,040 Speaker 1: damage or death because I don't get scared of a 750 00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:25,440 Speaker 1: lot of. 751 00:43:25,400 --> 00:43:27,279 Speaker 2: Things, I know, but that was the first time I 752 00:43:27,320 --> 00:43:27,680 Speaker 2: saw it. 753 00:43:28,040 --> 00:43:31,760 Speaker 1: I also think that like you know, seeing you, seeing 754 00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:35,279 Speaker 1: my mom, seeing my brother, seeing my sister in law, 755 00:43:35,480 --> 00:43:40,680 Speaker 1: like you know, everybody sort of rallied around and being 756 00:43:40,760 --> 00:43:44,399 Speaker 1: there and coming in and saying, you know, I love 757 00:43:44,440 --> 00:43:46,239 Speaker 1: you and you're gonna be fine, We'll see you on 758 00:43:46,280 --> 00:43:50,479 Speaker 1: the other side. Like it definitely helped. But I was 759 00:43:51,080 --> 00:43:53,919 Speaker 1: shocked when I woke up. The first person I saw 760 00:43:54,120 --> 00:43:58,200 Speaker 1: was doctor Cheu, right, and I just remember being like 761 00:43:59,120 --> 00:44:02,080 Speaker 1: looking opening my eyes and seeing him and being like, so, 762 00:44:02,120 --> 00:44:04,879 Speaker 1: what's wrong with me? Like that was the first thing. 763 00:44:05,560 --> 00:44:09,719 Speaker 1: What's wrong with me? Like tell me what transpired doing 764 00:44:09,719 --> 00:44:13,840 Speaker 1: that surgery? How my messed up right now? Like is 765 00:44:13,920 --> 00:44:17,440 Speaker 1: my right foot not working? Is there something in my brain? 766 00:44:17,840 --> 00:44:21,640 Speaker 1: And this is something I have not talked about yet. 767 00:44:22,080 --> 00:44:24,920 Speaker 1: It's really interesting and I and you know this is 768 00:44:24,960 --> 00:44:28,120 Speaker 1: that when I came home, when I was recovering, I 769 00:44:28,160 --> 00:44:33,319 Speaker 1: had a very hard time with memory and more importantly, 770 00:44:34,400 --> 00:44:40,360 Speaker 1: hand coordination. I remember that my right hand wasn't working properly. 771 00:44:40,520 --> 00:44:43,160 Speaker 1: I couldn't hold a glass and I was like, oh 772 00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:47,400 Speaker 1: my god, this is forever. And I was I was 773 00:44:47,640 --> 00:44:50,759 Speaker 1: hopped up on so many steroids as you know that. 774 00:44:50,840 --> 00:44:56,920 Speaker 1: It was like I was Craig Ray slightly slightly. 775 00:44:58,000 --> 00:45:03,360 Speaker 2: I was nuts. Nuts, yeah, nuts. But that's a legitimate 776 00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:05,719 Speaker 2: concern if you can't use your right harm. The good 777 00:45:05,719 --> 00:45:08,920 Speaker 2: news is you're completely fine. But that was the only 778 00:45:09,000 --> 00:45:10,240 Speaker 2: time I ever saw you scared. 779 00:45:10,920 --> 00:45:12,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, that was very scary. 780 00:45:20,640 --> 00:45:24,440 Speaker 2: I have a question for you, as my everything, what 781 00:45:24,440 --> 00:45:25,720 Speaker 2: do you want from me in my life? 782 00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:34,240 Speaker 1: Happiness, contentment, peace. I want you to grow super old 783 00:45:34,560 --> 00:45:40,680 Speaker 1: and watch your children flourish. And because I know how smart. 784 00:45:40,400 --> 00:45:45,040 Speaker 2: You are, I find you one of the smartest people 785 00:45:45,080 --> 00:45:51,280 Speaker 2: I've ever met. Your brain triggers on some higher level 786 00:45:51,320 --> 00:45:54,880 Speaker 2: than anyone I know. I think I'm smart, I'm very social, 787 00:45:55,280 --> 00:45:57,440 Speaker 2: I'm good at what I do because I love people. 788 00:45:58,520 --> 00:46:02,120 Speaker 2: You're on just a higher level. You're like the Siamese cat, 789 00:46:02,200 --> 00:46:03,280 Speaker 2: and I'm like the labrador. 790 00:46:05,960 --> 00:46:06,840 Speaker 1: That is so cute. 791 00:46:07,080 --> 00:46:08,680 Speaker 2: Bye, by the way, thank you for that. 792 00:46:09,520 --> 00:46:13,000 Speaker 1: So my biggest wish for you is that you get 793 00:46:13,040 --> 00:46:17,200 Speaker 1: to be healthy and cognizant where you get to watch 794 00:46:18,040 --> 00:46:21,000 Speaker 1: that for your children, because I know that your children 795 00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:24,759 Speaker 1: are the most important things in your life. And my 796 00:46:24,880 --> 00:46:28,440 Speaker 1: other wish for you is that your mom lives as 797 00:46:28,480 --> 00:46:31,600 Speaker 1: long as humanly possible, too, because I also know what 798 00:46:31,640 --> 00:46:36,319 Speaker 1: that means to you and your mom. Yeah, so I'm 799 00:46:36,320 --> 00:46:39,040 Speaker 1: going to wrap it up and just say thank you so. 800 00:46:39,040 --> 00:46:41,120 Speaker 2: Much, thank you so much. 801 00:46:41,480 --> 00:46:44,680 Speaker 1: You're the love of my life, You're my best friend, 802 00:46:44,840 --> 00:46:50,759 Speaker 1: You're my entire heart, my soul, and I appreciate you 803 00:46:50,840 --> 00:46:54,279 Speaker 1: taking your time because I know how valuable your time is. 804 00:46:55,000 --> 00:46:56,319 Speaker 1: And thank you. 805 00:46:56,880 --> 00:46:59,680 Speaker 2: And we have many more journeys to go, my love, I. 806 00:46:59,600 --> 00:47:03,760 Speaker 1: Know, I know perfect all right, Thank you guys for 807 00:47:04,200 --> 00:47:08,000 Speaker 1: tuning in to Let's be clear, And thank you Chris Cretazzo, 808 00:47:08,840 --> 00:47:14,960 Speaker 1: realtor extraordinaire and more importantly, love of my life, extraordinary