Speaker 1: This is how men think with brooks Like and Gavin
Speaker 1: to grab and I heard radio podcast. Here we go
Speaker 1: how men think? Round two? This is brooks Like with
Speaker 1: my dude, the smiling guy right here, and I'm Gavin
Speaker 1: the girl. I haven't said anything and you're laughing. What's up, buddy,
Speaker 1: I'm just thinking about what this round is going to
Speaker 1: turn into. YEA, according to the last show, I just
Speaker 1: never know what I'm gonna walk into. We have an
Speaker 1: interesting first topic, but first we got Dmitri got Rick
Speaker 1: and we've got Ryan here with us. And Dimitri has
Speaker 1: fired up about something. He has a burning topic. We're
Speaker 1: not We're not sugarcoating this one. We're getting into the
Speaker 1: heat right now. What is it, buddy? Here's the thing.
Speaker 1: Our producer Amy came to us, she said on an
Speaker 1: email and said, how do you guys, how do you
Speaker 1: finish off going to the bathroom? So I said, and
Speaker 1: I said, well, what do you mean? I said? She said,
Speaker 1: when you're sitting down? I said, if this is the
Speaker 1: way I'm thinking, I said, I used toilet. We're talking
Speaker 1: about number two yea as much as any And she said, okay, well,
Speaker 1: here's the thing we'd like to try new products. And
Speaker 1: and I'm reading and I said, and she said, we
Speaker 1: we have some white bees that you can use instead
Speaker 1: of in lieu of toilet paper. And I said, And
Speaker 1: before I could even say what I had to say,
Speaker 1: Ryan and Rick responded and they're like, we'll try him.
Speaker 1: So I don't know that that's something there, guys, apparently
Speaker 1: some deep seated thing like I don't know. I'm I'm
Speaker 1: old fashioned. There's toilet paper. There's been no need to
Speaker 1: change it. So I've used it, so that's what I do.
Speaker 1: But these two were clearly having trouble there and wanted
Speaker 1: to delve in to try something new. So my understanding
Speaker 1: is that you guys receive some of these these flushable
Speaker 1: wipes and and give it a go. It's a flushable
Speaker 1: wipe of white one called dude wipes, dude white more
Speaker 1: likely to try. Dude wipes are pretty good, you know.
Speaker 1: I And thank you Dmitri. I I kind of you know.
Speaker 1: I had always seen him in the bathroom always we
Speaker 1: go to Alaska, we go fishing, they are always up there,
Speaker 1: and I never used him, and I was always like,
Speaker 1: I wonder why, Like and I'm a very sort of
Speaker 1: particular guy. When going number two, Um, I build before
Speaker 1: you sensing a new song coming on here, I build
Speaker 1: what they call it Texas top hat, I believe, which
Speaker 1: is basically, does anybody know what anybody know what this is?
Speaker 1: So you make hats and out we're living. It's a
Speaker 1: Texas top hat. You basically take the toilet paper and
Speaker 1: you put it over the toilet seat before you go
Speaker 1: and sit down, even at home. At home, I just
Speaker 1: got a brand new toilet. Why I used it because
Speaker 1: your kids on the seat. I like the warmth, it's soft.
Speaker 1: It's just a very nice place to kind of rants.
Speaker 1: And then if you ever run out, maybe diapers are
Speaker 1: more of you. Well, if you ever run out of
Speaker 1: the toilet paper, you always know you have, you know
Speaker 1: about four or five maybe eight different Probably that's probably
Speaker 1: why you run out, because you already used eight of them. Dude,
Speaker 1: if you're in a bar and you like have to
Speaker 1: go for some reason, you want to build a little
Speaker 1: nest on the thing. Fine, but you're building a nest
Speaker 1: on office's home in college. Does not matter. I've I've
Speaker 1: been building it for a long time. It takes a
Speaker 1: stop hat. So when the dude wipes came up, I
Speaker 1: was raised my hand. I'm like, I gotta do this,
Speaker 1: not to put him down. I already have that method sealed.
Speaker 1: But he sat down. I was like, you know, I've
Speaker 1: seen these things and I want to try it. Well,
Speaker 1: you know, get down there, go and I start pulling
Speaker 1: out the dude wipes and I'm sitting there and I'm
Speaker 1: kind of like, oh, this is a little weird. It's
Speaker 1: not as comfortable. I actually did not like him as
Speaker 1: much as I thought I would. I thought it would
Speaker 1: be you know, clean, swift, good, ready to go, but
Speaker 1: it was small, wet, just not a skiss comfortable as
Speaker 1: I would have liked, you know, sort of like this
Speaker 1: conversation not as comfortable as I would have liked. Where's
Speaker 1: the food get here? I can't believe that you do
Speaker 1: it at home, though. I get it when you're in
Speaker 1: a public place, you don't know who's been on that seat,
Speaker 1: but like it's you're doing it for warmth at home
Speaker 1: another other thing I do, you know, so like like
Speaker 1: right before the toilet, there's like drips of p or whatnot,
Speaker 1: So I'll pull the toilet paper or a paper from
Speaker 1: you know, from previous maybe at the office or in
Speaker 1: a public restaurant or whatever, and I'll wipe that down
Speaker 1: and then slide that to the corner and then build that.
Speaker 1: I got a bathroom at my house. You mind coming
Speaker 1: over in my place for a little while. Do you
Speaker 1: have like a handy belt on that you come into
Speaker 1: every stall with that you have like apparatus and sprays.
Speaker 1: I feel like he's gonna end up on her. He's
Speaker 1: getting enough on like shark tank with some sort of
Speaker 1: bathroom invention. I'm afraid I'm gonna be in a bathroom
Speaker 1: one time and I'm here knock at the door, and
Speaker 1: it's gonna be rick Like. I have some wipes if
Speaker 1: you need, I'm here for you. But I will share
Speaker 1: an experience I did go to I go to Tokyo
Speaker 1: quite a bit for work, and they obviously are kind
Speaker 1: of the king of the day's and all of the
Speaker 1: you know, the high end toilet seats. And I built
Speaker 1: my little Texas and I was sitting there and I
Speaker 1: was like, I don't even need to put the Texas
Speaker 1: top hat on because this seat is warm. Yeah, there's
Speaker 1: You probably stayed in some of these hotels, like traveling
Speaker 1: hotels that have cleaner Oh yeah, they're dynamite those. Yeah,
Speaker 1: the button. Someone comes by and thanks you for staying
Speaker 1: at the hotel and they wipe you for you. Correct, correct, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't. I have yet to stay at a place
Speaker 1: where that exists. But so, yeah, so I tried the wipes.
Speaker 1: I actually wasn't a big fan of it. It was
Speaker 1: a little small in the hand as I like, kind
Speaker 1: of the you know whatever, and uh, it was a
Speaker 1: little moist and not as good as I like. So
Speaker 1: that is it because you have large hands? It maybe yeah, maybe, Okay,
Speaker 1: right now, second, you're hung up on it. So after
Speaker 1: you use this thing, the wet thing, do you follow
Speaker 1: it up with the dry thing or do you just
Speaker 1: in this swampy That's a great question. Yeah. No, I
Speaker 1: did not want to walk out of there and still
Speaker 1: kind of have the otherwise. Otherwise you gotta go to
Speaker 1: the hand dryer and just kinda back back it up
Speaker 1: against it. So he has a hair dryer in his belt.
Speaker 1: That Ryan. What are your thoughts on experience like deals
Speaker 1: with some of my neuroses, Which is the first thing
Speaker 1: I said to Amy, as I said I'm reading the back,
Speaker 1: are these definitely fleshable? Because if I ruined my plumbing
Speaker 1: at my house and I have to get a plumber
Speaker 1: in here. That's going to be an issue. It's not
Speaker 1: worth it to me. She assured me that I'm being
Speaker 1: neurotic and it's all good. The bigger thing for me,
Speaker 1: I have a friend who swears by them, which is
Speaker 1: partly why I jumped at the opportunity to have them
Speaker 1: sent to me. And he said. The analogy he gave
Speaker 1: me was like, look, if you got mud on your arm,
Speaker 1: would you use a dry paper towel to get it off?
Speaker 1: Or would you use a wet paper tality could agree more?
Speaker 1: And I thought that was a relatively astute observation. Mud
Speaker 1: or dry mud wet by nature. There's no such thing
Speaker 1: as dry mud. Dry mud is dirt that just blew
Speaker 1: your mind, wipe it off, and mud you gotta get
Speaker 1: the mud off, but then you gotta cleaning something, and
Speaker 1: a dry piece of paper is not going to clean.
Speaker 1: So so just saying, my so have you been? Are
Speaker 1: you converting? Now? Are you a dude? Way? You never
Speaker 1: really asked me my opinion, I thought, okay, right now, okay.
Speaker 1: The one thing I was gonna say is when you're
Speaker 1: in a public the time you would need it most
Speaker 1: for me is not when you're at home. It's when
Speaker 1: you're in an away toilet, and when you're in a
Speaker 1: way toilet. If you're in an office environment, the last
Speaker 1: thing you're gonna do is get up from your desk
Speaker 1: and walk down the office corridor with the dude wipes
Speaker 1: in your hands. So so you advertise to everybody in
Speaker 1: the office that you're going to drop a deuce in
Speaker 1: the through them. So I think I would need a
Speaker 1: travel size, pocket friendly Fannie pack. It's something that you
Speaker 1: could slip into your pocket and be discreet when you
Speaker 1: go out there, or if this catches on, restrooms will
Speaker 1: just supply them. Well, that's the thing that sounds like
Speaker 1: toilet paper kind of monopolizes the whole thing. That's that's
Speaker 1: maybe you're in on shark tank. Correct, that's right, Fannie pack,
Speaker 1: a dude white dispensary for restaurants in airports. Someone's gonna
Speaker 1: steal that. Giving a percentage of that coming. You've got
Speaker 1: Mark Cuban written all over it. I'm sure you can
Speaker 1: get it at the duty free. Dude. What's that? What's
Speaker 1: that line from anchor man? This really escalated quickly, all right,
Speaker 1: I haven't tried it. I don't know. I don't know
Speaker 1: if I'm willing to try it, but I think it's
Speaker 1: more prominent I've heard. I actually was listening to podcast
Speaker 1: where they were talking about this the other day, So
Speaker 1: I think it's actually more prominent than we probably know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I guess the argument would be, you shower with water, right,
Speaker 1: you're cleaning yourself off with something wet. Nobody get clean
Speaker 1: something wet. Correct. You don't just put a towel on
Speaker 1: your body, So that would be the argument. I'm a believer.
Speaker 1: I'm staying, Danielle, can we get can we get Gavin
Speaker 1: some dude wipes? And I don't want him right now? Now? Well,
Speaker 1: and then you can try him out. We're gonna on
Speaker 1: the show. We're gonna test a lot of products, so
Speaker 1: I appreciate you stepping up to this one right here. Hey,
Speaker 1: it's Brooks like and it is how men think we
Speaker 1: have Gavin, Dmitri, Rick and Ryan. We're we're taping this
Speaker 1: right now in Oakland, California, where we're away from Los Angeles,
Speaker 1: and Ryan is away from his wife and the two
Speaker 1: year old boy and the baby on the way, and
Speaker 1: he's dealing with a little bit of guilt. Let's get
Speaker 1: into this. So look, we're wearing it all out here,
Speaker 1: are we not. It's just not this. I was this
Speaker 1: is a safe place because because I'm getting a look
Speaker 1: from Gavin that is like he doesn't approve of this,
Speaker 1: and it's very off. Let's call it a safe place
Speaker 1: from now. I was told to judgment free zone, but okay,
Speaker 1: call it a safe place from now. Tell the story
Speaker 1: and then we'll decide out. Okay. So, so I had
Speaker 1: an issue and have an issue currently, which is that
Speaker 1: I have about five hairs unibrow hairs that continue to
Speaker 1: grow back. Then my wife is like, this is a
Speaker 1: bad look, like she would pluck them because she said
Speaker 1: it's a bad look. And eventually she gave me as
Speaker 1: a gift a laser treatment in l A. I went
Speaker 1: to this this laser clinic, went and sat in the
Speaker 1: waiting room and there are about fifteen women getting bikini
Speaker 1: line lasers. I was the only guy. Luckily, this Armenian
Speaker 1: guy with like a sweater vest of chest hair came
Speaker 1: in after me. But I have gotten one procedure done
Speaker 1: of laser on my in between my eyebrows. Amazing, dude,
Speaker 1: I have one like black one. My hair is brown
Speaker 1: and I have one black one that just grows right
Speaker 1: there and have to like pluck it up. It doesn't matter,
Speaker 1: it's one had just pluck it. What do you because
Speaker 1: the rest of your life, Like if you can just
Speaker 1: do away with it and be done with it, it'll
Speaker 1: never grow your you know what. I actually would do
Speaker 1: a laser on. I'd like to actually do it on
Speaker 1: the back of my hair so when I get a haircut,
Speaker 1: it stays clean whole time. So maybe like next time
Speaker 1: I get a haircut, I'll go somewhere and get it
Speaker 1: laser anywhere you recommend? Where'd you go? Was it good?
Speaker 1: You're looking for a place you cut? Place you do
Speaker 1: they do? Do? They do the back? Yeah? They do everything.
Speaker 1: I mean they When I walked in, they the guy
Speaker 1: that was behind me, they had like an industrial sized
Speaker 1: laser beam thing like but for me, it took literally
Speaker 1: ten seconds like five zapps and I was out. Really
Speaker 1: can't think. Can they come into it? Like, I don't
Speaker 1: want to truck down to a laser place? What do
Speaker 1: you that's what are your laser at? First? What are
Speaker 1: you laser in? I don't know. I got a few
Speaker 1: strangely things on my shoulders. I guess I could take
Speaker 1: care of it, but I mean I don't. I'm not
Speaker 1: a I don't feel like I need to do it,
Speaker 1: But I guess if it never grows back, but what's
Speaker 1: to say it won't go back right next to it? So, Gavin,
Speaker 1: do you have have you ever plucked any hairs on
Speaker 1: your grab? It's perfect right here, very funny. Uh probably,
Speaker 1: I'm sure I've done this before, but nothing comes out,
Speaker 1: you know, at the center between my eyebrows. But um,
Speaker 1: he's looking for a laser that grows hair. Be So
Speaker 1: here's a question. Well, we all know that fashions change, right,
Speaker 1: styles change. It's always a moving target, essentially culturally speaking,
Speaker 1: music fashion change, religions change, politics, ex change. What if,
Speaker 1: somewhere down the line, let's say it's within our lifetimes,
Speaker 1: Anthony Davis, it becomes in readibly attractive to have a
Speaker 1: couple of hairs in between your two eyebrows, and you're like, damn,
Speaker 1: I wish I could get those back. What are you
Speaker 1: gonna do about that? The technology will already exists, like
Speaker 1: to get a hair transplant and have them plugged in.
Speaker 1: Think about the people that reverse it. Think about the
Speaker 1: people that threw something away, buddy. Somebody threw away an
Speaker 1: old album, right, obviously not one of yours. They throw
Speaker 1: away an old album, someone bought it on eBay and
Speaker 1: may or sold it on eBay and made a fortune. Right.
Speaker 1: So to Gavin's point, all of a sudden, it's like,
Speaker 1: this is the hottest thing to have a unibrow. It's
Speaker 1: not going to be Anthony and Anthony Davis from the NBA.
Speaker 1: That's what makes them attractive. Oh, I didn't say it was. Well,
Speaker 1: I'm assuming that's where you're going. Okay, But women do
Speaker 1: it like on their arm everywhere weekly. The same be
Speaker 1: said for them. But what if their car stalls in
Speaker 1: a cold climate and they need to grow that hair
Speaker 1: back and there they are freezing? Do you do a
Speaker 1: lot fear in your life? Like you live a lot
Speaker 1: of hope, a little bit of everything? Gentlemen, you I
Speaker 1: love your hypothetical, dude. I love that we went from
Speaker 1: from Ryan's eyebrow, who was stalled car in Minnesota. You
Speaker 1: never know. Let's say you're at the Mall of America
Speaker 1: and it's a giant storm. I wish, I wish I
Speaker 1: could grow hair stuck that morning. Man, Let's talk about
Speaker 1: another issue that you raised, Ryan, UM, set this one
Speaker 1: up for us. We're talking about and this is I
Speaker 1: think a real issue for men and women. Um, you
Speaker 1: call it man guilt. Can you explain to Ustin to
Speaker 1: our listeners what man guilt is. I think Rick is
Speaker 1: the expert in this territory, but I will tell you that, Yeah,
Speaker 1: there's an element of whenever I go away and my
Speaker 1: wife is home with go away on work or like
Speaker 1: vacation or well to very astute question, thank you, Uh,
Speaker 1: I would say when you go away. When I go
Speaker 1: away and work, the man guilt is lessoned because I
Speaker 1: am away for work and I'm earning money for the
Speaker 1: family and and and all that. But if I go
Speaker 1: away on pleasure with buddies, then the man guilt is
Speaker 1: that much more because she's home taking care of our son,
Speaker 1: you know, dealing with the brunt of of motherhood essentially,
Speaker 1: while I'm off having a good time. So you have
Speaker 1: to kind of temper the when you were laying back
Speaker 1: how things are going, it's I feel guilty saying like
Speaker 1: I'm having an amazing time. Can't lie to her and
Speaker 1: say it sucks. I can't wait to come home, and
Speaker 1: I knew you were going to be the one time
Speaker 1: here and can't you do that? I think, yes you can?
Speaker 1: And have you done that? I've that's gonna add to
Speaker 1: his guilt if he's now lying to it. He's away
Speaker 1: and he's lying, that's just gonna Do you feel better
Speaker 1: about your relationship by lying with her by saying I'm
Speaker 1: having a bad time versus you worried that she's going
Speaker 1: to be almost jealous of you for having a great
Speaker 1: time and therefore sparing her the competitive sort of angst
Speaker 1: regarding you having time off from the interesting thing is
Speaker 1: I bring this on myself. If I were to tell
Speaker 1: her I'm having an amazing time, she would genuinely be
Speaker 1: happy that I'm having an amazing time and making them great?
Speaker 1: What do you feel so bad about it? So? Why
Speaker 1: why do you do that? Because I feel guilty that
Speaker 1: she's at home not having a great time? So about
Speaker 1: her is about you? Is about her not having a
Speaker 1: great time or that you're having a great time? I
Speaker 1: don't think my brain can comprehend with that. Can I
Speaker 1: tell you? I used to have I used to have
Speaker 1: this man guilt, and what I finally came to a
Speaker 1: point where I realized if I didn't do these things,
Speaker 1: if I if I felt bad when I went away
Speaker 1: for work, or if I went away from my buddy's
Speaker 1: birthday and we went to Vegas or whatever it is
Speaker 1: and I felt bad about it, or if I didn't
Speaker 1: go for some reason, which I think is a mistake.
Speaker 1: To not do those things. I think you need to
Speaker 1: give your family, at your work, your friends, the best
Speaker 1: version of yourself. And if you stay home and you
Speaker 1: don't do these things, then you're gonna be grumpy. You're
Speaker 1: gonna be the you're not giving your wife. Then then
Speaker 1: you're gonna be like, you're gonna have more fights in this.
Speaker 1: The thing is give her the opportunity to do it,
Speaker 1: to let her say, hey, listen, go away, have fun
Speaker 1: with your friends, have a weekend or whatever it is.
Speaker 1: Let her do it, to show her that there's nothing
Speaker 1: wrong with it. And then when you do it, it's
Speaker 1: it's okay because because you're sharing now, and it's like
Speaker 1: and she needs it just like you need it. If
Speaker 1: you don't do these things, you're not gonna be the
Speaker 1: same with your wife. You're not gonna be the same
Speaker 1: with your kids. There was a time where um, I
Speaker 1: hadn't gone away, and then I started traveling for work
Speaker 1: a little bit and my my, you know, kids were
Speaker 1: like whatever, my my, my, you know. Youngest was like,
Speaker 1: I don't know. She's a small girl, she's like two
Speaker 1: one and a half. Of the time, she didn't really
Speaker 1: she paid more attention to my mother in law and
Speaker 1: my wife and I went away to New York for
Speaker 1: a week for work, and I came back and she
Speaker 1: has been daddy's a little girl ever since. And it's
Speaker 1: like there's a dynamic that changes. Sometimes you have to
Speaker 1: mind people what they have or what they're, what there is,
Speaker 1: and you have to be the best version of yourself
Speaker 1: and bring that back because that's gonna chave you if
Speaker 1: you don't go and it gets stay on on this
Speaker 1: that then then you're not helping anybody. You've never have
Speaker 1: been times that I've gone away when when milestones occur
Speaker 1: in my with my son that I'm away for when
Speaker 1: it's like he's now taking his first steps or he
Speaker 1: said his first word, and that's that makes you feel
Speaker 1: tremendously guilty. I get I understand that. Yeah, that makes sense. Well,
Speaker 1: don't go away on his birthday? Yeah, trip on Yourn's
Speaker 1: actual birthday. How do you know if you missed it,
Speaker 1: that it happened at all and it wasn't a ploy
Speaker 1: to make you feel that you work so suspicious. That's
Speaker 1: that's deep because his wife to him that, how do
Speaker 1: we know? It's weird? Because when I got home, my
Speaker 1: wife had told me he had taken his first steps
Speaker 1: and he was not walking, and she said he just
Speaker 1: decided not to walk anymore. It's yeah, you're right, You're right.
Speaker 1: Can I nailed it? You nailed it? Trust she has
Speaker 1: the video proof. The other thing I think about the
Speaker 1: guild is like you're vested with that person, that relationship,
Speaker 1: whether it's a work relationship or a marriage or a
Speaker 1: friendship or whatever. And if you walk away or technically speaking,
Speaker 1: or you're going on a trip or whatever, you're breaking that.
Speaker 1: You know, maybe it's with a team, or maybe when
Speaker 1: you left hockey, or maybe it's whatever that is, Like
Speaker 1: maybe you felt I don't know the circumstances, but maybe
Speaker 1: you're like I feel guilty, you know, signing that contract
Speaker 1: with the such and such team, right, you know, like I,
Speaker 1: But but reality is is to Dmitri's point is you
Speaker 1: do need to do things that make you a healthier
Speaker 1: person and a help and a happier person. And I
Speaker 1: think overall that will make the whole situation dynamic better.
Speaker 1: So I agree with you. I exactly agree with what
Speaker 1: you said and what Dmitri said. So when I was
Speaker 1: released by the l A Kings, I was playing in town,
Speaker 1: finally living at home. My wife and I had done
Speaker 1: long distance for three and a half years. I was
Speaker 1: playing hockey in d C in Toronto. She's living in
Speaker 1: l A. So we've done a long distance like that
Speaker 1: for three and a half years. Finally I'm playing in
Speaker 1: l A for the King's life is amazing. I'm playing
Speaker 1: hockey and at home. Then the King's released me and
Speaker 1: I had a decision to make. Do I want to
Speaker 1: go somewhere else again and be away from home and
Speaker 1: continue to play hockey, or do I want to stay
Speaker 1: at home? And I chi it was my decision. My
Speaker 1: wife was like, I support you, and whatever you want
Speaker 1: to do. You want to go to Carolina, you want
Speaker 1: to go to Florida, wherever you want to go play.
Speaker 1: I support you. You know, I love you and I
Speaker 1: want you to have the career that you want. So
Speaker 1: I support you and God bless her for that, and
Speaker 1: I made the decision I do not want to be
Speaker 1: away from my wife. As much as I wanted to
Speaker 1: play hockey, which is at an all time high, it
Speaker 1: just got better every day. My desire to be with
Speaker 1: my wife was on a daily basis, was greater than
Speaker 1: my desire to play hockey. It doesn't discount my desire
Speaker 1: to play hockey. UM. So I do agree with that
Speaker 1: that um and it was my decision. I wanted to
Speaker 1: be with her, So I'm at peace with that decision.
Speaker 1: But I also agree with what Dmitri said in a
Speaker 1: little bit of that you can't miss somebody if they
Speaker 1: don't leave, you know, so like missing somebody in a
Speaker 1: relationship is a powerful thing. Like if I'm gone for
Speaker 1: a couple of days, my wife misses me, and I
Speaker 1: miss my wife, and that's an attraction to come back
Speaker 1: home to so and I also want to have a
Speaker 1: fantastic time while I'm here with you guys. Come home
Speaker 1: and share some energy and stories with her, and she
Speaker 1: sees this. This, this lights me up. And also that
Speaker 1: distance from each other makes us gravitate towards each other.
Speaker 1: So if you don't go, as Demitri said, if you
Speaker 1: don't leave. Amy's ready to pipe in on this. What
Speaker 1: is it? I think men feel guilty when they're being
Speaker 1: selfish because you're taught don't be selfish, don't be selfish,
Speaker 1: don't be selfish. But being selfish isn't always bad. So,
Speaker 1: especially in the workplace, you sometimes feel guilt over making
Speaker 1: certain decisions because you're looking out for number one. But
Speaker 1: sometimes it's okay. And I'd love to hear what you
Speaker 1: guys think about that. I agree with that. I I'm
Speaker 1: an advocate for people to be selfish in their life
Speaker 1: as far as what makes them happy. Now, that doesn't
Speaker 1: mean step on people, that doesn't mean hurt people, that
Speaker 1: doesn't mean but it means you have one life to
Speaker 1: live here in charge of it. Nobody else is going
Speaker 1: to do it for you. Something that's going to fulfill
Speaker 1: you and light you up by all means, go do
Speaker 1: it please. And I hate when people turned down the
Speaker 1: thermostat on their life to accommodate other people. And especially
Speaker 1: if you have a the right partner, maybe there's a
Speaker 1: litmus test for the right partner in your life. Is
Speaker 1: Ryan If you go away and you said I had
Speaker 1: the most amazing time babe, this is awesome, and she says,
Speaker 1: that's awesome. When I tell me more, I want to
Speaker 1: hear all about it. That's the right partner. If you
Speaker 1: have somebody that says, how dare you be away? Blah
Speaker 1: blah blah, that's maybe the wrong partner for you. That's
Speaker 1: how I look at it. My wife and I we
Speaker 1: travel a lot for work, both of us um and
Speaker 1: celebrate the opportunity to go and do these things that
Speaker 1: each of us have the greatest life we could imagine,
Speaker 1: and we support one another in doing it. But we
Speaker 1: are being selfish in a way by doing it, but
Speaker 1: we are connection is strong enough and we communicate well
Speaker 1: enough that it's not an issue. You guys, what do
Speaker 1: you think? Yeah, that makes sense. I mean I agree.
Speaker 1: I mean, you're here, You've got four kids at home,
Speaker 1: you're here. What's what's your wife thinking? We're in Oakland
Speaker 1: right now. It's and that was the thing. It's like,
Speaker 1: I said, hey, listen, I'm going up to Oakland. Um
Speaker 1: we're gonna do the podcast from up there. And she said, okay, great.
Speaker 1: She's very supportive. In fact, the night before I left,
Speaker 1: she had to go to Colorado or something. So you know,
Speaker 1: we told the kids it's you know, mommy's away tonight
Speaker 1: and I'm here and then tomorrow night I'm gonna be away,
Speaker 1: and it's like and you know, that's just that's the
Speaker 1: way it is. And I think you have to be
Speaker 1: supportive of each other. And when you don't, when you
Speaker 1: start having whatever jealousy like, oh, you went to visit
Speaker 1: too for your friends, you know, birthday or whatever. If
Speaker 1: you have jealousy about somebody, about your partner having fun
Speaker 1: and doing stuff that makes I'm happy, then that's not
Speaker 1: that's not a healthy relationship. And there's an issue. There's
Speaker 1: a deep, you know, underlying issue there. If you're if
Speaker 1: things that make your partner happy don't make it doesn't
Speaker 1: make you happy that they're happy, that's that there's a problem.
Speaker 1: I can't give you a perspective of someone who doesn't
Speaker 1: have children. Yes, sir, let's have it. Not married um,
Speaker 1: single man. Yeah, you want me to put that out
Speaker 1: for I'll put that out for it for you body,
Speaker 1: very single, very eligible. But it's gonna be about a
Speaker 1: woman missing you in every city. No, it's not about that.
Speaker 1: It's it's for me. Uh. When I think about this conversation,
Speaker 1: I hear. Your perspectives are all valid, They're all important,
Speaker 1: right to each of you. That are important. Uh as
Speaker 1: the person who doesn't have a family, Um, it's important
Speaker 1: to me as well. Uh for I guess from this
Speaker 1: sort of preventative angle which has been so here, I am.
Speaker 1: I'm a I'm an adult, I'm not married, I don't
Speaker 1: I don't have children. But I think a large part
Speaker 1: of me delaying that game in my life essentially that
Speaker 1: that element of what I would consider what makes it
Speaker 1: a full life is that I know what my job
Speaker 1: entails and the amount of travel that it entails, and
Speaker 1: I always felt like I wouldn't have time for that.
Speaker 1: And so I until I feel like I have time
Speaker 1: for that. Uh as far as fatherhood is concerned, um,
Speaker 1: I've always felt like I won't be ready for that.
Speaker 1: And so you know, I'm somebody who grew up in
Speaker 1: a lower middle class household. Um my dad was a
Speaker 1: prison guard, my mom was a dtox specialist, and so
Speaker 1: you know, we didn't have really money, but my dad
Speaker 1: was there every day. So until I feel like I
Speaker 1: could match that, which I may not be able to
Speaker 1: ever do, because I mean, like I mean, if you're
Speaker 1: read the Odyssey, right, So so sort of how it
Speaker 1: sort of sums up this this uh, this life challenge
Speaker 1: of of of a young man to try to try
Speaker 1: to live up to the image of his father, which ultimately,
Speaker 1: as we all know, is the impossible in so many ways.
Speaker 1: The stories that you hear from a lot of dads.
Speaker 1: Of course, not not all dads are great, but a
Speaker 1: lot of guys who grow up knowing their fathers, they
Speaker 1: paint this picture of their father that is absolutely and
Speaker 1: you can't master it, you can't possibly live up to it,
Speaker 1: I'm sure, the same way that some women with you
Speaker 1: their mothers. And so because I felt like I wouldn't
Speaker 1: be able to live up to that and be the
Speaker 1: father my dad has been for me, uh, it's made
Speaker 1: me sort of put that on the back burner and
Speaker 1: in a lot of ways sort of put that element
Speaker 1: of life on hold, because even though you guys are
Speaker 1: celebrating great lives and full lives, I hear the struggle
Speaker 1: that you have and and it's something that I understand
Speaker 1: is valid, valid, uh level of anks for for anybody.
Speaker 1: You know that in six situations. But to that point,
Speaker 1: not that I'm telling you run out and get married
Speaker 1: and have kids. But keep in mind, I don't think
Speaker 1: when when my dad for everything he meant to me
Speaker 1: and everything that I that, I think he was such
Speaker 1: a great dad and he did this, and I don't
Speaker 1: think he ever sat there and thought, oh my god,
Speaker 1: I'm being this is look at me, I'm being a
Speaker 1: great dad. I've got it all put together. I'm here
Speaker 1: all the time. Listen. I like, I don't think that
Speaker 1: I'm always there for my kids. I try and be
Speaker 1: as much as I can. But when I see them,
Speaker 1: I know that they don't. They don't look at me
Speaker 1: and think, oh, he's never around. He's I don't think
Speaker 1: my dad was ever like, look at me. I got
Speaker 1: it all figured out. This is the perfect the perfect
Speaker 1: situation just fell upon me. So keep that in mind
Speaker 1: when you're like, I want to make sure that I'm
Speaker 1: there for your kids. You'll be there, but it doesn't
Speaker 1: mean constantly being there. So can I gab I ask
Speaker 1: you a question because this is coming from somebody who
Speaker 1: my twenties to thirties, I was intensely devoted to my
Speaker 1: career as an athlete, didn't have the capacity or composure
Speaker 1: to welcome a relationship really into my life. So I
Speaker 1: know what you're talking about. Um, that switched when I
Speaker 1: met and I actually switched personally in me a little
Speaker 1: bit once I hit about UM, I developed a little
Speaker 1: more composure and growth personally, and I met my wife
Speaker 1: just at the right time in my life. But in
Speaker 1: your life, what do you think that looks like, that
Speaker 1: moment where maybe you do have that capacity to bring
Speaker 1: on a serious relationship and a potential life partner or kids.
Speaker 1: Do you have an idea of what that might look like?
Speaker 1: Given your career as an artist, a traveling artist touring, UM,
Speaker 1: you know, I sort of fantasize about what it could
Speaker 1: look like, what it should look like, you know, sort
Speaker 1: of like these uh I think we've all been sort
Speaker 1: of brought up on these uh the with these these
Speaker 1: these romance novel versions of what perfect looks like. And
Speaker 1: as we all know, it's simply entertainment a lot of
Speaker 1: those stories and they are the life is imperfect. But
Speaker 1: we all sort of have been told what perfect should
Speaker 1: look like, at least in many different versions of what
Speaker 1: perfect should look like. UM. So of course I have
Speaker 1: all of those those fantastical con steps of what it
Speaker 1: should look like, right, but what it could look like.
Speaker 1: Are two different things right and what it should could
Speaker 1: look like? Do you think this should look like? Is
Speaker 1: limiting you a little bit? Like trying to fit something
Speaker 1: into this? So and so I've gotten and as you know,
Speaker 1: about a year and a half ago, my mom had passed,
Speaker 1: and so that sort of just sent everything just spinning,
Speaker 1: you know, for me, just absolutely spinning. Um. So it
Speaker 1: became much more sort of a reminder of of, uh,
Speaker 1: you never know when it's going to happen, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, like how long your life is going
Speaker 1: to be in these things? So it's some elements of
Speaker 1: me or think sees sees the moment go out and
Speaker 1: just have the greatest time and go crazy or whatever.
Speaker 1: And of course there's an other element, which is you
Speaker 1: know you're not going to be here forever and have
Speaker 1: a family and make something in you know, the image
Speaker 1: of yourself, of your father, of your mother, etcetera. So
Speaker 1: I have an idea of what it like I said
Speaker 1: it should look like, but this sort of, uh, the
Speaker 1: the the high wall of what what what you're up
Speaker 1: against in in in s like um, just speaking from
Speaker 1: personal experience, I'm actually excited for you and I'm excited
Speaker 1: to get to know you more and follow your journey. Um,
Speaker 1: and it's gonna be surprising when it think when it
Speaker 1: does happen, it's gonna be surprising and awesome. I never
Speaker 1: thought I would marry an American girl. I thought the
Speaker 1: rest of my life, i'd go back to Canada. I'd
Speaker 1: live back in Saskatchewan. Um, maybe coach hockey back there,
Speaker 1: something like that. Now I'm living in Los Angeles doing
Speaker 1: a podcast with you guys, married to an American girl
Speaker 1: who is a dancer, an artist, where I was a
Speaker 1: sports guy. I mean, it's amazing. I once had a
Speaker 1: good friend tell me, if you want to make God laugh,
Speaker 1: tell him your plans, and and it was so true.
Speaker 1: It ranks so true. I thought I had my life
Speaker 1: laid out, this is the way it was gonna go.
Speaker 1: And then one day somebody walked into my life. Julianne
Speaker 1: walked into my life and changed everything. So, UM, be open.
Speaker 1: My only advice to you would be open to things
Speaker 1: that you aren't seeing. Um. I thought my life was
Speaker 1: going one way, and man, did it go the other way.
Speaker 1: And I'm so grateful for that. Said yeah, well, said,
Speaker 1: so we're in agreement. We should all go to Vegas. Rick,
Speaker 1: you call Ryan's mom wife and let her maybe ye
Speaker 1: get Vegas. But a horrible time you're having with us
Speaker 1: in Vegas. The one thing I do want to add
Speaker 1: to that is my brother, who's five years older than me.
Speaker 1: He kind of paved the path for myself and my
Speaker 1: sister and whatnot and kind of set the bar pretty highs.
Speaker 1: But I had kids a lot earlier than he did. Um.
Speaker 1: He has a three year old now. But I felt
Speaker 1: like as we were going getting into the age that
Speaker 1: we are now, he was sort of always concerned about
Speaker 1: lining up his ducks. You know. He was like, I
Speaker 1: gotta make enough money, I gotta have the right house
Speaker 1: I got, you know, or whatever. Um. And I think
Speaker 1: once he had the kid, he was kind of like, oh, okay,
Speaker 1: good like. And I kept telling him like, dude, just
Speaker 1: do it, like, don't worry about it. You know, like
Speaker 1: you don't know what the kids, you know, you don't
Speaker 1: know how that's gonna work for you know. I mean,
Speaker 1: it's a whole Once you have that child, it's a
Speaker 1: whole another deal. It's a whole another ball game, you know,
Speaker 1: especially between you and the kid and you and your wife,
Speaker 1: you know, and whatnot. And so there's all these new dynamics,
Speaker 1: but it's like, you know, I want to just encourage him,
Speaker 1: like don't wait and go like have one because it
Speaker 1: is really the best thing ever to have a kid,
Speaker 1: a girl, boy, whatever, you know. And it's it's, uh,
Speaker 1: you know, it's you never know what life's gonna wright you.
Speaker 1: You know, I think that's to Brooks's point, it's cool
Speaker 1: right on, This is how men think. And on this
Speaker 1: show we have opened it up to your to our listeners,
Speaker 1: will always have it open to our listeners. We want
Speaker 1: to know questions, insight, comment from you guys. You can
Speaker 1: email us at men at I Heart radio dot com.
Speaker 1: And we have a question right now. We're gonna call
Speaker 1: this segment is really like ask us anything. We're an
Speaker 1: open source for you guys, men and women, ask us anything.
Speaker 1: But we're going to call it a little more of
Speaker 1: a fun name. Um. That's what he said is what
Speaker 1: we're gonna go with for this segment. So Danielle, our producer,
Speaker 1: has a question for us. All right, So this comes
Speaker 1: from Jessica, and Jessica is asking from a man's perspective,
Speaker 1: how are you guys affected by a woman's kind ecological?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, rewind. This is from Jessica and she
Speaker 1: is asking from a man's perspective, how are guys affected
Speaker 1: by a woman's kindacological? Oh my god, sin ecological. I
Speaker 1: can't do the word. Oh my god. Okay, gin ecological? Okay, Okay,
Speaker 1: here I know, I got okay. This is from Jessica
Speaker 1: and she is asking from a woman's perspective, how are
Speaker 1: you guys affected by a women's issues such as endometriosis,
Speaker 1: p MS, etcetera. I'll touch on the endometriosis when my
Speaker 1: wife openly has admitted and has endometriosis. UM, God, bless
Speaker 1: her heart. She does a lot of UM trying to
Speaker 1: raise awareness for women to find out if they have it.
Speaker 1: And I think it's a last episode. I believe one
Speaker 1: in ten women have endometriosis. And can you explain what
Speaker 1: that is? UM? I really don't know. I should have
Speaker 1: more UM, but it it essentially can make getting pregnant
Speaker 1: naturally a little more difficult. That it's something to do
Speaker 1: with UM. Oh, Eastern's got it, Easton has it. It
Speaker 1: can be siss on the so she does have siss
Speaker 1: on over that. I don't. I'm not I don't know
Speaker 1: how much I want to get into this exactly. And
Speaker 1: my wife has it too. Um. And first of all,
Speaker 1: it's incredibly difficult to get diagnosed. Yeah, the hell of
Speaker 1: the time finding a doctor that knew what it was.
Speaker 1: It's it sists on your uterus, and it causes intense pain. Um,
Speaker 1: just all kinds of discomfort. She had to have an
Speaker 1: like an incision and some was that lacroscopic surgery. Yeah,
Speaker 1: to to have them remove it. They just can come back.
Speaker 1: It's horrible. So and and it can be unpleasant or
Speaker 1: uncomfortable during a course. Um. But for me, I mean,
Speaker 1: I love my wife. This is nothing. This has no
Speaker 1: bearing at all on our relationship or on like I
Speaker 1: understand that her body. She didn't choose to get it,
Speaker 1: she didn't do anything to get it. She has indometriosis.
Speaker 1: We move forward with it. So we've done. We talked
Speaker 1: about it last episode. We did uh IVF and froze
Speaker 1: some of her eggs in case we do have trouble
Speaker 1: getting pregnant naturally. Um. But fully accepting of my partner
Speaker 1: of my wife, absolutely love her and we'll move forward
Speaker 1: and whatever comes our way in life comes our way.
Speaker 1: So for me, that's a non issue. May I be
Speaker 1: so bold and ask the question that women all want
Speaker 1: to know. But it's a bold one for you guys.
Speaker 1: Do you care about period sex? Would that stop you?
Speaker 1: This is one for Gavin, gav buddy, and tell the truth.
Speaker 1: That's what this is. So tell the truth. So if
Speaker 1: it's a no, we can handle it. We can handle it.
Speaker 1: Thank you, Gavin. I think Dmitri, Okay, here's the thing
Speaker 1: I'm not. I'm not again, I've done it. Um. I
Speaker 1: think it's more preferable to be to the very beginning
Speaker 1: or the very end of the period cycle. Um. But
Speaker 1: you know, I think it's a good thing when you're
Speaker 1: with someone that that regardless of the time, you guys
Speaker 1: kind of want to be together. So if it happens
Speaker 1: to be in the middle, then you know, you know
Speaker 1: what to deal with it. I mean, obviously something. I
Speaker 1: think that. So just so we can educate them, Daniel,
Speaker 1: will you jump in here. It's not the middle you want.
Speaker 1: The middle is the worst part. But I tell you
Speaker 1: Day one is pretty light. I said, the beginning or
Speaker 1: the end Day two and three, nobody wants to be
Speaker 1: doing it. But day like four or five, you barely
Speaker 1: would know. I mean, this is supposed to be it's
Speaker 1: not as comfortable from a man's perspective, it's it's does
Speaker 1: not the sensation is not as enjoyable. Yeah, from my
Speaker 1: perspective is that the time of the month when men
Speaker 1: should be planning their fishing trip. Oh, we'll look you there,
Speaker 1: I gotta buy. What do you guys say? Personally? I mean,
Speaker 1: from the beginning of when I first met my wife,
Speaker 1: there's nothing that grosses me out. So it's like, it
Speaker 1: is what it is. There's there is literally nothing that
Speaker 1: could gross me out a thousand percent. We can find
Speaker 1: something it goes I'm saying with respect to my sex
Speaker 1: life with my wife, like, there's not I've never been
Speaker 1: grossed out by any of that. It's like a fact
Speaker 1: of life, and it is what it is. And I
Speaker 1: can't agree with Brooks though. It's a total different sensation,
Speaker 1: is what I you know, it's it's not not the same, so,
Speaker 1: you know, quite frankly to me, it's a no, you know,
Speaker 1: I'd rather wait the whatever you're waiting anyway, I will
Speaker 1: say this, I don't know if I'm wrong on this one,
Speaker 1: but and maybe we need producer Danielle or producering me
Speaker 1: to wait in on this. I feel like towards towards
Speaker 1: the end or maybe after you guys feeling a little
Speaker 1: bit more of it. Are you feeling like you kind
Speaker 1: of want to You're a little friskier two days before.
Speaker 1: It's like whoa, And then the problem is we're actually
Speaker 1: friskier during the days you don't want to do it.
Speaker 1: It's really weird. It's like it's God's punishment maybe because
Speaker 1: it's like that's when we really want it, but we
Speaker 1: don't want to do it because do you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying? Because I don't want to do it on
Speaker 1: those days, like when I look at the calendar and
Speaker 1: I know I got like a vacation with somebody, and
Speaker 1: you literally go, can you bleet me? Because you're so
Speaker 1: bummed that the calendar just screwed you? And so we
Speaker 1: don't want to do it either. I don't know. I
Speaker 1: can't from the calendar. I get my wife and I
Speaker 1: did long distance for three and a half years, and
Speaker 1: sometimes it just lined up like that just because those
Speaker 1: are the only days that we could make work with
Speaker 1: my schedule or her schedule. UM, So I get it
Speaker 1: that it's um that being said, I mean, you know
Speaker 1: it's it's not my first choice. Um, but I've, as
Speaker 1: Demitri said, have done it and um, but it's also
Speaker 1: just a great time to get some damn good sleep
Speaker 1: to you. Like, just just get some good sleep in there. Okay.
Speaker 1: So the second question we have is from Amy Pass,
Speaker 1: and our question is how come when we text you
Speaker 1: three questions you only respond to one of them? We
Speaker 1: prioritize the most important. I don't know, we can't figure
Speaker 1: all three out. I mean, why are you sending three
Speaker 1: rapid questions? Like why don't you just if you pick
Speaker 1: a question, ask it and then we'll answer it. And
Speaker 1: like why is this like the lightning round? Like send
Speaker 1: us a question, we'll answer, Like pretend your text is
Speaker 1: a conversation, Amy, you're a horrible texter. You will write
Speaker 1: hey in the text, next, got next, a question next,
Speaker 1: and it's like just hey, slow it down, think it through.
Speaker 1: Ask us a question and we'll answer, and then ask
Speaker 1: the next one. But if you sent three questions, it's
Speaker 1: like it doesn't seem genuine, like do you really want
Speaker 1: the answer? You're just trying to like, I don't know,
Speaker 1: we'll give you an answer, but that's that's a lot,
Speaker 1: so you want one at a time. Can you guys
Speaker 1: talk about this to texting versus phone calls because we
Speaker 1: want the phone calls, but it seems like you guys
Speaker 1: prefer texting. What's everybody's thoughts on that. I have a
Speaker 1: capacity to handle like three phone calls and five text
Speaker 1: messages a day. That's about Yet then I'm on overload.
Speaker 1: Um I honestly, I honestly like FaceTime most often, Like whatever,
Speaker 1: whenever I call you, Amy, it's I FaceTime you because
Speaker 1: it's just like, hey, it's an easy way to punch in,
Speaker 1: punch out versus like texting, and just I don't have
Speaker 1: a capacity to do that. I actually like the phone call.
Speaker 1: I enjoy FaceTime more. It's like, hey, how are you?
Speaker 1: There's my question? What's up? Okay? What are you doing?
Speaker 1: A great piece that because you're handsome, but no one
Speaker 1: wants a FaceTime to get the FaceTime coming in and
Speaker 1: you're like, this is the last thing I want is
Speaker 1: for them to see me right now. Face is I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't give a deal on FaceTime. He's like, he's like,
Speaker 1: my favorite facing timing is a lot. It's a commitment,
Speaker 1: Like what if I see a FaceTime coming first time,
Speaker 1: like that's a pocket FaceTime. They did not mean to
Speaker 1: face You're like looking in the mirror, like if it's
Speaker 1: it's not your birthday, I'm not FaceTime and yet what Yeah?
Speaker 1: I am I alone in this? Are you FaceTime? The
Speaker 1: majority of the people you don't even know? I would
Speaker 1: FaceTime I FaceTime. Probably out of ten phone calls, seven
Speaker 1: of them would be faced that. What do you do
Speaker 1: when when when you travel, because you travel more than
Speaker 1: probably any of us right now. Mostly text? Yeah, mostly text.
Speaker 1: But I find that if it if it's at all
Speaker 1: any kind of if it's any kind of intimate, like
Speaker 1: if you if you're like having a situation, if you're dating,
Speaker 1: trying to date somebody or whatever, the text is a
Speaker 1: horrible way to go because everything's lost some translation and
Speaker 1: and you have to put a phone call it. Yeah
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? FaceTime? Do you FaceTime? Not much?
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't face time much, um, just because
Speaker 1: it's like kind of pain to FaceTime. I don't want
Speaker 1: to have to look at the phone, you know, not
Speaker 1: to mention forget about role. If you accidentally roll your
Speaker 1: eye on FaceTime and you're done. If you make the
Speaker 1: wrong facial expression, you're done. Um yeah, what you got buddy? Right? Also,
Speaker 1: you know what else, if you're face timing, it's hard
Speaker 1: for you to it's hard for you to text while
Speaker 1: you're having a conversation. But you're not. That's the point
Speaker 1: of that's the point of talking about. You got something
Speaker 1: to do. Man, you gotta get back to people like yeah,
Speaker 1: it's so so then just look at it like like
Speaker 1: like I gotta go, I got stuff, I gotta I
Speaker 1: gotta go. I'll talk to you soon. Okay, it goes.
Speaker 1: If I'm FaceTime and it's no problem, you can be
Speaker 1: sitting out. Does FaceTime have cause with people? Yeah? I
Speaker 1: mean I'm going if I'm face If I'm FaceTime and
Speaker 1: that girl, how can I text other ones? That's not
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. That's comfortable. The guy has been married along.
Speaker 1: That's the issue. That's that's me here and the rock stars.
Speaker 1: The star says, if I'm FaceTime and how can I text?
Speaker 1: So then the follow up question of that is do
Speaker 1: you ever cross text? That is a fear? Isn't it
Speaker 1: the cross text? But you could do that in any occasion.
Speaker 1: I've done that for sure. I have. I have. I
Speaker 1: had a teammate once that accidentally cross text and you're
Speaker 1: talking about intimately, oh yeah, and accidentally and then blamed
Speaker 1: it on me like I was a scapegoat, but never
Speaker 1: told me and so then I got confronted about it
Speaker 1: and I was like yeah, and then like I just
Speaker 1: I just took a bullet. I took a bullet because
Speaker 1: I figured something was up. And then like a couple
Speaker 1: of minutes later, I was like, I saw my buddy.
Speaker 1: I was like, what is this and he's like, oh,
Speaker 1: I forgot to tell you. I'm like, dude, I tell me.
Speaker 1: Have you guys seen the Fire Festival documentary so you
Speaker 1: know that Ovin Sorry, you gotta watch it, but you
Speaker 1: know the eavy On water guy. Come on, guys, I've
Speaker 1: seen both documents, the Avian water. He was gonna, you
Speaker 1: know what to get the water? Yes, So I was
Speaker 1: trying to tell no. He walked into the hotel. I
Speaker 1: was at a hotel. He walked in. I freaked out.
Speaker 1: I got so excited as I started texting people like
Speaker 1: friends and I texted, he's here, and I sent the
Speaker 1: egg plan emoji with the water to the wrong person
Speaker 1: to like a seven year old professional man. I started.
Speaker 1: I started pouring. So you cross text anybody else in
Speaker 1: our community, any listeners out there, If you have a
Speaker 1: great story, that's what I want to get out. If
Speaker 1: somebody out there has a fantastic story of cross texting,
Speaker 1: send us an email or do you have one, Oh, Danielle,
Speaker 1: I think a lot of women can relate to this.
Speaker 1: But when you're texting a guy, let's say I'm just
Speaker 1: I'm dating somebody, I'm texting that guy. I will text
Speaker 1: my girlfriend to ask what I should respond with the guy. However,
Speaker 1: it's happened so many times before where I've screenshot at
Speaker 1: a conversation and sent it back to the guy instead
Speaker 1: of sending it to my friend and he's like, why
Speaker 1: did he just screenshot our conversation? Like hurt? But that
Speaker 1: happens is so many people, is so many of my before.
Speaker 1: So this is something I really want your honest opinions on.
Speaker 1: And I know you're gonna want to give the politically
Speaker 1: correct answer, but if you can give the real answer,
Speaker 1: I have no interest in. So there's a girl I
Speaker 1: follow on Instagram, so she doesn't shave at all, not
Speaker 1: any not legs. For some reason, it's really hard for
Speaker 1: me say the word armpit, but I'm just gonna say
Speaker 1: it not armpit. That's a struggle to say that word
Speaker 1: legs nothing. And what I think is interesting is any
Speaker 1: time she shows that on her Instagram, women criticize it
Speaker 1: or kind of make comments, and then other women come
Speaker 1: on and defend her, and it's this big sort of thing.
Speaker 1: So I'm wondering, as you, five men, what do you
Speaker 1: really think? Like, what do you really think about that?
Speaker 1: I think I mean, Gavin gave an example when I
Speaker 1: was talking about lasering my eyebrows. If she ever gets
Speaker 1: caught in a blizzard outside the Mall of America, she's
Speaker 1: gonna need that hair for warmth. She's she's resourceful. Could
Speaker 1: be a regional thing. Does she live in Canada? No?
Speaker 1: Is that common in Canada? She lives in California. Because
Speaker 1: I think women are going to email us at men
Speaker 1: at I Heart radio dot com. No matter what you
Speaker 1: guys say. Think you're gonna lose lose here because I
Speaker 1: think they're gonna be irritated by you if you don't
Speaker 1: say it's okay. But I want you to be honest.
Speaker 1: I'll give it a shot. This is Rick speaking, Here's
Speaker 1: the thing I think. Listen, I think everyone should do
Speaker 1: what they want. Okay, if that's what she wants, and
Speaker 1: if she is with someone or isn't with something and
Speaker 1: they're fine with it, then that's fine. I mean, the
Speaker 1: fact that she's posting it, she's inviting the comments. Okay,
Speaker 1: me personally, I trim. I trim what I want to
Speaker 1: trim because makes me more comfortable. So if she doesn't
Speaker 1: want to trim, that's up to her. And if whoever
Speaker 1: she's with, whoever her partner is, that's fine. But unfortunately,
Speaker 1: once you go posting it, you're inviting the comments. So
Speaker 1: I don't know what her responsive, she has problems with
Speaker 1: all the comments, or if she's fighting back or clapping
Speaker 1: back or whatever. But the thing is, once you do that,
Speaker 1: you're you're kind of inviting it. So my my thought
Speaker 1: on this is if it makes you feel good and
Speaker 1: in your own world you're happy with it, then do it.
Speaker 1: But if you're doing it and then putting it out
Speaker 1: there and getting mad at people for commenting about it,
Speaker 1: then that's on you. This is a topic for Professor
Speaker 1: to graw In on. Thanks Doc. My opinion on this
Speaker 1: um single Man's opinion the single guy, Well, I guess
Speaker 1: I have a general question, which should be does she
Speaker 1: get her hair cut on her head? And what does
Speaker 1: her hairstyle look like? And it's just a short haircut,
Speaker 1: has more to makeup. She's very, very pretty. It's just
Speaker 1: that's something she doesn't want to do for whatever different reasons.
Speaker 1: But as men, are you, I'm just gonna really cut
Speaker 1: to the chase. Are you more attracted to a woman
Speaker 1: that does? Or do you care? See you're all I
Speaker 1: am more attracted to someone. Has anybody been with someone
Speaker 1: who has not? This thing to me as a man
Speaker 1: is to look at a woman who looks so opposite
Speaker 1: of anything masculine. Um, that's what I find sexy. So
Speaker 1: I already have body hair. I feel like I have
Speaker 1: that part covered. But now she has no hair and
Speaker 1: her whal body but a little patrick here that doesn't
Speaker 1: grow on my face. I may say that's totally different
Speaker 1: than me, but you know, for me, I'm not looking
Speaker 1: for somebody who has any any esthetic at all reminiscent
Speaker 1: of my looks, and I'm just looking for the absolute opposite.
Speaker 1: I yeah, I agree, I have no interest in that.
Speaker 1: That's my opinion. Um, body hair, not attractive, not physically
Speaker 1: attractive to me in what I want to see on
Speaker 1: my partner. My wife, um, looks very feminine and to
Speaker 1: me that's very very attractive. Yeah, we're here to give opinions, right, Well, No,
Speaker 1: here's the thing. They can have their own perspective. When
Speaker 1: that first came up, you asked what we thought of it,
Speaker 1: and so I said, if she wants to do what
Speaker 1: she wants doing it. But if you're asking me some
Speaker 1: point blank, if I find that attractive, I don't. So
Speaker 1: I agree with Gavin Burton, and I think everybody here,
Speaker 1: um yeah, it's like that's not what mentally, what I'm
Speaker 1: accustomed to and what I think of, and therefore doesn't
Speaker 1: trigger an attraction to me. So if someone were to
Speaker 1: come to me and say, hey, look at me, I
Speaker 1: haven't shaved my armpits and my legs, I say, well,
Speaker 1: that's not that I don't. I'm sorry. That's great for you,
Speaker 1: but I do not find that attractive. And I think
Speaker 1: there's a lot of things that they may look at
Speaker 1: us and be like, oh my god, like that guy's
Speaker 1: got you know, short hair, or that guy has long
Speaker 1: hair that's disgusting, or he has blonde hair or black hair,
Speaker 1: no hair or chest hair as a societal and political
Speaker 1: statement is the difference. No, not at all. And that's
Speaker 1: what I think. Yeah, it's like that. It is no doubt,
Speaker 1: it's an open window into but we don't know that.
Speaker 1: And I think Amy is just kind of like, do
Speaker 1: you guys like it or don't? That's that's how I'm interpreting.
Speaker 1: We don't know that she's doing that. But she's posting
Speaker 1: a photo on Instagram with her arm up showing the thing,
Speaker 1: so she's not high, she's not not calling attention to it.
Speaker 1: I think she wants her to be a conversation like this.
Speaker 1: It's an old conversation. Has anybody ever been with somebody
Speaker 1: that that was like that, that has not chosen to shave,
Speaker 1: whether it's arm, pits or legs. When I was a teenager,
Speaker 1: I went to a to a Woodstock reunion kind of thing,
Speaker 1: you know, because I grew up near the original woodstock location,
Speaker 1: right uh near Yaser's farm, And of course they'd have
Speaker 1: these revivals every year, you know, celebrating woods the nineteen
Speaker 1: sixty and anally stuff, so you know, all the hippies
Speaker 1: and the faux hippies, and people who just like are
Speaker 1: not hippies, but they would you know, the by ten
Speaker 1: dollar ted eyed t shirt walk around right all there.
Speaker 1: And of course there's a lot of girls there who
Speaker 1: you know, we're teenage girls, twenty year olds, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. I was like sixteen at the time,
Speaker 1: and there are a lot of girls in that that
Speaker 1: age range. We just you know, we're that kind of
Speaker 1: those kind of girls. You know, um, you know, fire
Speaker 1: pits and drum circles and that whole thing. Everybody smelled
Speaker 1: like but chuli, you know what I mean. And so
Speaker 1: there are some cute girls out there. I mean I
Speaker 1: had a ball um but you know, um, but I
Speaker 1: can't say encountering that little underarm goate was a highlight
Speaker 1: of my teenage years. You know. So you've been there, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I seen it. I was about sixteen. Boy. So when
Speaker 1: we've when we flipped back through your picture book, there's
Speaker 1: not you in an underarm groate and like smiling. That's
Speaker 1: that's looks like I have two heads of hair. Okay,
Speaker 1: So we have a question from Tiffany and she is asking,
Speaker 1: what are you insecure about on your body? Let too many,
Speaker 1: too many muscles, on my on my being the perfect shape.
Speaker 1: The twelfth ab muscle protrudes too much and it hurts
Speaker 1: when I bend over. My abs are so pronounced. This
Speaker 1: is everyone. His face was awesome. Really starts to hurt,
Speaker 1: Like everyone, we get it. You work out, well, you start,
Speaker 1: you started, buddy, what do you all dive in? Because
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, what the hell, I'm forty five,
Speaker 1: great hairs and sort of fat, and I don't really care.
Speaker 1: I mean, the reality is great. Both thanks a lot
Speaker 1: of appreciate that, you know what. I joked about him
Speaker 1: since we got together. But like I, you know, I
Speaker 1: am kind of self conscious about my chin and the
Speaker 1: third one more so than the second one, but the
Speaker 1: first one I really want to keep around. So the
Speaker 1: fifth one kind of leads right down into like the
Speaker 1: stomach area. It kind of all it's good, like when
Speaker 1: you're in the sun and then you get up and
Speaker 1: there's just like all the way across it's good. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's nice. But that's what we asked Rick for the
Speaker 1: thing that he feels most sensitive about it, and we
Speaker 1: started beating on the You guys are nice, that's it.
Speaker 1: But I do think about you know, It's like I
Speaker 1: kind of mentally beat myself up about working out and
Speaker 1: and like not that I'm focusing on that particular area,
Speaker 1: but I think as an overall mentality of saying, hey,
Speaker 1: I need to go work out today, or you know
Speaker 1: because of X, Y and Z, or I look in
Speaker 1: the mirror shave or whatever, and it's like I need
Speaker 1: to take care of that. Um, are you active right now?
Speaker 1: Like are you? Are you very inactive? Actually you've seen
Speaker 1: those elephant seals, right, That's kind of what I feel
Speaker 1: like every once in a while when I look in
Speaker 1: the mirror. But um, I know it's not the case.
Speaker 1: Does it change if you become very active or somewhat
Speaker 1: active somewhat? Yeah, yeah, somewhat. So then you have the
Speaker 1: power to think about you know. And then you get
Speaker 1: the other side of it where your wife or was like, hey,
Speaker 1: well you know you can take care of that, and
Speaker 1: it's like I may, I am taking care of it.
Speaker 1: I'm going to the gym every day or or whatnot.
Speaker 1: But she's like no, no, no, you can like go
Speaker 1: and get it frozen off or sucked out or however
Speaker 1: you want to do it, you know, And I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: thank you, I'm not into that, hm, anybody else I'm
Speaker 1: self conscious about a little bit of everything, you know,
Speaker 1: maybe that's what you know. Like I'll give you an example, right, So,
Speaker 1: uh so last week I went to the dentists and uh,
Speaker 1: you know, I just I had going because I had
Speaker 1: a feeling I needed done. And so they're doing that
Speaker 1: and I'm like, hey, you don't mind whiting in my
Speaker 1: teeth a little bit? They're like, no, certainly not. I
Speaker 1: was like like three D shades lighter, like as white
Speaker 1: as you can get these things, like like whiter than
Speaker 1: my pupils, you know, and and like because I need
Speaker 1: to do because I never go in the sun, so
Speaker 1: I look like, you know, a ghost, you know. It's
Speaker 1: like a cross between like a ghost and like somebody
Speaker 1: with jaundice. So so like if I don't know, yeah,
Speaker 1: so if I don't care if my teeth, you know, yeah,
Speaker 1: then if they're not really white, then you can't tell
Speaker 1: that look white at all, because you know, what they're
Speaker 1: up against is like this, so instead of tanning, you're
Speaker 1: just whiteing your teeth oddly, the sort of the translucent
Speaker 1: color that I have. And so because I hate going
Speaker 1: to the sun, you know, because when I was a kid,
Speaker 1: I was a lifeguard and I had to sit on
Speaker 1: that damn chair all day long. Man, And I said, man,
Speaker 1: I mean I would, I would. I was like hoping
Speaker 1: somebody would go under just so I could cool off,
Speaker 1: you know. And so you know, so so in there,
Speaker 1: you know, I was like, yeah, just make these things
Speaker 1: as white as damn possibly, you know. And then they're like, okay,
Speaker 1: we've gotten pretty wet. I was like, hey, why you're
Speaker 1: in there? Um while you're in there, yeah, like yeah,
Speaker 1: because you know that stuff in your mouth. I was like,
Speaker 1: how long would it take you to straighten these things out?
Speaker 1: You know? And they're like, well, what do you mean?
Speaker 1: I said, well, you know, I had left, you know,
Speaker 1: and uh And they're like, yeah, I mean we could.
Speaker 1: We could do a couple of things, you know. I said,
Speaker 1: maybe like some of those invisil line or I had
Speaker 1: braces when I was a kid, but I didn't want
Speaker 1: to wear the retainer because they looked too straight. I
Speaker 1: looked like wimpy because they were too straight, and I
Speaker 1: kind of wanted to get them a little crooked again.
Speaker 1: But now they're like a little gangly, you know, so
Speaker 1: now I want them straight as could be. You know
Speaker 1: this is how man thing right. I was like, I
Speaker 1: can't look if it looks too good, then I'm gonna
Speaker 1: look like a pretty boy in this. Somebody will mess
Speaker 1: with you and then you know, like get him a
Speaker 1: little crooked, you know. And so now I'm an adult,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm like, I mean, I want my tea
Speaker 1: straightened out again. You know, why did I why did
Speaker 1: I wear my retainer? Come play some hockey? But they
Speaker 1: come play some hockey. Man. I lost my front four
Speaker 1: te four times. See that? Do you have implants? They
Speaker 1: broken half? So they just they broken half. They broken
Speaker 1: half like vertically and half or like a cross like across.
Speaker 1: How do you do that? The first time I lost them,
Speaker 1: I was twenty three, just got high sticked, but just
Speaker 1: a stick just took him right. I came to the bench,
Speaker 1: pulled up my mouth guard front forward, just broken half.
Speaker 1: And then after that then hockey players a really good
Speaker 1: dentist um, and then they filled them me and they
Speaker 1: put all like fake bottoms on them, and then after
Speaker 1: that they got I lost them twice in two weeks.
Speaker 1: One time one was of the puck, one was of
Speaker 1: the stick from a teammate in practice, and then I
Speaker 1: lost them one more time. So you wanna you wanna
Speaker 1: you want to fix up your teeth? Buddy? The game
Speaker 1: you keep playing after that happened, Yeah, it's actually yeah,
Speaker 1: it's it's fine. You don't really feel it. Did you
Speaker 1: find this the other halfs on the I know they're
Speaker 1: just in your mouth guard. They come out in your
Speaker 1: mouth guard, you pull your mouth guard out, and they're
Speaker 1: just stuck in there. Did anybody make a really comment
Speaker 1: you afterward? Like, hey man, you want to get some
Speaker 1: dinner to night? Can you Some guys like hey, can
Speaker 1: you open this here out there? Can open this spirit
Speaker 1: for me? But yeah, you want you want some teeth adjustment,
Speaker 1: my friend, come play some home all right, I can
Speaker 1: do that. I can't do that, but it'll be good
Speaker 1: for my mouth, I suppose. I mean, I uh, you
Speaker 1: know when I started losing my hair, and when I
Speaker 1: was like, I wasn't thrilled about it, but then uh,
Speaker 1: it came to a point where it's like it's seen. Obviously,
Speaker 1: it's there's a lot more common now. And once I
Speaker 1: think I shaved it and just went with it, I
Speaker 1: was fine. So that doesn't bother me anymore. But if
Speaker 1: I don't keep myself. Like right now, I'm trying to
Speaker 1: get back in the shape. But if I don't keep
Speaker 1: myself in shape, the last place that that fixes itself
Speaker 1: on my body if I'm working out is like my
Speaker 1: side and my gut, my stomach. So if someone walks
Speaker 1: up and hey, man, what's up and they hit you
Speaker 1: on the side, I automatically I'll miss the next sentence
Speaker 1: that they say because I'm all I'm thinking about is
Speaker 1: oh man, they hit my side. It's not like where
Speaker 1: I wanted to be. So I feel that though, like
Speaker 1: if I don't. If I if I'm on vacation for
Speaker 1: like a week, because I'm used to training like seven
Speaker 1: days a week, and if I'm on vacation for like
Speaker 1: a week, I feel soft and I hate it. Just
Speaker 1: it's the grossest feeling to feel soft, which I don't like. Um,
Speaker 1: So I get back train hard and I noticed a
Speaker 1: change in my body too. You just feel a little softer.
Speaker 1: It just looks a little different. But also for me,
Speaker 1: it's um upper body. I'm a legs in My sport
Speaker 1: is a legs and lung sport, but that's what you
Speaker 1: train an explosive single leg power to be a hockey
Speaker 1: player lungs to skate all day and you don't spend
Speaker 1: a lot of time on upper body. So in relation
Speaker 1: to my legs, my upper body are is small um
Speaker 1: and weak compared to my in relation to my leg strength.
Speaker 1: So for me, I'd like to develop more upper body.
Speaker 1: I don't think I have a very big upper body
Speaker 1: my self consci I think that's a half for oh
Speaker 1: the half horse at the center? What did you call it?
Speaker 1: A menatort cent centaur? I hit you on the side earlier,
Speaker 1: sprain through things, impose your head. I love the Brooks,
Speaker 1: just that the Brookshire works out like what eighteen at
Speaker 1: twenty four hours a day goes. Yeah, when I go
Speaker 1: on vacation, I get soft. It's like for what it's just.
Speaker 1: But if you're if you're so like honestly as an athlete,
Speaker 1: you're so in tune with But I don't know, maybe
Speaker 1: it happens to what do you got? You gotta there?
Speaker 1: I got a minute tour? This guy's going off the
Speaker 1: cliff here? Can I see what you're you're talking about? This?
Speaker 1: What do you call the is that the one center?
Speaker 1: I don't see how either of these I don't okay, Well,
Speaker 1: It's like, yeah, yeah, that is Brooks. That's Brooks on vacations.
Speaker 1: Can we post on our Instagram a picture of a
Speaker 1: centaur with Brooks's face? Oh, I'm sure if somebody in
Speaker 1: our community will do it. Oh God, here they come.
Speaker 1: I just want to be honest here. Um. You know,
Speaker 1: I we just shared a little bit about what we
Speaker 1: were self conscious about, and you know, obviously working out
Speaker 1: and doing physical exercise. You know, we were talking about
Speaker 1: my chin and being forty five and chins. Excuse me,
Speaker 1: thank you Ryan. Um. But what I wanted to know
Speaker 1: really from you guys and some of our listeners was
Speaker 1: what motivates you to to get to the gym, be
Speaker 1: on time, get there every time, you know, work your
Speaker 1: upper body Brooks? Um, you know what is the motivating
Speaker 1: factor when you've already played a sport, when you already
Speaker 1: have the kids and you're you're already out on too.
Speaker 1: You know, you come back from a from a concert
Speaker 1: or whatnot, Gavin, you know, are you gonna go work
Speaker 1: out afterwards or you're gonna work out the next morning
Speaker 1: or you know? Right, So I'm curious to know what
Speaker 1: the motivating factors are to do to to do that
Speaker 1: I that's probably the question I get asked the most
Speaker 1: in my life is how do you stay motivated and
Speaker 1: what motivates you? Um? Honestly, for me, it's well, it's
Speaker 1: been about athletics. My whole life was about Okay, I
Speaker 1: want to become the best hockey player I possibly can be.
Speaker 1: That that was my whole goal. So I trained sports
Speaker 1: specific What in the gym directly translates to on ice peak,
Speaker 1: on ice performance. That was my motivating factor for thirty
Speaker 1: some years. Um. Now it's about I want to compete
Speaker 1: in CrossFit. But um so that's why I'm working on
Speaker 1: other things that are not sports specifically developing more upper
Speaker 1: body power. Um. But for me, if I don't work out,
Speaker 1: if I don't train like my I turned my whole
Speaker 1: you guys probably seen on my Instagram if you follow me,
Speaker 1: my whole garage is a gym. It's my home Jim Heaven, um,
Speaker 1: and I'll train. I'll bounce back and forth in and
Speaker 1: out of that from eight to five every day. Um.
Speaker 1: I have a workout app, open gym training programs if
Speaker 1: you guys wanna, if you need something to train at
Speaker 1: home or at your gym. Um, this is my passion
Speaker 1: in life. This is something that fulfills me. And honestly,
Speaker 1: my head would blow off if I didn't train in
Speaker 1: a day or two days. Like, I just have so
Speaker 1: much energy I need to get out, and I think
Speaker 1: if I didn't do that, It's one it's fulfilling for me.
Speaker 1: I can do it by myself for four or five
Speaker 1: six hours. You can probably sing or write or like
Speaker 1: music by yourself all day, right, So this is fulfilling
Speaker 1: for me. So it's it's sort of a gift in
Speaker 1: that regard um. But also I think I would go
Speaker 1: crazy if I didn't get that energy out. I think
Speaker 1: my wife would probably divorce me in a week if
Speaker 1: I wasn't able to work out like for me right now.
Speaker 1: I mean, I was doing waterpool for a long time,
Speaker 1: and they're a couple of years ago. I was training
Speaker 1: pretty hard for a World Championship thing and Hungary and
Speaker 1: and we went and did all that, and ever since then,
Speaker 1: I've just been and we remodeled our house or whatnot.
Speaker 1: But I've just been very kind of stagnant and just been,
Speaker 1: you know, and almost enjoying it to the fact where
Speaker 1: I'm like, you know what, I don't have to do
Speaker 1: that today? Like cool, Like I'm gonna stay home and
Speaker 1: enjoy my coffee or whatever, not go to the gym
Speaker 1: at six o'clock or go swim at five am. Um.
Speaker 1: And now what I'm really struggling with is getting on
Speaker 1: that horse, and without forcing myself, I think I can
Speaker 1: help you here. So and for our listeners too, because
Speaker 1: this is so if if working what would on a
Speaker 1: scale of one to ten, what would working out or
Speaker 1: right now be to you? A three? Four? Like how
Speaker 1: excited would you be to do it? Or like what
Speaker 1: would so you're three? So a lot of a lot
Speaker 1: of people listening to this probably are a three. So my,
Speaker 1: how we how do we get this? Because if something's
Speaker 1: attend to you, you're like, I want to do that.
Speaker 1: That's so attractive, that's so that's so much fun to me.
Speaker 1: So if training for you right now is a three, well,
Speaker 1: if we add great music, that might make it a four.
Speaker 1: If you do it outside in the sun here in California,
Speaker 1: might be a five or six. If you do it
Speaker 1: with a good friend, might be a seven. If the
Speaker 1: gym is really close to your house, maybe that's an eight.
Speaker 1: If you put a challenge to it, Hey, I'm gonna do.
Speaker 1: I want to be able to do a five k
Speaker 1: or a half marathon by July or August. Well, now
Speaker 1: you have a purpose to it, and you're like, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna raise money. Can can you sponsor me to do this?
Speaker 1: Now you have a purpose. Now maybe there's a motivation
Speaker 1: outside of yourself. Now maybe it's a nine or a
Speaker 1: ten and you're like, damn right, I'm going to do this.
Speaker 1: Could be you want to be healthy, you want to
Speaker 1: live to your ninety years old, to be around for
Speaker 1: your grandkids. That could be a motivation. But there's many
Speaker 1: ways to turn it from a three to a ten,
Speaker 1: and I would look at some of those ways for
Speaker 1: our listeners. What are those ways in your life? Who
Speaker 1: are those people in your life that can help elevate
Speaker 1: it so that it's something that you gravitate towards versus
Speaker 1: something you resist against. Tell you a funny story about
Speaker 1: working out in good music. So I try and work
Speaker 1: out as much as i can, because one, I get
Speaker 1: embarrassed if I'm out of shape. But also what you
Speaker 1: were saying earlier books for for me, part of what
Speaker 1: I do is about quick thinking and stuff like that.
Speaker 1: And if I'm out of shape and stuff I have.
Speaker 1: My I just get sluggish and my thinking slows down,
Speaker 1: and you know, it doesn't work. So I started working out.
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, there, I want to try and
Speaker 1: work out every day, and I can't do. I don't
Speaker 1: have a time between work and the kids and everything
Speaker 1: to do so much every day. So I bought one
Speaker 1: of those Peloton bikes, and I was like, at the
Speaker 1: very least, I'll do a ride every day, which I
Speaker 1: did last night before we left to come here. I
Speaker 1: hadn't done it yet. So I did a ride at
Speaker 1: like ten o'clock at night, and I got up and
Speaker 1: I had to catch a flight this morning. But I
Speaker 1: did a ride this morning. But as I was riding
Speaker 1: this morning, I'm doing this thing, it's like, all right,
Speaker 1: I gotta get up to Oakland. And so I don't
Speaker 1: know if you know Peloton. There's a screen there and
Speaker 1: it's almost like you're in a live class and the
Speaker 1: instructors talking and stuff like that. Sometimes they are alive too,
Speaker 1: but instructors like, all right, this next one's really gonna
Speaker 1: knock your socks off. She goes. I just love Gavin
Speaker 1: Degra's voice. Yeah, And so listen if this isn't a sign,
Speaker 1: that's the part where I would have turned that screen off. Dude.
Speaker 1: This has been another This has been a powerful episode.
Speaker 1: I think this is our best episode. This is one
Speaker 1: of the top two episodes. That's one of the top
Speaker 1: two we've ever done, certainly the most recent one. Um
Speaker 1: but gavic Well said, I'm about at jokes, buddy, just
Speaker 1: wrap us, get me up, great man. Hey, well, listen, fellas.
Speaker 1: It's an honorably here to be honest with you. After
Speaker 1: meeting you, guys, I walked in. I thought it was
Speaker 1: gonna suck, but she surprised me, so thanks for having me. Hey, guys,
Speaker 1: it's Brooks and one last thing before you take off.
Speaker 1: We want to know your thoughts, feedback, insights, and questions
Speaker 1: for us on this show. Send us an email at
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