Speaker 1: Second date. When you date online, some people connect over
Speaker 1: shared interests or hobbies. Other people connect because they're both
Speaker 1: freaking hot. But one of our listeners, Thomas, says he
Speaker 1: connected with a woman online over their joint sadness. Oh
Speaker 1: something like that. Okay, suck to Thomas, Thomas. Did you
Speaker 1: meet her on tiermatch dot com or wasn't the Kleenex club?
Speaker 1: Which one was? That's cute, Well that could go. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm not getting paid by any of the services I use.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna given to be free advertising. But we
Speaker 1: did meet online. Okay, what's the sadness you speak of?
Speaker 1: My friend? Well, you know how you can put like
Speaker 1: whether you're single or divorce. There's an option where you
Speaker 1: can put separated, and so I thought I would be
Speaker 1: honest since the divorces and finalized or anything, So I
Speaker 1: listed my status as separated. Okay, why wouldn't you normally
Speaker 1: do that? Well, I would normally tell the truth. That's
Speaker 1: what I do. But I think sometimes people don't want
Speaker 1: to scare somebody off, you know, like, yeah, it's I
Speaker 1: think it'd be a turn off, Like people are in
Speaker 1: the middle of something really messy, like you just don't
Speaker 1: want to even swipe on them. It's like single and
Speaker 1: people sometimes put it's complicated. Yeah, you're obviously involved with somebody,
Speaker 1: but some people think that's a turn on. They're like
Speaker 1: a disaster people you usually want to date. Chef, Well,
Speaker 1: I don't know. He says that he matched with somebody
Speaker 1: that was separated too. It sounds like, yes, her name
Speaker 1: is Celia and she also had separated on her profile. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: she had a very nice smile, that she had big
Speaker 1: curly hair. I'm a sucker pile. Didn't think that was coming,
Speaker 1: but awesome, that's good. The hair is also a very
Speaker 1: good feature. I mean, that's it's a good start though,
Speaker 1: I'm going to change the subject to a quick it's
Speaker 1: a good start that you guys are going through. I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't know how similar it is, but a similar
Speaker 1: life experience. So you're coming in with with understanding and
Speaker 1: you probably don't feel like you have to explain a lot,
Speaker 1: right sure, Well, I mean that's kind of like prefaces
Speaker 1: into why I'm calling y'all. Um, we went on a
Speaker 1: date and this is my first first date since the
Speaker 1: you know, well my VBX wife. Yeah, and um, she's
Speaker 1: not a couple. Of guys, like coffee or something super
Speaker 1: casual and so we um, you know, we got a
Speaker 1: bite to eat. Okay, wait, what were you feeling like?
Speaker 1: Slow down, because this is the first date out of
Speaker 1: your marriage. Let me guess. Hold on, I'm a psychic.
Speaker 1: You were nervous? No, he could have been feeling excited.
Speaker 1: Worth the money, tell us, Yeah, I went all out.
Speaker 1: You know, I got dressed to the nines like Jim
Speaker 1: Carrey and dumb at dumb our tuxedo. You know that
Speaker 1: doesn't sound nervous, of course, of course. Yeah, you never know.
Speaker 1: You've been out of the dating game for a minute.
Speaker 1: Maybe you just didn't read the room right anymore. Well,
Speaker 1: I mean I thought it was positive that, you know,
Speaker 1: I got a first date out of messaging someone over
Speaker 1: the internet. So I mean that was you know, my
Speaker 1: uh start. That was pretty cool. Yeah. Yeah, Well how
Speaker 1: did it go when you showed up? Like? How was
Speaker 1: how was Celia? What was the vibe? You know, aside
Speaker 1: from the usual kind of laughs and jokes, a crack
Speaker 1: the thing that we definitely bonded over. I would say
Speaker 1: like fifty percent of the date was our situation that
Speaker 1: led us to being separated on you know, both of
Speaker 1: us kind of talking about our personal life, you know.
Speaker 1: But that's good. That's good because normally, if you're on
Speaker 1: a date with someone who's just single, they won't relate
Speaker 1: and you wouldn't dare bring it up, you know, because
Speaker 1: you don't want to hear about it. But if you're
Speaker 1: both going through it, it's like, no, please, I need
Speaker 1: someone to talk to about that. I guess that is key.
Speaker 1: You both have it in common so you can bond
Speaker 1: over it. Yeah, is that is that how it went? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I mean there definitely wasn't a pity party for it
Speaker 1: was like bonding. Yeah. How many shots at tequila do
Speaker 1: you need in order to get that? But it's only like,
Speaker 1: I know, maybe one two margaritas maybe? Okay, that's good.
Speaker 1: So what I mean? Were you able to flirt too, though?
Speaker 1: Because if you're talking a lot about you know, your
Speaker 1: exes and things, I mean we didn't. I mean, no
Speaker 1: one stayed the night at anybody's house or anything like that.
Speaker 1: But like I said, I cracked some folks. You know,
Speaker 1: I got some genuine laughs, So you know I count
Speaker 1: that out of flirting. Okay, why do you want to
Speaker 1: call her back? I mean, maybe this was just your
Speaker 1: practice date right before you you got a lot of
Speaker 1: i'm guessing time to make up for right now? Yeah,
Speaker 1: well yeah, why aren't you sleeping with everybody around town?
Speaker 1: Are sticking to one person? I'm just saying, like, why
Speaker 1: why heard like it's your first day. Well, the first
Speaker 1: date I thought went well, So I'm figuring that, you know,
Speaker 1: I might as well before I go a fish of
Speaker 1: the sea as it is, I might as well make
Speaker 1: sure this one's off the hook. Got to cut the line.
Speaker 1: That was a lot of differences, and it doesn't women.
Speaker 1: Well we didn't go to that. Well, yeah, let's get
Speaker 1: back to the date. How did the night end? You know,
Speaker 1: like I said, no, we saved anybody's house. There was
Speaker 1: no making out or anything like that. Hug Yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: there was a hug. But one thing that I think
Speaker 1: is kind of concern that I would say is she
Speaker 1: had mentioned that the reason of her separation was there
Speaker 1: was cheating involved, and I could see how she did
Speaker 1: not want to put out any kind of vulnerability, like,
Speaker 1: you know, to get herself her like like I'm trying
Speaker 1: to be a player, which I'm not, you know, like
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to be my intention was to get
Speaker 1: over and go on a second date. And did you
Speaker 1: guys make any like future plans? I always think that's
Speaker 1: a good sign on a date. Yeah, well we didn't
Speaker 1: nail I mean we didn't nail down. It was like, hey,
Speaker 1: let's go miniature golfing, you know tomorrow. We didn't do
Speaker 1: anything like that. It was like a hug at the
Speaker 1: end of the night, and it was I was like,
Speaker 1: make sure you get home safe and then I'll see
Speaker 1: what you wanted to do. So how was the hug?
Speaker 1: Was it like a quick huggle, like a sense you along?
Speaker 1: She smelled your hair kind of like you don't have
Speaker 1: to answer that if you don't want you smell people's
Speaker 1: hair on the first day ever. Just it was just
Speaker 1: a nice hug, right, Yes, it was just I think
Speaker 1: it was a very standard end of the night. You
Speaker 1: didn't like rub your hands up and down her back. Details.
Speaker 1: I think you're just gonna play a song. We'll come back.
Speaker 1: We'll call Celia for you and try and get you
Speaker 1: a second date. Update all right, thank you? All right,
Speaker 1: hold on that stepping back on the dating scene after
Speaker 1: going through a failed marriage. Wow, that just say it
Speaker 1: like that. I'm just saying things are probably different than
Speaker 1: the first time around. This is not what you tell
Speaker 1: your friends if they ever call you. I'm trying to
Speaker 1: paint the scene like the people are older, the drinks
Speaker 1: hit you harder, and the hugs are standard. Nothing, nothing less.
Speaker 1: No one's smelling anybody's hair. Well, that's what happened with
Speaker 1: one of our listeners, Thomas, who's currently going through a
Speaker 1: separation himself, and so was his date, Celia. So naturally
Speaker 1: they talked a lot about their situations and they were
Speaker 1: very open and vulnerable with each other, which Thomas took
Speaker 1: as a good sign. But now Celia is not responding
Speaker 1: to him, which Thomas is taking as a bad sign.
Speaker 1: It's a good, good way to do it hasn't changed
Speaker 1: in that sense. Yeah, something's never Yeah, but Thomas, how
Speaker 1: you feeling? Man? You guys gave it quite the lead up.
Speaker 1: We can keep that music going the whole time. Help.
Speaker 1: Do you know what we never asked you is have
Speaker 1: you tried to get a hold of her? I dreaked
Speaker 1: out to her, yes, but I did not receive any
Speaker 1: communication back. And I mean, I'm calling up you guys
Speaker 1: because I feel like it went well and so I'm
Speaker 1: trying to figure out what I do. Rot. Just brace
Speaker 1: yourself here, because you're new to dating and you may
Speaker 1: hear some things you don't want to hear. That doesn't
Speaker 1: mean that you're good at it. Okay, And as Brooke
Speaker 1: would say, there's a whole city of people to sleep with.
Speaker 1: Actually exactly what I would condone. Yeah, so let's give
Speaker 1: Celia call. We'll see if she answers and what she
Speaker 1: has to say. Let's do here we go. Hello is
Speaker 1: it Celia? Yeah? Sorry, I was really excited there. I
Speaker 1: wasn't sure if you're going to answer. Hey, we're We're
Speaker 1: Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning from the radio. Hey. Cool,
Speaker 1: Now she's not answering a second to process. This is
Speaker 1: probably a lot, right, I don't Who is it? Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're so we're a morning radio show. We're called Brooke
Speaker 1: and Jeffrey in the Morning, and we're hoping that you'll
Speaker 1: be a part of a segment with us here called
Speaker 1: a second date update. Oh no, thank you, that's okay, No, no, no, no, Celia,
Speaker 1: it's not a bad thing. Yeah, we're actually calling on
Speaker 1: behalf of one of our listeners who you went out
Speaker 1: on a date with a very hot date sounded like
Speaker 1: his name's Thomas. Oh yeah, okay, Oh that didn't Oh
Speaker 1: that didn't sound good Thomas. I think it's clueless because
Speaker 1: that was not a good response about Thomas. I mean, Mike,
Speaker 1: we had a really nice dinner and I was hopeful, okay,
Speaker 1: but we kind of got into a personal conversation about
Speaker 1: our situations, our separations, our marriages and that sort of thing.
Speaker 1: It was a big ray flag for me that kind
Speaker 1: of popped up. So are you saying just you guys
Speaker 1: discussing the marital situations was a red flag or something
Speaker 1: specifically about the conversation. Yeah, it was more. It was
Speaker 1: more specific. It was like I tell told him, like basically,
Speaker 1: my situation ended because of cheating, and I was the cheater.
Speaker 1: I was unfaithful. Oh oh interesting. So he didn't share
Speaker 1: a lot of your your story at all. He just
Speaker 1: said that there was like that's why your marriage ended.
Speaker 1: He didn't. We just assumed that it was your X.
Speaker 1: But okay, that's fine. That well, for me, the red
Speaker 1: flag was like he acted really weird, like it was
Speaker 1: just normal and he was understanding and like trying to
Speaker 1: make excuses for me. And I'm thinking this guy was
Speaker 1: kind of weak. What what do you mean he was
Speaker 1: making excuses for you, like, oh, well, I guess he
Speaker 1: wasn't paying you attention, or you know, he wanted him
Speaker 1: to be mean to you instead, or you're like the
Speaker 1: first time, it's more like I just laid what I
Speaker 1: had out there on the table and his reaction was
Speaker 1: just a little too normal for me, Like, oh, I
Speaker 1: know him the real like listen, I cheated and he
Speaker 1: was just like, oh, that's okay, okay, Well maybe he
Speaker 1: cheated in his relationship too, I mean, or he's just
Speaker 1: awkward and doesn't know what to say that because he
Speaker 1: doesn't want to insult his date. He liked you, well,
Speaker 1: like what did you want to hear from him? What
Speaker 1: would have been a good response in your mind? I
Speaker 1: wanted him to be disgusted by it, because I think
Speaker 1: it's really horrible what I did. Yeah, that was like inside,
Speaker 1: I'm sure he felt that way, but he didn't want
Speaker 1: to say to you on a first date if you
Speaker 1: disgust me. Plus, relationships are like really complicated, and you know,
Speaker 1: sometimes it's just saying maybe he's just being an understanding
Speaker 1: person and trying to be empathetic to what you were
Speaker 1: going through. It sounds like maybe you should go out
Speaker 1: little You guys are both understanding, totally understand. Well, if
Speaker 1: you're playing this to satistics, chances are she already has.
Speaker 1: So all I'm saying is like this guy, like he
Speaker 1: doesn't attack you for being really vulnerable and really honest,
Speaker 1: because that's probably a hard thing to share with you people.
Speaker 1: I would imagine you're not listening to me. I deserved it.
Speaker 1: Like he didn't even bust anything. Okay, I see what
Speaker 1: you're saying. Like he's siding with the person who cheated
Speaker 1: rather than siding with the person who got cheated off. Yeah,
Speaker 1: not even questioning it, like, yeah, got you. Maybe maybe
Speaker 1: he could yell at you now, yeah, like because this
Speaker 1: would be a great chance for him to lay into
Speaker 1: you because he's actually on the other line listening. Absolutely,
Speaker 1: I think I've had enough. No, no, no enough. You
Speaker 1: understand he's already there listening right now and wants to
Speaker 1: talk to you. Yeah. Ye, all right. So let me
Speaker 1: get this straight. You wanted me to be like doctor
Speaker 1: Phil or Steve Harvey or something. It just lace into you.
Speaker 1: How does that make sense on a first date? First
Speaker 1: of all, I didn't even though you were on the line. Secondly,
Speaker 1: I go, did you for a reason? And I really
Speaker 1: don't even want to talk to you? Oh? No, star flying?
Speaker 1: Is this the vibe you got Thomas when you guys
Speaker 1: were out? Nothing like this? This is like Medusa head.
Speaker 1: I don't know who this woman is. I'm just being
Speaker 1: honest with you. I feel like you could have at
Speaker 1: least questioned why I did it? Like I need someone
Speaker 1: to hold me accountable for all Right, you want some criticism?
Speaker 1: Are got my nails? Dont my nails look good? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Your nails don't look goods does cost a lot? Don't
Speaker 1: suck those? You didn't go there? Did you like my
Speaker 1: nails look amazing? Okay? I think he's just trying to
Speaker 1: give you what you want there, Celia is he's not
Speaker 1: reading what she wants very well though. I mean I
Speaker 1: will give her back. I'm not sure if I'm reading
Speaker 1: exactly what she wants. It sounds like you want to
Speaker 1: be punished next time. Bring an iron fist to the
Speaker 1: date and put the hammer down. This is why he
Speaker 1: should have practiced dating more. Yeah, I have called the
Speaker 1: first person back. A lot of people out till you
Speaker 1: find your right mar But he could sleep around with
Speaker 1: other people and cheat on Celia and then we could
Speaker 1: send them out on a second date. No, I don't
Speaker 1: think that's what she wants either. Yeah, I mean I
Speaker 1: could ask Celia, would you be interested in that? Would
Speaker 1: you like to go out one more time? I'm good
Speaker 1: with him. I thought I made that clear. Yeah, you did,
Speaker 1: you did. You're very clear. It's just my job to ask. Yeah, okay.
Speaker 1: I don't know if Thomas is upset about that, though. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm sat about how this went, especially considering she's out
Speaker 1: of her mind. Oh now you're talking the way that
Speaker 1: she likes. Well, I really appreciate you guys having me on.
Speaker 1: But if I learned anything from this, it don't date
Speaker 1: anyone who says separated in a profile. I guess free
Speaker 1: in the morning man. People have been saying forever that
Speaker 1: dating today is hard. Yeah. I think it's time after
Speaker 1: that call to start saying dating is impossible. Yeah, because
Speaker 1: even if you're trying to be understanding and see the
Speaker 1: other person's perspective, give them the benefit of the doubt,
Speaker 1: that scene as a weakness. Yeah, and they don't like
Speaker 1: you for it. That's why this ended with no date
Speaker 1: at the end. Anybody out there who's single, including myself,
Speaker 1: let's just all give up. That's a winning admah man,
Speaker 1: that's so sad. Okay, I just hate to die alone.
Speaker 1: It's you will find your love. You don't have to
Speaker 1: base it off this lady. This lady was a little
Speaker 1: out there, and I think what it does say is
Speaker 1: that even if you were the cheater, therese are people
Speaker 1: who will forgive you. Yeah, that really nice. It was
Speaker 1: too forgiving them, that was the problem. You wouldn't date
Speaker 1: him either. I could see why she hated you, though
Speaker 1: Brook got sappy. God, but you know, two sides it.
Speaker 1: But no, look, we do want to help connect you
Speaker 1: if you still do believe in love out there, and
Speaker 1: if you do, you can always email the show. We'll
Speaker 1: call the person who wasn't calling you back