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Speaker 2: Second Date Update. Sometimes in the dating world, you realize
Speaker 2: the ideal person that you have built up in your
Speaker 2: mind isn't necessarily the ideal person for you in real life. Yeah,
Speaker 2: rip that right out of Brook's wedding vows.
Speaker 1: To her husband.
Speaker 2: But that could be the case for our listener, Rob
Speaker 2: Today's so rude. Well you said them, who says he
Speaker 2: met a different type of woman than the one he
Speaker 2: would normally go for. He described her in the email
Speaker 2: as someone who doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, is one hundred
Speaker 2: percent vegan, and must be in bed every night by
Speaker 2: eight forty five pm.
Speaker 1: Rob, discipline woman.
Speaker 2: How did you let this party animal slip through your fingers?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, I don't know. I just found it endearing.
Speaker 3: I thought she was kind of wholesome and not really
Speaker 3: the type of girl that I would normally go for.
Speaker 1: But it's interesting because it could be wholesome, or it
Speaker 1: could be that she's done all those things so much
Speaker 1: that she can't do them anymore, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: On the party life? Okay, well what's her name?
Speaker 3: Name's Maggie.
Speaker 2: All right, how did you meet her?
Speaker 3: We met online? But I just thought her pictures were
Speaker 3: so natural. She was very naturally beautiful. The pictures weren't photoshopped,
Speaker 3: and she wasn't out at the club. It's kind of
Speaker 3: pictures of her hanging out with her friends, and I
Speaker 3: just thought it was nice normal, or it.
Speaker 1: Was such a good photoshop you didn't notice. Can I ask,
Speaker 1: are you any of the things she is like?
Speaker 3: Dry?
Speaker 1: You know, no smoking, vegan?
Speaker 3: No, not at all.
Speaker 2: It could be in opposite of track sort of situation
Speaker 2: where you like mesh together over time and bacon.
Speaker 1: I mean, it could be the reason she's not calling
Speaker 1: him back.
Speaker 2: Well, what'd you guys do when you guys went out?
Speaker 3: Well, it's weird. We went on two dates back to
Speaker 3: back over a weekend.
Speaker 2: Well that makes sense because she has to be in
Speaker 2: bed bait forty five, so that's not very much the
Speaker 2: first one.
Speaker 1: Wait, how did that work?
Speaker 3: Well, so she doesn't like to drink, so we got
Speaker 3: ramen and then we've got ice cream.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, took the vegan to ice cream.
Speaker 3: Well I learned that they actually have vegan ice cream.
Speaker 2: Oh cool, so you checked it.
Speaker 3: To me.
Speaker 2: But for her that's.
Speaker 1: Great, like coconut milk ice cream.
Speaker 3: Sure, yeah, and it actually tastes the pretty good.
Speaker 1: She was probably impressed that you like put some effort
Speaker 1: in to find a place that could fit her.
Speaker 2: So how did date number one end?
Speaker 3: So there was no kiss at the end, but it
Speaker 3: was like a long hug and then she actually suggested
Speaker 3: that we go out again. The next day.
Speaker 1: Oh wow, okay, she suggests, no kidding, So what did
Speaker 1: you do the next day?
Speaker 3: So the next day, I was like, you get to
Speaker 3: pick where we want to go. So we went to
Speaker 3: a vegan restaurant.
Speaker 2: Cool, okay, oh my god.
Speaker 1: I'm not vegan, but one of my favorite places to
Speaker 1: eat is a vegan restaurant.
Speaker 2: And my neighborhood is scary, Like I'm a foodie and
Speaker 2: even someone going to a vegan restaurant it's kind of intimidated.
Speaker 2: Well maybe it's like the ice cream shop where they
Speaker 2: have the one vegan option where one plate for the medal. Bloody.
Speaker 2: How was it?
Speaker 3: I mean it was okay, I didn't mind it.
Speaker 1: Okay, they How is the connection between you two?
Speaker 3: I mean after that date, we definitely kissed.
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, your first two dates sounds like they went great.
Speaker 2: So what's happened since then?
Speaker 3: Well, so then after the date, she starts texting me
Speaker 3: and like it's text like I can't wait to see you.
Speaker 3: There's a lot of love gifts and uh memes about love,
Speaker 3: and she was really accentuating the love aspect of everything,
Speaker 3: and uh, you know, it was a little bit much.
Speaker 1: I don't get why he's on with us if it
Speaker 1: was freaking.
Speaker 3: You out calling you back, Yeah, well what happened was
Speaker 3: she sent me a Spotify song. It's a song by
Speaker 3: Starship called we Built This Thing Together. I don't know
Speaker 3: if you guys know that song.
Speaker 2: Yeah, this string together, Nothing's gonna stop us.
Speaker 1: That's a good song.
Speaker 2: Everyone knows.
Speaker 1: She trying to like force a couple songs already more organically.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, like what have we built? We were on
Speaker 3: two dates.
Speaker 2: Like did you say that to her?
Speaker 3: Well, I said, oh, that's a nice song. I'm not
Speaker 3: really into the song though, it's I'm not really a
Speaker 3: big fan of it, and I totally changed things for her.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you slammed her taste in music.
Speaker 1: No, she was trying to convey something. It's like when
Speaker 1: I used to make mixed CDs and like put in
Speaker 1: secret songs for different dudes I like and be like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I know that one hit. You basically turned her down
Speaker 1: by not liking the good Honestly, maybe she needed.
Speaker 2: Together, but you said that changed things between you two.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I mean I wasn't trying to put her down.
Speaker 3: It's just a little confused by it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, so what do you.
Speaker 1: Want our help with do you want another date or
Speaker 1: do you not?
Speaker 3: Yeah? I just want to see where she's at, and
Speaker 3: I hope I didn't offend her, and I just want
Speaker 3: you to check for me.
Speaker 1: I see, I'll see on it. Yeah. Maybe if she
Speaker 1: knows how you feel, she can lay off the love
Speaker 1: gifts and the songs.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, I don't know how to tell her that politely.
Speaker 3: If she is that kind of person, I don't necessarily
Speaker 3: want to change her, you know.
Speaker 2: Okay, we'll let Brook tell her to cut that crap out.
Speaker 2: We'll do the second date update right after this second
Speaker 2: date update.
Speaker 1: You're in the middle of a second date update update,
Speaker 1: and we're gonna find out how the couple is doing
Speaker 1: right after you here Part two.
Speaker 2: Man, we're back to the nineteen eighties again.
Speaker 1: Is this the song?
Speaker 2: The Decade of Love?
Speaker 1: Wow?
Speaker 2: Sixteen Candles, Dirty Dancing, Wow, Ghost, all the best love movies. Okay,
Speaker 2: I can honestly say that we built this thing together.
Speaker 2: Nothing lasts forever. I think that nothing was gonna stop us.
Speaker 2: Now that's a song. Unless Maggie doesn't answer the phone,
Speaker 2: then that would kind of stop us and we'd be screwed.
Speaker 1: Are you all forgetting it's a song that she sent
Speaker 1: to him.
Speaker 2: This is the song from the nineteen eighties that kind
Speaker 2: of soured the relationship after Rob went on back to
Speaker 2: back dates with Maggie, both of which went great, but
Speaker 2: this Spotify song ruined it because Rob said, I'm not
Speaker 2: really a fan.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I mean it's pretty cheesy.
Speaker 2: But Brooke had a good point. He was trying to say,
Speaker 2: I don't really like this song. Maybe Maggie took it
Speaker 2: as he doesn't like my love. He's rejecting our relationship.
Speaker 1: That's how I would take it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, sure, but that's not the case. So that's why
Speaker 2: Rob has reached out to us, hoping we can re
Speaker 2: spark this, get this going again, maybe do a little
Speaker 2: ghost love scene situation. Right Rob, that's right, pottery class.
Speaker 1: You no alcohol, very vegan, you know, be perfect shirtless though,
Speaker 1: Are you wanting to apologize to her for your response?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean the way you put it, I guess
Speaker 3: I kind of see it like I was being a
Speaker 3: little rude, So yeah, I would like to apologize.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, we don't know for sure if she took
Speaker 2: it that way. That's just Brook's opinion, and you know
Speaker 2: how valuable that is.
Speaker 1: So you had to throw a dig in there.
Speaker 2: I'm just saying, we don't know. Yeah, let's let's find
Speaker 2: out once and for all. I'm and I call it
Speaker 2: right now here we go.
Speaker 3: Hello, Hi?
Speaker 2: Is this Maggie?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 4: This is she?
Speaker 3: Who is this?
Speaker 2: We gotch Uh? Sorry? I mean I'm happy that you answered,
Speaker 2: is what I meant to say. Because we're a radio show,
Speaker 2: We're called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning, and we've
Speaker 2: been dying to talk to.
Speaker 3: You, okay or what I mean?
Speaker 4: Why what's going on?
Speaker 2: Because we're doing a segment here called a Second Date Update,
Speaker 2: and it's where we try and help out our listeners
Speaker 2: if they've kind of stalled out in their dating life
Speaker 2: with somebody. We're trying to help somebody named Rob.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, Rob, Okay, I see?
Speaker 1: Oh my god. Rob said you had two great dates together.
Speaker 2: Yeah. He actually told us that he felt really good
Speaker 2: about it. How did you feel?
Speaker 4: I felt really good about it too. I felt like
Speaker 4: we had this instant connection and potential to really go somewhere.
Speaker 4: I was really really excited to keep things going with him.
Speaker 1: It's so sweet.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: Was there something that made that change? Because it does
Speaker 1: sound like you're talking in past tense.
Speaker 4: Well, I mean, I'm the type of person who wants
Speaker 4: a guy who's going to be my prince charming and
Speaker 4: come in and ride in on the horse and professes
Speaker 4: love to me and just go all out and then
Speaker 4: we ride off into the sunset together.
Speaker 2: You like grand romantic gestures, that's what you like? Yes, exactly,
Speaker 2: that's totally fair. It could be a lot, though, for
Speaker 2: some guys to process that after just one weekend hanging out,
Speaker 2: you know, and not a lot.
Speaker 1: Of guys are romantic at all.
Speaker 4: Well they should be, and I made that very clear
Speaker 4: on my profile.
Speaker 2: Oh really, it's on your profile.
Speaker 1: What'd you say on your profile?
Speaker 4: I want someone who's sweet. So if I want you
Speaker 4: to send me messages and let me know that you
Speaker 4: appreciate me, because that's my My love language is affirmation's
Speaker 4: words of affirmation. So I love giving those out and
Speaker 4: I want that back in return.
Speaker 3: Got it?
Speaker 2: Okay? And you feel like Rob was not fulfilling those
Speaker 2: needs for you?
Speaker 3: Correct?
Speaker 4: Especially came down to where you know, I sent him
Speaker 4: what I saw was our first love song or potential
Speaker 4: first dance, and I just envisioned us already there.
Speaker 1: You know, does that be a lot for anyone.
Speaker 2: So we did hear about that text and the being
Speaker 2: sent to him. Honestly, here is what I worry about
Speaker 2: for you, Maggie. Along the way in your life, you've
Speaker 2: come up with this idea for a fairy tale romance
Speaker 2: in your mind. Okay, right now, it's totally okay to
Speaker 2: have these ideals in your head, but you have to
Speaker 2: be able to adjust to other people, because no one
Speaker 2: is going to match up perfectly with everything that you've said.
Speaker 1: It's already adjusting. I mean, she was already going out
Speaker 1: with somebody who wasn't a vegan. She was already going
Speaker 1: out with somebody that drinks when she doesn't enjoy.
Speaker 2: But she said the problem was he didn't like one song.
Speaker 1: No, she said the problem was he wasn't romantic Jack.
Speaker 2: But the thing is, that's the conversation. You have to
Speaker 2: go off of the two great dates that you guys
Speaker 2: had together. That is not easy to do in the
Speaker 2: modern dating world. We never hear about that. That's special
Speaker 2: and that's something that you should actually hold on to,
Speaker 2: not that he didn't like a song that you texted
Speaker 2: him one time. Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 3: I can see.
Speaker 4: I mean it was just my favorite song, and I
Speaker 4: just you are getting.
Speaker 1: Yeah if you can hear it, and I think Jeff's played.
Speaker 2: It's too easy for people to just ghost right now
Speaker 2: on these dating apps over one dumb little thing. You
Speaker 2: have to remember two great first dates. Hold on to
Speaker 2: that cherish that.
Speaker 1: Why did you drink this morning?
Speaker 4: Brook?
Speaker 2: I don't need your love hate right now. I'm trying
Speaker 2: to build a love tower. And that's why I know.
Speaker 2: That's why I need to tell you, Maggie. Rob is
Speaker 2: on the phone right now. You like a grand romantic gesture.
Speaker 2: Here it is. He is waiting to talk.
Speaker 3: Hey, Hey, Maggie, how you doing?
Speaker 4: Hi?
Speaker 3: Rob?
Speaker 4: I'm good, How are you.
Speaker 3: Good? You know, I just I wanted to apologize for
Speaker 3: blowing off your song. I didn't realize that it meant
Speaker 3: so much to you. But you know, I hear what
Speaker 3: you're saying about being more romantic. It's you know, we've
Speaker 3: only been on two dates, so maybe I need a
Speaker 3: little bit of a build up, take my time a
Speaker 3: little bit. Okay.
Speaker 2: Rob is a little bit more of a slow burner,
Speaker 2: but he's willing to burn a little bit faster for you.
Speaker 4: Well, I mean, I do appreciate that and I felt
Speaker 4: like I was very transparent on my profile. I can't
Speaker 4: change who I am, and I would appreciate if you
Speaker 4: could try a little more.
Speaker 2: Brook's been saying that same thing to her husband for
Speaker 2: the last ten years.
Speaker 1: I think every woman has said it in any relationship
Speaker 1: we've ever been probaf.
Speaker 4: You could send me kind of a love song. What
Speaker 4: would it be?
Speaker 3: It would be that song Maggie by Rod Stewart.
Speaker 1: Wake Up. That's just her name, right, Yeah, I.
Speaker 2: Think that's after Maggie leaves him.
Speaker 1: A one night stand.
Speaker 2: Yea super romantic guys.
Speaker 3: I'm trying, all right. I don't know.
Speaker 1: What's amazing is he's not scared away right now. I
Speaker 1: don't know if you're gonna find that.
Speaker 2: We'd like to offer to send you guys out one
Speaker 2: more time, and we would pay for it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, let's do it. That'd be great.
Speaker 2: It's true what they say, you can build this love together.
Speaker 2: Some things do last forever. Nothing's gonna stop us now
Speaker 2: except we're running out of time to do the second
Speaker 2: date updates, so we got to stop it.
Speaker 1: Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 2: Months ago. We convinced him to give it another try,
Speaker 2: and it sounds like they did. Because both Rob and
Speaker 2: Maggie are back with us today on this show.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I vote them most likely to be
Speaker 1: in a relationship. Yeah. Well, I just you know, she
Speaker 1: needed the effort, and he sounded like he was ready
Speaker 1: to deliver.
Speaker 2: Let's find out, Rob, were you able to step up
Speaker 2: the romance for Maggie?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Guy? Was? You know? After being on your show?
Speaker 3: Like she pretty much told me she wanted me to
Speaker 3: be more romantic. Yeah. So we went on a second
Speaker 3: date and I kind of went over the top. I
Speaker 3: think I hired I hired like this twenty person flash mob.
Speaker 2: Whoa wait a flash mob?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Yeah? And then after that, I hired this horse drawn
Speaker 3: carriage who to take us back home?
Speaker 2: Dude?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I had. I had her favorite song playing on
Speaker 3: my phone. You know, we built this thing together.
Speaker 2: Okay, but we asked you. Did you do anything romantic though?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I bet Maggie was over the moon.
Speaker 2: That's so much.
Speaker 3: Well, after I did all that, she didn't talk to
Speaker 3: me for like two weeks.
Speaker 2: Wait.
Speaker 4: Why Yeah, well he was trying way too hard and
Speaker 4: I could tell he wasn't being himself.
Speaker 1: And I don't want that.
Speaker 2: You said, he wasn't trying hard enough when we had
Speaker 2: you on the phone before.
Speaker 1: Are you like Goldilocks and the Bears or something with
Speaker 1: the porridge like pick a tep?
Speaker 3: Sure, it's true, it's true.
Speaker 4: But honestly, I really I learned something about myself and
Speaker 4: that I just really don't like low effort guys. But
Speaker 4: I also don't like the super over the top, cheesy
Speaker 4: high effort guys either. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Has he struck the right chord by this time?
Speaker 3: Right?
Speaker 1: Well?
Speaker 4: Yes, and so I I did ask, can you just
Speaker 4: be in the middle, just be yourself and kind of
Speaker 4: meet in the middle, and that's perfect?
Speaker 3: Okay. Yeah, I made her. I made her this photo
Speaker 3: scrap book of pictures of us. There's only like two pictures, but.
Speaker 1: Too many.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I think it was really sweet. It just starting.
Speaker 4: I liked it. It was genuine.
Speaker 3: I thought it was really cute pamphlet.
Speaker 1: You guys are together then?
Speaker 3: Still, yeah, I think so, I hope she likes it.
Speaker 2: Here's trying not to come on too strong with his affirmation.
Speaker 1: Oh my god.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Well, you know, I'm trying, and I'm also not trying,
Speaker 3: and so I'm keeping it in the middle.
Speaker 2: Okay, all right, there you go. Look Jeffrey in the morning,