Speaker 1: Back with a Sunday sampler. Matt Stell in New Orleans.
Speaker 1: That's what you're here from me. We were at the
Speaker 1: super Bowl and he played against Lebron James in high
Speaker 1: school and his mom recorded over the video and so
Speaker 1: we're gonna play that coming up in a second. But
Speaker 1: you're gonna hear clips of a bunch of podcasts here,
Speaker 1: and if you like any of the stories, go check
Speaker 1: out that individual podcast. I would recommend Doctor Josie's podcast
Speaker 1: if you love animals and celebrities, and check out Morgan's
Speaker 1: new podcast as well, called Take This Personally.
Speaker 2: But I want to start with this.
Speaker 1: It's an episode from the Bobby Cast this week with
Speaker 1: country music superstar Matt Stell.
Speaker 3: I moved to Nashville, finally got a publishing deal, and
Speaker 3: about six months into that publishing deal, I think, all right,
Speaker 3: prayed for You with a couple people in town and
Speaker 3: my manager at the time, I'm and Alison Vell. Shout
Speaker 3: out Alison the songs about her husband, and I wrote
Speaker 3: pray for You, and I I thought we had written
Speaker 3: a good song that day, but I I had no
Speaker 3: idea it was like gonna be a life changing hit song,
Speaker 3: and no idea, and so my publishing company were putting
Speaker 3: out an EP and they're like, we should put these songs,
Speaker 3: and my publishers like, man, you should put Prayed for
Speaker 3: You on there too.
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, well, let me stop you for
Speaker 1: a second, because if you wrote write Pray for You,
Speaker 1: you three were just together generally writing, and then your
Speaker 1: publisher were just gonna go and pitch the song. You
Speaker 1: aren't writing for anything specific. She didn't have anybody in mind.
Speaker 3: So I think they were I mean, I think we
Speaker 3: were kind of writing for We were writing for me,
Speaker 3: because you know, the idea was like, we're gonna put
Speaker 3: an EP together. I get, you know, pitched to lay.
Speaker 3: We'll see we get some traction.
Speaker 1: But I wanted to know, like what was the purpose
Speaker 1: of the right to me?
Speaker 3: I was in there writing this song that is like,
Speaker 3: I'm proud to say it's a good song. I'm really
Speaker 3: proud of that song. It's not the kind of music
Speaker 3: that I thought I would be making, you know, from
Speaker 3: what we just talked about. But I wrote that song
Speaker 3: and I was, you know, cool, awesome, wrote.
Speaker 4: A good song.
Speaker 2: The day you finished.
Speaker 1: Did you think it was good?
Speaker 4: I thought it was good.
Speaker 1: It was for you.
Speaker 5: No, No, I didn't.
Speaker 3: I didn't know, Like I had never written a hit
Speaker 3: song before, Like I wasn't one of these guys that
Speaker 3: just moved to town and like lighting it hits in
Speaker 3: a battle.
Speaker 1: Like thematically when you finished it were like nothing says Stelle.
Speaker 1: I prayed for you, like I just wonder right, I know,
Speaker 1: because it doesn't sound based on the things that you
Speaker 1: heard that didn't resonate with you. And this is the
Speaker 1: irony of it, is that, especially the music you wanted
Speaker 1: to make, you finished the song and it's like man
Speaker 1: stamp of Stelle just right there exactly.
Speaker 3: And you know, to be honest with you, Bobby, I
Speaker 3: have I've tried to put more and be more me
Speaker 3: in the music that I've made as an artist because
Speaker 3: I wasn't an artist at that, Like I wasn't a
Speaker 3: person on the radio with then like we put that
Speaker 3: song out in that EP out and John Marx was
Speaker 3: at Spotify at the time, and my other manager emailed him.
Speaker 3: They put that song on Spotify and it started. It
Speaker 3: was like a million streams a week on without much
Speaker 3: at all playlisting. And then it, I mean it organically
Speaker 3: did it blew?
Speaker 1: It went viral. Before that, it was that social media
Speaker 1: was viraling songs to deals.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 3: For yeah, it was it went viral. Yeah, basically like
Speaker 3: for me music, my socials have always followed my music.
Speaker 3: They have not like my George Birds, you know, one
Speaker 3: of my good friends, he's a little bit the other way,
Speaker 3: you know, social media. He's really good at it, and
Speaker 3: he's also very good at music, but his socials are
Speaker 3: the are the the bell cow you know, that gets
Speaker 3: all that great music to people. And me, I've always
Speaker 3: my soles have always lagged behind whatever music I had.
Speaker 3: And yeah, man, that happened.
Speaker 1: And then we shot it a single, like was it
Speaker 1: in your mind? Because again, if you send it to
Speaker 1: Spotify and John used to be the guy Spotify, was
Speaker 1: it this? I guess singles a weird word if you're not.
Speaker 4: Actually it was the single.
Speaker 3: It was the song, It was the scene. It was
Speaker 3: the one song we sent.
Speaker 1: Okay, so we were you trying to service it to
Speaker 1: radio as well? Well?
Speaker 3: At that point we were, you know, I was going
Speaker 3: and playing some songs in some offices downtown, but I really,
Speaker 3: you know, hadn't nailed anything. You know, we had a
Speaker 3: little interest here and there, but I didn't have a
Speaker 3: record deal or anything.
Speaker 1: Did you feel like the song where you were like, oh, man,
Speaker 1: it's a good song, but I don't really want this
Speaker 1: to be the single. Even though the song was good.
Speaker 1: Did part of you not want to be the single
Speaker 1: because it was love?
Speaker 3: And in my you know, if I'm being honest, I
Speaker 3: wanted that song to be a multi week number one
Speaker 3: for Blake Shelton or for whoever. Like I thought that's
Speaker 3: what I was doing because I thought we'd written a
Speaker 3: good song that day. But man, you know, for me
Speaker 3: in this business and how hard it was and to
Speaker 3: get started and getting started late, you know, if you
Speaker 3: have an opportunity, I've never been one that was so
Speaker 3: confident in myself that I would be picking and choosy
Speaker 3: about opportunities. And so when that song hit like it did,
Speaker 3: we started getting calls from some labels. Then we got
Speaker 3: a call and signed a deal and blah blah blah.
Speaker 3: You know that led to you know, whatever, did.
Speaker 1: You have to have like an internal conversation of this
Speaker 1: is not exactly what I thought it would be, but
Speaker 1: this is awesome, so we're gonna commit and just.
Speaker 3: Go Yeah, Well I knew I just wanted to make
Speaker 3: music that mattered to people. And I did struggle with
Speaker 3: this a little bit earlier. Yeah, to answer your question,
Speaker 3: but like I had, I always want to make music
Speaker 3: that mattered to people. But I never thought I was
Speaker 3: gonna be as someone who wrote like one of the
Speaker 3: bigger wedding songs. I wasn't married. I mean, if it like,
Speaker 3: I wasn't even engaged at that time, I don't think
Speaker 3: maybe you know, I can't remember.
Speaker 5: Maybe I was.
Speaker 3: Those those timelines seem like they're parallel, but they're different
Speaker 3: tracks of mine.
Speaker 5: But uh, yeah, I had no idea.
Speaker 3: And now you know, now that I am married and
Speaker 3: found somebody that I that I think those things about
Speaker 3: that song makes even makes more sense to me now.
Speaker 3: Number one, But number two, it is really really humbling
Speaker 3: and special that people want to include that song, get
Speaker 3: it tattooed on them, somebody has those lyrics on a
Speaker 3: headstone like that. I that there's no amount of like,
Speaker 3: oh wow, I wish this. I wish my famous song
Speaker 3: was about whiskey. You know, Like dude, I'm just glad
Speaker 3: to have made any music that matters to people. And
Speaker 3: but yeah, I mean there was that the questions you're
Speaker 3: asking were questions I asked myself, And these are the
Speaker 3: answers to those questions.
Speaker 1: Cast up little food for your song.
Speaker 5: Life. It's pretty, it's pretty beautiful.
Speaker 6: That for a little moth would it's exciting?
Speaker 1: A course said he you're kicking it with full thing
Speaker 1: with Amy Brown.
Speaker 7: All right, let's talk about why we put things off
Speaker 7: that we really want to do. Like I want you
Speaker 7: to think about something that you really wanted to do
Speaker 7: but you put it off, or that you currently really
Speaker 7: want to do, but you are putting it off at
Speaker 7: this exact moment, even though you know it's something that
Speaker 7: you're going to totally enjoy and you want to do it.
Speaker 7: I have done this many times now, about a year
Speaker 7: and a half ago, I think it was maybe even
Speaker 7: two years at this point. Time has been weird lately.
Speaker 7: I took an improv class and I absolutely loved it.
Speaker 7: I left it feeling energized, and I told myself that
Speaker 7: I would sign up for another session soon. So they're
Speaker 7: eight week courses. But guess what, I totally put it
Speaker 7: off and put it off and put it off. I
Speaker 7: originally signed up for after I had that teeny tiny
Speaker 7: role in the Christmas movie Holiday harmony. My scene was
Speaker 7: in the bathroom. Not sure if y'all saw it. My
Speaker 7: kids thought that my bathroom scene was hilarious. My debut
Speaker 7: in a movie and I had my lines in a bathroom,
Speaker 7: but I loved the entire experience. So after that, I
Speaker 7: decided to take improv lessons and acting lessons to you know,
Speaker 7: hone in on my skills. I obviously should have done
Speaker 7: that stuff before I filmed the movie, but I was
Speaker 7: playing myself and it was sort of a last minute
Speaker 7: thing that I got invited to do, and I was like,
Speaker 7: I don't have time to take any lessons. I'm just
Speaker 7: gonna go for it. And I had no idea how
Speaker 7: much I was gonna love the whole thing. So then
Speaker 7: I decided I would like to pursue more of these opportunities,
Speaker 7: So I'm gonna do the acting lessons, I'm gonna do
Speaker 7: the improv And I did all that and then just stopped,
Speaker 7: stopped going, didn't pursue anything. And I really think it
Speaker 7: boiled down to that. I the rejection, and I don't
Speaker 7: know why we do this to ourselves, because I know
Speaker 7: better than that I have heard from others. I've even
Speaker 7: shared on this podcast I know that we have to
Speaker 7: just go for things. We can't fear the failure because
Speaker 7: even from the failure, obstacle is the way we will
Speaker 7: learn from it. We will grow from it. We have
Speaker 7: the question that Donald Miller gave us, what does this
Speaker 7: make possible? So I know all the things? So why
Speaker 7: was I putting it off? Like why did I quit?
Speaker 7: And then why did I just ignore it even though
Speaker 7: I've had it on my list for sure the last
Speaker 7: six to eight months. Sign up for another improv class,
Speaker 7: sign up for another improv class. Like when we know
Speaker 7: we want something and then fear creeps in. Uh, it's
Speaker 7: the worst when the fear wins. And that's what happened
Speaker 7: to me. I feel like we easily convince ourselves that
Speaker 7: we don't really want it because that's easier than failing.
Speaker 7: And it's sort of what I started to tell myself.
Speaker 7: I'm like, well, I guess it's not so something that
Speaker 7: I really wanted, because if I wanted it, I would
Speaker 7: be signing up for it. Or we tell ourselves that
Speaker 7: we're going to wait for the perfect time, then the
Speaker 7: perfect time never comes, and we think about doing it
Speaker 7: so much that we exhaust ourselves before we even get started,
Speaker 7: and that's exactly what happened to me. However, I had
Speaker 7: a turning point today. I finally signed back up for
Speaker 7: the improv classes. Like before I hit record, I made
Speaker 7: myself go to the website. I signed up. I'm gonna
Speaker 7: be taking classes starting in March. It'll be for eight
Speaker 7: weeks every Tuesday night, six thirty to nine thirty. I'm
Speaker 7: sure I'll run into some issues there, but I'm gonna
Speaker 7: have to navigate around that. This is something that's important
Speaker 7: to me. So for the next eight weeks, that's where
Speaker 7: I'm going to be on Tuesday nights. You can't miss
Speaker 7: more than two or you have to start over. And
Speaker 7: I did level one a while back, and I got
Speaker 7: to do level one again because so much time past,
Speaker 7: I would feel ridiculous going into level two. So I'm
Speaker 7: gonna start level one. I'm going to see how it goes,
Speaker 7: and then if I still love it, I'm gonna roll
Speaker 7: in to level two. But I'm proud of myself for
Speaker 7: finally signing up for the class, and I hope that
Speaker 7: that will encourage any of you right now, if there's
Speaker 7: something you've been putting off, maybe even pause this right
Speaker 7: now and go look up what it is you need
Speaker 7: to do. Go to the website. Can you sign up
Speaker 7: for it? Do you need to look at your calendar?
Speaker 8: What is it you need to do?
Speaker 7: Like, if you've been putting off something, ask yourself why
Speaker 7: you're putting it off. Is it fear? Is it perfectionism,
Speaker 7: is it lack of time, whatever it is, Acknowledge why
Speaker 7: you're putting it off, and figure out a way to
Speaker 7: make it work. When we do that, it will help
Speaker 7: get us out of the what if cycle, which is
Speaker 7: what I need to get out of. I will just know,
Speaker 7: and I owe it to myself to give it a try,
Speaker 7: and so do you.
Speaker 2: We're gonna do it. Live Oh the one, two, three,
Speaker 2: sore losers?
Speaker 5: What up, everybody? I am lunchbox. I know the most
Speaker 5: about sports, so I'll give you the sports facts, my
Speaker 5: sports opinions, because I'm pretty much a sports genius, y'all.
Speaker 5: It's Sison.
Speaker 2: I'm from the North. I'm an alpha male. I live
Speaker 2: on the north side of Nashville with Bayser, my wife.
Speaker 5: We do have a farm.
Speaker 2: It's beautiful, a lot of acreage, no animals, a lot
Speaker 2: of crops, hopefully soon corn pumpkins. Rye I believe maybe
Speaker 2: a little fescue to be determined over to you, coach.
Speaker 5: And here's a clip from this week's episode of The
Speaker 5: Sore Losers Jasmine with Nashville sc Hi. I'm just letting
Speaker 5: you know I'm your new ticket rep.
Speaker 2: How's it going, Jazzy?
Speaker 5: And I'm like okay, And she's like, I just wanted
Speaker 5: to call and see as a season ticket member. If
Speaker 5: every if you're happy with everything that's going on and
Speaker 5: every the process and everything. I said, well, I do
Speaker 5: have a few questions here we go, Do I have
Speaker 5: any comments? And she goes, are you just are you
Speaker 5: looking forward to this upcoming season? I was like, well,
Speaker 5: last season ended on a little bit of a rough note.
Speaker 5: You know, we were really pissed poor towards the end
Speaker 5: of the year. What do you like on the in
Speaker 5: the midfield? Like? What what did we do to address
Speaker 5: the situation? She's like, excuse me, I'm like, like, how
Speaker 5: are we going to score more goals? It seems like
Speaker 5: it takes a lot of effort for us to score
Speaker 5: just one goal. When we go to the games, we
Speaker 5: don't really score a lot of goals and we get
Speaker 5: beat two to nothing, three to nothing, and if we
Speaker 5: score one goal, it's a it's a miracle. How what
Speaker 5: have we done to improve that need? Somebody better than
Speaker 5: muck tar And she's like, oh, sir, I'm just calling
Speaker 5: about your season tickets.
Speaker 2: That wasn't in her training class.
Speaker 5: And I'm like, yeah, I know you're calling about my
Speaker 5: season tickets. But you said if I have any questions,
Speaker 5: and I said, and I saw that we let our
Speaker 5: backup goalie go. Do you know was there a reason
Speaker 5: behind that?
Speaker 9: Oh?
Speaker 2: Contract issues?
Speaker 5: And she's like, I didn't make that decision. I'm just
Speaker 5: your ticket rep. Like I'm just handling anything on your
Speaker 5: season ticket sales, Like if you need any help with.
Speaker 2: That, dude. She's just trying to draw check in the
Speaker 2: box by your name.
Speaker 7: Bro.
Speaker 5: She has a list of people that she is supposed
Speaker 5: to call now that she has this job, to introduce
Speaker 5: herself and like get the ball rolling, like just so
Speaker 5: you know who she is. And she can say, yep,
Speaker 5: I did that, yep I did that. She reports or
Speaker 5: a boss. I talked to all thirty people on my
Speaker 5: list and they are all happy. And I just start
Speaker 5: pestering her with questions. I said, you know, last year
Speaker 5: was the first year we didn't make the playoffs. Like,
Speaker 5: what's the you know mood around the office.
Speaker 2: Well, at the office, we always like to network on Fridays.
Speaker 5: She says, Well, we're really looking forward to this season,
Speaker 5: and you know, we're really glad that you're a season
Speaker 5: ticket member. Is there anything else I can do for you?
Speaker 5: And I'm like, well, like, how are we going to
Speaker 5: handle the firepower of Messi and his boys when they
Speaker 5: come up from Miami.
Speaker 2: She's like, I went to a couple of games with
Speaker 2: the girls and drink.
Speaker 5: She goes, if you do need me at a game,
Speaker 5: I will be there if you you know, if you
Speaker 5: tell me beforehand, I can come down to your seats.
Speaker 5: And I'm like, well, how is that gonna help us
Speaker 5: stop Messi? And she's like, I don't I don't know that, sir, sir.
Speaker 2: I'm just trying to get you to renew at your
Speaker 2: rock bottom price of forty dollars for the season pass.
Speaker 5: I mean, I hit her with like ten questions, cut
Speaker 5: her on the phone for at least fifteen minutes.
Speaker 2: It's got to improve her life and how you view
Speaker 2: your job. If she does enjoy ted Lasso.
Speaker 5: I should ask her. I said, Hey, did ted Lasso
Speaker 5: inspire you to apply for this.
Speaker 2: I should have had that one because that does make
Speaker 2: it cooler that she's working at a stadium and then
Speaker 2: also can just go outside and watch the games. I
Speaker 2: wonder if her offices are at the stadium. They have
Speaker 2: to be.
Speaker 5: Oh, that's a great question.
Speaker 2: Then that makes me jealous that they had the ted
Speaker 2: Lasso life because that was pretty cool. How the one
Speaker 2: lady whoever the owner of the Yeah, how she'd always
Speaker 2: go into her office. Sum, Yeah, it was so great.
Speaker 2: That's a pretty dope office.
Speaker 1: That was that.
Speaker 5: I wonder, my friend Jinny works for Austin FC, and
Speaker 5: I'll ask her if her office is at the stadium,
Speaker 5: because that would be so. I would have asked questions
Speaker 5: like that. Instead you're being a dick and you're like, hey,
Speaker 5: so Hanni. Muktar and Zimmerman they weren't very social when
Speaker 5: they would lose a game and then you guys would
Speaker 5: have your meet and greets you, why don't you do
Speaker 5: something constructive where you said, hey, it was really hard.
Speaker 5: The one cool time was when my kids played basketball
Speaker 5: with Muktar. There's been other times though, where they get
Speaker 5: one hot dog and you guys run out, why didn't
Speaker 5: you address that? I should have addressed Meet the Team Day.
Speaker 5: I'm like, hey, so two years so fit with meet
Speaker 5: the Team Day. Two years ago we went to Meet
Speaker 5: the Team day and you, if you were a season
Speaker 5: ticket member, you got to go and you got to
Speaker 5: do all this stuff. But my kids didn't get to
Speaker 5: do anything because everything we did was, oh, you have
Speaker 5: to have a risk band for that, you have to
Speaker 5: have a risk band for this, you have to have
Speaker 5: this collar risk And there were no damn wristbands. But
Speaker 5: no one said that on the copy, like how have we.
Speaker 2: Worked to improve that? That would have been a good question.
Speaker 5: That would have been a great question.
Speaker 2: She would listen.
Speaker 5: She would have been like, I didn't even know we
Speaker 5: have fan Meet the Fan day. This is only my
Speaker 5: second day on the job.
Speaker 2: Sir, You're gonna hang up and listen. You're hanging up.
Speaker 5: Uh So, I thought, I'm sitting there laughing to myself.
Speaker 5: And I get off the phone and my wife was like,
Speaker 5: who was that. I said, Oh, that was our new
Speaker 5: season season ticket rep with Nashville. Escia's Jasmine. She goes, well,
Speaker 5: what the hell were you asking her all those questions for?
Speaker 5: And I said, oh, I thought I was being funny.
Speaker 5: She goes, that is so awkward. I'm like, I cracked
Speaker 5: myself up. She goes, She's not going to know the
Speaker 5: answer to that. That poor girl is just trying to
Speaker 5: do her job. She has so many more people to call,
Speaker 5: and you just took up fifteen minutes of her time.
Speaker 5: And I'm like, I laughed to myself, And my question
Speaker 5: is is that Jasmine girl When she gets off the
Speaker 5: phone with me, was she laughing or was she was like?
Speaker 5: What the hell did I get myself into? What you
Speaker 5: did was funny.
Speaker 2: The nation will think what you did was funny her
Speaker 2: that was part of her job, so that you were
Speaker 2: probably a nuisance. But I will say I love that
Speaker 2: you had fun with people on the phone. I do
Speaker 2: it a little too much to the now, the point
Speaker 2: baser makes me go in the other room even if
Speaker 2: I'm ordering pizza, because I'll be like, hey, how's it going,
Speaker 2: what do you What are you guys doing there at
Speaker 2: the old pizza joint?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're just gonna do two pizzas, gonna try and
Speaker 2: eat them up and sop up that beer. You know
Speaker 2: what I'm saying. She gets so secondhand cringe that she'll
Speaker 2: make me go in the other room and do it.
Speaker 2: My wife said, I was suffering from second hand embarrassment.
Speaker 2: She goes, that makes me so uncomfortable. You just gotta
Speaker 2: do in the other room.
Speaker 5: Guys have been there.
Speaker 1: You do it.
Speaker 2: You on the patio, you have a little fun with
Speaker 2: the local pizza joint, whether it's a kid that smoked
Speaker 2: a little too much or a guy that's a dead
Speaker 2: end job. You can't just make these phone calls cut
Speaker 2: and dried.
Speaker 5: My last question to her was, uh, coach Callahan, Like
Speaker 5: what has he been doing around Nashville in the offseason?
Speaker 5: Is he getting it because we hired him midway through
Speaker 5: the season, Like has he put down roots here? And
Speaker 5: what's his attitude like? And she was like, I haven't
Speaker 5: met the coach. That's surprising. Well, she's only been there
Speaker 5: for like a week.
Speaker 2: Oh she really only had Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 5: I was like, I'm your new ticket rep. I just
Speaker 5: started with National sc I'm just reaching out to let
Speaker 5: you know the h here's the list that this one
Speaker 5: man asked me. I need to know all of this stuff.
Speaker 5: Apparently I'm supposed to call him back by Wednesday. Dude,
Speaker 5: I didn't know they're going to give you personalized calls.
Speaker 5: I might need to become a season ticket member, dude.
Speaker 5: They were pretty hands on. No, No, they only call
Speaker 5: you when they first start the job to introduce themselves
Speaker 5: and if you need anything. Do you have any questions?
Speaker 5: She said, do you have any questions? And so I
Speaker 5: had questions, how are we going to score more goals?
Speaker 5: What did we do to improve our midfield? Why do
Speaker 5: we let our backup goalie go that blocks all the pks?
Speaker 5: And I want to know what the coach has been
Speaker 5: up to.
Speaker 2: If a place did call you after you went to
Speaker 2: an event, a restaurant or anything, would it annoy you
Speaker 2: or would it seem like the the fact she's calling
Speaker 2: you seems like she cares what you're saying. It only
Speaker 2: happens once a year and.
Speaker 5: Once a year and it's like I get a new
Speaker 5: ticket rep every four months. They don't stay around very long.
Speaker 5: Is she trying to upsell you? I don't get hout
Speaker 5: is How is it a base pay? No, it's it's see.
Speaker 2: If I was her, i'd try to upsell you. Why
Speaker 2: is she not trying to get you in a better seat?
Speaker 2: I'd have turned it on you. Well, I don't know.
Speaker 2: You want to be right next to coach and ask
Speaker 2: those questions. We can get you in our premium seating
Speaker 2: right on the first base line, which is also that's
Speaker 2: I use baseball terminology. I'm not familiar with soccer, but
Speaker 2: that's right along your visitors dugout zone the net pitch.
Speaker 2: So dude, I'm gonna try and hit you like that.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't think. Like I said, they had the
Speaker 5: chance for upgrades a couple months ago, like you could
Speaker 5: change your seats, you know what I mean, Like they
Speaker 5: already went through that. She missed that part.
Speaker 2: Here's how I would have hit you. I would have
Speaker 2: hit you with, sir, when you go to our games?
Speaker 2: Are you getting the party pack? Uh? No, I just
Speaker 2: get a hot dog and lemonade? Okay, Well are you
Speaker 2: the cheap skate of your What if you got some
Speaker 2: better seats? Is that can help with clients, your family,
Speaker 2: your wife, your kids, getting a better view of the players.
Speaker 2: Let's try and get you locked in today. See, I'm
Speaker 2: gonna upsell your ass.
Speaker 5: It's not bad. Yep, Damn, I need to look into that.
Speaker 5: Do you want to see the coach come on and
Speaker 5: off the field where you can hear those questions. You
Speaker 5: need to move to the other side of the stadium
Speaker 5: where you're at. The coach will never even know you're
Speaker 5: in the stadium.
Speaker 2: Well, my seats are pretty high.
Speaker 5: Oh oh yeah, I mean I do see him down
Speaker 5: there when I pull out my binoculars and I.
Speaker 2: Look and I can see him. And I got a
Speaker 2: problem with our seats. They're in the sun. Sir, if
Speaker 2: you do this upgrade today, I'm personally I'm going to
Speaker 2: deliver a pair of ray Bans to your office on Monday,
Speaker 2: and you can wear those every time you come to
Speaker 2: the game. Coach, I need to be in sales. I'm
Speaker 2: at I'm in the wrong industry.
Speaker 5: Oh man, So that that was my I thought I
Speaker 5: was funny, but I don't know if Jasmine enjoyed my jokes.
Speaker 5: My wife didn't. And so then I was like, man,
Speaker 5: does everybody go through this where they they're in their
Speaker 5: own head like this is so damn funny, Jasmine, what
Speaker 5: are you wearing? No, I didn't ask that. I didn't
Speaker 5: ask that. I didn't ask that you were in the
Speaker 5: national sc uniform. Do you have that new jersey? By chance?
Speaker 5: Can you send one over my way? Because you know.
Speaker 5: I'm a season ticket member and I never got one.
Speaker 5: They used to send them to the station.
Speaker 2: Nothing, Jasm been here at work. They don't let us
Speaker 2: wear sweatpants or hoodies anymore. What are you wearing?
Speaker 5: What's the dress coat over there at NSC?
Speaker 6: Oh?
Speaker 2: Just the high heels and slacks and then sometimes skirts.
Speaker 5: Sometimes I wear some soccer shorts, you know what I mean?
Speaker 5: And I put a jersey on.
Speaker 1: Do you like that?
Speaker 2: Wonder how old Candae is doing over there?
Speaker 5: Oh, she don't work there anymore.
Speaker 10: I think you told me that, Erica, thank you so
Speaker 10: much for joining me.
Speaker 4: How are you?
Speaker 11: Thank you? I'm good. I've been really excited to talk
Speaker 11: to you.
Speaker 8: What's super frustrating on dating apps? Because you get on
Speaker 8: there with great intentions.
Speaker 12: When the constant pimpelling happens, you get very frustrated. Why
Speaker 12: do you think it is that people find themselves in
Speaker 12: this kind of rotating pin pal type situation.
Speaker 9: I think most people are generally clueless. They don't know
Speaker 9: how to how or when to transition from that conversation
Speaker 9: to the date. And so if I can do anything
Speaker 9: to help people speed that up, I certainly will. I
Speaker 9: don't think people have I don't think I'm in general,
Speaker 9: I don't think people have some nefarious intentions to just
Speaker 9: waste your time on this.
Speaker 3: Some people do.
Speaker 9: Sure, some people are doing it for that validation. Oh
Speaker 9: look at me, I'm still desirable. But I never want
Speaker 9: to meet these people. Oh I'm just out of a relationship.
Speaker 9: I don't actually want to date. I just want to
Speaker 9: make sure people still like me. Yeah, of course there
Speaker 9: are some people out there like that. But on the whole,
Speaker 9: I think people generally do want to meet, and they
Speaker 9: really just don't like no one taught this.
Speaker 7: Skill in school.
Speaker 11: It's a new skill, and so people really just don't know.
Speaker 11: So I would say, give the benefit of it out.
Speaker 9: That's why you're going to use your language to try
Speaker 9: to get it closer to a date, or just ask
Speaker 9: yourself and then you know from their answer, because they
Speaker 9: could either just not answer you, in which case there's
Speaker 9: clearly no date. They could ignore your suggestion of meeting,
Speaker 9: in which case they either didn't understand or have no
Speaker 9: interest in meeting, or they could grab.
Speaker 13: It and run with it.
Speaker 11: You win either way because you know exactly what your
Speaker 11: next step is.
Speaker 8: It's the basic skill of communicating, which.
Speaker 11: It is, but but again, maybe it's not basic, Maybe
Speaker 11: it's not common. Maybe it's not basic.
Speaker 12: Yeah, you also have this step which I love and
Speaker 12: I've incorporated into my dating and it's been super helpful
Speaker 12: to find who really is a good communicator.
Speaker 8: Is the ask two questions and then make a statement.
Speaker 11: Oh my god? Yes, So tell everyone about it in
Speaker 11: case they don't help.
Speaker 8: Well, I want you to tell them you're the expert.
Speaker 1: You came up with it.
Speaker 11: I mean you, you nailed it.
Speaker 9: So okay, So let's have a mock conversation. So we
Speaker 9: are on a dating app, we match and send me
Speaker 9: a message. What would you ask me?
Speaker 13: And what I've whatever? Anything?
Speaker 1: I don't care.
Speaker 8: Hi, Erica, what are your favorite genres of food?
Speaker 11: I love Italian and tie?
Speaker 8: Oh that's really exciting. What's your favorite place in town
Speaker 8: to go to?
Speaker 6: Uh?
Speaker 11: There's this place called Regent Tie.
Speaker 12: I really like.
Speaker 8: Oh that's really good.
Speaker 2: We did it.
Speaker 5: We did it.
Speaker 11: That was the exercise, So exactly what we did here.
Speaker 9: You're engaging me in conversation, and I am shutting it
Speaker 9: down at every turn by not asking you a question
Speaker 9: back even an and you and you would be anything
Speaker 9: would be so easy, and so my recommendation. I call
Speaker 9: it two qs, two questions in a statement. So you
Speaker 9: ask question one what type of food? I gave a
Speaker 9: statement Italian and tie? Question two, oh, do you have
Speaker 9: any favorite places? I gave a statement Regent tie. And
Speaker 9: then you're not going to keep asking me questions. You're
Speaker 9: not my interviewer here. And but the reason I do
Speaker 9: have you answer that last message in a statement is
Speaker 9: because I never ever want anyone.
Speaker 11: To accuse you of ghosting them. We're not answering, and.
Speaker 9: So we're simply closing out the conversation with a statement.
Speaker 9: Sounds great, sounds delicious, Yum yum, I love pad Thai,
Speaker 9: I don't care. So ninety percent of the time the
Speaker 9: conversation was done anyway, and you're just sort of shutting
Speaker 9: the door.
Speaker 11: They already shut the door. You're just like putting the
Speaker 11: deadlock on it.
Speaker 9: Ten percent of the time the other person will come
Speaker 9: back and ask you a question because they go back
Speaker 9: to the conversation, realize there's nothing to talk about, realize, oh,
Speaker 9: I didn't ask a question.
Speaker 11: Half of that ten percent.
Speaker 7: Will be how's it going or how's your day, which
Speaker 7: is a non starter.
Speaker 4: Hey, and this week a movie Mike's Movie Podcast, I
Speaker 4: broke down what I believe to be the five most
Speaker 4: important superhero movies of all time, all throughout history. These
Speaker 4: are the ones that were most important to the success
Speaker 4: of the genre. I also gave my spoiler free review
Speaker 4: of Captain America Brave New World that a lot of
Speaker 4: people disagreed with, but I had to say it. So
Speaker 4: here's just a little bit of my top five list.
Speaker 4: Be sure to go check out the full episode to
Speaker 4: hear my full review, but right now, here's just a
Speaker 4: little bit of movie Mike's Movie Podcast. At number one
Speaker 4: is Batman nineteen eighty nine. Why I believe this is
Speaker 4: the first most important superhero film is it created a
Speaker 4: new public perception of Batman, and it legitimized the genre
Speaker 4: and took Batman from being a comedic character to a
Speaker 4: greedy character even by nineteen eighty standards. And this was
Speaker 4: a big deal, more so than Superman that came.
Speaker 5: The decade before it.
Speaker 4: This is the one that I feel, without its success
Speaker 4: would not have led to any other super We hear
Speaker 4: a movie being made before this. Batman hadn't been a
Speaker 4: gritty character. And even if you look at nineteen eighty nine,
Speaker 4: now it's not as gritty as what we know to
Speaker 4: be now as a gritty Batman, But at the time
Speaker 4: it was revolutionary because everybody associated Batman with Adam West's
Speaker 4: depiction of him, which was great at the time, but
Speaker 4: that show was a comedy. It made him really zany.
Speaker 4: It made the fight seems overly cheesy with the bam
Speaker 4: zap Powell. It made Robin a very just one dimensional character.
Speaker 4: And for the longest time this movie was trying to
Speaker 4: be made in this way. Michael Uson, who is somebody
Speaker 4: who was fighting for this. He had the rights to
Speaker 4: Batman for a decade, maybe even longer than a decade,
Speaker 4: and he was fighting for the depiction of the character
Speaker 4: that he knew was out there. He was a fan
Speaker 4: of Batman from when he was a kid, and he
Speaker 4: was the person whenever that TV show debuted he was like,
Speaker 4: Oh no, this is wrong, this is bad, this is
Speaker 4: not the Batman I love. So he bought the rights
Speaker 4: for such a little amount and kept trying to find producers,
Speaker 4: kept trying to get a movie like this green lit.
Speaker 4: And it wasn't until nineteen eighty nine's Batman that his
Speaker 4: love of Batman, his complete nerd Hm actually came to
Speaker 4: life and he was able to do it. So he
Speaker 4: was this driving force trying to bring this darker, more
Speaker 4: serious version of the character to life. And then you
Speaker 4: combine that with Tim Burton and we finally got it,
Speaker 4: and it changed the public perspective of not only what
Speaker 4: Batman could be, but what superhero movies could be as
Speaker 4: a whole. Now, even in nineteen eighty nine, these movies
Speaker 4: were still being geared towards kids, with the idea being
Speaker 4: you put out a movie and then you sell a
Speaker 4: bunch of merchandise, which has always been the model. Star
Speaker 4: Wars was the one who really made that a thing, like, oh,
Speaker 4: you put out the movie, then you sell a buttload
Speaker 4: of toys. That was the model. So we weren't there
Speaker 4: quite yet, but it did show that you can make
Speaker 4: something for kids because it is a superhero movie, but
Speaker 4: also that would appeal to the older audience. If you
Speaker 4: look at this one at times, it doesn't feel like
Speaker 4: a kid's movie. This movie moved on to Batman Returns,
Speaker 4: and that one you had a public outcry from parents saying,
Speaker 4: this is not a kid's movie. Whatsoever. You have penguin
Speaker 4: biting at people's noses causing them to be all bloody,
Speaker 4: and there was a big problem with that. But the
Speaker 4: reason I believe that this movie was so important is
Speaker 4: because it was the first movie to really usher in
Speaker 4: this new era of superhero film and say, a movie
Speaker 4: like this can be made and you can change what
Speaker 4: everybody believes these characters to be. And you're gonna see
Speaker 4: this theme throughout my list because whenever you set a standard,
Speaker 4: everybody starts following that and then it almost takes somebody
Speaker 4: else to break that mold yet again to re revolutionize
Speaker 4: the genre. But this movie did that. It gave us
Speaker 4: not only the gritty hero, but also the gritty villain.
Speaker 4: Jack Nicholson's set the standard for creating a villain like
Speaker 4: this made everybody who played the Joker after him have
Speaker 4: some really big shoes to fill. So at number one,
Speaker 4: I have Batman nineteen eighty nine. At number two, it
Speaker 4: would come almost ten years after this in nineteen ninety eight.
Speaker 4: My next most important superhero film of all time is
Speaker 4: Blade from nineteen ninety eight. Why this movie is so
Speaker 4: important one I feel it's underappreciated, it's underrated, and how
Speaker 4: revolutionary this movie was and how important it was for
Speaker 4: Marvel's success. It proved that you could make a superhero
Speaker 4: movie a comic book character for adults. Because this movie
Speaker 4: is R rated, it's bloody, it's violent, and it's cool.
Speaker 4: And at the time, Blade wasn't even a popular character
Speaker 4: in the comic books. Even after this movie came out,
Speaker 4: his comic still struggled and they readapted them to fit
Speaker 4: the movie character. More so, it wasn't even a top
Speaker 4: tier character, not even the second stream character. Even now,
Speaker 4: the character of Blade isn't as popular as all these
Speaker 4: other Marvel characters, and you look at their model now,
Speaker 4: and this is what later Marvel would bank on because
Speaker 4: there had been attempts to make other character movies before
Speaker 4: this be successful. You had pretty much made for TV
Speaker 4: movie with Captain America Spider Man, and those just never
Speaker 4: quite worked out. This was the first successful Marvel movie ever.
Speaker 4: It was the second one because before this, back in
Speaker 4: nineteen eighty six, they made a Howard the Duck movie.
Speaker 4: I don't know why they decided to go with Howard
Speaker 4: the Duck first, but that movie was awful, terrible, and
Speaker 4: it was a long time until Marvel had success. So
Speaker 4: this movie was important, not only for Marvel because without
Speaker 4: its success, it was right there at the brink of bankruptcy.
Speaker 4: It had been fighting bankruptcy for so long because they
Speaker 4: just didn't have a successful movie. This was their first
Speaker 4: big hit, their first big taste the success, and it
Speaker 4: also inspired and was the stepping stone for a lot
Speaker 4: of R rated movies to come. If there wasn't Blade,
Speaker 4: we would have never got Deadpool, we would have never
Speaker 4: got Logan, we would have never got other comic book
Speaker 4: movies outside of Marvel, like Watchmen and kick Ass or
Speaker 4: even Suicide Squad. All of those movies' success had to
Speaker 4: come from proving that you could make an R rated
Speaker 4: superhero movie, even more so that you could do it
Speaker 4: without a popular character. Now, at the time, Wesley Snipes
Speaker 4: was a very popular actor, so that brought in some fans.
Speaker 4: Vampires in the nineties were all so hot as well,
Speaker 4: so that helped. And I believe this is what Marvel
Speaker 4: started to do whenever they sold all the rights to
Speaker 4: their main characters to Sony and to Fox, and later
Speaker 4: when they're trying to build things, they decided, okay, well
Speaker 4: we can't use our most popular characters. Let's build a
Speaker 4: team of all of our second string and third stringers
Speaker 4: and see if we can make something out of this,
Speaker 4: and that proved to be successful. So it's working with
Speaker 4: what you have and also ahead of its time because
Speaker 4: you had a black lead in this movie in a
Speaker 4: superhero film. He was the first successful black superhero in
Speaker 4: mainstream cinema. Paved the way for Black Panther. And I
Speaker 4: know X Men was already in development that would come
Speaker 4: out in the year two thousand, but if it wasn't
Speaker 4: for the success of Blade, that wouldn't have set up
Speaker 4: the X Men. And it made one hundred and thirty
Speaker 4: one million dollars worldwide on a forty five million dollar budget,
Speaker 4: and Wesley Snipe said it best in Dead Pull and Wolverine.
Speaker 4: There will only be one Blade, so hopefully they still
Speaker 4: bring this character back to life at number two from
Speaker 4: nineteen ninety eight. I have Blade at.
Speaker 5: Carylone. She's a queen talking.
Speaker 6: He was so.
Speaker 3: Not afraid to feel episode, so just let it flow.
Speaker 3: No one can do it quiet carey line, its sounding
Speaker 3: care line.
Speaker 14: One thing I really do love to take is constructive
Speaker 14: criticism and encouragement from people that have went through things
Speaker 14: that I've went through.
Speaker 13: That's why I really feel like it's very.
Speaker 14: Important for artists in general to be behind one another,
Speaker 14: creative people in general, specifically women. And yeah, I like
Speaker 14: to get together with my female compadres in this industry,
Speaker 14: and I think those are the safest places other than
Speaker 14: true therapy, to talk about all these things that may
Speaker 14: feel like first world problems and entitled problems to have.
Speaker 14: But when you have the load that you have on
Speaker 14: yourself as an artist and as a creative, it's nice
Speaker 14: to be able to go to others and go I'm
Speaker 14: tired of getting glammed every day and I've had four
Speaker 14: hours of sleep and I am living the dream.
Speaker 13: But it's much harder than I think this was gonna be.
Speaker 14: And just you know, it's I think it's really nice
Speaker 14: to get those little stressors off your chest.
Speaker 13: By talking about it in safe spaces. I am a
Speaker 13: big component of safe spaces.
Speaker 6: Mmmmmm, So do you feel.
Speaker 13: Like you have a safe space in life?
Speaker 6: Like?
Speaker 13: What do you feel like? How did you This is
Speaker 13: a cool thing I love to ask people. How did
Speaker 13: you build your village? Like your people that you go
Speaker 13: to for anything in life? But that community?
Speaker 6: Well, okay, that's a great question. I started off, thank
Speaker 6: you for turning the tables on me. Oh sorry, Now
Speaker 6: I love podcasts because it's really this is coming back
Speaker 6: to you too. I'll do mind briefly, but then we're
Speaker 6: going we really want to hear about your village.
Speaker 13: Okay.
Speaker 6: I'm from Waco, Texas, and I grew up in a
Speaker 6: great family. Like my parents are great. They had great friends.
Speaker 6: So I started off with friends of my parents' friends,
Speaker 6: like the kids who are still my best friends to
Speaker 6: this day. So I feel like I have like deep friendships.
Speaker 6: And then when I came to Nashville, it took me
Speaker 6: a long time to find a village. I was absolutely
Speaker 6: terrified when I came here. I moved here when I
Speaker 6: was nineteen, and I was just like super nervous, didn't
Speaker 6: know anyone. I was moved from my hometown of Waco,
Speaker 6: Texas to hear and like was overwhelmed. I was also
Speaker 6: chasing the music industry and all of that, and just
Speaker 6: like super intimidated, and I didn't have a lot of
Speaker 6: self worth back then. It's take me a long time
Speaker 6: to get my self worth. I've had to really develop,
Speaker 6: but I've still like pursued all my dreams despite the
Speaker 6: fact I did not feel worthy but I knew that
Speaker 6: they were my dreams and I was supposed to do it.
Speaker 6: But I always felt like, oh my gosh, if people
Speaker 6: find out then I'm really a fraud and I'm really
Speaker 6: not worthy, then it's all going to be uncovered.
Speaker 14: Or if they discover that you actually think you're good
Speaker 14: at something. I was always if someone said something nice
Speaker 14: about you.
Speaker 13: I have to put myself down. Oh I have to
Speaker 13: put myself down.
Speaker 6: But see, here's the thing with you that's different. You
Speaker 6: were born with this voice. So like a lot of people,
Speaker 6: like myself, I'll use myself as an example. I have
Speaker 6: a lot of things I'm good at, but like you
Speaker 6: and your voice are in a whole other stratosphere. Like
Speaker 6: you are just like that kind of singer, Like you're
Speaker 6: like in the celeandons of the world.
Speaker 8: Like you have like the voice that is like hand motion,
Speaker 8: but it can't be.
Speaker 6: Replicated, you know, although I do hear a little Dolly
Speaker 6: Parton in your voice.
Speaker 11: Do you hear that people love Dolly?
Speaker 13: It's just from being raised old her.
Speaker 6: But like you have a voice though that like you
Speaker 6: can't you can't learn to sing like you like, Yes,
Speaker 6: I'm sure you can take lessons and you can learn
Speaker 6: things and like whatever, but like your tone, your texture,
Speaker 6: the way it all comes out like that is like
Speaker 6: a god given gift that you have. And so were
Speaker 6: people hard on you about that growing up? Like? Were
Speaker 6: people do they get jealous of that?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 14: I do remember one girl in high school when I
Speaker 14: won the pageant, the school pageant, she I didn't know,
Speaker 14: you know, I didn't own a BlackBerry. But I went
Speaker 14: to school the next day and they said, did you
Speaker 14: see what she wrote? And I guess BlackBerry had kind
Speaker 14: of like it's on Facebook coordever, you could put statuses
Speaker 14: and anyways you can tell I was a flip phone girl.
Speaker 14: But the raiser, Yeah, so many of those.
Speaker 2: Like this.
Speaker 14: But the thing is I remember her saying, like, you know,
Speaker 14: I didn't realize it was a talent show. I thought
Speaker 14: it was a pageant, And no, there's really I don't
Speaker 14: know as if life was hard on me because of
Speaker 14: my voice, I think I was harder on myself than
Speaker 14: I ever really allowed life to be.
Speaker 4: Okay, I.
Speaker 14: Think a lot of the turmoil that I have went
Speaker 14: through emotionally that has impacted me just as much as
Speaker 14: true tragedies in my life is because I was too
Speaker 14: hard on myself.
Speaker 13: Really so very much.
Speaker 6: So what are some of the things that you feel
Speaker 6: like you were too hard on yourself that caused you turmoil.
Speaker 14: Well, once people started to acknowledge my voice, you know,
Speaker 14: I kind of went from the odd kid out to
Speaker 14: all of a sudden people liked me, you know, and
Speaker 14: I had something that was interesting.
Speaker 13: And I just remember for so long.
Speaker 14: As a young girl trying to be whatever I thought
Speaker 14: people would like so that I could fit in and
Speaker 14: I could have friends and I could feel that connection
Speaker 14: that I always felt slightly like I was out on
Speaker 14: the outside and I couldn't understand it. And the minute
Speaker 14: that I started singing, I started to get accepted. And
Speaker 14: I know that sounds so bad, but then I started
Speaker 14: putting a pressure on myself that this is my personality.
Speaker 14: If this is what it is that gets people to
Speaker 14: like me and to listen to me and to hear me,
Speaker 14: I have to be the best. Then there's no alternative.
Speaker 14: And then there's also that pressure of I can't mess
Speaker 14: this up. What if I messed my voice up? And
Speaker 14: then the one thing that all these people have invested
Speaker 14: in me and believed in me for I've lost it.
Speaker 14: I've ruined it.
Speaker 6: Oh my god, So you were stressed out about your voice?
Speaker 13: Oh very much so so.
Speaker 14: Also, I have deafness that runs in my in my
Speaker 14: dad's side of the family, so I was always scared
Speaker 14: I would lose my hearing.
Speaker 13: I just was always panicked about it.
Speaker 14: Once I realized that I had new gift, I realized
Speaker 14: how sacred of a gift it was, and I was
Speaker 14: terrified to somehow mess it up. But I think a
Speaker 14: lot of my life I have been terrified to mess up,
Speaker 14: And at thirty years old, I can finally look back
Speaker 14: and realize that I made things so much harder than
Speaker 14: they ever.
Speaker 13: Actually had to be. It gets to be easy.
Speaker 14: And I didn't realize that when I was younger. I
Speaker 14: didn't realize that I could forgive myself. I didn't realize
Speaker 14: that I could mess up and forgive myself. I didn't
Speaker 14: realize that all the mistakes you make they're great stories.
Speaker 14: When you get older, it's the stuff you laugh about
Speaker 14: with your friends, you know, it's the stuff you write
Speaker 14: songs about and people connect to and you can reach
Speaker 14: people that are going through those odd moments too. As
Speaker 14: a kid, I remember the first biography we ever had
Speaker 14: written up and there was something in it that I
Speaker 14: had said in an interview, and it definitely didn't come
Speaker 14: across the way I wanted, But I had said something
Speaker 14: about I had always wanted a life that someone would write.
Speaker 13: A book about because I loved books. I was just
Speaker 13: obsessed with.
Speaker 14: Books from a young age, and so I wanted something
Speaker 14: that was exciting and riveting and would make you want
Speaker 14: to turn the page. And I don't think I really
Speaker 14: realized what I was signing up for by trying to
Speaker 14: manifest that and praying to God every night, give me
Speaker 14: an interesting life. Really gave me something fun? Give me
Speaker 14: was that never let me get bored?
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