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Speaker 1: amazing conversation with my dear friend, Emmy nominated actress author

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Speaker 1: you and I have been having a really expansive, decadent

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Speaker 1: coming back to, Like could we potentially contort and maneuver

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Speaker 1: give you what you give other people. Baby like this product,

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Speaker 1: I receive all of that, and I promise you I

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Speaker 1: about like grace. Let's so um. This is then a

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Speaker 1: don't see you, I just pop you on HBO and

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Speaker 1: I watch your comedy special again. I love you. I

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Speaker 1: let you tickle my soul that way. Tickle my didn't

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Speaker 1: feature husband. If you do not use the words that

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Speaker 1: I don't want it. Keep it. I don't want it tickle.

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Speaker 1: If I don't tackle your soul, you want to share

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Speaker 1: with me partically yourself? What are we doing? Get out

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Speaker 1: of here? I love your friend. Thank you for blessing

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Speaker 1: us on the show today. Thank you, m M You're

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Speaker 1: the best, bah bah bah as always everyone, thank you

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Speaker 1: for listening, Thank you for rocking with the show. Go

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Speaker 1: this with a friend. Let's really expand the way that

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Speaker 1: we hold space for ourselves and the way we hold

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Speaker 1: space for our friendships. Um, and a little soul work

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Speaker 1: that may feel good. Gleaned from this episode is maybe

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Speaker 1: spend a little time today or when you get a

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Speaker 1: moment um to really sit in and investigate are the

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Speaker 1: relationships in your life. Feeling nourishing, is your own relationship

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Speaker 1: with your self feeling nourishing? And if the answer is

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Speaker 1: not a resounding yes, s us to explore, explore why not,

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Speaker 1: and explore what possibilities may be available to you, What

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Speaker 1: what choices you can make, Be a little choosy with

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Speaker 1: your life, choosy love. So all right, let you guys

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