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Speaker 2: Landon is on the phone today for a first Day
Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Kate.
Speaker 2: So we're about to call Kate in a little while
Speaker 2: and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him
Speaker 2: and maybe get him another date if he still wants one.
Speaker 2: But first, Landon, thanks for coming on the show man.
Speaker 2: How long has it been since you heard from Kate?
Speaker 3: Hey, it's been like a week. I don't know what's
Speaker 3: going on.
Speaker 4: How many times have you tried to reach out to
Speaker 4: her in that week?
Speaker 3: I like once a day, honestly.
Speaker 1: Okay, so you're thinking she's somebody special. Why don't we
Speaker 1: go back a little bit and talk about her. So,
Speaker 1: how was your date with her?
Speaker 3: Oh? It was amazing. So my cousin owns the wine
Speaker 3: restaurant and we went there and I'll be just got
Speaker 3: wine flights and meals and we slowed danced in the
Speaker 3: middle of the restaurant. Everyone was watching, everyone clacked for us.
Speaker 3: It was really something else. I knew she was a
Speaker 3: bit shy, and honestly, you know, that's kind of my type.
Speaker 3: I love the shy girls, and I was excited to
Speaker 3: like get her out of the get her out of
Speaker 3: her shell. That's I love doing that. That's I love
Speaker 3: to like just bring the shy girls out showing the world,
Speaker 3: show them what they're missing. You know how we had
Speaker 3: so much food, and since it was my cousin, he
Speaker 3: even gave us like a dessert sample afterward. It was
Speaker 3: like a four hour meal. It was amazing.
Speaker 1: Okay, this sounds like a dream or hours. I love
Speaker 1: to eat like that.
Speaker 3: But then we haven't spoken for a week since I
Speaker 3: don't really don't know what's going on.
Speaker 1: What happened at the end of y'all's date, Like, how.
Speaker 4: Did it end?
Speaker 3: Yeah, so it ended with a kiss, which I'm pretty
Speaker 3: proud of. But we haven't spoken since. No texting, no calls, nothing, nothing.
Speaker 1: Do you think it's because she's shy? I mean, you
Speaker 1: did say she was a shy girl.
Speaker 3: That's my leading theory. Maybe she's just better in person
Speaker 3: and the text thing.
Speaker 1: Did anything else happen on the date besides.
Speaker 3: The dancing and the kiss. She seemed really into me.
Speaker 3: She laughed at all my jokes as she ate. I mean,
Speaker 3: she's the teat, but she can really eat, And.
Speaker 1: I'm just.
Speaker 4: Like a lyric and a song. She can really eat.
Speaker 4: I like it. Do you think maybe it was your kiss?
Speaker 3: Well, I mean speaking of too good, I mean the
Speaker 3: way that we danced together. I mean it I felt
Speaker 3: like it could translate to the bedroom, you know what
Speaker 3: I mean?
Speaker 2: Yeah, like you could dance in a bedroom too, you
Speaker 2: can put on music. Yeah, yeah, I know, I know
Speaker 2: what you mean.
Speaker 3: But then, like I can't figure out why I'm being ghosted.
Speaker 3: You know, it's just maybe I can't figure out how
Speaker 3: I messed up. Maybe she felt pressure to eat so
Speaker 3: much because I'm a big foodie.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe people say anything.
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe because you know how like people feel like
Speaker 1: they want to keep up with drinking. Oh so maybe
Speaker 1: it's the same idea with Booth if there's.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she didn't want to say anything about her maybe
Speaker 3: I don't want to eat, but about he's a foodie.
Speaker 3: So yeah, she just quietly just went along with it.
Speaker 2: All right, Well, we'll see if we can figure it
Speaker 2: out for you, man. We'll play a song come back,
Speaker 2: and then call her see if she'll tell us why
Speaker 2: she's ghosting you and maybe get you another date.
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, thank you so much, all right, and play
Speaker 4: a song.
Speaker 2: Comeback, get your first day follow up next. Right in
Speaker 2: the middle of your first day follow up if you're
Speaker 2: just joining us. Landon is on the phone and he's
Speaker 2: getting ghosted by Kate. It's been about a week. He
Speaker 2: hasn't heard anything from her, and we're about to call her,
Speaker 2: get her on the phone and see if she'll tell
Speaker 2: us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him another date.
Speaker 2: But first, Landing, why don't you refresh everybody's memory before
Speaker 2: we call her? Tell us about your date.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so we went to my cousin's wine restaurant, drink
Speaker 3: a lot, ate a lot, dance in front of everyone.
Speaker 3: They applauded for us. It was really fun and it
Speaker 3: with a kiss. And I haven't heard from her since.
Speaker 1: And she's petite and can eat.
Speaker 4: All right, Well, you ready to go? You're ready to
Speaker 4: call her?
Speaker 3: Yeah, let's do it.
Speaker 4: Okay, here we go? Hello him, I asking to Kate. Please?
Speaker 1: This is she?
Speaker 5: Who's this?
Speaker 4: Kate?
Speaker 5: Hi?
Speaker 4: How are you? My name is Jewbel and I'm on
Speaker 4: a radio show called the Jewbel Show. What's up?
Speaker 1: Kate Whole shows? Here, I'm Nina Hi, and I'm Victoria.
Speaker 5: Hi.
Speaker 4: How are you?
Speaker 5: I'm good?
Speaker 3: So I'm sorry. This is a you guys are on
Speaker 3: the radio.
Speaker 4: Yes, and we're calling you because we got an email about.
Speaker 3: You about me?
Speaker 4: Okay. We do a segment on the show. It's called
Speaker 4: the First Date follow Up.
Speaker 2: That's where if you go out with someone and then
Speaker 2: end up ghosting them, that person can email us.
Speaker 4: To get you on the phone and ask why you're ghosting.
Speaker 3: Oh okay, means.
Speaker 4: We got an email about you because you're ghosting someone.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 4: His name is Landon, and Landon really liked you and
Speaker 4: wants to know why you're ghosting and would you mind
Speaker 4: telling us?
Speaker 5: Yeah? I mean Landon is a great guy. I had
Speaker 5: a great time on our date. You know, I really
Speaker 5: liked him, and you know, it was a really fun night,
Speaker 5: different than most dates I've gone on, and it was.
Speaker 3: Just really great.
Speaker 5: But you know, I just think we I don't know,
Speaker 5: I think we just want different things and I just
Speaker 5: have to protect myself from that.
Speaker 1: I think, Okay, what does that mean?
Speaker 5: You know, I just want to protect my heart. I
Speaker 5: think that Landon, you know, he was kind of talking
Speaker 5: about how he's not really ready for a relationship and
Speaker 5: he's looking more for like a romantic sensual experience, not
Speaker 5: really like a full blown commitment. And you know, that's fine,
Speaker 5: but I really want romance and experiences, but I want
Speaker 5: to build something with someone. You know, I'm not in
Speaker 5: a huge rush to be in a relationship, but I
Speaker 5: don't really feel comfortable with like the non committal mentality personally.
Speaker 1: Did you guys have that conversation like he said that
Speaker 1: to you.
Speaker 5: I mean, he had said that he just wants like
Speaker 5: romantic experiences, but he had said he wasn't really looking
Speaker 5: for like a full blown commitment, which is you know,
Speaker 5: I get it. I had a great time on our date.
Speaker 5: I didn't think that's what our date was for until
Speaker 5: we met. I thought we were looking for the same thing.
Speaker 5: So I was like taken off guard. But you know,
Speaker 5: everyone's looking for what they're looking for, and even though
Speaker 5: we had a fun time, it's just we're both looking
Speaker 5: for different things.
Speaker 3: It's not the right time and place.
Speaker 1: Well, good for you knowing exactly what you want.
Speaker 3: Thank you.
Speaker 4: Kate Landon is actually on the phone listening and wants
Speaker 4: to talk to you.
Speaker 5: What hey, Kate, Hi, Hi Landon.
Speaker 3: I didn't realize we were on such different paths. We
Speaker 3: had such a good time. I thought it was going well.
Speaker 5: Yeah, no, we had a great time. I mean, it's
Speaker 5: definitely a date I'll never forget. It was really fun.
Speaker 5: I really enjoyed myself. I enjoyed getting to know you.
Speaker 5: It's just I think, you know, our path in life
Speaker 5: is just different right now.
Speaker 3: Oh well, that's a shame. I kind of wish you
Speaker 3: would have answered my text. We could talked about this.
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm open to discussion.
Speaker 1: Well then is that true, Landon, Are you not open
Speaker 1: to relationship?
Speaker 5: Well?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, honestly, I am just looking for something
Speaker 3: casual right now. But I thought she was on the
Speaker 3: same page. We never discussed it. But yeah, maybe, I mean,
Speaker 3: if the timing is right in the future, we could
Speaker 3: hopefully get back together and make this work. What do
Speaker 3: you think.
Speaker 5: I mean, I really enjoyed meeting with you. I think
Speaker 5: you're very attractive, and you know, we laughed a lot.
Speaker 5: Maybe in the future, you know, if I'm available, we
Speaker 5: could definitely try again. You know, it's just timing right now,
Speaker 5: it doesn't seem like it's on our side.
Speaker 3: That's all, okay, Well, like, what do I have to
Speaker 3: do to make you say yes, Like, what do you need?
Speaker 3: You know what? That's funny.
Speaker 5: I just honestly, you're wonderful.
Speaker 3: I had a great.
Speaker 5: Time with you. It's just that I am looking for
Speaker 5: something a little more, you know, not so much a commitment,
Speaker 5: you know, commitment with the right person, but not something
Speaker 5: as loose as I guess what you're looking for, just
Speaker 5: like you know, experiences, life experiences. I've had a lot
Speaker 5: of life experience, and you know I'm ready to put
Speaker 5: that life experience to you. So there's I mean, I
Speaker 5: had a great time. I loved your cousin's restaurant. The
Speaker 5: wine was great, the food was amazing.
Speaker 3: I mean, I.
Speaker 5: Had the best time. It's just I just don't want
Speaker 5: something super casual right now.
Speaker 1: Landon, do you think that you're wanting something casual? Is
Speaker 1: kind of like your defense mechanism too, because it sounds
Speaker 1: like you really like Kate, you keep trying to get
Speaker 1: to the law.
Speaker 3: I feel like Caline.
Speaker 1: I mean, I know, I'm just it's something to ask yourself.
Speaker 1: You know, if you just say whoever you hang out
Speaker 1: with is casual, then you're protecting your heart too, and
Speaker 1: not really putting yourself out there.
Speaker 3: I didn't realize I was signing up for a therapy
Speaker 3: session here the bill. Yeah, you know what, I think
Speaker 3: you may have something to do with my previous relationship,
Speaker 3: now that I think about it. Things just went too quickly,
Speaker 3: and I think the year I just wanted to take
Speaker 3: things more casual. It's time not really look for a
Speaker 3: commitment yet.
Speaker 4: What if you replace the word casual was slow.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's that's a good observation there.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, but we say this all the time. We
Speaker 1: are therapist adjacent.
Speaker 5: I definitely would prefer someone who's more sure on themselves,
Speaker 5: Like if you need to experience things to you know,
Speaker 5: feel like you'll be a better partner in the future.
Speaker 5: I mean, that's your path, that's your choice. Like I said,
Speaker 5: I've I've had these experiences, and I have a pretty
Speaker 5: clear idea of what I want and what I'm looking
Speaker 5: for and how I want to be treated. And you know,
Speaker 5: I just I want to be a little bit more
Speaker 5: you know, important, than just something casual that's you know,
Speaker 5: not going anywhere, because because I'm looking for something that's
Speaker 5: going to go somewhere.
Speaker 4: Kate, would you like to go on another day with
Speaker 4: Land and we'll pay for it.
Speaker 3: No, I don't think so right now.
Speaker 5: Nothing against land In, land In, You're wonderful again. I
Speaker 5: had the best time, honestly, probably one of my top,
Speaker 5: like top dates ever. It was really like dancing in
Speaker 5: the restaurant and the people like stuff out of movies.
Speaker 3: That was incredible.
Speaker 5: It's just again, I just want something a little bit
Speaker 5: more serious. It's going to go somewhere or ideally go
Speaker 5: somewhere like I felt a deep connection with you, so
Speaker 5: I would.
Speaker 3: Not want something casual. But if in the.
Speaker 5: Future you figure out what you're looking for, and if
Speaker 5: I happen to still be available, you know you have
Speaker 5: my number.
Speaker 3: Yeah, let's just keep in touch. We'll touch back and
Speaker 3: forth and stay on each other's right off
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