WEBVTT - Dany Garcia: The Bigger the Loss, The Bigger the Life 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:05.840 No one has all the answers, but when we ask 0:00:05.880 --> 0:00:10.680 the right questions, we get a little closer, closer to truths, 0:00:11.440 --> 0:00:16.560 closer to each other, even closer to ourselves. I'm journalist 0:00:16.600 --> 0:00:19.280 Danielle Robe, and each week, my guests and I come 0:00:19.360 --> 0:00:22.800 together to challenge the status quo and our own ways 0:00:22.800 --> 0:00:27.360 of thinking by daring to ask what if, why not? 0:00:28.320 --> 0:00:30.600 And who says? So? 0:00:30.680 --> 0:00:35.920 Come curious, dig deep, and join the conversation. It's time 0:00:36.280 --> 0:00:37.640 to question everything. 0:00:39.840 --> 0:00:40.320 Hello. 0:00:40.400 --> 0:00:43.360 Hello, I hope you're having a beautiful week. I hope 0:00:43.360 --> 0:00:46.160 you're riding the high of our glorious dynem conversation. 0:00:46.760 --> 0:00:47.200 I am. 0:00:47.320 --> 0:00:50.199 It meant so much to me, and after hearing all 0:00:50.240 --> 0:00:53.720 of your DMS, it is clear how much it meant 0:00:53.720 --> 0:00:56.600 to you. So thanks for reaching out and sharing. It 0:00:56.640 --> 0:01:00.840 was just so cool to interview somebody who's shaped the 0:01:00.880 --> 0:01:04.240 world we're living in right well, I wanted to continue 0:01:04.280 --> 0:01:08.600 our Women's Month celebration with someone who absolutely deserves to 0:01:08.640 --> 0:01:10.080 be celebrated. 0:01:09.760 --> 0:01:12.160 And honestly, she's been overdue for it. 0:01:12.560 --> 0:01:15.320 She's spent the majority of her career behind the scenes, 0:01:15.360 --> 0:01:18.360 but I have a feeling that that's about to change. 0:01:18.600 --> 0:01:21.720 Once in a while, I get to interview somebody that 0:01:21.920 --> 0:01:25.119 just stops me in my tracks, and Danny Garcia, our 0:01:25.120 --> 0:01:30.280 guest today, stopped me in my tracks. She's wildly accomplished, yes, 0:01:30.680 --> 0:01:33.280 but that's almost the least interesting thing about her. 0:01:33.680 --> 0:01:36.000 What got me was how real she is. 0:01:36.040 --> 0:01:39.120 She is so clear about her why, and she also 0:01:39.160 --> 0:01:42.759 shares her how, which is rare. I keep catching myself 0:01:42.800 --> 0:01:45.520 going back to things she said during our conversation, and 0:01:45.560 --> 0:01:48.760 when that happens, I've learned to pay attention. So I 0:01:48.800 --> 0:01:51.240 want to jump into the episode because I want you 0:01:51.320 --> 0:01:57.640 to have as much time as possible with Danny. There's 0:01:57.680 --> 0:02:01.760 this philosophy in boxing, because get hit is inevitable. 0:02:02.000 --> 0:02:04.080 The real test is not the punch. 0:02:04.640 --> 0:02:07.600 It's whether you beat the count, meaning can you get 0:02:07.640 --> 0:02:11.680 back up before the referee counts you out. Today's guest 0:02:12.000 --> 0:02:17.640 has turned that mindset into an entire ecosystem. Danny Garcia 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:22.000 has been an athlete, a financial executive, a global business strategist, 0:02:22.280 --> 0:02:25.640 a film producer, and the architect behind some of the 0:02:25.840 --> 0:02:29.640 most powerful brands in entertainment. She is the co founder 0:02:29.680 --> 0:02:32.200 of Seven Bucks Productions with her ex husband Dwayne the 0:02:32.240 --> 0:02:35.280 Rock Johnson. She's the first woman to own an interest 0:02:35.480 --> 0:02:39.240 in a major American professional football league, the XFL, now 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:43.040 known as the UFL, and she's the founder of Donnie Moss. 0:02:43.440 --> 0:02:46.760 She is a producer, a strategist, the force behind billion 0:02:46.800 --> 0:02:50.480 dollar films like Jamanji and Black Adam. She's helped shape 0:02:50.480 --> 0:02:54.040 the trajectory of stars like Henry cavill and The Rock 0:02:54.240 --> 0:02:56.359 the most followed man on social media. 0:02:56.280 --> 0:02:58.760 Long before the world saw what she saw. 0:02:58.919 --> 0:03:01.959 And then at forty two, so she became a professional bodybuilder, 0:03:02.040 --> 0:03:04.160 just on the side, because apparently that's what she does 0:03:04.200 --> 0:03:08.400 when she's not busy reshaping entire industries. But here's what 0:03:08.440 --> 0:03:11.880 the credits don't tell you. Danny doesn't just build companies. 0:03:12.320 --> 0:03:16.600 She builds people. She builds momentum, and she builds belief. 0:03:17.000 --> 0:03:20.640 And none of it came easily. Danny got knocked down 0:03:21.040 --> 0:03:24.600 a lot, a first marriage that ended, while the business continued, 0:03:24.760 --> 0:03:28.520 big swings that didn't land, deals that failed, projects and 0:03:28.560 --> 0:03:31.960 movies that didn't work. And at some point she stopped 0:03:31.960 --> 0:03:35.920 fearing the fall. She even started counting on it because 0:03:35.920 --> 0:03:39.320 she understood something that most people I don't think ever do. 0:03:40.000 --> 0:03:43.600 The size of the loss is proportional to the size 0:03:43.640 --> 0:03:46.400 of the swing. And if you want the biggest wins 0:03:46.400 --> 0:03:49.160 of your life. You have to be willing to absorb 0:03:49.400 --> 0:03:51.000 the biggest hits, for. 0:03:51.040 --> 0:03:54.560 The big swings, for the big moments. You have to 0:03:54.680 --> 0:03:58.120 know that a big moment is going to have a 0:03:58.120 --> 0:04:00.640 big loss if it doesn't work out. I have one 0:04:00.720 --> 0:04:04.680 so much because I have lost a lot today. 0:04:04.960 --> 0:04:08.240 Danny shares the mindset that carried her through those losses, 0:04:08.560 --> 0:04:12.040 the discipline that drives her every single day, and why 0:04:12.120 --> 0:04:17.279 she believes resilience is the most powerful skill anyone can build. So, 0:04:17.320 --> 0:04:20.640 if you're in a season right now where things maybe 0:04:20.640 --> 0:04:23.160 aren't going your way, or you've taken a hit or 0:04:23.240 --> 0:04:27.400 two and you're questioning everything, maybe this isn't the end 0:04:27.400 --> 0:04:31.080 of the round. Maybe this is the moment you learn 0:04:31.320 --> 0:04:34.880 to beat the count. It's time to question everything with 0:04:35.040 --> 0:04:45.760 Danny Garcia. Danny, you have been thoughtfully questioning almost every 0:04:45.839 --> 0:04:51.000 rule and assumption around career and money and ownership, marriage 0:04:51.040 --> 0:04:53.640 and divorce, even physicality like bodybuilding. 0:04:54.040 --> 0:04:57.159 What is one rule that you're really happy you broke. 0:04:57.960 --> 0:05:00.400 I would say the rule that I really that I 0:05:00.440 --> 0:05:03.840 broke that impact and change my life was when someone 0:05:03.920 --> 0:05:05.960 said to me, you know, the red carpet is just 0:05:06.000 --> 0:05:08.640 for actors, so why don't we let them have it? 0:05:09.040 --> 0:05:11.320 And I said, oh no, I'm going to take my 0:05:11.440 --> 0:05:15.440 red carpet with me everywhere. And my red carpet is mine. 0:05:15.600 --> 0:05:17.560 You built it and I built it, and it'll take 0:05:17.600 --> 0:05:20.200 it and I will always roll it out in front 0:05:20.200 --> 0:05:22.960 of me wherever I go, and I will invite others 0:05:22.960 --> 0:05:23.719 on it as well. 0:05:23.920 --> 0:05:25.320 How did it serve you well? 0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:28.200 Because what I was being told was there was an 0:05:28.200 --> 0:05:31.760 experience that I was passionately excited about, but I couldn't 0:05:31.800 --> 0:05:33.920 have it. And I was thinking to myself, why couldn't 0:05:33.960 --> 0:05:36.360 I have it? And who is this individual to decide 0:05:36.360 --> 0:05:39.000 that I can or I can't have it? And that 0:05:39.120 --> 0:05:41.640 allowed me to have sort of the autonomy if you 0:05:41.640 --> 0:05:44.480 see I'm questioning right, I'm like, I'm here, I actually 0:05:44.480 --> 0:05:47.880 deserve to be here. And then I realized that the 0:05:48.040 --> 0:05:51.640 moments that I see that look like someone is giving 0:05:51.680 --> 0:05:54.440 you those moments, I could actually create them for myself. 0:05:54.960 --> 0:05:57.800 And that became a really important aspect of my life, 0:05:57.960 --> 0:06:03.440 is creating the moments that are sort of given to individuals, 0:06:03.560 --> 0:06:05.720 not waiting for a moment to be handed to you, 0:06:05.920 --> 0:06:08.360 but making a moment, making it your own. 0:06:08.440 --> 0:06:11.800 And you're asking yourself this question, why not mer You've been. 0:06:11.680 --> 0:06:15.120 Asking my whole life, and I've been asking it in 0:06:15.160 --> 0:06:17.920 great ways like why not me? And also like why 0:06:17.960 --> 0:06:20.279 not me? Why don't they let me? So it's led 0:06:20.320 --> 0:06:23.760 to a lot of self reflection and sort of some 0:06:23.839 --> 0:06:26.360 a little bit of sadness, especially as a young person. 0:06:26.920 --> 0:06:30.960 But then eventually it leads to answering and finding and 0:06:31.080 --> 0:06:36.479 researching and figuring out and then the excitement of saying, oh, yes, me. 0:06:37.279 --> 0:06:40.640 Which there is a wonderful thing about getting accomplished where 0:06:40.640 --> 0:06:42.320 someone's like, here you go, you did great, and I 0:06:42.440 --> 0:06:44.440 give you a trophy, and they give you a thing. 0:06:45.040 --> 0:06:48.960 But then there is this incredible power when you are 0:06:49.000 --> 0:06:51.680 the one giving yourself the trophy, when you are the 0:06:51.680 --> 0:06:54.960 one writing the check for the thing that you've always wanted, 0:06:55.440 --> 0:06:56.360 and that's addictive. 0:06:56.680 --> 0:06:59.200 I was trying to put the pieces of your life 0:06:59.240 --> 0:07:02.960 together over the last few weeks, and I kept thinking 0:07:03.000 --> 0:07:04.080 about this one story. 0:07:04.279 --> 0:07:04.719 Years ago. 0:07:04.720 --> 0:07:07.680 I would do Red Carpets and I was at the 0:07:07.680 --> 0:07:12.480 Emmys interviewing Billy Porter, and Billy probably had one of 0:07:12.480 --> 0:07:15.720 the best voices in New York City, was so talented, 0:07:16.320 --> 0:07:19.800 and because the world was not ready for him yet, 0:07:20.160 --> 0:07:23.360 he didn't really have a major role on Broadway. In 0:07:23.400 --> 0:07:26.000 Kinky Boothsteel, he was forty two years old. He was 0:07:26.040 --> 0:07:29.960 eating ramen in his really shitty apartment. He talked about 0:07:29.960 --> 0:07:33.920 it all the time, and he was the first black 0:07:34.000 --> 0:07:37.320 and gay man to be nominated for his category at 0:07:37.360 --> 0:07:41.880 the time. And I asked him the most obvious, simple 0:07:41.960 --> 0:07:44.720 question a red carpet reporter could ask, And I said, 0:07:45.000 --> 0:07:47.880 what does this nomination mean to you? And he looked 0:07:47.880 --> 0:07:50.680 at me and his eyes well up, and so my 0:07:50.840 --> 0:07:53.920 eyes welled up, and he hit my chest and he said, 0:07:53.920 --> 0:07:56.880 when the world tells you no, you tell yourself yes. 0:07:57.160 --> 0:08:01.800 Yes, And we were bawling, and everyone's makeup had to 0:08:01.840 --> 0:08:02.200 be fixed. 0:08:02.360 --> 0:08:05.440 Oh yeah, but what a connection. 0:08:05.520 --> 0:08:06.280 At that moment. 0:08:06.600 --> 0:08:10.040 Well, I've never forgotten his words. Yeah, I thought about 0:08:10.040 --> 0:08:11.000 them so much. 0:08:11.120 --> 0:08:11.560 With you. 0:08:11.880 --> 0:08:16.040 Oh, interesting because at a young age, it seemed like 0:08:16.360 --> 0:08:19.360 everyone could have said no, not you. 0:08:19.360 --> 0:08:21.120 You had always told yourself yes. 0:08:21.560 --> 0:08:24.880 It seems what did the world not know that you 0:08:25.000 --> 0:08:27.080 already had stirring inside of you. 0:08:27.360 --> 0:08:30.320 So one of the interesting things on this because you're 0:08:30.360 --> 0:08:32.960 creating a narrative, and I want to actually give you 0:08:33.160 --> 0:08:38.320 the complexity of the narrative. So my yes was because 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:41.160 at a very young age, I think must have been 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:42.880 twelve or thirteen, I looked at the mirror and I 0:08:42.920 --> 0:08:45.600 was like, this is what I got. I was like, okay, 0:08:45.800 --> 0:08:48.079 so this is what we're working with. My sister is 0:08:48.120 --> 0:08:51.520 like very traditionally cute from the beginning, and I had 0:08:51.640 --> 0:08:53.920 a unique look in my mind. You know, you can 0:08:53.960 --> 0:08:56.439 look back, not in my mind because you're gorgeous. Well, 0:08:56.440 --> 0:08:57.720 when I look back when I was young, I was like, 0:08:57.720 --> 0:08:59.880 oh my god, so which style. But in a very 0:09:00.000 --> 0:09:03.640 conservative Cuban family in Suckastan in New Jersey, I was 0:09:04.080 --> 0:09:08.360 a species that was non familiar. So at that moment, 0:09:08.400 --> 0:09:11.720 I was like, okay, well you know what my mind 0:09:11.880 --> 0:09:15.680 and my personality, you know, my heart all these other things. 0:09:16.240 --> 0:09:18.880 And in my family, looks were actually thinking. My grandmother 0:09:19.000 --> 0:09:22.720 was stunning. We're just tall, blonde Cuban woman. My mom 0:09:22.840 --> 0:09:25.200 very attracting myself, So I was born into a family 0:09:25.200 --> 0:09:28.560 where appearances were important, and also my family treated me 0:09:28.679 --> 0:09:32.240 like you're so different. So you know, in that environment, 0:09:32.520 --> 0:09:36.280 I gave myself this second plan, and the second plan 0:09:36.840 --> 0:09:40.800 ended up being my greatest strength. And then later in 0:09:40.880 --> 0:09:43.760 life I gave myself the rest of it I gave 0:09:43.800 --> 0:09:47.200 myself that first plan whereas like you can be in front, 0:09:47.280 --> 0:09:50.480 you can be forward facing. So it was from that 0:09:50.640 --> 0:09:53.840 experience where right in the beginning, I was like, Okay, 0:09:54.080 --> 0:09:56.080 here we go, we're gonna do a thing. I'm gonna 0:09:56.080 --> 0:09:59.200 try this. I'm thinking this way and this culture of 0:09:59.760 --> 0:10:02.439 cre eating a life for myself, that was the thing. 0:10:02.480 --> 0:10:04.960 I was like, Oh, my life is not just going 0:10:05.000 --> 0:10:07.480 to be handed to me. I'm going to have to 0:10:07.520 --> 0:10:11.440 create a life for myself. And then also a little 0:10:11.480 --> 0:10:14.760 bit later, looking at my father and seeing how hard 0:10:14.800 --> 0:10:17.839 he was working and seeing, you know, he come over 0:10:17.920 --> 0:10:22.400 as a young immigrant at sixteen, I also was like, okay, 0:10:22.640 --> 0:10:24.360 and you know what, I can create a life that 0:10:24.400 --> 0:10:26.240 can take care of my family. So I sort of 0:10:26.520 --> 0:10:30.520 went into this mode of creation. That's how this narrative 0:10:30.559 --> 0:10:33.120 that you were looking at started then and was a 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:34.840 way of life for me. And that doesn't mean it 0:10:34.880 --> 0:10:37.120 was smooth. I had a lot of failure, but I 0:10:37.200 --> 0:10:40.040 kept saying that's all right, Okay, here we go, and 0:10:40.080 --> 0:10:40.920 then I would try again. 0:10:41.480 --> 0:10:42.920 You would just pick yourself up and pick it. 0:10:42.960 --> 0:10:44.360 Up, and I was like, let's try again. And it 0:10:44.440 --> 0:10:47.000 was a funny thing because I would wake up. Let's 0:10:47.000 --> 0:10:48.520 say something that didn't work out, and I wake up 0:10:48.559 --> 0:10:49.960 the next day and I'd be like, but you know, 0:10:50.040 --> 0:10:52.480 if I think if I did it differently, what if 0:10:52.520 --> 0:10:55.720 I did it this way, It's such a small little 0:10:55.720 --> 0:10:58.560 step every day that can change your life that point. 0:10:58.360 --> 0:11:01.760 Of view, Did you ever worry that mindset would isolate you, 0:11:02.000 --> 0:11:05.160 that that self belief, because sometimes at a young age, 0:11:05.360 --> 0:11:08.680 other girls don't take to that totally. 0:11:09.000 --> 0:11:11.560 I was a little bit isolated already. You know. I 0:11:11.559 --> 0:11:14.240 had one really close best friend and she was wonderful, 0:11:14.240 --> 0:11:17.160 incredibly creative, So I wasn't used to a lot. I 0:11:17.200 --> 0:11:19.680 was on the track team. I was a drum major, 0:11:20.160 --> 0:11:21.480 you know, I should say on the track team that 0:11:21.520 --> 0:11:23.920 had my peers there. So we were that huddle, that 0:11:24.120 --> 0:11:27.040 athlete of life. But I was used to already being 0:11:27.120 --> 0:11:31.040 so different that it wasn't unexpected for me to be like, oh, 0:11:31.120 --> 0:11:33.320 I'm kind of walking a path that maybe it's just 0:11:33.400 --> 0:11:35.480 me and someone else, or sometimes it's just me. 0:11:35.920 --> 0:11:41.240 And did your Cuban immigrant parents sort of display that 0:11:41.320 --> 0:11:43.000 work ethic, that relentlessness. 0:11:43.000 --> 0:11:45.240 I know you mentioned your dad, I'm curious about your mom. 0:11:45.320 --> 0:11:48.000 My mom too, she had a practicality of like Okay, 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:50.559 we're gonna get this done. We get the things done. 0:11:50.640 --> 0:11:53.080 It was a traditional household. My mom didn't work until 0:11:53.120 --> 0:11:56.120 after my younger brother was born. My dad had to 0:11:56.200 --> 0:11:58.480 leave Cuba before he finished his high school degree. They 0:11:58.520 --> 0:12:01.360 both got their degrees later. When they came here. They 0:12:01.360 --> 0:12:04.360 were very much about doing the right thing, expecting that 0:12:04.400 --> 0:12:06.640 we would go to college, expecting that we would take 0:12:06.679 --> 0:12:09.080 advantage of always what's in front of us. That was 0:12:09.160 --> 0:12:12.960 extremely important to them. And then for my dad, because 0:12:13.000 --> 0:12:16.400 I was such a unique mentality, we bonded in my 0:12:16.600 --> 0:12:20.560 capacity to work and work hard, and in that space 0:12:20.600 --> 0:12:22.880 he had great respect. It was rare to have a 0:12:22.920 --> 0:12:25.240 twelve year old riding her bike three miles away to 0:12:25.280 --> 0:12:27.640 a barn to clean an eight stall barn, to take 0:12:27.679 --> 0:12:30.079 out of that face. So right, he saw that and 0:12:30.120 --> 0:12:32.640 he could relate to that, and that was actually probably 0:12:32.640 --> 0:12:35.960 the undercurrents of a lot of our relationship where he 0:12:36.000 --> 0:12:37.680 knew he could count on me. 0:12:38.000 --> 0:12:39.480 And is he the one who told you to get 0:12:39.480 --> 0:12:41.640 that job at the barn or did you seek it out? 0:12:41.679 --> 0:12:44.000 So what happened is I really wanted a horse, and 0:12:44.080 --> 0:12:48.400 so my grandfather was so wonderful had purchased this horse 0:12:48.440 --> 0:12:50.920 for me. But it wasn't like, hey, okay, you're good. 0:12:50.960 --> 0:12:52.959 It was like, how are you going to keep this horse? 0:12:53.040 --> 0:12:54.840 So where we were able to keep this horse, this 0:12:54.880 --> 0:12:56.800 gentleman who ran the barn, and he was like, okay, 0:12:56.960 --> 0:12:58.839 we'll come in and work. You can clean the barn, 0:12:58.960 --> 0:13:01.800 clean the stalls the night, come in the weekends and 0:13:01.880 --> 0:13:04.880 yet free grain and hay and bored for your horse. 0:13:05.120 --> 0:13:07.480 So it was not questioned. It was just like, okay, 0:13:07.720 --> 0:13:10.480 absolutely I want this. I'm working for it for what 0:13:10.559 --> 0:13:13.360 I want. That, I would say underlies a lot of 0:13:13.400 --> 0:13:17.119 what my family culture was. You worked for what you received. 0:13:17.600 --> 0:13:19.920 There was never any expectation that you were going to 0:13:19.960 --> 0:13:21.920 receive something and if you didn't work for it. 0:13:22.280 --> 0:13:25.119 And in hindsight, do you feel like that was positive 0:13:25.480 --> 0:13:28.080 or was there also a piece of feeling like you 0:13:28.160 --> 0:13:31.280 received love from your dad from working hard? I think 0:13:31.320 --> 0:13:33.720 I receive a little love from my dad by taking 0:13:33.720 --> 0:13:35.400 care of myself, not needing things. 0:13:35.559 --> 0:13:38.480 I don't know. It definitely helped me in life. I 0:13:38.480 --> 0:13:41.280 will look back and be like trauma. 0:13:41.920 --> 0:13:44.839 So it was two things. It definitely set me up 0:13:44.920 --> 0:13:48.000 to believe that my value was in hard work, and 0:13:48.200 --> 0:13:52.679 hard work in excess is just a vanity. It's not strategic. 0:13:52.720 --> 0:13:55.520 But then on the flip side, it taught me I 0:13:55.520 --> 0:13:58.200 could do big things. I was driving this massive John 0:13:58.240 --> 0:14:00.960 Dear tractor with a mower in the front, and in 0:14:01.000 --> 0:14:03.640 the back of trailer there was a horse that got 0:14:03.760 --> 0:14:06.760 cut and blood is shooting out and I had to 0:14:06.960 --> 0:14:09.760 bring him down Tater Todd and wrap him up. And 0:14:10.000 --> 0:14:11.800 you know, I came home like I came from war, 0:14:11.840 --> 0:14:14.000 and my mom and dad were like, oh, what happened? 0:14:14.679 --> 0:14:17.319 I was on FaZe. So there was an aspect where 0:14:17.960 --> 0:14:20.480 even I knew it was big things. I knew when 0:14:20.520 --> 0:14:23.520 the barn looked spotless, I knew I was doing things 0:14:23.600 --> 0:14:27.040 that other people didn't do. And I realized I had 0:14:27.120 --> 0:14:30.040 a lot of capacity. That was an incredible gift to 0:14:30.120 --> 0:14:32.320 understand early on how much capacity I had. 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:35.840 So at thirteen, you decided you were going to create wealth? Yes, 0:14:36.400 --> 0:14:37.960 how did you think you were going to do it? 0:14:38.160 --> 0:14:40.000 Well, first of all, I had no idea. I was like, okay, 0:14:40.280 --> 0:14:41.960 just got to me rich can take care of my family. 0:14:42.000 --> 0:14:43.800 It was like a million dollars that was it gonna 0:14:43.800 --> 0:14:45.720 be a millionaire to take care of my family. But 0:14:45.840 --> 0:14:49.760 I had little inklings of business. But not understanding. I 0:14:49.760 --> 0:14:53.720 had no exposure to you know, traditional corporate America. My 0:14:53.800 --> 0:14:56.520 dad worked at an autobody shop sweeping the floors and 0:14:56.600 --> 0:14:59.640 then became the manager. But I had enough exposure, and 0:14:59.640 --> 0:15:02.760 I knew was going to college. That's all I had. Business. 0:15:02.920 --> 0:15:07.160 I'm going into business. And then by fifteen I was like, okay, 0:15:07.400 --> 0:15:12.200 international business, domestic and international. The world's very global. And 0:15:12.200 --> 0:15:16.360 then I was like, okay, marketing and finance together, and 0:15:16.440 --> 0:15:20.440 I was like, let me look at all the informational tools. 0:15:20.800 --> 0:15:22.920 At fifteen, I was like, okay, I'm going to gather 0:15:23.040 --> 0:15:24.920 that and let's see. Now there was a big gap 0:15:24.960 --> 0:15:27.400 between that and actually being successful. But I was like, okay, 0:15:27.520 --> 0:15:29.120 this is all I got in front of me. We're 0:15:29.120 --> 0:15:30.880 going in this direction, and my hope is that I 0:15:30.880 --> 0:15:32.640 would pick up more and pick up more. 0:15:32.840 --> 0:15:35.040 Well, you kept just putting one foot in front of 0:15:35.160 --> 0:15:38.360 the other. You started selling pants suits or skirt suits 0:15:38.440 --> 0:15:39.000 or pantsuit. 0:15:39.040 --> 0:15:43.040 I sold men's suits, so just for men, just for men. Yeah, 0:15:43.120 --> 0:15:43.760 that must. 0:15:43.600 --> 0:15:46.320 Have been an interesting experience. And what's your sales pitch 0:15:46.360 --> 0:15:46.640 to them? 0:15:46.680 --> 0:15:48.520 First of all, can you see like this sixteen year 0:15:48.520 --> 0:15:50.800 old girl? So I had gone from the barn, now 0:15:50.840 --> 0:15:52.520 I'm in high school and I'm the track and I'm 0:15:52.560 --> 0:15:55.320 a band, and you know, the Horsey phases moved out, 0:15:55.800 --> 0:15:58.200 but I was still working and I was very pleased 0:15:58.240 --> 0:16:01.120 with myself as very professional. Yeah, with a gentleman who 0:16:01.160 --> 0:16:04.280 owned it, showed me how to measure, how to tuck 0:16:04.360 --> 0:16:08.920 the pants, and like driving the tractor. I didn't think 0:16:09.000 --> 0:16:11.600 anything else of it other than just do the thing. 0:16:11.680 --> 0:16:13.680 And so I just did the thing, and that's what 0:16:13.720 --> 0:16:15.320 I would do. I did it all through high school. 0:16:15.520 --> 0:16:18.880 So you've had this ambitious, business minded streak from a 0:16:19.000 --> 0:16:21.560 very young age. But another through line of your life 0:16:21.600 --> 0:16:25.040 you've mentioned was athletics, and your parents thought that you 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:28.640 would have natural talent as a swimmer. Will you tell 0:16:28.720 --> 0:16:31.120 us what happened in that very first swim race. It's 0:16:31.160 --> 0:16:32.800 a really good story. 0:16:32.640 --> 0:16:34.840 You know that swim race. I've had quite a few 0:16:34.840 --> 0:16:37.080 moments where I'm like, wait, what's going on. But to 0:16:37.240 --> 0:16:40.440 be like, oh, your daughter is tall and lean, thus 0:16:40.440 --> 0:16:42.400 she's gonna be a great swimmer. Okay, there goes a 0:16:42.440 --> 0:16:44.480 little bit more into that. So they were like, you're 0:16:44.480 --> 0:16:46.160 gonna be a great swimmer. I'm like, okay, I like 0:16:46.200 --> 0:16:48.880 the water. So they put me in the Horseshoe Lake 0:16:49.280 --> 0:16:52.120 Swim Team Roxbury, New Jersey, and they came out to 0:16:52.120 --> 0:16:55.520 see my first meet. You know, they shot the gun. 0:16:56.240 --> 0:16:59.080 I'm dad in the waterhouse swim. It's so hard. I 0:16:59.200 --> 0:17:02.720 turned the corner, came back and I came in last, right, 0:17:02.760 --> 0:17:05.080 and I was like, oh, okay. But then I stepped 0:17:05.080 --> 0:17:07.080 out and my dad came up to me and he 0:17:07.160 --> 0:17:10.879 was like, Nanita, you came in last. And I was like, 0:17:11.640 --> 0:17:14.360 oh my god, I remember the dread. I was like, 0:17:14.960 --> 0:17:19.960 that's bad. He's like, Nanita, how came you call them last? Yeah? Sorry, 0:17:20.040 --> 0:17:22.800 Dad don't know. And so I'm not a kid going oh, 0:17:22.800 --> 0:17:24.919 I didn't know the stakes were high, but I was like, 0:17:25.480 --> 0:17:28.920 I didn't know that coming and last was like such 0:17:28.920 --> 0:17:32.120 a thing. And so my dad was embarrassed. And that's 0:17:32.119 --> 0:17:35.200 what I felt like. If my daughter came in last 0:17:35.280 --> 0:17:37.600 or didn't have success. We were always like, oh my gosh, 0:17:37.680 --> 0:17:39.639 all right, let's do this, let's work on that. But 0:17:40.119 --> 0:17:43.640 my dad's upbringing my parents upgreaming. It wasn't about oh, 0:17:43.680 --> 0:17:46.040 you know what, let's get you some extra practice. It 0:17:46.160 --> 0:17:49.280 was results. There wasn't a lot of education that would 0:17:49.320 --> 0:17:50.920 be like, you know, how we take care of kids. 0:17:50.920 --> 0:17:52.200 Now you want to be on the swim team, bread, 0:17:52.240 --> 0:17:54.480 We'll get you some practice, We'll get your coach. Don't 0:17:54.480 --> 0:17:57.240 worry about your time now. It was very black and white, 0:17:57.359 --> 0:17:58.960 and it did. It colored me. First of all. It 0:17:59.040 --> 0:18:03.200 was awful tombarrass him. That was awful and it still 0:18:03.240 --> 0:18:06.719 sets me. Isn't that funny? I understand that, yeah, especially 0:18:06.760 --> 0:18:10.440 with a father, But it did make me lock in 0:18:10.600 --> 0:18:13.520 and go, okay, I will prepare you know, so now 0:18:13.520 --> 0:18:16.560 you have the work hard ethics and then you have 0:18:16.680 --> 0:18:22.080 the preparation. And those two together they became weapons for me, 0:18:22.320 --> 0:18:26.000 like they became like maybe it didn't have balance until 0:18:26.040 --> 0:18:29.600 much later, but they sure did give me quite a bit. 0:18:29.800 --> 0:18:30.560 It was quite a lesson. 0:18:30.800 --> 0:18:33.600 I had a boyfriend one time say to me, it 0:18:33.600 --> 0:18:36.000 seems like you had a really good mix of trauma 0:18:36.040 --> 0:18:37.280 and love and yea child. 0:18:39.240 --> 0:18:41.359 Right, that's a good thing. It's so interesting. That's what 0:18:41.400 --> 0:18:44.080 our adult lives are for you look back at my 0:18:44.119 --> 0:18:46.119 mom had me when she was twenty one, so my 0:18:46.200 --> 0:18:49.440 dad is definitely under thirty at this point, maybe twenty seven, 0:18:49.520 --> 0:18:54.600 twenty eight. His kids coming from Cuba, his grandmother raised 0:18:54.680 --> 0:18:58.280 him like you can see all the gaps of understanding. 0:18:58.400 --> 0:19:01.399 You have two people who are kind of just victims 0:19:01.600 --> 0:19:04.560 of the information they have. I have kindness for all 0:19:04.600 --> 0:19:07.320 that I understand. My did an interview. He was talking 0:19:07.359 --> 0:19:09.399 in Spanish. She's like, I didn't know she was so 0:19:09.560 --> 0:19:12.760 fit to the day because ESPN had done a documentary 0:19:12.800 --> 0:19:15.000 and this story was in there. Yeah, I didn't know, 0:19:15.440 --> 0:19:19.000 but come on, she gave me last. He still owned it. 0:19:19.359 --> 0:19:20.840 He didn't own it. He was still like, she came 0:19:20.880 --> 0:19:21.359 in last. 0:19:21.600 --> 0:19:22.600 Correct me if I'm wrong. 0:19:22.600 --> 0:19:25.240 But what I got from him was like, you don't 0:19:25.280 --> 0:19:27.520 have to come in first, but you can't come in last. 0:19:27.560 --> 0:19:30.440 That was that was that's kind of but see that's 0:19:31.080 --> 0:19:35.480 harm Garcia senior in his eighties. That's not harm Garcia's dad. 0:19:35.680 --> 0:19:35.960 Fair. 0:19:36.160 --> 0:19:37.840 There was never that part of the conversation. 0:19:38.840 --> 0:19:54.720 Yeah, so you recently posted that one of the most 0:19:54.760 --> 0:19:57.240 formative roles you've ever played is a loser. 0:19:57.440 --> 0:19:59.640 Yes, the way I was shocked. 0:20:00.320 --> 0:20:03.919 You wrote that, I'm personally working on this even before 0:20:03.960 --> 0:20:05.880 our conversation here, and I was telling you I took 0:20:05.880 --> 0:20:09.000 an l and it was licking my wounds and it 0:20:09.119 --> 0:20:12.119 hurts talk to me about the losses that shaped you 0:20:12.160 --> 0:20:15.080 besides the swimming, because that obviously shaped you do you 0:20:15.200 --> 0:20:17.680 use any of those as a daily reminder for yourself. 0:20:17.920 --> 0:20:22.159 Absolutely, there's no big life without losses. So it's the 0:20:22.600 --> 0:20:26.320 agreement you make right for the big swings, for the 0:20:26.320 --> 0:20:30.199 big moments, you have to know that a big moment 0:20:30.640 --> 0:20:32.560 is going to have a big loss if it doesn't 0:20:32.560 --> 0:20:36.680 work out. There is that juxtaposition, but I mean from 0:20:37.040 --> 0:20:40.640 being in high school and being asked to the prom 0:20:40.800 --> 0:20:43.159 and then being unasked so they could ask someone else, 0:20:43.520 --> 0:20:45.560 and then arguing like, you can't actually do that, that's 0:20:45.600 --> 0:20:48.120 not very ethical. They did still go to the other president. 0:20:48.680 --> 0:20:52.560 I'm like, that's not right to whether it's being picked last, 0:20:52.960 --> 0:20:57.760 or is my first marriage, or big asks or even films. 0:20:58.080 --> 0:21:01.200 I mean, there is so much much loss. I'm really 0:21:01.280 --> 0:21:04.679 quite masterful. I have won so much because I have 0:21:04.840 --> 0:21:07.240 lost a lot. It wasn't like, oh yeah, I can 0:21:07.280 --> 0:21:09.560 see her. She's a winner. She's got great muscle, coordination 0:21:09.680 --> 0:21:12.879 of mind, she's got all those things. She's going for 0:21:12.960 --> 0:21:16.239 big things. Wooh that was ugly, and she's picking it up. 0:21:16.280 --> 0:21:18.320 And then she's like, okay, all right, that didn't work. 0:21:18.359 --> 0:21:21.439 That didn't work. Fixing it and going and fixing it 0:21:21.480 --> 0:21:25.639 and going the gift of having no entitlement means I 0:21:25.800 --> 0:21:29.399 had no easy wins, but that has given me so 0:21:29.520 --> 0:21:33.560 much strength. And then that means that regardless of what 0:21:33.600 --> 0:21:37.440 I'm choosing to do, there really is no difference. It's like, oh, 0:21:37.520 --> 0:21:40.000 that's hard and this is simple. They're both going to 0:21:40.080 --> 0:21:42.240 have the same pieces, which is I'm going to figure 0:21:42.240 --> 0:21:45.200 it out. I'm going to prepare myself as much as possible. 0:21:45.560 --> 0:21:47.160 I'm going to go for it, and if it doesn't 0:21:47.160 --> 0:21:49.200 work out, I'm going to go for it again until 0:21:49.240 --> 0:21:51.560 I get to the workout, till I get to where 0:21:51.600 --> 0:21:54.680 it is. So I think having that and having that 0:21:54.760 --> 0:21:59.320 be emotionally as frictionless as possible. So I've gotten better 0:21:59.359 --> 0:22:02.760 at that. Still, like the loss sucks someone, Yeah, I 0:22:02.840 --> 0:22:05.440 let myself twenty four to forty eight hours a little 0:22:05.480 --> 0:22:09.320 wallowing some laughter in it, but my mind can't help 0:22:09.359 --> 0:22:12.040 it saying, but you know what, that was really good. 0:22:12.040 --> 0:22:14.280 But that party and I start putting the pieces together. 0:22:14.320 --> 0:22:17.399 Yes, I really am moved by what you just said. 0:22:17.520 --> 0:22:19.480 I don't even know if you realize you said it, 0:22:19.480 --> 0:22:20.720 but you said I have won. 0:22:20.560 --> 0:22:23.359 So much because I have lost so much. Yes, that 0:22:23.520 --> 0:22:24.840 is a really cool statement. 0:22:26.040 --> 0:22:28.720 And you know what people who win they like to 0:22:28.800 --> 0:22:31.879 maybe not share that aspect of their life because I 0:22:31.920 --> 0:22:34.640 think it's supposed to be hidden, and also media wants 0:22:34.680 --> 0:22:36.800 you to be that winner. But if you ask someone 0:22:36.920 --> 0:22:41.240 to unpack their story, if they unpack their losses, you 0:22:41.280 --> 0:22:43.800 will get so much richness out of compare it to 0:22:43.880 --> 0:22:44.880 if they unpack their with. 0:22:45.119 --> 0:22:48.840 You mentioned that some of those were big asks. Yeah, 0:22:48.840 --> 0:22:50.240 what was your first big ass? 0:22:50.359 --> 0:22:52.680 And I would say one of my first big asks 0:22:53.280 --> 0:22:55.960 in the industry in Hollywood. One of my first big 0:22:56.000 --> 0:22:59.560 ass happened to be a show that I was working 0:22:59.600 --> 0:23:02.200 on and I had developed it and I had been 0:23:02.280 --> 0:23:04.639 deeply in it, and it was sort of a fifty 0:23:04.680 --> 0:23:07.679 to fifty partnership. And when it came time for like 0:23:07.720 --> 0:23:10.160 all right, you know we're setting up this person's role 0:23:10.200 --> 0:23:13.280 in your role, I was left out, I'm in the show? 0:23:13.400 --> 0:23:16.800 Aren't I in the show? And the other people were like, no, 0:23:17.119 --> 0:23:19.840 you're not in the show. The other individual who could 0:23:19.880 --> 0:23:21.399 have been like, oh, you're in the show would have 0:23:21.440 --> 0:23:23.359 been like boom, pull you up and given me in 0:23:23.400 --> 0:23:25.639 the show, was like, no, you're not in the show. 0:23:26.119 --> 0:23:29.080 I remember went front of one of the major studios. 0:23:29.160 --> 0:23:31.600 We were outside we hadn't walked in. I started crying 0:23:31.720 --> 0:23:34.119 because I had like put so much into the show, 0:23:34.320 --> 0:23:36.040 and I was like, how am I not? And the 0:23:36.080 --> 0:23:38.679 in fact, I was sideswiped that I wouldn't be in 0:23:38.720 --> 0:23:41.200 the show. And that was like my big ask, I'm 0:23:41.240 --> 0:23:43.439 going the show that I listened in the show and 0:23:43.480 --> 0:23:45.600 I didn't get put in the show. I still did 0:23:45.600 --> 0:23:47.520 the show. I produced it. I produced a shit out 0:23:47.560 --> 0:23:51.440 of that show. I did all the work. Boom. 0:23:51.440 --> 0:23:54.280 But yeah, that's like a childhood wound that it hit too. 0:23:54.400 --> 0:23:57.399 Yeah, it had the energy. Remember I told you there 0:23:57.440 --> 0:23:59.520 were a couple of moments where I'm shocked. It was 0:23:59.600 --> 0:24:03.240 like that where I was like, wait, what, oh that matters? 0:24:03.480 --> 0:24:06.440 What were the rules? I wasn't aware? And so yeah, 0:24:06.560 --> 0:24:07.960 that was a big swing. I got that. 0:24:08.440 --> 0:24:11.400 You took a big swing in college too. Yes, you 0:24:11.440 --> 0:24:13.760 went up and introduced to yourself to a guy at 0:24:13.760 --> 0:24:19.360 a bar. First of all, you said that you met 0:24:19.400 --> 0:24:21.960 him in the weight room, right, and you happened to 0:24:21.960 --> 0:24:24.200 have met your current husband in the gym. It seems 0:24:24.200 --> 0:24:29.680 to be going to the gym, daddy, where is he? 0:24:30.840 --> 0:24:33.200 So funny? Yeah, that is so funny. My husband and 0:24:33.240 --> 0:24:35.320 I talk about that all the time. Is your question 0:24:35.359 --> 0:24:36.359 where is he? No? 0:24:36.720 --> 0:24:39.399 Well, yeah, I wish you could answer that one, but no, 0:24:39.560 --> 0:24:42.760 My question for you is how did you have the 0:24:42.880 --> 0:24:46.680 kahones to go up? Did you give yourself a pep 0:24:46.720 --> 0:24:48.800 talk or did it seem totally natural to you to 0:24:48.960 --> 0:24:51.080 just go up and introduce yourself to a man. 0:24:51.160 --> 0:24:54.320 I didn't give myself a pep talk because I was 0:24:54.359 --> 0:24:56.840 on the Barsia team. He was on the Barsia team, 0:24:56.880 --> 0:24:59.520 another team. We were in the weight room all the time. 0:25:00.000 --> 0:25:03.399 I'm a senior, I know where I'm going, and I 0:25:03.400 --> 0:25:06.760 had been an athlete now at a university level, competing 0:25:06.800 --> 0:25:09.560 on as a varsita level, and University of Miami is 0:25:09.840 --> 0:25:13.320 incredible education and in addition, when you're an athlete, is 0:25:13.359 --> 0:25:14.800 an incredible culture. 0:25:14.440 --> 0:25:15.280 As an athlete. 0:25:15.359 --> 0:25:18.480 So for me at that point, I was super comfortable, 0:25:18.520 --> 0:25:21.880 and I was training strong as well as you know ooh, 0:25:21.920 --> 0:25:24.080 we trained so hard as crew teams, so I was 0:25:24.119 --> 0:25:26.840 able to do that. And I had been doing this 0:25:26.960 --> 0:25:30.720 executive business classes. I was supporting the executive education at 0:25:30.720 --> 0:25:32.760 the Dean's office at the school Business. So by my 0:25:33.119 --> 0:25:36.600 junior and senior year, I had all these exposure to CEOs. 0:25:36.880 --> 0:25:40.399 I was introducing myself. So I felt really like I 0:25:40.440 --> 0:25:43.359 had all these tools. Yeah, and so going up to 0:25:43.400 --> 0:25:46.400 talk to a football player, I was like, hey, by 0:25:46.440 --> 0:25:50.560 the way, so geeky. I was like, Hi, I'm Danny Garcia. 0:25:50.720 --> 0:25:53.240 I see it all time. And he's like, oh, Hi, 0:25:53.520 --> 0:25:55.479 nice to meet you. I see it all time too. 0:25:55.600 --> 0:25:58.199 He's like, what's your major? How's it going? International finance 0:25:58.200 --> 0:25:59.440 and marketing. He's like, what are you going to do 0:25:59.440 --> 0:26:00.920 when your graduate? I was going to work for American 0:26:00.920 --> 0:26:03.280 Express Latin America. I was just like so comfortable. And 0:26:03.359 --> 0:26:06.080 then he's like, oh great, and we were talking and 0:26:06.119 --> 0:26:09.159 he was like, do you have a phone? I was like, telephone. 0:26:10.040 --> 0:26:12.200 I do. It's like can I call you? I was 0:26:12.240 --> 0:26:14.800 like you can, And that's funny the beginning of thirty 0:26:14.840 --> 0:26:17.120 eight year friendship. But I was there with my team. 0:26:17.320 --> 0:26:19.520 The whole crew team was there. We were having a 0:26:19.520 --> 0:26:20.080 great time. 0:26:20.280 --> 0:26:22.760 I didn't feel like a big a was right in 0:26:22.840 --> 0:26:23.360 the room. 0:26:23.560 --> 0:26:25.320 And if it didn't work out, I was going back 0:26:25.359 --> 0:26:27.760 and I had other friends there from the football team. 0:26:27.840 --> 0:26:31.119 So God, is that athlete environment, that athlete community, you 0:26:31.160 --> 0:26:32.399 can do a lot of great things. 0:26:32.440 --> 0:26:35.280 So yeah, So that man ended up being Dayne the 0:26:35.359 --> 0:26:36.000 Rock Johnson. 0:26:36.080 --> 0:26:36.840 That's right now. 0:26:36.880 --> 0:26:39.879 I can imagine you tell him at that bar, you 0:26:39.920 --> 0:26:41.800 know exactly what you're going to do when you graduate, 0:26:41.960 --> 0:26:43.080 and you're so confident. 0:26:43.680 --> 0:26:46.600 That has to be so infectious for him. 0:26:47.040 --> 0:26:48.800 I think it was. He speaks about it that it 0:26:48.840 --> 0:26:51.960 was a defining moment. I think he had plans afterwards 0:26:52.080 --> 0:26:56.120 to do other things, and he canceled his plans actually 0:26:56.160 --> 0:26:59.600 after that moment. And he had not met someone like 0:26:59.680 --> 0:27:02.159 me before. He was like, so straight and this is 0:27:02.200 --> 0:27:04.800 what I'm going to do. Well, he's young, so let's 0:27:04.800 --> 0:27:07.080 see what everyone's responding to. But he always speaks to 0:27:07.600 --> 0:27:10.920 my agency, my little college agency that I had. 0:27:11.320 --> 0:27:13.920 Do you feel like at that time he had big 0:27:14.000 --> 0:27:17.960 dreams or do you feel like your agency your big 0:27:18.040 --> 0:27:20.280 dreams sort of inspired that in him. 0:27:20.480 --> 0:27:23.800 Oh. DJ has always been a full, complete human, like 0:27:23.960 --> 0:27:27.399 you know, a very special individual. Even in the weight room. 0:27:27.840 --> 0:27:30.200 I remember seeing him and at that time we had 0:27:30.240 --> 0:27:34.200 incredible athletes on the University of Miami. Yeah, that was high. 0:27:34.240 --> 0:27:37.000 It was an incredible time. But he had so much 0:27:37.119 --> 0:27:40.399 of an it so he had high expectations for what 0:27:40.480 --> 0:27:42.240 he was going to do in football and he was 0:27:42.320 --> 0:27:45.600 just starting that process. He was a young individual. I 0:27:45.720 --> 0:27:48.480 was young. I think he was nineteen eighteen when I 0:27:48.520 --> 0:27:50.920 met him, So I was a matter of an eighteen 0:27:51.000 --> 0:27:53.760 year old who saw his sort of University of Miami 0:27:53.800 --> 0:27:56.639 career ahead of him and then his potentially NFL career 0:27:56.640 --> 0:27:59.280 ahead of him. So he had a great personality. So 0:27:59.320 --> 0:28:00.840 he had out a lot going firm. I don't know 0:28:00.880 --> 0:28:04.560 that he at that moment was thinking massive global enterprise 0:28:04.720 --> 0:28:07.640 would be built. I was thinking I'm going to build 0:28:07.640 --> 0:28:10.160 a massible lunch right in my head. But I think 0:28:10.200 --> 0:28:11.840 he could see what was just in front of him, 0:28:11.840 --> 0:28:12.680 which was pretty big. 0:28:12.920 --> 0:28:14.800 And you did exactly what you said you were going 0:28:14.840 --> 0:28:17.920 to do. You started working at Merrill Lynch, and while 0:28:17.920 --> 0:28:20.520 you're there, you do the very danny thing of doing 0:28:20.600 --> 0:28:25.120 the most right and you develop your own management firm. 0:28:25.240 --> 0:28:27.880 Right. I don't Merrill Lynch to start my own wealth 0:28:27.920 --> 0:28:28.640 management firm. 0:28:28.920 --> 0:28:30.400 Oh, I thought it was simultaneously. 0:28:30.640 --> 0:28:30.720 No. 0:28:30.920 --> 0:28:33.360 So once I okay, yeah, TELL married and I had 0:28:33.400 --> 0:28:37.199 my daughter, I was like, I need more flexibility, and 0:28:37.280 --> 0:28:39.800 so in the Merrill Lynch you know, which is pretty 0:28:39.920 --> 0:28:42.719 specific and structured, then I left to begin my own 0:28:42.800 --> 0:28:45.120 wealth management firm. But I do want to point out 0:28:45.160 --> 0:28:48.880 something Merrill Lynch was very similar to me thirteen, being 0:28:48.920 --> 0:28:52.120 like okay business international finance. Mary Lynch was like, okay, 0:28:52.520 --> 0:28:55.120 I'm going to learn so much here. Let's go and 0:28:55.160 --> 0:28:57.479 gather all this information and see what I can learn 0:28:57.520 --> 0:29:00.880 about the financial market. Merrill Lynch, Oh, what an education. 0:29:01.000 --> 0:29:03.200 How to speak to people, how to do financial planning, 0:29:03.280 --> 0:29:06.239 how to organize your thoughts. They groomed and raised me. 0:29:06.320 --> 0:29:07.080 They did a lot for me. 0:29:07.560 --> 0:29:11.320 And that's when you decided, after you started your own 0:29:11.400 --> 0:29:12.400 firm that you were going. 0:29:12.400 --> 0:29:14.080 To part time start managing. 0:29:14.520 --> 0:29:17.440 So his career once I left Merlin to start JDM, 0:29:18.000 --> 0:29:21.360 I was always involved in his career. So I was 0:29:21.400 --> 0:29:23.880 handling the finances of the household. I was handling all 0:29:23.880 --> 0:29:26.480 the professional aspects of the household. 0:29:26.720 --> 0:29:28.080 That's a lot of responsibility. 0:29:28.160 --> 0:29:29.840 It was a lot of responsible and there is that 0:29:29.880 --> 0:29:32.640 work thing again, no boundaries, and so I was involved 0:29:32.680 --> 0:29:34.760 just naturally. He always invited me into it and I 0:29:34.800 --> 0:29:36.760 had an opinion. I mean when he was playing football, 0:29:37.160 --> 0:29:40.560 I was watching film and talking to him about performance 0:29:40.600 --> 0:29:42.560 and how the plays were developing. So that sort of 0:29:42.960 --> 0:29:47.120 input in that collaboration aspect was always a part of 0:29:47.160 --> 0:29:51.320 what we were doing. It wasn't later on as our 0:29:51.400 --> 0:29:54.640 relationship transition from being married to not being married. In 0:29:54.680 --> 0:29:57.040 that year while we were going through our divorce that 0:29:57.160 --> 0:30:00.920 DJ asked me that takeover his career fully, architect his career. 0:30:01.280 --> 0:30:02.640 That is very interesting. 0:30:02.800 --> 0:30:07.680 So while you were getting divorced, yes, he said, uh uh. 0:30:07.520 --> 0:30:10.520 He said, what do you mind continue to manage and 0:30:10.560 --> 0:30:12.520 build out my career an architect of my career. And 0:30:12.520 --> 0:30:15.000 I was like, absolutely, I had already been so invested. 0:30:15.040 --> 0:30:17.000 There was a lot. I was a partner with him 0:30:17.040 --> 0:30:19.360 with all these aspects, and I enjoyed it so much. 0:30:20.200 --> 0:30:22.880 Friendship underneath that. So yeah, So he asked. 0:30:22.640 --> 0:30:24.560 Me too, and I said, okay, was there a learning 0:30:24.600 --> 0:30:25.120 curve at all? 0:30:25.520 --> 0:30:27.600 Oh? There was two things. Being in that position of 0:30:27.720 --> 0:30:32.280 leadership natural for me, learning and becoming accustomed to the 0:30:32.320 --> 0:30:36.040 intricacies of Hollywood learning curve, Yes, that was, and then 0:30:36.120 --> 0:30:40.080 also getting Hollywood used to Danny Garcia, that was a 0:30:40.080 --> 0:30:41.520 big learning curve for Hollywood. 0:30:41.600 --> 0:30:43.600 That's a big part of what I want to jump into. 0:30:44.240 --> 0:30:47.840 But most people are told, don't work with your family, right, 0:30:47.880 --> 0:30:51.640 don't mix finances and family, don't mix friends and finances. 0:30:52.240 --> 0:30:54.959 You actually have love all around you. You built an 0:30:55.000 --> 0:30:58.000 empire with your brother, your ex husband, your current. 0:30:57.840 --> 0:30:58.880 Husband is in the mix. 0:30:59.000 --> 0:30:59.920 Yeah. Absolutely. 0:31:00.120 --> 0:31:03.840 What do people get wrong about blending family and ambition? 0:31:04.160 --> 0:31:06.040 Oh, I don't know. Maybe I can say what I 0:31:06.040 --> 0:31:08.360 think I got right. I think what we got right 0:31:08.720 --> 0:31:11.920 is the culture that everyone works very hard in the organization. 0:31:12.240 --> 0:31:14.880 So there is an aspect of that, and there's an 0:31:15.000 --> 0:31:19.440 aspect of family, especially as you know, in the entertainment industry, 0:31:19.480 --> 0:31:23.160 it's so so challenging, and we came so much from 0:31:23.160 --> 0:31:27.640 the outside into this industry, right, there's nothing traditional from Dwayne, 0:31:28.040 --> 0:31:31.920 coming from wrestling myself on the business side, there was 0:31:31.960 --> 0:31:35.200 an aspect that I believe the intangible of who we 0:31:35.200 --> 0:31:39.640 were together would be more important than having an outsider 0:31:39.720 --> 0:31:43.560 come in and try and understand us. No one looked 0:31:43.600 --> 0:31:46.520 like us, no one had the background like us, but 0:31:46.680 --> 0:31:50.840 what was formulaic was how Hollywood works. So the hard 0:31:50.920 --> 0:31:53.760 part is the culture of who we are. So if 0:31:53.800 --> 0:31:56.560 I have the right family members around me, and I 0:31:56.600 --> 0:31:58.840 don't have all my family members, but I have the 0:31:58.880 --> 0:32:01.040 family members whore really excit I did to be around me. 0:32:01.280 --> 0:32:05.640 Working together, we could do special things, we could create 0:32:05.920 --> 0:32:08.760 a special things. And so that's what I think we've 0:32:08.760 --> 0:32:13.360 done really well and we also invest in our minds 0:32:13.360 --> 0:32:17.120 and our professionalism and how we're growing. But that history, 0:32:17.120 --> 0:32:19.200 I mean, there was a time at the University of Miami. 0:32:19.840 --> 0:32:23.560 I was there, Dwayne was there. Him was there. Him 0:32:23.640 --> 0:32:26.120 was on the field as the drum major. Dwayne was 0:32:26.120 --> 0:32:30.600 playing football. I was just graduating or have graduated. I 0:32:30.640 --> 0:32:33.200 mean that shared history, and then we all have that 0:32:33.240 --> 0:32:37.959 same ambition together. It's an anchor. The Hollywood aspect of 0:32:38.000 --> 0:32:41.760 our industry will spiral you off right, will have you 0:32:41.840 --> 0:32:44.479 lose your footing, and our footing I think really sacred. 0:32:44.800 --> 0:32:47.080 There's another element of this, and I don't know how 0:32:47.080 --> 0:32:50.120 to perfectly word it. I was in a long term 0:32:50.200 --> 0:32:54.960 relationship with somebody and our work overlapped a lot, and 0:32:56.320 --> 0:33:00.480 I understand so deeply being able to put us oute 0:33:00.680 --> 0:33:03.840 the relationship for the sake of a goal. Because there's 0:33:03.880 --> 0:33:07.320 almost this vocabulary you have right like you guys speak 0:33:07.360 --> 0:33:09.200 the same language. You have all these stories that you 0:33:09.200 --> 0:33:12.440 can bring up in meetings that nobody else knows true. 0:33:12.640 --> 0:33:15.840 But there's this other aspect that you have to be 0:33:15.880 --> 0:33:19.360 able to compartmentalize right and do what needs to be 0:33:19.480 --> 0:33:23.280 done over feeling any of your feelings or dealing. 0:33:23.000 --> 0:33:26.200 With anything absolutely, especially when you work with your ex. 0:33:26.480 --> 0:33:28.160 Also, I think it's different for men and women. 0:33:28.400 --> 0:33:30.600 Yes, as a woman, and even though I know you're 0:33:30.640 --> 0:33:33.720 so tough, you have a soft side. Oh yes, how 0:33:33.720 --> 0:33:36.400 did you work that out? How did you do what needs. 0:33:36.200 --> 0:33:40.920 To be done? We both committed to be different people 0:33:41.200 --> 0:33:43.200 than who we were in the marriage. We had the 0:33:43.240 --> 0:33:47.320 aspiration and this appetite to build and do great things, 0:33:47.640 --> 0:33:50.880 but there was the honesty of like, we can't do 0:33:51.040 --> 0:33:53.680 that if we are the same people. So if you 0:33:53.720 --> 0:33:57.600 were to look back now this Danny versus Danny of 0:33:57.680 --> 0:34:01.240 two thousand and six, this is a completely different human 0:34:01.280 --> 0:34:04.479 being and Duyanne is a completely different human being. So 0:34:04.600 --> 0:34:07.440 that commitment, it has to go hand in hand. If 0:34:07.440 --> 0:34:09.960 you're casual and like, oh no, but we care for 0:34:10.000 --> 0:34:12.880 each other, we love each other, we're friends, that is 0:34:13.000 --> 0:34:15.400 just frosting. That is not going to cover it. You 0:34:15.560 --> 0:34:18.320 really do have to say, okay, am I going to 0:34:18.400 --> 0:34:22.560 dig the truth? Our marriage failed together there was room 0:34:22.800 --> 0:34:25.520 for both of us inside to be like, Okay, I 0:34:25.560 --> 0:34:27.200 want to be a different person. He wants to be 0:34:27.200 --> 0:34:30.560 a different person. So that was a benefit all of 0:34:30.560 --> 0:34:33.560 a sudden. Then you have history. So history is great, 0:34:33.880 --> 0:34:37.880 but history without trust of the human being is just history. 0:34:38.160 --> 0:34:40.960 But when you have trust of the human being and history, 0:34:41.080 --> 0:34:44.360 then you have a very powerful combination. But that becomes 0:34:44.360 --> 0:34:48.319 an agreement, right, that becomes work. And for me, as 0:34:48.360 --> 0:34:51.239 I talked about every other aspect, there was no way 0:34:51.239 --> 0:34:54.759 to be successful in a new relationship unless I had 0:34:54.880 --> 0:34:58.120 unpacked and changed everything historically that I had done in 0:34:58.160 --> 0:35:02.000 my previous relationship. So I was benefiting myself all the 0:35:02.000 --> 0:35:03.839 way around. It was like, Okay, I'm going to do this, 0:35:04.080 --> 0:35:06.239 but actually it's going to color my entire life and 0:35:06.280 --> 0:35:08.479 just put me in a better position. And Doane felt 0:35:08.520 --> 0:35:12.719 the same way. And then our spouses support that, know 0:35:12.840 --> 0:35:15.600 that and support that, and know that they're in their lanes. 0:35:16.160 --> 0:35:17.920 They can see us together and be like, look at 0:35:17.960 --> 0:35:21.640 those two friends, but there's nothing in our interactions that 0:35:22.080 --> 0:35:24.879 speak to who we were eighteen years ago. 0:35:25.120 --> 0:35:27.800 And you trusted, because you trusted yourself that you would 0:35:27.880 --> 0:35:30.560 make the effort to change, and you trusted that he 0:35:30.600 --> 0:35:31.480 would make the effort. 0:35:31.680 --> 0:35:33.560 Yes, I didn't have to trust because he was like, 0:35:33.680 --> 0:35:36.480 I'm making this effort. He was doing it. But it 0:35:36.680 --> 0:35:39.000 was where I was like, and if it doesn't, I 0:35:39.040 --> 0:35:41.200 think I can handle this all like I made the 0:35:41.320 --> 0:35:43.960 big bet on me. That's why I laughed when we 0:35:43.960 --> 0:35:46.520 were at our meeting with divorce attorneys where they were like, 0:35:46.560 --> 0:35:48.880 what you did it by yourself because I took nothing. 0:35:49.080 --> 0:35:51.960 I just took my last name. And then DJ and 0:35:52.000 --> 0:35:54.960 I agreed that we would cover our daughter's expenses equally. 0:35:55.480 --> 0:35:58.200 That was it. Wow, that was it. So the bet 0:35:58.440 --> 0:36:02.640 was huge. Freedom was everything. And I have bet on 0:36:02.719 --> 0:36:05.839 myself many times like that, but the payoff has been 0:36:06.400 --> 0:36:09.000 I sit here today is that woman. I would never 0:36:09.080 --> 0:36:09.799 have changed it. 0:36:09.920 --> 0:36:12.200 Can I ask you something without getting to in your business? 0:36:12.520 --> 0:36:15.400 You in my business? I invite you? 0:36:15.800 --> 0:36:17.560 Yeah, go ahead, thank you for that. Yeah. 0:36:17.640 --> 0:36:23.000 So if you trust that there's this evolution, why not 0:36:23.320 --> 0:36:23.759 try and. 0:36:23.719 --> 0:36:24.920 Make the marriage work. 0:36:25.160 --> 0:36:26.640 It's actually an excellent okay. 0:36:26.680 --> 0:36:27.759 I didn't want to press. 0:36:27.520 --> 0:36:30.040 It, so it's really important. By the time DJ and 0:36:30.080 --> 0:36:34.319 I had gotten divorced, it was clear we weren't meant 0:36:34.320 --> 0:36:37.879 to be that way. But the love and the friendship, 0:36:38.040 --> 0:36:40.800 so I think if it had been like I'm not talking, 0:36:40.920 --> 0:36:43.440 then you'd be like ooh. But the love in the 0:36:43.560 --> 0:36:49.960 friendship made the transition feel more melancholy and like oh appropriate, 0:36:50.040 --> 0:36:52.880 like it's okay. I'm going to make sure you're okay, 0:36:53.400 --> 0:36:55.040 and he's like, I'm going to make sure you're okay. 0:36:55.239 --> 0:36:58.160 We're going to make sure our daughter's okay. So it 0:36:58.280 --> 0:37:02.439 gave permission for that trans position to happen smoothly, which 0:37:02.520 --> 0:37:04.640 was a great thing. I think that's the gift of 0:37:04.680 --> 0:37:07.800 how we transitioned out of our relationship. It was clear 0:37:07.840 --> 0:37:08.319 we were like. 0:37:08.480 --> 0:37:11.640 I see he's starting to talk about it a little 0:37:11.680 --> 0:37:14.600 bit more, and he recently said he was really going 0:37:14.600 --> 0:37:15.800 through it during your divorce. 0:37:16.040 --> 0:37:18.400 Yes, what were you going through? 0:37:18.600 --> 0:37:22.040 Same thing a little bit different though, actually I believe 0:37:22.040 --> 0:37:24.400 he spoke about being depressed. I went right into my 0:37:24.520 --> 0:37:27.839 tri mode, took the big l what am I unpacking? 0:37:27.920 --> 0:37:30.960 What am I learning? And if you also remember or 0:37:31.040 --> 0:37:32.680 you may not remember, but I was still in that 0:37:32.880 --> 0:37:36.480 architecture space, so like guided the divorce, guided how the 0:37:36.520 --> 0:37:40.920 documents were looking over smowe, how is the household running, 0:37:40.960 --> 0:37:43.120 what is happening with the finances. So there was a 0:37:43.120 --> 0:37:46.080 lot to keep my plate busy. And at the same time, 0:37:46.239 --> 0:37:49.400 I was working with an individual who has become my 0:37:49.480 --> 0:37:53.319 soul sister and my best friend, moving myself forward through 0:37:53.320 --> 0:37:55.640 my belief system. So I had started doing that. So 0:37:55.960 --> 0:37:58.080 it was a little easier for me because I was 0:37:58.120 --> 0:38:00.200 like okay, and every week I'd be like, oh wait, 0:38:00.600 --> 0:38:03.680 all right, yeah, I cleared that I understand that belief system. 0:38:03.680 --> 0:38:05.719 All right. I took care of that what's next, and 0:38:05.760 --> 0:38:07.560 that helped me to just move forward. 0:38:07.719 --> 0:38:11.480 Do you look back on that time and think like, man, 0:38:11.560 --> 0:38:13.880 Danny really had a lot on her shoulders or do 0:38:13.920 --> 0:38:15.600 you look back with pride? 0:38:16.040 --> 0:38:17.960 First of all, I love the narratives that come out, 0:38:17.960 --> 0:38:19.680 because you know it was still a mess, right, you 0:38:19.680 --> 0:38:22.799 know there were nights that you were like cry, oh yeah. 0:38:23.000 --> 0:38:25.360 But I look back at that time and it reminds 0:38:25.440 --> 0:38:28.800 me that I can still trust myself because I still 0:38:28.840 --> 0:38:31.120 wake up every day and be like, okay, what are 0:38:31.160 --> 0:38:31.600 we gonna do. 0:38:31.880 --> 0:38:34.360 Part of me felt like when I was putting the 0:38:34.360 --> 0:38:37.719 pieces back in hindsight, that struggle was preparing you for 0:38:37.800 --> 0:38:38.600 what was next. 0:38:39.000 --> 0:38:42.759 I think that's right. I love that observation. That struggle, 0:38:43.239 --> 0:38:49.000 which was an emotional struggle, it also shaped standards inside 0:38:49.040 --> 0:38:52.839 of me, like expectations. You know, what I want in 0:38:52.840 --> 0:38:56.799 my life, how I want things to feel. It was 0:38:57.080 --> 0:39:00.400 some of my greatest work was during that period. I 0:39:00.440 --> 0:39:02.959 would say, really it started in two thousand and six 0:39:03.360 --> 0:39:06.319 up into twenty ten, when I met my husband, who 0:39:06.320 --> 0:39:08.359 would be my boyfriend at that time, it was who 0:39:09.400 --> 0:39:11.120 my DNA was transformed. 0:39:12.080 --> 0:39:29.040 Yeah, so you start taking meetings to level up his career. Yes, 0:39:29.360 --> 0:39:31.759 And I read that in those meetings, Dwayne would pitch 0:39:31.800 --> 0:39:34.520 an idea and then he'd leave the room and quite 0:39:34.600 --> 0:39:37.800 literally pass the ball to you. If we're talking athletic terms. 0:39:38.160 --> 0:39:40.920 What were those early boardroom conversations like. 0:39:41.040 --> 0:39:44.000 And what went well? What went wrong? Like can you 0:39:44.040 --> 0:39:45.160 paint a picture for me? 0:39:45.320 --> 0:39:47.120 I think would later on he'd be like, you got this, 0:39:47.360 --> 0:39:50.279 But actually we took so many meetings together, you know, 0:39:50.360 --> 0:39:53.919 and at that time sort of his profile was who 0:39:53.960 --> 0:39:58.440 is this incredibly massive man, popular wrestler, and you know 0:39:58.480 --> 0:40:00.919 what's going on here? So he would start the meeting 0:40:01.080 --> 0:40:04.840 and then I would start talking and then people are like, okay, who'shit? 0:40:05.239 --> 0:40:08.600 Oh wait, she said, next wife. You couldn't hold anyone's attention, 0:40:08.800 --> 0:40:11.480 And in fact, I started telling my agents please prepare 0:40:11.520 --> 0:40:14.719 everyone that I am his ex wife and I'm managing him. 0:40:14.760 --> 0:40:17.520 We're working together, you know, make sure just talk to 0:40:17.560 --> 0:40:19.759 them a few times, because it would become this thing 0:40:19.800 --> 0:40:21.960 where we would lose them for the first five to 0:40:22.000 --> 0:40:25.600 ten minutes until I was speaking enough, and then I 0:40:25.600 --> 0:40:27.759 started talking about, Okay, well let's look at this film. 0:40:27.800 --> 0:40:30.440 What's the return on investment? You know, what's the scope? 0:40:30.480 --> 0:40:32.360 Well here so sou well, this is what we're thinking. 0:40:32.880 --> 0:40:37.040 And as you began to get deeply into the conversations, 0:40:37.200 --> 0:40:40.440 then the executives on the other side were hearing a 0:40:40.480 --> 0:40:43.680 conversation that was one hundred percent beneficial to them and 0:40:43.719 --> 0:40:46.879 they had not heard before. So I think it took 0:40:46.960 --> 0:40:50.040 like years literally for people to understand. 0:40:50.080 --> 0:40:52.359 Did you feel like you weren't being taken seriously? Were 0:40:52.360 --> 0:40:53.120 you frustrated? 0:40:53.239 --> 0:40:57.520 I wasn't frustrated, because when you speak value, it eventually clicks. 0:40:57.600 --> 0:40:59.520 It was just a matter of like, keep talking, they're 0:40:59.520 --> 0:41:01.879 almost done. This guy's almost don He's right now thinking 0:41:01.880 --> 0:41:03.560 about how much he hates his ex wife? How was 0:41:03.560 --> 0:41:05.720 this woman here? And then soon I'd be like coick, 0:41:05.840 --> 0:41:07.440 and then I'd see the click and they'd be like, oh, 0:41:07.480 --> 0:41:09.239 so wait, what you're saying is this is this? I'm 0:41:09.280 --> 0:41:11.680 like that, and then we would get there. So yeah, 0:41:11.760 --> 0:41:14.600 I learned patients, but at the same time, I was like, 0:41:14.640 --> 0:41:16.600 oh my god, look at these rooms. I was in 0:41:16.680 --> 0:41:19.719 new spaces, and it was really fun. And it's not 0:41:19.840 --> 0:41:22.440 like I expected to be treated in one way or 0:41:22.480 --> 0:41:24.520 the other. I had never been in those rooms before, 0:41:24.560 --> 0:41:27.440 but I could understand human nature and as Duyne and I, 0:41:27.600 --> 0:41:29.759 especially in these first number of years, I would sort 0:41:29.800 --> 0:41:33.359 of begin to drop some philosophical concepts as far as 0:41:33.560 --> 0:41:35.919 whether it's social media and how it's Dane showing up. 0:41:36.400 --> 0:41:38.480 The room would get quiet, it would stop, and I 0:41:38.480 --> 0:41:40.960 would just to bet and then Duane would be like, yes, 0:41:41.160 --> 0:41:45.279 so isn't that incredible And they'd be like yes, She's 0:41:45.320 --> 0:41:47.080 like you would have to come and do this second 0:41:47.160 --> 0:41:51.040 be to get people to be like, move your brain forward, 0:41:51.120 --> 0:41:52.120 catch it, think. 0:41:51.960 --> 0:41:52.600 Think, think. 0:41:53.040 --> 0:41:55.440 So he missed such a great partner, but it did 0:41:55.520 --> 0:41:58.280 to hate Hollywood a little bit of time. It's so funny. 0:41:58.320 --> 0:42:02.240 We've always had this narrative of Hollywood making room for Duayne. 0:42:02.280 --> 0:42:04.440 It's later on in life that we've all began to 0:42:04.520 --> 0:42:06.560 understand that Hollywood had to make a lot of room 0:42:06.600 --> 0:42:08.759 for me as well. And I appreciate that. 0:42:09.040 --> 0:42:13.480 Well, you made it undeniable and that's exhausting on your end, 0:42:13.600 --> 0:42:15.640 and I know you're so gracious and humble that you 0:42:15.680 --> 0:42:18.600 wouldn't say it, but I deal with stuff on such 0:42:18.600 --> 0:42:21.680 a small scale compared to you, and the amount of 0:42:21.800 --> 0:42:27.360 tears and frustration, and can you believe behind the scenes 0:42:27.360 --> 0:42:30.520 to my girlfriends, I can't imagine how you were feeling, 0:42:30.600 --> 0:42:34.560 like all these men not getting what you saw so 0:42:34.760 --> 0:42:37.719 clearly because you guys architected this. I mean you did 0:42:37.760 --> 0:42:40.759 it with Henry Cavell right after Dwayne, so like you 0:42:40.880 --> 0:42:44.600 proved that this sort of new era, new age your 0:42:44.680 --> 0:42:48.160 idea worked. Yeah, and you proved it once again. It 0:42:48.239 --> 0:42:51.040 seems like you must have dealt with a lot. 0:42:51.320 --> 0:42:53.840 I dealt with a number of things, right, I dealt 0:42:53.880 --> 0:42:57.719 with a lot of my ideas being taken and spoken 0:42:58.000 --> 0:43:02.320 by other people. That was probably most frustrating that I 0:43:02.360 --> 0:43:06.200 would see my strategies and I used to say, my 0:43:07.040 --> 0:43:10.319 thoughts are goal right, my words are my currency, and 0:43:10.360 --> 0:43:13.239 people were stealing my currency, which is a sign of like, 0:43:13.360 --> 0:43:15.560 what is it? The imitation is the highest form of flattery, 0:43:16.040 --> 0:43:17.840 I guess, so it was plagiarism. But I had people 0:43:17.840 --> 0:43:20.439 who were speaking all the knowledge I would drop, Yeah, 0:43:20.600 --> 0:43:22.839 but the thing that they weren't doing is they were 0:43:22.880 --> 0:43:26.160 never bringing it back to me. So I would then 0:43:26.520 --> 0:43:29.200 end up. Let's say going into an agency and people like, oh, wait, 0:43:29.239 --> 0:43:30.960 what do you do? And I was like, I know that. 0:43:31.000 --> 0:43:33.680 You guys just had a meeting and you literally heard 0:43:33.680 --> 0:43:38.560 all my strategy, So that I found to be really frustrating. 0:43:39.080 --> 0:43:41.960 At the same time, we were experiencing a success that 0:43:42.000 --> 0:43:44.600 I had never seen before. So there was and me 0:43:44.880 --> 0:43:48.200 this idea and hope that maybe my time is coming. 0:43:48.640 --> 0:43:52.120 It's such a different thing to be developing, for example, 0:43:52.120 --> 0:43:56.800 the idea of human IP and building an entire corporate 0:43:56.800 --> 0:43:58.960 ecosystem around them. We got to be the first. We 0:43:59.120 --> 0:44:02.400 changed the entire industry, and the Kardashians came after us. 0:44:02.440 --> 0:44:06.680 Everyone came after us, and any major entertainment actor is 0:44:06.760 --> 0:44:09.239 looking at this model. And I get the satisfaction of 0:44:09.320 --> 0:44:12.319 knowing I was that first case study the personal I 0:44:12.320 --> 0:44:15.919 don't know if everyone knows that, but I get my satisfaction. 0:44:16.480 --> 0:44:20.000 So I think if the success wasn't as big, then 0:44:20.160 --> 0:44:23.600 maybe trying to handle the pain would have been a lot. 0:44:23.680 --> 0:44:28.200 But it was this incredible success and this belief that 0:44:28.600 --> 0:44:32.400 my time will come. And then a number of years 0:44:32.440 --> 0:44:35.439 ago I realized my time is never going to come. 0:44:35.800 --> 0:44:36.759 WHA tell me about that? 0:44:37.080 --> 0:44:40.400 So I had a moment where I realized the individuals 0:44:40.520 --> 0:44:42.160 or the people who I thought were like, Okay, now 0:44:42.200 --> 0:44:45.719 it's your turn. The systems weren't ever built for that 0:44:45.760 --> 0:44:49.680 moment to happen. If that happened, it would literally detract 0:44:50.239 --> 0:44:55.399 from team members. And so I had this incredible heartbreaking 0:44:55.480 --> 0:44:58.160 moment where I was like, oh my god, I had 0:44:58.280 --> 0:45:02.879 built all this and this under lying hope that my architecture, 0:45:03.239 --> 0:45:07.359 my strategy, my philosophy the world would know, was never 0:45:07.440 --> 0:45:10.839 going to happen. I called that my third death, and 0:45:11.040 --> 0:45:14.960 in that came the ideas of, Okay, are you ready 0:45:15.000 --> 0:45:17.839 now to be in front of the camera. You have 0:45:17.960 --> 0:45:21.440 to be your own voice, and in your own voice, 0:45:21.760 --> 0:45:24.880 you will not take from anything that you've built. Hollywood 0:45:24.920 --> 0:45:27.480 is about if I get power, I'm taking it from you. 0:45:28.080 --> 0:45:31.800 I needed to create a system where influence and power 0:45:31.800 --> 0:45:35.359 could be created, but it didn't detract from anything that 0:45:35.400 --> 0:45:39.280 I had built. And that was a whole new mindset 0:45:39.400 --> 0:45:40.040 that came out. 0:45:40.160 --> 0:45:41.000 How'd you do that? 0:45:41.520 --> 0:45:43.160 Slowly? First of all, there was a lot of tears 0:45:43.440 --> 0:45:46.520 pretty much. I think about almost a week of depression 0:45:46.560 --> 0:45:49.480 of just like being so sad and trying to understand. 0:45:50.120 --> 0:45:52.640 I do so much writing and journaling and I took 0:45:52.680 --> 0:45:54.600 the time to look at what I had written in 0:45:54.640 --> 0:45:57.200 the past, who I was in the past, and all 0:45:57.239 --> 0:46:02.680 of a sudden, I realized all of that philosophy wasn't wasted. 0:46:03.600 --> 0:46:05.960 I just had to become the client. I had to 0:46:06.000 --> 0:46:09.160 be one. I had to take it and do it myself, 0:46:09.360 --> 0:46:12.880 by the way, much harder than it sounds, but I 0:46:12.920 --> 0:46:17.040 had to be that person. So you know the ideas 0:46:17.120 --> 0:46:21.840 that came out of donimas, the way the organization was changing, 0:46:22.120 --> 0:46:24.960 the way I started showing up, what I was doing 0:46:25.000 --> 0:46:28.440 with the XFL, which became the UFL, All these things 0:46:28.440 --> 0:46:32.640 started to build. Moment it was I was probably one 0:46:32.640 --> 0:46:38.440 of the purest examples of a Danny Garcia move, purely 0:46:38.480 --> 0:46:41.000 for Danny Garcia and the love that Danny Garcia has 0:46:41.040 --> 0:46:44.359 for something. Man, isn't that been a payoff? So yeah, 0:46:44.760 --> 0:46:48.440 that changed everything. An investment in a system that said 0:46:48.600 --> 0:46:51.440 someone's going to pull me up, I realized was never 0:46:51.480 --> 0:46:52.040 going to happen. 0:46:52.480 --> 0:46:56.359 You created this mini doc and there's this moment in 0:46:56.400 --> 0:46:59.480 it that I loved where one of the players was 0:46:59.600 --> 0:47:00.560 like who is that? 0:47:00.600 --> 0:47:03.640 Who is that? And You're like, I'm the owner. Oh. 0:47:03.920 --> 0:47:06.120 It was that little key skill are you the movie star. 0:47:06.320 --> 0:47:07.399 You were saying it and I was like. 0:47:07.400 --> 0:47:09.880 No, I own the league, and they were like, oh, 0:47:10.800 --> 0:47:13.720 it was like such a good Mike Jot moment. 0:47:13.840 --> 0:47:16.680 It was so fun, but it felt like a culmination. 0:47:17.080 --> 0:47:20.799 Yeah, because I feel like everything you had ever done, 0:47:21.040 --> 0:47:25.720 all your skills really could all be used so well 0:47:26.600 --> 0:47:27.520 for the XFL. 0:47:27.880 --> 0:47:30.239 And then you're like, no, I'm the owner, right. 0:47:31.120 --> 0:47:35.759 It was so fun. The UFL is a masterclass for 0:47:35.880 --> 0:47:40.600 me of everything of a sport that is breathing every 0:47:40.680 --> 0:47:45.640 day of the normany of having five hundred athletes, you know, 0:47:45.760 --> 0:47:49.719 four hundred plus in season, waiting to hear that all 0:47:49.719 --> 0:47:53.399 the planes have landed in. Everyone's back in Arlington because 0:47:53.400 --> 0:47:58.879 they're hub there the budgets, looking at ticketing. It has 0:47:58.960 --> 0:48:02.280 been in credible last year. We had a new partner 0:48:02.280 --> 0:48:06.360 come in Micropole who owns Noble and Body Armor, et cetera, 0:48:06.800 --> 0:48:09.960 and he has taking a big position and even working 0:48:10.000 --> 0:48:14.080 with a new partner, this sport it just keeps giving 0:48:14.320 --> 0:48:17.560 like it is fantastic and it was a great place 0:48:17.600 --> 0:48:20.799 for me to recognize that my value I could put 0:48:20.800 --> 0:48:25.560 it anywhere, like it walks whether I'm talking to my coaches, 0:48:25.680 --> 0:48:28.040 whether I'm helping one of my players who just hurt 0:48:28.080 --> 0:48:32.040 his ankle into the locker room to get taped, whether 0:48:32.080 --> 0:48:34.879 I'm in the conditioning room and the strength room looking 0:48:34.960 --> 0:48:38.000 at the equipment, trying it out, feeling it. It is 0:48:38.120 --> 0:48:41.800 so much fun. It is so big talk about advancing 0:48:41.880 --> 0:48:44.200 the human experience. It is and it is a purest 0:48:44.200 --> 0:48:48.240 inspection of advancing the human experience, because it's my athletes, 0:48:48.320 --> 0:48:51.880 it's my coaches, it's the team, it's my co owners, 0:48:52.160 --> 0:48:56.600 it's you know, the fans. You're trying to impact everyone. 0:48:57.000 --> 0:48:59.840 So yeah, it's been phenomenal. I love it so much. 0:49:00.400 --> 0:49:03.120 I can tell when you talk about it, you get 0:49:03.360 --> 0:49:06.239 and so I'm so yeah, it's cool to hear you 0:49:06.280 --> 0:49:09.080 talk about it as an experience too. Yes, Like one 0:49:09.120 --> 0:49:12.600 of the things I learned from learning from you from 0:49:12.640 --> 0:49:16.640 researching was you think of everything as this three sixty experience, 0:49:17.440 --> 0:49:20.799 and now the UFL is an embodiment of that. 0:49:21.160 --> 0:49:25.120 Yeah. I would always say, you know, there's a convergence 0:49:25.239 --> 0:49:30.160 between the film or the sport or the consumer product 0:49:30.880 --> 0:49:34.920 and the consumer And what I love to focus and 0:49:35.000 --> 0:49:38.200 manage is what I call the confluence, what happens when 0:49:38.200 --> 0:49:41.480 they come together, which is actually quite challenging. It's very nuanced. 0:49:41.560 --> 0:49:43.400 Because you have this, you have that, it's like, what 0:49:43.560 --> 0:49:45.839 are you influencing? So when they come together, because when 0:49:45.840 --> 0:49:48.319 it comes together, that's where the magic is created, and 0:49:48.360 --> 0:49:49.319 that's where history is. 0:49:49.400 --> 0:49:50.359 It's hard to get it right. 0:49:50.640 --> 0:49:52.480 It's incredibly hard to get it. And if you have 0:49:52.520 --> 0:49:55.080 a number of athletes throwing a ball around, they're just 0:49:55.239 --> 0:49:58.120 bodies throwing a ball around on a field. You know 0:49:58.239 --> 0:50:02.280 you need these fans. So when this comes, the experience 0:50:02.320 --> 0:50:05.360 that they have together, what people go home about is 0:50:05.400 --> 0:50:08.879 what they remember. It's what makes the difference. And so yeah, 0:50:08.920 --> 0:50:11.520 the UFL is absolutely a place for that. I mean, 0:50:11.520 --> 0:50:14.479 it happens with film, it happens with tere mauna zoa, 0:50:14.520 --> 0:50:16.560 but really happens in sports. 0:50:17.560 --> 0:50:20.719 I mean, speaking of sports, it's a piece of your identity, 0:50:20.800 --> 0:50:24.719 which is athleticism. I was really excited to learn that 0:50:24.760 --> 0:50:27.160 you didn't become a bodybuilder who you were forty two 0:50:27.239 --> 0:50:27.719 years old. 0:50:27.800 --> 0:50:28.280 That's correct. 0:50:29.080 --> 0:50:33.479 So what did becoming a bodybuilder in your forties give 0:50:33.600 --> 0:50:36.600 you that it wouldn't have given you in your twenties. 0:50:36.960 --> 0:50:38.120 I think it would have given it to me in 0:50:38.120 --> 0:50:41.040 the twenties. Is I wanted to be a bodybuilder. Since 0:50:41.040 --> 0:50:43.520 I was like, thirteen, might have been fourteen. We have 0:50:43.560 --> 0:50:45.399 to look at the notes. It could be fifteen. Let's 0:50:45.400 --> 0:50:47.919 see since you were a young girl. Yeah, I opened 0:50:48.000 --> 0:50:50.880 up a magazine and I saw Miss Olympia, and I 0:50:50.960 --> 0:50:54.239 was like, the strength and the physique. I had no 0:50:54.360 --> 0:50:57.319 idea a woman could look and be that strong. I 0:50:57.320 --> 0:50:59.440 have a lot of bodybuilding friends who say that they 0:50:59.520 --> 0:51:02.239 remember that that moment where when kou where it just 0:51:02.280 --> 0:51:05.480 turned on the bodybuilding light. And so really I was 0:51:05.520 --> 0:51:06.960 an athlete who was just always trying to get in 0:51:07.000 --> 0:51:08.640 the weave room a running track. But I was out 0:51:08.640 --> 0:51:10.840 there to like exten gins in the gym, and I 0:51:10.880 --> 0:51:12.759 didn't need to do that running track. I just didn't 0:51:12.800 --> 0:51:14.600 have access to it. And also I was taking care 0:51:14.600 --> 0:51:17.200 of my family right, so it didn't seem to be there. 0:51:17.719 --> 0:51:21.040 But then all of a sudden, you know, my husband, 0:51:21.360 --> 0:51:24.000 who was my boyfriend at the time, opened up a 0:51:24.040 --> 0:51:27.360 door and I was like yes, and my daughter was older, 0:51:28.120 --> 0:51:30.920 and I was like, now is the time, like to 0:51:31.120 --> 0:51:34.320 finally live the dream, to shape my muscles, to step 0:51:34.360 --> 0:51:37.520 on stage, to be a bodybuilder, to look at that 0:51:37.600 --> 0:51:40.359 magazine and be like, wow, Danny Garcia is going to 0:51:40.400 --> 0:51:43.680 be that image and bring it into my life. 0:51:43.520 --> 0:51:45.960 Which that part of you being front and center. 0:51:46.560 --> 0:51:49.160 For me, it was less about that and more about 0:51:49.160 --> 0:51:52.040 a dream, like the dream that I had since I 0:51:52.160 --> 0:51:55.080 was such a young person, because being like, all right, 0:51:55.160 --> 0:51:56.960 I need to be a millionaire to take care of 0:51:56.960 --> 0:52:00.840 my family. Those were responsibilities that I knew could packed lives. 0:52:01.400 --> 0:52:04.520 Looking to become a bodybuilder. Nobody understood that. That was 0:52:04.560 --> 0:52:08.399 just me going and wanting that, and then everything else 0:52:08.480 --> 0:52:11.600 was like, okay, make sure it's important. I love my family. 0:52:11.680 --> 0:52:14.000 And that was the dream, the Danny Garcia dream that 0:52:14.120 --> 0:52:17.200 just kept fully until it was the time. And then 0:52:17.239 --> 0:52:21.000 it was time and it was great. It was so hard. 0:52:21.239 --> 0:52:23.760 Oh my god, my god, it was hard. 0:52:23.960 --> 0:52:26.000 It was the amount of protein you had to eat. 0:52:26.000 --> 0:52:29.600 It's just it was the space of you could not 0:52:29.719 --> 0:52:32.799 use food for anything else other than fuel, because you 0:52:32.800 --> 0:52:34.319 can't have a glass of wine, you can't have a 0:52:34.320 --> 0:52:36.600 slice of chocolate cake. It all comes down to your 0:52:36.680 --> 0:52:39.320 diet and your training, and diet is eighty five percent 0:52:39.320 --> 0:52:42.440 of it. So you know, the nine months of prep. 0:52:42.840 --> 0:52:44.640 After I did that, I knew I could do anything. 0:52:44.960 --> 0:52:46.560 I literally knew I could do anything. 0:52:46.880 --> 0:52:48.799 Yeah, that's the feeling yeah. 0:52:48.880 --> 0:52:52.200 I trained for a triathlon after a breakup, and the 0:52:52.280 --> 0:52:55.279 thing I got out of it was that yes. It 0:52:55.320 --> 0:52:58.880 was that actually my mind would give up before my 0:52:58.960 --> 0:53:00.880 body would if I could get over that. 0:53:01.200 --> 0:53:01.480 Yes. 0:53:01.760 --> 0:53:04.480 And I was like, oh, I'm the only one stopping me, right. 0:53:04.960 --> 0:53:09.839 You know what? You just identified the biggest gait that 0:53:09.960 --> 0:53:13.600 many women have kno gone through the experience that says 0:53:13.719 --> 0:53:17.160 if I do that, I can do anything. I can 0:53:17.200 --> 0:53:19.520 tell you there is a handful of people who've not 0:53:19.640 --> 0:53:23.960 been given that gift, but once an individual has that gift, 0:53:24.640 --> 0:53:28.000 their lives are completely different than anyone else because you 0:53:28.080 --> 0:53:30.879 carry it inside you. It's that calmness of like, oh, yeah, 0:53:30.880 --> 0:53:33.120 I can do anything. I remember when my husband was 0:53:33.120 --> 0:53:34.719 training me, there were a few times where I was like, 0:53:34.719 --> 0:53:37.000 am I going to die? He's like, I don't think so. 0:53:37.120 --> 0:53:39.400 I think you are going to recover. Fine. I was like, 0:53:39.760 --> 0:53:41.920 because it was like such a workout, and I was like, 0:53:41.960 --> 0:53:42.520 I think I'm. 0:53:42.360 --> 0:53:42.839 Gonna do it. 0:53:42.880 --> 0:53:44.879 He's like, you're not gonna do it. You may feel 0:53:44.880 --> 0:53:47.040 really terrible right now. And it had a number of 0:53:47.080 --> 0:53:47.600 that where I. 0:53:47.600 --> 0:53:50.160 Was so hard you want to cry. Sometimes it was. 0:53:50.160 --> 0:53:53.320 So hard I didn't want to cry from the hard 0:53:53.400 --> 0:53:57.160 because God, I loved it so much, but I was like, 0:53:57.600 --> 0:54:00.680 this isn't so incredibly hard, And that same time, I 0:54:00.760 --> 0:54:05.280 was still running a massive portfolio, so the juggling of both. 0:54:05.719 --> 0:54:07.439 But now it was so great though. 0:54:07.840 --> 0:54:09.120 It's the gift of athletics. 0:54:09.200 --> 0:54:11.120 It's a gift of athletics. Yeah, I'm not sure if 0:54:11.160 --> 0:54:13.719 you came across this, but I'm excited to share it 0:54:13.760 --> 0:54:16.359 with you. One of the great things about being an 0:54:16.400 --> 0:54:22.120 athlete is this idea that you learn without any emotion, 0:54:22.960 --> 0:54:25.520 that no one's going to give you the win. It 0:54:25.600 --> 0:54:29.080 is so fundamental. That's why we train, that's what we compete. 0:54:29.160 --> 0:54:30.879 Other team's not gonna be like here you go, love 0:54:30.960 --> 0:54:34.839 you, you get the win, right, And it is this gift 0:54:35.200 --> 0:54:36.840 where you don't even think about So of course you 0:54:36.920 --> 0:54:40.560 prepare and you have no emotional drag that, oh you 0:54:40.640 --> 0:54:43.319 have to do this, you need recovery, you gotta rest 0:54:43.440 --> 0:54:45.720 because you know you have to take all these steps 0:54:45.760 --> 0:54:48.040 so that you could win. You may also go around 0:54:48.120 --> 0:54:49.920 being like, dude, we're totally going to win, but you 0:54:49.960 --> 0:54:52.359 don't say it without knowing you're going to do all 0:54:52.400 --> 0:54:56.200 these things to get the win. And that transition. 0:55:09.320 --> 0:55:11.759 You were just named on the Hollywood Reporters list of 0:55:11.800 --> 0:55:15.000 one hundred most Powerful Women in Entertainment last year. If 0:55:15.040 --> 0:55:18.200 you can answer this without any humility, what's one thing 0:55:18.480 --> 0:55:20.439 that you do better than the other ninety nine? 0:55:20.680 --> 0:55:21.520 Oh, my goodness? 0:55:22.400 --> 0:55:24.000 Or different or different? 0:55:24.280 --> 0:55:27.120 I will say, I think I do this better than 0:55:27.160 --> 0:55:29.000 the other ninety nine. I don't even know who the 0:55:29.040 --> 0:55:31.279 other are, so bless you. I'm going to assume in 0:55:31.360 --> 0:55:34.799 my mind I can go into any room and talk 0:55:34.840 --> 0:55:39.799 to any leader, any executive, anyone male or female, and 0:55:39.920 --> 0:55:43.000 not think about, Oh, who are they? Do I have 0:55:43.080 --> 0:55:44.919 to do this, Do I need to prove this, etc. 0:55:45.520 --> 0:55:47.759 Especially after our glorious dynam of it. But when it 0:55:47.800 --> 0:55:51.279 comes to executives, business leaders, world leaders, I can go 0:55:51.400 --> 0:55:54.040 into any room and get the job done, and I 0:55:54.080 --> 0:55:56.000 can do it in a way that actually gets the 0:55:56.120 --> 0:55:59.680 job done. You have the difficult conversations. I can just 0:56:00.120 --> 0:56:02.400 look at another person and treat them like a human 0:56:02.440 --> 0:56:05.480 being and move things along. I do that really well. 0:56:05.600 --> 0:56:08.200 It seems like that's always been your superpower, Like the 0:56:08.239 --> 0:56:09.640 way you went up to Dwayne at the bar. 0:56:10.280 --> 0:56:12.200 You know, maybe it was, and I didn't even realize 0:56:12.239 --> 0:56:14.880 it because I do it comfortably. People ask meld them, 0:56:14.920 --> 0:56:16.760 how do you do that? You know, when the XFL 0:56:17.080 --> 0:56:20.040 was starting, they called me Mariano River. I was the closer, 0:56:20.160 --> 0:56:22.279 the sandman, because if we were getting a coach who 0:56:22.280 --> 0:56:23.840 were getting in said they would send me in to 0:56:23.920 --> 0:56:27.200 close the deal. But I was so confident because in 0:56:27.239 --> 0:56:28.960 the end, I never closes you. I just shared with 0:56:29.000 --> 0:56:31.840 them what I hope to accomplish, and there is a 0:56:32.000 --> 0:56:35.920 thing about who is saying the words and the authenticity 0:56:35.920 --> 0:56:38.360 of it makes the safe space for things to happen. 0:56:38.880 --> 0:56:42.280 And I've done so much that I have a really 0:56:42.280 --> 0:56:45.640 big safe space and that allows me to be the closer. 0:56:45.719 --> 0:56:48.120 You wear the closing. That's such a good title. 0:56:48.800 --> 0:56:51.000 I read someone refer to the way you've sculpted your 0:56:51.000 --> 0:56:54.480 business with seven Buck Productions and the Garcia companies and 0:56:54.600 --> 0:56:57.080 all of it's attracted brands, that you approach it as 0:56:57.120 --> 0:56:59.480 if you're tending to a muscle in your body. 0:56:59.600 --> 0:57:01.200 I thought that it's very. 0:57:00.840 --> 0:57:05.520 Cool said that that is fascinating. I think that's really correct. 0:57:05.800 --> 0:57:09.520 What's a business muscle that people forget to strengthen? 0:57:09.600 --> 0:57:13.160 You think, if you really are going to training and 0:57:13.200 --> 0:57:16.440 you're looking at that, you're looking at quality of repetition. 0:57:16.880 --> 0:57:19.600 But you're also looking a quality of life. Right, So 0:57:19.920 --> 0:57:25.440 a great physique requires great food, great rest, knowing how 0:57:25.480 --> 0:57:29.640 you're training, great environment. Greatness and shape come from a 0:57:29.680 --> 0:57:32.560 great environment. So as I look at our brains and 0:57:32.600 --> 0:57:36.280 our portfolio, it's extremely important to me how is the 0:57:36.320 --> 0:57:40.760 culture our team members growing. I've invested in so much 0:57:41.040 --> 0:57:45.040 so that they are different people. Right. My responsibility, and 0:57:45.120 --> 0:57:49.360 this is very much bodybuilding. My responsibility is not just 0:57:49.880 --> 0:57:52.840 the work they do for me, but the life they 0:57:52.880 --> 0:57:55.760 are living while they're doing this work for me. It's 0:57:55.760 --> 0:57:58.480 at three sixty. You can't beat the crap out of 0:57:58.480 --> 0:58:02.200 your muscles. You can't be like Grill great if you're 0:58:02.280 --> 0:58:06.520 not giving it the respect and taking a fiduciary responsibility. 0:58:06.600 --> 0:58:09.120 Do you have any rituals before meetings? 0:58:09.320 --> 0:58:12.320 Is there anything that you do either to open or 0:58:12.360 --> 0:58:15.000 close that you found has really worked. I had a 0:58:15.040 --> 0:58:16.840 mentor one time so that you always have to take 0:58:16.880 --> 0:58:19.320 a breath before you walk in, because your breath is 0:58:19.320 --> 0:58:20.200 what regulates you. 0:58:20.520 --> 0:58:23.640 So good. Let me think I don't have rituals before, 0:58:24.520 --> 0:58:29.360 not right before, but I do really enjoy like diving 0:58:29.400 --> 0:58:32.000 into the universe of the person I'm going to meet. 0:58:32.520 --> 0:58:36.480 Before I go in, not so much from a strategic 0:58:36.680 --> 0:58:40.040 but just like the joy of the person. I'm so 0:58:40.200 --> 0:58:42.680 excited my PR team knows is I'm like, what did 0:58:42.680 --> 0:58:44.919 they write? Send me their articles. I want to see 0:58:44.920 --> 0:58:46.800 the things. Usually there's not time for me to bring 0:58:46.840 --> 0:58:49.400 it up because we have like twenty minutes. But I'm 0:58:49.440 --> 0:58:53.200 always fascinated by the world. What is the context if 0:58:53.200 --> 0:58:57.600 it's a studio exec, what's their slate, what is going on. 0:58:58.200 --> 0:59:01.720 I'm never looking to sell or close. I'm looking to 0:59:01.720 --> 0:59:04.560 see if we can create together. And that makes it 0:59:04.680 --> 0:59:07.200 very rich when I have context about the people and 0:59:07.240 --> 0:59:09.960 what's going on. But I love the breath thing. It's 0:59:10.000 --> 0:59:11.520 actually very good, very smart. 0:59:11.560 --> 0:59:15.680 I love etymology, like the root of words and conspire 0:59:16.160 --> 0:59:19.040 has sort of a negative connotation, but in Latin it 0:59:19.040 --> 0:59:22.240 actually means to breathe together, and so I kind of 0:59:22.280 --> 0:59:24.200 think like breathe and let's breathe. 0:59:24.240 --> 0:59:24.920 I always think. 0:59:24.760 --> 0:59:26.680 About that before I walk into a room, like, let's 0:59:26.720 --> 0:59:29.280 do this together, right, get on the same page. 0:59:29.680 --> 0:59:30.720 I don't know, it's beautiful. 0:59:31.080 --> 0:59:33.120 It's pretty good that you like it because you're a journalist, 0:59:33.160 --> 0:59:34.000 do smart. 0:59:34.840 --> 0:59:35.680 I'm a word nerd. 0:59:35.840 --> 0:59:38.680 I love that when you walk into a room. Do 0:59:38.760 --> 0:59:41.480 you clock the exit people, snacks? 0:59:41.800 --> 0:59:43.320 Energy? What are you clocking first? 0:59:43.880 --> 0:59:46.720 When I walk into your room, If I know there's 0:59:46.840 --> 0:59:49.560 people there that I know, I'm looking for them because 0:59:49.600 --> 0:59:52.920 usually I have to hug and kiss everyone, and you're 0:59:53.040 --> 0:59:57.040 very warm. You're a good hunter, I usually, but I 0:59:57.080 --> 1:00:00.320 will tell you once I walked into your room, I 1:00:00.360 --> 1:00:03.240 will clock exits. So funny that you said I will 1:00:03.240 --> 1:00:06.360 clock exits for myself and for everyone. So I do 1:00:06.640 --> 1:00:08.680 continue to say that's the mama Baron. Yeah, I have. 1:00:09.080 --> 1:00:11.440 When my daughter was born later on in life, I 1:00:11.480 --> 1:00:14.720 took hand to hand combat fighting WHOA because I did 1:00:14.720 --> 1:00:18.080 not want to put the responsibility of just protecting my 1:00:18.200 --> 1:00:21.600 daughter on my nanny or security. So I was like, 1:00:21.680 --> 1:00:23.880 let me get this down so they can run with 1:00:23.880 --> 1:00:27.680 Simon if anything happens. And so it usually it's part 1:00:27.720 --> 1:00:30.400 of my fiduciary Like it's a little the darker side 1:00:30.400 --> 1:00:32.680 of sort of this fiduciary role that I take. 1:00:32.880 --> 1:00:34.720 Yeah, you do have to think of everything. 1:00:35.520 --> 1:00:39.040 Yeah, how has your definition of success changed as you've 1:00:39.040 --> 1:00:40.480 gotten more responsibility. 1:00:41.080 --> 1:00:45.040 Definitely, when I was young, it would have been monetary success. 1:00:45.520 --> 1:00:48.640 Now it doesn't have a completion, so it's more tied 1:00:48.680 --> 1:00:53.040 to what is the holistic health of what I'm doing, 1:00:53.080 --> 1:00:57.800 the sustainability, the frictionlessness, like did we get from point 1:00:57.840 --> 1:01:01.320 A to point B in two steps? Or did we 1:01:01.400 --> 1:01:04.360 smash against the side of the bumper rails? And if 1:01:04.400 --> 1:01:08.680 I can get the teams or the executions down the 1:01:08.800 --> 1:01:13.080 road as easy as possible and everyone's feeling great and 1:01:13.120 --> 1:01:15.800 the morale is great and the culture is great, then 1:01:15.960 --> 1:01:18.760 I find that as success because what happens after that 1:01:18.840 --> 1:01:22.360 has really become symptomatic. Whether it's sales, whether it's revenue, 1:01:22.400 --> 1:01:25.960 whether it's success at the box office, it is symptomatic 1:01:26.000 --> 1:01:28.880 to what's happening right at the current. So trying to 1:01:28.960 --> 1:01:29.480 manage that. 1:01:29.800 --> 1:01:32.000 I love that you said you fire and promote yourself 1:01:32.000 --> 1:01:32.680 all the time. 1:01:32.680 --> 1:01:33.760 And I know that you do that. 1:01:35.920 --> 1:01:37.840 The part of that you said was because you were 1:01:37.840 --> 1:01:41.480 trying to create more time, yes, which I understand that. 1:01:41.680 --> 1:01:43.840 What would it take for you to fire yourself from 1:01:43.880 --> 1:01:47.280 everything and just sit in Hawaii or sit somewhere? 1:01:47.720 --> 1:01:49.840 I don't know, because if I sat in Hawaii, I'd 1:01:49.880 --> 1:01:52.800 be like, what does Hawaii need? So much of my 1:01:53.120 --> 1:01:56.200 career and the portfolio are actual natural expressions of the 1:01:56.240 --> 1:01:58.880 fun I have they're really like, oh, what are we 1:01:58.920 --> 1:01:59.640 gonna do today? 1:02:00.160 --> 1:02:02.160 God Save the Queen is such an expression of that. 1:02:02.400 --> 1:02:05.120 Yeah, that's a good one. First of all, the hilarity 1:02:05.240 --> 1:02:08.440 of being like, I had no idea. The United Kingdom 1:02:08.520 --> 1:02:10.960 national anthem was called God Save the Queen. This is 1:02:11.000 --> 1:02:14.280 amazing to talk about small town girl andsch But. 1:02:14.400 --> 1:02:16.560 I get it. What a great title it is. It 1:02:16.560 --> 1:02:17.760 should be the title of your book. 1:02:17.840 --> 1:02:19.960 I was like, oh, and I just loved the idea 1:02:20.000 --> 1:02:22.800 that the Lord and everyone was like, please God save 1:02:22.880 --> 1:02:25.440 this queen. I was like, oh, I'm taking that with me. 1:02:25.560 --> 1:02:28.960 We're all here for this. So you're remarried. Now we've 1:02:29.000 --> 1:02:30.840 talked about your husband, Dave a little bit. I didn't 1:02:30.880 --> 1:02:33.280 know that he trained you, which is very cool. How 1:02:33.320 --> 1:02:37.200 do you feel different in this marriage versus your last marriage? 1:02:37.280 --> 1:02:40.680 Oh goodness, this is the marriage that I didn't know. 1:02:40.720 --> 1:02:44.160 This was what marriage was. Like I always say with 1:02:44.200 --> 1:02:46.800 my husband, if I knew I could dream as big, 1:02:47.120 --> 1:02:50.760 I would have dreamt him Like. I didn't know that 1:02:51.000 --> 1:02:53.000 I could dream that Like, I didn't know. I had 1:02:53.000 --> 1:02:53.400 no idea. 1:02:53.760 --> 1:02:54.880 That makes me want to cry. 1:02:54.960 --> 1:02:58.160 It makes me But he's just an incredible human end. 1:02:58.760 --> 1:03:01.680 He has so much solid strength. 1:03:01.960 --> 1:03:03.840 Let's say you have that. So it's so nice that 1:03:03.920 --> 1:03:04.440 you met. 1:03:04.240 --> 1:03:06.520 Someone who I'm so lucky. But let's just say I'm 1:03:06.560 --> 1:03:09.080 not a glass of water. I'm more of a spicy 1:03:09.120 --> 1:03:12.800 murder reader. You don't walk into a relationship like, I'm 1:03:12.800 --> 1:03:17.840 not that easy. The life is loud. Who's your ex husband? 1:03:18.200 --> 1:03:22.720 And my husband was unbothered through it all? So sweet, 1:03:23.240 --> 1:03:25.560 so strong. Yeah, he's my soulmate. 1:03:26.120 --> 1:03:27.120 Did you know? Right away? 1:03:27.280 --> 1:03:30.520 I was just overcome with how different we were friends, 1:03:30.880 --> 1:03:35.120 really good friends, and then we started to get serious. 1:03:35.280 --> 1:03:37.040 Once we started to get serious, I think I loved 1:03:37.080 --> 1:03:38.880 him within four to five weeks. 1:03:39.120 --> 1:03:41.200 You have to really love him for him to train 1:03:41.320 --> 1:03:42.320 you and for you guys not. 1:03:42.200 --> 1:03:45.600 To get in Oh yeah, you know. Later on he 1:03:45.760 --> 1:03:47.800 did stop training me, which was good. We were getting 1:03:47.840 --> 1:03:50.440 Once I got really knowledgeable, I'd be like, Okay, I'm 1:03:50.440 --> 1:03:53.080 gonna take it from here. But it was ful. 1:03:53.640 --> 1:03:57.080 Training is like a really unique relationship for a husband 1:03:57.200 --> 1:03:57.920 or wife to do it. 1:03:57.920 --> 1:03:58.600 It's really hard. 1:03:58.640 --> 1:04:00.800 We don't train at the same time, No, we trained 1:04:00.840 --> 1:04:03.920 at different times. But you know, at that point he 1:04:04.000 --> 1:04:06.600 was training me as a mentor. I mean, he really 1:04:06.720 --> 1:04:09.920 was so incredibly knowledge about body and the physique and 1:04:10.360 --> 1:04:13.520 his discipline and execution is insane, and so yeah, he 1:04:13.640 --> 1:04:16.360 was a great conduit. He presented me with the opportunity 1:04:16.400 --> 1:04:18.680 to need to fulfill my dream and then he took 1:04:18.720 --> 1:04:20.680 me through. There was a gift. 1:04:20.960 --> 1:04:23.640 It is very cool too, because you had been fulfilling 1:04:23.680 --> 1:04:26.600 so many other people's dreams that you met this man 1:04:26.720 --> 1:04:28.160 and he said do this for you. 1:04:28.640 --> 1:04:29.919 Yeah, it was your dream. 1:04:29.960 --> 1:04:32.520 It wasn't for anybody else like he really saw you. 1:04:32.800 --> 1:04:34.959 Yeah. Oh, thank you for saying that. It's so nice. 1:04:35.000 --> 1:04:37.520 I feel so validating. That's very much Sue. That's what 1:04:37.600 --> 1:04:38.280 he did. Cool. 1:04:38.360 --> 1:04:41.600 Yeah, for someone who exudes so much strength, when do 1:04:41.640 --> 1:04:42.880 you feel most vulnerable? 1:04:43.720 --> 1:04:48.320 Again, big swings come with great vulnerability. It's hand in hand. 1:04:48.400 --> 1:04:51.160 They don't tell you that on the sheet. So I 1:04:51.160 --> 1:04:56.640 would say commonly now, as I'm negotiating this physique as 1:04:56.720 --> 1:05:00.360 what I call a civilian, a non competitor, and woman 1:05:00.400 --> 1:05:03.880 who's in her second half of her fifties, going through 1:05:03.880 --> 1:05:08.360 these hormonal changes and seeing things in my body and 1:05:08.400 --> 1:05:11.120 trying to manage them and not getting the same results. 1:05:11.360 --> 1:05:14.760 My physique and my strength have been so much of me. 1:05:15.560 --> 1:05:18.480 It's fascinating to understand that I have to rewrite an 1:05:18.680 --> 1:05:22.560 entire book and it's taking time. So it's almost like 1:05:22.600 --> 1:05:25.400 I leaned on my strength as like the easy like 1:05:25.480 --> 1:05:30.080 I'm strong, I'm physically strong. Now that strength has to 1:05:30.720 --> 1:05:34.720 be more so internally strong so that I can rebuild 1:05:34.760 --> 1:05:38.600 my physique with all of the variables that change when 1:05:38.680 --> 1:05:42.200 you're in menopause or heading postmenopause. So yeah, that was 1:05:42.240 --> 1:05:44.120 something I never thought about. I was just like, yeah, 1:05:44.200 --> 1:05:46.880 you see that. Now it's like, oh, okay, I need 1:05:46.920 --> 1:05:49.320 a more isla. And so that does give me a 1:05:49.320 --> 1:05:51.800 little bit of a chink and that's daily. But the 1:05:51.840 --> 1:05:56.680 gift of it is I'm writing, I'm cracking new codes. 1:05:56.920 --> 1:05:58.720 At some point, I'm going to be able to tell 1:05:58.800 --> 1:06:00.560 other women this is I did it. 1:06:00.960 --> 1:06:04.120 Yeah, we need a book. 1:06:04.240 --> 1:06:05.360 We need a book from you. 1:06:05.920 --> 1:06:08.200 I need to read it. Other women need to read. 1:06:08.240 --> 1:06:10.680 As soon as I get this physique thing down, I 1:06:10.680 --> 1:06:13.360 feel like I'm a year away, maybe twelve months really, 1:06:13.360 --> 1:06:15.440 but yeah, it really is a transitional thing. 1:06:15.480 --> 1:06:18.000 I want to talk about your daughter because when you 1:06:18.040 --> 1:06:22.680 write about her on Instagram, you gush. I do like 1:06:22.720 --> 1:06:25.800 it's the only time that I relea see you write 1:06:25.920 --> 1:06:29.560 with just exuberance you guys seem like you have such 1:06:29.560 --> 1:06:30.400 a special bond. 1:06:30.920 --> 1:06:34.200 She's taught me so much and she's just joining the 1:06:34.200 --> 1:06:37.000 Garcia Company. So yes, next. 1:06:36.880 --> 1:06:40.120 Week because she stopped wrestling, she did. How did you 1:06:40.160 --> 1:06:41.160 feel about that decision? 1:06:41.320 --> 1:06:43.120 I was really excited for her. You know, she had 1:06:43.160 --> 1:06:45.560 known she was signed when she was eighteen, and she 1:06:45.720 --> 1:06:48.400 was doing this thing where she was at the WWE 1:06:48.520 --> 1:06:50.880 NXT and going to college at the same time, and 1:06:51.080 --> 1:06:53.320 she was like, mom, I can't do both, never going 1:06:53.360 --> 1:06:55.560 to accelerate to get on television. She was I think 1:06:55.640 --> 1:06:57.200 twenty and twenty one. We should told me that. I 1:06:57.200 --> 1:06:59.400 was like, I trust you're an adult. So she had 1:06:59.400 --> 1:07:01.760 a plan, I'm going to do this about seven years. 1:07:02.240 --> 1:07:03.800 She goes and then don't want to see what's next. 1:07:03.800 --> 1:07:07.520 So she got to her period of time and she's like, okay, 1:07:07.760 --> 1:07:10.520 time for this second chapter. And I was telling her. 1:07:10.600 --> 1:07:12.520 I was like, baby, you crushed us all we were 1:07:12.560 --> 1:07:15.280 not making the money you made at eighteen, nineteen twenty, 1:07:15.440 --> 1:07:18.480 she was the youngest professional athlete in our family. Yeah, 1:07:18.480 --> 1:07:21.440 I'm so excited to see what this next chapter is 1:07:21.480 --> 1:07:24.400 for her. And she's bringing us her insights and who 1:07:24.440 --> 1:07:26.479 she is, and yeah, it's going to be great. 1:07:26.640 --> 1:07:28.400 So is she going to be working with you day 1:07:28.440 --> 1:07:28.760 to day? 1:07:28.880 --> 1:07:31.280 She's going to be working not with me. I'm smart 1:07:31.360 --> 1:07:34.880 enough to have other executives be her boss. My president 1:07:34.960 --> 1:07:37.320 and my cheap content officer will be overseeing by me, 1:07:37.760 --> 1:07:39.840 so we know to just give her a little bit 1:07:39.840 --> 1:07:41.720 his face. But yeah, she's gonna be great. 1:07:41.880 --> 1:07:45.000 The word stewardship kept coming up for me when I 1:07:45.040 --> 1:07:48.640 looked at your portfolio. I know you said every company 1:07:48.840 --> 1:07:52.160 that you're looking to advance the human experience. It's so 1:07:52.280 --> 1:07:57.000 clear that you require greatness from yourself, from those around you, 1:07:57.120 --> 1:08:00.360 from your daughter, and you give it. It is a 1:08:00.360 --> 1:08:04.240 fair exchange. What do you think stops people from their greatness, 1:08:04.240 --> 1:08:05.760 from reaching their highest potential? 1:08:05.920 --> 1:08:08.040 First of all, I do want to acknowledge that asking 1:08:08.080 --> 1:08:11.680 for greatness and expecting greatness it's challenging. It's not a 1:08:11.760 --> 1:08:15.720 natural state of human state. So I give great respect 1:08:15.760 --> 1:08:18.320 and honor and love to my teammates, to everyone who 1:08:18.360 --> 1:08:21.400 surrounds me and says, okay, we agree that tomorrow we're 1:08:21.439 --> 1:08:23.360 going to be better than we were today. Yeah. I 1:08:23.360 --> 1:08:25.120 mean if people are like I don't agree to that, 1:08:25.160 --> 1:08:27.800 and it's totally fine. But I think first of all, 1:08:27.880 --> 1:08:31.400 if you've never had an experience where you're like, oh, 1:08:31.439 --> 1:08:35.840 I can do anything, greatness can be very difficult. I 1:08:35.840 --> 1:08:39.799 think also greatness the definition has been hijacked by people. 1:08:40.040 --> 1:08:42.599 I'm so lucky that people are like you chief greatness 1:08:42.640 --> 1:08:45.880 and you strive for greatness. But the simplicity is I 1:08:46.040 --> 1:08:49.600 just try every day. So there's a big narrative to 1:08:49.680 --> 1:08:54.000 something that's very quiet and simple and maybe sounds like 1:08:54.080 --> 1:08:57.400 something that comes from somebody who lost or is a 1:08:57.479 --> 1:08:59.519 loser in life. I'm just going to try and be 1:08:59.520 --> 1:09:02.280 better to mine. You know, there's a lot of influencers 1:09:02.400 --> 1:09:04.439 or public voices are like are you going to try 1:09:04.520 --> 1:09:06.680 or are you going to do? I'm like, dude, I'm 1:09:06.680 --> 1:09:08.280 going to track and that I'll get to the do. 1:09:08.760 --> 1:09:13.160 And I think asking someone maybe even framing it that way. 1:09:13.560 --> 1:09:17.360 I'm very human and I'm human person with a lot 1:09:17.400 --> 1:09:19.720 of insecurities who had to get over a lot of 1:09:19.800 --> 1:09:22.519 things and had to grow and all I did was try. 1:09:22.600 --> 1:09:25.840 So when I speak to someone and I'm like, hey, 1:09:25.880 --> 1:09:27.640 will you join us, this is what I'm going to 1:09:27.720 --> 1:09:30.040 ask is I'm going to ask you to try every day. 1:09:30.520 --> 1:09:33.320 With my Donnima's team members, I was very clear. They 1:09:33.360 --> 1:09:36.760 are wonderful executives. And I said, I want you for 1:09:36.840 --> 1:09:40.439 the twenty five percent you haven't accomplished. I honor you 1:09:40.479 --> 1:09:42.680 for the one hundred percent of what you've done, but 1:09:42.800 --> 1:09:45.400 it's the twenty five percent yet you haven't done that's 1:09:45.400 --> 1:09:46.600 going to change the world for me. 1:09:46.720 --> 1:09:48.160 You speak so beautifully to you. 1:09:48.479 --> 1:09:52.320 Thank you, thank you, very rare, thank you. I've seen that. 1:09:52.360 --> 1:09:55.280 I appreciate that. Yeah, I take that as a high 1:09:55.280 --> 1:09:56.240 compliment coming from you. 1:09:56.400 --> 1:09:59.160 I was thinking, I can't even imagine a boss being 1:09:59.160 --> 1:09:59.800 to me that way. 1:09:59.840 --> 1:09:59.880 That. 1:10:00.200 --> 1:10:03.360 So I honor like what you have done, and I 1:10:03.400 --> 1:10:05.320 want you for the twenty five percent you have. 1:10:05.520 --> 1:10:08.200 Oh yeah, it feels like you invested in me. 1:10:08.720 --> 1:10:10.839 Yes, the investment is cool. 1:10:10.920 --> 1:10:13.200 So at the end of your documentary, you actually talk 1:10:13.240 --> 1:10:16.200 about this trying yes, and I know it's one of 1:10:16.240 --> 1:10:17.320 your superpowers. 1:10:17.840 --> 1:10:19.040 What will you try next? 1:10:19.640 --> 1:10:21.920 What I am trying next, I'm actually in the middle 1:10:21.920 --> 1:10:24.479 of trying it right now, is to be the creative 1:10:24.520 --> 1:10:28.479 director of my fashion, to really design, to actually have 1:10:28.760 --> 1:10:30.600 this is what I want the clothes to look like, 1:10:30.840 --> 1:10:33.040 not just like, okay, let's have the style, but to 1:10:33.160 --> 1:10:37.160 actually pen and paper and say I want these designs 1:10:37.160 --> 1:10:39.160 to flow. This is what I want to see. 1:10:39.400 --> 1:10:41.120 I'm really excited about that me too. 1:10:41.120 --> 1:10:43.320 I'm excited about it too because I can't draw it, 1:10:44.320 --> 1:10:46.200 but I'm going to pull it together. I'm going to 1:10:46.240 --> 1:10:46.880 find a way. 1:10:47.160 --> 1:10:48.960 You will find someone who draws, yes. 1:10:48.840 --> 1:10:50.760 And I will pull pictures and I will do it. 1:10:50.840 --> 1:10:53.600 I can see it, and it's amazing to be in 1:10:53.640 --> 1:10:56.680 a space where I have an opportunity to just be 1:10:56.720 --> 1:11:01.720 an artist, like create purely and trust that who I 1:11:01.760 --> 1:11:04.600 am as a human. I don't have to consumer test it, 1:11:04.640 --> 1:11:08.280 but just be purely raw in the creation of a 1:11:08.320 --> 1:11:11.599 piece and say, here, I made this. I hope all 1:11:11.640 --> 1:11:15.000 of you consumers love it and just go for that experience. 1:11:15.240 --> 1:11:16.599 So I'm pretty excited about Well, what's. 1:11:16.439 --> 1:11:18.800 That word experience, right, You're handing them not just a 1:11:18.840 --> 1:11:19.479 piece of clothing. 1:11:19.920 --> 1:11:20.400 Experience. 1:11:20.479 --> 1:11:21.160 Oh that's very true. 1:11:21.200 --> 1:11:22.559 Okay, I have some rapid fire for you. 1:11:22.760 --> 1:11:24.840 Okay, I'm ready. 1:11:25.840 --> 1:11:27.840 The last thing you bought for under seven bucks? 1:11:28.200 --> 1:11:31.759 Oh, I'm obsessed with this little game that I play 1:11:32.000 --> 1:11:35.680 on my phone, this Highway game, and I literally had 1:11:35.720 --> 1:11:37.840 to buy some coins for like four ninety nine I 1:11:37.840 --> 1:11:38.759 think it was yesterday. 1:11:38.880 --> 1:11:42.160 That's really funny. Yeah, A business you wish you had 1:11:42.200 --> 1:11:42.559 thought of. 1:11:42.840 --> 1:11:45.800 Oh, let's see, I wish i'd own the Women's Hockey 1:11:45.880 --> 1:11:49.439 League professional hockey League. I wish that was mine so bad. 1:11:50.120 --> 1:11:51.040 Maybe it cannot be. 1:11:51.160 --> 1:11:54.000 I know it's a single leader ownership it. Man, there's 1:11:54.000 --> 1:11:55.400 always a way. 1:11:54.520 --> 1:11:56.360 To a movie that makes you cry. 1:11:56.520 --> 1:11:58.240 If I know a movie is going to make me cry, 1:11:58.920 --> 1:12:02.479 I try not to watch it. I'm highly empathetic, so 1:12:02.800 --> 1:12:06.840 when someone's uncomfortable in a film, I'm like, deeply uncomfortable. 1:12:07.880 --> 1:12:10.800 I have to like sort of monitor myself. This is 1:12:10.840 --> 1:12:13.599 so funny, and this is not sophisticated at all, because 1:12:13.640 --> 1:12:16.799 people can talk about Hamnet and you know, there's incredible movies. 1:12:17.280 --> 1:12:20.040 I'm still torn up about Bruce Willis dying and Armageddon 1:12:20.200 --> 1:12:21.479 and that just destroyed me. 1:12:21.680 --> 1:12:24.880 Yeah, I so get that, right. Yeah. 1:12:25.000 --> 1:12:26.559 I was like, it's been a long time, but I 1:12:26.600 --> 1:12:28.760 still will past that scene. And I'm like, did we 1:12:28.800 --> 1:12:32.320 really need that payoff to lose him? Did we? I agree? 1:12:32.479 --> 1:12:32.839 Yeah? 1:12:32.960 --> 1:12:35.240 Was it emotional for you to watch Dwayne in the 1:12:35.320 --> 1:12:37.439 last movie because he had emotional scenes? 1:12:37.600 --> 1:12:37.840 Yeah? 1:12:37.960 --> 1:12:42.000 Boy, that was incredible. It was a lot of unpacking, 1:12:42.240 --> 1:12:43.840 you know. When we had the screening and was talking 1:12:43.960 --> 1:12:46.519 to DJ but for the grace of God, there was 1:12:46.560 --> 1:12:49.400 so much dysfunction in that. I was like, that was 1:12:49.520 --> 1:12:52.920 us as kids. That was the twenty two year old Danny, 1:12:53.000 --> 1:12:55.559 the nineteen year old Dwayne like I could see it. 1:12:55.600 --> 1:12:59.559 And also the early wrestling when he wasn't with the 1:12:59.680 --> 1:13:02.519 w but he was like going around town and even 1:13:02.560 --> 1:13:04.240 though he wasn't involved at drugs, he didn't have a 1:13:04.280 --> 1:13:07.320 drug problem, but there was aspects to that life that 1:13:07.439 --> 1:13:12.360 reminded me so much. And then just the codependency, the unhealthiness, 1:13:12.640 --> 1:13:14.679 it was quite a bit. And then knowing his father, 1:13:14.960 --> 1:13:17.800 knowing the challenges his father had and what he was 1:13:17.920 --> 1:13:21.480 drawing from to play those roles. So it was interesting 1:13:21.520 --> 1:13:24.559 to watch it as a woman who was deeply involved 1:13:24.600 --> 1:13:27.439 in his history from eighteen years on. I couldn't watch 1:13:27.479 --> 1:13:30.120 it as a producer. I watched it as like someone 1:13:30.120 --> 1:13:32.040 who had known him since he was ang. 1:13:32.080 --> 1:13:32.559 It's different. 1:13:32.600 --> 1:13:33.679 For yeah, it was a lot. 1:13:33.920 --> 1:13:36.639 Who's the family member that wins a bench press contest? 1:13:36.760 --> 1:13:39.720 It's going to be Dave. Really, Yeah, my husband was like, 1:13:40.120 --> 1:13:42.320 go date. He was strong, like a tank. 1:13:42.760 --> 1:13:44.320 What's your go to comfort food? 1:13:44.439 --> 1:13:49.360 Cuban food, black beans? Res follow me a guffiicolata that 1:13:49.520 --> 1:13:54.120 is deep comfort food. And then ice cream. I love 1:13:54.160 --> 1:13:56.040 ice cream, yeah, deeply. 1:13:56.320 --> 1:13:58.600 What in your life humbles you the fastest? 1:13:59.080 --> 1:14:00.919 My daughter easily. 1:14:01.040 --> 1:14:03.040 What is one thing every woman should try once? 1:14:03.360 --> 1:14:05.680 They should try something where they're like, wow, now I 1:14:05.720 --> 1:14:09.320 can do anything. Or I would love women to try 1:14:09.400 --> 1:14:13.400 something that maybe historically looks like something a man does 1:14:14.080 --> 1:14:16.120 just too better try and be like, well I can 1:14:16.200 --> 1:14:19.040 do that. I can drive around the track and nscon. 1:14:19.680 --> 1:14:21.880 Maybe learn how to break someone's neck. Okay, maybe not 1:14:22.880 --> 1:14:27.719 like just these traditions. Break it down, break my training, 1:14:28.080 --> 1:14:31.320 break it down for a second, and try that role 1:14:31.400 --> 1:14:33.680 that maybe no one expected you to do. 1:14:34.120 --> 1:14:36.040 What is a book you've read that changed your life, 1:14:36.080 --> 1:14:37.639 something you think everybody should read. 1:14:37.800 --> 1:14:41.519 There's a book by doctor David Hawkins called Power Versus Force. 1:14:41.760 --> 1:14:45.400 That book changed my life. That book just broke down 1:14:45.439 --> 1:14:48.439 a tractor patterns and energy in a way that I 1:14:48.479 --> 1:14:51.240 was like, I feel this. I read it from two 1:14:51.240 --> 1:14:53.519 thousand and seven on and I was going through my 1:14:53.560 --> 1:14:56.759 divorce and DJ read it as well. It was really 1:14:56.880 --> 1:14:57.760 it's incredible. 1:14:57.880 --> 1:15:00.080 I haven't heard that one. I'm going to add it tells. 1:15:00.120 --> 1:15:04.000 It has a very specific philosophy but there's a sensibility 1:15:04.040 --> 1:15:05.960 to it, and it's really great. 1:15:06.120 --> 1:15:09.040 Will you grab the question everything card game next to you? 1:15:09.240 --> 1:15:12.200 Yes, feel free to shuffle whatever you want, which everyone 1:15:12.520 --> 1:15:13.160 falls to you. 1:15:13.320 --> 1:15:17.799 It's this one, okay, shaboom Ooh what ordinary moment throughout 1:15:17.840 --> 1:15:21.479 your day brings you great joy? Well, that's easy. It's 1:15:21.560 --> 1:15:24.040 whenever I turn the corner in my house, I see 1:15:24.080 --> 1:15:28.280 my husband like literally, I like, guse you great joy. 1:15:28.520 --> 1:15:30.479 You have so much to share with the world, and 1:15:30.520 --> 1:15:32.400 I'm so grateful that you shared your time with me. 1:15:32.479 --> 1:15:32.840 Thank you. 1:15:33.000 --> 1:15:35.920 Oh you're so welcome. I receive that and what an honor. 1:15:36.479 --> 1:15:39.679 It's so great. Oh, I'm so tickle. You do such 1:15:39.760 --> 1:15:44.240 great work. Keep going more you better for the world. Thanks, 1:15:44.280 --> 1:15:44.840 I see it. 1:15:45.640 --> 1:15:46.040 Thank you. 1:15:51.120 --> 1:15:54.280 Okay, you know what time it is. Today's a good day. 1:15:54.479 --> 1:15:56.800 To have a good day. I'll see you next week. 1:16:00.920 --> 1:16:05.479 Is aboard It is the sho