WEBVTT - Vitamin D Live: Check In 0:00:00.360 --> 0:00:05.840 Do it for you. Do it afraid, do it unprepared, 0:00:07.240 --> 0:00:09.639 do it because you're not ready, Do it even though 0:00:09.640 --> 0:00:14.400 you don't know how. Just do it. I can't implore 0:00:14.480 --> 0:00:20.759 how many times people, even myself, maybe someone you've known 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:26.160 or no have made excuses why they aren't living life 0:00:26.239 --> 0:00:30.240 at their best potential, their true potential, they're optimum potential, 0:00:30.960 --> 0:00:33.559 simply because they feel they're not ready, simply because they 0:00:33.560 --> 0:00:35.800 feel like they have more they need to acquire, simply 0:00:35.840 --> 0:00:39.159 because it's not the right timing, or can we just 0:00:39.200 --> 0:00:46.560 be honest, simply because you're afraid. And I can't tell 0:00:46.600 --> 0:00:51.560 you how many times I have to remind people you're 0:00:51.600 --> 0:00:54.080 going to die one day. And I know it sounds 0:00:54.120 --> 0:00:59.640 more a bit, but that is a fact and my 0:00:59.760 --> 0:01:05.520 thing for myself and others. You better live while you're 0:01:05.560 --> 0:01:09.560 still alive. And that means taking a chance on yourself. 0:01:11.400 --> 0:01:16.760 That means figuring the steps out as you go. That 0:01:16.880 --> 0:01:21.080 means realizing that the best time of your life to 0:01:21.080 --> 0:01:23.400 do whatever it is that you want to do is 0:01:23.480 --> 0:01:29.000 right now. So just do it, but more importantly, do 0:01:29.080 --> 0:01:32.959 it for you. Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. You 0:01:33.000 --> 0:01:34.840 are tuned in to the vitamin D with Dawn Day 0:01:34.920 --> 0:01:37.840 Podcast and I am your host, Dawn Day, here to 0:01:37.880 --> 0:01:39.680 get you excited about your life so that you can 0:01:39.720 --> 0:01:42.080 live life on purpose and for a purpose. If this 0:01:42.120 --> 0:01:44.920 is your first time tuning in and welcome a Vitamin D, 0:01:45.200 --> 0:01:47.319 it's upon off. My name. My name is Dawn, and 0:01:47.360 --> 0:01:49.400 you get Vitamin D from the sun. So I'm here 0:01:49.480 --> 0:01:51.600 shed light into your life. And I do this with 0:01:51.720 --> 0:01:55.880 inspirational insights and conversations with celebrities and everyday people like 0:01:55.920 --> 0:01:57.960 you and me, because if you want to be better 0:01:58.120 --> 0:02:00.280 and you want to do better, then you're I'm going 0:02:00.320 --> 0:02:02.800 to have to be able to see better. So join 0:02:02.880 --> 0:02:05.520 me on this journey of living our best lives and 0:02:05.800 --> 0:02:10.440 understanding and realizing how you are your greatest ass at get. 0:02:10.200 --> 0:02:15.400 Your viting Mandy right with me and get excited about 0:02:15.520 --> 0:02:18.120 your life. 0:02:18.800 --> 0:02:21.240 All right, It's that damn Dawn, like the break of day? 0:02:21.880 --> 0:02:24.560 How you doing? Who I got up in here? Up 0:02:24.600 --> 0:02:26.880 in here, I see some folks in the house. I 0:02:26.919 --> 0:02:29.840 see a couple who is in the house. Let me 0:02:29.880 --> 0:02:31.360 give a shout out to you. This is doing like 0:02:31.400 --> 0:02:33.959 the break of day, and we are tuned into Vitamin 0:02:34.040 --> 0:02:37.160 D Live. Yes, Mama has been all for a week 0:02:37.240 --> 0:02:39.679 but I was doing some super prepared If you go 0:02:39.720 --> 0:02:42.280 ahead and check on my Facebook page, I want to 0:02:42.320 --> 0:02:43.840 hit it and posted up a picture where you'll see 0:02:43.840 --> 0:02:47.840 Miss Felicia. You'll see Miss Wanda, my friend Tiffany, and 0:02:47.919 --> 0:02:50.760 Cordney that came out to my Groundings, the performance that 0:02:50.800 --> 0:02:54.760 happened last night. Yeah, you've probably heard me talking about 0:02:54.760 --> 0:02:57.960 the Groundings. I've mentioned it to you before, about my 0:02:58.080 --> 0:03:02.359 aspirations of improv and sketch and all that jazz. Well, 0:03:02.360 --> 0:03:05.280 that happened last week. So I had or not last week. 0:03:05.280 --> 0:03:07.400 That happened last night, and I have been preparing for 0:03:07.440 --> 0:03:09.440 it all week, and so I want to give a 0:03:09.480 --> 0:03:12.640 special thank you to all of them, and just to 0:03:12.680 --> 0:03:15.480 remind you to go after your dreams, just to remind 0:03:15.520 --> 0:03:17.000 us to you to go ahead and take a chance. 0:03:18.800 --> 0:03:22.240 Am I exhausted? Yes, yes, yes, but I said I 0:03:22.240 --> 0:03:24.280 got to show up. I gotta pull up. MS Maya 0:03:24.480 --> 0:03:26.639 was in my messages and said, well, are you going 0:03:26.720 --> 0:03:30.960 live today? I said, yeah, I'm going live today. So 0:03:31.040 --> 0:03:35.120 who I got live watching me right now? And I 0:03:35.120 --> 0:03:37.560 guess it just reminds me. It's like it's a beautiful 0:03:37.600 --> 0:03:40.800 thing to build up with something to go after, something 0:03:42.320 --> 0:03:44.840 I talked about how important it is to just do it, 0:03:46.440 --> 0:03:48.800 regardless if you think you're prepared, regardless if you feel 0:03:48.800 --> 0:03:51.640 like you're afraid, regardless if you feel like you got tomorrow, 0:03:51.640 --> 0:03:55.040 because all you got is right now today. And that 0:03:55.120 --> 0:03:57.720 has really been my journey as to going after the growlings. 0:03:58.160 --> 0:04:01.800 I come across so many people that feelings tho they're 0:04:01.840 --> 0:04:04.440 lost and they don't know what the passion is, And 0:04:04.480 --> 0:04:08.080 I'm like, well, what do you love to do? A 0:04:08.080 --> 0:04:09.520 lot of people always talking about how they want to 0:04:09.560 --> 0:04:12.800 be comfortable. Well, what is your comfort look like? 0:04:13.440 --> 0:04:13.600 Now? 0:04:13.600 --> 0:04:17.200 Are we just talking about money? Are we talking about time? 0:04:18.839 --> 0:04:22.960 Are we talking about doing our true passion? Pursuing our purpose, 0:04:23.200 --> 0:04:27.120 making sure we tap into our truest potential. I think 0:04:27.120 --> 0:04:29.320 sometimes we get caught up and feeling like it's supposed 0:04:29.360 --> 0:04:31.440 to look a certain way, how it's supposed to happen 0:04:31.440 --> 0:04:34.760 at a certain time, how it's supposed to propel us 0:04:34.760 --> 0:04:36.560 to move forward up per house is not looking like 0:04:36.600 --> 0:04:38.839 the person to the left and the right. Wait a minute, 0:04:38.880 --> 0:04:42.400 hold up, what are you doing? I say this to 0:04:42.440 --> 0:04:44.720 you as I say that to myself. Sometimes you got 0:04:44.720 --> 0:04:46.719 to ask yourself, well, what am I doing looking at 0:04:46.760 --> 0:04:49.320 somebody else's journey. What am I doing having my eyes 0:04:49.360 --> 0:04:51.560 on somebody else's lane? What am I doing that I'm 0:04:51.600 --> 0:04:57.640 looking behind when I'm going forward? We are here for 0:04:57.720 --> 0:05:00.520 a limit of time. What did I you used to say? 0:05:00.520 --> 0:05:03.880 I say, we are special offers here for a limit 0:05:03.920 --> 0:05:09.120 of time. Okay, So that is my word for you 0:05:09.480 --> 0:05:11.720 as I am on this journey at the groundings, but 0:05:11.880 --> 0:05:16.240 doing the dreams and taking a chance on myself. M 0:05:17.520 --> 0:05:24.080 it's scary. It's all about figuring out. Go on, honey, 0:05:24.320 --> 0:05:30.760 take a chance, That's what I say. So I hope 0:05:30.800 --> 0:05:34.240 you out there doing something for yourself, doing something that's 0:05:34.279 --> 0:05:37.040 requiring you to get outside of your comfort zone, because 0:05:37.040 --> 0:05:40.960 that's when the magic happens. And if you ain't doing nothing, 0:05:41.160 --> 0:05:45.600 what are you doing? And if you're not sure what 0:05:45.640 --> 0:05:49.160 you're doing, how about you ask yourself why you're doing it? 0:05:49.200 --> 0:05:50.720 Is it because you're bored? Is it because you need 0:05:50.760 --> 0:05:52.400 some money? Is it because you want a promotions, because 0:05:52.440 --> 0:05:54.320 you want the big house? Or are you doing it 0:05:54.360 --> 0:05:58.520 because you want a peace of mind? Those are the 0:05:58.520 --> 0:06:03.560 things that we are talking about. Just find something to do, 0:06:03.760 --> 0:06:09.200 explore opportunities of drying something new. That's what we got 0:06:09.360 --> 0:06:12.320 right Now I wanted to pop in because I promised 0:06:12.320 --> 0:06:14.159 I was gonna be here, and I want to jump 0:06:14.160 --> 0:06:17.479 into a Vitamin D advice letter. Now I'm just my 0:06:17.520 --> 0:06:20.680 first time laying eyes on it. So you and I 0:06:20.760 --> 0:06:25.520 are going to read this together, and I want to 0:06:25.560 --> 0:06:27.560 welcome you to call me in the studio eight one 0:06:27.600 --> 0:06:30.120 eight four six one fifty four thirty two with your 0:06:30.160 --> 0:06:32.480 comments on this letter. And once I finished with the letter, 0:06:32.480 --> 0:06:34.040 perhaps you want to talk to me about some stuff. 0:06:34.240 --> 0:06:37.200 Come me. Look, I've been off for a week. Y'all said, 0:06:37.279 --> 0:06:41.159 y'all need some Vitamin D. So here is me. Okay, 0:06:42.040 --> 0:06:46.400 all right, so here we go. Subject my husband doesn't 0:06:46.680 --> 0:06:51.719 love to cuddle. Let me give a clearance. Y'all know, 0:06:51.760 --> 0:06:53.600 I say, Vitamin D is all about shedding the light 0:06:53.680 --> 0:06:55.520 right on the good and the bad. Because if you 0:06:55.520 --> 0:06:56.680 want to be better and you want to do better, 0:06:56.720 --> 0:06:58.240 you guys to be able to see better. And with 0:06:58.360 --> 0:07:00.680 that being said, that means eight to me to spit 0:07:00.680 --> 0:07:03.520 out the bones. These are my thoughts, views and opinions 0:07:03.520 --> 0:07:06.120 you wrote into me. And if you're wondering, you said, 0:07:06.200 --> 0:07:07.760 you know what doing? I need some of your advice. 0:07:08.960 --> 0:07:12.800 Go ahead and email me Vitamin D at Dawn daispeaks 0:07:12.840 --> 0:07:16.400 dot com. That's vitamin D at Dawn daispeaks dot com. 0:07:16.400 --> 0:07:20.760 All right, all right, here we go subjects. My husband 0:07:21.120 --> 0:07:25.200 doesn't love to cuddle, Dear Dawn. I have a really 0:07:25.240 --> 0:07:28.480 great guy. He cooks, he cleans, he works, and he 0:07:28.520 --> 0:07:32.080 really loves me. We tear off each other's clothes like 0:07:32.120 --> 0:07:34.320 we're still teenagers and we can't keep our hands off 0:07:34.360 --> 0:07:38.080 of each other. He calls me constantly, flowers and balloons 0:07:38.120 --> 0:07:39.960 sent to me at work at least twice a week 0:07:40.000 --> 0:07:44.440 at work in breakfast in bed, simple and expensive but romantic, 0:07:44.520 --> 0:07:48.840 weekend vacations and trips, candle like dinners and slow dancing 0:07:48.840 --> 0:07:52.160 in the kitchen or wherever we are. We have been 0:07:52.200 --> 0:07:54.480 together for five years. It feels so good to me 0:07:54.560 --> 0:07:57.520 in a fantastic relationship with him, except for one thing. 0:07:58.520 --> 0:08:00.960 It's kind of small to him, but so huge to me, Dawn. 0:08:02.200 --> 0:08:07.360 He doesn't like cuddling after sex, usually about six minutes 0:08:07.480 --> 0:08:09.840 or so, he just wants to get up and go 0:08:09.920 --> 0:08:12.880 do something else or go shower me. Though, Dawn, I 0:08:12.960 --> 0:08:15.360 want to be held in his big arms and hear 0:08:15.440 --> 0:08:18.320 his breathing, Dawn, I want to hear his heart beat 0:08:18.320 --> 0:08:20.560 as I lay my head on his chest and just 0:08:20.640 --> 0:08:25.000 close my eyes. I want to lay there knowing and 0:08:25.040 --> 0:08:27.600 feeling the warmth of our love and enjoy the togetherness 0:08:27.680 --> 0:08:31.880 of us, if that makes sense. If we can talk 0:08:32.440 --> 0:08:38.560 or not, just hold me, keep holding me. I've talked 0:08:38.559 --> 0:08:40.960 to him about this before, and he gets really quiet. 0:08:41.840 --> 0:08:44.880 It took some doing, but I asked him to be 0:08:44.960 --> 0:08:47.839 brutally honest with me about why he doesn't want to 0:08:47.840 --> 0:08:51.360 cuddle with me. He says that he loves me, that 0:08:51.480 --> 0:08:53.880 he wants me, that he needs me, and that he 0:08:54.000 --> 0:08:56.480 go crazy without me. But after about a few minutes 0:08:56.520 --> 0:08:58.720 of cuddling, he just wants to get up and do 0:08:58.800 --> 0:09:02.280 something else. But he also said that he wants to 0:09:02.280 --> 0:09:06.440 be a better partner and that he try harder well. 0:09:06.600 --> 0:09:09.200 After sex last night, he lasted a good twenty two 0:09:09.280 --> 0:09:13.720 minutes into Cuttland. But you know what was really cool. 0:09:14.200 --> 0:09:16.560 As he held me, he cried softly into my hair 0:09:16.640 --> 0:09:18.960 and told me that I was his world and that 0:09:19.000 --> 0:09:21.640 he didn't want to ever lose me. He said this 0:09:21.800 --> 0:09:24.440 over and over again. Then he swooped me up into 0:09:24.440 --> 0:09:27.320 his big arms and we bathed together for like twenty minutes. 0:09:27.800 --> 0:09:32.679 Soapy strawberry shampoo, kisses and all and gentle laughter somewhere 0:09:32.679 --> 0:09:35.200 in the middle, Dawn, I heard on one of your 0:09:35.200 --> 0:09:38.680 past shows about cuddling and telling, asking your partner for 0:09:38.760 --> 0:09:41.560 what you want and what you need and intimacy. Wise, 0:09:42.080 --> 0:09:44.600 thought i'd share this with you. Love you and thanks. 0:09:45.200 --> 0:09:52.000 Frankie Lee Buddington, aged forty one, from Dallas, Texas. Well, 0:09:52.000 --> 0:09:55.080 here's the thing, you know. I read this book entitled 0:09:55.160 --> 0:10:01.960 Unlimited Power. Was it by James Baldwin, James Weldon, James 0:10:01.960 --> 0:10:04.960 Weldon Johnson? Oh lord, I hope I'm not repeating the 0:10:05.000 --> 0:10:08.640 name of the guy that wrote the song anyway, even 0:10:08.760 --> 0:10:11.480 it was also co authored or in partnership somehow with 0:10:11.600 --> 0:10:16.640 Tony Robinson, you know, the inspirational, motivational speaker, you know, 0:10:16.760 --> 0:10:20.000 Tony Robbins AnyWho. One of the things that really stood 0:10:20.000 --> 0:10:22.880 out to me in that book, Frankie Lee, was he 0:10:22.920 --> 0:10:28.480 talked about relationships and how oftentimes when dealing with relationships 0:10:28.480 --> 0:10:31.880 and how some relationships you know, go estranged or depart 0:10:32.000 --> 0:10:35.160 or fall apart, is not because couples don't love each other. 0:10:35.320 --> 0:10:38.480 It's because couples aren't speaking the same love language. Wait 0:10:38.520 --> 0:10:41.800 a minute, catch what I'm picking down. It's not that 0:10:41.880 --> 0:10:43.960 couples do not love each other. It's the fact that 0:10:44.000 --> 0:10:47.840 these couples aren't speaking or these two individuals aren't speaking 0:10:47.840 --> 0:10:51.320 the same love language. When do we get the point 0:10:51.360 --> 0:10:53.880 of making room for somebody else's love language? What I 0:10:53.920 --> 0:10:56.920 mean by that? They put this example in the book 0:10:56.920 --> 0:10:59.120 about a couple, a husband and wife. The wife is 0:10:59.160 --> 0:11:02.680 in the kitchen things ready. Her husband comes in. The 0:11:02.720 --> 0:11:05.640 first thing he does is grabs her and gives her 0:11:05.679 --> 0:11:09.560 a kiss. Immediately, she is annoyed, like, oh my god, 0:11:09.640 --> 0:11:12.439 you are all up on me. You can't even say hi, baby, 0:11:12.559 --> 0:11:15.400 how you doing, how's your day? You just all up 0:11:15.440 --> 0:11:18.600 on me? And she was completely offended. He's looking at 0:11:18.600 --> 0:11:21.040 her like, well, what's going on? I came in, baby, 0:11:21.480 --> 0:11:25.160 I'm giving you some loving. But she's annoyed and he's confused. 0:11:25.640 --> 0:11:28.000 Now here's what we gotta look at. It's not about 0:11:28.040 --> 0:11:29.960 this couple. It's not loving on each other. It's just 0:11:29.960 --> 0:11:32.240 that they're not speaking the same language or language in 0:11:32.240 --> 0:11:35.199 which the other person is able to receive. Now, what 0:11:35.320 --> 0:11:37.559 we can identify we know about the love languages are 0:11:37.640 --> 0:11:40.480 right now in case I miss anything, hey, miss Maya 0:11:40.600 --> 0:11:47.240 tuning in, we talk about words about affirmation, quality, time, gifts, 0:11:47.720 --> 0:11:51.280 acts of service, and I'm missing another one. But for 0:11:51.320 --> 0:11:53.960 the sake of the time, in this conversation right here, 0:11:54.320 --> 0:11:56.040 we are looking at the wife, and what does it 0:11:56.080 --> 0:12:00.360 sound like her love language is words of affirmation? What 0:12:00.440 --> 0:12:07.400 does this a love language? Sound like? A touch? Physical touch? So, 0:12:07.559 --> 0:12:10.520 while both of these couples are individuals are expressing love 0:12:10.559 --> 0:12:12.960 to each other that can't be received because she's saying, well, 0:12:13.120 --> 0:12:15.240 why you ain't saying nothing to me? And he like, well, 0:12:15.280 --> 0:12:16.960 I'm trying to love on you, but you're pushing me 0:12:17.000 --> 0:12:20.640 away now in your situation right here, I don't see 0:12:20.640 --> 0:12:24.040 a situation where your husband isn't loving you all the 0:12:24.040 --> 0:12:26.360 things that you see in somebody being present. He's a 0:12:26.400 --> 0:12:30.680 great guy. He cooks, he cleans, he works. You even said, 0:12:30.720 --> 0:12:35.320 he really loves me. You even said, after being together 0:12:35.400 --> 0:12:37.320 for five years, it feels good to be in a 0:12:37.400 --> 0:12:44.160 fantastic relationship. Except he doesn't like coddling. You even said, 0:12:44.240 --> 0:12:48.120 after most recently y'all became intimate, he hugged on you 0:12:48.240 --> 0:12:51.280 and cried in your hair, professed about the fact of 0:12:51.280 --> 0:12:53.080 how much he loved you. And then y'all got in 0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:55.720 a shower for another twenty minutes, but yet it's still 0:12:55.720 --> 0:13:01.200 not speaking to you as enough. Now you said that 0:13:01.320 --> 0:13:02.679 you have communicated with him. 0:13:02.679 --> 0:13:03.040 What you know? 0:13:03.120 --> 0:13:06.360 I'm all about communication Cmune and communication is not always 0:13:06.640 --> 0:13:10.280 being said, but also how the person is receiving it. Now, 0:13:10.800 --> 0:13:14.800 how long you want this cut in the last boom? 0:13:14.960 --> 0:13:16.600 Is this like an all day thing? Do you have 0:13:16.640 --> 0:13:21.360 a time living among hours? Because it's not that he's 0:13:21.400 --> 0:13:23.319 not cuddling with you. You just said the other day y'all 0:13:23.400 --> 0:13:26.559 was intimate and y'all were cuddling away, And I almost 0:13:26.640 --> 0:13:29.040 chuckled a little bit because you said he lasted a 0:13:29.040 --> 0:13:31.880 good twenty two minutes. I meant, what is your point 0:13:31.920 --> 0:13:34.320 of where you want to say that's enough cuddling? Is it? 0:13:34.360 --> 0:13:38.199 Thirty minutes? Is an hours? And a couple hours? Then 0:13:38.280 --> 0:13:42.680 y'all want into the shower. So I got to ask 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:44.400 you what is it that you want? And how are 0:13:44.440 --> 0:13:48.160 you communicating get with one another? So are you at 0:13:48.200 --> 0:13:49.480 the brink where you're about to break up with this 0:13:49.559 --> 0:13:51.840 man because he's not cutting liing on you enough. He 0:13:51.880 --> 0:13:54.199 shows up, he cooks, he cleans, he takes care of 0:13:54.280 --> 0:13:57.040 the bills, He lets you know that you he loves you, 0:13:57.920 --> 0:14:00.600 what does this mean for you and what does it 0:14:00.600 --> 0:14:03.240 look like for enough to be enough? Have you communicated 0:14:03.280 --> 0:14:05.280 even the times and when he's ready to stop, is 0:14:05.320 --> 0:14:08.200 he open to try doing again? I don't think this 0:14:08.320 --> 0:14:11.040 is grounds of breaking a relationship. I think this is 0:14:11.040 --> 0:14:12.880 more and so getting to know your partner. But at 0:14:12.920 --> 0:14:17.560 the same token, at the same time, it's not a 0:14:17.640 --> 0:14:19.520 moment of where you're not feel in love. It's just 0:14:19.560 --> 0:14:22.120 that maybe it's not enough or it has to come 0:14:22.160 --> 0:14:24.880 on harder because it's not like he's not paying you attention. 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:29.320 And I guess I'm just even reflecting on your letter. 0:14:29.560 --> 0:14:32.640 Are you asking a question? Are you asking a question 0:14:32.680 --> 0:14:34.680 on what you should do? It sounds like you have 0:14:34.720 --> 0:14:37.400 communicated it with him. Is it enough where you feel 0:14:37.480 --> 0:14:40.080 like this cuddling is not enough for you, but enough 0:14:40.080 --> 0:14:41.760 for you to have to walk away to find somebody 0:14:41.840 --> 0:14:44.160 else again? You got five years in a game with him. 0:14:45.320 --> 0:14:47.800 You definitely said you feel loved. You definitely said he 0:14:47.800 --> 0:14:49.640 feels like I mean, he is a great guy. You 0:14:49.720 --> 0:14:51.400 definitely said he cuddles with you in a bed, but 0:14:51.400 --> 0:14:54.080 it's just not long enough. Okay, are you majoring in 0:14:54.120 --> 0:14:58.320 the minor? I mean, these are all simple questions. I 0:14:58.360 --> 0:15:01.440 think that before you decide to make it any major moves, 0:15:01.840 --> 0:15:04.360 make wrong for your husband. And see how he's trying 0:15:04.360 --> 0:15:07.280 to show up, Cause again it's not like y'all getting 0:15:07.280 --> 0:15:09.200 it in and he's just getting up walking away. He's 0:15:09.200 --> 0:15:11.800 giving you a moment, But how much of a moment 0:15:11.840 --> 0:15:14.840 do you need? And I'm not trying to say nothing 0:15:14.920 --> 0:15:18.600 smart way, I'm just saying, reflect on yourself of whether 0:15:18.720 --> 0:15:21.280 or not you are feeling loved, you are feeling wanted, 0:15:23.280 --> 0:15:26.400 but clearly his actions are saying that way. But then 0:15:26.440 --> 0:15:28.200 there's a thing where you're not receiving it. And I 0:15:28.240 --> 0:15:30.240 want you to be mindfuls because what I don't want 0:15:30.240 --> 0:15:32.760 to happen is that you develop a sense of resentment. 0:15:33.000 --> 0:15:34.680 What I don't want to happen is that you end 0:15:34.760 --> 0:15:37.040 up stepping out because you feel as though you aren't 0:15:37.200 --> 0:15:38.960 being loved of how you want to be loved. And 0:15:39.000 --> 0:15:40.720 who am I to tell you that you need to 0:15:40.760 --> 0:15:44.720 relax and chill, Okay, I'm just here to point it 0:15:44.800 --> 0:15:47.280 out to know what you are standing up against. Because 0:15:47.320 --> 0:15:49.600 if you decide to walk away from this man because 0:15:49.640 --> 0:15:51.200 you feel as though he is not cuddling with you 0:15:51.200 --> 0:15:53.360 for thirty minutes instead of twenty two or now we're 0:15:53.400 --> 0:15:55.720 are several hours after that. Look at all what you're 0:15:55.760 --> 0:15:58.200 giving up as well, because he's a great guy. He cooks, 0:15:58.320 --> 0:16:01.360 he cleans, and what I really appreciate is that you communicate. 0:16:02.000 --> 0:16:04.200 So maybe it's probably something that you guys need to 0:16:04.240 --> 0:16:07.000 do activities and figure out how it went. More ways 0:16:07.040 --> 0:16:09.840 and field where you can have his attention and perhaps 0:16:09.920 --> 0:16:12.480 have some more cuddling, or maybe you just need to 0:16:12.480 --> 0:16:16.360 have some more sacks. I'm just saying, if you know 0:16:16.400 --> 0:16:18.600 what's gonna be a bit of a cuddling, put yourselves 0:16:18.600 --> 0:16:22.760 in moments when you got a cut, Let's watch a movie, baby. Okay, 0:16:23.040 --> 0:16:27.160 that's the best advice I want to give to you. Okay, 0:16:28.200 --> 0:16:30.200 he's giving you the kiss. It says he's crying in 0:16:30.200 --> 0:16:32.840 your hair. It's not like he's coming home and acting 0:16:32.880 --> 0:16:36.640 like you're not there. Hey, all right, Frankie Lee. I 0:16:36.640 --> 0:16:38.520 hope that was able to give you some insight. Don't 0:16:38.520 --> 0:16:40.680 give up on this marriage just yet. Do not give 0:16:40.720 --> 0:16:43.480 on this relationship. It's just say this man loves you, 0:16:43.720 --> 0:16:46.400 he appreciates you, and he honors and he values you. 0:16:46.840 --> 0:16:49.920 Do not lose on a relationship where somebody is loving 0:16:49.960 --> 0:16:52.480 on you. Okay, that's what I got to say, Dawn, 0:16:52.600 --> 0:16:57.800 like the break of day. Hey, all right, okay, I'm 0:16:57.840 --> 0:17:00.360 living a studio. Thank you so much for joined me. 0:17:00.440 --> 0:17:03.000 Let me see who I got. Miss Mayan. She just 0:17:03.080 --> 0:17:05.840 listened there. She said, you are high mess. Just keeping 0:17:05.920 --> 0:17:11.440 it real. So you know the dam coming in coming, 0:17:11.480 --> 0:17:15.760 in coming in oh man. So I'm glad to be 0:17:15.800 --> 0:17:18.119 back in the studio. I could have probad some more stories, 0:17:18.119 --> 0:17:20.199 but baby, I'm just glad that I pulled up today. 0:17:20.560 --> 0:17:22.239 And like I said before, I was all for an 0:17:22.440 --> 0:17:26.280 entire week. I was getting everything ready for my performance 0:17:26.280 --> 0:17:28.879 at the Groundlings. I put up a picture on Facebook. 0:17:29.720 --> 0:17:32.680 Go check it out. And I have another show coming 0:17:32.760 --> 0:17:35.720 up January sixth. This is a Monday at eight o'clock. 0:17:36.000 --> 0:17:38.240 Would love to see you there. Also, I didn't even 0:17:38.240 --> 0:17:40.600 tell you call me, let me know what's been going 0:17:40.600 --> 0:17:42.639 on with you, was going on in your world around you? 0:17:42.960 --> 0:17:46.080 Eight one eight four six one fifty four thirty two. 0:17:46.080 --> 0:17:49.560 I about to put in the chat call me because 0:17:49.600 --> 0:17:51.960 I did the Vitamin D dervice letter. And now I'm 0:17:51.960 --> 0:17:54.280 gonna be honest with you. I didn't prepare for nothing else. 0:17:54.920 --> 0:17:58.240 I was just glad I got into the studio, but 0:17:58.280 --> 0:17:59.640 I want to hear from you do. We definitely will 0:17:59.640 --> 0:18:02.720 be coming in with more content, maybe even a guest, 0:18:02.760 --> 0:18:04.760 but for sure, I guess probably next week on the 0:18:04.760 --> 0:18:08.000 podcast while we're doing a live Otherwise I could have 0:18:08.040 --> 0:18:10.359 recorded this at home my guests. But know it's something 0:18:10.400 --> 0:18:14.240 about being in the moment. Being in the moment. Ms 0:18:14.280 --> 0:18:16.280 Mian said, that's why I love you. She says, Oh 0:18:16.280 --> 0:18:19.560 my gosh, the picket fire. Thank you so much. How 0:18:19.640 --> 0:18:21.040 you doing is mine? You want to call on me 0:18:21.040 --> 0:18:22.320 and let me know what's been going on in your 0:18:22.320 --> 0:18:25.840 world this past week. I'd love to hear from you 0:18:25.920 --> 0:18:30.000 or somebody. I got a couple eyeballs on me. I 0:18:30.080 --> 0:18:33.440 got a couple eyeballs on me in the studio. I 0:18:33.440 --> 0:18:35.399 would love to know what you feel. I know Trump 0:18:35.480 --> 0:18:37.920 is making some plans right now, was about to come 0:18:37.960 --> 0:18:39.639 into twenty twenty four. I also want to make a 0:18:39.640 --> 0:18:42.560 correction since we're on that topic of that someone that 0:18:42.680 --> 0:18:45.680 really broke it down talking about the difference between migrants 0:18:46.080 --> 0:18:53.840 and people who are illegal here. Hey, mis Mac so 0:18:54.000 --> 0:18:57.160 good to be seen and not to be viewed. Well, 0:18:57.480 --> 0:19:02.240 thank you so much, thank you. I guess I'm glad 0:19:02.280 --> 0:19:04.760 that you know I did. Neither. I want to talk 0:19:04.800 --> 0:19:07.960 about something else today because just based off of just 0:19:08.040 --> 0:19:10.240 rifting on what we're talking about about staying at home 0:19:10.320 --> 0:19:13.400 and and why it's so important to show up because 0:19:13.400 --> 0:19:15.640 this is part of the dream, right And I think 0:19:15.720 --> 0:19:17.480 oftentimes when we look at the pursuit of the dream 0:19:17.480 --> 0:19:19.920 that is supposed to look like a certain way. I 0:19:19.960 --> 0:19:22.679 know what I risked, I know what I sacrificed to 0:19:22.720 --> 0:19:24.440 be able to come in this studio. And now I'm 0:19:24.440 --> 0:19:27.840 in a situation where I have reliable transportation, I have 0:19:27.880 --> 0:19:32.280 a studio at my leisure, I have access to a studio. 0:19:32.560 --> 0:19:35.159 Why wouldn't you show up? And I'm saying that to you, 0:19:35.200 --> 0:19:37.000 why aren't you showing up for your dreams? If there 0:19:37.080 --> 0:19:39.560 is anything that you have inspired to do that you 0:19:39.560 --> 0:19:41.320 would like to do, I got to ask you why 0:19:41.359 --> 0:19:44.840 you aren't showing up? Like I said, I was talking 0:19:44.840 --> 0:19:47.840 to a dear friend who is in the entertainment industry 0:19:47.880 --> 0:19:50.440 as well. But it's in a mode of feeling like, Okay, 0:19:50.480 --> 0:19:52.879 I'm looking at this age and I'm not experiencing the 0:19:52.880 --> 0:19:55.399 comfortable life that I want. It's not happening at the 0:19:55.440 --> 0:19:57.360 pace that I want. I'm looking at where I am 0:19:57.440 --> 0:19:59.280 right now and I'm saying this is not what I want. 0:19:59.280 --> 0:20:00.719 But then I have to ask that's them. I said, well, 0:20:00.720 --> 0:20:05.080 what is your comfort look like? Is your comfort having 0:20:05.160 --> 0:20:06.760 enough money but doing a job that you hate. Is 0:20:06.800 --> 0:20:09.199 your comfort going after something that you love and not 0:20:09.240 --> 0:20:11.239 having all the money but knowing that when it does hit, 0:20:11.320 --> 0:20:14.760 it's gonna hit. What is your level? And that is 0:20:14.800 --> 0:20:18.760 something only you can answer. Also, if you are trying 0:20:18.760 --> 0:20:20.679 to figure it out what it is that you want, 0:20:20.880 --> 0:20:22.439 what is it that you want to do? Have you 0:20:22.520 --> 0:20:26.000 truly stepped out and stepped into everything that has made 0:20:26.040 --> 0:20:29.200 an interest to you. I can't tell you how many 0:20:29.200 --> 0:20:31.439 times I talked to people that said, I don't know 0:20:31.480 --> 0:20:33.640 what it is that I want. You know, they say 0:20:33.680 --> 0:20:35.679 that the richest place in the world is in the cemetery. 0:20:36.000 --> 0:20:38.159 That's how many people have died with their dreams. And 0:20:38.200 --> 0:20:39.960 I'm thinking perhaps that a lot of people feel like 0:20:39.960 --> 0:20:41.639 it didn't happen at the time, and that they want 0:20:42.520 --> 0:20:44.560 it didn't show up, or they didn't feel prepared, or 0:20:44.560 --> 0:20:47.199 perhaps they had more regrets, or perhaps they spent so 0:20:47.280 --> 0:20:50.160 much time being distracted, wasting it on other people other 0:20:50.200 --> 0:20:52.359 things and doing things they ain't had no business doing. 0:20:54.480 --> 0:20:57.600 Why is that? And there is no right or wrong answer. 0:20:57.840 --> 0:21:00.880 It just all depends on what is in port you 0:21:01.200 --> 0:21:03.320