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Speaker 1: Just jump into this. Aisha Curry and Steph Curry, they've

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Speaker 1: been married thirteen years. You've got a handful kids.

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Speaker 2: Yes, they have four kids. And from the outside again,

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Speaker 2: I don't know them personally looking on the from the

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Speaker 2: outside in, they seem to have a very happy and

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Speaker 2: healthy relationship marriage and I Yisha opened up about the

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Speaker 2: secret to it. She said, for us, our relationship always

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Speaker 2: comes first. Then we're parents, and that works for us

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Speaker 2: because then you have two happy people raising the kids

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Speaker 2: in the house. And people are up in arms because

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Speaker 2: everybody thinks that this is backwards. You should be a

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Speaker 2: parent first and then your relationship second. And I love

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Speaker 2: this mentality. I feel like it is it's like when

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Speaker 2: you're flying, you put your mask on you and then

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Speaker 2: you help others. It's kind of like that same mentality

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Speaker 2: is like, we want to make sure that our relationship

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Speaker 2: is strong so that we can have happy parents to

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Speaker 2: parent these kids.

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Speaker 1: I have friends that say to me both things that

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Speaker 1: they've made a mistake by not prioritizing their connection with

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Speaker 1: the kids and it's a toll on their relationship. And

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Speaker 1: then I've had friends that have said, look, we just

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Speaker 1: everything's about the kids and that's just what it is.

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Speaker 1: But they lose they create distance within themselves and they

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Speaker 1: lose a little of the heat frankly that they had before.

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Speaker 1: So what do you subscribe to sysney because you have

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Speaker 1: all this, Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Eleven years married, fifteen or sixteen together, I've lost count

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Speaker 3: on that front, but it's true. You have to continue

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Speaker 3: to date your spouse and have those moments alone, even

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Speaker 3: if it's just for a night out or something like that,

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Speaker 3: to continue to kind of just focus on that because

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Speaker 3: the kids grow so fast. And I never thought I

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Speaker 3: would be saying that when I was like holding my

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Speaker 3: newborn twins, but now they're about to be seven years old,

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Speaker 3: and it happens so fast, and before I know it,

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Speaker 3: they're going to have their driver's license and then we're

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Speaker 3: going to be empty nesters. Like I just know that

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Speaker 3: it's going to happen that fast. And when you turn

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Speaker 3: back and you don't have a relationship with your husband

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Speaker 3: or your wife because you focus everything on the kids

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Speaker 3: the entire time. I think that's where marriages really struggle.

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Speaker 1: So for Steph and Aisha, uh, it works for them,

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Speaker 1: good on them, then works for them. They're happy and

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Speaker 1: they're they've got good kids, yep.