1 00:00:00,840 --> 00:00:03,960 Speaker 1: You're listening to the Tutor Dixon Podcast in the Clay 2 00:00:04,120 --> 00:00:05,760 Speaker 1: and Book Podcast Network. 3 00:00:08,960 --> 00:00:11,800 Speaker 2: Welcome to the Tutor Dixon Podcast. I'm Tutor Dixon and 4 00:00:11,840 --> 00:00:14,920 Speaker 2: I'm so glad to have you here today because today 5 00:00:14,960 --> 00:00:18,680 Speaker 2: we are joined by the Internet's dad, Rob Kenny. 6 00:00:19,079 --> 00:00:21,279 Speaker 1: You might have seen one of his YouTube videos. 7 00:00:20,960 --> 00:00:25,320 Speaker 2: Where he has amassed over four point five million followers 8 00:00:25,400 --> 00:00:28,680 Speaker 2: for his dad how Do I style videos that give 9 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:31,680 Speaker 2: practical advice, teach us how to do projects around the house, 10 00:00:31,760 --> 00:00:34,320 Speaker 2: like how to unclog the bath drain, and give us 11 00:00:34,320 --> 00:00:37,760 Speaker 2: our daily dose of dad jokes. But most importantly, Rob 12 00:00:37,840 --> 00:00:41,400 Speaker 2: is stepping out as the father figure for those in need. Rob, 13 00:00:41,560 --> 00:00:43,200 Speaker 2: thank you so much for joining me today. 14 00:00:43,400 --> 00:00:45,040 Speaker 3: You bet, yeah, thanks for having me on Tutor. 15 00:00:45,120 --> 00:00:47,920 Speaker 2: I'm really excited about it because I love what you're doing. 16 00:00:47,960 --> 00:00:50,199 Speaker 2: There are so many people out there that right now 17 00:00:50,280 --> 00:00:52,760 Speaker 2: feel like they don't have that figure in their lives 18 00:00:52,960 --> 00:00:55,560 Speaker 2: for various reasons. I mean, either kids that have gone 19 00:00:55,600 --> 00:00:57,440 Speaker 2: to college, people that are trying to make it on 20 00:00:57,480 --> 00:01:00,000 Speaker 2: their own, some folks that come from a broken home 21 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:02,680 Speaker 2: and maybe haven't had that dad figure. And you've been 22 00:01:02,720 --> 00:01:06,720 Speaker 2: able to do this, but it was kind of a 23 00:01:06,760 --> 00:01:08,760 Speaker 2: COVID inspired thing. I know it had been in your 24 00:01:08,800 --> 00:01:11,120 Speaker 2: mind for a while, but explain what really pushed you 25 00:01:11,160 --> 00:01:11,920 Speaker 2: toward doing this. 26 00:01:12,240 --> 00:01:15,080 Speaker 3: Yeah. I thought of the idea a few years prior, 27 00:01:16,080 --> 00:01:18,679 Speaker 3: and then during the pandemic, I ran out of excuses. 28 00:01:18,760 --> 00:01:22,080 Speaker 3: My daughter, she's thirty one now, so she was twenty 29 00:01:22,120 --> 00:01:24,880 Speaker 3: eight at the time. She kept pushing me to do it, 30 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:27,520 Speaker 3: and I kept coming up with excuses. Like everybody else, 31 00:01:27,560 --> 00:01:30,360 Speaker 3: I procrastinate, but I ran out of excuses because I 32 00:01:30,400 --> 00:01:33,000 Speaker 3: was locked up like everybody else, and so I did 33 00:01:33,360 --> 00:01:35,880 Speaker 3: how to Tie a Tie. I started my channel ironically 34 00:01:35,920 --> 00:01:38,720 Speaker 3: on April Fool's Day, so it was April first of 35 00:01:38,800 --> 00:01:41,679 Speaker 3: twenty twenty, and then I did my first upload on 36 00:01:41,720 --> 00:01:43,520 Speaker 3: April second, which was how to tie a tie. And 37 00:01:43,560 --> 00:01:45,800 Speaker 3: it wasn't a big commitment, right, just tie in a tie. 38 00:01:46,319 --> 00:01:48,960 Speaker 3: I thought I would just throw that one up there 39 00:01:48,960 --> 00:01:50,120 Speaker 3: and kind of throw my hat in the ring and 40 00:01:50,120 --> 00:01:50,800 Speaker 3: see what happened. 41 00:01:50,880 --> 00:01:51,760 Speaker 1: It's so interesting. 42 00:01:51,840 --> 00:01:54,040 Speaker 2: Actually, one of the guys in our office was like, 43 00:01:54,080 --> 00:01:56,360 Speaker 2: I learned how to tie a tie from him. 44 00:01:56,240 --> 00:01:57,520 Speaker 1: So it was effective. 45 00:01:57,560 --> 00:02:00,280 Speaker 2: A lot of people saw it, which I think is 46 00:02:00,480 --> 00:02:03,320 Speaker 2: awesome and amazing. But it's something that so many people 47 00:02:03,400 --> 00:02:05,800 Speaker 2: have tried to capture. I mean, it's like getting lightning 48 00:02:05,840 --> 00:02:07,840 Speaker 2: in a bottle, right, being able to do something and 49 00:02:07,880 --> 00:02:10,280 Speaker 2: have people really see it. So what do you think 50 00:02:10,320 --> 00:02:13,640 Speaker 2: it was that sparked so many people to come on? 51 00:02:13,800 --> 00:02:16,720 Speaker 2: Because you continue to bring in new followers all the time, 52 00:02:16,840 --> 00:02:17,560 Speaker 2: right I do. 53 00:02:17,760 --> 00:02:19,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, it continues to go on an upward trend, and 54 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:23,800 Speaker 3: my Facebook and my Instagram continue to continue to grow. So, 55 00:02:24,600 --> 00:02:27,800 Speaker 3: you know, I think I thought I was just going 56 00:02:27,840 --> 00:02:29,400 Speaker 3: to show people how to tie a high or how 57 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:33,360 Speaker 3: to shave. I you know, in my ignorance, it turns 58 00:02:33,400 --> 00:02:36,080 Speaker 3: out it's resonating on a completely different level where people 59 00:02:36,440 --> 00:02:39,280 Speaker 3: are crying watching me tie a high, or crying watching 60 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:41,760 Speaker 3: me shave, or listening to me shave in the background, 61 00:02:41,800 --> 00:02:44,680 Speaker 3: just having that run while they're doing something, and the 62 00:02:44,720 --> 00:02:47,800 Speaker 3: comfort of maybe what those memories were, Maybe you didn't 63 00:02:47,840 --> 00:02:50,640 Speaker 3: have the memories, maybe you had a bad experience. And 64 00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:53,840 Speaker 3: so there's so many different stories that I hear, and 65 00:02:53,880 --> 00:02:56,120 Speaker 3: if you go to my channel, you'll see the comments, 66 00:02:56,160 --> 00:02:59,720 Speaker 3: and a lot of them are heartbreakings are heartwarming. But yeah, 67 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:02,480 Speaker 3: it's resonating on a level that I didn't anticipate. I 68 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:04,880 Speaker 3: thought I was going to have thirty or forty followers 69 00:03:04,919 --> 00:03:06,920 Speaker 3: and just have this tight little group where I was 70 00:03:06,960 --> 00:03:10,280 Speaker 3: downloading nuggets from that I that I had to learn 71 00:03:10,320 --> 00:03:11,399 Speaker 3: the hard way a lot of them. 72 00:03:11,960 --> 00:03:14,959 Speaker 2: You must have a pretty diverse audience of folks who 73 00:03:15,040 --> 00:03:18,120 Speaker 2: have maybe lost a dad or don't have a dad 74 00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:21,000 Speaker 2: for various reasons. I mean, lost a dad to death. 75 00:03:21,120 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 2: Maybe someone has parents serving overseas, but you're kind of 76 00:03:25,480 --> 00:03:28,440 Speaker 2: there to be able to give them that advice. And 77 00:03:28,520 --> 00:03:32,080 Speaker 2: probably a lot of moms have been incredibly grateful to you. 78 00:03:32,120 --> 00:03:33,600 Speaker 2: Do you hear from moms very often? 79 00:03:34,560 --> 00:03:36,280 Speaker 3: Yep, quite a bit. Like I said, it's kind of 80 00:03:36,320 --> 00:03:38,480 Speaker 3: all over the place. And I start my videos by saying, 81 00:03:38,520 --> 00:03:41,480 Speaker 3: hate kids, and I have eighty year old kids, So 82 00:03:42,760 --> 00:03:45,000 Speaker 3: you know, I try to just you know, make it 83 00:03:45,400 --> 00:03:49,120 Speaker 3: heartwarming and make people feel loved and to the best 84 00:03:49,120 --> 00:03:51,480 Speaker 3: of my ability, where you come in and just you know, 85 00:03:51,800 --> 00:03:54,400 Speaker 3: you learn something and you feel better when you walk away. 86 00:03:54,640 --> 00:03:57,640 Speaker 3: That's that's what my goal has been all along. And 87 00:03:57,680 --> 00:03:59,400 Speaker 3: I you know, I'm a man of faith, and so 88 00:03:59,440 --> 00:04:03,440 Speaker 3: I like, in my finite fallen way, I'm showing a 89 00:04:03,480 --> 00:04:06,440 Speaker 3: little bit of God's love and I think He's touching 90 00:04:06,440 --> 00:04:08,200 Speaker 3: people's hearts through it. 91 00:04:08,240 --> 00:04:08,440 Speaker 2: You know. 92 00:04:08,560 --> 00:04:11,320 Speaker 3: Again, you know, I'm just a man. I'm doing the 93 00:04:11,320 --> 00:04:13,840 Speaker 3: best I can. I certainly can't represent God, but I can, 94 00:04:13,960 --> 00:04:16,440 Speaker 3: to the best of my ability to try to represent 95 00:04:16,520 --> 00:04:17,279 Speaker 3: him the best I can. 96 00:04:17,560 --> 00:04:20,200 Speaker 2: That I love that because I think oftentimes in this 97 00:04:20,279 --> 00:04:23,440 Speaker 2: world we are trying to step in for God. There's 98 00:04:23,480 --> 00:04:25,440 Speaker 2: so many people that are like, Okay, I can do 99 00:04:25,480 --> 00:04:29,280 Speaker 2: this all on my own. And you sort of had 100 00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:31,680 Speaker 2: that experience in life where you felt like you kind 101 00:04:31,680 --> 00:04:33,320 Speaker 2: of had to do it all on your own. And 102 00:04:33,839 --> 00:04:37,080 Speaker 2: when you accepted God as your savior and Jesus as 103 00:04:37,120 --> 00:04:40,600 Speaker 2: your savior, that really changed how you look at the world. 104 00:04:40,680 --> 00:04:43,360 Speaker 2: And I think that's an incredible message to send to people. 105 00:04:43,400 --> 00:04:45,280 Speaker 2: You're not doing this all alone. You don't have to 106 00:04:45,360 --> 00:04:47,599 Speaker 2: be doing this, and you don't really push it in 107 00:04:47,800 --> 00:04:51,080 Speaker 2: these messages. You just kind of let leave the God 108 00:04:51,160 --> 00:04:52,640 Speaker 2: loves you message out there, right. 109 00:04:52,920 --> 00:04:54,840 Speaker 3: I do, Yeah, I and my videos by saying God 110 00:04:54,880 --> 00:04:57,039 Speaker 3: bless you. And I've had people say, oh, you shouldn't 111 00:04:57,040 --> 00:04:58,920 Speaker 3: say that. I'm like, you know what, I'm sure you've 112 00:04:58,960 --> 00:05:04,359 Speaker 3: had worse things. You know. I'm going to leave it 113 00:05:04,400 --> 00:05:06,720 Speaker 3: in because that is who I am, And in any 114 00:05:06,839 --> 00:05:09,279 Speaker 3: interview that I have, I'm happy to share about my faith. 115 00:05:09,320 --> 00:05:11,760 Speaker 3: I try it. It's tough, you know. I don't want 116 00:05:11,800 --> 00:05:14,760 Speaker 3: to look like I'm compromising or what have you. But 117 00:05:14,800 --> 00:05:18,599 Speaker 3: I do want anybody and everybody to feel welcome, whatever 118 00:05:18,680 --> 00:05:21,200 Speaker 3: walk of life you are. And so I so and 119 00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:23,480 Speaker 3: I do have some wisdom Wednesdays where I do share, 120 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:27,640 Speaker 3: you know, hints of scripture too, so I try to 121 00:05:27,680 --> 00:05:29,600 Speaker 3: drop that in as well. But I also don't want 122 00:05:29,600 --> 00:05:32,239 Speaker 3: to scare people off by shining a light in their face, 123 00:05:32,440 --> 00:05:34,880 Speaker 3: you know. So there's a balance there of trying to 124 00:05:35,440 --> 00:05:37,400 Speaker 3: make sure that I'm doing it correctly. 125 00:05:37,640 --> 00:05:41,039 Speaker 2: I think we're in the same situation there because having 126 00:05:41,279 --> 00:05:44,680 Speaker 2: gone through the political machine, I guess I would I 127 00:05:44,720 --> 00:05:47,880 Speaker 2: would say it was similar where people, you know, you 128 00:05:47,880 --> 00:05:49,719 Speaker 2: get a lot of advice this is your faith, but 129 00:05:49,800 --> 00:05:53,520 Speaker 2: don't push your faith, and you kind of want to 130 00:05:53,520 --> 00:05:57,440 Speaker 2: make sure that you are careful about not offending people. 131 00:05:57,480 --> 00:06:00,000 Speaker 2: But I think that is sort of the Christian message 132 00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:02,960 Speaker 2: in general, is to live your faith and let people 133 00:06:03,000 --> 00:06:05,719 Speaker 2: see it. I mean, if you study the Bible, the 134 00:06:05,720 --> 00:06:09,040 Speaker 2: Bible is really telling you live like Jesus and people 135 00:06:09,080 --> 00:06:09,800 Speaker 2: will see that. 136 00:06:10,480 --> 00:06:13,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think so, you know, and I have my 137 00:06:13,480 --> 00:06:17,200 Speaker 3: devotion every morning, and so I'm constantly you know, making 138 00:06:17,240 --> 00:06:19,360 Speaker 3: sure that I'm doing what I believe the Lord would 139 00:06:19,400 --> 00:06:21,599 Speaker 3: have me to do. And I was struggling early on 140 00:06:21,640 --> 00:06:23,240 Speaker 3: because again I didn't realize I was going to have 141 00:06:23,279 --> 00:06:25,880 Speaker 3: such a large following. And I do feel a responsibility 142 00:06:25,880 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 3: with that platform to make sure that I'm doing what 143 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:31,080 Speaker 3: God would have me to do because I see everything 144 00:06:31,120 --> 00:06:33,960 Speaker 3: through that lens. That's how I see life. I recognize 145 00:06:33,960 --> 00:06:36,479 Speaker 3: that my life is a vapor. I'm almost sixty, you know, 146 00:06:37,080 --> 00:06:40,800 Speaker 3: I turned fifty nine in May, and I feel like 147 00:06:40,880 --> 00:06:44,200 Speaker 3: I was just a kid, just you know, not that 148 00:06:44,279 --> 00:06:46,760 Speaker 3: long ago, and so it goes by so quick. And 149 00:06:47,000 --> 00:06:50,880 Speaker 3: understanding life from an eternal perspective, I think is huge 150 00:06:50,920 --> 00:06:53,560 Speaker 3: because it gets you through. You know, you run into 151 00:06:53,600 --> 00:06:56,280 Speaker 3: different trials or what have you, but you recognize that 152 00:06:56,320 --> 00:07:00,480 Speaker 3: in this life everything is temporary, and so that has 153 00:07:00,520 --> 00:07:01,440 Speaker 3: always helped. 154 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:04,920 Speaker 2: Me and any success in any followers, you know, they 155 00:07:04,960 --> 00:07:09,680 Speaker 2: come from Him anyway, and so He obviously is wanting 156 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:11,440 Speaker 2: this is the path that he wants you on. 157 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:13,040 Speaker 1: How long for our listeners? 158 00:07:13,080 --> 00:07:14,520 Speaker 2: I mean, I know a lot of people try to 159 00:07:14,560 --> 00:07:17,640 Speaker 2: do something like this and they look at your situation, 160 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:20,200 Speaker 2: they go, gosh, that just happened overnight? What a lucky guy. 161 00:07:20,520 --> 00:07:22,480 Speaker 2: How long did it actually take you to get to 162 00:07:22,520 --> 00:07:24,400 Speaker 2: the point that you're at right now with followers. 163 00:07:24,640 --> 00:07:27,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's been a little over three years. But 164 00:07:27,280 --> 00:07:29,920 Speaker 3: my channel did go viral during the pandemic. So I 165 00:07:29,960 --> 00:07:32,080 Speaker 3: started my channel in April, like I said, and then 166 00:07:32,120 --> 00:07:35,720 Speaker 3: it went viral end of May, and I only had 167 00:07:35,760 --> 00:07:39,320 Speaker 3: like six or seven videos at the time. But I 168 00:07:39,360 --> 00:07:40,800 Speaker 3: think a lot of it has to deal with my 169 00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:45,560 Speaker 3: backstory because I'm one of eight kids. I'm number seven, 170 00:07:45,960 --> 00:07:49,120 Speaker 3: and my dad and mom started out really well, but 171 00:07:49,200 --> 00:07:52,960 Speaker 3: then then it started to fall apart. I won't get 172 00:07:52,960 --> 00:07:54,760 Speaker 3: into that. You can read my book if you if 173 00:07:54,840 --> 00:07:58,480 Speaker 3: you want to know more. But around when I was fourteen, 174 00:07:58,560 --> 00:08:01,239 Speaker 3: my dad decided he didn't want to have kids anymore, 175 00:08:01,320 --> 00:08:05,000 Speaker 3: which you know isn't really an option. My mom couldn't 176 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:06,360 Speaker 3: take care of us, so I went to live with 177 00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:09,960 Speaker 3: my brother and he was twenty three at the time. 178 00:08:10,760 --> 00:08:14,480 Speaker 2: That's a pretty critical age to just be and for 179 00:08:14,600 --> 00:08:17,120 Speaker 2: twenty three, I mean, that must have been that must 180 00:08:17,160 --> 00:08:19,760 Speaker 2: have been a moment in life that really kind of 181 00:08:19,760 --> 00:08:21,680 Speaker 2: I mean a person can be rocked over that and 182 00:08:21,720 --> 00:08:24,080 Speaker 2: look at you, now, this is this is impressive. 183 00:08:25,280 --> 00:08:29,320 Speaker 3: Well, it's God you know again, so it'd be crazy 184 00:08:29,320 --> 00:08:31,880 Speaker 3: for me to try to take the credit. God worked 185 00:08:31,880 --> 00:08:33,560 Speaker 3: on me and worked on me and got me to 186 00:08:33,600 --> 00:08:36,959 Speaker 3: finally forgive my dad. And I'm embarrassed to say again 187 00:08:37,000 --> 00:08:41,280 Speaker 3: that I became a Christian when I was like twenty seven, 188 00:08:41,320 --> 00:08:43,640 Speaker 3: twenty eight before my daughter was born, right before she 189 00:08:43,760 --> 00:08:47,640 Speaker 3: was born, and then it took me a long time 190 00:08:47,679 --> 00:08:51,839 Speaker 3: to forget my dad. I held that for probably twenty years, 191 00:08:51,920 --> 00:08:55,080 Speaker 3: even as a believer. I realized I should forgive, but 192 00:08:55,200 --> 00:08:58,120 Speaker 3: I couldn't. I couldn't find the strength to do it 193 00:08:58,600 --> 00:09:02,000 Speaker 3: until I heard you know, that's saying that says unforgiveness 194 00:09:02,040 --> 00:09:04,840 Speaker 3: is like drinking poison and hoping it hurts the other person. 195 00:09:04,960 --> 00:09:08,160 Speaker 3: And that really hit home with me. That was me. Yeah, 196 00:09:08,160 --> 00:09:10,920 Speaker 3: I was drinking the poison and spending that plate and 197 00:09:11,080 --> 00:09:15,400 Speaker 3: spending energy keeping that thing alive of wanting to not 198 00:09:15,440 --> 00:09:17,720 Speaker 3: forgive my dad. And so when I finally let go 199 00:09:17,800 --> 00:09:20,240 Speaker 3: of that, there was freedom for me on the other side. 200 00:09:20,280 --> 00:09:22,520 Speaker 3: And that's the main reason I even share the story 201 00:09:22,679 --> 00:09:25,600 Speaker 3: is to try to encourage other people to forgive, because 202 00:09:25,679 --> 00:09:26,920 Speaker 3: forgiveness is powerful. 203 00:09:27,280 --> 00:09:29,600 Speaker 2: I think some of the people who can speak into 204 00:09:29,640 --> 00:09:32,800 Speaker 2: your life the best are those who were saved later 205 00:09:32,840 --> 00:09:35,720 Speaker 2: in life, because you can see both perspectives and you 206 00:09:35,760 --> 00:09:39,880 Speaker 2: can really fully understand where that unsaved person is and 207 00:09:39,880 --> 00:09:42,280 Speaker 2: where their heart space is and that confusion and that 208 00:09:43,440 --> 00:09:47,720 Speaker 2: feeling of being lost is. And so I think that 209 00:09:47,720 --> 00:09:50,920 Speaker 2: that probably contributes a lot to your success and being 210 00:09:50,960 --> 00:09:54,079 Speaker 2: able to reach people in their heart space and encourage 211 00:09:54,120 --> 00:09:58,000 Speaker 2: them because you're not coming to them from the perspective 212 00:09:58,040 --> 00:10:00,160 Speaker 2: of you have to live this way. It's hey, I 213 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:03,319 Speaker 2: know where you are, I've been there, and I can 214 00:10:03,360 --> 00:10:05,599 Speaker 2: talk to you about this. And forgiveness is one of 215 00:10:05,679 --> 00:10:08,440 Speaker 2: those things that is really really a challenge, especially for 216 00:10:08,520 --> 00:10:11,720 Speaker 2: folks who feel like they're in that heart space where 217 00:10:11,880 --> 00:10:14,040 Speaker 2: you feel lost and you don't know which way, you 218 00:10:14,080 --> 00:10:16,760 Speaker 2: don't really have a north star, you don't have that 219 00:10:16,800 --> 00:10:19,560 Speaker 2: faith in God leading you. And so I love the 220 00:10:19,640 --> 00:10:22,400 Speaker 2: fact that you have this experience, that you're able to 221 00:10:22,440 --> 00:10:25,800 Speaker 2: bring this and to talk about forgiveness. I mean, we 222 00:10:25,920 --> 00:10:28,679 Speaker 2: just had this at church a few weeks ago. Our 223 00:10:28,679 --> 00:10:31,800 Speaker 2: pastor was talking about forgiveness, and I think it's something 224 00:10:31,840 --> 00:10:35,400 Speaker 2: that you and I have talked about is important that 225 00:10:35,880 --> 00:10:38,120 Speaker 2: a lot of people feel like you need to have 226 00:10:38,200 --> 00:10:40,360 Speaker 2: that person come to you and say I want you 227 00:10:40,440 --> 00:10:44,040 Speaker 2: to forgive me, and you learned over time and you 228 00:10:44,120 --> 00:10:46,440 Speaker 2: held on to it, and I know you talk about 229 00:10:46,480 --> 00:10:48,720 Speaker 2: feeling guilty that you held on to it, but gosh, 230 00:10:48,760 --> 00:10:50,480 Speaker 2: God has a plan for you to be able to 231 00:10:50,480 --> 00:10:53,560 Speaker 2: speak from a place of knowing and for your heart 232 00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:57,040 Speaker 2: to be pure in understanding this. And so you lived 233 00:10:57,080 --> 00:11:00,800 Speaker 2: this and you realized it doesn't take that person coming 234 00:11:00,840 --> 00:11:03,319 Speaker 2: to you to ask you for forgiveness, does it. 235 00:11:03,320 --> 00:11:06,360 Speaker 3: It doesn't because if you're you know, if you're waiting 236 00:11:06,520 --> 00:11:08,800 Speaker 3: for them to ask you, they might have moved on 237 00:11:08,880 --> 00:11:10,760 Speaker 3: in their lives and not even feel like they need 238 00:11:10,760 --> 00:11:13,560 Speaker 3: to ask for forgiveness. And meanwhile, it's killing you. So 239 00:11:13,800 --> 00:11:17,920 Speaker 3: it's in your best interest to forgive and not wait 240 00:11:18,240 --> 00:11:20,280 Speaker 3: for you know, it seems so obvious to me now 241 00:11:20,320 --> 00:11:23,720 Speaker 3: this side of it. What was they thinking? But I'm 242 00:11:23,720 --> 00:11:27,160 Speaker 3: grateful that I finally finally got there. And you know, 243 00:11:27,760 --> 00:11:29,840 Speaker 3: I will share one thing too that I think there's 244 00:11:29,960 --> 00:11:33,920 Speaker 3: there's victim mentality in our society where people want to 245 00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:36,520 Speaker 3: for some reason ride the whole victim thing, you know, 246 00:11:36,559 --> 00:11:38,640 Speaker 3: And there's people that have been through way worse than me. 247 00:11:38,760 --> 00:11:40,720 Speaker 3: So please, don't you know I'm not going to act 248 00:11:40,760 --> 00:11:42,920 Speaker 3: like I went through the worst anybody's ever gone through. 249 00:11:42,960 --> 00:11:44,760 Speaker 3: People have been through worse, but there's a lot of 250 00:11:44,800 --> 00:11:47,640 Speaker 3: people that been haven't really been through much, and yet 251 00:11:47,679 --> 00:11:50,600 Speaker 3: they still want to, you know, have people feel sorry 252 00:11:50,640 --> 00:11:53,079 Speaker 3: for them and feel like, you know, I want to 253 00:11:53,080 --> 00:11:56,000 Speaker 3: play a victim. It's just not beneficial. I've found, you know, 254 00:11:56,040 --> 00:11:58,640 Speaker 3: once you can take control of your own life and go, 255 00:11:58,800 --> 00:12:01,280 Speaker 3: you know what, this is my life. I'm no longer 256 00:12:01,320 --> 00:12:04,440 Speaker 3: going to have that thing hanging over me. I'm going 257 00:12:04,520 --> 00:12:06,760 Speaker 3: to go do what I want to do and do 258 00:12:06,840 --> 00:12:09,600 Speaker 3: what God would have me to do. There's freedom in that, 259 00:12:09,720 --> 00:12:13,200 Speaker 3: and it's boy, it's amazing because then wow, then you 260 00:12:13,200 --> 00:12:16,280 Speaker 3: can learn and do anything. You know, the world's wide 261 00:12:16,280 --> 00:12:16,800 Speaker 3: open to you. 262 00:12:17,440 --> 00:12:20,320 Speaker 2: Well. I think that is a message that people are 263 00:12:20,400 --> 00:12:22,600 Speaker 2: dying to hear right now. There is a path for you. 264 00:12:23,120 --> 00:12:26,000 Speaker 2: There's a path forward, and there's a successful path. 265 00:12:25,760 --> 00:12:27,160 Speaker 1: Forward, and you can get there. 266 00:12:27,720 --> 00:12:30,960 Speaker 2: And I believe that that's why listening to what you 267 00:12:31,040 --> 00:12:33,880 Speaker 2: have to say is so valuable to people, because too 268 00:12:33,920 --> 00:12:37,240 Speaker 2: often today our kids are being bombarded with messages of 269 00:12:37,760 --> 00:12:40,520 Speaker 2: you don't fit in, you shouldn't be happy. This is 270 00:12:40,559 --> 00:12:43,800 Speaker 2: someplace where you can claim victimhood and you're really telling 271 00:12:43,840 --> 00:12:47,280 Speaker 2: people you don't. I've been in this bad situation, and 272 00:12:47,360 --> 00:12:49,080 Speaker 2: I can tell you on the other side, you don't 273 00:12:49,080 --> 00:12:49,800 Speaker 2: have to be a victim. 274 00:12:50,080 --> 00:12:52,360 Speaker 3: Absolutely, And you know, I try to encourage people to 275 00:12:52,400 --> 00:12:55,440 Speaker 3: break the cycle of you know, if you didn't have 276 00:12:55,480 --> 00:12:58,880 Speaker 3: a good example, that doesn't mean you have to, you know, 277 00:12:59,040 --> 00:13:02,080 Speaker 3: continue that that on you. You can do it a 278 00:13:02,120 --> 00:13:04,560 Speaker 3: different way. Be the dad you wish you had, you know. 279 00:13:05,280 --> 00:13:08,559 Speaker 3: And it's sad, you know, the fatherlessness in our society 280 00:13:08,640 --> 00:13:11,880 Speaker 3: and how fathers are kind of mocked a little bit. 281 00:13:11,920 --> 00:13:14,520 Speaker 3: And actually, you know, like Homer Simpson, you know, the 282 00:13:14,840 --> 00:13:18,240 Speaker 3: Simpsons are funny, but also within that you kind of 283 00:13:18,400 --> 00:13:20,920 Speaker 3: get a little bit of disdain for fathers. And then 284 00:13:20,960 --> 00:13:24,760 Speaker 3: also Al Bundy, you know some of that stuff. I 285 00:13:24,760 --> 00:13:27,439 Speaker 3: think it has a trickle down effect. And I loved 286 00:13:27,520 --> 00:13:30,240 Speaker 3: being a dad. I did. I still am a dad, 287 00:13:30,280 --> 00:13:32,160 Speaker 3: you know. I mean my kids are adults and so 288 00:13:32,200 --> 00:13:35,480 Speaker 3: we relate on a different level. So if I can 289 00:13:35,559 --> 00:13:38,440 Speaker 3: help in even a small way to encourage dads to 290 00:13:38,520 --> 00:13:41,800 Speaker 3: understand it is cool to be a dad, pour yourself 291 00:13:41,800 --> 00:13:44,680 Speaker 3: into your kids, and you have that be your legacy. 292 00:13:44,800 --> 00:13:47,480 Speaker 2: Let's take a quick commercial break. We'll continue next on 293 00:13:47,520 --> 00:13:53,320 Speaker 2: the tutor Dixon podcast. And for your daughter to be 294 00:13:53,480 --> 00:13:56,360 Speaker 2: the one that's encouraging you to do this, she must 295 00:13:56,440 --> 00:13:59,240 Speaker 2: know what an incredible dad that you've been. But it 296 00:13:59,320 --> 00:14:03,520 Speaker 2: is interesting to me because at fourteen being on your own, 297 00:14:03,920 --> 00:14:06,520 Speaker 2: and really even at twenty three having your brother there, 298 00:14:06,600 --> 00:14:09,120 Speaker 2: I mean, there's still a lot at twenty three that 299 00:14:09,200 --> 00:14:11,840 Speaker 2: you have to learn. Where did you learn all of 300 00:14:11,880 --> 00:14:13,240 Speaker 2: this that you're able to share it. 301 00:14:13,760 --> 00:14:15,720 Speaker 3: I did learn a lot from that brother. For my 302 00:14:15,760 --> 00:14:18,600 Speaker 3: brother Rick, I have to give him credit, and his 303 00:14:18,640 --> 00:14:21,920 Speaker 3: wife as well, Karen. They were newlyweds. They were married 304 00:14:21,920 --> 00:14:24,480 Speaker 3: in October of seventy eight. I moved in with them 305 00:14:24,680 --> 00:14:28,920 Speaker 3: in January seventy nine, and so they were twenty three 306 00:14:29,000 --> 00:14:32,720 Speaker 3: and twenty four newlyweds in a trailer. I used to 307 00:14:32,720 --> 00:14:34,240 Speaker 3: call it a mobile home, but they were in an 308 00:14:34,280 --> 00:14:36,840 Speaker 3: eight foot by thirty five foot trailer. And suddenly they 309 00:14:36,840 --> 00:14:42,560 Speaker 3: have a fourteen year old kid. So you know, more 310 00:14:42,600 --> 00:14:45,800 Speaker 3: power to them, right the fact that they took me 311 00:14:45,840 --> 00:14:47,360 Speaker 3: in when they felt like it was the right thing 312 00:14:47,400 --> 00:14:49,000 Speaker 3: to do. So I learned a lot from him. My 313 00:14:49,040 --> 00:14:52,360 Speaker 3: brother Rick, he's retired now, but he's a journeyman carpenter. 314 00:14:52,440 --> 00:14:54,760 Speaker 3: So I learned a lot of things from certain things 315 00:14:54,800 --> 00:14:57,560 Speaker 3: that I had to learn on my own. I learned 316 00:14:57,560 --> 00:14:59,320 Speaker 3: how to tie a tie from my roommate when I 317 00:14:59,360 --> 00:15:03,040 Speaker 3: was nineteen. I learned how to shave. I can't remember 318 00:15:03,040 --> 00:15:04,800 Speaker 3: exactly how I learned how to shave. It might have 319 00:15:04,840 --> 00:15:06,760 Speaker 3: been Rick, I can't remember it. But yeah, So I 320 00:15:06,880 --> 00:15:09,520 Speaker 3: learned things kind of all over the place. And one 321 00:15:09,560 --> 00:15:11,760 Speaker 3: thing that Rick taught me was to not really be 322 00:15:11,880 --> 00:15:16,600 Speaker 3: afraid to fail. You know, when you're because he's again 323 00:15:16,600 --> 00:15:20,200 Speaker 3: a journeyman cabinet maker, and he's doing everything exactly the 324 00:15:20,200 --> 00:15:22,040 Speaker 3: way it's supposed to go. And then I would help 325 00:15:22,120 --> 00:15:24,440 Speaker 3: him and I go, oh, no, I messed this up, 326 00:15:24,480 --> 00:15:26,280 Speaker 3: and he goes, don't worry, Yeah, we'll do this. We'll 327 00:15:26,280 --> 00:15:27,840 Speaker 3: fix it this way, we'll fix it that way. You know, 328 00:15:27,880 --> 00:15:32,680 Speaker 3: he's very good at pivoting and kind of covering your mistakes. 329 00:15:32,720 --> 00:15:35,840 Speaker 2: I think that's something that I mean, throughout life, you 330 00:15:35,960 --> 00:15:39,480 Speaker 2: learn that you actually learn the most through failure. I 331 00:15:39,480 --> 00:15:42,760 Speaker 2: mean it's even running for office. You learn a lot 332 00:15:42,840 --> 00:15:45,040 Speaker 2: when you lose, and you got to take. 333 00:15:44,840 --> 00:15:45,400 Speaker 1: That with you. 334 00:15:45,560 --> 00:15:48,280 Speaker 2: You can't let you can't let failures get you down, 335 00:15:48,360 --> 00:15:51,600 Speaker 2: because without failures, you have no successes. 336 00:15:51,920 --> 00:15:55,280 Speaker 3: That's absolutely true. I did a wisdom Wednesday on that 337 00:15:55,440 --> 00:15:59,520 Speaker 3: about I've done a few but making mistakes. You know, 338 00:15:59,800 --> 00:16:02,400 Speaker 3: I remember when I was learning how to ski, and 339 00:16:02,480 --> 00:16:04,760 Speaker 3: if you never fall when you're skiing, you're probably not 340 00:16:04,800 --> 00:16:08,560 Speaker 3: getting any better. If you're pushing and you're falling, that 341 00:16:08,680 --> 00:16:11,880 Speaker 3: means you're trying things that maybe you know you're that 342 00:16:11,960 --> 00:16:14,320 Speaker 3: are out of your comfort zone. And it's the same 343 00:16:14,360 --> 00:16:17,400 Speaker 3: way in life. If you if you're so cautious that 344 00:16:17,480 --> 00:16:19,960 Speaker 3: you don't ever want to make a mistake, well you're 345 00:16:19,960 --> 00:16:23,160 Speaker 3: not really trying anything then, because you're going to make mistakes. 346 00:16:23,200 --> 00:16:25,720 Speaker 3: And I compare it to baby steps. I talk about 347 00:16:25,720 --> 00:16:28,360 Speaker 3: baby steps a lot, because when you're a baby, you 348 00:16:28,360 --> 00:16:30,520 Speaker 3: don't just give up walking. You know, you try to, 349 00:16:31,200 --> 00:16:33,320 Speaker 3: you don't overthink it. You're a baby. You get up 350 00:16:33,360 --> 00:16:34,800 Speaker 3: and you walk and oh I fell, and I get 351 00:16:34,840 --> 00:16:37,240 Speaker 3: up and I walk, and pretty soon you're walking. That's right. 352 00:16:37,840 --> 00:16:39,880 Speaker 3: As adults, we go I'm just no good at this. 353 00:16:40,120 --> 00:16:42,200 Speaker 3: I just I'm going to stop because I'm just not 354 00:16:42,240 --> 00:16:43,720 Speaker 3: good at it. Well, you've got to give yourself a 355 00:16:43,720 --> 00:16:46,280 Speaker 3: fair shot with the failures. 356 00:16:46,680 --> 00:16:49,320 Speaker 2: No matter what age you are, there are always voices 357 00:16:49,320 --> 00:16:52,600 Speaker 2: that will be speaking into you saying Nope, you can't 358 00:16:52,600 --> 00:16:54,560 Speaker 2: do this, You're not good enough, and you've got to 359 00:16:54,640 --> 00:16:57,560 Speaker 2: push past those And I think that's something that young 360 00:16:57,600 --> 00:17:00,240 Speaker 2: people today haven't realized that that happens to all of us. 361 00:17:00,320 --> 00:17:01,280 Speaker 1: You are not alone. 362 00:17:01,360 --> 00:17:03,520 Speaker 2: When you feel like you cannot do something, when you 363 00:17:03,560 --> 00:17:06,240 Speaker 2: feel very defeated, you are not alone. 364 00:17:06,560 --> 00:17:07,960 Speaker 1: You have to push past it. 365 00:17:08,000 --> 00:17:11,399 Speaker 2: The pushing past it part is what makes you a 366 00:17:11,440 --> 00:17:14,480 Speaker 2: different person, a better person, a more determined person. But 367 00:17:15,160 --> 00:17:17,000 Speaker 2: you mentioned something that I want to go back to, 368 00:17:17,040 --> 00:17:19,800 Speaker 2: because you mentioned the whole albundies and the way the 369 00:17:19,880 --> 00:17:23,520 Speaker 2: media portrays parents. Now, I've found with my kids in 370 00:17:23,560 --> 00:17:26,639 Speaker 2: this generation, there are a lot of shows that are 371 00:17:27,000 --> 00:17:31,560 Speaker 2: specifically for kids where the kids are playing pranks on 372 00:17:31,600 --> 00:17:34,840 Speaker 2: the adults. The parents are always kind of dufases. They're 373 00:17:34,880 --> 00:17:37,800 Speaker 2: acting like idiots. The kids are leading the way, they're 374 00:17:37,880 --> 00:17:41,240 Speaker 2: managing the household, not in a good way. They're managing 375 00:17:41,280 --> 00:17:43,600 Speaker 2: the parents, not in a good way. And that's been 376 00:17:43,640 --> 00:17:46,040 Speaker 2: something as a mom I've started to kind of shut 377 00:17:46,080 --> 00:17:49,240 Speaker 2: those shows off because even my husband, he was like, 378 00:17:49,680 --> 00:17:52,440 Speaker 2: they feel like it's like they think they're in charge, 379 00:17:52,480 --> 00:17:55,760 Speaker 2: and we see this across a lot of different families. 380 00:17:55,760 --> 00:17:58,200 Speaker 2: We actually saw a comedian over the weekend who said, 381 00:17:58,400 --> 00:18:01,840 Speaker 2: I'd like to take today's kids back to nineteen eighty 382 00:18:01,840 --> 00:18:05,320 Speaker 2: two and have them see some of our parents and 383 00:18:05,480 --> 00:18:08,199 Speaker 2: the way they acted with us, because they would be 384 00:18:08,320 --> 00:18:12,400 Speaker 2: shocked by how you have to respect adults differently. How 385 00:18:12,400 --> 00:18:15,199 Speaker 2: do you think that you combat that in the media. 386 00:18:15,240 --> 00:18:17,680 Speaker 2: I mean, you seem to be doing a great job. 387 00:18:18,000 --> 00:18:20,280 Speaker 2: I think the fact that you have as many followers 388 00:18:20,480 --> 00:18:24,280 Speaker 2: as you do means that that concept of kids really 389 00:18:24,320 --> 00:18:28,200 Speaker 2: wanting some discipline, wanting to know that there are boundaries, 390 00:18:29,000 --> 00:18:31,520 Speaker 2: four point five million followers must mean that's true. 391 00:18:31,680 --> 00:18:32,439 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think so. 392 00:18:32,760 --> 00:18:32,960 Speaker 2: You know. 393 00:18:33,000 --> 00:18:35,520 Speaker 3: The wholesomeness too, you know, I try to keep everything 394 00:18:35,560 --> 00:18:38,159 Speaker 3: wholesome where I'm not swearing. I try to just you know, 395 00:18:38,440 --> 00:18:41,879 Speaker 3: be try to be a guide to different people. I 396 00:18:41,960 --> 00:18:44,840 Speaker 3: compare it to fast food too. You know, we have 397 00:18:44,880 --> 00:18:48,840 Speaker 3: so many options for fast food and I'm hungry. Do 398 00:18:48,920 --> 00:18:50,440 Speaker 3: I want to take the time to eat the meal 399 00:18:50,520 --> 00:18:52,240 Speaker 3: or do I want to go get fast food and 400 00:18:52,280 --> 00:18:53,960 Speaker 3: I'll just eat fast food and then eat fast food 401 00:18:53,960 --> 00:18:56,760 Speaker 3: and then you go, Ah, it doesn't really feel really good. 402 00:18:56,800 --> 00:18:59,480 Speaker 3: But I guess I satisfied my hunger, but I don't 403 00:18:59,480 --> 00:19:02,680 Speaker 3: really feel great, And I think you know, home cooked meal. 404 00:19:03,119 --> 00:19:05,040 Speaker 3: You feel good when you take the time and you 405 00:19:05,080 --> 00:19:07,560 Speaker 3: cook the home cooked meal, and then you know, you 406 00:19:07,640 --> 00:19:10,119 Speaker 3: eat it and you feel not only cooked, but you 407 00:19:10,200 --> 00:19:14,000 Speaker 3: also were nourished better than fast food. And I think 408 00:19:14,080 --> 00:19:16,919 Speaker 3: on social media and TikTok, where people are swiping and 409 00:19:16,920 --> 00:19:19,960 Speaker 3: swiping and swiping and swiping, they're eating fast food and 410 00:19:20,240 --> 00:19:23,399 Speaker 3: wondering what they're missing. And then when I'll you know, 411 00:19:23,440 --> 00:19:25,080 Speaker 3: I'll show how to make meat loaf or I'll show 412 00:19:25,080 --> 00:19:28,639 Speaker 3: how to do something on my channel, then people just 413 00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:32,199 Speaker 3: kind of hanging out with me and the people that 414 00:19:32,240 --> 00:19:34,840 Speaker 3: actually can It's funny still, you know, you see it's 415 00:19:34,840 --> 00:19:37,000 Speaker 3: a ten minute video and people hang for a minute 416 00:19:37,000 --> 00:19:39,240 Speaker 3: and a half. I'm like, you couldn't have just you 417 00:19:39,240 --> 00:19:41,000 Speaker 3: couldn't have just stayed there for ten minutes. 418 00:19:41,119 --> 00:19:44,119 Speaker 2: I mean, oh we have our attention span is so 419 00:19:44,240 --> 00:19:45,920 Speaker 2: bad now, isn't it verable? 420 00:19:46,400 --> 00:19:47,240 Speaker 3: Yeah? 421 00:19:47,280 --> 00:19:48,080 Speaker 1: But there must be. 422 00:19:48,520 --> 00:19:50,720 Speaker 2: I mean, you have a lot of people that are 423 00:19:51,000 --> 00:19:53,119 Speaker 2: tuning in, So do you do a lot of recipes 424 00:19:53,160 --> 00:19:55,640 Speaker 2: and things like that, because that's another thing. We had 425 00:19:55,640 --> 00:19:58,600 Speaker 2: someone on the podcast early on who was talking about 426 00:19:59,080 --> 00:20:01,360 Speaker 2: the health of our young people and just the way 427 00:20:01,359 --> 00:20:04,600 Speaker 2: we're eating right now. Apparently our young people, and I'm 428 00:20:04,640 --> 00:20:07,800 Speaker 2: talking about elementary school, we're seeing fatty livers and these kids, 429 00:20:07,800 --> 00:20:10,359 Speaker 2: we're seeing a lot of obesity, and so that's something 430 00:20:10,400 --> 00:20:12,520 Speaker 2: that I think we also need to learn. We've got 431 00:20:12,560 --> 00:20:16,320 Speaker 2: a lot of people that have come My generation is 432 00:20:16,400 --> 00:20:19,359 Speaker 2: kind of the you know, the key the kids that 433 00:20:19,400 --> 00:20:22,200 Speaker 2: are had their own key. They're coming home at after school, 434 00:20:22,240 --> 00:20:25,960 Speaker 2: they're feeding themselves, and so we probably started some bad 435 00:20:26,000 --> 00:20:30,679 Speaker 2: habits with this change to having two parents working in 436 00:20:30,720 --> 00:20:34,399 Speaker 2: the house when I was a kid to now most people. 437 00:20:34,440 --> 00:20:37,720 Speaker 2: Most homes are two parents working and kids are left 438 00:20:37,720 --> 00:20:40,280 Speaker 2: on their own more often, these these latch key kids. 439 00:20:41,280 --> 00:20:44,160 Speaker 2: So what is the message that you get to young 440 00:20:44,200 --> 00:20:48,159 Speaker 2: people so that they understand there are healthy ways of eating. 441 00:20:48,600 --> 00:20:51,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, I try to share that, you know. I also 442 00:20:51,320 --> 00:20:53,520 Speaker 3: think life needs to have a balance. There's a time 443 00:20:53,560 --> 00:20:56,240 Speaker 3: to have fast food, right, I mean, I'll eat fast 444 00:20:56,280 --> 00:20:58,439 Speaker 3: food occasionally, but you just can't. That can't be an 445 00:20:58,480 --> 00:21:01,040 Speaker 3: everyday thing that you do. You need to have a 446 00:21:01,119 --> 00:21:03,679 Speaker 3: balance and it's good to enjoy life to let's go 447 00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:05,520 Speaker 3: out for dinner, what have you. And so I do 448 00:21:05,640 --> 00:21:08,560 Speaker 3: try to, you know, not be unreasonable that we all 449 00:21:08,600 --> 00:21:11,320 Speaker 3: just need to gnaw on carrots. You know, we need 450 00:21:11,359 --> 00:21:13,760 Speaker 3: to you need to live your life as well. So 451 00:21:14,920 --> 00:21:17,800 Speaker 3: I'm trying to share recipes that I'm familiar with. You know, 452 00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:19,480 Speaker 3: some of them may not may not be the best 453 00:21:19,480 --> 00:21:22,720 Speaker 3: for you, so I'm not gonna say that all. 454 00:21:22,760 --> 00:21:25,320 Speaker 2: I think it's different though, even though I even comfort 455 00:21:25,359 --> 00:21:27,960 Speaker 2: food that you're making at home, I would say that 456 00:21:28,160 --> 00:21:31,280 Speaker 2: it's made in a different way. The process is different, 457 00:21:31,320 --> 00:21:33,919 Speaker 2: and it's I think that there's a wholethiness to just 458 00:21:34,480 --> 00:21:37,000 Speaker 2: making your own food and spending time with family. I 459 00:21:37,040 --> 00:21:39,960 Speaker 2: think that there's also something to be said for that. 460 00:21:40,280 --> 00:21:43,199 Speaker 3: I agree, Yeah, I think there's something yeah, with the 461 00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:47,480 Speaker 3: experience of cooking together or you know, I think one 462 00:21:47,480 --> 00:21:51,439 Speaker 3: thing too with Uh it's funny because sometimes you know, 463 00:21:51,480 --> 00:21:53,960 Speaker 3: you can't. We don't stop and pull ourselves back and 464 00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:56,399 Speaker 3: go what am I doing here? What choices am I making? 465 00:21:56,440 --> 00:21:59,560 Speaker 3: But meanwhile life's going by and you see people like 466 00:21:59,640 --> 00:22:02,960 Speaker 3: having dinner and everybody's on their phones. Yeah, well, we 467 00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:05,960 Speaker 3: put the phone down for like thirty minutes and connect. 468 00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:07,920 Speaker 3: I always thought that was so important. You know, we 469 00:22:07,960 --> 00:22:10,280 Speaker 3: didn't have that issue because our kids were you know, 470 00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:14,320 Speaker 3: they're a little older, but like dinner, we always made 471 00:22:14,320 --> 00:22:17,359 Speaker 3: sure we'd gather together for dinner so that you could 472 00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:21,119 Speaker 3: reconnect and spend that time talking about your day. And 473 00:22:21,200 --> 00:22:23,240 Speaker 3: we carved that time out and made sure and we 474 00:22:23,320 --> 00:22:25,359 Speaker 3: kept it. You know, may not have been exact same 475 00:22:25,400 --> 00:22:27,760 Speaker 3: time every time, but we made sure that we had 476 00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:30,480 Speaker 3: dinner together because it felt like that was important. And 477 00:22:30,600 --> 00:22:32,760 Speaker 3: you see so many families running here and running there 478 00:22:32,800 --> 00:22:35,439 Speaker 3: and running here and running there, and you know, and 479 00:22:35,640 --> 00:22:40,200 Speaker 3: they're not carving out that time that I think is important. 480 00:22:40,440 --> 00:22:44,200 Speaker 2: You've got such a diverse series of videos. I mean, 481 00:22:44,240 --> 00:22:48,240 Speaker 2: you have messagism, inspiration, you're talking about recipes, you're talking 482 00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:51,040 Speaker 2: about tying to tie fixing things, all of this stuff. 483 00:22:51,520 --> 00:22:54,119 Speaker 2: What have been some of the most popular videos that 484 00:22:54,160 --> 00:22:54,880 Speaker 2: you've put out there? 485 00:22:55,119 --> 00:22:59,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, the tying of tie was was because it was 486 00:22:59,040 --> 00:23:01,600 Speaker 3: the first one, I think, and I tried to simplify it. 487 00:23:01,640 --> 00:23:03,760 Speaker 3: And I also, you know, say, you know, don't have 488 00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:06,240 Speaker 3: a fat tie or a fat not and a short 489 00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:10,520 Speaker 3: tie because that's dorky. And even people say, oh, don't 490 00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:14,720 Speaker 3: say dorky. I'm like, come on, yeah, I mean, you know, 491 00:23:15,480 --> 00:23:18,199 Speaker 3: people can scrutinize everything. But I did one where I 492 00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:21,359 Speaker 3: said I'm proud of you because I think it is 493 00:23:21,400 --> 00:23:25,080 Speaker 3: important to be able to share share your heart with 494 00:23:25,119 --> 00:23:27,520 Speaker 3: your kids. You know, a trained monkey can run around 495 00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:31,000 Speaker 3: and fix things, you know. I wanted to be more 496 00:23:31,000 --> 00:23:32,520 Speaker 3: than that. I wanted to be able to share my 497 00:23:32,600 --> 00:23:35,439 Speaker 3: heart with people, and I thought that was important with 498 00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:37,280 Speaker 3: my own kids too. So that's why I'm thankful for 499 00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:40,399 Speaker 3: Wisdom Wednesday, where I tried to talk about a quote 500 00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:43,200 Speaker 3: and share what I think about that quote, and even 501 00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:45,800 Speaker 3: that people will scrutinize, Well, that person said this back 502 00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:49,159 Speaker 3: in nineteen sixty five, so I can't listen to anything 503 00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:51,760 Speaker 3: he says. Like I did a video that said, you know, 504 00:23:51,840 --> 00:23:54,359 Speaker 3: if we're only looking for quotes from perfect people, there'd 505 00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:57,120 Speaker 3: be no quotes aside from Jesus, of course, but there'd 506 00:23:57,119 --> 00:23:59,560 Speaker 3: be no quotes because we're all imperfect. But you can 507 00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:03,359 Speaker 3: learn something from everybody, and so I try to and 508 00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:08,640 Speaker 3: those so Wisdom Wednesdays have become really popular. Yeah, because 509 00:24:08,640 --> 00:24:10,480 Speaker 3: I again, so there's so much more to being a 510 00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:13,280 Speaker 3: dad than just fixing things. I think it's important to 511 00:24:13,280 --> 00:24:16,080 Speaker 3: fix things, but it's so much more important to pour 512 00:24:16,119 --> 00:24:17,240 Speaker 3: your heart into your kids. 513 00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:19,880 Speaker 1: What's it like for your kids to share their dad. 514 00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:24,240 Speaker 3: Since they're older, it's okay, my daughter. Actually, she ended 515 00:24:24,320 --> 00:24:27,119 Speaker 3: up doing something else because she wanted to have a 516 00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:29,600 Speaker 3: normal relationship with me. So she kind of helped me 517 00:24:29,640 --> 00:24:31,199 Speaker 3: with this and we were doing it and then she 518 00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:33,399 Speaker 3: was like, you know what, I Dad, I'd like to 519 00:24:33,400 --> 00:24:36,239 Speaker 3: have a little bit of a normal relationship again with you, 520 00:24:36,359 --> 00:24:39,680 Speaker 3: and so I'm grateful for that. She's yeah, so she's 521 00:24:39,720 --> 00:24:41,560 Speaker 3: no good. And I called my son when it first 522 00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:44,040 Speaker 3: went viral and said, Kyle, are you okay with this? 523 00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:46,320 Speaker 3: I said, you know, because my family's more important to 524 00:24:46,359 --> 00:24:49,120 Speaker 3: me than anything. I said, I if you don't like this, 525 00:24:49,240 --> 00:24:51,640 Speaker 3: I said, I'm happy to take it down. I won't 526 00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:53,920 Speaker 3: post anymore. And he said, Dad, if I was nine 527 00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:56,360 Speaker 3: years old and you were chasing this, he said, I'd 528 00:24:56,359 --> 00:24:58,600 Speaker 3: probably have a problem with it, but you did good. 529 00:24:59,240 --> 00:25:02,920 Speaker 3: I'm good. So he's out and he works for Amazon 530 00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:06,960 Speaker 3: out in Arlington, Virginia, so he's clear across the country 531 00:25:06,960 --> 00:25:07,280 Speaker 3: from me. 532 00:25:07,600 --> 00:25:10,760 Speaker 2: Wow, well that is it is amazing. I love your story. 533 00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:13,879 Speaker 2: You are kind of the king of dad jokes. So 534 00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:15,720 Speaker 2: I think you need to leave our audience with a 535 00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:17,679 Speaker 2: few dad jokes so that they can share him with 536 00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:18,240 Speaker 2: their family. 537 00:25:20,119 --> 00:25:25,960 Speaker 3: I don't know about the king. Oh so a couple 538 00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:29,560 Speaker 3: of my favorites are My son said he didn't understand cloning. 539 00:25:29,880 --> 00:25:31,320 Speaker 3: I told him that makes two of us. 540 00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:34,600 Speaker 1: That is a very good dad joke. 541 00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:39,879 Speaker 3: And did you hear about the short psychic who escaped 542 00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:44,440 Speaker 3: from prison? No, he's a small medium at large. 543 00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:50,360 Speaker 2: That those are good ones, and those are I mean, honestly, 544 00:25:50,440 --> 00:25:52,840 Speaker 2: that's the best part about this is that no matter 545 00:25:52,920 --> 00:25:55,520 Speaker 2: what age you are, you can tune in and listen 546 00:25:55,680 --> 00:25:58,879 Speaker 2: and learn something and take something away, even if you're. 547 00:25:58,760 --> 00:25:59,960 Speaker 1: Just sharing the dad joke. 548 00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:02,439 Speaker 2: So before I let you go, I want you to 549 00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:04,400 Speaker 2: tell people where they find it and where they find 550 00:26:04,400 --> 00:26:04,760 Speaker 2: the book. 551 00:26:04,960 --> 00:26:07,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, so the books available on Amazon and at Barnes 552 00:26:07,640 --> 00:26:10,800 Speaker 3: and Noble too. It's just called dad. How do I so? 553 00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:15,400 Speaker 3: And then my Facebook Dad? How do I? Instagram dat? 554 00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:17,960 Speaker 3: How do I? I'm on TikTok at the real dat? 555 00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:20,199 Speaker 3: How do I? Because somebody was pretending to be me, 556 00:26:20,320 --> 00:26:21,920 Speaker 3: so I had to put in the real dat? How 557 00:26:21,920 --> 00:26:25,480 Speaker 3: do I? And then on my big channel is YouTube dad, 558 00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:25,960 Speaker 3: how do I? 559 00:26:26,359 --> 00:26:28,280 Speaker 2: Well, don't miss and make sure you check out the 560 00:26:28,440 --> 00:26:31,760 Speaker 2: real Rob Kenny, He's the Internet's dad and the creator 561 00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:34,000 Speaker 2: of Dad. How do I on YouTube and all of 562 00:26:34,040 --> 00:26:36,720 Speaker 2: those other places? Rob Thank you so much for being with. 563 00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:38,960 Speaker 3: Us today, you bet, thanks for having me on. 564 00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:41,920 Speaker 2: Too, absolutely, and thank you all for joining us on 565 00:26:41,960 --> 00:26:44,679 Speaker 2: the Tutor Dixon Podcast. For this episode and others, go 566 00:26:44,760 --> 00:26:48,800 Speaker 2: to tutordixonpodcast dot com. You can subscribe right there, or 567 00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:52,439 Speaker 2: check out the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you 568 00:26:52,520 --> 00:26:54,800 Speaker 2: get your podcasts and join us next time on the 569 00:26:54,800 --> 00:26:56,840 Speaker 2: Tutor Dixon Podcast. Have an awesome day.