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Speaker 2: radio blogs on the Fred Show.

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Speaker 1: Like for writing in our diaries, except we say them aloud.

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Speaker 3: We call them blogs. Klin, Yes, are you ready?

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Speaker 1: Yes? So the floor is yours.

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Speaker 3: Thank you, dear blog.

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Speaker 8: So if you listen every day, you may remember a

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Speaker 8: couple months ago we talked about this. But we have

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Speaker 8: a really big gumball machine in the office. And yes,

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Speaker 8: Jason was responsible in figuring out how that got up here.

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Speaker 8: Logistically it was a big song and dance. We have

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Speaker 8: a lot of off of Shenanigans.

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Speaker 3: But this one I'm okay with. So basically, if you

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Speaker 8: For I think it's Employee of the Quarter, which we

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Speaker 3: I feel like you left. Did you leave that early?

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Speaker 1: I saw you?

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Speaker 3: I saw you, and.

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Speaker 1: Well I could be happy with other people's success and

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Speaker 1: and I can because I'm never gonna win Employee of

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Speaker 1: to happen. Yeah, I'm Shenanigans. I think, I you know what.

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Speaker 1: I'm nominated myself one time and they didn't put me

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Speaker 1: on the thing exactly. I know it's Shenanigans. No, I've

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Speaker 1: a Gmail account like Veronica over here. My favorite coworker

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Speaker 1: so I did. I saw you win, and I remember,

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Speaker 3: And it certainly was.

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Speaker 8: So I won a trip along with a couple of

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Speaker 1: So it's she picked the Boeing star Liner trip to

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Speaker 8: So I've always wanted to go to Greece.

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Speaker 3: I don't know why.

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Speaker 3: It in August.

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Speaker 3: He said, yes, but he thought his passport was valid.

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Speaker 8: And I had been nagging him to send it in.

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Speaker 8: mine took two weeks too. Whatever, it's been six weeks.

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Speaker 3: I don't know how he would be able to answer that.

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Speaker 1: Maybe he knows. I'm sure he knows. A minute, he

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Speaker 3: Show is on, it's stay or go.

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Speaker 1: So this person didn't want to be on the air

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Speaker 1: This is the email. I know my partner for almost

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Speaker 1: nine years, married for five Recently, my partner and I

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Speaker 1: I think it kind of says too much but anyway,

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna I'm not gonna do that. But I've

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Speaker 1: never heard of this before. Fake cheating. Why would you

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Speaker 9: Yeah, I don't know anybody that's really done this, but

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Speaker 1: You've heard of people doing something? What have you heard, though,

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Speaker 9: That sometimes to shake up the relationship, like she said,

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Speaker 9: get somebody's attention, you play these little stupid games to

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Speaker 9: try to get You've.

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Speaker 1: Heard you've heard this. What would be an example of

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Speaker 1: of what somebody let's just say, let's sake Veronica, Veronica, Yes,

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Speaker 9: Let's just say Veronica was dating the guy and he

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Speaker 1: Mean you got to get your pronouns and your nouns

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Speaker 1: and you're all right, Yes, I do the same thing.

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Speaker 1: We're talking about Ted. Sometimes I mess up sometimes when

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Speaker 9: But Veronica would go pick up the guy, her boyfriend, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: Then when he would come to the car, he would

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Speaker 3: I would.

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Speaker 1: I mean she.

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Speaker 9: Ranica would be like, what are you talking about?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 9: You know, like and play dumb, knowing that I just

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Speaker 9: let that seat back before you got in here. Yes,

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Speaker 9: I don't know so that you have to be a

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Speaker 1: I do probably think that I would. In fact, I

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Speaker 1: have thought that before. I've gotten a people's car before

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Speaker 1: the seed? But in my head, but I've never said

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Speaker 3: Though, Do we believe it's fake cheating? No, I think

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Speaker 3: I was just testing you, babe.

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Speaker 1: Fake cheating eight five one oh three five you can

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Speaker 1: call it. Text the same number, Paulina. Not that you

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Speaker 3: That's my specialty.

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Speaker 3: I was, Yeah, I don't, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I was being facetious because everybody knows that you

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Speaker 1: you will take it to the What is again facetious? Yep,

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Speaker 1: that's what you're what I was being one facecious. That's

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Speaker 1: what I was being fasciated. I'm not even gonna try

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Speaker 1: and take it. I'm gonna cuss say something bad. But

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Speaker 1: you know, you've been known to take it to the floor.

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Speaker 1: I've been known how people go lower, you go lower.

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Speaker 1: You've been known to do that. You've been quoted as

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Speaker 4: Absolutely not, because my big thing with that is, And

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Speaker 4: if Hobby was fake cheating to get my attention, that's

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Speaker 3: It's gonna make me trust him less.

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Speaker 4: And I know that I play my little games and

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Speaker 4: I'll do the whole Like if he doesn't call me back,

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Speaker 4: I'll pretend like I hurt my ankle or something, so

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Speaker 3: He never done that. No, So you fake emergencies, yeah,

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Speaker 9: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So you get in a fight with them, and then

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Speaker 3: Of course, what do you do.

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Speaker 8: He comes home and you're like, oh, well.

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Speaker 3: This is before he gets home.

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Speaker 4: So I'll make sure that I call him so he

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Speaker 4: he's mad. I know he's mad, and I'll be like

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Speaker 4: or like you'll call me right now.

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Speaker 3: I just drop something on my phone.

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Speaker 1: the hook for whatever fight you started.

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Speaker 4: Correct, And the response I get is negative. That's Smar

441
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Speaker 4: sproutins that I get because he knows that I'm full

442
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Speaker 4: of it.

443
00:18:49,160 --> 00:18:52,560
Speaker 1: Oh, he say, he's on to you now like he knows. Like, no,

444
00:18:52,600 --> 00:18:56,040
Speaker 1: you didn't. You're just trying not to be accountable for

445
00:18:56,080 --> 00:18:56,360
Speaker 1: the fight.

446
00:18:56,560 --> 00:18:57,640
Speaker 3: Okay, it was nonsense.

447
00:18:57,840 --> 00:19:00,480
Speaker 1: I see you fake hurt yourself. Okay, you know what

448
00:19:00,520 --> 00:19:00,920
Speaker 1: I'm up to.

449
00:19:01,000 --> 00:19:01,800
Speaker 3: I mean, we all do.

450
00:19:01,960 --> 00:19:06,679
Speaker 1: But again, well, yeah, you've told many stories about it.

451
00:19:07,160 --> 00:19:10,520
Speaker 1: I just don't don't. I don't know about why fake cheating.

452
00:19:10,520 --> 00:19:12,720
Speaker 1: You may as well just cheat. I mean, because it

453
00:19:12,760 --> 00:19:15,919
Speaker 1: looks the same like's. It makes someone feel bad, it

454
00:19:15,960 --> 00:19:19,359
Speaker 1: makes them not trust you, it has the appearance of cheating.

455
00:19:20,320 --> 00:19:22,560
Speaker 1: So all the bad things about cheating, except I suppose

456
00:19:22,560 --> 00:19:24,520
Speaker 1: you can live with yourself because you're not really doing it.

457
00:19:24,600 --> 00:19:26,720
Speaker 1: But at the same time, you know that you're playing somebody,

458
00:19:26,800 --> 00:19:29,320
Speaker 1: so you're you're lying, so you're being dishonest. Either way,

459
00:19:29,520 --> 00:19:32,000
Speaker 1: you may as well just get it in, you know,

460
00:19:32,119 --> 00:19:36,120
Speaker 1: I mean, honestly fake cheating. That's dumb. Okay, Because here's

461
00:19:36,160 --> 00:19:38,720
Speaker 1: the other thing. If I can't disprove or I guess

462
00:19:38,760 --> 00:19:40,879
Speaker 1: in this case, if I can't prove that I'm fake cheating,

463
00:19:41,400 --> 00:19:44,320
Speaker 1: then I'm cheating. As far as the other person's concerned,

464
00:19:44,520 --> 00:19:46,520
Speaker 1: so I may as well get some you know what

465
00:19:46,520 --> 00:19:48,880
Speaker 1: I'm saying, because I'm fake cheating, but no one's gonna

466
00:19:48,880 --> 00:19:50,800
Speaker 1: believe that. So then when I'm like, girl, I was

467
00:19:50,840 --> 00:19:54,760
Speaker 1: just fake cheating, Like, no, you that's bs. I've never

468
00:19:54,800 --> 00:20:01,080
Speaker 1: heard this, Stephanie, We've never heard of this before. Fake cheating. Yeah.

469
00:20:01,160 --> 00:20:04,640
Speaker 6: I think that they're probably actually cheating, and I think

470
00:20:04,640 --> 00:20:06,200
Speaker 6: it's gas flighting at its finance.

471
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Speaker 1: This sounds like a cast of the gas lighting.

472
00:20:11,160 --> 00:20:12,760
Speaker 6: Yeah, definitely, for sure.

473
00:20:12,800 --> 00:20:14,880
Speaker 10: I was married to a gas lighter for twenty two

474
00:20:14,960 --> 00:20:15,960
Speaker 10: years and I'm.

475
00:20:15,760 --> 00:20:20,359
Speaker 8: Finally free of that, and it screams gas flighting to me.

476
00:20:20,600 --> 00:20:21,719
Speaker 6: So they're definitely cheating.

477
00:20:21,840 --> 00:20:23,680
Speaker 3: And you want to do step to somebody that.

478
00:20:23,640 --> 00:20:27,000
Speaker 6: You love on purpose anyway without having something behind it?

479
00:20:27,080 --> 00:20:28,880
Speaker 1: Is he not the best feeling, Stephanie, by the way,

480
00:20:28,920 --> 00:20:31,400
Speaker 1: to realize to come out of the cloud and realize

481
00:20:31,400 --> 00:20:34,040
Speaker 1: that you, in fact, were not the crazy one, like

482
00:20:34,119 --> 00:20:37,240
Speaker 1: to realize when you can actually step away from the

483
00:20:37,359 --> 00:20:39,840
Speaker 1: damage that these people do, the gas lighters and the

484
00:20:39,920 --> 00:20:43,440
Speaker 1: narcissists or whatever else. I'm being dead ass sincere here,

485
00:20:43,560 --> 00:20:44,960
Speaker 1: and when you finally get out of the fog, and

486
00:20:44,960 --> 00:20:46,960
Speaker 1: for you, it lasted twenty two years, so I can't

487
00:20:47,000 --> 00:20:49,159
Speaker 1: imagine how long it took or the process. But then

488
00:20:49,160 --> 00:20:52,200
Speaker 1: when you're like, wait a minute, everything I thought made

489
00:20:52,240 --> 00:20:54,960
Speaker 1: perfect sense and this person truly tried to make me

490
00:20:55,000 --> 00:20:56,040
Speaker 1: feel like I was crazy.

491
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Speaker 8: Amen, And you know what, on the twenty seventh, will

492
00:21:00,280 --> 00:21:03,320
Speaker 8: one here And I am so happy with the man

493
00:21:03,359 --> 00:21:06,000
Speaker 8: that I'm with now that I literally have.

494
00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:07,680
Speaker 3: Good for you.

495
00:21:08,200 --> 00:21:10,120
Speaker 1: That makes me very very I'm being I'm being completely

496
00:21:10,200 --> 00:21:12,879
Speaker 1: so serio and I'm very very happy for you. Because

497
00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:15,960
Speaker 1: it's a bad thing, fake cheating. I don't get to

498
00:21:16,000 --> 00:21:20,760
Speaker 1: have a good day. Thanks for listening and for texting. No, no, no,

499
00:21:20,880 --> 00:21:21,800
Speaker 1: this is real cheating.

500
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Speaker 8: I mean, I guess she could be trying to get

501
00:21:25,160 --> 00:21:27,199
Speaker 8: her attention, but that's certainly not a healthy way to

502
00:21:27,240 --> 00:21:27,480
Speaker 8: do so.

503
00:21:27,520 --> 00:21:30,760
Speaker 1: It's also very it's a it's a really mean game.

504
00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:33,760
Speaker 1: It's an incredibly cruel game. If you're not cheating to

505
00:21:33,800 --> 00:21:36,720
Speaker 1: make someone think that you're cheating on him in the

506
00:21:36,760 --> 00:21:40,040
Speaker 1: context of a relationship. Is there anything more defiling than

507
00:21:40,040 --> 00:21:42,240
Speaker 1: feeling like you're being cheated or then realizing that you've

508
00:21:42,240 --> 00:21:44,159
Speaker 1: been cheated on and then lied to on top of that?

509
00:21:45,440 --> 00:21:45,720
Speaker 1: Is there?

510
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Speaker 9: But what about the other side, What about what what

511
00:21:48,240 --> 00:21:50,199
Speaker 9: does she do that may her partner get to that

512
00:21:50,320 --> 00:21:53,600
Speaker 9: point where she was so desperate for her love and

513
00:21:53,640 --> 00:21:57,720
Speaker 9: affection and attention that she decided to fake this life

514
00:21:57,720 --> 00:21:58,200
Speaker 9: of cheating.

515
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Speaker 1: Are you ever the mindset, Kiki, that it's someone the

516
00:22:02,000 --> 00:22:05,119
Speaker 1: treatment that they're receiving from someone else is their fault.

517
00:22:05,760 --> 00:22:08,560
Speaker 1: I mean, I maybe, like I think I think that

518
00:22:08,640 --> 00:22:12,520
Speaker 1: people if you treat them poorly and they react poorly,

519
00:22:12,920 --> 00:22:16,679
Speaker 1: then I think they're what. You can't then gaslight and

520
00:22:16,720 --> 00:22:18,800
Speaker 1: go why you are you so mean to me? It's like, well,

521
00:22:18,840 --> 00:22:20,800
Speaker 1: I mean to you because that's a natural human reaction

522
00:22:20,880 --> 00:22:24,080
Speaker 1: to you treating me poorly. So like for for this

523
00:22:24,160 --> 00:22:26,840
Speaker 1: woman to complain to her partner about her fake cheating,

524
00:22:27,240 --> 00:22:29,040
Speaker 1: it's like, no, you don't get to you know what

525
00:22:29,080 --> 00:22:31,560
Speaker 1: you're doing. You're trying to elicit a response out of

526
00:22:31,600 --> 00:22:34,119
Speaker 1: this person. That response is going to be negative, or

527
00:22:34,119 --> 00:22:36,160
Speaker 1: it's going to be insecurity or whatever else. You don't

528
00:22:36,200 --> 00:22:38,320
Speaker 1: then get to call the person. You don't then get

529
00:22:38,359 --> 00:22:42,160
Speaker 1: to say this relationship is dysfunctional and I find you insecure.

530
00:22:42,240 --> 00:22:45,200
Speaker 1: You're making me feel insecure. Right, I can own the feelings,

531
00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:46,920
Speaker 1: but I can also own the fact that you shouldn't

532
00:22:46,920 --> 00:22:47,640
Speaker 1: be doing this to.

533
00:22:47,560 --> 00:22:49,440
Speaker 3: Me and she but she owned up to it.

534
00:22:49,520 --> 00:22:52,439
Speaker 9: She said, I've been fake cheating because I want your attention.

535
00:22:52,560 --> 00:22:53,520
Speaker 3: I'm trying to wake you up.

536
00:22:54,320 --> 00:22:56,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's I don't I guess that's what I'm

537
00:22:56,800 --> 00:22:59,720
Speaker 1: saying is I'm not sure that the wrongs justify when

538
00:22:59,880 --> 00:23:01,240
Speaker 1: or or cancel each other out?

539
00:23:01,440 --> 00:23:03,240
Speaker 3: Like is that how you do it now? Is not

540
00:23:03,320 --> 00:23:06,399
Speaker 3: the right way? But you know, no, you know, I

541
00:23:06,440 --> 00:23:08,000
Speaker 3: don't say lever for this.

542
00:23:08,800 --> 00:23:10,159
Speaker 1: Wow. I mean I think I think you got to

543
00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:12,040
Speaker 1: really search your soul here and try and figure out

544
00:23:12,040 --> 00:23:14,239
Speaker 1: what you think it might really be going on. But

545
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:17,439
Speaker 1: does it really matter? Is my point? Like cheating not

546
00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:20,080
Speaker 1: cheating if you feel that, if you feel that betrayal,

547
00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:21,960
Speaker 1: if your relationships at a point where this these sort

548
00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:24,080
Speaker 1: of games are being played, does it really matter?

549
00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:26,280
Speaker 3: Sure? Is it wrong to trying to make your partner

550
00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:27,120
Speaker 3: a little jealous?

551
00:23:27,480 --> 00:23:27,640
Speaker 6: Right?

552
00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:30,960
Speaker 3: Go to the gas station together? Oh yeah, hit on?

553
00:23:31,760 --> 00:23:33,120
Speaker 3: If you want to get hit on as a woman,

554
00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:37,159
Speaker 3: go thank you. Yeah, I'm gonna ignore you and just

555
00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:39,760
Speaker 3: have a big head anyway. It's fine.

556
00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:43,159
Speaker 1: I've actually seen that. I have seen that more times

557
00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:46,800
Speaker 1: than not. We're douchebag guys can't call a woman and

558
00:23:46,800 --> 00:23:49,199
Speaker 1: then when she doesn't react favorably, he's like, well you

559
00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:54,400
Speaker 1: ugly anyway at me before, Like I've seen it myself

560
00:23:54,440 --> 00:23:58,280
Speaker 1: where it's like okay, I mean like it just the

561
00:23:58,359 --> 00:24:00,960
Speaker 1: stuff that people will say, and then you know women

562
00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:03,159
Speaker 1: don't react for obvious reasons and it's like, oh, I

563
00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:10,040
Speaker 1: wouldn't do it anyway, you you idiot. Hey Jordan, Hey,

564
00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:12,800
Speaker 1: hey man, good morning. Just to recap here, this person

565
00:24:12,840 --> 00:24:16,280
Speaker 1: wrote us then with somebody for nine years and it's

566
00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:19,520
Speaker 1: felt very insecure in her relationship. And when she asked

567
00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:21,560
Speaker 1: her partner, it's a lesbian couple. When she asked her

568
00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:25,800
Speaker 1: partner if she was cheating, she said, I'm fake cheating

569
00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:27,680
Speaker 1: to get your attention. What do you think?

570
00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:31,800
Speaker 10: I think you need to go because that's like this

571
00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:34,520
Speaker 10: we're too old for Childer's games. But I get that

572
00:24:34,560 --> 00:24:37,480
Speaker 10: you're trying to get your partner's attention and everything, but

573
00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:39,160
Speaker 10: it's other ways to do it. It's like other ways

574
00:24:39,160 --> 00:24:41,200
Speaker 10: to sit down and actually talk to him about it

575
00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:42,880
Speaker 10: and be like, hey, I feel like you're not giving

576
00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:43,840
Speaker 10: me an attention.

577
00:24:43,760 --> 00:24:44,840
Speaker 1: Like what's up?

578
00:24:44,960 --> 00:24:47,879
Speaker 10: Like what can like explain to what you need? Like

579
00:24:48,520 --> 00:24:50,600
Speaker 10: you and when you're in a relationship, you have to

580
00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:52,639
Speaker 10: explain your needs and want to somebody and if you

581
00:24:52,680 --> 00:24:54,920
Speaker 10: can't do that, then that may not be the person

582
00:24:55,000 --> 00:24:58,320
Speaker 10: for you. So if you want to play Childe's games

583
00:24:58,320 --> 00:25:01,919
Speaker 10: and tell me and go fake cheat and getting me

584
00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:03,919
Speaker 10: all out of my character to make me feel like

585
00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:07,200
Speaker 10: you're cheating and giving me anxiety, heart racing, and I'm

586
00:25:07,320 --> 00:25:10,920
Speaker 10: out here just like losing my mind. But at the

587
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:12,399
Speaker 10: same time you're telling me you're fake cheating.

588
00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:14,520
Speaker 1: I think that was a bunch of bs. Yeah, I

589
00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:17,119
Speaker 1: mean again, I'm not sure if it matters. But Jordan,

590
00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:20,720
Speaker 1: thank you. Have a good day, And you're right, we

591
00:25:20,720 --> 00:25:22,320
Speaker 1: don't know the other side of the story here. We

592
00:25:22,760 --> 00:25:25,880
Speaker 1: don't know, but I don't Again, I'm not sure that

593
00:25:25,880 --> 00:25:29,320
Speaker 1: that justifies the reaction. Yeah, it's not right, like it

594
00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:31,960
Speaker 1: maybe this woman who wrote us did something really bad

595
00:25:32,359 --> 00:25:34,679
Speaker 1: that and this is where we're at, you know, is

596
00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:38,600
Speaker 1: it the payback or the get back? Is this this ploy?

597
00:25:39,160 --> 00:25:41,560
Speaker 1: Either way, it's someone just texted one hundred percent of

598
00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:44,320
Speaker 1: form of abuse. So maybe she's an abuser. This girl's

599
00:25:44,359 --> 00:25:47,720
Speaker 1: an abuser. Maybe they shouldn't be together. So I don't

600
00:25:47,720 --> 00:25:49,080
Speaker 1: know that it matters what the other side of the

601
00:25:49,080 --> 00:25:51,960
Speaker 1: story is this is toxic and dysfunctional. Yeah, and again

602
00:25:52,000 --> 00:25:54,040
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that this girl's innocent or that girl's

603
00:25:54,040 --> 00:25:57,520
Speaker 1: innocent or whatever, but regardless, they're both playing Let's assume

604
00:25:57,560 --> 00:26:02,680
Speaker 1: they're both playing nasty games at at worst, right, So peace, man,

605
00:26:03,200 --> 00:26:05,479
Speaker 1: it's over. So I got it. It's got to be done.

606
00:26:05,560 --> 00:26:08,680
Speaker 3: Hey Maritza, Hi, good morning.

607
00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:10,080
Speaker 1: Hey, how you doing fake cheating?

608
00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:10,560
Speaker 3: Fake cheat?

609
00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:12,760
Speaker 1: Why what fake cheating? Why are we doing that?

610
00:26:14,480 --> 00:26:17,560
Speaker 6: So I can just stop playing my games with her partner?

611
00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:21,480
Speaker 6: To me, it sounds like a BF excuse. She probably

612
00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:24,160
Speaker 6: is cheating and she just says an excuse. But if

613
00:26:24,160 --> 00:26:26,359
Speaker 6: there's something that's bothering both of them, they need to

614
00:26:26,359 --> 00:26:28,440
Speaker 6: sit down and talk about it like adults and stop

615
00:26:28,440 --> 00:26:31,240
Speaker 6: playing these games because this is just going to push

616
00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:34,720
Speaker 6: your partner. It's just going to keep pushing her partner

617
00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:37,600
Speaker 6: away from her. And yeah, they just told me to

618
00:26:37,640 --> 00:26:40,360
Speaker 6: sit down and talk about their issues and what's bothering them,

619
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:42,560
Speaker 6: because fake cheating is not going to solve anything.

620
00:26:43,040 --> 00:26:45,480
Speaker 1: No, I agree, I agree. Thank you. Have a good day.

621
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Speaker 6: Thank you.

622
00:26:47,119 --> 00:26:49,480
Speaker 1: Christine. Hi Christine, good morning, Welcome to the Fred Show.

623
00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:50,960
Speaker 1: How are you good?

624
00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:52,200
Speaker 3: How are you good morning, Harry.

625
00:26:52,240 --> 00:26:55,119
Speaker 1: Well, stare go this fake cheating lady. The woman is

626
00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:56,959
Speaker 1: staying her partner, she's fake cheating.

627
00:26:57,040 --> 00:27:00,359
Speaker 3: You'd stay, Yeah, No, I would say go to go

628
00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:03,360
Speaker 3: okay bye? Yeah, because it's.

629
00:27:03,240 --> 00:27:06,320
Speaker 1: Point blank she's going to the extreme. Any want to

630
00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:11,480
Speaker 1: say I'm big cheating, So it's point blank yeah, yeah,

631
00:27:11,760 --> 00:27:13,960
Speaker 1: I think so too. Thank you, Christine, have a good day,

632
00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:19,160
Speaker 1: Thank you too. Yeah. Automatically divorced, real cheating manipulation. When

633
00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:21,159
Speaker 1: people were saying, justin Chloe, I'm going through all these

634
00:27:22,040 --> 00:27:26,000
Speaker 1: its abuse. What's the incentive to stay if you're just

635
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:28,280
Speaker 1: making up scenarios to force a response? Yeah, I don't know.

636
00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:32,120
Speaker 1: It's like clear communication or not or whatever. And then

637
00:27:32,160 --> 00:27:35,359
Speaker 1: we're done with this man. You need to talk to

638
00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:36,240
Speaker 1: your friend Veronica.

639
00:27:36,359 --> 00:27:39,280
Speaker 9: Well she doesn't do that anymore, but it's got quite

640
00:27:39,280 --> 00:27:39,800
Speaker 9: the response.

641
00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:40,479
Speaker 3: Once she did it.

642
00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:41,520
Speaker 1: You need to straighten her.

643
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:45,240
Speaker 3: Out or yeah, or or cheap for real.

644
00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:49,320
Speaker 1: That's what I'm sing. You may as well, because if

645
00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:51,200
Speaker 1: it looks like it, it smells like it, you may as well.

646
00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:54,840
Speaker 3: A fread show is on Fred's Fun Fact.

647
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Speaker 9: Fred Fun.

648
00:28:01,880 --> 00:28:04,800
Speaker 3: Learn so much guys, did you know?

649
00:28:05,840 --> 00:28:10,600
Speaker 1: Did you know that a banana is a berry, but

650
00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:16,000
Speaker 1: a strawberry is not a berry. Did you know this?

651
00:28:16,520 --> 00:28:20,000
Speaker 1: A banana is a berry, but a strawberry is not.

652
00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:22,840
Speaker 1: So a banana is a berry because it has a soft,

653
00:28:22,880 --> 00:28:27,000
Speaker 1: fleshy outer layer that encloses the seeds. Strawberries, on the

654
00:28:27,080 --> 00:28:30,240
Speaker 1: other hand, have an outer layer that is not fleshy

655
00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:34,400
Speaker 1: and doesn't enclose the seeds. Therefore, strawberries are not considered berries.

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Speaker 3: I would like to speak to a manager.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I googled it too, just to be sure

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Speaker 1: that my fun fact was correct.

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Speaker 3: Wow, but fleshy, I'm not fleshy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. The other thing is that I guess bananas have seeds.

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Speaker 1: Of course they do, but I don't know they're in

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Speaker 1: the middle twenty to thirty seeds per banana, but then again,

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Speaker 1: twenty to thirty seeds per banana. It looks like I'm

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Speaker 1: playing a very small violin or something. But I don't know.

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Speaker 1: They must be like soft, because I've never eating a

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Speaker 1: banana and been like, ah, those damn seeds. No, So anyway,

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Speaker 1: there you go. That's your fun fact. The banana's a berry,

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Speaker 1: but a strawberry.

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Speaker 2: Kiki is not more f Yeah, they talk better than

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Speaker 2: the excite. These are the radio blogs on the Fresh Show.

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Speaker 1: I like running in our diaries, except we say them

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Speaker 1: a loud We call them blogs.

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Speaker 9: Kinky yes, dear blog. Why are kids just so funny?

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Speaker 3: Okay?

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Speaker 9: Because you know I have a thousand fhews and for

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Speaker 9: some reason, most of them are born in July. So

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Speaker 9: we've been celebrating birthdays. Yes, like I've been hiding out,

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Speaker 9: trying to avoid all contact with the family. I feel

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Speaker 9: like I'm so busy at work because I have to

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Speaker 9: get my money right.

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Speaker 1: That's how June is for me. Yeah, you got like,

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Speaker 1: what do you got Father's Day in there? I think?

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Speaker 1: And then both my mom and my sister's birthday. It's

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Speaker 1: like I'm broke.

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Speaker 9: It's got crazy, Like y'all need to start, you know,

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Speaker 9: doing that a little differently, you know, I spread it

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Speaker 9: out a little bit.

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Speaker 1: Why is everybody getting on in the same mother such

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Speaker 1: all these kids are one of the same time.

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Speaker 3: What a y'all doing it together?

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Speaker 1: Yes? The hell's going on?

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Speaker 9: But happy birthday to Jackson, Kamari, and Dylan. They all

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Speaker 9: celebrate a birthday in July. But recently Kamari celebrated his

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Speaker 9: birthday and he turned nine years old. And this is

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Speaker 9: a kid who makes the family take trips for his birthday,

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Speaker 9: so it's always a vacation. This year, I got out

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Speaker 9: of it. They let me know a little late in

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Speaker 9: the game, so I wasn't able to go. But yeah,

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Speaker 9: he took his family on a trip and while they

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Speaker 9: were gone, his grandmother sent him a beautiful birthday text

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Speaker 9: the morning of his birthday and she's like, hey, grandson,

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Speaker 9: you know, happy birthday.

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Speaker 3: I love you so much.

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Speaker 9: I hope you have a great time on your trip.

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Speaker 9: And he simply responded to his grandmother, Okay, yes, that's.

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Speaker 1: Almost as bad as giving her like a thumbs up,

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Speaker 1: you know, you just thumb up the the text as

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Speaker 1: opposed to say anything, it's okay, okay.

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Speaker 3: His mom she sent me the.

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Speaker 9: Screenshot and I'm crying tears laughing at this because I

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Speaker 9: can't believe because if you know Kamara, he's a very

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Speaker 9: malmanner child, but he's a very smart, very intelligent.

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Speaker 3: So his dad's like, oh, it was a mistake. I'm like, no,

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Speaker 3: Kamari knew exactly okay, yeah, okay, simply okay.

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Speaker 9: And so I was just like, wow, kids will really

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Speaker 9: humble you, okay. And then my next issue is with

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Speaker 9: my older nephew who is fifteen, and now he's in

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Speaker 9: this whole vibe of I don't understand when we take

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Speaker 9: family photos, why you have to do something dumb in

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Speaker 9: the photo, like, wh why can't you just smile like

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Speaker 9: everybody else? Now, these these they do this thing in

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Speaker 9: the photo where they either hide their face. Okay, so

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Speaker 9: they'll put their hand over their face right when the

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Speaker 9: camera clicks. They won't make eye contact with the with

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Speaker 9: the camera, and they don't smile.

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Speaker 3: What is the reason? Because in my mind, you know, God.

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Speaker 9: For being years down the line, when your grandkids are

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Speaker 9: playing your funeral and they putting together the little slash,

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Speaker 9: all your photos are gonna look at you looking dumb,

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Speaker 9: making some non expression, not smiling, and I just don't understand.

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Speaker 3: What is the reason for that?

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Speaker 1: I mean, whether it's the facial expression or the haircut

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Speaker 1: or the clothes. I look back on almost everything I

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Speaker 1: did in the past and wonder why the hell had happened? Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: especially though, like did anyone love me when I was younger?

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Speaker 1: Like to put I mean some of the stuff I

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Speaker 1: wore and some of the I don't know, I just

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Speaker 1: I don't. Yeah, And now you're doing it now? Are

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Speaker 1: you telling me people do it on purpose?

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Speaker 3: Now?

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Speaker 1: Like kids are doing it on purpose and screwing up

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Speaker 1: the pictures on purpose.

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Speaker 3: I went on noise, Why okay, so what is the reason?

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Speaker 3: Because I don't like taking photos?

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Speaker 8: But now I do regret it because there's a ton

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Speaker 8: of cute photos that I ruined.

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Speaker 3: For the family. Yeah, yeah for everything?

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Speaker 1: Were you being rebellious? Like? Was it like?

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Speaker 3: I hate taking photo?

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Speaker 8: Even now I start to do with my friends because

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Speaker 8: we'll take group photos. Okay, fine, I appreciate it later,

752
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Speaker 8: but every time somebody doesn't like it, we gotta read it.

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Speaker 8: And we're taking photos for fifteen minutes and not enjoying music.

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Speaker 8: So I start doing that because I'm over it.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god.

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Speaker 9: Well maybe that's it, but it just bothers me. I

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Speaker 9: look back at our photos from the last vacations and

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Speaker 9: it's like, does he want to be here?

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Speaker 3: Does he hate the whole family? I don't understand. Please

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Speaker 3: smile at your photos, children.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, most of our family photos disappear because my sister

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Speaker 1: doesn't like the way she looks at them. They they

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Speaker 1: just disappear. And the other thing is the other PSA

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Speaker 1: is part of This is always take your own pictures

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Speaker 1: and post your own because everybody's only going to post

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Speaker 1: a picture they look the best, and they don't give

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Speaker 1: a damn how you look at any of them. Only

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Speaker 1: when people look at group photos to post on their

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Speaker 1: social media, the only person they're looking at is themselves.

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Speaker 3: That's me.

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Speaker 1: That's the only thing they want to know, do I

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Speaker 1: look good in this? I mean you could literally be

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Speaker 1: have like a bloody nose, your arm is falling off.

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Speaker 1: She wouldn't even know, and someone just shaved like right

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Speaker 1: down the middle of your head and it would be like,

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I look great into Which is why

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Speaker 1: you got to take control.

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Speaker 3: You do.

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Speaker 1: You got to take control. The entertainment re fort is

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Speaker 1: the next two minutes to a friend show