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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Landon is on the phone today for a first Day

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Kate.

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Speaker 2: So we're about to call Kate in a little while

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Speaker 2: and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him

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Speaker 2: and maybe get him another date if he still wants one.

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Speaker 2: But first, Landon, thanks for coming on the show man.

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Speaker 2: How long has it been since you heard from Kate?

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Speaker 3: Hey, it's been like a week. I don't know what's

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Speaker 3: going on.

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Speaker 2: How many times have you tried to reach out to

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Speaker 2: her in that week?

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Speaker 3: I like once a day, honestly.

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Speaker 4: Okay, so you're thinking she's somebody special. Why don't we

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Speaker 4: go back a little bit and talk about her. So,

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Speaker 4: how was your date with her?

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Speaker 3: Oh? It was amazing. So my cousin owns the wine

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Speaker 3: restaurant and we went there and I'll be just got wine,

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Speaker 3: flights and meals and we slowed dance in the middle

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Speaker 3: of the restaurant. Everyone was watching, everyone clapped for us.

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Speaker 3: It was really something else. I knew she was a

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Speaker 3: bit shy, and honestly, you know, that's kind of type.

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Speaker 3: I love the shy girls, and I was excited to

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Speaker 3: like get her out of the get her out of

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Speaker 3: her shell. That's I love doing that. That's I love

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Speaker 3: to like just bring the shy girls out out showing

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Speaker 3: the world, show them what they're missing. You know how

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Speaker 3: we had so much food, and since it was my cousin,

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Speaker 3: he even gave us like a dessert sample afterward. It

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Speaker 3: was like a four hour meal.

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Speaker 2: It was amazing.

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Speaker 5: Okay, this sounds like a dream or hours. I love

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Speaker 5: to eat like that.

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Speaker 3: But then we haven't spoken for a week since. I

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Speaker 3: really don't know what's going on.

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Speaker 5: What happened at the end of y'all's date, Like, how

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Speaker 5: did it end?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so it ended with a kiss, which I'm pretty

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Speaker 3: proud of. But we haven't spoken since. No texting, no call, nothing, nothing.

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Speaker 5: Do you think it's because she's shy? I mean, you

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Speaker 5: did say she was a shy girl.

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Speaker 3: That's my leading theory. Maybe she's just better in person

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Speaker 3: and the texting.

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Speaker 5: Did anything else happen on the date.

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Speaker 3: Besides the dancing and the kiss. She seemed really into me.

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Speaker 3: She laughed all my jokes as she ate. I mean,

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Speaker 3: she's teat, but she can really eat.

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Speaker 4: And I just.

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Speaker 2: Like a lyric and a song she could really eat.

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Speaker 2: I like it. Do you think maybe it was your kiss?

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Speaker 3: Well, I mean it's speaking of too good. I mean

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Speaker 3: the way that we danced together. I mean I felt

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Speaker 3: like it could translate to the bedroom, you know.

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Speaker 5: What I mean?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like you could dance in a bedroom too, you

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Speaker 2: can put on music. Yeah, yeah, I know what you mean.

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Speaker 3: But then, like I can't figure out why I'm being ghosted,

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Speaker 3: you know, just maybe I can't figure out how I

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Speaker 3: messed up. Maybe she felt pressure to eat so much

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Speaker 3: because I'm a big foodie, you know. Just yeah, maybe

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Speaker 4: Yeah, maybe because you know how like people feel like

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Speaker 4: they want to keep up with drinking. Oh, so maybe

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Speaker 4: it's the same idea with food.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she just didn't want to say anything about maybe

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Speaker 3: I don't want to eat, but he's a foodie, so yeah,

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Speaker 3: she just quietly just went along with it.

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Speaker 2: Maybe all right, Well we'll see if we can figure

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Speaker 2: it out for you man, We'll play a song, come back,

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Speaker 2: and then call her see if she'll tell us why

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Speaker 2: she's ghosting you, and maybe get to another date. Okay, Okay,

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Speaker 2: thank you so much. All right, play a song, come Back,

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Speaker 2: Get your first Day follow Up. Next, Landon is on

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Speaker 2: the phone and he's getting ghosted by Kate. It's been

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Speaker 2: about a week. He hasn't heard anything from her, and

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Speaker 2: we're about to call her, get her on the phone

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Speaker 2: and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him

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Speaker 2: and maybe get him another date. But first, Landon, why

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Speaker 2: don't you refresh everybody's memory before we call her? Tell

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Speaker 2: us about your date.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so we went to my cousin's wine restaurant, drink

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Speaker 3: a lot, eight a lot, dance in front of everyone.

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Speaker 3: They applauded for us. It was really fun and it

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Speaker 3: with a kiss. And I haven't heard from her since.

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Speaker 5: And she's petite and can eat.

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, you ready to go? You're ready to

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Speaker 2: call her?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, let's do it.

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Speaker 2: Okay, here we go.

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Speaker 1: Hello.

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Speaker 2: Hi, I'm I asking to Kate. Please.

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Speaker 1: This is she? Who's this Kate? Hi?

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Speaker 5: How are you?

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Speaker 2: My name is Jewbel and I'm on a radio show

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Speaker 2: called the Jebel Show.

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Speaker 5: What's up?

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Speaker 1: Kate?

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Speaker 5: Whole show's here? I'm Nina Hi, and I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 4: Hi.

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Speaker 2: How are you?

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Speaker 1: I'm good? So, I'm sorry, this is a you guys

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Speaker 1: are on the radio.

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Speaker 2: Yes, and we're calling you because we got an email about.

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Speaker 1: You about me? Okay.

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Speaker 2: We do a segment on the show. It's called the

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Speaker 2: First Date Fall. That's where if you go out with

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Speaker 2: someone and then end up ghosting them, that person can

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Speaker 2: email us to get you on the phone and ask

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Speaker 2: why you're.

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Speaker 1: Ghosting Oh, okay, means we.

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Speaker 2: Got an email about you because you're ghosting someone.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: His name is Landon, and Landon really liked you and

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Speaker 2: wants to know why you're ghosting him. Would you mind

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Speaker 2: telling us?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? I mean Landon is a great guy. I had

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Speaker 1: a great time on our date. You know, I really

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Speaker 1: liked him, and you know, it was a really fun night,

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Speaker 1: different than most dates I've gone on, and it was

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Speaker 1: just really great. But you know, I just think we

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I think we just want different things

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Speaker 1: and I just have to protect myself from that.

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Speaker 5: I think, Okay, what does that mean?

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Speaker 1: You know, I just want to protect my heart. I

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Speaker 1: think that Landon, you know, he was kind of talking

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Speaker 1: he's looking more for like a romantic sensual experience, not

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Speaker 1: really like a full blown commitment, and you know that's fine,

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Speaker 1: you know, but I really want romance and experiences, but

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Speaker 1: I want to build something with someone. You know, I'm

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Speaker 1: not in a huge rush to be in a relationship,

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Speaker 1: but I don't really feel comfortable with like the non

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Speaker 5: Did you guys have that conversation like he said that

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Speaker 1: I mean he had said, you know that he just

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Speaker 1: wants like romantic experiences, but he had said he wasn't

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Speaker 1: really looking for like a like a full blown commitment,

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Speaker 1: which is you know, I get it. I had a

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Speaker 1: great time on our date. I didn't think that's what

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Speaker 1: our date was for until we met. I thought we

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Speaker 1: were looking for the same thing. So I was like

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Speaker 1: taken off guard. But you know, everyone's looking for what

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Speaker 1: they're looking for, and even though we had a fun time,

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Speaker 1: it's just we're both looking for different things. It's not

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Speaker 1: the right time and place.

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Speaker 5: Well, good for you knowing exactly what you want.

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Speaker 1: Thank you.

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Speaker 2: Kate Landon is actually on the phone listening and wants

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Speaker 2: to talk to you.

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Speaker 1: What hey, Kate high Landing.

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Speaker 3: I didn't realize we were on such different paths. We

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Speaker 3: had such a good time. I thought it was going.

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Speaker 1: Well, yeah, no, we had a great time and I really,

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's definitely a date I'll never forget. It

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Speaker 1: was really fun. I really enjoyed myself. I enjoyed getting

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Speaker 1: to know you. It's just I think, you know, our

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Speaker 1: path in life is just different right now.

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Speaker 3: Oh well, that's the shame. I've kind of wish you

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Speaker 3: would have answered my textion we could talk about this.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I'm open to discussion.

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Speaker 5: Well then is that true, Landon? Are you not open

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Speaker 5: to relationship?

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Speaker 3: Well? Yeah, I mean, honestly, I am just looking for

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Speaker 3: something casual right now. But I thought she was on

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Speaker 3: the same page. We never discussed it, but yeah, maybe,

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Speaker 3: I mean, if the timing is right, in the future,

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Speaker 3: What do you think.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I really enjoyed meeting with you. I think

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Speaker 1: you're very attractive, and you know, we laughed a lot.

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Speaker 1: Maybe in the future, you know, if if if I'm available,

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Speaker 1: we could definitely try again. You know, it's just timing

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Speaker 1: right now, it doesn't seem like it's on our side,

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Speaker 1: that's all.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Well, like what do I have to do to

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Speaker 1: Need, you know what, that's funny. I just honestly, you're wonderful.

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Speaker 1: I had a great time with you. It's just that

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Speaker 1: I am looking for something a little more, you know,

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Speaker 1: what you're looking for are just like, you know, experiences,

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Speaker 1: So there's I mean, I had a great time. I

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Speaker 1: just I just don't want something super casual right now.

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Speaker 4: Landon, do you think that you're wanting something casual? Is

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Speaker 4: kind of like your defense mechanism too, because it sounds

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Speaker 4: if you just say whoever you hang out with is casual,

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Speaker 3: I didn't realize I was signing up for a therapy

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Speaker 3: session here. Yeah, you know what, I think you may

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Speaker 3: have something that is my pet previous relationship, now that

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Speaker 3: I think about it, things just went too quickly, and

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Speaker 2: What if you replace the word casual with slow.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's that's a good observation there.

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Speaker 5: I'm sorry, but we say this all the time. We

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Speaker 5: are therapists adjacent.

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Speaker 1: I definitely would prefer someone who's more sure on themselves,

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Speaker 1: Like if you need to experience things to you know,

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Speaker 1: feel like you'll be a better partner in the future.

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Speaker 1: I've I've had these experiences and I have a pretty

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Speaker 3: Want and what I'm looking for and how I.

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Speaker 1: Want to be treated. And you know, I just I

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Speaker 1: because because I'm looking for something that's going to go somewhere.

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Speaker 1: was really like dancing in the restaurant and the people

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Speaker 1: just again, I just want something a little bit more serious.

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Speaker 1: It's going to go somewhere or ideally go somewhere like

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Speaker 1: I felt a deep connection with you, so I would

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Speaker 1: not want something casual. But if in the future you

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Speaker 1: figure out what you're looking for, and if I happen

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Speaker 1: to still be available, you know you have my number.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, let's just keep in touch. We'll touch back and

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Speaker 3: forth and stay on each other's right off you

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Speaker 1: Will's first date follow up