WEBVTT - Listening to Negative Emotions with The Happiness Lab

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<v Speaker 1>Pushkin, Hey listeners, while we're hard at work creating new

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<v Speaker 1>episodes of a slight change of Plans for you, I've

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<v Speaker 1>got something special to share this week. It's a preview

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<v Speaker 1>of the new season of The Happiness Lab, hosted by

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<v Speaker 1>my friend and mentor, doctor Laurie Santos. On the Happiness Lab,

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<v Speaker 1>Laurie shares evidence based research that will challenge your understanding

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<v Speaker 1>of what it means to live a happy life, based

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<v Speaker 1>on a psychology course she teaches at Yale, the most

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<v Speaker 1>popular class in the university's history. You'll hear inspiring and

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<v Speaker 1>surprising stories that will make you think differently about your

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<v Speaker 1>own happiness. This season, she's helping us navigate something. We

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<v Speaker 1>tend to avoid bad feelings, but Laurie asks, what if

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<v Speaker 1>these bad feelings are telling us something important. Laurie's joined

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<v Speaker 1>by leading experts like Burnee Brown, Adam Grant, and Susan David,

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<v Speaker 1>who share practical tips to put guilt, anxiety, and burnout

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<v Speaker 1>to good use. In twenty twenty two, here's a preview

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<v Speaker 1>of the new season of The Happiness Lab. You can

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<v Speaker 1>listen to more episodes by searching for the Happiness Lab

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<v Speaker 1>wherever you get your podcasts. People will do just about

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<v Speaker 1>anything to avoid pain, including cause pain. When it comes

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<v Speaker 1>to the yucky emotions in life, most of us would

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<v Speaker 1>prefer to suppress them, run away from them, or pretend

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<v Speaker 1>they're just not there. It's a huge part of the

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<v Speaker 1>mythology around emotion that if we look at in the eye,

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<v Speaker 1>it gives it power, when the reality is if we

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<v Speaker 1>look at in the eye and name it, it it gives

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<v Speaker 1>us power. I'm doctor Laurie Santos, and in the new

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<v Speaker 1>season of The Happiness Lab, I want to suggest that

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<v Speaker 1>we might be able to reset our relationship with our

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<v Speaker 1>emotions in the new year. We all experience stuff like sadness, anxiety,

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<v Speaker 1>and guilt, but in twenty twenty two, I want to

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<v Speaker 1>help you look at negative emotions in a new light

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<v Speaker 1>by heating the advice of experts like Burnee Brown. The

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<v Speaker 1>bad news is the less we talk about it, the

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<v Speaker 1>more we experience it. But we need to learn how

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<v Speaker 1>to recognize emotions in self and others. We'll look at

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<v Speaker 1>some of the most powerful and potentially destructive emotions fresh eyes.

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<v Speaker 1>I was always that person that was mad about injustice

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<v Speaker 1>and mad about how other people treated and wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>punch the sun at a very young age, and we'll

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<v Speaker 1>see that even nasty feelings like anger are important signals

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<v Speaker 1>to pay attention to. It's the nervous system getting wound

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<v Speaker 1>up enough to do something. Anger is your body directing

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<v Speaker 1>you to create change. In addition to the white hot

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<v Speaker 1>emotions like rage, we'll also deal with those upsetting, listless

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<v Speaker 1>feelings like burnout. There's a whole spectrum of well being

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<v Speaker 1>and Adam Grant will help us explore an overlooked emotion

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<v Speaker 1>that many of us feel right now. On one extreme,

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<v Speaker 1>you have depression or anxiety. On the other extreme, you

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<v Speaker 1>have flourishing or thriving. And we don't really talk about

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<v Speaker 1>the neglected middle child, which is languishing. And in a

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<v Speaker 1>special two part show, we'll take a deep dive into

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<v Speaker 1>an emotion that many of us struggle with, an even dread,

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<v Speaker 1>perhaps the most negative of negative emotions. I pause, you negative?

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<v Speaker 1>Why are they negative? What makes them bad? I'll talk

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<v Speaker 1>to psychotherapist Julius Samuel about how we can reimagine our

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<v Speaker 1>relationship with loss. No one wants to burst in tears

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<v Speaker 1>in front of lots of strangers in the supermarket, and

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<v Speaker 1>how we can even grieve better as you express it,

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<v Speaker 1>something shifts. She'll draw both on her years of practice

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<v Speaker 1>and the deeply personal experience she had losing her close friend,

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<v Speaker 1>Princess Diana. One of the things I love most about

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<v Speaker 1>Diana was her laugh. She had this incredibly raucous laugh.

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<v Speaker 1>It was really quite loud, and she often put her

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<v Speaker 1>hand to her mouth, and it was incredibly infectious. The

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<v Speaker 1>new year is a great time to reset your relationship

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<v Speaker 1>with your emotions, so join me for the next season

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<v Speaker 1>of The Happiness Lab from January third, wherever you get

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<v Speaker 1>your podcasts, and as a special added bonus, I'll also

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<v Speaker 1>be creating six meditations based on the ideas in these episodes.

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<v Speaker 1>They'll be available exclusively for Pushkin Plus subscribers. Pushkin Plus

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<v Speaker 1>across many Pushkin industry shows. I hope to see you

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<v Speaker 1>back soon for our emotional reset in the new year.

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<v Speaker 1>Until then, stay safe and stay happy. That was a

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<v Speaker 1>preview of the new season of The Happiness Lab. Learn

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<v Speaker 1>more about embracing negative emotions in the New Year by

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<v Speaker 1>listening to the Happiness Lab wherever you get your podcasts.