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Speaker 1: It's Kiki's court, all right, all right, the Honorable Paulina. Wow, Wow,

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Speaker 1: the Honorable Judge Paulina in for Kiki. Uh, Judge Paulina,

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Speaker 1: take it away.

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much. I hit the gavel.

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Speaker 3: I guess struck.

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Speaker 4: It's been struck helping make you proud girl. Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 4: so here we go.

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Speaker 2: Are you guys ready?

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Speaker 4: I am so your Kiki. I need your ruling because

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Speaker 4: I'm about to lose it. I throw my baby's seventh

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Speaker 4: birthday at a trampoline park. I said invites two months

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Speaker 4: in advance, confirmed RSVPs, and that was twelve yes is.

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Speaker 4: I bought matching jump socks, custom cupcakes with every kid's

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Speaker 4: name on it. The whole Pinterest setup thing. Party day

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Speaker 4: comes and guess how many kids actually showed up?

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Speaker 2: Three? Three kids? The rest hit me with the last minute.

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Speaker 4: Something came up text one of their kids was tired

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Speaker 4: and another one just posted from a whole nother birthday

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Speaker 4: party at the same time. Oh yeah, double book yeah,

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Speaker 4: double booked and blessed.

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Speaker 3: So to cancel. You can't you can't play post instuff.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, some people just don't know.

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Speaker 1: You can't be saying all I can't make it and

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Speaker 1: then show up. You don't have to other persons.

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Speaker 3: You can't do that.

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Speaker 4: Come on now, now I'm standing there with enough pizza

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Speaker 4: to feed a small village and a birthday boy asking

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Speaker 4: why his friends didn't come so Geeky or Paulina everybody else?

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Speaker 2: Am my petty?

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Speaker 4: If I them no or Zell request these parents for

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Speaker 4: their no show fees, or at least call them out

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Speaker 4: for their no shows?

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Speaker 3: What should I do? Why y'all call them out?

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Speaker 2: Like I'm the old Instagram you know, I can find

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Speaker 2: a way. What thing about me is I'll find.

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Speaker 4: A way square and or anything they're saying, like text

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Speaker 4: them and just be like, hey, that wasn't cool, which

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Speaker 4: I've seen people do that too before, Like that's very

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Speaker 3: But I don't know what you're gonna do about it.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: See, this is tough because I feel that when it

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Speaker 4: and you know everything's you know, the cupcakes and the

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Speaker 4: Spider Man themes and whatever is going on. You don't

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Speaker 4: want to disappoint a child, right, So I think the

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Speaker 4: least you can do is bring your kid, because I

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Speaker 4: don't think that feel good. If that was your child's

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Speaker 4: the old me would probably say, yes, call them out,

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Speaker 4: you know, send all the requests, do it all. But

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Speaker 4: I think my friends have told me recently that I

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Speaker 4: am growing, that I'm experiencing growth.

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Speaker 1: Wow, And I know this is hard. It's hard not

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Speaker 2: It's hard. It's really hard for me. You guys understand that.

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Speaker 3: Well.

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Speaker 6: If you have a relationship with any of the other permes,

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Speaker 6: I think it's okay to say, hey, you know that

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Speaker 2: I think that's fair too.

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Speaker 4: But I also think we should put our energy into

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Speaker 4: a Brandon's birthday party for those who made it. And

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Speaker 1: So financial commitment too. I mean, I will how very

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Speaker 1: That's weird to me, like one or two kids dropping

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Speaker 4: Right, You're talking about what like eight nine kids not coming?

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Speaker 4: So I want to personally take this moment to hoologize

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Speaker 4: And you had your birthday back in August and you

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Speaker 4: had an event at your house. You had people over

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Speaker 1: You brought this up because Kaylen behind the scenes has

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Speaker 4: I just don't get it, though, Like I don't get

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Speaker 4: like I've never you know, if you've done this, so

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Speaker 4: And I feel like I've had done to me and

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Speaker 4: I think when it comes to this kid thing, you're right, friend,

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Speaker 2: Gonna happen, right, maybe two.

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Speaker 4: But I think parents truly just like don't care anymore

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Speaker 4: now that their argument is like parents are juggling so much.

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Speaker 2: Yes, yes we are.

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Speaker 4: But I think you can go to Timmy's birthday party

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Speaker 2: Bring your kid, to show your kid what it's like

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Speaker 1: That's the thing you like if you you agreed to

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Speaker 1: It's karma when you throw a party for your kid.

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Speaker 1: You'd be upset if this happened for a lot of

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Speaker 1: like where are my friends? I mean, there were some

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Speaker 1: Hi Brittany, So this happened to you.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, so, I mean it happened to me as

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Speaker 1: Not showing up.

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Speaker 5: But the big thing for me was I hired a

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Speaker 1: Can choose, they could choose a face face painting or

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Speaker 3: That's cool. I like the versatility.

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Speaker 5: Yeah yeah right, yeah, So ten minutes before the party,

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Speaker 5: an hour later posted that she was at the Tattoo

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Speaker 3: Hear.

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Speaker 2: Wow, you can't lie about it.

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Speaker 3: Oh, you don't say stuff. You can't say stuff like that.

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Speaker 5: That's what I said. That's what I said. Had she

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Speaker 2: About, insane And why is that your first go to?

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Speaker 5: Honestly, Like, girl, you could have said you had diarrhea.

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Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, that's a very that's that.

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Speaker 1: Not only is that very serious, but it draws sympathy

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Speaker 3: That's that time about car That's the thing.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's the thing that bothered me the most is

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Speaker 1: Dumb because you're gonna lie. You know, everyone knows. It

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Speaker 1: You cannot, No, don't lie about tragedy, never because because

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Speaker 5: Right and now, yeah, so no, and then then I

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Speaker 5: And yes, it was very disappointing. But also when you

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Speaker 5: they charge no show fee, right, thing is is like,

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Speaker 5: like you said, tell me you can't make it firsthand

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Speaker 1: good day. Glad you called. Yeah, no, I'm yeah. I

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Speaker 1: mean you can't go Venmo. And I think you do

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Speaker 1: But what see Venmo them like, I don't.

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Speaker 3: Know, I think it go you look you look kind

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Speaker 3: of cat. That's that's a bad situation.

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Speaker 1: I hate it when you're in the right, but anything

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Speaker 1: that you do that in order, like I want to

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Speaker 1: call it retaliation, but anything you do to kind of

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Speaker 1: ultimately it gives people the opportunity to to to then

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Speaker 3: You know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: It's a bad situation to be and when like you,

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Speaker 3: Right to do it.

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Speaker 1: I think you have to ask yourself, like what do

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Speaker 6: It's very easy to communicate, Like that's all you have

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it's pretty simple.

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Speaker 1: Hey Ashley, Hi, Hi, So just to recap here, if

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Speaker 1: But essentially, a woman planned a birthday party for her

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Speaker 3: What do you do?

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Speaker 7: So I recently went to a party a whole I

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Speaker 8: It was about twenty.

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Speaker 8: So the parents send the invitations. We put these in

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Speaker 7: There are so many parents that don't open their child's folder,

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Speaker 7: Thankfully it was at their house and he didn't really notice.

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Speaker 1: I guess they knew mad. Yeah I would too. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: no one knew, that's one thing. But if everybody said

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Speaker 3: And I think that's pure.

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Speaker 8: You know, as a parent, you don't want.

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Speaker 7: Yes, it's like, oh I have to go sit at

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Speaker 8: It's not that much of your day.

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Speaker 1: no problem, have a good day now. Hadley is our

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Speaker 1: eleven year old contributor. Hadley calls every now and again. Now, Hadley, well,

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Speaker 6: I have to.

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Speaker 9: Say that she shouldn't be petty because she'd be focusing

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Speaker 3: I think not Hadley.

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Speaker 1: If we wanted to do something, though, like, if we

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Speaker 1: Do you think if we were so inclined? Now we're not,

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Speaker 9: I'd maybe, like, if I didn't have the parents' phone number,

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 1: And then you could go like maybe look at all

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Speaker 1: And now I'm gonna I'm going to extort you. I

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Speaker 1: don't know. You would never do that badly, You wouldn't

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Speaker 1: thank you for calling. I appreciate you. Very well spoken.

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Speaker 1: She's better spoken than I am. And she's eleven years old,

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Speaker 1: take over the program. Hey, Tony, Tony, just happened with

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Speaker 3: Is that what happened?

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Speaker 7: Right?

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Speaker 10: It was family. It wasn't all children. That's even worse

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Speaker 3: Yeah, what did you do about it?

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Speaker 10: But you know, and honestly, I didn't do anything. I

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Speaker 10: just had Chinese food for months. I threw it in

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Speaker 3: Just messed up.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you're planning on one hundred people and of

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Speaker 3: Do you think.

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Speaker 10: Honestly, I think we planned it too far in advance,

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 10: I mean, like, you know, I'm assuming my family wouldn't

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Speaker 10: I never looked at my family the same way. Again, Yeah,

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Speaker 10: like other events, you know, I would plan for let's say,

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Speaker 10: you know, they responded with fifty five them, like realistically,

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Speaker 10: let's say thirty we'll show up.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's that's bad.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm sorry, Tony, Thanks for calling, man, thanks for listening.

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Speaker 3: Have a good day at a problem as well. So

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Speaker 3: Kelly's got a theory too. Hi Kelly, welcome, Good morning guys.

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Speaker 2: How are you hi?

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Speaker 1: Good morning? So what's your theory on this? The final say?

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Speaker 11: So, I think this is across the board. I think

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Speaker 11: So we commit to everything right, we want to do

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Speaker 11: all the things, and we want to go to all

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think you're right. I think there are. And

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Speaker 1: I have no problem with this personally. But a lot

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Speaker 1: and I know right away, and but be you right.

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Speaker 1: People don't want to say no. They say yes and

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Speaker 1: I can't do it one.

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Speaker 11: Hundred percent, Like just be upfront and it's okay. Like

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Speaker 11: I don't even do big parties for my kids anymore,

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Speaker 11: I get it.

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Speaker 2: People are busy now.

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Speaker 5: Everyone can spend.

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Speaker 11: You know, you get invited when kids are small, especially

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Speaker 11: you'll get two, three, four or five six birthday party

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Speaker 2: You know, this whole pro family stuff. There's enough hours

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Kelly, thank.

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Speaker 2: You, Thank you guys so much. Have a great day.

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Speaker 3: You'd do.

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Speaker 1: Another thing you can do is as annoying as it

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Speaker 1: And then it also sends out like little annoying reminders

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Speaker 3: Because of those Yeah, because in advance, you it's.

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Speaker 1: Easy to say like, hey, in two months, we're doing

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Speaker 6: And I cannot, I cannot do this any longer. I

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Speaker 2: That is not a way a good way for me.

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Speaker 6: Use those online things so I can say add to calendar,

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Speaker 2: We must stop this.

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Speaker 1: Tell you said that to me actually, and I didn't

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Speaker 3: I'm like, but you didn't invite me. And then then

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Speaker 1: Deep in the middle of a bunch of texts about

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Speaker 1: then be like, where were you. I tried to guilt

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Speaker 1: and then it turned out I was invited, but it.

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Speaker 1: It was a picture of an IM what's doing? No,

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