WEBVTT - Psychic medium with Tyler Henry 0:00:00.960 --> 0:00:02.520 Hi, Hi, Chelsea. 0:00:02.720 --> 0:00:05.560 Hi, Hi, Hi. I'm very very vibrant this morning. 0:00:05.760 --> 0:00:08.239 Oh yeah, because I haven't had a drink for a 0:00:08.280 --> 0:00:10.480 couple of days, and I just feel so much better. 0:00:10.200 --> 0:00:11.080 When I don't drink. 0:00:11.160 --> 0:00:14.319 But obviously that's not gonna last, so I try and 0:00:14.360 --> 0:00:16.200 take a couple down days, you know. But I mean 0:00:16.239 --> 0:00:19.680 with summertime, it's just very difficult. Too many social engagements, 0:00:19.880 --> 0:00:23.079 too much traveling. The most amount of time I spend 0:00:23.720 --> 0:00:26.119 sober is probably on an airplane. 0:00:26.200 --> 0:00:27.600 I don't like to drink on planes. 0:00:28.080 --> 0:00:29.920 It does make you feel extra yacky when you get 0:00:29.920 --> 0:00:30.319 off the plane. 0:00:30.400 --> 0:00:32.080 Yeah, yeah, I don't like to mess with that. 0:00:32.159 --> 0:00:34.000 I like to get on a plane, take a Xanax, 0:00:34.080 --> 0:00:36.479 go to sleep, wake up, and feel fresh as a daisy. 0:00:36.720 --> 0:00:38.639 Ooh, that's the way to do it. I once took 0:00:38.640 --> 0:00:41.560 an adavan on a flight and like watched an entire 0:00:41.680 --> 0:00:44.000 movie for good. I watched the movie. 0:00:43.800 --> 0:00:46.000 Welcome to My Whole fucking Life. I don't even so. 0:00:46.120 --> 0:00:49.080 I've watched entire series and not remembered that I've seen 0:00:49.080 --> 0:00:51.360 them until like rewatching. 0:00:50.720 --> 0:00:53.360 Them in three episodes in Yeah, I'm a hot mess. 0:00:53.840 --> 0:00:56.240 Sometimes I'm like half asleep, you know. I like to 0:00:56.240 --> 0:00:58.120 fall asleep to television. I know they say, don't do that, 0:00:58.400 --> 0:00:59.160 but I got this. 0:00:59.200 --> 0:01:03.040 Amazing those Court's face mask that I sleep on. Is 0:01:03.080 --> 0:01:05.160 it cold, Well, it feels cold. 0:01:05.240 --> 0:01:07.080 It gets warm in the night, but it's like just 0:01:07.120 --> 0:01:09.440 because it's crystals. So I have a full face one 0:01:09.480 --> 0:01:11.880 and I have a half face one. I've been sleeping 0:01:11.920 --> 0:01:15.480 with that and any under eye puffiness or swelling or 0:01:15.520 --> 0:01:18.600 anything like that, it just gets everything out. So I've 0:01:18.600 --> 0:01:21.480 been I'm really into that lately. Anyway, I go to 0:01:21.520 --> 0:01:23.240 sleep with the TV on, I put on my rose 0:01:23.319 --> 0:01:26.200 Quartz mask, and then eventually I turned. 0:01:25.959 --> 0:01:26.600 The TV off. 0:01:26.720 --> 0:01:27.200 I love it. 0:01:27.280 --> 0:01:29.600 I mean, who's paying attention to television anymore? Anyway? 0:01:29.640 --> 0:01:31.319 I mean it's so hard to pay attention to anything 0:01:31.360 --> 0:01:34.640 because we all have such add adhd add by all 0:01:34.680 --> 0:01:42.200 the bipolar disorder, multiple personality borderline. Anyway, Okay, guys, we 0:01:42.280 --> 0:01:44.600 have added more shows to my Little Big Bitch tour 0:01:44.680 --> 0:01:47.640 because I'm coming all over. We add a second show 0:01:47.680 --> 0:01:50.880 at the Pantagius in Los Angeles, so that's October twelfth 0:01:50.920 --> 0:01:53.560 and Friday the thirteenth, which is my favorite day of 0:01:53.600 --> 0:01:56.480 the year. We added a second show in Boston at 0:01:56.480 --> 0:02:00.160 the Weighing Center September twenty ninth and thirtieth is two 0:02:00.320 --> 0:02:02.720 in New York. I also have a show in Eastthampton, 0:02:02.720 --> 0:02:04.200 New York, August twenty six. 0:02:04.880 --> 0:02:05.440 We added a. 0:02:05.440 --> 0:02:09.120 Second show in Portland, So Thursday November tewod Friday November third, 0:02:09.120 --> 0:02:12.639 and Portland November fourth and fifth in San Francisco, two 0:02:12.680 --> 0:02:15.440 shows there. We added a second show in Seattle November 0:02:15.440 --> 0:02:19.880 tenth and eleventh. Two shows Boston are November sixteenth and 0:02:19.919 --> 0:02:25.400 seventeenth at the Bach Center at Wang Theater. And I'm 0:02:25.560 --> 0:02:31.440 also coming to Toronto and Montreal and Ottawa and so 0:02:31.520 --> 0:02:35.799 many other cities Columbus, Cincinnati, Detroit, Louisville. 0:02:36.240 --> 0:02:39.040 So I will see everybody at all of these shows. 0:02:39.200 --> 0:02:42.400 Thank you. Get your tickets at Chelseahandler dot com. 0:02:43.040 --> 0:02:48.720 Chelsea. Have you always believed in something beyond our physical world, 0:02:48.840 --> 0:02:51.440 like what we can't see sort of thing, maybe not 0:02:51.480 --> 0:02:53.480 a higher power, but an afterlife? 0:02:53.560 --> 0:02:55.960 I mean, I guess, yeah, I know, I mean I 0:02:55.960 --> 0:02:58.080 hoped so right, Like I think when I was younger, 0:02:58.080 --> 0:03:00.760 I believed in God because that was instilled in me 0:03:00.840 --> 0:03:03.239 that there was a God. And then as I became 0:03:03.520 --> 0:03:07.560 in my teens, I was questioning it a lot, but 0:03:07.680 --> 0:03:11.200 always kind of I've always felt like there's something personally 0:03:11.280 --> 0:03:14.440 like watching over me, like protecting me. Like I've always 0:03:14.480 --> 0:03:17.360 felt like, oh, there's something protecting me, there's something steering me. 0:03:17.400 --> 0:03:20.240 I'm accountable to this invisible eye in the sky. So 0:03:20.760 --> 0:03:22.519 when there's a choice to make the good decision or 0:03:22.520 --> 0:03:24.519 the bad decision, I always make the good one because 0:03:24.639 --> 0:03:27.720 I feel like I there's a witness Meanwhile, that's like 0:03:27.760 --> 0:03:29.799 a fantasy. But as I've grown older, and I think 0:03:29.880 --> 0:03:32.560 my brother's death and my mother's death makes me believe 0:03:32.560 --> 0:03:35.800 in mysticism makes me believe in the other. I believe 0:03:35.840 --> 0:03:38.440 there is a universal intelligence. The more that I've read 0:03:38.520 --> 0:03:42.120 and discovered, and then therapy also really made me. I 0:03:42.160 --> 0:03:44.240 always went to psychics and stuff because I like that 0:03:44.320 --> 0:03:46.839 kind of stuff. Yeah, but I never necessarily. 0:03:46.280 --> 0:03:49.400 Always believed it. But sometimes it's just very comforting. 0:03:50.000 --> 0:03:53.839 And I think that now that I've witnessed all those 0:03:53.880 --> 0:03:57.120 little miracles, like I was yesterday looking at I took 0:03:57.160 --> 0:03:58.839 my girlfriends are in town, and I went to take 0:03:58.840 --> 0:04:01.840 them to my new house that's going to be ready never. 0:04:01.920 --> 0:04:04.080 And someday they're like, it'll be ready in August. 0:04:04.080 --> 0:04:06.520 My girlfriends are like, Uh, there's no way this house 0:04:06.600 --> 0:04:07.640 is going to be ready in August. 0:04:08.080 --> 0:04:09.400 Everyone's like, there's no way. 0:04:09.440 --> 0:04:12.320 I'm like, watch this house, by the way, that you 0:04:12.400 --> 0:04:15.200 were talking about renovating when this podcast started. 0:04:15.440 --> 0:04:17.560 I know, I know it's been I mean, it's just 0:04:17.720 --> 0:04:18.520 the joke is on me. 0:04:18.680 --> 0:04:21.720 I can't believe how much time I've spent in rentals 0:04:22.040 --> 0:04:25.800 wasting money. Well anyway, but my friend we left there 0:04:25.800 --> 0:04:27.200 and we're at the dinner last night with a couple 0:04:27.160 --> 0:04:30.680 of girlfriends and my friend was like, uh, did you 0:04:30.760 --> 0:04:34.000 see that hummingbird just circling your front door when we 0:04:34.000 --> 0:04:35.720 were walking in. She goes, you were talking to the 0:04:35.760 --> 0:04:39.720 contractors and the designers and there was a hummingbird just circling, circling, circling, 0:04:40.440 --> 0:04:41.800 and then when. 0:04:41.640 --> 0:04:42.159 We walked in. 0:04:42.320 --> 0:04:44.440 So a psychic had said to me, you know, your mother, 0:04:44.760 --> 0:04:46.599 the way your parents, your mother, and a lot of 0:04:46.600 --> 0:04:49.120 dead people come back are as birds whatever. So that's 0:04:49.160 --> 0:04:51.960 easy because you can always Yeah, if you're a cynic, 0:04:51.960 --> 0:04:54.760 you can be like, well, they're birds everywhere, but a 0:04:54.839 --> 0:04:59.680 hummingbird specifically. And they also told me watch out for nests. 0:05:00.360 --> 0:05:02.719 When you move into a place or you have a house, 0:05:02.760 --> 0:05:05.200 watch out for nests in weird places because your mother 0:05:05.760 --> 0:05:08.599 is forming nests and that's where she hangs out is 0:05:08.720 --> 0:05:13.240 around your house in Whistler. My property guy called me 0:05:13.320 --> 0:05:14.680 and he goes, you know, you have a nest right 0:05:14.680 --> 0:05:15.560 outside your front door. 0:05:15.600 --> 0:05:18.039 There's a bunch of hummingbirds up here. Oh my god. 0:05:18.120 --> 0:05:21.360 And I was like, what so yesterday, this was six 0:05:21.400 --> 0:05:24.680 months ago. Yesterday my friend was like, you know, there 0:05:24.680 --> 0:05:26.080 was a hummingbird outside your door. 0:05:26.080 --> 0:05:27.560 And I go, you did tell me that? She goes, yeah, 0:05:27.560 --> 0:05:29.720 it just kept circling the door, circling the door, circling 0:05:29.720 --> 0:05:30.040 the door. 0:05:30.080 --> 0:05:31.080 Why would it be doing that. 0:05:31.480 --> 0:05:34.480 It's my mom gracing it or blessing it or saying 0:05:34.520 --> 0:05:37.000 like she's here, she's here. Who knows what it means. 0:05:37.040 --> 0:05:39.960 But and then when we were there, they're like, there's 0:05:40.000 --> 0:05:42.680 like three birds nests at every entrance and I. 0:05:42.680 --> 0:05:43.520 Was like three. 0:05:43.640 --> 0:05:46.600 He goes, yes, at every doorway in the back, in 0:05:46.640 --> 0:05:48.720 the front, and then the doorway to the gym. He goes, 0:05:48.720 --> 0:05:52.840 there's three. And I was like, oh my god, why, 0:05:53.040 --> 0:05:55.520 And I couldn't. I was just like, holy shit. It 0:05:55.600 --> 0:05:57.560 was just crazy. And so I was like, Okay, I 0:05:57.600 --> 0:05:59.800 believe in that that is my mother. She would be 0:05:59.880 --> 0:06:02.520 a bird coming back around me. I do believe she 0:06:02.600 --> 0:06:03.760 was also my dog Junk, but. 0:06:05.200 --> 0:06:06.000 Yeah, so I do. 0:06:06.160 --> 0:06:08.960 I just I think it's some more fun way to live. 0:06:09.000 --> 0:06:11.960 And whatever you believe is true is true. It's just 0:06:12.000 --> 0:06:14.520 like when you tell yourself negative things, they become true, 0:06:14.800 --> 0:06:17.360 and when you tell yourself positive things, they also become true. 0:06:17.760 --> 0:06:19.840 I think that's so true. I love what you say 0:06:19.880 --> 0:06:21.480 about Like, if you don't know what it means, that's 0:06:21.520 --> 0:06:23.760 still okay, because maybe you will in the future and 0:06:23.800 --> 0:06:27.760 maybe you won't. I tend to see the numbers one, two, 0:06:27.800 --> 0:06:31.400 three four constantly, which seems like, well, those are the 0:06:31.400 --> 0:06:34.640 first four numbers, but also like on a clock, like 0:06:34.680 --> 0:06:36.320 half the time I look at a clock, it's one, two, 0:06:36.360 --> 0:06:38.599 three four, and I don't exactly. 0:06:38.160 --> 0:06:39.600 Know what it means. 0:06:40.240 --> 0:06:42.560 I tried looking it up in numerology and stuff, and 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:45.240 it seems to mean that when you see it, you're 0:06:45.279 --> 0:06:47.800 on the right track and you're in your growth and. 0:06:47.720 --> 0:06:49.440 You're learning, which I like. 0:06:49.560 --> 0:06:51.520 But I'm like, I feel like there's some deeper meaning 0:06:51.560 --> 0:06:53.320 and I feel like one day it's going to hit 0:06:53.320 --> 0:06:54.119 me like a ton of bricks. 0:06:54.200 --> 0:06:56.600 Yeah, numbers are important too, Like I told my aunt 0:06:56.640 --> 0:06:59.719 when my cousin died. She was obviously, you know, never 0:07:00.200 --> 0:07:02.039 going to be the same. And I said, you know, 0:07:02.080 --> 0:07:03.479 she doesn't believe in any of this. I go, you 0:07:03.520 --> 0:07:05.640 have to think of something, Think of something so obscure 0:07:05.839 --> 0:07:07.080 that only he would know about. 0:07:07.320 --> 0:07:09.039 Just make it up in your mind. 0:07:09.360 --> 0:07:11.720 Communicate to him in your mind that you need to 0:07:11.720 --> 0:07:15.120 see these numbers or these letters or this symbol. She 0:07:15.360 --> 0:07:18.120 chose like xyz da da da da. She chose some 0:07:18.240 --> 0:07:21.120 random thing of numbers. So she spent the whole I go, great, now, 0:07:21.200 --> 0:07:23.720 look everywhere, just look at in all the strangest places. 0:07:23.720 --> 0:07:26.400 So she's looking at license plates, she's driving around, looking 0:07:26.440 --> 0:07:28.960 and seeing if she could find this weird combination of lettering. 0:07:29.400 --> 0:07:31.960 And then she picked up her phone and the numbers 0:07:32.000 --> 0:07:34.280 that those letters made out on the phone was on 0:07:34.360 --> 0:07:37.360 her phone without making a call, because it wasn't a 0:07:37.400 --> 0:07:39.720 full phone number. It was just like five letters, and 0:07:39.880 --> 0:07:42.200 and it just it was like, whatever that is on 0:07:42.240 --> 0:07:44.120 your phone. And she said she looked at her phone 0:07:44.160 --> 0:07:45.840 in the middle of the day and she called me. 0:07:45.960 --> 0:07:48.600 She was shaking. She's like, oh my god, that's him. 0:07:48.680 --> 0:07:50.480 He's okay, it's so wid. 0:07:51.440 --> 0:07:51.720 Yeah. 0:07:51.760 --> 0:07:54.559 So I think that you know, we're When we lose someone, 0:07:54.600 --> 0:07:58.360 we're so desperate to know that they're okay, and we 0:07:58.400 --> 0:08:01.360 suffer so much. It's like they don't want us to suffer. 0:08:01.800 --> 0:08:04.680 And I understand you have to grieve because you've lost someone, 0:08:04.720 --> 0:08:10.240 but there is an attachment that real monks and Buddhists. 0:08:10.160 --> 0:08:13.560 Know not to attach to, not to attach to the 0:08:13.600 --> 0:08:14.640 physical form. 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:18.720 Of course you're attached emotionally, but it's not gone. When 0:08:18.720 --> 0:08:21.200 that person dies, they're just not here. And while that's 0:08:21.200 --> 0:08:25.040 a huge loss, don't forget that there's the energy and 0:08:25.080 --> 0:08:29.200 the connection and the love is still there and palpable, right. 0:08:29.440 --> 0:08:32.760 And I mean, even from a straight up physics perspective, 0:08:33.160 --> 0:08:36.600 energy doesn't disappear, right. It transforms into something else, whether 0:08:36.640 --> 0:08:39.000 it's water becoming a gas, et cetera, et cetera. But 0:08:39.640 --> 0:08:42.240 I think the same can be true of the literal 0:08:42.320 --> 0:08:45.360 electric energy that's in our bodies when we're alive. It 0:08:45.400 --> 0:08:48.640 doesn't just disappear and dissipate. It has to transform into 0:08:48.640 --> 0:08:49.200 something else. 0:08:49.440 --> 0:08:53.440 And when you are aligned with this universal intelligence that 0:08:53.480 --> 0:08:57.080 I speak of, like when you believe that everything is 0:08:57.160 --> 0:08:59.560 leading you to the in the right direction, and to 0:08:59.640 --> 0:09:03.400 trust your instinct and gut and you don't resist uncomfortable 0:09:03.440 --> 0:09:06.920 circumstances or things that don't work out, You don't let 0:09:06.920 --> 0:09:10.920 them drag you down. So far everything starts to get easier. 0:09:11.120 --> 0:09:13.480 And that tip has happened in my life in such 0:09:13.480 --> 0:09:16.400 a major way that I would be remiss to pretend 0:09:16.720 --> 0:09:19.959 that it wasn't part of a universal alignment. Like I'm 0:09:20.000 --> 0:09:22.959 in my flow state, I understand where things are going, 0:09:23.440 --> 0:09:26.280 and even if things don't work out, I feel so 0:09:26.400 --> 0:09:30.280 optimistic about all the work I've done and the direction I'm. 0:09:30.160 --> 0:09:31.800 Headed that I can handle it all. 0:09:31.960 --> 0:09:34.640 Yeah, and now I trust myself, and before I didn't 0:09:34.679 --> 0:09:37.439 trust myself, or there were times where I did it. 0:09:37.520 --> 0:09:39.280 Trust myself is a better way to put it. 0:09:39.280 --> 0:09:43.040 It's a hard thing to learn when something's not going right, Like, Okay, 0:09:43.080 --> 0:09:45.880 this is a learning experience. What am I actually supposed 0:09:45.920 --> 0:09:48.760 to take from this? Even though it's painful or awkward 0:09:48.880 --> 0:09:52.480 or annoying, But you can get there, you know, to 0:09:52.600 --> 0:09:55.280 accepting that all of these things are learning experiences. 0:09:55.440 --> 0:09:58.080 Yeah, And the more experience you have, the more you 0:09:58.160 --> 0:09:59.960 realize A breakup is not the end of the world, 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:02.360 world a job. Losing a job is not the end 0:10:02.360 --> 0:10:06.080 of the world. A family member. Dying is terrible experience, 0:10:06.120 --> 0:10:08.560 but it's part of life and it's not the end 0:10:08.640 --> 0:10:12.120 of the world. Your world continues to exist. So how 0:10:12.120 --> 0:10:13.640 do you want to move forward in that? As a 0:10:13.720 --> 0:10:18.120 victim or as someone who's empowered and understands that this 0:10:18.320 --> 0:10:22.920 universal intelligence is going to take and give and upset 0:10:22.960 --> 0:10:26.240 and like enlighten be open to all of the experiences. 0:10:26.760 --> 0:10:29.079 And you know, I used to be such a baby 0:10:29.120 --> 0:10:31.120 and a brat. If things didn't go my way, I 0:10:31.160 --> 0:10:33.840 would be I would stop my feet and cry to 0:10:33.840 --> 0:10:37.920 get my way. And I don't have to do that anymore. Yeah, 0:10:37.960 --> 0:10:41.760 so amen to that, yes for sure, which brings. 0:10:41.559 --> 0:10:43.840 Us to our very special guest. Oh, you guys are 0:10:43.840 --> 0:10:44.320 gonna like this. 0:10:44.720 --> 0:10:47.719 So our next guest is doing a live tour currently 0:10:48.480 --> 0:10:51.240 just nominated for an Emmy for his show on Netflix, 0:10:51.240 --> 0:10:53.880 which is called Life After Death, and he is the 0:10:53.880 --> 0:10:57.600 star of Hollywood Medium. He is a recent Emmy nominee 0:10:57.600 --> 0:11:00.280 for his Netflix series Life after Death with how Tyler 0:11:00.320 --> 0:11:02.840 Henry Please welcome Tyler Henry. 0:11:03.280 --> 0:11:05.440 Oh my god, how cute are you? I was so 0:11:05.520 --> 0:11:06.760 excited to talk to you. 0:11:07.280 --> 0:11:09.160 I'm so excited to talk to you. I barely slept 0:11:09.160 --> 0:11:11.000 a wink last night, So I am looking forward to. 0:11:11.360 --> 0:11:13.080 Oh my god, you're so cute. 0:11:13.160 --> 0:11:16.040 I just think you're so Your whole vibe and energy 0:11:16.160 --> 0:11:20.040 is just so sweet and welcoming and comforting to so 0:11:20.160 --> 0:11:20.800 many people. 0:11:20.840 --> 0:11:21.640 It's so touching. 0:11:22.160 --> 0:11:23.880 Well, thank you so much. It means the world. I 0:11:23.920 --> 0:11:25.800 feel the same way about you. You've entertained me for 0:11:25.920 --> 0:11:28.280 years and have brought such so much joy to so 0:11:28.280 --> 0:11:30.120 many people. So I'm excited to say. 0:11:30.040 --> 0:11:32.200 Well, I'm less comforting but more probably joy. 0:11:32.280 --> 0:11:34.559 Yeah, I can bring joy, and I don't think comfort 0:11:34.600 --> 0:11:35.240 is what I'm bringing. 0:11:35.440 --> 0:11:36.160 But that's okay. 0:11:36.400 --> 0:11:39.160 Not everybody's here for everything, you know, Catherine, this is 0:11:39.160 --> 0:11:39.880 my co host. 0:11:39.960 --> 0:11:42.000 H Well, Catherine, it's lovely to meet you. 0:11:42.360 --> 0:11:44.520 To me, okay, So I want you to tell me. 0:11:44.880 --> 0:11:46.560 I don't know if I have this story right. I 0:11:46.559 --> 0:11:49.559 want to talk about your kind of og story, your 0:11:49.600 --> 0:11:52.320 mom and I think I read that your mom was 0:11:52.920 --> 0:11:54.640 kidnapped as a young girl. 0:11:54.840 --> 0:11:57.280 Is that accurate in essence? 0:11:57.400 --> 0:12:01.120 Yeah, I'm basically my mom as a baby was taken 0:12:01.280 --> 0:12:04.160 by a woman who we later found out took her, 0:12:04.440 --> 0:12:07.400 and we for the first twenty something years of my life, 0:12:07.480 --> 0:12:10.520 thought that this woman was my grandmother, and indeed we 0:12:10.559 --> 0:12:14.319 came to this family discovery that she was abducted, and 0:12:14.480 --> 0:12:16.280 it led to a whole kind of reunion with my 0:12:16.320 --> 0:12:19.640 biological family, which was captured on a Netflix show called 0:12:19.800 --> 0:12:20.640 Life After Death. 0:12:20.960 --> 0:12:26.720 Whoa holy shit, I mean, that is a lifetime movie 0:12:26.880 --> 0:12:28.000 come to roost. 0:12:28.600 --> 0:12:30.960 It really was. Oh my, the woman who did this, 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:33.199 who I thought was my grandmother for the first twenty 0:12:33.200 --> 0:12:35.920 something years of my life, ended up actually serving over 0:12:35.960 --> 0:12:38.480 thirty years in prison for the murder of two people, 0:12:38.960 --> 0:12:42.640 and I ended up actually involving her own family in 0:12:42.760 --> 0:12:47.240 having to bury the bodies and manipulated the entire situation, 0:12:47.440 --> 0:12:49.199 and you know, it was a source of a lot 0:12:49.200 --> 0:12:51.560 of shame for my mom. And then to find out 0:12:51.559 --> 0:12:54.559 that that wasn't even actually her mother. It was definitely 0:12:54.720 --> 0:12:57.320 heartbreaking and also kind of relieving to know we weren't 0:12:57.360 --> 0:12:58.280 related to that person. 0:12:58.679 --> 0:13:00.240 Oh yeah, I bet yeh. 0:13:00.320 --> 0:13:04.239 God, that must be such a hurdle to get over emotionally, 0:13:04.400 --> 0:13:06.720 to grow up thinking somebody's one thing and then find 0:13:06.720 --> 0:13:08.200 out they're not multiple things. 0:13:08.920 --> 0:13:11.240 Absolutely. I mean, there's something to be said about, you know, 0:13:11.280 --> 0:13:13.400 people living often with the sins of their father, and 0:13:13.440 --> 0:13:15.439 you hear all these tropes about how the apple doesn't 0:13:15.440 --> 0:13:17.640 fall far from the tree. And you know, my mom 0:13:17.679 --> 0:13:19.800 grew up hearing those things and it was very taunting 0:13:19.880 --> 0:13:22.000 for her. And so to realize, hey, you know, there 0:13:22.040 --> 0:13:24.440 wasn't even a biological link, it was kind of healing. 0:13:25.040 --> 0:13:27.000 Have you been able to help your mom on that front? 0:13:27.360 --> 0:13:30.320 Yeah, definitely. You know, in some ways, my own intuitive 0:13:30.320 --> 0:13:33.120 inclinations are kind of limited when it comes to reading 0:13:33.160 --> 0:13:34.960 my own family, and a lot of that has to 0:13:35.000 --> 0:13:37.720 do too and just implicit biases. You know, I kind 0:13:37.760 --> 0:13:39.600 of know too much. I have my own hopes and 0:13:39.640 --> 0:13:41.760 fears about the people that I love and care about, 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:44.160 and so it was very difficult in my pursuit for 0:13:44.240 --> 0:13:46.640 answers to be able to really get any through my 0:13:46.720 --> 0:13:49.040 normal kind of go to methods. But we were able 0:13:49.040 --> 0:13:51.920 to work with a leading genealogist. I introduced my mom 0:13:51.920 --> 0:13:54.520 to another medium and we received a very compelling reading, 0:13:54.600 --> 0:13:56.679 and through all that information was able to kind of 0:13:56.720 --> 0:13:58.960 get an understanding of what happened, what led to this 0:13:59.440 --> 0:14:01.479 horrible event that affected so many. 0:14:01.679 --> 0:14:04.440 Oh gosh, yeah, I wonder if that you know, when 0:14:04.480 --> 0:14:08.240 we talk about intergenerational trauma, right like, I wonder how 0:14:08.280 --> 0:14:11.280 that affects you unconsciously. 0:14:10.880 --> 0:14:13.400 Absolutely Oh, I've so often wonder too, you know, just 0:14:13.480 --> 0:14:17.280 how trauma and its effect over generations can sometimes even 0:14:17.320 --> 0:14:20.640 kind of be inherited in certain proclivities or susceptibilities to 0:14:21.000 --> 0:14:23.880 maybe even anxiety, you know, on some levels. So I 0:14:23.920 --> 0:14:26.760 do know that shame is something very powerful and often 0:14:26.800 --> 0:14:28.800 does have a ripple effect. And so to be able 0:14:28.840 --> 0:14:31.760 to tell that story in a way that was shared 0:14:31.800 --> 0:14:34.280 with millions of people, I think was liberating and kind 0:14:34.320 --> 0:14:38.480 of reclaiming what happened and owning that narrative and being 0:14:38.480 --> 0:14:41.280 the one to tell that story versus being ashamed of it. 0:14:41.520 --> 0:14:44.120 And that show on Netflix, Life After Death was just 0:14:44.160 --> 0:14:46.320 nominated for an Emmy, so I should mention that too. 0:14:46.520 --> 0:14:48.880 So if you haven't seen it, definitely go and see it, 0:14:48.920 --> 0:14:53.880 because that is one crazy story. Okay, let's talk about 0:14:53.920 --> 0:14:56.480 you and how you came into touch with your abilities. 0:14:57.040 --> 0:14:59.320 Absolutely well, for me, it really started when I was 0:14:59.360 --> 0:15:02.440 ten years old. I didn't recognize this as an ability initially. 0:15:02.480 --> 0:15:04.960 I woke up one night in April of two thousand 0:15:05.000 --> 0:15:08.480 and six and just had this knowingness, this overwhelming feeling 0:15:08.480 --> 0:15:11.280 that my grandmother was going to pass. And from there, 0:15:11.800 --> 0:15:13.440 very quickly I went into the room to try to 0:15:13.440 --> 0:15:15.800 share this with my mom, and as I was explaining 0:15:15.800 --> 0:15:18.240 it to her, we literally, in that moment received the 0:15:18.240 --> 0:15:21.000 phone call from my dad that my grandmother had just died. 0:15:21.240 --> 0:15:24.360 So that acted as a catalyst. But when you're that young, 0:15:24.400 --> 0:15:26.960 you don't really recognize that as an ability. It was 0:15:27.040 --> 0:15:29.240 just a moment of connection, a moment of knowing this 0:15:29.480 --> 0:15:31.840 that led to a series of other moments of knowing 0:15:31.840 --> 0:15:32.800 this as time went on. 0:15:33.160 --> 0:15:35.840 A h and was this the grandmother that was went 0:15:35.880 --> 0:15:36.320 to jail? 0:15:36.440 --> 0:15:38.880 Or is this your number one? So thankfully I had 0:15:38.880 --> 0:15:42.280 a very, very wonderful paternal grandmother who was my world 0:15:42.640 --> 0:15:44.600 and she made up for all the nastiness on the 0:15:44.600 --> 0:15:46.840 other side of the family. But no, this was the 0:15:46.960 --> 0:15:50.080 my grandmother who's my whole life, and she was really 0:15:50.200 --> 0:15:52.600 kind of that introduction into what I would later do 0:15:52.920 --> 0:15:53.520 as a job. 0:15:53.960 --> 0:15:54.720 Oh my god. 0:15:54.800 --> 0:15:57.320 And so how does one when you have abilities like 0:15:57.360 --> 0:15:59.880 this and you and you categorize yourself as a medium. 0:16:00.280 --> 0:16:05.680 So how does one separate the knowing and the intuitiveness 0:16:05.680 --> 0:16:07.240 and the seeing that you have. 0:16:08.400 --> 0:16:09.680 How do you separate that. 0:16:09.880 --> 0:16:12.400 When you're living your real life and you're not working 0:16:12.520 --> 0:16:14.840 or you're not trying. Is that like a switch that 0:16:14.840 --> 0:16:16.120 you're able to flip easily. 0:16:16.760 --> 0:16:18.680 You know, I kind of like, in the medium side 0:16:18.680 --> 0:16:20.320 of things to a little bit of like a volume 0:16:20.360 --> 0:16:22.680 dial in the sense that there's always background noise when 0:16:22.680 --> 0:16:25.560 I go about my life. But I've had certain kind 0:16:25.600 --> 0:16:28.360 of processes or rituals or routines that I've created to 0:16:28.400 --> 0:16:30.360 allow myself to kind of turn on and turn that 0:16:30.440 --> 0:16:32.400 volume dial up, and then when I need to kind 0:16:32.400 --> 0:16:34.120 of go about my life and go grocery shopping be 0:16:34.160 --> 0:16:36.080 able to kind of turn it down. And so that's 0:16:36.120 --> 0:16:38.440 kind of the best way to describe it. But it 0:16:38.480 --> 0:16:42.440 certainly is a process of kind of navigating a constant 0:16:42.480 --> 0:16:44.920 sense of I'm trying to understand what's mine and what's 0:16:44.960 --> 0:16:46.600 other people's and having that. 0:16:46.520 --> 0:16:50.920 Discernment, And how do you feel there must be a 0:16:51.000 --> 0:16:54.880 sense of responsibility that you must feel as just a human, 0:16:55.240 --> 0:16:58.840 decent person, right, Because if I mean I feel a 0:16:58.880 --> 0:17:01.800 sense of responsibility a human being and I don't have 0:17:01.920 --> 0:17:04.240 that ability, even though I kind of wish I did. 0:17:04.600 --> 0:17:06.600 I mean, who doesn't, really, right, I mean, you're the 0:17:06.680 --> 0:17:08.320 envy of it. I mean, who doesn't want to be 0:17:08.359 --> 0:17:10.800 around somebody who can see you know, the people that 0:17:10.840 --> 0:17:13.280 have left your life or has some sort of psychic ability, 0:17:13.320 --> 0:17:16.680 which I think we're all innately born with. Right, it's 0:17:16.720 --> 0:17:18.360 a matter of whether or not you're how in touch 0:17:18.400 --> 0:17:19.840 you are with the idea of it. 0:17:20.240 --> 0:17:22.639 Absolutely, and it's really about trust. And you know, we 0:17:22.680 --> 0:17:24.520 all get a first impression. We all get a feeling 0:17:24.520 --> 0:17:26.840 when we shake someone's hand, we all get a vibe 0:17:26.840 --> 0:17:29.600 when we enter into a room, and so many of 0:17:29.640 --> 0:17:31.760 us just kind of discount that as it was just 0:17:31.800 --> 0:17:34.000 a feeling, but so often it's kind of a tool 0:17:34.040 --> 0:17:35.919 we're relying on and don't even realize. 0:17:36.280 --> 0:17:39.040 So, what was the biggest discovery you made after the 0:17:39.080 --> 0:17:41.040 first thing with your grandmother? I mean, obviously that's a 0:17:41.119 --> 0:17:43.120 huge discovery, But what was the next thing that really 0:17:43.200 --> 0:17:45.800 cemented the idea that this was going to be play 0:17:45.840 --> 0:17:48.600 a major role in your future and your professional life. 0:17:49.000 --> 0:17:51.320 Yeah, well, you know, life very quickly changed for me. 0:17:51.359 --> 0:17:54.040 At the age of sixteen, I had an interaction with 0:17:54.080 --> 0:17:56.760 my math teacher, of all things, where I shared with 0:17:56.800 --> 0:17:59.040 her message that I was getting while I was sitting 0:17:59.040 --> 0:18:01.879 in class and again came through as a knowingness, almost 0:18:01.880 --> 0:18:04.600 akin to like a memory that hadn't happened yet. And 0:18:04.640 --> 0:18:06.880 when I shared this message with her. It involved her 0:18:07.280 --> 0:18:10.399 former relationship and her divorce and what led to that, 0:18:10.600 --> 0:18:12.640 and her former mother in law came through to let 0:18:12.680 --> 0:18:15.080 her know that she loved her like a mother loved daughter, 0:18:15.160 --> 0:18:18.000 regardless of the fact that her relationship with her son 0:18:18.040 --> 0:18:21.640 had dissolved. And it was just really healing and showed that, 0:18:21.920 --> 0:18:24.280 you know, there was power in these random moments when 0:18:24.320 --> 0:18:25.800 they could be applied in the right way, in the 0:18:25.840 --> 0:18:29.800 right circumstances and could actually help make a transformative effect 0:18:29.800 --> 0:18:31.840 on someone's life. And so that math teacher was interviewed 0:18:31.840 --> 0:18:34.600 actually on the Netflix show. She was instrumental in helping 0:18:34.680 --> 0:18:37.120 me graduate high school at the age of sixteen, where 0:18:37.160 --> 0:18:38.960 I then went on to try to become a hospice 0:18:39.040 --> 0:18:44.280 nurse because I figured, you know what two birds one stone. 0:18:44.960 --> 0:18:47.359 And what happened when you tried to become a hostmas nurse. 0:18:47.440 --> 0:18:49.560 Well this is the No one's gonna believe this, But 0:18:49.600 --> 0:18:51.520 I ended up reading the dean of my college and 0:18:51.560 --> 0:18:53.959 he literally ran into me one day and was like, Tyler, 0:18:54.160 --> 0:18:56.040 if you did for me what you did for me, 0:18:57.000 --> 0:18:59.520 you probably should just go in that direction more than 0:18:59.600 --> 0:19:02.240 you know doing the hospice interessing thing. And so in essence, 0:19:02.280 --> 0:19:03.960 I kind of always joke the dean of the college 0:19:04.000 --> 0:19:07.959 gave me permission to quit school, and that's literally what happened. 0:19:08.000 --> 0:19:10.679 And then, you know, life obviously went a very different 0:19:10.720 --> 0:19:12.760 direction as I got my show when I was nineteen 0:19:12.840 --> 0:19:13.280 years old. 0:19:13.560 --> 0:19:16.199 Yeah, congrat kudos to you on that way to go. 0:19:16.320 --> 0:19:17.719 Netflix doesn't miss a beat. 0:19:18.760 --> 0:19:20.360 I just kind of felt guided into it. 0:19:20.640 --> 0:19:23.440 Well, that's nice, congrats on that. Are we going to 0:19:23.480 --> 0:19:24.680 do a little reading as Tyler? 0:19:25.119 --> 0:19:27.000 Are you going to open that doing a little reading 0:19:27.000 --> 0:19:27.520 for Chelsea? 0:19:27.840 --> 0:19:29.919 Yeah, so absolutely, I would love to. 0:19:30.320 --> 0:19:32.640 Well let's take a quick break and we'll be back 0:19:32.680 --> 0:19:33.560 with Tyler. 0:19:33.240 --> 0:19:39.200 And Chelsea and we're back. 0:19:39.400 --> 0:19:40.080 We're back. 0:19:40.840 --> 0:19:42.679 So as far as this reading goes, I have my 0:19:42.800 --> 0:19:45.120 pen and paper here, so I'm happy to scribble and 0:19:45.240 --> 0:19:47.240 it might take about thirty seconds for stuff to start 0:19:47.240 --> 0:19:49.840 coming through. Information can come through about both of you, 0:19:49.880 --> 0:19:51.320 So just kind of good to keep this in mind. 0:19:51.400 --> 0:19:53.560 Something might make sense for one the other it might 0:19:53.600 --> 0:19:55.320 not so much, and so we'll kind of go back 0:19:55.359 --> 0:19:58.120 and forth if that happens. But I'm going to scribble 0:19:58.200 --> 0:20:00.960 and then we'll kind of see which direction we go. Now, 0:20:01.080 --> 0:20:03.440 very often what will happen is information will come through 0:20:03.520 --> 0:20:07.480 around conversations. We've just had family dynamics, things we were 0:20:07.520 --> 0:20:10.800 just doing. If anything too sensitive comes through, I'll share 0:20:10.880 --> 0:20:14.040 with you after the fact off recording. But yeah, generally 0:20:14.119 --> 0:20:15.560 it just kind of helps me get a map of 0:20:15.600 --> 0:20:16.240 where I'm going. 0:20:16.320 --> 0:20:18.720 Like if my father's planning on coming back and reincarnating 0:20:18.760 --> 0:20:20.960 himself during my life, that would be problematic for me. 0:20:21.200 --> 0:20:24.240 That you know what I'm here. 0:20:24.320 --> 0:20:27.520 You know, it's something something's funny that I always say 0:20:27.520 --> 0:20:30.560 when I meditate or when I'm feeling spiritual or connected 0:20:30.680 --> 0:20:33.560 really like to the universe, and I do my mantras 0:20:33.640 --> 0:20:36.080 or whatever I'm into at the time, I always feel 0:20:36.119 --> 0:20:39.320 my mom and my brother, but I never ever feel 0:20:39.359 --> 0:20:39.760 my father. 0:20:39.800 --> 0:20:42.399 And I'm like, I feel like he's getting He's in 0:20:42.440 --> 0:20:43.000 the spin. 0:20:42.840 --> 0:20:46.840 Cycle, like in perfectory, making up for all all of 0:20:46.880 --> 0:20:47.840 his bad behavior. 0:20:48.400 --> 0:20:50.320 He's just in limbo. But you know it's working, working 0:20:50.320 --> 0:20:53.840 our way out the spin cycle exactly. We're good. Well, 0:20:53.880 --> 0:20:55.639 we'll see if anything comes through, because one thing I 0:20:55.640 --> 0:20:58.000 actually want to start with so immediately I have to 0:20:58.080 --> 0:21:01.159 highlight for some reason, when we talk about females within family, 0:21:01.480 --> 0:21:03.080 I'm being a big fan of you of course know 0:21:03.280 --> 0:21:05.240 your mom has passed, but I have to highlight for 0:21:05.240 --> 0:21:08.199 some reason acknowledgment also around an aunt. So if you 0:21:08.200 --> 0:21:10.199 have any aunts that have passed away, it could be 0:21:10.200 --> 0:21:11.800 a way of just kind of trying to acknowledge that 0:21:11.880 --> 0:21:14.360 I like to relay exactly as a symbology comes through 0:21:14.400 --> 0:21:16.359 kind of how I'm seeing it, And that's one of 0:21:16.400 --> 0:21:18.040 the individuals I feel like I have to highlight in 0:21:18.080 --> 0:21:20.920 some kind of capacity, check and see within Chelsea, within 0:21:20.960 --> 0:21:23.360 your family, if there's anyone who's passed away in their 0:21:23.440 --> 0:21:26.800 sixties that would be female, So like, I don't feel 0:21:26.840 --> 0:21:28.560 like I get to hit my seventies. I feel like 0:21:28.600 --> 0:21:30.719 I passed away kind of closer to my sixties, and 0:21:30.760 --> 0:21:33.280 it wouldn't be your mother, so it would be somebody else. 0:21:33.400 --> 0:21:34.879 And that's just kind of good to keep in mind 0:21:35.080 --> 0:21:37.560 without giving any information away off the top of your head. 0:21:37.560 --> 0:21:39.280 Do you know of any females who would have passed 0:21:39.280 --> 0:21:40.720 away in their sixties that. 0:21:40.720 --> 0:21:43.240 Would have Yeah, my mom's sister, Elka, would have passed 0:21:43.280 --> 0:21:46.320 away in her sixties, so yeah, I have one aunt, Elka. 0:21:46.480 --> 0:21:48.560 Yeah, so we'd kind of be going in that direction. 0:21:48.720 --> 0:21:50.640 The way this keeps coming in is I keep having 0:21:50.680 --> 0:21:52.879 to talk about that aunt acknowledgment in the way, this 0:21:52.920 --> 0:21:56.080 comes through a couple of cancer susceptibilities that would exist 0:21:56.160 --> 0:21:58.640 within family that just need to be kept in mind generationally. 0:21:59.000 --> 0:22:01.040 So I, as far I know, I believe your mom 0:22:01.119 --> 0:22:03.399 did deal with some kind of cancer. Is that correct? Yes, 0:22:04.000 --> 0:22:05.960 I'm aware of that, But I also feel like somebody 0:22:06.000 --> 0:22:08.960 else may have also dealt with that susceptibility. That also 0:22:09.000 --> 0:22:11.639 comes through as being significant and female and dealing with 0:22:11.680 --> 0:22:13.720 this at kind of an earlier age. So on mom's 0:22:13.720 --> 0:22:15.679 side of family, do you know of any other females 0:22:15.720 --> 0:22:16.560 who dealt with cancer? 0:22:17.200 --> 0:22:19.840 No, I don't, no worries. 0:22:19.480 --> 0:22:22.120 Any like cancer scares, cancer bouts. When we talk about 0:22:22.119 --> 0:22:24.240 her sister, do you know if she had any areas 0:22:24.280 --> 0:22:25.520 of concern in that area? 0:22:25.600 --> 0:22:28.480 I forget how she died, but it wasn't cancer. I'm 0:22:28.520 --> 0:22:32.080 pretty sure she had. I think she had heart issues, gotcha. 0:22:32.200 --> 0:22:34.960 She seems like a very strong person's kind of the 0:22:34.960 --> 0:22:36.920 way we describe it in sense of like strong will. 0:22:37.000 --> 0:22:39.159 I'm not going anywhere. I don't know why, but I 0:22:39.160 --> 0:22:41.240 have to highlight more than one health related thing, and 0:22:41.280 --> 0:22:43.560 I'm putting it definitely more around her. So just something 0:22:43.560 --> 0:22:45.080 to look into and we'll kind of look and see 0:22:45.119 --> 0:22:47.560 if we can confirm with that. I have to talk 0:22:47.560 --> 0:22:49.960 about some reference in the way this comes across to 0:22:50.080 --> 0:22:53.760 somebody receiving a gift, and it would be an art piece, 0:22:54.080 --> 0:22:56.520 but it would be of a dog, and this would 0:22:56.560 --> 0:22:59.640 be of a dog that passed So if somebody received 0:23:00.240 --> 0:23:03.960 some form of either an illustration of a dog that died, 0:23:04.400 --> 0:23:06.440 I feel like I have to highlight this event happening 0:23:06.480 --> 0:23:09.080 in some way. If it hasn't happened yet, it may 0:23:09.280 --> 0:23:11.200 like we just end up getting surprised by this gift, 0:23:11.240 --> 0:23:13.240 but it would be something thoughtful that somebody would do, 0:23:13.280 --> 0:23:15.840 as like a rendition to honor an animal that has 0:23:15.880 --> 0:23:16.440 passed away. 0:23:16.520 --> 0:23:19.080 Yeah, I've had it's plenty of those with my dog Chunk, 0:23:19.119 --> 0:23:22.040 because Chunk was such a public stud that people sent 0:23:22.160 --> 0:23:24.800 me so many beautiful things after he died, and a 0:23:24.800 --> 0:23:28.080 lot of them were paintings, and like, yeah. 0:23:27.440 --> 0:23:29.560 It's sweet and it's really symbolic in the sense of 0:23:29.600 --> 0:23:31.480 when we see these things, it's just those reminders that 0:23:31.520 --> 0:23:33.439 we hold on too, that feeling it kind of brings 0:23:33.480 --> 0:23:35.840 back and the importance of holding onto that. I also 0:23:35.880 --> 0:23:37.760 have to talk about Atlantic City and This is just 0:23:37.800 --> 0:23:40.520 good to keep in mind. I'm seeing Atlantic City, and 0:23:40.600 --> 0:23:43.400 anytime I see Atlantic City, I've been there before. It's 0:23:43.480 --> 0:23:46.520 usually a place I attribute to casinos in some capacity. 0:23:46.640 --> 0:23:49.639 But if there's any sentimental memories, So do you know 0:23:49.760 --> 0:23:52.240 any significant memories in that kind of area. 0:23:53.040 --> 0:23:57.600 Well, that's where I met Bill Cosby, so that was significant, significantly. 0:23:58.600 --> 0:24:00.240 Yeah, I was awake because. 0:24:00.400 --> 0:24:02.679 Yeah, yeah, yes, well you remember it. 0:24:03.520 --> 0:24:05.560 Yeah, I'm aware that it happened. So there's that. 0:24:06.200 --> 0:24:09.000 But yeah, I perform an Atlantic City on every tour, 0:24:09.200 --> 0:24:11.560 of which I'm on one right now. So my family 0:24:11.640 --> 0:24:13.919 usually comes down there, and I have a lot of 0:24:14.119 --> 0:24:16.840 pictures of the beach in Atlantic City with my nieces. 0:24:16.920 --> 0:24:17.800 Yeah, I have that. 0:24:18.680 --> 0:24:20.760 One thing I want to look into is there's some 0:24:20.760 --> 0:24:23.000 acknowledgement it kept hearing a little birdie you told me, 0:24:23.280 --> 0:24:26.240 So anytime that comes through for some reason with your mom, 0:24:26.400 --> 0:24:28.639 there's some connection as this comes through with like a 0:24:28.680 --> 0:24:32.120 little bird visiting. So if you find that, like you 0:24:32.359 --> 0:24:34.159 when this hang when we hang up, if you like 0:24:34.200 --> 0:24:36.200 go to your window and there's a little bird sitting there, 0:24:36.560 --> 0:24:39.000 it's those kinds of things that often happen that kind 0:24:39.040 --> 0:24:41.680 of validate what we hear in readings, but I feel 0:24:41.680 --> 0:24:43.600 like there's some visitation involving a little bird. 0:24:43.800 --> 0:24:46.440 It's so funny, that's so true because I've heard this before, 0:24:46.520 --> 0:24:48.879 and I've read about people and like the most common 0:24:48.880 --> 0:24:51.760 ways that they show you signs from the other side, 0:24:51.880 --> 0:24:55.440 and birds is obviously very common. But someone once told 0:24:55.520 --> 0:24:58.959 me check for birds nests outside of any place that 0:24:59.000 --> 0:25:01.200 you live, like they're going to be in weird places. 0:25:01.680 --> 0:25:03.720 And like three months. 0:25:03.480 --> 0:25:05.000 Ago, I have a house in Whistler. 0:25:05.800 --> 0:25:07.639 The guy who takes care of my house for me 0:25:07.720 --> 0:25:10.040 set me a picture of a bird's nest right outside 0:25:10.080 --> 0:25:12.000 the window and he goes, Oh, my god, this bird's 0:25:12.000 --> 0:25:13.000 nest was here all winter. 0:25:13.160 --> 0:25:15.760 Did you see it? And I thought, oh, that's my mother. 0:25:16.480 --> 0:25:19.159 Oh I love that. So that's just kind of for 0:25:19.240 --> 0:25:21.000 me when things like that get brought up in a reading. 0:25:21.080 --> 0:25:22.679 It's a way to kind of refer back to an 0:25:22.680 --> 0:25:25.040 event you would be familiar with, something that you can 0:25:25.080 --> 0:25:27.439 recollect and kind of almost validate as a way of 0:25:27.440 --> 0:25:30.040 saying that is indeed either me or I know that 0:25:30.119 --> 0:25:32.879 you thought that was me at the very least, and 0:25:32.920 --> 0:25:35.439 that for me is often very comforting. I have to 0:25:35.440 --> 0:25:37.679 talk about that I woke up this morning hearing the 0:25:37.760 --> 0:25:41.520 song idole wise, idle wise, idle wise. It's a song 0:25:41.600 --> 0:25:44.360 from I think the sound of music. There's some darn 0:25:44.480 --> 0:25:47.359 sentimentality with that song, and it will go back, and 0:25:47.440 --> 0:25:50.400 it could go back generations even but idleways. 0:25:51.040 --> 0:25:53.000 Well, my mom was German, so she was from that 0:25:53.119 --> 0:25:53.800 neck of the woods. 0:25:54.560 --> 0:25:57.280 I love it if there's some sentimentality, if that song 0:25:57.440 --> 0:26:00.280 was played as a child for somebody on a music box, 0:26:00.400 --> 0:26:02.920 just remember that. I'm saying that check into it, because 0:26:02.920 --> 0:26:04.639 I think we'll end up knowing where that fits. It 0:26:04.680 --> 0:26:06.399 feels like we're kind of going back in time on 0:26:06.520 --> 0:26:09.080 some kind of larger capacity. So I have to ask 0:26:09.200 --> 0:26:11.200 as it relates to your kind of overall physical body, 0:26:11.520 --> 0:26:13.399 one thing to consider is as we go to lower 0:26:13.800 --> 0:26:15.919 I keep in mind that you have a susceptibility when 0:26:15.960 --> 0:26:18.840 it comes to legs of one leg being weaker than 0:26:18.880 --> 0:26:20.920 the other, and just wanting to be mindful of this 0:26:21.119 --> 0:26:23.600 because for some reason, when we're talking about balance, I'm 0:26:23.640 --> 0:26:27.760 almost more inclined to worry about one like almost slipping up, 0:26:28.240 --> 0:26:31.320 so that generally for me can sometimes indicate likenie susceptibilities. 0:26:31.359 --> 0:26:34.040 Ankle susceptibilities anywhere we would have like a joint on 0:26:34.240 --> 0:26:36.840 one side more than the other. Just be mindful of 0:26:36.880 --> 0:26:39.239 that if you notice any issues. Because I don't think 0:26:39.280 --> 0:26:41.080 things are set in stone, we can kind of, you know, 0:26:41.240 --> 0:26:43.440 knowledge his power on some greater sense. One thing I 0:26:43.480 --> 0:26:45.120 want to talk about when we go to Dad's side 0:26:45.320 --> 0:26:47.720 is when we do talk about that department. One thing 0:26:47.800 --> 0:26:50.240 that I want to acknowledge. When I focus on that symbology, 0:26:50.359 --> 0:26:51.840 I do not get a lot, but I will tell 0:26:51.880 --> 0:26:54.800 you what I get. There's an acknowledgment of our dad, 0:26:55.000 --> 0:26:58.080 either my symbology around what do we do with him? 0:26:58.320 --> 0:27:00.560 Where do we put him, where does he go? If 0:27:00.600 --> 0:27:02.879 there was a decision around someone either going into a 0:27:02.960 --> 0:27:06.200 nursing home or having a rehabilitative kind of situation where 0:27:06.200 --> 0:27:08.120 they need to be taken care of through the help 0:27:08.160 --> 0:27:12.320 of professionals, there's some conversation around that in some large capacity. 0:27:12.720 --> 0:27:16.000 But what's interesting is there's this feeling of if somebody 0:27:16.160 --> 0:27:18.080 was not or if people were not able to be 0:27:18.200 --> 0:27:21.280 there when he died, there's this feeling of that's okay, 0:27:21.760 --> 0:27:23.560 I went the way that I was supposed to go. 0:27:24.480 --> 0:27:26.600 But sometimes people will come through and say, like, no, 0:27:26.720 --> 0:27:29.240 I needed everybody around me. I'm not getting that feeling 0:27:29.320 --> 0:27:32.520 with him. There's this feeling of I went and almost 0:27:32.600 --> 0:27:35.600 timed my passing. And I don't know why, but if 0:27:35.640 --> 0:27:40.160 somebody like almost intentionally went when they went to avoid people. 0:27:40.560 --> 0:27:41.879 But I don't mean to say it in such a 0:27:42.040 --> 0:27:44.919 kind of way, but it just kind of feels almost 0:27:45.000 --> 0:27:48.520 like not having everybody involved when it comes to sending 0:27:48.560 --> 0:27:49.359 me off, Well. 0:27:49.280 --> 0:27:51.240 That's how I want to go. So, I mean, I 0:27:51.400 --> 0:27:53.440 totally related my father feeling that way. 0:27:53.480 --> 0:27:56.320 If that's how he felt, it's definitely an interesting sense 0:27:56.359 --> 0:27:58.880 of timing my passing. When it comes to dad situation, 0:27:59.160 --> 0:28:01.280 were there people around at the very end or did 0:28:01.359 --> 0:28:03.200 he pass kind of more solo? 0:28:04.040 --> 0:28:06.359 He wasn't with any of us. Yeah, he was solow 0:28:06.640 --> 0:28:08.600 in one of those assisted living places. 0:28:09.280 --> 0:28:11.960 So the way that that comes in is basically, you 0:28:12.000 --> 0:28:13.920 know some people live and feel like I wish I 0:28:13.960 --> 0:28:15.359 would have been there. I wish I could have been 0:28:15.400 --> 0:28:17.399 there for him. There's this feeling of like didn't need 0:28:17.440 --> 0:28:20.359 people to be there, timed by passing. Yeah, the interesting 0:28:20.440 --> 0:28:22.159 thing is I feel like he kind of held on 0:28:22.240 --> 0:28:24.760 a little longer than I would have even expected, which 0:28:24.800 --> 0:28:27.240 is kind of strange. He gives me an earlier acknoledgement 0:28:27.280 --> 0:28:29.040 of an earlier point where I almost feel like we 0:28:29.119 --> 0:28:32.520 were like ready to say goodbye, and then he pulls 0:28:32.560 --> 0:28:35.360 through in some capacity, in some larger, larger kind of way, 0:28:35.400 --> 0:28:37.159 and then ends up passing a little later on, and 0:28:37.480 --> 0:28:39.360 they're like, what, like, we thought I was going to 0:28:39.360 --> 0:28:41.760 be the earlier thing. Did you have any earlier situations? 0:28:42.000 --> 0:28:44.120 Yes, we were hoping he would die a lot sooner 0:28:44.200 --> 0:28:46.240 than he did, because at a certain point it was 0:28:46.400 --> 0:28:49.520 just not a quality life. And he was such a 0:28:49.560 --> 0:28:53.120 stubborn asshole that he wouldn't die, you know what I mean. 0:28:53.360 --> 0:28:55.920 He was just like holding on tightly to his anger. 0:28:56.320 --> 0:28:58.400 I remember when my sister called to tell me that 0:28:58.480 --> 0:29:00.680 my dad died. My sister Shauna, and I was in 0:29:01.040 --> 0:29:04.080 the car with my driver, Billy, and she was crying 0:29:04.240 --> 0:29:05.800 and she goes, dad died this morning. 0:29:06.120 --> 0:29:08.440 And I'm like, I said, why are you crying? And 0:29:08.520 --> 0:29:10.400 she's like, I don't know. We've been waiting for this 0:29:10.560 --> 0:29:11.040 for years. 0:29:11.560 --> 0:29:14.040 Like not because we hate our dad. I mean, he 0:29:14.200 --> 0:29:16.400 was disappointing on many levels, but we all really loved him. 0:29:16.440 --> 0:29:18.560 It was just that it was no way to live anymore. 0:29:18.680 --> 0:29:22.120 So I think he definitely extended his life about six 0:29:22.280 --> 0:29:23.920 or seven years longer than necessary. 0:29:24.440 --> 0:29:29.000 With that, though, equally comes in awareness of certain cognitive biases, 0:29:29.520 --> 0:29:33.040 certain cycles that you as an individual have broken on 0:29:33.120 --> 0:29:36.400 a larger scale. And there's just an interesting acknowledgement when 0:29:36.440 --> 0:29:38.640 it comes to Dad about Dad not being able to 0:29:38.680 --> 0:29:42.160 see things in life, being shortsighted in a larger capacity, 0:29:42.720 --> 0:29:45.840 and from where he's at now, I truly believe there's 0:29:45.880 --> 0:29:48.400 a greater clarity in understanding that ripple effect. 0:29:48.760 --> 0:29:48.960 Oh. 0:29:49.480 --> 0:29:53.840 I love that of how both his actions and inactions 0:29:54.000 --> 0:29:57.720 affected the people around him. And I would really just say, 0:29:57.800 --> 0:30:01.240 I don't get a maliciousness around him. I just kind 0:30:01.280 --> 0:30:03.680 of get a sense of I feel like he might 0:30:03.720 --> 0:30:07.800 have sometimes offended people without intending to offend them. And 0:30:07.880 --> 0:30:10.280 it's almost like when someone says the worst possible thing 0:30:10.320 --> 0:30:12.000 at the worst possible time, but they thought they were 0:30:12.040 --> 0:30:15.760 being comforting. There's something there that just kind of comes 0:30:15.840 --> 0:30:19.560 through that if anybody feels he kind of had that quality, 0:30:19.920 --> 0:30:21.800 there's an acknowledgement of warning to wife that clean of 0:30:21.920 --> 0:30:25.640 I see maybe perhaps the insensitivity or my timing not 0:30:25.800 --> 0:30:28.920 always being the best, but people maybe not understanding that 0:30:29.280 --> 0:30:31.440 from his perspective, so I don't really feel bad about it. 0:30:31.760 --> 0:30:33.880 Yeah, yeah, Well I definitely have a little bit of 0:30:33.960 --> 0:30:36.080 what you're describing as well. I was born with the 0:30:36.200 --> 0:30:38.280 ability to say the wrong thing at the wrong time 0:30:39.080 --> 0:30:40.440 or the right thing at the wrong time. 0:30:41.600 --> 0:30:45.000 There you go, you know it definitely, uh, it happens. 0:30:45.120 --> 0:30:47.080 But there's definitely what I would say is fill a 0:30:47.160 --> 0:30:49.200 sense of in hindsight and understanding. 0:30:49.400 --> 0:30:52.680 Who was born in August my brother Roy? 0:30:53.360 --> 0:30:55.640 Okay, now, for some reason, and this is just one 0:30:55.680 --> 0:30:59.280 thing to consider. There's an acknowledgement around like one brother 0:30:59.560 --> 0:31:01.719 and then an brother and having to kind of separate 0:31:01.760 --> 0:31:04.600 the two for some reason. Oftentimes objects that come through 0:31:04.720 --> 0:31:06.800 have a lot more meaning than just their initial kind 0:31:06.840 --> 0:31:10.240 of application. Check and see if anybody has any horse paintings. 0:31:10.800 --> 0:31:13.320 Kind of a weird thing to say. I don't know 0:31:13.400 --> 0:31:16.160 where it's coming from, but like if somebody in the 0:31:16.200 --> 0:31:19.200 family made a painting of a horse or has a 0:31:19.280 --> 0:31:20.400 painting of a horse. 0:31:20.200 --> 0:31:22.920 I don't know why that I've been called a horse 0:31:23.040 --> 0:31:26.000 before a horse face? Is that what we're talking about? 0:31:26.800 --> 0:31:30.560 Well, I think you're okay in that regard, but it's 0:31:30.720 --> 0:31:32.800 kind of a weird generational thing. I feel like I'm 0:31:32.840 --> 0:31:35.760 going back, and I'm not even entirely sure where to 0:31:35.840 --> 0:31:40.000 place it. It could be switching gears to Catherine as 0:31:40.080 --> 0:31:40.800 far as this goes. 0:31:40.840 --> 0:31:43.840 So, I definitely have some paintings of horses, one specifically 0:31:43.880 --> 0:31:45.160 that's from my grandfather's house. 0:31:45.720 --> 0:31:48.080 Okay, I feel wow. I want to kind of go 0:31:48.200 --> 0:31:50.360 to you because I do sometimes get polls and I 0:31:50.440 --> 0:31:52.640 have to kind of go with those poles because they're inclinations, 0:31:52.680 --> 0:31:55.880 and we all have inclinations. But yeah, I think there's 0:31:55.920 --> 0:31:57.800 something to inform in that, So give me the may 0:31:57.840 --> 0:32:00.400 scribble really quick, Catherine. One of the areas that does 0:32:00.480 --> 0:32:03.120 pop up is just kind of a hypervigilance around the 0:32:03.160 --> 0:32:07.120 feminine system. That's usually ovarian, uterine, cervical. But I'm kind 0:32:07.120 --> 0:32:09.480 of going to lower again, this may not be something 0:32:09.520 --> 0:32:10.440 we include now. 0:32:10.960 --> 0:32:14.000 I'm very open. I've got endometriosis and had sort of 0:32:14.120 --> 0:32:16.320 for that a couple of years ago, so about yeah. 0:32:16.440 --> 0:32:19.040 Gotcha, gotcha. I hope you're on the mend. I just 0:32:19.160 --> 0:32:21.040 want to keep it in mind. There's some acknowledgement around 0:32:21.040 --> 0:32:24.760 what I would view as like susceptibility information bybroid's ovari 0:32:24.800 --> 0:32:27.920 insistently just kind of being mindful of that thing. I'm 0:32:27.960 --> 0:32:31.200 just kind of just being on top of that, Catherine, 0:32:31.240 --> 0:32:33.120 in your family, I'm just kind of curious check and 0:32:33.160 --> 0:32:36.160 see if there were two passings within a very relatively 0:32:36.200 --> 0:32:39.240 short period of time. There's an acknowledgement of three years 0:32:39.800 --> 0:32:42.800 and two people within family passing in three years, so 0:32:44.080 --> 0:32:46.160 that comes in pretty strongly. Do you know off the 0:32:46.200 --> 0:32:48.440 top of your head, like two passings in three years? 0:32:48.920 --> 0:32:52.360 Yeah, I mean I would definitely say my two grandparents 0:32:52.400 --> 0:32:55.520 on my father's side passed within two years of each other. 0:32:55.920 --> 0:32:59.040 Gotcha. And when we talked about the lung cancer susceptibility 0:32:59.080 --> 0:33:01.840 things separately from I would just look into it and 0:33:01.880 --> 0:33:05.040 see if perhaps when we talk about dad side of family, Catherine, 0:33:05.080 --> 0:33:07.160 for you, do you know of any situations involving three 0:33:07.240 --> 0:33:08.440 siblings on Dad's side? 0:33:08.760 --> 0:33:10.360 Do we know what kind of situation? 0:33:11.600 --> 0:33:14.440 It's basically so I have to highlight an acknowledgment of 0:33:14.640 --> 0:33:17.920 three and it's generationally going back above you, which usually 0:33:17.960 --> 0:33:19.760 would put that on Dad's level. 0:33:20.080 --> 0:33:22.440 Yeah, my dad has three half siblings that he grew 0:33:22.520 --> 0:33:24.160 up with, and there's a lot of half siblings that 0:33:24.200 --> 0:33:26.680 he did not grow up with, so that could be 0:33:26.760 --> 0:33:27.240 what that is. 0:33:27.800 --> 0:33:29.920 Okay, I having to highlight. The three generally be three 0:33:29.920 --> 0:33:31.960 that we'd be kind of more familiar with in some capacity. 0:33:32.200 --> 0:33:33.960 That's more for some reason, I'm putting some kind of 0:33:34.080 --> 0:33:37.840 long lung diagnosis lung prognostiy. 0:33:37.360 --> 0:33:40.280 So yeah, okay, I absolutely know what that is. Yeah, 0:33:40.360 --> 0:33:44.120 my aunt Debbie died of emphasema or like complications from emphysema, 0:33:44.520 --> 0:33:45.800 which is okay, one of those three. 0:33:46.080 --> 0:33:48.440 Yeah, so I definitely want to go there. I just 0:33:48.560 --> 0:33:50.800 generally interpret anything that would be like a terminal lung thing. 0:33:51.000 --> 0:33:52.840 That's kind of the symbology I'll get, and that's what 0:33:52.920 --> 0:33:54.400 I was getting. So I'm glad we figured out where 0:33:54.440 --> 0:33:56.760 it is all good as far as as living people goes, 0:33:56.800 --> 0:33:58.160 which is kind of good to be on top of that. 0:33:58.520 --> 0:34:00.960 And when you bring up like hew issues, is it 0:34:01.120 --> 0:34:03.480 as to heat a warning or is it to like, 0:34:03.920 --> 0:34:07.280 I mean, when someone has already crossed over, say, and 0:34:07.440 --> 0:34:11.279 you're you're acknowledging how they went, is that a confirmation 0:34:11.760 --> 0:34:13.319 in a sense that you're speaking to them. 0:34:13.400 --> 0:34:15.640 Is that why they're like saying it like to confirm 0:34:15.680 --> 0:34:16.240 their presence? 0:34:16.719 --> 0:34:19.160 So how someone passes is a big part of their 0:34:19.200 --> 0:34:22.520 life story, and so very often people's lives and what 0:34:22.640 --> 0:34:24.800 they valued and who they were will come through. But 0:34:24.960 --> 0:34:27.120 very often a way to kind of validate will be, 0:34:27.440 --> 0:34:29.399 you know, kind of leading with what led to where 0:34:29.440 --> 0:34:32.200 I'm at now, and that's usually well always the cause 0:34:32.239 --> 0:34:32.600 of death. 0:34:33.160 --> 0:34:35.480 Oh okay, well that was very juicy and cute. I 0:34:35.640 --> 0:34:38.360 like that little speed round. Okay, so let's give some 0:34:38.480 --> 0:34:39.040 advice out. 0:34:39.200 --> 0:34:40.359 Yeah, I'm ready. 0:34:40.440 --> 0:34:42.359 We'll take a little break and be right back. 0:34:46.640 --> 0:34:47.359 And we're back. 0:34:47.719 --> 0:34:51.800 We're back with Tyler, Henry and Chelsea. Our first email 0:34:52.000 --> 0:34:56.040 comes from Denise. Dear Chelsea. I recently lost my mother 0:34:56.200 --> 0:34:59.719 unexpectedly to a stroke, and I'm pretty devastated. This was 0:34:59.760 --> 0:35:02.359 the heart est thing I've ever gone through. My mother 0:35:02.520 --> 0:35:05.160 was not only an amazing woman but also my best friend. 0:35:05.560 --> 0:35:07.360 I used to talk to her two to three times 0:35:07.440 --> 0:35:10.600 daily and she was my bouncing board for everything. The 0:35:10.680 --> 0:35:13.760 constant pain I'm feeling is unbearable, and I'm learning about grieving. 0:35:14.400 --> 0:35:16.400 They say that even though people die, you can speak 0:35:16.440 --> 0:35:18.840 with them and that they're still here with you. I 0:35:18.920 --> 0:35:21.759 find myself having conversations with my mom, but I don't 0:35:21.800 --> 0:35:24.600 know if it's me talking to myself or is it her. 0:35:25.160 --> 0:35:27.880 How do you know? And when is too soon to 0:35:27.920 --> 0:35:29.840 see a medium all the best, Denise. 0:35:31.520 --> 0:35:33.560 What a beautiful question, Denise. You know, I would just 0:35:33.600 --> 0:35:36.120 say when it comes to seeing a medium, it's important 0:35:36.160 --> 0:35:37.920 to do that when we've gotten to a place in 0:35:38.000 --> 0:35:40.280 our grief where I think we've been able to fundamentally 0:35:40.440 --> 0:35:44.719 process that physical loss. Medium reading is not a cure 0:35:44.760 --> 0:35:47.560 for grief, and it's important that we go through the 0:35:47.640 --> 0:35:50.759 process of being able to find acceptance. However that looks 0:35:51.000 --> 0:35:54.440 to us in being hopefully able to see grief counselors 0:35:54.520 --> 0:35:56.239 or find a sense of community or finds a sense 0:35:56.280 --> 0:35:59.320 of support before we go and receive a reading. So 0:35:59.480 --> 0:36:01.520 that would be my kind of general advice when it 0:36:01.560 --> 0:36:04.759 comes to the protocol. Largely though, I think when it 0:36:04.840 --> 0:36:07.520 comes to you know, wondering if they're there, if they notice, 0:36:07.800 --> 0:36:10.279 are they connected? Those are all very normal questions to have, 0:36:10.480 --> 0:36:12.560 and for me, I find in my own work one 0:36:12.600 --> 0:36:14.520 of the number one ways that they often seem to 0:36:14.600 --> 0:36:19.680 answer is through something called meaningful coincidence called synchronicity. And 0:36:19.800 --> 0:36:23.320 synchronicities happen, and you know, very often they are moments 0:36:23.400 --> 0:36:26.319 where events line up and we just kind of feel 0:36:26.320 --> 0:36:29.600 in an uncanny sense of wonder wondering, you know, was 0:36:29.680 --> 0:36:32.439 that you. And I think that even those moments where 0:36:32.520 --> 0:36:35.560 we stop and are kind of struck by this sense 0:36:35.800 --> 0:36:39.360 of questioning, those very often are signs and ways to 0:36:39.440 --> 0:36:41.319 let them know and affirm that they're still with us. 0:36:41.560 --> 0:36:44.040 So not only our dreams a great way for people 0:36:44.080 --> 0:36:47.040 to kind of come in. Timing is also something important 0:36:47.120 --> 0:36:49.000 to look at as a way that in a vehicle 0:36:49.040 --> 0:36:50.000 of which they communicate. 0:36:50.680 --> 0:36:52.719 And I also want to add in, like you just 0:36:52.880 --> 0:36:56.040 have to believe, like you, if you believe it, then 0:36:56.120 --> 0:36:58.080 it's true to you, you know, and if you like 0:36:58.160 --> 0:37:00.160 when I'm talking to my mom, I never doubt it 0:37:00.200 --> 0:37:03.040 for a second because I want to believe it. You know, 0:37:03.040 --> 0:37:06.800 I would recommend to try not to resist the judgment 0:37:07.000 --> 0:37:10.440 of your communication with your mom. People, don't you know, 0:37:10.560 --> 0:37:13.840 they're not gone. The love that existed, it will always remain, 0:37:14.000 --> 0:37:15.359 and that is a piece of her that you will 0:37:15.400 --> 0:37:18.879 always have, So it's never ever gonna leave, like your 0:37:18.960 --> 0:37:22.040 aura and your energy field, like that's your mom. So 0:37:22.440 --> 0:37:25.200 you have to trust in that, I think energetically to know, 0:37:25.480 --> 0:37:27.279 like you think your mom is just going to die 0:37:27.360 --> 0:37:29.520 and just forget about you and disappear, and did you 0:37:29.840 --> 0:37:31.800 no fucking way is your mom gonna do that? 0:37:32.200 --> 0:37:34.759 Yeah, And also like, what's the harm in believing that? 0:37:35.000 --> 0:37:37.719 Like exactly, you're a total cynic, Like why not be 0:37:37.880 --> 0:37:39.600 like I'm just having a conversation with my mom. 0:37:40.200 --> 0:37:43.080 Well, and truly, there's something to be said about subjective 0:37:43.640 --> 0:37:47.359 you know, truths and objective truths and creativity, love, spirituality. 0:37:47.400 --> 0:37:50.800 They exist very much on the meaning oriented arenas, and 0:37:51.080 --> 0:37:53.960 that's a big part of it. So you know, objective 0:37:54.000 --> 0:37:56.719 truths are the pursuit of science, that's math, you know, 0:37:56.840 --> 0:38:00.759 that's technology. Subjectivity exists and kind of a different realm, 0:38:00.880 --> 0:38:03.239 one that is still valuable and still has meaning, but 0:38:03.400 --> 0:38:05.960 doesn't necessarily have to be understood by everybody around you. 0:38:06.320 --> 0:38:08.200 Right right, You know, if you believe in your mother, 0:38:08.480 --> 0:38:10.560 that's all that matters. If you believe that your mother, 0:38:10.640 --> 0:38:13.359 that you're talking to her and it's so comforting, why 0:38:13.400 --> 0:38:14.880 would you deny yourself that comfort? 0:38:15.080 --> 0:38:15.520 Exactly? 0:38:15.640 --> 0:38:18.680 And also, like it seems true to your relationship with 0:38:18.760 --> 0:38:20.719 your mom. You checked in two or three times a day. 0:38:20.840 --> 0:38:23.799 You are constantly in conversation, So why wouldn't you still 0:38:23.840 --> 0:38:26.080 be in conversation with her? Why wouldn't she still be 0:38:26.160 --> 0:38:28.600 having a conversation with you? I think that's wonderful. 0:38:29.040 --> 0:38:29.680 Absolutely. 0:38:30.200 --> 0:38:33.360 Well, let's jump to a caller. I have Amy on 0:38:33.520 --> 0:38:38.319 the line here, Dear Chelsea, my mom very recently passed away. 0:38:39.000 --> 0:38:41.839 I was wondering if, once someone crossed over, if they 0:38:41.880 --> 0:38:46.000 have to prioritize how often they visit loved ones. My 0:38:46.160 --> 0:38:48.759 mom would want to visit her three granddaughters first, and 0:38:48.920 --> 0:38:51.719 then my sister and my dad. I don't know that 0:38:51.800 --> 0:38:53.799 she would feel the need to visit me as much, 0:38:54.120 --> 0:38:56.359 since I'm living an average life with not a lot 0:38:56.440 --> 0:38:58.200 for her to worry about. See if she was a 0:38:58.280 --> 0:39:01.000 big worrier, But I thought I would get the sense 0:39:01.120 --> 0:39:03.719 that she was around me more. I keep thinking maybe 0:39:03.760 --> 0:39:07.080 she's focusing on those that need her presence more. Chelsea. 0:39:07.200 --> 0:39:09.319 Having lost significant family in your life, what has been 0:39:09.400 --> 0:39:12.040 your experience and have you received any signs that they're 0:39:12.120 --> 0:39:14.759 with you? And how often? Hi? 0:39:14.880 --> 0:39:15.160 Amy? 0:39:15.920 --> 0:39:16.440 Hi? Amy? 0:39:17.280 --> 0:39:17.400 Hell? 0:39:17.760 --> 0:39:18.160 How Hi? 0:39:18.960 --> 0:39:19.120 Hi? 0:39:19.400 --> 0:39:22.080 This is Tyler Henry. He's our special guest today. 0:39:22.680 --> 0:39:25.719 Hello, Hi, oh, thank you for joining us. 0:39:26.360 --> 0:39:28.200 Wow, So you feel like your mom. 0:39:28.280 --> 0:39:30.800 Do you feel like your siblings or your dad or 0:39:30.880 --> 0:39:33.040 any of the people you mentioned feel her presence at all? 0:39:33.440 --> 0:39:34.759 You know, I think that they do. 0:39:35.520 --> 0:39:38.239 I don't know if I was expecting some grand sign. 0:39:38.280 --> 0:39:40.600 I just kind of wanted to know that she was okay, 0:39:40.960 --> 0:39:44.960 and she died of cancer and it was a difficult passing, 0:39:45.120 --> 0:39:49.640 and it just kind of expected maybe rainbows or forerd 0:39:49.680 --> 0:39:50.920 to land on my shoulder. 0:39:50.719 --> 0:39:54.560 Or something, and absolutely so. Well, first, what I want 0:39:54.600 --> 0:39:56.800 to say, Amy, is I would love if you contacted 0:39:56.880 --> 0:39:59.160 my website. We'll give you a full free membership to 0:39:59.400 --> 0:40:01.560 the Collective where you can take part in group readings 0:40:01.719 --> 0:40:04.560 and see the experience and potentially receive one yourself. So 0:40:04.640 --> 0:40:07.160 we'd love to have you over there. But to your question, 0:40:07.320 --> 0:40:10.560 you know, when it comes to spirituality on a larger scale, 0:40:10.719 --> 0:40:13.040 the analogy I like to use when it comes to 0:40:13.120 --> 0:40:14.960 where they're at is this. I like to say, if 0:40:15.000 --> 0:40:17.200 you imagine that you are in New York City and 0:40:17.480 --> 0:40:20.399 you know there's a car accident that happens two streets over, 0:40:20.960 --> 0:40:22.719 if you are in the middle of the city, you 0:40:22.760 --> 0:40:23.960 know you're not going to be able to see that 0:40:24.080 --> 0:40:26.399 car extent two streets over. But you know who will 0:40:26.840 --> 0:40:30.440 a skyscrapers somebody who's cleaning a skyscraper window washer at 0:40:30.480 --> 0:40:32.719 the very top of the skyscraper from where they're at, 0:40:32.800 --> 0:40:35.200 from where they're situated, would not only be able to 0:40:35.239 --> 0:40:36.759 see you, but would be able to see the car 0:40:36.840 --> 0:40:41.000 accident two streets over. That doesn't make the window washer 0:40:41.120 --> 0:40:44.200 any more enlightened than you and I, but it's from 0:40:44.239 --> 0:40:47.160 where they're situated. From their perspective, they're able to see 0:40:47.239 --> 0:40:51.000 more than perhaps us on kind of a lower level 0:40:51.160 --> 0:40:53.600 of awareness. So they definitely seem to see a lot 0:40:53.719 --> 0:40:56.879 they are with us, but not necessarily one at a time. 0:40:56.960 --> 0:41:00.319 I think that there's an awareness of that collective sense 0:41:00.360 --> 0:41:01.479 of connection that they share. 0:41:02.080 --> 0:41:04.839 Yeah, And I would say, in my experience with my mom, 0:41:05.000 --> 0:41:06.719 like it's not something that's going to fall out of 0:41:06.760 --> 0:41:08.320 the sky and land on your shoulder, you know what 0:41:08.400 --> 0:41:10.239 I mean. They're not tapping you on the shoulder, like 0:41:10.600 --> 0:41:13.319 they're not touching you in that way. I look at 0:41:13.360 --> 0:41:15.920 it as like, oh, that's a reminder that everything's going 0:41:15.960 --> 0:41:18.520 to be okay. And it's also helpful sometimes for you 0:41:18.600 --> 0:41:21.040 to pick a symbol, like something that was meaningful between 0:41:21.120 --> 0:41:23.040 you and your mom. Like with me and my mom, 0:41:23.080 --> 0:41:25.520 it's an orange. Whenever I'm like stressed out and I 0:41:25.560 --> 0:41:27.239 see an orange out of place, I'm like, oh, my 0:41:27.320 --> 0:41:29.960 mom is telling me everything's going to be kosher, It's okay. 0:41:30.520 --> 0:41:32.719 And I think that's a powerful thing to like think 0:41:32.760 --> 0:41:35.160 of something between the two of you and keep your 0:41:35.239 --> 0:41:35.839 eyes open. 0:41:35.960 --> 0:41:38.239 Don't expect it to come to you. 0:41:38.719 --> 0:41:41.640 You sometimes have to find the signs, you know what 0:41:41.719 --> 0:41:44.680 I mean. It's like everything in life. The more open, 0:41:45.080 --> 0:41:48.080 the more you see, and the more narrow minded, I think, 0:41:48.120 --> 0:41:50.400 the more limited you are, and the less belief you 0:41:50.520 --> 0:41:52.440 have in this kind of possibility. 0:41:52.800 --> 0:41:54.560 And it's beautiful because you kind of create a language. 0:41:54.560 --> 0:41:56.160 Then you know, if you can say this is my sign, 0:41:56.360 --> 0:41:58.200 this is how I would like you to present yourself 0:41:58.280 --> 0:42:00.640 to me if possible, then you kind of have that code. 0:42:00.680 --> 0:42:02.960 You have that language. You are being that bridge and 0:42:03.080 --> 0:42:06.320 making an active effort to communicate and keep that relationship 0:42:06.400 --> 0:42:08.239 going in a different way, but a way. 0:42:08.440 --> 0:42:12.120 Nonetheless, Yeah, I do something, and I'm sure you're probably 0:42:12.239 --> 0:42:16.200 not a comedian, Amy, but so this won't be what 0:42:16.360 --> 0:42:18.680 you do. But I do this thing before I walk 0:42:18.719 --> 0:42:21.600 out on stage. Every time, I do this thing where 0:42:21.640 --> 0:42:24.000 I like look up as if my mom's above me. 0:42:24.120 --> 0:42:26.480 I think everything's above me. But actually Tyler just confirmed 0:42:26.520 --> 0:42:27.480 that everything is above us. 0:42:27.800 --> 0:42:29.320 So I'm glad for that. 0:42:29.640 --> 0:42:32.160 But I always look up and as I'm walking out, 0:42:32.280 --> 0:42:34.360 I'm just right before they call my name, I just 0:42:34.480 --> 0:42:38.000 am like I have these ebulience of light like shining 0:42:38.080 --> 0:42:40.719 down around me, which is my mother, and I'm with 0:42:40.880 --> 0:42:43.360 her and she's with me, and we walk out together 0:42:43.760 --> 0:42:45.200 and that's always how I do it. 0:42:45.400 --> 0:42:47.600 And it feels like I'm being lit from within. 0:42:48.480 --> 0:42:50.480 And so if you can have some of this imagery 0:42:50.680 --> 0:42:53.160 for whatever is an important thing that you do, you know, 0:42:53.400 --> 0:42:55.600 in your day, it doesn't have to be something. 0:42:55.400 --> 0:42:56.720 That's scary or daring. 0:42:56.840 --> 0:42:59.360 It can just be try to invoke your mother's presence, 0:42:59.640 --> 0:43:02.000 really invoke it and be like, Mom, I'm here with you, 0:43:02.200 --> 0:43:04.120 like even if you're you know, you're talking to yourself 0:43:04.280 --> 0:43:06.840 or not speaking out loud and just thinking it like 0:43:06.960 --> 0:43:07.640 it's powerful. 0:43:07.719 --> 0:43:09.640 Our brains are much more powerful than we give them 0:43:09.719 --> 0:43:12.640 credit for. So trust it absolutely. 0:43:12.719 --> 0:43:15.160 Being able to live vicariously, you know, and allow her 0:43:15.239 --> 0:43:18.399 to live vicariously through every new action, every achievement, every 0:43:18.520 --> 0:43:21.279 new memory, everything you do, every new love that you make, 0:43:21.360 --> 0:43:23.640 every bond that you have, is a way to honor 0:43:23.719 --> 0:43:25.920 her and to allow her to kind of live through 0:43:26.000 --> 0:43:27.040 that in some greater way. 0:43:27.719 --> 0:43:31.600 Oh, I love everything you guys, don awesome love it. 0:43:31.800 --> 0:43:33.320 I knew you would give good advice. 0:43:33.760 --> 0:43:36.000 Oh good, Well, make sure you go over to his website. 0:43:36.000 --> 0:43:37.920 Okay, Amy, Yeah, I'll get you guys connected. 0:43:38.560 --> 0:43:39.879 Absolutely, I'll see you over there. 0:43:40.760 --> 0:43:43.200 Thank you. That, I mean, that really did hit home 0:43:43.360 --> 0:43:45.320 for me, you know, the like I need to not 0:43:45.480 --> 0:43:47.200 wait for her to come to me, I need to 0:43:47.400 --> 0:43:48.520 communicate back. 0:43:48.680 --> 0:43:51.600 So yes, yes, that really hit. 0:43:51.840 --> 0:43:52.320 So thank you. 0:43:53.400 --> 0:43:54.759 I have a beautiful rest of your day. 0:43:55.080 --> 0:43:58.800 Thank Tyler. How old are you? 0:44:00.200 --> 0:44:00.759 Twenty seven? 0:44:00.960 --> 0:44:01.240 Wow? 0:44:01.400 --> 0:44:03.960 You're very particulate, really really. 0:44:03.800 --> 0:44:05.600 Good moisturizer, and I'm twenty seven. 0:44:05.840 --> 0:44:07.960 It just kind of you have such a good use 0:44:08.000 --> 0:44:08.640 of language. 0:44:08.719 --> 0:44:12.000 I love when young people speak so eloquently, like your words, 0:44:12.040 --> 0:44:15.480 your vocabulary. It sounds very patronizing probably saying that to you, 0:44:15.640 --> 0:44:17.640 but I just love language, and I love when someone 0:44:17.680 --> 0:44:18.719 speaks effortlessly. 0:44:19.160 --> 0:44:20.759 Well that means well, I had a brain injury, of 0:44:20.800 --> 0:44:22.840 all things, in a brain surgery when I was eighteen, 0:44:22.920 --> 0:44:25.040 so it actually really affected my ability to I get 0:44:25.080 --> 0:44:27.280 a phasia where I can't talk, So that that actually 0:44:27.360 --> 0:44:30.120 really it's a huge compliment. Thank you. 0:44:30.440 --> 0:44:33.359 Yeah, Well, you're probably over corrected right because of your 0:44:33.400 --> 0:44:36.600 brain injury, that you probably work even harder at speaking. 0:44:36.320 --> 0:44:38.520 So well, well, I try my best, but thank you. 0:44:38.640 --> 0:44:39.239 It means a lot. 0:44:39.440 --> 0:44:41.480 Did you have to like relearn a lot of language 0:44:41.520 --> 0:44:42.160 and that sort of thing. 0:44:42.760 --> 0:44:44.920 It was a whole process. It's you know, you have 0:44:45.080 --> 0:44:47.359 the words inside, but to get them out was really 0:44:47.440 --> 0:44:49.800 the challenge of what is often the case of brain surgery. 0:44:49.880 --> 0:44:52.160 So it's been a lot kind of slowing down. You know, 0:44:52.280 --> 0:44:53.640 you have a lot that you want to say, but 0:44:53.719 --> 0:44:55.880 you just kind of have to take one word at 0:44:55.920 --> 0:44:56.239 a time. 0:44:56.400 --> 0:45:02.040 So well, our next question comes from Whitney. Dear Chelsea, 0:45:02.400 --> 0:45:04.000 I've been going back and forth for a couple of 0:45:04.040 --> 0:45:06.080 years about seeking out a medium to help me with 0:45:06.160 --> 0:45:08.600 my grief. She had lost a couple of grandparents who 0:45:08.719 --> 0:45:12.000 were really influential in her life. But I'm very skeptical 0:45:12.120 --> 0:45:14.520 and have no idea how to determine if a medium 0:45:14.600 --> 0:45:17.360 in my area is legitimate or not. I'm assuming that 0:45:17.480 --> 0:45:20.560 mediums who've gained national success must be the real deal, 0:45:21.120 --> 0:45:22.880 but then at that point they're probably out of my 0:45:22.960 --> 0:45:25.520 price range. To say that my grief bogs me down 0:45:25.640 --> 0:45:28.239 is an understatement, and I'm not even sure that this 0:45:28.320 --> 0:45:30.080 would be the way to finally have a sense of 0:45:30.160 --> 0:45:32.960 relief in my life. But I've tried every other avenue 0:45:33.080 --> 0:45:36.160 so far. I've been to grief counseling, I've seen therapists, 0:45:36.239 --> 0:45:38.680 I've been medicated. I've tried to wear my grief out 0:45:38.760 --> 0:45:41.719 like it's a toddler, but nothing is helping. I know 0:45:41.800 --> 0:45:44.600 I'll never completely not feel this loss, and I know 0:45:45.000 --> 0:45:47.040 that I'll always wish they were still physically here, but 0:45:47.480 --> 0:45:50.040 I need this enormous weight lifted off my chest. Is 0:45:50.080 --> 0:45:50.520 a medium? 0:45:50.560 --> 0:45:54.880 The answer, Whitney, Yeah, what do you do with somebody 0:45:55.040 --> 0:45:57.080 is having such a difficult time with their grief? 0:45:57.280 --> 0:45:57.320 Like? 0:45:57.440 --> 0:45:59.720 What advice can you give someone? 0:46:00.360 --> 0:46:02.839 Sure? Well, for one, I think expectation management is good 0:46:03.000 --> 0:46:05.480 and medium will never be the answer or a cure 0:46:05.520 --> 0:46:07.880 all for grief, but it certainly if you find a 0:46:07.920 --> 0:46:11.000 good one can affirm and validate that bond and the 0:46:11.040 --> 0:46:13.680 fact that that bond still continues, and that's really, in essence, 0:46:13.760 --> 0:46:16.520 what any good medium should strive to do. But I 0:46:16.600 --> 0:46:19.480 look at mediumship as that of a practice, and being 0:46:19.520 --> 0:46:22.680 that it's a practice, they are practitioners. And just as 0:46:23.000 --> 0:46:26.640 there are many practitioners in this world, doctors know therapists. 0:46:27.000 --> 0:46:28.560 You want to make sure that if you're seeing a 0:46:28.600 --> 0:46:31.040 practitioner you're going to somebody who is legitimate, and the 0:46:31.120 --> 0:46:33.600 way to do that in this world, in the world 0:46:33.640 --> 0:46:36.920 of mediums, which is unregulated, there is no better business bureau, which, 0:46:37.560 --> 0:46:40.040 to my frustration, is the case. I think it's very 0:46:40.040 --> 0:46:42.759 important to go through word of mouth, to go through recommendation. 0:46:43.280 --> 0:46:47.480 Going to somebody that you know comes under high recommendation 0:46:47.640 --> 0:46:49.960 from somebody you trust, somebody you know and have a 0:46:50.040 --> 0:46:53.880 relationship with, it tends to be the best way. And equally, 0:46:54.160 --> 0:46:56.239 some of the best readings I've ever received were for 0:46:56.360 --> 0:46:59.840 free from people who were not even working as mediums 0:47:00.239 --> 0:47:03.200 full time. So there are very talented people that exist 0:47:03.239 --> 0:47:06.320 among us who may not openly work as a medium, 0:47:06.360 --> 0:47:08.000 but might still be able to help you out, and 0:47:08.080 --> 0:47:09.640 you'll find them through word of mouth. 0:47:10.040 --> 0:47:12.520 And are there like group mediums, you know, like where 0:47:12.560 --> 0:47:14.560 people can do it if they can't afford something like 0:47:14.640 --> 0:47:16.759 you mentioned that on your website, which is also something 0:47:16.800 --> 0:47:17.440 you can explore. 0:47:17.680 --> 0:47:19.719 But like, are there a group things where you go 0:47:19.800 --> 0:47:21.800 to a root? So is a lot of people I 0:47:21.840 --> 0:47:22.840 don't know, is that common? 0:47:23.520 --> 0:47:26.200 So there is a community called lily Dell actually in 0:47:26.280 --> 0:47:28.879 northern New York, which is just that people take entire 0:47:28.960 --> 0:47:32.200 tourist destinations to this gated community. In New York, there's 0:47:32.239 --> 0:47:35.400 been a spiritualist retreat where mediums live on site and 0:47:35.520 --> 0:47:38.920 do readings, and it's an entire kind of tourist industry there. 0:47:39.000 --> 0:47:42.160 So there's certainly that in theory. I think there's something 0:47:42.200 --> 0:47:45.879 to be said about just individual experience and being able 0:47:45.960 --> 0:47:49.680 to kind of seek out individual practitioners without giving them information, 0:47:50.239 --> 0:47:53.160 and just kind of understanding when you walk into a 0:47:53.280 --> 0:47:56.320 medium reading, you know your loved one more than any medium. 0:47:56.760 --> 0:47:59.879 You know they love one's essence. You know how they'd 0:47:59.920 --> 0:48:01.680 be and clind to deliver information. And so I think 0:48:01.680 --> 0:48:04.600 it's just important to trust that more than any message 0:48:04.640 --> 0:48:06.759 you hear. You know you know and will know if 0:48:06.760 --> 0:48:07.919 there's a connection being made. 0:48:08.320 --> 0:48:10.400 And also I just want to say, Whitney, your grandparent 0:48:10.520 --> 0:48:12.759 wouldn't want you to be suffering in this way. This 0:48:13.239 --> 0:48:16.520 is heartbreaking. No one wants their grandchild to suffer at 0:48:16.560 --> 0:48:19.920 the loss of her. So that's something to also contemplate. 0:48:20.080 --> 0:48:23.279 Think about the impact, Like you have an opportunity to 0:48:23.400 --> 0:48:25.920 live your life in honor of your grandmother. 0:48:25.960 --> 0:48:28.319 And like live the life, live your life in an 0:48:28.440 --> 0:48:29.359 essence for her. 0:48:29.520 --> 0:48:31.200 I mean, no one should be living their lives for 0:48:31.400 --> 0:48:34.440 another person, but in a way, she can vicariously live 0:48:34.600 --> 0:48:38.640 through you and you can invoke her essence for your life. 0:48:39.080 --> 0:48:44.239 That's a very powerful way to keep those relationships close 0:48:44.320 --> 0:48:45.080 to your heart. 0:48:45.239 --> 0:48:48.560 Even though they may feel far away. And I would 0:48:48.680 --> 0:48:51.080 suggest to try and practice that, you know, to try and. 0:48:51.120 --> 0:48:54.120 Live, live out loud, live your life fully, and try 0:48:54.160 --> 0:48:58.239 to really get to a place where you can be 0:48:58.400 --> 0:49:00.719 joyful again. It's not it's easier said than done, but 0:49:00.880 --> 0:49:02.880 if you do it with the idea of your grandmother 0:49:03.400 --> 0:49:06.080 really just kind of smacking you on the butt, like 0:49:06.200 --> 0:49:06.960 I want you to have. 0:49:07.040 --> 0:49:07.680 The best life. 0:49:07.760 --> 0:49:10.680 This is your chance, Like, please don't get hung up 0:49:10.719 --> 0:49:13.600 on my passing. I want you to succeed and love 0:49:13.719 --> 0:49:15.880 and live and all of those things. You know that 0:49:16.000 --> 0:49:18.040 she would want that for you, absolutely, And. 0:49:18.080 --> 0:49:19.960 We owe it to them to remember them for who 0:49:20.040 --> 0:49:23.080 they were and how they lived versus that one moment 0:49:23.320 --> 0:49:27.120 that caused them to transition. And I think it's interesting 0:49:27.200 --> 0:49:29.960 the sense that Maya Angelou, one of my favorites, had 0:49:30.000 --> 0:49:32.160 a quote about similar to Chelsea, when she would go 0:49:32.239 --> 0:49:35.200 on stage, she'd call upon her departed mother, she call 0:49:35.320 --> 0:49:38.480 upon her ancestors, her grandmother, and she said by the 0:49:38.520 --> 0:49:40.719 time she walked on stage, she wasn't walking on that 0:49:40.760 --> 0:49:43.480 stage alone. She came with an army of people who 0:49:43.640 --> 0:49:45.920 loved her. And I think we really are a culmination 0:49:46.160 --> 0:49:48.600 of the love we are given in this world. So 0:49:48.680 --> 0:49:50.960 to be able to harness that, to call upon that 0:49:51.120 --> 0:49:53.960 essence and invoke as Chelsea says, it's such a powerful 0:49:54.000 --> 0:49:56.680 way to still feel that connection even if that physical 0:49:56.760 --> 0:49:57.799 bond is no longer there. 0:49:58.120 --> 0:50:00.000 Chelsea and I talked about this on a recent epid. 0:50:00.120 --> 0:50:03.400 So sometimes when you try to push something away, a 0:50:03.520 --> 0:50:07.040 feeling away, it makes it worse. And so think of 0:50:07.160 --> 0:50:09.600 your grief as sort of something that you bring along 0:50:09.680 --> 0:50:11.600 with you. It doesn't mean you can't have joy in 0:50:11.640 --> 0:50:13.799 your life, it doesn't mean you can't go about your 0:50:13.880 --> 0:50:16.480 day to day, but that grief is a reminder of 0:50:16.719 --> 0:50:19.640 the closeness that you shared with those people. And when 0:50:19.680 --> 0:50:22.600 you feel that sense of grief, be reminded that that 0:50:22.719 --> 0:50:26.239 person is still with you and that you do still 0:50:26.280 --> 0:50:29.080 have relationship with them. They're right there. That grief is 0:50:29.560 --> 0:50:32.320 part of that relationship, and bring it along with you. 0:50:32.800 --> 0:50:34.919 Feel it when you need to feel it, but also 0:50:35.000 --> 0:50:36.960 know like it's okay to have that at the same 0:50:37.040 --> 0:50:39.600 time as you're having maybe a joyful moment or something 0:50:39.719 --> 0:50:42.200 was funny, or you know, you're living your life day 0:50:42.200 --> 0:50:44.200 to day. It's okay that that's sort of a passenger 0:50:44.239 --> 0:50:47.960 with you right now. I actually have a question for you, Tyler. 0:50:48.200 --> 0:50:51.759 What do you think about like reincarnation. Do you think 0:50:51.840 --> 0:50:53.560 people can come back? 0:50:54.000 --> 0:50:57.400 So I don't view reincarnation as a linear process, like 0:50:57.480 --> 0:51:00.319 a line. So the traditional view is the ring nation 0:51:00.520 --> 0:51:03.520 is you're born, you die, you're reborn, and you die, 0:51:03.719 --> 0:51:06.200 you're reborn, you die in kind of a line, right, 0:51:06.800 --> 0:51:10.680 And so my belief is that we as a soul 0:51:10.719 --> 0:51:14.720 are a lot more multifasted than we realize. And in essence, 0:51:14.760 --> 0:51:16.360 the best way to describe it is, I think we 0:51:16.640 --> 0:51:20.840 basically can exist in many different forms at once. And 0:51:21.080 --> 0:51:23.560 it looks like we are living our individual little lives 0:51:23.600 --> 0:51:26.360 on our individual little timelines. But my belief is that 0:51:26.600 --> 0:51:29.960 in many ways we kind of have many tentacles in 0:51:30.080 --> 0:51:34.320 many different arenas. And it's very kind of uncomfortable sometimes 0:51:34.400 --> 0:51:36.200 to think about, and it kind of gets into philosophy 0:51:36.280 --> 0:51:39.360 of determinism and all of these things. But I believe 0:51:39.520 --> 0:51:42.600 in a higher self that when we transition we become 0:51:42.640 --> 0:51:45.359 part of something greater than ourselves that has always been 0:51:45.400 --> 0:51:48.040 a part of us, and we kind of reunite with 0:51:48.120 --> 0:51:50.000 that part, and then part of us might you know, 0:51:50.120 --> 0:51:53.759 continue on in other incarnations, but that kind of soul 0:51:54.000 --> 0:51:56.040 essence of us always exists, and I think is always 0:51:56.120 --> 0:51:59.200 retaining information. And that is why I believe I do 0:51:59.280 --> 0:52:02.360 readings for people even if they've reincarnated, which maybe they have, 0:52:02.480 --> 0:52:04.800 maybe they haven't. I'm still able to get information about 0:52:04.920 --> 0:52:09.160 that life, who that person was, even if that's continued on. 0:52:09.480 --> 0:52:11.239 And it's hard to say, you know, it's one of 0:52:11.280 --> 0:52:12.920 those things. It's one of those great mysteries. 0:52:13.480 --> 0:52:15.839 Well, let's take a quick break and we'll be back 0:52:15.880 --> 0:52:18.160 for our last question with Tyler and Chelsea. 0:52:22.760 --> 0:52:23.399 And we're back. 0:52:23.680 --> 0:52:29.360 We're back. Well, our last question comes from Stephanie Dear Chelsea, 0:52:29.719 --> 0:52:32.520 longtime listener, first time writer. I've always wanted to say 0:52:32.560 --> 0:52:37.279 that when it comes to mediums, I must admit that 0:52:37.520 --> 0:52:40.440 I'm a bit of a skeptic. I'm a nurse practitioner, 0:52:40.560 --> 0:52:43.320 and so I'm very science minded, but I also greatly 0:52:43.440 --> 0:52:45.920 want to believe that there are forces greater than us 0:52:46.040 --> 0:52:49.399 that we can't comprehend or measure now to the reason 0:52:49.440 --> 0:52:52.400 I'm writing. My mom passed away this week. She was 0:52:52.440 --> 0:52:55.399 an unstoppable force. When I was six, she was shot 0:52:55.440 --> 0:52:58.280 and paralyzed from the waist down by an accidental gunshot 0:52:58.320 --> 0:53:01.479 wound by a child. She had severe pain for thirty 0:53:01.520 --> 0:53:04.680 one years, but never took any pain medication because she 0:53:04.760 --> 0:53:07.440 wanted to keep her mental capacities sharp. She raised two 0:53:07.520 --> 0:53:10.320 children as a single mom, became CEO of a large 0:53:10.400 --> 0:53:14.000 nonprofit organization, sat on two prominent boards in our community, 0:53:14.080 --> 0:53:17.160 and showed unlimited love to everyone, especially my four and 0:53:17.320 --> 0:53:19.600 nine year old. As you can tell, she was someone 0:53:19.719 --> 0:53:22.919 really special. I cared for her in her last month, 0:53:23.040 --> 0:53:25.160 and I wish I knew how to know she was 0:53:25.239 --> 0:53:29.040 at peace. Tell her we're okay, and that's because she's 0:53:29.080 --> 0:53:31.080 given us all the tools we need to be okay. 0:53:31.920 --> 0:53:33.880 Thank you so much for your show. It's a highlight 0:53:34.040 --> 0:53:36.279 of my week. So I think the biggest question is 0:53:36.719 --> 0:53:38.800 how does she let her mom know that they're all okay? 0:53:39.160 --> 0:53:40.800 And how does she know that her mom is okay 0:53:40.880 --> 0:53:42.839 and that she passed without too much pain. 0:53:43.680 --> 0:53:46.680 Absolutely Well, you know, I think we often do understandably 0:53:46.760 --> 0:53:50.239 get very focused on what causes someone to transition. Even 0:53:50.320 --> 0:53:53.080 under the best of circumstances. So many of us relived 0:53:53.120 --> 0:53:56.319 those last moments or our last interaction, or what could 0:53:56.360 --> 0:53:58.799 have been said or what could have been done, even 0:53:58.880 --> 0:54:00.799 under the best of circumstance answers. So I think it's 0:54:00.840 --> 0:54:03.200 a very normal place to be in grief, you know. 0:54:03.400 --> 0:54:07.239 I just think when it comes to that awareness, if 0:54:07.280 --> 0:54:09.400 you look at who she was in life, clearly she 0:54:09.520 --> 0:54:12.960 prioritized her children and the generations of family that came 0:54:13.080 --> 0:54:16.400 after her. And so I would say, as you revel 0:54:16.800 --> 0:54:20.160 in every moment, as you reach you know, achievements and 0:54:20.239 --> 0:54:24.640 accomplishments and those big landmark moments, find ways to implement 0:54:24.840 --> 0:54:27.839 her into those moments. What maybe you know, we wear 0:54:27.880 --> 0:54:29.440 a piece of jewelry and every time we look at 0:54:29.440 --> 0:54:32.600 that jewelry we think of mom or whatever it may be. 0:54:33.040 --> 0:54:35.359 There's ways to still carry them on and allow them 0:54:35.400 --> 0:54:37.960 to kind of live vicariously. But you know, I think 0:54:38.000 --> 0:54:40.080 that's one of the great equalizers of death, is that 0:54:40.200 --> 0:54:42.640 in essence, no matter what we're going through, it does 0:54:42.760 --> 0:54:46.719 allow for some closure of physical suffering. And that's just 0:54:46.800 --> 0:54:49.880 a moment in time that's not someone's eternity exactly. 0:54:50.120 --> 0:54:52.280 Yeah, you have to know that people who have crossed 0:54:52.320 --> 0:54:55.440 over are at peace, like you're not in your body anymore, 0:54:55.480 --> 0:55:00.239 so there's no bodily suffering. And I would it would 0:55:00.239 --> 0:55:02.160 be a big leap of faith to think that they're 0:55:02.200 --> 0:55:04.560 suffering beyond this earth, you know what I mean. This 0:55:04.719 --> 0:55:07.640 earth I think has so much suffering already. I mean, 0:55:07.680 --> 0:55:10.480 what you're talking about is you're suffering, you know, at 0:55:10.520 --> 0:55:12.600 the loss of your mom. But I when people wreck 0:55:12.640 --> 0:55:15.600 themselves over the circumstances in which somebody passed, like, oh, 0:55:15.680 --> 0:55:18.440 they were in such pain it was, even when it's 0:55:18.480 --> 0:55:21.239 a hard crossing, as they say, at least they're not 0:55:21.360 --> 0:55:24.640 suffering anymore. Like that's what's necessary to get them out 0:55:24.680 --> 0:55:27.000 of their body and to stop the suffering. So you 0:55:27.160 --> 0:55:30.400 have to believe that your mother is at peace, regardless 0:55:30.480 --> 0:55:32.800 of how she died, She's at peace now, you know. 0:55:33.200 --> 0:55:34.680 I mean, I think you just have to believe that, 0:55:34.840 --> 0:55:36.959 and you have to know that and just keep telling 0:55:37.040 --> 0:55:39.640 yourself that and keep showing her, you know, in the 0:55:39.719 --> 0:55:43.080 ways that Tyler suggested, to keep living your life with her. 0:55:43.280 --> 0:55:46.719 You know, not that it's over, she's gone, but your 0:55:46.760 --> 0:55:48.319 relationship with her will never be over. 0:55:48.800 --> 0:55:51.360 And you know, just last point with the nursing aspects, 0:55:51.440 --> 0:55:54.759 there's so many hospice nurses that have shared firsthand experiences 0:55:55.280 --> 0:55:58.000 of you know, their own grief and also seeing you know, 0:55:58.200 --> 0:56:01.880 patients at the end of life have very compelling experiences. 0:56:02.160 --> 0:56:03.440 So I would encourage it. 0:56:03.560 --> 0:56:07.200 Ask coworkers, Yeah, tell us about your tour, Tyler, Yeah, 0:56:07.400 --> 0:56:08.480 so very much. 0:56:08.760 --> 0:56:09.959 Hitting the road been very busy. 0:56:10.400 --> 0:56:12.960 Yeah, I've seen it on Instagram. You're on fire. 0:56:13.520 --> 0:56:16.360 Oh, it's been so so much fun. I've been really thankful. 0:56:16.400 --> 0:56:18.720 We've had a sold out tour all across the country 0:56:18.880 --> 0:56:22.000 and it's been intense. Every year of twenty six cities, 0:56:22.120 --> 0:56:25.239 I travel all across Midwest to the South, and it's 0:56:25.280 --> 0:56:27.440 in a group setting, so it's anywhere from two thousand 0:56:27.480 --> 0:56:29.759 to three thousand people. I share a little bit about 0:56:29.800 --> 0:56:31.880 my story and what people need to know to get 0:56:31.920 --> 0:56:34.040 the most out of readings, and then it turns into 0:56:34.120 --> 0:56:36.600 a group reading and it's different every single time. You know, 0:56:36.680 --> 0:56:38.719 people come in as strangers and by the end of it, 0:56:38.760 --> 0:56:41.560 they're hugging and it's just a really beautiful experience to 0:56:41.640 --> 0:56:44.440 be able to have that outlet in a society that 0:56:44.520 --> 0:56:46.960 doesn't allow for people to talk about grief. Very much 0:56:47.440 --> 0:56:51.000 to have people come together and feel comfortable honoring that 0:56:51.160 --> 0:56:53.480 vulnerability and what they've gotten through in a shared way. 0:56:53.960 --> 0:56:56.479 Great, and people can get tickets at over at. 0:56:56.400 --> 0:56:58.640 Tyler Henry Hollywood medium dot com. You can check out 0:56:58.680 --> 0:57:01.560 tickets and my full tours get and there's more to come. 0:57:01.960 --> 0:57:05.040 Oh well, that's so excellent. You're doing such a great service. 0:57:05.560 --> 0:57:07.520 How nice is it to do what you love and 0:57:07.920 --> 0:57:09.600 have it be so helpful to people? 0:57:09.840 --> 0:57:10.000 Right? 0:57:10.520 --> 0:57:13.200 I feel so privileged and so humbled every single time. 0:57:13.320 --> 0:57:15.560 I mean it truly is mind blowing, and it just 0:57:15.719 --> 0:57:18.960 reminds me of why we have to live mindfully and 0:57:19.320 --> 0:57:21.800 it gives me a deep sense of gratitude and ever 0:57:21.840 --> 0:57:23.280 reading I do, I think there's a message for me 0:57:23.600 --> 0:57:24.400 as well. Well. 0:57:24.560 --> 0:57:26.440 Was a pleasure speaking with you. I hope I get 0:57:26.480 --> 0:57:27.400 to see you again soon. 0:57:27.880 --> 0:57:31.000 Absolutely, And if you need anything, either of you, if 0:57:31.000 --> 0:57:33.000 I can help in any capacity, if you have any 0:57:33.040 --> 0:57:35.160 follow up readings, friend's family, I'm here and I would 0:57:35.160 --> 0:57:36.040 love to stay in touch. 0:57:36.320 --> 0:57:37.560 Okay, thank you, We. 0:57:39.320 --> 0:57:40.040 Have a good one. 0:57:40.160 --> 0:57:42.080 Thank you so much. Bye bye. 0:57:43.320 --> 0:57:45.680 If you'd like advice from Chelsea, shoot us an email 0:57:45.720 --> 0:57:48.760 at Dear Chelsea podcast at gmail dot com and be 0:57:48.800 --> 0:57:51.840 sure to include your phone number. Dear Chelsea is edited 0:57:51.880 --> 0:57:55.480 and engineered by Brad Dickert executive producer Catherine Law and 0:57:55.600 --> 0:57:58.000 be sure to check out our march at Chelseahandler dot 0:57:58.040 --> 0:57:58.200 com