Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio Podcast.
Speaker 2: Hi Catherine, Hi, how you doing.
Speaker 3: I'm good, Harry.
Speaker 2: Let me tell you what. I'm ready for school to start.
Speaker 3: You're I've never heard you say that ever, Like.
Speaker 4: Well, I think it's because I'm doing the movie and
Speaker 4: there's just we're we're filming Saturday Sundays, and so it's
Speaker 4: I don't Everyone's like, oh, we can't. So we have
Speaker 4: Monday Tuesdays off. Everyone's like, oh, I can't wait for
Speaker 4: our weekend. I'm like, I don't get a weekend. Yeah,
Speaker 4: you know, you got the kids. I got you know,
Speaker 4: we got a podcast. I gotta do content stuff. So
Speaker 4: it's been it's been a little bit harder. As lovely
Speaker 4: as it is to come home to my bed at night, it's,
Speaker 4: you know, things don't stop here, right.
Speaker 1: It always seems I could be easier to not be here,
Speaker 1: uh huh, yeah, because then itoni.
Speaker 4: For the riding, because there's just so much responsibility here
Speaker 4: in the house. It's like, you know, you gotta got
Speaker 4: to handle all the things, right, and it's it doesn't
Speaker 4: that doesn't stop. Yeah, you know. So it's it's been,
Speaker 4: you know, and then Alan's in that town. So it's
Speaker 4: just it's a lot. It's been a lot, and then
Speaker 4: it's you know, on weekends, it's it's it's hard to.
Speaker 2: Find help too. Right.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that's so.
Speaker 4: I had he was gone and I had like three
Speaker 4: different people come over like our you're from this time
Speaker 4: of this time and this hand of and I'm just like,
Speaker 4: I don't want to be dealing with this while I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 4: working too, And that's just again it's the load that
Speaker 4: we carry, which is right, It's all good again. I
Speaker 4: love being able to come home to my bed and
Speaker 4: I look forward to my next.
Speaker 2: On set location.
Speaker 4: Right, Remind me this when I'm crying about missing the
Speaker 4: kids on location, it's like that that push and pull,
Speaker 4: you know, it's like you, I'm so much better when
Speaker 4: the kids are there with me, but I don't have
Speaker 4: the responsibility of everything here.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: Well, And it's I think important to note you got
Speaker 1: you really have never had to go like into an
Speaker 1: office or I mean, which going on set is probably
Speaker 1: longer because it's like a.
Speaker 3: Twelve hour day.
Speaker 1: I mean, some people surely go into an office for
Speaker 1: twelve hours. I won't say that they don't.
Speaker 4: It's technically at like a fourteen hour day because we
Speaker 4: have two hours of hair and makeup.
Speaker 1: Before, right, Okay, so that's to not because I know
Speaker 1: a lot of people go into an office every day,
Speaker 1: have to come home and deal with the kids and
Speaker 1: do all of that. But generally it's more like an
Speaker 1: eight to five type situation and you're doing like a
Speaker 1: fourteen hour day.
Speaker 2: That's tough, like yeah, and you know, yeah, yeah, I.
Speaker 1: Mean again, I'm sure some people do go into an
Speaker 1: office for fourteen hours.
Speaker 3: Sure, and that's hard, but that's just that's a lot.
Speaker 2: It is.
Speaker 4: And then on the weekends now are our Monday Tuesdays,
Speaker 4: and so it's it's tough. And then you know at
Speaker 4: with Alan also gone, it's it's challenging. Yeah, yeah, for sure.
Speaker 4: But yay the movie so is going. Really, I'm enjoying
Speaker 4: the movie so much.
Speaker 3: Good.
Speaker 2: We do have a heat and dex of like one
Speaker 2: hundred and ten.
Speaker 3: That's gonna be my next question.
Speaker 4: And we were filming outside the other day. I remember
Speaker 4: I looked at Ben and I was just like, it
Speaker 4: feels like we're in my sauna.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I think that there's like an actual like warning today.
Speaker 4: Today, tomorrow, tomorrow, Wednesday. Yeah, yeah, and we're outside on Wednesday,
Speaker 4: yeah until Yeah.
Speaker 1: Do they like live by like a rule if it
Speaker 1: gets too hot you can't.
Speaker 4: They've moved a couple scenes inside, but I mean the
Speaker 4: scene we have on Wednesday, you can't really move inside.
Speaker 4: But what they have done is we Ben and I
Speaker 4: have a cooling car, so like the second day, yell cut,
Speaker 4: we're like like.
Speaker 2: Racing into this car.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and then we have I will say too, like
Speaker 4: before you know, the sticks come out, which is the
Speaker 4: thing that you know, starts the all the things. I
Speaker 4: won't put my jacket on until then. Yeah, Like well,
Speaker 4: I mean, I'm not putting on until we go.
Speaker 1: But how do they keep y'all from sweat like showing sweat? Well,
Speaker 1: because especially with the humidity, there's not much you can
Speaker 1: do about all the time.
Speaker 4: Reason the weird thing is I don't really sweat that
Speaker 4: that's good. And that's what I did the other night though,
Speaker 4: oh my goodness, I did. And then it was one
Speaker 4: of those scenes where I had this moment, you know
Speaker 4: how like when you're I don't know if you felt
Speaker 4: this way maybe, but when I I self deprecate myself
Speaker 4: so much sometimes where I'm sitting in the scene, and
Speaker 4: it's one thousand degrees because you can't have the AC
Speaker 4: on inside because the sound so the acs shut off
Speaker 4: were inside. It's so hot outside, so imagine what it's
Speaker 4: like inside this hot box, right yeah, and then you
Speaker 4: got the lights on you and the cameras right in
Speaker 4: your face, and it's supposed to be this emotional scene,
Speaker 4: and all I could think about was like, I'm going
Speaker 4: to pass out, like I am hot, and then and
Speaker 4: then it's like, you know, I got a cute I
Speaker 4: gotta whip up some emotion here, like real quick, you know.
Speaker 2: But it was one of those moments.
Speaker 4: It was like eleven forty five at night, and I
Speaker 4: was like, I don't have any emotion. I can cry
Speaker 4: with the best of them, and I am blank, I
Speaker 4: have no emotion.
Speaker 3: Is that what you're asking if I feel like that
Speaker 3: at times?
Speaker 2: Well no, but what I do is so what I started,
Speaker 2: I was like, I suck.
Speaker 3: I am the tech character as ever.
Speaker 4: I was like Ben is and he was Ben was
Speaker 4: looking man like he probably thinks I suck right now.
Speaker 4: He's like, oh my goodness, this girl is like the
Speaker 4: worst ever and so and then they're like action and
Speaker 4: I was like I got an O.
Speaker 2: Then I got Evan. You're gonna to give me a
Speaker 2: second and a fan stat.
Speaker 1: If you want a motion, give me a fan But
Speaker 1: I mean I did get there. I mean I guess
Speaker 1: everybody kind of. I mean I've never had that kind
Speaker 1: of situation, right, You're so good at what you do. No,
Speaker 1: because I've never done that. But but yes, like if
Speaker 1: I have to speak, and like when I used to
Speaker 1: be in an office and I'd have to speak in
Speaker 1: like a conference room with people, oh yeah, oh yeah, hey,
Speaker 1: I hated it would be oh yeah, you just like
Speaker 1: attack yourself.
Speaker 3: You're terrible to stop talking?
Speaker 5: Why are you still talking?
Speaker 2: That is my inner monologue in the scene we're at dinner.
Speaker 2: That was what I was thinking. I was like, you
Speaker 2: suck creamer.
Speaker 5: The problem is.
Speaker 2: Heard again, this is your last movie so much for like.
Speaker 5: Right sucks.
Speaker 1: The problem is I cry. Then I like get like mad,
Speaker 1: and then I cry.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and then mind you, I did, like I did
Speaker 4: get there. I did start like massively crying, and then
Speaker 4: of course when it's on his scene, I'm like weeping.
Speaker 2: Like I'm there.
Speaker 3: I How has it been with your co stars?
Speaker 4: I just love them. Kelsey Grammar was fantastic. He's so sweet.
Speaker 4: Ben is just a joy, Like he's so great. And
Speaker 4: what's really cool is like last night we him, his wife,
Speaker 4: and Alan and I went out to dinner and it's
Speaker 4: just it's like we've been old friends. It almost feels
Speaker 4: like he was a friend from high school. That's that's
Speaker 4: how like it feels. And then she's awesome, and yeah,
Speaker 4: we just had a really nice dinner last night. And
Speaker 4: he's so good that it's been really great to do
Speaker 4: scenes with. And obviously Karen's a dream. Everyone is a
Speaker 4: dream on set. It's really fun. Good. Yeah, I love that,
Speaker 4: really enjoying it. I just need school to I was like,
Speaker 4: school to start.
Speaker 3: I haven't gotmen there too. I'm ready.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's it's time.
Speaker 4: It's just hot, like you know, I do cover start.
Speaker 3: Yeah, sure, I know.
Speaker 1: I was fighting with my daughter earlier today and I
Speaker 1: was like, it's time to.
Speaker 5: Go to school.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: So I did tell you this, and I'll i'll explain
Speaker 4: it to you on the podcast. But I had this
Speaker 4: moment the other day with Jolie. Remember when I told
Speaker 4: you in my car? Yeah, and so I just want
Speaker 4: to talk about that because let's talk about it. I
Speaker 4: guess it's my I wouldn't say it's my wine about it,
Speaker 4: but it was Jollie. On top of all of this,
Speaker 4: my kids have been sick, so I've been, you know,
Speaker 4: taking care of them. The night before we filmed one
Speaker 4: of the days, Jace came in at one, two, three,
Speaker 4: Joy came in at four, and I was like, but
Speaker 4: of course, you know, you've got to mother them, and
Speaker 4: you know, I that was another reason why I was
Speaker 4: like so tired that day. I'm seah, but uh so
Speaker 4: they've been kind of sick. And so when I on Sunday,
Speaker 4: I went up there and I'm like, okay. I was like,
Speaker 4: I knocked on the door because really was watching TV
Speaker 4: and I said I knocked and she's like yeah, I go,
Speaker 4: oh hello. I was like, are you Jolie. I was like,
Speaker 4: I'm I'm doctor mom. Uh and she's like mom and
Speaker 4: I said, oh, that's so sweet.
Speaker 2: I'm not your mom.
Speaker 4: And I was like, but that's so sweet that you
Speaker 4: think that. I was like, so, what are your symptoms?
Speaker 4: And she's like, you know my symptoms and I'm like no,
Speaker 4: but I don't know your symptoms, Like what are you feeling?
Speaker 4: I'm like, I've got to rolla dex of supplements like
Speaker 4: gets like a little turned thing, and she goes, you're
Speaker 4: so annoying. But the way she said it, yeah, like
Speaker 4: really it hurts. And I turned around and go, oh,
Speaker 4: oh okay.
Speaker 3: Yeah it's fine.
Speaker 2: Yeah, here's your remote tren.
Speaker 4: And she kind of like looked at me like I'm sorry.
Speaker 4: I was like, no, no, no, it's fine, Like it's fine.
Speaker 2: Oh good, And I came downstairs and I started crying
Speaker 2: and I was like, what's wrong. I was like, I'm
Speaker 2: officially the annoying mom and it sucks.
Speaker 3: It sucks.
Speaker 2: I want to play make believe doctor and patient.
Speaker 3: They don't want to do that anymore.
Speaker 4: Like she's in fourth grade, and Pam and you guys
Speaker 4: were all saying fourth grade is when it when it starts.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like it's not. They're not like little kids anymore.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I feel like Ramsey's already kind of been a
Speaker 1: little bit. I said something to her yesterday. I tried
Speaker 1: to say a word that, you know, like one of
Speaker 1: the cool words, and she just like looked at me
Speaker 1: and just stared and I was like not cool.
Speaker 3: And she's like I was like, okay, got it.
Speaker 5: So I mean it's tough, but I mean.
Speaker 2: Any tips because you have the older kids, so I do.
Speaker 1: I feel almost kind of removed from it in an
Speaker 1: odd way. And I think just because Ramsey has an
Speaker 1: older sister, we haven't really had that like make believe,
Speaker 1: like play like we don't really do that as much anymore.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I feel a little removed from it.
Speaker 1: But I mean it's just the first time, and then
Speaker 1: you'll learn that it's like funny, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like when they're like, Mom, that's so annoying.
Speaker 3: You're like, I know, I'm so annoying, Like you just
Speaker 3: up going with it.
Speaker 2: It wasn't it so annoying?
Speaker 3: You're so annoying?
Speaker 2: That's what I think.
Speaker 1: Hurt Yeah, yeah, And I don't know if anyone, I
Speaker 1: don't know if they've said that to me.
Speaker 3: It's the eye roll for me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's and at first it's like funny and at
Speaker 1: first it's like, oh, it's like hurt full at times,
Speaker 1: but then it's like I'm roll your eyes one more time,
Speaker 1: and oh it makes me.
Speaker 3: So mad, yeah, because I'm like, do not roll your
Speaker 3: eyes at me.
Speaker 2: I wonder how if.
Speaker 4: My response was wrong though what I did was, and
Speaker 4: maybe I shouldn't have done this, so how I don't
Speaker 4: help me out and maybe I'll bring it to Amy,
Speaker 4: but I don't know. The next day, I said, hey,
Speaker 4: you know what, baby girl, I said, it did actually
Speaker 4: hurt mommy's feeling when you called me annoying. I said,
Speaker 4: I was just really just trying to have fun with
Speaker 4: your baby girl. And she's like, I know, I'm sorry, mom,
Speaker 4: but I also don't want her to feel like she
Speaker 4: has to like watch my emotions. Yeah, but I don't
Speaker 4: want to be like a reaction like what you said
Speaker 4: actually did hurt mommy. So I'm like, I don't know.
Speaker 4: But then I'm like, well, I don't want her to
Speaker 4: feel so I And then I was like, oh, maybe
Speaker 4: I shouldn't have said that.
Speaker 2: That's I don't want her to.
Speaker 4: Be like I don't want her to people please me
Speaker 4: or make me happy because it's not about making me happy.
Speaker 4: But maybe it was just instead of saying And then
Speaker 4: I'm like, if you don't like that, say you know,
Speaker 4: I don't want to play make right, make believe, and okay,
Speaker 4: I can respect that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I would like to know what people think about this.
Speaker 1: I again, right or wrong, I don't know. I'm a
Speaker 1: big proponent. And again, I was just arguing with my
Speaker 1: daughter earlier, and I am a big proponent of saying, hey,
Speaker 1: that hurt me.
Speaker 3: Okay, I do that now.
Speaker 1: That might be wrong, and maybe that is, but I
Speaker 1: like for them to know, like, I'm not mad at you,
Speaker 1: I love you, but that hurt my feelings or it
Speaker 1: hurts me when I ask you to do X, Y
Speaker 1: and Z, but you don't respect my wishes and you
Speaker 1: don't do what I've asked.
Speaker 3: I like to say that that's hurtful.
Speaker 4: So I agree, But my devil's advocate is that then
Speaker 4: are they going to make people pleasing because they're going
Speaker 4: to be so worried about hurting our feelings?
Speaker 1: Yeah, and maybe yeah, maybe take it to the DM.
Speaker 1: But at the same time, you know, I would say
Speaker 1: that the one that that comes up the most with
Speaker 1: for me is Emmy, and she does worry about people's
Speaker 1: feelings a lot, and she is but she I wouldn't
Speaker 1: call her a people pleaser if her feelings are hurt.
Speaker 1: She's not afraid to tell people that her feelings are hurt.
Speaker 1: So but that might just be her personality, right, I
Speaker 1: don't know. That's hard to I would love to hear
Speaker 1: that too, because again, at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: we're just doing what feels right in the moment for us.
Speaker 3: And I don't know for sure.
Speaker 4: Maybe it's good for them to then for them to
Speaker 4: turn it on a situation like Emmy and going to
Speaker 4: either a friend or to me, maybe because because maybe
Speaker 4: you know, I've laughed at jokes that ended up not
Speaker 4: being funny to the kids, and so for her to
Speaker 4: be like, hey, mom, that hurt my feelings, I would
Speaker 4: want her to invite that exactly to me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely, And that's kind of I think my thought
Speaker 1: process behind it same is not just I'm mad at you,
Speaker 1: you know, or you're in trouble.
Speaker 3: It's just like it actually hurts me when you.
Speaker 1: Do that, Like it actually like and I just again
Speaker 1: I had told her earlier, like I don't want to
Speaker 1: get you in trouble. I don't want to punish you.
Speaker 1: I want you to go and have fun and all
Speaker 1: the things, but there has to be repercussions when you
Speaker 1: don't do what I've asked, and that actually hurts me,
Speaker 1: It makes me sad.
Speaker 3: I tell her that all the time.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So again, I don't know, Amy may tell you otherwise
Speaker 1: they were doing it all wrong, and I need to
Speaker 1: start over.
Speaker 2: I'm I tell you, it's gonna tell me I'm doing
Speaker 2: it wrong our comment box.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I can't really start over at this point,
Speaker 1: and so it is what it is, and I can recorrect.
Speaker 3: I can write, yeah, that's true.
Speaker 2: But that's about it. Do we have a whine about it? Oh?
Speaker 1: Man, I not really know. I'm just kind of the
Speaker 1: same what we were talking about. I'm ready for school
Speaker 1: to start. I will say, Oh, this isn't even really
Speaker 1: a whine, but it's kind of sad, like, you know,
Speaker 1: we just got all our teachers last night, and literally,
Speaker 1: somehow every single one of Ramsey's friends are all in
Speaker 1: the same class. I don't even know how, Like I've
Speaker 1: never had this happen before.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: And she's got not one person that she knows. And
Speaker 1: it's just been a struggle because she's like, man, fourth
Speaker 1: grade's going to be so bad, and I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: you're going to make new friends and she's like, man,
Speaker 1: really like one, Like we couldn't have one kid, you know.
Speaker 1: So that's been a little bit of what we've been
Speaker 1: dealing with the last couple of days. But yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean really It's just, you know, all the back to
Speaker 1: school stuff just makes me like, what about you?
Speaker 3: You gotta wine about it?
Speaker 2: I really don't.
Speaker 3: Besides you're annoying.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I saw a headline Jessica Simpson peede her pants
Speaker 4: live on the Today Show.
Speaker 2: I saw that, so.
Speaker 4: She accidentally let loose in the Today Show. On Wednesday,
Speaker 4: the pop singer performed a medley as part of the
Speaker 4: NBC Breakfast Show Summer Concert series.
Speaker 2: But Page six years that after.
Speaker 4: The newlywed star returned backstage after her performance, She's spilled
Speaker 4: to people in the green room.
Speaker 2: It's pretty common.
Speaker 4: In fact, guests including Patti LaBelle, Fergie, Joe Jonahs, Ed Sheeran,
Speaker 4: and Hugh Jackman all have had on stage bathroom mishaps.
Speaker 4: She goes, I go down to the stage getting ready
Speaker 4: for my first number, and I'm like, I really need.
Speaker 2: To go again.
Speaker 4: But she stopped singing right in the moment she realized,
Speaker 4: the muscles you need to release order sing are the
Speaker 4: ones you do not want to release if you need
Speaker 4: to go.
Speaker 1: So I didn't realize that the muscles that you need
Speaker 1: to sing to release.
Speaker 3: To sing are not the ones if you need to go.
Speaker 4: I am not like a trained Have you ever had this?
Speaker 4: I personally never peed on stage.
Speaker 2: I might have maybe.
Speaker 3: Trickled a little.
Speaker 5: No, but I don't.
Speaker 2: Again, I don't.
Speaker 4: I can jump, I can jump, I can run, I can.
Speaker 4: I think it's because I've I had c sections.
Speaker 1: Well yeah, I don't. Yeah, I mean stage.
Speaker 4: But also like I've never singing wise again, I'm not like.
Speaker 2: The vocal like she her range is insane, so I
Speaker 2: don't push like that. I might have barted by accident
Speaker 2: maybe one time, but like.
Speaker 3: I you know what I mean, that's pretty common.
Speaker 4: I mean, listen, I have had a bandmate that has
Speaker 4: farted on stage and I've.
Speaker 2: Gone, that's we can smell it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's funny.
Speaker 4: I mean I've puked on stage, but that was pregnant. Yeah,
Speaker 4: you know, I remember, Oh I was on remember yeah
Speaker 4: the morning show we.
Speaker 3: Did Yeah, uh huh?
Speaker 2: Whoof? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I mean I feel could they tell, like could people
Speaker 1: see that she peede?
Speaker 2: I didn't see that part.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. I mean I feel so bad
Speaker 3: for it.
Speaker 1: But again, I think that women know, especially ones that
Speaker 1: have had babies vaginally, that it's very common when you're laughing,
Speaker 1: when you know all the things to accidentally pee, but
Speaker 1: that would be I'd be mortified.
Speaker 2: Guys don't have to worry about that.
Speaker 3: No, they don't.
Speaker 1: They definitely do not and well mostly not paying on themselves.
Speaker 5: I do.
Speaker 1: I remember that having this conversation oddly enough with Mike
Speaker 1: and Kayden about football and peeing on themselves. Oh, because
Speaker 1: I thought about it one day and I happened to
Speaker 1: be with Mike for some reason and Cayden, and I
Speaker 1: was like, what happens if you're like on the football
Speaker 1: field and you have to.
Speaker 4: Pee themselves pee themselves?
Speaker 1: I just don't think I could do that. I mean,
Speaker 1: if you have no choice, uh huh. And I don't
Speaker 1: know if it's like a lot of pe or if
Speaker 1: you just kind of like yeah, I mean, Kate, I
Speaker 1: guess he hasn't done it often, but it has happened.
Speaker 2: Couldn't you do that though?
Speaker 4: I mean, I get it if you're like a man,
Speaker 4: like you're out there and like playing football like that
Speaker 4: makes sense to me. But I don't know if I
Speaker 4: could ever just pee on myself.
Speaker 1: It has happened to me once. Speaking of TMI, I
Speaker 1: told you this story. I was in the school line,
Speaker 1: stuck in the car. You didn't have like a water
Speaker 1: bottle in your car. I had drank a tea, a
Speaker 1: loaded tea in those things make me have to pee
Speaker 1: so bad, And I was like, I can hold it.
Speaker 1: I can hold it, but you know, it gets really painful,
Speaker 1: like really painful when you have to hold your pee
Speaker 1: for so long.
Speaker 2: True, and it's also really not good for your block.
Speaker 3: I have never felt pain like this.
Speaker 1: And so I'm sitting here and I'm like, my house
Speaker 1: is across the street, you know, So I'm like, I
Speaker 1: could leave the car and I could run home. But
Speaker 1: the problem is exactly But the problem is I've waited
Speaker 1: so long. The cars are going to be moving soon,
Speaker 1: so I don't think I can make it there and
Speaker 1: make it back and my car will then we'll just
Speaker 1: be sitting there in the middle, right, And I eventually
Speaker 1: I actually peed on myself in the car, like you
Speaker 1: fully really.
Speaker 6: Not well yeah, nothing like now no nothing, no.
Speaker 1: Gatory bottle man me got in the car and I
Speaker 1: was like, sugguess what.
Speaker 5: Oh, she's gonna kill me for telling the story. She
Speaker 5: was mortified.
Speaker 1: Oh, I had no choice. It hurts so bad. So
Speaker 1: having said that, no, until I'm in a situation where.
Speaker 2: I that's funny, no choice?
Speaker 1: Yeah wow, yeah, so there's that too. I mean I'd
Speaker 1: like to think if I'm playing football that I would
Speaker 1: be able to hold it. But hey, I mean I
Speaker 1: think you get to a point.
Speaker 3: Sometimes where yeah. So yeah, that's my story that wow.
Speaker 2: Wow, Wow, that's amazing.
Speaker 4: I have a lot of questions. Skip on through.
Speaker 3: Sorry, next headline.
Speaker 2: Yeah she it.
Speaker 4: I mean I've had those moments where I want to
Speaker 4: do so bad and you get out of the car.
Speaker 4: You're like, I can't stand up straight to wak yeah
Speaker 4: to the bathroom.
Speaker 3: I was so close. Yep, just it happened.
Speaker 2: Wow. Yeah, that's great.
Speaker 5: Maybe we'll cut that later.
Speaker 2: No, it's great. It's so good. It makes it because
Speaker 2: for all the other car line peers.
Speaker 5: You know what I'm talking about. You have to get in.
Speaker 1: There early or you don't get a good spot. So
Speaker 1: you're there for forty five minutes.
Speaker 2: Right, so you know they can relate. Yeah, it's good.
Speaker 1: Bring a bowl, bring well, a water bottle wouldn't work
Speaker 1: for us.
Speaker 4: I mean I think depending on what type of water bottle. Anyways, Okay.
Speaker 4: Jamie Lee Curtis says she's been self retiring for thirty
Speaker 4: years and prepping to get out of Hollywood. So she
Speaker 4: witnessed my parents lose the very thing that gave them
Speaker 4: their fame and their life and their livelihood when the
Speaker 4: industry rejected them at a certain age. I watched them
Speaker 4: reach incredible success and then have it slowly erode to
Speaker 4: where it was gone. And that's very painful, she says.
Speaker 4: I've been prepping to get out so that I don't
Speaker 4: have to suffer the same as my family did. I
Speaker 4: want to leave the party before I'm no longer invited.
Speaker 4: Have I thought thoughts starter? Have you thought about how
Speaker 4: you want would want to interacting career to end? Have
Speaker 4: you felt a shift in the industry as you've gotten older?
Speaker 4: How in would you like to retire from Hollywood? Are
Speaker 4: the goals to accomplished for a stoption day?
Speaker 1: I mean, essentially, as she's saying, she doesn't want to
Speaker 1: keep going for roles and not getting them, so she
Speaker 1: doesn't want to feel with that rejection.
Speaker 3: Yeah, essentially, she wants to get out.
Speaker 4: I feel like there's so many good roles, though they're
Speaker 4: far and few between, sure, but the older characters, and
Speaker 4: I think it comes in waves, like I think a
Speaker 4: lot of people at times want teen shows.
Speaker 2: Those become a big success.
Speaker 4: A lot of times people want the like mid forties,
Speaker 4: and then it's I do believe, I mean again very
Speaker 4: far in few between, but I think there are there
Speaker 4: will always be roles for her. That's the thing, Like
Speaker 4: she's amazing. When I look at myself, I'm like, all right,
Speaker 4: I know the roles in which I'll take will be different,
Speaker 4: but I still want to believe that it'll be there
Speaker 4: for me if I want it to be right, and
Speaker 4: it'll be a choice. Like for example, Kelsey Grammar is
Speaker 4: what's seventy years old. People like him they want to
Speaker 4: still act, but they don't have to still act, and
Speaker 4: they're still getting offers for things. Sure, you know, so
Speaker 4: I think, I know, I think I have got a
Speaker 4: good like ten years and then from there it's do
Speaker 4: I want to do? And honestly I want it to
Speaker 4: shift anyways, Like once my kids are older, I'd love
Speaker 4: to go into directing.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that's cool.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so that's where and then making movies like that's
Speaker 4: kind of where my passion is. Maybe going to veer
Speaker 4: too and then still do things, you know, But I
Speaker 4: gotta get on a show before I retire.
Speaker 2: So if I'm eighty, I'm getting on a damn.
Speaker 5: Show, still going for that show.
Speaker 4: I'm still gonna go for that TV show. I will
Speaker 4: become a series regular again.
Speaker 3: Absolutely.
Speaker 2: It might take me till i'm eighty, but I'm.
Speaker 1: That'd be kind of fun, though, to be a series
Speaker 1: regular as an eighty year old.
Speaker 2: I really want to know your thoughts about this.
Speaker 4: Dak Shepherd says his kids are allowed to swear when
Speaker 4: it's called for and only in their house. He says,
Speaker 4: I fully swear in front of my kids. They are
Speaker 4: allowed to swear, not with impunity, but when it's called
Speaker 4: for it and they land it, and it's in the
Speaker 4: house and not out at a restaurant, it's okay.
Speaker 2: What he said.
Speaker 4: So what are your thoughts? Because I know you don't
Speaker 4: swear around your kids, but I feel like you know
Speaker 4: them lately.
Speaker 1: I do know.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so you were a big no no, or is
Speaker 4: a big no no because you would silence my voice memos.
Speaker 1: Yep, I still might silence them for other reasons. I'm
Speaker 1: just kidding. When they were younger, I didn't cut in
Speaker 1: front of them at all. As they've gotten older, I've
Speaker 1: started to I try not to in front of Ramsey,
Speaker 1: but it'll come out sometimes in front of the other kids.
Speaker 1: Do I allow them to just cuss? No, I will
Speaker 1: say the Literally. Yesterday in the car, it was just me, Nick, Kayden,
Speaker 1: and Emmy, which doesn't happen often, and Kayden was telling
Speaker 1: us a story and he, you know, said a few
Speaker 1: words repeating someone. It wasn't even like out of me,
Speaker 1: It wasn't. It was just repeating and he does it
Speaker 1: even kind of quietly, but like, I don't really care.
Speaker 1: I remember the first time Kayden said a cuss word
Speaker 1: in front of me, like as like a sixteen year old. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, wow, like you just you know,
Speaker 1: like I was just surprised.
Speaker 3: But no, I mean we don't.
Speaker 4: We don't though, Yeah, I think you'd actually be surprised
Speaker 4: that I don't like to swear in front of my kids.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, well I think when you did, they
Speaker 1: were so young and now it's you see how easy
Speaker 1: it would be for them to just repeat it.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Same like I remember when Jace if this is probably
Speaker 4: like a year or two ago, but he did say
Speaker 4: it in the right.
Speaker 2: Context, yes, shy, And I was like, well, I mean,
Speaker 2: if they've used it in the right.
Speaker 4: Context, but buddy, we can't say that right, Like, I'm
Speaker 4: they're too young for them to say in my house
Speaker 4: when they're sixteen. I think I still don't like Even
Speaker 4: just the other day in the car, Alan had dropped
Speaker 4: a couple of F bombs. I was like, babe, yeah,
Speaker 4: it's like yeah, make me yeah now, So I I
Speaker 4: really don't like it. I really don't like the h
Speaker 4: at E word. So that's that's like one hundred percent
Speaker 4: off the table in the house. When they say that,
Speaker 4: I'm like, nope, nope, nope, we dislike like, that's just
Speaker 4: I just don't like it. I think it's just too harsh.
Speaker 4: I would would rather than say like damn it as
Speaker 4: a post, but it's still there. I don't want them swearing,
Speaker 4: So for me swearing swearing, I don't and I tell
Speaker 4: them why it's yeah, I don't like it, but obviously
Speaker 4: if they get older, but still I don't know.
Speaker 2: I just it's like a respect thing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, and I don't like the one time Kayden
Speaker 1: said it just out of I was like, oh, and
Speaker 1: he's never done it again. We really just don't. I
Speaker 1: don't know that I've ever said the F word in
Speaker 1: front of them. Yeah, there's certain words we definitely like
Speaker 1: gd's off off table.
Speaker 3: The F word. I would, I would, I would be
Speaker 3: really mad.
Speaker 4: I drop shit when it's like I've I've dropped something
Speaker 4: and I don't meet, I'm like shit, and then I'm
Speaker 4: like sorry.
Speaker 3: You know, we say the.
Speaker 1: D word, I feel like a lot damn it, damn it.
Speaker 1: I feel like that comes out a lot.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's nearly my.
Speaker 1: Like instead of like a oh shit, it'll be more
Speaker 1: like damn it, yeah or whatever. But no, I mean
Speaker 1: we generally don't. I don't think though, Like I'm not against.
Speaker 1: I don't know their ages. I don't know the ages
Speaker 1: of their kids. I think if taught properly, they'll probably
Speaker 1: have pretty good mouths outside of you know. I do
Speaker 1: think I can remember I was not allowed to say
Speaker 1: anything like at all, and then, you know, fifth sixth grade,
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, it's so cool to cuss that
Speaker 1: cost all the time outside of the home. So I
Speaker 1: think that there can be a happy medium.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And I think in their house, like they're so
Speaker 4: they talk about a lot of feelings stuff like that,
Speaker 4: I think they're handling it, yeah, how they want to
Speaker 4: handle in their house and that's.
Speaker 1: And as long as they know like not to say
Speaker 1: it outside of the home, I think that that can
Speaker 1: work exactly.
Speaker 4: Hey, ladies, I'm currently in my second marriage. My husband
Speaker 4: is kind, emotionally available, and would communicate way better than
Speaker 4: I've ever than I ever did in my first marriage.
Speaker 4: That said, I still struggle sometimes with fully trusting that
Speaker 4: things will last. My first marriage ended badly with infidelity,
Speaker 4: emotional distance, the works, and even though I know my
Speaker 4: new husband is different, I find myself bracing for something
Speaker 4: to go wrong. I hate that I carry that baggage
Speaker 4: into what is but by all accounts, a healthy relationship.
Speaker 4: How do I stop letting my past sabotage what I
Speaker 4: have now? Is it normal to still feel guarded even
Speaker 4: when you know you found a good person?
Speaker 2: I mean, I.
Speaker 4: Think it's incredibly normal to feel that. Having said that,
Speaker 4: I feel like if he's showing you a different version,
Speaker 4: you have to try to separate what was your last
Speaker 4: marriage to this marriage.
Speaker 1: Do you ever feel that way even though you know
Speaker 1: deep down.
Speaker 4: That I literally trust Alan? Did you get the email
Speaker 4: about bumble? Someone send you an email? Someone DM me
Speaker 4: and goes someone's impersonating. Remember how there was this thing
Speaker 4: going around being like, oh, Alan is on a dating app,
Speaker 4: and Alan and I were like joking about it, okay,
Speaker 4: like it's hilarious, But I wouldn't even look into that.
Speaker 4: Now in past years past, sure, I would have one
Speaker 4: thousand percent and looked into it. I mean, like he
Speaker 4: what I think we caught him at one time or something,
Speaker 4: Remember was something that was on his computer that you
Speaker 4: found or like Jana, yeah, oh yeah, yeah, no.
Speaker 3: No no, I was like, are we ignoring this?
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, no, no, no no.
Speaker 4: And so since someone was like, yeah, there's a fake
Speaker 4: bumble account going around and they're using his picture, They're like,
Speaker 4: I've emailed the takat, but it's like I don't even like,
Speaker 4: there's no piece of me that's like, Kat, did you
Speaker 4: get the email?
Speaker 1: Oh I don't think I got this email, but I'm
Speaker 1: going to go look for it.
Speaker 4: But either way, like I there's not a piece of
Speaker 4: me that's yeah, like if it was to fall apart,
Speaker 4: I mean, it would obviously be devastating, but I I
Speaker 4: just know that this is so different than my last
Speaker 4: one that I don't want to put any of that.
Speaker 4: Like I have stressed my cortisol levels out to the max,
Speaker 4: Like I I know what I have in front of me,
Speaker 4: and I know we have, you know, our own set
Speaker 4: of you know, challenges right like every other marriage, but
Speaker 4: that I've got a partner that is willing to be respectful,
Speaker 4: loving and isn't going to walk away, Like obviously that's
Speaker 4: his choice if he ever chooses one day. But it's again,
Speaker 4: it's not something that I'm fearful of. Yeah, and again
Speaker 4: I trust him, and so I don't. I think when
Speaker 4: we started dating in the beginning, sure that was a fear,
Speaker 4: but then just going to what is my big thing
Speaker 4: was what is in front of me right now?
Speaker 2: What is the truth today? Not the past you know,
Speaker 2: years ago.
Speaker 1: So so you don't even though you trust him, and
Speaker 1: like with what this person is saying, do you ever
Speaker 1: have a hard time though, just believing that it's gonna
Speaker 1: last because things haven't lasted before.
Speaker 4: Well, they haven't lasted because they weren't real, right, they
Speaker 4: weren't honest, they weren't respectful. We have everything to last, right, right,
Speaker 4: So I didn't have anything to hold on to in
Speaker 4: my last marriages.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so that's why it's so different.
Speaker 4: So it's like hold on now, to what you know
Speaker 4: to be the truth of what you do have. Is
Speaker 4: their respect, is their love, is their care is there
Speaker 4: you know, do you guys.
Speaker 2: Stick it through through the conflict.
Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, so, And that's having faith in your relationship
Speaker 3: and not just looking at the things that have happened
Speaker 3: to you, the things that you have failed at, the
Speaker 3: things that like I'm saying, if she feels like she
Speaker 3: has failed at something before, and looking at the relationship
Speaker 3: and trusting that relationship not just this isn't gonna last
Speaker 3: because things haven't lasted before.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, well, of course things didn't last last time. Sure,
Speaker 4: what do you say? It was emotional distance and fidelity.
Speaker 4: Of course it didn't last. But if your marriage is healthy,
Speaker 4: respectful now, then it should last.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: And you should rest in that. That's the thing.
Speaker 4: It's like rest like have your heart rest in that
Speaker 4: you have something so different, like what a blessing? The
Speaker 4: amount of times I've repeated past why things didn't last
Speaker 4: past last night? That's good advice. Yeah, yeah, thanks, it's good. Well,
Speaker 4: we'll see you next week, all right, even when the
Speaker 4: kids are in school.
Speaker 2: Bye bye.