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Speaker 1: This is Teddy Tea Pod with Hey guys, welcome back

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Speaker 1: to this week's Teddy Tea Pod. I am on with

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Speaker 1: my best deed Matt. I'm so happy he is going

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Speaker 1: to co host with me today because I am officially

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Speaker 1: a hot mess express like new Poor Matt has been

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Speaker 1: getting text for me since like four in the morning.

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Speaker 1: How do you feeling this morning, Matt? Thankfully? This is

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Speaker 1: just audio, I mean, okay, So just to give you

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Speaker 1: guys a little backstory if you don't know, I opened

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Speaker 1: up my Instagram yesterday and just said, I'm going to

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Speaker 1: do this week's Teddy Tea Pod and I'm going to

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Speaker 1: answer your questions, the good, the bad, and the ugly.

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Speaker 1: Submit them all. Let's do this. I'm going to answer everything.

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Speaker 1: And I was so excited to do it, not necessarily

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Speaker 1: realizing what ally was going to come out. Because the

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Speaker 1: show actually aired, You guys are gonna be listening to

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Speaker 1: this on Monday, but we recorded it on Thursday. So

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Speaker 1: um we are day after Real Housewives aired, and I

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Speaker 1: woke up at one o'clock last night in the morning,

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Speaker 1: looked at my Instagram and I probably had I don't know,

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Speaker 1: over a hundred comments like wishing me dead, wishing harm

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Speaker 1: on my kids, Like it's just unreal, which is why,

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Speaker 1: you know, I had the choice of not saying anything,

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Speaker 1: um because people are always going, oh, you know, don't

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Speaker 1: let the haters get to you, don't don't let the

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Speaker 1: trolls get to you. That feeds the trolls. But I

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Speaker 1: was like, that's not who I am. I'm not gonna

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Speaker 1: do that. I'm gonna actually say that this is not right.

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Speaker 1: I people don't have to like me, people don't have

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Speaker 1: to agree with me, but I am on a TV

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Speaker 1: show that is revolved around drama, and people that don't

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Speaker 1: understand that is it's a little crazy to me. And

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Speaker 1: I don't mind if people want to comment on my

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Speaker 1: behavior or any of those types of things. But Death's

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Speaker 1: taking it a little far. Yeah, when you text me

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Speaker 1: that's it's crazy. Like As an avid housewife fan, as

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Speaker 1: you know, since before you even wear a housewife, I

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Speaker 1: know you and you are able to take criticism. I

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Speaker 1: criticize you all the time, well, everyone does. To the

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Speaker 1: level that some of these people take it is just

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Speaker 1: out of control. And I don't know necessarily what you

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Speaker 1: can do to get a handle handle on it, you know,

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Speaker 1: but to someone to to write to you on your

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Speaker 1: social media and tell you that, like your kids getting

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Speaker 1: hurt is karma is just the most disgusting, vile thing

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Speaker 1: and something has to be done about it. Like people, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean I think you know, I know, I watched

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Speaker 1: TV for an entertainment value, and it's normal to have

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Speaker 1: your favorite, whether it's a scripted show or not scripted show.

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Speaker 1: You have your favorites, you have your ones. You can't

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Speaker 1: stand whatever it is. And I get that, and that's

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Speaker 1: the point of an escape and watching a show. But

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Speaker 1: wanting to harm people or wanting people to harm themselves

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Speaker 1: is really a place where you're just like what's going

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Speaker 1: on in this world? Where you know, I appreciate when

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Speaker 1: because then I'm like, oh great, let's I'm loving this.

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Speaker 1: I have this escape right now. I'm not then going

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Speaker 1: on their instagrams, like I'm not going after the Real

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Speaker 1: Housewives of Potomacs, the ones that I'm like, not liking

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Speaker 1: what they're doing right now, telling them I hope that

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Speaker 1: they die. I mean, it's just crazy. It's honestly, it's insane,

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Speaker 1: But that you know, you can't let it bother you.

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Speaker 1: It's just words from faithless dog profile people, and let

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Speaker 1: it rull off. I know, I know. Well, speaking of

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Speaker 1: where where do we start with the questions? Well, you know,

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Speaker 1: why don't we save the housewife chatter for a little

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Speaker 1: later and get into like some family questions because you know,

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Speaker 1: your three children each have gone through something and people

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Speaker 1: are very interested to know how they're all doing. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so you know, fill us in. We got a lot

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Speaker 1: of questions about your kids. Okay. So, um Slate and

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Speaker 1: And then when I was in the hospital with Dove,

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Speaker 1: So you know, there's there's good parts and bad parts

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Speaker 1: But we'll have to say, did you deal with any

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Speaker 1: So you've got questions, um, like specific things like what

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Speaker 1: gonna really love this part, Matt. But like get the

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Speaker 1: rest of the juices out. But no other than that,

425
00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:56,200
Speaker 1: I didn't. I wore compression panties like after week two

426
00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:59,360
Speaker 1: with baby Dov. But no, I'm not a waste trainer gap.

427
00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:02,720
Speaker 1: So you don't have any kind of you know, any

428
00:24:02,800 --> 00:24:05,960
Speaker 1: gimmicks or any like tools or anything. You're just it's

429
00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:10,439
Speaker 1: just fitness, work out and eat cleanly. That's it. That's it.

430
00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:12,440
Speaker 1: Try to get it. I mean as a mom, it's hard,

431
00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:15,439
Speaker 1: but try to get as much sleep as you can. Um,

432
00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:19,240
Speaker 1: that's not my best my best thing, but you know

433
00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:22,440
Speaker 1: that definitely does help. What about the thime Master that's

434
00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:26,080
Speaker 1: making a comeback? It is? Why haven't you sent it

435
00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:31,960
Speaker 1: to me? I would do a thime Master video, all right,

436
00:24:32,840 --> 00:24:36,040
Speaker 1: I'll get you on to write an Amazon Uh. One

437
00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:38,480
Speaker 1: less thing to be more serious about this topic is

438
00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:41,240
Speaker 1: a lot of people ask questions about this because you've

439
00:24:41,280 --> 00:24:44,200
Speaker 1: been very open about it, which is great, but they

440
00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:49,240
Speaker 1: want advice for young girls who are struggling with body

441
00:24:49,280 --> 00:24:52,800
Speaker 1: image issues. Well, I think a big thing that we're

442
00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:57,159
Speaker 1: seeing right now is on social media, you're looking at

443
00:24:57,200 --> 00:25:00,520
Speaker 1: people that do not exist. You're looking at bodies that

444
00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:02,919
Speaker 1: do not exist. You know, when I was younger, I

445
00:25:02,960 --> 00:25:05,399
Speaker 1: had my own body issues and I wasn't even dealing

446
00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:08,200
Speaker 1: with in the world of social media when it comes

447
00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:13,480
Speaker 1: to face tune and s curve surgeries and who knows

448
00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:16,720
Speaker 1: what else everybody is doing. So I think the biggest

449
00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:20,120
Speaker 1: thing to remember as a young girl is like social

450
00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:25,000
Speaker 1: media is a highlight of something that most likely isn't

451
00:25:25,040 --> 00:25:28,000
Speaker 1: real life. So try not to compare yourself to others

452
00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:30,560
Speaker 1: and especially those that you look up to on social

453
00:25:30,600 --> 00:25:35,000
Speaker 1: media because half the time, you know, it's it's filtered,

454
00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:37,560
Speaker 1: it's air brushed all you know, all magazine covers all

455
00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:40,479
Speaker 1: of that stuff, it's all airbrushed. It's all you know

456
00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:43,600
Speaker 1: nine times out of ten. Um. And the other thing

457
00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:48,200
Speaker 1: is like, try to find somebody that you're comfortable sharing

458
00:25:48,240 --> 00:25:52,520
Speaker 1: what's going on with you. There's so many resources. Um,

459
00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:56,400
Speaker 1: there's easier ways now to get help. UM, you can

460
00:25:56,400 --> 00:26:01,359
Speaker 1: do it online their support groups. UM. And I think

461
00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:04,600
Speaker 1: the biggest thing that we, you know, always want to

462
00:26:04,600 --> 00:26:07,040
Speaker 1: do when it comes to body images, like we want

463
00:26:07,040 --> 00:26:09,960
Speaker 1: to put shame on ourselves and we want to you know,

464
00:26:10,040 --> 00:26:13,679
Speaker 1: add this extra guilt. There's nothing to be ashamed about.

465
00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:16,600
Speaker 1: So if if you're in a room full of twenty

466
00:26:16,640 --> 00:26:20,040
Speaker 1: people and you ask how many of you have dealt with,

467
00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:23,920
Speaker 1: you know, body image issues, most people will raise their hands,

468
00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:28,560
Speaker 1: you know, So it's something yeah, I mean yeah, men

469
00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:31,240
Speaker 1: and men as well. So I think, you know, really

470
00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:35,600
Speaker 1: just finding somebody that you feel safe and comfortable talking to. UM.

471
00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:38,000
Speaker 1: And if you're starting to see that you're going down

472
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:44,240
Speaker 1: patterns that aren't healthy, UM, you know, don't wait, try

473
00:26:44,280 --> 00:26:46,800
Speaker 1: to take action immediately to get help. Whether it's talking

474
00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:51,240
Speaker 1: to your mother, your father, a friend, a guidance counselor,

475
00:26:51,320 --> 00:26:53,199
Speaker 1: and they can put you in touch with somebody that

476
00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:56,320
Speaker 1: can help you before you go deeper and deeper into

477
00:26:56,320 --> 00:27:00,919
Speaker 1: the path. That's good advice. I think with people like

478
00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:05,440
Speaker 1: Lizzo and you know, it's helpful that we have role

479
00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:11,960
Speaker 1: models now that aren't standard cookie cutter. Yeah. I mean,

480
00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:14,760
Speaker 1: I think the biggest thing is whatever is going to

481
00:27:14,840 --> 00:27:17,879
Speaker 1: make you feel your best wherever you feel comfortable in

482
00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:21,720
Speaker 1: your own skin, whether it's you are, you know, whatever

483
00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:26,280
Speaker 1: side of you know. You know, there's people that get

484
00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:28,960
Speaker 1: bullied because they're too thin and they were naturally done,

485
00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:31,399
Speaker 1: and there's people that were you know, whatever it may be,

486
00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:34,639
Speaker 1: there's always some You're not going to be perfect in

487
00:27:34,680 --> 00:27:37,960
Speaker 1: anybody's eyes, and you know, as a kid, you start

488
00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:41,199
Speaker 1: to want, you know, to be something that's it's just

489
00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:43,800
Speaker 1: not reasonable. And I think the biggest thing we all

490
00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:45,800
Speaker 1: want and that we all work on is just being

491
00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:50,200
Speaker 1: comfortable in our own skin wherever we are. Yeah, that's great,

492
00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:55,560
Speaker 1: great device, Matt. Before we get into our miscellaneous questions,

493
00:27:55,800 --> 00:28:08,520
Speaker 1: we have to take a little break. So the most

494
00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:13,159
Speaker 1: interesting one that came in was do you prefer to

495
00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:21,360
Speaker 1: wax or shave? Well? Excuse me, well, I um, I

496
00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:24,840
Speaker 1: used to be more of a waxing gal, but since

497
00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 1: the pandemic, shaving has been the new normal, and you

498
00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:32,080
Speaker 1: know what, I'm getting used to it. I'm good, but

499
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:34,800
Speaker 1: at some point in time I will probably laser to

500
00:28:34,840 --> 00:28:44,160
Speaker 1: be perfectly honest. But um, lasoring lasering, where are you saying? Okay? Well,

501
00:28:44,240 --> 00:28:47,080
Speaker 1: I mean you also grow hair, on your armpits and

502
00:28:47,080 --> 00:28:51,560
Speaker 1: your upper lip. What you're saying, I have a mustache?

503
00:28:51,600 --> 00:28:53,920
Speaker 1: What can you see it through the zoom right now?

504
00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 1: What are you trying to say? No, I don't shave

505
00:28:57,120 --> 00:29:05,560
Speaker 1: my mustache, Matt, I ner it. Your listeners want to know, okay, um,

506
00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:08,480
Speaker 1: And then you have a lot of people question I'm

507
00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:10,600
Speaker 1: sure you you've talked about it before, but a lot

508
00:29:10,600 --> 00:29:14,240
Speaker 1: of people want to know growing up with a famous father?

509
00:29:15,680 --> 00:29:20,000
Speaker 1: What was that? Like? You know, I never really and

510
00:29:20,040 --> 00:29:22,160
Speaker 1: it sounds like such a cop out answer, but I

511
00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:26,160
Speaker 1: really didn't know the magnitude of it growing up in

512
00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:30,240
Speaker 1: South Carolina. Like occasionally if you'd come to a volleyball came,

513
00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:32,760
Speaker 1: I'd see like one of the parents like whispering or

514
00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:34,840
Speaker 1: you know, whatever it may be. But it was never

515
00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:39,440
Speaker 1: really a big deal. Um. I think when people figured out,

516
00:29:39,560 --> 00:29:41,360
Speaker 1: like in the fifth grade, like I think you had

517
00:29:41,360 --> 00:29:43,400
Speaker 1: a really big hit out when I was in the

518
00:29:43,400 --> 00:29:45,680
Speaker 1: fifth grade that all of my friends like hurd on

519
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:49,440
Speaker 1: the radio. Um. I mean, I probably not the best

520
00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:51,800
Speaker 1: story to share, but everyone's like, your dad sings blah

521
00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:53,680
Speaker 1: blah blah. Your dad sings blah blah blah. And I'm

522
00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:59,440
Speaker 1: like I was adopted. I don't know why I said it,

523
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:02,960
Speaker 1: and they were like, well, why do you look exactly

524
00:30:03,040 --> 00:30:05,320
Speaker 1: like him then? And I was like, I don't know,

525
00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:07,560
Speaker 1: that's up to you. You know, like I really kind

526
00:30:07,600 --> 00:30:11,680
Speaker 1: of always I never I never thought it was any

527
00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:15,840
Speaker 1: different than you know, Brooks dad, who was the headmaster Christians,

528
00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:18,280
Speaker 1: you know whatever. It was like, I just really thought

529
00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:21,400
Speaker 1: of it like a job, his job. And it wasn't

530
00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:25,000
Speaker 1: until I came to California and I worked at CIA

531
00:30:25,440 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 1: and I worked for one of the heads of the

532
00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:32,040
Speaker 1: lift department is a huge agency. Oh yeah, cia' is

533
00:30:32,040 --> 00:30:34,160
Speaker 1: the talent agency and I was his assistant. I sat

534
00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:36,920
Speaker 1: in his office with him and I was like totally green.

535
00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:39,480
Speaker 1: I had no idea what I was doing. And he's like, Teddy,

536
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:42,040
Speaker 1: I need reservations up you know whatever was Mr chow

537
00:30:42,160 --> 00:30:45,240
Speaker 1: At blah blah blah. And I couldn't get the reservation.

538
00:30:45,880 --> 00:30:48,720
Speaker 1: And I was like, hey, I I I'm sorry. I

539
00:30:48,760 --> 00:30:51,080
Speaker 1: couldn't get the reservation. I guess I called too late.

540
00:30:51,360 --> 00:30:54,600
Speaker 1: And he's like, well did you use your name? And

541
00:30:54,680 --> 00:30:57,680
Speaker 1: I was like huh And he's like, well drop your

542
00:30:57,760 --> 00:30:58,880
Speaker 1: name and see if you can get me in his

543
00:30:59,000 --> 00:31:04,280
Speaker 1: that and that was like a complete like what because

544
00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:07,360
Speaker 1: nobody That's not how it was growing up, you know,

545
00:31:07,840 --> 00:31:10,120
Speaker 1: not to be the cliche growing up in a small town.

546
00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:15,040
Speaker 1: But uh yeah, I mean that was kind of my

547
00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:19,040
Speaker 1: first like wake up call is like, oh, this is

548
00:31:19,480 --> 00:31:23,720
Speaker 1: a little different. That's interesting. Your your father will be

549
00:31:23,720 --> 00:31:25,280
Speaker 1: happy to know. He gave us one of the greatest

550
00:31:25,320 --> 00:31:28,600
Speaker 1: gifts music. Oh I thought you were gonna say, one

551
00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:32,160
Speaker 1: of the greatest gifts ever his daughter Teddy. No, you know,

552
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:36,240
Speaker 1: I'm more of a Justice fan. Those that don't know,

553
00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:40,280
Speaker 1: Justice is my sister, and Matt always talks about how

554
00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:45,400
Speaker 1: she's the cuter one, she's the funnier one. She loves Justice.

555
00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:49,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, you're supposed my best friend. Not true, but no,

556
00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:52,400
Speaker 1: I think the sample for Jessica Simptons. I think I'm

557
00:31:52,440 --> 00:31:56,320
Speaker 1: in love. Oh, he would be the rell to know.

558
00:31:58,240 --> 00:32:02,080
Speaker 1: It's just an f y. I jam all right, this

559
00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:03,920
Speaker 1: is the moment we've all been waiting for. We're gonna

560
00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:08,880
Speaker 1: transfer ourselves into a mindset of the Real Housewives of

561
00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:14,120
Speaker 1: Beverly Hills. You're so excited to speak on it. Um,

562
00:32:14,200 --> 00:32:18,040
Speaker 1: you know, it's let's just say, it's been a tough

563
00:32:18,080 --> 00:32:21,320
Speaker 1: season for you. Yeah, I mean it's been a tough

564
00:32:21,360 --> 00:32:27,720
Speaker 1: two seasons. Yes, which season do you feel has been harder?

565
00:32:28,680 --> 00:32:33,120
Speaker 1: Puppy Gate nine or whatever we're calling ten. I know

566
00:32:33,200 --> 00:32:35,880
Speaker 1: it sounds so crazy, but the hardest season for me

567
00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:39,360
Speaker 1: was my first season. Even though it was the best

568
00:32:39,760 --> 00:32:43,960
Speaker 1: with the fans, they loved me, they embraced me, like

569
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:48,640
Speaker 1: it was like, wow, this is so wonderful. Um, But

570
00:32:48,840 --> 00:32:52,840
Speaker 1: living it was very hard because I didn't know anybody.

571
00:32:52,880 --> 00:32:58,520
Speaker 1: I wasn't comfortable, um and I just I felt like

572
00:32:58,600 --> 00:33:01,320
Speaker 1: I was like having to I don't know. The dynamics

573
00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:03,960
Speaker 1: just wasn't the same as it is now. And even

574
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:06,200
Speaker 1: though yes, there was some hell in nine and there's

575
00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:09,240
Speaker 1: been a lot of hell intent, there are some friendships

576
00:33:09,280 --> 00:33:12,840
Speaker 1: that I truly love now and there's you know, a

577
00:33:12,920 --> 00:33:16,760
Speaker 1: real trust and a real bond and I've really learned

578
00:33:16,760 --> 00:33:19,640
Speaker 1: a lot. I've you know, regardless of what you can

579
00:33:19,640 --> 00:33:22,280
Speaker 1: can say about all of us is it's a group

580
00:33:22,320 --> 00:33:26,320
Speaker 1: of strong women that work hard, and you know, I'm

581
00:33:26,360 --> 00:33:31,280
Speaker 1: really grateful to them. So you know it, there's you know,

582
00:33:31,400 --> 00:33:34,240
Speaker 1: hard stuff and and whatnot. But I do have some real,

583
00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:36,680
Speaker 1: true friendships that I you know, I couldn't imagine my

584
00:33:36,720 --> 00:33:39,440
Speaker 1: life without. Yeah, A lot of people were asking about

585
00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:42,880
Speaker 1: your and Kyle's friendship, which has been a matter of

586
00:33:42,920 --> 00:33:47,360
Speaker 1: contention on this season. Um, and they just want to know,

587
00:33:47,440 --> 00:33:49,960
Speaker 1: you know, you really are friends who were life. Yes,

588
00:33:50,040 --> 00:33:52,200
Speaker 1: what's it like? What? What what is your friendship like

589
00:33:52,280 --> 00:33:54,760
Speaker 1: with Kyle in real life? I mean, I think the

590
00:33:54,800 --> 00:33:57,920
Speaker 1: best thing about my friendship with Kyle for me And

591
00:33:57,960 --> 00:33:59,960
Speaker 1: I know this is gonna sound a little bit weird,

592
00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:03,040
Speaker 1: but like it's easy. You know how some friendships it

593
00:34:03,080 --> 00:34:06,160
Speaker 1: feels like it's work. It's not like that. With her.

594
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:10,600
Speaker 1: We effortlessly are having fun. We're laughing, we're joking. Our

595
00:34:10,680 --> 00:34:14,000
Speaker 1: families mesh well together, our kids like each other. We

596
00:34:14,080 --> 00:34:16,560
Speaker 1: enjoy doing the same things, going on the same type

597
00:34:16,600 --> 00:34:20,560
Speaker 1: of trips. Um. You know, often times we're like sending

598
00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:23,520
Speaker 1: each other the exact same meme at the same time.

599
00:34:23,560 --> 00:34:26,279
Speaker 1: You know, like our humor is similar, what we laugh

600
00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:28,439
Speaker 1: at shows, we like. So we just have a lot

601
00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:33,920
Speaker 1: in common. And um, yeah, so I really have a

602
00:34:33,920 --> 00:34:37,080
Speaker 1: great friendship with Kyle. And I think that that's really

603
00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:40,280
Speaker 1: what the women were talking about, is like they could

604
00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:43,680
Speaker 1: feel how strong our friendship was, and in this group

605
00:34:44,280 --> 00:34:49,440
Speaker 1: that can be scary. Yeah, I mean, what we know,

606
00:34:49,600 --> 00:34:53,840
Speaker 1: I feel about that. People, How can you feel about that? Matt,

607
00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:58,160
Speaker 1: It's just it's just strange. It was a strange I

608
00:34:58,200 --> 00:35:01,279
Speaker 1: don't know. I will tell you I believe that how

609
00:35:01,680 --> 00:35:05,360
Speaker 1: things have played out with you or how you acted

610
00:35:05,400 --> 00:35:07,880
Speaker 1: if I feel like you didn't do something properly. But

611
00:35:08,040 --> 00:35:10,400
Speaker 1: that was a strange term thing. And I've been around

612
00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:13,680
Speaker 1: you entire before and it's so weird. Do you guys

613
00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:16,120
Speaker 1: just have a nice, genuine friendship. I don't understand why

614
00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:20,600
Speaker 1: it's an issue. I am not aerial. I don't want

615
00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:23,040
Speaker 1: to be part of your world in that aspect anyway.

616
00:35:24,640 --> 00:35:27,399
Speaker 1: But people are asking, you know, they are asking about

617
00:35:27,400 --> 00:35:32,640
Speaker 1: other castmates, and they want to know if you pow

618
00:35:32,640 --> 00:35:43,040
Speaker 1: are you and Camille? Camille? No, No, all right, we're

619
00:35:43,040 --> 00:35:47,040
Speaker 1: moving on. We're not. We don't talk, but I'm still

620
00:35:47,080 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 1: have plenty to say about me every week on Twitter, Yes,

621
00:35:51,120 --> 00:35:55,400
Speaker 1: uh Twitter. Um. And they also were asking, of course

622
00:35:56,520 --> 00:36:01,160
Speaker 1: about Lisa ander Pump. You know, have you spoken to her?

623
00:36:01,239 --> 00:36:04,000
Speaker 1: Do you think that she was missed from the show?

624
00:36:05,120 --> 00:36:07,640
Speaker 1: Do you think it's changed for the better of the

625
00:36:07,680 --> 00:36:12,200
Speaker 1: worst since she left? UM? I had The last time

626
00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:17,000
Speaker 1: I saw her in person was at Denise's wedding Um.

627
00:36:17,200 --> 00:36:21,840
Speaker 1: She The last time we spoke, UM was because someone

628
00:36:21,880 --> 00:36:25,200
Speaker 1: in her life passed away and I sent her flowers, UM,

629
00:36:25,280 --> 00:36:30,560
Speaker 1: and she called to thank me. UM. And that is it. UM.

630
00:36:30,719 --> 00:36:36,200
Speaker 1: I didn't speak to her before joining Housewives, and you know,

631
00:36:36,280 --> 00:36:38,120
Speaker 1: I didn't know her prior, and we don't speak and

632
00:36:38,200 --> 00:36:40,239
Speaker 1: we don't we don't run in the same circles. I

633
00:36:40,239 --> 00:36:44,160
Speaker 1: don't bump into her. It's there's really no crossover. UM.

634
00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:46,080
Speaker 1: In regards to the show. Do I feel like there's

635
00:36:46,120 --> 00:36:50,120
Speaker 1: been a shift, Yes, in the fact that I feel

636
00:36:50,120 --> 00:36:51,960
Speaker 1: like a lot more people have let their guard down

637
00:36:52,000 --> 00:36:56,280
Speaker 1: and I've been able to see more of who everybody is. UM.

638
00:36:56,320 --> 00:36:58,239
Speaker 1: But you know, she was part of the show for

639
00:36:58,280 --> 00:37:03,719
Speaker 1: a long time. Yeah, UM. And then all the other

640
00:37:03,760 --> 00:37:06,319
Speaker 1: girls people. People said in a lot of questions, of course,

641
00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:08,359
Speaker 1: so we can't ask all the Beverly Hills questions. But

642
00:37:08,800 --> 00:37:12,799
Speaker 1: one of the questions that struck was are you afraid

643
00:37:12,880 --> 00:37:18,120
Speaker 1: of Erica? No? And I think, Um, I I've said

644
00:37:18,160 --> 00:37:20,440
Speaker 1: this like impressed before, but and I've said it to

645
00:37:20,480 --> 00:37:23,359
Speaker 1: you and you got actually really offended. But I said,

646
00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:27,280
Speaker 1: if I were to get arrested tomorrow, Erica would probably

647
00:37:27,280 --> 00:37:30,040
Speaker 1: be one of the people that I called um because

648
00:37:30,080 --> 00:37:32,240
Speaker 1: I really trust her and I don't think she would

649
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:34,640
Speaker 1: say you know, I think she would take care of

650
00:37:34,680 --> 00:37:38,440
Speaker 1: me in the situation. She is a very good person, Um,

651
00:37:38,520 --> 00:37:40,680
Speaker 1: and you don't need to get your feelings hurt. Matt,

652
00:37:40,800 --> 00:37:43,800
Speaker 1: you'd be like sixth on the list. Well, it's probably

653
00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:47,719
Speaker 1: wouldn't answer the call anyway, so you just wrot. But uh,

654
00:37:48,080 --> 00:37:51,359
Speaker 1: you know, I think the issues that people saw with

655
00:37:51,560 --> 00:37:54,359
Speaker 1: Erica and I season one was truly because we never

656
00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:56,640
Speaker 1: had a one on one We never got to know

657
00:37:56,719 --> 00:37:59,360
Speaker 1: one another. We were put in a situation that was

658
00:37:59,400 --> 00:38:03,759
Speaker 1: just kind of awkward encounterunters over and over again that

659
00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:07,240
Speaker 1: like we never got to actually hash through until the reunion.

660
00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:09,719
Speaker 1: And then once we had the reunion, we both had

661
00:38:09,760 --> 00:38:12,719
Speaker 1: like a big girl conversation and said, like, this is

662
00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:14,600
Speaker 1: what I did wrong. She said, this is what I

663
00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:17,319
Speaker 1: did wrong. Let's agree to move on, and we fully have.

664
00:38:17,680 --> 00:38:20,279
Speaker 1: And I think throughout these past two seasons you can

665
00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:22,760
Speaker 1: see the trust we started to form in one another

666
00:38:23,160 --> 00:38:27,000
Speaker 1: and the friendship that we have created because we both

667
00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:30,120
Speaker 1: really did move on. Yeah, And I think we even

668
00:38:30,200 --> 00:38:33,279
Speaker 1: saw that in the episode this past week's episode, and

669
00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:36,560
Speaker 1: you made a comment about it on Twitter. That you

670
00:38:36,600 --> 00:38:40,440
Speaker 1: know you're in Erica's friendship has really grown, and it's

671
00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:43,680
Speaker 1: something I feel, as Housewise fans we want. Andy has

672
00:38:43,719 --> 00:38:46,400
Speaker 1: even said he thinks that the shows are the best

673
00:38:46,480 --> 00:38:51,560
Speaker 1: when the girls actually genuine friendships and can play off

674
00:38:51,600 --> 00:38:53,719
Speaker 1: of that. So I think that that's a great thing

675
00:38:53,760 --> 00:38:56,879
Speaker 1: to continue to grow your friendship and become true, true

676
00:38:56,920 --> 00:38:59,480
Speaker 1: friends even off the show. And I agree. And I

677
00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:03,400
Speaker 1: also think that it shows how much things can shift

678
00:39:03,480 --> 00:39:07,200
Speaker 1: from year to year. You know, if you're willing to

679
00:39:07,280 --> 00:39:10,680
Speaker 1: be open and have those hard conversations. You know, a

680
00:39:10,719 --> 00:39:13,160
Speaker 1: lot of what we're struggling with this year is when

681
00:39:13,440 --> 00:39:15,759
Speaker 1: Denise will leave, or she'll walk away, or she'll want

682
00:39:15,760 --> 00:39:18,319
Speaker 1: to have a one sided conversation, and then we can't

683
00:39:18,360 --> 00:39:21,719
Speaker 1: move through it because only one side is being said,

684
00:39:21,760 --> 00:39:24,680
Speaker 1: and that's why it becomes, you know, like a domino effect.

685
00:39:25,360 --> 00:39:28,040
Speaker 1: But I think that when you can both you know,

686
00:39:28,160 --> 00:39:30,799
Speaker 1: admit you know, the things you said are the things

687
00:39:30,840 --> 00:39:33,879
Speaker 1: you've done, it can really help build friendships. And that's

688
00:39:33,880 --> 00:39:37,240
Speaker 1: why from year to year you see the friendships shift

689
00:39:37,440 --> 00:39:42,120
Speaker 1: on the show. Right. Well, since you brought up Denise,

690
00:39:42,360 --> 00:39:45,240
Speaker 1: I guess we should just go right into it, Okay,

691
00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:47,840
Speaker 1: as you are aware you've got a lot of questions

692
00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:52,520
Speaker 1: about this season's drama and everything that went down with niece,

693
00:39:53,080 --> 00:39:58,880
Speaker 1: and people want to know why you didn't tell Denise

694
00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:04,040
Speaker 1: off Why did you wait to tell her on camera? Okay, So,

695
00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:06,759
Speaker 1: the biggest thing about when you sign up to do

696
00:40:06,960 --> 00:40:10,440
Speaker 1: a reality show is you're never going to let any

697
00:40:10,560 --> 00:40:15,960
Speaker 1: drama play out behind the scenes. I learned my lesson

698
00:40:16,560 --> 00:40:19,400
Speaker 1: last year with the entire thing with Lisa vander Pump

699
00:40:19,680 --> 00:40:23,759
Speaker 1: and Derrite and the dog doing something off camera that

700
00:40:23,760 --> 00:40:26,000
Speaker 1: that really came back to bite me in the butt,

701
00:40:27,120 --> 00:40:31,520
Speaker 1: because as a somebody who signed up to show your life,

702
00:40:31,600 --> 00:40:34,520
Speaker 1: to show what's going on, you have to let the

703
00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:37,120
Speaker 1: things play out on camera. If not, you're going to

704
00:40:37,120 --> 00:40:40,719
Speaker 1: get screwed in the long run, no matter what. So

705
00:40:41,080 --> 00:40:44,520
Speaker 1: and once it was already out there on camera when

706
00:40:44,560 --> 00:40:49,239
Speaker 1: Brandy brought it up. When Brandy told us, if I

707
00:40:49,280 --> 00:40:53,759
Speaker 1: would have told her off camera, I would have been

708
00:40:54,600 --> 00:40:58,640
Speaker 1: been in a situation where I am doing something behind productions, back,

709
00:40:58,680 --> 00:41:01,240
Speaker 1: behind this back, and that would was even more drama.

710
00:41:02,080 --> 00:41:06,239
Speaker 1: So it's just, you know, I think it sucked that

711
00:41:06,320 --> 00:41:07,919
Speaker 1: I had to be the one that said it, But

712
00:41:08,719 --> 00:41:11,759
Speaker 1: would people have rather I never said anything and she

713
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:16,160
Speaker 1: was just blindsided once the show aired. At least this way,

714
00:41:16,200 --> 00:41:19,640
Speaker 1: she was able to get everything in order have the

715
00:41:19,680 --> 00:41:23,719
Speaker 1: conversation she needed to have and handle her life out

716
00:41:23,800 --> 00:41:27,719
Speaker 1: accordingly to what the information was given. But you know

717
00:41:28,239 --> 00:41:30,480
Speaker 1: that that's what we signed up for. And then you know,

718
00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:33,040
Speaker 1: people want to know why at dinner, why in the

719
00:41:33,120 --> 00:41:38,320
Speaker 1: group setting? Well, I think I wasn't When I originally

720
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:42,280
Speaker 1: started the conversation, I envisioned it going differently. I envisioned

721
00:41:42,280 --> 00:41:43,920
Speaker 1: when I said, you know, I know you said these

722
00:41:43,960 --> 00:41:48,640
Speaker 1: things to Brandy. I know that this happened. I know that. UM,

723
00:41:48,680 --> 00:41:51,839
Speaker 1: you know, I'm in a situation where now I don't

724
00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:56,000
Speaker 1: trust you know all of this. And if Denise would

725
00:41:56,000 --> 00:41:58,640
Speaker 1: have responded with I don't remember saying that to her,

726
00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:01,960
Speaker 1: I don't feel that way, or I do feel that way,

727
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:05,600
Speaker 1: but I didn't. I don't remember saying that to her. Um,

728
00:42:05,680 --> 00:42:09,480
Speaker 1: the conversation would have been over. But instead she doubled

729
00:42:09,520 --> 00:42:11,680
Speaker 1: down and said, I don't even speak to this woman.

730
00:42:11,800 --> 00:42:14,799
Speaker 1: I don't know her. She's a loose cannon. You know,

731
00:42:14,920 --> 00:42:17,960
Speaker 1: all these different things that she said, which then as

732
00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:21,160
Speaker 1: you continue to see through the episodes, she then changes

733
00:42:21,200 --> 00:42:24,120
Speaker 1: her story four or five more times. Actually they did speak.

734
00:42:24,400 --> 00:42:27,360
Speaker 1: Actually she said way worse things about me than she admitted,

735
00:42:27,400 --> 00:42:32,360
Speaker 1: you know all of those things. Um. So that's really

736
00:42:32,360 --> 00:42:35,719
Speaker 1: where I thought the conversation would go. I didn't realize

737
00:42:35,760 --> 00:42:38,879
Speaker 1: that she was then going to say I didn't know her,

738
00:42:38,920 --> 00:42:40,279
Speaker 1: I don't talk to her. I mean we were just

739
00:42:40,360 --> 00:42:43,239
Speaker 1: at Bravo con where she had said on a stage

740
00:42:43,280 --> 00:42:46,319
Speaker 1: how close she was with you know, with Brandy and

741
00:42:46,360 --> 00:42:47,840
Speaker 1: how she would love for her to be back on

742
00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:51,480
Speaker 1: the show. Well she got her wish. Um. And I

743
00:42:51,920 --> 00:42:56,400
Speaker 1: think also, like it sucks. It sucks to be the messenger.

744
00:42:56,440 --> 00:43:00,000
Speaker 1: But I would have hated being blindsided even more if

745
00:43:00,000 --> 00:43:02,520
Speaker 1: if I had not said something to her and group

746
00:43:02,600 --> 00:43:08,239
Speaker 1: or no group, things get around in this group. So yeah,

747
00:43:08,480 --> 00:43:10,520
Speaker 1: and you know, people want to know. I think it's obvious,

748
00:43:10,520 --> 00:43:13,640
Speaker 1: but people are asking do you believe Brandy or do

749
00:43:13,640 --> 00:43:18,839
Speaker 1: you believe Denise? Well, I think you know whether or not.

750
00:43:18,960 --> 00:43:21,160
Speaker 1: And also I want to clarify something. When I said

751
00:43:21,239 --> 00:43:25,680
Speaker 1: this is really bad, I was referring to the fact

752
00:43:25,680 --> 00:43:28,640
Speaker 1: that an affair was being thrown around. It had nothing

753
00:43:28,680 --> 00:43:30,840
Speaker 1: to do with the fact a lot of people are

754
00:43:30,840 --> 00:43:34,120
Speaker 1: saying to me, like, is this because you're homophobic? Or

755
00:43:34,160 --> 00:43:36,319
Speaker 1: you're outing her any of these types of things, and

756
00:43:36,440 --> 00:43:39,920
Speaker 1: of course not I was saying this is really bad

757
00:43:40,600 --> 00:43:45,040
Speaker 1: because it was an affair that was being told on

758
00:43:45,239 --> 00:43:49,080
Speaker 1: national television or an a legend affair, and that's the

759
00:43:49,120 --> 00:43:50,880
Speaker 1: part I was saying, this is, you know, and I

760
00:43:50,960 --> 00:43:53,359
Speaker 1: was kind of leading up to it, trying to say, like,

761
00:43:53,719 --> 00:43:56,200
Speaker 1: you probably don't want me to say with this is

762
00:43:56,320 --> 00:43:58,399
Speaker 1: right now, like whatever it may be, you know, because

763
00:43:58,440 --> 00:44:02,759
Speaker 1: she said she already knew what it us. So you know, Yeah,

764
00:44:03,080 --> 00:44:07,600
Speaker 1: the that whole thing as a gay person. I the

765
00:44:07,600 --> 00:44:09,800
Speaker 1: people that are saying that, and they're they're not thinking

766
00:44:09,800 --> 00:44:13,239
Speaker 1: it logically, is that there's they're actually insinuating that you

767
00:44:13,280 --> 00:44:18,120
Speaker 1: were outing somebody, right, is what some of the arguments are. Um.

768
00:44:18,160 --> 00:44:19,840
Speaker 1: And I didn't even know this was gonna come up.

769
00:44:19,960 --> 00:44:22,680
Speaker 1: We were and talk about this, so it wasn't you

770
00:44:22,719 --> 00:44:25,799
Speaker 1: weren't outing anybody. First of all, Brandy brought it up

771
00:44:25,800 --> 00:44:30,239
Speaker 1: on camera first about the affair, and also, uh, I

772
00:44:31,160 --> 00:44:37,000
Speaker 1: think that Denise has talked about being by curious previously

773
00:44:37,040 --> 00:44:40,800
Speaker 1: in the press years ago. So I think that people

774
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:43,280
Speaker 1: that are trying to come at you about that are

775
00:44:43,960 --> 00:44:48,640
Speaker 1: finding ways to attack you that aren't right, like we

776
00:44:48,719 --> 00:44:50,800
Speaker 1: know that you were just saying it was because an affair.

777
00:44:50,880 --> 00:44:53,920
Speaker 1: The story came to you and it looked like, you know,

778
00:44:54,400 --> 00:44:58,600
Speaker 1: it was going to affect their marriage. So yeah, I mean,

779
00:44:58,640 --> 00:45:00,839
Speaker 1: of course, and so that even during that kind of thing,

780
00:45:01,000 --> 00:45:04,439
Speaker 1: it just none of it's fun, and but it's it's

781
00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:06,920
Speaker 1: something that's happened, and now we have to kind of

782
00:45:07,920 --> 00:45:10,799
Speaker 1: kind of go through the emotions, and it's it does suck,

783
00:45:10,840 --> 00:45:13,920
Speaker 1: and that's the that's the hardest part about doing reality television.

784
00:45:13,920 --> 00:45:17,239
Speaker 1: But if you do sign up and you do, you know,

785
00:45:17,480 --> 00:45:19,640
Speaker 1: say you're going to show your lives and you're going

786
00:45:19,760 --> 00:45:23,799
Speaker 1: to whether there was alleged affair or not, she had

787
00:45:23,840 --> 00:45:27,480
Speaker 1: a relationship with somebody could potentially have been a friendship.

788
00:45:27,520 --> 00:45:29,960
Speaker 1: It's not my place to say, but she was in

789
00:45:30,080 --> 00:45:36,279
Speaker 1: communication with Brandy and that was my point, right. Uh,

790
00:45:36,440 --> 00:45:40,400
Speaker 1: do you hope that next season it's a fresh start

791
00:45:40,400 --> 00:45:42,920
Speaker 1: with the nise, Like where do you see it go?

792
00:45:44,000 --> 00:45:47,040
Speaker 1: You know, I never say never. Um, I mean, everyone's

793
00:45:47,040 --> 00:45:49,080
Speaker 1: gonna have to tune in and watch the reunion, But

794
00:45:49,160 --> 00:45:50,959
Speaker 1: I mean I think there's probably a lot of work

795
00:45:51,000 --> 00:45:53,520
Speaker 1: that needs to be done, you know, and things that

796
00:45:53,560 --> 00:45:56,600
Speaker 1: need to be figured out. But you know, I I

797
00:45:57,600 --> 00:46:01,600
Speaker 1: things have changed so much from C into season. You

798
00:46:01,680 --> 00:46:04,160
Speaker 1: never know. I mean we were close last year, so

799
00:46:04,960 --> 00:46:08,800
Speaker 1: it's it's hard to it's hard to say you'd be

800
00:46:08,840 --> 00:46:12,279
Speaker 1: going in with an open mind, though, I mean, yeah,

801
00:46:12,440 --> 00:46:16,520
Speaker 1: you gotta keep watching on that one. Is there a

802
00:46:16,560 --> 00:46:19,080
Speaker 1: specific celebrity that, if you could choose, you would have

803
00:46:19,120 --> 00:46:24,040
Speaker 1: been doing the cast? I don't know. Maybe Christy Teagan

804
00:46:24,160 --> 00:46:27,959
Speaker 1: I think would be really funny. Boy would be amazing,

805
00:46:28,280 --> 00:46:32,200
Speaker 1: Like how good would she be? Um? I don't know.

806
00:46:32,280 --> 00:46:36,600
Speaker 1: I just think someone that's funny, someone that's opinionated. Who

807
00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:40,960
Speaker 1: who would your pick be? Oh? Boy, if you had

808
00:46:41,000 --> 00:46:45,120
Speaker 1: to do a celebrity, Oh gosh, now you put me

809
00:46:45,120 --> 00:46:47,600
Speaker 1: on the spot. I don't know. I don't know. You

810
00:46:47,680 --> 00:46:50,200
Speaker 1: put me on the spot. This is your podcast. I'm

811
00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:52,360
Speaker 1: here to do that. I'm here to just ask you questions.

812
00:46:53,320 --> 00:46:58,880
Speaker 1: I delivered it an amazing response. I don't know to

813
00:46:58,920 --> 00:47:03,040
Speaker 1: get back to you. Oh, or Brad Garski, Oh, you

814
00:47:03,080 --> 00:47:05,839
Speaker 1: would do a house husband? A house husband like he

815
00:47:06,080 --> 00:47:11,680
Speaker 1: is so hilarious his um recent one where he's mocking us,

816
00:47:12,560 --> 00:47:16,560
Speaker 1: It's tears came out of my eyes. Yeah. He and Garagine.

817
00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:19,200
Speaker 1: Gargin's Instagram you should follow it if you don't because

818
00:47:19,200 --> 00:47:24,399
Speaker 1: it's hilarious. Well, well, I'm thinking to your listeners. Um,

819
00:47:24,560 --> 00:47:27,120
Speaker 1: So people want to know, though, do you see yourself

820
00:47:27,800 --> 00:47:30,320
Speaker 1: continuing to do the show over the next few years?

821
00:47:31,200 --> 00:47:35,400
Speaker 1: You know, we never know until about two weeks before

822
00:47:35,400 --> 00:47:38,040
Speaker 1: it starts shooting every season, So it's one of those

823
00:47:38,080 --> 00:47:41,920
Speaker 1: things that you just kind of you see keeping us

824
00:47:41,960 --> 00:47:45,400
Speaker 1: on our toes. So we don't know. So I can't

825
00:47:45,400 --> 00:47:48,359
Speaker 1: even I can't even say for sure next season. You know,

826
00:47:48,480 --> 00:47:53,719
Speaker 1: it really just depends. Okay. I think I save this

827
00:47:53,800 --> 00:47:55,879
Speaker 1: question because it's it's a good one to end with.

828
00:47:56,000 --> 00:48:00,319
Speaker 1: In general, in your life being on TV and all that,

829
00:48:01,400 --> 00:48:06,719
Speaker 1: people want to know. What is the biggest misconception that

830
00:48:07,080 --> 00:48:12,439
Speaker 1: you feel people have about you? Um? I think oftentimes,

831
00:48:12,600 --> 00:48:16,759
Speaker 1: especially this season on Housewives, it looks like I'm at

832
00:48:16,760 --> 00:48:19,200
Speaker 1: a loss for words, like they've panned me, and my

833
00:48:19,239 --> 00:48:25,160
Speaker 1: mouth is like open or like I'm making a weird face. Um,

834
00:48:25,239 --> 00:48:29,240
Speaker 1: I'm kind of always a blabber mouth. I'm always making

835
00:48:29,239 --> 00:48:32,560
Speaker 1: fun of myself. I'm very self deprecating. I don't take

836
00:48:32,600 --> 00:48:36,680
Speaker 1: myself so seriously. And I mean, you're one of one

837
00:48:36,719 --> 00:48:38,440
Speaker 1: of my good friends. What would you say it is?

838
00:48:38,480 --> 00:48:40,600
Speaker 1: I mean, I think that often times I look so

839
00:48:40,640 --> 00:48:44,120
Speaker 1: serious on the show, but I think in real life,

840
00:48:44,160 --> 00:48:47,680
Speaker 1: like I am constantly laughing. I love to joke. I

841
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:50,919
Speaker 1: loved to like for people to tease me, like I

842
00:48:50,920 --> 00:48:54,480
Speaker 1: I really that is who I am. Oh, I mean,

843
00:48:54,760 --> 00:48:56,680
Speaker 1: obviously it would be the B word. I would be

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Speaker 1: Like I'm really grate grateful to our friendship. I'm grateful

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Speaker 1: to so many of you know, my other girlfriends and

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Speaker 1: realizing what's really important. So, yeah, there's some drama, there's

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Speaker 1: because they're feeling good in their own skin really makes

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Speaker 1: today was so terrible, there's always a silver lining. And

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Speaker 1: I'm so grateful to have great friends, a great family,

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Speaker 1: be able to talk to you guys on Teddy Teapot

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Speaker 1: every week, have this outlet, and I'm so grateful to

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Speaker 1: you guys for listening. Please send an any more questions

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Speaker 1: you have and Matt, thank you, thank you, thank you

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Speaker 1: for this week, Thanks for listening. Subscribe to any tea

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