1 00:00:14,640 --> 00:00:18,560 Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily Abadi here bringing you another episode of 2 00:00:18,920 --> 00:00:23,599 Speaker 1: Hurdle Moment from Hurdle this week. As I've mentioned many 3 00:00:23,640 --> 00:00:25,639 Speaker 1: times so far in the last month or so, my 4 00:00:25,680 --> 00:00:29,000 Speaker 1: head is in a bazillion places because I can't believe 5 00:00:29,040 --> 00:00:34,480 Speaker 1: that I'm moving tomorrow. I'm gonna refrain from making the 6 00:00:34,520 --> 00:00:37,680 Speaker 1: intro to this episode all about how emotional I am 7 00:00:37,720 --> 00:00:38,760 Speaker 1: about this. 8 00:00:38,920 --> 00:00:40,400 Speaker 2: I think it's really starting to hit me. 9 00:00:40,880 --> 00:00:42,479 Speaker 1: There have been some things in the apartment that I've 10 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:44,920 Speaker 1: kept as is just because I needed them to be 11 00:00:45,000 --> 00:00:47,239 Speaker 1: this way, like my desk that I sit at all 12 00:00:47,320 --> 00:00:49,879 Speaker 1: day every day and the stuff on the wallmost but 13 00:00:50,360 --> 00:00:54,720 Speaker 1: that ends today and everything comes down today, and I 14 00:00:54,760 --> 00:00:58,600 Speaker 1: feel so odd because the movers are packing me, which 15 00:00:58,640 --> 00:01:00,520 Speaker 1: is something I've never done before. I feel like this 16 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:04,120 Speaker 1: is like the most adult thing ever. But because they 17 00:01:04,120 --> 00:01:07,520 Speaker 1: are packing me, like my life just feels completely unsettled 18 00:01:07,520 --> 00:01:09,680 Speaker 1: and there's stuff everywhere and it's. 19 00:01:09,480 --> 00:01:11,679 Speaker 2: Going to be okay. It's going to be okay. It's 20 00:01:11,720 --> 00:01:13,160 Speaker 2: going to be okay. Anyway. 21 00:01:13,520 --> 00:01:18,280 Speaker 1: Today's episode is not about the move. It's actually about 22 00:01:18,319 --> 00:01:22,720 Speaker 1: the idea of returning to quote unquote normal. It is 23 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:28,399 Speaker 1: something that we are all navigating right now. Specifically, of course, 24 00:01:28,400 --> 00:01:31,200 Speaker 1: if you are living in the United States. As more 25 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:34,759 Speaker 1: and more people we know are getting vaccinated and more 26 00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:38,319 Speaker 1: and more things are opening, I do want to say that, 27 00:01:38,400 --> 00:01:42,360 Speaker 1: of course, India and other areas of the world who 28 00:01:42,720 --> 00:01:45,640 Speaker 1: may not be in this place right now are in 29 00:01:45,720 --> 00:01:48,880 Speaker 1: my thoughts and my prayers. But when it comes to 30 00:01:49,160 --> 00:01:52,320 Speaker 1: what we are navigating here, when I am navigating here, 31 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:56,640 Speaker 1: I understand that it can feel chaotic, and it can 32 00:01:56,680 --> 00:02:02,440 Speaker 1: feel stressful, and it can feel overwhelming. Me June feels 33 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:05,920 Speaker 1: like twenty nineteen on the horizon. I have a trip 34 00:02:05,960 --> 00:02:11,040 Speaker 1: to Miami planned, and work travel planned and seeing friends 35 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:14,280 Speaker 1: and my birthday and just things. 36 00:02:13,960 --> 00:02:15,880 Speaker 2: That this time last. 37 00:02:15,680 --> 00:02:21,440 Speaker 1: Year were not even remotely something that I could even conceptualize. 38 00:02:21,600 --> 00:02:25,840 Speaker 1: And so, like I said, it's a lot, and today's episode, 39 00:02:25,960 --> 00:02:28,680 Speaker 1: I'm going to talk to you about my best tips 40 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 1: for that return to normal, for easing back into the 41 00:02:32,440 --> 00:02:36,080 Speaker 1: swing of things, and that word their ease is really 42 00:02:36,440 --> 00:02:39,760 Speaker 1: really important. My goal first and foremost here to let 43 00:02:39,800 --> 00:02:41,440 Speaker 1: you know that if you do feel some kind of 44 00:02:41,440 --> 00:02:43,840 Speaker 1: way about things getting back to the way they are, 45 00:02:43,919 --> 00:02:45,840 Speaker 1: aside from just excited. 46 00:02:45,800 --> 00:02:47,880 Speaker 2: It's okay. You're not alone. 47 00:02:47,919 --> 00:02:50,040 Speaker 1: And the good news is that we can talk about 48 00:02:50,040 --> 00:02:51,720 Speaker 1: it and we can do hard things. 49 00:02:51,760 --> 00:02:53,280 Speaker 2: We can get through this together. 50 00:02:53,480 --> 00:02:55,840 Speaker 1: I'm going to keep this intro short and sweet this week, 51 00:02:55,919 --> 00:02:58,120 Speaker 1: but I do want to plug if you wanted to 52 00:02:58,120 --> 00:03:01,360 Speaker 1: come to the hurdle session I hosted this week regardless 53 00:03:01,360 --> 00:03:02,320 Speaker 1: of when you're listening to this. 54 00:03:02,639 --> 00:03:04,600 Speaker 2: Good news. So you think you. 55 00:03:04,600 --> 00:03:06,720 Speaker 1: Want to run a marathon is now live on the 56 00:03:06,840 --> 00:03:10,920 Speaker 1: Hurdle website. So if you want to learn about running 57 00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:14,840 Speaker 1: and racing and some tips and tricks to take your 58 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:18,280 Speaker 1: training to the next level, I've got you covered with 59 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:21,320 Speaker 1: the help of Lindsay and Amber from Brave Body Project. 60 00:03:21,360 --> 00:03:24,280 Speaker 1: A link to check out that on demand hurdle session 61 00:03:24,720 --> 00:03:27,480 Speaker 1: is in the show notes. Make sure you're following along 62 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:30,119 Speaker 1: with Hurdle over at Hurdle Podcast on social media. I'm 63 00:03:30,120 --> 00:03:33,680 Speaker 1: over at emily a Body. Let's talk normalcy with that. 64 00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:43,240 Speaker 1: Let's get to hurdling. Life is always going to be 65 00:03:43,320 --> 00:03:48,320 Speaker 1: different after the COVID nineteen pandemic, and I think that 66 00:03:48,840 --> 00:03:51,920 Speaker 1: is kind of where I want to lead us off today, 67 00:03:52,320 --> 00:03:58,400 Speaker 1: is that we have collectively experienced this insane thing. 68 00:03:58,920 --> 00:03:59,160 Speaker 2: Right. 69 00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:04,560 Speaker 1: Although our experiences during the pandemic may have differed with 70 00:04:04,840 --> 00:04:08,040 Speaker 1: what we were doing with our careers and our personal life, 71 00:04:08,080 --> 00:04:12,240 Speaker 1: and how our families and friends were individually impacted by 72 00:04:12,480 --> 00:04:16,120 Speaker 1: the coronavirus. What I can safely say is that we 73 00:04:16,279 --> 00:04:20,920 Speaker 1: all have some sort of mutual understanding of the collective 74 00:04:21,120 --> 00:04:25,640 Speaker 1: trauma that we just went through. And so as we 75 00:04:26,160 --> 00:04:29,880 Speaker 1: use this sentence things getting back to normal, I want 76 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:32,880 Speaker 1: you to have some grace with yourself. And we'll talk 77 00:04:32,920 --> 00:04:35,640 Speaker 1: about grace in just a second. That normal is going 78 00:04:35,720 --> 00:04:39,919 Speaker 1: to look different than it did before, and that is ohkay. 79 00:04:40,080 --> 00:04:43,960 Speaker 1: This is going to require an adjustment period. So when 80 00:04:43,960 --> 00:04:47,679 Speaker 1: it comes to getting back to it, the first piece 81 00:04:47,720 --> 00:04:50,160 Speaker 1: of advice that I want to offer y'all is process 82 00:04:50,320 --> 00:04:54,680 Speaker 1: what you've been through. Okay, Like I said, pandemics impacted 83 00:04:54,720 --> 00:04:59,480 Speaker 1: the lives of virtually everyone period, but each person has 84 00:04:59,720 --> 00:05:03,400 Speaker 1: their different set of experiences that they need to work 85 00:05:03,480 --> 00:05:08,320 Speaker 1: through going forward. I would highly highly recommend that if 86 00:05:08,360 --> 00:05:11,760 Speaker 1: you have not been either going to regular therapy or 87 00:05:12,120 --> 00:05:15,480 Speaker 1: making a journaling practice a part of your regular routine, 88 00:05:15,720 --> 00:05:18,800 Speaker 1: or even just opening up to your friends and loved 89 00:05:18,800 --> 00:05:21,680 Speaker 1: ones about where you're at, where your head is at, 90 00:05:21,880 --> 00:05:24,400 Speaker 1: that now is a really important time that you take 91 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:25,440 Speaker 1: the time to do. 92 00:05:25,520 --> 00:05:25,680 Speaker 2: So. 93 00:05:26,080 --> 00:05:30,680 Speaker 1: It is so so important that we give this big 94 00:05:30,760 --> 00:05:34,760 Speaker 1: event some space. That we give this big event a 95 00:05:34,839 --> 00:05:37,880 Speaker 1: little bit of closure so that we can move forward 96 00:05:38,000 --> 00:05:41,760 Speaker 1: and feel hopefully like we're bookending this experience with some 97 00:05:41,920 --> 00:05:46,160 Speaker 1: solid takeaways and a good mindset going forward. My next 98 00:05:46,279 --> 00:05:48,880 Speaker 1: thought for you when it comes to returning to normal 99 00:05:49,279 --> 00:05:54,400 Speaker 1: is take small steps, follow your own journey, all right, 100 00:05:55,000 --> 00:05:58,960 Speaker 1: right now, there are certainly going to be different approaches 101 00:05:59,240 --> 00:06:03,160 Speaker 1: to how we move forward. Right Some individuals may be 102 00:06:03,320 --> 00:06:06,720 Speaker 1: based on geographic location. My brother lives in Florida. I'll 103 00:06:06,760 --> 00:06:11,159 Speaker 1: just say that may be living life like nothing ever changed, 104 00:06:11,560 --> 00:06:14,640 Speaker 1: and hey, to each their own. If you feel safe 105 00:06:14,760 --> 00:06:16,720 Speaker 1: doing that, if you want to make the choice to 106 00:06:16,800 --> 00:06:19,640 Speaker 1: do that, that's cool. If you are someone who is 107 00:06:19,680 --> 00:06:22,320 Speaker 1: a little bit more conservative, I just want to say 108 00:06:22,440 --> 00:06:25,640 Speaker 1: that you don't need to follow their roadmap. There is 109 00:06:25,720 --> 00:06:30,680 Speaker 1: no one shoving you to scratch the anxieties that may 110 00:06:30,720 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 1: have developed over the last year of spending more time 111 00:06:34,040 --> 00:06:38,039 Speaker 1: by yourself. Instead, what's important is that again you move 112 00:06:38,120 --> 00:06:42,800 Speaker 1: at your own pace and don't have any judgment about that. 113 00:06:43,000 --> 00:06:43,200 Speaker 2: Right. 114 00:06:43,640 --> 00:06:48,440 Speaker 1: I certainly still have anxiety being around large groups period. 115 00:06:48,880 --> 00:06:52,240 Speaker 1: I have to do what makes me comfortable instead of 116 00:06:52,520 --> 00:06:55,360 Speaker 1: what I feel like. I quote unquote should be doing. 117 00:06:55,800 --> 00:06:58,919 Speaker 1: I will say from my own personal experience that easing 118 00:06:58,960 --> 00:07:01,160 Speaker 1: into things and go going at my own pace has 119 00:07:01,200 --> 00:07:04,360 Speaker 1: really made me feel better about kind of picking up 120 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:07,520 Speaker 1: where I left off in certain aspects. Whereas at the beginning, 121 00:07:07,720 --> 00:07:10,800 Speaker 1: when for example, running groups started to meet up again, 122 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:14,720 Speaker 1: I didn't exactly feel super comfortable in that situation. Now, 123 00:07:14,760 --> 00:07:17,720 Speaker 1: as the time has gone on, and taking certain precautions 124 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:20,120 Speaker 1: to make sure that I feel good in these circumstances, 125 00:07:20,720 --> 00:07:24,320 Speaker 1: I feel different in these circumstances. Don't let someone else 126 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:26,120 Speaker 1: force you to do something you don't want to do 127 00:07:26,440 --> 00:07:29,400 Speaker 1: is basically the takeaway of that, And especially because from 128 00:07:29,440 --> 00:07:31,760 Speaker 1: an anxiety point of view, if you try to jump 129 00:07:31,840 --> 00:07:34,560 Speaker 1: back into like a mosh pit and you have been 130 00:07:34,760 --> 00:07:37,960 Speaker 1: on an island for the last fourteen months, that's going 131 00:07:38,040 --> 00:07:41,560 Speaker 1: to feel really overwhelming. So these small steps that I 132 00:07:41,600 --> 00:07:46,000 Speaker 1: am recommending these are just so you can listen to 133 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:49,840 Speaker 1: what's going on inside your heart and move forward with 134 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:54,080 Speaker 1: some grace and some optimism. Also here another tip, keep 135 00:07:54,400 --> 00:07:57,440 Speaker 1: what's worked. The last year gave us a lot of 136 00:07:57,480 --> 00:08:00,600 Speaker 1: time to prioritize things in a way that maybe we 137 00:08:00,720 --> 00:08:03,160 Speaker 1: didn't feel as though we had the time to do 138 00:08:03,480 --> 00:08:07,720 Speaker 1: so before that means there are probably aspects of your 139 00:08:07,800 --> 00:08:11,320 Speaker 1: routine that have really been working for you that you 140 00:08:11,440 --> 00:08:16,040 Speaker 1: now have the opportunity to carry over into the quote 141 00:08:16,080 --> 00:08:18,760 Speaker 1: unquote new normal. So if you were the kind of 142 00:08:18,760 --> 00:08:21,600 Speaker 1: person that started to take your mornings a little bit 143 00:08:21,680 --> 00:08:24,240 Speaker 1: slower over the pandemic and felt a lot of benefit 144 00:08:24,280 --> 00:08:26,880 Speaker 1: from that, be mindful of how you can incorporate some 145 00:08:26,920 --> 00:08:30,680 Speaker 1: of those same practices going forward. A lot of us, 146 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:35,040 Speaker 1: despite the chaos, despite the trauma of the coronavirus, we're 147 00:08:35,080 --> 00:08:39,280 Speaker 1: able to find some special balance. Don't abandon practices that 148 00:08:39,360 --> 00:08:43,040 Speaker 1: had really been benefiting you just because you feel like 149 00:08:43,120 --> 00:08:45,719 Speaker 1: you're supposed to. You know, a girlfriend of mine was 150 00:08:45,800 --> 00:08:49,920 Speaker 1: chatting with me about a few of her girlfriends getting together, 151 00:08:50,120 --> 00:08:53,880 Speaker 1: and one of them just didn't feel comfortable with the 152 00:08:53,920 --> 00:08:58,080 Speaker 1: situation at hand. Hey, that's okay. What I think is 153 00:08:58,120 --> 00:09:00,880 Speaker 1: really important right now is that we have compassion for 154 00:09:00,960 --> 00:09:04,160 Speaker 1: one another as we make these adjustments, as we get 155 00:09:04,200 --> 00:09:07,480 Speaker 1: back to normal, and understand that it's going to be hard, 156 00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:09,720 Speaker 1: and that there are going to be sticking points, and 157 00:09:09,760 --> 00:09:12,160 Speaker 1: that we may have to pivot a little bit differently 158 00:09:12,200 --> 00:09:13,199 Speaker 1: than we did before. 159 00:09:13,640 --> 00:09:14,600 Speaker 2: But you can do it. 160 00:09:14,720 --> 00:09:17,800 Speaker 1: We can all do it, and again there's no need 161 00:09:17,880 --> 00:09:21,360 Speaker 1: to place harsh judgment on yourself or others based on 162 00:09:21,800 --> 00:09:25,160 Speaker 1: the how we go about it. On a financial note, 163 00:09:25,360 --> 00:09:28,200 Speaker 1: I know that I certainly cannot be the only person 164 00:09:28,280 --> 00:09:31,880 Speaker 1: having some anxiety about going from saving all of the 165 00:09:31,920 --> 00:09:35,800 Speaker 1: monies to spending. When I'm going out to dinners and 166 00:09:35,960 --> 00:09:38,480 Speaker 1: buying stuff, or this new apartment and just doing so 167 00:09:38,640 --> 00:09:43,000 Speaker 1: many things. It's going to have to require me to 168 00:09:43,040 --> 00:09:45,520 Speaker 1: shift a little bit. On that note when it comes 169 00:09:45,600 --> 00:09:48,600 Speaker 1: to finances, something that really helped me many moons ago 170 00:09:49,240 --> 00:09:53,160 Speaker 1: was setting aside separate accounts where that can be a 171 00:09:53,240 --> 00:09:56,360 Speaker 1: fund for a specific thing. So if money is giving 172 00:09:56,440 --> 00:09:59,040 Speaker 1: you a little bit of anxiety and you want to 173 00:09:59,280 --> 00:10:02,160 Speaker 1: save up to you maybe finally take a trip to 174 00:10:02,160 --> 00:10:04,400 Speaker 1: see friends or family for the first time in a while, 175 00:10:04,640 --> 00:10:07,640 Speaker 1: or perhaps you want a separate fund for just going 176 00:10:07,720 --> 00:10:13,000 Speaker 1: about your normal quote unquote social activities, open a separate 177 00:10:13,120 --> 00:10:16,360 Speaker 1: bank account. It is a great way not to feel 178 00:10:16,360 --> 00:10:20,360 Speaker 1: guilty about spending, and then you can budget exactly what 179 00:10:20,440 --> 00:10:23,360 Speaker 1: you want and contribute to that over time so it 180 00:10:23,440 --> 00:10:27,199 Speaker 1: doesn't feel mega overwhelming when you go to use that 181 00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:29,679 Speaker 1: amount of money in the future. And the last thing 182 00:10:29,720 --> 00:10:31,040 Speaker 1: I want to chime in on when it comes to 183 00:10:31,080 --> 00:10:34,400 Speaker 1: this week's hurdle moment. Hurdle moment we've all been kind 184 00:10:34,440 --> 00:10:39,240 Speaker 1: of laughing at, joking the media, social media, Instagram, Hawk 185 00:10:39,240 --> 00:10:44,119 Speaker 1: gir Al Summer, Right, So have some compassion for yourself, 186 00:10:44,320 --> 00:10:47,920 Speaker 1: for your body, for your wardrobe. Do not think that 187 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:50,800 Speaker 1: you need to buy an entire new closet right now, 188 00:10:51,040 --> 00:10:53,560 Speaker 1: just like you don't need to judge yourself for how 189 00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:57,240 Speaker 1: you may look now versus two years ago. You just 190 00:10:57,360 --> 00:11:01,200 Speaker 1: handled a really hard thing. When you did it well, 191 00:11:01,400 --> 00:11:06,439 Speaker 1: You have survived your hardest days of the pandemic, right, 192 00:11:06,920 --> 00:11:08,200 Speaker 1: so be proud of you. 193 00:11:08,520 --> 00:11:09,960 Speaker 2: Have some grace with yourself. 194 00:11:10,040 --> 00:11:12,320 Speaker 1: Don't feel pressure to fit into some sort of a 195 00:11:12,400 --> 00:11:16,040 Speaker 1: mold for whatever you're seeing out there, but rather just 196 00:11:16,120 --> 00:11:19,240 Speaker 1: be grateful, Be proud of you for making it this far. 197 00:11:19,559 --> 00:11:22,480 Speaker 1: Be prepared to embrace the small moments going forward with 198 00:11:22,559 --> 00:11:26,680 Speaker 1: maybe even a little bit more gratitude and thankful for 199 00:11:26,800 --> 00:11:29,280 Speaker 1: all of the beautiful memories that are to come. Who 200 00:11:29,800 --> 00:11:32,400 Speaker 1: that's it for now. A return to normal on deck 201 00:11:32,480 --> 00:11:33,960 Speaker 1: is something that I know that we have all been 202 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:38,520 Speaker 1: looking forward to for so so long. At Hurdle Podcast 203 00:11:38,840 --> 00:11:42,080 Speaker 1: at Emily a Body, another hurdle conquered. 204 00:11:42,520 --> 00:11:43,520 Speaker 2: Catch you guys next time.