WEBVTT - All About that Bass 0:00:01.920 --> 0:00:05.359 Wine Down with Janet Kramer and I heard radio podcast. 0:00:07.160 --> 0:00:10.800 I just got back from therapy, Catherine. Yeah, have you 0:00:10.800 --> 0:00:16.200 started therapy. We need an update of where we're at. Well. 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:18.880 I've left a voice smail to get my intake. I've 0:00:18.920 --> 0:00:23.400 spoken to the girl, but we talked about that. I 0:00:23.440 --> 0:00:26.480 spoke to the therapist. I just have not scheduled my 0:00:26.520 --> 0:00:29.920 first one yet. Why because I have to do this 0:00:29.960 --> 0:00:33.040 thing called intake. And I called and sounds like a 0:00:34.920 --> 0:00:37.400 lot of excuses that I called again today because you 0:00:37.479 --> 0:00:40.320 knew what I ask you, because she emailed me and 0:00:40.360 --> 0:00:42.159 she's like, hey, did you have a chance to do that? 0:00:42.440 --> 0:00:45.640 And oh, Amy, and you chaned to that because I 0:00:45.640 --> 0:00:47.760 have an opening here here and here, and I was like, oh, 0:00:48.040 --> 0:00:50.839 thanks for emailing me. I never called them back when 0:00:50.880 --> 0:00:52.920 they called me back. So I'll call today. And I 0:00:52.960 --> 0:00:55.960 called today, but I haven't heard back. Man, excuses, I know, 0:00:56.000 --> 0:00:58.480 I'll do it. I promise, stay on me. I mean, 0:00:59.400 --> 0:01:04.800 it's kind of like it's it's it's interesting, because how 0:01:04.920 --> 0:01:07.240 on someone can you be on someone? Does that make sense? 0:01:07.280 --> 0:01:09.160 Like I remember back in the day when my mom 0:01:09.319 --> 0:01:11.119 was like and by the way, she's beautiful, she doesn't 0:01:11.080 --> 0:01:12.399 need to lose weight, but she's like, I want to 0:01:12.400 --> 0:01:14.600 lose weight, and I'm like, we're putting eminems in your 0:01:14.640 --> 0:01:17.199 mouth right now, like and so that it's like also 0:01:17.280 --> 0:01:20.600 the story of life. But and then it's like, hey, 0:01:20.640 --> 0:01:22.400 do you want me to like tell you to put 0:01:22.440 --> 0:01:25.200 the eminem's down or do you want me like it's 0:01:25.240 --> 0:01:27.920 like with therapy, I want you to make sure that 0:01:27.959 --> 0:01:30.800 I do it? Okay, with food? Shut up? And don't 0:01:30.800 --> 0:01:35.080 know we did not get them answer now, got it? Okay? 0:01:35.480 --> 0:01:37.880 I just I don't know. It's because I think that's 0:01:37.880 --> 0:01:40.960 a good question, thank you, Because I think you would 0:01:41.040 --> 0:01:43.360 ask me the same thing, like, hey, where I'm at 0:01:43.400 --> 0:01:44.880 in my life right now? You would be like, do 0:01:44.920 --> 0:01:46.600 you want me to tough love you? Or do you 0:01:46.640 --> 0:01:50.800 want me to be like yeah, go ahead, fun right? No, yeah, 0:01:50.880 --> 0:01:54.520 I should take my own advice. I agree. I'm good 0:01:54.520 --> 0:01:57.000 at telling you what you should do but not doing 0:01:57.040 --> 0:02:00.320 it for myself. Why. I think we're all kind of 0:02:00.360 --> 0:02:02.760 like that. I think you're kind of like that too. 0:02:02.880 --> 0:02:05.919 I know. I'm like, everyone listened to those positive voices 0:02:05.960 --> 0:02:08.040 in your head, and meanwhile I'm like the negative voices 0:02:08.040 --> 0:02:12.320 are dragging me down. You know. I'm like it's actually sad. 0:02:12.360 --> 0:02:14.240 And I was telling my therapist is today I was like, 0:02:14.280 --> 0:02:18.440 I feel like, you know, it's like with that song 0:02:18.520 --> 0:02:20.720 coming out, it's been so amazing and I'm so grateful 0:02:20.720 --> 0:02:22.799 that so many people have resonnated with it the way 0:02:22.840 --> 0:02:26.800 that they have. UM. And you know, when I shared 0:02:26.840 --> 0:02:29.480 that post about you know, the views, views and the 0:02:29.480 --> 0:02:31.639 relationships and just like yess lighting all those things, it's 0:02:31.680 --> 0:02:37.520 like and what how I then let those voices UM 0:02:38.280 --> 0:02:41.720 stay and I still let them kind of hang around. 0:02:42.400 --> 0:02:45.840 It's been I opening for me to be like, man, 0:02:45.919 --> 0:02:49.200 I preach it so much, but I also don't like 0:02:49.320 --> 0:02:52.680 take my own advice. Yeah, I mean I think that's 0:02:52.720 --> 0:02:54.920 kind of a human thing. I really do. I think 0:02:54.919 --> 0:02:57.360 that a lot of people do that. Again, listen to 0:02:57.400 --> 0:02:59.120 my own I would totally be on you if you 0:02:59.160 --> 0:03:03.040 didn't do something like where you would I mean, so funny. 0:03:03.120 --> 0:03:05.679 But I think that's just sometimes I think that we 0:03:06.320 --> 0:03:10.440 see the value in other people. We can offer advice, 0:03:10.560 --> 0:03:11.760 we can do all that, but for some reason, for 0:03:11.760 --> 0:03:14.320 ourselves it's just hard. I don't I don't know why. 0:03:16.000 --> 0:03:20.360 Maybe your our therapist let us know why hour for now, 0:03:20.440 --> 0:03:24.919 until like my issues are until your issues become me. Um. 0:03:25.000 --> 0:03:26.600 You know, it's interesting now because we had a we 0:03:26.639 --> 0:03:32.200 had a topic that came up, um someone had I 0:03:32.360 --> 0:03:37.680 was at a restaurant opening and someone was saying something 0:03:37.720 --> 0:03:41.440 negative about me, and I got and I came back 0:03:41.480 --> 0:03:44.160 to my little girl, um my little girl chat. And 0:03:44.160 --> 0:03:47.800 it really bothered me because I'm like, they're speaking about 0:03:47.840 --> 0:03:51.560 me from when I was in my twenties, and like granted, 0:03:51.640 --> 0:03:54.680 like in my twenties, I wasn't the healthiest version of 0:03:55.120 --> 0:03:58.320 who I am today, and it really hurt my feelings 0:03:58.320 --> 0:04:00.360 that this person was talking bad about me, cause I'm like, 0:04:00.440 --> 0:04:02.640 you don't know who I am. You don't know the 0:04:02.680 --> 0:04:05.560 work I've done the last ten plus years. You don't 0:04:05.600 --> 0:04:07.640 know who I am like or who I was in 0:04:07.720 --> 0:04:12.560 my marriage and like, and it started a really good 0:04:12.600 --> 0:04:16.440 conversation between us because I think there's so many times 0:04:16.440 --> 0:04:18.480 when you hear someone say, oh do you know so 0:04:18.560 --> 0:04:20.200 and so, and it's like, oh my god, that person 0:04:20.320 --> 0:04:23.479 is like how quick we are to like judge that 0:04:23.520 --> 0:04:26.640 other person? Oh? Yeah, absolutely. I mean when you were 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:29.039 telling me that, I was like, man, let this be 0:04:29.080 --> 0:04:32.000 a lesson to us, because I don't think that we 0:04:32.200 --> 0:04:34.960 mean to you know, but I think people kind of 0:04:35.000 --> 0:04:38.320 gossip at heart or want to point out negatives in people, 0:04:38.520 --> 0:04:42.599 and um, but that's not fair. We're making judgments based 0:04:42.600 --> 0:04:46.000 on something we've heard, or one experience we've had, or 0:04:46.040 --> 0:04:48.680 whatever it is. But that doesn't mean that that person 0:04:48.760 --> 0:04:52.560 is a bad person. So spreading that doesn't that just 0:04:52.680 --> 0:04:55.719 hurts the other person. So I think it's a good lesson. Yeah. 0:04:55.760 --> 0:04:57.520 I think it's one of those things where I've caught 0:04:57.560 --> 0:05:01.040 myself being like, okay, because someone asked me about someone 0:05:01.080 --> 0:05:03.120 I said five years ago, I didn't have a great experience, 0:05:03.120 --> 0:05:04.719 but I don't know who they are today, and I 0:05:04.760 --> 0:05:07.120 think that can be that enough. I think is a 0:05:07.120 --> 0:05:10.479 good enough like yours. I was saying what I thought 0:05:10.480 --> 0:05:12.680 about this person. But then also, but I don't know 0:05:12.760 --> 0:05:14.760 like who they are today, because I do believe that 0:05:14.800 --> 0:05:16.760 people change and grow. I mean, ship I'm a walking 0:05:16.760 --> 0:05:19.280 example of like I'm a better person than I was 0:05:20.160 --> 0:05:24.960 like fifteen years ago in in relationships and just I 0:05:24.960 --> 0:05:27.279 don't know, but I wasn't a bad person either, I 0:05:27.360 --> 0:05:30.080 was just lost. No, we weren't a bad person at all. Yeah, 0:05:30.160 --> 0:05:32.720 and this person didn't even really know you, They didn't 0:05:32.720 --> 0:05:35.599 know me at all, So that's not yeah exactly, which, 0:05:35.640 --> 0:05:37.800 by the way, these like little gossip sites that are 0:05:37.880 --> 0:05:42.080 like I think that they know you know, um, I 0:05:42.400 --> 0:05:45.719 just it just it's so frustrating because I'm like, you have, 0:05:46.240 --> 0:05:48.840 Like they were saying that I get paid for like 0:05:50.040 --> 0:05:52.200 to be in these tabloids. I'm like, I do not 0:05:52.400 --> 0:05:55.800 get paid to be in tabloids. I was like, they 0:05:55.839 --> 0:05:58.479 pick up stuff from this and from from this, this, 0:05:58.720 --> 0:06:04.680 um the show. I am not sending stuff there. I 0:06:04.680 --> 0:06:06.479 don't want to be like, trust me, like, anytime I 0:06:06.520 --> 0:06:09.920 see something like it genuinely gives me anxiety. Oh yeah, 0:06:10.120 --> 0:06:13.080 and I'm and and I also like when I say 0:06:13.120 --> 0:06:15.000 things because I do want to be free and like talk. 0:06:15.040 --> 0:06:17.039 But I'm like, oh, crap, I should probably take that 0:06:17.120 --> 0:06:19.279 part out because they're going to grab that. And I 0:06:19.320 --> 0:06:22.760 don't want to be a story on Monday morning. Yeah, 0:06:22.760 --> 0:06:26.520 it's causing you to second guests being real with the people, 0:06:26.560 --> 0:06:28.960 and that sucks because I mean every week now we're like, oh, 0:06:28.960 --> 0:06:30.640 can we listen back on that and make sure there's 0:06:30.640 --> 0:06:33.400 not something. They still pick something up every week, But 0:06:33.480 --> 0:06:36.200 I don't know why. I mean, I guess people sell 0:06:36.240 --> 0:06:40.360 stuff out there, you know. I mean, here's here's the 0:06:40.400 --> 0:06:42.040 only thing that I know that people would sell would 0:06:42.040 --> 0:06:44.160 be like a wedding story. Yeah, that's the only thing 0:06:44.160 --> 0:06:46.120 I've ever heard of. But I mean maybe or like 0:06:46.160 --> 0:06:50.400 some scandalous like you know, like yeah, yeah, but like 0:06:50.520 --> 0:06:52.920 just this stuff every day. It's like, just follow the podcast. 0:06:53.120 --> 0:06:56.400 It's the same thing. It's literally quotes from the podcast. 0:06:56.720 --> 0:07:00.200 But people just see they just see the headline and 0:07:00.240 --> 0:07:03.640 they assume and they just go. It's just it's so frustrating, 0:07:03.680 --> 0:07:06.960 but you just have to Yeah, I don't know. But 0:07:07.040 --> 0:07:10.760 I was just like, listen, people like you see me 0:07:10.800 --> 0:07:12.800 on a daily basis one and that stuff, and I'm like, 0:07:12.880 --> 0:07:15.800 it's just gives me anxiety. And they're like, well, then 0:07:15.880 --> 0:07:17.680 stop talking about it. But like I have you guys, 0:07:17.760 --> 0:07:19.240 I want to talk like I want to talk about 0:07:19.280 --> 0:07:20.840 I want to be open, I want to be authentic, 0:07:20.880 --> 0:07:22.520 but I also don't want to have to monitor everything 0:07:22.520 --> 0:07:24.400 I say because I'm afraid that like it's gonna get 0:07:24.840 --> 0:07:27.600 taken apart. But I know my true listeners. Yeah, and 0:07:27.640 --> 0:07:30.360 then it's like you're not being real, and that's your thing. 0:07:30.560 --> 0:07:33.120 You want to be real with everyone, and you do 0:07:33.240 --> 0:07:35.240 hold back on some things. There are some things that 0:07:35.280 --> 0:07:37.160 you keep to yourself that you do not talk about 0:07:37.200 --> 0:07:40.600 plenty of things, but you try to feel as be 0:07:40.640 --> 0:07:42.600 as real as you can and be respectful. And I 0:07:42.600 --> 0:07:44.840 think that that's fair. And people can just go back 0:07:44.880 --> 0:07:49.840 to the person talking badly about you, she didn't know you. 0:07:51.000 --> 0:07:53.680 That was not fair. And I think you know the 0:07:53.800 --> 0:07:56.280 lesson for us. If we're talking and someone's truly asking 0:07:56.320 --> 0:07:59.720 about someone, I think you can say, you know, this 0:07:59.800 --> 0:08:03.120 was experience, but you make your own judgment. That's the 0:08:03.160 --> 0:08:04.960 other thing. I think everyone should be able to make 0:08:04.960 --> 0:08:07.720 their own judgments on people. There might be somebody that 0:08:07.800 --> 0:08:10.480 just really doesn't like me, but you really like me, 0:08:10.600 --> 0:08:12.200 you know what I mean, So it's like you have 0:08:12.280 --> 0:08:15.160 to have like that's fair. There are plenty of people 0:08:15.160 --> 0:08:17.160 that don't have to like me, but I don't need 0:08:17.200 --> 0:08:19.400 them going around telling everybody I'm a horrible person either. 0:08:22.040 --> 0:08:24.520 I love you. You're not acquired me today, thank you? 0:08:24.560 --> 0:08:27.920 Oh my god. Stuff. Um, you're the one that quit 0:08:28.000 --> 0:08:30.880 on me a million times, that's true, she's never fired me. 0:08:31.040 --> 0:08:41.679 Just to be clear, yes, yes, kind of well moving on, um, 0:08:41.720 --> 0:08:43.959 but yeah, So I think it's just a good lesson 0:08:44.000 --> 0:08:47.199 to just be careful the words we use about other 0:08:47.240 --> 0:08:50.560 people and we don't really know them. And I again 0:08:50.679 --> 0:08:55.760 think people can grow and change and um. And I'm 0:08:55.800 --> 0:08:58.000 again really happy you all are listening to those positive 0:08:58.080 --> 0:09:01.160 voices because that's what you should do. You and my therapist. 0:09:01.200 --> 0:09:02.960 That's something really cool to me today too, because I 0:09:03.000 --> 0:09:05.679 was talking to her about you know, just life and 0:09:07.480 --> 0:09:09.360 in general, and she said, I thought it was just 0:09:09.400 --> 0:09:11.720 a really cool quote. She goes, you can't keep going 0:09:11.800 --> 0:09:15.480 back to the same well because you're just gonna get poison. 0:09:17.440 --> 0:09:21.880 I just thought that was so cool. That's good. You're 0:09:21.880 --> 0:09:24.679 just going to drink poison. I'm like, oh, like, and 0:09:24.920 --> 0:09:28.960 you you decipher that however which way you want. Like 0:09:29.080 --> 0:09:31.280 for me, it's like going back to the same patterns 0:09:31.440 --> 0:09:35.200 or same same things that I know that like I 0:09:35.240 --> 0:09:39.840 don't deserve. Um. So yeah, that's the poison that I 0:09:39.960 --> 0:09:43.760 that I allowed myself to keep drinking. So don't go 0:09:43.800 --> 0:09:48.440 back to the well. No no, no no, go to 0:09:48.480 --> 0:09:55.320 the eminem bowl instead of the well munching um. So 0:09:55.400 --> 0:09:59.960 we have a really really, really awesome guest today, Megan Train. 0:10:00.040 --> 0:10:02.800 Her she's an incredible singer. She's got a podcast with 0:10:02.840 --> 0:10:05.280 her brother, so they're going to be coming on and 0:10:05.320 --> 0:10:07.880 I'm pumped to learn more about her brother too, because 0:10:07.880 --> 0:10:10.559 I know he's got um, he's got some stuff that 0:10:10.600 --> 0:10:13.200 he wants to share and express and be open about. 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:17.000 So um, let's get them on and before that, we'll 0:10:17.000 --> 0:10:33.200 take a quick break. Hey girl, Hey wine down. Wow, 0:10:33.280 --> 0:10:35.720 y'all are stunning. Oh my god. I was just literally saying, 0:10:35.760 --> 0:10:37.680 it looks like I could skate on my forehead because 0:10:37.679 --> 0:10:39.480 I don't have any makeup on. So I was like, wow, 0:10:39.520 --> 0:10:43.040 I shouldn't like I forget that like we do. I'm like, 0:10:43.600 --> 0:10:46.719 I'm like, I can literally grab it. Crime that you're 0:10:46.760 --> 0:10:50.520 that pretty without makeup. Stop. I want to be like, 0:10:50.800 --> 0:10:52.960 you know how much cake? I have one? Right now? No, girl, 0:10:53.080 --> 0:10:56.440 please stop, not at all. Um. Good to see. This 0:10:56.520 --> 0:11:00.680 is my amazing co host, Catherine. You guys having a 0:11:00.679 --> 0:11:04.000 good day. Great day we got he got up at five, 0:11:04.160 --> 0:11:06.440 were away a man on a mission right now? Wait, 0:11:06.480 --> 0:11:08.679 what's the man on the mission? I'm running the New 0:11:08.720 --> 0:11:12.800 York City Marathon. I've run. I ran eight miles today, 0:11:13.480 --> 0:11:18.800 eight miles. Yeah. Is this your first marathon you've ever run? Yes? Yes? 0:11:19.840 --> 0:11:22.040 Oh wow? And how long have you been training for? 0:11:23.000 --> 0:11:24.520 I think it's been a couple of months. It's starting 0:11:24.520 --> 0:11:26.480 to get serious, Like Saturday's in my long runs. I 0:11:26.480 --> 0:11:31.640 gotta do seventeen this Saturday. Oh my goodness. I trained 0:11:31.720 --> 0:11:34.040 for a half marathon, but I stopped at five miles 0:11:34.080 --> 0:11:35.439 because I was like, you know what, I like, I'll 0:11:35.520 --> 0:11:37.800 just like walk the rest. And then when I got 0:11:37.840 --> 0:11:39.400 to like five miles, I was like I feel I mean, 0:11:39.400 --> 0:11:41.480 I feel pretty good, Like maybe I'll just keep going. 0:11:41.720 --> 0:11:43.360 So I ended up running the entire thing. But like 0:11:43.400 --> 0:11:49.319 my toneails fell off, like it's like, didn't train for zero. 0:11:50.640 --> 0:11:53.040 My body type is like because he inspired me, and 0:11:53.080 --> 0:11:56.520 I was like, I'm gonna be a runner, and my 0:11:56.600 --> 0:11:59.360 body type like when I ran for a week straight, 0:11:59.400 --> 0:12:04.240 I gained weight, okay, inflammation or something. So I hear 0:12:04.280 --> 0:12:06.400 you on that because I was the same way where 0:12:06.400 --> 0:12:08.400 I was. Like my trainer always says like she was like, 0:12:08.480 --> 0:12:09.800 if you want to be long and lean, She's like, 0:12:09.840 --> 0:12:11.319 you have to run. I'm like, I hate running. I 0:12:11.400 --> 0:12:13.240 don't like doing it. Last time I did it, like 0:12:13.520 --> 0:12:16.000 with the half marathon. But now, girl, I tell you 0:12:16.040 --> 0:12:21.000 what it's been. It's how I've been able to maintain um. 0:12:21.040 --> 0:12:22.839 But I will say I was the same way I 0:12:23.200 --> 0:12:25.440 gained weight for like the first month I was eating 0:12:25.440 --> 0:12:27.199 a lot and then all of a sudden, it just 0:12:27.280 --> 0:12:30.360 kind of like sheds, So like give it, give it 0:12:30.400 --> 0:12:36.280 a month, and she's like, I'm sorry. I've never I've 0:12:36.360 --> 0:12:38.199 never had a situation where I'm like, oh my god, 0:12:38.200 --> 0:12:41.920 I stopped drinking and it melted or like gastating, just 0:12:42.000 --> 0:12:44.520 like fell off of me, like I've never My body 0:12:44.640 --> 0:12:47.160 is just like hold on for dear life, like to 0:12:47.400 --> 0:12:51.320 any fat you have. It's crazy. If I've been trying 0:12:51.400 --> 0:12:54.680 so hard, like I got nutrition as a trainer, I've 0:12:54.679 --> 0:12:56.720 lost all my baby weight and then some. But I 0:12:56.760 --> 0:12:58.960 want to go now to like where I've never been before, 0:12:59.320 --> 0:13:02.360 and I'm plat towing and I'm stuck here and I'm like, 0:13:02.520 --> 0:13:04.640 Ma'm I'm doing nothing wrong, Like why aren't I losing 0:13:04.640 --> 0:13:06.520 my one pound a week like the healthy way? What's 0:13:06.559 --> 0:13:09.360 going on? Right? And stuck and I don't know what. 0:13:09.440 --> 0:13:12.880 I've started taking bar class, like I'm doing nothing wrong, 0:13:12.960 --> 0:13:16.679 but my body is just like hold hold seriously, just 0:13:16.720 --> 0:13:19.400 give it, give it, give yourself two months of running 0:13:19.760 --> 0:13:22.800 and then let me know, just do it for for 0:13:22.840 --> 0:13:24.960 two months, like just like give it a try. But no, 0:13:25.080 --> 0:13:26.880 I mean I feel like I mean, I didn't breastfeed 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:29.199 when I had my baby. How long did you breastfeed for? 0:13:30.320 --> 0:13:35.160 I like pumped for second that three months and then 0:13:35.200 --> 0:13:37.320 I thought like it'll shut off. It took a month 0:13:37.320 --> 0:13:39.640 to shut off. So I tell people like I pumped 0:13:39.640 --> 0:13:44.720 for four months, like I did the same thing. I don't. 0:13:44.920 --> 0:13:46.440 I don't know have a pump. I was just like, no, 0:13:46.559 --> 0:13:48.719 I just couldn't do it. Well, my dude, my I 0:13:48.760 --> 0:13:51.920 don't know how like intense you'll get. But my doctor 0:13:52.040 --> 0:13:56.040 or the the boob doctor or whatever lactation specialists was like, 0:13:56.120 --> 0:13:58.760 your nipples are too small. And I was like, excuse me, 0:13:59.559 --> 0:14:02.880 what do you hey? Wait what yea? So I had 0:14:02.920 --> 0:14:08.480 to have like the little pastic Yeah. It was a nightmare. 0:14:08.520 --> 0:14:12.040 And he wasn't gaining weight. He wasn't gaining weight, and 0:14:12.120 --> 0:14:14.640 my baby wasn't And the doctor was like, let's just 0:14:14.640 --> 0:14:17.240 like give up. And I was like, great, thank you. Well, 0:14:17.280 --> 0:14:19.800 it's like it's so much more stressful. I remember I'm 0:14:19.920 --> 0:14:22.440 recently divorced, but at the time I was married, and 0:14:22.520 --> 0:14:24.200 my husband was like, what are you doing? Why are 0:14:24.200 --> 0:14:26.360 you doing? You are stressed out? Like just stop, like 0:14:26.480 --> 0:14:28.200 to stop because it's like for my first one, I 0:14:28.200 --> 0:14:30.800 didn't breastfeed, so when I had my second, I'm like, Okay, 0:14:30.840 --> 0:14:32.960 I need to do this because that makes me a mom, right, 0:14:33.000 --> 0:14:35.560 Like I need to breastfeed until a year old or whatever. 0:14:36.280 --> 0:14:38.800 And then I'm trying. It wasn't latching, didn't know what 0:14:38.800 --> 0:14:40.360 the heck I was doing. I had like this pump 0:14:40.400 --> 0:14:42.320 on me and I was just like bawling my eyes out, 0:14:42.360 --> 0:14:44.080 and he was just like, you don't have to do that, 0:14:44.120 --> 0:14:46.280 like you're stressing yourself out for no reason. But like, 0:14:46.320 --> 0:14:47.920 but then I'm not a mom, and like what if 0:14:47.920 --> 0:14:53.200 he's going to get sick? And Catherine, my husband, was 0:14:53.280 --> 0:14:56.400 like please stop like begging me, And I was like, 0:14:56.920 --> 0:14:59.240 they say that you just gotta get like three months in, 0:14:59.320 --> 0:15:03.240 so let me get How is it though? Like what's 0:15:03.240 --> 0:15:06.880 been the most challenging thing as a new mom for you? Um? 0:15:07.040 --> 0:15:09.560 I like those are the challenging, Like the three months. 0:15:09.600 --> 0:15:12.160 The first three months is tough. Um. And they saw 0:15:12.280 --> 0:15:14.160 he saw me like because they live with me. My 0:15:14.240 --> 0:15:16.720 cue bros live with me. So one morning I walked 0:15:16.760 --> 0:15:20.280 out like miserable and it's eight am, and he's like, 0:15:20.560 --> 0:15:23.200 why are you up at eight? And I was like, hey, 0:15:23.240 --> 0:15:28.480 what it's like so early. I was like, are you joking? Right? God? 0:15:30.640 --> 0:15:34.360 I was like, I don't have a choice, like lives 0:15:34.440 --> 0:15:38.880 or doesn't. So how is that? Zombies? Right? All these 0:15:38.920 --> 0:15:42.960 poor people? How is marriage life changed? Married life changed 0:15:42.960 --> 0:15:46.520 for you? Since? Haven't they? Actually? Like we're weirdos. We're 0:15:46.600 --> 0:15:49.800 like like look at us in this painting. We're like 0:15:50.080 --> 0:15:54.280 we're so mate lovers supposed to be bonded together for life. Um, 0:15:55.480 --> 0:15:58.640 we're strange. We I feel like we've gotten closer, especially 0:15:58.640 --> 0:16:01.400 now that the babies in his own, Like every night 0:16:01.400 --> 0:16:03.120 that we go to bed, we go to bed early 0:16:03.280 --> 0:16:06.840 because it's the best, and we um, it's like date night. 0:16:07.120 --> 0:16:09.480 Like the giggle and no one makes me laugh as 0:16:09.560 --> 0:16:11.960 much as this goofy dude, and we just like giggle 0:16:12.000 --> 0:16:16.560 and laugh and like love you don't mind. So I 0:16:16.600 --> 0:16:19.360 just love that because you're never you will never remember 0:16:19.440 --> 0:16:21.960 this story. But we were at UM I used to 0:16:22.000 --> 0:16:23.960 be signed over at Warner and we were at an 0:16:24.000 --> 0:16:28.960 after party at Warner, remember remember Um, And we were 0:16:29.000 --> 0:16:31.400 having a conversation and you were just like who you 0:16:31.400 --> 0:16:33.120 were saying, like how you're single, and You're like, I'm 0:16:33.160 --> 0:16:35.360 just never going to find anyone. I'm gonna be alone forever. 0:16:35.440 --> 0:16:37.920 And I'm like, Megan, no, you will not, like you're beautiful, 0:16:38.080 --> 0:16:39.640 like you're going to be fine, and she's just like, 0:16:39.800 --> 0:16:42.240 but you were like seriously, like there's nobody here. I'm like, 0:16:42.400 --> 0:16:44.720 he's not here for you. I promise you he's not here. 0:16:44.920 --> 0:16:47.240 But we had like this like conversation where I'm like, 0:16:47.520 --> 0:16:49.360 but you were so defeated. You're like, I'm never going 0:16:49.400 --> 0:16:51.880 to find love, and it's like, yes you are. It's 0:16:51.920 --> 0:16:57.400 just yes. I cried about it. I like, but then 0:16:57.400 --> 0:17:04.320 I tell because I would like because I wasn't even 0:17:04.359 --> 0:17:06.960 like getting I wasn't even like hooking up guys, Like 0:17:07.000 --> 0:17:10.560 guys are terrified to talk to me. I'm spooky. And 0:17:10.560 --> 0:17:12.359 I was like, Ryan, what's up with it? Like I 0:17:12.480 --> 0:17:16.159 give up a don't just talk to me energy. He's like, 0:17:16.400 --> 0:17:18.760 you're just like loud and boss and you control the 0:17:18.840 --> 0:17:20.840 room when you walk in, which is a very good thing. 0:17:20.880 --> 0:17:23.160 It's not a negative thing at all. Yeah, it's awesome, 0:17:23.200 --> 0:17:25.240 but it's scars guy's away. And Darrel was the first 0:17:25.240 --> 0:17:26.960 guy that wasn't afraid of me, And I was like, 0:17:27.240 --> 0:17:29.119 look at you, a little bray boy, So who do 0:17:29.160 --> 0:17:30.840 you say to the girls? Then that are listening, that 0:17:30.840 --> 0:17:33.800 are kind of that were you five, five or six 0:17:33.840 --> 0:17:36.800 years ago? That was that there's somebody for everybody here, 0:17:36.800 --> 0:17:40.280 and like, I don't know. Everyone told me like the 0:17:40.359 --> 0:17:43.439 second you stopped thinking about it, it's gonna happen. That 0:17:43.640 --> 0:17:46.280 wasn't true for me. I cried out to the universe. 0:17:46.359 --> 0:17:49.240 I manifested that. I remember crying and uber with my 0:17:49.280 --> 0:17:53.000 best friend and was like, where is he already in 0:17:53.040 --> 0:17:55.560 my life? And then like a week later I got 0:17:55.600 --> 0:17:57.199 set up on a date with him and I was like, 0:17:57.280 --> 0:17:59.879 there you are? You know. I just I'm like, he 0:18:00.080 --> 0:18:03.280 just out there making silly mistakes, Like did you say 0:18:03.320 --> 0:18:04.960 that to him? Like, Hi, you do? You don't know this, 0:18:05.080 --> 0:18:07.199 but like you're my future husband? Oh yeah, I tell 0:18:07.280 --> 0:18:09.520 him all time. I'm like, where're the f were you? Like? 0:18:09.960 --> 0:18:12.800 I needed you? So oh my goodness, I don't know. 0:18:12.840 --> 0:18:15.840 I like manifesting and saying stuff out loud that I wanted. 0:18:16.880 --> 0:18:18.720 I remember someone once told me write a letter to 0:18:18.760 --> 0:18:21.639 God and say everything that you want in this person, 0:18:22.080 --> 0:18:23.720 and I did and he didn't send me him. But 0:18:23.800 --> 0:18:29.680 maybe it's fine. It's fine. I'm gonna rewrite that letter 0:18:29.720 --> 0:18:33.200 and see if we can just add write maybe he 0:18:33.240 --> 0:18:37.600 still is, though I mean it's not it's not your tibe. 0:18:38.040 --> 0:18:40.400 May I addressed it to the wrong heaven. I don't 0:18:40.400 --> 0:18:44.600 know off the mail. Yeah, but here's the thing about 0:18:44.600 --> 0:18:46.440 the nice guy. Do you really want the nice guy? 0:18:46.480 --> 0:18:50.120 Because I had yes, yes, yes, yes, ma'am. I want 0:18:50.119 --> 0:18:52.040 them up. Who will open that door for me when 0:18:52.040 --> 0:18:54.359 I get to the car? Okay, that's different. That's different 0:18:54.359 --> 0:18:56.399 than nice though. I feel like that is just what 0:18:56.440 --> 0:18:58.160 a man should do. They should open the car door. 0:18:59.160 --> 0:19:02.360 I think that's like he sees how I work every day, 0:19:02.359 --> 0:19:05.120 and it's like it makes me breakfast in bed, like 0:19:05.280 --> 0:19:08.320 that morning, makes my coffee, makes my smoothie is about 0:19:08.359 --> 0:19:11.000 to get here. In the beginning, I was like this 0:19:11.080 --> 0:19:16.879 kids too nice, like somewhere my Yeah, he used to 0:19:17.080 --> 0:19:18.960 want to be friends and my he does want to 0:19:19.000 --> 0:19:20.640 be friends with my bros. And he would be like 0:19:21.000 --> 0:19:22.960 to my younger brother like, hey, sometime if you want 0:19:22.960 --> 0:19:26.160 to get drinks, like like, I'll take you out and 0:19:26.200 --> 0:19:29.280 we can hang out. And Justin's like ill, like why 0:19:29.320 --> 0:19:31.960 does he want to be nice to me? And I 0:19:32.040 --> 0:19:37.240 was like, it's just because they're East Coast, like what 0:19:37.359 --> 0:19:40.679 you wrote from me? And how long have y' all 0:19:40.720 --> 0:19:44.879 been together now like over five years now, and he 0:19:45.000 --> 0:19:48.400 like still brings you coffee and everything. That's the new thing. Yeah, 0:19:48.480 --> 0:19:51.840 we get because in my pregnancy I had just sational diabetes, 0:19:51.880 --> 0:19:54.600 but I was also promoting an entire Christmas album, so 0:19:54.640 --> 0:19:56.840 I was not stop going and you have to eat 0:19:56.880 --> 0:20:00.280 to keep your blood sugar ruddy regular and he would 0:20:00.320 --> 0:20:02.560 like literally provide me with my meals and he just 0:20:02.600 --> 0:20:05.080 like kept that going. And I was like, well, this 0:20:05.119 --> 0:20:08.000 ain't a bad gig, Like let's keep this up. And 0:20:08.000 --> 0:20:11.840 now it just does it every day. Okay, that's so sweet. Yeah, 0:20:11.880 --> 0:20:14.440 because I feel like and he's not like a pushover, 0:20:14.480 --> 0:20:16.720 because that's that's so that's different, I think between a 0:20:16.800 --> 0:20:18.960 nice guy and then someone who just says like, let's 0:20:19.000 --> 0:20:22.560 you do whatever you want. No, Yeah, And we communicate everything. 0:20:22.760 --> 0:20:25.480 That's a big thing with us. Like if we feel 0:20:25.520 --> 0:20:28.160 any way about anything, we tell each other and we're 0:20:28.200 --> 0:20:30.960 like this makes me uncomfortable or don't do this, or 0:20:31.520 --> 0:20:34.480 like from the beginning. So I think that's what we 0:20:34.560 --> 0:20:36.439 just can like read each other's thoughts now, you know, 0:20:36.520 --> 0:20:39.919