Speaker 1: Okay, let's get into the sports mom volleyball mom discussion again.
Speaker 1: So another tournament with my daughter an hour and twenty
Speaker 1: minutes away. Woke up at six o'clock in the morning.
Speaker 1: It started at nine, but she had to be there
Speaker 1: at eight, got the coffee, did not get a lawn chair,
Speaker 1: had not invested in one yet. Didn't know that that
Speaker 1: was just a constant, that's a universal thing that you
Speaker 1: just need to have a lawn chair with cup holders
Speaker 1: in it. I did not know that. I know that
Speaker 1: now because I walked into another gymnasium with wall to
Speaker 1: wall people and it's like very cliquish. It is a tailgate.
Speaker 1: People have gotten there early. You are late, you're making
Speaker 1: a spectacle. You're thirty minutes early, meaning you're or thirty
Speaker 1: minutes late because everybody's already wall to wall people. There
Speaker 1: was one little section that I thought that I could
Speaker 1: sit in because it was like no one was there.
Speaker 1: But it also felt like it might have been some
Speaker 1: official section, like I got in trouble last time, because
Speaker 1: there was like an official section, and I don't know
Speaker 1: how they can designate that this is the section where
Speaker 1: like balls might come, because balls might come everywhere. But anyway,
Speaker 1: they like designate these weird sections. And last time, I remember,
Speaker 1: I moved a garbage can and stood in that section
Speaker 1: with Paul and was like, you can't make me move
Speaker 1: because I just took a seat of a garbage can,
Speaker 1: like you know what I mean, Like I'm a garbage now.
Speaker 1: So I got away with that. And this time I
Speaker 1: was against the wall sitting and I was fine because
Speaker 1: like my butt was against the wall, and I thought,
Speaker 1: like that's okay. I could do that for a while.
Speaker 1: And a dad came and said, Hi, I'm Page. His
Speaker 1: dad shout out Page, his dad. If you want, you
Speaker 1: can take this chair. So I took the chair that
Speaker 1: had the little pockets in it. And then the woman
Speaker 1: next to me, I felt bad that she was still
Speaker 1: sitting on her ass and I didn't know yet that
Speaker 1: she was a fan, and she said that the night
Speaker 1: before she was either watching me or thinking about me,
Speaker 1: or listening to me. She was very sweet. Her daughter
Speaker 1: was on the opposing team. Another dynamic that now I realize,
Speaker 1: like the opposing team. Moms like are next to you
Speaker 1: and you're cheering for yours and they're cheering for theirs,
Speaker 1: and you feel guilty and like that's a thing because
Speaker 1: I had a mom on each side of me with
Speaker 1: two different kids that are not on my team. And
Speaker 1: then like I felt bad because Brin's team was winning,
Speaker 1: and sometimes when the team that's winning, like is so
Speaker 1: far ahead of the other team, you want to start
Speaker 1: cheering for the other team, like you want them to
Speaker 1: get a couple of points, Like it's hard for these kids,
Speaker 1: you know. So then another woman came during when Brinn says,
Speaker 1: can you watch me pepper mom, which I guess is
Speaker 1: like the practice part and she loves saying it and they
Speaker 1: love all the lingos, so she wanted me to watch
Speaker 1: her pepper. She also told me that when I played
Speaker 1: volleyball this year, like at a hotel with her, it
Speaker 1: was embarrassing because I'm like, really, I think it's just
Speaker 1: embarrassing the way I do it, Like it's not good,
Speaker 1: and it wasn't bad, like the ball could go over
Speaker 1: the net. It's just I guess, like the way I
Speaker 1: look doing it. And on one day she made the
Speaker 1: mistake when I said to her, you're athletic, I said,
Speaker 1: because you know, I'm athletic, and she was like ha,
Speaker 1: I was like no, no, no, like I'm athletic, like
Speaker 1: I'm a good snowboarder, I'm a good I'm excellent a
Speaker 1: yoga like sorry, not sorry, I'm amazing rollerblade of rollerskater,
Speaker 1: like I'm athletic, like we can say whatever we want,
Speaker 1: but like, I'm athletic. So anyway, so she's peppering and
Speaker 1: a woman comes up. She said, can I interrupt you?
Speaker 1: I said sure, because I thought she's gonna say hi,
Speaker 1: like can I get a picture or something, or you know,
Speaker 1: I watched you or whatever. So she goes, no, can
Speaker 1: I just sit down? I just need like five minutes,
Speaker 1: which I know would have been way more than five
Speaker 1: minutes because I don't think she had a timer on
Speaker 1: her unless she was gonna use the volleyball timer. And
Speaker 1: Brynn was peppering, so I said, yeah, I don't have
Speaker 1: five minutes, Like I kind of just wanted to say
Speaker 1: hi to her, but I think she I mean, I
Speaker 1: know that she was sort of a fan, and then
Speaker 1: I felt bad about that. But it wasn't like my
Speaker 1: time there. It was it was my brin's time. So
Speaker 1: the other thing I really have decided and I'm certain about,
Speaker 1: is that in between games, when your kid's not playing,
Speaker 1: like you should get the fuck up and get the
Speaker 1: fuck out because people need room, and like people are
Speaker 1: feeling uncomfortable and can't sit. Not everyone has a chair
Speaker 1: and not everyone has pages dad to come give them
Speaker 1: a chair, and so like it's not you know people.
Speaker 1: Someone had a cow bell, a woman had pom poms.
Speaker 1: Like people take the shit really seriously. And I'm really like,
Speaker 1: I'm an amateur. And what I am realizing now is
Speaker 1: that this is the age when like sports get really competitive,
Speaker 1: and your kid this defines them, like it's about life.
Speaker 1: This whole experience is life. I was saying to Brinn,
Speaker 1: like when you're not playing, you're cheering for people that
Speaker 1: are playing, because I've watched when you're playing that other
Speaker 1: people are cheering for you. And that's the person you
Speaker 1: want to be. And I know that when you don't
Speaker 1: get the ball sometimes it's a bummer, or you mess
Speaker 1: something up, it's a bummer, but you got to shake
Speaker 1: it off because that's like life. You know. I'll say,
Speaker 1: like years ago, i'd have a talk show one day,
Speaker 1: it would suck, and you know what, it's a touching story.
Speaker 1: Get off your ass the next day and do it
Speaker 1: because you can't live in the last show. There's no time.
Speaker 1: And it's the same thing with your on reality television
Speaker 1: and you said something stupid and you might regret it. Well,
Speaker 1: that milk is spilled, so you hit that ball and
Speaker 1: that hit the net Like tough shit, keep going, you know. Also,
Speaker 1: I stayed till three. It's an hour and a half away.
Speaker 1: I didn't stay until five, and I had that guilt like, wait,
Speaker 1: but everybody else is staying until five or six. And
Speaker 1: when I did leave, someone's like, oh, you're leaving. And
Speaker 1: I thought to myself, I woke up at six o'clock
Speaker 1: in the morning, and I think I left like three thirty.
Speaker 1: And I left at three thirty and got the kid's food,
Speaker 1: and like, I'm okay. I don't want to live in
Speaker 1: a world where I feel guilty if I'm not at
Speaker 1: every single one from morning until night, Like that's not
Speaker 1: the life that I choose to live. And I think
Speaker 1: that some parents will be like, well, no, I never
Speaker 1: missed a game, and that's amazing. There's no judgment on that.
Speaker 1: That is a beautiful thing. That's like being perfect. But
Speaker 1: I have to be okay with it in my own
Speaker 1: life to not feel guilty or peer pressure that like
Speaker 1: I suck because I didn't stay until the bitter end.
Speaker 1: So it's all an experience. It's not only a life
Speaker 1: experience for Britain, but it's a life experience for me.
Speaker 1: And it's all so clique and it's also like they
Speaker 1: are cool parents and not cool parents, and I am
Speaker 1: certainly not a cool parent. I'm a dork and like
Speaker 1: I'm not pretending I'm a dork. I'm not cosplaying a dork.
Speaker 1: I feel awkward. I walk in and I'm like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, I'm a loser. That brought all the kids,
Speaker 1: like the food, the weird like shaving dish of food
Speaker 1: and it said no food or drinking here, and then
Speaker 1: I started to sweat my balls off. And then I
Speaker 1: saw that everybody had fruit or drinking there, like for
Speaker 1: themselves but also for the kids. And I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's a rule we don't follow, Like is this is
Speaker 1: not the rule like wearing a COVID mask, Like this
Speaker 1: is like a breakable rule. So I don't know, and
Speaker 1: no one's giving me the rules. And maybe you guys
Speaker 1: will give me the rules, but it's a fucking jungle
Speaker 1: in there, is what I'm trying to say to you, So,
Speaker 1: what do you think for anyone who's interested in getting
Speaker 1: into production or being an actress or a makeup artist
Speaker 1: on a movie, or a lighting or a sound person.
Speaker 1: I just want to tell you the straight truth when
Speaker 1: you see these shows, in these movies, these actors go
Speaker 1: away for months at a time. It's sometimes freezing. They
Speaker 1: are getting up at ungodly as they are going to
Speaker 1: bet it on godly hours. The crew is there before
Speaker 1: them and after them. And it's not that it's exhausting
Speaker 1: because you're, like, you know, doing hard labor. It's exhausting
Speaker 1: because you're just sitting around a little lonely away from
Speaker 1: your family, and it's a lot of hurry up and wait,
Speaker 1: and you end up feeling dirty and tired and like
Speaker 1: you're a stranger in a strange land and you don't
Speaker 1: really know where you are and you don't like identify
Speaker 1: with where you are. But you're away from your kids.
Speaker 1: And I have such a newfound respect for actors for
Speaker 1: their memorization and their dedication and what they go through
Speaker 1: away from their families. And then they have to give
Speaker 1: it all in the scenes and like really get emotional
Speaker 1: and you know, but the production is another story. Like
Speaker 1: I just feel like they really are the unsung heroes.
Speaker 1: And when some people, but not every person gets on
Speaker 1: stage at an award show and thanks them, they be
Speaker 1: on deserve it. And like every single person that gets
Speaker 1: up and accept an award, whether it's an Academy Award,
Speaker 1: a Grammy, whatever, like it shouldn't just be like a
Speaker 1: throwaway the crew, Like there's a guy that cleans out
Speaker 1: your trailer. Like you just get up at the end
Speaker 1: of the night and you go home, and there's someone
Speaker 1: who cleans out your entire trailer from like the food
Speaker 1: you ate and what was in your fridge, And there's
Speaker 1: a person who wants the entire crew wraps, has to
Speaker 1: drop you off at home and wait till the last
Speaker 1: person leaves, which could be at one o'clock in the morning,
Speaker 1: and then they have to drive another hour to go
Speaker 1: pick up scripts that have been copied and deliver them
Speaker 1: to each actor for the next day. It is a
Speaker 1: thankless job, Like it really really is. The director just
Speaker 1: there every minute of the day. I have such a
Speaker 1: respect I cannot watch television show or a movie again
Speaker 1: in the same way. Anytime I've ever acted in anything
Speaker 1: it's been like a day or two days. I am
Speaker 1: astounded by what goes into making a movie a TV show.
Speaker 1: I don't even know that I've got the chops, Like,
Speaker 1: forget the acting chops and memorization shops that sit around chops,
Speaker 1: Like you have to find a way to meditate, to read,
Speaker 1: to adjust, to do meetings in between hair, makeup, wardrobe
Speaker 1: and things like that. So shout out to crew members
Speaker 1: of every production. Unbelievable and it's hard work, and it
Speaker 1: makes me have so much more respect for the strike
Speaker 1: process and why they want to be paid fairly to
Speaker 1: be honest, and why they're enraged when someone crosses the
Speaker 1: picket line like that is a no, no, I get
Speaker 1: it all now. I've learned a ton, great, great experience
Speaker 1: for that alone. Yeah,