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Speaker 1: Okay, let's get into the sports mom volleyball mom discussion again.

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Speaker 1: So another tournament with my daughter an hour and twenty

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Speaker 1: It started at nine, but she had to be there

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Speaker 1: at eight, got the coffee, did not get a lawn chair,

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Speaker 1: had not invested in one yet. Didn't know that that

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Speaker 1: was just a constant, that's a universal thing that you

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Speaker 1: just need to have a lawn chair with cup holders

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Speaker 1: in it. I did not know that. I know that

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Speaker 1: now because I walked into another gymnasium with wall to

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Speaker 1: wall people and it's like very cliquish. It is a tailgate.

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Speaker 1: People have gotten there early. You are late, you're making

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Speaker 1: a spectacle. You're thirty minutes early, meaning you're or thirty

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Speaker 1: minutes late because everybody's already wall to wall people. There

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Speaker 1: was one little section that I thought that I could

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Speaker 1: But it also felt like it might have been some

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Speaker 1: official section, like I got in trouble last time, because

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Speaker 1: there was like an official section, and I don't know

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Speaker 1: how they can designate that this is the section where

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Speaker 1: like balls might come, because balls might come everywhere. But anyway,

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Speaker 1: they like designate these weird sections. And last time, I remember,

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Speaker 1: I moved a garbage can and stood in that section

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Speaker 1: like you know what I mean, Like I'm a garbage now.

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Speaker 1: So I got away with that. And this time I

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Speaker 1: like my butt was against the wall, and I thought,

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Speaker 1: like that's okay. I could do that for a while.

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Speaker 1: And a dad came and said, Hi, I'm Page. His

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Speaker 1: dad shout out Page, his dad. If you want, you

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Speaker 1: can take this chair. So I took the chair that

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Speaker 1: had the little pockets in it. And then the woman

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Speaker 1: next to me, I felt bad that she was still

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Speaker 1: sitting on her ass and I didn't know yet that

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Speaker 1: she was a fan, and she said that the night

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Speaker 1: before she was either watching me or thinking about me,

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Speaker 1: or listening to me. She was very sweet. Her daughter

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Speaker 1: was on the opposing team. Another dynamic that now I realize,

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Speaker 1: like the opposing team. Moms like are next to you

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Speaker 1: and you're cheering for yours and they're cheering for theirs,

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Speaker 1: and you feel guilty and like that's a thing because

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Speaker 1: I had a mom on each side of me with

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Speaker 1: two different kids that are not on my team. And

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Speaker 1: then like I felt bad because Brin's team was winning,

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Speaker 1: and sometimes when the team that's winning, like is so

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Speaker 1: far ahead of the other team, you want to start

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Speaker 1: cheering for the other team, like you want them to

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Speaker 1: get a couple of points, Like it's hard for these kids,

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Speaker 1: you know. So then another woman came during when Brinn says,

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Speaker 1: can you watch me pepper mom, which I guess is

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Speaker 1: like the practice part and she loves saying it and they

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Speaker 1: love all the lingos, so she wanted me to watch

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Speaker 1: her pepper. She also told me that when I played

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Speaker 1: volleyball this year, like at a hotel with her, it

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Speaker 1: was embarrassing because I'm like, really, I think it's just

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Speaker 1: and it wasn't bad, like the ball could go over

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Speaker 1: mistake when I said to her, you're athletic, I said,

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Speaker 1: because you know, I'm athletic, and she was like ha,

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Speaker 1: I was like no, no, no, like I'm athletic, like

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Speaker 1: I'm a good snowboarder, I'm a good I'm excellent a

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Speaker 1: like I'm athletic, like we can say whatever we want,

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Speaker 1: but like, I'm athletic. So anyway, so she's peppering and

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Speaker 1: a woman comes up. She said, can I interrupt you?

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Speaker 1: I said sure, because I thought she's gonna say hi,

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Speaker 1: like can I get a picture or something, or you know,

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Speaker 1: I just sit down? I just need like five minutes,

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Speaker 1: Someone had a cow bell, a woman had pom poms.

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Speaker 1: Like people take the shit really seriously. And I'm really like,

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Speaker 1: I'm an amateur. And what I am realizing now is

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Speaker 1: and your kid this defines them, like it's about life.

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Speaker 1: This whole experience is life. I was saying to Brinn,

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Speaker 1: something up, it's a bummer, but you got to shake

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Speaker 1: it off because that's like life. You know. I'll say,

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Speaker 1: like years ago, i'd have a talk show one day,

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Speaker 1: it would suck, and you know what, it's a touching story.

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Speaker 1: Get off your ass the next day and do it

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Speaker 1: because you can't live in the last show. There's no time.

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Speaker 1: And it's the same thing with your on reality television

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Speaker 1: and you said something stupid and you might regret it. Well,

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Speaker 1: that milk is spilled, so you hit that ball and

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Speaker 1: that hit the net Like tough shit, keep going, you know. Also,

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Speaker 1: I stayed till three. It's an hour and a half away.

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Speaker 1: I didn't stay until five, and I had that guilt like, wait,

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Speaker 1: And I left at three thirty and got the kid's food,

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Speaker 1: every single one from morning until night, Like that's not

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Speaker 1: the life that I choose to live. And I think

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Speaker 1: that some parents will be like, well, no, I never

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Speaker 1: missed a game, and that's amazing. There's no judgment on that.

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Speaker 1: That is a beautiful thing. That's like being perfect. But

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Speaker 1: So it's all an experience. It's not only a life

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Speaker 1: And it's all so clique and it's also like they

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Speaker 1: certainly not a cool parent. I'm a dork and like

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Speaker 1: I'm not pretending I'm a dork. I'm not cosplaying a dork.

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Speaker 1: I feel awkward. I walk in and I'm like, oh

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Speaker 1: my god, I'm a loser. That brought all the kids,

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Speaker 1: like the food, the weird like shaving dish of food

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Speaker 1: themselves but also for the kids. And I was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: that's a rule we don't follow, Like is this is

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Speaker 1: no one's giving me the rules. And maybe you guys

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Speaker 1: will give me the rules, but it's a fucking jungle

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Speaker 1: in there, is what I'm trying to say to you, So,

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Speaker 1: what do you think for anyone who's interested in getting

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Speaker 1: I just want to tell you the straight truth when

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Speaker 1: them and after them. And it's not that it's exhausting

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Speaker 1: And I have such a newfound respect for actors for

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Speaker 1: and you know, but the production is another story. Like

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Speaker 1: I just feel like they really are the unsung heroes.

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Speaker 1: And when some people, but not every person gets on

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Speaker 1: throwaway the crew, Like there's a guy that cleans out

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Speaker 1: pick up scripts that have been copied and deliver them

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Speaker 1: to each actor for the next day. It is a

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Speaker 1: thankless job, Like it really really is. The director just

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Speaker 1: in the same way. Anytime I've ever acted in anything

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Speaker 1: I don't even know that I've got the chops, Like,

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Speaker 1: forget the acting chops and memorization shops that sit around chops,

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Speaker 1: Like you have to find a way to meditate, to read,

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Speaker 1: to adjust, to do meetings in between hair, makeup, wardrobe

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Speaker 1: picket line like that is a no, no, I get

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Speaker 1: it all now. I've learned a ton, great, great experience

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Speaker 1: for that alone. Yeah,