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Speaker 1: They only let me say that because it wow. Thank

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Speaker 1: and that both of my kids dad's are losers. She

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Speaker 1: fat blank and start and start taking care of myself.

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Speaker 1: Before she could finish, I hung up on her. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I have made plenty mistakes, but I don't need her

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Speaker 1: throwing them in my face. So now my children and

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Speaker 1: This was my dad's way. This was this was my

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Speaker 1: do you think? Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope. How wrong

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Speaker 1: the fact that you don't know this makes this letter

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Speaker 1: even more ridiculous. Okay, your father has every right to

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Speaker 1: Your your dad doesn't owe you anything, okay, Uh, he

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Speaker 1: to do for you? At forty two? He's been helping

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Speaker 1: and how old are these boys now? They've been doing

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Speaker 1: they did, every right. Come on now, Steve, Yes, come

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Speaker 1: on boy, Steve. And he's type of letters who I

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Speaker 1: exhale My gift comes out in letters like this. Let

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Speaker 1: me take you down to it because you really want

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Speaker 1: to kick your daddy's wife behind. I'm fartty too, let's

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Speaker 1: just start that. Damn the single mother Paul you far

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Speaker 1: hug your boyfriends. Fifteen years. Well, I recently lost my

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Speaker 1: And the other reason it cause your asses fighting too.

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Speaker 1: Hell no, because this will be the knife time one

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Speaker 1: to part two of your response to today's Strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: He chose his wife over me, this fartty too year

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Speaker 1: the problem. You called your daddy because you lost your job,

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Speaker 1: and why you keep losing job? You keep losing jobs?

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Speaker 1: Then you call your daddy, he'd helped you in the

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Speaker 1: Now you want to kill her. You want to kick

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Speaker 1: my wife's daddy behind. He putting my step mother on

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Speaker 1: Hell no, when you gotta bringing? She said it would

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Speaker 1: be the ninth time, and she did not lie because

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Speaker 1: She did told me to get off my fat and

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Speaker 1: start taking care of myself. That's what prompted this letter. Right,

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Speaker 1: she had called your fat ass. See that wasn't not

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Speaker 1: Now we have the letter now. Before she could finish

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Speaker 1: I hung up because the fatther ass wiped you out.

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Speaker 1: I hung up on her. Yes I have made now

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Speaker 1: up on it. Yes, I have made plenty of mistakes,

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Speaker 1: but I don't need her throwing them in my face.

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Speaker 1: She ain't throw them in the face. You keep throwing

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Speaker 1: back over there eight times prior. It ain't that they

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Speaker 1: So now my children and now are living with my girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: But we can't stay there much longer. You know why,

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Speaker 1: Why should I apologize to this woman? She hurt my feelings.

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Speaker 1: I don't feel like I'm wrong. Well, Charley told you

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Speaker 1: her husband. Yeah, your dad. But when you get a wife,

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Speaker 1: he's still your daddy and he said you can't come

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Speaker 1: over there. He's not like Sheirley said, he's not just

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Speaker 1: your daddy. He's been your enabler. You've been over these

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