1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:02,920 Speaker 1: My husband is cheating on me with my best friend 2 00:00:03,360 --> 00:00:08,880 Speaker 1: right after my dad got cancer. You know, Riley. Uh, 3 00:00:08,960 --> 00:00:12,920 Speaker 1: there's never a good time to cheat on someone, but 4 00:00:13,240 --> 00:00:16,040 Speaker 1: maybe there are actually worse times than others. 5 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:18,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, I would say this is definitely top three. If 6 00:00:18,920 --> 00:00:22,919 Speaker 2: you hear you three, top three. I mean there's you 7 00:00:22,960 --> 00:00:26,720 Speaker 2: know that could vary, I could happen. 8 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:27,440 Speaker 3: I'm afraid. 9 00:00:27,560 --> 00:00:29,880 Speaker 1: I'm afraid to even ask what number one and number 10 00:00:29,880 --> 00:00:32,400 Speaker 1: two are, Like I I kind of don't even want 11 00:00:32,440 --> 00:00:32,640 Speaker 1: to know. 12 00:00:32,880 --> 00:00:34,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, but you know what I brought to this though? 13 00:00:34,560 --> 00:00:35,200 Speaker 4: What'd you bring? 14 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:41,120 Speaker 3: Guys? 15 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:43,400 Speaker 1: As you can see, we are missing a third in 16 00:00:43,400 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 1: our divorce chant, and that is our beautiful Sam. 17 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:46,360 Speaker 4: We miss him. 18 00:00:46,400 --> 00:00:49,639 Speaker 1: We miss him on these long, long solo episodes where 19 00:00:49,640 --> 00:00:51,360 Speaker 1: we don't have them. If you could put if you 20 00:00:51,400 --> 00:00:54,280 Speaker 1: miss Sam in the comments below, send our boys some love, 21 00:00:54,800 --> 00:00:58,880 Speaker 1: a little RP, little r r P. If Sam Sam 22 00:00:58,880 --> 00:01:01,360 Speaker 1: not on this story to be to be super good, 23 00:01:01,520 --> 00:01:05,039 Speaker 1: hold on, Riley, hold on, hold on to me clear 24 00:01:05,760 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: he's alive and well, all right, stop it, Riley, bad bad, Riley. 25 00:01:12,680 --> 00:01:15,319 Speaker 1: Don't give them many ideas. Also, I love all the 26 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:17,680 Speaker 1: comments that were like, does Sam and John break up? 27 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:18,400 Speaker 4: Is this the end? 28 00:01:18,440 --> 00:01:20,759 Speaker 1: Of the podcast. Are we not doing in the podcast anymore? 29 00:01:20,920 --> 00:01:22,959 Speaker 1: We're just doing some long stories. We want to give 30 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:23,840 Speaker 1: you guys more content. 31 00:01:23,959 --> 00:01:26,320 Speaker 4: So that's all. That's all. We love our boy. 32 00:01:26,720 --> 00:01:29,320 Speaker 1: I'm honestly not sure where to start, so I guess 33 00:01:29,360 --> 00:01:31,959 Speaker 1: I'll just start. My husband and I have been dating 34 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:34,640 Speaker 1: since I was nineteen and he was twenty two. We've 35 00:01:34,640 --> 00:01:37,560 Speaker 1: been married for six years now. We have two kids, 36 00:01:37,600 --> 00:01:41,600 Speaker 1: and I'm six months pregnant with our third. I do 37 00:01:41,640 --> 00:01:46,240 Speaker 1: not like reading that. After reading that title, Two years ago, 38 00:01:46,440 --> 00:01:49,600 Speaker 1: I found out that my dad has stage three colon cancer. 39 00:01:50,080 --> 00:01:52,680 Speaker 1: My dad is my only parent, as my mom passed 40 00:01:52,720 --> 00:01:55,840 Speaker 1: away when I was twelve years old. He's my favorite 41 00:01:55,920 --> 00:01:59,320 Speaker 1: human and life without him doesn't seem as colorful. His 42 00:01:59,400 --> 00:02:02,640 Speaker 1: laugh is tageous, and he gives these big bear hugs 43 00:02:02,680 --> 00:02:05,240 Speaker 1: that seem to make all of your broken pieces feel 44 00:02:05,240 --> 00:02:06,680 Speaker 1: like they're perfectly. 45 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:06,960 Speaker 4: In place again. 46 00:02:07,520 --> 00:02:10,519 Speaker 1: Oh OPI has a way with words, and my goodness, 47 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:13,799 Speaker 1: Whenever I've had a hard day, he doesn't poke in PROD, 48 00:02:14,200 --> 00:02:17,640 Speaker 1: just lets me vent and listens. About five months ago, 49 00:02:17,720 --> 00:02:20,560 Speaker 1: we discovered the treatments aren't working for him, and in 50 00:02:20,680 --> 00:02:24,560 Speaker 1: direct quote of the doctor, he said, months, not years, 51 00:02:25,280 --> 00:02:28,640 Speaker 1: Since then, he's gotten progressively worse and is now losing memory. 52 00:02:29,120 --> 00:02:30,880 Speaker 1: He looked at the dog he got for me on 53 00:02:30,919 --> 00:02:34,320 Speaker 1: my twenty first birthday and said, wow, that's a nice dog. 54 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:35,320 Speaker 4: Where did you get it? 55 00:02:35,840 --> 00:02:41,560 Speaker 1: Oh Ope, Our hearts go out to you. My husband 56 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:44,680 Speaker 1: has been my absolute rock. He has been there for me, 57 00:02:44,840 --> 00:02:47,720 Speaker 1: holding my hand and helping me through this. He's been 58 00:02:47,760 --> 00:02:50,560 Speaker 1: so loving and attentive to both my kids and I 59 00:02:51,080 --> 00:02:54,760 Speaker 1: don't get me wrong, I am a mother first and always. 60 00:02:55,120 --> 00:02:58,400 Speaker 1: I don't allow myself to wallow. My kids are still loved, 61 00:02:58,760 --> 00:03:01,640 Speaker 1: cared for, played with, and I haven't let my load 62 00:03:01,840 --> 00:03:05,679 Speaker 1: slack around the house. Once my dad got his updated prognosis, 63 00:03:05,880 --> 00:03:08,880 Speaker 1: my husband encouraged me to quit my job. About a 64 00:03:08,919 --> 00:03:12,200 Speaker 1: month later, we discovered we were pregnant again, and I 65 00:03:12,240 --> 00:03:13,919 Speaker 1: still hadn't let go of my job. 66 00:03:14,240 --> 00:03:15,960 Speaker 4: I kept holding out for some reason. 67 00:03:16,560 --> 00:03:20,000 Speaker 1: After finding out I was pregnant again, he ensured me 68 00:03:20,120 --> 00:03:22,919 Speaker 1: it was still okay to quit my job, that honestly, 69 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:26,080 Speaker 1: it would save us a small fortune on daycare cost anyways, 70 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:30,040 Speaker 1: So I did it, and I quit my job. That's 71 00:03:30,120 --> 00:03:32,760 Speaker 1: kind of a scary, scary thing to do with like 72 00:03:32,800 --> 00:03:36,040 Speaker 1: a third I guess honestly, maybe after three, after two 73 00:03:36,120 --> 00:03:38,320 Speaker 1: you're like, okay, we kind of know the rodeo, Like, 74 00:03:38,920 --> 00:03:41,120 Speaker 1: if you're gonna quit with that, then the third new 75 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:43,960 Speaker 1: baby isn't as like shocking as I guess like the 76 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:45,600 Speaker 1: first or the second. 77 00:03:45,680 --> 00:03:49,320 Speaker 3: Second. Yeah, yeah, it's like just throw them in the wagon. 78 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:49,600 Speaker 1: You know. 79 00:03:49,760 --> 00:03:50,120 Speaker 3: It's just. 80 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:55,000 Speaker 1: Exactly just like everyone hand me downs, you know what 81 00:03:55,040 --> 00:03:57,360 Speaker 1: I mean, You've already got their clothes. Just give him 82 00:03:57,360 --> 00:03:59,480 Speaker 1: what is an extra like three scoops of oatmeal in 83 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:01,160 Speaker 1: the morning. Kids don't eat much. 84 00:04:01,080 --> 00:04:04,480 Speaker 2: Right, We're already gonna have leftovers. She'll just finish them. Yeah, 85 00:04:05,200 --> 00:04:08,440 Speaker 2: you can just eat all. It's basically free at this point. 86 00:04:09,120 --> 00:04:12,080 Speaker 1: It's included in the It's it's like getting extra channels 87 00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:13,880 Speaker 1: on your cable package at this point. 88 00:04:14,080 --> 00:04:16,120 Speaker 2: Exactly like, oh, we have more stuff to do around 89 00:04:16,120 --> 00:04:19,279 Speaker 2: the house. He'll help out. Perfect kid number three, you're 90 00:04:19,320 --> 00:04:21,919 Speaker 2: just ESPN eight. Sorry to break it to you, but 91 00:04:22,240 --> 00:04:25,280 Speaker 2: as you can tell from this conversation, neither of us 92 00:04:25,320 --> 00:04:27,719 Speaker 2: are the youngest in our birth orders. 93 00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:32,000 Speaker 3: So we are. Yeah, we both are the oldest. 94 00:04:32,080 --> 00:04:34,120 Speaker 1: Dude, I don't know about you, do you always gravitate 95 00:04:34,160 --> 00:04:37,080 Speaker 1: to the oldest, like friends and stuff in life. 96 00:04:37,360 --> 00:04:39,440 Speaker 3: You and Sam are both the oldest, So. 97 00:04:39,680 --> 00:04:43,479 Speaker 1: Dude, I'm always friends with the oldest, Like it's crazy. 98 00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:47,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, because we're smarter and better and good looking and 99 00:04:47,360 --> 00:04:48,240 Speaker 2: the best overall. 100 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:52,160 Speaker 1: So exactly. My best friend and I have been friends 101 00:04:52,200 --> 00:04:58,200 Speaker 1: since diapers. I just remember the title again. Her family 102 00:04:58,320 --> 00:05:01,080 Speaker 1: is like my family and vice vers. My mom and 103 00:05:01,160 --> 00:05:04,240 Speaker 1: her grew up together. We've always been solid, and right 104 00:05:04,279 --> 00:05:06,839 Speaker 1: after my dad's appointment, when we found out he had 105 00:05:06,920 --> 00:05:10,040 Speaker 1: so little time left, I drove her straight to her 106 00:05:10,080 --> 00:05:13,000 Speaker 1: house and she held me while I cried for hours. 107 00:05:13,279 --> 00:05:16,200 Speaker 1: If there are soulmates in friends for him, she was mine. 108 00:05:16,560 --> 00:05:18,799 Speaker 1: Thick as thieves is what my mom used to say. 109 00:05:19,279 --> 00:05:21,880 Speaker 1: This morning, as I was up with my three year old. 110 00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:22,560 Speaker 3: He is sick. 111 00:05:22,920 --> 00:05:26,000 Speaker 1: My husband's work alarm was going off. He has a 112 00:05:26,040 --> 00:05:28,680 Speaker 1: few he sets off, so I turned off that one 113 00:05:28,920 --> 00:05:31,160 Speaker 1: and gently will come up. He said he was up 114 00:05:31,240 --> 00:05:35,560 Speaker 1: late working working. I don't know, We'll see, so he 115 00:05:35,640 --> 00:05:37,960 Speaker 1: took the morning off. He rolled over and then he 116 00:05:38,000 --> 00:05:40,360 Speaker 1: went back to sleep. As I went and turned off 117 00:05:40,400 --> 00:05:43,159 Speaker 1: the remaining alarms, I saw a text from my friend 118 00:05:43,279 --> 00:05:46,640 Speaker 1: on his lock screen that said, I'm assuming since there 119 00:05:46,680 --> 00:05:50,000 Speaker 1: hasn't been an angry pregnant lady on my doorstep. You 120 00:05:50,080 --> 00:05:54,000 Speaker 1: haven't told her about us yet, dude. 121 00:05:54,320 --> 00:05:57,840 Speaker 2: Out of all the freaking texts you could get, it 122 00:05:57,920 --> 00:06:00,720 Speaker 2: was that one. It's like you, there's so many can 123 00:06:00,720 --> 00:06:01,839 Speaker 2: get into existence. 124 00:06:01,960 --> 00:06:06,680 Speaker 1: That was the most negative manifestation humanly imaginable. It could 125 00:06:06,720 --> 00:06:09,640 Speaker 1: have been. It could have been like, what about seven pm? 126 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:12,360 Speaker 1: You know, which is still which is still like wait 127 00:06:12,400 --> 00:06:15,000 Speaker 1: seven pm for what? But it could be general like oh, 128 00:06:15,040 --> 00:06:17,719 Speaker 1: are are you guys coming over seven pm next Saturday 129 00:06:17,720 --> 00:06:18,159 Speaker 1: for family? 130 00:06:18,640 --> 00:06:19,240 Speaker 3: You know what I mean? 131 00:06:19,400 --> 00:06:23,400 Speaker 4: If she saw that, she might have totally dropped it. 132 00:06:23,480 --> 00:06:25,560 Speaker 3: But you're basically giving it to her. 133 00:06:26,200 --> 00:06:28,560 Speaker 4: Wow. Wow, Wow, you're just. 134 00:06:28,480 --> 00:06:31,279 Speaker 2: Like throwing the like the red what are those people? 135 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:32,280 Speaker 2: The bull rider thing? 136 00:06:32,640 --> 00:06:35,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, the red red flag? Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah right? 137 00:06:35,600 --> 00:06:39,720 Speaker 3: The what is it? The cape? The Cape? The Cape? 138 00:06:40,400 --> 00:06:44,360 Speaker 1: Oh man, Yeah, thisp's about to grow some some horns 139 00:06:44,400 --> 00:06:52,080 Speaker 1: and charge full speed as she should. Time froze in 140 00:06:52,160 --> 00:06:55,480 Speaker 1: that moment. I took his phone and walked away and 141 00:06:55,600 --> 00:07:00,360 Speaker 1: just read their conversations. Oh no, four months this man 142 00:07:00,440 --> 00:07:04,200 Speaker 1: has been sleeping with my best friend. 143 00:07:04,800 --> 00:07:08,560 Speaker 2: Oh is that is that like when they figured out 144 00:07:09,000 --> 00:07:09,880 Speaker 2: she was pregnant too? 145 00:07:10,280 --> 00:07:13,320 Speaker 4: Oh, Riley, that's a great question. 146 00:07:13,800 --> 00:07:15,040 Speaker 3: What's the timeline? 147 00:07:15,160 --> 00:07:19,200 Speaker 2: Because five months ago they discovered the treatments weren't working 148 00:07:19,200 --> 00:07:19,960 Speaker 2: for her dad. 149 00:07:20,160 --> 00:07:22,400 Speaker 4: I'm six months pregnant with our third. 150 00:07:22,520 --> 00:07:25,320 Speaker 3: Okay, so six months ago she got pregnant, so. 151 00:07:25,200 --> 00:07:28,239 Speaker 1: That means two months after she got pregnant they started 152 00:07:28,560 --> 00:07:29,440 Speaker 1: hooking up together. 153 00:07:29,840 --> 00:07:30,920 Speaker 3: Six months pregnant. 154 00:07:31,080 --> 00:07:34,920 Speaker 2: Five months ago Dad got colon cancer or like figured 155 00:07:34,920 --> 00:07:36,200 Speaker 2: out like he can't be helped. 156 00:07:36,200 --> 00:07:39,160 Speaker 3: And then four months ago she cheated on her. 157 00:07:39,720 --> 00:07:44,440 Speaker 1: Wow, oh, four months These people have been lying to 158 00:07:44,720 --> 00:07:47,640 Speaker 1: my face and I know what you're going to say. 159 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:50,640 Speaker 1: You should have seen the warning signs. But I've been 160 00:07:50,720 --> 00:07:54,320 Speaker 1: clutching this phone in my hand for two hours and nothing. 161 00:07:54,800 --> 00:07:57,440 Speaker 1: He's been so loving and attentive to me. But he 162 00:07:57,520 --> 00:08:00,960 Speaker 1: always has been so kind and so gentle. There had 163 00:08:00,960 --> 00:08:04,000 Speaker 1: been no late night work nights, except for once in 164 00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:07,600 Speaker 1: a blue moon. There has been no lingering touches between 165 00:08:07,640 --> 00:08:10,760 Speaker 1: them or even glances. They act as they have since 166 00:08:10,800 --> 00:08:13,960 Speaker 1: the first day I introduced them. How sick is it 167 00:08:14,040 --> 00:08:18,440 Speaker 1: that she calls him her brother but she screws him? 168 00:08:18,560 --> 00:08:23,320 Speaker 1: Oh Yikesce's some game of throats stuff right there. Good golly, 169 00:08:24,240 --> 00:08:26,960 Speaker 1: I know so many people get a moment of clarity 170 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:30,800 Speaker 1: in situations like these, but I have none. Aside from 171 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:34,520 Speaker 1: being sad about my dad, I haven't changed. I'm still 172 00:08:34,600 --> 00:08:37,960 Speaker 1: a loving wife and mother. I still doated on him 173 00:08:38,160 --> 00:08:41,320 Speaker 1: and my children. I talk to him about how he's 174 00:08:41,400 --> 00:08:45,680 Speaker 1: doing and how was his day every freaking day. I 175 00:08:45,800 --> 00:08:49,600 Speaker 1: haven't allowed the ground to swallow me whole. I know 176 00:08:49,760 --> 00:08:52,200 Speaker 1: what I have to do now, but I just don't 177 00:08:52,240 --> 00:08:55,080 Speaker 1: want to. I'm about to lose my family and my 178 00:08:55,160 --> 00:08:57,920 Speaker 1: support system in one blow, which is such a big 179 00:08:57,960 --> 00:09:00,720 Speaker 1: thing that quite honestly, I don't even know that we 180 00:09:00,760 --> 00:09:03,520 Speaker 1: talk about that that much in these stories. And that 181 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:07,040 Speaker 1: is like, you know, you have a partner who is 182 00:09:07,080 --> 00:09:10,760 Speaker 1: supportive in every other way. They break your trust like this, 183 00:09:10,880 --> 00:09:13,640 Speaker 1: but think about the uh could be financial support, it 184 00:09:13,640 --> 00:09:16,640 Speaker 1: could be emotional support, It could be the logistics of like, hey, 185 00:09:16,720 --> 00:09:19,079 Speaker 1: you know, he picks up the kids from work these days, 186 00:09:19,080 --> 00:09:21,839 Speaker 1: and like all of those things, Like in many relationships, 187 00:09:21,880 --> 00:09:24,760 Speaker 1: you know, there's at least some back and forth of 188 00:09:24,760 --> 00:09:28,480 Speaker 1: sharing of responsibilities and finances and like things of these nature. 189 00:09:28,760 --> 00:09:31,240 Speaker 1: When something like this happens, there's just this like long 190 00:09:31,280 --> 00:09:34,120 Speaker 1: list of things that if someone does something like cheats 191 00:09:34,120 --> 00:09:37,199 Speaker 1: on you, like whatever, that all kind of goes away, and. 192 00:09:37,160 --> 00:09:39,520 Speaker 2: Even on the financial part, like she just quit her 193 00:09:39,559 --> 00:09:42,280 Speaker 2: job too, to just quit her the two kids, her 194 00:09:42,400 --> 00:09:44,160 Speaker 2: dad and a third kid. 195 00:09:44,240 --> 00:09:47,720 Speaker 1: And let's double check, but could you double check? I 196 00:09:47,720 --> 00:09:50,199 Speaker 1: think he told her to do that while. 197 00:09:50,720 --> 00:09:53,800 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, once my dad got his updated 198 00:09:54,000 --> 00:09:57,800 Speaker 2: like prognosis, my husband encouraged me to quit my job. 199 00:09:58,160 --> 00:10:01,679 Speaker 3: About a month later. Yeah, so like. 200 00:10:02,080 --> 00:10:06,600 Speaker 1: Probably at least if it wasn't before, right around the 201 00:10:06,720 --> 00:10:09,440 Speaker 1: time he was telling her to quit her job. 202 00:10:09,720 --> 00:10:11,960 Speaker 3: Guess around the same time he was started cheating. 203 00:10:12,440 --> 00:10:15,640 Speaker 1: She said four months, so like almost, if not exactly 204 00:10:16,200 --> 00:10:22,480 Speaker 1: when she started. I wonder then, what was his incentive 205 00:10:22,559 --> 00:10:24,160 Speaker 1: to tell her to quit her job? 206 00:10:24,400 --> 00:10:24,559 Speaker 3: Wait? 207 00:10:24,600 --> 00:10:26,000 Speaker 1: Wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait 208 00:10:26,000 --> 00:10:27,000 Speaker 1: wait wait wait wait wait wait. 209 00:10:27,160 --> 00:10:29,440 Speaker 4: I don't know if you're thinking what I'm thinking, she 210 00:10:29,679 --> 00:10:31,520 Speaker 4: quits her job. Now. 211 00:10:31,600 --> 00:10:33,400 Speaker 1: You know it's hard to get a job, right, it's 212 00:10:33,400 --> 00:10:36,760 Speaker 1: always a challenge. Now is he trying to put her 213 00:10:36,760 --> 00:10:39,160 Speaker 1: in a position where she's like, oh, I want to 214 00:10:39,240 --> 00:10:41,560 Speaker 1: leave him, but I would be not only going through 215 00:10:41,559 --> 00:10:44,199 Speaker 1: a divorce probably expensive, but also trying to find a 216 00:10:44,320 --> 00:10:49,760 Speaker 1: job while pregnant. Let me just stay yo, what if 217 00:10:49,800 --> 00:10:53,439 Speaker 1: that's what he was trying to do it seems pretty plausible, right. 218 00:10:53,720 --> 00:10:58,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I know it checks Outikes. 219 00:10:56,800 --> 00:10:59,160 Speaker 4: Well, there is only one way to find out, Riley. 220 00:10:59,360 --> 00:11:00,920 Speaker 3: How's that more story? 221 00:11:01,200 --> 00:11:06,440 Speaker 1: I will confront him tomorrow. Wow, happening soon today. I 222 00:11:06,800 --> 00:11:10,200 Speaker 1: just need this last twenty four hours of peace. As 223 00:11:10,240 --> 00:11:13,800 Speaker 1: for her, I won't give her the satisfaction of a response. 224 00:11:14,120 --> 00:11:16,360 Speaker 1: I don't care why she did it. She did it, 225 00:11:16,559 --> 00:11:19,280 Speaker 1: and it's done. I was always a friend who cleaned 226 00:11:19,320 --> 00:11:22,600 Speaker 1: up her messes. After today, I will cut her out 227 00:11:22,679 --> 00:11:26,480 Speaker 1: of my life like she never mattered at all. I mean, 228 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:29,880 Speaker 1: can't I kind of can't blame her. Yeah, what does 229 00:11:29,880 --> 00:11:33,120 Speaker 1: the sign say, Riley? What does the sign say? 230 00:11:33,200 --> 00:11:33,560 Speaker 4: Riley? 231 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:39,120 Speaker 1: Divorce? Devorce? De Sorry, we're remote. It's hard to sink 232 00:11:39,200 --> 00:11:41,280 Speaker 1: up our divorce chance. Guys, you know you love him. 233 00:11:41,600 --> 00:11:44,640 Speaker 1: He'll be here soon enough. And the divorce chance doesn't 234 00:11:44,679 --> 00:11:47,920 Speaker 1: just stand for marriages, also for terrible friendships too. 235 00:11:48,240 --> 00:11:49,480 Speaker 4: So yes, there you go. 236 00:11:50,280 --> 00:11:55,800 Speaker 1: This has to be the hardest storm I will ever weather. Honestly, Yes, ope, yes, 237 00:11:56,160 --> 00:11:59,200 Speaker 1: but damn I know I will sail through it. It's 238 00:11:59,280 --> 00:12:01,319 Speaker 1: not for me, it is for my children. 239 00:12:01,400 --> 00:12:01,640 Speaker 4: Wow. 240 00:12:01,760 --> 00:12:05,800 Speaker 1: I kind of inspired by op Honestly, by all that 241 00:12:05,840 --> 00:12:08,600 Speaker 1: she's dealing with. She's pregnant right now, she's like over job, 242 00:12:08,720 --> 00:12:12,040 Speaker 1: she does, probably doesn't have any like serious sources of income. 243 00:12:12,480 --> 00:12:16,720 Speaker 1: Her father has months with his cancer diagnosis. Our best 244 00:12:16,720 --> 00:12:21,480 Speaker 1: friend cheated on her husband, lied to her. Like I'm weak, 245 00:12:22,360 --> 00:12:24,760 Speaker 1: a little bit weak. But we have an update. But 246 00:12:24,800 --> 00:12:26,880 Speaker 1: before we do, let's break it down a little bit. 247 00:12:26,960 --> 00:12:30,280 Speaker 1: So basically, in the update, we know that she is 248 00:12:30,800 --> 00:12:34,640 Speaker 1: going to confront her husband in the next twenty four hours. 249 00:12:35,000 --> 00:12:37,720 Speaker 1: I guess the question for everyone watching in for us 250 00:12:38,240 --> 00:12:42,520 Speaker 1: is like, what should she do? How should she approach us? 251 00:12:42,559 --> 00:12:42,760 Speaker 4: Right? 252 00:12:42,800 --> 00:12:44,480 Speaker 3: Approach it? What does she even need? 253 00:12:44,840 --> 00:12:47,480 Speaker 2: You know, for the lawyers and everything, Like she broat 254 00:12:47,520 --> 00:12:50,400 Speaker 2: any screenshots of the text messages. 255 00:12:50,120 --> 00:12:52,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's true, Like if she if she does, and 256 00:12:52,480 --> 00:12:54,880 Speaker 1: you know, we're we're no experts, but I think from 257 00:12:54,960 --> 00:12:56,720 Speaker 1: kind of what we've seen it, like if you have 258 00:12:57,040 --> 00:12:59,760 Speaker 1: evidence of like infidelity and things like that, it's like, okay, 259 00:12:59,800 --> 00:13:02,400 Speaker 1: that can go in your favor of being like okay, 260 00:13:02,400 --> 00:13:06,120 Speaker 1: getting assets back, getting getting probably child support because now 261 00:13:06,160 --> 00:13:08,280 Speaker 1: she doesn't have a job, you know what I'm saying. 262 00:13:08,400 --> 00:13:11,240 Speaker 1: And she probably she probably wants custody of the kids, 263 00:13:11,240 --> 00:13:14,160 Speaker 1: specifically the one that is growing inside of her at 264 00:13:14,160 --> 00:13:15,000 Speaker 1: this very moment. 265 00:13:15,600 --> 00:13:18,720 Speaker 2: Not a good season for her right now. And the 266 00:13:18,720 --> 00:13:21,000 Speaker 2: good thing about this, I mean not the good thing, 267 00:13:21,040 --> 00:13:24,640 Speaker 2: but like her tone and like her like I guess 268 00:13:24,679 --> 00:13:27,640 Speaker 2: spirit against this. It doesn't seem like this is like 269 00:13:27,679 --> 00:13:30,240 Speaker 2: the straw in the camel's back. It seems like she's 270 00:13:30,280 --> 00:13:33,280 Speaker 2: ready for like she's ready to like fight for her kids. 271 00:13:33,559 --> 00:13:35,839 Speaker 2: Like that last sentence kind of gave me hope. 272 00:13:35,640 --> 00:13:38,080 Speaker 1: She's looking out for a kid's best interest. She's not like, 273 00:13:38,679 --> 00:13:40,440 Speaker 1: all right now, I'm going to try and see how 274 00:13:40,520 --> 00:13:43,119 Speaker 1: much I can squeeze out of this mffort in the divorces. 275 00:13:43,280 --> 00:13:45,800 Speaker 1: She's just like, I just want to take care of 276 00:13:45,800 --> 00:13:51,400 Speaker 1: my kids. I Riley. I think my curiosity is getting 277 00:13:51,400 --> 00:13:53,800 Speaker 1: the better of me, and I kind of want to 278 00:13:53,840 --> 00:13:55,400 Speaker 1: see how this goes down, and I kind of want 279 00:13:55,440 --> 00:13:56,679 Speaker 1: to see the husband. 280 00:13:56,720 --> 00:13:57,440 Speaker 4: Crash and burn. 281 00:13:57,600 --> 00:13:59,839 Speaker 3: Yeah, one hundred percent small update. 282 00:13:59,600 --> 00:14:00,719 Speaker 4: About everything going on. 283 00:14:00,880 --> 00:14:02,959 Speaker 1: Since my kids are now in bed for the night, 284 00:14:03,120 --> 00:14:05,960 Speaker 1: I spent the morning gathering everything I could and making 285 00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:08,520 Speaker 1: a checklist. I sat in my office for the better 286 00:14:08,559 --> 00:14:10,480 Speaker 1: part of the morning telling my husband that I was 287 00:14:10,520 --> 00:14:13,560 Speaker 1: preparing things for my dad. Not a total lie. I 288 00:14:13,600 --> 00:14:17,400 Speaker 1: did have to get him sorted with hospice today. I'm 289 00:14:17,520 --> 00:14:20,280 Speaker 1: so sorry, Op. My boss would be happy to have 290 00:14:20,440 --> 00:14:23,320 Speaker 1: me back. However, my lawyer said, pump the brakes on 291 00:14:23,360 --> 00:14:26,280 Speaker 1: that idea for the time being. However, my boss did 292 00:14:26,320 --> 00:14:29,160 Speaker 1: tell me that whenever I'm ready, the door is open, 293 00:14:29,320 --> 00:14:31,600 Speaker 1: and just to give her a call. Okay, okay, that 294 00:14:31,760 --> 00:14:35,320 Speaker 1: is Oh, thank god, thank god for that boss. 295 00:14:35,840 --> 00:14:36,760 Speaker 3: The chef for the boss. 296 00:14:37,080 --> 00:14:40,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, he does not have access to my inheritance from 297 00:14:40,640 --> 00:14:44,280 Speaker 1: my father nor my mother. My lawyer insured me in that. 298 00:14:44,560 --> 00:14:46,800 Speaker 1: I didn't mention her in the post, but my mother 299 00:14:46,840 --> 00:14:49,720 Speaker 1: in law is an absolute angel, not always the case 300 00:14:49,760 --> 00:14:51,920 Speaker 1: in these stories, so that is a positive plot twist. 301 00:14:52,200 --> 00:14:54,760 Speaker 1: I love and adore her so much, and she's always 302 00:14:54,800 --> 00:14:57,280 Speaker 1: been a shoulder to lean on. After he had gone 303 00:14:57,320 --> 00:15:00,520 Speaker 1: to work for the afternoon, I asked my now best 304 00:15:00,520 --> 00:15:03,200 Speaker 1: friend's mom and my mother in law to meet me 305 00:15:03,600 --> 00:15:07,400 Speaker 1: at my dad's house. Whoa put, I see you in 306 00:15:07,400 --> 00:15:10,360 Speaker 1: the comments if you see what's about to go down. 307 00:15:10,800 --> 00:15:14,680 Speaker 1: My kids were outside playing with my now ex bff's 308 00:15:14,720 --> 00:15:19,080 Speaker 1: older brother. I just handed them the screenshots, saving them 309 00:15:19,120 --> 00:15:23,560 Speaker 1: from the unsavory pictures and the SEGS tape. Though I 310 00:15:23,640 --> 00:15:25,520 Speaker 1: did tell them it existed. 311 00:15:26,040 --> 00:15:33,280 Speaker 2: Oh no, oh oh not the tape. 312 00:15:33,840 --> 00:15:36,760 Speaker 4: Oh oh my gosh. 313 00:15:36,800 --> 00:15:40,520 Speaker 1: Also, how dumb do you have to be to have 314 00:15:40,680 --> 00:15:46,720 Speaker 1: like literal true evidence, like the truest evidence possible of 315 00:15:46,760 --> 00:15:49,560 Speaker 1: your infidelity. How stupid do you have to be? 316 00:15:50,080 --> 00:15:51,920 Speaker 3: I don't wow, I don't understand. 317 00:15:52,160 --> 00:15:55,800 Speaker 1: To say they were furious was an understatement, and they 318 00:15:55,920 --> 00:16:00,760 Speaker 1: understanded my side completely. Angie, my now exbff's mom is 319 00:16:00,800 --> 00:16:06,920 Speaker 1: ready to cut contact with her daughter completely. Whoa whoa, 320 00:16:06,960 --> 00:16:11,120 Speaker 1: whoa whoe. She kept repeating how sorry she was. We 321 00:16:11,240 --> 00:16:14,400 Speaker 1: hugged and cried together. My mother in law told me 322 00:16:14,560 --> 00:16:18,480 Speaker 1: that she couldn't believe she raised a spineless, terrible human 323 00:16:18,920 --> 00:16:21,840 Speaker 1: that no matter what happens, I will always have her 324 00:16:22,040 --> 00:16:25,360 Speaker 1: and as far as she's concerned, she doesn't have a son, 325 00:16:25,680 --> 00:16:27,200 Speaker 1: only a daughter. 326 00:16:27,760 --> 00:16:29,080 Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. 327 00:16:29,120 --> 00:16:29,560 Speaker 4: Wow. 328 00:16:29,720 --> 00:16:32,640 Speaker 1: Well, one thing I'll say, I mean, Riley, tell the people. 329 00:16:32,840 --> 00:16:35,480 Speaker 1: How many times have we had scenarios where it's like 330 00:16:35,640 --> 00:16:39,240 Speaker 1: OPI is in a horrible, horrible, unthinkable situation and then 331 00:16:39,360 --> 00:16:41,560 Speaker 1: like the mother in laws and the mom and like 332 00:16:41,640 --> 00:16:43,960 Speaker 1: everyone is like not inn Opie's corner, right. 333 00:16:43,880 --> 00:16:46,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, right here it shows like she has a 334 00:16:46,600 --> 00:16:49,680 Speaker 2: support system, which I think is the greatest thing possible 335 00:16:49,720 --> 00:16:51,000 Speaker 2: for her right now. 336 00:16:51,560 --> 00:16:54,080 Speaker 1: Please, and the boss is willing to get her back 337 00:16:54,120 --> 00:16:57,120 Speaker 1: to the lawyer. Like OPI at least has a team 338 00:16:57,360 --> 00:17:00,000 Speaker 1: at a bare minimum that seems like they all have her. 339 00:17:00,560 --> 00:17:01,920 Speaker 4: I'm glad to see that. 340 00:17:02,200 --> 00:17:04,480 Speaker 1: After an in person meeting with my lawyer, we went 341 00:17:04,520 --> 00:17:08,000 Speaker 1: over finances, logistics, and everything you could think of. She 342 00:17:08,119 --> 00:17:11,240 Speaker 1: has all the proof and she is out for blood. 343 00:17:11,640 --> 00:17:13,840 Speaker 1: With his post now on TikTok, I didn't want him 344 00:17:13,880 --> 00:17:15,959 Speaker 1: to find out by an app because when look at 345 00:17:15,960 --> 00:17:20,600 Speaker 1: the story, he would know it's about him. You've been addressed, 346 00:17:20,640 --> 00:17:24,320 Speaker 1: maybe with permission from my lawyer, My ex best friend, 347 00:17:24,640 --> 00:17:27,240 Speaker 1: her mom, dad, and my soon to be ex and 348 00:17:27,320 --> 00:17:31,440 Speaker 1: his parents will be having a get together tomorrow. By 349 00:17:31,480 --> 00:17:34,960 Speaker 1: that time, they're sitting down and showing them everything that 350 00:17:35,119 --> 00:17:38,960 Speaker 1: I know, my dad, my kids, and my ex best 351 00:17:38,960 --> 00:17:41,919 Speaker 1: friend's brother. He's coming to help me juggle the kids 352 00:17:42,040 --> 00:17:44,920 Speaker 1: and my dad. Being big and pregnant does not help 353 00:17:44,920 --> 00:17:48,440 Speaker 1: with mobility. Gotta I literally forget that. She's literally like. 354 00:17:48,480 --> 00:17:51,400 Speaker 4: So pregnant right now. Oh my god. 355 00:17:51,960 --> 00:17:53,880 Speaker 1: They will be at my dad's cabin for a few 356 00:17:53,880 --> 00:17:57,720 Speaker 1: hours away, enjoying some time and space well deserved. I know, 357 00:17:57,880 --> 00:17:59,720 Speaker 1: a lot of people were hoping for me to get 358 00:18:00,640 --> 00:18:04,360 Speaker 1: or do psychological warfare. But honestly, after my kids went 359 00:18:04,400 --> 00:18:07,560 Speaker 1: to bed, I took a shower and just broke. I 360 00:18:07,640 --> 00:18:10,600 Speaker 1: don't have the strength or energy to dish anything out. 361 00:18:11,000 --> 00:18:14,200 Speaker 1: I just went out pretending like everything was okay. Today 362 00:18:14,640 --> 00:18:18,440 Speaker 1: was too exhausting and I just don't want to do it. 363 00:18:18,880 --> 00:18:21,919 Speaker 1: Once he finds out tomorrow, I'll update with the aftermath, 364 00:18:22,119 --> 00:18:25,280 Speaker 1: as I'm sure it will be huge. As for now, 365 00:18:25,680 --> 00:18:29,560 Speaker 1: thank you so much for your kindness, warmth, and support. Truly, 366 00:18:29,960 --> 00:18:32,480 Speaker 1: your words have helped giving me the strength to keep 367 00:18:32,520 --> 00:18:35,880 Speaker 1: my head above water. I appreciate every single last one 368 00:18:35,920 --> 00:18:39,080 Speaker 1: of you for everything. All Right, so we got this 369 00:18:39,160 --> 00:18:40,359 Speaker 1: next update coming up, But. 370 00:18:41,200 --> 00:18:42,520 Speaker 3: How are you feeling? How you feeling? 371 00:18:42,640 --> 00:18:46,200 Speaker 1: Honestly, I feel like this correct me if I'm wrong, 372 00:18:46,240 --> 00:18:50,360 Speaker 1: But this kind of feels like the best possible outcome 373 00:18:50,560 --> 00:18:54,879 Speaker 1: for the shitty situation that it is right because you 374 00:18:54,960 --> 00:18:59,240 Speaker 1: have like literally she got basically every single person in 375 00:18:59,280 --> 00:19:02,199 Speaker 1: the family on board with her and like going to 376 00:19:02,240 --> 00:19:03,119 Speaker 1: do this intervention. 377 00:19:03,600 --> 00:19:03,920 Speaker 3: I don't. 378 00:19:03,960 --> 00:19:07,200 Speaker 1: It wasn't super clear if OP was also going to 379 00:19:07,240 --> 00:19:10,280 Speaker 1: be at this like intervention with like everyone and the 380 00:19:10,359 --> 00:19:12,080 Speaker 1: husband or or not. 381 00:19:12,200 --> 00:19:13,000 Speaker 4: I'm not sure, but. 382 00:19:13,119 --> 00:19:14,679 Speaker 3: I would I would assume she would be there. 383 00:19:14,760 --> 00:19:17,080 Speaker 5: Yeah, I would think so too. And she has like 384 00:19:17,119 --> 00:19:19,720 Speaker 5: the lawyer set everything up, like the husband doesn't have 385 00:19:19,760 --> 00:19:22,600 Speaker 5: access to any of the inheritance. She can get her 386 00:19:22,720 --> 00:19:24,760 Speaker 5: job back as soon as she wants it, you know, 387 00:19:24,840 --> 00:19:28,280 Speaker 5: which like probably is good because she probably wants some 388 00:19:28,320 --> 00:19:31,840 Speaker 5: more time after like going through this insane process, but 389 00:19:31,920 --> 00:19:34,440 Speaker 5: also probably like as soon as she wants to work, 390 00:19:34,480 --> 00:19:36,800 Speaker 5: can start working again, which which I'm sure would be 391 00:19:36,880 --> 00:19:37,520 Speaker 5: nice to me. 392 00:19:37,640 --> 00:19:41,639 Speaker 2: What's crazy is like the mistress's family that's involved. Like 393 00:19:41,680 --> 00:19:44,240 Speaker 2: I know that they grew up together, but like her 394 00:19:44,280 --> 00:19:46,920 Speaker 2: mom's stepping in no contact with the daughter, and then 395 00:19:47,160 --> 00:19:50,480 Speaker 2: the mistress's brother is stepping in and is like gonna 396 00:19:50,480 --> 00:19:52,000 Speaker 2: help out with the kids and stuff like that. 397 00:19:52,080 --> 00:19:53,680 Speaker 3: Yeah, you're right, they're so. 398 00:19:54,160 --> 00:19:56,680 Speaker 2: Involved, and like it's just gonna be like the husband 399 00:19:57,200 --> 00:20:00,400 Speaker 2: and the and the mistress just on eland and by 400 00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:02,000 Speaker 2: themselves versus everyone. 401 00:20:02,280 --> 00:20:02,960 Speaker 4: That's crazy. 402 00:20:03,240 --> 00:20:06,160 Speaker 1: I'll be honest, if I was the best Friend's mom, 403 00:20:06,480 --> 00:20:09,480 Speaker 1: it'd be hard for me to cut my children off, 404 00:20:09,640 --> 00:20:12,320 Speaker 1: child off, I think, in all honesty. 405 00:20:12,000 --> 00:20:16,280 Speaker 2: But I think like the best friend's mom and OPI's 406 00:20:16,280 --> 00:20:18,160 Speaker 2: mom were like together, so they're basically like. 407 00:20:18,080 --> 00:20:22,199 Speaker 1: They're like sister, they're like sisters, and and Opie is 408 00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:27,160 Speaker 1: like her daughter. Yeah, so yeah, it would be like yeah, yeah, man. 409 00:20:27,520 --> 00:20:31,440 Speaker 1: But again, I do think that Opi has a good 410 00:20:31,480 --> 00:20:33,800 Speaker 1: setup going, and I'm glad that she has like that 411 00:20:33,840 --> 00:20:37,640 Speaker 1: support system to lawyer, the family everything. And I get, 412 00:20:37,920 --> 00:20:41,000 Speaker 1: what do you think the husband's dude, he. 413 00:20:41,000 --> 00:20:43,399 Speaker 3: Has no freaking. 414 00:20:44,320 --> 00:20:47,439 Speaker 2: He's just about to get hit by the biggest truck 415 00:20:47,640 --> 00:20:50,840 Speaker 2: full of just bricks, nuclear explosives. 416 00:20:51,400 --> 00:20:53,680 Speaker 3: Yeah, and just he's just he's not going to see 417 00:20:53,720 --> 00:20:54,080 Speaker 3: it coming. 418 00:20:54,440 --> 00:20:56,080 Speaker 1: I don't know if this is how the story went, 419 00:20:56,119 --> 00:20:59,120 Speaker 1: but like like Archduke Ferdinand or whatever, like the shot 420 00:20:59,160 --> 00:21:02,040 Speaker 1: that started World One, Like oh, I literally think he's 421 00:21:02,119 --> 00:21:05,119 Speaker 1: like Archduke Ferdinand, like thinking he's going to dinner with 422 00:21:05,160 --> 00:21:07,080 Speaker 1: like all of his buddies and you know, just gonna 423 00:21:07,200 --> 00:21:11,320 Speaker 1: eat mutton and and and drink goblets of wine, when 424 00:21:11,320 --> 00:21:14,639 Speaker 1: in reality he's about to get freakin knocked out, just 425 00:21:14,760 --> 00:21:16,760 Speaker 1: absolutely obliterated. 426 00:21:18,240 --> 00:21:19,120 Speaker 4: And I'm here for it. 427 00:21:19,359 --> 00:21:21,680 Speaker 3: I'm here for it too. Yeah, yeah, I'm here for it. 428 00:21:21,680 --> 00:21:23,399 Speaker 2: It just sucks to hear like that he was a 429 00:21:23,400 --> 00:21:26,280 Speaker 2: great husband and a good father, but he like cheated 430 00:21:26,320 --> 00:21:26,920 Speaker 2: on the side, you. 431 00:21:26,880 --> 00:21:29,800 Speaker 1: Know, which also I mean is there more that is 432 00:21:29,800 --> 00:21:31,800 Speaker 1: there more that we don't know about right now, like. 433 00:21:31,800 --> 00:21:33,800 Speaker 3: Because you are usually blind to those things. 434 00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:37,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe it was roastunty glasses, you know, but we 435 00:21:37,800 --> 00:21:40,480 Speaker 1: will see in this next update. 436 00:21:40,920 --> 00:21:43,959 Speaker 3: Hurry, I need it now. Update. 437 00:21:44,160 --> 00:21:45,560 Speaker 1: I have a few things I want to get through, 438 00:21:45,640 --> 00:21:47,480 Speaker 1: so I'll just summarize as best as I can. If 439 00:21:47,480 --> 00:21:49,879 Speaker 1: you have any questions, I'll answer in the comments to 440 00:21:49,920 --> 00:21:51,760 Speaker 1: get this out of the way, because to me it 441 00:21:51,840 --> 00:21:55,320 Speaker 1: is important. Yesterday I scheduled a same day appointment with 442 00:21:55,400 --> 00:21:59,600 Speaker 1: my obg yn and got tested for about every std 443 00:21:59,760 --> 00:22:03,919 Speaker 1: ST out there. Got too bad but smart, sad but smart. 444 00:22:04,119 --> 00:22:06,320 Speaker 1: I got the results for most back and they were 445 00:22:06,359 --> 00:22:09,080 Speaker 1: all negative. There's a few that took up to two 446 00:22:09,080 --> 00:22:11,119 Speaker 1: weeks to get the results back for, so I'll be 447 00:22:11,160 --> 00:22:13,639 Speaker 1: waiting on those. When I met with my lawyer, I 448 00:22:13,720 --> 00:22:17,400 Speaker 1: brought everything on my end financially wise, and also bro 449 00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:21,720 Speaker 1: if she if she contracted anything, he's getting nothing in this. 450 00:22:21,960 --> 00:22:27,600 Speaker 1: She's taken his lunch and his dining room table. He's 451 00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:31,000 Speaker 1: gonna have nothing. We got everything for the lawyer, including 452 00:22:31,040 --> 00:22:33,520 Speaker 1: the wills from both my dad and my mom, and 453 00:22:33,560 --> 00:22:36,440 Speaker 1: I managed to get my hands on his financial documents. 454 00:22:36,560 --> 00:22:40,159 Speaker 1: Oh wow, dang, he stores it in his office in 455 00:22:40,200 --> 00:22:43,160 Speaker 1: a locked box. I would wonder if that's like technically, 456 00:22:43,160 --> 00:22:46,240 Speaker 1: if there's any like taking someone's forms without their consent 457 00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:46,760 Speaker 1: or something. 458 00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:47,520 Speaker 4: I really don't know. 459 00:22:47,880 --> 00:22:50,960 Speaker 3: They're married the guy to have joint accounts or something together. 460 00:22:51,400 --> 00:22:53,879 Speaker 4: They don't have to, but they likely do. 461 00:22:54,680 --> 00:22:58,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I would guess it's not legally required 462 00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:02,520 Speaker 1: to know your partners or have access to your partner's 463 00:23:02,560 --> 00:23:05,480 Speaker 1: finances if you are married. There are married people with 464 00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:11,480 Speaker 1: separate you know, yeah, separate finances. So if you're into 465 00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:14,840 Speaker 1: law like this and know about this stuff, let us know, okay, 466 00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:17,439 Speaker 1: gang tell us in the comments below, educate us. I 467 00:23:17,480 --> 00:23:20,240 Speaker 1: also brought over everything we had set up financially for 468 00:23:20,359 --> 00:23:23,320 Speaker 1: my children. While I'm not totally sure if it's everything, 469 00:23:23,400 --> 00:23:25,640 Speaker 1: I am pretty confident that I got most of it. 470 00:23:25,840 --> 00:23:28,159 Speaker 1: My lawyer was happy I managed to get my hands 471 00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:31,080 Speaker 1: on that much. Mother in law even handed over her 472 00:23:31,119 --> 00:23:34,600 Speaker 1: will to me from both her and ex friend's dad 473 00:23:34,800 --> 00:23:37,800 Speaker 1: to ensure that I was taken care of in the divorce. 474 00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:40,520 Speaker 1: Mother in law even handed over her will to me 475 00:23:40,600 --> 00:23:43,679 Speaker 1: from both her and my ex friend's dad to ensure 476 00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:46,520 Speaker 1: I was taken care of in the divorce. My lawyer 477 00:23:46,640 --> 00:23:50,840 Speaker 1: understands I am wanting a divorce immediately. However, she wants 478 00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:53,560 Speaker 1: me to make sure she is thorough and isn't missing 479 00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:57,560 Speaker 1: any key info. So hopefully I'll have actual divorce papers 480 00:23:57,600 --> 00:24:00,840 Speaker 1: to give to him in about thirty days. Rushing her though, 481 00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:03,760 Speaker 1: I'm letting the professional do her job. Yeah, that makes 482 00:24:03,800 --> 00:24:06,280 Speaker 1: sense because I mean, you could at a minimum not 483 00:24:06,400 --> 00:24:08,399 Speaker 1: be in the same house, you know, and not have 484 00:24:08,440 --> 00:24:12,000 Speaker 1: to like see them, and essentially for all intentsive purposes, 485 00:24:12,320 --> 00:24:13,159 Speaker 1: be separated. 486 00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:15,520 Speaker 3: But the literal divorce, you. 487 00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:18,000 Speaker 1: Know, might take a little longer, like thirty days or 488 00:24:18,040 --> 00:24:21,200 Speaker 1: whatever to get everything in order. Although I understand ops 489 00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:24,040 Speaker 1: probably like wanting to just like I just want it official. 490 00:24:24,119 --> 00:24:26,280 Speaker 1: I don't want it to be tied to him anymore. 491 00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:27,960 Speaker 2: But I think it's good because I think she wants 492 00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:30,200 Speaker 2: the most for her kids and totally getting that from 493 00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:33,400 Speaker 2: her support system. Yeah, she's like, whatever you gotta do, 494 00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:37,600 Speaker 2: let me know. But I do want this over asap. 495 00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:41,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, It's it's a harder move, but it's the smart move. 496 00:24:42,080 --> 00:24:44,760 Speaker 1: I asked my ex friend's mom and mother in law 497 00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:47,960 Speaker 1: to describe everything in detail. On what had happened. My 498 00:24:48,080 --> 00:24:51,760 Speaker 1: ex friend's mom, the revenge seeker that she is, forced 499 00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:56,240 Speaker 1: them to sit through a slide show she put together 500 00:24:56,600 --> 00:25:01,399 Speaker 1: of all the texts. Oh so she so she wasn't 501 00:25:01,440 --> 00:25:05,600 Speaker 1: actually there? Oh wow wow, which honestly is so cool 502 00:25:05,600 --> 00:25:08,639 Speaker 1: of them, because I get it. They're like, you have 503 00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:12,199 Speaker 1: been through enough, let us handle this for you. 504 00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:14,800 Speaker 3: Wow. That's crazy. 505 00:25:15,160 --> 00:25:19,760 Speaker 2: Wow, so much like with everything going on, just sitting there, Like, 506 00:25:19,760 --> 00:25:21,880 Speaker 2: imagine you had to sit through that slide show of 507 00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:25,080 Speaker 2: like your significant other cheating on with your best friend. 508 00:25:25,320 --> 00:25:27,960 Speaker 4: Yeah right, Yeah, that would be too much. That would 509 00:25:27,960 --> 00:25:31,080 Speaker 4: be too much. Oh oh, oh my god. 510 00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:34,040 Speaker 1: I know a lot of you were concerned about one 511 00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:36,760 Speaker 1: of them telling them sooner than later, but they were 512 00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:40,720 Speaker 1: so secretive they didn't even tell their significant others about 513 00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:43,520 Speaker 1: what was happening, which, honestly smart. Move on that, Yeah, 514 00:25:43,560 --> 00:25:46,720 Speaker 1: tight lipped group over here, My God, to the plot, dude, 515 00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:50,159 Speaker 1: this is the Avengers of assisting someone in divorce. Like 516 00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:53,880 Speaker 1: they are truly, Like they're not the heroes we deserve, 517 00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:55,240 Speaker 1: They're the heroes. 518 00:25:54,880 --> 00:25:55,600 Speaker 3: That we need. 519 00:25:56,600 --> 00:25:59,840 Speaker 4: My god. Once the slide show ended, soon to be 520 00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:03,600 Speaker 4: X tried lunging for my ex friend and father in 521 00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:07,320 Speaker 4: law actually had to force him to sit down, soon 522 00:26:07,359 --> 00:26:10,760 Speaker 4: to be X with shouting profanities at ex friend and 523 00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:12,800 Speaker 4: telling her she will regret this. 524 00:26:13,400 --> 00:26:13,800 Speaker 3: What are you? 525 00:26:13,840 --> 00:26:15,040 Speaker 4: What are you talking about? 526 00:26:15,200 --> 00:26:17,000 Speaker 3: Bro? He's in the denial stage right. 527 00:26:16,960 --> 00:26:21,520 Speaker 1: Now, Dude, he is denying so hard right now. Bro, 528 00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:24,360 Speaker 1: Who's who who forced you to put your wiener in her? 529 00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:27,199 Speaker 3: Sir? Please please please answer me. 530 00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:29,840 Speaker 1: Did did you go to the DMV and they're like, oh, sorry, sir, 531 00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:34,000 Speaker 1: you are legally required to put your wiener in in 532 00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:37,199 Speaker 1: this in this lady over here, if you you know, 533 00:26:37,440 --> 00:26:39,840 Speaker 1: wanta wanna get your get your new license, if you 534 00:26:39,880 --> 00:26:43,600 Speaker 1: don't want to go to jail. You know, no, no, no, sir. 535 00:26:44,040 --> 00:26:47,480 Speaker 1: You decided to take your weienie and do what you did. 536 00:26:47,920 --> 00:26:51,520 Speaker 1: X friends started crying and begging her parents for forgiveness. 537 00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:55,119 Speaker 1: Ex Friend's dad looked his daughter in the eyes and 538 00:26:55,200 --> 00:26:58,440 Speaker 1: told her he will never forgive her for this. 539 00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:06,040 Speaker 3: Blood or not, she is no daughter of his. Oh 540 00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:06,960 Speaker 3: that's tough. 541 00:27:07,560 --> 00:27:10,600 Speaker 1: I'm very curious to hear what you all have to say. 542 00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:14,920 Speaker 1: Let's talk about it in the comments below. Wow, that 543 00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:17,919 Speaker 1: is to hear that from your dad would just be 544 00:27:18,640 --> 00:27:22,480 Speaker 1: maybe you know, I mean she royally effed up, There's 545 00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:27,600 Speaker 1: no question about it. But yeah, that's that. My guy's 546 00:27:27,680 --> 00:27:32,640 Speaker 1: going hard. He didn't raise his daughter to be this person. 547 00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:35,840 Speaker 1: X Friend was always a daddy's girl, So I think 548 00:27:35,880 --> 00:27:38,800 Speaker 1: that cut her pretty deep. X Friend is in the 549 00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:42,240 Speaker 1: middle of a divorce herself, and her parents were giving 550 00:27:42,280 --> 00:27:44,840 Speaker 1: her money for her lawyer, and they told her that 551 00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:49,000 Speaker 1: she is cut off from them, both financially and physically. 552 00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:51,560 Speaker 3: Okay, okay, that. 553 00:27:51,520 --> 00:27:53,760 Speaker 2: Adds up a little bit more like where was this 554 00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:56,240 Speaker 2: frustration coming from from the from the dad? You know? 555 00:27:56,800 --> 00:27:57,080 Speaker 3: Yeah? 556 00:27:57,160 --> 00:27:59,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, like like, hey, we're literally helping you through your 557 00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:04,000 Speaker 1: divorce right now, and you're over here sleeping with the 558 00:28:04,119 --> 00:28:06,840 Speaker 1: husband of your best friend, you know, a married man 559 00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:08,960 Speaker 1: and a hap in a you know what, at least 560 00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:10,440 Speaker 1: Ope thought was a happy marriage. 561 00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:11,199 Speaker 3: You know. Wow. 562 00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:14,760 Speaker 1: The father in law soon to be X's dad was irate. 563 00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:17,399 Speaker 1: According to mother in law, he looked like he was 564 00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:21,000 Speaker 1: holding back on throttling him. From there, Soon to be 565 00:28:21,240 --> 00:28:24,040 Speaker 1: X went straight home. I know, because we have a 566 00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:26,600 Speaker 1: ring doorbell camera, along with a few cameras in the 567 00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:28,600 Speaker 1: house for our kids to keep an eye on them 568 00:28:28,600 --> 00:28:30,640 Speaker 1: when we aren't right in there next to them. Soon 569 00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:33,199 Speaker 1: to be X came home and saw that most of 570 00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:37,280 Speaker 1: mine and the kids stuff was gone, and he lost it, 571 00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:42,120 Speaker 1: started yelling and throwing things. The house is now trashed 572 00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:45,600 Speaker 1: and with a few holes in the wall for decoration. 573 00:28:46,200 --> 00:28:49,960 Speaker 1: My god, this is yeah. I think something was wrong before. 574 00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:54,120 Speaker 1: You know, he wasn't the one hundred percent picture perfect person. 575 00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:56,120 Speaker 1: I feel like maybe he just hit it. When he 576 00:28:56,160 --> 00:28:59,360 Speaker 1: didn't find us, he went to my dad's Oh, my god. 577 00:28:59,600 --> 00:29:01,760 Speaker 1: While I did spend most of the day there, he 578 00:29:01,800 --> 00:29:05,120 Speaker 1: was at work packing and moving things into my dad's house. 579 00:29:05,400 --> 00:29:08,239 Speaker 1: We were already at his cabin soon to be X 580 00:29:08,320 --> 00:29:12,400 Speaker 1: took a baseball bat to my dad's door, trying and 581 00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:17,720 Speaker 1: failing to break it down. Yeah this guy, yike, Yeah, 582 00:29:18,200 --> 00:29:21,960 Speaker 1: this guy's mint deranged. My dad's neighbor actually called the 583 00:29:21,960 --> 00:29:25,840 Speaker 1: cops on him. Good and he was arrested. Good bro, 584 00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:28,360 Speaker 1: you messed up, and you're trying to break down your 585 00:29:28,400 --> 00:29:31,960 Speaker 1: father in law's door with a baseball bat with I 586 00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:36,400 Speaker 1: believe the kids there if that's the cabin disgusting. 587 00:29:38,120 --> 00:29:39,280 Speaker 4: Oh, this is great. 588 00:29:39,760 --> 00:29:43,120 Speaker 1: And his parents refused to bail him out when they 589 00:29:43,200 --> 00:29:43,800 Speaker 1: arrested him. 590 00:29:44,120 --> 00:29:45,760 Speaker 3: That's great, That's hilarious. 591 00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:48,040 Speaker 1: I feel like this is the only story, where like 592 00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:51,479 Speaker 1: usually there's one story that's like just completely delulu for 593 00:29:51,520 --> 00:29:55,080 Speaker 1: whatever reason, deciding with the antagonist, like siding with the 594 00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:57,719 Speaker 1: villain in these stories, and we're always just left wondering, 595 00:29:58,000 --> 00:30:01,440 Speaker 1: why why would you side with this? But now, thankfully 596 00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:04,440 Speaker 1: everybody is on the same page, on the right side 597 00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:07,640 Speaker 1: of history on this one. Oh good gravy. I had 598 00:30:07,680 --> 00:30:10,600 Speaker 1: an appointment with my therapists today. I've had a therapist 599 00:30:10,680 --> 00:30:12,600 Speaker 1: for a year now since I was struggling with my 600 00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:17,200 Speaker 1: dad Riley. I literally forgot about that whole situation. Oh 601 00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:20,000 Speaker 1: my god, and it felt good to just cry it 602 00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:22,680 Speaker 1: out and let everything out about how I was feeling. 603 00:30:23,160 --> 00:30:25,160 Speaker 1: It was very helpful, and she gave me a few 604 00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:26,600 Speaker 1: tools to work through my emotions. 605 00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:27,160 Speaker 4: With this one. 606 00:30:27,600 --> 00:30:31,240 Speaker 1: I felt very grounded and empowered leaving my session today. 607 00:30:31,480 --> 00:30:34,000 Speaker 4: I'm also planning on setting up my children. 608 00:30:33,680 --> 00:30:35,800 Speaker 1: With the therapist when we get back from the cabin 609 00:30:36,080 --> 00:30:38,320 Speaker 1: to figure out the best way to deal with telling 610 00:30:38,360 --> 00:30:41,600 Speaker 1: them very smart, okay, very smart. I know people said 611 00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:44,240 Speaker 1: I shouldn't, but I will be telling them just in 612 00:30:44,280 --> 00:30:46,920 Speaker 1: an age appropriate way. I don't want there to be 613 00:30:47,000 --> 00:30:50,440 Speaker 1: secrets and lies between us. I've always been as open 614 00:30:50,480 --> 00:30:52,880 Speaker 1: and honest as I can with them again in the 615 00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:56,040 Speaker 1: most kid appropriate way. Just because they're small humans, they're 616 00:30:56,040 --> 00:30:58,760 Speaker 1: still humans and deserve the truth. I had a handful 617 00:30:58,800 --> 00:31:02,520 Speaker 1: of comments telling me I should day and every man cheats. Oh, 618 00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:07,800 Speaker 1: come on, guys, you don't deserve that. You do not 619 00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:12,000 Speaker 1: deserve that. No, goodness, gracious, find you a man who 620 00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:12,760 Speaker 1: does not cheat. 621 00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:13,560 Speaker 3: There you go. 622 00:31:13,920 --> 00:31:16,240 Speaker 1: I should work things out because most of our marriage 623 00:31:16,320 --> 00:31:19,040 Speaker 1: was good. I refuse to believe all men cheat. 624 00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:20,120 Speaker 4: Hey, good on uop. 625 00:31:20,720 --> 00:31:23,000 Speaker 1: My parents were married for twenty years, and after my 626 00:31:23,120 --> 00:31:26,760 Speaker 1: mom passed away, my dad never moved on. I watched 627 00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:29,520 Speaker 1: my dad love my mom for twelve of those years 628 00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:33,080 Speaker 1: and cherish her. I will not accept anything less than 629 00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:35,680 Speaker 1: that kind of love. He never cheated, nor did she. 630 00:31:36,280 --> 00:31:38,280 Speaker 1: While I'm not sure when I'll be ready to move on, 631 00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:41,920 Speaker 1: falling in love is the absolute last thing on my 632 00:31:42,040 --> 00:31:44,600 Speaker 1: mind at the moment. I refuse to let soon to 633 00:31:44,640 --> 00:31:47,200 Speaker 1: be ex win and destroy love for me completely. 634 00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:49,760 Speaker 4: I will move on from this ex. 635 00:31:49,800 --> 00:31:53,200 Speaker 1: Friends started blowing up my phone, demanding that I fixed 636 00:31:53,240 --> 00:31:55,280 Speaker 1: the situation and immediately blaming me. 637 00:31:55,840 --> 00:31:58,720 Speaker 4: Huh, you know, it's kind of. 638 00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:04,200 Speaker 1: Hilarious when you were slobbing on my man's knob. You 639 00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:07,240 Speaker 1: you didn't stop to think, like, wait a second, what 640 00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:13,080 Speaker 1: maybe me cheating with my best friend's husband is the issue? 641 00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:14,160 Speaker 4: Isn't that crazy? 642 00:32:14,200 --> 00:32:16,560 Speaker 3: Riley? Yeah, that's that's pretty crazy. 643 00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:20,080 Speaker 1: I don't even think I can kind of wrap my 644 00:32:20,120 --> 00:32:22,960 Speaker 1: head around that. Just it's this is like some like 645 00:32:23,040 --> 00:32:26,239 Speaker 1: quantum physics right here, Like I ain't math, and the 646 00:32:26,280 --> 00:32:29,280 Speaker 1: math ain't math, and we need some Albert Einstein level 647 00:32:29,320 --> 00:32:34,280 Speaker 1: like Neil deGrasse Tyson level head ass physicists to try 648 00:32:34,320 --> 00:32:37,880 Speaker 1: and truly figure out that, you know, sleeping with your 649 00:32:37,920 --> 00:32:41,800 Speaker 1: best friend's husband while you're pregnant and your dad is 650 00:32:41,840 --> 00:32:44,840 Speaker 1: passing away from cancer is not a good thing to do. 651 00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:47,160 Speaker 3: Like that's the worst person to blame it on. 652 00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:51,200 Speaker 1: At least if you're going to be in denial, at 653 00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:53,720 Speaker 1: least go for the husband, right at least be like. 654 00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:58,000 Speaker 3: Oh, you know, he he's so terrible, like a pare 655 00:32:58,120 --> 00:33:01,440 Speaker 3: minimum the kids, even it's the kid's you know, kids, 656 00:33:01,880 --> 00:33:03,560 Speaker 3: what the kids do? 657 00:33:04,120 --> 00:33:06,479 Speaker 1: Just don't blame her, Yeah, yeah, exactly, you're just like 658 00:33:06,520 --> 00:33:07,680 Speaker 1: anyone anyone. 659 00:33:07,480 --> 00:33:09,240 Speaker 3: But kicking her while she's down. 660 00:33:09,400 --> 00:33:10,760 Speaker 4: Like, dude, I. 661 00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:12,440 Speaker 1: Feel like the claus are about to come out again, 662 00:33:12,720 --> 00:33:15,360 Speaker 1: Like Opie's been kind of going gone easier on her, 663 00:33:15,440 --> 00:33:17,920 Speaker 1: Like she she didn't go to her face to face 664 00:33:18,440 --> 00:33:20,880 Speaker 1: with it, which probably would have felt even worse for 665 00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:23,680 Speaker 1: the ex friend. Oh to, and she was crying at 666 00:33:23,680 --> 00:33:25,440 Speaker 1: the at the at the intervention, she's like crying and 667 00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:28,520 Speaker 1: all remorseful and all that stuff, like where's that energy? Like, 668 00:33:29,040 --> 00:33:32,480 Speaker 1: my goodness, my lawyer told me to not block texts 669 00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:36,120 Speaker 1: just in case they spill out any additional info that 670 00:33:36,200 --> 00:33:36,840 Speaker 1: I was missing. 671 00:33:37,360 --> 00:33:39,400 Speaker 4: Ah, so the lines tapped. 672 00:33:39,920 --> 00:33:42,520 Speaker 3: She's like saying, like like hook him in for more, 673 00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:46,080 Speaker 3: you know. It's literally like a like like a sting operation. 674 00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:50,239 Speaker 1: Yeah right, like as much as you can out of her, 675 00:33:50,440 --> 00:33:53,840 Speaker 1: like I mean basically like like let's get evidence of 676 00:33:53,840 --> 00:33:56,600 Speaker 1: what happened. My god, she was playing the poor me 677 00:33:56,800 --> 00:34:01,680 Speaker 1: card very hard. The thing is, though, I never influenced 678 00:34:02,120 --> 00:34:05,680 Speaker 1: ex friend's mom and ex friend's dad to cut contact 679 00:34:05,680 --> 00:34:10,879 Speaker 1: with their daughter. Ah, So maybe that's where she's lashing out. 680 00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:14,080 Speaker 2: So since she's not getting the money, she's like, this 681 00:34:14,120 --> 00:34:16,439 Speaker 2: is your fault. Okay, So it's not that she lost 682 00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:19,560 Speaker 2: the lover, it's that she lost her financial support. 683 00:34:20,000 --> 00:34:23,160 Speaker 1: Not even I don't even know for I think, yeah, 684 00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:24,719 Speaker 1: I think they did say the cut her out of 685 00:34:24,719 --> 00:34:25,640 Speaker 1: the will. 686 00:34:25,400 --> 00:34:30,640 Speaker 2: But also ex best friends coming through divorce, the parents 687 00:34:30,680 --> 00:34:32,800 Speaker 2: were giving her money to help out with that. 688 00:34:32,680 --> 00:34:36,200 Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, so she's not getting that honestly the way 689 00:34:36,280 --> 00:34:39,640 Speaker 1: her dad doctor no inheritance. Yeah, they didn't say it explicitly, 690 00:34:39,719 --> 00:34:42,839 Speaker 1: but we can pretty safely assume I fat, I would say. 691 00:34:43,360 --> 00:34:46,200 Speaker 1: And she's just straight up lost her parents. So she's 692 00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:48,839 Speaker 1: now like blaming OP for all that. That's where okay, 693 00:34:48,840 --> 00:34:51,279 Speaker 1: at least that's where this idiocracy is coming from. But 694 00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:55,879 Speaker 1: idiocracy nonetheless. Of course, she actually started blaming me, oh 695 00:34:55,920 --> 00:35:00,480 Speaker 1: my god, for stealing the love of her life. I 696 00:35:00,520 --> 00:35:03,720 Speaker 1: introduced them when soon to be X and I started dating, 697 00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:06,879 Speaker 1: So not sure where that came from, and that soon 698 00:35:06,880 --> 00:35:10,400 Speaker 1: to be X is only with me for the kids. Honestly, 699 00:35:10,480 --> 00:35:12,279 Speaker 1: I knew she was just trying to hurt me at 700 00:35:12,280 --> 00:35:16,359 Speaker 1: that point, Which haven't you hurt her enough? Has she 701 00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:17,840 Speaker 1: not been through enough? 702 00:35:18,280 --> 00:35:18,440 Speaker 2: Oh? 703 00:35:19,920 --> 00:35:23,040 Speaker 1: I didn't give her the satisfaction of responding though. Between 704 00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:25,080 Speaker 1: her and soon to be X, I have about two 705 00:35:25,239 --> 00:35:28,080 Speaker 1: hundred missed calls. Soon to be X went from begging 706 00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:30,840 Speaker 1: and pleading me to forgive him. Like I said, I 707 00:35:30,880 --> 00:35:33,520 Speaker 1: didn't have divorce papers in hand, so he's stuck in 708 00:35:33,560 --> 00:35:36,520 Speaker 1: this unknown gray area at the time being. I also 709 00:35:36,600 --> 00:35:39,359 Speaker 1: asked best friend's mom and mother in law to not 710 00:35:39,400 --> 00:35:42,799 Speaker 1: say anything about the divorce to him yet, purely just 711 00:35:42,800 --> 00:35:43,799 Speaker 1: for my satisfaction. 712 00:35:43,920 --> 00:35:45,120 Speaker 4: Honestly, I know it's. 713 00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:47,600 Speaker 1: Slightly petty, but keeping him in that gray area of 714 00:35:47,640 --> 00:35:50,440 Speaker 1: not knowing is my small revenge to him. Which girl, 715 00:35:51,080 --> 00:35:55,480 Speaker 1: don't you deserve this little slice of revenge pie? Serve 716 00:35:55,520 --> 00:35:58,200 Speaker 1: that up with some whit cream, some cinnamon on it, 717 00:35:58,480 --> 00:36:02,160 Speaker 1: and all the fixens deserve it. Two threatening to call 718 00:36:02,200 --> 00:36:05,960 Speaker 1: the cops on me for kidnapping, okay, telling me that 719 00:36:06,120 --> 00:36:10,000 Speaker 1: ex friend wasn't the only one bingo, just what I 720 00:36:10,040 --> 00:36:11,920 Speaker 1: was looking for, which if we go back to our 721 00:36:11,960 --> 00:36:15,640 Speaker 1: sting operation, Yeah, that's gonna help with everything. To then 722 00:36:15,719 --> 00:36:19,000 Speaker 1: telling me I'm a stuck up bee, to threatening me, 723 00:36:19,680 --> 00:36:22,000 Speaker 1: then back to begging me for forgiveness. 724 00:36:22,120 --> 00:36:23,960 Speaker 3: What is this insane circle? Yo? 725 00:36:24,080 --> 00:36:27,239 Speaker 1: This guy, this guy is this guy's lost it. Honestly, 726 00:36:27,280 --> 00:36:30,000 Speaker 1: it was just whiplash reading those texts. I'd be lying 727 00:36:30,000 --> 00:36:32,640 Speaker 1: in saying if those texts didn't hurt me and terrify 728 00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:35,200 Speaker 1: me all at once. But I refuse to let them 729 00:36:35,239 --> 00:36:38,280 Speaker 1: break me. As for both of them together. I don't 730 00:36:38,320 --> 00:36:40,280 Speaker 1: think that he's gonna stay with her. 731 00:36:40,680 --> 00:36:43,720 Speaker 3: After all that. Dude, after all that. 732 00:36:43,640 --> 00:36:45,719 Speaker 1: And it seems like the friend is actually like at 733 00:36:45,800 --> 00:36:48,080 Speaker 1: least think she's in love with this dude. I think 734 00:36:48,120 --> 00:36:51,800 Speaker 1: he blames her for blowing up our marriage, honestly, blaming 735 00:36:51,840 --> 00:36:55,520 Speaker 1: everyone but the exact right people to blame them freaking selves, 736 00:36:55,600 --> 00:36:56,320 Speaker 1: who knows. 737 00:36:56,120 --> 00:36:57,520 Speaker 4: Though they deserve each other. 738 00:36:58,080 --> 00:37:00,880 Speaker 1: I was initially okay to do a fifty to fifty 739 00:37:00,880 --> 00:37:03,560 Speaker 1: split with soon to be ex for custody, but after 740 00:37:03,640 --> 00:37:06,440 Speaker 1: his reaction, I do not feel comfortable with that, so 741 00:37:06,520 --> 00:37:09,480 Speaker 1: I'll likely be going for full custody. If you bring 742 00:37:09,560 --> 00:37:14,640 Speaker 1: a bat, a baseball bat to anything anywhere, you are done. 743 00:37:14,320 --> 00:37:16,839 Speaker 2: Like if you if that's the hard situation, that's how 744 00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:20,320 Speaker 2: you're gonna react. Like this divorce is gonna be horrible, 745 00:37:20,400 --> 00:37:22,600 Speaker 2: like terrible. It's gonna be super horrible, probably the most 746 00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:25,320 Speaker 2: difficult thing you have ever will go through. 747 00:37:25,520 --> 00:37:28,120 Speaker 3: And that's how you handle it. At the beginning of it. 748 00:37:28,440 --> 00:37:31,359 Speaker 1: My ex friend's brother has about thirty days of leave 749 00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:33,640 Speaker 1: that he's saved up, and he's going to be using 750 00:37:33,640 --> 00:37:36,279 Speaker 1: them to help the kids and I get settled at 751 00:37:36,280 --> 00:37:39,279 Speaker 1: my dad's house. And honestly to be there in case 752 00:37:39,320 --> 00:37:43,120 Speaker 1: soon to be X try showing up and going crazy again. Wow, dude, 753 00:37:43,200 --> 00:37:47,520 Speaker 1: brother stepping up to the plate is the brother an 754 00:37:47,520 --> 00:37:54,000 Speaker 1: ope canna yo if that would happen. 755 00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:57,440 Speaker 3: It feels like a Wholemark movie to be a right. 756 00:37:57,680 --> 00:38:00,720 Speaker 1: And to be honest, dude, I mean take making thirty 757 00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:05,400 Speaker 1: days of leave off of work to be with them. 758 00:38:05,600 --> 00:38:08,080 Speaker 1: I mean, that's but they are like family. 759 00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:11,400 Speaker 2: It's like Loki, the last person in the situation that 760 00:38:11,400 --> 00:38:12,680 Speaker 2: I would expect to do that. 761 00:38:12,960 --> 00:38:15,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, like you're the lowest, but like, like, yo, you 762 00:38:15,239 --> 00:38:18,680 Speaker 1: like obviously, Wow, what a insanely kind move to do, 763 00:38:18,760 --> 00:38:21,080 Speaker 1: but totally like not required of you at all. 764 00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:24,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, you you have no expectations to do this whatsoever. 765 00:38:24,360 --> 00:38:26,560 Speaker 4: No expectations. But here he is. 766 00:38:26,719 --> 00:38:29,120 Speaker 1: I don't know, I'm I'm dropping that theory in there. 767 00:38:29,120 --> 00:38:30,239 Speaker 1: I'm dropping that theory in there. 768 00:38:30,239 --> 00:38:32,600 Speaker 3: We'll sayefly, he's a hunk of gorgeousness. 769 00:38:32,920 --> 00:38:35,880 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I mean, dude taking off thirty days to 770 00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:36,720 Speaker 1: help watch the kids. 771 00:38:36,719 --> 00:38:38,759 Speaker 4: That's uh, that's a pretty sexy, man. 772 00:38:38,840 --> 00:38:40,120 Speaker 3: I'm not I go lie. 773 00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:44,320 Speaker 1: He's been a big help to the kids and I lately, 774 00:38:44,400 --> 00:38:47,399 Speaker 1: and I'm forever in his debt for this. Last night, 775 00:38:47,440 --> 00:38:49,719 Speaker 1: after the kids went to bed, he hooked up his 776 00:38:49,880 --> 00:38:52,760 Speaker 1: Xbox and we played a game called Diablo for together 777 00:38:53,080 --> 00:38:54,800 Speaker 1: to help me take my mind off of things. 778 00:38:55,080 --> 00:38:59,480 Speaker 3: What, dude, it's like a scary game. Oh really? 779 00:38:59,680 --> 00:39:03,080 Speaker 1: Yes, like a yeah diabolo forth like Devil number four, 780 00:39:03,239 --> 00:39:05,719 Speaker 1: like the fourth in the series, four. 781 00:39:05,480 --> 00:39:06,280 Speaker 4: Times the Devil. 782 00:39:07,840 --> 00:39:11,719 Speaker 1: However, he did sort of confess that he's always had 783 00:39:11,800 --> 00:39:14,920 Speaker 1: feelings for me somewhere in the midst of things. What 784 00:39:15,719 --> 00:39:19,279 Speaker 1: but also told me not to say or do anything back. 785 00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:22,799 Speaker 1: He understands a relationship or anything like that isn't in 786 00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:25,680 Speaker 1: my mind and won't be for a while. He isn't wrong, 787 00:39:26,120 --> 00:39:28,359 Speaker 1: but that he's just felt this way since we were 788 00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:31,280 Speaker 1: teenagers and wanted to get it off his chest. 789 00:39:31,840 --> 00:39:34,240 Speaker 3: Dude, that is oh my gosh, dude. 790 00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:38,880 Speaker 1: I mean he went about it very tactfully, but probably 791 00:39:39,239 --> 00:39:40,920 Speaker 1: not the best time. 792 00:39:41,200 --> 00:39:43,319 Speaker 2: I mean, if she's okay, if she's kind of into him, 793 00:39:43,320 --> 00:39:46,799 Speaker 2: like right now, she's getting like everything's crazy, But once 794 00:39:46,840 --> 00:39:50,880 Speaker 2: the dust settles for her, she's got like family support, 795 00:39:51,360 --> 00:39:54,520 Speaker 2: job support, and then another like male role model to 796 00:39:54,520 --> 00:39:55,759 Speaker 2: help out with the kids if. 797 00:39:55,680 --> 00:39:56,680 Speaker 3: She's interested in them. 798 00:39:56,719 --> 00:39:59,400 Speaker 2: You know, like everything's good for her once everything a 799 00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:00,959 Speaker 2: few years, she's good. 800 00:40:01,120 --> 00:40:04,920 Speaker 1: I mean, we did read that story where Opie's husband 801 00:40:05,239 --> 00:40:09,320 Speaker 1: cheated on her, right, Yeah, and then uh that woman 802 00:40:09,640 --> 00:40:13,359 Speaker 1: the Mistress's husband and then Ope ended up you know 803 00:40:13,520 --> 00:40:16,719 Speaker 1: in in you know, consoling each other after you know 804 00:40:16,800 --> 00:40:19,720 Speaker 1: their their spouse is cheating. Yeah, they ended up falling 805 00:40:19,760 --> 00:40:22,919 Speaker 1: in love with each other. Right the intern, Yeah, the intern. Yeah, 806 00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:23,759 Speaker 1: that was the intern. Right. 807 00:40:23,800 --> 00:40:23,960 Speaker 3: Yeah. 808 00:40:24,000 --> 00:40:26,799 Speaker 1: Shout out to Julia on pretty Much Done Podcasts. Yes, 809 00:40:26,880 --> 00:40:28,520 Speaker 1: that was the one, and also shout out to her 810 00:40:28,520 --> 00:40:31,400 Speaker 1: podcast and go check it out pretty much Done everywhere 811 00:40:31,440 --> 00:40:35,080 Speaker 1: you watch podcasts. But yeah, that, I mean, that was 812 00:40:35,120 --> 00:40:38,920 Speaker 1: like the crazy. So this is not as crazy as 813 00:40:39,600 --> 00:40:42,040 Speaker 1: as that was, you know what I mean. But yeah, 814 00:40:42,080 --> 00:40:44,719 Speaker 1: it's still like I mean, like like Opie said, and 815 00:40:44,800 --> 00:40:48,440 Speaker 1: like like, uh, the ex friend's brother said, this is 816 00:40:48,480 --> 00:40:50,120 Speaker 1: a lot for you right now, and like it there's 817 00:40:50,480 --> 00:40:53,479 Speaker 1: shouldn't be any expectations or pressure. I think he said 818 00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:55,120 Speaker 1: it in like the nicest way he could, and I 819 00:40:55,520 --> 00:40:58,560 Speaker 1: understand that he's probably like been holding this in for 820 00:40:58,719 --> 00:40:59,919 Speaker 1: i mean since he was a teen. 821 00:41:00,920 --> 00:41:01,880 Speaker 4: That's kind of crazy. 822 00:41:02,000 --> 00:41:03,960 Speaker 1: You could hold it a little longer, Yeah, I just 823 00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:06,480 Speaker 1: hold it in a little bit longer buddy like she's 824 00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:09,040 Speaker 1: she's kind of going through it. 825 00:41:09,560 --> 00:41:12,080 Speaker 4: But I mean he was watching your kitchen days. 826 00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:12,719 Speaker 3: You know. 827 00:41:13,000 --> 00:41:15,560 Speaker 1: Hopefully that would be great and it actually like works 828 00:41:15,600 --> 00:41:17,920 Speaker 1: out as a like happily ever after it, that would 829 00:41:17,920 --> 00:41:20,320 Speaker 1: be great. That would be great. So I'll leave this 830 00:41:20,440 --> 00:41:23,640 Speaker 1: here for now. If anything of importance happens, then I'll 831 00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:26,560 Speaker 1: go back home and I'll update further. Thank you all, 832 00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:30,440 Speaker 1: and I hope you have a wonderful evening now. We 833 00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:33,640 Speaker 1: had some questions in the comments that Op responded to 834 00:41:34,600 --> 00:41:38,360 Speaker 1: from hobbit Bones. Great user name. I'm sure many of 835 00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:41,040 Speaker 1: us would like to know. Have you told your lawyer 836 00:41:41,120 --> 00:41:43,480 Speaker 1: that you want to go for full custody and have 837 00:41:43,600 --> 00:41:45,839 Speaker 1: you saved those messages with your soon to be x 838 00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:48,759 Speaker 1: said with threats towards you and your children. I'm sure 839 00:41:48,760 --> 00:41:51,160 Speaker 1: that you have, since you saved screenshots of the first time, 840 00:41:51,239 --> 00:41:53,640 Speaker 1: and you've handled this really well. I would second that 841 00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:55,680 Speaker 1: you've done all the right things to gather at evidence 842 00:41:55,680 --> 00:41:58,560 Speaker 1: and protect yourself. I am proud of you, and I 843 00:41:58,680 --> 00:42:01,160 Speaker 1: really wish the best for you and for your children. 844 00:42:01,440 --> 00:42:02,560 Speaker 4: Heart Op. 845 00:42:03,120 --> 00:42:06,279 Speaker 1: I forwarded everything to her as well as telling her 846 00:42:06,400 --> 00:42:11,520 Speaker 1: he was arrested, and she responded with full custody question mark, Yo, 847 00:42:11,600 --> 00:42:14,680 Speaker 1: this lawyer is tight, like the lawyer. Lawyer is just 848 00:42:14,719 --> 00:42:18,080 Speaker 1: like cool. I'm rocket with her and I agreed. So 849 00:42:18,239 --> 00:42:21,000 Speaker 1: thank you, truly, so much, heart. 850 00:42:21,480 --> 00:42:24,480 Speaker 3: Dude. What x bff got in on this? 851 00:42:25,719 --> 00:42:26,560 Speaker 4: Oh my god. 852 00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:27,640 Speaker 3: Okay, we got to read this through. 853 00:42:27,640 --> 00:42:32,200 Speaker 1: I don't know, okay, okay, okay, guys, Riley just pointed 854 00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:38,080 Speaker 1: this out. This is a response from the ex friend