1 00:00:00,280 --> 00:00:03,000 Speaker 1: Levels to This is an iHeart women's sports production in 2 00:00:03,080 --> 00:00:06,080 Speaker 1: partnership with Deep Blue Sports and Entertainment. You can find 3 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:09,520 Speaker 1: us on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you 4 00:00:09,600 --> 00:00:13,480 Speaker 1: get your podcasts. 5 00:00:15,480 --> 00:00:18,640 Speaker 2: Hey, what's up, everybody, it's your girl, Therika Foster Bradsby. 6 00:00:18,800 --> 00:00:22,960 Speaker 1: What's good y'all, it's your girl, Cheryl Swoops Hey. 7 00:00:23,280 --> 00:00:26,119 Speaker 2: And this is the Levels to this podcast. This is 8 00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:29,560 Speaker 2: the show where we talk about the levels to the 9 00:00:29,600 --> 00:00:34,040 Speaker 2: ship that women go through. And we have a good 10 00:00:34,120 --> 00:00:37,760 Speaker 2: podcast for you guys today. We're really gonna have some 11 00:00:37,800 --> 00:00:38,720 Speaker 2: real talk today. 12 00:00:39,159 --> 00:00:44,199 Speaker 3: But first Cheryl, y'all all the. 13 00:00:44,479 --> 00:00:50,640 Speaker 1: And y'all negative woods girl, can't wait, can't wait, you know, 14 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:54,200 Speaker 1: And the timing of it is so good, like I 15 00:00:54,320 --> 00:00:59,800 Speaker 1: need you, I need a friend in my life. I'm 16 00:00:59,840 --> 00:01:02,440 Speaker 1: so excited about afro Tech. This is the first time 17 00:01:02,840 --> 00:01:08,040 Speaker 1: that I actually will attend. I'm speaking on a panel 18 00:01:08,160 --> 00:01:14,120 Speaker 1: on Thursday. But listen, I'm so excited to be in 19 00:01:14,200 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 1: a different just a different space because you know me 20 00:01:19,880 --> 00:01:21,080 Speaker 1: and technology, and. 21 00:01:23,600 --> 00:01:24,479 Speaker 3: I love this song. 22 00:01:25,360 --> 00:01:29,319 Speaker 1: Not my cup of tea, but I'm excited. Excited. I 23 00:01:29,319 --> 00:01:31,560 Speaker 1: get to see you, I get to see my oldest brother. 24 00:01:31,880 --> 00:01:36,039 Speaker 1: So my oldest brother he's a tech geek, so he's 25 00:01:36,480 --> 00:01:39,880 Speaker 1: his company brought him down so he'll be here all day. 26 00:01:40,120 --> 00:01:44,920 Speaker 3: So, yes, yes it's James. I'm not have that. How 27 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:48,720 Speaker 3: about that? You wait until I tell him that you're covering? 28 00:01:49,720 --> 00:01:55,440 Speaker 2: Wait, now you know, James is my job. That might 29 00:01:55,480 --> 00:01:58,320 Speaker 2: be the one brother I love more than Brandon. That's 30 00:01:58,360 --> 00:02:00,600 Speaker 2: the one brother I tell Brandon. 31 00:02:00,720 --> 00:02:03,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, you do, I'm gonna tell her. I'm gonna tell him. 32 00:02:03,400 --> 00:02:04,560 Speaker 3: I'll make sure and I'll make sure. 33 00:02:04,560 --> 00:02:08,520 Speaker 1: Hell I listen to this episode, don't listen to Brandon. Yeah, Bran, 34 00:02:08,639 --> 00:02:09,720 Speaker 1: Brandon begets sensitive? 35 00:02:10,040 --> 00:02:13,840 Speaker 3: What for real? For real? 36 00:02:14,040 --> 00:02:14,359 Speaker 2: For real? 37 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:18,280 Speaker 3: You like that? Really? Really, James, James, don't be in 38 00:02:18,320 --> 00:02:20,360 Speaker 3: the streets with you like I do. James, don't be 39 00:02:20,360 --> 00:02:23,320 Speaker 3: outside with you for real? But no, that's what I 40 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:27,680 Speaker 3: love that. I can't wait wait to see you. Yes, 41 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:29,600 Speaker 3: it's gonna be same thing. 42 00:02:29,960 --> 00:02:32,200 Speaker 2: It's gonna be a good time. Definitely make sure you 43 00:02:32,320 --> 00:02:35,480 Speaker 2: let me know what time is your session. I don't 44 00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:37,440 Speaker 2: know if it's open or not, but I will definitely 45 00:02:37,480 --> 00:02:41,520 Speaker 2: try to come any work is okay, it's open, facts all, 46 00:02:41,639 --> 00:02:42,040 Speaker 2: let me know. 47 00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:46,680 Speaker 3: But yeah, hey, what are you doing in the eighth. 48 00:02:46,639 --> 00:02:49,639 Speaker 2: So I'm I'm in Houston because I am a delegate 49 00:02:49,680 --> 00:02:51,840 Speaker 2: for the National Paneltic Council. 50 00:02:53,040 --> 00:02:53,600 Speaker 3: Conference. 51 00:02:53,720 --> 00:02:56,880 Speaker 2: So for those out there who are unaware of what 52 00:02:56,960 --> 00:03:00,000 Speaker 2: the n p a C is, it's the total counsel 53 00:03:00,200 --> 00:03:04,320 Speaker 2: of all of the nine historically black fraternities and sororities. 54 00:03:04,320 --> 00:03:07,800 Speaker 2: And so every two years they have a national conference. 55 00:03:08,120 --> 00:03:10,680 Speaker 2: And this year I was selected as the delegate from 56 00:03:10,760 --> 00:03:14,919 Speaker 2: my council in Hartford to represent at the Big at 57 00:03:14,919 --> 00:03:16,880 Speaker 2: the Big conference, and so this is my first time 58 00:03:17,000 --> 00:03:18,840 Speaker 2: going to this conference. 59 00:03:18,960 --> 00:03:20,320 Speaker 3: And so I'm so excited. 60 00:03:20,360 --> 00:03:23,280 Speaker 2: And I would say that I'm going alone, but see 61 00:03:23,320 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 2: what y'all don't know about the women of Sigmacameroe is 62 00:03:25,480 --> 00:03:27,800 Speaker 2: that we are never alone. So the moment that I 63 00:03:27,840 --> 00:03:31,720 Speaker 2: pop up, I know, I know, I know, I ain't 64 00:03:31,720 --> 00:03:32,200 Speaker 2: by myself. 65 00:03:32,200 --> 00:03:36,680 Speaker 3: We're gonna show up the show. Yeah, what we do. 66 00:03:37,520 --> 00:03:39,880 Speaker 3: Is it always in Houston? It's not. 67 00:03:40,040 --> 00:03:43,520 Speaker 2: It's in a different location every year or every conference. 68 00:03:44,520 --> 00:03:47,880 Speaker 2: Last conference, I believe it with Chicago, and so this 69 00:03:47,960 --> 00:03:49,120 Speaker 2: year it is in Houston. 70 00:03:49,160 --> 00:03:50,120 Speaker 3: So I'm excited. 71 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:58,760 Speaker 2: It's gonna be from Thursday through which is today through Sunday. 72 00:03:59,240 --> 00:04:02,640 Speaker 2: So yeah, so I leave Sunday evening and my flight 73 00:04:02,760 --> 00:04:06,240 Speaker 2: leaves late on Sunday on purpose, even though I'm done 74 00:04:06,920 --> 00:04:09,839 Speaker 2: with the conference stuff. After church service, the church ends 75 00:04:09,840 --> 00:04:12,840 Speaker 2: at like eleven, But I could not leave after eleven 76 00:04:12,880 --> 00:04:17,160 Speaker 2: because see, I got a game on Sunday at one 77 00:04:17,160 --> 00:04:19,600 Speaker 2: o'clock in the afternoon, and I can't be in nobody's 78 00:04:19,600 --> 00:04:21,880 Speaker 2: air on nobody's airplane when my game was on. I 79 00:04:21,920 --> 00:04:23,400 Speaker 2: got to be you see my coach. I got to 80 00:04:23,400 --> 00:04:25,000 Speaker 2: be able to see my team. We the best team 81 00:04:25,040 --> 00:04:28,640 Speaker 2: in football. So I booked my flight after the football 82 00:04:28,680 --> 00:04:29,280 Speaker 2: game went off. 83 00:04:29,640 --> 00:04:34,760 Speaker 1: Wow, priorities, I love it. But listen, you'll be proud 84 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:37,440 Speaker 1: of me. I'm trying to be better when it comes 85 00:04:37,520 --> 00:04:41,560 Speaker 1: to your doll. I'm I'm actually going to the Texans 86 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:42,359 Speaker 1: game on Sunday. 87 00:04:43,320 --> 00:04:44,680 Speaker 3: Look at your new game. 88 00:04:45,080 --> 00:04:48,640 Speaker 1: Well, I got my CJ Stroud Jersey, I got my 89 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:52,880 Speaker 1: textee year. I'm gonna be in that than tee. I'm learning, 90 00:04:53,080 --> 00:04:53,640 Speaker 1: I'm learning. 91 00:04:54,080 --> 00:04:56,119 Speaker 3: I am so proud of you, Suiryl. 92 00:04:56,200 --> 00:04:59,560 Speaker 2: And because I'm so proud of you, I'm not gonna 93 00:04:59,560 --> 00:05:00,560 Speaker 2: talk shit about the team. 94 00:05:00,600 --> 00:05:03,840 Speaker 3: I'm gonna just be like, have a good time. I'm 95 00:05:03,880 --> 00:05:05,440 Speaker 3: gonna have a good time, don't talk shit. 96 00:05:05,320 --> 00:05:07,800 Speaker 1: About I'm gonna talk ship. 97 00:05:07,880 --> 00:05:11,040 Speaker 3: I'm wait until I'm gonna wait until the end because 98 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:11,360 Speaker 3: you know. 99 00:05:11,320 --> 00:05:14,640 Speaker 1: What a good friend wait to the end because we're 100 00:05:14,680 --> 00:05:15,640 Speaker 1: gonna win anyway. 101 00:05:16,960 --> 00:05:23,400 Speaker 3: Good luck with that. Congratulations, congratulations. 102 00:05:23,400 --> 00:05:31,120 Speaker 1: Friends be sometimes I am. 103 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:33,800 Speaker 3: It is what it is. That's what that's what that's 104 00:05:33,839 --> 00:05:36,080 Speaker 3: what friends do. That is what friends do. 105 00:05:36,120 --> 00:05:38,480 Speaker 2: But you know what happened when friends don't be acting 106 00:05:38,560 --> 00:05:39,560 Speaker 2: like they got no sense? 107 00:05:39,920 --> 00:05:43,000 Speaker 3: It may be time for you to revalu wait some friendships. 108 00:05:43,120 --> 00:05:46,000 Speaker 2: And that's exactly what we're gonna talk about today, is 109 00:05:46,240 --> 00:05:51,640 Speaker 2: exactly when is the time for you to reevaluate your 110 00:05:51,720 --> 00:05:56,560 Speaker 2: friendships because some friends, some friends are here for season. 111 00:05:56,800 --> 00:06:00,200 Speaker 2: Some friends are here for a reason. So you gotta 112 00:06:00,480 --> 00:06:03,320 Speaker 2: you gotta know when it's time to do some friendship audits. 113 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:05,640 Speaker 2: And that's that's what we're gonna talk about today. So 114 00:06:06,080 --> 00:06:08,320 Speaker 2: let's just go ahead and take this thing to the 115 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:24,280 Speaker 2: next level, all right, So we are going ahead and 116 00:06:24,320 --> 00:06:27,000 Speaker 2: take this conversation to the next level because I want 117 00:06:27,040 --> 00:06:29,480 Speaker 2: to tell the people exactly what made me think about 118 00:06:29,640 --> 00:06:34,240 Speaker 2: this subject. So it's been popular over the last week 119 00:06:34,320 --> 00:06:39,200 Speaker 2: or so that rapper Gucci Maine has come forward with 120 00:06:39,680 --> 00:06:44,880 Speaker 2: his new book called Episodes, and he's talking about being schizophrenic, 121 00:06:45,080 --> 00:06:49,559 Speaker 2: being diagnosed with bipolar disorder, and all the things that 122 00:06:50,360 --> 00:06:53,920 Speaker 2: he's gone through over the last many years. And one 123 00:06:54,200 --> 00:06:56,359 Speaker 2: interview that I saw was on the Breakfast Club. He 124 00:06:56,400 --> 00:07:00,839 Speaker 2: was talking to Charlamagne and he was talking about friendships, 125 00:07:01,040 --> 00:07:07,039 Speaker 2: and he specifically spoke about how when he was going 126 00:07:07,080 --> 00:07:09,920 Speaker 2: through one of his episodes, one of the things that 127 00:07:09,960 --> 00:07:12,080 Speaker 2: he used to do is that he used to give 128 00:07:12,120 --> 00:07:14,880 Speaker 2: away stuff. He used to give away his jewelry, he 129 00:07:14,960 --> 00:07:17,520 Speaker 2: used to give away money. He used to like just 130 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:20,360 Speaker 2: and mind you this Gucci. We talked about Gucci, jewelry. 131 00:07:20,360 --> 00:07:24,440 Speaker 2: Ain't like no look quick two three dollars like this 132 00:07:24,520 --> 00:07:28,880 Speaker 2: is a song called Jewelry, a couple of commas in it. 133 00:07:29,400 --> 00:07:31,520 Speaker 2: It's a few commas in them. I just want to 134 00:07:31,600 --> 00:07:36,880 Speaker 2: know what I'm saying exactly. And he was saying, I 135 00:07:37,000 --> 00:07:40,480 Speaker 2: gave away stuff, and these people knew that I was 136 00:07:40,960 --> 00:07:44,840 Speaker 2: not well and that I was not in my right headspace, 137 00:07:45,120 --> 00:07:47,480 Speaker 2: and yet they were still taking my stuff and they 138 00:07:47,480 --> 00:07:50,000 Speaker 2: were still accepting it, and they were basically taking advantage 139 00:07:50,040 --> 00:07:50,240 Speaker 2: of me. 140 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:52,400 Speaker 3: And I needed to find new friends. 141 00:07:52,720 --> 00:07:57,480 Speaker 2: And it led me to think about today's topic, which is, 142 00:07:58,360 --> 00:08:01,080 Speaker 2: at what point in time do we need to do 143 00:08:01,160 --> 00:08:04,240 Speaker 2: a friend audit, Like, at what point do we need 144 00:08:04,280 --> 00:08:07,360 Speaker 2: to look and think maybe it's time to just like 145 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:13,080 Speaker 2: evaluate who we actually consider to be friends, Like we 146 00:08:13,160 --> 00:08:15,760 Speaker 2: just need to do a temperature check. So sure, first 147 00:08:15,800 --> 00:08:19,600 Speaker 2: thing I want to ask you is have you ever 148 00:08:19,680 --> 00:08:20,960 Speaker 2: done have you ever done. 149 00:08:20,880 --> 00:08:21,880 Speaker 3: A friend audit? 150 00:08:21,960 --> 00:08:25,800 Speaker 2: Like, have you ever actually sat back and thought about 151 00:08:26,280 --> 00:08:27,679 Speaker 2: evaluating your circle? 152 00:08:28,840 --> 00:08:33,319 Speaker 1: Oh wait, it's gonna be a good conversation because here's 153 00:08:33,320 --> 00:08:33,680 Speaker 1: the thing. 154 00:08:33,960 --> 00:08:37,280 Speaker 3: Here's the thing. I don't have a lot of friends. 155 00:08:38,840 --> 00:08:42,079 Speaker 3: I have associates mm hmmm. 156 00:08:42,720 --> 00:08:47,679 Speaker 1: And the people that I consider friends are really really 157 00:08:47,920 --> 00:08:54,280 Speaker 1: really true friends. Like that's probably on one hand one hand, 158 00:08:55,360 --> 00:08:58,640 Speaker 1: But it's so funny that you asked that, because not 159 00:08:58,800 --> 00:09:03,840 Speaker 1: too long ago I have to just kind of separate 160 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:08,880 Speaker 1: like cut ties with someone that I you know what, now. 161 00:09:08,720 --> 00:09:10,720 Speaker 3: That I think about it, she wasn't even a friend. 162 00:09:10,880 --> 00:09:11,920 Speaker 3: She was an associate. 163 00:09:12,280 --> 00:09:17,080 Speaker 1: She was an associate, although I would call her CIS 164 00:09:17,240 --> 00:09:19,400 Speaker 1: and things like that, which is a whole nother conversation 165 00:09:19,480 --> 00:09:24,640 Speaker 1: because to me, everybody ain't just this. Everybody don't deserve 166 00:09:24,720 --> 00:09:28,680 Speaker 1: to be called fis. But this particular one, I was like, Yeah, 167 00:09:28,679 --> 00:09:33,680 Speaker 1: that's my cist. But come to find out, no, no. 168 00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:35,880 Speaker 3: No, you were just an associate. 169 00:09:36,200 --> 00:09:40,880 Speaker 1: And the reason why I know that she really wasn't 170 00:09:40,920 --> 00:09:43,040 Speaker 1: a friend is because when I did it like, it 171 00:09:43,080 --> 00:09:46,000 Speaker 1: didn't hurt, it didn't bother me. I ain't skipped a beat, 172 00:09:46,040 --> 00:09:50,000 Speaker 1: I ain't missedbeat, and clearly she didn't either. But it's 173 00:09:50,120 --> 00:09:53,199 Speaker 1: really good when you say we need to do a 174 00:09:53,280 --> 00:09:57,120 Speaker 1: friend audit, because I don't think we do that enough 175 00:09:58,280 --> 00:10:01,160 Speaker 1: because so many times we'll look at it and say, yeah, we. 176 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:05,000 Speaker 3: Grew up together. Girl, I've known you. We've known each 177 00:10:05,040 --> 00:10:06,080 Speaker 3: other since we were ten. 178 00:10:06,960 --> 00:10:11,320 Speaker 1: But when you're ten and now you're fifty four, so 179 00:10:11,520 --> 00:10:16,120 Speaker 1: much shit changes within that time. So the things we 180 00:10:16,240 --> 00:10:18,880 Speaker 1: had in common are liked to do or that we 181 00:10:19,000 --> 00:10:24,560 Speaker 1: thought made us friends at the age of ten, now 182 00:10:24,840 --> 00:10:27,880 Speaker 1: what they have to do with right now, like what 183 00:10:27,880 --> 00:10:29,000 Speaker 1: they got to do with right now. 184 00:10:29,720 --> 00:10:33,800 Speaker 3: And yes, that's exactly what I'm talking about. And like. 185 00:10:35,559 --> 00:10:38,120 Speaker 2: When I say like, so for me, when I say 186 00:10:38,320 --> 00:10:42,520 Speaker 2: a friend audit, I'm not even necessarily saying like I'm 187 00:10:42,559 --> 00:10:45,240 Speaker 2: trying to cut you off, but I am saying like 188 00:10:45,320 --> 00:10:50,200 Speaker 2: I need to evalue, Yeah, I need to evaluate, like 189 00:10:50,360 --> 00:10:53,800 Speaker 2: what level of friendship are we really on? Are we 190 00:10:53,960 --> 00:10:57,680 Speaker 2: like really friends? Are we like sisters. Are we just 191 00:10:57,800 --> 00:11:01,960 Speaker 2: sore roars? Are we just I know you? Like we 192 00:11:02,040 --> 00:11:05,960 Speaker 2: have acquaintances in the same circle, Like maybe you're somebody 193 00:11:05,960 --> 00:11:09,200 Speaker 2: who I held in the regard as like a friend 194 00:11:09,559 --> 00:11:10,920 Speaker 2: and I have really need. 195 00:11:10,800 --> 00:11:12,120 Speaker 3: To just demote your level. 196 00:11:12,480 --> 00:11:14,880 Speaker 2: So I'm not saying we still can't be cool, but 197 00:11:15,040 --> 00:11:17,720 Speaker 2: like maybe we just aren't or should never be as 198 00:11:17,760 --> 00:11:20,480 Speaker 2: close as I thought we once were. Like there's so 199 00:11:20,640 --> 00:11:23,760 Speaker 2: many different ways that we have to do that, and 200 00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:26,160 Speaker 2: we have to do it without feeling guilty, because that's 201 00:11:26,200 --> 00:11:26,640 Speaker 2: the other thing. 202 00:11:27,240 --> 00:11:29,920 Speaker 3: That's the other thing, Like you just mentioned because. 203 00:11:29,720 --> 00:11:31,720 Speaker 2: You've been friends for so long or I've known you 204 00:11:31,800 --> 00:11:34,840 Speaker 2: for so long, we have because women women are loyal. 205 00:11:35,280 --> 00:11:37,559 Speaker 3: Most of us are. 206 00:11:37,640 --> 00:11:41,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, most of us are loyal, and out of 207 00:11:41,840 --> 00:11:46,559 Speaker 2: the loyalty that we have, we will try to remain friends. 208 00:11:46,679 --> 00:11:50,079 Speaker 2: And I'm using air quotes with someone because we've been 209 00:11:50,080 --> 00:11:53,560 Speaker 2: cool for twenty years, so out of loyalty, I feel 210 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:55,840 Speaker 2: like I still got to invite you to my birthday party. 211 00:11:55,880 --> 00:11:57,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, I still got to ask. 212 00:11:57,559 --> 00:11:59,360 Speaker 2: You, do you want to come to the thanksgiving to 213 00:11:59,400 --> 00:12:00,400 Speaker 2: the friends? 214 00:12:00,520 --> 00:12:02,160 Speaker 3: I still got to say. 215 00:12:02,120 --> 00:12:04,800 Speaker 2: You know, make sure you include when the reality is 216 00:12:05,040 --> 00:12:06,599 Speaker 2: I don't really rock with you like I used to, 217 00:12:06,679 --> 00:12:07,680 Speaker 2: Why I still gotta do this? 218 00:12:08,120 --> 00:12:11,319 Speaker 3: And you shouldn't you really shouldn't, you know, tee. 219 00:12:11,320 --> 00:12:15,080 Speaker 1: When I think about a friend, like, to me, a 220 00:12:15,160 --> 00:12:19,160 Speaker 1: real true friend that's not necessarily somebody that you talk 221 00:12:19,240 --> 00:12:22,160 Speaker 1: to every day. 222 00:12:21,440 --> 00:12:21,920 Speaker 3: That part. 223 00:12:22,040 --> 00:12:26,120 Speaker 1: But I know that if I pick up the phone, 224 00:12:26,360 --> 00:12:30,599 Speaker 1: I text you, I call you, we can go years 225 00:12:30,960 --> 00:12:34,400 Speaker 1: without seeing each other or maybe even without talking. But 226 00:12:34,600 --> 00:12:36,440 Speaker 1: I know that as soon as I pick up the 227 00:12:36,480 --> 00:12:39,400 Speaker 1: phone and I call you, you were going to answer, 228 00:12:39,360 --> 00:12:42,680 Speaker 1: You're gonna respond, And that to me is like what 229 00:12:42,800 --> 00:12:46,640 Speaker 1: a true friend is. Yeah, And just like you said, 230 00:12:48,040 --> 00:12:50,640 Speaker 1: why do we feel guilty when we're like, you know what, 231 00:12:50,760 --> 00:12:54,760 Speaker 1: I'll rock with a bitch like that. It's like, but 232 00:12:54,920 --> 00:12:58,400 Speaker 1: I've known her for so long, I have to invite, 233 00:12:58,440 --> 00:13:00,880 Speaker 1: you know what, not just her, him too, I have 234 00:13:01,040 --> 00:13:01,880 Speaker 1: to invite them. 235 00:13:02,800 --> 00:13:06,040 Speaker 3: But here's the one that gets me. All right, I'm 236 00:13:06,040 --> 00:13:07,160 Speaker 3: gonna use you and I as. 237 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:09,200 Speaker 1: An example, because so many times when you use other people, 238 00:13:09,240 --> 00:13:10,720 Speaker 1: they'd be like she was talking about me. 239 00:13:11,600 --> 00:13:14,360 Speaker 3: I don't even know you like that. So I'll use 240 00:13:14,400 --> 00:13:15,439 Speaker 3: you and I. 241 00:13:15,480 --> 00:13:20,160 Speaker 1: You and I friends, and you happen to go to 242 00:13:20,240 --> 00:13:24,479 Speaker 1: a game, to a party, you you in some environment 243 00:13:25,000 --> 00:13:29,199 Speaker 1: that I'm not in, and you happen to be friends 244 00:13:29,559 --> 00:13:34,040 Speaker 1: or at least you know people there right that are like, yeah, 245 00:13:34,080 --> 00:13:34,720 Speaker 1: that be Cheryl. 246 00:13:34,760 --> 00:13:38,880 Speaker 3: I can't stand her. Got all the things to say 247 00:13:39,240 --> 00:13:40,679 Speaker 3: about me behind my back. 248 00:13:41,880 --> 00:13:46,080 Speaker 1: Now you as my homegirl, my sister, my sorer, my 249 00:13:46,320 --> 00:13:49,520 Speaker 1: all those things, ain't my friend? 250 00:13:51,320 --> 00:13:56,480 Speaker 3: Do you address that or do you just stand in 251 00:13:56,600 --> 00:13:59,640 Speaker 3: it and either not your head whatever whatever, or just 252 00:13:59,720 --> 00:14:02,280 Speaker 3: let it go? How do you handle that? 253 00:14:03,920 --> 00:14:07,080 Speaker 2: That's a very good question, Cheryl, and I feel like 254 00:14:07,840 --> 00:14:12,640 Speaker 2: you may already know how to Rika would handle that 255 00:14:13,360 --> 00:14:17,080 Speaker 2: the purpose, but for the purposes of this conversation, you know, 256 00:14:17,320 --> 00:14:21,400 Speaker 2: for the scenario, I will address it like this. I 257 00:14:21,440 --> 00:14:24,120 Speaker 2: think you should always say to that person, if that 258 00:14:24,160 --> 00:14:28,320 Speaker 2: person is your friend, Hey, listen, you can feel. 259 00:14:28,120 --> 00:14:29,560 Speaker 3: How you want to feel about Cheryl. 260 00:14:30,480 --> 00:14:33,880 Speaker 2: You can have whatever opinion you want to have about Cheryl. 261 00:14:34,280 --> 00:14:35,720 Speaker 2: But I'm gonna need you to save that shit for 262 00:14:35,800 --> 00:14:38,640 Speaker 2: when I'm around. That's how I would handle it, too, 263 00:14:39,360 --> 00:14:42,880 Speaker 2: because I can't sit here and let how you feel 264 00:14:42,880 --> 00:14:44,360 Speaker 2: about Cheryl ain't got nothing to do with me. 265 00:14:44,760 --> 00:14:46,360 Speaker 3: But you ain't about to sit here and talk about 266 00:14:46,360 --> 00:14:47,200 Speaker 3: my girl in my face. 267 00:14:47,280 --> 00:14:50,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, So I'm gonna need you to take that shit 268 00:14:50,680 --> 00:14:54,760 Speaker 2: elsewhere or reserve that shit for another group. But here's 269 00:14:54,800 --> 00:14:59,760 Speaker 2: the thing, t Rika, they already know, don't even bring 270 00:14:59,800 --> 00:15:03,560 Speaker 2: that shit up when I'm around, Like, that's my thing. 271 00:15:04,000 --> 00:15:06,840 Speaker 2: Y'all already know. If y'all gonna talk shit about Shiryl, 272 00:15:06,880 --> 00:15:08,520 Speaker 2: y'all ain't gonna do it. When so Rica walk in 273 00:15:08,520 --> 00:15:10,120 Speaker 2: the room, y'all gonna do that. No, I don't even 274 00:15:10,160 --> 00:15:11,960 Speaker 2: say that ship. That's the one when they bumping, they 275 00:15:12,080 --> 00:15:15,080 Speaker 2: kicking their homegirl because they homegirl say something up. 276 00:15:20,040 --> 00:15:20,480 Speaker 3: Them. 277 00:15:20,960 --> 00:15:24,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm using you and I as an example because I, yes, 278 00:15:24,440 --> 00:15:26,240 Speaker 1: I know how you're gonna respond. I think you know 279 00:15:26,280 --> 00:15:29,840 Speaker 1: how I'm gonna respond. But the problem is there's not 280 00:15:30,040 --> 00:15:32,560 Speaker 1: enough of us to do that. And if you if 281 00:15:32,600 --> 00:15:37,640 Speaker 1: you call me your real truth, if we're really truly friends, 282 00:15:39,280 --> 00:15:40,680 Speaker 1: you're not gonna let that happen. 283 00:15:41,520 --> 00:15:42,320 Speaker 3: You Listen. 284 00:15:42,440 --> 00:15:45,760 Speaker 1: I've been in rooms before where a situation like that 285 00:15:45,800 --> 00:15:49,320 Speaker 1: has happened, and I address it, and then I kindly 286 00:15:49,360 --> 00:15:54,200 Speaker 1: excuse myself cause if you're doing it to her, you're 287 00:15:54,200 --> 00:15:55,480 Speaker 1: probably gonna do it to me too. 288 00:15:56,400 --> 00:15:58,400 Speaker 3: But you really have done it to me, and it's 289 00:15:58,480 --> 00:16:01,840 Speaker 3: just better for me to like remove myself from that situation. 290 00:16:03,400 --> 00:16:06,800 Speaker 2: I don't even understand how people can feel comfortable. Like 291 00:16:06,840 --> 00:16:09,080 Speaker 2: That's when I start to draw questions because when you 292 00:16:09,120 --> 00:16:12,040 Speaker 2: come back to me and say such and such said this, 293 00:16:12,120 --> 00:16:15,280 Speaker 2: that and a third about you, my question then becomes 294 00:16:15,320 --> 00:16:17,920 Speaker 2: why did they feel so comfortable to have that conversation 295 00:16:18,120 --> 00:16:21,800 Speaker 2: in front of you? Either you have allowed that kind 296 00:16:21,840 --> 00:16:26,400 Speaker 2: of conversation to happen previously, or you have participated in 297 00:16:26,480 --> 00:16:29,400 Speaker 2: this conversation in some way that they cool with coming 298 00:16:29,440 --> 00:16:32,160 Speaker 2: to you with that. I ain't never finna be like that, 299 00:16:32,280 --> 00:16:34,280 Speaker 2: Like you're never going to be able to talk shit 300 00:16:34,320 --> 00:16:36,400 Speaker 2: about my friends in front of me, because I'm checking 301 00:16:36,400 --> 00:16:40,640 Speaker 2: at sharing immediately, just immediately he Hey, that's my girl. 302 00:16:40,680 --> 00:16:41,240 Speaker 3: Cut that out. 303 00:16:41,360 --> 00:16:43,840 Speaker 2: And I'm not even necessarily coming off rude about it, 304 00:16:43,880 --> 00:16:46,080 Speaker 2: like I'm in a laugh and manner, but you know, 305 00:16:46,120 --> 00:16:49,160 Speaker 2: I'm for real where I'm like, hey, listen, y'all, y'all 306 00:16:49,200 --> 00:16:51,760 Speaker 2: ain't don't do that right now, don't do that. That's 307 00:16:51,760 --> 00:16:53,640 Speaker 2: my girl. Don't do that, y'all. Do take that over 308 00:16:53,640 --> 00:16:57,520 Speaker 2: there or wait till I leave. But and if you continue, 309 00:16:58,120 --> 00:16:59,640 Speaker 2: then like we really need to have a one on 310 00:16:59,640 --> 00:17:01,840 Speaker 2: one because is like for real, like not even joking 311 00:17:01,880 --> 00:17:04,320 Speaker 2: but like, I can't be in a situation where you 312 00:17:04,480 --> 00:17:07,760 Speaker 2: are dogging somebody that I'm cool with like that, because 313 00:17:07,760 --> 00:17:14,520 Speaker 2: that makes me feel fake, disrespecting me to right, right, right, 314 00:17:14,920 --> 00:17:17,679 Speaker 2: And so I look at and for those who didn't 315 00:17:17,880 --> 00:17:19,760 Speaker 2: hear the interview, because I know it was, it was 316 00:17:19,800 --> 00:17:23,080 Speaker 2: a long interview with Gucci man and. 317 00:17:23,359 --> 00:17:24,280 Speaker 3: What's his wife's name. 318 00:17:26,280 --> 00:17:30,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, First of all, shout out to her, yes, for 319 00:17:31,040 --> 00:17:36,000 Speaker 1: holding it down and basically for saying, listen, I'm not 320 00:17:36,400 --> 00:17:39,560 Speaker 1: I'm not about as your wife. I'm not about to 321 00:17:39,640 --> 00:17:42,600 Speaker 1: allow you to put yourself in certain situations when you 322 00:17:42,800 --> 00:17:45,160 Speaker 1: are sick, right when you're. 323 00:17:45,000 --> 00:17:46,080 Speaker 3: Not who you are. 324 00:17:46,920 --> 00:17:51,359 Speaker 1: But back to your point when you said that about listen, 325 00:17:51,400 --> 00:17:55,800 Speaker 1: if you are really truly this man's friend, then you 326 00:17:55,840 --> 00:17:59,960 Speaker 1: should know his condition, right, and you should know when 327 00:18:00,040 --> 00:18:02,679 Speaker 1: then he's sick or when he's having an episode, when 328 00:18:02,760 --> 00:18:07,520 Speaker 1: he's going through something. We're not medical professionals, but as 329 00:18:07,560 --> 00:18:11,080 Speaker 1: a as a friend, and if he came to you 330 00:18:11,160 --> 00:18:14,400 Speaker 1: and said, here, bro, take my million dollar. 331 00:18:14,320 --> 00:18:16,720 Speaker 3: Necklace, why would you do that? 332 00:18:19,280 --> 00:18:21,520 Speaker 2: That wouldn't be a sign in your head that's something 333 00:18:21,520 --> 00:18:22,000 Speaker 2: ain't right now. 334 00:18:22,720 --> 00:18:26,600 Speaker 1: Because first of all, if I'm your friend, I'm gonna 335 00:18:26,600 --> 00:18:29,280 Speaker 1: go I'm gonna just go buy you your own if 336 00:18:29,320 --> 00:18:31,159 Speaker 1: I'm trying to give you something. 337 00:18:32,920 --> 00:18:35,200 Speaker 3: That part, But like, at what point. 338 00:18:34,880 --> 00:18:38,040 Speaker 1: Did you did you say, let me let me call 339 00:18:38,119 --> 00:18:41,080 Speaker 1: Keisha or let let let me let me figure out something, 340 00:18:41,119 --> 00:18:43,280 Speaker 1: because I know, I know this is my homeboy, and 341 00:18:43,320 --> 00:18:45,440 Speaker 1: I know he's having an episode or he going. 342 00:18:45,359 --> 00:18:46,200 Speaker 3: Through something right now. 343 00:18:46,920 --> 00:18:49,320 Speaker 2: Even if you don't know that he has schizophredio, or 344 00:18:49,359 --> 00:18:52,000 Speaker 2: if you didn't know that he was bipolar or whatever, like, 345 00:18:52,119 --> 00:18:54,480 Speaker 2: even if you didn't know his condition, something about that 346 00:18:54,520 --> 00:18:56,719 Speaker 2: ain't said right with you. Great to just be like this, 347 00:18:56,760 --> 00:18:59,959 Speaker 2: ain't even really in his mannerisms to act like that 348 00:19:00,240 --> 00:19:02,320 Speaker 2: like something is up, you ain't think one time. 349 00:19:02,640 --> 00:19:05,480 Speaker 1: And when you said that sometimes we have to do 350 00:19:06,600 --> 00:19:09,679 Speaker 1: a friend on it. That's why he said. You know, 351 00:19:10,040 --> 00:19:11,719 Speaker 1: when I went to jail and came back, I had 352 00:19:11,720 --> 00:19:12,919 Speaker 1: to get rid of it. I had to give me 353 00:19:13,000 --> 00:19:16,560 Speaker 1: some new friends. I had to cut them off, to 354 00:19:16,560 --> 00:19:20,640 Speaker 1: cut them off. But you would probably know better than 355 00:19:20,760 --> 00:19:22,520 Speaker 1: me because I don't. 356 00:19:22,640 --> 00:19:26,280 Speaker 2: I don't have the same type of celebrity that you do, 357 00:19:26,800 --> 00:19:29,800 Speaker 2: and so I can only imagine how many people over 358 00:19:29,840 --> 00:19:35,399 Speaker 2: the years have gravitated to you or have tried to 359 00:19:35,400 --> 00:19:38,879 Speaker 2: be cool with you, or have maybe expressed a level 360 00:19:38,880 --> 00:19:41,600 Speaker 2: of friendship to other people that they have with you 361 00:19:41,680 --> 00:19:45,080 Speaker 2: that they really don't have just because of who you are, 362 00:19:45,160 --> 00:19:47,679 Speaker 2: to take advantage of your name, to take advantage of 363 00:19:47,720 --> 00:19:49,720 Speaker 2: your star power. Because that's the other thing too, It's 364 00:19:49,760 --> 00:19:53,879 Speaker 2: not even always about like a monetary value. It's I know, 365 00:19:54,040 --> 00:19:56,639 Speaker 2: if I'm cool with Chryl swoops, I'm gonna get, I'm 366 00:19:56,640 --> 00:19:59,880 Speaker 2: gonna get, I'm gonna get, I'm gonna be out, sign out. 367 00:20:00,040 --> 00:20:00,680 Speaker 3: It is right. 368 00:20:00,880 --> 00:20:03,399 Speaker 2: How do you or how have you been able to 369 00:20:03,840 --> 00:20:09,320 Speaker 2: spot like those people who like, really you really know 370 00:20:09,400 --> 00:20:11,520 Speaker 2: that they really only trying to be around because of 371 00:20:11,560 --> 00:20:13,800 Speaker 2: how we can benefit them tee. 372 00:20:13,800 --> 00:20:17,360 Speaker 1: That that's what's so hard, because you notice I started 373 00:20:17,359 --> 00:20:19,640 Speaker 1: off the conversation by saying I don't have a lot 374 00:20:19,680 --> 00:20:24,480 Speaker 1: of friends, and that is by choice, right. But there's 375 00:20:24,640 --> 00:20:29,040 Speaker 1: the other side of that, though, is it it's actually 376 00:20:31,400 --> 00:20:36,200 Speaker 1: not not disappointing, but like sometimes it's it is lonely 377 00:20:37,000 --> 00:20:38,960 Speaker 1: because I'm like, I don't know why you really want 378 00:20:38,960 --> 00:20:41,760 Speaker 1: to be my friend. What's your My first thought is 379 00:20:42,400 --> 00:20:43,159 Speaker 1: what's your motive? 380 00:20:43,680 --> 00:20:44,679 Speaker 3: What you're trying to make us? 381 00:20:45,600 --> 00:20:45,879 Speaker 4: Right? 382 00:20:46,480 --> 00:20:52,280 Speaker 3: And a lot of times it's genuine I I have. 383 00:20:52,480 --> 00:20:55,159 Speaker 1: But as I've gotten older, I'm just like, listen, I 384 00:20:55,160 --> 00:20:56,639 Speaker 1: ain't really trying to make no new friends. 385 00:20:56,680 --> 00:21:00,080 Speaker 3: I don't need no new friends new friends anyway. 386 00:21:00,520 --> 00:21:02,600 Speaker 1: But it was really hard when I was younger and 387 00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:05,320 Speaker 1: I was playing because everywhere you go, you know, like 388 00:21:05,840 --> 00:21:10,680 Speaker 1: trying to tell the difference between a fan and a friend. Yeah, 389 00:21:10,760 --> 00:21:13,920 Speaker 1: you get you can be both, right, Like you could 390 00:21:13,960 --> 00:21:16,639 Speaker 1: be my friend and be and be a fan. But 391 00:21:16,760 --> 00:21:19,040 Speaker 1: I know, I know the difference, and I know when 392 00:21:19,080 --> 00:21:21,919 Speaker 1: it's real and I know when it's genuine. So like 393 00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:24,480 Speaker 1: back when I was younger and like at the height 394 00:21:24,520 --> 00:21:28,640 Speaker 1: of my career, just having just random people show up 395 00:21:28,680 --> 00:21:30,760 Speaker 1: and coming out. And that's not just friends, that's even 396 00:21:30,960 --> 00:21:33,440 Speaker 1: family or people who claim to be family. 397 00:21:33,840 --> 00:21:36,160 Speaker 3: Okay, so that's a different that's a different story. 398 00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:40,040 Speaker 1: But just the reason why I don't have a lot 399 00:21:40,040 --> 00:21:42,639 Speaker 1: of friends is by choice, because I'm like listen, I 400 00:21:42,680 --> 00:21:46,320 Speaker 1: don't have the energy or the time to try to 401 00:21:46,400 --> 00:21:50,880 Speaker 1: figure out your why, right, Like why do you want 402 00:21:50,920 --> 00:21:51,600 Speaker 1: to be my friend? 403 00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:54,280 Speaker 3: Why do you want to be here? What are you 404 00:21:54,400 --> 00:21:57,600 Speaker 3: looking for? So it's it's hard. 405 00:21:57,840 --> 00:22:00,240 Speaker 1: And so when I sat there and I listen to 406 00:22:00,680 --> 00:22:04,439 Speaker 1: the interview, like part of me like my heart just 407 00:22:04,560 --> 00:22:09,840 Speaker 1: hurt for him, because you're already dealing with enough with 408 00:22:10,000 --> 00:22:15,320 Speaker 1: your your schizophrenia and being bipolar, that the last thing 409 00:22:15,400 --> 00:22:18,640 Speaker 1: you need is to try to worry about or figure out. 410 00:22:19,160 --> 00:22:24,960 Speaker 3: Like who is my real friend? Who really my real friends? Yeah? 411 00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:27,560 Speaker 3: Yeah yeah. 412 00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:32,680 Speaker 2: And to add to that is sometimes when you have 413 00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:38,360 Speaker 2: a certain level of power, you don't really want everybody 414 00:22:38,520 --> 00:22:40,680 Speaker 2: to know your business like that anyway. 415 00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:43,040 Speaker 3: So we have a tendency of. 416 00:22:43,160 --> 00:22:46,639 Speaker 2: Divulging only certain information, even to some of my closest friends. 417 00:22:46,960 --> 00:22:49,360 Speaker 2: Like I have friends who I know I can tell 418 00:22:49,480 --> 00:22:52,240 Speaker 2: anything to, and I just like and I just know it. 419 00:22:52,520 --> 00:22:54,920 Speaker 2: And then I have other people who I'm cool with, 420 00:22:55,440 --> 00:22:57,520 Speaker 2: and I will tell you some things in my business, 421 00:22:57,600 --> 00:23:00,359 Speaker 2: but I can't tell you everything and my business, you 422 00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:01,760 Speaker 2: know what I mean. I can't tell you like I 423 00:23:01,840 --> 00:23:05,680 Speaker 2: can't tell you every everything, right, And it makes you wonder, 424 00:23:06,800 --> 00:23:10,920 Speaker 2: like even if I didn't necessarily know that this is 425 00:23:11,119 --> 00:23:14,760 Speaker 2: everything that was going on, there's still a level of 426 00:23:14,960 --> 00:23:16,600 Speaker 2: what he was going through that you should have been 427 00:23:16,600 --> 00:23:19,080 Speaker 2: able to observe if you were really there for the friendship, 428 00:23:19,280 --> 00:23:22,000 Speaker 2: if you are really there to be like to hold 429 00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:25,399 Speaker 2: it down for your boy, Like and I've heard this 430 00:23:25,560 --> 00:23:28,200 Speaker 2: before from people who have said this about me, like 431 00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:30,840 Speaker 2: te we always knew you might, you know what I'm saying, 432 00:23:30,880 --> 00:23:33,919 Speaker 2: Like if anybody about the hood, if anybody leaving Detroit 433 00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:36,560 Speaker 2: like Finna be something, we always knew it was gonna 434 00:23:36,560 --> 00:23:38,760 Speaker 2: be you, so we you know, make sure that like 435 00:23:39,240 --> 00:23:40,879 Speaker 2: we don't let people speak bad on your name. We 436 00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:44,199 Speaker 2: don't let people like they made sure that like they 437 00:23:44,320 --> 00:23:46,400 Speaker 2: held me down in the best way that they could 438 00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:48,680 Speaker 2: from what they were able to do, and that is 439 00:23:48,840 --> 00:23:52,560 Speaker 2: always appreciated and respected without knowing anything that I was 440 00:23:52,640 --> 00:23:55,440 Speaker 2: going through, they were able to be like listen, like 441 00:23:55,840 --> 00:23:57,879 Speaker 2: we wan't going to let nobody come at you crazy 442 00:23:58,080 --> 00:24:00,360 Speaker 2: wanting to let like even now I have friends home, 443 00:24:00,760 --> 00:24:02,560 Speaker 2: when I get angry and I put something out there 444 00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:04,280 Speaker 2: and I'll be like, fuck these bitches they blah blah 445 00:24:04,359 --> 00:24:06,240 Speaker 2: blah blah. Then be in my inbox like I know 446 00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:08,280 Speaker 2: we don't talk like that, but you got way too 447 00:24:08,359 --> 00:24:12,200 Speaker 2: much going to let these people get up fund of 448 00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:14,240 Speaker 2: your skin. Delete that syst like you don't want nobody 449 00:24:14,320 --> 00:24:16,639 Speaker 2: to come at you. And I respect that because that 450 00:24:16,840 --> 00:24:19,560 Speaker 2: to me lets me know like you really trying to 451 00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:22,119 Speaker 2: make sure that I'm good without even really knowing anything. 452 00:24:22,720 --> 00:24:28,080 Speaker 2: But but you got those people who really don't quite 453 00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:30,199 Speaker 2: see the bigger picture. They only see what you can 454 00:24:30,280 --> 00:24:33,600 Speaker 2: do for them, and so they will be like, oh, 455 00:24:33,720 --> 00:24:36,040 Speaker 2: me and Arrica go way back. No bitch me, and 456 00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:38,600 Speaker 2: you just kind of went to the same elementary school. 457 00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:41,200 Speaker 3: That's it. And because we went to the same school, 458 00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:44,680 Speaker 3: don't make us friends. I don't even know you. I 459 00:24:44,760 --> 00:24:46,800 Speaker 3: don't even know you. I got people home with the 460 00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:48,880 Speaker 3: college might be like, yeah, girl turned up, and I'll 461 00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:51,440 Speaker 3: be like, girl, you didn't even talk to me at college. 462 00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:55,440 Speaker 2: You walked right by me in the cafeteria when I 463 00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:57,720 Speaker 2: didn't get the start on the softball team and I 464 00:24:57,840 --> 00:24:58,600 Speaker 2: was on the bench. 465 00:24:59,040 --> 00:25:00,399 Speaker 3: You act like you ain't you know me? Like I 466 00:25:00,560 --> 00:25:03,200 Speaker 3: wasn't on the team. This now all of a sudden, 467 00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:08,280 Speaker 3: you know me. Imagine that. Stop it imagic, stop it. 468 00:25:09,119 --> 00:25:13,360 Speaker 3: I like, stop it. I don't know. I just had 469 00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:15,720 Speaker 3: someone say to me the other day. 470 00:25:16,840 --> 00:25:21,040 Speaker 1: They were like, well, speaking of friends and friendship, they 471 00:25:21,080 --> 00:25:23,680 Speaker 1: were just like, I haven't heard from her in like 472 00:25:23,960 --> 00:25:27,159 Speaker 1: a month, so she must not be my friend. And 473 00:25:27,800 --> 00:25:31,960 Speaker 1: my response though, was, first of all, have you reached 474 00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:34,399 Speaker 1: out to her right like? You don't know what your 475 00:25:34,480 --> 00:25:34,960 Speaker 1: friend is? 476 00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:37,480 Speaker 3: Going through because so many times. 477 00:25:38,119 --> 00:25:40,080 Speaker 1: And I read this other day too, and it just 478 00:25:40,119 --> 00:25:42,880 Speaker 1: said check on your strong friends sometimes, because your strong 479 00:25:42,960 --> 00:25:44,639 Speaker 1: friends are the ones that are always checking on you. 480 00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:47,359 Speaker 3: But then I said to her, I said, is this 481 00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:52,560 Speaker 3: like normal? Is it abnormal? Do y'all typically talk every 482 00:25:52,840 --> 00:25:54,560 Speaker 3: day or once a week or what? 483 00:25:55,160 --> 00:25:57,960 Speaker 1: And she was like no, I just having her from her, 484 00:25:58,000 --> 00:25:59,960 Speaker 1: I said, well, then you probably should. If you're that concerned, 485 00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:03,960 Speaker 1: you probably should check on her, right. And So the 486 00:26:04,080 --> 00:26:10,119 Speaker 1: reason why I say that is because again, some of 487 00:26:10,240 --> 00:26:17,000 Speaker 1: my closest dearest friends, we may not talk for four 488 00:26:17,080 --> 00:26:17,720 Speaker 1: or five months. 489 00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:22,119 Speaker 3: Yeah, but I know you a real one. I know 490 00:26:22,400 --> 00:26:23,639 Speaker 3: you go hold me down. 491 00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:28,680 Speaker 1: I know that you know where our friendship stands, right, 492 00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:30,760 Speaker 1: and we don't have to talk every single day for 493 00:26:30,840 --> 00:26:32,280 Speaker 1: me to let you know that or for you to 494 00:26:32,400 --> 00:26:34,960 Speaker 1: let me know that. And the same thing with you was, 495 00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:37,000 Speaker 1: you know, like when it comes to social media and 496 00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:39,280 Speaker 1: things like that, and this is from random people that 497 00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:39,800 Speaker 1: I don't know. 498 00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:42,920 Speaker 3: So I'm will take this opportunity. 499 00:26:42,400 --> 00:26:44,560 Speaker 1: Right now to say to all of y'all who hold 500 00:26:44,600 --> 00:26:46,639 Speaker 1: me down on social media when they be coming for 501 00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:50,240 Speaker 1: your girl, right, y'all got to know how much that 502 00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:52,920 Speaker 1: means to me how much I appreciate it because you 503 00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:56,200 Speaker 1: don't have to do it. Yeah, those are some real 504 00:26:56,320 --> 00:26:59,320 Speaker 1: ones out there in the crazy world of social media, 505 00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:02,919 Speaker 1: and and it doesn't go unnoticed. Like I really truly 506 00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:06,800 Speaker 1: appreciate that. So just like for my handful of friends 507 00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:08,800 Speaker 1: that I have, they do the same thing. They like, girl, 508 00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:11,480 Speaker 1: if you don't get off of social media, and we 509 00:27:11,720 --> 00:27:15,560 Speaker 1: got it, let let us handle it you fun. 510 00:27:15,800 --> 00:27:21,080 Speaker 3: We got you. Yes, yes, yes, yes. We call those 511 00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:24,000 Speaker 3: our social goons. I have some social goons, Like they. 512 00:27:24,119 --> 00:27:26,879 Speaker 2: Just they got time, They got time to hold it 513 00:27:26,920 --> 00:27:28,880 Speaker 2: down for you. They like, don't you mess up your bag? 514 00:27:29,200 --> 00:27:31,399 Speaker 3: Don't you don't you do it? We got you. 515 00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:33,880 Speaker 2: So listen, what we're gonna do real quick is take 516 00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:35,800 Speaker 2: a very short break, and when we come back on 517 00:27:35,840 --> 00:27:37,639 Speaker 2: the other side of the break, I'm gonna play a 518 00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:38,480 Speaker 2: game with Cheryl. 519 00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:39,800 Speaker 3: I'm gonna play a little game. 520 00:27:39,800 --> 00:27:41,840 Speaker 2: It's gonna be fun. We're gonna play a little game. 521 00:27:42,480 --> 00:27:53,800 Speaker 2: Stay stay tuned, all right, everybody. So we're about to 522 00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:54,639 Speaker 2: play a quick little game. 523 00:27:55,280 --> 00:28:01,360 Speaker 3: And this game is called keep, reassign, or terminate. 524 00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:06,120 Speaker 2: He reassign kind of like start bench cut, like start 525 00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:11,600 Speaker 2: bench cut, keep yep, reassign a sign or. 526 00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:15,600 Speaker 3: Terminate or terminate. Okay, I'm gonna throw out some. 527 00:28:15,720 --> 00:28:21,000 Speaker 2: Scenario and you let me know if your friend in 528 00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:24,199 Speaker 2: this scenario, let me know what you're doing with her? 529 00:28:24,280 --> 00:28:28,159 Speaker 3: Okay, are you key resigned? Reassign her? 530 00:28:28,240 --> 00:28:30,840 Speaker 2: So reassign is like, maybe you ain't my friend, maybe 531 00:28:30,880 --> 00:28:31,800 Speaker 2: you're just an associate. 532 00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:35,560 Speaker 1: Maybe, and then's terminating is na, she gotta go? I 533 00:28:35,680 --> 00:28:39,440 Speaker 1: got you, gotta keeping terminating. I got you, now, reassign, 534 00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:40,920 Speaker 1: I understand. All right, let's go. 535 00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:42,560 Speaker 3: Okay, let's go. All right, all right? 536 00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:45,360 Speaker 2: Are you gonna tell me what you're doing too? Yeah, 537 00:28:45,360 --> 00:28:47,960 Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell you what I'm yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, okay. 538 00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:52,400 Speaker 2: Brand number one frand number one is this friend who 539 00:28:52,600 --> 00:28:55,000 Speaker 2: will text you and be like, Sheryl, I am so 540 00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:55,560 Speaker 2: proud of you. 541 00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:59,360 Speaker 3: You're doing amazing. She will tell you when she sees 542 00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:02,280 Speaker 3: you on the side or pulls you to the. 543 00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:05,959 Speaker 2: Side and says, Cheryl, I love everything you're doing. You're awesome. 544 00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:10,680 Speaker 2: But will never publicly share your stuff, will never publicly 545 00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:14,360 Speaker 2: comment on your stuff. She will never publicly give you 546 00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:18,080 Speaker 2: your give you your flowers. She always cheers. 547 00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:23,880 Speaker 3: You on in the what you're doing with her. Resign 548 00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:30,800 Speaker 3: or terminate. I think I'm gonna have to reassign. 549 00:29:31,560 --> 00:29:34,920 Speaker 1: Because because you because because you've got some good stuff 550 00:29:35,000 --> 00:29:38,760 Speaker 1: about you. But I but the fact that you don't 551 00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:42,840 Speaker 1: ever do none of this stuff publicly. I need to 552 00:29:42,920 --> 00:29:45,640 Speaker 1: reevaluate our relationship. 553 00:29:46,760 --> 00:29:48,320 Speaker 3: I don't reassign you for now. 554 00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:51,920 Speaker 2: For now, we don't assign that we are on the 555 00:29:52,000 --> 00:29:56,720 Speaker 2: same I'm reassigning because clearly we cool something about something 556 00:29:56,760 --> 00:29:58,640 Speaker 2: ain't right that you can't You can't show me this 557 00:29:58,800 --> 00:29:59,760 Speaker 2: love in public way. 558 00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:00,280 Speaker 3: One. 559 00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:03,959 Speaker 1: She's the one that I'm like, hmm, when you up 560 00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:05,720 Speaker 1: in these rooms, are they talking bad about me? 561 00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:07,920 Speaker 3: What you're doing? What you're doing? 562 00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:11,400 Speaker 2: See what I'm saying, Like, you can't publicly say nothing, 563 00:30:11,680 --> 00:30:14,040 Speaker 2: but you can do that. Let meet something right, So 564 00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:18,360 Speaker 2: let's just read we're gonna reassign her. Okay, all right, 565 00:30:18,680 --> 00:30:27,480 Speaker 2: friend number two, Okay, this friend always expects grace, bitch, bye, 566 00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:35,600 Speaker 2: don't know, but don't never you finished, bye bye. This 567 00:30:35,800 --> 00:30:39,920 Speaker 2: friend always wants grace. Okay, always want to excuse, always 568 00:30:40,000 --> 00:30:43,840 Speaker 2: got an excuse. Something happened, some came up, I didn't whatever. 569 00:30:44,560 --> 00:30:47,800 Speaker 2: But when it's time for her to apologize for some 570 00:30:47,920 --> 00:30:48,880 Speaker 2: ship she didne did. 571 00:30:49,280 --> 00:30:54,200 Speaker 3: Then said whatnot. Whatever. She never can she never got never, 572 00:30:54,320 --> 00:30:56,360 Speaker 3: never got it for you do what you're doing with her? 573 00:30:56,440 --> 00:30:57,440 Speaker 3: I said, bitch. 574 00:30:57,400 --> 00:31:07,959 Speaker 5: Bye, There is no listen. She is terminated. Terminate her 575 00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:09,760 Speaker 5: and there is no I'll to be back. 576 00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:14,360 Speaker 1: No, man, you got to go because how are you 577 00:31:14,560 --> 00:31:16,160 Speaker 1: always expecting grace? 578 00:31:16,320 --> 00:31:21,320 Speaker 2: But you can't give none, can't give none? Okay, all right, 579 00:31:21,600 --> 00:31:26,760 Speaker 2: I got two more, friend number friend number three. Friend 580 00:31:26,880 --> 00:31:27,600 Speaker 2: number three. 581 00:31:27,720 --> 00:31:29,400 Speaker 3: Is genuinely proud of you. Okay. 582 00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:33,640 Speaker 2: Friend number three definitely likes seeing what you got going on. 583 00:31:35,120 --> 00:31:36,800 Speaker 2: But friend number three. 584 00:31:36,840 --> 00:31:39,920 Speaker 1: Also feels like she needs to have the same So 585 00:31:40,040 --> 00:31:42,320 Speaker 1: it's like a competition all the time. 586 00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:45,080 Speaker 2: You get into the club, she gotta get into the 587 00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:48,600 Speaker 2: club too. You got VP status. Let her find out 588 00:31:48,680 --> 00:31:50,440 Speaker 2: somebody who give her vp P status. 589 00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:52,000 Speaker 3: You win an Emmy. 590 00:31:52,440 --> 00:31:56,200 Speaker 2: She wants an oscar. Like what we're doing with this 591 00:31:56,400 --> 00:32:02,000 Speaker 2: friend because there are no plans out there. That feels 592 00:32:02,120 --> 00:32:04,280 Speaker 2: like one hundred is a competition. 593 00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:10,960 Speaker 3: Oh this one. I'm gonna tell you what I'm gonna 594 00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:11,240 Speaker 3: do with her. 595 00:32:11,280 --> 00:32:11,600 Speaker 1: Tell me. 596 00:32:13,440 --> 00:32:19,320 Speaker 2: I I might keep her because all she gonna do, 597 00:32:19,960 --> 00:32:21,960 Speaker 2: and this is petty me. All she gonna do is 598 00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:26,360 Speaker 2: motivate me to be better. Ah, Okay, okay, okay, okay, 599 00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:27,600 Speaker 2: that's all she gonna do. 600 00:32:27,800 --> 00:32:30,880 Speaker 3: Now, that's what you won't because because she always because she. 601 00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:34,880 Speaker 2: Genuinely is happy, because she genuinely is happy for you. 602 00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:39,200 Speaker 2: So it's not like the fake happy. It's the I'm 603 00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:41,440 Speaker 2: happy for you, but I want what you won't. And 604 00:32:41,520 --> 00:32:43,320 Speaker 2: it's like, can you just be happy for me? 605 00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:45,080 Speaker 3: And like like let that be it. 606 00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:47,080 Speaker 2: But since you want to be happy for me and 607 00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:50,640 Speaker 2: won't what I won't, then cool sis challenge You're gonna 608 00:32:50,720 --> 00:32:52,360 Speaker 2: challenge me to be better every single time? 609 00:32:52,760 --> 00:32:57,760 Speaker 1: Okay, I see that, but I think like I'm not 610 00:32:57,800 --> 00:33:00,920 Speaker 1: gonna terminate her for that reason, right, like if she 611 00:33:01,040 --> 00:33:04,440 Speaker 1: the one is gonna always keep me and to see, 612 00:33:04,520 --> 00:33:05,000 Speaker 1: I don't. 613 00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:05,640 Speaker 3: Even want to resign. 614 00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:16,080 Speaker 1: I need I need to like put a pause, right 615 00:33:16,560 --> 00:33:19,200 Speaker 1: Like I don't want to reassign her, but I need 616 00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:21,840 Speaker 1: to put a pause on her and I need to 617 00:33:22,040 --> 00:33:22,960 Speaker 1: watch her a little bit. 618 00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:25,680 Speaker 3: Yeah you know what I mean? 619 00:33:26,600 --> 00:33:28,640 Speaker 1: I do, I do, I get So I ain't got 620 00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:31,680 Speaker 1: time for that for you to be oh yeah you 621 00:33:31,800 --> 00:33:33,840 Speaker 1: want to bring me girl, but I'm about to go 622 00:33:33,960 --> 00:33:37,000 Speaker 1: get this ego feel me. 623 00:33:37,160 --> 00:33:41,080 Speaker 3: It's like, why is everything always I don't have to 624 00:33:41,080 --> 00:33:43,120 Speaker 3: compete with you. I don't want to do that. I 625 00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:44,560 Speaker 3: don't want to do that. I don't want to compete 626 00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:45,440 Speaker 3: with you. It's crazy. 627 00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:48,120 Speaker 2: Is I actually have a friend like this where it's 628 00:33:48,200 --> 00:33:52,000 Speaker 2: like I actually have a friend like that, love her down, 629 00:33:52,520 --> 00:33:55,120 Speaker 2: but it's just like everything in the competition says And 630 00:33:55,240 --> 00:33:59,040 Speaker 2: maybe maybe they don't see it like they're trying to compete, 631 00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:00,840 Speaker 2: but it's just little things, sugar work. 632 00:34:00,920 --> 00:34:04,160 Speaker 3: They see that, they see that, and I'm just like, 633 00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:06,400 Speaker 3: what we doing, Like what we're doing? 634 00:34:06,960 --> 00:34:11,759 Speaker 1: I have those people too, right where it's even if 635 00:34:11,840 --> 00:34:13,920 Speaker 1: you talk about, oh my god, girl, I want on 636 00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:16,719 Speaker 1: this vacation and it was great and da da da, 637 00:34:16,800 --> 00:34:18,160 Speaker 1: and then she don't come back. 638 00:34:18,120 --> 00:34:22,959 Speaker 4: With girl, I went to so and so five years ago, 639 00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:26,040 Speaker 4: and let me take it. I'm like, dang, but you're 640 00:34:26,080 --> 00:34:28,840 Speaker 4: just like, hey, that was my vacation right. 641 00:34:30,400 --> 00:34:34,719 Speaker 3: Five years ago. Like you always gotta get up me. Yeah, 642 00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:38,719 Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying, understand, I don't have time 643 00:34:38,800 --> 00:34:38,960 Speaker 3: for that. 644 00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:42,120 Speaker 2: See, it's like I don't want to get rid of 645 00:34:42,160 --> 00:34:43,880 Speaker 2: you because I'm not saying you're a bad friend. 646 00:34:44,280 --> 00:34:46,680 Speaker 3: It's just you gotta you gotta cut that out. You 647 00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:48,520 Speaker 3: know what I'm saying. You gotta cut that out. That's 648 00:34:48,600 --> 00:34:50,399 Speaker 3: why I said I don't want to I don't want 649 00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:53,239 Speaker 3: to keep reassigned to terminate. I want to put a pause. 650 00:34:53,080 --> 00:34:57,040 Speaker 1: Because like what's gonna happen at some point is almost 651 00:34:57,040 --> 00:34:59,920 Speaker 1: say enough is enough, and then we gonna butt here 652 00:35:00,239 --> 00:35:01,440 Speaker 1: and then it's gonna be terminated. 653 00:35:02,920 --> 00:35:08,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, okay, the last scenario though, hy it's the 654 00:35:08,880 --> 00:35:13,000 Speaker 3: last one. This is the last friend. This friend. 655 00:35:14,560 --> 00:35:21,600 Speaker 2: Calls you, hangs out with you, supports you like you know, 656 00:35:21,719 --> 00:35:24,120 Speaker 2: this suld you in your mind, this is your road 657 00:35:24,200 --> 00:35:29,879 Speaker 2: dof and then this one thing happens to you. Could 658 00:35:29,920 --> 00:35:33,120 Speaker 2: be lost, a job could be lost, a parent, could 659 00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:38,080 Speaker 2: be break up with your whatever. But this one thing 660 00:35:38,320 --> 00:35:42,480 Speaker 2: happened to you and you really needed her, and she 661 00:35:42,600 --> 00:35:43,080 Speaker 2: ghosted you. 662 00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:45,680 Speaker 3: Now you don't know why. 663 00:35:46,440 --> 00:35:49,439 Speaker 2: Could just could be something was going on in her life. 664 00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:52,080 Speaker 2: Could be maybe she don't handle things, what could be anything. 665 00:35:52,480 --> 00:35:55,360 Speaker 2: But all you know is when you needed her most, 666 00:35:56,719 --> 00:36:02,400 Speaker 2: she wasn't here for you cheap reassign or terminate. 667 00:36:02,680 --> 00:36:06,839 Speaker 1: No, I'm keeping her. I'm keeping her because of all 668 00:36:06,920 --> 00:36:10,160 Speaker 1: the things you said. One if I already know what 669 00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:16,400 Speaker 1: our relationship is, even though I'm going through this horrific 670 00:36:16,600 --> 00:36:21,239 Speaker 1: time and I really need you. I know that there's 671 00:36:21,880 --> 00:36:25,640 Speaker 1: got to be a really good reason why you didn't 672 00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:29,719 Speaker 1: reach out to me. Yeah, So what I'm going to do, 673 00:36:31,320 --> 00:36:34,160 Speaker 1: after I've had time to deal with whatever this is 674 00:36:34,280 --> 00:36:36,680 Speaker 1: I went through, I'm going to reach out because I 675 00:36:36,800 --> 00:36:41,520 Speaker 1: need to know if you're okay right now, I'm gonna 676 00:36:41,600 --> 00:36:45,279 Speaker 1: keep it. And mind you, I don't have to many 677 00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:53,919 Speaker 1: friends anyway, I just people. I can't just be letting 678 00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:54,279 Speaker 1: these all. 679 00:36:55,800 --> 00:36:56,400 Speaker 2: I could rid of her. 680 00:36:56,440 --> 00:36:59,920 Speaker 3: I'm down the boat. Yeah no, no, no, no, no 681 00:37:00,080 --> 00:37:03,480 Speaker 3: out And based off of all the things you said, now, 682 00:37:03,640 --> 00:37:05,719 Speaker 3: she she my road doll. She my road doll. I'm 683 00:37:05,719 --> 00:37:07,520 Speaker 3: gonna keep her. See, I'm with you on that one. 684 00:37:07,600 --> 00:37:09,879 Speaker 2: I'm with you on that one where it's like, if 685 00:37:09,920 --> 00:37:11,920 Speaker 2: you're not here what I need you the most, it's 686 00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:17,040 Speaker 2: gotta be a reason. And everybody doesn't handle everything the same. 687 00:37:17,360 --> 00:37:20,320 Speaker 2: So like it's cool, like I'm not I'm not gonna, 688 00:37:20,400 --> 00:37:23,520 Speaker 2: I'm not gonna. I'm not gonna terminate a friend over 689 00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:26,440 Speaker 2: something like that, you know what I'm saying, Like not 690 00:37:26,640 --> 00:37:28,440 Speaker 2: not something like that. And if I really feel that 691 00:37:28,600 --> 00:37:30,640 Speaker 2: bad about it, like if it's really. 692 00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:34,000 Speaker 3: Bothering me that you weren't here, for me during that moment. 693 00:37:34,080 --> 00:37:35,960 Speaker 2: We're cool enough for me to be like, let's have 694 00:37:36,040 --> 00:37:38,160 Speaker 2: a conversation because I really felt like I needed you 695 00:37:38,320 --> 00:37:39,520 Speaker 2: and you weren't here, you know. 696 00:37:39,520 --> 00:37:39,879 Speaker 3: What I mean. 697 00:37:40,040 --> 00:37:43,240 Speaker 1: And I was like, no friendships are about that's what exact. 698 00:37:43,280 --> 00:37:45,040 Speaker 1: It's okay for me to be upset with you, you 699 00:37:45,239 --> 00:37:47,759 Speaker 1: upset with me. We have a conversation. We talk about it, 700 00:37:47,800 --> 00:37:50,400 Speaker 1: because that's what I would do. I'd be like, listen, I. 701 00:37:50,400 --> 00:37:53,279 Speaker 3: Don't know what you had going on, d but I 702 00:37:53,400 --> 00:37:55,719 Speaker 3: went through this, and you know how much I really 703 00:37:55,800 --> 00:37:59,960 Speaker 3: needed you. You on there, bitch? Why right? Why exactly? 704 00:38:00,280 --> 00:38:02,279 Speaker 3: And it is what it is like we keep it. 705 00:38:02,680 --> 00:38:05,719 Speaker 2: I'm sure it will keep it moving. So last thing 706 00:38:05,840 --> 00:38:12,560 Speaker 2: that I will say is, I know, Keith, friends keep friends. 707 00:38:12,360 --> 00:38:14,080 Speaker 3: Sign and terminade. You have to figure out what you're 708 00:38:14,080 --> 00:38:18,000 Speaker 3: gonna do. So listen. I know earlier you was on 709 00:38:18,120 --> 00:38:20,600 Speaker 3: your Drake mode talking about ain't no new friends, but 710 00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:26,600 Speaker 3: no new friends. 711 00:38:27,239 --> 00:38:29,640 Speaker 2: But I will say that over the course of the 712 00:38:29,800 --> 00:38:34,520 Speaker 2: last five or six years, I maybe have gained some 713 00:38:34,800 --> 00:38:38,600 Speaker 2: new some new people that like I really care about 714 00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:41,560 Speaker 2: that we have built a relationship, and I don't know 715 00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:44,160 Speaker 2: if I would say like we are friends and even 716 00:38:44,320 --> 00:38:49,160 Speaker 2: some who I've known, and and something has happened that 717 00:38:49,280 --> 00:38:52,600 Speaker 2: has caused us to become closer than we were because 718 00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:54,520 Speaker 2: I've got a few friends, I'll say friends. 719 00:38:54,600 --> 00:38:56,680 Speaker 3: I have few friends. Well, I've known for about ten 720 00:38:56,760 --> 00:38:57,160 Speaker 3: years now. 721 00:38:57,600 --> 00:38:59,400 Speaker 2: And in the beginning, we weren't really that like we 722 00:38:59,520 --> 00:39:01,799 Speaker 2: were just high and by or smile when we see 723 00:39:01,800 --> 00:39:02,520 Speaker 2: each other in public. 724 00:39:02,560 --> 00:39:03,160 Speaker 3: But that's cool. 725 00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:07,840 Speaker 2: But something happened where maybe we were at an event together, 726 00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:10,240 Speaker 2: or maybe we were out of town together for something, 727 00:39:10,600 --> 00:39:13,880 Speaker 2: and I got to know them, like whether I wanted 728 00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:16,160 Speaker 2: to or not, I kind of was forced to and 729 00:39:16,400 --> 00:39:19,279 Speaker 2: we built a relationship. And so I say all this 730 00:39:19,480 --> 00:39:24,040 Speaker 2: to say, if in twenty twenty five, somebody wanted to 731 00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:29,520 Speaker 2: be friends with you or me, whoever, do you have 732 00:39:29,960 --> 00:39:30,960 Speaker 2: a criteria? 733 00:39:31,040 --> 00:39:32,719 Speaker 3: Like are there are there. 734 00:39:32,760 --> 00:39:35,920 Speaker 2: Things that someone has to bring to the table, the 735 00:39:36,200 --> 00:39:38,960 Speaker 2: energy that they got to have for you for me 736 00:39:39,080 --> 00:39:40,000 Speaker 2: to even consider it? 737 00:39:40,239 --> 00:39:42,040 Speaker 3: Like what, like what what you got to bring for 738 00:39:42,160 --> 00:39:49,400 Speaker 3: me to even consider us being friends? Suyl said, not shit, nothing. 739 00:39:49,560 --> 00:39:54,600 Speaker 1: I just I'm very easy going, laid back, like I 740 00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:57,240 Speaker 1: if I'm if you and I are going to be friends, 741 00:39:57,960 --> 00:40:00,920 Speaker 1: like I just want somebody that we can said, we 742 00:40:01,000 --> 00:40:02,799 Speaker 1: can chat we can talk about shit. 743 00:40:03,200 --> 00:40:05,120 Speaker 3: I ain't judging you, you ain't judging me. Don't bring 744 00:40:05,200 --> 00:40:07,960 Speaker 3: no drama like I got enough of that. I got 745 00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:08,480 Speaker 3: enough of that. 746 00:40:08,960 --> 00:40:10,799 Speaker 1: But I'm gonna say this and I'm gonna be real 747 00:40:11,440 --> 00:40:15,319 Speaker 1: and take it out. You want to take it, I don't. 748 00:40:15,480 --> 00:40:22,000 Speaker 1: I don't need rich friends, but I need somebody who 749 00:40:23,719 --> 00:40:28,520 Speaker 1: can pay for my meal sometimes instead of me always 750 00:40:28,680 --> 00:40:32,440 Speaker 1: being the one saying I got it, Like I'm really 751 00:40:32,520 --> 00:40:34,560 Speaker 1: not trying to be any type of way. 752 00:40:34,520 --> 00:40:34,600 Speaker 2: But. 753 00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:41,319 Speaker 3: For real, yeah, yeah, because you one time when we go. 754 00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:43,960 Speaker 1: Out to eat, I can't be the one that's always 755 00:40:43,960 --> 00:40:45,560 Speaker 1: talking about giving me the check, bring me to chit, 756 00:40:46,400 --> 00:40:47,800 Speaker 1: and nobody says. 757 00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:48,560 Speaker 3: No, I got it this time. 758 00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:54,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like treat me sometimes because I'm always I'm gonna 759 00:40:54,760 --> 00:40:55,600 Speaker 1: always treat. 760 00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:57,520 Speaker 3: You when I can. I'm gonna be like, it's on me, 761 00:40:57,680 --> 00:41:00,919 Speaker 3: I got it, So how about you got it this time? 762 00:41:02,040 --> 00:41:05,560 Speaker 2: I respect that one hundred percent because there is definitely 763 00:41:06,360 --> 00:41:10,120 Speaker 2: a perception that like it always has to be on 764 00:41:10,200 --> 00:41:14,120 Speaker 2: the person at the table who makes the most. No, but. 765 00:41:15,920 --> 00:41:17,520 Speaker 3: What a sister going through might be. 766 00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:21,399 Speaker 1: This might be a bad month for me right right, 767 00:41:21,920 --> 00:41:25,480 Speaker 1: and I might need five six drinks on you on 768 00:41:25,800 --> 00:41:26,880 Speaker 1: you on you. 769 00:41:28,280 --> 00:41:30,520 Speaker 3: First of all, this don't come if you can't afford 770 00:41:30,600 --> 00:41:31,720 Speaker 3: what we're doing anyway. 771 00:41:33,320 --> 00:41:35,800 Speaker 2: But no, I feel I feel that and I respect 772 00:41:35,840 --> 00:41:39,640 Speaker 2: that one because I am I am too one of 773 00:41:39,719 --> 00:41:42,960 Speaker 2: those people. That's like, listen, the energy you got to 774 00:41:43,000 --> 00:41:46,719 Speaker 2: bring to me is authenticity to like, don't be who 775 00:41:46,800 --> 00:41:48,640 Speaker 2: you think I want you to be or who you 776 00:41:48,800 --> 00:41:50,840 Speaker 2: think you need to be in order to be in 777 00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:53,360 Speaker 2: a circle, because I can spot a fake and I 778 00:41:53,560 --> 00:41:56,480 Speaker 2: don't like it. You know what I mean, I'm no 779 00:41:56,800 --> 00:41:58,640 Speaker 2: how she get down, none know how she is for real? 780 00:41:59,120 --> 00:42:01,960 Speaker 2: That don't work with me, right, And so I need 781 00:42:02,040 --> 00:42:04,799 Speaker 2: you to bring honest Steve. I need you to bring 782 00:42:05,760 --> 00:42:09,239 Speaker 2: like be be you be who you authentically are. And 783 00:42:09,320 --> 00:42:12,320 Speaker 2: if we vibe, we vibe. If we don't, that's cool. 784 00:42:12,680 --> 00:42:14,759 Speaker 2: If this is just that we hung out this one time, 785 00:42:15,320 --> 00:42:19,440 Speaker 2: that's cool. But like for me to continually see you 786 00:42:19,560 --> 00:42:21,040 Speaker 2: and want to kick it with you and want to 787 00:42:21,160 --> 00:42:24,640 Speaker 2: like build a relationship, if that's what we're gonna call it, Like, 788 00:42:24,760 --> 00:42:27,680 Speaker 2: you just gotta be yourself and and that's just it's 789 00:42:27,800 --> 00:42:29,920 Speaker 2: it's a difficult thing, but you just got to normalize 790 00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:30,839 Speaker 2: showing up. 791 00:42:30,840 --> 00:42:32,759 Speaker 3: Who you are. That's it. Just it is what it is, 792 00:42:33,480 --> 00:42:34,000 Speaker 3: is what it is. 793 00:42:34,160 --> 00:42:37,120 Speaker 2: So I got a challenge to all of our listeners 794 00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:41,360 Speaker 2: to this episode, do a friend audit, Like, do a 795 00:42:41,480 --> 00:42:44,080 Speaker 2: friend audit. And when you do a friend audit, I 796 00:42:44,200 --> 00:42:47,520 Speaker 2: need you to go on our Instagram and give a 797 00:42:47,600 --> 00:42:49,920 Speaker 2: shout out to the person who made the cut. You 798 00:42:50,080 --> 00:42:54,480 Speaker 2: know what, she'd been my best friend for thirty years 799 00:42:55,000 --> 00:42:56,920 Speaker 2: and we've been cool, and she hold it down for me, 800 00:42:57,120 --> 00:42:58,239 Speaker 2: shut off the stuff. Yeah. 801 00:42:58,360 --> 00:43:01,719 Speaker 3: I like like, I like them, Tell them like, do 802 00:43:01,840 --> 00:43:03,719 Speaker 3: all that, let them know that you appreciate them. So, 803 00:43:04,560 --> 00:43:09,120 Speaker 3: especially especially in the climate we're living in right now, 804 00:43:09,719 --> 00:43:12,000 Speaker 3: it's nice to hear. It's nice to hear. 805 00:43:12,040 --> 00:43:17,040 Speaker 1: Yes, listen, you made the cut. No, but I appreciate you, 806 00:43:17,480 --> 00:43:19,399 Speaker 1: like I appreciate you for holding it down. 807 00:43:20,040 --> 00:43:20,239 Speaker 3: Yeah. 808 00:43:20,280 --> 00:43:20,680 Speaker 2: I like that. 809 00:43:21,760 --> 00:43:22,919 Speaker 3: Yes, you made the cut. 810 00:43:23,120 --> 00:43:27,200 Speaker 2: So when we come back, we are gonna go ahead 811 00:43:27,200 --> 00:43:41,799 Speaker 2: and level this thing out. We will be back, all right, y'all. 812 00:43:41,960 --> 00:43:46,720 Speaker 2: So I love our conversation today talking about friendship holding 813 00:43:46,719 --> 00:43:50,479 Speaker 2: it down. Absolutely love it. I have a friend in Cheryl. 814 00:43:50,640 --> 00:43:53,000 Speaker 2: Cheryl is such an awesome friend, y'all. She's my friend, 815 00:43:53,080 --> 00:43:58,799 Speaker 2: she's my sores. Oh oh, and Founder's Day is coming up, 816 00:43:58,880 --> 00:44:01,200 Speaker 2: So if y'all like the show y'all folks from as 817 00:44:01,200 --> 00:44:02,760 Speaker 2: she roll Love for November twelfth. 818 00:44:02,880 --> 00:44:03,480 Speaker 3: It's happening. 819 00:44:03,840 --> 00:44:05,480 Speaker 2: But I just wanted to show y'all that I went 820 00:44:05,600 --> 00:44:09,400 Speaker 2: to the meal one time and I got this package and. 821 00:44:09,480 --> 00:44:11,480 Speaker 3: I was like, who is that's from? 822 00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:16,239 Speaker 2: And it was from my sis Chiryl with these affirmation 823 00:44:16,520 --> 00:44:21,719 Speaker 2: crayons and they say beautiful, brilliant, brave, and bold, and 824 00:44:22,000 --> 00:44:27,120 Speaker 2: I thought that these were so amazing, and I just 825 00:44:27,200 --> 00:44:30,239 Speaker 2: wanted to say thank you for being my friend, for 826 00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:33,080 Speaker 2: being my sister, and for always finding ways to lift 827 00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:33,680 Speaker 2: up my spirit. 828 00:44:33,760 --> 00:44:36,120 Speaker 3: So I appreciate that right back, as Sis, I love you, 829 00:44:36,719 --> 00:44:38,560 Speaker 3: so call you you were. 830 00:44:38,600 --> 00:44:41,120 Speaker 2: Real because you because because I'm one of the ones. 831 00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:44,080 Speaker 3: That social media like, I'm gonna need you, needs you 832 00:44:44,160 --> 00:44:45,080 Speaker 3: to back that comment. 833 00:44:45,600 --> 00:44:46,040 Speaker 2: You are real. 834 00:44:46,960 --> 00:44:53,239 Speaker 3: You really holds it down, hold it down anyway. So yeah, 835 00:44:53,280 --> 00:44:54,680 Speaker 3: go ahead and level us one to. 836 00:44:54,719 --> 00:45:02,239 Speaker 1: Listen talking about friends, it's all almost this says so good, 837 00:45:02,760 --> 00:45:07,680 Speaker 1: so good. A true friend doesn't just listen to your words. 838 00:45:09,000 --> 00:45:10,839 Speaker 1: They hear the silence too. 839 00:45:12,680 --> 00:45:17,080 Speaker 3: That touched me today. It touched me today, and it yeah. 840 00:45:19,040 --> 00:45:24,160 Speaker 2: And sometimes it's the things you don't say. Sometimes it's 841 00:45:24,239 --> 00:45:27,400 Speaker 2: the things you don't say mm hmm. 842 00:45:28,560 --> 00:45:30,840 Speaker 3: And that was a true friend. Here's that. 843 00:45:31,200 --> 00:45:33,719 Speaker 1: Here's the silence too, because we all can just talk 844 00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:34,759 Speaker 1: talk talk talk. 845 00:45:35,520 --> 00:45:38,759 Speaker 3: But are you hearing me when I'm silent? Yeap? 846 00:45:39,160 --> 00:45:42,520 Speaker 2: Are you paying attention? That's a really good one. That's 847 00:45:42,560 --> 00:45:46,680 Speaker 2: a really good one. Well, everybody, I hope that you 848 00:45:46,800 --> 00:45:50,520 Speaker 2: have enjoyed today's conversation. It has definitely been a good one. 849 00:45:51,560 --> 00:45:53,960 Speaker 2: Thank you guys for listening to Levels to This. We 850 00:45:54,120 --> 00:45:58,920 Speaker 2: will be back next week with more next level conversations 851 00:45:59,000 --> 00:46:01,000 Speaker 2: just about the real ship that we go through as women. 852 00:46:01,120 --> 00:46:01,719 Speaker 3: And keep on. 853 00:46:03,440 --> 00:46:06,440 Speaker 2: Just sharing with us all of your thoughts because remember 854 00:46:06,520 --> 00:46:07,640 Speaker 2: this isn't just our show. 855 00:46:07,719 --> 00:46:09,480 Speaker 3: It's our show, so we want to hear from you. 856 00:46:09,920 --> 00:46:11,279 Speaker 3: You got to leave us a review. 857 00:46:11,080 --> 00:46:14,320 Speaker 2: In Apple Podcasts. You need to email us at Levels 858 00:46:14,360 --> 00:46:17,560 Speaker 2: too this podcast at gmail dot com, tell us what 859 00:46:17,640 --> 00:46:19,359 Speaker 2: you thought of what you want to talk about next, 860 00:46:19,480 --> 00:46:23,000 Speaker 2: and you'd better be following us on Instagram at ltt pod. 861 00:46:23,160 --> 00:46:26,160 Speaker 2: So until then, keep your mentals ground level and we 862 00:46:26,280 --> 00:46:28,120 Speaker 2: will be back peace. 863 00:46:30,800 --> 00:46:35,240 Speaker 1: Listen to Levels to This on America's number one podcast network, iHeart, 864 00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:38,160 Speaker 1: open your free iHeart app and search Levels to This 865 00:46:38,320 --> 00:46:41,480 Speaker 1: with Cheryl Swoops and Tarika Foster brasby and start listening