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Speaker 3: For the good fathers, now, I can't speak for what

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Speaker 3: Like I said, I'm speaking in general, but at some

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Speaker 3: I don't want her to feel like well now trying

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Speaker 3: It just doesn't make fucking sense, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 3: There's no reason that she should have to come in

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Speaker 3: not even our dicks, to be honest. No. Yeah, our presence,

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Speaker 3: that's the best way to put it. Our presence affection, right,

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Speaker 2: That was the part of the deal you signed up.

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Speaker 3: Folks, everything you've done as a woman or a suitor

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Speaker 2: I'm your goal. You have accomplished everything in life, and.

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Speaker 3: I don't have to do ship. Now, what are you

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Speaker 2: You know, it does a disservice to everybody involved because

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Man, And so this is not to be cold.

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Speaker 3: because you know, so you don't get to say, well,

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Speaker 3: I'm just fucked up. That's it. Like, you know, now,

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Speaker 3: if my mom hadn't to tap me, you have to

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Speaker 2: I don't think we did, no, but but that's a

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Speaker 3: Yeah, But the point being, like, why would you want

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Speaker 3: Like it's just, you know, it's a very it's a

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Speaker 3: something more than just I bought it out here's my check.

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Speaker 3: Like more than that. It's just gotta like these things

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Speaker 3: I'm not even saying you need to be pat on

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Speaker 3: It could be my mom, my dad. You need to

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Speaker 3: it's good. You need to acknowledge the time that they

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Speaker 3: you know, because they my dad wouldn't love she's a dishwasher,

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Speaker 3: like all black parents.

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Speaker 2: Anyway, even though they had a function right, like all

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Speaker 3: But but the point being, like we you know, you

431
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Speaker 3: show some level of work to make it an equitable

432
00:23:52,840 --> 00:23:55,400
Speaker 3: situation in your home, Like it's gotta be some level

433
00:23:55,440 --> 00:23:57,760
Speaker 3: of equality. It don't have to be. We all do

434
00:23:57,840 --> 00:23:59,520
Speaker 3: the same shit. Like your wife don't have to cut

435
00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:02,800
Speaker 3: the grass, you bake the cake, just to prove a point.

436
00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:04,719
Speaker 3: Your house is your house, but there has to be

437
00:24:04,760 --> 00:24:08,639
Speaker 3: some level of sweat equity put into every relationship or

438
00:24:08,680 --> 00:24:11,400
Speaker 3: else somebody's gonna feel like they're getting fucked and it's

439
00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:14,119
Speaker 3: gonna be resentment, you know. And the worst part to

440
00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:17,639
Speaker 3: me is there's a lot of women that are basically taught.

441
00:24:18,040 --> 00:24:22,200
Speaker 3: If they're not doing everything, then they're not woman enough. Yeah,

442
00:24:22,200 --> 00:24:24,400
Speaker 3: so they'll drive themselves crazy, and a lot of men

443
00:24:24,440 --> 00:24:28,240
Speaker 3: will let them drive themselves crazy. And because patriarchy is

444
00:24:28,320 --> 00:24:31,160
Speaker 3: fucked up, just like your mom told you a woman

445
00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:34,320
Speaker 3: should do this, this, and this, she's not thinking of

446
00:24:34,880 --> 00:24:37,119
Speaker 3: I'm sure that to her in her to her some extent,

447
00:24:37,200 --> 00:24:38,760
Speaker 3: she probably did a bunch of shit in y'all house

448
00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:42,840
Speaker 3: that you know, she probably didn't need to do with

449
00:24:43,080 --> 00:24:45,080
Speaker 3: two kids that were probably able to do some shit,

450
00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:47,159
Speaker 3: you know. Or maybe she did stuff for you that

451
00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:49,280
Speaker 3: she wouldn't do first for your sister because she's like

452
00:24:49,280 --> 00:24:51,920
Speaker 3: a man shouldn't have to you know, Like a lot

453
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Speaker 3: of times women feel that pressure, you know, just like

454
00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:58,920
Speaker 3: man like masculinity can be put you in a box

455
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Speaker 3: and make you feel pressure. I feel that can happen

456
00:25:01,200 --> 00:25:02,439
Speaker 3: as well for women.

457
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Speaker 2: Yeah, because I'm not evenna lie. When we got married

458
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Speaker 2: years ago, I fell into that trap, because when you

459
00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:13,880
Speaker 2: get married, there are no instructions, there's no books, there's

460
00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:18,280
Speaker 2: no rules, there's no regulations. Your marriage is whatever you

461
00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:21,680
Speaker 2: make of it, like whatever you and the significant other

462
00:25:21,960 --> 00:25:28,119
Speaker 2: others make of that relationship. And I fell underneath that

463
00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:32,159
Speaker 2: trap under womanhood and what was attached to my womanhood,

464
00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:37,080
Speaker 2: and I was that person that would literally be exhausted.

465
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Speaker 2: I wake up in the morning, work all day long,

466
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Speaker 2: come home, cook, clean, take care of everything, do all

467
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Speaker 2: the things, wash the clothes, do all and rather didn't

468
00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:50,480
Speaker 2: ask me this. I just assumed that it was my

469
00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:57,560
Speaker 2: responsibility did all these things. And then that's tiring. So

470
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Speaker 2: your eight hour or ten or twelve day having on

471
00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:04,320
Speaker 2: you at work turns into almost twenty something. Our day

472
00:26:04,600 --> 00:26:08,639
Speaker 2: a longer, you know, because you've literally been functioning. You

473
00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:11,399
Speaker 2: haven't set down, you haven't had time to breathe. You

474
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:13,520
Speaker 2: had to fight traffic to work, you had to fight

475
00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:17,160
Speaker 2: traffic from work. And a part of a functioning relationship,

476
00:26:17,240 --> 00:26:20,480
Speaker 2: particularly with the mate that you're intimate with, is intimacy.

477
00:26:20,840 --> 00:26:24,240
Speaker 2: So when it was time for intimacy, I was fucking exhausted.

478
00:26:24,320 --> 00:26:26,480
Speaker 2: I was like, leave me alone. I've been up for

479
00:26:26,520 --> 00:26:30,719
Speaker 2: eighteen hours straight or or I've been you know, doing

480
00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:33,920
Speaker 2: like two jobs for seven eight days or two weeks straight.

481
00:26:33,960 --> 00:26:38,159
Speaker 2: I was just exhausted. And though that's one of the women,

482
00:26:38,480 --> 00:26:40,080
Speaker 2: actually for me, that was one of the first things

483
00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:42,320
Speaker 2: you kind of don't want to do anymore because you're

484
00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:44,520
Speaker 2: fucking exhausted. You go, well, who has time to fuck?

485
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Speaker 2: I got all these other things to do in my house,

486
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Speaker 2: So I had to find a balance and go, you

487
00:26:49,600 --> 00:26:53,119
Speaker 2: know what, you have a partner. Your partners here for

488
00:26:53,119 --> 00:26:55,840
Speaker 2: a reason, and your partners should be somebody to help

489
00:26:55,960 --> 00:26:59,920
Speaker 2: assist you. Why are you married but you're still functioning

490
00:27:00,240 --> 00:27:03,359
Speaker 2: and still you're single? It makes no sense. What's the

491
00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:05,280
Speaker 2: point of your partner being here if your partner does

492
00:27:05,280 --> 00:27:06,520
Speaker 2: not share the burden with you.

493
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:10,199
Speaker 3: Of life, right, you know, And I'm a constant like

494
00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:12,600
Speaker 3: check in person. Probably I'm sure it could be a

495
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:15,159
Speaker 3: little bit annoying, but you know, I'm like, you're okay,

496
00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:17,280
Speaker 3: sure you want to do that. You don't have to

497
00:27:17,320 --> 00:27:20,520
Speaker 3: do that, Okay, just let you like, because I'm not

498
00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:23,480
Speaker 3: the I'm not a person that like tells Karen what

499
00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:26,080
Speaker 3: to do or whatever. I know, some people have relationships

500
00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:28,680
Speaker 3: where they like tell each other like you can't do this,

501
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 3: or you can't do that, or you gotta do that.

502
00:27:30,880 --> 00:27:34,240
Speaker 3: But I'm you know, I'm like, you're an adult. If

503
00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:36,760
Speaker 3: you think coming home from this long ass shift at

504
00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:41,439
Speaker 3: work and cooking right now, when we could we have

505
00:27:41,560 --> 00:27:43,680
Speaker 3: the money to go out and just grab something or

506
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:47,640
Speaker 3: you know whatever, you think this is a better thing

507
00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:50,760
Speaker 3: that you want to do, that's fine, but just you

508
00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:52,119
Speaker 3: don't have to. Just want to let you know you

509
00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:55,120
Speaker 3: don't have to. And I'm not sitting around measuring. I'm

510
00:27:55,160 --> 00:28:00,360
Speaker 3: not sitting around like measuring shit. Like I noticed you

511
00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:01,960
Speaker 3: didn't cook tonight.

512
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:03,879
Speaker 2: Like it was I know, none of that happened. I

513
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:06,640
Speaker 2: just assumed that that was I was supposed to do that.

514
00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:09,880
Speaker 3: I think. Yeah, like, you know, we were mostly talking

515
00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:12,160
Speaker 3: about men when we talk about this stuff, but because

516
00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:14,320
Speaker 3: a lot of the ways that men do it hurts

517
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:16,480
Speaker 3: other people, correct and a lot of a lot of

518
00:28:16,520 --> 00:28:19,000
Speaker 3: stuff that women take on to be a quote unquote

519
00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:22,760
Speaker 3: better woman hurts themselves. So I think that's why our

520
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:27,359
Speaker 3: conversations kind of veer towards manshit more. But yeah, that

521
00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:29,760
Speaker 3: shit can hurt. Patriarchy hurts everybody.

522
00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:33,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, and not only that when a woman does those

523
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:36,000
Speaker 2: like like does those things, but she tries to control

524
00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:39,320
Speaker 2: and handle everything, because there's some women that are controlling now.

525
00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:41,120
Speaker 2: But when you try to do all that stuff in

526
00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:44,080
Speaker 2: the house, so it does affect everybody's household. It affects

527
00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:47,120
Speaker 2: your mate when it comes intimacy, it affects your relationship

528
00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:50,280
Speaker 2: because some women begin to be resentment, were begin to

529
00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:54,080
Speaker 2: have resentment towards their mate because that pride raises and

530
00:28:54,160 --> 00:28:56,360
Speaker 2: you don't want to ask him to do anything because

531
00:28:56,400 --> 00:28:58,640
Speaker 2: patriarchy has told you that you don't ask command to

532
00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:00,760
Speaker 2: help around the house, and you don't ask him to

533
00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:02,520
Speaker 2: do these quote unquote womanly things like.

534
00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:04,800
Speaker 3: By the time you do ask, it's like fill with

535
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:07,600
Speaker 3: attitude and shit because you get in your head, you

536
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:10,120
Speaker 3: stress yourself out, and then it's well, you ain't gonna

537
00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:12,080
Speaker 3: clean up, but nothing damn. It's like, you know, I'll

538
00:29:12,120 --> 00:29:14,320
Speaker 3: see people that talk to each other like that because

539
00:29:14,360 --> 00:29:17,680
Speaker 3: they wait till it's time to snap to say say something,

540
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:21,920
Speaker 3: as opposed to being like, yo, I'm struggling right now.

541
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:24,960
Speaker 2: Right and it's best to catch it before you get

542
00:29:24,960 --> 00:29:27,480
Speaker 2: to the point where you're exhausted and you're tired, and

543
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:30,880
Speaker 2: now only that it affects the children. Like a lot

544
00:29:30,920 --> 00:29:33,120
Speaker 2: of dudes fort to realize, Like if your wife is

545
00:29:33,160 --> 00:29:35,320
Speaker 2: stressed out, I'm matter a straight relationship, it affects the

546
00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:39,480
Speaker 2: kids like it affects it. Particularly if you have a

547
00:29:39,640 --> 00:29:42,600
Speaker 2: mate that does not help with the children. You don't

548
00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:45,200
Speaker 2: bathe them, you don't watch them, you don't do homework,

549
00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:48,280
Speaker 2: you don't assist any of that stuff. So all the

550
00:29:48,320 --> 00:29:50,840
Speaker 2: cooking and cleaning, this stuff falls down in her lap.

551
00:29:51,000 --> 00:29:54,200
Speaker 2: In addition to getting them to daycare, getting them to school,

552
00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:56,960
Speaker 2: getting in the after school, all that stuff falls on

553
00:29:57,040 --> 00:30:01,040
Speaker 2: her plate too. So now you're literally talking to somebody

554
00:30:01,080 --> 00:30:04,200
Speaker 2: where you know, eighty hours a week turned into one

555
00:30:04,240 --> 00:30:06,760
Speaker 2: hundred and twenty hundred thirty hours a week, you know,

556
00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:10,040
Speaker 2: week work week, you know, and that can be exhaust too.

557
00:30:10,040 --> 00:30:13,120
Speaker 2: And guess who ends up being penalized for that? Your children,

558
00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:16,240
Speaker 2: all of a sudden, Your children end up being because

559
00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:19,160
Speaker 2: guess what, Mommy's tired, so mommy's snapping, mommy's going off,

560
00:30:19,200 --> 00:30:22,160
Speaker 2: Mommy doesn't have the patience anymore, you know, Like, and

561
00:30:22,280 --> 00:30:23,720
Speaker 2: children pick up on those things, and.

562
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:27,120
Speaker 3: They see those things, yeap, So it's good that, you know,

563
00:30:27,360 --> 00:30:31,240
Speaker 3: you're having certain issues and shit, that's that's like a

564
00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 3: huge part of everything right now.

565
00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:35,520
Speaker 2: But like that, that's the first step. And baby, I

566
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:39,720
Speaker 2: know how it feels to be raised without a single parent,

567
00:30:39,800 --> 00:30:41,760
Speaker 2: and I know how it feels to you know, as

568
00:30:41,760 --> 00:30:44,000
Speaker 2: you get older, you begin to look back on your

569
00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:46,240
Speaker 2: life and be like, well, damn, that was fucked up.

570
00:30:46,280 --> 00:30:48,000
Speaker 2: But you know what, you have to get to the

571
00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:49,680
Speaker 2: reality when you go where that was fucked up. I

572
00:30:49,760 --> 00:30:51,840
Speaker 2: learned from it, and I learned that I'm not gonna

573
00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:52,680
Speaker 2: repeat that behavior.

574
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Speaker 3: Yep, all right, let's get into the next comment. Linda says,

575
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Speaker 3: please give the link to the Avery J store. I

576
00:31:00,240 --> 00:31:04,600
Speaker 3: couldn't find the shopify. That is my bad. I totally

577
00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:06,719
Speaker 3: fucking blanked on putting the link in the show even

578
00:31:06,760 --> 00:31:08,760
Speaker 3: though I said I would put the link in the

579
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:11,560
Speaker 3: show notes. I will definitely put the link in these

580
00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:14,000
Speaker 3: show notes. Let me go ahead and spell it out

581
00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:19,480
Speaker 3: for y'all. Though it's Avery dash J the letter ju

582
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:24,160
Speaker 3: dash clothing dot myshopify dot com, and Avery is spelled

583
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Speaker 3: a v R a v e r I A v

584
00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:32,920
Speaker 3: e r I dash J dash clothing dot myshopify dot com.

585
00:31:32,920 --> 00:31:34,640
Speaker 3: I will put the link in the show notes. That

586
00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:39,720
Speaker 3: is my bad. Sorry about that canard, and we'll we'll

587
00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:42,280
Speaker 3: get that. We'll we'll put it in show notes today.

588
00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:46,840
Speaker 3: The poll was simple, have you cooked for yourself or

589
00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:49,360
Speaker 3: others this week? See? Cooking was on my mind. I

590
00:31:49,400 --> 00:31:52,680
Speaker 3: don't know, I couldn't think of nothing else. Yes, but

591
00:31:52,720 --> 00:31:56,760
Speaker 3: it's part of my job four percent. Yes for my

592
00:31:56,840 --> 00:32:02,160
Speaker 3: own personal use seventy five percent and nope. Keanu says,

593
00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:05,160
Speaker 3: have y'all heard the nature videos or Snoop Dogg does

594
00:32:05,200 --> 00:32:08,440
Speaker 3: a narration? Nigga get into it. I would watch this

595
00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:10,480
Speaker 3: shit on TV every week. We need to show to

596
00:32:10,480 --> 00:32:12,720
Speaker 3: have narration and people voicing the thoughts of the animals.

597
00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:16,080
Speaker 3: I can already hear Kevin Hart being scared as scared

598
00:32:16,120 --> 00:32:19,840
Speaker 3: as gazelle running from the cheetahs in the wild. Yeah,

599
00:32:19,880 --> 00:32:22,480
Speaker 3: that would be good too. I wasn't necessarily talking about that,

600
00:32:22,960 --> 00:32:25,720
Speaker 3: but that would work as well. Like, I'm really just

601
00:32:25,760 --> 00:32:31,600
Speaker 3: talking about the same thing as what comes on Discovery Channel,

602
00:32:31,680 --> 00:32:34,400
Speaker 3: but just with black people. That's it. The only thing

603
00:32:34,400 --> 00:32:38,040
Speaker 3: we're changing is black people talking about it. Nothing else changes,

604
00:32:38,240 --> 00:32:38,520
Speaker 3: you know.

605
00:32:38,480 --> 00:32:40,480
Speaker 2: White people go to But like, it's a tiger in

606
00:32:40,520 --> 00:32:45,800
Speaker 2: a while. Her name is Tchaa. She's there with her cubs.

607
00:32:46,200 --> 00:32:50,800
Speaker 2: She's protecting them, and they're on the hunt tonight. We're

608
00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:54,880
Speaker 2: following them with I like goggles, We're gonna go see.

609
00:32:55,640 --> 00:32:57,440
Speaker 3: Yeah. I like when they try to take it on

610
00:32:57,520 --> 00:33:02,080
Speaker 3: a personal level, like you know, like they go through

611
00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:06,680
Speaker 3: the animals thought process, like Chatara knows that the floods

612
00:33:06,680 --> 00:33:10,720
Speaker 3: are coming and after the monsoon, they'll be no more

613
00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:13,719
Speaker 3: to Jazelle left in the valley. If she and her

614
00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:17,680
Speaker 3: cubs don't eat tonight, they will likely starve to death.

615
00:33:18,240 --> 00:33:20,240
Speaker 3: And then they just gloom in on the fucking thing.

616
00:33:20,320 --> 00:33:22,640
Speaker 3: And it showed like stalking through and they showed Gazel

617
00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:24,959
Speaker 3: and all that shit. I just want black people to

618
00:33:25,080 --> 00:33:27,080
Speaker 3: just take, like take that white dude out of it

619
00:33:27,600 --> 00:33:29,760
Speaker 3: and just had them be like, god, damn, that cheating

620
00:33:29,840 --> 00:33:32,520
Speaker 3: looks scary as fuck. What come? I think that's I

621
00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:34,400
Speaker 3: think it's her all shit is looking at the jail

622
00:33:34,760 --> 00:33:37,440
Speaker 3: like I just want that in there. I don't need uh,

623
00:33:37,840 --> 00:33:41,160
Speaker 3: I don't need the white man, all right. The last

624
00:33:41,520 --> 00:33:45,280
Speaker 3: The next episode was seventeen twenty seven's dak Lives Matter.

625
00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:48,760
Speaker 3: Anonymous says, when I heard the concept for Confederate, imminately

626
00:33:48,800 --> 00:33:50,960
Speaker 3: thought of East of West the book is hell of compelling.

627
00:33:51,400 --> 00:33:53,600
Speaker 3: If it's like that, I'm all the way in. If

628
00:33:53,600 --> 00:33:56,480
Speaker 3: it's some bullshit, then I just won't watch. Fortunately, we

629
00:33:56,560 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 3: live in a time with an abundance of content, so

630
00:33:58,440 --> 00:34:01,000
Speaker 3: I'm okay with HBO taking a risk. I'm not saying

631
00:34:01,000 --> 00:34:02,840
Speaker 3: I trust them, but I'll at least check it out,

632
00:34:03,520 --> 00:34:05,560
Speaker 3: because it's not the first show to use an alternative

633
00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:08,400
Speaker 3: history as a means of making social commentary. It's not

634
00:34:09,600 --> 00:34:11,839
Speaker 3: The Man in the Tower, whatever the fuck they got

635
00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:16,040
Speaker 3: on Amazon. It's just I don't know, man. Sometimes I

636
00:34:16,040 --> 00:34:22,120
Speaker 3: feel like such a uh, I don't know, Like I'm

637
00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:24,239
Speaker 3: either like one of the only people that's out here

638
00:34:24,280 --> 00:34:28,359
Speaker 3: just trying to admit that I'm human, or I'm or

639
00:34:28,640 --> 00:34:32,160
Speaker 3: everybody is just so woke that I just missed the

640
00:34:32,200 --> 00:34:34,640
Speaker 3: memo because like, when I hear this shit, I just

641
00:34:34,680 --> 00:34:36,879
Speaker 3: don't get mad. I don't get pre mad as shit.

642
00:34:37,600 --> 00:34:39,880
Speaker 3: There's so much shit in the world to be mad about.

643
00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:42,440
Speaker 3: Yes it is, it's just so much as black people.

644
00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:45,520
Speaker 3: It's so fucking exhausting. I don't want to get pre

645
00:34:45,680 --> 00:34:47,120
Speaker 3: mad about something like this.

646
00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:52,439
Speaker 2: Right, No, Right, And the thing is, I was reading

647
00:34:52,440 --> 00:34:54,840
Speaker 2: a steady and you're talking about like anger and stress.

648
00:34:55,520 --> 00:34:57,960
Speaker 2: They I ain't realize this, but they say, going back

649
00:34:58,000 --> 00:35:00,160
Speaker 2: to the eighties, the government made him had a memo

650
00:35:00,320 --> 00:35:04,520
Speaker 2: that says that African American women lose their children at

651
00:35:04,520 --> 00:35:07,440
Speaker 2: a much higher rate than any other population. And that

652
00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:10,280
Speaker 2: is still to today. And a lot of asages from distress,

653
00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:13,600
Speaker 2: you know, like yes, yes, being pregnant. A lot of

654
00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:18,720
Speaker 2: more Black women have miscarriages and have still born birth

655
00:35:18,840 --> 00:35:22,080
Speaker 2: children still born than any other race in America. And

656
00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:24,879
Speaker 2: that's still true to today. And a lot of Black

657
00:35:24,880 --> 00:35:27,160
Speaker 2: women don't know it because so many Black women have

658
00:35:27,320 --> 00:35:31,120
Speaker 2: lost one, two, and three children and they just go

659
00:35:31,239 --> 00:35:35,160
Speaker 2: through the silence of losing a child and don't share

660
00:35:35,520 --> 00:35:37,960
Speaker 2: and don't talk because of the shame and all that

661
00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:40,440
Speaker 2: stuff attached to it. And it just comes from stress.

662
00:35:40,680 --> 00:35:43,759
Speaker 2: And they said that they've even had Africans come to

663
00:35:43,880 --> 00:35:48,440
Speaker 2: America and birth children and have normally regular children. We

664
00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:51,760
Speaker 2: even have a higher increase of children that are born

665
00:35:51,920 --> 00:35:55,160
Speaker 2: low waight like low wait children than any of the

666
00:35:55,200 --> 00:35:57,160
Speaker 2: group of people. And so but like I said, they

667
00:35:57,239 --> 00:35:59,440
Speaker 2: have Africans who come to America and have children, and

668
00:35:59,440 --> 00:36:02,120
Speaker 2: their children don't run to the same problem. So the

669
00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:06,600
Speaker 2: stress that we deal with actually affects the next generation.

670
00:36:07,840 --> 00:36:14,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just also feel like the the social media

671
00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:20,120
Speaker 3: influence and like peer pressure of folks to join in

672
00:36:20,239 --> 00:36:22,480
Speaker 3: on everything or to at least have a commentary or

673
00:36:22,600 --> 00:36:26,000
Speaker 3: discussion on everything, it leads to shit, Like you know,

674
00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:28,839
Speaker 3: like no Confederate was trending when they announced this shit,

675
00:36:28,960 --> 00:36:32,800
Speaker 3: And I'm like, do y'all even like are y'all really

676
00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:37,960
Speaker 3: gonna care that much? And for a large part, a

677
00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:39,920
Speaker 3: lot of these niggas that say that are on end

678
00:36:40,000 --> 00:36:43,960
Speaker 3: up watching, you know, Like that's the part. It's I

679
00:36:44,000 --> 00:36:46,880
Speaker 3: don't know, Like I said, I'm disillusioned with people twenty eighteen.

680
00:36:46,880 --> 00:36:49,440
Speaker 3: It has been a year. Okay, it's our what is it?

681
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:51,480
Speaker 3: It's not only August. It's been a year for me

682
00:36:51,640 --> 00:36:54,319
Speaker 3: already because it's just like sometimes just look at people

683
00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:56,239
Speaker 3: on like is this for the brand? Is this for

684
00:36:56,280 --> 00:36:58,919
Speaker 3: the is this sincere? Is this why?

685
00:36:59,160 --> 00:36:59,759
Speaker 2: You don't know?

686
00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:02,600
Speaker 3: Is this just so you can make an intellectual argument

687
00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:06,759
Speaker 3: over and over and over and over and over and

688
00:37:06,920 --> 00:37:09,720
Speaker 3: over and over and over and over and over again,

689
00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:13,239
Speaker 3: Like what is the point of this shit? Because it's

690
00:37:13,360 --> 00:37:16,920
Speaker 3: legitimately like if it's bad, we can all wait to

691
00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:20,600
Speaker 3: be offended. And if it's good, and you still are

692
00:37:20,640 --> 00:37:22,799
Speaker 3: offended by the concept. Even if it's good, you can

693
00:37:22,840 --> 00:37:25,759
Speaker 3: wait to not watch, and then it's like it's such

694
00:37:25,760 --> 00:37:28,160
Speaker 3: a feudal exercise because once it comes out, there's gonna

695
00:37:28,160 --> 00:37:30,680
Speaker 3: be people with agendas that are like, I have to

696
00:37:30,800 --> 00:37:32,879
Speaker 3: not like this. I'm gonna say, no matter how much

697
00:37:32,880 --> 00:37:35,640
Speaker 3: creative control they get, these black people that wrote it

698
00:37:35,719 --> 00:37:38,439
Speaker 3: or produced it or whatever the fuck they did, I'm

699
00:37:38,480 --> 00:37:41,239
Speaker 3: gonna say it ain't shit because I decided that I

700
00:37:41,360 --> 00:37:44,000
Speaker 3: could not like this before it even came out. It's

701
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:47,200
Speaker 3: sometimes it's just I don't know, it's just ridiculous, man,

702
00:37:47,520 --> 00:37:50,919
Speaker 3: Like I'll wait, like it might be infuriating. Wait, I'll

703
00:37:50,960 --> 00:37:52,640
Speaker 3: just wait. That's all I'm saying. I don't think that's

704
00:37:52,680 --> 00:37:54,840
Speaker 3: such a controversial thing to say, but it feels that

705
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:55,600
Speaker 3: way sometimes.

706
00:37:55,680 --> 00:38:01,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, sometimes I'm like that. Sometimes I think that I'm

707
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:02,440
Speaker 2: not like that anymore.

708
00:38:02,480 --> 00:38:02,719
Speaker 3: People.

709
00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:05,000
Speaker 2: I was like, Okay, we'll just see the ship whenever

710
00:38:05,040 --> 00:38:06,640
Speaker 2: it come out, and if it ain't good, people ain't

711
00:38:06,680 --> 00:38:09,319
Speaker 2: gonna watch it, and that'll be the end of it.

712
00:38:09,360 --> 00:38:11,120
Speaker 2: Like I was like that about Blackiss, just off of

713
00:38:11,160 --> 00:38:13,799
Speaker 2: the name. I'm not even gonna lie. And it ended

714
00:38:13,840 --> 00:38:14,960
Speaker 2: up being a great show.

715
00:38:15,480 --> 00:38:17,479
Speaker 3: You know, people like that about twelve years of slave

716
00:38:17,560 --> 00:38:20,879
Speaker 3: people people. I mean, it just is what it is, man,

717
00:38:20,920 --> 00:38:24,720
Speaker 3: I get it. I'm trying not to be too Cenica

718
00:38:24,760 --> 00:38:28,799
Speaker 3: on folks, but it's just sometimes it's just like there

719
00:38:28,800 --> 00:38:31,480
Speaker 3: were twelve fucking things that happened to day. This cannot

720
00:38:31,480 --> 00:38:36,680
Speaker 3: be the one that. Yeah, I'm not joining y'all in

721
00:38:36,719 --> 00:38:39,759
Speaker 3: this one, like y'all got it, congrat like good luck.

722
00:38:39,760 --> 00:38:41,880
Speaker 3: If y'all get it canceled, I won't cry, no tears.

723
00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:46,560
Speaker 3: But if y'all don't get it canceled, because cooler heads

724
00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:51,440
Speaker 3: prevail and a lot of times they know that a

725
00:38:51,520 --> 00:38:53,239
Speaker 3: lot of people must be full of shit. I'll just

726
00:38:53,239 --> 00:38:55,879
Speaker 3: put it there, a lot of people must be full

727
00:38:55,880 --> 00:38:58,439
Speaker 3: of shit because too many things I've seen people quote

728
00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:02,719
Speaker 3: unquote canceled. I just flourished like fuck, and motherfuckers that

729
00:39:02,760 --> 00:39:05,080
Speaker 3: claim out the fuck would it be up on every move?

730
00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:08,239
Speaker 3: Like this week, there was a two day yesterday maybe

731
00:39:08,239 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 3: there was a clip of the Kardashian Show on Twitter.

732
00:39:11,120 --> 00:39:15,600
Speaker 3: It was fucking trending, trending, and it was nothing but

733
00:39:15,680 --> 00:39:18,400
Speaker 3: just motherfuckers talking about whether or not it was an

734
00:39:18,480 --> 00:39:21,719
Speaker 3: argument was good or why they don't like him or

735
00:39:21,719 --> 00:39:23,799
Speaker 3: why they do like him? And Da Da da, And

736
00:39:23,840 --> 00:39:27,239
Speaker 3: I was like, didn't y'all cancel them? Didn't y'all say

737
00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:29,799
Speaker 3: y'all not keeping up with them? Don't y'all say y'all

738
00:39:29,840 --> 00:39:33,000
Speaker 3: don't watch the show? Don't right? I know me and

739
00:39:33,040 --> 00:39:35,439
Speaker 3: you both, we really don't, you know what I'm saying,

740
00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:37,320
Speaker 3: Like white people.

741
00:39:37,640 --> 00:39:40,799
Speaker 2: That's it. That's the only time she do something, either

742
00:39:40,840 --> 00:39:43,160
Speaker 2: one in her or Kanye do something where it is

743
00:39:43,280 --> 00:39:46,320
Speaker 2: so big that you didn't you have to see it.

744
00:39:46,400 --> 00:39:51,040
Speaker 3: But my point is somebody lying, yes they are, it

745
00:39:51,080 --> 00:39:54,840
Speaker 3: doesn't add up like the amount of y'all and disdain.

746
00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:58,080
Speaker 3: It's almost like you need them on some puritanical ship

747
00:39:58,760 --> 00:40:02,040
Speaker 3: to be around so that you have a thing to

748
00:40:02,040 --> 00:40:05,879
Speaker 3: funnel your hate into because and they've monetized it, Yes

749
00:40:05,920 --> 00:40:08,400
Speaker 3: they have, you know what I'm saying, Like it's so wild.

750
00:40:08,600 --> 00:40:11,279
Speaker 3: You know, somebody brought the Buffy reboot in the chat,

751
00:40:11,760 --> 00:40:16,520
Speaker 3: same thing, black woman writer, black women lead. Possibly motherfucker's like,

752
00:40:16,600 --> 00:40:20,160
Speaker 3: I don't need this, cancel this, cancel Josh Whedon. And

753
00:40:20,200 --> 00:40:23,440
Speaker 3: I'm like, you say that, but I know when it

754
00:40:23,480 --> 00:40:26,560
Speaker 3: comes out, your black ass gonna be watching. Even if

755
00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:28,480
Speaker 3: you watch so you can then tell everybody on the

756
00:40:28,520 --> 00:40:32,880
Speaker 3: timeline it ain't shit right, It's so it's just so.

757
00:40:32,840 --> 00:40:35,959
Speaker 2: Weird, and I know the nerves are gonna be mad

758
00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:39,480
Speaker 2: at me. I haven't watched the Buffy. I watched business

759
00:40:39,480 --> 00:40:43,800
Speaker 2: pieces with Rodgers watching, but I haven't watched the original Buffy.

760
00:40:43,800 --> 00:40:45,520
Speaker 2: But I'll watch it with a black Buffy.

761
00:40:45,840 --> 00:40:48,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, nobody would be mad about that.

762
00:40:48,320 --> 00:40:50,960
Speaker 2: Oh you know that there's there's people that love Buffy

763
00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:53,719
Speaker 2: and and and Buffy is their thing, and.

764
00:40:54,200 --> 00:40:56,839
Speaker 3: It's like a black people. It's a handful of black

765
00:40:56,840 --> 00:40:59,160
Speaker 3: people that really fuck with Buffy like that. Like I'm

766
00:40:59,200 --> 00:41:02,840
Speaker 3: not saying it's not like some cultural touchdown, Okay, you

767
00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:06,520
Speaker 3: know it's it's like it's good. But especially since Josh

768
00:41:06,600 --> 00:41:09,439
Speaker 3: Whedon's falling out a flavor, out of favor for being

769
00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:12,040
Speaker 3: a woman not well, I guess he cheated on his wife.

770
00:41:12,040 --> 00:41:14,560
Speaker 3: I shouldn't. I don't know how that necessary. I don't

771
00:41:14,600 --> 00:41:15,400
Speaker 3: know how that works.

772
00:41:15,760 --> 00:41:15,880
Speaker 2: Uh.

773
00:41:16,040 --> 00:41:20,040
Speaker 3: Anyway, he cheated on his wife and uh definitely violated

774
00:41:20,040 --> 00:41:22,360
Speaker 3: a lot of the things that he claims is to

775
00:41:22,440 --> 00:41:25,680
Speaker 3: say publicly about treating women in a certain way and

776
00:41:25,719 --> 00:41:28,239
Speaker 3: all this shit. And he was already out of favor

777
00:41:28,280 --> 00:41:31,000
Speaker 3: a long time ago as a male like quote unquote

778
00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:35,359
Speaker 3: feminist because you know, like as soon as somebody puts

779
00:41:35,400 --> 00:41:38,279
Speaker 3: that title on you, on yourself or somebody puts that

780
00:41:38,360 --> 00:41:42,439
Speaker 3: label on you, either way, it's let's go find out

781
00:41:42,480 --> 00:41:44,040
Speaker 3: why how this dude is fucked up?

782
00:41:44,160 --> 00:41:44,360
Speaker 2: You know.

783
00:41:45,200 --> 00:41:48,239
Speaker 3: And no, and no human being is gonna withstand the

784
00:41:48,320 --> 00:41:51,160
Speaker 3: level of scrutiny that that people would put on somebody

785
00:41:51,400 --> 00:41:54,319
Speaker 3: for that, Like, uh, no woman would would stand it,

786
00:41:54,360 --> 00:41:57,120
Speaker 3: and no man, no human being is gonna match up

787
00:41:57,160 --> 00:42:00,719
Speaker 3: to everybody's ideas about what feminism should be because that's

788
00:42:00,719 --> 00:42:04,600
Speaker 3: because it's there's varying ideas, you know. But the point being,

789
00:42:06,000 --> 00:42:08,319
Speaker 3: I don't think people would down you for saying I

790
00:42:08,320 --> 00:42:10,680
Speaker 3: didn't watch Buffy because now it's kind of more awesome.

791
00:42:11,160 --> 00:42:13,239
Speaker 3: Well yeah, I mean Josh we Din fuck him right,

792
00:42:13,320 --> 00:42:14,960
Speaker 3: you know, So I don't think they would get on

793
00:42:15,000 --> 00:42:18,080
Speaker 3: you for that. Okay, But yeah, they put out a

794
00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:20,439
Speaker 3: black Buffy. I will watch, and most other people will watch,

795
00:42:20,600 --> 00:42:23,799
Speaker 3: and they you know, they'll they maybe they'll hate watch

796
00:42:23,880 --> 00:42:26,120
Speaker 3: or whatever. But niggas be lying, that's all I'm saying.

797
00:42:26,280 --> 00:42:30,160
Speaker 3: It's right, They're right to tell the truth. Said all

798
00:42:30,160 --> 00:42:33,200
Speaker 3: that ship and power trends every Saturday and Sunday.

799
00:42:32,920 --> 00:42:34,560
Speaker 2: Every all weekend.

800
00:42:34,719 --> 00:42:40,000
Speaker 3: Everybody's like, cancel him. Terry Crews is a god saying

801
00:42:40,239 --> 00:42:43,600
Speaker 3: and this motherfucker. And I'm like, is that for real?

802
00:42:43,800 --> 00:42:46,000
Speaker 3: Is that the truth? Or y'all still watching Power?

803
00:42:46,680 --> 00:42:46,799
Speaker 2: Oh?

804
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:50,000
Speaker 3: Y'all still watching? Okay? Yeah? Everybody full of shit? Man,

805
00:42:50,120 --> 00:42:52,040
Speaker 3: and and and for the rest and then Terry Crews

806
00:42:52,080 --> 00:42:55,719
Speaker 3: is out here asking about transracial and transgender ship. So

807
00:42:55,760 --> 00:42:58,320
Speaker 3: it's like all these niggas is don't believe in nobody.

808
00:42:58,920 --> 00:43:04,719
Speaker 3: All these motherfuckers are flawed and everybody uh be lying

809
00:43:04,719 --> 00:43:07,759
Speaker 3: when they talk about canceling people. Uh, are you going

810
00:43:07,760 --> 00:43:12,440
Speaker 3: to sign back up for Netflix now? Because Monique said

811
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:15,759
Speaker 3: that she defended Roseanne and I said, you know what,

812
00:43:16,239 --> 00:43:19,480
Speaker 3: time to go ahead renew that subscription? Uh? Yes, the

813
00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:23,040
Speaker 3: fo we have never missed the payment, y'all. You don't

814
00:43:23,080 --> 00:43:25,000
Speaker 3: know that because you don't pay for it. I'm the

815
00:43:25,000 --> 00:43:26,200
Speaker 3: only one to see the bills here.

816
00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:31,120
Speaker 2: I please have used my Netflix with no problems.

817
00:43:31,440 --> 00:43:34,760
Speaker 3: Well can please don't. Let's let's we have a brand

818
00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:37,520
Speaker 3: to keep in front of the people. Okay, there's no

819
00:43:37,560 --> 00:43:39,439
Speaker 3: need for you to be putting spilling all.

820
00:43:39,360 --> 00:43:43,439
Speaker 2: His teeth talking about me not telling the truth. Tell

821
00:43:43,480 --> 00:43:44,320
Speaker 2: the people the truth.

822
00:43:44,560 --> 00:43:47,560
Speaker 3: Are you going to sign Are you gonna sign back

823
00:43:47,640 --> 00:43:51,400
Speaker 3: up for Netflix? Now? Yes, the foco is over. No,

824
00:43:51,560 --> 00:43:56,520
Speaker 3: I'm sticking with Monique or I never unsubscribed. Ten percent

825
00:43:56,520 --> 00:43:59,880
Speaker 3: of y'all said yes, the foco is over signing back up,

826
00:44:01,239 --> 00:44:06,120
Speaker 3: ninety percent said I never unsubscribed, and zero percent says no,

827
00:44:06,239 --> 00:44:09,600
Speaker 3: I'm sticking with Monique. So everybody back on Netflix truck

828
00:44:09,640 --> 00:44:12,600
Speaker 3: says Netflix has to sponsor legislation and reinstate slavery for

829
00:44:12,640 --> 00:44:17,040
Speaker 3: me to cancel. You know, I did just finish watching

830
00:44:17,080 --> 00:44:20,359
Speaker 3: Lost in Space and it was good, So maybe that's

831
00:44:20,360 --> 00:44:23,720
Speaker 3: what we need. Papa John need to buy some Netflix

832
00:44:23,760 --> 00:44:25,080
Speaker 3: stock for us to all cancel it.

833
00:44:26,160 --> 00:44:27,319
Speaker 2: I still win, cancel it?

834
00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:31,799
Speaker 3: Uh seventeen twenty eight TVG dowt The Remix. Do you

835
00:44:31,840 --> 00:44:32,880
Speaker 3: even watch Netflix?

836
00:44:33,520 --> 00:44:34,080
Speaker 2: I do?

837
00:44:34,960 --> 00:44:41,000
Speaker 3: Okay? What you be watching on Netflix? It's like how

838
00:44:41,040 --> 00:44:44,319
Speaker 3: you go to Harvest because I feel like I watch

839
00:44:44,440 --> 00:44:45,319
Speaker 3: Netflix and you don't.

840
00:44:46,000 --> 00:44:47,400
Speaker 2: Now you do watch it more than me?

841
00:44:47,840 --> 00:44:51,200
Speaker 3: Okay, all right, you say so, I know I can

842
00:44:51,239 --> 00:44:53,239
Speaker 3: log in and check your view of history.

843
00:44:52,960 --> 00:44:56,480
Speaker 2: On Okay, it's probably been about I'm not even gonna lie, but.

844
00:44:56,600 --> 00:44:59,680
Speaker 3: Probably watched since Monique said stop watching. So I don't

845
00:44:59,719 --> 00:45:03,120
Speaker 3: know why are you acting so gun hold I from Netflix.

846
00:45:03,640 --> 00:45:06,840
Speaker 2: All I know is that you've been paying the goddamn billy.

847
00:45:06,880 --> 00:45:07,840
Speaker 2: Don't lie to them people.

848
00:45:09,640 --> 00:45:10,200
Speaker 3: That's true.

849
00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:12,080
Speaker 2: That ain't got nothing to do with how much I watch.

850
00:45:12,280 --> 00:45:14,520
Speaker 2: I'm the reason why they make money. You pay this money,

851
00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:15,799
Speaker 2: and you might watch every nine.

852
00:45:15,920 --> 00:45:21,439
Speaker 3: Then, episode seventeen twenty eight TVGWT the Remix, sim Simmons says,

853
00:45:21,520 --> 00:45:23,480
Speaker 3: niece Nashty out here living her best life with her

854
00:45:23,520 --> 00:45:27,160
Speaker 3: hit show starring Hollywood Walker fame, being saluted by so

855
00:45:27,320 --> 00:45:31,239
Speaker 3: many for her talent and consistency with putting black people on,

856
00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:34,360
Speaker 3: especially rooting for women. She's fine, and her husband is

857
00:45:34,400 --> 00:45:37,800
Speaker 3: fine too. And then her full last girlfriend, Sherry Shepherd,

858
00:45:37,960 --> 00:45:41,400
Speaker 3: just won't be quiet. Shepherd is MOLTI led terrible, so

859
00:45:41,520 --> 00:45:44,319
Speaker 3: I expect the very least. And I think the only

860
00:45:44,320 --> 00:45:46,520
Speaker 3: reason I get frustrated is because I stand for NISI.

861
00:45:46,600 --> 00:45:49,280
Speaker 3: I wonder if Nissie calls her and says, I'm actually angry,

862
00:45:49,360 --> 00:45:54,279
Speaker 3: sad and disappointed, my reaction is rod. The other day

863
00:45:54,320 --> 00:45:56,359
Speaker 3: you mentioned some of her shows, and I wonder if

864
00:45:56,400 --> 00:45:59,160
Speaker 3: you ever seen getting on on HBO. I have not

865
00:46:00,200 --> 00:46:02,279
Speaker 3: got an Emmy nomination for her role on the show

866
00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:04,399
Speaker 3: Kind of Dark Comedy. But I think you might enjoy it.

867
00:46:04,840 --> 00:46:06,520
Speaker 3: I don't see what I can do. I'll add it

868
00:46:06,560 --> 00:46:12,360
Speaker 3: to the long long list, long long long list, Steph

869
00:46:12,440 --> 00:46:16,759
Speaker 3: Smith said. Steph Simpson says, So I decided to ride

870
00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:19,759
Speaker 3: the wave and join the TVGWT book Club. I had

871
00:46:19,760 --> 00:46:23,760
Speaker 3: absolutely no idea signing up for lol NOD. You didn't

872
00:46:23,760 --> 00:46:26,520
Speaker 3: know this whole got roaches in her crib That's why

873
00:46:26,520 --> 00:46:30,719
Speaker 3: they changed the name. Oh didn't we talk about this?

874
00:46:30,920 --> 00:46:31,400
Speaker 2: We did?

875
00:46:31,560 --> 00:46:32,120
Speaker 3: Oh, we did.

876
00:46:32,360 --> 00:46:34,440
Speaker 2: But for some reason, that give me every time because

877
00:46:34,520 --> 00:46:37,799
Speaker 2: I guess I still got the original version. M hm.

878
00:46:40,800 --> 00:46:46,080
Speaker 3: So yeah, it was this whole guy roaches in her

879
00:46:46,080 --> 00:46:47,840
Speaker 3: cribs is what happened when you're trying to do some

880
00:46:47,880 --> 00:46:50,960
Speaker 3: summer reading on a budget. Amazon. I had no words

881
00:46:51,000 --> 00:46:54,000
Speaker 3: for this. How do we get here? It is literally

882
00:46:54,040 --> 00:46:56,760
Speaker 3: the best ninety nine sense I've ever spent. This book

883
00:46:56,800 --> 00:47:00,000
Speaker 3: has the audacity to be a thousand pages in any case,

884
00:47:00,200 --> 00:47:02,319
Speaker 3: I'm super excited it's a thousand pages for real.

885
00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:04,120
Speaker 2: I didn't know that we might have to break it.

886
00:47:04,440 --> 00:47:06,040
Speaker 3: Maybe we will have to break it down. I feel

887
00:47:06,080 --> 00:47:07,920
Speaker 3: like I'm zooming through this shit. I'm gonna wa chapter

888
00:47:08,000 --> 00:47:12,239
Speaker 3: five already a thousand for real anyway. In any case,

889
00:47:12,239 --> 00:47:14,080
Speaker 3: I'm super excited. I was lucky enough to have my

890
00:47:14,160 --> 00:47:16,640
Speaker 3: coins in order in time to get one of the

891
00:47:16,719 --> 00:47:20,759
Speaker 3: VIP tickets for the second run. Now I'm counting down

892
00:47:20,760 --> 00:47:26,239
Speaker 3: to days. Hey, come on, I can't wait to see

893
00:47:26,280 --> 00:47:28,920
Speaker 3: y'all in September. Keep being great and thanks for all

894
00:47:28,920 --> 00:47:31,479
Speaker 3: you to do for us. Oh man, thank you, Jef,

895
00:47:31,880 --> 00:47:35,480
Speaker 3: and thank you forgetting tickets The Blackout Tips Live Charlotte,

896
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Speaker 3: North Carolina, September twenty three days for my birthday.

897
00:47:39,200 --> 00:47:41,200
Speaker 2: Family, Tell all your friends.

898
00:47:40,840 --> 00:47:43,480
Speaker 3: Right before this is Us comes back. It's gonna be

899
00:47:43,520 --> 00:47:47,960
Speaker 3: a busy week, Okay, can't wait. Trace Win Dude seventy

900
00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:51,480
Speaker 3: forty four says, y'all are so down, hilarious and silly

901
00:47:51,480 --> 00:47:55,440
Speaker 3: with all them damn sound effects. Yeah, it was on, ladies.

902
00:47:55,800 --> 00:47:57,320
Speaker 2: See that's what happened when you get us in the

903
00:47:57,360 --> 00:47:58,680
Speaker 2: middle of the day, we got more energy.

904
00:47:58,960 --> 00:48:00,960
Speaker 3: Love y'all. Goofy ass says I was literally on my

905
00:48:01,040 --> 00:48:03,720
Speaker 3: lunch in my office room caracking the fuck up. Congrats

906
00:48:03,800 --> 00:48:06,840
Speaker 3: on getting your braces off care Thank you. Sherry's widow

907
00:48:06,960 --> 00:48:09,840
Speaker 3: ass need to worry about her ex husband who finessed

908
00:48:09,840 --> 00:48:12,160
Speaker 3: her out of that money, and now her widow son

909
00:48:12,280 --> 00:48:14,880
Speaker 3: not liking black girls. Fuck out of here. Love this episode.

910
00:48:15,800 --> 00:48:16,160
Speaker 2: Thank you.

911
00:48:16,400 --> 00:48:20,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, Sherry tried the most. The poe was we're Brooklyn at.

912
00:48:20,480 --> 00:48:22,720
Speaker 3: I probably should have made about something about Sherry Shepard

913
00:48:22,760 --> 00:48:25,520
Speaker 3: in hindsight, but here we all got dah. I couldn't

914
00:48:25,520 --> 00:48:28,160
Speaker 3: think of something at the moment. We're Brooklyn at in

915
00:48:28,200 --> 00:48:33,080
Speaker 3: the greater NYC area, in the house or over here.

916
00:48:34,680 --> 00:48:36,879
Speaker 3: Only eight point seven percent of y'all said over here,

917
00:48:38,600 --> 00:48:41,960
Speaker 3: thirty point four percent of y'all said in the house,

918
00:48:42,760 --> 00:48:45,680
Speaker 3: and sixty one percent y'all basically said in the greater

919
00:48:45,800 --> 00:48:48,960
Speaker 3: NYC area. And that is all three of those are correct.

920
00:48:49,000 --> 00:48:52,560
Speaker 3: I guess yes they are, because I mean, where is

921
00:48:52,560 --> 00:48:53,120
Speaker 3: Brooklyn At?

922
00:48:53,600 --> 00:48:55,680
Speaker 2: I've never been. I don't know, like literally, I've never

923
00:48:55,719 --> 00:48:56,360
Speaker 2: been to Brooklyn.

924
00:48:56,840 --> 00:49:00,600
Speaker 3: Seventeen to twenty nine. Racism karma was this episode talked

925
00:49:00,600 --> 00:49:04,200
Speaker 3: about that dude called somebody a nigger, followed him home

926
00:49:04,239 --> 00:49:06,280
Speaker 3: and call him a nigger, and then got on camera

927
00:49:06,320 --> 00:49:09,320
Speaker 3: and then got lost this job and became the real victim.

928
00:49:09,760 --> 00:49:11,040
Speaker 2: Yes, the real victim.

929
00:49:11,080 --> 00:49:13,719
Speaker 3: Trapping as a hobby says this was an exceptionally good show.

930
00:49:13,719 --> 00:49:17,520
Speaker 3: Thanks rider, Karen, thank you. Really Dark Knight said, so

931
00:49:17,560 --> 00:49:19,440
Speaker 3: the racist man who followed the guy home is losing

932
00:49:19,480 --> 00:49:22,640
Speaker 3: his business. I just want you to know that ship

933
00:49:22,800 --> 00:49:26,279
Speaker 3: is about my favorite motherfucker song. It's my jam. Hit

934
00:49:26,320 --> 00:49:28,960
Speaker 3: the music, Rod. I did not come prepared to hit

935
00:49:28,960 --> 00:49:33,520
Speaker 3: the music, but uh I will play. Here's a jam

936
00:49:46,200 --> 00:49:53,239
Speaker 3: set my money, past and fast, jumping up to stay,

937
00:49:53,719 --> 00:49:58,040
Speaker 3: jump and jumping. Hey, hey, crowd better same, Hey, hey,

938
00:49:58,120 --> 00:50:01,880
Speaker 3: I can't believe we made it. This is why we

939
00:50:02,040 --> 00:50:07,960
Speaker 3: think well, I can't believe it made Hey ever seven,

940
00:50:08,080 --> 00:50:09,360
Speaker 3: drive a ship?

941
00:50:09,880 --> 00:50:10,600
Speaker 2: Give me my check?

942
00:50:11,200 --> 00:50:15,399
Speaker 3: What about equity? Want the reverse out of the deck?

943
00:50:15,920 --> 00:50:18,880
Speaker 3: You got a mate, We live in lavish, lavish. I

944
00:50:18,880 --> 00:50:23,719
Speaker 3: gotta get strength of fabrics. I gotta franks of habits.

945
00:50:26,360 --> 00:50:28,800
Speaker 3: Give me. That's a tournament.

946
00:50:29,640 --> 00:50:31,719
Speaker 2: A tournament you and owner of it.

947
00:50:32,080 --> 00:50:46,759
Speaker 3: I don't think the owner get yep, he ain't got

948
00:50:46,760 --> 00:50:52,120
Speaker 3: a job no more. Uh Trey underscored Swing D seven

949
00:50:52,200 --> 00:50:55,280
Speaker 3: forty four says shout out to video cameras on phones.

950
00:50:55,320 --> 00:50:58,600
Speaker 3: You're the real m v p ha ha. Racism and

951
00:50:58,680 --> 00:51:01,279
Speaker 3: hatred is so allowed. I, for the life of me

952
00:51:01,320 --> 00:51:03,600
Speaker 3: can't understand why these people think they are going to

953
00:51:03,600 --> 00:51:06,279
Speaker 3: get away with talking crazy to black people. It's like

954
00:51:06,320 --> 00:51:08,840
Speaker 3: white people have a different Internet than us.

955
00:51:09,320 --> 00:51:14,120
Speaker 2: They do because you have to think when it comes

956
00:51:14,200 --> 00:51:19,200
Speaker 2: to whiteness and whiteness in general, a lot of them

957
00:51:19,239 --> 00:51:21,600
Speaker 2: because of the privileged racism, they don't have to be

958
00:51:21,640 --> 00:51:22,960
Speaker 2: on top of Internet. They don't have to be on

959
00:51:23,040 --> 00:51:25,239
Speaker 2: top of Facebook. You know, let them keep their rear

960
00:51:25,280 --> 00:51:29,480
Speaker 2: that they don't have to be on top of That's

961
00:51:29,520 --> 00:51:31,480
Speaker 2: why you said white people just constantly say stupid shit

962
00:51:31,520 --> 00:51:33,640
Speaker 2: and then be like, oh, they dragging people for that,

963
00:51:34,000 --> 00:51:36,600
Speaker 2: like Scott Joe Hanson all that shit. Oh like like

964
00:51:36,640 --> 00:51:39,279
Speaker 2: they just want to quote unquote be oblivious and then

965
00:51:39,400 --> 00:51:42,600
Speaker 2: do some shit and people like, well, well, social media

966
00:51:42,680 --> 00:51:46,239
Speaker 2: don't work like the outside world sometimes, and you know,

967
00:51:46,280 --> 00:51:48,360
Speaker 2: they get the shock of their lives when they realize

968
00:51:48,440 --> 00:51:50,239
Speaker 2: you get recorded, somebody put it on the Internet and

969
00:51:50,280 --> 00:51:52,640
Speaker 2: then you get real life consequences because you still have

970
00:51:52,640 --> 00:51:55,040
Speaker 2: a lot of generation of people who think that the

971
00:51:55,200 --> 00:51:58,759
Speaker 2: Internet and real life are two separate things. But they

972
00:51:58,840 --> 00:52:01,600
Speaker 2: do corresist at times.

973
00:52:02,920 --> 00:52:06,520
Speaker 3: I guess it's just weird. It's just weird to me

974
00:52:06,719 --> 00:52:11,400
Speaker 3: that white people don't know about these white people that

975
00:52:11,440 --> 00:52:14,080
Speaker 3: are going viral getting losing their jobs.

976
00:52:14,680 --> 00:52:17,160
Speaker 2: Mm hmm, yeah that somebody I said, their default. So

977
00:52:18,000 --> 00:52:20,800
Speaker 2: why should I care If I've been racist all my life?

978
00:52:21,000 --> 00:52:23,960
Speaker 2: What the fuck I give goddamn about, you know, because

979
00:52:23,960 --> 00:52:25,440
Speaker 2: if a nigger is a nigger, you don't care if

980
00:52:25,440 --> 00:52:27,400
Speaker 2: you're nigga with a phone or nigga with no phone,

981
00:52:27,440 --> 00:52:31,239
Speaker 2: or nigga you know, like in your mind, you know

982
00:52:31,360 --> 00:52:34,200
Speaker 2: your irrational and illogical, and hate feel hard.

983
00:52:34,719 --> 00:52:35,399
Speaker 3: You don't care.

984
00:52:35,680 --> 00:52:38,400
Speaker 2: So you know, it's that consequences be damned.

985
00:52:39,000 --> 00:52:41,359
Speaker 3: Mmm. Well, I mean, I guess they used to own

986
00:52:41,360 --> 00:52:45,600
Speaker 3: and ship, but I don't know. It's just weird that

987
00:52:47,600 --> 00:52:49,520
Speaker 3: I mean. I think it's some of the videos lately

988
00:52:49,560 --> 00:52:52,160
Speaker 3: I've been seeing, like sometimes white people get a little scared,

989
00:52:53,080 --> 00:52:55,319
Speaker 3: like they started to realize, oh God, on camera, this

990
00:52:55,400 --> 00:52:57,160
Speaker 3: is this is And I'm like, I guess maybe some

991
00:52:57,239 --> 00:52:59,239
Speaker 3: of this ship is starting to spread, because it is,

992
00:52:59,520 --> 00:53:02,880
Speaker 3: you know, some of them seem to be becoming more aware,

993
00:53:03,000 --> 00:53:06,680
Speaker 3: but just in general, it's kind of weird that they're

994
00:53:06,719 --> 00:53:09,959
Speaker 3: not already at the stage of like, oh, oh god,

995
00:53:09,960 --> 00:53:12,560
Speaker 3: a camera on the phone, let me stop now. I

996
00:53:12,600 --> 00:53:17,920
Speaker 3: could be on like fucking Instagram live. I could be

997
00:53:18,000 --> 00:53:20,959
Speaker 3: on fucking Facebook right now. I could just be about

998
00:53:20,960 --> 00:53:23,000
Speaker 3: to be on Twitter. I'm gonna be on the news tonight.

999
00:53:23,080 --> 00:53:25,839
Speaker 3: Like are they not watching the news because it's not

1000
00:53:25,920 --> 00:53:28,239
Speaker 3: just the stories are viral on social media, but like

1001
00:53:28,680 --> 00:53:31,200
Speaker 3: the stories are now Like the Daily Show is covering

1002
00:53:31,239 --> 00:53:35,760
Speaker 3: at the news, all the all the cable news stations

1003
00:53:35,800 --> 00:53:38,759
Speaker 3: are covering at How are you still confused as of

1004
00:53:38,800 --> 00:53:39,680
Speaker 3: what the fuck has happened?

1005
00:53:39,800 --> 00:53:43,800
Speaker 2: Yeah? And the thing is, uh, you you regular white person,

1006
00:53:43,880 --> 00:53:46,520
Speaker 2: you ain't like the president. You can't walk out there

1007
00:53:46,520 --> 00:53:49,239
Speaker 2: and lie and then have people support you and your

1008
00:53:49,280 --> 00:53:51,520
Speaker 2: stupidity and your ignorance and you be all right, No,

1009
00:53:52,480 --> 00:53:54,520
Speaker 2: you got consequences to that bulletshit.

1010
00:53:55,000 --> 00:54:00,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just very weird. All right, let's you what

1011
00:54:00,280 --> 00:54:05,920
Speaker 3: else you got shout out to video cameras on phones

1012
00:54:05,920 --> 00:54:08,160
Speaker 3: out of that racisms? Oh yeah, okay, if for the

1013
00:54:08,200 --> 00:54:09,839
Speaker 3: life you can't say why these people think they're gonna

1014
00:54:09,840 --> 00:54:11,680
Speaker 3: get away with talking crazy to black people. I say

1015
00:54:11,680 --> 00:54:13,719
Speaker 3: this all the time, don't let Trump get you fucked up.

1016
00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:16,279
Speaker 3: Thanks for another great one piece and love rod Care. Yeah,

1017
00:54:16,280 --> 00:54:18,400
Speaker 3: they're really lucky. People aren't just whooping their ass for

1018
00:54:18,440 --> 00:54:21,840
Speaker 3: the most part, Like we as black people still do

1019
00:54:21,960 --> 00:54:24,279
Speaker 3: recognize that if we whoop your ass and the cops

1020
00:54:24,280 --> 00:54:26,440
Speaker 3: show up. It don't matter that you were harassing us.

1021
00:54:27,320 --> 00:54:29,000
Speaker 3: The poe was, do you think Papa John's go out

1022
00:54:29,040 --> 00:54:31,359
Speaker 3: of business because they lost so much money lately? Yes?

1023
00:54:31,560 --> 00:54:34,799
Speaker 3: Or no? M Eighteen percent say yes, eighty two percent

1024
00:54:34,880 --> 00:54:35,440
Speaker 3: say no.

1025
00:54:35,440 --> 00:54:37,680
Speaker 2: No, they'll rename it for they go out of business

1026
00:54:37,960 --> 00:54:41,520
Speaker 2: because it's too much money involved. Like you have investors,

1027
00:54:41,680 --> 00:54:45,319
Speaker 2: you know, you're on the market, the stock exchange. Like

1028
00:54:45,760 --> 00:54:48,200
Speaker 2: I think going out of business would be the last

1029
00:54:48,200 --> 00:54:51,080
Speaker 2: thing they want to do, all right.

1030
00:54:52,800 --> 00:54:57,280
Speaker 3: And then the poe we had one confident comment. Tiffany says, Hey, y'all,

1031
00:54:57,320 --> 00:54:59,719
Speaker 3: listening to y'all discussed toxic failing members really has my

1032
00:54:59,760 --> 00:55:01,920
Speaker 3: eyes sweating here at work. And it's because I just

1033
00:55:02,080 --> 00:55:05,000
Speaker 3: recently gave myself permission to tell my older cousin no

1034
00:55:05,120 --> 00:55:07,560
Speaker 3: when she asked me for money, and for this last time.

1035
00:55:08,120 --> 00:55:11,279
Speaker 3: In the past, I've always given it to her. The

1036
00:55:11,320 --> 00:55:13,399
Speaker 3: time before this, I sent her a spreadsheet to help

1037
00:55:13,400 --> 00:55:16,800
Speaker 3: her with budgeting, because y'all, she got paid on Friday

1038
00:55:16,840 --> 00:55:19,480
Speaker 3: and asked me for money on Tuesday. It's gotten to

1039
00:55:19,480 --> 00:55:21,520
Speaker 3: the point where I don't even like taking her calls,

1040
00:55:21,600 --> 00:55:24,040
Speaker 3: opening up her text because I know it's gonna be

1041
00:55:24,080 --> 00:55:26,160
Speaker 3: her need some I asked my dad, is it too

1042
00:55:26,239 --> 00:55:28,479
Speaker 3: much to not want every time to hear from her.

1043
00:55:28,880 --> 00:55:31,120
Speaker 3: It's only because she needs something. I chose to not

1044
00:55:31,239 --> 00:55:34,719
Speaker 3: let it bother me because I know we're not all

1045
00:55:34,760 --> 00:55:36,560
Speaker 3: the same, but Damn, I can admit that it really

1046
00:55:36,600 --> 00:55:39,080
Speaker 3: hurt my feelings when my grandmother passed. She called me

1047
00:55:39,080 --> 00:55:40,560
Speaker 3: about a week later, and I'm thinking it was to

1048
00:55:40,560 --> 00:55:43,799
Speaker 3: express her sympathy. Note that Nigga needed sixty dollars. This

1049
00:55:43,880 --> 00:55:46,680
Speaker 3: past weekend, I took a Mini v K to the

1050
00:55:46,680 --> 00:55:49,080
Speaker 3: beach and when I tell you, it gave me everything

1051
00:55:49,120 --> 00:55:51,200
Speaker 3: I needed and more. I only took phone calls from

1052
00:55:51,239 --> 00:55:53,360
Speaker 3: my son and my parents because he was staying with

1053
00:55:53,400 --> 00:55:56,920
Speaker 3: the Lol. Well that Nigga. My cousin must have saw

1054
00:55:56,960 --> 00:55:59,719
Speaker 3: how much fun I was having on Instagram Damn social

1055
00:55:59,760 --> 00:56:03,120
Speaker 3: media and sent me a text Sunday saying, good morning, cousin,

1056
00:56:03,200 --> 00:56:05,160
Speaker 3: how are you? I did take your advice with our

1057
00:56:05,200 --> 00:56:08,440
Speaker 3: previous conversations start a budget, but being out a month

1058
00:56:08,760 --> 00:56:11,799
Speaker 3: just going back the other day, along with my living

1059
00:56:11,920 --> 00:56:14,399
Speaker 3: arrangements has been tough. I promise this is my last

1060
00:56:14,400 --> 00:56:17,880
Speaker 3: time making my problems your problem. If you can spare

1061
00:56:17,960 --> 00:56:20,960
Speaker 3: me forty dollars until my first payday. I greatly appreciate it.

1062
00:56:21,680 --> 00:56:24,239
Speaker 3: Does she ever pay you back? Because it sounds like

1063
00:56:24,360 --> 00:56:26,960
Speaker 3: from what you've been writing, she don't ever pay you back. Yeah,

1064
00:56:27,520 --> 00:56:29,640
Speaker 3: so it's not really more of a loan as much.

1065
00:56:29,440 --> 00:56:33,960
Speaker 2: As you just giving money. Yes, yes, and it's and

1066
00:56:34,000 --> 00:56:38,800
Speaker 2: it's also one of those things to to where that

1067
00:56:38,920 --> 00:56:41,839
Speaker 2: separation sometimes need to branch out on social media. Yeah,

1068
00:56:41,880 --> 00:56:44,680
Speaker 2: sometimes block a phone call, block a text message. You

1069
00:56:44,719 --> 00:56:45,759
Speaker 2: know you can't reach me.

1070
00:56:49,920 --> 00:56:53,279
Speaker 3: All right, So then she goes on. She said some

1071
00:56:53,280 --> 00:56:55,719
Speaker 3: other stuff about moving the end to the end of

1072
00:56:55,760 --> 00:56:58,200
Speaker 3: the month, but I almost let her steal my relaxation

1073
00:56:58,280 --> 00:57:00,440
Speaker 3: at that moment. I put my phone down out went

1074
00:57:00,480 --> 00:57:03,840
Speaker 3: to the bar. I waited until Tuesday. Responded back, saying,

1075
00:57:03,880 --> 00:57:06,000
Speaker 3: good morning, No I can. I'm excited about your movie

1076
00:57:06,000 --> 00:57:07,920
Speaker 3: as well. Please let me know once you get settled.

1077
00:57:08,040 --> 00:57:11,000
Speaker 3: Come on. Hidden Sins gave me the common piece that

1078
00:57:11,040 --> 00:57:13,440
Speaker 3: I bit that I had being out in the ocean,

1079
00:57:13,800 --> 00:57:15,839
Speaker 3: and they're no regrets. Sorry this is so long, but

1080
00:57:15,880 --> 00:57:18,480
Speaker 3: that really hit home for me. I say to y'all,

1081
00:57:18,600 --> 00:57:20,919
Speaker 3: keep them toxic folks out your life and take more

1082
00:57:20,960 --> 00:57:23,400
Speaker 3: than they give, and you end up being the one

1083
00:57:23,400 --> 00:57:27,280
Speaker 3: worn out in the end, love y'all. Yes you will. Yeah,

1084
00:57:27,320 --> 00:57:31,040
Speaker 3: and eventually, like they gonna end up turning on you anyway. Yes,

1085
00:57:31,360 --> 00:57:32,920
Speaker 3: at some point you're not gonna be able to do

1086
00:57:33,000 --> 00:57:35,320
Speaker 3: for them. And a lot of times they that that

1087
00:57:35,360 --> 00:57:38,520
Speaker 3: becomes because they've made so many of their problems your problem.

1088
00:57:38,600 --> 00:57:41,680
Speaker 3: It's you're making this a problem for me now. It's

1089
00:57:41,760 --> 00:57:44,720
Speaker 3: like I'm not doing shit. You have issues within your

1090
00:57:44,720 --> 00:57:47,480
Speaker 3: life that I can't solve by myself, and I have

1091
00:57:47,560 --> 00:57:49,760
Speaker 3: my own problems and my own things I'm dealing.

1092
00:57:49,520 --> 00:57:51,840
Speaker 2: With, right and you're not my child. I didn't birth

1093
00:57:51,840 --> 00:57:53,680
Speaker 2: through you. I'm not responsible for you.

1094
00:57:54,080 --> 00:57:57,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, like that, you know that's I mean? And especially

1095
00:57:57,200 --> 00:57:59,480
Speaker 3: if somebody only hits you up to ask for something,

1096
00:58:00,200 --> 00:58:03,680
Speaker 3: knowing that's fucked up man, you know, like you don't

1097
00:58:03,760 --> 00:58:05,560
Speaker 3: just ever hit me up just to see how I'm doing?

1098
00:58:05,640 --> 00:58:06,800
Speaker 3: Like what kind of shit is this?

1099
00:58:07,000 --> 00:58:09,880
Speaker 2: Yep? And when I realized then to go back through

1100
00:58:09,880 --> 00:58:11,520
Speaker 2: the text and realize the only time you hit me

1101
00:58:11,600 --> 00:58:13,280
Speaker 2: up and a lot of times people hit me up,

1102
00:58:13,520 --> 00:58:17,360
Speaker 2: a lot of times I will sometime never respond back.

1103
00:58:17,520 --> 00:58:21,720
Speaker 2: Wait a week or two, Yeah, I block you know,

1104
00:58:21,960 --> 00:58:25,120
Speaker 2: I will do that, Like I said, I'm that ninja person,

1105
00:58:25,640 --> 00:58:28,360
Speaker 2: you know, and then you see them they'll be like, oh,

1106
00:58:28,480 --> 00:58:30,840
Speaker 2: been trying to call you up, like, oh, I've been busy.

1107
00:58:31,200 --> 00:58:34,480
Speaker 3: It also stresses your social media experience out because you

1108
00:58:34,560 --> 00:58:35,920
Speaker 3: just don't know to be like, oh, I got a

1109
00:58:36,000 --> 00:58:37,960
Speaker 3: drink today, and then this motherfucker's like if you got

1110
00:58:37,960 --> 00:58:40,200
Speaker 3: five dollars to drinks, then you got five dollars the

1111
00:58:40,200 --> 00:58:43,200
Speaker 3: PayPal man. You know, like all right, nigga, calm down,

1112
00:58:43,720 --> 00:58:49,160
Speaker 3: you know, like chill all right. Last episode seventeen thirty,

1113
00:58:49,280 --> 00:58:55,640
Speaker 3: Triggerish d Razy pH Dunn says, Mission Impossible Fallout introduced

1114
00:58:55,640 --> 00:58:58,960
Speaker 3: me to imagine dragon song friction love you both, Yep,

1115
00:58:59,040 --> 00:59:03,120
Speaker 3: we love it. Body says something my triggers ain nothing

1116
00:59:03,200 --> 00:59:08,600
Speaker 3: much triggers trigger my trigg real really dark. Knight says,

1117
00:59:08,680 --> 00:59:11,000
Speaker 3: I'm not here to shame anybody's kin, but I don't

1118
00:59:11,000 --> 00:59:13,920
Speaker 3: think I will ever understand the whole cuckole thing. So

1119
00:59:13,960 --> 00:59:16,560
Speaker 3: I get some dudes to break off my wife in

1120
00:59:16,600 --> 00:59:19,520
Speaker 3: front of me while I just watch. Oh, I get

1121
00:59:19,680 --> 00:59:23,200
Speaker 3: to get to film it, and sometimes the wife talks

1122
00:59:23,440 --> 00:59:26,520
Speaker 3: about me whilst she getting broke off. I'm gonna need

1123
00:59:26,560 --> 00:59:29,280
Speaker 3: one of these cucos explain that to me because never

1124
00:59:29,320 --> 00:59:31,040
Speaker 3: in my black ass life while I do that shit.

1125
00:59:32,080 --> 00:59:34,000
Speaker 3: I don't know if it's because we black. I don't

1126
00:59:34,040 --> 00:59:38,280
Speaker 3: know really, to be honest, I think maybe, uh huh.

1127
00:59:38,480 --> 00:59:41,040
Speaker 3: It'd be interesting if I could find a cuco to

1128
00:59:41,160 --> 00:59:43,920
Speaker 3: let me interview them for but I don't even know

1129
00:59:43,960 --> 00:59:45,840
Speaker 3: where I would go to find some shit like that.

1130
00:59:46,280 --> 00:59:49,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, and and and it's deep because, like I said,

1131
00:59:49,280 --> 00:59:52,160
Speaker 2: some of it's not racist, but a lot of it

1132
00:59:52,200 --> 00:59:54,560
Speaker 2: is has some form of racism behind it. So that's

1133
00:59:54,760 --> 00:59:57,160
Speaker 2: one reason why, you know, for a lot of black

1134
00:59:57,160 --> 00:59:59,760
Speaker 2: people that go, I don't understand that bullshit.

1135
01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:02,720
Speaker 3: They definitely like there's a racial element to it that

1136
01:00:02,800 --> 01:00:05,000
Speaker 3: I definitely have seen in a lot of it. Yes,

1137
01:00:05,320 --> 01:00:08,600
Speaker 3: like that, you know, but at the core of it

1138
01:00:09,680 --> 01:00:12,400
Speaker 3: past let's if we can for a second go past

1139
01:00:12,440 --> 01:00:15,320
Speaker 3: the racism. At the core of it, there's still something

1140
01:00:15,400 --> 01:00:20,480
Speaker 3: about a need to be almost emasculated, because you like

1141
01:00:20,720 --> 01:00:23,800
Speaker 3: a lot of these dudes they want to be around

1142
01:00:23,840 --> 01:00:26,760
Speaker 3: and have their wife like talk about how small they

1143
01:00:26,800 --> 01:00:30,320
Speaker 3: dick is or how they don't satisfy him in bed right,

1144
01:00:30,880 --> 01:00:33,520
Speaker 3: or how much better this dude is than him, And

1145
01:00:33,840 --> 01:00:37,760
Speaker 3: like there's some you know, and I'm not trying to judge,

1146
01:00:37,760 --> 01:00:40,439
Speaker 3: because I really do feel like, if that's somebody's kink,

1147
01:00:40,640 --> 01:00:43,680
Speaker 3: it shouldn't really be a judgment to the idea that

1148
01:00:44,520 --> 01:00:50,280
Speaker 3: some people like emasculation as a form of sexual gratification rital,

1149
01:00:51,320 --> 01:00:53,920
Speaker 3: like stimulation and arousal. They may get that out of that,

1150
01:00:54,000 --> 01:00:56,920
Speaker 3: and there's nothing wrong with that as long as everyone

1151
01:00:56,920 --> 01:00:59,760
Speaker 3: in the room's consenting. I have a much more hands

1152
01:00:59,760 --> 01:01:04,560
Speaker 3: off approach to sexuality and sex then most people when

1153
01:01:04,600 --> 01:01:07,680
Speaker 3: it comes to at least my attitude towards it. Correct like,

1154
01:01:08,520 --> 01:01:12,400
Speaker 3: I don't like, I actually don't care if somebody calls

1155
01:01:12,440 --> 01:01:15,480
Speaker 3: somebody in word during sex, if they consent to it,

1156
01:01:15,800 --> 01:01:17,680
Speaker 3: I just would never do that shit. And I don't

1157
01:01:17,720 --> 01:01:20,720
Speaker 3: want to know where around me but in your room.

1158
01:01:20,880 --> 01:01:24,840
Speaker 3: If that's the thing you into, cool like everything not

1159
01:01:24,960 --> 01:01:27,640
Speaker 3: for everybody, baby, If y'all have come to an arrangement

1160
01:01:27,640 --> 01:01:30,320
Speaker 3: and you feel like everybody feelings is intact when y'all

1161
01:01:30,360 --> 01:01:32,920
Speaker 3: leave the room, however, y'all manage that it's not my

1162
01:01:33,000 --> 01:01:35,960
Speaker 3: fucking business, you know what I mean? Same thing if

1163
01:01:36,000 --> 01:01:38,360
Speaker 3: you want to see your wife get whatever the fuck

1164
01:01:38,640 --> 01:01:41,480
Speaker 3: or I don't know if it works vice versa. I

1165
01:01:41,480 --> 01:01:44,520
Speaker 3: don't know, but if women are into that or I

1166
01:01:44,520 --> 01:01:47,000
Speaker 3: don't care, you know, And I hate to say it

1167
01:01:47,040 --> 01:01:49,160
Speaker 3: that way, and because I'm not trying to be decisive,

1168
01:01:49,200 --> 01:01:51,640
Speaker 3: but there's only so many things in the world I

1169
01:01:51,640 --> 01:01:53,520
Speaker 3: could care about, and that's one of the ones I

1170
01:01:53,520 --> 01:01:54,160
Speaker 3: don't care about.

1171
01:01:54,400 --> 01:01:54,520
Speaker 2: Right.

1172
01:01:54,840 --> 01:01:58,080
Speaker 3: But if we want to talk about the macro level

1173
01:01:58,160 --> 01:02:01,280
Speaker 3: issues of like why the fuck people are attached to

1174
01:02:02,200 --> 01:02:07,800
Speaker 3: sexualizing and hyper masculination of black men and shit, well yeah,

1175
01:02:07,840 --> 01:02:11,200
Speaker 3: I got something to say about that. I don't know

1176
01:02:11,200 --> 01:02:12,960
Speaker 3: that that shit comes from a good place that you

1177
01:02:13,160 --> 01:02:16,800
Speaker 3: need to have faux BBC's bang your wife or some

1178
01:02:16,920 --> 01:02:21,400
Speaker 3: shit and racious words and shit. I don't know that

1179
01:02:21,440 --> 01:02:25,040
Speaker 3: it's coming from a good, healthy situation. But as it

1180
01:02:25,120 --> 01:02:29,680
Speaker 3: really ain't my business to dictate what it means for everybody,

1181
01:02:29,720 --> 01:02:33,280
Speaker 3: I just know, you know, that industry and the monetization

1182
01:02:33,440 --> 01:02:37,000
Speaker 3: of it. Somebody lying the numbers are too big for

1183
01:02:37,080 --> 01:02:39,720
Speaker 3: people to go. The numbers are too big, y'all. This

1184
01:02:39,800 --> 01:02:44,080
Speaker 3: is such a taboo, like y'all lying about who's watching

1185
01:02:44,160 --> 01:02:47,760
Speaker 3: what you're lying about, how much you pay people and why,

1186
01:02:48,640 --> 01:02:51,640
Speaker 3: Like it's a bunch of lies. Correct, you know, it

1187
01:02:51,720 --> 01:02:55,880
Speaker 3: reminds it sounds funny, but bear with me. It reminds

1188
01:02:55,880 --> 01:02:58,240
Speaker 3: me of when they said Denzel don't sell overseas at

1189
01:02:58,320 --> 01:03:02,200
Speaker 3: Sony and we're like, we have the numbers, y'all, y'all

1190
01:03:02,200 --> 01:03:04,640
Speaker 3: do know, we have the box office numbers. Like y'all,

1191
01:03:04,720 --> 01:03:08,640
Speaker 3: y'all do know. This is publicly available to anybody. We

1192
01:03:08,720 --> 01:03:11,840
Speaker 3: can find out if Disnel Washington is a box office

1193
01:03:11,840 --> 01:03:15,480
Speaker 3: star or not. I guess what he is, you know,

1194
01:03:15,720 --> 01:03:18,000
Speaker 3: but racism would not allow him to admit that, the

1195
01:03:18,080 --> 01:03:20,520
Speaker 3: same way that racism weren't allowed them to admit that.

1196
01:03:21,240 --> 01:03:23,520
Speaker 3: People want to see these white women fuck black men,

1197
01:03:23,880 --> 01:03:26,600
Speaker 3: which is why they pay more as opposed to we

1198
01:03:26,680 --> 01:03:29,120
Speaker 3: pay more because it's detrimental to her career. You know,

1199
01:03:29,200 --> 01:03:32,560
Speaker 3: there's a lot of stereotypes and no nigga y'all want

1200
01:03:32,600 --> 01:03:35,840
Speaker 3: to see that the most. Now what we're gonna do

1201
01:03:35,920 --> 01:03:38,720
Speaker 3: because y'all fucking fear us so much with a big

1202
01:03:38,760 --> 01:03:42,919
Speaker 3: black monster, we're the most taboo thing a white woman

1203
01:03:43,000 --> 01:03:47,760
Speaker 3: can do. It's like putting fucking Princess Laier tied. It's

1204
01:03:47,760 --> 01:03:49,600
Speaker 3: like if Prince's Lea had to go in the pit

1205
01:03:49,680 --> 01:03:52,080
Speaker 3: and fight that big ass monster that Luke killed. It's

1206
01:03:52,160 --> 01:03:54,959
Speaker 3: like that, Like it's the most like to y'all we're

1207
01:03:54,960 --> 01:03:59,600
Speaker 3: the big ass monster, which is humans like you. You know, like,

1208
01:04:00,200 --> 01:04:01,840
Speaker 3: I don't want to put nobody on blast. I had

1209
01:04:01,840 --> 01:04:06,400
Speaker 3: a friend that was talking about a dude that so

1210
01:04:06,560 --> 01:04:10,880
Speaker 3: white dude that saw his penis. Uh somehow he's black.

1211
01:04:11,480 --> 01:04:14,600
Speaker 3: The dude my friend and he's like his The white

1212
01:04:14,640 --> 01:04:18,160
Speaker 3: dude was telling his wife about it and talking about, oh,

1213
01:04:18,200 --> 01:04:21,200
Speaker 3: he has the biggest dick that I ever thought it out,

1214
01:04:21,240 --> 01:04:23,600
Speaker 3: and he was he was talking to me. He was like, Rod,

1215
01:04:24,440 --> 01:04:27,400
Speaker 3: my dick is like average size. It's just a regular dick.

1216
01:04:27,800 --> 01:04:28,000
Speaker 2: Duh.

1217
01:04:28,360 --> 01:04:31,720
Speaker 3: They just they just put that black on it, right,

1218
01:04:31,840 --> 01:04:34,240
Speaker 3: and it had It's like he had to make it

1219
01:04:34,840 --> 01:04:38,840
Speaker 3: some sort of fulfillment for his ideas and stereotypes that

1220
01:04:39,000 --> 01:04:44,120
Speaker 3: already existed. You know, people just I don't know, racializing

1221
01:04:44,360 --> 01:04:48,560
Speaker 3: em fetishism in the same thing just does some strange

1222
01:04:48,560 --> 01:04:53,800
Speaker 3: shit to people. It really does. It's like, how all

1223
01:04:53,840 --> 01:04:56,240
Speaker 3: of us have met the white girl that some nigga

1224
01:04:56,240 --> 01:04:57,600
Speaker 3: who was trying to suck her told her she had

1225
01:04:57,600 --> 01:05:01,160
Speaker 3: a big ass, but she don't. We've all met that girl,

1226
01:05:01,840 --> 01:05:03,960
Speaker 3: but I have a big ass, and you're like, no,

1227
01:05:04,200 --> 01:05:06,680
Speaker 3: some niggas just wanted to fuck you. And he knew

1228
01:05:06,720 --> 01:05:10,240
Speaker 3: saying that would make you feel some type of special. Yeah,

1229
01:05:10,280 --> 01:05:12,640
Speaker 3: and you do not have a big ass now that

1230
01:05:12,760 --> 01:05:15,800
Speaker 3: there's no white woman with big asses. Somebody lied to

1231
01:05:15,840 --> 01:05:16,560
Speaker 3: you both.

1232
01:05:16,480 --> 01:05:18,400
Speaker 2: Right, because there and there is a difference between having

1233
01:05:18,400 --> 01:05:20,560
Speaker 2: a big ass and the white ass. Those aren't the same.

1234
01:05:21,000 --> 01:05:24,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, like y'all, Like it's just it just happens, like niggas.

1235
01:05:24,600 --> 01:05:26,680
Speaker 3: I just like you know, every black dude didn't have

1236
01:05:26,720 --> 01:05:31,880
Speaker 3: a thirteen inch cock, uh, and every fucking white woman

1237
01:05:31,960 --> 01:05:34,680
Speaker 3: doesn't have a big old ass, But motherfuckers love throwing

1238
01:05:34,720 --> 01:05:37,440
Speaker 3: that shit in there and putting that curve on it

1239
01:05:37,480 --> 01:05:40,640
Speaker 3: when they want to like fepicize folks. And like I said,

1240
01:05:40,680 --> 01:05:43,120
Speaker 3: it's up. I'll let other people decide how healthy unhealthy

1241
01:05:43,160 --> 01:05:47,680
Speaker 3: that is. But individually, y'all can Ala Hartley pick whatever

1242
01:05:47,680 --> 01:05:49,400
Speaker 3: the fuck y'all want. You know what I'm saying, Like

1243
01:05:49,560 --> 01:05:53,040
Speaker 3: that's on, y'all. I don't have nothing to say. But anyway,

1244
01:05:53,240 --> 01:05:56,080
Speaker 3: I know I don't understand the couk okay either, that

1245
01:05:56,240 --> 01:05:59,640
Speaker 3: is not but maybe they have another different type of

1246
01:05:59,720 --> 01:06:04,040
Speaker 3: underst standing of sex and sexuality and communication, because right,

1247
01:06:04,160 --> 01:06:07,360
Speaker 3: I mean, it's like there's people in polyamorous relationships that

1248
01:06:07,560 --> 01:06:12,440
Speaker 3: you know, deal with the feelings of the intimacy, jealousy,

1249
01:06:12,920 --> 01:06:18,240
Speaker 3: sexual attraction differently than your normal mainstream uh, you know,

1250
01:06:19,000 --> 01:06:24,000
Speaker 3: monogamous views of relationships. So there may be something to that.

1251
01:06:24,080 --> 01:06:26,920
Speaker 3: You know, maybe some each relationship is different as what

1252
01:06:26,960 --> 01:06:29,919
Speaker 3: I'm trying to say. There's some couples they sharing those

1253
01:06:29,920 --> 01:06:32,240
Speaker 3: intimate experiences by like talking about it and being like

1254
01:06:32,280 --> 01:06:34,720
Speaker 3: it was like this and then this happened. Some people

1255
01:06:34,840 --> 01:06:36,680
Speaker 3: don't ever tell me. I don't think I can handle

1256
01:06:36,760 --> 01:06:39,000
Speaker 3: that kind of shit. It's your business. I don't want

1257
01:06:39,000 --> 01:06:41,280
Speaker 3: to know who it is. No friends, no this like,

1258
01:06:41,720 --> 01:06:44,880
Speaker 3: everyone got different rules. I don't want to judge people

1259
01:06:44,920 --> 01:06:49,360
Speaker 3: for me not being into what they're into. And I

1260
01:06:49,400 --> 01:06:51,439
Speaker 3: also don't want to be judged for what the fuck,

1261
01:06:51,480 --> 01:06:53,480
Speaker 3: whatever the fuck I'm into, to be honest.

1262
01:06:55,040 --> 01:06:58,640
Speaker 2: Right, and not of that as personal preference and all

1263
01:06:58,680 --> 01:07:02,120
Speaker 2: of perfect bring you know, personal taste. And you know,

1264
01:07:02,240 --> 01:07:05,680
Speaker 2: my thing is as long as everybody is consenting, as

1265
01:07:05,800 --> 01:07:09,960
Speaker 2: long as nobody's doing anything against anybody's will, and you're

1266
01:07:10,000 --> 01:07:11,720
Speaker 2: not bringing along do whatever you please.

1267
01:07:12,160 --> 01:07:16,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's really got simple for me, all right. Next comment,

1268
01:07:17,160 --> 01:07:20,320
Speaker 3: Zinzy says Karen, I love you, thank you. This episode

1269
01:07:20,360 --> 01:07:22,439
Speaker 3: was Stella as usual, I would be sending a long

1270
01:07:22,480 --> 01:07:25,600
Speaker 3: email by all the ways I admire you too soon. Oh,

1271
01:07:25,760 --> 01:07:28,800
Speaker 3: thank you, Sinsey, thank you. Emil says, what up my

1272
01:07:28,880 --> 01:07:33,480
Speaker 3: trigs That's a short shortened version of trigger because I

1273
01:07:33,680 --> 01:07:35,920
Speaker 3: never say triggers because that's just racist.

1274
01:07:36,400 --> 01:07:37,600
Speaker 2: Ah shit now.

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Speaker 3: Thanks to Mel, thank you. Three D printed guns. Bad idea?

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Speaker 3: She I want one or no big deal? We already

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Speaker 3: have a lot of guns. Six percent of people say

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Speaker 3: no big deal, we already have a lot of guns.

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01:07:50,600 --> 01:07:54,000
Speaker 3: Eight percent say s I want one. They gotta make

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Speaker 3: them look better before I even come. Plus the one.

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Speaker 2: Them joints look they gotta work like they did in

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01:07:58,360 --> 01:08:00,720
Speaker 2: that movie with Stelling Kate Brown have a three D

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01:08:00,840 --> 01:08:03,440
Speaker 2: gun gun? Yeah, hotel movie.

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Speaker 3: But his shit looked cool, it did. This shit didn't

1285
01:08:06,200 --> 01:08:08,720
Speaker 3: look cool at all. Oh, I ain't seeing these guns.

1286
01:08:09,080 --> 01:08:11,360
Speaker 3: They look like PBC pipe. It's terrible.

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01:08:12,000 --> 01:08:12,240
Speaker 2: Uh.

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Speaker 3: And lastly, bad idea. Eighty five percent think it's a

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01:08:14,560 --> 01:08:15,080
Speaker 3: bad idea.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because I don't want to have to be afraid

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01:08:19,040 --> 01:08:23,760
Speaker 2: of like real bullets and like, uh, plastic bullets too.

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Speaker 3: I don't think the bullets are actually plastic.

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01:08:26,320 --> 01:08:28,120
Speaker 2: I remember the hell they made that up.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because you need like certain shit to make a

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01:08:30,320 --> 01:08:34,200
Speaker 3: gun fire, Like, I don't think it shoots out plastic

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Speaker 3: I think it shoots out real bullets.

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Speaker 2: Oh shit.

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01:08:38,240 --> 01:08:40,439
Speaker 3: So I don't know, man, I don't you know. Actually

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Speaker 3: I don't even know the particulars. Maybe they got plastic bullets,

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Speaker 3: ain't real bullets.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm just because I don't know nothing

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Speaker 2: about three d's and I don't want to have to

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01:08:48,680 --> 01:08:51,200
Speaker 2: worry about getting shoot by metal and nine metal bullets

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01:08:51,520 --> 01:08:51,760
Speaker 2: like that.

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01:08:51,960 --> 01:08:54,360
Speaker 3: One thing I did say, though, I did think. I

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01:08:54,439 --> 01:08:56,280
Speaker 3: realized this after we got off the air, because I

1307
01:08:56,320 --> 01:08:57,840
Speaker 3: was like, why is it n already not against this?

1308
01:08:58,040 --> 01:09:02,240
Speaker 3: And I realized because cause the idea of ghost guns

1309
01:09:02,280 --> 01:09:06,080
Speaker 3: and scary, undetakable guns is good for the NRA and

1310
01:09:06,160 --> 01:09:09,120
Speaker 3: gun nuts because it then gives more people fear to

1311
01:09:09,200 --> 01:09:11,240
Speaker 3: be like, well, now you need a gun for sure,

1312
01:09:11,240 --> 01:09:13,639
Speaker 3: because they don't even need a permit. They walk around

1313
01:09:13,680 --> 01:09:18,759
Speaker 3: with plastic guns all right. Emails the Black Hour tips

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01:09:18,840 --> 01:09:24,679
Speaker 3: at gmail dot com. Uh, this is from I hope

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01:09:24,680 --> 01:09:29,040
Speaker 3: I pronounce this right. It looks like Dow Savina Savon

1316
01:09:29,880 --> 01:09:32,280
Speaker 3: Dow Savon. I hope I pronounced that right, and if not,

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01:09:32,320 --> 01:09:35,439
Speaker 3: I'm sorry. Hello, my friend Turk put me onto your

1318
01:09:35,479 --> 01:09:37,559
Speaker 3: show and I love it. Shout out to Turk. Shout

1319
01:09:37,560 --> 01:09:39,439
Speaker 3: out to Turk. Thank you Turk, each one, teach one.

1320
01:09:39,720 --> 01:09:42,120
Speaker 3: It's sad but also so refreshing that Roder's on the

1321
01:09:42,120 --> 01:09:45,639
Speaker 3: few sis head men that is introspective, supportive of a woman

1322
01:09:45,720 --> 01:09:47,960
Speaker 3: of color, funny and smart that I actually feel like

1323
01:09:48,000 --> 01:09:50,880
Speaker 3: I can trust as a queer, radical woman of color. Well,

1324
01:09:50,920 --> 01:09:54,640
Speaker 3: that is very nice of you to say, and it

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01:09:54,800 --> 01:09:58,160
Speaker 3: is also really sad. If there are not more like

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01:09:58,760 --> 01:10:02,080
Speaker 3: I know, is the boss up that load? It is

1327
01:10:02,080 --> 01:10:05,200
Speaker 3: a low bar. Karen, congrats on getting your braces off.

1328
01:10:05,520 --> 01:10:08,200
Speaker 3: You Mine came off in December, and now I smile

1329
01:10:08,280 --> 01:10:08,840
Speaker 3: all the time.

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01:10:09,000 --> 01:10:11,120
Speaker 2: Come on, that's all I've been doing for the past

1331
01:10:11,120 --> 01:10:12,240
Speaker 2: but week just smiling.

1332
01:10:12,479 --> 01:10:13,160
Speaker 3: I smile.

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01:10:14,080 --> 01:10:15,439
Speaker 2: Come on, blinding people.

1334
01:10:16,200 --> 01:10:19,919
Speaker 3: Also, your allship, love and support of other marginalized communities

1335
01:10:20,040 --> 01:10:22,760
Speaker 3: just so appreciated and love. Thank you for being a

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01:10:22,800 --> 01:10:25,120
Speaker 3: strong woman of colored voice on these here white and

1337
01:10:25,280 --> 01:10:29,920
Speaker 3: podcast waves rather white. Yes, they are lots of phone

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01:10:30,040 --> 01:10:31,240
Speaker 3: on the podcast.

1339
01:10:30,800 --> 01:10:33,519
Speaker 2: Waves, if you know what I mean, not that much chocolate.

1340
01:10:33,560 --> 01:10:36,920
Speaker 3: I love your relationship bad to accountability and intelligence. Thank

1341
01:10:36,960 --> 01:10:39,519
Speaker 3: you for all the work that you do. Well. Thank you,

1342
01:10:39,920 --> 01:10:42,840
Speaker 3: and I'm sorry I probably fucked your name up. I tried,

1343
01:10:42,960 --> 01:10:46,200
Speaker 3: I really did. I really got to give y'all some nicknames,

1344
01:10:46,240 --> 01:10:48,840
Speaker 3: but then I sometimes people feel like that's disrespectful. So

1345
01:10:49,800 --> 01:10:53,599
Speaker 3: you know, but thank you for right now cut them

1346
01:10:53,640 --> 01:10:58,240
Speaker 3: off for your own health. This is from Derek, who says, hey,

1347
01:10:58,320 --> 01:11:01,759
Speaker 3: roding Karen, I really shape the discussion. I strongly believe

1348
01:11:01,800 --> 01:11:05,120
Speaker 3: in removing myself from unhealthy relationships. No matter who it is,

1349
01:11:05,479 --> 01:11:07,800
Speaker 3: we get to decide what we accept from people, and

1350
01:11:07,840 --> 01:11:10,320
Speaker 3: there's no way I can maintain a relationship with anyone

1351
01:11:10,560 --> 01:11:13,200
Speaker 3: who chooses to disrespect my boundaries or be abusive to

1352
01:11:13,240 --> 01:11:15,599
Speaker 3: me in any form. I at least try to communicate

1353
01:11:15,640 --> 01:11:18,559
Speaker 3: how that behavior affects me. But when nothing changes, I

1354
01:11:18,600 --> 01:11:21,479
Speaker 3: have to choose me and not apologize for it. M hmm.

1355
01:11:21,600 --> 01:11:21,960
Speaker 2: Come on.

1356
01:11:22,560 --> 01:11:25,240
Speaker 3: I recently discussed this with my oldest brother, but he

1357
01:11:25,280 --> 01:11:28,960
Speaker 3: went into that But the family argument. Family connects us, sure,

1358
01:11:29,040 --> 01:11:31,880
Speaker 3: but we should, but we should choose to ignore the

1359
01:11:31,920 --> 01:11:35,639
Speaker 3: negative impact a person who has Oh wait, but why

1360
01:11:35,640 --> 01:11:38,400
Speaker 3: should we choose to ignore the negative impact a person

1361
01:11:38,439 --> 01:11:40,920
Speaker 3: has on our lives and health? Because of that? Toxic

1362
01:11:41,080 --> 01:11:44,000
Speaker 3: is toxic, no matter the labels you placed on a relationship,

1363
01:11:44,040 --> 01:11:46,639
Speaker 3: great discussion, Long Live TVGWT.

1364
01:11:46,439 --> 01:11:50,719
Speaker 2: Right, because there are a lot of people who put

1365
01:11:50,840 --> 01:11:55,000
Speaker 2: up with all types of people where if this was

1366
01:11:55,040 --> 01:11:57,439
Speaker 2: a stranger on the street, you would cut them off.

1367
01:11:57,800 --> 01:12:01,000
Speaker 2: But because they're family, you allowed them to abuse you,

1368
01:12:01,400 --> 01:12:04,920
Speaker 2: even though for various different things. You allow them to

1369
01:12:05,080 --> 01:12:07,880
Speaker 2: use you, abuse you, and do all these other kinds

1370
01:12:07,920 --> 01:12:09,920
Speaker 2: of things to you, where if there was no relationship

1371
01:12:09,920 --> 01:12:11,799
Speaker 2: to them, you would cut them off and keep moving,

1372
01:12:12,200 --> 01:12:15,360
Speaker 2: you know, And sometimes cutting family members off actually benefit

1373
01:12:15,400 --> 01:12:17,559
Speaker 2: both parties. It benefits you and it benefits them, and

1374
01:12:17,600 --> 01:12:21,080
Speaker 2: it causes them to do self reflection. It doesn't always happen,

1375
01:12:21,080 --> 01:12:25,080
Speaker 2: but sometimes cutting them off actually will better be better

1376
01:12:25,120 --> 01:12:27,560
Speaker 2: off of them because then they'll have to depend on themselves.

1377
01:12:27,600 --> 01:12:31,719
Speaker 2: And sometimes if that person does grow and mature outside

1378
01:12:31,720 --> 01:12:33,800
Speaker 2: of that situation, they'll come back to you and be like,

1379
01:12:33,840 --> 01:12:35,760
Speaker 2: you know what, I'm glad that you cutting me off

1380
01:12:35,800 --> 01:12:39,599
Speaker 2: because you were actually my lifeline to whatever this habit

1381
01:12:39,720 --> 01:12:42,760
Speaker 2: or whatever this thing was, and I was spending out

1382
01:12:42,760 --> 01:12:45,000
Speaker 2: of control and it took me actually getting to a

1383
01:12:45,040 --> 01:12:48,240
Speaker 2: place where I hit rock bottom for me to realize

1384
01:12:48,320 --> 01:12:50,400
Speaker 2: that I was being abeastment the people something. It doesn't

1385
01:12:50,400 --> 01:12:52,920
Speaker 2: happen all the time, but sometimes that does happen.

1386
01:12:53,760 --> 01:12:56,320
Speaker 3: Laura Wright said, Hi, Rod and Karen, I snapped this

1387
01:12:56,479 --> 01:12:58,880
Speaker 3: at Sam's Club today. I thought you might enjoy. I

1388
01:12:58,960 --> 01:13:01,080
Speaker 3: love to show, and especially you love the apple comparison

1389
01:13:01,120 --> 01:13:03,960
Speaker 3: is my favorite is Mac tires. So if you have

1390
01:13:04,000 --> 01:13:06,000
Speaker 3: a chance to try to crunch you when you might

1391
01:13:06,120 --> 01:13:12,080
Speaker 3: like more the computer. Yes, more important importantly, thank you

1392
01:13:12,160 --> 01:13:14,559
Speaker 3: for such a wonderful show. The world is a better

1393
01:13:14,600 --> 01:13:16,720
Speaker 3: place to tell you in it and the wisdom and

1394
01:13:16,760 --> 01:13:18,720
Speaker 3: the points of view you share with us. Have a

1395
01:13:18,760 --> 01:13:21,280
Speaker 3: great day. Lord f in Washington, d C. And she

1396
01:13:21,400 --> 01:13:28,920
Speaker 3: sent a pic of apples at at UH Sounds Club.

1397
01:13:29,000 --> 01:13:32,519
Speaker 3: I just love that people are so excited about all.

1398
01:13:32,439 --> 01:13:35,080
Speaker 2: These types of apples.

1399
01:13:34,920 --> 01:13:37,000
Speaker 3: It's just a I mean, y'all have I'm not even

1400
01:13:37,000 --> 01:13:40,040
Speaker 3: gonna show you all picture. It's literally just imagine apples

1401
01:13:40,120 --> 01:13:42,760
Speaker 3: at the store. That's them. I liked that she saw

1402
01:13:42,760 --> 01:13:45,080
Speaker 3: that and was like, riding care need to know about this?

1403
01:13:45,160 --> 01:13:47,720
Speaker 2: And I found out there's great there's apple juice made

1404
01:13:47,720 --> 01:13:49,080
Speaker 2: out of green and Smith apples.

1405
01:13:49,320 --> 01:13:51,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, I bought some. That's how you found out. Okay,

1406
01:13:52,080 --> 01:13:54,920
Speaker 3: sitting in the refrigerator right now, I need to drink

1407
01:13:54,960 --> 01:14:00,519
Speaker 3: some magically. All right, I did before we want to

1408
01:14:00,560 --> 01:14:02,760
Speaker 3: get get out. Oh what is happening? Why did it

1409
01:14:02,840 --> 01:14:05,000
Speaker 3: do this? I did before we get out of here.

1410
01:14:05,080 --> 01:14:08,240
Speaker 3: If this comes back up, wanted to read a little

1411
01:14:08,280 --> 01:14:13,200
Speaker 3: bit of this bitch got roatures in her crib. It's good,

1412
01:14:13,600 --> 01:14:16,800
Speaker 3: just a brief excerpt for those who are trying to,

1413
01:14:16,920 --> 01:14:18,320
Speaker 3: you know, see if they should get down with this.

1414
01:14:18,560 --> 01:14:20,840
Speaker 2: It's only ninety nine cents on Amazon and free if

1415
01:14:20,840 --> 01:14:21,400
Speaker 2: you got Prime.

1416
01:14:21,560 --> 01:14:24,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's this hole got roaches in her crib. Now, Yeah,

1417
01:14:25,600 --> 01:14:29,080
Speaker 3: this is fred Kreisha, our protagonist or her main character. Yes,

1418
01:14:29,400 --> 01:14:33,200
Speaker 3: this is our introduction to her. Fred Kreisha, thirty four,

1419
01:14:33,840 --> 01:14:36,240
Speaker 3: once a vixen back in her day, was now a

1420
01:14:36,280 --> 01:14:38,880
Speaker 3: tired ass looking hoe who stood about five to five

1421
01:14:38,960 --> 01:14:41,880
Speaker 3: and weighed a solid two hundred and thirteen pounds. She

1422
01:14:41,960 --> 01:14:44,519
Speaker 3: thought she was around one seventy five, but she hadn't

1423
01:14:44,520 --> 01:14:47,880
Speaker 3: been to her general family physician, doctor Patrice, in a while.

1424
01:14:48,720 --> 01:14:51,479
Speaker 3: Her doctor was down the block at the Free Women's

1425
01:14:51,520 --> 01:14:54,320
Speaker 3: Health Clinic, but fred Kusha only made a visit when

1426
01:14:54,360 --> 01:14:57,519
Speaker 3: she had a bad yeast infection STI or when she

1427
01:14:57,840 --> 01:15:03,519
Speaker 3: get a long lasting turbulent case bacteria vaginosis known once

1428
01:15:03,520 --> 01:15:05,920
Speaker 3: for her small waist, Fred Creature was now possession of

1429
01:15:05,920 --> 01:15:10,120
Speaker 3: a plump, undefined midriff. Remnants of what was once a

1430
01:15:10,160 --> 01:15:14,000
Speaker 3: thick ass now resembled two steroid injected brown potatoes lumped together.

1431
01:15:15,000 --> 01:15:17,960
Speaker 3: A set of double dcup drooping titties hung from her

1432
01:15:18,400 --> 01:15:21,600
Speaker 3: chest with no braw on. It was visible from the

1433
01:15:21,640 --> 01:15:24,920
Speaker 3: shirt cover in her chest that she had both nipples pears.

1434
01:15:26,160 --> 01:15:29,519
Speaker 3: The biggest black satin bonnet cap crowned Fred Creakers cra

1435
01:15:29,680 --> 01:15:33,960
Speaker 3: Creature's head this morning, matching the slightly torn up black

1436
01:15:34,000 --> 01:15:36,920
Speaker 3: white beater wrapped around her chest and torso. A big

1437
01:15:37,040 --> 01:15:40,720
Speaker 3: Celtic cross tattoo was etched onto her unshaven right arm.

1438
01:15:41,439 --> 01:15:44,280
Speaker 3: A spread of angel wings was tatted across her upper chest.

1439
01:15:45,080 --> 01:15:48,880
Speaker 3: Some faded blue denim Bermuta shorts she brought some years

1440
01:15:48,920 --> 01:15:52,599
Speaker 3: ago from the Rainbow store not too far away, tightly

1441
01:15:52,680 --> 01:15:56,759
Speaker 3: snugged her cellulate ridden legs. Under the sour smelling bonnet

1442
01:15:56,840 --> 01:16:01,040
Speaker 3: was seven corn rows braided into the ratchet mother's skull. Yesterday,

1443
01:16:01,479 --> 01:16:04,720
Speaker 3: Maya's disability check Frey Cushia had the girl diagnosed with ADHD.

1444
01:16:05,120 --> 01:16:08,519
Speaker 3: To get them social security federal government coins came in

1445
01:16:08,560 --> 01:16:11,639
Speaker 3: the mail and rather than use the funds towards good

1446
01:16:12,400 --> 01:16:15,599
Speaker 3: use like tutoring or after schoolcare. A bitch was about

1447
01:16:15,640 --> 01:16:19,920
Speaker 3: to go get her hair, nails, and feet done. That's

1448
01:16:20,000 --> 01:16:22,800
Speaker 3: just a little bit. That's like chapter one. This is

1449
01:16:22,800 --> 01:16:25,479
Speaker 3: a little taste of what we're getting into. Okay, I'm

1450
01:16:25,479 --> 01:16:28,840
Speaker 3: already like chapter five. Okay, I'm at the what it

1451
01:16:28,920 --> 01:16:30,960
Speaker 3: appears to be about to be a gang bang in

1452
01:16:31,040 --> 01:16:36,080
Speaker 3: the roach field, horrible horrible sounding apartment. Yes, yes, from

1453
01:16:36,120 --> 01:16:39,559
Speaker 3: two dope boys. So from two dope boys. All right, y'all,

1454
01:16:39,640 --> 01:16:43,840
Speaker 3: thank you so much for listening. We appreciate y'all, and

1455
01:16:44,479 --> 01:16:49,600
Speaker 3: we'll be back tomorrow. So until then, make sure you

1456
01:16:49,680 --> 01:16:52,360
Speaker 3: guys continue to tune into the show. Makes you get

1457
01:16:52,520 --> 01:16:55,240
Speaker 3: tickets to go see us live in September, and we'd

1458
01:16:55,280 --> 01:16:58,360
Speaker 3: love to see you all there. We would, we would

1459
01:16:59,240 --> 01:17:02,040
Speaker 3: some goodie Doug gonna be giving away to people. I've

1460
01:17:02,080 --> 01:17:04,559
Speaker 3: said too much. We have to go until next time.

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01:17:04,720 --> 01:17:06,000
Speaker 2: I love you, I love you too.

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01:17:06,280 --> 01:17:06,479
Speaker 1: Why