1 00:00:12,200 --> 00:00:15,680 Speaker 1: I had Grin's thirteenth birthday weekend. I put my body 2 00:00:15,720 --> 00:00:18,160 Speaker 1: into everything I do, and it gets it's so exhausting 3 00:00:18,160 --> 00:00:19,960 Speaker 1: because it doesn't matter. I make a big deal out 4 00:00:19,960 --> 00:00:21,840 Speaker 1: of everything. I make a big deal out of things 5 00:00:21,880 --> 00:00:24,840 Speaker 1: I buy at the dollar store. Ironically, I was going 6 00:00:24,920 --> 00:00:26,520 Speaker 1: to say things I buy it ames. I make no 7 00:00:26,720 --> 00:00:28,920 Speaker 1: big deal out of things I buy at Armez. But 8 00:00:29,040 --> 00:00:32,280 Speaker 1: every event, every moment, every barbecue, every person that comes over, 9 00:00:32,360 --> 00:00:34,760 Speaker 1: every playdate, every it's a lot. It's a lot of pressure. 10 00:00:34,760 --> 00:00:36,920 Speaker 1: I put it all on myself taking my daughter to 11 00:00:36,960 --> 00:00:38,640 Speaker 1: Taylor Swift, like I have to make it a thing. 12 00:00:38,680 --> 00:00:41,160 Speaker 1: And we're going to Philadelphia because we got better seats there, 13 00:00:41,640 --> 00:00:45,040 Speaker 1: and we're going in my Sprinter, which is my van, 14 00:00:45,479 --> 00:00:47,080 Speaker 1: and we're staying in a hotel and I'm taking a 15 00:00:47,120 --> 00:00:49,800 Speaker 1: girlfriend and like what am I wearing? And you know, 16 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:52,479 Speaker 1: I just like everything to be exciting and fun. So 17 00:00:52,840 --> 00:00:54,760 Speaker 1: but it doesn't have to be expensive by any means. 18 00:00:54,800 --> 00:00:57,640 Speaker 1: Like we were talking about the Kardashians like birthday parties 19 00:00:57,680 --> 00:00:59,880 Speaker 1: and things, It's not like that at all. I had 20 00:00:59,920 --> 00:01:02,920 Speaker 1: a slumber party last weekend. And my thing is not 21 00:01:02,960 --> 00:01:05,880 Speaker 1: to spend money on gifts, is to spend money on experiences. 22 00:01:06,360 --> 00:01:08,600 Speaker 1: Like I think I've told you before. If Brinn gets something, 23 00:01:08,959 --> 00:01:11,000 Speaker 1: she gets rid of two things. If she wants omah, 24 00:01:11,040 --> 00:01:12,600 Speaker 1: can I get that lip gloss or something, I'm like, 25 00:01:12,680 --> 00:01:14,720 Speaker 1: go get three of the garbage expired loop glosses out 26 00:01:14,720 --> 00:01:17,000 Speaker 1: of your draw and sure, like not every time, but 27 00:01:18,600 --> 00:01:21,560 Speaker 1: I have guidelines and her friends in many cases have 28 00:01:21,920 --> 00:01:24,640 Speaker 1: more fancy makeup than she does, because I'm not just 29 00:01:24,800 --> 00:01:27,600 Speaker 1: at the place of yes with spending, but I really 30 00:01:27,640 --> 00:01:30,840 Speaker 1: do like experiences. And since she was little, I would 31 00:01:30,880 --> 00:01:32,760 Speaker 1: say to brand I want you to choose friends that 32 00:01:32,840 --> 00:01:34,520 Speaker 1: you want to be around, not like you have to 33 00:01:34,520 --> 00:01:36,360 Speaker 1: invite your whole class or any kind of rules, like 34 00:01:37,000 --> 00:01:39,360 Speaker 1: girls that you want to spend time. And she would 35 00:01:39,400 --> 00:01:41,640 Speaker 1: think about it, and she would then pick a couple 36 00:01:41,680 --> 00:01:43,399 Speaker 1: of girls and it woud usually be like four or five, 37 00:01:43,840 --> 00:01:46,240 Speaker 1: you know, sometimes six, but it would be a specific 38 00:01:46,240 --> 00:01:49,200 Speaker 1: group and then we would do a special experience. One 39 00:01:49,280 --> 00:01:53,640 Speaker 1: year we went to they have these in New York City. 40 00:01:53,640 --> 00:01:56,520 Speaker 1: They have this carousel that has these like amazing beautiful 41 00:01:56,520 --> 00:01:58,840 Speaker 1: fish chairs, like they look like you're under the sea, 42 00:01:58,920 --> 00:02:02,000 Speaker 1: like shell shell seats and stuff, and take them on 43 00:02:02,040 --> 00:02:04,920 Speaker 1: the Merry Go Round and then I took them out. 44 00:02:04,960 --> 00:02:06,600 Speaker 1: I think that time I took them to like mister 45 00:02:06,840 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 1: I took them to Mister Chow because bring Love's restaurant, 46 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:12,000 Speaker 1: and then they were all dancing in the basement, uh, 47 00:02:12,200 --> 00:02:14,560 Speaker 1: doing tiktoks or whatever dances it was. And one time 48 00:02:14,560 --> 00:02:16,240 Speaker 1: I took her to a make your own ice cream 49 00:02:16,240 --> 00:02:18,919 Speaker 1: place all the way uptown that you it's called cool 50 00:02:19,000 --> 00:02:20,600 Speaker 1: something and you get to make your own ice cream. 51 00:02:21,720 --> 00:02:24,160 Speaker 1: And I forgot where we had dinner. And one time 52 00:02:24,160 --> 00:02:26,280 Speaker 1: I took her to them to Jersey to go make 53 00:02:26,760 --> 00:02:28,840 Speaker 1: their own jeans and they got to paint their own 54 00:02:28,919 --> 00:02:30,359 Speaker 1: jeans and it was oh. And then we went to 55 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:32,320 Speaker 1: an Italian restaurant or we will ordered it, and I 56 00:02:32,360 --> 00:02:35,960 Speaker 1: think from there it was always an experience and I've 57 00:02:36,080 --> 00:02:38,760 Speaker 1: kept that tradition. One year I took her and a 58 00:02:38,800 --> 00:02:42,200 Speaker 1: friend to Disney when she was little like And sometimes 59 00:02:42,240 --> 00:02:44,680 Speaker 1: it's marketing. Sometimes I know, uh, oh, I got an 60 00:02:44,720 --> 00:02:47,040 Speaker 1: appearance in Orlando and I can go, or sometimes I 61 00:02:47,080 --> 00:02:48,720 Speaker 1: got a trip to Mexico or something. I have to 62 00:02:48,760 --> 00:02:50,960 Speaker 1: go somewhere for something, and I'll then wrap it up 63 00:02:50,960 --> 00:02:53,760 Speaker 1: and go around her birthday and make it her birthday drip. 64 00:02:53,760 --> 00:02:57,760 Speaker 1: But it's always an experience. So this year she said, 65 00:02:57,840 --> 00:02:59,280 Speaker 1: you know, we have a guest house, and she said, 66 00:02:59,280 --> 00:03:02,760 Speaker 1: can we do a sleep And I thought, they're gonna 67 00:03:02,760 --> 00:03:05,280 Speaker 1: be on the property, I'm gonna be thinking about it, 68 00:03:05,600 --> 00:03:07,040 Speaker 1: or they're gonna be in my basement and they're gonna 69 00:03:07,040 --> 00:03:08,600 Speaker 1: be loud, and it's gonna be a mess, and I'm 70 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:10,720 Speaker 1: too neurotic to have to clean everything up and whatever, 71 00:03:10,760 --> 00:03:14,000 Speaker 1: and it's gonna end up being you know, expensive anyway, 72 00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:18,080 Speaker 1: and it's gonna be not relaxing. And by no means 73 00:03:18,080 --> 00:03:21,280 Speaker 1: did it end up being relaxing, but it was exactly 74 00:03:21,360 --> 00:03:23,200 Speaker 1: what it was supposed to be. So I said, I'm 75 00:03:23,200 --> 00:03:26,359 Speaker 1: gonna get you a hotel room that had a nice hotel, 76 00:03:26,360 --> 00:03:29,120 Speaker 1: a fine hotel, like not you know, the plaza or anything. 77 00:03:29,680 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 1: And I'm gonna get a big suite, like a corporate suite, 78 00:03:34,200 --> 00:03:37,680 Speaker 1: you know, they don't need fancy, and you can invite 79 00:03:37,720 --> 00:03:39,480 Speaker 1: how many girls you wantavite. And she ended up inviting 80 00:03:39,560 --> 00:03:43,280 Speaker 1: seven girls. And I bought these amazing gift bags. The 81 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:46,040 Speaker 1: theme was cherries. They had an indoor pool and a 82 00:03:46,080 --> 00:03:48,840 Speaker 1: jacuzzie at the place, so I bought these amazing gift 83 00:03:48,840 --> 00:03:51,720 Speaker 1: bags that were so cute and not expensive, A cute towel, 84 00:03:52,080 --> 00:03:55,440 Speaker 1: pink flip flops, these cherry pajamas, these cute little cherry 85 00:03:55,440 --> 00:03:58,400 Speaker 1: tank tops, my beauty makeup that I get, like, I 86 00:03:58,400 --> 00:04:00,440 Speaker 1: gave them each like a different makeup thing, this cute 87 00:04:00,480 --> 00:04:05,680 Speaker 1: little heart shaped makeup led mirror that lights up like candy, 88 00:04:06,080 --> 00:04:09,440 Speaker 1: and makeup sponges, and just like a whole bag of 89 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:13,000 Speaker 1: stuff that entreats and all this stuff. And then I 90 00:04:13,040 --> 00:04:15,160 Speaker 1: got all these different balloons, it said Brinn and like 91 00:04:15,240 --> 00:04:17,880 Speaker 1: heart balloons everywhere, but I lined up the bag so 92 00:04:17,960 --> 00:04:22,000 Speaker 1: they became decor and I bought these literally they were 93 00:04:22,000 --> 00:04:26,440 Speaker 1: like five dollars furry pillows, cherry pillows, and ordered in 94 00:04:27,680 --> 00:04:31,839 Speaker 1: you know, from the pizza chain, like stuffed pizza, and 95 00:04:31,880 --> 00:04:35,560 Speaker 1: like all the garlic wings and knots and cheese stuff 96 00:04:35,560 --> 00:04:40,359 Speaker 1: and just all this great food. And it had a 97 00:04:40,360 --> 00:04:42,560 Speaker 1: little bit of a choreography to it. Meeting, everybody got 98 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:45,320 Speaker 1: there and then we did food an hour later, and 99 00:04:45,320 --> 00:04:47,080 Speaker 1: then they all wanted to go night swimming, and they 100 00:04:47,120 --> 00:04:48,919 Speaker 1: swam to like eleven, and I made rules that they 101 00:04:48,920 --> 00:04:51,279 Speaker 1: had to be locked in the room. I gave them grounds. 102 00:04:51,320 --> 00:04:53,520 Speaker 1: You cannot run through the hallway and athletic animals. You're 103 00:04:53,520 --> 00:04:57,400 Speaker 1: representing me, and you could be representing anyone, but I 104 00:04:57,440 --> 00:04:59,840 Speaker 1: am a public person and you're not gonna get thrown 105 00:04:59,839 --> 00:05:01,280 Speaker 1: out to hear. I'm not gonna be embarrassing and to 106 00:05:01,360 --> 00:05:03,720 Speaker 1: be respectful. And that's why I got them shoes. I 107 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:05,520 Speaker 1: didn't want toyone break in their leg or them slipping 108 00:05:05,560 --> 00:05:07,200 Speaker 1: water through. And I got them their own towels so 109 00:05:07,200 --> 00:05:09,120 Speaker 1: we didn't trash the hotel like it was stuff that 110 00:05:09,120 --> 00:05:11,320 Speaker 1: they could keep, but that also was functional for the event. 111 00:05:12,080 --> 00:05:14,240 Speaker 1: And they went down swimming, and Paul realized that our 112 00:05:14,279 --> 00:05:16,320 Speaker 1: room was looking right over the pool, which was amazing, 113 00:05:16,360 --> 00:05:18,360 Speaker 1: so I could see them. They were taking jacuzzi's, they 114 00:05:18,360 --> 00:05:20,640 Speaker 1: were on each other's shoulders doing like those chicken bytes 115 00:05:20,680 --> 00:05:22,839 Speaker 1: and all that stuff. And then they came back and 116 00:05:22,839 --> 00:05:24,400 Speaker 1: I said to bring like, you're not allowed to leave 117 00:05:24,440 --> 00:05:26,600 Speaker 1: the room, like because we weren't next to them. I 118 00:05:26,600 --> 00:05:28,240 Speaker 1: also did because it wouldn't have been fair to us, we 119 00:05:28,279 --> 00:05:32,359 Speaker 1: wouldn't be sleeping. So I wore a cherry sweater, like 120 00:05:32,360 --> 00:05:35,240 Speaker 1: a a Gucci cherry sweater I was. I Paul wore 121 00:05:35,360 --> 00:05:37,640 Speaker 1: red pajamas. I wore red pajamas just because we get 122 00:05:37,640 --> 00:05:40,000 Speaker 1: into the theme of it. I got them cute cupcakes 123 00:05:40,040 --> 00:05:42,000 Speaker 1: that said happy Birthday, Brain. But it wasn't like over 124 00:05:42,040 --> 00:05:44,680 Speaker 1: the top money or anything. It was it was expensive, 125 00:05:44,800 --> 00:05:48,000 Speaker 1: you know, by most American standards, but it wasn't what 126 00:05:48,040 --> 00:05:52,360 Speaker 1: you'd think like I would do. And then and they, 127 00:05:52,440 --> 00:05:53,960 Speaker 1: you know, and they all wanted to hang out in 128 00:05:54,000 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 1: our room too, which was so cute, Like they kept 129 00:05:55,680 --> 00:05:57,360 Speaker 1: coming down because Paul and I ordered dinner with my 130 00:05:57,400 --> 00:05:59,640 Speaker 1: assistant and they kept coming down to our room, which 131 00:05:59,680 --> 00:06:01,480 Speaker 1: is like, we're cool, And it was really funny that 132 00:06:01,520 --> 00:06:03,520 Speaker 1: I was like, get out of here, like go live 133 00:06:03,560 --> 00:06:06,159 Speaker 1: your life. And they ended up watching Pitch Perfect and 134 00:06:06,240 --> 00:06:08,760 Speaker 1: another movie, and they went to bed at one point 135 00:06:08,760 --> 00:06:10,960 Speaker 1: thirty in the morning. They were so good. I kept 136 00:06:10,960 --> 00:06:12,520 Speaker 1: worrying that they were gonna be ants all over the 137 00:06:12,560 --> 00:06:14,479 Speaker 1: room because when we had cupcakes, I had seen some 138 00:06:14,520 --> 00:06:16,039 Speaker 1: ants in the room, and I was worried that like 139 00:06:16,160 --> 00:06:18,640 Speaker 1: all the food and they'd be disgusting. And I'd go 140 00:06:18,760 --> 00:06:20,360 Speaker 1: back in the room the next morning to get them 141 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:22,400 Speaker 1: up because I have a breakfast surprise for them. We 142 00:06:22,480 --> 00:06:24,080 Speaker 1: brought them Dunkin Donuts and then I was like, we're 143 00:06:24,080 --> 00:06:26,240 Speaker 1: going to go to this really cool diner that has 144 00:06:26,320 --> 00:06:29,200 Speaker 1: new telepancakes and like sparklers coming out of them and 145 00:06:29,279 --> 00:06:33,520 Speaker 1: waffles and cake shakes and like crazy stuff you can't imagine. 146 00:06:33,520 --> 00:06:35,839 Speaker 1: And they didn't know that was like literally a birthday 147 00:06:35,839 --> 00:06:39,760 Speaker 1: party all over again. But I went there on my 148 00:06:39,800 --> 00:06:41,720 Speaker 1: social media and I just thought, it's so close to her. 149 00:06:41,760 --> 00:06:43,640 Speaker 1: We have to just finish it off because I just 150 00:06:43,920 --> 00:06:46,120 Speaker 1: always want to do more. My daughter is such a 151 00:06:46,160 --> 00:06:49,440 Speaker 1: grateful person. So that night she thanked me five times 152 00:06:49,480 --> 00:06:52,040 Speaker 1: on text in person, hugging me, telling Paul, thank you 153 00:06:52,120 --> 00:06:53,839 Speaker 1: so much, Mommy, thank you so much, Mommy, it's the 154 00:06:53,839 --> 00:06:56,760 Speaker 1: best birthday ever. She couldn't. She was like exasperated by 155 00:06:56,760 --> 00:06:59,360 Speaker 1: thanking me with thanking with thank yous inside of her. 156 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:01,560 Speaker 1: And the next morning I went to get the girls 157 00:07:01,640 --> 00:07:04,760 Speaker 1: up and they were respectful, and one of them was 158 00:07:04,800 --> 00:07:06,440 Speaker 1: helping me with the wet towels and they asked me 159 00:07:06,480 --> 00:07:09,400 Speaker 1: if I needed help, and I walked in. Everything was clean, 160 00:07:09,480 --> 00:07:12,320 Speaker 1: The whole room was immaculate. They threw all the pizzas away, 161 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:14,560 Speaker 1: all the flip flups and shoes were lined up, and 162 00:07:14,560 --> 00:07:16,920 Speaker 1: I walked in, I go, what the hell And one 163 00:07:16,960 --> 00:07:19,920 Speaker 1: of them said that was brand Brindad that she cleaned 164 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:21,120 Speaker 1: up the room. She made it. You know, she had 165 00:07:21,120 --> 00:07:24,520 Speaker 1: as clean with her because wanted to be respectful like 166 00:07:24,920 --> 00:07:28,920 Speaker 1: she's getting She's thirteen today, and she wanted to be 167 00:07:28,960 --> 00:07:32,280 Speaker 1: respectful like she she knew that she was grateful for 168 00:07:32,320 --> 00:07:33,880 Speaker 1: what had happened. She knew she was a big girl. 169 00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:36,800 Speaker 1: I gave her freedom. It wasn't next to her like 170 00:07:36,840 --> 00:07:38,000 Speaker 1: she thought, We're gonna be in the room next to 171 00:07:38,040 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 1: her telling her shut up all night, And I didn't. 172 00:07:40,080 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 1: I said it after twelve o'clock. It's not screaming like 173 00:07:43,120 --> 00:07:45,280 Speaker 1: and she did. They just they got the memo. Kids 174 00:07:45,320 --> 00:07:49,040 Speaker 1: want structure, but they also want discipline and like it's 175 00:07:49,040 --> 00:07:51,560 Speaker 1: a give and take. And my daughter really respects me 176 00:07:51,680 --> 00:07:54,080 Speaker 1: and she trusts me, and she won't break that trust. 177 00:07:54,240 --> 00:07:56,040 Speaker 1: She's got it going too good. And I tell her, 178 00:07:56,040 --> 00:07:58,760 Speaker 1: like the party will go on forever. If you're a 179 00:07:58,800 --> 00:08:01,280 Speaker 1: good person, a good girl, you give back. And the 180 00:08:01,360 --> 00:08:03,240 Speaker 1: room was immaculate. And I didn't even need her to 181 00:08:03,280 --> 00:08:04,520 Speaker 1: do that. I just wanted there to be no aunts 182 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:07,040 Speaker 1: in the room. But she lined up all the shoes 183 00:08:07,400 --> 00:08:09,400 Speaker 1: and I didn't feel embarrassed to checking out. I thought, 184 00:08:09,440 --> 00:08:11,440 Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm going to check out and like 185 00:08:11,720 --> 00:08:13,480 Speaker 1: it's gonna be a shit shown me be Johnny Depp, 186 00:08:13,520 --> 00:08:15,960 Speaker 1: and it wasn't. It was totally fine, Like I felt 187 00:08:16,280 --> 00:08:19,840 Speaker 1: fine leaving this hotel, and I was proud of her, 188 00:08:19,880 --> 00:08:22,280 Speaker 1: and I was thinking about it for two days straight. 189 00:08:22,320 --> 00:08:24,200 Speaker 1: It's like being an adult. You're happier for the stuff 190 00:08:24,200 --> 00:08:25,480 Speaker 1: that goes on with your kids than your own shit. 191 00:08:25,560 --> 00:08:27,920 Speaker 1: I don't do anything. All I do is think about 192 00:08:27,920 --> 00:08:30,840 Speaker 1: these experiences with her. It gives me purpose. I'm not 193 00:08:30,960 --> 00:08:33,080 Speaker 1: social at all. I get to plan something, I get 194 00:08:33,120 --> 00:08:36,040 Speaker 1: to stuff the bags. It gave me such gratitude. I 195 00:08:36,120 --> 00:08:38,960 Speaker 1: lived for it and I loved it, and like I 196 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:42,280 Speaker 1: was excited because some of this stuff came shipped late 197 00:08:42,600 --> 00:08:44,640 Speaker 1: and I still have like enough stuff for next time 198 00:08:44,800 --> 00:08:48,000 Speaker 1: or like a next pool party. I don't know. I honestly, 199 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:50,280 Speaker 1: the thought that I had was like I was never 200 00:08:50,360 --> 00:08:53,320 Speaker 1: had the mothering gene. I never had baby fever, and 201 00:08:53,400 --> 00:08:55,199 Speaker 1: I had a daughter late. I was like in my 202 00:08:55,320 --> 00:08:58,640 Speaker 1: late thirties, never thought about it. So I never had 203 00:08:58,640 --> 00:09:02,439 Speaker 1: the baby fever, and I now can say, in twenty 204 00:09:02,440 --> 00:09:05,240 Speaker 1: twenty hindsight, I was born to be a mother, like 205 00:09:05,440 --> 00:09:08,319 Speaker 1: I Actually, there are many things that I'm bad at 206 00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:09,920 Speaker 1: and there are many things that I'm good at, and 207 00:09:09,960 --> 00:09:12,160 Speaker 1: being a parent is one of them. Like I'm on 208 00:09:12,480 --> 00:09:14,959 Speaker 1: the case, and Brinn has some friends that are faster 209 00:09:15,040 --> 00:09:17,240 Speaker 1: than others, and I am guiding her in the right 210 00:09:17,240 --> 00:09:20,160 Speaker 1: direction who to be friends with. And she has some 211 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:22,840 Speaker 1: friends whose parents parent like me, and she's attracted to 212 00:09:22,880 --> 00:09:25,160 Speaker 1: those kids too. She's like, I like this kid because 213 00:09:25,160 --> 00:09:27,240 Speaker 1: I like this kid, but I also like the way 214 00:09:27,280 --> 00:09:30,560 Speaker 1: this kid parents them. She feels safe around people who 215 00:09:30,559 --> 00:09:34,280 Speaker 1: have parents that have similar sensibilities, and you know, they're 216 00:09:34,280 --> 00:09:37,400 Speaker 1: at an age now where they're turning towards adulthood, like 217 00:09:37,559 --> 00:09:42,920 Speaker 1: young adulthood, and everything sounds like it's okay. Like you 218 00:09:43,040 --> 00:09:44,559 Speaker 1: they want to do something like why we did it 219 00:09:44,600 --> 00:09:46,319 Speaker 1: last week or why this person does it? And I'm like, 220 00:09:46,360 --> 00:09:49,000 Speaker 1: I know it only has happened once. So like they 221 00:09:49,040 --> 00:09:51,320 Speaker 1: take ubers and I'm like, you know, Paul's giving her 222 00:09:51,360 --> 00:09:54,560 Speaker 1: strict uber rules and and we're we don't. I'm like, 223 00:09:54,600 --> 00:09:57,480 Speaker 1: you can't just take ubers, Like there's no just taking ubers. 224 00:09:57,960 --> 00:10:00,720 Speaker 1: You'll take uber as I you and I'll put it 225 00:10:00,720 --> 00:10:02,840 Speaker 1: on your phone, but like you're not just running around 226 00:10:02,840 --> 00:10:04,760 Speaker 1: an uber at thirteen years old. Because I saw her 227 00:10:04,800 --> 00:10:07,960 Speaker 1: and her friends going to get an uber to go somewhere, 228 00:10:07,960 --> 00:10:09,760 Speaker 1: and I saw them wandering around and looking for the guy. 229 00:10:09,760 --> 00:10:11,520 Speaker 1: And that's when you're not you're not focused. You know, 230 00:10:11,679 --> 00:10:13,800 Speaker 1: you're looking down at your phone and you're not focused. 231 00:10:26,280 --> 00:10:28,319 Speaker 1: So they're like advance. It's a weird age where there's 232 00:10:28,320 --> 00:10:30,080 Speaker 1: still kids when they think they're adults. And what I 233 00:10:30,120 --> 00:10:31,880 Speaker 1: was doing at that age is not something to even 234 00:10:31,920 --> 00:10:33,360 Speaker 1: I mean, it's going to I was going to night 235 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:35,000 Speaker 1: clubs at thirteen years old. It is a fact I 236 00:10:35,040 --> 00:10:37,040 Speaker 1: was doing things I should not be doing. I was 237 00:10:37,040 --> 00:10:38,599 Speaker 1: taking the train in I was an adult. I was 238 00:10:38,679 --> 00:10:40,480 Speaker 1: raised like I was an adult. I was born an 239 00:10:40,520 --> 00:10:43,360 Speaker 1: adult at different times and I don't care. But like 240 00:10:44,679 --> 00:10:46,760 Speaker 1: one of the friends, you know, parents was having a 241 00:10:46,800 --> 00:10:49,679 Speaker 1: birthday party and saying that something they were gonna do 242 00:10:49,720 --> 00:10:51,600 Speaker 1: for the birthday party was gonna let out very late, 243 00:10:51,640 --> 00:10:53,120 Speaker 1: in that the parent wouldn't be present and the kids 244 00:10:53,120 --> 00:10:54,440 Speaker 1: would be sort of in the city at one o'clock 245 00:10:54,480 --> 00:10:58,120 Speaker 1: in the morning, and you know, I just one of 246 00:10:58,120 --> 00:10:59,640 Speaker 1: the parents was in the chat, and I didn't realize 247 00:10:59,679 --> 00:11:02,240 Speaker 1: how many I thought we were in another chat, and 248 00:11:02,240 --> 00:11:04,040 Speaker 1: I like read it late because sometimes I don't read 249 00:11:04,080 --> 00:11:05,920 Speaker 1: all the chatter, and you gotta read the chatter, and 250 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:07,400 Speaker 1: you gotta connect with the parents, and you gotta be 251 00:11:07,440 --> 00:11:11,280 Speaker 1: on the case. Because one parent felt weird being the 252 00:11:11,280 --> 00:11:14,000 Speaker 1: one to say this doesn't feel appropriate for my child, 253 00:11:14,400 --> 00:11:16,840 Speaker 1: so I chimed in and said it's not appropriate for me. 254 00:11:17,280 --> 00:11:19,120 Speaker 1: And they were like side texts going on with different 255 00:11:19,160 --> 00:11:23,480 Speaker 1: parents thanking me because parents' kids are saying to them. 256 00:11:23,480 --> 00:11:25,679 Speaker 1: But everybody's doing it, and the parents get bullied too, 257 00:11:25,760 --> 00:11:28,120 Speaker 1: like by the kids that they think they're supposed to 258 00:11:28,120 --> 00:11:30,720 Speaker 1: make the kids happy because everybody's advanced, Like everybody's going 259 00:11:31,160 --> 00:11:33,520 Speaker 1: through New York City to Target and CBS and walking 260 00:11:33,600 --> 00:11:35,319 Speaker 1: around the city, which is not the city it used 261 00:11:35,320 --> 00:11:38,240 Speaker 1: to be. And I'm okay with being the dork parent, 262 00:11:38,320 --> 00:11:40,080 Speaker 1: Like I'm fine with that. Like you're not getting in 263 00:11:40,080 --> 00:11:43,400 Speaker 1: an uber unless I know about it and unless I've 264 00:11:43,440 --> 00:11:46,880 Speaker 1: tracked you, and it's an extenuating circumstance, and you're not 265 00:11:46,920 --> 00:11:48,480 Speaker 1: just running around the city and you're not gonna be 266 00:11:48,559 --> 00:11:52,240 Speaker 1: in the city anywhere alone past ten thirty at night, 267 00:11:52,320 --> 00:11:55,240 Speaker 1: like with you have to be have adult supervision anyway. 268 00:11:55,240 --> 00:11:58,360 Speaker 1: But like the horse gets loose, and I was like, 269 00:11:58,480 --> 00:12:01,800 Speaker 1: no way, and I talk to brain I'm explaining to her, 270 00:12:01,840 --> 00:12:04,760 Speaker 1: like it seems okay. One time something happens, your life 271 00:12:04,800 --> 00:12:08,200 Speaker 1: is over, Like there's no unsupervised and I don't care. 272 00:12:08,320 --> 00:12:10,920 Speaker 1: And I know Paul's kid, it's sixteen, isn't allowed to 273 00:12:11,000 --> 00:12:13,800 Speaker 1: be somewhere at ten thirty. I mean at night A 274 00:12:13,840 --> 00:12:17,120 Speaker 1: lot you know, with not not parents, they're kids and 275 00:12:17,160 --> 00:12:20,160 Speaker 1: they should be kids. And I'm on the case completely 276 00:12:20,280 --> 00:12:22,080 Speaker 1: and I like being on the case. But this is 277 00:12:22,080 --> 00:12:24,480 Speaker 1: a job that I feel that I'm good at and 278 00:12:24,559 --> 00:12:28,240 Speaker 1: I feel that I've got I like, I like it. 279 00:12:28,679 --> 00:12:30,600 Speaker 1: If you love something, you'll be good at it. And 280 00:12:30,679 --> 00:12:33,440 Speaker 1: I really love it. So that's what I think about 281 00:12:33,480 --> 00:12:36,040 Speaker 1: parenting in between and all that stuff.