WEBVTT - The Return of Love Man

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<v Speaker 1>I Suck Dating with Denglert and Dared Haven and I

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<v Speaker 1>heard radio podcast What's going on? Everyone? Welcome to an

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<v Speaker 1>all new installment of help I Suck at Dating. We've

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<v Speaker 1>got a great episode for you today, a great guest, Lisa.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna but your last name bill You? Oh well done? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's perfect. You heard that, Lisa, bill You is here

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<v Speaker 1>joining us. She is a boss you you. It's funny

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<v Speaker 1>because you've got a lot of superheroes behind you, all

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<v Speaker 1>female superheroes, and I feel like you perfectly exemplify that

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<v Speaker 1>in everyday life. Just judging by your bio here, Um,

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<v Speaker 1>you are the co founder of Quest Nutrition, uh, co

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<v Speaker 1>founder of President Impact Theory. So, Lisa, what else have

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<v Speaker 1>you been up to? Because it sounds like you're a busy,

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<v Speaker 1>busy girl. How much? Thank you so much for having me.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like super excited to be here with you guys.

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<v Speaker 1>And so yeah, I've just been in a book and

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<v Speaker 1>it's kind of crazy. Everything I do in my life,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm always thinking I'm the new b Who am I

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<v Speaker 1>to into this field? Um? And that's kind of part

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<v Speaker 1>of my journey where I came from eight years of

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<v Speaker 1>being a supportive wife, just taking care of my husband,

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<v Speaker 1>coming back from a Greek Orthodox family that was kind

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<v Speaker 1>of what I thought I would fall into. Um and

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<v Speaker 1>being stuck for eight years and really realizing that wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>what the life I wanted and that I had lost

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<v Speaker 1>all my hopes and my dreams and um so I

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<v Speaker 1>got thrust into a startup company called Quest Nutrition. We

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<v Speaker 1>grew up fifty seven percent, and in that process I

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<v Speaker 1>learned and fell in love with the progression of change

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<v Speaker 1>and the and the journey of learning something new. So

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<v Speaker 1>I actually pride myself on being the person that tries

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<v Speaker 1>different things even if I think I'm going to fail,

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<v Speaker 1>to see how I love it, to see how it fits.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm currently you've caught me on my journey of

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<v Speaker 1>having written my first book and graduation. That's azing. And

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<v Speaker 1>like I think people, I mean, that's a quest bars.

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<v Speaker 1>First of all, my favorite, of my favorite is cookies

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<v Speaker 1>and cream. But like Quest as massive. If you go

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<v Speaker 1>to any gym, you have a quest bar there. I mean, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think it can be understated how big this

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<v Speaker 1>company is. Yes, it was even surprising to us. So

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I had, like I said, I it was

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<v Speaker 1>to stay at home wife. I was very traditional or

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<v Speaker 1>take care of my husband. I was cooking, I was

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<v Speaker 1>cleaning for him, and um, he was trying to go

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<v Speaker 1>out and you know, start on an entrepreneurial journey, and

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<v Speaker 1>he hated what he was doing. And so we just

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<v Speaker 1>committed to changing our lives to doing something that actually

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<v Speaker 1>filled up and that's predicated on passion and purpose. And

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<v Speaker 1>so him and his business partners at the time, they

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<v Speaker 1>had built this like tech company that they all hated,

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<v Speaker 1>and so they said, what would we do every single day?

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<v Speaker 1>It was predicated on passion and purpose. We can get

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<v Speaker 1>up every day for that, and so that turned into

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<v Speaker 1>a health protein bar. Me being the supportive wife, I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, oh, I'll help you, babe what you need.

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<v Speaker 1>And so it just started off like, oh, just handmake

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<v Speaker 1>bars with like knives and rolling pins and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>just ship a couple of bars from your living room floor.

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<v Speaker 1>That's okay. Now, we didn't expect to grow at fifty

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<v Speaker 1>seven thousand percent. So we went from um, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>zero to a billion dollar company within five years. We

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<v Speaker 1>went from zero to a billion dollar company in five years,

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<v Speaker 1>a billion wild so we um, yes. So it was

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<v Speaker 1>definitely a ride and all the longer the way, I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know what I was doing, and I was very insecure,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was facing my inadequacies on a daily basis,

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<v Speaker 1>and so I get asked so much, Now, how do

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<v Speaker 1>you find your confidence? How did you go from being

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<v Speaker 1>stuck for eight years, you know, not loving your life

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<v Speaker 1>to not having a purpose to where you are now?

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<v Speaker 1>And everyone thinks it's confidence, And that's why I had

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<v Speaker 1>to write the book, because it's not confidence. I was

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<v Speaker 1>so scared all along the way, and so I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>what people see is that I show up. And I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, that's what I have to really write about

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<v Speaker 1>because that's very authentic to me. I'm still insecure even

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<v Speaker 1>with this book. I've never written a book before. So

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<v Speaker 1>while on Earth, I think that I'm going to come

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<v Speaker 1>in and crush writing a book. I mean, you be.

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<v Speaker 1>I give myself the grace to be to have the

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<v Speaker 1>day one of every any new venture I start. So

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<v Speaker 1>that's where the growth of quest. When I was thrown

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<v Speaker 1>into the deep end, I had a choice. We had

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<v Speaker 1>our house up for collateral, and it was like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>if you don't know this thing that you're facing, this obstacle,

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<v Speaker 1>this massive hurdle. You have a choice, Lisa. You either

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<v Speaker 1>learn it or you lose your house. And so that

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<v Speaker 1>became a great motivator. But as we all know, that

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<v Speaker 1>isn't sustainable. So that's where my growth went. From saving

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<v Speaker 1>my house help the company too. Then as Quest started

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<v Speaker 1>to get bigger, we were getting letters from like the

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<v Speaker 1>anorexic community, who was saying, thank you for giving me

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<v Speaker 1>something that now allows me to be okay with calowns again.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, we were helping the diabetic community. There was

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<v Speaker 1>one woman being parents, or there was one woman who

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<v Speaker 1>reached out and said, my kid is that type one diabetic,

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<v Speaker 1>and I the horrible mother that has to keep ripping

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<v Speaker 1>candy cupcakes out of his hands when he's at these

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<v Speaker 1>play dates. But his his insulin doesn't spike when he

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<v Speaker 1>eats a QUEST bar. So thank you because you've made

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<v Speaker 1>me feel like a better mother. That stuff becomes real.

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<v Speaker 1>That goes from acting in fear of making sure you

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<v Speaker 1>overcome obstacles. You keep getting back up every time you

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<v Speaker 1>fail because you're so scared to lose your house too.

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<v Speaker 1>Then go, if I show up today, I could actually

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<v Speaker 1>save a life. If I show up today, I can

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<v Speaker 1>actually change your life, and am I really going to

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<v Speaker 1>let my own insecurity affect me because I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>how to be a boss, or I don't know how

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<v Speaker 1>to ship a palette, or I don't even know how

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<v Speaker 1>what a palette is. That's where I started. I literally

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<v Speaker 1>ran to Google and I was like, what on earth

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<v Speaker 1>it's a palette? Because the ups driver told me I'd

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<v Speaker 1>actually be more productive if I used a palette. But

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know what I was doing, and I just

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<v Speaker 1>kept growing and learning every day. Um, and so that's

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<v Speaker 1>kind of I've got I've got a question for you.

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<v Speaker 1>So you said it's not about confidence, but your book

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<v Speaker 1>is titled Radical Confidence, So can you explain? Can you

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<v Speaker 1>explain that a little bit? Absolutely? So. The radical part

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<v Speaker 1>of it is not feeling great about yourself, yourself for

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<v Speaker 1>doing it anyway. So when people approach me and they

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<v Speaker 1>say I really want confidence, I say to do what?

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<v Speaker 1>Because we so focus on the confidence part, which to

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<v Speaker 1>me is that they feel good. But ultimately that isn't

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<v Speaker 1>the end goal, right. Most people want confidence in order

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<v Speaker 1>to do something. I want the confidence so I can

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<v Speaker 1>show up on camera. I want confidence to start my

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<v Speaker 1>own podcast. I want confidence to start my own business.

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<v Speaker 1>I want confidence to tell my parents I no longer

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<v Speaker 1>want to study biochemistry and I want to be a

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<v Speaker 1>stand up comedian. Like it's always they need confidence in

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<v Speaker 1>order to do something, and so I might the rather

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<v Speaker 1>the whole point of radical confidence and then the ten

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<v Speaker 1>no bs because it's no been it's not easy, it's

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<v Speaker 1>very difficult. But the tend no previous lessons on how

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<v Speaker 1>to live the life you want is Okay, you may

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<v Speaker 1>feel scared, but step one, if you want to tell

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<v Speaker 1>your parents that you no longer want to study, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what you're studying. What's that first step? You have

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<v Speaker 1>to process the decision yourself right, So it's not how

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<v Speaker 1>do you feel good about yourself, it's take that first step.

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<v Speaker 1>So to me, the book is a blueprint. It is

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<v Speaker 1>you may feel scared, but don't worry. You're going to

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<v Speaker 1>get the confidence by the end of it. But to me,

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<v Speaker 1>confidence is the byproduct. You get confidence by starting something,

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<v Speaker 1>you by trying it out, by falling on your face,

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<v Speaker 1>by getting back up, by then getting more competent, And

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<v Speaker 1>it's within the competence that eventually leads to the confidence.

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<v Speaker 1>So the whole point of the book is saying guys,

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<v Speaker 1>I get it. I was so freaking scared too. But

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<v Speaker 1>you can have radical confidence, which means you can be scared,

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<v Speaker 1>you can be insecure, but don't worry. You can take

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<v Speaker 1>these steps in order to get to the end goal,

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<v Speaker 1>which is the confidence and then feeling good and having

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<v Speaker 1>the life you actually want. There's a book that was

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<v Speaker 1>owned by a foreign executive producer of The Bachelor's name

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<v Speaker 1>is a Line Gail. He's a very insightful human being,

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<v Speaker 1>and he wrote a book called You're not that great,

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<v Speaker 1>and neither is anybody else. But it's but it's such

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<v Speaker 1>a great message because this whole overall message is listen,

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<v Speaker 1>you're not that special, But I got news for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Nobody is. You can do whatever anybody else is doing

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<v Speaker 1>if you just recognize that fact. And I think you

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<v Speaker 1>speak a lot on that. Which I love is that,

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<v Speaker 1>like I love yourself awareness where you're like, I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>know what I was doing. I felt so insecure. I

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<v Speaker 1>just had to do it and I ended up doing it,

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<v Speaker 1>and then the confidence part came later. And I think

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<v Speaker 1>there's so many examples that you give that. I you know,

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<v Speaker 1>even in a minuscule like this is gonna sound so

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<v Speaker 1>ridiculous because you were the co founder of a billion

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<v Speaker 1>dollar company. But here we go. We do karaoke on

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<v Speaker 1>Friday nights at Audrey's and a buddy of mine who

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<v Speaker 1>works there. I was like, why don't you go up

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<v Speaker 1>and sing? He's like, no, man, I could never do that,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I can't do it. I'm too insecure, Like I

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<v Speaker 1>don't have the confidence. And I just remember thinking he

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<v Speaker 1>he was so terrified, like he was like, I could

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<v Speaker 1>never go up there and just sing, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>yeah you can, Like, yeah you can. So many people

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<v Speaker 1>go up there and suck like it doesn't matter. We're

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<v Speaker 1>all having fun. So like I think as minuscule an

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<v Speaker 1>example as that is, like, of course you're not gonna

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<v Speaker 1>have confidence. You're not a singer, man, But like, if

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<v Speaker 1>you want to go up and sing, just go up

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<v Speaker 1>and do it, and then like the more times you

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<v Speaker 1>do it, the easier it gets, and the more you're

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<v Speaker 1>fun you'll have at it, and then the better you'll

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<v Speaker 1>probably become. I don't think that's minuscule at all. I

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<v Speaker 1>think that's so freaking powerful because I it wasn't karaoke singing,

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<v Speaker 1>but it was speaking on stage. I was getting asked

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<v Speaker 1>all the timely, so do you know when you do

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<v Speaker 1>speaking it? I'm petrified. I'm like, why would I put

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<v Speaker 1>myself in a position to stand on stage and tell

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to freeze? And so I kept saying no.

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<v Speaker 1>I kept saying no. And then one time my husband,

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<v Speaker 1>who I've been we're about to celebrate our twenty year

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<v Speaker 1>wedding annivers week. We have a relationship where we're very

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<v Speaker 1>honest with each other and it's like, hey, look, you've

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<v Speaker 1>told me what you want in life, and part of

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<v Speaker 1>my responsibility is to hold you accountable. So if I

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<v Speaker 1>see you not acting accordance, do we give each other

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<v Speaker 1>permission to call each other out? And we said yes.

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<v Speaker 1>And so for me, I really want to create impacts.

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<v Speaker 1>We've their decayed on our company to it. That's why

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<v Speaker 1>I show up every day, even when I'm scared and petrified.

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<v Speaker 1>But he said, hey, right now you're saying no to

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<v Speaker 1>all these public speaking gigs. You realize that doesn't align

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<v Speaker 1>with your goal, right, And so I was like, oh god,

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<v Speaker 1>he's right. So I had to sit there and go

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<v Speaker 1>okay with no judgment because I actually don't judge myself

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<v Speaker 1>for saying no. I don't want to do it because

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<v Speaker 1>I want to feel good about myself, but I have

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<v Speaker 1>to process it. So to me, I was like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>why am I not getting on stage? I'm petrified? Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>why am I petrified? Because I'm worried I'm going to fail.

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<v Speaker 1>I won't. People are gonna make fun of me. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>this is the ego talking. Now. Why should I get

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<v Speaker 1>on stage? Because it's my mission? Is the thing that

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<v Speaker 1>I say that I get the reason why I get

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<v Speaker 1>up every day? And now with no judgment, knowing these

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<v Speaker 1>two avenues that I can take which one is more

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<v Speaker 1>important my ego on my goals, and now I can

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<v Speaker 1>just make a decision. Now the point of this decision

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<v Speaker 1>is so that in five or ten years I don't

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<v Speaker 1>turn around. It's like I can't believe I have an

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<v Speaker 1>impacted people. No, No, I can say, oh, Lisa, you

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<v Speaker 1>made this decision back in the day to not one

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<v Speaker 1>to not get on stage and impact people. And that

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<v Speaker 1>was a conscious decision. So I process decisions, but I

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<v Speaker 1>don't necessarily even though I decide to get on stage,

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<v Speaker 1>it's the whole different scenario of actually getting on stage. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>It's like I don't know if You guys have done

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<v Speaker 1>public speaking before, but it is petrifying. So just to

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<v Speaker 1>say I'm going to do it and actually do it,

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<v Speaker 1>it's actually night and day. And when you have crippling anxiety,

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<v Speaker 1>telling someone to do it anyway doesn't work. And so

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<v Speaker 1>I realized I had to come up with a system

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<v Speaker 1>to get out of my own way. So I decided yes,

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<v Speaker 1>impact is my north star. It's way more freaking important

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<v Speaker 1>to me than feeling good about myself. So how on

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<v Speaker 1>earth now that I've made this decision, how on earth

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<v Speaker 1>do I actually get it on stage? And this is

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<v Speaker 1>what I talk about in my book. It's a step

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<v Speaker 1>by step. Okay, Lisa, what are you fearful? Listen to

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<v Speaker 1>the voice in the negative voice in my head, all

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<v Speaker 1>the things it's telling me. What is it saying? All right? Lisa, Um,

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<v Speaker 1>you just can't even bring yourself to saying yes because

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<v Speaker 1>the idea of saying yes it is so petrifying. Great,

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<v Speaker 1>let me address that. Okay, team, next time someone reaches

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<v Speaker 1>out and asked me to do public speaking, you have

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<v Speaker 1>to say yes without coming to me. So now I've

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<v Speaker 1>come up with an idea, a strategy in order to

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<v Speaker 1>just say yes. Then how are you going to step

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<v Speaker 1>on stage? I have? In fact, let's talk about kids

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<v Speaker 1>for a second. Give a kid a kid, what do

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<v Speaker 1>they do? They run around like they're Superman superheroes. Right

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<v Speaker 1>this in the air, I'm going in to say, the

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<v Speaker 1>day they embody the emotion. Why did we get rid

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<v Speaker 1>of that as adults? Like? It's such a oh that right,

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<v Speaker 1>neither have I Hence the statue is behind me. But

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<v Speaker 1>that's the point where it's like, Oh, if we know

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<v Speaker 1>instinctually as humans we can put something on and embody

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<v Speaker 1>a different feeling, how do I use that as an

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<v Speaker 1>adult to my advantage on this thing that I'm petrified?

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<v Speaker 1>What's my version of my cape? And so I it's

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<v Speaker 1>my hair, it's my style, it's my necklace. Even this necklace,

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<v Speaker 1>which we were talking about Wonder Woman before. I know

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<v Speaker 1>that repetition creates habit. So I said to myself, I

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<v Speaker 1>need to get on stage. What are the things I

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<v Speaker 1>can do in order to courage myself? Okay, for the

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<v Speaker 1>month leading up to it, every time I put on

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<v Speaker 1>this necklace every morning, I'm going to repeat to myself,

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<v Speaker 1>you're badass like Wonder Woman, and I'm just gonna repeat it.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if this strategy is gonna work, but

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to give it a shot. And so every morning,

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<v Speaker 1>without fail, I was putting it on, telling myself that

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<v Speaker 1>I was badass like wonder Woman. Flash to a month later,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm about to get on stage. What have I done

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<v Speaker 1>to my mind? I've hard wired that every time I

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<v Speaker 1>put on this necklace, I embody a thing, and so

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<v Speaker 1>I go and so I go into it with all

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<v Speaker 1>very very deliberate to overcome this anxiety that I have.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't want to hide. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>lie to anyone about the fact that I'm petrified to

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<v Speaker 1>go on stage because I actually because I believe in

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<v Speaker 1>mindset I'm preaching. Proud of myself that I showed up.

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<v Speaker 1>The speech wasn't great. It was like my first speech.

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<v Speaker 1>It was a ted talk and I wasn't fantastic. I

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<v Speaker 1>totally messed up on stage while I was on stage

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<v Speaker 1>as well, But I told myself if I mess up,

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<v Speaker 1>have a backup plan. That backup plan was laugh at yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I get on stage, I laugh at myself.

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<v Speaker 1>And when I got off all of this story, I

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<v Speaker 1>just told you. What I've done is I reinforced in

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<v Speaker 1>my mind. I was the person that was scared to

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<v Speaker 1>get on stage. I was the person that used to

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<v Speaker 1>say no, And now I'm the person that says yes

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<v Speaker 1>even though I'm scared. That's radical company, It's that's amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>And I can't wait to read this book because when

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<v Speaker 1>you were talking about the Wonder Woman necklace, I related

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<v Speaker 1>so much because the past few months I felt very

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<v Speaker 1>I felt my most down or insecure because I just

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<v Speaker 1>haven't had time to work out. I haven't had time

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<v Speaker 1>to myself between starting the business and you know, obviously

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<v Speaker 1>having my wife and child, Like, I just felt really

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<v Speaker 1>uh not myself, and so I was trying to figure

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<v Speaker 1>out a way to like, for lack of a better

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<v Speaker 1>wear way like feel more like powerful. So I was

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<v Speaker 1>looking up Superman shirts online because I knew that if

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<v Speaker 1>I swear to god, I was looking up Superman shirts

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, I, I don't feel confident right now,

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<v Speaker 1>but I know that like putting on a Superman shirt,

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<v Speaker 1>as weird as it sounds, is gonna like play a

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<v Speaker 1>trick on my mind to like give you any more

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<v Speaker 1>confidence subconsciously, and so, uh yeah, So that's kind of funny.

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<v Speaker 1>That's like, that's like your Wonder Woman necklace. Belisa fun

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<v Speaker 1>a little anecdote about Jared as well. So we were

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<v Speaker 1>on the show The Bachelorette, and everyone has like a

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<v Speaker 1>unique entrance into the show, us Jared's. Jared's entrance was

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<v Speaker 1>he ripped his shirt open and on his shirt it

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<v Speaker 1>said love Man, because he was ready to be the

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<v Speaker 1>superhero of love. Yeah. No, they like, thank god, they

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<v Speaker 1>just like skipped right over that, which is fantastic because

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<v Speaker 1>I'll never forget. You know. It was a collaborative, collaborative effort,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll just say on that idea of having like because

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<v Speaker 1>they knew I was a big superhero fan, so they

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<v Speaker 1>had the Superman symbol, but instead of an S, there

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<v Speaker 1>is an L. And it was like, oh, you can

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<v Speaker 1>come and be loved man and rescue the bachelor and

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<v Speaker 1>from all the other evil bachelors. And I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I will do my best, but I'm not sure if

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to be able to hit the point you

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<v Speaker 1>want me to hit. I love that the most. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll give you a tiny little like secret behind the

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<v Speaker 1>scenes that I didn't mention this in my book, but

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<v Speaker 1>I also wore super Girl underwear on the day that

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<v Speaker 1>I was doing my speaking gig, because everybody told me, oh, Lisa,

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<v Speaker 1>if you've never done the speaking gig before, you peet

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<v Speaker 1>like a thousand times before you step on stage, because

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<v Speaker 1>you know, you just get the nerves. So I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh god, I don't want that to like, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want the idea of me having to pee so much

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<v Speaker 1>now get me nervous, right, because it's almost like someone's

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<v Speaker 1>planted that in my mind. So I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>what am I going to do to overcome this, because

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<v Speaker 1>that's what I'm about. I don't judge myself. I just

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<v Speaker 1>think of a way to overcome it. And so I

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<v Speaker 1>got super Girl underwear, and every time I pined, I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, yeah, you're super Girl. I love that. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>the question is a thousand times perfect. So they were right.

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<v Speaker 1>Hopefully it was extra absorbent Superwoman underwear. Um, well, Lisa,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you so much for joining us. Like you're saying,

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<v Speaker 1>we're excited to get our hands on your book, Radical Confidence.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure we can order online. Where else can we

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<v Speaker 1>get it? And stuff like that. Absolutely nearly. Thank you

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<v Speaker 1>guys so much. This was so funny. Yes made tent

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<v Speaker 1>and you can go to Amazon. You can go to Target.

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<v Speaker 1>I also actually have a free event where I'm getting

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<v Speaker 1>some of my closest, closest just powerful women homies together

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<v Speaker 1>and we're doing this free live event to help people

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<v Speaker 1>get radically confident in their own lives. So if anyone

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<v Speaker 1>wants to join that for free, they can go to

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<v Speaker 1>rad coond live dot com um and they can sign

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<v Speaker 1>up there. But if they want the book, yes, they

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<v Speaker 1>can go to anywhere books are sold or Radical Confidence

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<v Speaker 1>dot com. I love it rad con live dot com.

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<v Speaker 1>Do not forget your superwoman underwear because you might be

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<v Speaker 1>yourself a couple of times. Lisa, thank you so much

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<v Speaker 1>for joining us. Like I said, we're excited and we

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<v Speaker 1>can't wait to hear more from you. Thank you, Thank you, Lisa,

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<v Speaker 1>Bye bye. Follow help by suck at Dating on I

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