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Speaker 1: Order a fresh show. It's Kiki's court. The Honorable Judge

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Speaker 1: Kiki is presiding. I'll present the case.

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Speaker 2: You're on it all right, let's get in the court room.

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Speaker 2: The gabble has been hit. It says, hey, Ki Ki,

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Speaker 2: am I wrong for wanting my money back? My twenty

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Speaker 2: four year old niece is a struggling single mom of two,

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Speaker 2: so I give her bens of my family's hand me

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Speaker 2: downs from time to time to help her out. After

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Speaker 2: my last drop off, my niece popped up on Facebook

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Speaker 2: hosting photos from a water park hotel. That's when I

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Speaker 2: remember that sometimes I stashed emergency cash in my old

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Speaker 2: coat pockets, and sure enough, one of the coats I

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Speaker 2: gave her had two thousand dollars in it.

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Speaker 1: What girl, damn lot?

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Speaker 2: I called her?

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Speaker 1: Yes, I called her.

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Speaker 2: She admitted that she found the cash, but assumed it

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Speaker 2: was a blessing and spent it, and she ended the call.

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Speaker 2: I would say, well, you're more financially stable anyway, so

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Speaker 2: it shouldn't be a big deal. I ignored the real

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Speaker 2: comment and requested that she paid me back over time.

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Speaker 2: Now she's telling the family I'm trying to take money

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Speaker 2: from her and her kids, and I know I should

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Speaker 2: have checked the pockets, But how do you spend two

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Speaker 2: thousand dollars that isn't yours without making a call? Am

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Speaker 2: I wrong?

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Speaker 1: Well, and you're you're accepting donations because you're not able

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Speaker 1: to make ends meet. So h what did you spend

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Speaker 1: it on?

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Speaker 2: She went to the water Park hotel.

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Speaker 1: Well, that's what I mean, right, But didn't pay any

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Speaker 1: bills or anything. I mean it's like, I don't. Oh,

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Speaker 1: but I'm already donating things to you. So you need

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Speaker 1: you obviously needed money to survive, so you didn't even

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Speaker 1: use it on that as what I mean. But okay,

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Speaker 1: if you guys are the Jerry eight five five, five

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Speaker 1: nine to one, what three five? What say you though?

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Speaker 1: Judge Kiki?

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Speaker 2: Well, my mom taught me at a very young age

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Speaker 2: you don't find money. Like I remember being at home

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Speaker 2: and I would like stumble upon five dollars just around

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Speaker 2: the house and I'm like, oh, look what I found.

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Speaker 2: She's like, you don't find money that's that belong to somebody.

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Speaker 2: So if you can't a coat, you know, a donation

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Speaker 2: being and there's a lot of cash, two thousand dollars worth.

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Speaker 2: I would have called my aunt and say, hey, I

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Speaker 2: don't know if you know, but I just found two

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Speaker 2: thousand dollars in this old coat pocket.

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Speaker 1: Is this for me? May I have?

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Speaker 3: It?

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Speaker 2: Was this intended as a gift, I would not just

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Speaker 2: book the water your hotel.

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Speaker 1: You're taking donations right charitably? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Like girl, come on and then when you're the aunt

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Speaker 2: calls and she's like, hey, you know, did you find

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Speaker 2: some money? Now I respect her for telling the truth

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Speaker 2: because some people would have said, what money? I never

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Speaker 2: found any money in that coat.

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Speaker 1: You know, she could have lied, but she told the

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Speaker 1: truth at least fairness. If I'm donating close to you

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Speaker 1: because you're going through a tough time and you can't

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Speaker 1: make ends meet, and then I find out you're going

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Speaker 1: on a water park vacation, I mean, I'm sorry. But

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Speaker 1: and you could say, well, you don't get to judge

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Speaker 1: other people whatever, But if I'm giving you money, I

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Speaker 1: get to judge. I get to judge your lifestyle. Or

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Speaker 1: if I'm giving you things to implement your life, that

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Speaker 1: I get to say, Well, if.

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Speaker 2: You're giving me hand me downs, you know that's one thing, right,

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Speaker 2: But if.

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Speaker 1: I'm having to give you clothing because you don't have

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Speaker 1: the money to buy it, to buy clothing, and then

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Speaker 1: I find that you're on a vacation. I get that

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Speaker 1: I'm giving you hand me downs, but like, I guess,

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Speaker 1: when if I'm supporting your life in some way and

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Speaker 1: then you're squandering the funds on luxury items that you

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Speaker 1: can't afford, that I think I get the opportunity to

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, and I get.

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Speaker 1: My thing is that, yes, you get to ask for it.

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Speaker 2: You get to request the money back, you know, like

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Speaker 2: she said, you can pay me over time. But the

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Speaker 2: already spent it.

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Speaker 1: So is But get right, that's not the niece's decision though. Right,

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Speaker 1: you found the money, you got to call and say

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 1: And then the person could say, you know what, I

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Speaker 1: forgot about that, but hey, surprise enjoy Yes. But the

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Speaker 1: fact that there was no call means that the person

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Speaker 1: the niece, knew that it wasn't really intended for her, right,

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Speaker 1: Because you would at least call it say thank you.

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Speaker 2: I would assume like, hey, this was really nice of you,

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Speaker 2: you know, But to just go book the water park,

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Speaker 2: come on.

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Speaker 1: Or how about thanks for the two g's. I'm going

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Speaker 1: to use it to pay bills. You know, this is

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Speaker 1: really gonna help me out, And then maybe the ant

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Speaker 1: could be like, well, I didn't even I didn't realize

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Speaker 1: I lost it, So that's excellent. Good, you can use it,

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Speaker 1: dig out a little bit. Yeah, it's sad, it's let

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Speaker 1: me let me take my blessings and go to the

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Speaker 1: water park on your dough.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: First of all, if you have two g's in cash,

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Speaker 5: it's also on you to keep track of that, like

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Speaker 5: just leaven walking around with two thousand dollars and just

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Speaker 5: leaving it in pockets like that's a little bit on you. Also,

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Speaker 5: I think if you are going to give something, like

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Speaker 5: you always say, don't expect anything in return. So I

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Speaker 5: think you have to give something full and well, knowing

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Speaker 5: they might be living their life a way that you

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Speaker 5: wouldn't agree with. But I don't think you've a right

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Speaker 5: to say anything about it, like you gave those clothes,

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Speaker 5: you know, No, I do yah understand that you feel

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Speaker 1: If I'm helping, If I'm helping, well no, no, that

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Speaker 1: doesn't solve anything either. But like if I'm giving you

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Speaker 1: I'm providing a service for you that you're not paying for,

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Speaker 1: and then you all of a sudden pop up with

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Speaker 1: Then I think I have a right to say, like,

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Speaker 1: wait a minute, why am I helping you if you

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Speaker 1: have the money for that, because then you don't really

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Speaker 1: need my help, I guess. And then it's well, I

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Speaker 1: do need your help. And by the way, I found

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Speaker 1: then spend on a luxury item that I didn't need.

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Speaker 1: But everyone else is helping me survive. True, like you're

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Speaker 5: If you give someone something and then like watch their

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Speaker 5: social to see what they're doing with it, you have

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Speaker 5: to just kiss it.

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Speaker 1: I don't loan friends money because there you go. I

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Speaker 1: might give you money, but in this case, I didn't

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Speaker 1: give you or loan you anything. You found it and

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Speaker 1: you took it, but I was wrong. The least you

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Speaker 1: could do is call me and say, hey, I found

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Speaker 1: this money. Do you want it back or do you

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Speaker 1: want or can I spend it?

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Speaker 3: Correct?

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Speaker 1: I would be good and just say thank you. Literally.

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Speaker 6: But if I'm wearing your Levi jeans that you donated

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Speaker 6: to me, Fred and I'm walking around with your with

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Speaker 6: at me and say, oh, why does she got, you know,

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Speaker 6: a turkey sandwich for lunch?

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Speaker 1: Can't watch people's movies like that. There's a difference between

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Speaker 1: survival item and a lottery vacation. When you're behind and

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Speaker 1: you know when things aren't going great for you, then

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Speaker 1: that may have been an opportunity for you to then use.

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Speaker 1: If you're going to use my money, then used to

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Speaker 1: get a had.

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Speaker 6: It wasn't the best thing. But you also don't know

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Speaker 6: what the single mom is going through. Maybe it's like

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Speaker 6: her one chance to give her kids something.

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Speaker 1: You don't know that part. I don't want to get

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Speaker 1: too deep with it, but you just you don't know

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Speaker 1: that much. Why did you buy that turkey sandwich? I'm

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Speaker 1: always doing that, always looking at your turkey sandwich and

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Speaker 1: I went, but I gave you my Levi And the

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Speaker 1: fact that you two are sharing clothes is just what

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Speaker 1: I'm looking around at my size fifteen vans eating a

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Speaker 1: turkey sandwich there looking at me, you're too big. Oh god,

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Speaker 1: you know what, knock it off. Be careful, Fred saying

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Speaker 1: that being poor means you don't get to go on

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Speaker 1: vacation without the gift or's approval. Shut up, shut up,

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Speaker 1: like stop it right now. I'm not gonna be careful.

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Speaker 1: Well I'm I didn't say that. What I'm saying is,

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Speaker 1: if you find your relatives money, you don't get to

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Speaker 1: just and someone's doing something nice for you, you don't

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Speaker 1: I actually forgot about that money. Do something fun with that.

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Speaker 1: Maybe that's what they like. My nana used to give

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Speaker 1: you to save this. I want you to spend this

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Speaker 1: on something fun. Go do something fun with this, because

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Speaker 1: my mom would immediately say put in the bank or whatever.

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Speaker 1: But when someone's doing something nice for you, you don't

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Speaker 1: You don't get to do that.

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Speaker 5: There's a difference between like doing the right thing and

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Speaker 5: getting to do something though, like some people are a

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Speaker 1: I'm not suggesting that poor people don't get to go

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Speaker 1: on like stop it. I didn't hear that people are

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Speaker 1: so ready to pounce like stop it. I don't think

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Speaker 1: that at all. I just think you essentially stole from

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Speaker 1: your relative. Does the person who gave it to you

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Speaker 1: have some responsibility, yes, but but do you get to

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Speaker 1: just spend with reckless, abandon with no with with no accountability.

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Speaker 1: This is someone who's trying to help you, right, that's

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Speaker 1: my thing. Like you said, thank you, that's it. Hey, Gina,

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Speaker 1: how you doing.

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Speaker 7: I'm good? How are you?

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Speaker 1: I'm doing great? What do you think Kiki scored?

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Speaker 5: You?

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Speaker 7: Give back that money you get that brings you some

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Speaker 7: bad karma. My husband did that one time when we

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Speaker 7: were in Mexico with all our friends at a resort

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Speaker 7: and we were swimming in the swim up bar, and

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Speaker 7: all of a sudden he started acting real fishy and

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Speaker 7: turn around real slow. I said, what are you doing?

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Speaker 7: He told me be quiet, don't worry about it. I looked,

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Speaker 7: I said, what is in your hand? He found a

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Speaker 7: floaty tube filled with money and he was going to

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Speaker 7: keep it. I said, you don't keep that. You bring

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Speaker 7: that back. He said, what is wrong with you?

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Speaker 1: You don't do that?

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Speaker 7: You keep it? Someone obviously lost it. Whatever, well I

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