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Speaker 1: My brother uninvited our mother from his wedding. Now she's

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Speaker 2: I invited your own mom. Yeah, that's brutal.

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Speaker 1: What'd she do? Dang? Who the cast? Mom, brother, sister

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Speaker 1: in law, aunt, uncle, cousin, dad, and me? When between

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Speaker 1: twenty twenty and twenty twenty two the story where the

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Speaker 1: beach and the mountains? What a wedding? Why true love?

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Speaker 2: I love this question mark.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from annual Stress five on

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Speaker 1: the Okay storytime subreddit. So our story goes way back

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Speaker 1: to before the wedding in twenty twenty two, but after

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Speaker 1: the engagement of brother and sister in law in twenty twenty.

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Speaker 1: It starts in twenty twenty one on a week long

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Speaker 1: vacation to the beach for mom's fiftieth birthday. We were

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Speaker 1: staying in a very picturesque condo with three separate bedrooms

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Speaker 1: that had direct beach access, and the unit was absolutely

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Speaker 1: beautiful with the most amazing views of the patio. On

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Speaker 1: this vacation were six people Mom, brother, sister in law, aunt, cousin,

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Speaker 1: and sister in law, aunt and cousin, Mom and me.

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Speaker 1: This vacation had been planned months in advance, and Mom

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Speaker 1: was so excited. She planned out a week of fun activities,

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Speaker 1: including a sunset cruise to see dolphins, mini golfing, restaurants

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Speaker 2: Good time, man, Yeah, especially the dolphins.

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Speaker 1: It was supposed to be a lovely week that was

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Speaker 1: unfortunately marred very quickly by a nasty fight. We arrived

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Speaker 2: Yikes, not good.

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Speaker 1: Not good. From here. There are two versions of the

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Speaker 1: rest of the night. Mom's version, well, I had a

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Speaker 1: massive panic attack because I'm mentally sick. TM Is that?

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Speaker 2: Is that? What? I don't know?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a good question. Mom went to the bedroom

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Speaker 1: was being very mean to me. She implored sister in

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Speaker 2: I love the telling of this story.

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Speaker 1: It's great. I wish every sword was It's very cinematic. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and having a panic attack of her own as well. Eventually,

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Speaker 2: Well, let's just slow down, damn.

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Speaker 1: So we got two sides of this story.

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Speaker 2: That's a crab show that. Yeah, we have a mom

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Speaker 2: I calmly screamed at her.

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Speaker 1: Maybe I got There's like three that I can think

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Speaker 2: You read a lot of stories.

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Speaker 3: I read a lot of stories, just throwing out there.

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Speaker 1: So let's see. See she accused brother of marrying sister

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that's I mean, incredibly rude. Yeah, like totally

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Speaker 1: While Mom initially got to save the date for the wedding,

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Speaker 2: And then to say that, to say that you dismiss

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but like also as a mom, to not be

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not allowed to go either because of your behavior.

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Speaker 2: And like as a mother, Like I think part of

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Speaker 2: which sucks, But at the same time, you don't want

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Speaker 1: Needs to figure out because just her whole attitude towards

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Speaker 1: but didn't want to skip the wedding. After all, why

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Speaker 2: It's your son's wedding is petty.

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Speaker 1: She doesn't actually care about this cabin more than her son.

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Speaker 1: She just feels like she's been slighted, and so she's like, well,

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Speaker 2: Just tap her profile, no conditions, no stipulations, and.

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Speaker 2: Those are my thoughts.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the thing is that at the end of the day,

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Speaker 1: Why would their husbands have to come in.

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Speaker 1: Bad it is. I okay, I truly don't understand. I

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like, that's not trouble.

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Speaker 2: Curious why just being like this dress doesn't fit, this

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Speaker 2: It took twenty minutes of struggling to get me into

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Speaker 2: I wasn't what it's so awful. What is this that's

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Speaker 2: Yeah. And also to just say like it's one thing

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Speaker 2: She thinks I can never hear or never told later

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Speaker 1: No, she knows you can hear. She's doing it on purpose.

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Speaker 1: The fact that she's still doing this ten years later

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this behavior again not your fault. Yeah, this behavior

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Speaker 1: Has been going on for ten years, be quiet.

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Speaker 2: Marie still makes comments on how sluty I looked. It

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Speaker 2: They have noticed and asked me to tell them what

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Speaker 1: Ah, She's like said, she's saying it loud enough that

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I'm jumping boys. Hello.

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Speaker 2: I had no idea what to tell them, because the

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Speaker 1: Because he's probably still like probably is dealing with like

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Speaker 1: But I think this might from at least from her perspective.

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Speaker 1: and then allows her to allows them to walk all over.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, if they're treating her like she's breakable, they probably shouldn't,

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Speaker 2: like find every opportunity, yeah, insul her.

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Speaker 1: Well, I think that sometimes when people see vulnerable people,

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Speaker 2: So I have the dress still and just seeing it

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Speaker 2: your I thought she was gonna be like, so I

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Speaker 2: I don't have any pictures of the wedding because it

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Speaker 2: just hits hard. I am the crazy salute to the family. No,

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Speaker 2: you're not, you're not, You're wonderful, Opie and treated like crap.

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Speaker 2: I have barely minimal contact with Jack or Marie. I

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Speaker 2: problems with. In the last five years, I've been requested

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Speaker 1: It doesn't sound like it's healthy living.

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Speaker 2: Nothing in this sounds healthy.

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Speaker 1: This sucks so bad. But like, don't stop. Yeah, like

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Speaker 1: say no, leave.

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Speaker 2: And I understand with mental health issues, it's it's so

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Speaker 2: Usually people have not been taught to stand up for ourselves,

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Speaker 2: and to put a known down is really hard for anyone.

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Speaker 2: And she starts struggling with mental health and she's on

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Speaker 2: new medication.

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Speaker 1: on here.

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00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:03,199
Speaker 2: Yeah. So I hope that you can find the strength

441
00:21:03,280 --> 00:21:05,399
Speaker 2: to stand out for yourself. At the same time, like

442
00:21:05,440 --> 00:21:10,000
Speaker 2: you fully understand why it's hard. Yeah, So recently knowing

443
00:21:10,040 --> 00:21:12,159
Speaker 2: I've been going through new issues with my hair, and

444
00:21:12,200 --> 00:21:14,280
Speaker 2: she knows I love long hair, but it just won't

445
00:21:14,320 --> 00:21:16,960
Speaker 2: get long, so I often wear extensions to feel better

446
00:21:16,960 --> 00:21:19,240
Speaker 2: with it. Marie told me she liked my hair better

447
00:21:19,240 --> 00:21:21,560
Speaker 2: without extensions. It was a punch in the gut and

448
00:21:21,640 --> 00:21:26,560
Speaker 2: I lost it. She broke the camel's back. I went off, Okay.

449
00:21:26,560 --> 00:21:31,720
Speaker 3: Oh be finally, Okay, let's see what she said.

450
00:21:32,200 --> 00:21:35,239
Speaker 2: I went off on how she coerced me into an

451
00:21:35,240 --> 00:21:37,760
Speaker 2: extra small dress from the start, and it has been

452
00:21:37,840 --> 00:21:41,600
Speaker 2: slute shaming me for the last decade. I cussed her

453
00:21:41,640 --> 00:21:45,200
Speaker 2: out for doing my best while dealing with my own issues.

454
00:21:45,400 --> 00:21:48,600
Speaker 2: It's been a decade. What reason in the world makes

455
00:21:48,640 --> 00:21:51,440
Speaker 2: it okay to make the family, especially my nephews, see

456
00:21:51,440 --> 00:21:53,840
Speaker 2: me as a rebelling at the wedding, trying to sabotage

457
00:21:53,880 --> 00:21:56,560
Speaker 2: her by wearing a dress too small? Marie, playing victim,

458
00:21:56,960 --> 00:21:59,359
Speaker 2: I said some very mean things, to which I was

459
00:21:59,440 --> 00:22:03,840
Speaker 2: berated by my parents and have been all alienated from

460
00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:05,040
Speaker 2: the entire family.

461
00:22:05,920 --> 00:22:09,479
Speaker 1: I can't imagine that you said anything that wasn't untrue.

462
00:22:09,960 --> 00:22:12,320
Speaker 2: I'm happy you stood up for yourself, but at the

463
00:22:12,320 --> 00:22:16,480
Speaker 2: same time, holding in a whole decade of what you

464
00:22:16,560 --> 00:22:20,240
Speaker 2: should said. It's gonna explode. Yeah, and it's not going

465
00:22:20,320 --> 00:22:22,240
Speaker 2: to be a pretty scene. No, And people are going

466
00:22:22,320 --> 00:22:22,720
Speaker 2: to be mad.

467
00:22:22,920 --> 00:22:26,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, and just know that, you know, none of them

468
00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:28,480
Speaker 1: seem to be on your side anyway, so they would

469
00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:30,960
Speaker 1: have been mad regardless of how you stood up for yourself.

470
00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:31,399
Speaker 1: I think.

471
00:22:31,600 --> 00:22:33,800
Speaker 2: But I think also, and that's just an important lesson,

472
00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:37,560
Speaker 2: Like when we hold in, are standing up for ourselves

473
00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:39,840
Speaker 2: what needs to be said, what is not being said

474
00:22:39,840 --> 00:22:41,639
Speaker 2: but needs to be said. When we hold it in,

475
00:22:41,720 --> 00:22:43,600
Speaker 2: when it eventually comes out, it's not going to be pretty.

476
00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:45,959
Speaker 1: I just gave this advice to someone of like, I

477
00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:49,800
Speaker 1: was like, you don't hold in your resentment because, like

478
00:22:49,880 --> 00:22:54,639
Speaker 1: resentment grows, resentment is a exponentially building thing. And if

479
00:22:54,680 --> 00:22:56,800
Speaker 1: you don't tell people that you're annoyed with them, or

480
00:22:56,840 --> 00:22:59,480
Speaker 1: if they've done something that pisses you off, then you're

481
00:22:59,520 --> 00:23:00,920
Speaker 1: just gonna it's just gonna be worse.

482
00:23:01,080 --> 00:23:03,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not helping them, it's actually hurting both people,

483
00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:10,880
Speaker 2: and the relationship so alienated from the entire family. Since

484
00:23:10,880 --> 00:23:13,159
Speaker 2: I went off on her, I've been requested to stay

485
00:23:13,280 --> 00:23:16,400
Speaker 2: out of sight when Marie. When Jack and Marie are here, what.

486
00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:22,560
Speaker 1: Are you, Harry Potter? Stay in your room making, no noise, don't.

487
00:23:22,359 --> 00:23:25,680
Speaker 2: Exist, no wizardry in there. Oh my goodness, I live

488
00:23:25,680 --> 00:23:27,879
Speaker 2: in this house and I can't even get food from

489
00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:30,720
Speaker 2: the kitchen of the ar here. How old is Hoppee.

490
00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:30,720
Speaker 3: I don't know.

491
00:23:30,800 --> 00:23:32,920
Speaker 1: Well, it's been ten years and it seems like they're

492
00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:34,480
Speaker 1: probably in their mid twenties.

493
00:23:34,880 --> 00:23:37,359
Speaker 2: It's Brittany beach as the family did nothing over ten

494
00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:40,520
Speaker 2: years of this bullying and harassment. Very true, Jeeves, am

495
00:23:40,520 --> 00:23:43,200
Speaker 2: I the a hole for not only still feeling salty

496
00:23:43,480 --> 00:23:46,880
Speaker 2: and semi traumatized over the wedding issue still, as well

497
00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:50,160
Speaker 2: as other comments throughout the year, and we have contexts?

498
00:23:50,160 --> 00:23:50,960
Speaker 2: Should we just go into it?

499
00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:52,320
Speaker 1: Yes, give us context.

500
00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:54,840
Speaker 2: I've never been able to hold a full time job.

501
00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:56,480
Speaker 2: In two thousand and nine, I was told because of

502
00:23:56,520 --> 00:23:59,760
Speaker 2: my issues, I would not be able to physically, psychologically,

503
00:23:59,920 --> 00:24:03,440
Speaker 2: or emotionally be able to handle the job. My parents

504
00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:06,760
Speaker 2: constantly refer to me not being a functioning adult, and

505
00:24:06,840 --> 00:24:10,040
Speaker 2: not adult, not an adult in the family, but a child.

506
00:24:10,520 --> 00:24:16,359
Speaker 2: It's so belittling, so belittling. My parents threaten to drop

507
00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:19,560
Speaker 2: me off on skid row whenever they are frustrated or

508
00:24:19,640 --> 00:24:24,600
Speaker 2: just feel belittling me. Something I've become used to. I

509
00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:27,600
Speaker 2: feel this hurts because.

510
00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:29,159
Speaker 1: It seems like I'm like, I want to pee, to

511
00:24:29,200 --> 00:24:32,480
Speaker 1: just leave, But it seems like there's some financialeah, like

512
00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:33,760
Speaker 1: financially she can't.

513
00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:38,080
Speaker 2: Well financially and mental because she's not able to pull

514
00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:42,200
Speaker 2: the job because of these you know, mental and emotional issues.

515
00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:43,000
Speaker 1: It sucks.

516
00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:46,040
Speaker 2: So it just sucks that she's like trapped with her

517
00:24:46,119 --> 00:24:50,440
Speaker 2: family that treat her like crap. I am unfortunate enough

518
00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:52,879
Speaker 2: to not have anywhere to go. I hate this story.

519
00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:55,359
Speaker 2: This makes me sad, but lucky enough to live in

520
00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:59,679
Speaker 2: my parents toxic house despite too toxicity. To their credit,

521
00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:03,120
Speaker 2: they do pay for my medication forty pills a day.

522
00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:04,960
Speaker 2: That is a lot.

523
00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:06,640
Speaker 1: That is a lot of pills.

524
00:25:07,080 --> 00:25:12,280
Speaker 2: That adds context. Yeah, like there's significant things going on.

525
00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:15,439
Speaker 2: The dresses were ordered in bulk at once in some

526
00:25:15,560 --> 00:25:17,600
Speaker 2: dress shop in Chinatown, so there was no way to

527
00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:21,200
Speaker 2: get a size change. Okay, that that explains it something.

528
00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:22,119
Speaker 1: Yeah.

529
00:25:22,320 --> 00:25:24,440
Speaker 2: However, the worst part of it she had the dresses

530
00:25:24,480 --> 00:25:26,280
Speaker 2: sent to her and I had no way to see

531
00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:28,440
Speaker 2: it until the day of So I was very stressed,

532
00:25:28,440 --> 00:25:30,840
Speaker 2: trying to starve myself to try and lose weight any

533
00:25:30,920 --> 00:25:33,840
Speaker 2: possible and if you don't want to starve yourself, just

534
00:25:33,920 --> 00:25:36,639
Speaker 2: join us live on YouTube every weekday at three pm PST.

535
00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:37,800
Speaker 2: Just tap our profile.

536
00:25:38,240 --> 00:25:38,680
Speaker 1: Tap it.

537
00:25:39,080 --> 00:25:42,639
Speaker 2: There's another relevant update. But let's discuss the situations with

538
00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:45,320
Speaker 2: the wedding. Yeah, in some sense, it is kind of

539
00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:50,000
Speaker 2: irrelevant because I think it's just like the cherry on top, Like, I.

540
00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:53,400
Speaker 1: Think it's just one moment in this lifetime that.

541
00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:57,800
Speaker 2: Is showing this super awful relationship that OPI has with

542
00:25:57,880 --> 00:26:00,960
Speaker 2: her whole family exactly, and how off she's treated and

543
00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:01,800
Speaker 2: that there's just no.

544
00:26:02,000 --> 00:26:04,480
Speaker 1: Escape, literally cannot leave this.

545
00:26:04,640 --> 00:26:08,160
Speaker 2: And so the wedding was just like, oh, like, there's

546
00:26:08,160 --> 00:26:10,840
Speaker 2: no like, this is what it is. We come to it.

547
00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:13,119
Speaker 2: At this point, it's been ten years of being treated

548
00:26:13,160 --> 00:26:15,879
Speaker 2: like this and I can no longer be treated like

549
00:26:15,920 --> 00:26:18,880
Speaker 2: this anymore. Yeah, but there's nowhere to run, and so

550
00:26:19,160 --> 00:26:21,959
Speaker 2: the explosion that was inevitably going to happen happened.

551
00:26:22,160 --> 00:26:23,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, which really sucks.

552
00:26:24,320 --> 00:26:27,960
Speaker 2: Since the wedding, sister in law was diagnosed with cancer

553
00:26:28,960 --> 00:26:32,280
Speaker 2: in twenty sixteen. From that point on, my sister in

554
00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:35,480
Speaker 2: law and brother both can do no wrong. Okay, So

555
00:26:35,560 --> 00:26:39,639
Speaker 2: this is just she was already diagnosed with cancer and

556
00:26:39,760 --> 00:26:42,600
Speaker 2: so like it's another reason that there is a super

557
00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:47,000
Speaker 2: defendant of her her even after leaving the house, my

558
00:26:47,000 --> 00:26:49,080
Speaker 2: parents discuss how sad it is, but it's not a

559
00:26:49,119 --> 00:26:52,760
Speaker 2: situation I'm loud to speak about. I medically stuck from

560
00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:55,680
Speaker 2: my issues that make each other worse and the repetitive

561
00:26:55,680 --> 00:26:58,879
Speaker 2: emotional trauma. I've been the therapy where my doctor flout

562
00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:02,560
Speaker 2: said I have a diagnosed issue based on my relationship

563
00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:06,920
Speaker 2: between my parents, and that she's also a physiological behavioral therapist.

564
00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:09,080
Speaker 2: We got there and very familiar with my issues, but

565
00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:13,480
Speaker 2: constantly gives me unsolicited, unnecessary advice. So the therapist is giving

566
00:27:13,560 --> 00:27:16,479
Speaker 2: I guess so unsolicited advice, I think so. For a

567
00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:19,440
Speaker 2: familiar example, if I broke my legs, she would tell

568
00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:22,760
Speaker 2: me I should not walk on it. My family enables

569
00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:25,920
Speaker 2: bad behavior, and every family member other than me, when

570
00:27:25,920 --> 00:27:28,520
Speaker 2: it comes to me, I'm a burden. When family calls

571
00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:30,639
Speaker 2: asking how I'm doing, my parents don't hand me on

572
00:27:30,680 --> 00:27:33,280
Speaker 2: the phone to speak for myself. They say I'm fine,

573
00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:37,359
Speaker 2: with which any family visit, they immediately see I'm not fine,

574
00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:39,359
Speaker 2: but they feel it's not their place to step in

575
00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:41,920
Speaker 2: and help me. Okay, that was the end of the context.

576
00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:44,840
Speaker 2: Man man oh Man Ricky.

577
00:27:45,160 --> 00:27:47,159
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like, how do you get out of a

578
00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:50,440
Speaker 1: situation that you depend on for yourself at well?

579
00:27:50,560 --> 00:27:55,719
Speaker 2: Slily toves Ope, get a new therapist, get on disability,

580
00:27:55,920 --> 00:27:59,960
Speaker 2: get medicaid, get out to assisted living. Yeah that's possible.

581
00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:03,800
Speaker 2: That would be great. Like, yeah, get away from family.

582
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:08,360
Speaker 2: It's only going to increase whatever issues you're dealing with,

583
00:28:09,040 --> 00:28:11,880
Speaker 2: it's just going to add on more ongoing trauma to it.

584
00:28:12,359 --> 00:28:13,720
Speaker 2: So if it's possible to get.

585
00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:15,919
Speaker 1: Out of there, or maybe like even talk, I don't know,

586
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:18,240
Speaker 1: like if it's at all possibly the fact that your

587
00:28:18,280 --> 00:28:21,639
Speaker 1: parents are paying for your pills. Maybe it's saying like, hey,

588
00:28:22,080 --> 00:28:24,280
Speaker 1: is there any way that we could work out something

589
00:28:24,280 --> 00:28:28,720
Speaker 1: where I live not here? Yeah. I don't know if

590
00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:31,600
Speaker 1: they would do that because they suck, But if they

591
00:28:31,600 --> 00:28:36,639
Speaker 1: don't want to see you, maybe maybe we can sucks

592
00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:39,360
Speaker 1: really really bad situation situation.

593
00:28:40,360 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 2: Someone says, I'm just more confused how how some can

594
00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 2: live like this. The human spirit is insanely adaptable, but

595
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:49,640
Speaker 2: there are limits.

596
00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:54,960
Speaker 1: My in law's trying to steal my wedding spotlight, so

597
00:28:55,040 --> 00:28:58,480
Speaker 1: I'm filing a restraining order. Don't let anyone steal your

598
00:28:58,760 --> 00:28:59,640
Speaker 1: time to shine.

599
00:29:00,440 --> 00:29:03,160
Speaker 2: Get that two hundred yard stick keep them away.

600
00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:06,880
Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Hello, it's a little long, so I apologize

601
00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:09,160
Speaker 1: in advance. So let me start by saying that this

602
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:13,760
Speaker 1: happened last December, but the dust has just recently settled,

603
00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:16,840
Speaker 1: which is why I'm writing it now. So my wedding,

604
00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:19,120
Speaker 1: apart from everything that I'm about to tell you, was

605
00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:22,000
Speaker 1: a magical day. I got to marry the person that

606
00:29:22,040 --> 00:29:25,360
Speaker 1: I love, surrounded by my friends and family in a

607
00:29:25,400 --> 00:29:29,040
Speaker 1: beautiful wedding that my partner and I designed. By the way,

608
00:29:29,080 --> 00:29:32,000
Speaker 1: this comes from Eastern Reporter eighty five seventy three on

609
00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:35,440
Speaker 1: the OK storytime Separate it So truly, if it hadn't

610
00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:37,600
Speaker 1: been my big day, I might have found it funny,

611
00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:41,000
Speaker 1: but instead it was like living through a reality show

612
00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:45,280
Speaker 1: gone wrong. Let me start off by giving some context

613
00:29:45,360 --> 00:29:46,480
Speaker 1: contacts in the beginning.

614
00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:49,440
Speaker 2: Next in the beginning, thank you.

615
00:29:49,840 --> 00:29:52,920
Speaker 1: My partner's parents never really had a wedding of their own.

616
00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:56,680
Speaker 1: They got married in a courthouse. There's nothing wrong with that, though,

617
00:29:56,920 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 1: because they were pregnant and had to rush things. They

618
00:29:59,720 --> 00:30:02,120
Speaker 1: didn't I really have money to spend on an event,

619
00:30:02,320 --> 00:30:04,840
Speaker 1: so they decided to keep it simple and they would

620
00:30:04,840 --> 00:30:08,040
Speaker 1: do something big later to renew their vowels or something else,

621
00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:12,000
Speaker 1: but they kept popping out children eight to be exact,

622
00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:15,640
Speaker 1: that they never got the chance. Whenever they tell their

623
00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:18,480
Speaker 1: wedding story, they always say that they remember it fondly

624
00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:20,680
Speaker 1: and that it was one of the best days of

625
00:30:20,720 --> 00:30:24,360
Speaker 1: their life, so no one knew or even suspected what

626
00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 1: they would do. I've never had the best relationship with

627
00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:30,520
Speaker 1: my mother in law or my father in law. They

628
00:30:30,600 --> 00:30:34,239
Speaker 1: have that weird relationship with their children where they're just

629
00:30:34,280 --> 00:30:38,000
Speaker 1: a little too close and it gets weird. Sometimes they

630
00:30:38,040 --> 00:30:40,320
Speaker 1: think that no one is good enough for any of them.

631
00:30:40,440 --> 00:30:43,960
Speaker 1: When speaking about each child's respective partners, they always throw

632
00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:47,640
Speaker 1: around phrases like if I was dating you, I wouldn't

633
00:30:47,680 --> 00:30:49,000
Speaker 1: be so weird.

634
00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:51,760
Speaker 2: If I was dating you, I wouldn't be No, I

635
00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:53,720
Speaker 2: wouldn't I wouldn't be doing.

636
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:57,640
Speaker 1: Oh like I was, like that was danning you, I

637
00:30:57,680 --> 00:30:58,160
Speaker 1: won't be.

638
00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:01,280
Speaker 2: Alone?

639
00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:03,800
Speaker 1: Or why can't you date someone more like me?

640
00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:08,200
Speaker 2: Why you woman like your mother? I'm only a woman

641
00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:08,880
Speaker 2: you need.

642
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:11,080
Speaker 1: Which kind of freaks the partner and I out, but

643
00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:13,480
Speaker 1: we look past it. When my partner proposed to me,

644
00:31:13,720 --> 00:31:16,160
Speaker 1: it was one of the best days of my life.

645
00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:18,960
Speaker 1: He did it on one of our favorite mountain spots

646
00:31:18,960 --> 00:31:23,320
Speaker 1: with our dogs, and I cried. He hadn't told anyone

647
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:27,400
Speaker 1: except my mom and my best friend that he was proposing.

648
00:31:27,760 --> 00:31:30,760
Speaker 1: He told his mother at Friday dinner, and she was fuming.

649
00:31:31,360 --> 00:31:34,120
Speaker 1: She didn't even try to hide it. I can understand

650
00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 1: being upset because he didn't tell her, but she went

651
00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:38,640
Speaker 1: on about how she believed that she deserved to be

652
00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:41,840
Speaker 1: there as much as I did, and that she wanted

653
00:31:41,840 --> 00:31:43,120
Speaker 1: to get proposed to as well.

654
00:31:43,840 --> 00:31:45,680
Speaker 2: The mom hope, he's mom.

655
00:31:45,960 --> 00:31:50,160
Speaker 1: She's like, why didn't you propose to me? I'm his mother?

656
00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:54,080
Speaker 1: The mom when asked, she said that I should be

657
00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:56,239
Speaker 1: the one proposed to her, to ask her if she

658
00:31:56,280 --> 00:32:00,600
Speaker 1: would be my mother in law. No, that's weird. Told

659
00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:03,200
Speaker 1: her that it was a little silly and just store

660
00:32:03,440 --> 00:32:06,680
Speaker 1: and she just stormed out of the room. We never

661
00:32:07,040 --> 00:32:11,160
Speaker 1: really spoke of the incident again. A few months later,

662
00:32:11,320 --> 00:32:14,000
Speaker 1: when we had set a date for our wedding in December,

663
00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:17,080
Speaker 1: every time we would hang out with the in laws,

664
00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:19,920
Speaker 1: they started making comments about what they would have done

665
00:32:19,960 --> 00:32:22,040
Speaker 1: if they had gotten the chance to design a wedding.

666
00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:25,280
Speaker 3: Thinks think like a tropical.

667
00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:30,240
Speaker 1: Paradise theme, getting married on a sunny beach serving pinicoladas, etc.

668
00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:33,280
Speaker 1: My partner and I have nothing against beaches, but we

669
00:32:33,400 --> 00:32:36,640
Speaker 1: prefer the cold, so we just smiled and nodded our

670
00:32:36,680 --> 00:32:39,920
Speaker 1: heads when they made the suggestions. We took it as

671
00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:43,320
Speaker 1: innocent comments by two retired people who had nothing else

672
00:32:43,360 --> 00:32:46,840
Speaker 1: to do but look at wedding shows on TV. It

673
00:32:46,960 --> 00:32:50,960
Speaker 1: wasn't until I had to go wedding dress shopping that

674
00:32:51,080 --> 00:32:54,280
Speaker 1: the issues started. Oh no, I made the mistake of

675
00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:56,520
Speaker 1: inviting my mother in law and sister in law to

676
00:32:56,560 --> 00:32:59,320
Speaker 1: my dress appointment, thinking that it would be a nice

677
00:32:59,360 --> 00:33:03,040
Speaker 1: way to bond. But no, that would have been too easy.

678
00:33:03,480 --> 00:33:07,080
Speaker 2: I feel like crab always goes down all.

679
00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:10,040
Speaker 1: At the wedding dress because people it's an emotion. It's

680
00:33:10,040 --> 00:33:13,680
Speaker 1: like heighten emotions because it's already for me, at least,

681
00:33:13,840 --> 00:33:17,840
Speaker 1: going clothes shopping is already a heightened emotional state. It

682
00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:20,680
Speaker 1: stresses me out. I hate shopping for clothes, and so

683
00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:23,600
Speaker 1: I think when you couple that with kind of for

684
00:33:23,680 --> 00:33:28,000
Speaker 1: most people, the most important clothing item of your life,

685
00:33:29,320 --> 00:33:32,280
Speaker 1: it's pretty stress, pretty stressing. We get there and it

686
00:33:32,400 --> 00:33:35,040
Speaker 1: all goes smoothly. I'm trying on a few dresses that

687
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:37,200
Speaker 1: I really like. When all of a sudden, I hear

688
00:33:37,240 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 1: little giggles that I recognize coming from the other side

689
00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:45,120
Speaker 1: of the store. Shut up. I ask my friend if

690
00:33:45,120 --> 00:33:47,960
Speaker 1: she could go check what was going on, and she

691
00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:50,239
Speaker 1: found both of them hiding the dresses that I had

692
00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:55,200
Speaker 1: already tried on and really liked. What I'm gonna hide

693
00:33:55,280 --> 00:34:01,400
Speaker 1: my fist in your face. Nice, not actually going, but metaphorically,

694
00:34:01,720 --> 00:34:05,160
Speaker 1: I'm pretty upset in a weird storage room that I

695
00:34:05,160 --> 00:34:08,080
Speaker 1: don't even know how they got access to, and replacing

696
00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:11,000
Speaker 1: them with brightly colored dresses that were more for a

697
00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:12,400
Speaker 1: prom than a wedding.

698
00:34:13,280 --> 00:34:14,799
Speaker 2: How do you even think you're gonna get away with

699
00:34:14,840 --> 00:34:18,160
Speaker 2: it if you're like prom oh?

700
00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:21,040
Speaker 1: He's like, where's the dresses I found? And they're like,

701
00:34:21,120 --> 00:34:22,359
Speaker 1: you mean this pink one?

702
00:34:23,040 --> 00:34:23,480
Speaker 2: Oh?

703
00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:26,200
Speaker 1: Oh? Got you? And You're like, I didn't really think

704
00:34:26,280 --> 00:34:27,960
Speaker 1: much of it. When they said that what they were

705
00:34:27,960 --> 00:34:30,560
Speaker 1: doing was for my own good, because it would be

706
00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:33,080
Speaker 1: embarrassing if I showed up in a white floor length

707
00:34:33,200 --> 00:34:36,960
Speaker 1: dressed to my wedding on the beach, I corrected them

708
00:34:37,000 --> 00:34:39,840
Speaker 1: and said it wasn't on a beach and that I

709
00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:43,440
Speaker 1: like the other ones. They rolled their eyes and walked away.

710
00:34:44,840 --> 00:34:47,680
Speaker 1: My partner also took them to the cake appointment, and

711
00:34:47,719 --> 00:34:50,200
Speaker 1: he told me that they were insisting on getting a

712
00:34:50,239 --> 00:34:53,600
Speaker 1: pineapple filled cake with Hawaiian flowers on it. He also

713
00:34:53,640 --> 00:34:56,279
Speaker 1: said no and moved on, why are they obsessed with

714
00:34:56,320 --> 00:34:59,319
Speaker 1: the beach? Do they just need a beach day? Well,

715
00:34:59,640 --> 00:35:01,040
Speaker 1: you guys can go to the beach.

716
00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:02,560
Speaker 2: It because they never got their wedding.

717
00:35:02,719 --> 00:35:05,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, and they're insisting on having a beach wedding with

718
00:35:05,760 --> 00:35:07,080
Speaker 1: their little pina coladas.

719
00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:08,680
Speaker 2: I don't want pineapple my wedding cake.

720
00:35:09,040 --> 00:35:11,640
Speaker 1: Freak on my wedding cake.

721
00:35:11,680 --> 00:35:12,760
Speaker 2: Put it on your pizza.

722
00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:15,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, I actually do like pineapple and pizza.

723
00:35:15,560 --> 00:35:18,359
Speaker 2: Stud Chill, you're gonna say that online.

724
00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:22,200
Speaker 1: There were so many of these incidents throughout the span

725
00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:25,400
Speaker 1: of three months that I don't know how we didn't

726
00:35:25,440 --> 00:35:29,040
Speaker 1: see it. Cut to the wedding and everything is just perfect.

727
00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:34,000
Speaker 1: I don't believe you wop. And we didn't, in fact

728
00:35:34,080 --> 00:35:36,319
Speaker 1: get married on the beach. We got married in a

729
00:35:36,400 --> 00:35:40,320
Speaker 1: snowy field, a little impractical, and my dress got wet,

730
00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:44,440
Speaker 1: but I had the best time. As everyone is arriving

731
00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:47,480
Speaker 1: for the ceremony, I'm getting ready with my partner in

732
00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 1: a little room when my maid of honor bursts through

733
00:35:50,719 --> 00:35:53,920
Speaker 1: the door and shows us her phone. She was on

734
00:35:54,000 --> 00:35:57,479
Speaker 1: FaceTime with another bridesmaid outside so that we could see

735
00:35:57,480 --> 00:35:58,239
Speaker 1: what was going on.

736
00:35:58,360 --> 00:35:59,840
Speaker 2: Oh no, oh no no.

737
00:36:00,520 --> 00:36:02,840
Speaker 1: In the middle of a crowd of people wearing neutral

738
00:36:02,880 --> 00:36:07,240
Speaker 1: and cold colors, I see this figure dressed in knee

739
00:36:07,400 --> 00:36:11,440
Speaker 1: length Hawaiian dress. It was bright red and did not

740
00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:14,280
Speaker 1: fit in at all, and she was also wearing a sunhat,

741
00:36:14,440 --> 00:36:16,520
Speaker 1: and of course my father in law was wearing something

742
00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:19,120
Speaker 1: to match her. I'm gonna be honest, I feel like

743
00:36:19,440 --> 00:36:23,720
Speaker 1: they're hurting themselves more because they're just gonna be a cold.

744
00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:28,720
Speaker 1: They're just gonna be cold. It's like, Okay, you guys

745
00:36:28,719 --> 00:36:30,480
Speaker 1: are wearing that, I guess.

746
00:36:30,360 --> 00:36:31,680
Speaker 2: And it's just embarrassing.

747
00:36:31,880 --> 00:36:32,839
Speaker 1: It's just embarrassing.

748
00:36:32,880 --> 00:36:35,279
Speaker 2: Are you what are you trying to get out of this?

749
00:36:35,480 --> 00:36:38,200
Speaker 1: So truly, it's like, Okay, I guess you're in a

750
00:36:38,239 --> 00:36:39,080
Speaker 1: Hawaiian dress.

751
00:36:39,160 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, you showed me, I guess. Oh no, yeah.

752
00:36:43,040 --> 00:36:45,319
Speaker 1: I tried to go out and confront her, but I

753
00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:47,399
Speaker 1: was made to sit back on the phone and watch

754
00:36:47,400 --> 00:36:49,920
Speaker 1: as my bridesmaids did it for me. They asked her

755
00:36:49,960 --> 00:36:52,120
Speaker 1: what she was doing, and she said that she was

756
00:36:52,160 --> 00:36:55,560
Speaker 1: told it was a tropical wedding so it wasn't her fault,

757
00:36:56,120 --> 00:36:58,600
Speaker 1: but that this wedding also needed color because I did

758
00:36:58,640 --> 00:37:01,640
Speaker 1: it wrong. Kept asking her if she could change, and

759
00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:04,080
Speaker 1: she kept saying no. So I just told them to

760
00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:07,040
Speaker 1: leave it alone and that it was fine. That is

761
00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:10,160
Speaker 1: the lamest excuse I've ever heard. What do you mean?

762
00:37:10,200 --> 00:37:12,920
Speaker 1: You were told it was a tropical wedding by herself.

763
00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:16,160
Speaker 2: She was like, I'm saying this is a tropical wedding.

764
00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 1: No, but it's like it's like getting an invitation for

765
00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:23,359
Speaker 1: a wedding that's happening in like I don't know, New

766
00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:28,320
Speaker 1: York in January, and you're like, oh, it's a tropical wedding.

767
00:37:28,840 --> 00:37:31,160
Speaker 1: You know I wanted to it's like actively snowing. You're like,

768
00:37:31,200 --> 00:37:32,279
Speaker 1: it's a tropical wedding.

769
00:37:32,360 --> 00:37:34,000
Speaker 2: Tropical? What do you mean? Why you ask me why

770
00:37:34,040 --> 00:37:34,440
Speaker 2: I'm in this?

771
00:37:35,040 --> 00:37:38,560
Speaker 1: The ceremony went by easily, and it was literally the

772
00:37:38,680 --> 00:37:42,840
Speaker 1: happiest I've been, But obviously it didn't go without incident.

773
00:37:42,960 --> 00:37:46,040
Speaker 1: Of course, I go out later that before I walked out,

774
00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:48,040
Speaker 1: my mother in law trying to walk out.

775
00:37:47,880 --> 00:37:51,360
Speaker 3: Before me by herself with a bouquet.

776
00:37:51,520 --> 00:37:55,080
Speaker 1: She got out of who knows where because she wanted

777
00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:57,360
Speaker 1: to make sure that the walk was perfect for the bride.

778
00:37:57,560 --> 00:38:01,120
Speaker 1: What she like, wait, wait, wait, I need to test it.

779
00:38:01,960 --> 00:38:04,000
Speaker 2: You try this to make sure there's not poison in it,

780
00:38:04,200 --> 00:38:05,239
Speaker 2: but I walk out.

781
00:38:05,360 --> 00:38:07,120
Speaker 1: She's like, I need to make sure it's not booby trapped.

782
00:38:09,320 --> 00:38:11,799
Speaker 1: She even asked the organist to play the wedding march

783
00:38:11,840 --> 00:38:14,080
Speaker 1: for her. Of course she refused and she had to

784
00:38:14,120 --> 00:38:14,680
Speaker 1: sit down.

785
00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:15,759
Speaker 2: Uh.

786
00:38:15,800 --> 00:38:18,520
Speaker 1: The same thing happened with my father in law. He

787
00:38:18,600 --> 00:38:21,120
Speaker 1: kept trying to stand next to my partner at the altar,

788
00:38:21,719 --> 00:38:24,359
Speaker 1: so close that he kept pushing him over as if

789
00:38:24,400 --> 00:38:27,680
Speaker 1: to move. His best man had to physically pull him

790
00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:30,880
Speaker 1: to his seat. Why are these people?

791
00:38:31,080 --> 00:38:32,880
Speaker 2: I'm sorry you're marring into this.

792
00:38:33,080 --> 00:38:33,319
Speaker 3: Yeah.

793
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:36,720
Speaker 1: During the walk down the aisle, they both kept talking

794
00:38:36,800 --> 00:38:40,279
Speaker 1: loudly and voicing their disapproval on my dress, make up,

795
00:38:40,760 --> 00:38:45,640
Speaker 1: hair decorations, et cetera. Man they were also told several

796
00:38:45,680 --> 00:38:48,479
Speaker 1: times to quiet down, which only pissed them off more.

797
00:38:48,560 --> 00:38:51,600
Speaker 1: They also audibly gasped when we skipped the part where

798
00:38:51,600 --> 00:38:53,000
Speaker 1: someone objects to the marriage.

799
00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:56,080
Speaker 2: They're like, wack.

800
00:38:56,480 --> 00:38:58,960
Speaker 1: If anyone does not, they just move past them.

801
00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:01,680
Speaker 2: They're like, where what about the objection part?

802
00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:03,239
Speaker 1: That's the most important part.

803
00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:07,040
Speaker 2: What does someone need to object, but someone someone else,

804
00:39:07,520 --> 00:39:08,640
Speaker 2: anyone needs.

805
00:39:08,800 --> 00:39:10,719
Speaker 1: I might not object to this wedding, but I sure

806
00:39:10,800 --> 00:39:12,800
Speaker 1: as heck object to this theme.

807
00:39:13,200 --> 00:39:15,160
Speaker 2: I object to the lack of pineapples.

808
00:39:15,560 --> 00:39:18,080
Speaker 1: They also loudly asked in the middle of the ceremony

809
00:39:18,120 --> 00:39:20,239
Speaker 1: if I was really that insecure that I had to

810
00:39:20,280 --> 00:39:23,239
Speaker 1: cut out that part, oh my God, to which my

811
00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:25,719
Speaker 1: partner answered that it was his idea and that they

812
00:39:25,719 --> 00:39:29,800
Speaker 1: should shut up, which they promptly did. This is so funny.

813
00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:32,840
Speaker 1: So the priest is like or whatever, you know. The

814
00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:36,400
Speaker 1: officiant is like, do you take this woman to be

815
00:39:36,520 --> 00:39:39,520
Speaker 1: your and the parents are like, this is so is secure.

816
00:39:39,760 --> 00:39:43,680
Speaker 1: She had to cut off the objection part. Someone objects.

817
00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:47,840
Speaker 3: To be your lawfully wedded, And then the groom is like, yeah,

818
00:39:48,160 --> 00:39:48,839
Speaker 3: I did it.

819
00:39:49,080 --> 00:39:54,319
Speaker 1: Shut up. He's like, okay, wild I would love to

820
00:39:54,320 --> 00:39:59,080
Speaker 1: go to this wedding like step brothers. I would love

821
00:39:59,320 --> 00:40:00,879
Speaker 1: to go to this. I'm not gonna lie.

822
00:40:01,360 --> 00:40:03,520
Speaker 2: I kind of want to go to a crab shoot wedding.

823
00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:05,720
Speaker 1: I want to go. I've only went to good weddings.

824
00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:09,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, good weddings going on. You guys are not doing

825
00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:13,279
Speaker 2: it like the toxic weddings. Yeah, not schill.

826
00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:16,440
Speaker 1: After that, it was relatively easy. We got married and

827
00:40:16,480 --> 00:40:18,960
Speaker 1: walked out on our way to the venue. They insisted

828
00:40:19,000 --> 00:40:21,600
Speaker 1: we give them our car, which had just married, on

829
00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:23,920
Speaker 1: the back, because we owed them. At this point, my

830
00:40:24,000 --> 00:40:26,920
Speaker 1: partner just kept getting angrier and slammed the door in

831
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:30,480
Speaker 1: their face, leaving them to take another car. Once there,

832
00:40:30,560 --> 00:40:33,200
Speaker 1: we thought that would be the end. It was not.

833
00:40:34,000 --> 00:40:36,560
Speaker 1: We sat down at our table and they were the

834
00:40:36,600 --> 00:40:40,560
Speaker 1: first ones that walked towards us, once again asking if

835
00:40:40,560 --> 00:40:43,440
Speaker 1: they could sit there instead of us, because it was

836
00:40:43,520 --> 00:40:46,560
Speaker 1: only fair that we had our ceremony, so they had

837
00:40:46,560 --> 00:40:50,080
Speaker 1: to get the reception. I might you can't have everything.

838
00:40:50,239 --> 00:40:55,080
Speaker 1: You're so selfish. I'm whoa, it's so crazy people. They

839
00:40:55,160 --> 00:40:58,279
Speaker 1: literally said, don't worry, we'll still take it, even though

840
00:40:58,280 --> 00:41:03,040
Speaker 1: you screwed up the dropical with it, like you might

841
00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:07,080
Speaker 1: have a winter wedding, but it'll do with a big

842
00:41:07,200 --> 00:41:11,560
Speaker 1: smile on their faces. And my jaw dropped and my

843
00:41:11,680 --> 00:41:13,640
Speaker 1: husband started to raise his voice when one of his

844
00:41:13,680 --> 00:41:17,319
Speaker 1: brothers came over and took them away. They tried to

845
00:41:17,400 --> 00:41:20,800
Speaker 1: come over during the meal, but were blocked by bridesmaids,

846
00:41:21,160 --> 00:41:24,200
Speaker 1: so they had to wait until our first dance. We

847
00:41:24,280 --> 00:41:27,560
Speaker 1: started dancing, and it was lovely when all of a sudden,

848
00:41:27,600 --> 00:41:30,840
Speaker 1: out of the corner of my eye, I see two

849
00:41:30,920 --> 00:41:34,759
Speaker 1: figures swaying. I look over and see them bumping into

850
00:41:34,760 --> 00:41:38,920
Speaker 1: people trying to get into the literal spotlight my partner

851
00:41:38,920 --> 00:41:42,560
Speaker 1: and I were dancing in. Once again, they had to

852
00:41:42,560 --> 00:41:43,280
Speaker 1: be held back.

853
00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:45,040
Speaker 2: Oh my.

854
00:41:46,840 --> 00:41:50,839
Speaker 1: This continued and they looked ridiculous each time. They constantly

855
00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:53,280
Speaker 1: tried to lure the photographers away to take their wedding

856
00:41:53,280 --> 00:41:57,440
Speaker 1: pictures and got mad when even they told them they

857
00:41:57,440 --> 00:42:00,520
Speaker 1: weren't getting married. And another fun thing, they got caught

858
00:42:00,560 --> 00:42:03,000
Speaker 1: by some weight staff trying to switch our cake with

859
00:42:03,120 --> 00:42:06,600
Speaker 1: the pineapple cake. Shut up, Where did where were they

860
00:42:06,640 --> 00:42:07,279
Speaker 1: storing it?

861
00:42:07,520 --> 00:42:09,560
Speaker 2: They snuck in the pineapple cake.

862
00:42:09,680 --> 00:42:12,200
Speaker 3: This is freaking contraman pineapple gate.

863
00:42:12,200 --> 00:42:14,399
Speaker 2: I got a baggie of pineapple.

864
00:42:14,280 --> 00:42:19,080
Speaker 1: Pineapple like that they wanted in the beginning, we were told,

865
00:42:19,120 --> 00:42:21,680
Speaker 1: And before I could say something, my husband literally pushed

866
00:42:21,680 --> 00:42:23,600
Speaker 1: them out of the venue into a taxi that was

867
00:42:23,640 --> 00:42:24,600
Speaker 1: parked in the entrance.

868
00:42:24,719 --> 00:42:25,919
Speaker 2: I would lose my shit.

869
00:42:26,080 --> 00:42:27,440
Speaker 1: I would go crazy.

870
00:42:27,640 --> 00:42:29,200
Speaker 2: My parents were doing this at my wedding.

871
00:42:29,320 --> 00:42:32,080
Speaker 1: I'd be like, oh my god, take your cake and go.

872
00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:33,520
Speaker 2: They police take them out.

873
00:42:33,600 --> 00:42:36,080
Speaker 1: Yeah. He says that they kept arguing and saying that

874
00:42:36,120 --> 00:42:37,520
Speaker 1: I had ruined their special days.

875
00:42:37,719 --> 00:42:39,359
Speaker 2: Their special day, he.

876
00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:42,240
Speaker 1: Paid them no mine and went back after sending them.

877
00:42:42,120 --> 00:42:45,719
Speaker 2: Away, I feel like like if they're doing this behavior

878
00:42:45,960 --> 00:42:52,840
Speaker 2: so unapologetically, yeah, like OPI's husband has got to yeah, like.

879
00:42:52,920 --> 00:42:55,920
Speaker 1: You guys graduation and they were like no wait wait.

880
00:42:55,880 --> 00:42:56,880
Speaker 2: This is a graduation.

881
00:42:57,200 --> 00:42:58,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, I you ob checked.

882
00:43:00,440 --> 00:43:02,800
Speaker 2: I can't imagine how that he's that shocked.

883
00:43:03,160 --> 00:43:07,880
Speaker 1: No, I know, I'm like, these parents are clearly crazy wild.

884
00:43:08,160 --> 00:43:11,719
Speaker 1: After that, everything went by smoothly until it was time

885
00:43:11,800 --> 00:43:13,120
Speaker 1: for the bouquet toss own.

886
00:43:13,239 --> 00:43:16,480
Speaker 2: No, so I feel like this behavior would not it

887
00:43:16,480 --> 00:43:18,839
Speaker 2: would never make sense. But the only way I could

888
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:23,719
Speaker 2: logically understand is like they're hammered, like they've got or

889
00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:24,759
Speaker 2: like on a bunch of.

890
00:43:25,160 --> 00:43:27,160
Speaker 1: They brought peniu clatas as.

891
00:43:27,080 --> 00:43:29,600
Speaker 2: Well, like sober people don't do this?

892
00:43:29,760 --> 00:43:30,239
Speaker 3: Can it be?

893
00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:34,000
Speaker 1: As I turned around to throw it, I feel my

894
00:43:34,120 --> 00:43:38,000
Speaker 1: veil being ripped out of my hair. No, I turn

895
00:43:38,080 --> 00:43:40,080
Speaker 1: around and see my mother in law with my veil

896
00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:43,360
Speaker 1: in her hand, waving it around, yelling in happiness, saying

897
00:43:43,400 --> 00:43:47,640
Speaker 1: that she won. Weren't they sent away? We need we

898
00:43:47,680 --> 00:43:48,799
Speaker 1: need some security.

899
00:43:49,080 --> 00:43:50,120
Speaker 2: Yeah. Security.

900
00:43:50,640 --> 00:43:52,959
Speaker 1: One of my partner's friends had to hold him back

901
00:43:53,040 --> 00:43:56,239
Speaker 1: because he was about to lunge at his mother. She

902
00:43:56,320 --> 00:43:58,200
Speaker 1: kept saying that it was an old tradition that whoever

903
00:43:58,239 --> 00:44:03,080
Speaker 1: got the bride's veil gets the honeymoon. What she's like,

904
00:44:03,120 --> 00:44:06,480
Speaker 1: it's an odd tradition. If I steal your veil, you

905
00:44:06,680 --> 00:44:09,440
Speaker 1: owe me. You owe me your honeymoon, and also I

906
00:44:09,480 --> 00:44:12,560
Speaker 1: get to get married. Call the officiant back.

907
00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:15,480
Speaker 2: By traditional lie, you owe me a honeymoon.

908
00:44:16,120 --> 00:44:18,800
Speaker 1: I don't make the rules. I don't, I just enforced them.

909
00:44:18,680 --> 00:44:19,680
Speaker 2: But bring the priest.

910
00:44:20,000 --> 00:44:23,200
Speaker 1: The cops were called and took both of them away,

911
00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:25,360
Speaker 1: my mother in law for the veil thing and my

912
00:44:25,440 --> 00:44:29,520
Speaker 1: father in law for driving under the influence. Okay, someone's

913
00:44:29,560 --> 00:44:32,279
Speaker 1: under the influence. Yeah, because while the taxi took them home,

914
00:44:32,680 --> 00:44:36,280
Speaker 1: they drove back right because the taxi drove them away,

915
00:44:36,640 --> 00:44:38,880
Speaker 1: and then they drove back to the wedding to steal

916
00:44:38,920 --> 00:44:42,360
Speaker 1: the veil. Nothing happened after that. We had a great

917
00:44:42,440 --> 00:44:45,080
Speaker 1: time with my veil on my head well, and then

918
00:44:45,120 --> 00:44:48,000
Speaker 1: my partner and I left. He was very mad and

919
00:44:48,120 --> 00:44:51,480
Speaker 1: actually convinced me to press charges and file a restraining

920
00:44:51,600 --> 00:44:54,640
Speaker 1: order about two months later because they kept showing up

921
00:44:54,640 --> 00:44:58,480
Speaker 1: at her house throwing wedding gigs at her house. How

922
00:44:58,560 --> 00:45:03,040
Speaker 1: much money were they wasted to cake your house? This

923
00:45:03,200 --> 00:45:07,400
Speaker 1: is wild and that's it. That's my wedding drama. Also,

924
00:45:07,520 --> 00:45:10,520
Speaker 1: most of their family have cut ties with them. That

925
00:45:10,600 --> 00:45:11,160
Speaker 1: makes sense.

926
00:45:11,400 --> 00:45:15,920
Speaker 2: This is like you need mental support, truly, something.

927
00:45:15,680 --> 00:45:20,920
Speaker 1: Is something is wrong mentally house Truly. Princess says it's

928
00:45:20,960 --> 00:45:22,960
Speaker 1: a German tradition, but it's supposed to be during the

929
00:45:22,960 --> 00:45:25,560
Speaker 1: first dance, and she's like, I'm German now I have

930
00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:29,720
Speaker 1: I'm one percent German, I have point point five percent German.

931
00:45:29,880 --> 00:45:31,880
Speaker 1: I just showed the post to my husband and he

932
00:45:32,000 --> 00:45:33,400
Speaker 1: mentioned a few things I missed.

933
00:45:33,880 --> 00:45:37,239
Speaker 3: It is more, as you can probably guess, they got

934
00:45:37,719 --> 00:45:38,680
Speaker 3: really crop.

935
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:40,240
Speaker 2: That makes sense.

936
00:45:40,280 --> 00:45:42,319
Speaker 1: We didn't have a set limit for guests on how

937
00:45:42,400 --> 00:45:44,120
Speaker 1: much they could drink, as we know everyone as a

938
00:45:44,120 --> 00:45:47,200
Speaker 1: preference and we respect that, but we did tell bartenders

939
00:45:47,239 --> 00:45:50,000
Speaker 1: to judge whether someone should still be drinking, and they

940
00:45:50,120 --> 00:45:52,920
Speaker 1: judged poorly. These people, my in laws, were told that

941
00:45:52,920 --> 00:45:56,080
Speaker 1: they couldn't drink anymore up to five times, after which

942
00:45:56,120 --> 00:46:01,040
Speaker 1: they got into the bartender's van in which they brought everything.

943
00:46:01,400 --> 00:46:04,040
Speaker 1: No one realized until after the event when looking at

944
00:46:04,040 --> 00:46:06,920
Speaker 1: the security footage. The bartender said it was fine, but

945
00:46:07,000 --> 00:46:09,080
Speaker 1: we pay them a little more for the inconvenience.

946
00:46:09,600 --> 00:46:12,280
Speaker 3: But you know what, it's never an an inconvenience, never

947
00:46:12,520 --> 00:46:15,840
Speaker 3: joining us live every weekday three PMPSD on YouTube.

948
00:46:15,880 --> 00:46:18,000
Speaker 1: Just tap our profile and there is a little bit

949
00:46:18,080 --> 00:46:22,279
Speaker 1: left to this story. But cut these people off, cut

950
00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:22,719
Speaker 1: them off.

951
00:46:22,960 --> 00:46:23,320
Speaker 2: Wild.

952
00:46:23,520 --> 00:46:26,759
Speaker 1: These are crazy people. Wild, These are crazy people who

953
00:46:26,800 --> 00:46:27,880
Speaker 1: are caking your house.

954
00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:29,320
Speaker 2: They're caking your house.

955
00:46:29,719 --> 00:46:30,719
Speaker 1: I hope it's good cake.

956
00:46:30,840 --> 00:46:33,600
Speaker 2: But by German tradition, you do owe her the.

957
00:46:33,680 --> 00:46:36,120
Speaker 3: Honey You are the honeymoon, right, I don't make it.

958
00:46:37,680 --> 00:46:39,279
Speaker 3: But cut them off, but you all.

959
00:46:39,200 --> 00:46:42,160
Speaker 2: The she got the veil, Okay, yeah, come on, she

960
00:46:42,239 --> 00:46:43,520
Speaker 2: got the veil German tradition.

961
00:46:43,800 --> 00:46:47,080
Speaker 1: They also behaved so childishly during the meal. They were

962
00:46:47,120 --> 00:46:49,240
Speaker 1: throwing their food at other guests, so this is common.

963
00:46:49,760 --> 00:46:53,360
Speaker 1: They commonly throw food at people, which was actually really embarrassing.

964
00:46:53,600 --> 00:46:55,239
Speaker 1: They kept saying it was because my mother in law

965
00:46:55,239 --> 00:46:57,880
Speaker 1: could have cooked better, or she would have chosen something different.

966
00:46:58,360 --> 00:47:01,680
Speaker 3: She's like, this chicken is not again, I got a

967
00:47:01,840 --> 00:47:06,080
Speaker 3: cook The chicken is so well, it doesn't have freaking

968
00:47:06,320 --> 00:47:07,879
Speaker 3: pieapples on it.

969
00:47:08,280 --> 00:47:10,200
Speaker 2: I wanted piapple on a chicken.

970
00:47:10,640 --> 00:47:14,560
Speaker 1: Ah give me a veil, and finally they both got

971
00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:16,480
Speaker 1: into a fight with my mother. I don't know how

972
00:47:16,520 --> 00:47:19,400
Speaker 1: I forgot that. Apparently my mother in law came up

973
00:47:19,400 --> 00:47:22,000
Speaker 1: to my mother to discuss the ceremony and started saying

974
00:47:22,040 --> 00:47:24,600
Speaker 1: how I looked puffy and it just didn't fit me. Well,

975
00:47:25,239 --> 00:47:28,000
Speaker 1: I was three months pregnant and we hadn't told anyone

976
00:47:28,040 --> 00:47:30,960
Speaker 1: except my mother and some of my partner's siblings, and

977
00:47:31,040 --> 00:47:33,520
Speaker 1: I didn't think I was showing, and my mom didn't

978
00:47:33,560 --> 00:47:35,759
Speaker 1: say anything until she started saying how I was in

979
00:47:35,800 --> 00:47:40,000
Speaker 1: this marriage for convenience and just overall crappy things. My

980
00:47:40,080 --> 00:47:43,120
Speaker 1: mother told me she almost slapped her, but chose to

981
00:47:43,120 --> 00:47:45,200
Speaker 1: throw a drink on her, and they didn't speak again.

982
00:47:46,160 --> 00:47:51,880
Speaker 1: If my partner or myself remember anything, will update please do? Man?

983
00:47:51,880 --> 00:47:54,760
Speaker 1: Oh man, what a what a wild ride?

984
00:47:55,080 --> 00:47:56,320
Speaker 2: A wild ride.

985
00:47:56,600 --> 00:48:00,560
Speaker 1: I'm really glad that we read that. Honestly, me too.

986
00:48:01,200 --> 00:48:04,719
Speaker 2: It was entertaining that was that was doesn't seem like reality.

987
00:48:04,840 --> 00:48:08,600
Speaker 1: It doesn't. I'm shocked that these people exist quite frankly.

988
00:48:08,440 --> 00:48:10,600
Speaker 2: But please make a documentary.

989
00:48:10,480 --> 00:48:13,440
Speaker 1: Please, a wedding footage.

990
00:48:13,080 --> 00:48:14,600
Speaker 2: Show with them being starred.

991
00:48:14,719 --> 00:48:17,560
Speaker 1: I really want you to have wedding footage of this.

992
00:48:17,600 --> 00:48:19,880
Speaker 2: You could just sell the wedding footage, yeah, to the studio.

993
00:48:19,880 --> 00:48:20,799
Speaker 2: You don't even need to edit it.

994
00:48:20,840 --> 00:48:23,520
Speaker 1: You don't just leave it. It's kind of like a mockumentary. Yah,

995
00:48:23,880 --> 00:48:26,080
Speaker 1: but it's real. I would love that.

996
00:48:26,400 --> 00:48:28,560
Speaker 2: Now. The bar is like so low on weddings.

997
00:48:28,600 --> 00:48:30,560
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, I'm like wow. If I'm not anything's

998
00:48:30,600 --> 00:48:31,080
Speaker 1: better than that.

999
00:48:31,640 --> 00:48:35,000
Speaker 2: If people aren't drawing up sneak pineapple in the cakey

1000
00:48:35,320 --> 00:48:38,239
Speaker 2: like cake my house and steal my honeymoon, it's a

1001
00:48:38,239 --> 00:48:39,480
Speaker 2: pretty good wedding, great wedding.

1002
00:48:40,520 --> 00:48:43,600
Speaker 1: My maid of honor ruined my wedding and my marriage,

1003
00:48:43,760 --> 00:48:47,080
Speaker 1: but she got what she deserved in the end, a

1004
00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:51,759
Speaker 1: taste of revenge medicine. This is a long post, but

1005
00:48:51,840 --> 00:48:54,080
Speaker 1: please bear with me. Back in the dark ages of

1006
00:48:54,120 --> 00:48:57,920
Speaker 1: twenty seventeen, I got married to my now ex husband.

1007
00:48:58,000 --> 00:49:01,000
Speaker 1: The morning was awful. My parents couldn't be there as

1008
00:49:01,000 --> 00:49:03,239
Speaker 1: they were hosting guests at their house, so they sent

1009
00:49:03,239 --> 00:49:05,520
Speaker 1: a family friend to help me get food. By the way,

1010
00:49:05,560 --> 00:49:08,120
Speaker 1: this comes from zero zero, three, one four five on

1011
00:49:08,200 --> 00:49:11,480
Speaker 1: the Okay storytime Separate it. So I really needed my

1012
00:49:11,600 --> 00:49:14,520
Speaker 1: mom there. But such as life, my best friend made

1013
00:49:14,560 --> 00:49:17,040
Speaker 1: of honor one equals made of Honor one came by

1014
00:49:17,160 --> 00:49:19,719
Speaker 1: earlier to keep me company. I had tried calling around

1015
00:49:19,760 --> 00:49:22,400
Speaker 1: as I left my something blue at home, but no

1016
00:49:22,400 --> 00:49:24,719
Speaker 1: one answered, and by the time they did, it was

1017
00:49:24,760 --> 00:49:28,520
Speaker 1: too late, So I'm stressed and nervous. My other best friend,

1018
00:49:28,600 --> 00:49:31,640
Speaker 1: Made of Honor two, still hadn't arrived and also wasn't

1019
00:49:31,680 --> 00:49:35,600
Speaker 1: answering her phone. After my parents arrived, I started getting ready.

1020
00:49:35,640 --> 00:49:38,440
Speaker 1: My hair and makeup were both perfect. My dress felt

1021
00:49:38,440 --> 00:49:41,040
Speaker 1: too tight, but I was paranoid it would fall, given

1022
00:49:41,080 --> 00:49:43,520
Speaker 1: that it was a corset dress. Everyone left my room

1023
00:49:43,560 --> 00:49:46,080
Speaker 1: as the ceremony was about to start, when in came

1024
00:49:46,520 --> 00:49:48,680
Speaker 1: my maid of Honor two. Her hair was a mess,

1025
00:49:48,719 --> 00:49:51,080
Speaker 1: which ordinarily I wouldn't have cared about, but she could

1026
00:49:51,120 --> 00:49:53,319
Speaker 1: have at least brushed it. Her dress also looks like

1027
00:49:53,400 --> 00:49:55,880
Speaker 1: she screwed it up in a heap in her closet.

1028
00:49:56,000 --> 00:49:59,000
Speaker 1: Did she do something that'll freaky in her dress? Who

1029
00:49:59,600 --> 00:50:02,959
Speaker 1: freaky dress? The first thing she did was to call

1030
00:50:03,000 --> 00:50:05,839
Speaker 1: me a bridezilla as a joke, apparently because I was

1031
00:50:05,840 --> 00:50:08,480
Speaker 1: pacing due to nerves and a little tearful because I'd

1032
00:50:08,520 --> 00:50:11,080
Speaker 1: felt my morning had been very stressful. All I said

1033
00:50:11,239 --> 00:50:13,640
Speaker 1: was I needed my something blue. She didn't even seem

1034
00:50:13,680 --> 00:50:16,360
Speaker 1: to want to be there. After the ceremony, which went fine,

1035
00:50:16,400 --> 00:50:20,000
Speaker 1: we went outside and started taking photos. In the group photos,

1036
00:50:20,000 --> 00:50:21,920
Speaker 1: she was the only one who couldn't be bothered to

1037
00:50:21,920 --> 00:50:24,600
Speaker 1: look at the camera, and she barely smiled in any

1038
00:50:24,600 --> 00:50:27,280
Speaker 1: photo she was in. It's fine, she's a mom. Maybe

1039
00:50:27,320 --> 00:50:29,560
Speaker 1: she's tired. I let it go. The second the photos

1040
00:50:29,600 --> 00:50:32,799
Speaker 1: were over, she and her partner left. They made sure

1041
00:50:32,840 --> 00:50:35,400
Speaker 1: to say by first, I was very annoyed because I

1042
00:50:35,400 --> 00:50:38,080
Speaker 1: had spent extra on her food as she required a

1043
00:50:38,080 --> 00:50:41,080
Speaker 1: special diet. But she explained that their baby had a

1044
00:50:41,080 --> 00:50:44,000
Speaker 1: sleep schedule. I'm sorry. If your baby is gonna be

1045
00:50:44,040 --> 00:50:47,839
Speaker 1: an issue at a wedding, then for babysitter, Yeah, if

1046
00:50:47,880 --> 00:50:48,560
Speaker 1: you baby, said he.

1047
00:50:48,760 --> 00:50:51,120
Speaker 3: If you know your baby sleep schedule and you know

1048
00:50:51,160 --> 00:50:53,480
Speaker 3: that this wedding is gonna like yeah, get in the

1049
00:50:53,480 --> 00:50:55,480
Speaker 3: way of that, then like tell them ahead of time,

1050
00:50:55,520 --> 00:50:56,359
Speaker 3: tell them ahead of time.

1051
00:50:56,440 --> 00:50:56,680
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1052
00:50:56,800 --> 00:50:59,000
Speaker 3: Don't make them get special food for you when you

1053
00:50:59,000 --> 00:51:00,000
Speaker 3: know you're not even gonna eat it.

1054
00:51:00,200 --> 00:51:00,399
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1055
00:51:00,520 --> 00:51:02,759
Speaker 1: No, There were so many options here. One shouldn't have

1056
00:51:02,800 --> 00:51:05,799
Speaker 1: accepted your maid of honor position two babysitter.

1057
00:51:05,960 --> 00:51:08,399
Speaker 3: Three telehim in advance. I have a feeling she's lying.

1058
00:51:08,719 --> 00:51:11,000
Speaker 1: She later claimed that she didn't do her hair or

1059
00:51:11,040 --> 00:51:14,160
Speaker 1: sort her dress because she had a five month old baby.

1060
00:51:14,280 --> 00:51:16,280
Speaker 1: I believed her, even though a two month old baby

1061
00:51:16,320 --> 00:51:20,640
Speaker 1: was in attendance and her mom looked amazing. It's relevant,

1062
00:51:20,719 --> 00:51:23,799
Speaker 1: I promise. On her wedding day twenty nineteen, she.

1063
00:51:24,000 --> 00:51:26,880
Speaker 3: Was acting stressed. Oh how the turntables.

1064
00:51:27,080 --> 00:51:30,080
Speaker 1: Being the petty cow I can sometimes be, I called

1065
00:51:30,120 --> 00:51:32,920
Speaker 1: her a bridezilla. I emphasized that I was only choking.

1066
00:51:33,040 --> 00:51:34,800
Speaker 1: She had asked me to walk her down the aisle

1067
00:51:34,840 --> 00:51:36,799
Speaker 1: as she didn't have a dad to do it, and

1068
00:51:36,880 --> 00:51:40,160
Speaker 1: we saw each other as sisters. Then twenty twenty hit.

1069
00:51:40,320 --> 00:51:43,080
Speaker 1: I got a desperate call in February. She was pleading

1070
00:51:43,120 --> 00:51:44,960
Speaker 1: to come stay with us as her husband had been

1071
00:51:44,960 --> 00:51:47,359
Speaker 1: abusing her and claiming she was cheating on him.

1072
00:51:47,520 --> 00:51:48,160
Speaker 3: She was a mom.

1073
00:51:48,520 --> 00:51:53,279
Speaker 1: What time could she possibly have? Oh how dumb I was.

1074
00:51:53,880 --> 00:51:56,319
Speaker 1: So I helped her move all her things from two

1075
00:51:56,320 --> 00:51:59,560
Speaker 1: hours away. I settled her in my spare bedroom, and

1076
00:51:59,600 --> 00:52:02,440
Speaker 1: over the next few days started helping her find schools,

1077
00:52:02,560 --> 00:52:06,239
Speaker 1: a home, get special food. I even baby sat her

1078
00:52:06,239 --> 00:52:08,600
Speaker 1: two year old while she went out to buy food

1079
00:52:08,680 --> 00:52:12,080
Speaker 1: with my ex husband. I don't think they were buying food.

1080
00:52:12,160 --> 00:52:14,040
Speaker 1: They would we know where this is going. I think

1081
00:52:14,080 --> 00:52:18,600
Speaker 1: perhaps her husband and her friend were not buying food,

1082
00:52:18,920 --> 00:52:19,960
Speaker 1: and I think.

1083
00:52:19,880 --> 00:52:23,400
Speaker 3: Maybe we know why her dress and her hair. So

1084
00:52:26,440 --> 00:52:29,319
Speaker 3: I ignored all the red flags. She told me one

1085
00:52:29,360 --> 00:52:31,839
Speaker 3: day that she couldn't go without intimacy for a week.

1086
00:52:32,040 --> 00:52:34,000
Speaker 3: Then the next day she claimed she and her partner

1087
00:52:34,040 --> 00:52:36,840
Speaker 3: hadn't been intimate since she had gotten pregnant. It didn't

1088
00:52:36,840 --> 00:52:39,759
Speaker 3: add up, and while I had my doubts, I believed her.

1089
00:52:39,920 --> 00:52:43,719
Speaker 3: I once walked in on them kissing, though they separated

1090
00:52:43,760 --> 00:52:46,239
Speaker 3: fast and said that they were talking about my up

1091
00:52:46,239 --> 00:52:49,279
Speaker 3: and coming birthday presents. I just knew she'd never hurt

1092
00:52:49,280 --> 00:52:51,319
Speaker 3: me like that. She was like a sister to me,

1093
00:52:51,440 --> 00:52:53,000
Speaker 3: So I foolishly believe them.

1094
00:52:53,160 --> 00:52:55,080
Speaker 1: Girl. You pause, you saw.

1095
00:52:54,920 --> 00:52:58,120
Speaker 3: Them kissing, all them kissing. I'm sorry, girl.

1096
00:52:58,160 --> 00:52:58,520
Speaker 1: I'm sorry.

1097
00:52:58,520 --> 00:53:00,840
Speaker 3: They're like they're like making out. You walk in and

1098
00:53:00,840 --> 00:53:04,279
Speaker 3: then they're like, no, we would just whispering about your

1099
00:53:04,320 --> 00:53:07,719
Speaker 3: presence really closely. Yeah, exactly, we just had to. We

1100
00:53:07,800 --> 00:53:10,359
Speaker 3: had to sync up about your presence. And then you're like, oh,

1101
00:53:10,440 --> 00:53:11,560
Speaker 3: that bittracks.

1102
00:53:11,760 --> 00:53:14,439
Speaker 1: Yeah. It took three days for my ex to tell

1103
00:53:14,480 --> 00:53:17,920
Speaker 1: me he was dating her. My heart was ripped out. Oh,

1104
00:53:18,080 --> 00:53:20,680
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. You weren't dating her. You were. No, you

1105
00:53:20,680 --> 00:53:21,680
Speaker 1: don't get to say, oh.

1106
00:53:21,560 --> 00:53:25,120
Speaker 3: I'm dating her, Yeah, you were cheating with her. Like no,

1107
00:53:25,200 --> 00:53:26,640
Speaker 3: you can't even try to make it seem like it

1108
00:53:26,719 --> 00:53:27,919
Speaker 3: was respect. No.

1109
00:53:27,920 --> 00:53:28,600
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no no.

1110
00:53:29,719 --> 00:53:31,680
Speaker 3: Even if it was kids, it wouldn't be.

1111
00:53:31,760 --> 00:53:34,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is ridiculous. I argued with her again, telling

1112
00:53:35,000 --> 00:53:37,239
Speaker 1: her that I'd done so much for her, and here

1113
00:53:37,320 --> 00:53:40,360
Speaker 1: she was stabbing me in the back and leaving me

1114
00:53:40,520 --> 00:53:44,279
Speaker 1: completely homeless. She claimed that I was never there for

1115
00:53:44,320 --> 00:53:47,880
Speaker 1: her when we were teens me eighteen or sixteen. She

1116
00:53:47,920 --> 00:53:49,880
Speaker 1: had moved to live on her own and I visited

1117
00:53:49,880 --> 00:53:52,400
Speaker 1: from time to time. I needed clothes from home, so

1118
00:53:52,520 --> 00:53:55,880
Speaker 1: rather than bring me clean clothes, she she grabbed a

1119
00:53:55,880 --> 00:53:58,000
Speaker 1: bunch from my laundry amper and brought that to me.

1120
00:53:58,200 --> 00:54:00,360
Speaker 1: She hugged me when I saw her, and she even

1121
00:54:00,400 --> 00:54:02,719
Speaker 1: tried to comfort me. It took three days for my

1122
00:54:02,760 --> 00:54:04,760
Speaker 1: ex to tell me he was dating her. My heart

1123
00:54:04,840 --> 00:54:07,920
Speaker 1: was ripped out. I argued with her again, telling her

1124
00:54:07,920 --> 00:54:09,640
Speaker 1: that I'd done so much for her, and here she

1125
00:54:09,719 --> 00:54:12,840
Speaker 1: was stabbing me in the back and leaving me completely homeless.

1126
00:54:13,120 --> 00:54:15,280
Speaker 1: She claimed she had fallen in with a bad crowd

1127
00:54:15,360 --> 00:54:19,000
Speaker 1: and was taking illegal substances. She basically said that she

1128
00:54:19,120 --> 00:54:22,440
Speaker 1: slept with my ex as revenge, you suck, as revenge

1129
00:54:22,440 --> 00:54:24,719
Speaker 1: for not visiting you at eighteen.

1130
00:54:25,360 --> 00:54:27,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, come like she moved down at sixteen.

1131
00:54:27,719 --> 00:54:30,399
Speaker 1: That's crazy. Yeah, like, I'm too clear.

1132
00:54:30,480 --> 00:54:34,280
Speaker 3: It's a lot going on. Yeah, it's not a peace fault. Yeah, exactly.

1133
00:54:34,400 --> 00:54:37,520
Speaker 3: Like and then, so you're just gonna sleep with her husband? Yeah,

1134
00:54:37,880 --> 00:54:40,160
Speaker 3: we're not gonna talk it out. Knew she'd never hurt

1135
00:54:40,160 --> 00:54:41,480
Speaker 3: me like that. She was like a sister to me,

1136
00:54:41,560 --> 00:54:44,200
Speaker 3: so I foolishly believe them. Then my ex husband suddenly

1137
00:54:44,239 --> 00:54:46,319
Speaker 3: broke up with me and kicked me out of the

1138
00:54:46,320 --> 00:54:49,120
Speaker 3: home I was paying for, as he didn't have anywhere

1139
00:54:49,160 --> 00:54:51,480
Speaker 3: else to go. I begged Maid of Honor too to

1140
00:54:51,560 --> 00:54:53,440
Speaker 3: let me live with her in her new house. She

1141
00:54:53,520 --> 00:54:55,959
Speaker 3: told me that she already promised him the spare room.

1142
00:54:56,160 --> 00:54:58,680
Speaker 3: I pleaded with her, pointing out that I'm her best friend,

1143
00:54:59,080 --> 00:55:01,480
Speaker 3: I needed her more than him, But it was no good.

1144
00:55:01,680 --> 00:55:03,719
Speaker 3: She never told me what she was dealing with, so

1145
00:55:03,840 --> 00:55:05,680
Speaker 3: I never had a chance to be there when she

1146
00:55:05,719 --> 00:55:09,160
Speaker 3: supposedly needed me. Two maybe three weeks passed by, and

1147
00:55:09,200 --> 00:55:12,880
Speaker 3: he called, pleading for another chance, only to keep seeing

1148
00:55:12,920 --> 00:55:15,799
Speaker 3: her behind my back for a further week. It was

1149
00:55:15,840 --> 00:55:17,440
Speaker 3: then he told me, in an effort to get me

1150
00:55:17,480 --> 00:55:19,359
Speaker 3: to break up with him, that he and her had

1151
00:55:19,400 --> 00:55:23,640
Speaker 3: started their affair A couple of days after she moved in. Well,

1152
00:55:23,719 --> 00:55:27,080
Speaker 3: I slept in bed, they were banging on my sofa downstairs.

1153
00:55:27,239 --> 00:55:30,640
Speaker 3: I honestly believe that after everything, Oh, he told her

1154
00:55:30,719 --> 00:55:32,880
Speaker 3: that now this is where it ties in with my

1155
00:55:32,960 --> 00:55:36,400
Speaker 3: wedding day maid of honor two husband started messaging me.

1156
00:55:36,640 --> 00:55:39,440
Speaker 3: It was then I found out the entire truth. They

1157
00:55:39,520 --> 00:55:41,680
Speaker 3: were late to my wedding day because she was in

1158
00:55:41,680 --> 00:55:43,799
Speaker 3: love with my ex husband and she didn't want to

1159
00:55:43,800 --> 00:55:46,520
Speaker 3: see him marry me. She intentionally came in a mess

1160
00:55:46,560 --> 00:55:48,960
Speaker 3: because she wanted to look awful. She'd also tried to

1161
00:55:49,040 --> 00:55:51,759
Speaker 3: ruin my wedding photos on purpose and left early because

1162
00:55:51,800 --> 00:55:54,319
Speaker 3: she couldn't bear to see him happy with me. It

1163
00:55:54,320 --> 00:55:57,200
Speaker 3: got worse. It turned out that she had been abusing

1164
00:55:57,239 --> 00:56:00,160
Speaker 3: her husband and her stepson. I had seen things that

1165
00:56:00,200 --> 00:56:01,839
Speaker 3: at the time I thought we're down to her being

1166
00:56:01,880 --> 00:56:04,040
Speaker 3: a stressed to mum, But after he told me.

1167
00:56:04,000 --> 00:56:07,560
Speaker 1: That it all made sense. While with me, she had

1168
00:56:07,560 --> 00:56:10,319
Speaker 1: also been casually bad mouthing her steps on. I just

1169
00:56:10,360 --> 00:56:13,000
Speaker 1: didn't put the pieces together until her husband mentioned it.

1170
00:56:13,239 --> 00:56:15,440
Speaker 1: When her house was ready, they moved into it, and

1171
00:56:15,480 --> 00:56:18,440
Speaker 1: I moved back home. I started rebuilding my life. I

1172
00:56:18,480 --> 00:56:20,359
Speaker 1: lost the weight i'd put on. I went from UK

1173
00:56:20,480 --> 00:56:23,840
Speaker 1: size twenty to size fourteen, and I got fitter and healthier.

1174
00:56:23,880 --> 00:56:27,600
Speaker 1: And you guys can get healthier with us by joining

1175
00:56:27,719 --> 00:56:31,239
Speaker 1: us live every weekday at three PMPSD on YouTube just

1176
00:56:31,320 --> 00:56:33,360
Speaker 1: uper brobil And there is a little bit left to

1177
00:56:33,400 --> 00:56:36,560
Speaker 1: the story. But man, oh man, your friends sucks yeah,

1178
00:56:36,760 --> 00:56:40,279
Speaker 1: quote unquote friend and your husband sucks everyone sex here? Wow?

1179
00:56:40,560 --> 00:56:43,239
Speaker 3: Is everyone? Like that's kind of silly to me what

1180
00:56:43,320 --> 00:56:45,000
Speaker 3: the friend was trying to do, Like, oh, I just

1181
00:56:45,080 --> 00:56:47,720
Speaker 3: like meant to come in all look at all messy,

1182
00:56:47,800 --> 00:56:49,200
Speaker 3: to just like ruin your day.

1183
00:56:49,320 --> 00:56:51,760
Speaker 1: Your day, no one cares about you. Mall cares about

1184
00:56:51,760 --> 00:56:53,960
Speaker 1: that you're ready to look massy. That just means that

1185
00:56:54,160 --> 00:56:54,839
Speaker 1: you look bad.

1186
00:56:55,160 --> 00:56:57,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, And then like I'm gonna not smile in the

1187
00:56:57,560 --> 00:57:00,800
Speaker 3: pictures to like try to make your photos look It's like, girl,

1188
00:57:01,080 --> 00:57:03,040
Speaker 3: the only one that looks bad in the photos is you.

1189
00:57:03,360 --> 00:57:03,640
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1190
00:57:03,640 --> 00:57:05,160
Speaker 3: It's like I would say, come up with a better

1191
00:57:05,160 --> 00:57:06,799
Speaker 3: way to like get revenge. But she did sleep with

1192
00:57:06,800 --> 00:57:09,880
Speaker 3: the husband, so that kind of alas that kind of

1193
00:57:09,880 --> 00:57:12,920
Speaker 3: got her revenge. Yeah, that is saying it. You finally

1194
00:57:12,920 --> 00:57:16,520
Speaker 3: got a good way to like actually hurt her stupidest

1195
00:57:16,560 --> 00:57:19,840
Speaker 3: reason to the Yeah, I feel like she didn't actually

1196
00:57:19,880 --> 00:57:21,919
Speaker 3: care about the six you know thing that happened, which

1197
00:57:21,920 --> 00:57:24,680
Speaker 3: was sixteen. I think I just wanted like an excuse

1198
00:57:24,720 --> 00:57:27,480
Speaker 3: to make herself look a little bit better. I totally agree.

1199
00:57:27,520 --> 00:57:29,680
Speaker 3: I think she just liked the husband and just yeah,

1200
00:57:29,680 --> 00:57:30,120
Speaker 3: it was like.

1201
00:57:30,240 --> 00:57:33,760
Speaker 1: Wanting to sleep with him. However, karma comes for those

1202
00:57:33,760 --> 00:57:37,280
Speaker 1: who wait. In twenty twenty two, she kicked my ex out.

1203
00:57:37,400 --> 00:57:40,880
Speaker 1: They were a toxic couple. He had made unreasonable demands,

1204
00:57:40,920 --> 00:57:43,360
Speaker 1: and he had put hidden cameras around her home so

1205
00:57:43,400 --> 00:57:45,480
Speaker 1: he could make sure she wasn't cheating on him while

1206
00:57:45,520 --> 00:57:47,600
Speaker 1: he was out. I believe he had even taken her

1207
00:57:47,640 --> 00:57:50,320
Speaker 1: phone at some point. He had also started keeping watch

1208
00:57:50,360 --> 00:57:53,440
Speaker 1: of all her accounts social media, Amazon, bank, et cetera.

1209
00:57:53,680 --> 00:57:56,280
Speaker 1: I know because his mother told me in details I

1210
00:57:56,320 --> 00:57:59,520
Speaker 1: won't disclose here and now made of honor. Two won't

1211
00:57:59,600 --> 00:58:01,720
Speaker 1: let him back home to see his son, the one

1212
00:58:01,720 --> 00:58:04,960
Speaker 1: they had conceived in my house. At the end of

1213
00:58:04,960 --> 00:58:07,240
Speaker 1: the day, she did me a favor. I'm now in

1214
00:58:07,280 --> 00:58:09,760
Speaker 1: a healthy relationship with a wonderful man who makes me

1215
00:58:09,800 --> 00:58:12,400
Speaker 1: feel like a princess and treats me like a queen.

1216
00:58:12,720 --> 00:58:16,000
Speaker 1: Here's to my second marriage being the best all. Sometimes

1217
00:58:16,000 --> 00:58:18,120
Speaker 1: you just gotta dude, take two you. I want to

1218
00:58:18,120 --> 00:58:19,520
Speaker 1: throw up you, sister.

1219
00:58:20,040 --> 00:58:22,240
Speaker 3: Oh, I know the friend, whoever that was.

1220
00:58:23,240 --> 00:58:23,760
Speaker 1: Whoever is this?

1221
00:58:23,960 --> 00:58:26,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just want to throw up on that because

1222
00:58:26,440 --> 00:58:28,920
Speaker 3: of them, and then on them, just to just to

1223
00:58:29,040 --> 00:58:31,600
Speaker 3: get that, really seal the deal, get my own revenge

1224
00:58:31,640 --> 00:58:31,960
Speaker 3: on them.

1225
00:58:32,120 --> 00:58:35,320
Speaker 1: They deserve it. They suck. Yeah, Like, not only did she,

1226
00:58:35,640 --> 00:58:38,520
Speaker 1: like the maid of honor, abandon her kid, was horrible

1227
00:58:38,520 --> 00:58:41,800
Speaker 1: to her husband, Yes, but then Op's husband was, you know,

1228
00:58:41,840 --> 00:58:44,760
Speaker 1: abandoned his kid, right, and now they have another kid

1229
00:58:44,800 --> 00:58:46,560
Speaker 1: that they're don't seem to be looking after.

1230
00:58:46,880 --> 00:58:49,440
Speaker 3: Then yeah, it's like they have their kid, but now

1231
00:58:49,480 --> 00:58:51,400
Speaker 3: they're not even like together. So it's just like a

1232
00:58:51,440 --> 00:58:52,800
Speaker 3: whole mess whole.

1233
00:58:52,520 --> 00:58:53,960
Speaker 1: Messy, messy, messy situation.

1234
00:58:54,000 --> 00:58:55,960
Speaker 3: Mess So glad that she doesn't have to deal with

1235
00:58:56,000 --> 00:58:56,600
Speaker 3: them anymore.

1236
00:58:56,680 --> 00:58:58,520
Speaker 1: You don't have to deal with it. You're treated like

1237
00:58:58,520 --> 00:58:59,080
Speaker 1: a princess.

1238
00:58:59,160 --> 00:59:01,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, folks, will Chris, Yes, I need to do.

1239
00:59:02,040 --> 00:59:03,920
Speaker 1: So you need to, but that is the end of

1240
00:59:03,960 --> 00:59:06,280
Speaker 1: that story, so we'll see you next time.

1241
00:59:06,480 --> 00:59:09,200
Speaker 3: My fiance ran off with the guy she cheated on

1242
00:59:09,280 --> 00:59:09,560
Speaker 3: me with.

1243
00:59:10,000 --> 00:59:11,440
Speaker 1: Now she's broke.

1244
00:59:11,760 --> 00:59:16,160
Speaker 3: Ooh karma, ooh hello everyone writing this sun Mobile, Please

1245
00:59:16,200 --> 00:59:17,320
Speaker 3: forgive formating errors.

1246
00:59:17,440 --> 00:59:18,640
Speaker 1: We forgive you what people I won't.

1247
00:59:19,120 --> 00:59:21,840
Speaker 3: Sophia doesn't forget, don't forgive you. I was in a

1248
00:59:21,920 --> 00:59:24,800
Speaker 3: decade long relationship with the person mentioned in the title

1249
00:59:25,200 --> 00:59:27,560
Speaker 3: We have a child together who's in the first grade.

1250
00:59:27,640 --> 00:59:30,560
Speaker 3: Recently I discovered she was siphoning from our daughter's money

1251
00:59:30,640 --> 00:59:34,320
Speaker 3: I would put away every month like school fees and savings,

1252
00:59:34,480 --> 00:59:38,400
Speaker 3: as well as using her salary to fund expensive hotel

1253
00:59:38,920 --> 00:59:42,400
Speaker 3: and guesthouse stays with one of her employees, under the

1254
00:59:42,400 --> 00:59:45,960
Speaker 3: guise of what By the way, this comes from throwaway

1255
00:59:46,120 --> 00:59:50,240
Speaker 3: underscore repeater on our slash Okay storytime Subbreddit. I called

1256
00:59:50,240 --> 00:59:52,680
Speaker 3: her out on this as soon as I found out,

1257
00:59:52,920 --> 00:59:55,840
Speaker 3: and her new guy's reaction was to send people to

1258
00:59:56,040 --> 00:59:58,959
Speaker 3: my house because she gave him the address I would

1259
00:59:59,000 --> 00:59:59,840
Speaker 3: later find out.

1260
00:59:59,720 --> 01:00:02,600
Speaker 1: To so clean up everybody living in it.

1261
01:00:02,720 --> 01:00:05,480
Speaker 3: For lack of better terms, I wouldn't include this if

1262
01:00:05,520 --> 01:00:07,920
Speaker 3: not a necessary part of the story. Please forgive it

1263
01:00:08,000 --> 01:00:11,000
Speaker 3: if it treads any lines with the sub rules. Her

1264
01:00:11,000 --> 01:00:15,040
Speaker 3: reaction to that I antagonized him by confronting her, So

1265
01:00:15,320 --> 01:00:17,920
Speaker 3: no foul. In her book, I am blowing it out

1266
01:00:17,960 --> 01:00:21,160
Speaker 3: of proportion despite multiple voice notes and text messages. I

1267
01:00:21,320 --> 01:00:23,720
Speaker 3: picked her out of the house due to obvious danger

1268
01:00:23,840 --> 01:00:26,800
Speaker 3: in this and her new guy cannot help her with

1269
01:00:26,840 --> 01:00:29,160
Speaker 3: a place to stay without giving too much away. She

1270
01:00:29,240 --> 01:00:31,760
Speaker 3: earns less than half of what I do and he

1271
01:00:31,920 --> 01:00:34,880
Speaker 3: earns a quarter of what she does, so they can't

1272
01:00:34,920 --> 01:00:37,960
Speaker 3: support each other. Not in her work, not at all.

1273
01:00:38,040 --> 01:00:42,720
Speaker 3: She's currently CouchSurfing around her friends and relatives places, while

1274
01:00:42,720 --> 01:00:46,560
Speaker 3: he allegedly lives with his mother in a studio apartment. Recently,

1275
01:00:46,640 --> 01:00:48,920
Speaker 3: she has contacted me to ask me to co sign

1276
01:00:48,960 --> 01:00:51,120
Speaker 3: on a lease with her, as she doesn't have any

1277
01:00:51,120 --> 01:00:54,160
Speaker 3: other options. And while I want to help her because

1278
01:00:54,160 --> 01:00:56,560
Speaker 3: I care about her, I also feel she has made

1279
01:00:56,560 --> 01:00:59,240
Speaker 3: her own bed and should lay in it alone or

1280
01:00:59,400 --> 01:01:01,920
Speaker 3: with that guy. The consequence of all this up and

1281
01:01:01,960 --> 01:01:04,880
Speaker 3: down is that legally he's not allowed anywhere near our

1282
01:01:05,000 --> 01:01:08,000
Speaker 3: daughter anymore, so the two of them moving in together

1283
01:01:08,080 --> 01:01:10,920
Speaker 3: would likely mean she cannot see our daughter anywhere. She

1284
01:01:11,080 --> 01:01:13,440
Speaker 3: knows this, and this is partially why she asks for

1285
01:01:13,480 --> 01:01:15,960
Speaker 3: my help, as if the other guy signs with her,

1286
01:01:16,360 --> 01:01:18,280
Speaker 3: he will want to move in with her. Should I

1287
01:01:18,320 --> 01:01:20,840
Speaker 3: feel bad and help her out? Should I tell her

1288
01:01:20,960 --> 01:01:23,760
Speaker 3: this is her doing and leave her to her own devices?

1289
01:01:23,920 --> 01:01:26,160
Speaker 1: Terribly conflicted? What do I do? Guys?

1290
01:01:26,200 --> 01:01:28,120
Speaker 3: And there is an update? But what do we think

1291
01:01:28,160 --> 01:01:28,520
Speaker 3: so far?

1292
01:01:28,680 --> 01:01:31,880
Speaker 1: Huh? This is a little tricky because like, obviously she's

1293
01:01:32,080 --> 01:01:35,800
Speaker 1: at fault for these things here, and you don't owe

1294
01:01:35,800 --> 01:01:39,439
Speaker 1: her anything, Yeah, but it's also kind of figuring out

1295
01:01:39,480 --> 01:01:43,000
Speaker 1: how to co parent and how to you know, like

1296
01:01:43,480 --> 01:01:47,919
Speaker 1: have your daughter's mother be in her life. Yeah, Like again,

1297
01:01:48,000 --> 01:01:50,200
Speaker 1: like you don't owe her anything. Maybe angel move would

1298
01:01:50,200 --> 01:01:52,120
Speaker 1: be to help her out a little bit. Thank you

1299
01:01:52,440 --> 01:01:55,840
Speaker 1: for your advice everyone. There are simply too many comments

1300
01:01:55,880 --> 01:01:58,080
Speaker 1: to respond to them all. I have a small update

1301
01:01:58,080 --> 01:02:00,440
Speaker 1: to share with you. I'll make a full blow post

1302
01:02:00,440 --> 01:02:03,240
Speaker 1: probably a week or so from now, depending on how

1303
01:02:03,280 --> 01:02:06,240
Speaker 1: things go mine now. Ex has voluntarily checked into a

1304
01:02:06,280 --> 01:02:09,840
Speaker 1: shelter slash home for women whose lives have come off

1305
01:02:09,840 --> 01:02:12,960
Speaker 1: the rails tonight, and after speaking with them, they've assured

1306
01:02:13,000 --> 01:02:15,480
Speaker 1: me that she is indeed there tonight and that they

1307
01:02:15,600 --> 01:02:18,640
Speaker 1: test for drugs as a part of the administration process

1308
01:02:18,840 --> 01:02:22,320
Speaker 1: and as part of the ongoing board and lodging requirements.

1309
01:02:22,600 --> 01:02:25,240
Speaker 1: It warms my heart somewhat that she understands that she

1310
01:02:25,240 --> 01:02:28,400
Speaker 1: needs help. This covers the roof over her head temporarily

1311
01:02:28,560 --> 01:02:31,360
Speaker 1: and makes sure she is on the straight and narrow

1312
01:02:31,400 --> 01:02:33,240
Speaker 1: for the next while. I think it may be too

1313
01:02:33,320 --> 01:02:36,400
Speaker 1: late to salvage our relationship and trust, but I wish

1314
01:02:36,400 --> 01:02:38,760
Speaker 1: her the best in recovery. That's a very mature way

1315
01:02:38,760 --> 01:02:39,280
Speaker 1: to look at it.

1316
01:02:39,880 --> 01:02:41,920
Speaker 3: And I'm glad that she's getting some help to you too,

1317
01:02:42,240 --> 01:02:44,880
Speaker 3: and that it's not necessary that he's the one that

1318
01:02:44,920 --> 01:02:45,360
Speaker 3: helps her.

1319
01:02:45,440 --> 01:02:48,320
Speaker 1: No, you can find help other places exactly.

1320
01:02:48,600 --> 01:02:51,560
Speaker 3: Lastly, someone here has reached out to me who knows

1321
01:02:51,600 --> 01:02:53,640
Speaker 3: me in real life, as the story is a big

1322
01:02:53,680 --> 01:02:58,400
Speaker 3: deal in my local community. WHOA, that's crazy. They've pointed

1323
01:02:58,400 --> 01:03:02,120
Speaker 3: out that the ap junkie whatever is indeed among the

1324
01:03:02,160 --> 01:03:05,080
Speaker 3: comments here, and I hope he too, is learning from

1325
01:03:05,080 --> 01:03:08,439
Speaker 3: the responses of others about being a decent human being.

1326
01:03:09,000 --> 01:03:10,880
Speaker 1: WHOA, he's here.

1327
01:03:11,120 --> 01:03:13,880
Speaker 3: He's here, He is in the rooms, in the room

1328
01:03:13,920 --> 01:03:14,840
Speaker 3: with us.

1329
01:03:14,640 --> 01:03:16,160
Speaker 1: We summoned him.

1330
01:03:16,240 --> 01:03:19,280
Speaker 3: Update number two today was a frustrating one.

1331
01:03:19,440 --> 01:03:20,000
Speaker 1: Oh.

1332
01:03:20,040 --> 01:03:24,040
Speaker 3: It was the restraining order hearing and he ap didn't

1333
01:03:24,080 --> 01:03:25,040
Speaker 3: turn up to court.

1334
01:03:25,320 --> 01:03:28,400
Speaker 1: Boo, yikes, yikes.

1335
01:03:28,520 --> 01:03:31,200
Speaker 3: It's important to note that while I have an interim

1336
01:03:31,280 --> 01:03:33,280
Speaker 3: order against him, we have to complete this stage of

1337
01:03:33,280 --> 01:03:35,840
Speaker 3: the process to get a five year ten year permanent

1338
01:03:35,960 --> 01:03:38,720
Speaker 3: order and stated as the interim expires at the end

1339
01:03:38,760 --> 01:03:42,000
Speaker 3: of February. Judge insists that there is not enough in

1340
01:03:42,080 --> 01:03:46,280
Speaker 3: a dozen voice notes for call recordings and seven pages

1341
01:03:46,320 --> 01:03:50,040
Speaker 3: of pretty explicit text threats to deliver a verdict in

1342
01:03:50,160 --> 01:03:54,000
Speaker 3: absentia and set another date for April so he can

1343
01:03:54,120 --> 01:03:56,440
Speaker 3: be allowed to test his side of the story, basically

1344
01:03:56,480 --> 01:04:00,360
Speaker 3: saying that there isn't enough information to charge him without

1345
01:04:00,440 --> 01:04:01,800
Speaker 3: him being because he's not there.

1346
01:04:01,880 --> 01:04:04,200
Speaker 1: He didn't show me. I see, I see. So it's

1347
01:04:04,200 --> 01:04:06,400
Speaker 1: probably enough to charge him, but he's got me there. Yeah.

1348
01:04:06,560 --> 01:04:09,000
Speaker 3: For those of you who have asked about calling the

1349
01:04:09,040 --> 01:04:11,240
Speaker 3: cops or going the legal route, this is why I

1350
01:04:11,280 --> 01:04:13,800
Speaker 3: have zero faith in my local justice system.

1351
01:04:13,960 --> 01:04:16,600
Speaker 1: Personal note to you, home wrecker.

1352
01:04:17,040 --> 01:04:19,440
Speaker 3: I know you are here reading this and posting snide

1353
01:04:19,520 --> 01:04:23,120
Speaker 3: comments my ex your new puppet, has told me as much,

1354
01:04:23,160 --> 01:04:26,560
Speaker 3: and looking at them, it's obvious to me you were

1355
01:04:26,560 --> 01:04:29,320
Speaker 3: a bigger man when you made direct, repeated threats of

1356
01:04:29,320 --> 01:04:31,640
Speaker 3: what you wanted to do to a little girl, which

1357
01:04:31,680 --> 01:04:33,640
Speaker 3: I won't go into the content of here, but we

1358
01:04:33,720 --> 01:04:36,840
Speaker 3: both know you meant more than the cleanup act you promised.

1359
01:04:36,920 --> 01:04:38,920
Speaker 3: If you are not man enough to sort this out

1360
01:04:38,960 --> 01:04:41,840
Speaker 3: as men supposedly do, at least have the kahones to

1361
01:04:42,000 --> 01:04:46,200
Speaker 3: explain yourself to myself and the court, tell everyone here

1362
01:04:46,320 --> 01:04:48,880
Speaker 3: and see what these folks make of it for some

1363
01:04:49,160 --> 01:04:51,960
Speaker 3: free peer review opportunities.

1364
01:04:51,280 --> 01:04:52,600
Speaker 1: Before we see the judge.

1365
01:04:52,600 --> 01:04:56,320
Speaker 3: Thank you again everyone except you AP see you in court.

1366
01:04:56,560 --> 01:04:59,840
Speaker 3: Update number three, Hello everyone. I know I promised and

1367
01:05:00,160 --> 01:05:03,120
Speaker 3: date sooner, but there were many more twists in the

1368
01:05:03,200 --> 01:05:06,000
Speaker 3: tail after the last post. I love to hear it,

1369
01:05:06,120 --> 01:05:09,040
Speaker 3: and I've been busy trying to keep mine in my

1370
01:05:09,120 --> 01:05:12,720
Speaker 3: daughter's heads above water. So some old stuff AP thirty one.

1371
01:05:12,760 --> 01:05:14,120
Speaker 3: Mail No showed.

1372
01:05:13,840 --> 01:05:16,120
Speaker 1: Once again on the court date, and.

1373
01:05:16,040 --> 01:05:19,320
Speaker 3: They furnished me with a cop out order. So basically,

1374
01:05:19,360 --> 01:05:21,840
Speaker 3: if he approaches me or turns about my house, et cetera,

1375
01:05:22,000 --> 01:05:25,680
Speaker 3: I can have him arrested, no actual punishment handed out.

1376
01:05:25,720 --> 01:05:26,600
Speaker 1: And this was a month ago.

1377
01:05:26,880 --> 01:05:30,320
Speaker 3: X convinced a friend this will be important later to

1378
01:05:30,440 --> 01:05:33,080
Speaker 3: co sign a lease with her a few miles away

1379
01:05:33,080 --> 01:05:36,800
Speaker 3: from my residence, and she and the AP moved in

1380
01:05:36,840 --> 01:05:42,320
Speaker 3: together two weeks ago, so she like tricked that. Basically

1381
01:05:42,720 --> 01:05:45,200
Speaker 3: all right and now for the new wish stuff. AP

1382
01:05:45,480 --> 01:05:49,040
Speaker 3: was thrown out and nearly arrested after lashing out at

1383
01:05:49,040 --> 01:05:53,080
Speaker 3: her violently believing me to be trying to woo her

1384
01:05:53,200 --> 01:05:56,640
Speaker 3: back via text. AP has told a mutual friend between

1385
01:05:56,720 --> 01:05:59,440
Speaker 3: us that I was texting his new girlfriend slash my

1386
01:05:59,560 --> 01:06:03,760
Speaker 3: ex all manner of flirty and provocative things.

1387
01:06:04,160 --> 01:06:06,880
Speaker 1: I knew nothing about this, and this was a week ago.

1388
01:06:07,000 --> 01:06:09,520
Speaker 3: I find out that she had my name saved as

1389
01:06:09,520 --> 01:06:12,640
Speaker 3: a smokescreen on her phone. The friend she co signed

1390
01:06:12,680 --> 01:06:16,200
Speaker 3: with was the person she was really exchanging inappropriate text with.

1391
01:06:17,040 --> 01:06:18,280
Speaker 1: He was framed.

1392
01:06:18,840 --> 01:06:21,400
Speaker 3: He was framed, so there were texts.

1393
01:06:21,520 --> 01:06:25,960
Speaker 1: Oh, but it wasn't to the actual open she's double cheating. Yeah.

1394
01:06:26,000 --> 01:06:29,160
Speaker 3: When AP looked through her phone and found my name

1395
01:06:29,240 --> 01:06:33,120
Speaker 3: sending nudes et cetera in her messages, he flipped out

1396
01:06:33,320 --> 01:06:36,520
Speaker 3: and confronted me over the phone. Thank the Lord for

1397
01:06:36,600 --> 01:06:40,320
Speaker 3: WhatsApp screenchair. I quickly showed him that I had nothing

1398
01:06:40,400 --> 01:06:43,160
Speaker 3: to do with any of that. The friend she co

1399
01:06:43,240 --> 01:06:48,560
Speaker 3: signed with proposed marriage. She accepted, which she insists is

1400
01:06:48,920 --> 01:06:51,480
Speaker 3: we just met each other at the right time, which

1401
01:06:51,840 --> 01:06:55,240
Speaker 3: she wants me to believe was a week after breaking

1402
01:06:55,320 --> 01:06:58,480
Speaker 3: up with AP. Unfortunately for her, it is non difficult

1403
01:06:58,520 --> 01:07:01,520
Speaker 3: nor illegal for me to find out who is on

1404
01:07:01,600 --> 01:07:05,640
Speaker 3: whatever property's paperwork. I suppose in essence, she was seeing

1405
01:07:05,720 --> 01:07:08,160
Speaker 3: someone behind my back for at least two years and

1406
01:07:08,320 --> 01:07:11,000
Speaker 3: use this other junkie as something to get caught out

1407
01:07:11,040 --> 01:07:14,840
Speaker 3: on deliberately while waiting for myself and that junkie AP

1408
01:07:15,200 --> 01:07:19,200
Speaker 3: to potentially seriously maime or worse each other while she

1409
01:07:19,400 --> 01:07:22,919
Speaker 3: eloped into the sunset with this other bloke and our daughter.

1410
01:07:23,040 --> 01:07:24,480
Speaker 1: I don't know what to make of any of this.

1411
01:07:24,680 --> 01:07:27,439
Speaker 3: I thought I was recovering really well until I got

1412
01:07:27,760 --> 01:07:30,320
Speaker 3: wind of this, and now the levels of deceit are

1413
01:07:30,440 --> 01:07:33,880
Speaker 3: hurting me something awful. All the nights of eating canned

1414
01:07:33,960 --> 01:07:36,080
Speaker 3: beans and bread, sometimes.

1415
01:07:35,600 --> 01:07:37,480
Speaker 1: Not eating at all so our daughter.

1416
01:07:37,320 --> 01:07:40,760
Speaker 3: Could eat decently every night when we supposedly didn't have money.

1417
01:07:40,880 --> 01:07:43,640
Speaker 3: My ex was never hungry, which I found out was

1418
01:07:43,680 --> 01:07:47,400
Speaker 3: because she was eating full meals at swanky restaurants before

1419
01:07:47,480 --> 01:07:50,520
Speaker 3: coming home from late shifts. All of it was because

1420
01:07:50,560 --> 01:07:53,360
Speaker 3: she was spending money in our joint accounts on two

1421
01:07:53,400 --> 01:07:54,120
Speaker 3: different dudes.

1422
01:07:54,480 --> 01:07:56,960
Speaker 1: Oh my god. She was also spending their money. Yes,

1423
01:07:57,720 --> 01:07:59,000
Speaker 1: so not only I was thinking.

1424
01:07:59,040 --> 01:08:01,280
Speaker 3: She was like, you don't get these fair partners to

1425
01:08:01,320 --> 01:08:04,000
Speaker 3: pay for her food, but she's using their money while

1426
01:08:04,040 --> 01:08:05,760
Speaker 3: they're starving over here.

1427
01:08:05,880 --> 01:08:07,120
Speaker 1: That is too streke.

1428
01:08:07,560 --> 01:08:11,040
Speaker 3: That is insane when you have a young daughter too.

1429
01:08:10,680 --> 01:08:14,560
Speaker 3: I cared about her at all. Yeah, oh wow. I

1430
01:08:14,560 --> 01:08:16,920
Speaker 3: don't know, guys, I might be back with another update.

1431
01:08:16,960 --> 01:08:20,360
Speaker 3: I might not, but thank you all for your advice, criticism,

1432
01:08:20,479 --> 01:08:24,000
Speaker 3: and opinions. I've left out some context on the money trouble.

1433
01:08:24,200 --> 01:08:26,599
Speaker 3: Our ex had signed our daughter up for some of

1434
01:08:26,640 --> 01:08:29,720
Speaker 3: the best extra mural activities with my blessing, with some

1435
01:08:29,800 --> 01:08:33,599
Speaker 3: of the most reputable places in the country karate, ballet,

1436
01:08:33,720 --> 01:08:37,160
Speaker 3: et cetera, which is expensive. She paid none of those bills,

1437
01:08:37,160 --> 01:08:40,679
Speaker 3: barring the initial month's payments from a joint account using

1438
01:08:40,760 --> 01:08:44,000
Speaker 3: my money. She didn't contribute a total of ten percent

1439
01:08:44,040 --> 01:08:47,120
Speaker 3: to the fund, and she drew cash which she said

1440
01:08:47,320 --> 01:08:49,879
Speaker 3: was to pay for those The owners of those schools

1441
01:08:49,880 --> 01:08:52,320
Speaker 3: are now after me for the money, which is in

1442
01:08:52,439 --> 01:08:57,240
Speaker 3: the dozens of thousands. Oh oh my goodness. I have

1443
01:08:57,400 --> 01:09:00,600
Speaker 3: instigated legal action, but until that happens, I'm on the

1444
01:09:00,600 --> 01:09:02,519
Speaker 3: hook for the entire balance.

1445
01:09:02,840 --> 01:09:03,880
Speaker 1: Hope this explains it.

1446
01:09:04,040 --> 01:09:07,080
Speaker 3: So We have edit number two more context around the

1447
01:09:07,560 --> 01:09:10,599
Speaker 3: DM comments about but she's right, it was your choice

1448
01:09:10,640 --> 01:09:12,920
Speaker 3: to do all that for I don't have any family

1449
01:09:12,960 --> 01:09:15,920
Speaker 3: in a twenty hour drive radius anymore. Her family just

1450
01:09:16,000 --> 01:09:18,320
Speaker 3: owned her and threw her out years ago. To start with,

1451
01:09:18,520 --> 01:09:20,840
Speaker 3: we had some real hard times not long after our

1452
01:09:20,920 --> 01:09:24,240
Speaker 3: daughter was born, because of an economic crunch in my country,

1453
01:09:24,280 --> 01:09:26,040
Speaker 3: with no rising wages to combat that.

1454
01:09:26,240 --> 01:09:28,040
Speaker 1: I know it was my choice.

1455
01:09:27,720 --> 01:09:30,040
Speaker 3: To help build the two of us up, but when

1456
01:09:30,080 --> 01:09:33,040
Speaker 3: I didn't have gas, train or bus money, I was

1457
01:09:33,120 --> 01:09:35,880
Speaker 3: walking to and from work to feed someone who stayed

1458
01:09:35,920 --> 01:09:39,439
Speaker 3: home and looked after our baby, something I still see

1459
01:09:39,560 --> 01:09:41,800
Speaker 3: as a fair half of the bark. Okay, I can

1460
01:09:41,880 --> 01:09:43,880
Speaker 3: see that, you know, taking care of the baby. That's

1461
01:09:43,880 --> 01:09:47,000
Speaker 3: a lot of work too. Yeah, absolutely, that said, thirteen

1462
01:09:47,040 --> 01:09:51,200
Speaker 3: miles there, thirteen miles back in rain, snow, sun, whatever,

1463
01:09:51,400 --> 01:09:54,160
Speaker 3: no matter how sick, I got seven days a week

1464
01:09:54,200 --> 01:09:56,679
Speaker 3: because I needed the extra shifts. I didn't eat well

1465
01:09:56,720 --> 01:10:00,040
Speaker 3: for those horrible seven months. Times were that bad. I

1466
01:10:00,280 --> 01:10:02,280
Speaker 3: did it to say, but I did this for you.

1467
01:10:02,600 --> 01:10:05,320
Speaker 3: It was always we earned this for ourselves. For her

1468
01:10:05,360 --> 01:10:08,160
Speaker 3: to do this to me and our kid at this point,

1469
01:10:08,240 --> 01:10:11,080
Speaker 3: knowing what the heck I'd put myself through to get

1470
01:10:11,160 --> 01:10:13,960
Speaker 3: us here, getting her the cushy job she has today.

1471
01:10:14,080 --> 01:10:14,880
Speaker 1: It grates me.

1472
01:10:15,120 --> 01:10:18,160
Speaker 3: Sorry for the rant, but that it was your choice too.

1473
01:10:18,320 --> 01:10:21,439
Speaker 3: She also used those words. Argument tells me how dead

1474
01:10:21,479 --> 01:10:23,719
Speaker 3: in the water we might be as a global society.

1475
01:10:23,840 --> 01:10:28,320
Speaker 3: Wows just taken down is a whole viewpoint on humanity.

1476
01:10:28,439 --> 01:10:32,960
Speaker 3: Guys like, so freaking sucks man. Yeah, I'm so sorry.

1477
01:10:33,000 --> 01:10:36,799
Speaker 1: You're saving You're doing as much work as possible, yes,

1478
01:10:37,520 --> 01:10:40,320
Speaker 1: to look after your wife and kids, or your partner

1479
01:10:40,560 --> 01:10:42,559
Speaker 1: and kid, and she's just taking that money.

1480
01:10:42,680 --> 01:10:45,479
Speaker 3: This is a two parter forgive the second update post,

1481
01:10:45,600 --> 01:10:48,080
Speaker 3: but there's a new question at the end. These two

1482
01:10:48,120 --> 01:10:50,439
Speaker 3: things tie into each other, so rather one post for

1483
01:10:50,520 --> 01:10:53,439
Speaker 3: everything right, there is this here and an ama that

1484
01:10:53,520 --> 01:10:55,280
Speaker 3: will be posted on Twitch this Sunday.

1485
01:10:55,320 --> 01:10:57,080
Speaker 1: Details follow at the end of the post. Well, good

1486
01:10:57,080 --> 01:10:57,639
Speaker 1: plug dude.

1487
01:10:57,680 --> 01:11:00,320
Speaker 3: My apologies that this is a lot less exciting than

1488
01:11:00,360 --> 01:11:03,080
Speaker 3: the previous parts, but I've seen enough questions the DM

1489
01:11:03,120 --> 01:11:06,040
Speaker 3: to make me post this. So my current situation, X

1490
01:11:06,040 --> 01:11:08,559
Speaker 3: and I are on speaking terms when it pertains to

1491
01:11:08,600 --> 01:11:09,200
Speaker 3: our little one.

1492
01:11:09,240 --> 01:11:10,840
Speaker 1: That's fair, that's nice. Yeah.

1493
01:11:10,880 --> 01:11:14,360
Speaker 3: While it has not been much, she has contributed somewhat

1494
01:11:14,400 --> 01:11:17,599
Speaker 3: to her tuition and school costs over the last two months.

1495
01:11:17,600 --> 01:11:19,960
Speaker 3: For reference, the current split on the essential cost is

1496
01:11:20,000 --> 01:11:23,040
Speaker 3: approximately eighty five percent for me and the remaining fifteen

1497
01:11:23,040 --> 01:11:26,639
Speaker 3: percent from her. She and the original ap co signed

1498
01:11:26,680 --> 01:11:29,080
Speaker 3: on a lease about ten minutes drive from my house,

1499
01:11:29,200 --> 01:11:31,680
Speaker 3: and just about a month later they broke up. She

1500
01:11:31,840 --> 01:11:34,560
Speaker 3: was almost immediately engaged to someone else. He seems to

1501
01:11:34,600 --> 01:11:37,280
Speaker 3: be nice, to be fair, and the original ap was

1502
01:11:37,360 --> 01:11:39,640
Speaker 3: out of the picture. These people all work for the

1503
01:11:39,680 --> 01:11:42,920
Speaker 3: same company, and it seems that she's the manager. I

1504
01:11:42,960 --> 01:11:45,120
Speaker 3: know this for a fact, with the original ap not

1505
01:11:45,240 --> 01:11:47,559
Speaker 3: certain whether the new guy reports to her as well.

1506
01:11:47,560 --> 01:11:49,720
Speaker 3: Working my day job fifty to sixty hours a week

1507
01:11:49,760 --> 01:11:51,800
Speaker 3: and doing a whole lot of side jobs to make

1508
01:11:52,120 --> 01:11:55,479
Speaker 3: ends meet and full time parenting while she's living her

1509
01:11:55,520 --> 01:11:56,599
Speaker 3: life on the other Yeah.

1510
01:11:56,439 --> 01:11:58,519
Speaker 1: She's not helping at all. And every time, I mean, like,

1511
01:11:58,520 --> 01:12:00,479
Speaker 1: you wouldn't even want her to be around your because

1512
01:12:00,520 --> 01:12:02,160
Speaker 1: she would just pay your kid's life in danger.

1513
01:12:02,240 --> 01:12:05,000
Speaker 3: And she's only contributing fifteen percent of the finances while

1514
01:12:05,000 --> 01:12:07,599
Speaker 3: he's putting in so much work to make that eighty

1515
01:12:07,600 --> 01:12:11,160
Speaker 3: five percent. Admittedly struggling, but a lot less stress than

1516
01:12:11,160 --> 01:12:13,880
Speaker 3: I have. We're getting back on our feet, slowly but surely.

1517
01:12:14,240 --> 01:12:17,320
Speaker 3: But this is so crushing to say the least. I've

1518
01:12:17,320 --> 01:12:19,759
Speaker 3: basically lost all the money I'd earned in the past

1519
01:12:19,800 --> 01:12:23,120
Speaker 3: sixteen years through all of this, and her constant response,

1520
01:12:23,240 --> 01:12:25,960
Speaker 3: and her constant response is but it was your choice

1521
01:12:25,960 --> 01:12:29,439
Speaker 3: to support me. That is so messed up, so messed up,

1522
01:12:29,600 --> 01:12:35,320
Speaker 3: so messed up. Like the new question is I've found

1523
01:12:35,320 --> 01:12:37,120
Speaker 3: someone else that's so nice.

1524
01:12:37,280 --> 01:12:40,439
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, okay, alright. Look it up.

1525
01:12:40,880 --> 01:12:43,639
Speaker 3: We were an item from twenty ten to twenty fourteen,

1526
01:12:43,800 --> 01:12:46,479
Speaker 3: and we're just in two very different phases of life

1527
01:12:46,520 --> 01:12:48,639
Speaker 3: at the time. And now we're back together, and she's

1528
01:12:48,680 --> 01:12:52,680
Speaker 3: been wonderful helping support where she can mentally, emotionally, and

1529
01:12:52,760 --> 01:12:56,200
Speaker 3: even financially on occasion. Of course, I pay that back

1530
01:12:56,240 --> 01:12:58,639
Speaker 3: as soon as I can each month, and she doesn't

1531
01:12:58,680 --> 01:13:00,760
Speaker 3: want to hear no when I ask her not to

1532
01:13:00,760 --> 01:13:03,960
Speaker 3: pay certain things or go above and beyond for myself

1533
01:13:04,040 --> 01:13:06,960
Speaker 3: and my child and making our lives easier, even though

1534
01:13:07,000 --> 01:13:10,200
Speaker 3: she has her own kids. She's literally been paying off

1535
01:13:10,200 --> 01:13:12,559
Speaker 3: some of the bills behind my back. And it's so sweet.

1536
01:13:12,640 --> 01:13:15,360
Speaker 3: It scares me because I don't know affection like this

1537
01:13:15,880 --> 01:13:16,800
Speaker 3: is it PTSD.

1538
01:13:16,880 --> 01:13:17,479
Speaker 1: I'm going through.

1539
01:13:17,560 --> 01:13:19,559
Speaker 3: By the way, something is so sweet that you could

1540
01:13:19,600 --> 01:13:23,200
Speaker 3: do is join us live every weekday at three pm

1541
01:13:23,280 --> 01:13:23,799
Speaker 3: on YouTube.

1542
01:13:23,840 --> 01:13:24,320
Speaker 1: Just top our.

1543
01:13:24,280 --> 01:13:27,559
Speaker 3: Profiles, tapping that's great. We had to go through all

1544
01:13:27,640 --> 01:13:30,680
Speaker 3: of that mess to get here. The ex does not

1545
01:13:30,800 --> 01:13:33,800
Speaker 3: want my new person meeting our kid, but wants her

1546
01:13:34,040 --> 01:13:35,519
Speaker 3: new fiance to be involved.

1547
01:13:35,680 --> 01:13:36,640
Speaker 1: What do I do with this?

1548
01:13:36,840 --> 01:13:40,160
Speaker 3: I suppose what I really want advice on is while

1549
01:13:40,200 --> 01:13:43,120
Speaker 3: I am infinitely grateful for her as a person keeping

1550
01:13:43,120 --> 01:13:46,599
Speaker 3: my mind straight in her assistance with everything else, she

1551
01:13:46,720 --> 01:13:49,320
Speaker 3: says it's just money and that she doesn't care about it.

1552
01:13:49,520 --> 01:13:52,120
Speaker 3: She just wants me back at my best to focus

1553
01:13:52,160 --> 01:13:54,840
Speaker 3: on us. But I feel somewhat uncomfortable with it, as

1554
01:13:54,920 --> 01:13:57,120
Speaker 3: I don't like feeling as though I owe someone. How

1555
01:13:57,160 --> 01:13:59,360
Speaker 3: do I lay down some boundaries with my new person

1556
01:13:59,400 --> 01:14:02,080
Speaker 3: doing such wonderful things for me? Would that spoil things

1557
01:14:02,080 --> 01:14:02,679
Speaker 3: between us?

1558
01:14:02,800 --> 01:14:04,439
Speaker 1: I think that you can just say, like, hey, I

1559
01:14:04,560 --> 01:14:07,519
Speaker 1: really appreciate everything that you do. I just never wanted

1560
01:14:07,560 --> 01:14:11,200
Speaker 1: to feel like I'm mooching off you or anything. Right, Yeah,

1561
01:14:11,320 --> 01:14:13,160
Speaker 1: but that is the end of that story.

1562
01:14:13,240 --> 01:14:16,200
Speaker 3: That is that was a lot a lot of story, a.

1563
01:14:16,080 --> 01:14:19,280
Speaker 1: Lot of story. But we'll see you next time. My

1564
01:14:19,479 --> 01:14:21,599
Speaker 1: husband cheated on me with our best friend.

1565
01:14:22,080 --> 01:14:25,320
Speaker 3: They don't know that I know either gonna find out.

1566
01:14:25,000 --> 01:14:25,680
Speaker 2: I know.

1567
01:14:26,200 --> 01:14:29,240
Speaker 1: I was about to get messy my twenty seven female

1568
01:14:29,320 --> 01:14:32,080
Speaker 1: soon to be ex husband twenty seven male cheated on

1569
01:14:32,160 --> 01:14:35,120
Speaker 1: me with our best friend, twenty seven female. I want

1570
01:14:35,120 --> 01:14:37,040
Speaker 1: to tell him that I know, but I don't know

1571
01:14:37,080 --> 01:14:39,800
Speaker 1: what to do. Hi'all. I'm sorry that this is long,

1572
01:14:39,880 --> 01:14:42,720
Speaker 1: and I'm sorry if it's confusing. By the way, this

1573
01:14:42,800 --> 01:14:46,080
Speaker 1: comes from alas it's cast on the Okay Storytime Separate It.

1574
01:14:46,320 --> 01:14:48,720
Speaker 1: So back in November of twenty twenty three, am I

1575
01:14:48,760 --> 01:14:51,599
Speaker 1: soon to be ex Jay sat me down and told

1576
01:14:51,640 --> 01:14:53,920
Speaker 1: me that he wasn't in love with me anymore. While

1577
01:14:53,920 --> 01:14:56,960
Speaker 1: our best friend and roommate Marie was away on work trip.

1578
01:14:57,040 --> 01:14:58,840
Speaker 1: I begged him to try and work it out and

1579
01:14:58,880 --> 01:15:01,679
Speaker 1: go to couple's therapy, and at first he agreed. Quickly

1580
01:15:01,760 --> 01:15:03,680
Speaker 1: after he asked me for space, and I went and

1581
01:15:03,720 --> 01:15:06,280
Speaker 1: stayed at my sister's house out of state for the

1582
01:15:06,439 --> 01:15:09,280
Speaker 1: entire month of December twenty twenty three while he and

1583
01:15:09,400 --> 01:15:13,479
Speaker 1: Marie stayed at the house. Getting a little suspicious about

1584
01:15:13,479 --> 01:15:17,519
Speaker 1: this Marie character. Something's fishy. Marie didn't reach out to

1585
01:15:17,560 --> 01:15:20,519
Speaker 1: me once, and she was supposed to be my best friend.

1586
01:15:20,680 --> 01:15:22,760
Speaker 1: New Year's weekend, Jay asked me if he could have

1587
01:15:22,920 --> 01:15:25,400
Speaker 1: even more space and asked that we don't talk for

1588
01:15:25,439 --> 01:15:27,760
Speaker 1: the weekend so that he can think about our relationship.

1589
01:15:27,800 --> 01:15:30,600
Speaker 1: I obliged, hoping he would want to stay, but in

1590
01:15:30,680 --> 01:15:33,439
Speaker 1: my heart I knew it was over. On Monday, New

1591
01:15:33,520 --> 01:15:36,280
Speaker 1: Year's Day, I called him midday because I was under

1592
01:15:36,280 --> 01:15:38,679
Speaker 1: the impression that I could since the weekend was over.

1593
01:15:38,800 --> 01:15:41,759
Speaker 1: He didn't know, but he accidentally picked up my call

1594
01:15:41,960 --> 01:15:44,360
Speaker 1: and I heard him yelling about how I was annoying

1595
01:15:44,400 --> 01:15:47,160
Speaker 1: to him, and he was doing exactly what he said

1596
01:15:47,200 --> 01:15:50,880
Speaker 1: by not answering my calls, so I hung up the phone. Eventually,

1597
01:15:50,920 --> 01:15:52,800
Speaker 1: he called me back and I asked him why he

1598
01:15:52,840 --> 01:15:54,920
Speaker 1: was yelling. He told me someone cut him off while

1599
01:15:54,920 --> 01:15:57,000
Speaker 1: he was driving to Walmart. He told me he couldn't

1600
01:15:57,040 --> 01:15:59,080
Speaker 1: talk as he was doing something for work. I got

1601
01:15:59,160 --> 01:16:02,120
Speaker 1: panicky about the lack of communication with our marriage on

1602
01:16:02,160 --> 01:16:05,200
Speaker 1: the line and called Marie. She never picked up the

1603
01:16:05,240 --> 01:16:08,320
Speaker 1: phone and eventually texted that she was driving back from

1604
01:16:08,320 --> 01:16:11,080
Speaker 1: a rave she went to that weekend and couldn't talk,

1605
01:16:11,240 --> 01:16:14,360
Speaker 1: or maybe you were driving back from an affair. Later

1606
01:16:14,400 --> 01:16:16,880
Speaker 1: on that day, I told Jay that I could feel

1607
01:16:16,880 --> 01:16:19,719
Speaker 1: that something was off, and he called me and told

1608
01:16:19,760 --> 01:16:22,720
Speaker 1: me that he wanted a divorce. I flew back home

1609
01:16:22,760 --> 01:16:25,920
Speaker 1: in January, thinking we could live in separate rooms and

1610
01:16:26,000 --> 01:16:28,360
Speaker 1: fix up the house to sell. It's in both of

1611
01:16:28,400 --> 01:16:30,960
Speaker 1: our names. Maybe a week or two into that, he

1612
01:16:31,040 --> 01:16:33,320
Speaker 1: told me he couldn't live with me anymore. Due to

1613
01:16:33,360 --> 01:16:35,240
Speaker 1: my pay and how we split up our pets. It

1614
01:16:35,320 --> 01:16:37,160
Speaker 1: made the most sense for me to move out and

1615
01:16:37,200 --> 01:16:40,240
Speaker 1: for him and Marie to stay. Hindsight is twenty twenty.

1616
01:16:40,400 --> 01:16:44,000
Speaker 1: How is op not realizing, like Marie's literally living with

1617
01:16:44,120 --> 01:16:45,280
Speaker 1: her husband.

1618
01:16:45,720 --> 01:16:48,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like, there's just so many of their stories that

1619
01:16:48,920 --> 01:16:51,440
Speaker 3: don't make sense separately. But then when he put them together.

1620
01:16:51,720 --> 01:16:54,799
Speaker 1: Put those little snap let those snaps is fire. Yeah.

1621
01:16:54,840 --> 01:16:56,880
Speaker 1: After I moved out, I went over to the house

1622
01:16:56,880 --> 01:16:59,519
Speaker 1: almost weekly to do my laundry, and I attempted to

1623
01:16:59,560 --> 01:17:01,800
Speaker 1: be friends with him. The next ten months, I was

1624
01:17:01,920 --> 01:17:05,280
Speaker 1: devastated trying to figure out why Marie was pulling away

1625
01:17:05,280 --> 01:17:07,760
Speaker 1: from me and barely giving me the time of day.

1626
01:17:08,120 --> 01:17:10,559
Speaker 1: Jay was telling me one thing and talking to me

1627
01:17:10,680 --> 01:17:13,360
Speaker 1: like he cared that I was struggling with his cited

1628
01:17:13,400 --> 01:17:16,120
Speaker 1: reasons for the divorce. He called me manipulative, but said

1629
01:17:16,120 --> 01:17:18,439
Speaker 1: he knew it was malicious, but it was all talk.

1630
01:17:18,760 --> 01:17:21,639
Speaker 1: I know that being friends right after a separation isn't smart,

1631
01:17:21,800 --> 01:17:24,280
Speaker 1: but they were my only support system as I live

1632
01:17:24,360 --> 01:17:27,439
Speaker 1: halfway across the country from any friends or family. The

1633
01:17:27,479 --> 01:17:30,360
Speaker 1: whole time, I thought something was going on between Jay

1634
01:17:30,400 --> 01:17:34,320
Speaker 1: and Marie, but they both said no, and I felt

1635
01:17:34,320 --> 01:17:37,160
Speaker 1: guilty for thinking that. Low of my best friends loel.

1636
01:17:37,280 --> 01:17:40,240
Speaker 1: I was tearing myself apart. I was in therapy weekly

1637
01:17:40,400 --> 01:17:43,800
Speaker 1: and questioning every single thought I had, wondering if I

1638
01:17:43,880 --> 01:17:47,240
Speaker 1: was being manipulative. I wanted to die, moving back a

1639
01:17:47,240 --> 01:17:49,479
Speaker 1: little bit so he can move forward. Jay had quit

1640
01:17:49,520 --> 01:17:52,320
Speaker 1: his job back in February when I moved out, and

1641
01:17:52,479 --> 01:17:54,479
Speaker 1: finally found one that was going to hire him in

1642
01:17:54,520 --> 01:17:57,719
Speaker 1: September on the East Coast. We decided that we would

1643
01:17:57,720 --> 01:17:59,880
Speaker 1: sell the house in September. When I went over to

1644
01:17:59,920 --> 01:18:02,639
Speaker 1: do laundry with my clothes already in the washing machine,

1645
01:18:02,720 --> 01:18:05,320
Speaker 1: Jay and Marie told me that Marie was going with him.

1646
01:18:05,479 --> 01:18:08,120
Speaker 1: They told me again that nothing was going on between them.

1647
01:18:08,200 --> 01:18:10,479
Speaker 1: After they sat and stared at me for twenty minutes

1648
01:18:10,800 --> 01:18:13,599
Speaker 1: while they tried to form a coherent response. While having

1649
01:18:13,600 --> 01:18:16,160
Speaker 1: a panic attack and having them tell me that they

1650
01:18:16,240 --> 01:18:18,760
Speaker 1: need to be selfish and think about themselves. I think

1651
01:18:18,800 --> 01:18:20,840
Speaker 1: that's the only thing they've been thinking about.

1652
01:18:21,000 --> 01:18:22,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, it doesn't seem like they're lacking.

1653
01:18:22,640 --> 01:18:23,320
Speaker 2: That at all.

1654
01:18:23,520 --> 01:18:27,840
Speaker 1: This is actually so the audacity that these two people

1655
01:18:27,920 --> 01:18:31,880
Speaker 1: have to literally be living together and then be moving

1656
01:18:32,200 --> 01:18:36,120
Speaker 1: away together and still tell ope nothing's going on, Like, no,

1657
01:18:36,160 --> 01:18:38,719
Speaker 1: we we're just friends. We're just friends, You're just best

1658
01:18:38,800 --> 01:18:39,520
Speaker 1: the activity.

1659
01:18:39,920 --> 01:18:44,560
Speaker 3: We never like cheated with you or on you at all, Like, no.

1660
01:18:44,360 --> 01:18:47,160
Speaker 1: We're just we're just doing this too. It's for better

1661
01:18:47,320 --> 01:18:50,479
Speaker 1: our mental health. Yeah, that's it. That's it, Eliot. I

1662
01:18:50,600 --> 01:18:53,080
Speaker 1: escaped to the laundry rooms, sat down on the floor

1663
01:18:53,120 --> 01:18:56,320
Speaker 1: and sobbed. Eventually, Marie came in and found me and

1664
01:18:56,520 --> 01:18:58,680
Speaker 1: held me while I was sobbing. She looked me in

1665
01:18:58,680 --> 01:19:00,559
Speaker 1: the eyes and told me that she would never do

1666
01:19:00,720 --> 01:19:04,840
Speaker 1: something like that to me. It seems like you're doing

1667
01:19:04,880 --> 01:19:07,719
Speaker 1: it right now. Oh, Jay looked me in the eyes

1668
01:19:07,800 --> 01:19:10,960
Speaker 1: and promised me that nothing was going on. After that moment,

1669
01:19:11,000 --> 01:19:12,960
Speaker 1: I told Marie that her choice was made at the

1670
01:19:13,000 --> 01:19:15,519
Speaker 1: expense of our friendship. She told me she was sorry

1671
01:19:15,560 --> 01:19:18,160
Speaker 1: things turned out this way and that she hoped I'd

1672
01:19:18,160 --> 01:19:21,799
Speaker 1: find happiness. I haven't spoken to her since she blocked

1673
01:19:21,840 --> 01:19:24,479
Speaker 1: me on some social media's and I finished the job

1674
01:19:24,680 --> 01:19:26,880
Speaker 1: and blocked her on the ones she missed. Jay and

1675
01:19:26,920 --> 01:19:29,840
Speaker 1: I barely speak since he left. He didn't even wish

1676
01:19:29,880 --> 01:19:32,639
Speaker 1: me a happy birthday. Two days ago, a mutual friend

1677
01:19:32,640 --> 01:19:34,680
Speaker 1: heard my side of the story and they informed me

1678
01:19:34,760 --> 01:19:37,599
Speaker 1: that the New Year's Eve weekend, Jay was actually also

1679
01:19:37,680 --> 01:19:40,400
Speaker 1: at that rave where he shared a hotel room with

1680
01:19:40,479 --> 01:19:44,800
Speaker 1: Marie and told our mutual friend that he was crazy.

1681
01:19:44,400 --> 01:19:49,599
Speaker 3: About her, very very very interesting.

1682
01:19:49,200 --> 01:19:50,560
Speaker 1: Very so interesting.

1683
01:19:50,640 --> 01:19:54,000
Speaker 3: You freaking liars, And she's still like looking at her

1684
01:19:54,000 --> 01:19:56,679
Speaker 3: while she's crying. Yeah, and it's like I would never

1685
01:19:56,720 --> 01:19:59,840
Speaker 3: do that too. Oh, absolutely not. How how can you

1686
01:20:00,240 --> 01:20:01,759
Speaker 3: with yourself? Yeah?

1687
01:20:01,840 --> 01:20:02,479
Speaker 1: That's crazy.

1688
01:20:02,479 --> 01:20:02,559
Speaker 2: This.

1689
01:20:03,080 --> 01:20:06,760
Speaker 1: I feel like I might actually explode from anger. They

1690
01:20:06,800 --> 01:20:09,320
Speaker 1: spent almost an entire year lying to my face and

1691
01:20:09,360 --> 01:20:11,759
Speaker 1: making me feel like I was crazy. By the way,

1692
01:20:12,080 --> 01:20:14,280
Speaker 1: if you're crazy about us, you can join us live

1693
01:20:14,360 --> 01:20:17,360
Speaker 1: every WEEKDA at three PMPSD on YouTube. Just tap her profile.

1694
01:20:17,520 --> 01:20:19,519
Speaker 1: And there is a little bit left to this story.

1695
01:20:19,560 --> 01:20:22,360
Speaker 1: But do you have anything, anything at all left to

1696
01:20:22,400 --> 01:20:25,640
Speaker 1: say about these horrible people? I just horrible.

1697
01:20:25,720 --> 01:20:28,599
Speaker 3: It just that just sucks. It just sucks because she's

1698
01:20:28,840 --> 01:20:31,280
Speaker 3: moved across the country. Yeah, this is her like only

1699
01:20:31,320 --> 01:20:33,960
Speaker 3: sports system. Yeah, pretty much her friend and her husband,

1700
01:20:34,000 --> 01:20:36,439
Speaker 3: and they're being a little bit too supportive of each other.

1701
01:20:36,560 --> 01:20:41,200
Speaker 1: Yes, and they're having this affair for over a year.

1702
01:20:41,080 --> 01:20:44,559
Speaker 3: Now and gas lighting the heck got her gas lighting

1703
01:20:44,680 --> 01:20:47,760
Speaker 3: so hard, like, oh my goodness, Like, that's just so

1704
01:20:48,560 --> 01:20:52,200
Speaker 3: hard to have your trust like played back by both

1705
01:20:52,640 --> 01:20:55,760
Speaker 3: you know, your husband and your best friend. Yeah, she

1706
01:20:56,000 --> 01:20:59,120
Speaker 3: was like sobbing on the floor about this. Suff and

1707
01:20:59,160 --> 01:21:01,640
Speaker 3: then the best friend is like, kid, or.

1708
01:21:01,840 --> 01:21:03,639
Speaker 1: Do that goold?

1709
01:21:03,920 --> 01:21:06,839
Speaker 3: Yes? She would, of course, Like you're doing it actively,

1710
01:21:06,880 --> 01:21:09,800
Speaker 3: You're doing do it. That's just that blows my viy ridiculous.

1711
01:21:09,920 --> 01:21:12,000
Speaker 1: I want to tell him that I know, and I

1712
01:21:12,080 --> 01:21:14,840
Speaker 1: want to tell him how disgusting he is. But her

1713
01:21:14,840 --> 01:21:16,720
Speaker 1: house is still on the market and he's waiting to

1714
01:21:16,720 --> 01:21:19,280
Speaker 1: file for divorce until it's sold. What should I do?

1715
01:21:19,439 --> 01:21:21,479
Speaker 1: I don't know if burning the bridge would affect how

1716
01:21:21,479 --> 01:21:24,320
Speaker 1: this process will go, if we'll make it more difficult.

1717
01:21:24,720 --> 01:21:26,760
Speaker 1: I really don't know what to do. I typed out

1718
01:21:26,800 --> 01:21:29,400
Speaker 1: a long message to send him, and all my friends

1719
01:21:29,479 --> 01:21:31,559
Speaker 1: want me to, but I'm scared it will make the

1720
01:21:31,560 --> 01:21:34,400
Speaker 1: process difficult. I feel like I'm being eaten alive out

1721
01:21:34,400 --> 01:21:37,040
Speaker 1: of anger and discuss. Though I'm sorry this is long,

1722
01:21:37,200 --> 01:21:39,559
Speaker 1: there's just so much that looking back on was a

1723
01:21:39,560 --> 01:21:42,799
Speaker 1: clear sign things I didn't even include, and I wanted

1724
01:21:42,800 --> 01:21:45,680
Speaker 1: to believe them so badly I let it destroy me.

1725
01:21:45,960 --> 01:21:48,840
Speaker 1: What would you guys do? And that is the end

1726
01:21:48,880 --> 01:21:50,960
Speaker 1: of that story. I think it really about, like, if

1727
01:21:50,960 --> 01:21:54,400
Speaker 1: you have a lawyer, it might help that you know

1728
01:21:54,439 --> 01:21:56,479
Speaker 1: that there's been infidelity and you have proof of it,

1729
01:21:56,600 --> 01:21:57,880
Speaker 1: or hopefully you have proof of it.

1730
01:21:57,920 --> 01:22:00,760
Speaker 3: They're waiting to get a divorce because he's gonna move out.

1731
01:22:00,920 --> 01:22:04,920
Speaker 1: Is that right? I think so in the same house. Yeah, exactly,

1732
01:22:04,920 --> 01:22:06,799
Speaker 1: that makes sense. So they're trying to sell this house

1733
01:22:06,960 --> 01:22:08,559
Speaker 1: and they're like, She's like, I don't know if the

1734
01:22:08,560 --> 01:22:12,200
Speaker 1: divorce proceedings will be made harder if I, like, you know,

1735
01:22:12,880 --> 01:22:15,200
Speaker 1: bring this up. I don't want to antagonize him.

1736
01:22:15,439 --> 01:22:16,679
Speaker 3: Oh that makes sense.

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Speaker 1: with them. He's this horrible man. He doesn't deserve anything. Yeah,

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