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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome to Stephane

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Speaker 1: Ever told you production of iHeart Radio. And welcome to

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Speaker 1: another edition of our sub subset series. Sure of us

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Speaker 1: watching Sex in the City and live reacting so Annie

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Speaker 1: can enjoy for the first time while I enjoy from

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Speaker 1: her perspective of Sex in the City season one. We're

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Speaker 1: only on season one, y'all. Yes, but we are on

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Speaker 1: episode six good news. Yeah, so only episodes movies and

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Speaker 1: then we're in a backtrack because I had to explain

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Speaker 1: so many things that was related to the offset series

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Speaker 1: of and just like that from Max original. But I'm

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Speaker 1: really excited to be like able to point out this

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Speaker 1: is this, this is this. So we're not gonna do

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Speaker 1: all of that. But in tradition of watching those and

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Speaker 1: any being a new Virgin to these episodes from New Virgin,

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Speaker 1: is that redundant Virgin? I guess it's a little bit redundant.

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Speaker 1: Can you do a recap of what has happened thus far?

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Speaker 1: I know, I know, I'm testing you, Okay, Okay, I

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Speaker 1: like to test alright, So, so far they've talked about

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Speaker 1: like single hood versus married women, like single women versus

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Speaker 1: and Timothy all I Fund showed up and he had

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Speaker 1: R two D two an issue. That's the most important thing. Uh,

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Speaker 1: we have been introduced to big. There have been many already,

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Speaker 1: like going out a nights and yes, I think we

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Speaker 1: had some We had some models in here. Models. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's right, that's right, So okay, all right. And also

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Speaker 1: just so you know, this is our happy hour segment

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Speaker 1: and so therefore we are sipping because it is not

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Speaker 1: quite noon where we are sitting, but because it's sex

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Speaker 1: couple of episodes we did the Cosmos we did. But

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Speaker 1: today we're hitting out with mimosas cheers, cheers, And that

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Speaker 1: is the orange juice champagne combo. I make your's a

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Speaker 1: little stronger than mine because and you can handle it.

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Speaker 1: I cannot. I will fall asleep with champagne. But I

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Speaker 1: still love it. Yeah, but if you are drinking, drink responsibly.

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Speaker 1: If you're not whatever, you're doing it responsibly. Yes, okay,

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Speaker 1: So the title of this episode, episode six is called

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Speaker 1: secret Sex. Can you give us a predictor of what

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Speaker 1: you think will happen. Oh, I failed the last one too.

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Speaker 1: I remember. Now sex, okay, secret sex. You're having sex

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Speaker 1: that you're having sex with. Sep person. Now, who do

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Speaker 1: just like that. So now I'm like, the threads of

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Speaker 1: that they will be right exactly. I will say. It

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Speaker 1: does make me sad because we know what the allegations

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Speaker 1: with Chris Snath. That definitely makes me have a different

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Speaker 1: point of view. And unfortunately I didn't realize that these

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Speaker 1: to the victims and the survivors that we were not

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Speaker 1: aware and that we are here. Um, but it's one

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Speaker 1: of those we've talked about this. When something is ruined

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Speaker 1: by the actual people, how do we move on? Do

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Speaker 1: but she has really hateful rhetoric and I don't want

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Speaker 1: that in my life. But whatever, that's a whole we

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Speaker 1: but that's okay because we're not necessarily celebrating the individuals.

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Speaker 1: then a holding pattern for at least five days. You've

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Speaker 1: But for some reason I felt this was a thing. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: our relationship means by this date you should have done this.

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Speaker 1: By this date, you should have done this. I think

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Speaker 1: didn't want to do it. There's that whole book which

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Speaker 1: and she follows it to the t, Charlotte. The book

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Speaker 1: was called the Rules, and it was written in Time

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Speaker 1: Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr Wright. Oh

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Speaker 1: course she did. That feels very like and women have

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Speaker 1: Have you done that? Friend of mine? Like not introduce

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Speaker 1: don't know their name. I do that. I did once

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Speaker 1: And then he remembered like three months later or a

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Speaker 1: didn't even know Awae, your girlfriend's like, what are you

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Speaker 1: why on Facebook are you? Did you change your status?

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Speaker 1: for three years. M hmm, So what's the problem. Look,

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Speaker 1: so he's saying he doesn't see himself with her forever.

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Speaker 1: because she's not beautiful, even though everything else about her

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Speaker 1: been somebody's secret. I have you well, so I couldn't

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Speaker 1: that's the whole thing. Yeah, it's a whole thing. Hello,

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Speaker 1: do you miss me yet? What is this? I watched

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Speaker 1: me horror movies? Who is this? Are you alone in

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Speaker 1: such a twist. I haven't been able to stop thinking

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Speaker 1: just escaped. Sex on the first date. Curse sex on

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Speaker 1: a thing? I don't act like. That's an unrealistic expectation

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Speaker 1: and started going through drawers. I'm like, what are you doing, man?

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Speaker 1: I wasn't snooping, but there was a tape out, Oh

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Speaker 1: that was imporn, and I was like, I was kind

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Speaker 1: of frightened to be honestly, like, if you leave this out,

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Speaker 1: I don't know if this is some kind of weird message. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't know how I feel about spankings because it

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Speaker 1: be dominated often, like that's too much. I don't like

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Speaker 1: things a thing typically other things maybe, but hitting slapping

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Speaker 1: not my thing. So but like I'm sure that, like

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Speaker 1: I don't know that no one's ever asked me to

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Speaker 1: I would think. So that's the only way I could

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Speaker 1: I was. I think unfortunately, I don't think I could

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Speaker 1: came here to tell you that if you're embarrassed or

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