WEBVTT - Let’s Set Up Jason 0:00:01.000 --> 0:00:06.000 This is the most dramatic podcast ever and iHeartRadio podcast. 0:00:07.920 --> 0:00:10.040 Chris Harrison Lauren Zema coming to you from the home 0:00:10.119 --> 0:00:14.840 office in Austin, Texas on this Christmas Week. 0:00:15.360 --> 0:00:20.840 Christmas Week, Christmas time is here? Are there not songs 0:00:20.880 --> 0:00:24.480 from holiday movies that just stick in your head? 0:00:24.520 --> 0:00:25.320 Are lines that do? 0:00:25.680 --> 0:00:25.720 Like? 0:00:25.840 --> 0:00:29.120 There's probably I would say there is no genre of 0:00:29.280 --> 0:00:33.440 movie rewatched more than holiday movies. I was reading the 0:00:33.479 --> 0:00:37.080 other day about how valuable the like ip is on 0:00:37.240 --> 0:00:40.640 holiday movies because people just watch them over and over 0:00:40.680 --> 0:00:41.200 and over again. 0:00:41.400 --> 0:00:42.760 Yeah, I was trying to think of a holiday or 0:00:42.800 --> 0:00:44.160 something else as like a genre. 0:00:44.240 --> 0:00:47.319 You quote ELF all the time, year round. You quote ELF. 0:00:47.440 --> 0:00:49.680 It's one of the greatest movies period. It's it's one 0:00:49.720 --> 0:00:52.360 of my favorite movies of all time, not like holiday movie, 0:00:52.880 --> 0:00:54.520 just one of my favorite movies of all time. I 0:00:54.560 --> 0:00:55.320 think it's genius. 0:00:55.360 --> 0:00:57.360 I think, what is your favorite line from ELF? 0:00:58.120 --> 0:01:00.560 I mean, it's the one that gets me every time. 0:01:00.720 --> 0:01:03.319 Is the coffee shop he walks in and yeah, you're 0:01:03.320 --> 0:01:05.520 walking he's walking through New York for the first time, obviously, 0:01:05.640 --> 0:01:07.640 and he sees if you've ever been to New York, 0:01:07.720 --> 0:01:10.200 it's like, you know, world's best pizza, world's best cup 0:01:10.240 --> 0:01:12.440 of coffee. And he sees that and he jumps in 0:01:12.640 --> 0:01:17.120 and he says, congratulations, everybody, you did it. It's just 0:01:17.520 --> 0:01:19.880 in the looks. It's not as much Will Ferrell's delivery, 0:01:19.920 --> 0:01:22.600 which is genius, but the looks of the employees and 0:01:22.680 --> 0:01:25.160 everybody in there is just like so New York. 0:01:25.560 --> 0:01:26.039 And that so. 0:01:26.200 --> 0:01:27.280 Applies year round. 0:01:27.440 --> 0:01:33.040 If someone does something, Chris goes, congratulations, you did people. 0:01:32.800 --> 0:01:34.600 Are like, you're an idiot. But I also like the 0:01:34.680 --> 0:01:36.679 use of New York, like it was a really good, 0:01:36.760 --> 0:01:38.959 real character and there was a very good New York. 0:01:38.920 --> 0:01:41.200 Movie best uses of New York, well not best, but 0:01:41.360 --> 0:01:43.920 up there Sex and the City and Elf the movie. 0:01:43.920 --> 0:01:45.240 It really is they did it. I mean, it's a 0:01:45.400 --> 0:01:46.959 solid legit New York. 0:01:47.200 --> 0:01:50.320 I would like to speak to someone about this, the 0:01:50.560 --> 0:01:55.040 chemical thing in our brain that instantly makes you remember 0:01:55.920 --> 0:01:58.480 like a quote or a song lyric. It will pop 0:01:58.560 --> 0:02:00.320 in your brain like I did it. I just got 0:02:00.360 --> 0:02:02.480 my haircut. I just came back from a haircut and 0:02:03.280 --> 0:02:06.400 the wonderful woman. And by the way, if you're in Austin, 0:02:06.520 --> 0:02:10.079 I love Deep Roots Salon. Specifically, the Cedar Park location 0:02:10.240 --> 0:02:14.120 is incredible. Shout out to Tara and Mallory. But she 0:02:14.240 --> 0:02:16.359 was coloring my hair and she just said, you know, 0:02:16.520 --> 0:02:18.880 yeah on my own, and in my brain I instantly 0:02:18.960 --> 0:02:21.760 go lay miz and I go on my own and 0:02:21.919 --> 0:02:23.840 I did it, and I'm like, oh, I said to her. 0:02:23.960 --> 0:02:25.280 She and I this is the first time she colored 0:02:25.320 --> 0:02:26.880 my hair and said, well we know each other. Well, 0:02:26.960 --> 0:02:28.959 now you know that I can't not go to musicals. 0:02:30.360 --> 0:02:31.200 What is that in your brain? 0:02:31.360 --> 0:02:34.280 Mike Trico, the Great, I don't know. There's there are 0:02:34.440 --> 0:02:37.600 certain songs and I was thinking about Mike Terrico, the sportscaster. 0:02:37.919 --> 0:02:42.440 He said this week he's like I watch Home Alone 0:02:42.480 --> 0:02:45.519 every year, and someone was giving him a hard time, like, 0:02:45.560 --> 0:02:48.120 come on, you really don't. And I'm like, we watch 0:02:48.200 --> 0:02:49.080 Home Alone. 0:02:48.919 --> 0:02:51.639 Every d You and I, with no kids in sight, 0:02:52.400 --> 0:02:54.400 decorated the tree together and watched Home Alone. 0:02:54.480 --> 0:02:56.919 We watched elfin Home Alone as we decorated the tree 0:02:56.919 --> 0:02:57.480 and we cooked dinner. 0:02:57.919 --> 0:03:00.679 I love background movies. You've seen them so many times 0:03:00.720 --> 0:03:03.040 that you don't have to be actively watching. You were cooking, 0:03:03.080 --> 0:03:05.160 I was putting up the tree, and we were half watching, 0:03:05.240 --> 0:03:05.799 half listening. 0:03:06.040 --> 0:03:09.480 My question for you, what's the Home Alone song that 0:03:09.639 --> 0:03:11.359 pops in your head when you think Home Alone, what 0:03:11.520 --> 0:03:14.120 is the song, what's the scene? What's the song? Because 0:03:14.160 --> 0:03:15.040 that's your favorite movie. 0:03:15.919 --> 0:03:18.400 It's the When you hear the chorus of the kids, 0:03:19.000 --> 0:03:20.720 it's it's kind of like when he's building up to 0:03:20.800 --> 0:03:24.840 fight back against the you know, the Wet bandits, and 0:03:25.000 --> 0:03:26.080 you hear the little kids. 0:03:25.880 --> 0:03:32.720 Schoir, they go, they go, fall on your knees. I 0:03:35.080 --> 0:03:36.680 can't hit that. That falsett I. 0:03:36.760 --> 0:03:41.160 Is fall on your knees, the same as Dobby is free. Wow. 0:03:41.360 --> 0:03:43.760 If we're talking about movies, everybody. 0:03:43.880 --> 0:03:47.280 I don't know if marriage has changed Chris Harrison, but 0:03:47.680 --> 0:03:50.960 I was taking a bath the other day, which I 0:03:50.960 --> 0:03:51.960 could get into that whole thing. 0:03:52.000 --> 0:03:53.160 Are you a bath person or not? 0:03:53.400 --> 0:03:53.440 No? 0:03:53.920 --> 0:03:55.880 I am not, and yet I try to make myself 0:03:55.920 --> 0:03:58.560 do it sometimes because I think you but all I 0:03:58.640 --> 0:03:59.520 do is get stressed out. 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:00.600 You appreciate that I'm. 0:04:00.440 --> 0:04:02.240 Not a bath Frost, No, I appreciate that You're like, 0:04:02.640 --> 0:04:05.080 you have this beautiful bathtub in this beautiful house, and 0:04:05.120 --> 0:04:08.480 you're like, I'm going to be this person and you're not, Like, 0:04:08.600 --> 0:04:09.360 but you've tried. 0:04:09.480 --> 0:04:11.600 It's wasted on me. I feel bad, Like my sister 0:04:11.720 --> 0:04:14.360 loves baths. Some you you either are a bath person 0:04:14.440 --> 0:04:14.720 or or not. 0:04:14.880 --> 0:04:16.719 But I like that you go in with the intention 0:04:16.839 --> 0:04:19.520 of I'm going to have a real moment to myself 0:04:19.600 --> 0:04:23.680 and this spa like moment. And guys, five minutes later, 0:04:23.800 --> 0:04:26.200 I'm getting text messages. I hear her in there and 0:04:26.720 --> 0:04:29.440 it's not going well. She's she's a caged animal in 0:04:29.480 --> 0:04:29.960 a bathtub. 0:04:30.040 --> 0:04:30.760 It's so boring. 0:04:31.000 --> 0:04:33.840 I'm sweaty. I'm like, am I cleaning? I'm just sweating 0:04:33.880 --> 0:04:36.520 in here. I don't think here's a real question. 0:04:36.640 --> 0:04:36.839 Huh. 0:04:37.320 --> 0:04:39.720 Little kids aside, Like kids are different. If you're an 0:04:39.720 --> 0:04:42.320 adult and you take a bath, are you clean afterwards? 0:04:42.400 --> 0:04:43.840 No, you're just stewing in your own juice. 0:04:43.920 --> 0:04:45.280 That's what I think. I'm like, I got to take 0:04:45.279 --> 0:04:45.600 a shower. 0:04:45.800 --> 0:04:47.680 There's no good. Yeah, you have to show I always 0:04:47.839 --> 0:04:49.920 if I can't remember the last time I took a bath, 0:04:49.960 --> 0:04:51.000 maybe when I was What. 0:04:51.040 --> 0:04:53.240 Can you use our bathtub? Because then someone will be No, 0:04:53.400 --> 0:04:54.320 I do not like baths. 0:04:54.400 --> 0:04:56.800 Why not If I'm sore or sick and it's like 0:04:57.800 --> 0:04:59.160 we have a hot tub, I'd rather go get the 0:04:59.240 --> 0:04:59.640 hot tub. 0:05:00.240 --> 0:05:02.560 Interesting, Well, yeah, you know what I agree with you? 0:05:02.680 --> 0:05:06.320 Actually, yeah, okay, Well I'm in the bath and I 0:05:06.440 --> 0:05:08.200 come out and I realize, well, I've been wasting my 0:05:08.279 --> 0:05:11.560 time in the bath. You have been on your own 0:05:12.360 --> 0:05:14.680 watching a Harry Potter. 0:05:14.520 --> 0:05:17.640 Movie, which is why he just brought up Dobby Dolby 0:05:17.960 --> 0:05:18.440 is Free. 0:05:18.720 --> 0:05:21.240 I take Apparently it's the worst one. Your least favorite 0:05:21.320 --> 0:05:22.120 Chamber of Secrets. 0:05:22.440 --> 0:05:28.880 Chamber of Secrets is it's not my least favorite book, 0:05:29.000 --> 0:05:31.000 but I do think it's maybe the worst movie. 0:05:31.120 --> 0:05:33.920 Interesting, Okay, acting wise, the kids didn't know how to 0:05:33.960 --> 0:05:34.360 act yet. 0:05:34.440 --> 0:05:36.480 In the first movie, you forgive them. You're like, these 0:05:36.520 --> 0:05:39.040 are young kids, they're acting for the first time. I 0:05:39.080 --> 0:05:41.560 don't expect it to be that great. The third movie, 0:05:41.600 --> 0:05:43.279 you're like, Okay, the acting is still. 0:05:43.120 --> 0:05:47.400 Not that great. The story, some of the lines, some 0:05:47.480 --> 0:05:49.360 of the shots, it's just not great. What did you 0:05:49.720 --> 0:05:53.440 here's my question, what made you just actively on your 0:05:53.480 --> 0:05:55.080 own when watching Harry Potter movie? 0:05:55.200 --> 0:05:58.240 Marriage has changed me. The only reason I ever stop 0:05:58.360 --> 0:05:59.840 at Harry Potter movies is because of you. 0:06:00.200 --> 0:06:01.119 But what is the reason? 0:06:01.640 --> 0:06:03.560 I just want to? And it's funny because I don't 0:06:03.640 --> 0:06:06.200 sit and watch all of them, and I have still 0:06:06.240 --> 0:06:07.920 not watched all of them, and then and it's kind 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:10.120 of fun. And I wonder if you're envious of me 0:06:10.520 --> 0:06:13.080 because I was watching Chamber of Secrets for the first 0:06:13.120 --> 0:06:14.599 time last night, what. 0:06:14.720 --> 0:06:17.480 I would give to experience the reveals of the Harry 0:06:17.520 --> 0:06:18.360 Potter series again. 0:06:18.440 --> 0:06:20.320 I did not know who opened the Chamber of Secrets, 0:06:20.360 --> 0:06:23.840 and I knew it wasn't Hagrid. He's too lovable, and 0:06:23.920 --> 0:06:26.240 because I've seen him in other parts of the movies 0:06:26.320 --> 0:06:29.080 and I'm like, nope, he's a lovable figure. The only 0:06:29.160 --> 0:06:31.760 way he would have done it is stupidly on accident, 0:06:31.839 --> 0:06:36.080 because he is a bumbling fool at times times and 0:06:36.279 --> 0:06:38.200 well all the time. That's his character. And so I 0:06:38.279 --> 0:06:40.040 was like, Okay, maybe he did it on accident, but 0:06:40.120 --> 0:06:42.680 I knew he was being set up. But yeah, it's 0:06:42.760 --> 0:06:45.240 because of you that I've just I will watch these 0:06:45.279 --> 0:06:46.720 and I will eventually watch them. 0:06:46.800 --> 0:06:49.000 All that makes me feel so loved. 0:06:49.240 --> 0:06:51.480 When that makes me feel so loved, and it makes 0:06:51.520 --> 0:06:53.599 me wonder if I should be watching more. 0:06:53.720 --> 0:06:56.840 Sports for you, okay, hot take. I have also not 0:06:57.320 --> 0:07:01.560 watched the other ones, the New Zealand ones, because we 0:07:01.600 --> 0:07:03.280 went to New Lord of the Rings. I have not 0:07:03.360 --> 0:07:06.160 watched Lord of the Rings either. I've seen parts of 0:07:06.200 --> 0:07:07.200 it were you. 0:07:07.400 --> 0:07:09.760 The Lord of the Rings movies were so big. 0:07:09.920 --> 0:07:10.000 I. 0:07:12.160 --> 0:07:13.560 Know what we're doing. 0:07:13.800 --> 0:07:15.600 They just don't appeal to me. I guess that that 0:07:15.800 --> 0:07:18.160 type of sci fi does not appeal to me. I 0:07:18.400 --> 0:07:20.720 was definitely in the Star Wars generation that came out 0:07:20.760 --> 0:07:23.440 when I was seven or eight years old. That captured 0:07:23.480 --> 0:07:25.560 my imagination. Never a Star Trek. 0:07:25.880 --> 0:07:26.600 You think you didn't go? 0:07:26.840 --> 0:07:28.920 Is that it? Or I have heard from people because 0:07:28.960 --> 0:07:30.680 when the Lord of the Rings movies came out, you 0:07:30.840 --> 0:07:32.960 had young kids, and I do feel like when you're 0:07:33.000 --> 0:07:35.720 a parent and you have young kids, you're so busy 0:07:35.800 --> 0:07:37.720 with that that you kind of miss out on like. 0:07:37.800 --> 0:07:40.360 Cultural is that when those came out early two thousandar 0:07:40.400 --> 0:07:43.880 two thousand, then I if it wasn't animated, I can 0:07:43.920 --> 0:07:46.360 tell you about every animated movie from two thousand and 0:07:46.480 --> 0:07:50.440 one through twenty ten, like all the Cars, and by 0:07:50.440 --> 0:07:53.920 the way, it was an unbelievable Hall of Fame home 0:07:54.040 --> 0:07:58.160 run set of animation at that time, like all the 0:07:58.200 --> 0:07:59.800 great movies came out at. 0:07:59.680 --> 0:08:02.320 That time time, Like I'm trying to think of one, 0:08:02.400 --> 0:08:03.440 but I was all the. 0:08:03.480 --> 0:08:05.200 Cars, all the Nemos, all the toy stories. 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:08.680 Oh yeah, I mean well, toy stories started mid nineties 0:08:09.160 --> 0:08:11.280 and then first toy stories like ninety four. 0:08:11.480 --> 0:08:15.120 Yeah, okay, maybe Josh just got caught the tail into those. Yeah, 0:08:15.200 --> 0:08:17.640 but we had a great run. Enchanted another one that 0:08:17.800 --> 0:08:20.080 was good, we got weir got animated, half anime. 0:08:20.160 --> 0:08:21.960 Half of it was it finding mema. I'll give you. 0:08:22.200 --> 0:08:24.720 Cars, okay, but anyway, so we digress. 0:08:25.840 --> 0:08:27.520 So thank you for watching the Harry Potter movies. It 0:08:27.600 --> 0:08:28.400 makes me feel loved. 0:08:28.440 --> 0:08:30.600 And also thank you for saying I don't have to 0:08:30.640 --> 0:08:33.240 start watching sports. Can I make an argument for something. 0:08:34.600 --> 0:08:38.280 I think movies are a more neutral thing than sports, 0:08:38.920 --> 0:08:41.240 Like it's a more all encompassing, like there can be 0:08:41.400 --> 0:08:44.559 sports moviessier to say on common ground, right, But so 0:08:45.040 --> 0:08:49.560 I think a person should be more inclined, Like if 0:08:49.600 --> 0:08:52.320 someone's like who you're dating says I love this movie, 0:08:53.000 --> 0:08:54.559 I think you should be more inclined to give that 0:08:54.640 --> 0:08:57.000 movie a shot than like a whole type of activity. 0:08:57.080 --> 0:08:57.679 Does that make sense? 0:08:57.720 --> 0:08:59.319 Oh no, I agree. I see where you're coming. And 0:08:59.400 --> 0:09:02.800 I'm just making the case for myself not watching sports movie. Okay, 0:09:02.960 --> 0:09:05.840 there's a good chance I'm gonna like something about your movie. 0:09:06.120 --> 0:09:08.040 I would watch a sports movie with you. I like 0:09:08.080 --> 0:09:09.240 a lot of movies about sports. 0:09:09.559 --> 0:09:11.760 Like if you say to me, you may not love 0:09:11.800 --> 0:09:15.000 this movie, but Chris Pine's in it, or Stanley Tucci's 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:16.199 in it, I'm like, okay, I'm in. 0:09:16.600 --> 0:09:19.880 You can find an entry. Yeah, exactly, Really sports, I 0:09:19.920 --> 0:09:20.760 got nothing the touch. 0:09:21.679 --> 0:09:25.280 And so Merry Christmas. Weeke to everybody. I hope everybody's 0:09:25.320 --> 0:09:27.760 kind of heading home wherever you are, and the kids 0:09:27.800 --> 0:09:30.600 are coming home. Lauren and I just tried to drive 0:09:30.679 --> 0:09:35.040 from Fort Worth yesterday back home to Austin, and it's literally, 0:09:35.120 --> 0:09:37.160 I think everybody in the world was on the road, 0:09:37.240 --> 0:09:40.280 so truly everyone's heading home for the holidays. 0:09:40.280 --> 0:09:42.160 And so it's by the way, you casually dropped in 0:09:42.240 --> 0:09:43.160 that we went to New Zealand. 0:09:43.360 --> 0:09:43.560 Yeah. 0:09:45.679 --> 0:09:47.880 First of all, I don't want to go on about 0:09:47.880 --> 0:09:49.160 it too long as we have so much to get to. 0:09:49.320 --> 0:09:53.439 But beautiful country. I ran around quoting the Hobbit as 0:09:53.520 --> 0:09:57.400 I guess you just have to gorgeous beaches, gorgeous mountains, 0:09:58.120 --> 0:10:01.439 the kindest people. And the whole reason we went was 0:10:01.520 --> 0:10:06.240 because these dear friends of ours. Actually the guy who 0:10:06.280 --> 0:10:09.320 officiated our wedding and his wonderful wife who sang at 0:10:09.760 --> 0:10:10.760 our welcome dinner. 0:10:11.760 --> 0:10:13.640 She is from there and they have a home there 0:10:13.720 --> 0:10:14.559 that they just finished. 0:10:15.480 --> 0:10:17.280 But what this kind of got us talking about, like 0:10:17.360 --> 0:10:18.559 we were there for a while, we went there for 0:10:18.600 --> 0:10:22.800 a week, is what is a gauge of a friend 0:10:23.480 --> 0:10:25.880 you can really travel with? Like I think it's so 0:10:26.000 --> 0:10:28.320 important for couples to have couple friends. And we've talked 0:10:28.320 --> 0:10:32.000 about this, but it's a whole different thing when you're 0:10:32.040 --> 0:10:34.680 talking about going to dinner with another couple versus traveling. 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:36.400 And you have a great phrase for. 0:10:36.480 --> 0:10:39.760 This boat people, yacht people, boat people. 0:10:39.880 --> 0:10:41.559 Can you explain that it is? 0:10:42.280 --> 0:10:44.560 If you are stuck on a boat, you're traveling, You're 0:10:44.600 --> 0:10:46.760 not stuck with them. Who would you choose to go 0:10:46.880 --> 0:10:50.360 on vacation with? And say you're on a yacht. You're 0:10:50.360 --> 0:10:53.240 on a boat that has two rooms, four rooms, whatever, 0:10:53.360 --> 0:10:56.240 so you were in pretty confined quarters. These are people 0:10:56.320 --> 0:10:59.040 You're going to be on top of a lot on 0:10:59.200 --> 0:11:01.839 this boat, going to have to eat, drink and sleep 0:11:01.920 --> 0:11:04.679 with them. You will not sleep sleep with them, but 0:11:04.720 --> 0:11:06.520 you know what I mean, You're going to see each 0:11:06.520 --> 0:11:08.319 other close quarters, Yes, close quarters. 0:11:08.400 --> 0:11:10.480 In a hotel, you can escape on a boat, you can, right. 0:11:10.679 --> 0:11:12.199 Yeah. I was like, Hey, we're gonna we're gonna walk 0:11:12.240 --> 0:11:14.480 into town. We're gonna and you're like, oh my god, 0:11:14.520 --> 0:11:16.560 I can't I can't get away from Bob and Marie 0:11:16.640 --> 0:11:19.600 fast enough. Who are you know? You can't You're stuck. 0:11:19.720 --> 0:11:22.520 You can't walk on water, you can't disappear. You're stuck 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:25.000 with these people who are your boat people? Because I 0:11:25.080 --> 0:11:27.599 would contest there are people you would travel with that 0:11:27.840 --> 0:11:29.400 still aren't boat people. 0:11:29.720 --> 0:11:35.880 This is the best level, yes, of Like I mean, 0:11:35.960 --> 0:11:37.120 is it the best level of friendship? 0:11:37.160 --> 0:11:40.160 It's definitely just a certain level of friendship where it's 0:11:40.200 --> 0:11:42.480 someone you can easily be around NonStop. 0:11:42.559 --> 0:11:44.120 These are your I guess the kids would call it 0:11:44.160 --> 0:11:44.800 your ride or die. 0:11:45.240 --> 0:11:47.560 What are the parameters for this? What are the boxes 0:11:47.600 --> 0:11:49.560 to check if to know if someone's your boat person? 0:11:49.760 --> 0:11:51.800 After three days you don't want to murder them? 0:11:52.920 --> 0:11:53.160 That's it. 0:11:53.800 --> 0:11:55.319 It's three day tests. 0:11:55.720 --> 0:11:57.640 You know, it's a three days you call it boat people, 0:11:57.720 --> 0:11:59.280 or you could call it won't murder them people. 0:11:59.440 --> 0:12:01.520 It's uh, it's the three day fish test. You know, 0:12:01.679 --> 0:12:04.199 you leave leaf fish out on the dock for three days. 0:12:04.440 --> 0:12:06.439 At third day it's it's spoiled. 0:12:06.559 --> 0:12:08.000 Really, you think they're the first two days. 0:12:08.120 --> 0:12:11.439 So I'm just learning that that test of just not 0:12:11.640 --> 0:12:14.280 wanting to do physical harm of like I can't be 0:12:14.480 --> 0:12:18.160 with these people for one more minute that laugh or 0:12:18.240 --> 0:12:20.800 that obnoxious whatever, or they drink too much or they 0:12:21.320 --> 0:12:24.400 whatever it is, those annoying, annoying characteristics that you just 0:12:24.480 --> 0:12:26.640 can't stand after three days, that's it. 0:12:27.360 --> 0:12:29.880 I think the people generally have to be positive people, 0:12:30.120 --> 0:12:32.160 Like that's a huge part. You can't have someone who's 0:12:32.200 --> 0:12:35.680 a complainer or negative like you know every day, yeah, the. 0:12:35.880 --> 0:12:38.880 Person that finds the you know, gray cloud in the 0:12:38.920 --> 0:12:39.439 silver line. 0:12:39.520 --> 0:12:41.439 Well, or even if it's their sense of humor, like 0:12:41.559 --> 0:12:43.880 some people are really funny, but their sense of humors 0:12:43.960 --> 0:12:46.760 kind of making fun of things that can get old. 0:12:47.360 --> 0:12:48.920 I think you have to be around people who are 0:12:49.040 --> 0:12:52.720 generally positive. I think critically they have to be up 0:12:52.800 --> 0:12:55.560 for things like yeah, let's go to dinner, Yeah let's 0:12:55.600 --> 0:12:59.000 try that hike. It can't be like, you know, I'm 0:12:59.080 --> 0:13:01.240 just the stay at home person or they and they 0:13:01.320 --> 0:13:02.760 have to go with the flow of the group. 0:13:03.040 --> 0:13:06.480 Well, yeah, you got to match I think the energies 0:13:07.240 --> 0:13:10.000 and ideas and activities like you got to match up 0:13:10.559 --> 0:13:13.560 and whatever that is. If you're all we sit by 0:13:13.600 --> 0:13:17.400 the pool all day, people great but if if one 0:13:17.520 --> 0:13:19.800 group or one couple is we sit by the pool 0:13:19.840 --> 0:13:22.920 and sip on my ties and just get sun, and 0:13:22.960 --> 0:13:25.840 then the other group is we like to go spearfishing 0:13:26.000 --> 0:13:29.200 and yeah, and surfing and hiking and they're very active, 0:13:29.400 --> 0:13:30.560 that will not work. 0:13:30.679 --> 0:13:33.680 You're right, you've defined the I mean it's like a relationship, 0:13:34.240 --> 0:13:37.400 and just like a relationship, I think with friendship, traveling 0:13:37.440 --> 0:13:39.600 together can be a real test of a friendship. 0:13:39.880 --> 0:13:42.080 But the most difficult thing is it's easy to find. 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:44.240 It's easier to find that in a relationship because you're 0:13:44.280 --> 0:13:46.839 finding it with one person. It is so hard to 0:13:46.920 --> 0:13:50.520 find husband and wife, man and well or whatever, just 0:13:50.880 --> 0:13:53.600 just the both of a couple. You're finding two humans 0:13:53.840 --> 0:13:56.599 that you get along with. How often is it, you know, 0:13:56.679 --> 0:13:59.199 we love her, but oh the or we love him, 0:13:59.240 --> 0:14:02.000 but oh the w and so you got to match up. 0:14:02.440 --> 0:14:05.079 It's more challenging to find boat people than it is 0:14:05.160 --> 0:14:18.679 to find the life partner. Yeah, not only is it 0:14:18.760 --> 0:14:21.320 a big week because of the holiday, but we're coming 0:14:21.400 --> 0:14:24.080 off of some pretty big podcast episodes for you. 0:14:24.160 --> 0:14:27.040 Yeah, I had a huge response. Thank you to everyone 0:14:27.080 --> 0:14:31.640 who listened to the Jason Tarctic podcasts. We did two 0:14:31.760 --> 0:14:33.520 episodes because it was just too good. We had to 0:14:33.560 --> 0:14:37.120 break it up and to sit down with Jason. Was 0:14:37.840 --> 0:14:42.560 received very well. Overall, it was received well. You know, 0:14:42.840 --> 0:14:44.680 I did. I talked a little bit about this on 0:14:44.800 --> 0:14:48.640 social media. I got a couple of messages, where's the tea, 0:14:48.680 --> 0:14:53.360 I'm not learning anything new. I dealt with that a 0:14:53.400 --> 0:14:58.240 little bit of that's not what this was about. That's 0:14:58.280 --> 0:15:01.800 not that wasn't my goal, and I will admit there's 0:15:01.800 --> 0:15:04.720 a little hypocrisy for twenty years. That is what I did. 0:15:05.120 --> 0:15:07.880 You know, I would go for some of that meat 0:15:08.560 --> 0:15:10.680 because that was the show and that was the advice. 0:15:10.800 --> 0:15:12.960 You know what, though you told me after the interview, 0:15:13.400 --> 0:15:14.840 I did not listen to it. I was in the 0:15:14.880 --> 0:15:16.280 other room, and I was just kind of because you 0:15:16.320 --> 0:15:18.080 and Jason have a great relationship. I just wanted to 0:15:18.160 --> 0:15:20.440 let you do it because I knew that you were 0:15:20.480 --> 0:15:22.240 going to probably get into some stuff about Caitlin. But 0:15:22.400 --> 0:15:26.600 after you guys recorded, you told me later who said, look, 0:15:26.800 --> 0:15:29.760 before we went into it, I did think maybe we'll 0:15:30.280 --> 0:15:32.960 really dig in and maybe we'll get some answers on things. 0:15:33.080 --> 0:15:36.479 But in the moment, and I think this is commendable 0:15:36.520 --> 0:15:39.200 to you because you got both types of moments. For 0:15:39.360 --> 0:15:41.520 years on the show, you got the emotional moment and 0:15:41.640 --> 0:15:44.800 the revealing moments, sometimes both in one. But you made 0:15:44.840 --> 0:15:46.720 the call in the moment with Jason to just say, 0:15:46.760 --> 0:15:49.920 you know what, he's still so emotional and raw about this, 0:15:50.440 --> 0:15:53.200 that this is not the time as both his friend 0:15:53.320 --> 0:15:57.880 and someone interviewing him to dig deep like he's still 0:15:58.080 --> 0:16:00.400 his emotions are still so at the serve this, that 0:16:00.480 --> 0:16:02.680 this isn't the let's dive in and I want you 0:16:02.720 --> 0:16:04.120 to spill all the team moments well. 0:16:04.240 --> 0:16:07.840 And we set some parameters as we started, because he 0:16:08.040 --> 0:16:11.600 was really concerned and respectful about Caitlin. He did not 0:16:11.760 --> 0:16:14.800 want this to come off as start this whole he said. 0:16:14.840 --> 0:16:16.520 She said thing, And I didn't either, because you know, 0:16:16.840 --> 0:16:19.440 it's interesting when you're doing an interview. And again I 0:16:19.520 --> 0:16:22.080 said this, it was a guy who broke up with someone, 0:16:22.200 --> 0:16:23.560 but it's a guy who broke up with a friend 0:16:23.560 --> 0:16:26.200 of ours, like I like Caitlyn, I respect her. This 0:16:26.840 --> 0:16:28.640 wasn't about let's bury Caitlin and. 0:16:28.680 --> 0:16:31.000 Who's right ahead of the wedding, we were both texting 0:16:31.080 --> 0:16:32.640 both of them like, hey, how are you guys at? 0:16:32.640 --> 0:16:34.120 Where are you guys at? We wanted both of them 0:16:34.160 --> 0:16:35.640 to feel super comfortable at the way, and. 0:16:36.040 --> 0:16:39.240 He did actually give me a lot of leeway to 0:16:39.440 --> 0:16:41.360 go there, and I could have asked some of these 0:16:41.440 --> 0:16:46.160 kind of pointed questions, and you're right in that it 0:16:46.320 --> 0:16:49.760 didn't feel right now. We did dig deep in a 0:16:49.840 --> 0:16:52.800 different direction. We just got so emotional and it got 0:16:52.920 --> 0:16:56.520 so heavy and the show really became about loss and 0:16:56.560 --> 0:16:58.640 about breakups. And I thought it was so much more 0:16:58.680 --> 0:17:02.120 effective and really latable to all of you that this 0:17:02.320 --> 0:17:04.040 wasn't the time for that. And we even said after 0:17:04.200 --> 0:17:06.600 because it was exhausting, and we had a drink and 0:17:06.800 --> 0:17:09.600 he's like, you know, maybe someday we revisit this and 0:17:09.960 --> 0:17:12.680 when things aren't so fresh and you know that the 0:17:13.040 --> 0:17:15.119 wounds have healed a little bit for both of them. 0:17:15.400 --> 0:17:18.280 Well, they were together for I mean, we started dating 0:17:18.800 --> 0:17:20.720 like at a similar time they did, so they'd been 0:17:20.800 --> 0:17:21.920 together four years. 0:17:22.040 --> 0:17:24.240 Five yeah, four or five years. I mean, I remember, 0:17:24.320 --> 0:17:27.119 because I think I think I broke the news. 0:17:27.240 --> 0:17:29.680 I remember I interviewed Jason like right when they'd kind 0:17:29.680 --> 0:17:32.119 of first flirted, and I'm pretty sure I broke the 0:17:32.200 --> 0:17:33.960