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Speaker 1: Brought to you by the reinvented two thousand twelve Camray.

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Speaker 1: It's ready. Are you welcome to stump Mom Never told you?

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Speaker 1: From housetu works dot com. Hey, welcome to the podcast.

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Speaker 1: This is Molly. I'm Kristen and Kristen UM. I was

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Speaker 1: looking through some baby pictures recently, and here's the thing

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Speaker 1: about me. I had no hair when I was born,

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Speaker 1: and I didn't have any hair until I was about

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Speaker 1: four years old. Oh my god. It was actually kind

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Speaker 1: of worried my parents. Yeah, so I looked like this

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Speaker 1: little bald child. And Um, as a result, there was

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Speaker 1: a lot of confusion about if I was a little

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Speaker 1: boy or a little girl to strangers in like the

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Speaker 1: grocery store. I thought that was awkward for your mom.

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Speaker 1: Apparently my mom fielded a lot of things like oh,

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Speaker 1: what a cute little boy. And so as a result,

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Speaker 1: I got put in a lot of pink, really a

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Speaker 1: lot of pink, like pink headbands, pink shirts, pink pants,

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Speaker 1: so that everyone would know immediately this is this is

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Speaker 1: a girl. She has no hair yet, we might weird,

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Speaker 1: but she's a girl, all right. So I mean that

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Speaker 1: is just one way that I guess that people can

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Speaker 1: quickly identify a sort of androgenous looking baby. Well, here's

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Speaker 1: my question. Your mom puts you in a lot of

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Speaker 1: pink when you were a kid. How did you once

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Speaker 1: you started dressing yourself. Did you keep wearing a lot

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Speaker 1: of pink or did you kind of discarded I kind

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Speaker 1: of discarded pink. Um. I feel like I did not

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Speaker 1: wear it very much at all, and not even dresses.

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Speaker 1: I feel like, you know, most kids probably prefer being

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Speaker 1: in like overalls, except for Sarry Cruise loves to wear

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Speaker 1: a little dresses around. But because I feel like, as

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Speaker 1: soon as I could dress myself, it was like jeans,

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Speaker 1: maybe some purple. I did like purple. I did like

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Speaker 1: purple too. Yeah, I kind of did the same thing. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: abandoned pink as soon as I as soon as I could,

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Speaker 1: because I kind of wanted to be a boy. I

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Speaker 1: thought it was cooler, not a weird you know. But

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Speaker 1: why why do you think that? You know, as soon

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Speaker 1: as we're born, we're like, oh, let's put a girl

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Speaker 1: in pink. Well, uh, we can trace that back to

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Speaker 1: the nineteen forties, when in the United States girls started

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Speaker 1: wearing pink and boys started wearing blue. But I thought

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Speaker 1: it was kind of strange that um in the twenties,

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Speaker 1: it was actually reversed. Way back in the day, all

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Speaker 1: babies just wore white. And then for some reason in

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Speaker 1: the twenties, boys started being dressed in pink and girls

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Speaker 1: started being dressed in blue. And then a couple of

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Speaker 1: decades later it flip flopped and it will stayed the same. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it really hasn't. I don't think that I've seen much

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Speaker 1: evidence as to why the switch happened, but I guess

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Speaker 1: for a while pink was seen is more of a

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Speaker 1: masculine color, and blue is more like the dainty, delicate,

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Speaker 1: colorful all girls. And now it's definitely pink is I

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Speaker 1: would say that pink, especially in like Western culture, is

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Speaker 1: definitely the sign of femininity, you know, yeah, from from

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Speaker 1: girlhood on, I mean even as an adult. There's so

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Speaker 1: many pink products marketed towards us. Yeah, like you know,

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Speaker 1: pink blackberries. That's one of the ways they say they

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Speaker 1: got women interested in blackberries, which we're seen as you know,

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Speaker 1: the men's ultimate gadget, when they started making them pink. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: they came out with a BlackBerry, a pink BlackBerry pearl

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Speaker 1: for on Time's Day two thousand and eight, and um, yeah,

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Speaker 1: from Victoria's Secret. You buy pink ribbons to support breast cancer, right,

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Speaker 1: And originally I was reading the color for that breast

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Speaker 1: pink was more identifiable with women's issues. And it seems like,

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Speaker 1: you know, pink and purple as the pink, frilly dressed phase. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: And they're saying that this phase occurs regardless of how

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Speaker 1: not like I was ten and was like, oh, pink glasses,

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Speaker 1: the thing. They looked kind of cute, But did I

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Speaker 1: is evolution, Molly, Okay, these same researchers that did the

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Speaker 1: kind of reinforces like the nurturing side. Yeah. I was

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Speaker 1: reading one article in The Guardian that kind of took

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Speaker 1: really what might need to happen. It's just more work

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Speaker 1: Although at the same time, you don't hear a lot

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