WEBVTT - The Patriarchy is Failing Men Ft. Deante Kyle 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.480 Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife. 0:00:03.680 --> 0:00:06.560 She cooked, she cleaned, cared for her children and the 0:00:06.600 --> 0:00:08.360 man of the house, and of course. 0:00:08.240 --> 0:00:10.600 She didn't talk back. She was both. 0:00:10.400 --> 0:00:12.200 Obedient and soft by nature. 0:00:12.320 --> 0:00:15.600 She was a good woman who always made good choices. 0:00:16.600 --> 0:00:19.560 That ship, we're good mom's bad choices to single mom, 0:00:19.600 --> 0:00:21.599 who said, but the patriarchy you shared all. 0:00:21.480 --> 0:00:23.560 Their bad choices and sound out. They weren't so bad. 0:00:23.600 --> 0:00:26.840 After all, we're experts overhairs and your new bestie, sit 0:00:26.920 --> 0:00:34.440 back and I can do a pa. I can do 0:00:34.479 --> 0:00:35.479 all on. 0:00:35.640 --> 0:00:42.600 Mine a lot of time. 0:00:44.040 --> 0:00:45.640 As you guys wish we were doing. I think he 0:00:45.800 --> 0:00:49.720 was a wish we were doing. 0:00:51.159 --> 0:00:55.040 Get drunk kissing on each other. Not really. They ain't 0:00:55.040 --> 0:00:57.080 got a count because Aunt, we don't. 0:00:57.280 --> 0:00:58.800 I can't think of the little any time many of 0:00:58.840 --> 0:01:01.000 our friends have gone out god drunk and kiss on 0:01:01.040 --> 0:01:03.240 each other. We'll do geh with this gay shit to 0:01:03.280 --> 0:01:04.800 men because we're like, I want to take a let's 0:01:04.880 --> 0:01:07.080 take a bath, let's take a shower together, and there's 0:01:07.080 --> 0:01:08.200 no sky ship. 0:01:08.120 --> 0:01:10.920 Happening, but we're just existing her. 0:01:12.200 --> 0:01:14.080 No, I seen bitches get drunk and kill make out 0:01:14.080 --> 0:01:16.400 with each other when you're your twenties. 0:01:16.880 --> 0:01:20.720 No, man, recently, I mean maybe maybe maybe yeah. 0:01:20.560 --> 0:01:22.960 Yeah, maybe you're fucking twenty nineteen. 0:01:23.160 --> 0:01:26.040 I ain't witnessed. This is in my life, real adult. 0:01:26.000 --> 0:01:28.880 Exactly because bitches get over that road. Yeah, bitches get 0:01:28.920 --> 0:01:30.640 over that like they aren't making out. Bitch, let's go. 0:01:30.680 --> 0:01:35.200 I'm going home, Like, yeah, I know, I know. So 0:01:35.280 --> 0:01:37.960 many niggas ask us this, So what happened? Guys have 0:01:38.000 --> 0:01:38.600 a bigg orgy? 0:01:38.680 --> 0:01:43.080 No, no, which I'll just be like crying and ship laughing, crying, existing, 0:01:43.920 --> 0:01:44.920 skinny dipping. 0:01:45.120 --> 0:01:46.440 That's tight eating good. 0:01:46.880 --> 0:01:47.120 You know. 0:01:48.000 --> 0:01:51.440 Niggas can't have retreats like that because like it would 0:01:51.440 --> 0:01:52.480 be too closed off. 0:01:52.960 --> 0:01:55.360 But that's why they need retreats like this, so they 0:01:55.360 --> 0:01:57.760 feel like it's actually the time in the history that 0:01:58.000 --> 0:01:58.600 now is. 0:01:58.560 --> 0:02:02.800 A fucking it's actually super necessary that they war. 0:02:02.960 --> 0:02:04.520 Wait, let's start historically. 0:02:04.880 --> 0:02:05.680 No, that's not. 0:02:07.240 --> 0:02:09.720 Like this is my brother I rejected that you kill 0:02:10.040 --> 0:02:16.200 you have the murder together and for us to okay. 0:02:14.280 --> 0:02:16.239 We're gonna have to change. You might need to serve retreat. 0:02:16.320 --> 0:02:18.480 Okay, it's a retreat war. 0:02:18.600 --> 0:02:21.040 You might need to might need to serve retreat because 0:02:21.520 --> 0:02:23.280 war is to take over. 0:02:23.680 --> 0:02:25.480 I mean you can include some violence at the retreat. 0:02:25.840 --> 0:02:27.960 Maybe once you can shop down some trees violently, that's 0:02:27.960 --> 0:02:29.400 what I mean, make a wood fire. 0:02:29.440 --> 0:02:31.160 I'll never seeing what the white dudes be going in 0:02:31.160 --> 0:02:34.919 the woods, no offense, engineer, white dudess be going. 0:02:35.080 --> 0:02:36.600 It's been with us for many years, don't you know. 0:02:36.680 --> 0:02:38.160 I'm just saying you gotta let know so you don't 0:02:38.160 --> 0:02:38.919 feel single out. 0:02:39.600 --> 0:02:41.160 You know how the white dudes be going in the 0:02:41.200 --> 0:02:42.919 woods with each other, be like alpha man retreat. 0:02:42.919 --> 0:02:44.040 They be like, I am a man. 0:02:44.200 --> 0:02:45.000 You see. 0:02:47.639 --> 0:02:49.280 I go out there and control all. 0:02:49.200 --> 0:02:51.680 These niggas, shoot some ship up. 0:02:51.720 --> 0:02:53.640 I'm like, yeah, y'all do what I say. From for 0:02:53.680 --> 0:02:54.560 the next two weeks. 0:02:55.120 --> 0:02:56.919 That what they really be doing to get their ross off, 0:02:57.000 --> 0:02:59.160 Like they just be controlling these wimpy niggas. 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:02.120 But it depends if the person going there to lead 0:03:02.240 --> 0:03:04.920 is wanting to be the controller or they want to 0:03:05.240 --> 0:03:07.280 control so that they can give the control back to 0:03:07.320 --> 0:03:09.320 the men to feel emotionally safe. 0:03:09.840 --> 0:03:14.840 All right, we got a long way to got. 0:03:15.480 --> 0:03:22.280 You ready, David. Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. 0:03:22.360 --> 0:03:26.360 I'm Erica and I'm Nila. Happy hump Day, bitches, Happy 0:03:26.400 --> 0:03:30.920 motherfucking hemp Day. We're back with another episode of Us 0:03:31.240 --> 0:03:32.040 in Our Girl. 0:03:31.840 --> 0:03:35.000 Cave, except we're joined by a man in. 0:03:35.000 --> 0:03:38.720 Our cave, a man that I have personally stalked very 0:03:38.760 --> 0:03:43.040 closely since since I discovered him, and I've been manifesting 0:03:43.080 --> 0:03:43.680 this personally. 0:03:43.680 --> 0:03:45.760 I said, when he comes to LA, He's coming on 0:03:45.800 --> 0:03:48.080 our couch, and I'm so happy and so proud of him, 0:03:48.080 --> 0:03:49.680 even though he doesn't know me from a Canna paint, 0:03:49.960 --> 0:03:52.200 but I know him and so do you. So today 0:03:52.400 --> 0:03:55.920 we have the one, the only, Deontay Kyle from the 0:03:55.960 --> 0:03:57.360 Grits and Eggs podcast. 0:03:57.560 --> 0:04:01.000 We're here, Welcome, You're here, we are. 0:04:01.280 --> 0:04:03.520 She has sent me many of your videos many a 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:05.400 time and said, we must have him. 0:04:06.120 --> 0:04:08.480 He's so smart. He's so smart telling the people he's 0:04:08.520 --> 0:04:09.760 black power. We need him on. 0:04:11.080 --> 0:04:14.120 Yeah, somebody tell me. It was like, you'll enjoy him. 0:04:14.160 --> 0:04:14.800 So I was like, all. 0:04:14.800 --> 0:04:16.719 Right, I trust I know he's trying to like, what 0:04:16.760 --> 0:04:18.320 the fuck are these mom's bad choices? 0:04:18.360 --> 0:04:19.960 When I was on the show, I'm like, I. 0:04:19.960 --> 0:04:22.200 Just want to know what, Like, you know, y'all good minds, 0:04:22.240 --> 0:04:24.599 y'all made bad choices. It's like some real human shit. 0:04:25.160 --> 0:04:25.919 It's very human. 0:04:26.040 --> 0:04:28.400 Yes, we're very human and you know what, I think women, 0:04:28.600 --> 0:04:33.320 especially black women, really need spaces where we can feel 0:04:33.400 --> 0:04:35.279 human around black men because I think there's been a 0:04:35.279 --> 0:04:38.040 lot of tying up and you know. 0:04:38.800 --> 0:04:40.040 Avatars we've had to wear. 0:04:40.160 --> 0:04:42.240 So this is I'm happy that you see us as 0:04:42.320 --> 0:04:45.000 human and when you saw our title, you weren't scared 0:04:45.040 --> 0:04:46.640 away because many people are. 0:04:48.440 --> 0:04:50.880 You know, Dad has made bad choices too. 0:04:50.880 --> 0:04:53.360 Speaking bad choices, Have you made any bad choices this week? 0:04:53.960 --> 0:04:59.640 Bad Mom not a bad mom, but a bad mom. 0:04:58.440 --> 0:05:12.080 So good probably you know what I'm saying. It's just a. 0:05:13.680 --> 0:05:16.839 Cyclical, that's cyclical. 0:05:17.279 --> 0:05:20.000 Yeah, you're always making bad you know, you. 0:05:19.920 --> 0:05:21.160 Know, just like even our name. 0:05:21.200 --> 0:05:23.320 But good Mom's bad choices is you know, bad choices 0:05:23.640 --> 0:05:27.040 are subjective, right, like some bad choices, like me, smoking 0:05:27.040 --> 0:05:28.919 weed is not a bad choice. That's a great choice 0:05:28.960 --> 0:05:30.720 for me, but for some people they'd be like, that's 0:05:30.760 --> 0:05:34.200 a bad choice. Doesn't necessarily have to be a bad choice. 0:05:34.200 --> 0:05:38.360 I got on Patreon stream and not the whole ship? 0:05:39.640 --> 0:05:41.679 Did you knock over the whole computer? 0:05:43.880 --> 0:05:46.000 Did you did you get to did you get that episode? 0:05:46.080 --> 0:05:46.560 Or is it gone? 0:05:46.600 --> 0:05:50.039 I mean it was a stream so cut off right 0:05:50.040 --> 0:05:51.840 at that moment the end of it what would you 0:05:51.920 --> 0:05:53.360 drink Onny? 0:05:53.560 --> 0:05:55.359 Hey, I'm gonna say, what, what's your drinking choice? 0:05:55.720 --> 0:05:59.800 It's not handy. I've been trying to do too much tequila. 0:06:00.080 --> 0:06:03.360 Why tequila doesn't make you good? Man? 0:06:04.480 --> 0:06:05.120 I just feel like. 0:06:06.680 --> 0:06:10.880 June teenth summertime. Niggas gotta get back on the honey man. 0:06:11.320 --> 0:06:13.440 He's been getting real boogie ever since we've been drinking 0:06:14.640 --> 0:06:17.920 okay roots, Yeah, yeah, you know what I'm saying, a 0:06:17.960 --> 0:06:18.560 little gresson. 0:06:19.120 --> 0:06:22.159 You know, I discovered yesterday there's like a Henny rita, 0:06:22.360 --> 0:06:23.040 like a henrita. 0:06:23.200 --> 0:06:25.120 Yeah that niggas been drinking Henny Rida is for. Sometimes 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:26.000 they're pre mixed. 0:06:26.160 --> 0:06:28.960 Oh it's pretty bye Hennis. Yes, by Hennessy. They have 0:06:29.160 --> 0:06:32.600 pre mixed margarita mixed. They made that for because people 0:06:32.600 --> 0:06:35.440 are lazy. They don't even want fresh agreed. They just 0:06:35.480 --> 0:06:39.520 said put it in the bottle favors. Wow. 0:06:39.800 --> 0:06:42.200 Yeah, oh that's what they was wrong. That's they little 0:06:42.279 --> 0:06:43.560 rollout with them, three different. 0:06:43.440 --> 0:06:45.040 Three different You saw them? Did you try it? 0:06:45.800 --> 0:06:47.160 No? Where? 0:06:47.160 --> 0:06:47.960 Did you see at the store? 0:06:48.080 --> 0:06:48.200 Now? 0:06:48.880 --> 0:06:55.280 Damn Now, I'm no I want to Yeah, it's just real. 0:06:55.440 --> 0:06:57.960 Yeah, that's nasty, man. Just make your own honey reader man. 0:06:58.760 --> 0:07:00.240 So what you put in a honey reader, you be 0:07:00.279 --> 0:07:03.200 more specific, learn juice. 0:07:04.200 --> 0:07:06.080 Whatever, the simple whatever. 0:07:06.839 --> 0:07:11.600 But basically the margarita with Hennessy instead of I'm. 0:07:11.440 --> 0:07:12.920 A real nigga. You know what I like with Hennessey 0:07:13.520 --> 0:07:17.600 apple juice or apple cider splash, and it's like a 0:07:18.040 --> 0:07:20.640 drinks sweet tea. I have had the sweet teet. That's 0:07:20.640 --> 0:07:23.200 good too, That's that's top not. 0:07:24.320 --> 0:07:28.520 But I like tequila apple juice to tequila, like apple. 0:07:28.280 --> 0:07:30.800 Juice with all the liquors are I think because we're 0:07:30.840 --> 0:07:32.600 from l A, we're tequila bitches. 0:07:32.880 --> 0:07:35.920 Our inception of drinking is tequila. My inception of drinking 0:07:35.960 --> 0:07:40.160 was not tequila. Was always drink was sa me too. 0:07:40.240 --> 0:07:42.200 My inception was a vodka and Red Bulls. 0:07:43.760 --> 0:07:45.680 Oh my god, Actually, I just had a flashback. I 0:07:45.800 --> 0:07:51.800 was probably thirteen, but Lord Jeus was vodka and and Baccardi. Remember, 0:07:51.840 --> 0:07:56.080 Oh my god, Wait, did you ever have popov? 0:07:56.960 --> 0:08:00.920 That was a cheap, cheap pop off. Now that's that 0:08:01.200 --> 0:08:06.120 cheap cheap underge you remember it was? 0:08:06.400 --> 0:08:11.040 It was just one called Avana Bitch. I never had 0:08:11.200 --> 0:08:16.520 Havana Bitch, big Cat. That's the name of it. Havana Bitch. 0:08:19.440 --> 0:08:21.360 The vodka, he said, No, he don't know what you're 0:08:21.360 --> 0:08:21.800 talking about. 0:08:22.960 --> 0:08:25.280 I used to be hanging with these young ladies. 0:08:25.360 --> 0:08:32.240 And you want to say white girls, I like my life. 0:08:34.440 --> 0:08:36.840 They ain't trying to catch charge white women. 0:08:37.080 --> 0:08:39.199 I forgot You're you're in Georgia this time. 0:08:39.200 --> 0:08:39.880 You know what I'm saying. 0:08:40.280 --> 0:08:42.080 Nah, But this was like their little go to ship. 0:08:42.160 --> 0:08:44.560 He was some turned up as girls like like Nissan 0:08:44.640 --> 0:08:45.560 awesomer type girl. 0:08:47.120 --> 0:08:49.720 We just turned to turn. They used to be drinking 0:08:49.760 --> 0:08:50.440 at Vanna, bitch. 0:08:51.360 --> 0:08:53.880 That's why we learned very quickly to retire vodka because 0:08:54.080 --> 0:08:55.640 we couldn't have lasted this long drinking. 0:08:55.640 --> 0:08:56.360 We would have been dead. 0:08:57.240 --> 0:08:58.559 And that should make you aggressive. 0:08:58.840 --> 0:09:00.000 Yeah, vodka is aggressed. 0:09:00.040 --> 0:09:01.760 I was because I have a drinking the Red Bull, 0:09:02.160 --> 0:09:05.600 Oh god, red Bull and the five hour energy bitch, 0:09:05.720 --> 0:09:07.800 oh bit, that's insane, all right. 0:09:07.960 --> 0:09:09.560 I was on crack, are you okay? Yeah? 0:09:09.640 --> 0:09:11.400 It's probably why I don't like coke that much, because 0:09:11.400 --> 0:09:13.000 I already did it hardcore. 0:09:14.679 --> 0:09:17.920 Red Bull and five hour Energy in vodka is crashed. 0:09:18.000 --> 0:09:25.120 I know, I'm a recovered crackage. That's heart. Twenty years ago, Doc, 0:09:25.200 --> 0:09:26.319 I was going crazy. 0:09:26.600 --> 0:09:28.040 Yes, I graduated, I did. 0:09:28.280 --> 0:09:31.240 I did graduate, Sequila. I felt more mature. I've been 0:09:31.320 --> 0:09:33.400 drinking Patron for a long time, since I was like sixteen, 0:09:33.520 --> 0:09:35.000 and it's still never fails. 0:09:35.040 --> 0:09:36.760 I saw the bottle of Patron for my neighbor on 0:09:36.840 --> 0:09:40.760 my eighteenth birthday and got turned turned in the daytime. 0:09:41.320 --> 0:09:46.880 Oh god, only I can't do that now. Daytime drinking sundown. 0:09:46.920 --> 0:09:48.480 It's over. I'm not going anywhere after this. I'm just 0:09:48.600 --> 0:09:50.240 to be careful with what kind of tequila drink. 0:09:50.240 --> 0:09:51.679 Because I was talking to my baby daddy the other 0:09:51.760 --> 0:09:54.000 day and he was telling me about the story that 0:09:54.240 --> 0:09:57.000 we have different recollection of, and it was I drank 0:09:57.000 --> 0:10:00.240 a bottle of ed and apparently I punched in the 0:10:00.280 --> 0:10:04.560 face while he was sleeping. He told me this story 0:10:04.600 --> 0:10:06.000 that I punched him in the face while he was 0:10:06.440 --> 0:10:08.480 in that part by Mexico. Yeah, but I did punched 0:10:08.520 --> 0:10:09.440 him in the face while he was sleep. 0:10:09.520 --> 0:10:11.079 You said, you show it. You guys got faught and 0:10:11.160 --> 0:10:14.040 tore up the hotel. We did, but I don't recall him. 0:10:14.080 --> 0:10:17.000 He said he was in the hammock restfully sleeping and 0:10:17.080 --> 0:10:18.080 I punched him in the face. 0:10:18.160 --> 0:10:20.000 Oh my, that reminds me of bad choices. 0:10:20.440 --> 0:10:20.560 Uh. 0:10:21.320 --> 0:10:22.400 Game three of the Knicks. 0:10:22.480 --> 0:10:25.160 I went to drink with my husband, and we were 0:10:25.240 --> 0:10:28.040 drinking tequila and I was drinking Lallo, which is preservative free. 0:10:28.080 --> 0:10:29.760 But I think at some point people switched over the 0:10:29.840 --> 0:10:33.120 shots and I was fine, and then I was not fine. 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:35.160 And he said that we were in the car and 0:10:35.280 --> 0:10:38.720 that I hit him close fist while he was driving. 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:40.400 I said that's not true. He said, yes it was. 0:10:40.480 --> 0:10:42.160 And then two minutes later, you said. He said, why'd 0:10:42.160 --> 0:10:43.360 you do that? And I said no, I did it, 0:10:44.520 --> 0:10:46.480 and then he said that I proceeded to start speaking 0:10:46.520 --> 0:10:51.480 Spanish and I haven't been blacked out drunk in years, 0:10:51.679 --> 0:10:54.679 so I was like, I'm sorry. And then I remember 0:10:54.760 --> 0:10:57.160 going back to the house, and I remember when I 0:10:57.240 --> 0:10:58.520 came back because we were having sex. 0:10:58.559 --> 0:10:59.720 And then before he went to oc. 0:10:59.600 --> 0:11:02.320 Feld, he sent back to reality. I came back to reality. 0:11:03.120 --> 0:11:05.679 I had missed like several hours, and then he came 0:11:05.760 --> 0:11:07.360 back and we were having sex and I was like, oh, 0:11:07.400 --> 0:11:08.640 this is fine. And then he looked at me and said, 0:11:08.640 --> 0:11:09.640 I'm about to go to work, but I want you 0:11:09.679 --> 0:11:12.160 to know you blacked out tonight and you punched me 0:11:12.240 --> 0:11:12.680 in my face. 0:11:12.720 --> 0:11:15.719 And I was like, what are you talking about. He's like, yes, 0:11:15.800 --> 0:11:17.199 you did. I was like, I don't recall that. 0:11:18.000 --> 0:11:23.280 So because you're married, what do you mean because it is. 0:11:23.320 --> 0:11:25.720 Great, but also what do you mean like blackout having sex, 0:11:26.480 --> 0:11:29.240 like like it potentially couldn't have been consensual. 0:11:29.480 --> 0:11:30.400 I mean she woke up. 0:11:31.640 --> 0:11:34.439 I don't think I can get and I think that, yeah, 0:11:34.520 --> 0:11:36.720 because I'm married. Because I'm married, it's okay. 0:11:36.760 --> 0:11:38.360 And I don't think he realized how drug I was 0:11:38.400 --> 0:11:40.920 because I didn't eat anyway at this big age. 0:11:43.040 --> 0:11:45.040 No, but but I've had a lot of blacked out 0:11:45.080 --> 0:11:47.079 sex that I did not I was not okay with. 0:11:47.280 --> 0:11:49.040 So when he said that to me, I was like, 0:11:49.240 --> 0:11:51.840 oh god, my trauma's returning to my body. 0:11:51.920 --> 0:11:52.720 I am very sorry. 0:11:56.320 --> 0:12:04.480 Y' no, sir, non violent, vulneraball just two weeks ago 0:12:05.080 --> 0:12:07.040 you just said I said that. 0:12:07.120 --> 0:12:08.959 Was a year. I said, I haven't. I don't recalled that. 0:12:09.120 --> 0:12:11.640 I don't mean it's that's very convenient. 0:12:11.800 --> 0:12:13.880 I think the next day he was like, look at 0:12:13.920 --> 0:12:16.240 my lip, and I was like, I don't see ship. 0:12:16.920 --> 0:12:18.000 There was not a fucking mark. 0:12:18.040 --> 0:12:20.280 He was lying. He's like, I bled. I said, now 0:12:20.280 --> 0:12:23.360 you're really fucking lying because there's not a rip skin anyway. 0:12:25.880 --> 0:12:30.199 We are no longer violent. That happened. I don't remember it. 0:12:30.240 --> 0:12:30.880 It didn't happen. 0:12:30.920 --> 0:12:33.720 It didn't and that's crazy. You know that that ship 0:12:33.800 --> 0:12:34.199 don't work. 0:12:35.280 --> 0:12:37.960 I also was like that this is true, Spirits, because 0:12:38.040 --> 0:12:41.000 I was speaking Spanish. I don't remember. I was like, 0:12:41.600 --> 0:12:43.480 I was like, tell me more about this person that 0:12:43.520 --> 0:12:47.160 you experienced. Yeah, but I would. 0:12:47.160 --> 0:12:48.960 I'm very proud to say I have not been blacked 0:12:48.960 --> 0:12:51.599 out drunk and many many, many many years speaking of 0:12:51.679 --> 0:12:54.400 svedka and fucking seventeen year old drinking. 0:12:54.840 --> 0:12:56.760 So it's not something I do often. I have to 0:12:56.800 --> 0:13:01.600 remember to eat first. But back to you, Deontae, since. 0:13:01.440 --> 0:13:05.760 You like to judge a lot, tell us a little 0:13:05.760 --> 0:13:08.280 bit about where you came from and your origin story. 0:13:08.559 --> 0:13:10.559 I know you're from Georgia. I didn't know that you 0:13:10.640 --> 0:13:12.040 were married, though. How did you meet your wife? 0:13:12.600 --> 0:13:12.760 Man? 0:13:12.840 --> 0:13:15.280 We met through like we had mutual friends, so we 0:13:15.400 --> 0:13:17.640 kind of grew up in the same circles. 0:13:17.840 --> 0:13:19.959 We didn't happen to meet until after high school. 0:13:20.679 --> 0:13:23.360 We just had like some mutual friends. You know how 0:13:23.400 --> 0:13:25.360 this shit go, like small town y'all just kick it. 0:13:26.280 --> 0:13:28.520 Me and her just like from the moment we met, 0:13:28.559 --> 0:13:30.400 we could just hold conversation for hours. 0:13:30.600 --> 0:13:31.760 So how long have you guys been together? 0:13:33.360 --> 0:13:36.400 Ten twenty twenty ten, twenty cent. 0:13:36.800 --> 0:13:37.680 So sixteen years? 0:13:37.880 --> 0:13:38.559 Yeah? Wow? 0:13:38.880 --> 0:13:39.120 Wow? 0:13:39.240 --> 0:13:42.479 And you have three kids, boys girls, two boys. 0:13:42.240 --> 0:13:45.679 The oldest two boys in fourteen and twelve, and my 0:13:45.760 --> 0:13:47.360 baby shit girl eight years old. 0:13:47.440 --> 0:13:52.000 Oh nice, you're gonna have more, No you you just 0:13:52.040 --> 0:13:52.800 snipped off. 0:13:53.480 --> 0:13:56.959 Okay, I'm off that we didn't know. We didn't do it. 0:13:57.000 --> 0:13:59.520 No more kids. I think you know, it's like time to. 0:13:59.559 --> 0:14:02.400 Live now, you know, you know, I got a successful business. 0:14:02.600 --> 0:14:05.719 They all my youngest eight should be nine years old 0:14:05.760 --> 0:14:08.440 this year. Like, man, I ain't trying to. 0:14:08.440 --> 0:14:10.080 Go back to you out the woods like you were 0:14:10.120 --> 0:14:12.560 right out there some l there's some real down south ship. 0:14:12.640 --> 0:14:14.880 You said, I did my I did my adulthood at 0:14:15.240 --> 0:14:15.960 twenty Yeah. 0:14:16.960 --> 0:14:20.280 Yeah, and that's what like, That's what I thought, being 0:14:20.360 --> 0:14:23.080 the grown up was you get a job, you get 0:14:23.120 --> 0:14:25.920 a crib up, get some kids, and yeah that ship 0:14:26.000 --> 0:14:27.960 where we could have we could have slowed down on that, 0:14:28.560 --> 0:14:31.240 got some careers going on or something first, But no, 0:14:31.320 --> 0:14:31.560 it is. 0:14:31.600 --> 0:14:32.360 What it is. We hell know. 0:14:32.640 --> 0:14:35.360 But now look at you. How has the podcast come about? 0:14:35.400 --> 0:14:37.480 Because I know you were in a different field prior 0:14:37.560 --> 0:14:37.760 to this. 0:14:38.160 --> 0:14:40.360 Yeah, I was driving trucks. I was over the road 0:14:40.440 --> 0:14:43.800 driving trucks. So it really just started with me making 0:14:43.920 --> 0:14:46.400 content on TikTok and then. 0:14:46.600 --> 0:14:47.120 In the truck. 0:14:47.440 --> 0:14:48.240 Yeah. Yeah. 0:14:48.320 --> 0:14:51.000 So once I had built up a decent following, there 0:14:51.080 --> 0:14:54.920 was like I'm kind of smart enough to recognize like 0:14:55.960 --> 0:14:58.080 how people get stuck and I don't want to be 0:14:58.160 --> 0:15:01.000 the person that just make TikTok videos. I was like, shit, 0:15:01.080 --> 0:15:03.480 I need to use this to I need to figure 0:15:03.520 --> 0:15:05.120 out to turn this, how to turn this into like 0:15:05.640 --> 0:15:09.440 a business. And I think, no, podcasting, it is just talking. 0:15:09.520 --> 0:15:12.160 But for the most part, if you got something to say, 0:15:12.800 --> 0:15:16.000 you can really like you can corner off the market. 0:15:16.120 --> 0:15:20.680 So uh yeah, I did the first like ten episodes 0:15:20.720 --> 0:15:23.040 from back of my truck, just audio only. 0:15:23.200 --> 0:15:24.600 I recorded one on my phone. 0:15:25.720 --> 0:15:27.560 That shit was cool. I'm glad I did it because 0:15:27.600 --> 0:15:29.360 now people can go back and see where I started. 0:15:29.400 --> 0:15:33.400 But yeah, we just once I realized like people was 0:15:33.480 --> 0:15:37.160 digging the part, like you know, even with it just 0:15:37.240 --> 0:15:39.640 being audio, I was like, shit, once we got video, 0:15:40.240 --> 0:15:43.960 that's we can market it. And yeah, a big cat 0:15:44.080 --> 0:15:47.040 he helped me do some production camera work. We set 0:15:47.040 --> 0:15:49.400 it up in my dining room. Shit, we've been all 0:15:49.400 --> 0:15:53.280 to the racist ever since that was in twenty twenty four. 0:15:53.440 --> 0:15:56.000 So it's been two years, two years on video, two 0:15:56.040 --> 0:15:57.880 years on video, and then how long was three years audio? 0:15:58.000 --> 0:15:59.800 Three years audio? And then what was it? What would 0:15:59.800 --> 0:16:02.600 you say, like a shift, like when you know, like, 0:16:02.640 --> 0:16:05.560 oh shit, shit, shit has shifted, it's up. 0:16:07.040 --> 0:16:07.840 I don't know, man. 0:16:08.080 --> 0:16:14.320 I think when when my content primarily became podcasts and 0:16:14.480 --> 0:16:17.000 my ship was just going viral all the time, where 0:16:17.040 --> 0:16:21.640 it's like not necessarily that people wanted to come on 0:16:21.840 --> 0:16:25.080 because we're not really guest centered, but just when it's 0:16:25.160 --> 0:16:28.760 like I would start to see like sound bites pop up, 0:16:28.880 --> 0:16:32.120 people's clipping my ship, you know, people was using my 0:16:32.320 --> 0:16:35.400 audio for they content. I was like, oh we on, 0:16:36.120 --> 0:16:38.720 we got this ship, Like once we become we become 0:16:38.840 --> 0:16:41.560 like a part of the cultural zeitgeist, you know what 0:16:41.560 --> 0:16:41.840 I mean. 0:16:42.120 --> 0:16:44.400 It was like, oh, we in there, all we gotta 0:16:44.440 --> 0:16:45.280 do istay consistent. 0:16:45.520 --> 0:16:50.320 That shit happened by like episode thirty, So I was 0:16:50.360 --> 0:16:56.320 already going viral as a content cred which it was easy, 0:16:56.400 --> 0:16:58.680 like to make that transition because it's still content crash 0:16:58.680 --> 0:17:01.720 and it's just different medium. But I just knew it's 0:17:01.800 --> 0:17:05.000 like a shelf life and just holding your phone up 0:17:05.040 --> 0:17:05.840 and making videos. 0:17:05.920 --> 0:17:08.159 I think you can still do that, but you got 0:17:08.240 --> 0:17:09.600 to have something else to go along with it. 0:17:09.680 --> 0:17:12.000 So I was watching people like Kevin on stage, Like 0:17:12.080 --> 0:17:15.320 Kevin Stage, he a comedian and he made TikTok videos 0:17:15.400 --> 0:17:18.520 and he got bookle podcasts and he do production. So 0:17:18.640 --> 0:17:21.399 like that's kind of like my beacon, you know what 0:17:21.440 --> 0:17:24.480 I mean. And I actually got to do a doing 0:17:24.480 --> 0:17:27.000 a podcast with him tomorrow. He was like he was 0:17:27.160 --> 0:17:31.080 actually the person when he came on my show. That's 0:17:31.119 --> 0:17:32.040 when I was like, yeah, we. 0:17:32.359 --> 0:17:34.080 Popping ship because this is who you were at the 0:17:34.119 --> 0:17:36.560 spot used as like a guide. 0:17:37.200 --> 0:17:39.080 Yeah, and he was like one of the first people 0:17:39.160 --> 0:17:42.639 to really like reach out on some if you ever 0:17:42.760 --> 0:17:45.720 needed anything, just hollering me and he meant that shit, yeah, 0:17:46.000 --> 0:17:48.080 Like I could call him and he'll like he'll. 0:17:47.920 --> 0:17:48.480 Give me advice. 0:17:48.520 --> 0:17:50.960 Because when I first quit my job, I was terrified 0:17:51.040 --> 0:17:54.879 for so I called him. He was like, shit, I 0:17:54.960 --> 0:17:57.200 still had doubts every day. I was like, shit, well, shit, 0:17:57.280 --> 0:18:00.480 if you've got doubts, I know I'm good now. But 0:18:00.560 --> 0:18:02.280 it's just like it's a natural thing. This is not 0:18:03.040 --> 0:18:04.920 especially when you come from working like a ninety five. 0:18:04.960 --> 0:18:08.080 That's really safe and secure. Even if it's not fulfilling, 0:18:08.800 --> 0:18:10.320 you can count on it. You know what I'm saying 0:18:10.400 --> 0:18:12.120 this shit, it could be up and down. 0:18:12.480 --> 0:18:14.080 But luckily. 0:18:15.280 --> 0:18:18.800 We got a really strong fan basing, like they really 0:18:18.840 --> 0:18:22.159 support us, and yeah, I can depend on them, so 0:18:22.240 --> 0:18:24.040 I don't really need no corporation. 0:18:23.760 --> 0:18:24.960 And we're just fully independent. 0:18:24.960 --> 0:18:27.679 Would you say that, like, what is most of your 0:18:27.720 --> 0:18:30.000 demographic system? Is it men, women or both? 0:18:30.080 --> 0:18:34.560 It's both? I got like a you know, luckily, I'm 0:18:34.600 --> 0:18:39.119 pretty even I think it was. It started out like 0:18:39.280 --> 0:18:42.840 sixty forty women and now it's like sixty forty men, 0:18:43.000 --> 0:18:48.000 which I like because I think we need more male voices, 0:18:48.080 --> 0:18:50.760 inspiring men besides like Intel, Red Peel. 0:18:50.600 --> 0:18:51.399 Niggas and Yo. 0:18:51.720 --> 0:18:54.160 When I saw you and I started seeing your content, 0:18:54.320 --> 0:18:57.560 I was like, thank fucking god, a man with a 0:18:57.760 --> 0:19:00.199 fucking brain. I was like, thank God for somebody who 0:19:00.280 --> 0:19:03.440 is using their platform to a up black people, to 0:19:03.760 --> 0:19:07.080 be tell the truth, to see like not put down 0:19:07.119 --> 0:19:10.600 black women like I was. So it was such a refreshing, 0:19:11.320 --> 0:19:13.560 fucking breath of fresh air. 0:19:13.880 --> 0:19:16.520 I was very proud, and you would think I was 0:19:16.560 --> 0:19:20.800 your motherfucking cousin, Like yes, nagga. 0:19:21.880 --> 0:19:24.000 That's what we call our folks though, because it feels 0:19:24.000 --> 0:19:26.479 weird calling some of their fans, but it's that's how 0:19:26.520 --> 0:19:27.920 we refer to them, like our cousins. 0:19:28.000 --> 0:19:29.520 Like that's what it is. We are blacked. This is 0:19:29.640 --> 0:19:31.600 just big, big old family, you know what I mean. 0:19:31.680 --> 0:19:34.360 But I think another thing is what it made me realize, 0:19:35.320 --> 0:19:38.760 is that a lot of niggas just run to the internet. Yeah, 0:19:38.800 --> 0:19:42.840 because it's like you can't really feel like it, bro No. 0:19:42.880 --> 0:19:46.480 They're just saying ship just to like, it. 0:19:46.560 --> 0:19:50.320 Doesn't really take a lot of intelligence to come up 0:19:50.359 --> 0:19:53.520 with these takes. And it's all the same tapes, takes, 0:19:53.680 --> 0:19:57.720 like they all regurgitate the same shit. So it is 0:19:57.920 --> 0:20:02.080 just a grift and they understand that, like social media 0:20:02.200 --> 0:20:06.919 is just engagement and attention, So whether people mad at 0:20:06.960 --> 0:20:08.320 you or not, it's still attention. 0:20:09.200 --> 0:20:10.960 The algorithm don't see it no different. 0:20:11.080 --> 0:20:13.439 So if people in your comments arguing, they might as 0:20:13.480 --> 0:20:16.680 well be in your comment your comments praising, because the 0:20:16.760 --> 0:20:17.280 same shit. 0:20:17.400 --> 0:20:18.920 It's just numbers, you know what I mean. 0:20:18.960 --> 0:20:23.879 And it's all like it's all just driven by AI 0:20:23.960 --> 0:20:26.879 and like algorithm and robotics, so they don't really differentiate 0:20:26.960 --> 0:20:29.560 between positive and negative. And a lot of these dudes 0:20:29.720 --> 0:20:32.040 is like probably just miserable or whatever their job is 0:20:32.160 --> 0:20:34.520 or whatever they may be, and they see it and 0:20:34.600 --> 0:20:36.480 it's like, shit, that's a come up. They don't really care. 0:20:37.040 --> 0:20:40.200 Once you get to the point where you don't really 0:20:40.240 --> 0:20:42.480 care what type of attention you get, you kind of 0:20:42.560 --> 0:20:45.000 cook but they don't give a fuck because it's like 0:20:45.080 --> 0:20:46.239 it translates the money for them. 0:20:46.520 --> 0:20:47.080 It's shortly. 0:20:48.359 --> 0:20:50.160 I just feel like you have to be a certain 0:20:50.200 --> 0:20:52.520 type of nigga or a bitch that like you could 0:20:52.560 --> 0:20:54.560 say whatever, just for attention. You have to be somebody 0:20:54.600 --> 0:20:57.800 who has toggest, who is thriving solely off attention, because 0:20:57.800 --> 0:21:00.360 at some point there for me, that's at some point 0:21:00.400 --> 0:21:02.960 there's a responsibility to your community as a black man, 0:21:03.040 --> 0:21:04.920 as a black woman, Like if you're getting a certain 0:21:05.000 --> 0:21:08.320 level of popularity that you're just saying, what the fuck ever, 0:21:08.440 --> 0:21:11.520 even if it's debilitating to your community that you come from. 0:21:11.600 --> 0:21:13.840 But I was gonna say, like they didn't come in 0:21:13.880 --> 0:21:16.040 there to be responsible, Well that's the problem I have 0:21:16.119 --> 0:21:17.879 a problem with that. Like for me, even if we 0:21:18.000 --> 0:21:19.439 say things all the time that people are not going 0:21:19.520 --> 0:21:20.919 to agree with, we have people in our comments right 0:21:20.920 --> 0:21:23.359 now niggas beating us up about blah blah blah blah blah. 0:21:23.680 --> 0:21:25.480 I don't give a fuck as long as it's I 0:21:25.560 --> 0:21:26.199 feel like it's I. 0:21:26.200 --> 0:21:27.320 Mean, at least you're being genuine. 0:21:27.600 --> 0:21:29.840 Yeah, I feel like genuine disagree. 0:21:29.440 --> 0:21:30.240 With the take of mind. 0:21:30.280 --> 0:21:32.520 It's like that's my real take though, right right, I 0:21:32.560 --> 0:21:34.920 ain't just saying that the rough enough feathers. I think 0:21:35.119 --> 0:21:37.840 the thing is is that it is a form of 0:21:37.960 --> 0:21:40.600 like selling your soul a little bit. Yeah, because it's 0:21:40.640 --> 0:21:43.280 like whatever, whatever the fuck you had going on, you 0:21:43.400 --> 0:21:46.240 gave up, and then you're just like, all right, I'm 0:21:46.240 --> 0:21:49.359 gonna just do this now, you know whatever. Like you 0:21:49.440 --> 0:21:51.520 see them niggas they be kissing white people there and 0:21:51.560 --> 0:21:53.840 then they go to the Trump convention and they can't 0:21:53.880 --> 0:21:55.320 get in that shit be funny. 0:21:55.040 --> 0:21:57.080 As we And that's the other thing. You weren't kissing 0:21:57.119 --> 0:21:59.080 any ass there was. You were saying the thing, and 0:21:59.200 --> 0:22:01.200 I I mean, I'm straight, you know what I'm saying. 0:22:01.240 --> 0:22:02.840 The way I looked at it. For me, it's like 0:22:02.920 --> 0:22:07.040 I'm good, I could drive trucks, right, So I'm not 0:22:07.200 --> 0:22:07.960 really here for like. 0:22:08.080 --> 0:22:09.919 You know, depending on this to make or break your 0:22:09.960 --> 0:22:10.400 whole life. 0:22:10.520 --> 0:22:12.800 Yeah, Like you know, I just wanted a place to 0:22:12.960 --> 0:22:15.960 express because you know, like for my people, it's like, 0:22:16.080 --> 0:22:16.760 damn bro, Like. 0:22:18.520 --> 0:22:19.600 We can't keep up this shit. 0:22:19.640 --> 0:22:21.719 Bro, we don't know what you're talking about, Like, well, 0:22:21.880 --> 0:22:23.880 nothing about the politics you're talking about, Like I don't 0:22:23.880 --> 0:22:26.720 know these history lessons you putting me on like and 0:22:26.800 --> 0:22:29.000 all that. So it was like, all right, I'm just 0:22:29.359 --> 0:22:32.160 I just wanted to have a conversation amongst like minded people. 0:22:32.480 --> 0:22:34.840 And the Internet is vast and I've seen that conversation 0:22:34.960 --> 0:22:37.520 happening on TikTok. I just wanted to be a part 0:22:37.600 --> 0:22:39.800 of it. And it's just so happened it. You know 0:22:39.840 --> 0:22:40.960 what I'm saying, I cut through. 0:22:40.920 --> 0:22:41.720 The way I like to do. 0:22:41.840 --> 0:22:44.520 Shit, what do you think? 0:22:44.680 --> 0:22:46.440 Like, I mean, you've had You've had a lot of 0:22:46.920 --> 0:22:49.800 viral moments, and I guess hot takes. What do you 0:22:49.840 --> 0:22:53.800 think is like the one topic that seems to always 0:22:53.880 --> 0:22:55.800 ruffle people's feathers that you talk about. 0:22:57.000 --> 0:23:04.240 Religion, Uh, accountability conversations Somewhere, for. 0:23:04.320 --> 0:23:06.800 Some reason, everybody had that word what accountability. 0:23:08.359 --> 0:23:10.239 I did a pull on Instagram and I said, who 0:23:10.240 --> 0:23:11.760 do you think is more account who you think takes 0:23:11.800 --> 0:23:12.480 more accountability? 0:23:12.520 --> 0:23:13.000 Better or women? 0:23:14.119 --> 0:23:17.199 And most of the people said that men take more 0:23:17.200 --> 0:23:20.040 accountability than women, even the women said that men take 0:23:20.040 --> 0:23:21.120 more accountability than women. 0:23:23.280 --> 0:23:27.560 I mean, yeah, I think I don't really agree either way. 0:23:27.800 --> 0:23:30.679 I don't I don't think anybody. I don't think humans 0:23:30.720 --> 0:23:36.040 take accountability. Yeah, I think I think the accountability like 0:23:36.680 --> 0:23:41.800 men are a little bit more kind of molded to 0:23:41.960 --> 0:23:43.679 be like you got like you ain't a man if 0:23:43.720 --> 0:23:49.159 you're own your ship. So I don't know man that 0:23:49.400 --> 0:23:53.359 that that conversation get tricky, Like I think it need 0:23:53.440 --> 0:23:55.119 to be a little bit more specific about what we 0:23:55.240 --> 0:23:58.840 being accountable to, because you just thought that as a blanket, 0:23:58.880 --> 0:24:00.239 it's like accountable. 0:23:59.720 --> 0:23:59.879 To what. 0:24:01.520 --> 0:24:03.080 I think when you think of when you talk about 0:24:03.119 --> 0:24:05.800 men and women being accountable, you have to first It's 0:24:05.880 --> 0:24:08.359 like it's like saying, like are black people white people 0:24:08.359 --> 0:24:10.280 more accountable? You have to look at the society and 0:24:10.320 --> 0:24:12.800 the standards in which we exist in, right, So, like, 0:24:13.240 --> 0:24:16.719 as a man, there is a benefit of being a man. 0:24:16.800 --> 0:24:19.879 There's a patriarchy, you there's a like there is a 0:24:20.000 --> 0:24:22.920 privilege of being a man in our society. So there's 0:24:22.960 --> 0:24:27.760 a level of accountability that is already cloaked with being 0:24:27.800 --> 0:24:30.320 a man. Just like white people, black people could be like, 0:24:30.320 --> 0:24:33.640 who could be take more accountability? Obviously white people could 0:24:33.640 --> 0:24:37.600 take more accountability with their hand in violence and a 0:24:37.680 --> 0:24:39.600 lot of shit. And like if you're talking about America, 0:24:39.680 --> 0:24:42.080 for instance, But you know, if you're white and you're 0:24:42.119 --> 0:24:44.200 benefiting from the structure, you're gonna be like, well, black 0:24:44.240 --> 0:24:46.560 people need to get to stripe up their boots and 0:24:47.440 --> 0:24:50.800 and stop complaining and victim culture. But of course you're 0:24:50.840 --> 0:24:53.200 gonna say that because you're benefiting from the system. So 0:24:53.320 --> 0:24:54.879 I think the problem is, and this is another thing 0:24:54.880 --> 0:24:56.560 that I kind of fuck with with you, just from 0:24:56.600 --> 0:25:01.080 what I've seen on clips, is that to be an honest, 0:25:01.280 --> 0:25:04.400 existing individual in the society, you have to first examine 0:25:04.440 --> 0:25:07.440 the like the systems so much we existed. If you're 0:25:07.480 --> 0:25:11.199 a man that doesn't accept and understand that the patriarchy 0:25:11.320 --> 0:25:14.639 gives you a benefit that women have not had for years, 0:25:15.040 --> 0:25:18.560 hundreds of years, then you are not actually being accountable 0:25:18.640 --> 0:25:21.760 within the system. And so when women like us talk about, 0:25:22.160 --> 0:25:24.639 you know, the baby mama culture or whatever, the sex 0:25:24.800 --> 0:25:27.520 or being you know, talking about having sex and like 0:25:27.680 --> 0:25:30.240 dating freely as moms or things that men generally don't 0:25:30.240 --> 0:25:32.480 want to hear women talk about, because then we're whore's 0:25:32.520 --> 0:25:33.360 or what's our body count? 0:25:33.440 --> 0:25:35.720 Or we're run through you know. But it's like you 0:25:35.960 --> 0:25:36.760 if you're not a man. 0:25:36.680 --> 0:25:38.399 Who's willing to be like I know, women have not 0:25:38.520 --> 0:25:41.480 had the privilege of being sexually liberated because that's not 0:25:41.600 --> 0:25:44.120 the system we exist in. Then it's hard to talk 0:25:44.160 --> 0:25:46.800 about something like accountability if you're not really looking at 0:25:46.840 --> 0:25:47.800 it as from what it is. 0:25:48.040 --> 0:25:50.640 Yeah, I think everybody got their partner, they got to play, 0:25:50.720 --> 0:25:53.240 but I think it do come to a hierarchy of privilege. 0:25:53.359 --> 0:25:57.639 Like of course, like the person that's gone, and especially 0:25:57.680 --> 0:26:01.040 in America, like white man is like, yeah, they created 0:26:01.040 --> 0:26:05.720 the rules this y'all shit. So it's like everything that 0:26:05.840 --> 0:26:07.960 comes with it gonna directly point back to you because you, 0:26:08.600 --> 0:26:12.160 you know, you slighted the hand into your favor, regardless 0:26:12.160 --> 0:26:13.840 of who you had to step on across iude to 0:26:13.880 --> 0:26:16.439 get there. That's that's real white women sitting now. They 0:26:16.560 --> 0:26:18.600 running around the blood man. So it's like that you 0:26:18.720 --> 0:26:21.320 ain't got no rights, but shit, they got the casual 0:26:21.480 --> 0:26:24.640 killing that so it's like you was able to kill 0:26:24.720 --> 0:26:25.800 some shit and get away with. 0:26:25.920 --> 0:26:26.600 It, you know what I mean. 0:26:26.760 --> 0:26:29.920 Like I think if you go back in trace to 0:26:29.960 --> 0:26:33.000 the history well understand like where the dynamics playing as 0:26:33.080 --> 0:26:36.080 far as race and gender as we advance in society, 0:26:36.800 --> 0:26:38.960 you know, colorism play a part. I know that, Like 0:26:39.640 --> 0:26:41.280 people may be a little bit more prone to listen 0:26:41.320 --> 0:26:43.359 to me just because I'm like skinning, like that, just 0:26:43.400 --> 0:26:46.520 as a thing I've said talking I've had talking points 0:26:46.560 --> 0:26:47.359 that I know women have. 0:26:47.440 --> 0:26:49.159 Said thousands of a time, but they'll listen to me 0:26:49.200 --> 0:26:49.760 because of men. 0:26:50.200 --> 0:26:53.359 But it's like, yeah, I mean, use that privilege to 0:26:53.400 --> 0:26:56.040 goddamn say something though, right, you know what I mean? 0:26:56.160 --> 0:26:59.240 Like I'm I try to be as responsible as I can, 0:26:59.840 --> 0:27:01.440 but I don't really think it even come down to 0:27:01.440 --> 0:27:02.200 the responsibility. 0:27:02.240 --> 0:27:04.560 It's kind of just my ethic. So it's like who 0:27:04.640 --> 0:27:04.919 I am. 0:27:05.440 --> 0:27:07.399 You know, if I was if I was gonna be 0:27:07.440 --> 0:27:09.919 on some fuck shit, I'd probably be popular for that too, 0:27:10.640 --> 0:27:12.520 you know what I mean, the same strength, Like if I. 0:27:12.520 --> 0:27:14.119 Wanted to be a red pel nigga, I'll probably be 0:27:14.240 --> 0:27:14.920 just as good as that. 0:27:15.240 --> 0:27:18.800 It's charismatic as I am, but I just that ain't 0:27:18.840 --> 0:27:20.880 who I am, and I ain't I ain't never really 0:27:20.960 --> 0:27:25.240 got on the internet like trying to be somebody, you 0:27:25.320 --> 0:27:26.959 know what I mean. I already felt whole and who 0:27:27.000 --> 0:27:28.720 I was, So it's just much to show up how 0:27:28.760 --> 0:27:31.200 I am. If y'all fuck with me, it's cool. But 0:27:31.280 --> 0:27:32.680 at the end of the day, whether y'all fuck with 0:27:32.680 --> 0:27:34.479 me or not, I get to God damn go to bed, 0:27:34.560 --> 0:27:37.359 and like being myself, I'm comfortable, Like I'm happy with 0:27:37.480 --> 0:27:40.640 who I am. So I think when we talk about, 0:27:40.680 --> 0:27:43.359 like any issues of accountability, it has to be we 0:27:43.680 --> 0:27:46.800 have to specify what we being accountable to for one, 0:27:47.320 --> 0:27:49.760 and if it two, it's like we just have to 0:27:49.840 --> 0:27:53.640 have a firm understanding that. No everybody love accountability until 0:27:53.640 --> 0:27:55.920 this day turn it just is what it is. It's 0:27:56.000 --> 0:27:58.000 like we all want to kind of find a way 0:27:58.040 --> 0:28:03.440 to justify our actions. And it's a it's a it's 0:28:03.480 --> 0:28:06.720 a growing thing too, Like when you take accountability, you're 0:28:06.720 --> 0:28:10.040 actually taking a step towards growth. And it's a vulnerable 0:28:10.119 --> 0:28:13.040 thing because it's like that's as transparent as it gets. 0:28:13.080 --> 0:28:15.600 It's like admitting your fuck up. So admitting the hand 0:28:15.640 --> 0:28:18.399 you played in something that could affect people negatively, like 0:28:18.560 --> 0:28:22.040 you could have harmed somebody life with this shiit knowingly, unknowingly. 0:28:21.680 --> 0:28:23.159 Like that's a hard pill to swallow. 0:28:23.680 --> 0:28:27.080 So I like to give folks grace, but at the 0:28:27.119 --> 0:28:29.680 same time it's just like blatant gold Post movement and 0:28:30.359 --> 0:28:33.639 you know, you know, gaslighting and all this ship. It's like, 0:28:33.640 --> 0:28:35.440 all right, bro, we ain't doing that, you know what 0:28:35.480 --> 0:28:38.160 I'm saying, Like it may not be easy to deal with, but. 0:28:39.960 --> 0:28:42.160 We want the government to be accountable for the ship. 0:28:42.200 --> 0:28:43.160 They do that harmless. 0:28:43.720 --> 0:28:46.000 We want the people in the Epstein files to be 0:28:46.440 --> 0:28:48.280 accountable for their actions and shit like that. 0:28:48.760 --> 0:28:49.640 It's like that shit. 0:28:49.520 --> 0:28:52.720 Trickle down to like if the if the society is 0:28:53.240 --> 0:28:55.960 not doesn't have the ability to type accountability, and the 0:28:56.040 --> 0:28:58.160 people at the top down show I'm not gonna do 0:28:58.200 --> 0:29:00.959 it because they know, like ship, y'all trying to get 0:29:00.960 --> 0:29:01.800 away with some ship too. 0:29:03.040 --> 0:29:05.360 I never thought about it like that in a microcosm 0:29:05.440 --> 0:29:07.920 of the places in which we exist, Like if the 0:29:08.120 --> 0:29:11.040 people at the top are not taking accountability, that's trickle down. 0:29:11.440 --> 0:29:13.200 And the thing is is like this is how we 0:29:13.320 --> 0:29:13.920 learn power. 0:29:15.000 --> 0:29:17.360 So like if the people in power are liars and 0:29:17.680 --> 0:29:20.800 murderers and you know, like they always trying to find 0:29:20.800 --> 0:29:23.280 a loophole, Like if they hold shit is corrupt, then 0:29:23.320 --> 0:29:26.960 you have a corrupted society and we're being taught power 0:29:27.040 --> 0:29:30.160 by corrupt people. So like you learn how to like 0:29:30.240 --> 0:29:32.640 you get money, you get money. You know you're getting 0:29:32.640 --> 0:29:35.920 an entertainment industry. We get money, put people in fucked 0:29:36.000 --> 0:29:38.760 up contracts, Like that's the game. So the game now 0:29:38.880 --> 0:29:41.440 become let me make sure I don't put myself in 0:29:41.520 --> 0:29:43.520 a fucked up contract, but when I'm able to put 0:29:43.560 --> 0:29:45.800 somebody else in, I'll do it. You know what I'm saying. 0:29:46.200 --> 0:29:48.440 So it's like it is really a top down. That's 0:29:48.440 --> 0:29:50.440 the only thing that really trickled down is the behavior. 0:29:50.440 --> 0:29:52.720 The money. Don't never seen them make it to the ball. 0:29:54.960 --> 0:29:55.840 Do you want to put trigger? 0:29:56.240 --> 0:29:56.440 Yeah? 0:29:56.520 --> 0:29:59.520 Sure, So we have a game on our show called Trigger. 0:29:59.600 --> 0:30:02.240 We're gonna say some words and the first thing that 0:30:02.320 --> 0:30:09.000 comes to mind just respond, okay trigger. 0:30:10.960 --> 0:30:16.240 Religion, hold on, you got that ship, y'all down for life? 0:30:16.280 --> 0:30:20.880 And that's hard ahead. 0:30:21.720 --> 0:30:30.360 Religion control, Feminism, mm hmm, fatherhood. 0:30:30.920 --> 0:30:41.160 Important, uh necessary, foundational love, language, touch, But niggas just 0:30:41.240 --> 0:30:41.920 touched the pride. 0:30:43.240 --> 0:30:45.240 Niggas are you nah? 0:30:45.520 --> 0:30:46.360 Niggas in period? 0:30:46.480 --> 0:30:48.000 Like we you know, the. 0:30:49.680 --> 0:30:52.720 Women are so fucking smart, So it's a woman. She 0:30:52.800 --> 0:30:56.800 really brought down this whole again. I mean, I've been 0:30:56.840 --> 0:30:58.240 preaching this, we're not women are smart. 0:30:58.560 --> 0:31:01.040 It's okay women, we don't always have a man in 0:31:01.120 --> 0:31:01.400 the chair. 0:31:04.240 --> 0:31:06.880 One more. It was just one. Women are so smart. 0:31:06.960 --> 0:31:08.480 So look it's this woman. 0:31:08.560 --> 0:31:11.280 She came the other day and she was like boys 0:31:11.320 --> 0:31:13.440 at a certain age they stop getting kissed, they stopped 0:31:13.440 --> 0:31:16.320 getting hugged. Then they become the nigga. That's where my 0:31:16.400 --> 0:31:18.720 hug at. They do that because they touch the prime. 0:31:19.600 --> 0:31:21.760 So then when niggas get in a relationship, they love 0:31:21.920 --> 0:31:25.400 languages become touched because it's like it's the only time 0:31:25.440 --> 0:31:26.120 they allowed to. 0:31:26.280 --> 0:31:28.720 That's why nigga adapt. They homeboy up ten times before 0:31:28.760 --> 0:31:29.120 they leave. 0:31:30.160 --> 0:31:31.320 They need a hug for real, but. 0:31:33.360 --> 0:31:35.280 Up well, and then it's But the thing is is 0:31:35.320 --> 0:31:39.880 like this is real, deeply human ship to be neat well. 0:31:39.920 --> 0:31:41.920 Women, it's like y'all hug each other. Y'all kiss on 0:31:42.000 --> 0:31:44.560 each other. Y'all, y'all love, y'all fix each other. Hell 0:31:44.640 --> 0:31:47.680 y'all do like y'all nurture each other. Men are like 0:31:48.680 --> 0:31:51.760 the pride of nurturing once we are considered me. 0:31:52.440 --> 0:31:54.400 Because everything touching means gay. 0:31:54.760 --> 0:31:57.320 Yeah, I be hugging on my boys. Man, they ain't 0:31:57.320 --> 0:31:59.120 never gonna not know that ship. I don't know. 0:31:59.680 --> 0:32:03.360 I always say that, boy, but what is that about? 0:32:03.440 --> 0:32:03.960 Like mothers? 0:32:04.000 --> 0:32:08.320 Though, like mothers then like with with withdrawing their affection 0:32:08.600 --> 0:32:10.240 for their sons at a certain age. 0:32:10.400 --> 0:32:12.040 I don't think it's I don't think it's that. I 0:32:12.120 --> 0:32:17.240 think I think it's a generational think where you got 0:32:17.280 --> 0:32:21.960 people that's raised by boomers, and boomers are not affectionate 0:32:23.240 --> 0:32:26.320 words and emotions and nothing. So now you've got people 0:32:26.360 --> 0:32:29.560 that's like trying to cope with this one this neat 0:32:29.800 --> 0:32:31.720 but this like thing they used to you know what 0:32:31.760 --> 0:32:34.440 I'm saying, So like now things have to be really 0:32:34.560 --> 0:32:39.000 drastic for them to express love or express affection. 0:32:38.840 --> 0:32:40.200 Or just show care. 0:32:40.600 --> 0:32:42.760 And then you got a whole generation of men that 0:32:42.880 --> 0:32:45.160 was removed from the neighborhood. So you have a whole 0:32:45.280 --> 0:32:47.880 generation of women that are convinced that now they got 0:32:48.000 --> 0:32:50.440 to be the man, and men don't show up, like 0:32:50.600 --> 0:32:53.600 you know, it's all this ship. It's it's fucked up, 0:32:53.640 --> 0:32:54.360 but it's getting better. 0:32:54.760 --> 0:32:57.040 There's an overcompensation that has to happen. 0:32:57.280 --> 0:32:59.560 And women, even when you're in relationship with men, like 0:32:59.720 --> 0:33:01.440 don't hug him, he needs to not cry. And so 0:33:01.560 --> 0:33:03.680 women's will take the back seat, let the man lead 0:33:03.720 --> 0:33:05.800 in that way and then stop hugging little Jojo, and 0:33:05.840 --> 0:33:08.000 then low Jojo really needs to be fucking held. And 0:33:08.040 --> 0:33:10.040 then you go home and get older and beat a 0:33:10.080 --> 0:33:11.640 bitch up because he really needs to be hugged and 0:33:11.720 --> 0:33:13.280 kiss but he doesn't know how to fucking ask for it. 0:33:13.440 --> 0:33:14.840 Yeah, so yeah, it's deep. 0:33:15.160 --> 0:33:18.280 Yeah, it's it's it's a layered thing. I think. 0:33:20.120 --> 0:33:22.640 Even like with women, y'all find that within each other 0:33:22.760 --> 0:33:28.040 because oftentimes the only like other affectionate attention y'all get 0:33:28.160 --> 0:33:31.080 is sexualized like for men, because that's the only way 0:33:31.160 --> 0:33:33.200 we know, it's the only time we know we're gonna 0:33:33.280 --> 0:33:36.360 get physical touch is through six. So that's why niggas 0:33:36.360 --> 0:33:39.520 is six six sex sex were really like shit. 0:33:39.680 --> 0:33:41.320 That's why I'm keep going. 0:33:41.400 --> 0:33:43.880 This is why niggas will pay a prostitute just to 0:33:43.960 --> 0:33:46.360 like lay up and hoog, lay up and talk because 0:33:46.400 --> 0:33:49.840 they don't have that, Like, that's intimacy when niggas let intimacy, 0:33:49.880 --> 0:33:52.680 and then you got people that like confuse intimacy with 0:33:52.840 --> 0:33:53.720 six And. 0:33:53.760 --> 0:33:55.720 That's why ever woman either chits out or a woman's 0:33:55.760 --> 0:33:57.800 talking about sex around niggas, even if it's just on 0:33:57.840 --> 0:34:00.360 some friendly shit. They're like, oh, you're trying to know nigga, 0:34:00.360 --> 0:34:03.080 We're just having a conversation. There's no like people are 0:34:03.120 --> 0:34:06.920 so uncomfortable with the end between between like sex and friendship, 0:34:07.160 --> 0:34:10.160 like the platonic intimacy literally does not exist, and so 0:34:10.320 --> 0:34:13.839 men really think any type of love or affection means 0:34:13.920 --> 0:34:16.000 this bitch wants to fuck, when in fact, no, nigga, 0:34:16.000 --> 0:34:17.200 I'm just trying to give you a hugger. 0:34:17.200 --> 0:34:18.719 You asked me a question. I'm answering the question. 0:34:18.880 --> 0:34:20.120 Yeah, I got a. 0:34:20.200 --> 0:34:21.800 Question outside of this. 0:34:22.440 --> 0:34:28.000 It just like a woman's perspective, just like this seems 0:34:28.040 --> 0:34:30.239 extra horny, but it's really not. It's just like you know, 0:34:30.480 --> 0:34:34.680 like niggas is like curiosity, like could you ask your hunger? 0:34:34.840 --> 0:34:36.560 Like I just so I can get this out of 0:34:36.560 --> 0:34:38.239 my head? Can I see your titties? Like platonically? 0:34:38.400 --> 0:34:38.960 Is that crazy? 0:34:39.080 --> 0:34:41.160 I mean you could ask us to be like okay, 0:34:41.520 --> 0:34:45.040 not child, you mean like woman to woman or man. No, 0:34:45.320 --> 0:34:47.200 No you couldn't because. 0:34:48.360 --> 0:34:51.279 Let me tell you what curious curiosity like you girl, 0:34:51.520 --> 0:34:52.640 what look like? 0:34:52.840 --> 0:34:54.560 I think if it was crazy, I think if there 0:34:54.640 --> 0:34:55.239 was somebody. 0:34:55.239 --> 0:34:57.200 I didn't make sexual advance up. 0:34:57.280 --> 0:34:59.160 I think if there was someone who felt genuinely safe, 0:34:59.160 --> 0:35:01.440 and there was a woman who's open and understood that. However, 0:35:01.560 --> 0:35:04.520 I think it's very rare because women, I just told 0:35:04.560 --> 0:35:08.239 my husband this, are so used to protecting themselves around men, 0:35:08.600 --> 0:35:10.080 to the point where if I go to the club 0:35:10.160 --> 0:35:12.080 and I'm making eye contact and I dance on somebody, 0:35:12.200 --> 0:35:14.279 I know how to dance off. I know as soon 0:35:14.320 --> 0:35:16.600 as the nigga gets too comfortable. I know the dance, 0:35:16.680 --> 0:35:19.359 the weave and bob of being a woman, a woman 0:35:19.400 --> 0:35:24.080 who's section when I get sensual, because that's just my existence. 0:35:24.440 --> 0:35:28.040 I know when to beat bob and weave off because 0:35:28.040 --> 0:35:31.160 I know a nigga is getting confused. Even in my friendships, 0:35:31.280 --> 0:35:33.600 even now, I'm like, oh, he's confused about what this 0:35:33.880 --> 0:35:37.120 what this platonic intimacy looks like. And so to save 0:35:37.239 --> 0:35:40.520 myself and to not make things uncomfortable, I know how 0:35:40.600 --> 0:35:42.360 to and retreat. 0:35:42.680 --> 0:35:45.759 How many how many generations away from that shit? I 0:35:45.800 --> 0:35:46.040 don't know. 0:35:46.160 --> 0:35:47.520 Sometimes I just be saying, God. 0:35:47.600 --> 0:35:50.120 Like, I just cares what thees look like. 0:35:51.200 --> 0:35:54.000 I think there could be I don't think it's crazy, though, 0:35:54.200 --> 0:35:57.840 I think, but most men can't. Most men don't platonically 0:35:57.840 --> 0:36:00.800 When I see you chittest are in my mind, I 0:36:00.920 --> 0:36:03.640 really be like, because I'll be like, I want to 0:36:03.680 --> 0:36:05.239 see you guys dick. I would say, what is your 0:36:05.280 --> 0:36:06.920 do you have a big dick? As a friend, I 0:36:07.040 --> 0:36:08.840 want to know, like, what does your penais look like? 0:36:09.120 --> 0:36:13.200 But it doesn't mean okay, this is I think it's 0:36:13.280 --> 0:36:15.680 sexual in nature, but it's not like it doesn't have 0:36:15.760 --> 0:36:15.880 to be. 0:36:15.960 --> 0:36:17.440 It's not a sexual advance. 0:36:17.560 --> 0:36:20.160 It's like i'd be, really, you want to cure the 0:36:20.200 --> 0:36:21.360 curiosity because it'd be like. 0:36:21.440 --> 0:36:24.080 Bro, it'd be somemody. Cleveland's just like brother. Never right there. 0:36:24.239 --> 0:36:26.560 Let me just see them, let me finish the whole picture. 0:36:26.640 --> 0:36:29.040 But we're also we're also people. I'm also a woman. 0:36:29.080 --> 0:36:31.359 You come to my house, you even as a platonic friend, 0:36:31.440 --> 0:36:32.960 as a male friend, you might come to my house, 0:36:33.000 --> 0:36:35.040 and my titties are nine times out of the time 0:36:35.200 --> 0:36:36.719 going to be out, if my husband's home, if my 0:36:36.760 --> 0:36:38.520 kids are home, because this is my home and it's 0:36:38.560 --> 0:36:40.560 not a sexual advance. This is how I feel most comfortable. 0:36:40.760 --> 0:36:42.600 But I understand that I don't invite a lot of 0:36:42.680 --> 0:36:44.440 men to my house because I know that most men 0:36:44.480 --> 0:36:49.440 don't have literally in my house be out I'm a 0:36:49.520 --> 0:36:53.480 naked mom, but I know that every nigga is not 0:36:53.560 --> 0:36:55.800 invited into my house unless I know you, because I 0:36:55.880 --> 0:36:58.080 know a lot of niggas think that means something because 0:36:58.080 --> 0:36:59.879 a lot of men don't like they're ground there. 0:37:00.120 --> 0:37:01.440 Their ground is like what. 0:37:02.000 --> 0:37:02.920 Should come from? 0:37:03.080 --> 0:37:06.560 Like I'm sorry, I was just gonna say, I was 0:37:06.640 --> 0:37:08.400 just going to say that, you know, I think that 0:37:08.480 --> 0:37:11.360 it's natural to have a curiosity like a like a 0:37:11.960 --> 0:37:15.400 I guess, like an innocent curiosity around like what someone's 0:37:15.400 --> 0:37:18.640 body looks like. But I will say that generally, like 0:37:18.880 --> 0:37:21.080 if a bitch shows you her titties and they were 0:37:21.120 --> 0:37:24.080 even better than you thought, there's a seed that naturally 0:37:24.160 --> 0:37:27.400 gets planted a deeper curiosity, just like I'm a woman 0:37:27.680 --> 0:37:29.960 and I asked my friend to see his dick and 0:37:30.280 --> 0:37:33.279 it's bigger than I thought. I'm going to be like, huh, 0:37:33.800 --> 0:37:37.600 there's another there's something else, And I think that that's 0:37:37.600 --> 0:37:40.560 a human like a human reaction. I don't necessarily think 0:37:40.600 --> 0:37:43.720 that's like a violation, but I think if my homeboy 0:37:43.800 --> 0:37:46.200 asked to see my titties, am I going to show him? 0:37:46.600 --> 0:37:48.960 It depends on why he wants to see my titties. 0:37:49.000 --> 0:37:52.279 It depends on like I said, like how safe he's 0:37:52.320 --> 0:37:53.759 made me feel in that relationship. 0:37:53.920 --> 0:37:56.120 Right, that's the thing too, it's like how you even approached. Well, 0:37:56.160 --> 0:37:59.480 that's why some things just got to remain curious though, because. 0:37:59.200 --> 0:38:02.120 Even like can't handle the curiosity. Some people can't handle 0:38:02.239 --> 0:38:03.960 knowing knowing the other side of it. 0:38:04.040 --> 0:38:06.799 Some people can't. I could probably I guess like, oh wow, 0:38:06.840 --> 0:38:09.160 that's impressive and keep my and I don't need to 0:38:09.160 --> 0:38:10.320 be like. It doesn't mean you have to go. 0:38:10.600 --> 0:38:11.880 It doesn't mean like you move forward. 0:38:11.920 --> 0:38:13.399 But I just think. 0:38:16.360 --> 0:38:20.640 Like, okay, a naturally as humans, it extends the curiosity. 0:38:20.640 --> 0:38:21.920 Doesn't mean you're gonna act upon it. 0:38:22.520 --> 0:38:25.239 But like even like I think we beyond human ship, 0:38:25.560 --> 0:38:29.279 like we beyond like we've we've been with drawn from 0:38:29.320 --> 0:38:33.400 that that level of intimacy amongst one another, Like you know, 0:38:33.520 --> 0:38:35.680 even the idea like they have like this whole freeom 0:38:35.719 --> 0:38:37.800 nipple movement. It's like you know what I'm saying, But 0:38:38.040 --> 0:38:44.400 there's been cultures that but it's all all like colonial purity. 0:38:45.200 --> 0:38:49.799 Like if titties were out regularly, would you Well, it's 0:38:49.800 --> 0:38:51.440 like because if you're sure your titties will, men are 0:38:51.480 --> 0:38:52.040 going to be tempting. 0:38:52.080 --> 0:38:54.040 Then men are going to you and then rape. It's 0:38:54.040 --> 0:38:54.359 your fault. 0:38:54.360 --> 0:38:55.680 But it's like, but I can put a steak on 0:38:55.760 --> 0:38:58.400 the table and pell my dog to sit, and you can't. Like, 0:38:58.520 --> 0:39:00.600 men are not animals. They know the difference, but they 0:39:00.640 --> 0:39:04.960 have been they've been, they've been socialized to think this 0:39:05.080 --> 0:39:07.480 is how boys act, boys will be boys. No, nigga, 0:39:07.560 --> 0:39:09.080 you have fucking right. 0:39:09.040 --> 0:39:09.520 You you have. 0:39:10.400 --> 0:39:14.240 It's the puritanical ship. It's the it's the it's the upfront. 0:39:14.480 --> 0:39:17.400 I seem very like put together and everything is covered up, 0:39:17.480 --> 0:39:19.799 but up behind close ole niggas raping foes. 0:39:20.400 --> 0:39:21.360 And so then it's like. 0:39:23.640 --> 0:39:26.360 If you take like the Catholic Church, for instance, like 0:39:27.080 --> 0:39:31.240 the stereotype is that the father is molested than the children. 0:39:31.280 --> 0:39:33.959 But this is also like a natural fact, this shit 0:39:34.040 --> 0:39:38.000 be heppening. But because it's like there's no consequences, then 0:39:38.040 --> 0:39:41.320 what does that do to a child? What does that 0:39:41.440 --> 0:39:44.560 do for anybody that wants to that has like those 0:39:44.600 --> 0:39:45.280 sick desires. 0:39:45.320 --> 0:39:47.239 It's like, oh, well, I just go. 0:39:47.320 --> 0:39:49.960 To seminary and then I become a Catholic priest and 0:39:50.040 --> 0:39:52.640 I can got down, get marocks off, and it's gonna 0:39:52.640 --> 0:39:55.200 be accepted because it has been while, and I'll be protected. 0:39:55.280 --> 0:39:59.360 So it's it's like the secrecy, the secrecy that removes 0:39:59.440 --> 0:40:02.040 the human humanness of it all, Like it is kind 0:40:02.080 --> 0:40:04.080 of human to be like I wonder what someone looks 0:40:04.120 --> 0:40:07.000 like naked. It's like a thought comes to your mind 0:40:07.040 --> 0:40:10.000 because we are animalistic, we're all primal in ways. But 0:40:10.640 --> 0:40:13.160 it's the the removal of that even being an option 0:40:13.360 --> 0:40:15.919 to be like even me as a sensual sexual woman, 0:40:16.080 --> 0:40:19.640 like I make children, I'm sexual. If someone is like, oh, 0:40:19.719 --> 0:40:21.680 that's like I feel moved by that a little bit. 0:40:21.800 --> 0:40:23.200 It's not like you're gonna rate me. 0:40:23.440 --> 0:40:24.560 It is literally human. 0:40:24.440 --> 0:40:29.920 Nature biologically right, like together resources and reproduce. 0:40:30.000 --> 0:40:33.040 That's it, Like, like that is it. 0:40:33.880 --> 0:40:36.719 But then there's the human the advancement of like who 0:40:36.800 --> 0:40:38.640 we are as humans, to know the difference between like 0:40:38.880 --> 0:40:40.520 just because I see this in thisness or just because 0:40:40.520 --> 0:40:42.520 I have a certain thought. Let's all let's all think 0:40:42.520 --> 0:40:44.719 about Like we have sex, we watch porn. There's like 0:40:44.800 --> 0:40:47.520 the most sometimes the most naughty things are your fantasy. 0:40:47.680 --> 0:40:50.000 That's what's gonna get you off. It's because it's it's 0:40:50.080 --> 0:40:53.040 forbidden fruit. It's because it's forbidden fruit. It's the thing 0:40:53.160 --> 0:40:55.200 you're told not to do that is actually going to 0:40:55.480 --> 0:40:58.160 heighten the experience. But because we're not even in the 0:40:58.200 --> 0:41:01.680 way the place to have intimate coms and honest conversations 0:41:02.160 --> 0:41:05.440 that it's it's so locked away that then people go 0:41:05.640 --> 0:41:08.080 this other route to actually act on these things. 0:41:08.520 --> 0:41:11.320 They say, it's like kind of like a precursor for 0:41:11.400 --> 0:41:17.279 addiction to It's just the procurement of drugs is the 0:41:18.520 --> 0:41:18.759 you know what. 0:41:18.719 --> 0:41:21.520 I'm saying, because it's like a secret like knowing you Finnah. 0:41:21.800 --> 0:41:24.120 You know, putting a play together, knowing you're meeting your dealing, 0:41:25.000 --> 0:41:27.920 Like you know what I'm saying, it's all done in secrecy. 0:41:27.719 --> 0:41:29.879 Like having an affair in a motel room and getting 0:41:29.880 --> 0:41:32.160 a dis like it's. 0:41:32.080 --> 0:41:34.239 The like you said, it's that forbidding fruit shit. 0:41:34.320 --> 0:41:37.719 Where if we were like I would say, like a 0:41:37.760 --> 0:41:42.399 little bit more sexually liberated as it's a culture, then 0:41:42.440 --> 0:41:46.080 it wouldn't be no big deal because I know girls, 0:41:46.160 --> 0:41:48.640 I grew up with girls to just be like, you 0:41:48.680 --> 0:41:51.399 know what I'm saying, And then once you cooled, then 0:41:51.440 --> 0:41:53.359 it's like don't I'm not looking at her like, oh 0:41:53.400 --> 0:41:54.040 she want to fuck me. 0:41:54.080 --> 0:41:57.239 I'm just like just like showing her off, like that's 0:41:57.280 --> 0:41:59.560 just who she is, you know what I'm saying. But 0:42:00.360 --> 0:42:02.959 I think it's the purre. 0:42:03.040 --> 0:42:05.360 It's that it's that Puritan ship where it's just like 0:42:06.480 --> 0:42:09.040 by keeping everything button up, it makes you a better person, 0:42:09.160 --> 0:42:12.840 but it actually like the play against your biological instincts. 0:42:12.880 --> 0:42:16.160 It's like that curiosity it makes shit worse for real. 0:42:16.560 --> 0:42:17.000 I agree. 0:42:17.239 --> 0:42:20.279 And it's how they cover up. They like dirty D's 0:42:20.360 --> 0:42:22.080 we at, like we all cleaning button up. 0:42:22.120 --> 0:42:24.080 That's the worst ship, you know what I'm saying, Like 0:42:24.680 --> 0:42:27.919 protecting sir, that's police shit. They shut down to catch 0:42:27.920 --> 0:42:30.239 a predator because it's so many fucking police out here 0:42:30.320 --> 0:42:32.440 trying to fuck children, you know what I'm saying, Like 0:42:32.520 --> 0:42:34.160 we gotta shut the ship down, bro. 0:42:34.640 --> 0:42:38.280 The actual thing, finding the people doing the bad everybody 0:42:38.320 --> 0:42:40.040 who's supposed to be saving the Yeah. 0:42:39.960 --> 0:42:41.919 Because they back in the blue, they ain't gonna tackle 0:42:41.960 --> 0:42:44.960 their partner. So it's like, you know that. I think 0:42:45.600 --> 0:42:46.799 it's a layered ship. It is a. 0:42:46.840 --> 0:42:49.400 Religious ship too though, or even that that site all 0:42:49.440 --> 0:42:51.520 these niggas are on and they're telling giving each other 0:42:51.560 --> 0:42:52.920 advice on how to rape their wives. 0:42:52.960 --> 0:42:55.239 I'm like, it's your wife, why are we raping them? 0:42:55.280 --> 0:42:56.000 All they're sleep. 0:42:56.239 --> 0:42:59.719 It's just it's weird. It's just another exercise empower. It's 0:43:00.280 --> 0:43:02.320 and like power is like and just the just the 0:43:02.440 --> 0:43:04.640 rejection like sometimes your wife don't want to do. 0:43:05.560 --> 0:43:08.800 Power is like is the most powerful tool. 0:43:09.840 --> 0:43:11.960 It's bigger than it's bigger than racism, all of it 0:43:12.160 --> 0:43:14.600 because a white person will betray another white person for 0:43:14.680 --> 0:43:15.560 power to do. 0:43:15.719 --> 0:43:18.680 It is that it is because it's all those systems 0:43:19.200 --> 0:43:23.719 are about power, Like patriarchal system is about power. It's 0:43:23.719 --> 0:43:26.960 about governance, Like I don't govern like this. Women like 0:43:27.120 --> 0:43:29.200 like these things that I desire, I want to control. 0:43:29.880 --> 0:43:34.160 So if if there's a matriarchal society, then it's like 0:43:34.840 --> 0:43:36.760 how do I fulfill my desire. 0:43:37.400 --> 0:43:40.440 And infiltrate the society and make myself the center of it? 0:43:40.640 --> 0:43:42.480 Like how do I make it? Because then it's like, 0:43:43.080 --> 0:43:46.360 you know, it's like if women niggas. Niggas think that 0:43:46.520 --> 0:43:48.719 if women treat it me and the way that we 0:43:48.880 --> 0:43:52.960 treat them, they would like that, like the cat calling 0:43:53.080 --> 0:43:54.800 and aggressive nature. 0:43:54.840 --> 0:43:58.160 But like I don't know, man, niggas ain't never been 0:43:58.239 --> 0:43:59.120 a piece of meat before. 0:44:00.040 --> 0:44:02.000 I try to make men feel like pieces of meat 0:44:02.080 --> 0:44:03.960 every so often, just so they know how it feels. 0:44:06.400 --> 0:44:07.480 I kind of like to do that. 0:44:07.719 --> 0:44:10.200 I been a piece of meat, Like I kind of 0:44:10.320 --> 0:44:10.480 like it. 0:44:10.520 --> 0:44:11.880 I kind of like to see the discomfort on the 0:44:11.920 --> 0:44:13.560 nigga's face because I'm like, oh, you've never you've never 0:44:13.640 --> 0:44:15.360 been here before, huh surprise. 0:44:16.080 --> 0:44:18.480 The only difference is is that they can they can 0:44:18.560 --> 0:44:21.239 overpower you. Where the other side is is like men 0:44:21.320 --> 0:44:25.200 don't even realize how their advances become such like violent, 0:44:25.320 --> 0:44:26.919 so such a violent act upon women. 0:44:26.960 --> 0:44:29.360 They think that they're just like casually cat calling in 0:44:29.440 --> 0:44:29.880 the street. 0:44:30.280 --> 0:44:32.840 No bitch, I'm walking on the street alone when I'm alone, 0:44:32.920 --> 0:44:35.160 and you think you're being cute, but now I'm scared. 0:44:35.480 --> 0:44:38.560 Yeah, Like it's like men is to women is like 0:44:38.800 --> 0:44:40.000 police is the niggas. 0:44:40.719 --> 0:44:43.080 Okay, oh my god, that's a good one because like. 0:44:43.360 --> 0:44:45.399 Even like if I know I ain't did shit wrong, 0:44:46.000 --> 0:44:46.840 just the presence of the. 0:44:46.840 --> 0:44:50.080 Police make you feel uncomfortable and you and you know 0:44:50.280 --> 0:44:51.560 you could be able to start talking to me. 0:44:51.600 --> 0:44:53.160 It's like death not Yeah. 0:44:53.320 --> 0:44:54.840 And then you also you also see like if a 0:44:54.880 --> 0:44:56.440 cop is trying to be cool, if a cop is 0:44:56.480 --> 0:44:59.799 on some other ship, and immediately your your whole internal. 0:44:59.640 --> 0:45:04.080 And there literally if you're trying to be cool, right, 0:45:04.719 --> 0:45:05.160 even when. 0:45:05.080 --> 0:45:07.160 A niggas being cool. I've had niggas being like we're 0:45:07.200 --> 0:45:09.360 so smart, so cool, and then something shift. I'm like, oh, 0:45:09.400 --> 0:45:10.560 this niggas actually. 0:45:10.800 --> 0:45:12.200 Happened to me the other day, and it's so funny, 0:45:12.239 --> 0:45:15.279 because like, I want to believe that there's a lot 0:45:15.360 --> 0:45:17.160 of good men in this world, because I do believe there, 0:45:17.200 --> 0:45:19.239 but I do think that we are so sullied by 0:45:20.239 --> 0:45:23.360 just like patriarchy and like you said, like a slave 0:45:23.400 --> 0:45:25.839 to our desires. Like the other day was in my bathing, 0:45:25.920 --> 0:45:27.360 I was at the beach. I was in my bikini, 0:45:27.680 --> 0:45:30.480 just doing my dance and buy my fucking self. And 0:45:30.560 --> 0:45:32.520 then the nigga came up to me and he seemed cool. 0:45:32.560 --> 0:45:35.200 I was like, Okay, he's cool, he's not like making advances. 0:45:35.440 --> 0:45:37.719 We talked and then we sat down for a little while, 0:45:37.800 --> 0:45:41.480 started drinking. That's where things go wrong. Started drinking a 0:45:41.560 --> 0:45:44.000 little bit, and then his homeboy came and. 0:45:44.040 --> 0:45:46.959 Then now. 0:45:49.480 --> 0:45:51.839 Now sudden, now the sun has gone down and I'm 0:45:51.840 --> 0:45:53.880 sitting with them. And at first I was like, we're bros. 0:45:54.440 --> 0:45:56.360 And then and then I'm like, okay, we're not bros. 0:45:56.440 --> 0:46:01.400 Actually actual, I literally I I like consciously took my 0:46:01.520 --> 0:46:03.680 sorong out of my fucking bag and I was like, 0:46:03.760 --> 0:46:06.840 let me cover myself because now I feel nervous and 0:46:06.920 --> 0:46:09.880 I feel like, unfortunately, now now my body is the 0:46:09.960 --> 0:46:12.680 wrong impression because I'm just here at the beach, enjoying 0:46:12.840 --> 0:46:15.080 on the beach. We're not even talking about don't let 0:46:15.200 --> 0:46:17.280 sex come up. We didn't even talk about sex. 0:46:17.520 --> 0:46:17.680 You know. 0:46:17.880 --> 0:46:20.160 And I was just like, wow, like this could have 0:46:20.239 --> 0:46:22.520 been really great and y'all fucked it up and now 0:46:22.560 --> 0:46:24.080 I have to leave the vibes. 0:46:24.200 --> 0:46:26.239 Yeah, yeah, wait, and we're kind of bad. They were 0:46:26.280 --> 0:46:29.120 giving off that like did they start making like sexually. 0:46:28.920 --> 0:46:33.320 They started making comments with my body like damn, like damn, 0:46:33.440 --> 0:46:36.719 like you look, you work out a lot, like you know. 0:46:36.920 --> 0:46:41.680 Just like just little stupid checking you out sexually. 0:46:41.920 --> 0:46:44.200 Yeah, And I and then I tried to bring it back. 0:46:44.640 --> 0:46:46.319 And I tried to bring it back like, man, I'm 0:46:46.320 --> 0:46:47.600 so happy to because I was I was on a 0:46:47.640 --> 0:46:50.239 solo trip. I wanted my first little solo vacation, and 0:46:50.920 --> 0:46:52.759 I was just like, I'm so happy to meet, you know, 0:46:53.080 --> 0:46:54.440 men that I can feel safe with. 0:46:54.800 --> 0:46:55.960 Let me remind me i'm here. 0:46:56.080 --> 0:46:56.239 Yeah. 0:46:56.280 --> 0:46:59.719 I was literally trying to like that and they're like yeah, yeah, yeah, 0:46:59.760 --> 0:47:01.400 yeah yeah. And then right before I left, it like, 0:47:01.640 --> 0:47:03.560 we're gonna go get our motor bark. You should come 0:47:03.600 --> 0:47:05.400 with us, and we can. You can, you can come 0:47:05.440 --> 0:47:06.920 walk with us to get our bike and then we'll 0:47:07.000 --> 0:47:08.680 you know, ride around to that spot. I'm like, where's 0:47:08.680 --> 0:47:10.040 your bike? It was like on the dark over there. 0:47:10.080 --> 0:47:13.080 I was like, nigga, now, like it's gonna be fine. 0:47:13.160 --> 0:47:15.320 I said no, And you're in a foreign country alone. 0:47:15.480 --> 0:47:17.600 And when I went to so I went to the spot, 0:47:17.640 --> 0:47:18.920 I was like, I'm gonna go to the party, meet 0:47:18.960 --> 0:47:21.279 me over there. I never saw them again, never saw 0:47:21.360 --> 0:47:22.680 them again. I was like, so, what would have happen 0:47:22.719 --> 0:47:25.560 to that? Had I trusted And just when I trust you, 0:47:25.640 --> 0:47:27.240 I'm gonna go to the dock and get the motorbike. 0:47:27.520 --> 0:47:29.359 But but this is this is such an important part 0:47:29.440 --> 0:47:31.400 of like gender existence. 0:47:31.480 --> 0:47:33.160 Like I was trying to explain this to Orlando too, 0:47:33.200 --> 0:47:36.200 because he's super sexual, super I say, honey, I am too. 0:47:36.360 --> 0:47:38.480 But the way I have to I've had to exist 0:47:38.520 --> 0:47:39.759 in this world is different from you. 0:47:40.080 --> 0:47:44.200 My My relationship with sex is comfortable, but there's also 0:47:44.239 --> 0:47:46.400 a lot of guards up because I have a vagina, 0:47:47.280 --> 0:47:49.319 and niggas don't know how to act like you could. 0:47:49.520 --> 0:47:51.080 You can walk and round with a dick and be 0:47:51.320 --> 0:47:51.759 just fine. 0:47:51.840 --> 0:47:53.920 I said me, it's a different I have a different 0:47:53.920 --> 0:47:58.239 relationship with sex because I've been traumatized by niggas, so like, 0:47:58.360 --> 0:48:00.960 it's not about my comfort, it's about the reality of that. 0:48:01.160 --> 0:48:04.120 Like I have to be really, really really aware about 0:48:04.280 --> 0:48:06.400 what feels good and what doesn't because just like that, 0:48:06.560 --> 0:48:08.919 something could go left really quickly and then I'm left 0:48:08.960 --> 0:48:10.080 in a fucked up situation. 0:48:10.680 --> 0:48:11.840 So it's like I'm. 0:48:11.680 --> 0:48:14.120 Happy that, like we're having this conversation because I don't 0:48:14.120 --> 0:48:17.280 think men really understand how much they make women feel uncomfortable, 0:48:17.320 --> 0:48:19.680 and also how women are not really empowered to be like, hey, 0:48:19.719 --> 0:48:22.640 you're making me uncomfortable, God forbid, and bitch says the 0:48:22.800 --> 0:48:24.920 R word in front of a nigga, you're making you're 0:48:24.960 --> 0:48:25.680 getting a little raey. 0:48:25.719 --> 0:48:26.600 Can you chill the fuck out? 0:48:27.680 --> 0:48:29.319 Then they're like, oh, bitch, you get into Oh you're 0:48:29.320 --> 0:48:31.640 get into no nigga, I'm getting very clear. 0:48:32.040 --> 0:48:32.840 I mean, I think the. 0:48:32.960 --> 0:48:36.040 Thing is is that you know, if somebody making you 0:48:36.200 --> 0:48:39.919 uncomfortable with the righteous thing to do is like letting 0:48:39.960 --> 0:48:43.440 them know about it. I'm not saying, y'all, I understand 0:48:43.480 --> 0:48:46.080 it's more complex than that. But because then, but making 0:48:46.160 --> 0:48:49.200 them uncomfortable is like just like reflect it's. 0:48:49.120 --> 0:48:50.200 Literally our superpower. 0:48:50.239 --> 0:48:53.880 I've noticed, like making men, not trying to make men, 0:48:54.480 --> 0:48:58.000 make trying to making a man comfortable is going to 0:48:58.040 --> 0:48:59.959 fuck you every time when you put someone else's comfort 0:49:00.080 --> 0:49:01.640 in front of yours, it is going to fuck you 0:49:01.760 --> 0:49:05.040 every time. We need to be trained and I'm uncomfortable, Hey, 0:49:05.080 --> 0:49:08.600 I'm uncomfortable. This is getting a little uncomfortable if you. 0:49:08.800 --> 0:49:10.680 Just say this shit getting a little raypy. 0:49:12.719 --> 0:49:15.040 Okay, we gotta walk away. But then but then niggas 0:49:15.080 --> 0:49:16.719 might get mad, and then that's it, Like. 0:49:18.480 --> 0:49:20.760 Well, that's what we were talking about before we started recording, 0:49:21.000 --> 0:49:24.560 was like like men feeling embarrassed, right, and. 0:49:24.880 --> 0:49:26.759 That's that full embarrassed. They' feel mad and then who 0:49:26.880 --> 0:49:28.680 knows how that will go. It's like we've had to 0:49:28.719 --> 0:49:32.640 babysit men's fucking emotions. They're fragile emotions in that space 0:49:32.719 --> 0:49:35.200 so long that we'd actually rather lay down and just 0:49:35.360 --> 0:49:36.719 like check out and let it happen. 0:49:36.800 --> 0:49:38.239 Like even if you tell niggas no no no, no 0:49:38.360 --> 0:49:39.880 no no no, I'm good. I'm good, I'm good, good. 0:49:40.000 --> 0:49:43.840 They keep asking, and You're like, fuck it because I'm twenty, 0:49:43.960 --> 0:49:45.600 i haven't had a lot of practicing. 0:49:45.680 --> 0:49:46.360 I'm comfortable. 0:49:46.560 --> 0:49:48.759 We've had three shots, and now I feel like I'm 0:49:48.840 --> 0:49:51.200 responsible because I'm here and it's dark and I'm in 0:49:51.239 --> 0:49:52.960 my bathing suit. I gave the wrong impression and now 0:49:52.960 --> 0:49:55.239 I'm just like fuck it instead of just being like, nah, 0:49:55.400 --> 0:49:57.840 I'm good. You know, like it's taking me years to 0:49:57.920 --> 0:50:02.399 get to that point because women have been like unfortunately 0:50:02.640 --> 0:50:06.400 told to make to make people feel okay, make everybody 0:50:06.400 --> 0:50:09.160 feel comfortable. It's gonna be fine at the expense of 0:50:09.200 --> 0:50:09.920 our own comfort. 0:50:10.680 --> 0:50:14.680 Yeah, that shit is that shit does like. 0:50:16.520 --> 0:50:22.320 Kind of increase your chances of being victimized. Is just 0:50:22.440 --> 0:50:24.760 making a nigga feel like the shit he doing is okay. 0:50:25.760 --> 0:50:28.120 But you know, I think there has to be a 0:50:28.200 --> 0:50:33.840 conversation around like our our relationship to sex and like, 0:50:34.840 --> 0:50:37.400 you know, this kind of like entitlement around it. Like 0:50:40.560 --> 0:50:42.680 this is also like why we don't have a healthy 0:50:42.920 --> 0:50:46.560 balance or understanding of like sex and what we desire 0:50:46.640 --> 0:50:49.479 for real, because if you listen to men talk about 0:50:49.560 --> 0:50:53.960 their desires, they contradict each other because it's like you 0:50:54.040 --> 0:50:55.680 want to freak, you want this, this and that, but 0:50:55.760 --> 0:50:57.919 then if she give it up too fast, she'll hope. 0:50:58.520 --> 0:51:00.680 If she make you way too long, it's like she 0:51:00.840 --> 0:51:03.960 being proved. And it's like you gotta kind of decide 0:51:03.960 --> 0:51:07.399 what it is you want because like, if you fuck 0:51:07.440 --> 0:51:10.880 me the first night, it's like ship. He y'all like, 0:51:12.280 --> 0:51:15.080 like ship, we own the same ship, but I had 0:51:15.120 --> 0:51:17.200 that to turn around and fuck somebody the first night 0:51:17.200 --> 0:51:19.320 and they be like, you a nigga that make you? 0:51:19.560 --> 0:51:20.640 Yeah right, exactly. 0:51:21.280 --> 0:51:25.440 Easy too, But it's like we haven't been made. 0:51:25.600 --> 0:51:29.000 But men have this idea around women being receivers and 0:51:29.120 --> 0:51:34.080 y'all being givers. Men have exacting Yeah, it's it's the 0:51:34.280 --> 0:51:38.239 it's the whole, Like, oh, if any key unlocks the door, 0:51:38.400 --> 0:51:39.719 then what's the use of the key? 0:51:39.800 --> 0:51:41.680 All that ship Listen, the thing gives bro. 0:51:41.920 --> 0:51:45.480 It's like we both just susceptible to one't having a 0:51:45.600 --> 0:51:50.399 child to kept contracting the disease. Three feeling shame foe, 0:51:51.239 --> 0:51:54.120 it's an act, it's a consensual decision. 0:51:54.640 --> 0:51:57.120 Then we both leave with the same weight. 0:51:57.280 --> 0:51:59.440 But number three, I don't think men feel shame like 0:51:59.520 --> 0:52:03.239 that in sex. How often have you left the bitch 0:52:03.280 --> 0:52:04.759 that you just met him, like Tam, I should have 0:52:04.800 --> 0:52:08.000 done that ship. Really, I always ask that because I 0:52:08.040 --> 0:52:08.760 feel like men. 0:52:10.239 --> 0:52:13.520 Lying because then I do feel like men feel shame. 0:52:13.520 --> 0:52:16.080 I feel like I feel like not sexually. 0:52:16.200 --> 0:52:17.600 Listen, I'm gonna tell you. I'm gonna tell you how 0:52:17.640 --> 0:52:20.200 they know. You know, niggas feel shame. It's because when 0:52:20.239 --> 0:52:21.480 they go to shaming you. 0:52:22.960 --> 0:52:25.560 That's that's what that is, Okay, it's a projection. 0:52:25.640 --> 0:52:26.000 Projection. 0:52:26.080 --> 0:52:30.280 Also, a man's like, a man's value, especially in regards 0:52:30.360 --> 0:52:32.480 to like a woman, a lot of times has to 0:52:32.520 --> 0:52:34.960 do with how big his dick is. So just immediately 0:52:35.080 --> 0:52:38.319 from that, like from the from jump, that's embarrassment. There's 0:52:38.360 --> 0:52:41.400 embarrassment and shame around that. Like there's that, but that's 0:52:41.480 --> 0:52:45.440 only if their dick is small. Yeah, but then big 0:52:45.480 --> 0:52:47.200 dicks that thought their dicks were small because the bitch 0:52:47.239 --> 0:52:48.160 said that the dick was small. 0:52:48.280 --> 0:52:52.200 No, because niggas, I'm gonna tell you what we forget. 0:52:52.320 --> 0:52:55.800 We forget there, like there's an average penis size because 0:52:56.480 --> 0:52:58.160 it's an average like. 0:52:58.440 --> 0:52:58.960 Most people have. 0:52:59.239 --> 0:53:01.239 Most niggas, did you know what I'm saying? This is 0:53:01.440 --> 0:53:05.560 most decks, brother, But what you're doing is watching portant. 0:53:05.600 --> 0:53:08.319 And it's like niggas with abnormally large dicks out here 0:53:08.719 --> 0:53:10.960 that didn't to the point they dick so big. 0:53:11.120 --> 0:53:13.040 This is how they make a living. You did know 0:53:13.040 --> 0:53:13.480 what I'm saying. 0:53:13.520 --> 0:53:14.360 I think that's normal. 0:53:14.520 --> 0:53:14.800 It's not. 0:53:15.280 --> 0:53:17.880 But like every nigga ain't walking around with ten to 0:53:17.920 --> 0:53:20.040 twelve inch is a dick Like they're just not what's 0:53:20.040 --> 0:53:20.360 going on. 0:53:20.960 --> 0:53:21.360 So when you. 0:53:21.480 --> 0:53:24.960 Compare yourself, that's like comparing yourself, like in strength to 0:53:25.080 --> 0:53:27.600 a bodybuilder, Like this, what this nigga do? 0:53:27.719 --> 0:53:27.959 Brouh? 0:53:28.520 --> 0:53:31.680 This nigga wake up every day picking up a motherfucking weight. 0:53:32.360 --> 0:53:34.520 If you can lift your own body weight, you decent. 0:53:34.960 --> 0:53:36.440 You doing all right? If you could do a couple 0:53:36.480 --> 0:53:39.800 pull ups, you straight. But you compare yourself to a 0:53:39.880 --> 0:53:42.160 nigga that ain't got no neck because you don't work 0:53:42.200 --> 0:53:44.719 this motherfucking body apart. You see what I'm saying. That's 0:53:44.760 --> 0:53:47.640 not even functional strength. That's just strong to be strong. 0:53:48.360 --> 0:53:49.040 You see what I'm saying. 0:53:49.080 --> 0:53:51.960 But I think the thing is is like, yeah, as 0:53:52.000 --> 0:53:54.640 a man, one of my partners telling me this is 0:53:54.719 --> 0:53:57.120 like when we was growing up, and like this has 0:53:57.160 --> 0:54:00.839 been reiterated by men that I respect as a man. 0:54:01.080 --> 0:54:03.720 The only way you're really gonna be comfortable with yourself. 0:54:03.760 --> 0:54:05.520 You accept your dick, You accept your height. 0:54:06.320 --> 0:54:08.920 After that, you good except your dick, except your height. 0:54:09.040 --> 0:54:11.560 How many times have you called your homeboy like, damn, man, 0:54:12.080 --> 0:54:13.800 I shouldn't have fucked this girl last night. It was 0:54:13.880 --> 0:54:14.319 too soon. 0:54:14.840 --> 0:54:17.719 I don't feel good it happened, bro, Because it's the thing. 0:54:17.840 --> 0:54:20.600 You gotta also understand the shame that we live in 0:54:20.760 --> 0:54:25.200 amongst each other, like that the patriarchy shit work both ways, right, 0:54:25.600 --> 0:54:29.000 just like racism harms white people, patriarchal harm men. Because 0:54:30.120 --> 0:54:33.719 this may be a woman that I desire, and now 0:54:33.880 --> 0:54:36.880 I have to categorize her as a freak because I 0:54:36.960 --> 0:54:39.799 gotta protect myself when this could she could really fuck 0:54:39.840 --> 0:54:43.160 with me and we couldn't have like a healthy, long, 0:54:43.239 --> 0:54:44.120 lessing relationship. 0:54:44.360 --> 0:54:46.640 But you don't rush to tell your partners you fucked. 0:54:46.400 --> 0:54:49.160 The first night, right, and now now you fuck your 0:54:49.200 --> 0:54:50.960 the potential ship up. 0:54:51.120 --> 0:54:53.719 But that's where the shame come from. The shame come from, 0:54:53.800 --> 0:54:55.480 Like I don't know what to do with this feeling like. 0:54:56.680 --> 0:54:59.600 I like her, but I didn't. I told I said 0:54:59.640 --> 0:54:59.920 too much. 0:55:00.600 --> 0:55:02.960 Either I said too much or I said something to 0:55:03.160 --> 0:55:04.400 like hide my feelings. 0:55:04.640 --> 0:55:05.920 Okay, but that's the thing too. It's like, well, what 0:55:06.000 --> 0:55:07.120 kind of people are you keeping around you? 0:55:07.160 --> 0:55:10.040 And I think, but that's the thing you talking about niggas. Brother, 0:55:10.200 --> 0:55:12.360 this is me and brother. This is like like I 0:55:12.640 --> 0:55:14.880 hate to be drawn with a wide brush, but that's like, 0:55:15.360 --> 0:55:16.520 this is how niggas act. Man. 0:55:16.880 --> 0:55:19.880 It's not even about what type of people you hanging with. 0:55:20.000 --> 0:55:22.680 It's like what type of men are is society creating? 0:55:22.840 --> 0:55:25.400 There's a lot of there's most most men are under this. 0:55:26.400 --> 0:55:28.440 It's not as mature. And then you gotta think this 0:55:28.480 --> 0:55:34.080 ship start young, bro, so you got you got a nigga. Okay, 0:55:34.160 --> 0:55:37.359 Let's say in a friend group of five, two dudes 0:55:37.440 --> 0:55:39.719 have sex with the same girl. Third dude say he 0:55:39.880 --> 0:55:40.759 have sex with her. 0:55:41.000 --> 0:55:41.520 She's a whore. 0:55:42.200 --> 0:55:46.759 He just said. Everybody's liable to blake because it's alreety two. 0:55:47.080 --> 0:55:50.880 Right now. You gotta fuck this girl and you like her, 0:55:51.920 --> 0:55:56.440 You're a lame you you a tender dickead nigga instead. 0:55:56.160 --> 0:55:59.320 Of it like like her the second time. I know 0:55:59.360 --> 0:55:59.759 what you did. 0:55:59.840 --> 0:56:05.200 But because it also is just a thing where it's like, 0:56:05.280 --> 0:56:07.279 but this is also my friend group too, so I 0:56:07.320 --> 0:56:09.239 dont want to bring no girl around the fuck three 0:56:09.280 --> 0:56:13.040 of the homies because then that's like, that's crazy, you 0:56:13.120 --> 0:56:15.520 know what I'm saying, Like I can't even understand, Like 0:56:15.560 --> 0:56:17.920 I'm not even gonna sit there and say that's okay, Like, man, 0:56:17.960 --> 0:56:20.040 you you got you're gonna have to get rid of 0:56:20.120 --> 0:56:22.160 all your friends, but you gotta choose another girl. 0:56:22.239 --> 0:56:24.120 Bro, are you seeing Teno's down in the bitch that 0:56:24.239 --> 0:56:24.560 you love? 0:56:25.040 --> 0:56:28.279 Yeah, and say yeah if you like, niggas are too 0:56:28.320 --> 0:56:29.720 busy worrying about other nigga. 0:56:29.760 --> 0:56:31.320 You know what niggas do in situation. 0:56:31.400 --> 0:56:33.239 But y'all, y'all don't be around on nigga like that, 0:56:33.360 --> 0:56:35.319 but be like, yeah, man, I remember when I had 0:56:35.400 --> 0:56:38.200 your old later bench though, like that that nigga fuck 0:56:38.239 --> 0:56:40.200 with you like psychologically. 0:56:40.239 --> 0:56:41.320 Yeah, women don't really do that. 0:56:42.320 --> 0:56:45.799 Yeah, but y'all be harbor resentment behind like y'all gotta 0:56:45.840 --> 0:56:48.560 keep y'all. Y'all, y'all won't shame each other, but y'all 0:56:48.560 --> 0:56:51.960 are harbor resentment like she know I really wanted him. Yeah, 0:56:53.960 --> 0:56:56.680 y'all do it's all the same. I think you gotta like, 0:56:56.800 --> 0:57:00.160 you know, like your your significant other can't be the 0:57:00.200 --> 0:57:01.880 crew what it is. 0:57:02.320 --> 0:57:04.200 No, Yeah, that's it can't be crue love. 0:57:04.440 --> 0:57:09.200 Now the nigga. There's some community dick. I you know, 0:57:09.440 --> 0:57:13.160 I prefer some dick to a homegirl. But that's my homie. 0:57:13.719 --> 0:57:15.040 Yeah, the resume. 0:57:15.320 --> 0:57:16.760 Yeah, like here, this is a good referral. He's a 0:57:16.800 --> 0:57:17.160 good one. 0:57:17.320 --> 0:57:19.680 He's a good guy, he's respectful. The dick is dicking here. 0:57:19.760 --> 0:57:21.560 Here's the number I tell you gonna call. I've done 0:57:21.600 --> 0:57:23.600 that because I really don't get I'm being honest, but 0:57:23.680 --> 0:57:25.640 like certain niggas are off off limits. 0:57:25.680 --> 0:57:28.240 But men yeah, yeah, I. 0:57:28.320 --> 0:57:32.360 Mean I just think I think that there's a lot 0:57:32.400 --> 0:57:35.120 of conversations around ship like that where it's just like, 0:57:35.320 --> 0:57:37.560 you know, this is the whole concept Eskimo Bros. 0:57:37.880 --> 0:57:40.240 That that ship. You know, it's like it's like this 0:57:40.560 --> 0:57:41.720 scale of value. 0:57:42.320 --> 0:57:43.040 What do you think about? 0:57:43.240 --> 0:57:46.320 What do you think about the conversation around about value 0:57:47.160 --> 0:57:50.120 around Okay, so we're single mothers, we're not we're not single. 0:57:50.160 --> 0:57:55.400 She's not single anymore. She's a married woman. But it's 0:57:55.400 --> 0:57:58.160 even conversing around Stepdaddy's man. 0:57:59.360 --> 0:58:02.160 Man, funk out there. Man, somebody had to step up 0:58:02.240 --> 0:58:03.640 to take care of your puss. Sad too. 0:58:05.480 --> 0:58:07.240 There's a lot of conversation around. 0:58:08.560 --> 0:58:10.320 I really have step daddy and no daddy. 0:58:10.360 --> 0:58:13.120 Bro, No, no, I feel you. 0:58:13.640 --> 0:58:17.480 But around a woman's value, specifically a mother's value if 0:58:17.560 --> 0:58:20.480 she has more than one child, like if she has 0:58:20.640 --> 0:58:23.520 children with multiple men, so she got she got more 0:58:23.520 --> 0:58:26.160 than one baby daddy, than her value is decreased. 0:58:26.920 --> 0:58:27.680 I mean it's. 0:58:27.600 --> 0:58:30.720 Definitely like after the second baby, that is definitely some 0:58:30.840 --> 0:58:32.200 po puss management going on. 0:58:32.360 --> 0:58:36.120 But I mean somebody will pussy management. I mean, but 0:58:36.200 --> 0:58:37.600 you don't notice in this conversation. 0:58:37.760 --> 0:58:40.880 You know how many times I've talked to older people like, oh, 0:58:40.960 --> 0:58:44.520 my grandma had four baby daddies, six kids the grandma's 0:58:44.600 --> 0:58:45.120 be having. 0:58:45.040 --> 0:58:48.440 Because they wan't. No shame around that because look they do. No. 0:58:48.560 --> 0:58:50.280 But it ain't even about doing what you had to do. 0:58:50.400 --> 0:58:50.520 Bro. 0:58:50.720 --> 0:58:53.680 Niggas ain't as fucking backb on this day trying to 0:58:53.680 --> 0:58:54.520 make they self seen. 0:58:54.840 --> 0:58:58.120 Niggas ain't walking around bright. Look bro, it's the thing. 0:58:58.280 --> 0:59:01.960 It's a mature adult. If I like you and I 0:59:02.040 --> 0:59:04.280 want to be with you, I'm gonna take whatever come 0:59:04.320 --> 0:59:04.520 with you. 0:59:04.840 --> 0:59:05.200 Period. 0:59:05.320 --> 0:59:06.400 It just is what it is. 0:59:06.880 --> 0:59:09.120 Now we don't have this social media shit like we 0:59:09.240 --> 0:59:11.480 had back in the day. Say yeah, man, you know 0:59:11.520 --> 0:59:12.000 what I'm saying. 0:59:12.240 --> 0:59:13.160 I got with Barbara. 0:59:14.240 --> 0:59:16.440 Barbara had three kids when I metal, but shit, I 0:59:16.520 --> 0:59:19.400 had two of my own. Now we're a blended family. 0:59:19.800 --> 0:59:21.920 It is what it is. But shit, as long as 0:59:22.000 --> 0:59:24.000 it was loving that motherfucker, that's the only thing that mattered. 0:59:24.840 --> 0:59:29.560 But now you got you got niggas like for when 0:59:30.840 --> 0:59:34.600 nine times out of ten and nigga like judging you 0:59:34.680 --> 0:59:36.440 on what you got going on in your household. Probably 0:59:36.440 --> 0:59:39.200 ain't gonna puss or got no girl cause niggas don't 0:59:39.320 --> 0:59:41.800 sit I don't know me. I ain't sitting around worried 0:59:41.800 --> 0:59:44.200 about next nigga got going on. Bro, you're happy if 0:59:44.240 --> 0:59:47.320 you're happy, Bro, half at it dog, cause I know 0:59:47.400 --> 0:59:48.320 I'm happy where I'm at. 0:59:48.800 --> 0:59:51.080 So shit, as long as you happy, bro cool? Like, 0:59:51.360 --> 0:59:54.280 who the fuck am I out of judged talking about it? 0:59:54.360 --> 0:59:54.720 Man two? 0:59:54.840 --> 0:59:57.040 Like once you get to a certain add I'm thirty five, Bro, 0:59:57.680 --> 1:00:00.440 you know I on expect nobody to come with no children. 1:00:01.040 --> 1:00:03.480 If you do come with no children, hey man, righteous, 1:00:03.520 --> 1:00:07.280 you know what I'm saying. But but but then too, 1:00:08.760 --> 1:00:10.320 if you come to me with no children, don't be 1:00:10.360 --> 1:00:13.280 coming to me talking about your children either. Like if 1:00:13.280 --> 1:00:15.320 I'm out the game, you know what I'm saying, But 1:00:15.440 --> 1:00:18.920 I think it's like people whatever, it's clever, bro like, 1:00:19.000 --> 1:00:21.120 whatever worked for you, whatever make you happy. I think 1:00:21.200 --> 1:00:23.280 the thing is is like a relationship is between two 1:00:23.800 --> 1:00:27.360 people if you poligamist more. But the thing is is 1:00:27.440 --> 1:00:30.000 like whatever make them two people happy. That's what them 1:00:30.040 --> 1:00:33.320 two people need to do. And ultimately, if you come 1:00:33.360 --> 1:00:35.400 into a relationship with some of it and they got children, 1:00:35.880 --> 1:00:38.000 and you looking out for the best issues of your children, 1:00:38.040 --> 1:00:39.600 you the best option for them. 1:00:40.000 --> 1:00:40.600 You know what I'm saying. 1:00:40.760 --> 1:00:43.000 I think it can be too worried about what other 1:00:43.000 --> 1:00:44.720 people got going on because they ain't got nothing going on. 1:00:46.720 --> 1:00:48.840 Yeah, that's it, because I can't think of the last 1:00:48.880 --> 1:00:49.120 time I. 1:00:49.160 --> 1:00:50.640 Thought about what somebody else had going on. 1:00:51.160 --> 1:00:53.720 Well, I don't know. There's bitches on the internet with going. 1:00:53.520 --> 1:00:58.000 On what the what's the fucking key word there? Internet? 1:00:58.160 --> 1:00:58.520 Internet? 1:00:58.720 --> 1:01:03.200 That ain't real, man, listen, brou I will attest to this. 1:01:03.480 --> 1:01:05.360 I would attested this as a nigga who has been 1:01:05.440 --> 1:01:09.760 separated and been in these streeks. All these bitches that 1:01:09.880 --> 1:01:12.600 hate men, they be fucking man. All these girls that 1:01:12.760 --> 1:01:16.680 be I'm celibate, be fucking all of them. Everybody came 1:01:16.800 --> 1:01:21.440 with the same line, how am I so fucking blessed 1:01:21.640 --> 1:01:24.200 be that I'm the nigga you don't fuck in the 1:01:24.280 --> 1:01:26.640 last three girls before me will celibate two when I 1:01:26.760 --> 1:01:27.600 have fucked all of them. 1:01:27.840 --> 1:01:30.680 It's like we all having sex. Bro, Everybody on the 1:01:30.760 --> 1:01:33.480 internet is a lot they're lying. You did, know what 1:01:33.520 --> 1:01:33.919 I'm saying. 1:01:34.040 --> 1:01:38.120 Be skeptical of anybody and whatever the fuck their persona is. Brother, 1:01:38.240 --> 1:01:40.880 just take people for what they is. Because all they 1:01:41.040 --> 1:01:43.320 like the heat, that it be the heat man woman haters. 1:01:44.040 --> 1:01:47.040 They be pitching, they be catching, they love like they 1:01:47.480 --> 1:01:50.080 be letting women to grave them. That's they kink, you 1:01:50.120 --> 1:01:51.600 know what I'm saying. They got a whole bunch of 1:01:51.640 --> 1:01:54.080 more shit going on. People ain't who they appear to be. 1:01:54.160 --> 1:01:54.280 Bro. 1:01:54.400 --> 1:01:57.160 People just be on that bitch talking because the reality 1:01:57.320 --> 1:01:59.720 is mother figgers want to be accepted. And so they 1:01:59.840 --> 1:02:01.560 go in there and they scattered the internet, and they 1:02:01.640 --> 1:02:04.880 gathered enough information about what general consensus is, and they 1:02:05.040 --> 1:02:07.480 just trying to fit into the general consensus because it's 1:02:07.480 --> 1:02:09.960 a lot more brave to just be on my fucking self. 1:02:09.960 --> 1:02:12.240 And a lot of people ain't like, they ain't courageous, 1:02:12.400 --> 1:02:13.360 They just agreeable. 1:02:13.480 --> 1:02:15.840 They just want to be light, not creative, not courageous, 1:02:15.920 --> 1:02:16.840 and that's boring. 1:02:17.800 --> 1:02:20.440 Yeah, because everybody ain't celibrating. Fucking I don't know what 1:02:20.520 --> 1:02:20.880 we're doing. 1:02:20.960 --> 1:02:22.760 I have a question about the cell of the three 1:02:22.800 --> 1:02:27.000 girls celibate. Since you've come up on this this platform 1:02:27.080 --> 1:02:29.840 and you've obviously gotten super popular in such a short term, 1:02:30.440 --> 1:02:31.880 what has your groupie? 1:02:32.320 --> 1:02:34.120 Should you actually look like? Have bitches been in your 1:02:34.200 --> 1:02:34.600 d ms? 1:02:34.640 --> 1:02:36.040 What? Like? Do you what is that? 1:02:36.320 --> 1:02:38.920 How is that? And how do you communicate that with 1:02:39.000 --> 1:02:39.360 your wife? 1:02:39.960 --> 1:02:45.440 I mean so full disclosure. Were separated up until recently, so. 1:02:45.600 --> 1:02:49.760 Oh congratulations, Yeah, you know we're working it out. Are 1:02:49.760 --> 1:02:50.480 you guys in therapy? 1:02:51.840 --> 1:02:51.880 No? 1:02:52.480 --> 1:02:54.040 But would you be open to that? 1:02:54.360 --> 1:02:56.960 Yeah, we talked about it. I've been in therapy and 1:02:57.080 --> 1:03:00.360 she been in therapy separately. I think that's what helped. Also, 1:03:00.520 --> 1:03:03.479 you know, it's not like an easy thing to transition back. 1:03:04.280 --> 1:03:05.880 So we still because it's like, well, what you've been 1:03:05.920 --> 1:03:06.760 doing for the last. 1:03:06.640 --> 1:03:08.880 Year, we're still working, I mean, and all that stuff 1:03:08.960 --> 1:03:10.880 has that's been the that's been the toughest thing. 1:03:11.400 --> 1:03:15.400 It's like not even that, just everything gotta come out. 1:03:15.480 --> 1:03:17.200 You've been together for a long time now, you haven't 1:03:17.200 --> 1:03:18.680 been together so what have you done in that period 1:03:18.760 --> 1:03:20.200 we haven't been together and been able to be like, oh, 1:03:20.280 --> 1:03:22.080 this is my friend. Let me just take the take 1:03:22.120 --> 1:03:24.280 it as a like a regular bitch listening to him. 1:03:24.320 --> 1:03:25.600 But he's what he's been going. 1:03:25.440 --> 1:03:28.200 Through or he's you know, the feelings is welcome. Man. 1:03:28.320 --> 1:03:30.560 You know what I'm saying, I'm not like some fucking 1:03:30.600 --> 1:03:32.600 iron man. I get jealous and ship to. 1:03:33.120 --> 1:03:34.560 I mean, you don't want to hear that ship, but 1:03:34.600 --> 1:03:38.200 it's better than no, than nothing, but also to like 1:03:38.280 --> 1:03:39.960 if you want to work on repair and you want 1:03:40.000 --> 1:03:42.520 to be transparent and build trust again, and you know 1:03:42.640 --> 1:03:45.800 that ship comes with just being radically honest. 1:03:46.360 --> 1:03:48.400 You know what I'm saying. I think that that's the 1:03:48.480 --> 1:03:49.880 thing that I've been a failure. 1:03:49.640 --> 1:03:52.440 In the past, just trying to finesse and ship like that, 1:03:52.680 --> 1:03:54.800 Like I'm you know what I'm saying, so and the 1:03:54.920 --> 1:03:57.240 interest in not trying to be that same nigga, You 1:03:57.360 --> 1:03:58.360 just got to be honest about it. 1:03:59.560 --> 1:04:04.080 To get comfortable have a really strong relationship with uncomfortable. 1:04:04.320 --> 1:04:07.120 Had your patriarchy come up in those moments where you're like, damn, 1:04:07.160 --> 1:04:09.000 I know I've been fucking pictures, but now she's telling 1:04:09.040 --> 1:04:11.120 me and now I'm like, I. 1:04:11.120 --> 1:04:13.240 Ain't gonna hold you. I ain't never really been that nigga. 1:04:14.160 --> 1:04:18.800 It just never bothered me most to just being in 1:04:18.840 --> 1:04:20.120 the street. You see so much ship. 1:04:20.160 --> 1:04:23.360 It's just like who am so you know women are? 1:04:24.160 --> 1:04:26.400 I mean, yeah, like I didn't sat in the trap 1:04:26.440 --> 1:04:29.520 with a girl. She ship. We had two rooms or 1:04:29.600 --> 1:04:31.600 some dupe. One room, she was something place in the other. 1:04:31.720 --> 1:04:32.280 This my dog. 1:04:33.040 --> 1:04:35.440 You know what I'm saying. She's a good person. I 1:04:35.480 --> 1:04:37.520 don't really look it up for how she get her money. 1:04:37.600 --> 1:04:39.560 But you know what I'm saying, it's just be like 1:04:40.080 --> 1:04:42.400 I mean, I'm not doing right either. 1:04:44.440 --> 1:04:46.200 You know what I'm saying. I think it really comes 1:04:46.240 --> 1:04:47.360 down to harming. 1:04:49.080 --> 1:04:50.320 You don't agree. 1:04:53.640 --> 1:04:56.560 Happy I'm taking nigga out the game and this motherfucker 1:04:56.640 --> 1:04:57.720 like I'm taking out the game. 1:04:57.840 --> 1:05:00.280 It's actually humanitarian, actually. 1:05:00.120 --> 1:05:05.320 Doing the community service community, you know what I'm saying. 1:05:05.920 --> 1:05:09.280 Balance, But I never I think also it's just like 1:05:10.720 --> 1:05:13.040 it's just an understanding thing like I've never been like 1:05:13.120 --> 1:05:15.240 this person that just I can't just hold like deep 1:05:15.280 --> 1:05:16.120 grudges with people. 1:05:16.200 --> 1:05:16.560 I can't. 1:05:17.000 --> 1:05:18.680 I never really felt like I know, I got my 1:05:18.760 --> 1:05:21.959 own fun ship and I judged myself before I'm judging 1:05:21.960 --> 1:05:24.480 anybody else. So I never really been on that, like 1:05:24.920 --> 1:05:27.360 I know what's funy and for me, you know what 1:05:27.360 --> 1:05:30.560 I'm saying, Like I know, like for a perfect example, 1:05:30.640 --> 1:05:33.640 like man, we're having this conversation and she was like like, 1:05:33.760 --> 1:05:35.959 they was like, could you have a date a girl 1:05:36.200 --> 1:05:37.880 who had a tinn on? 1:05:38.480 --> 1:05:41.160 I was like that, ain't me a threesome? Yeah? 1:05:41.160 --> 1:05:45.440 I'm like no, train, yeah, baby girl. 1:05:46.720 --> 1:05:49.640 Had derogatory term train whatever. You know what I'm saying, 1:05:49.680 --> 1:05:52.240 two girls, two guys, one girl. And they asked me 1:05:52.280 --> 1:05:54.080 and I was like, yeah, but that's like I know, 1:05:54.280 --> 1:05:57.160 I can't fuck with that, Like that's me. It ain't judgment. 1:05:57.600 --> 1:05:58.560 I still fuck with you. 1:05:58.680 --> 1:06:00.560 So if your wife was like one of my my 1:06:00.880 --> 1:06:02.840 one of my fantasies, one of my top fantasy that 1:06:02.960 --> 1:06:04.920 just realized is like I really would like to have 1:06:05.040 --> 1:06:06.920 sex with two guys at the same time. Have you 1:06:06.960 --> 1:06:09.680 had a threesome? Yeah, so you could understand what that 1:06:09.720 --> 1:06:09.960 could be. 1:06:10.000 --> 1:06:13.480 It understand that we're gonna stick that fucking dial on 1:06:13.520 --> 1:06:13.840 the wall. 1:06:14.640 --> 1:06:16.440 That's a good idea. I did that. I did that 1:06:16.520 --> 1:06:16.800 to him. 1:06:17.680 --> 1:06:22.760 I mean, we fulfilled the fantasy, but you're not gonna 1:06:22.760 --> 1:06:24.360 come in here. He's not going to come in here 1:06:24.440 --> 1:06:28.160 for my wife. Man. Look, man, you know what I'm saying. 1:06:28.240 --> 1:06:28.959 We all got lined. 1:06:29.000 --> 1:06:30.400 But what if she came out and said she already 1:06:30.400 --> 1:06:31.720 had done it before and she'd been keeping it from you. 1:06:31.760 --> 1:06:32.600 We're gonna love her less. 1:06:32.600 --> 1:06:40.200 You're gonna exactly this ain't no person. I just I know. 1:06:40.440 --> 1:06:44.000 But but that just that knowing shift something it becomes. 1:06:44.040 --> 1:06:45.400 It opens you up to more love. Because I think 1:06:45.440 --> 1:06:47.760 that that's the problem. It's like we don't we don't really, 1:06:49.800 --> 1:06:51.480 but you know what, women a lot of times it 1:06:51.560 --> 1:06:54.400 is a safety thing. Women have real desires because we're 1:06:54.720 --> 1:06:55.040 a lot of. 1:06:55.080 --> 1:06:57.880 Girls had them desires. Man, that's some sexual ship. Brouh. 1:06:58.440 --> 1:07:01.240 You did what I'm saying, Like our sexual people niggas 1:07:01.280 --> 1:07:02.160 want to girls. 1:07:02.160 --> 1:07:03.440 Two holes for a reason. Guys. 1:07:04.760 --> 1:07:07.320 Man, as someone who like I said, it's like, it's 1:07:07.840 --> 1:07:10.520 I think, like I said, it's not the. 1:07:12.040 --> 1:07:13.400 I mean I told you. 1:07:14.840 --> 1:07:17.000 I was like, I literally was in the moment. I 1:07:17.080 --> 1:07:18.640 was like, this is why they tell you not to 1:07:18.760 --> 1:07:20.880 do this. I was like, this is why I felt like. 1:07:23.160 --> 1:07:25.280 I mean, I think, I mean, if you could imagine 1:07:25.280 --> 1:07:27.920 on the other in the spectrum, it's like I can 1:07:28.000 --> 1:07:28.720 imagine that this. 1:07:28.920 --> 1:07:32.360 Is like the max you max you mixed pleasure. 1:07:32.760 --> 1:07:35.600 Yeah, because I haven't been being roll and even at 1:07:35.600 --> 1:07:37.400 the same time, like this is in the moment, I'm like, 1:07:37.520 --> 1:07:38.960 but I am the nigga. 1:07:38.680 --> 1:07:38.760 But. 1:07:40.480 --> 1:07:43.480 You feel like your superpowers and so I can understand. 1:07:43.520 --> 1:07:45.320 On the other end, it's not to judge. It's just 1:07:45.440 --> 1:07:48.560 like I think the thing is what is porn though, 1:07:48.960 --> 1:07:54.600 because the visual. It's the visual. It's the visual because. 1:07:54.400 --> 1:07:55.520 Of like how porn is. 1:07:55.640 --> 1:07:57.760 It's like rape in nature. 1:07:57.920 --> 1:08:00.480 Yeah, they like that. They like the like wording his. 1:08:00.560 --> 1:08:03.160 Bitch like yeah, yeah, but but there's a whole if 1:08:03.200 --> 1:08:05.800 you reprogram your mind and mind shift and imagine it 1:08:05.880 --> 1:08:09.280 in a different perspective where your queen is being nurtured 1:08:09.520 --> 1:08:11.840 and taken care of and she's actually controlling. 1:08:12.160 --> 1:08:14.160 Yeah, that's not how that ship is, you know. But 1:08:16.280 --> 1:08:17.759 they need to make some port where. 1:08:17.600 --> 1:08:20.240 The men don't want to see ethical point where women 1:08:20.280 --> 1:08:21.680 are getting their goddess. 1:08:21.439 --> 1:08:23.600 Unlocked to see that man, what's going on? 1:08:24.280 --> 1:08:24.479 You know? 1:08:25.200 --> 1:08:28.400 But also for women there's a there's a there's a 1:08:28.640 --> 1:08:31.160 like an underlying tonight, you're gonna go work up. 1:08:31.320 --> 1:08:42.519 God has worshiped PORNMS safe. It's so funny, sensual and 1:08:43.000 --> 1:08:44.320 sexual sensual. 1:08:49.360 --> 1:08:51.679 No, but it's like too many dicks. 1:08:53.479 --> 1:08:53.960 But that's. 1:08:57.240 --> 1:08:58.720 Why are you about this? Just worry about this. 1:08:58.800 --> 1:09:01.599 Pussy got some of that inemy, though I ain't scared 1:09:01.640 --> 1:09:04.800 to admit that I'd be fucking with the solo. I 1:09:04.960 --> 1:09:08.040 like one because you know, I read this book and 1:09:08.160 --> 1:09:12.479 they was talking about how it really fucked me up, 1:09:12.520 --> 1:09:15.840 like my relationship with porn, and not in a bad way, 1:09:15.880 --> 1:09:18.800 in a positive way, like it's called a billion wicked thoughts. 1:09:19.080 --> 1:09:22.280 And they talk about how like since this is someone's 1:09:22.360 --> 1:09:25.960 professional and how they're making money, then this is a performance, 1:09:26.040 --> 1:09:26.679 you know what I'm saying. 1:09:26.760 --> 1:09:28.040 So this is not sex. 1:09:28.240 --> 1:09:31.080 This is the performance of sex. This is like the 1:09:31.360 --> 1:09:33.080 it's like entertainment of pleasure. 1:09:33.400 --> 1:09:34.120 It's not real. 1:09:35.000 --> 1:09:38.720 So when when the when the pleasure is real, there's 1:09:38.800 --> 1:09:41.720 like a visceral like we got like and then Nate 1:09:41.880 --> 1:09:44.200 knowing of like knowing when the pleasure is real versus 1:09:44.240 --> 1:09:46.160 when it's faith and that's why I like nigga don't 1:09:46.200 --> 1:09:51.479 like it like girl yeah yeah yeah. So so then 1:09:52.600 --> 1:09:57.000 they was comparing it to like amateur, like watching amateur 1:09:57.080 --> 1:10:01.920 porn solo amateur when girls ex just pleasuring themselves and 1:10:02.080 --> 1:10:04.160 like how the response is different because it's like you 1:10:04.320 --> 1:10:07.080 know that, yeah, they ain't faking the funk. 1:10:07.560 --> 1:10:10.439 I was like, oh, this is my bad now. I 1:10:10.479 --> 1:10:11.080 don't need no. 1:10:11.160 --> 1:10:14.120 Nigga in being wrong in her little twist. It's a 1:10:14.200 --> 1:10:16.560 real thing right here. She's really doing this ship. But 1:10:16.720 --> 1:10:19.040 I think, you know, all the other ship it's like 1:10:19.800 --> 1:10:21.600 so aggressive, like nigga. 1:10:21.400 --> 1:10:24.400 Be Yeah, I think it's about domination, about power. 1:10:24.560 --> 1:10:26.479 Yeah, and that's how like when we young men, like 1:10:26.600 --> 1:10:30.320 it's like just the verbage around it, beat the police 1:10:30.479 --> 1:10:33.920 up and I'm gonna kill all this cracking, all the 1:10:34.040 --> 1:10:35.360 like verbage around. 1:10:35.280 --> 1:10:37.519 Fucking is like it takes nothing. 1:10:37.680 --> 1:10:41.600 It's nothing about love. Connection about this is. 1:10:41.720 --> 1:10:44.840 Like like nineties like rap music and I'm not rap music, 1:10:44.920 --> 1:10:45.760 but like R and. 1:10:45.800 --> 1:10:49.519 B music, She's like love, I love you, you know, 1:10:49.960 --> 1:10:52.280 and ship like that, this nigga with the Nigga Joe 1:10:52.400 --> 1:10:57.080 Joe shot of niggas make your body scream with my 1:10:57.280 --> 1:11:02.599 sex machine. I said, god damn, but yeah that ship. 1:11:02.840 --> 1:11:07.599 But now saying all that a thousand candles that I've heard. 1:11:07.479 --> 1:11:09.639 So many rap music like I'm fucking pussy, but I't 1:11:09.640 --> 1:11:11.080 eating no pussy. I'm like, what are you gay? You 1:11:11.120 --> 1:11:12.000 don't eat any pussy? 1:11:12.080 --> 1:11:12.240 Like what? 1:11:12.479 --> 1:11:13.080 This is not good? 1:11:13.120 --> 1:11:15.400 This is not fun for me in the club. And 1:11:15.400 --> 1:11:17.080 I'm like, what did he say? Did he say what? 1:11:18.560 --> 1:11:20.639 That's like some prostitution, that's. 1:11:20.479 --> 1:11:22.600 Something like I like pussy. I don't like women. She 1:11:22.680 --> 1:11:24.360 had a blow up off exactly. 1:11:25.760 --> 1:11:27.800 But I'm not saying no, no, I know, I know 1:11:27.840 --> 1:11:30.000 what you're saying, because it's like that is nigga mentality. 1:11:30.200 --> 1:11:33.280 But I think the music that becomes so fucking vulgar 1:11:33.800 --> 1:11:35.720 that there is no sensuality to it. 1:11:36.120 --> 1:11:39.560 Yes, and I would say that even even in the 1:11:39.640 --> 1:11:44.599 female space, there's not a lot of sensual rap bitches 1:11:45.240 --> 1:11:47.800 but I can think of. But but I think that's 1:11:47.920 --> 1:11:50.280 also a part of the programming, Like that that is 1:11:50.320 --> 1:11:53.760 a part of like the the the agenda of separating 1:11:53.880 --> 1:11:56.960 us and making us separate and like taking away the 1:11:57.080 --> 1:11:57.880 connection between. 1:11:57.960 --> 1:11:59.720 Like it's just like taking the black man out of 1:11:59.760 --> 1:12:00.160 the hall home. 1:12:00.240 --> 1:12:02.400 And like when you can when you can make something 1:12:02.720 --> 1:12:06.200 like it's in nature loving, make it violent, then you 1:12:06.280 --> 1:12:07.280 can disconnect the cab. 1:12:07.360 --> 1:12:10.120 Yeah, because like if you really being real life, if 1:12:10.439 --> 1:12:13.280 y'all partner and y'all having sex, like it ain't rap 1:12:13.360 --> 1:12:14.240 shit no. 1:12:14.439 --> 1:12:16.439 It's hopefully not beautiful. 1:12:16.560 --> 1:12:19.080 But also for women, there is a level of safety 1:12:19.360 --> 1:12:21.200 that we have to feel like I want to feel 1:12:21.280 --> 1:12:23.000 like a human. I want to feel like we're best friends. 1:12:23.000 --> 1:12:24.519 I want to feel like if I tell you my fantasy, 1:12:24.680 --> 1:12:26.720 there's not a there's not a possibility that after two 1:12:26.800 --> 1:12:28.840 years of being together, you're going to say, never mind, bitch, 1:12:28.880 --> 1:12:30.800 you done got ran through because I told you about 1:12:30.800 --> 1:12:33.120 this fantasy I had because I like dick, because I'm 1:12:33.120 --> 1:12:35.559 a heterosexual woman. And now like if you'r a homeboy, 1:12:35.640 --> 1:12:37.280 told you, oh, you're dapping him up. But with me, 1:12:37.880 --> 1:12:40.120 they're like women rarely get to be show up in 1:12:40.160 --> 1:12:44.280 their relationships completely one hundred percent raw and human, because 1:12:44.360 --> 1:12:46.800 there's a level of a veil we have to keep 1:12:46.960 --> 1:12:49.720 to keep this illusion that I'm not sexual, even though 1:12:49.720 --> 1:12:50.840 obviously I give birth to. 1:12:50.920 --> 1:12:53.960 Babies, like my whole thing. Like that, there's this there's 1:12:54.000 --> 1:12:56.800 a level of you want a bitch to be your wife, 1:12:56.840 --> 1:12:58.639 but you don't really want to know her all the way. 1:12:58.960 --> 1:13:00.639 That's what I'm saying some people. 1:13:00.880 --> 1:13:03.800 I think a lot of it goes back to what 1:13:03.880 --> 1:13:06.519 I was saying earlier, like even with the girls, like 1:13:06.600 --> 1:13:08.920 when they would come off. It's like celibate. It's just 1:13:09.040 --> 1:13:14.120 like a protection of their own sexuality. It's like I abstained. 1:13:15.200 --> 1:13:15.639 Illusion. 1:13:15.920 --> 1:13:18.760 It's also yeah, it's it's fear based, shame based, but 1:13:18.840 --> 1:13:22.200 also like I know that I've maybe so before just 1:13:22.280 --> 1:13:25.080 that you know there is not a chance in which 1:13:25.240 --> 1:13:27.240 I'm going to fuck you, you know what I'm saying, 1:13:28.680 --> 1:13:30.080 or that I mean it sounds. 1:13:29.840 --> 1:13:31.960 Like maybe it wanted to be some little game ship 1:13:32.160 --> 1:13:34.120 like you know, I want you to feel special, but 1:13:34.200 --> 1:13:34.920 also don't lie. 1:13:34.960 --> 1:13:39.639 I've never said I was celibate when I wasn't that yeah, period, 1:13:39.680 --> 1:13:41.120 which is basically my period. 1:13:42.000 --> 1:13:45.000 You right now, it's like that's that's like celibacy. 1:13:48.080 --> 1:13:51.080 That's I think I'm like when I've lied because period, 1:13:52.200 --> 1:13:53.520 I don't want to be an expectations. 1:13:53.640 --> 1:13:55.479 I think another thing is too and I don't have 1:13:55.680 --> 1:13:58.160 these like I don't know, I don't know you know 1:13:58.200 --> 1:13:59.720 what I'm saying, And this ain't got nothing to do 1:13:59.840 --> 1:14:02.000 it even my studies in life now it's just been 1:14:02.080 --> 1:14:05.280 my truth. Like you know, me and my wife, we've 1:14:05.360 --> 1:14:07.880 gone like since you be together with somebody for so long, 1:14:08.160 --> 1:14:10.519 you go through like a few times of like separation, 1:14:11.080 --> 1:14:11.599 you're growing. 1:14:11.680 --> 1:14:13.439 You want to explore you want to do all the shit. 1:14:13.479 --> 1:14:15.040 You know what I'm saying, it's a mutual thing. 1:14:16.439 --> 1:14:19.760 But I just think, like I ain't never had these 1:14:19.840 --> 1:14:22.960 situations where it just felt like I need to just 1:14:23.040 --> 1:14:25.759 put it on so sexually for it. It's just seemed 1:14:25.800 --> 1:14:27.600 to be mutual, right, you know what I mean? And 1:14:27.680 --> 1:14:29.840 then like you know, you know, as you talk to 1:14:29.880 --> 1:14:31.800 people in a listening and it does seem to be 1:14:32.320 --> 1:14:35.160 a severe minority, like niggas is not clear out here, 1:14:35.240 --> 1:14:38.600 so they do be having a goddamn finishing finagle or 1:14:38.680 --> 1:14:41.080 like try to talk their way into sex or be 1:14:41.240 --> 1:14:44.200 so sexually overt. But like to me, even when I 1:14:44.320 --> 1:14:47.800 was growing up, we hanging out with some girls and 1:14:47.920 --> 1:14:51.599 like you're trying to advance the sex situation so fast. 1:14:51.640 --> 1:14:54.120 It's like, right, that's how you get that you don't 1:14:54.120 --> 1:14:54.719 get the pussy. 1:14:55.400 --> 1:14:59.000 Yeah, yeah, it's just like but see that's never I 1:14:59.040 --> 1:14:59.719 don't know that's. 1:14:59.800 --> 1:15:03.120 It's true, because it's saying like it's like especially young. 1:15:03.160 --> 1:15:04.400 Women, not always true. 1:15:04.800 --> 1:15:07.720 Lot of women will feel pressured do it, and. 1:15:07.800 --> 1:15:10.360 I think Nigga be knowing that, and then like when 1:15:10.640 --> 1:15:13.160 they try to do they try to like they try 1:15:13.200 --> 1:15:14.880 to put the sex out there so you know, like, 1:15:15.000 --> 1:15:15.799 this is the expectation. 1:15:16.000 --> 1:15:18.800 This the expectation, and it's like but for me, it's 1:15:18.840 --> 1:15:21.479 always like, let that. 1:15:21.479 --> 1:15:25.200 Ship come to you that they got a fucking finesse 1:15:25.240 --> 1:15:25.519 out of. 1:15:25.640 --> 1:15:29.519 Like I'm gonna keep even you know, sometimes you don't 1:15:29.520 --> 1:15:31.160 want to do this and she'll be like, man, just 1:15:31.240 --> 1:15:36.320 come on, I be like, man straight, because you know, 1:15:36.479 --> 1:15:38.200 I want it to be a mutual thing. That been 1:15:38.280 --> 1:15:43.000 me my whole life. I need that ship to feel reciprocal, essensual, 1:15:43.040 --> 1:15:45.200 and mutual. You know what I'm saying. The second you 1:15:45.240 --> 1:15:47.120 make me feel like I'm doing a little too much chasing, 1:15:47.720 --> 1:15:49.280 are you doing your favorite I'm turned off? 1:15:49.479 --> 1:15:51.280 But why is it not the standard? 1:15:51.840 --> 1:15:52.280 I don't know. 1:15:54.200 --> 1:15:57.800 Me feel like it's the entitlement, it's the power, and 1:15:57.880 --> 1:16:00.519 it's the lack of disciplining your dick. You don't have 1:16:00.600 --> 1:16:02.559 control over your dick. You think the moment your dick 1:16:02.600 --> 1:16:03.800 gets hard, it's time to fuck. 1:16:04.000 --> 1:16:06.000 But it's also the lack of intimacy. You don't even 1:16:06.080 --> 1:16:08.200 know how to lay in the space of intimacy. You 1:16:08.240 --> 1:16:10.599 don't know how to I do think men just also 1:16:10.880 --> 1:16:12.040 don't have control of their dick. 1:16:12.680 --> 1:16:17.719 Literally urges, It urges that they just automatically think deserve 1:16:17.880 --> 1:16:19.160 to be expressed. 1:16:19.439 --> 1:16:22.120 You know, you do need to be I've been gifts 1:16:22.160 --> 1:16:25.040 here of that too, Like instead of like sitting in 1:16:25.080 --> 1:16:26.439 the intimacy, yeah. 1:16:29.920 --> 1:16:32.320 Tuned up, that's slimmer than. 1:16:34.479 --> 1:16:34.679 Yeah. 1:16:35.439 --> 1:16:39.000 Yeah, yeah, we don't get to that. We're gonna get 1:16:39.040 --> 1:16:42.080 to the destination either way. Let's see will expose you though. 1:16:42.080 --> 1:16:43.240 That's why I was just like, let's get up. We 1:16:43.280 --> 1:16:46.000 don't need nothing looking at somebody's eyes. And people get 1:16:46.080 --> 1:16:50.280 uncomfortable because they're a lack of intimacy well you know. 1:16:50.560 --> 1:16:53.479 And like, you know, it's like anything else. It's like 1:16:53.600 --> 1:16:56.720 when the first time you have six that losing your 1:16:56.800 --> 1:16:57.879 virginity is vulnerable. 1:16:57.920 --> 1:16:59.599 It's the first time, you know what I'm saying. 1:16:59.680 --> 1:17:02.400 So like, if you have an experienced true intimacy, it 1:17:02.400 --> 1:17:04.040 could feel like you're doing something for the first time. 1:17:04.360 --> 1:17:07.439 You don't want to feel an experience. You don't want 1:17:07.439 --> 1:17:10.240 to feel that vulnerable with somebody, even though in my experience, 1:17:10.360 --> 1:17:12.479 like you know, a girl really fuck with you, she 1:17:12.560 --> 1:17:15.400 gonna walk through that motherfucker just is what it is 1:17:15.400 --> 1:17:16.720 because she can enjoy herself too. 1:17:17.240 --> 1:17:20.479 But you know, sometimes it's just hard to sit in 1:17:20.600 --> 1:17:21.320 that space. 1:17:21.400 --> 1:17:25.720 Of like being inexperience, not knowing, uncomfortable, where it's like 1:17:25.760 --> 1:17:27.840 this is supposed to be about pleasure, but. 1:17:28.520 --> 1:17:29.559 It's like ship. 1:17:29.640 --> 1:17:31.720 The way they're like Matt simize on your pleasure is 1:17:31.760 --> 1:17:33.439 to get through the moments where you don't know what 1:17:33.520 --> 1:17:35.599 the fuck you're doing, right, you know what I'm saying. 1:17:36.439 --> 1:17:37.160 This is my thought. 1:17:37.520 --> 1:17:40.240 Also, I think I think that men don't really care 1:17:40.280 --> 1:17:42.360 about women's intimacy. So if you don't really care about 1:17:42.360 --> 1:17:44.519 her intimacy, it's about you. They don't really give a 1:17:44.560 --> 1:17:46.599 fuck of how she feels, true, you know what I mean? 1:17:46.720 --> 1:17:50.120 Like men or not here making the young lady come man, 1:17:50.520 --> 1:17:53.040 it's true, just slow down. 1:17:53.360 --> 1:17:55.439 It would all be having better sex if we all 1:17:55.560 --> 1:17:59.160 just cared about each other a little bit more respect Yeah, 1:18:00.400 --> 1:18:03.439 like respecting each other in our wholeness from whatever being 1:18:03.520 --> 1:18:06.320 a hole in the next room to fucking not being 1:18:06.360 --> 1:18:08.200 a hole in the next room. Like just respecting what 1:18:08.280 --> 1:18:10.240 a woman and what a man too like is in 1:18:10.320 --> 1:18:13.680 their wholeness and not saying, well, now you're disposable and 1:18:13.800 --> 1:18:15.240 now you're flash it too. 1:18:15.280 --> 1:18:18.680 Though, if we was just sorry to cut, if we 1:18:18.880 --> 1:18:21.439 was like if we if we just hear, if we 1:18:21.520 --> 1:18:23.799 were just human sexually across the board. 1:18:24.000 --> 1:18:25.640 Where it's like wherever was like. 1:18:25.840 --> 1:18:26.599 Let's just get naked. 1:18:26.720 --> 1:18:29.400 Yeah, I don't everybody just need to get be like yeah, I. 1:18:29.360 --> 1:18:35.200 Don your your slept from slut Island. 1:18:36.000 --> 1:18:38.120 But you know, niggas to take that round like yeah 1:18:38.120 --> 1:18:44.519 I am a whore and the woman be like it's 1:18:44.560 --> 1:18:46.880 that scarlet lettership like it's like yeah. 1:18:48.720 --> 1:18:48.920 Yeah. 1:18:48.920 --> 1:18:51.000 But I think more women need to show up in 1:18:51.040 --> 1:18:53.320 their wholeness and show up in their honesty and trust. 1:18:54.040 --> 1:18:55.719 I think the women are so fearful that men. 1:18:55.640 --> 1:18:57.960 Are not going to love them and be with them 1:18:58.000 --> 1:19:00.360 and marry them, that they lie so that they can 1:19:00.439 --> 1:19:02.720 get that title or you know, feel worthy in that way. 1:19:02.800 --> 1:19:04.920 But I feel like if more women showed up as 1:19:04.960 --> 1:19:06.600 themselves and showed up full and be like if you 1:19:06.640 --> 1:19:07.200 can't handle it. 1:19:09.600 --> 1:19:11.720 We have to set the tone because we give us 1:19:11.880 --> 1:19:14.840 the pussy. You know what I'm saying with that movie, 1:19:17.320 --> 1:19:18.719 We have to rescind our pussy. 1:19:18.800 --> 1:19:21.320 We have to take our pussies back, bitches, because really 1:19:21.360 --> 1:19:23.120 we do control this ship. So if we get our 1:19:23.160 --> 1:19:24.920 ship together, then they'll have to get there. 1:19:25.200 --> 1:19:27.800 It's just about to get it's just about trusting the 1:19:27.880 --> 1:19:30.679 fact that there are real, real niggas out there that guns. 1:19:32.040 --> 1:19:34.400 We need to get guns because they would make it. 1:19:36.880 --> 1:19:38.800 I was saying, I think when I just said some 1:19:38.920 --> 1:19:40.240 bullshit because. 1:19:42.439 --> 1:19:46.200 I was like, are you proud? 1:19:47.560 --> 1:19:47.720 Real? 1:19:52.120 --> 1:19:53.760 But women did to get like that a nigga calls 1:19:53.800 --> 1:19:58.160 your horn, Okay, I'm desirable, Yeah, well whatever, they like 1:19:58.280 --> 1:20:03.400 me like everybody you know, like I wanted to. So 1:20:03.600 --> 1:20:06.360 I'm having experiences and maybe you're not having more. Women 1:20:06.439 --> 1:20:09.519 need to feel comfortable in men not accepting them and 1:20:09.720 --> 1:20:11.360 just to be comfortable and like you're not my. 1:20:11.479 --> 1:20:13.519 Nigga and that's why and that's good. 1:20:14.240 --> 1:20:17.160 Like I like, even as having a podcast talking about sex, 1:20:17.360 --> 1:20:19.680 there was a time where like we're fucking it for chances, right, 1:20:19.720 --> 1:20:22.360 we're never gonna get want to listen to the episode 1:20:23.360 --> 1:20:26.439 all the time because of real because real niggas recognize 1:20:26.439 --> 1:20:27.000 real niggas. 1:20:27.439 --> 1:20:28.760 You want me to lie, and you want me to 1:20:28.880 --> 1:20:30.880 lie and pretend nigga, I'm not the nigga for you. 1:20:31.320 --> 1:20:35.040 And then you know some some people is just sexually experienced, bro, 1:20:35.120 --> 1:20:37.000 and it's like I don't want to fuck with nobody 1:20:37.200 --> 1:20:40.760 is like green to fucking like I want somebody to 1:20:40.880 --> 1:20:41.639 sexually experience. 1:20:41.680 --> 1:20:43.519 So we can have some fast, have some fun. 1:20:43.560 --> 1:20:45.120 I'm not trying to teach you everything you. 1:20:47.800 --> 1:20:50.160 Like or just like have to pull back from the 1:20:50.200 --> 1:20:52.439 freaky ship, right, I might be honest and super super 1:20:52.479 --> 1:20:53.360 freaky ship and you. 1:20:53.360 --> 1:20:56.800 Can't handle it and that's scary for you. Well yeah, 1:20:56.840 --> 1:21:01.759 because you are ready. Yeah, and you know, man, embrace 1:21:01.840 --> 1:21:02.799 the hor find. 1:21:02.640 --> 1:21:06.160 Your match, you know, sexually, spiritually, all of the things. 1:21:06.280 --> 1:21:06.439 You know. 1:21:07.600 --> 1:21:12.080 But oh wow, we never finished playing trigger. 1:21:12.680 --> 1:21:15.920 Yeah, you can finish, and then we can because I 1:21:15.960 --> 1:21:18.040 could tell, I can see that, I can feel that. 1:21:18.240 --> 1:21:18.800 It's a wrap. 1:21:19.640 --> 1:21:22.760 No, We're we can talk forever. We only got to 1:21:22.760 --> 1:21:27.200 the first fucking one. Okay, religion, Okay, Oh no, we 1:21:27.240 --> 1:21:31.040 did get We got through a few. Okay, mushrooms. 1:21:33.320 --> 1:21:34.120 When necessary. 1:21:34.680 --> 1:21:34.880 Yeah. 1:21:36.520 --> 1:21:43.479 White women mm hmm not not my cup of tea black, dangerous, dangerous. 1:21:43.840 --> 1:21:44.840 Have you ever been with the white woman? 1:21:45.479 --> 1:21:47.479 I don't. I don't have sex or some white women, 1:21:47.560 --> 1:21:49.759 but very few. Not my vibe. 1:21:50.800 --> 1:21:56.439 What was what was off smell interesting is not matching 1:21:56.680 --> 1:21:57.320 the pheromount. 1:21:57.479 --> 1:21:58.080 That's what it is. 1:21:58.200 --> 1:22:05.360 Not to say that, like, you know, yeah, just the 1:22:05.479 --> 1:22:08.320 whole Like, I gotta talk to you. I don't know 1:22:08.360 --> 1:22:12.519 what to talk to white people. About white were. 1:22:12.320 --> 1:22:13.120 Acting like, oh. 1:22:17.200 --> 1:22:22.559 What not say that happy that you're okay? 1:22:23.520 --> 1:22:24.840 Yeah, bro, I can't deal. 1:22:26.120 --> 1:22:27.040 What's your favorite food? 1:22:27.479 --> 1:22:31.519 Oh black women, Oh black women amazing love that ten 1:22:31.560 --> 1:22:33.360 out of ten would recommend. 1:22:34.840 --> 1:22:35.400 Favorite food. 1:22:38.160 --> 1:22:39.200 I like Indian food. 1:22:39.439 --> 1:22:43.720 Really you love Indian food. Guilty pleasure mm hmm. 1:22:46.080 --> 1:22:49.439 Rick and Morty just a vibe just like being lazy 1:22:49.479 --> 1:22:53.559 as fuck, you know what I'm saying, like laying up 1:22:53.840 --> 1:22:55.360 not doing ship watching. 1:22:55.439 --> 1:22:58.120 Rick and Morty favorite sex position. 1:23:02.320 --> 1:23:07.200 Either I got to like the standard missionary or just 1:23:07.320 --> 1:23:10.760 being a road like a real nice give me and 1:23:10.840 --> 1:23:11.519 my type. 1:23:12.320 --> 1:23:14.320 Let's standing missionary. 1:23:14.720 --> 1:23:18.040 Well, like you might be off the bed, okay, okay. 1:23:18.400 --> 1:23:23.559 I was like, are we standing up together? And that's crazy? 1:23:25.640 --> 1:23:34.640 Nigga got a nigga gotta I got you got like 1:23:34.680 --> 1:23:35.080 a snake. 1:23:38.720 --> 1:23:41.280 Oh my god. After life. 1:23:42.640 --> 1:23:46.639 It should be lit death, not scared care. 1:23:47.520 --> 1:23:52.040 Actually death, like come on, waited, bro, not even like 1:23:52.280 --> 1:23:53.600 you know, it's like one of the things you just 1:23:53.720 --> 1:23:55.560 except you don't get to award it. 1:23:55.760 --> 1:23:59.720 Yeah, man, I live my life to the fullest. 1:23:59.439 --> 1:24:02.759 Until that thing Yolo baby self care. 1:24:04.080 --> 1:24:05.040 Could use more of it. 1:24:05.479 --> 1:24:14.040 Oh twenty one savage, Yeah I remember, yeah, I remember. 1:24:14.080 --> 1:24:16.640 He's like I'm gonna hoe to I just thought that 1:24:16.800 --> 1:24:17.360 was so funny. 1:24:18.560 --> 1:24:20.559 Big guess regret m. 1:24:23.360 --> 1:24:23.960 Lying to people. 1:24:24.000 --> 1:24:27.240 I love big it's accomplishment. 1:24:28.960 --> 1:24:29.480 Podcast. 1:24:30.240 --> 1:24:34.679 Huh part Yeah, good name pet Peeve. 1:24:35.960 --> 1:24:40.639 Oh man, they're fucking loud, just being loud, loud, lying 1:24:40.760 --> 1:24:41.640 as you know. 1:24:43.280 --> 1:24:47.719 That's WoT loud and annoying. Yeah, just loud for no reason. 1:24:48.880 --> 1:24:55.360 Porn category, porn everony solo, every good, maybe it's goddess. 1:24:57.120 --> 1:25:00.639 I'm gonna say you some links today forgot essensual. 1:25:01.040 --> 1:25:03.200 Man, don't give me no, don't send me no down. 1:25:05.640 --> 1:25:09.640 Sorry under him? 1:25:10.000 --> 1:25:11.519 You give me your number. 1:25:11.840 --> 1:25:16.280 Were situations we're trying to hook you up. 1:25:16.320 --> 1:25:16.519 Growl. 1:25:16.680 --> 1:25:17.240 You don't even know. 1:25:18.000 --> 1:25:20.680 Get your powers. Best advice you ever got. 1:25:22.560 --> 1:25:24.840 Just take your time, man, take your time. 1:25:25.439 --> 1:25:26.559 Salt or sugar on. 1:25:26.640 --> 1:25:33.040 Grits, so salt, pepper, butter, cheese, sugar. 1:25:34.439 --> 1:25:36.040 It's not dessert for you. It's a meal. 1:25:36.600 --> 1:25:37.800 Yeah, man, that's savor. 1:25:37.840 --> 1:25:40.800 It's really with eggs and fish. 1:25:40.680 --> 1:25:43.639 And I hold you man, I'm getting to that place 1:25:43.680 --> 1:25:48.160 in my life where like breakfast is not necessarily supposed 1:25:48.200 --> 1:25:54.839 to be for morning, Like it's better than Yeah, it's 1:25:54.920 --> 1:25:57.320 a meal for real, Like, what the fun you waking 1:25:57.400 --> 1:26:00.240 up eating all that ship a lot of goddamn food. 1:26:00.360 --> 1:26:00.559 Start. 1:26:01.840 --> 1:26:04.360 I know I had the bomb ass breakfast today. I'm 1:26:04.439 --> 1:26:06.639 hungry now. I haven't eaten anything so great. 1:26:08.080 --> 1:26:11.520 Really getting into that like two boys? 1:26:12.040 --> 1:26:13.479 Oh wow, high protein? 1:26:14.080 --> 1:26:15.640 You just starting you want to start? I want to 1:26:15.640 --> 1:26:17.800 start my day feeling good. I think I'm I didn't 1:26:17.800 --> 1:26:19.760 need the Fat Boys ship long enough. I'm trying to. 1:26:19.800 --> 1:26:22.080 I'm trying to. I'm trying to turn this franchise around. 1:26:22.200 --> 1:26:24.400 Okay, okay, you about to get the body add yadi. 1:26:25.720 --> 1:26:27.479 I don't want to see you with fucking next week 1:26:27.520 --> 1:26:28.960 all skinny ozempic or something. 1:26:30.920 --> 1:26:33.240 No, they don't do that anymore. They trying to reach out. 1:26:33.120 --> 1:26:36.160 To you to do ads. Nigga. No not talking to me. 1:26:37.439 --> 1:26:40.160 Look, man, one thing about me, man, The nigga is 1:26:40.200 --> 1:26:40.880 all Osmpic too. 1:26:40.920 --> 1:26:43.400 We go our natural round brother. Were either gonna die 1:26:43.479 --> 1:26:44.800 fat or we're gonna get this ship together. 1:26:46.320 --> 1:26:49.439 Yeah, DeAnda, do you have an affirmation for our people? 1:26:50.600 --> 1:26:51.120 Stay black? 1:26:52.320 --> 1:26:55.320 Stay black? Baby? I feel that. 1:26:56.840 --> 1:26:58.920 I hope I'm black, y'all cool. 1:26:59.360 --> 1:27:02.080 I appreciate you coming that you opened up and told 1:27:02.160 --> 1:27:03.000 us all your business. 1:27:03.600 --> 1:27:05.080 I ain't sure, man, I'm an open book. 1:27:05.200 --> 1:27:06.600 You're as cool as I knew you were going to be. 1:27:06.680 --> 1:27:09.120 I'm thankful that you came and that I stalked you 1:27:09.240 --> 1:27:11.760 and your d MS and made everybody email. 1:27:11.560 --> 1:27:15.880 You from our team, ask him again. You're always our friend. 1:27:16.040 --> 1:27:17.960 If we're in Georgia, we're gonna holler at you. And 1:27:18.040 --> 1:27:19.880 also if you're here, like anything you need from us, 1:27:19.920 --> 1:27:20.920 we got you for sure. 1:27:21.120 --> 1:27:24.360 I was coming through and before you get out of here, 1:27:24.760 --> 1:27:26.320 I need you to do some wishy ship with us 1:27:26.400 --> 1:28:00.320 real quick, hyn. 1:27:51.840 --> 1:27:52.840 You pull a card please. 1:27:54.960 --> 1:28:02.240 High priest is with this mean she this her, this 1:28:02.400 --> 1:28:02.960 her bad. 1:28:05.200 --> 1:28:06.800 This her this what she is in power? 1:28:07.200 --> 1:28:10.680 This is what she does. Yeah yeah, yeah yeah, if 1:28:10.680 --> 1:28:12.280 you ever really needed a reading like she. 1:28:12.680 --> 1:28:14.800 You know, we need to have missus Deanta carl On. 1:28:15.040 --> 1:28:17.360 I know we didn't have a couples on should be 1:28:17.920 --> 1:28:20.640 do remember? Oh yeah, when you come back to l a. 1:28:22.479 --> 1:28:23.320 Ship who knows? 1:28:23.560 --> 1:28:28.200 Okay you ready, hold on, hold on it? Yeah, okay, 1:28:28.520 --> 1:28:31.680 they'll be a live taroor reading. I'm so happy. Oh yeah, 1:28:31.760 --> 1:28:40.840 this is a good one. Turn it up into the speaker. 1:28:42.640 --> 1:28:46.680 Damn man, nigga, not right now? Oh yeah, it's like 1:28:46.840 --> 1:28:50.559 ten o'clock. Hey, what's up matter? Look, I'm with these 1:28:50.640 --> 1:28:54.120 girls and they on their podcast they be pulling cards. 1:28:54.160 --> 1:28:58.360 What this means? What else came with it? And then 1:28:58.720 --> 1:28:59.760 they just pulled one card? 1:29:00.080 --> 1:29:02.920 You pulled that, I pulled this, I pulled this High Priest. 1:29:03.080 --> 1:29:07.280 The High PRIESTSS is a deeply spiritual card, like the 1:29:07.360 --> 1:29:08.200 High Pricess is the. 1:29:10.360 --> 1:29:12.880 It's okay, I'm a little bit so I know what 1:29:13.000 --> 1:29:13.240 it means. 1:29:13.240 --> 1:29:19.800 I'm sorry. We recording, were recording, so you get this. 1:29:19.960 --> 1:29:22.080 I'm just saying, just be mind for that we recording. 1:29:23.120 --> 1:29:28.840 Like this car can also represents like secrets, and it 1:29:28.920 --> 1:29:33.400 can represent like the subconscious, uh, the unknown. 1:29:34.040 --> 1:29:36.519 Yeah, this is also like a card. 1:29:38.000 --> 1:29:38.760 What's going to the deck? 1:29:43.240 --> 1:29:44.160 You the High Priestess? 1:29:47.520 --> 1:29:50.200 What's I don't know, baby, they just got we have 1:29:50.680 --> 1:29:52.000 a spread and he just pulled a card. 1:29:55.840 --> 1:30:06.080 What yes, this what's the last card? It was reversed? 1:30:06.680 --> 1:30:07.840 It was three? 1:30:08.439 --> 1:30:12.800 Okay, So that's why because this word like lately this 1:30:13.080 --> 1:30:15.160 is very much about like spiritual. 1:30:15.600 --> 1:30:17.760 But I'm getting a secretive energy off of it. And 1:30:17.920 --> 1:30:20.080 with the three we couldn't deal with work. 1:30:21.280 --> 1:30:21.639 Mm hmm. 1:30:23.240 --> 1:30:25.599 Well yeah, like she like the highest of the high, 1:30:25.680 --> 1:30:26.639 like that ascended master. 1:30:26.800 --> 1:30:30.120 Yeah, she's masterful, she's mastered her like. 1:30:31.040 --> 1:30:37.360 Climate, entering, illuation, divine knowledge and wisdom for your expertise, 1:30:37.439 --> 1:30:44.760 my baby, thank you, Hey girl, Hey, no worry, no worries, girl, 1:30:45.160 --> 1:30:48.880 appreciate you. Next time, it's okay. 1:30:48.920 --> 1:30:50.200 We already told him you got to come back and 1:30:50.240 --> 1:30:52.280 you gotta come on the podcast because your your your 1:30:52.360 --> 1:30:55.240 mama and so are we okay to do that? 1:30:55.479 --> 1:30:55.639 Yeah? 1:30:55.760 --> 1:31:00.280 Good, yes, come on girl, we'll go have brunch and talk. 1:31:00.360 --> 1:31:09.280 Ship me too. She sure did, she said, pull the 1:31:09.360 --> 1:31:12.120 last card. I just see that the whole deck. 1:31:14.320 --> 1:31:14.920 That's how ship. 1:31:15.720 --> 1:31:18.200 It says, your intuition is your intuitive sense right now 1:31:18.320 --> 1:31:20.680 is providing it with useful information and is assisting you 1:31:20.800 --> 1:31:24.080 into becoming more in touch with your subconscious mind. You're 1:31:24.120 --> 1:31:26.360 doing your thing right now, so it seems very appropriate 1:31:26.439 --> 1:31:28.519 you're you're doing your thing because the people need you. 1:31:28.640 --> 1:31:31.000 We need to hear the messages from the men that 1:31:31.160 --> 1:31:33.519 know that women are human and that are just you know, 1:31:33.800 --> 1:31:35.320 with with the black folks and. 1:31:35.360 --> 1:31:39.000 Doing it's really not it's fucking commentation. 1:31:39.840 --> 1:31:42.040 It's like if we really want to be serious about 1:31:42.680 --> 1:31:45.200 what we say, like want a better community and when 1:31:46.640 --> 1:31:48.679 you know, a better relationship sometimes one another. It really 1:31:48.760 --> 1:31:53.240 just started that simple, like humanize one another. And that's 1:31:53.360 --> 1:31:56.000 like you know me and the women women and men too. 1:31:56.680 --> 1:31:59.040 Is a big thing with women like being a little 1:31:59.080 --> 1:32:02.479 guy now homophone where everything niggas do is gay. So 1:32:02.640 --> 1:32:04.600 it's like you want nigga to be more intuning his 1:32:04.680 --> 1:32:06.519 feelings and then you get into and his feelings like 1:32:06.640 --> 1:32:08.400 it's a nigga like men like you know what I'm saying. 1:32:08.439 --> 1:32:10.280 It's just, you know, we got to give each other 1:32:10.280 --> 1:32:11.120 a little bit more grace. 1:32:11.200 --> 1:32:14.080 I understand that we're on the other end of the 1:32:14.160 --> 1:32:17.599 pendulum where y'all are like kind of in a tack 1:32:17.680 --> 1:32:20.080 mode a little bit, but y'all, you know, shit happened, 1:32:20.680 --> 1:32:21.280 you know what I'm saying. 1:32:21.320 --> 1:32:22.479 If y'all been on the other end of. 1:32:22.479 --> 1:32:24.960 The where y'all been feeling under attack, the only way 1:32:25.000 --> 1:32:27.040 to like balance that is a swing to the extreme 1:32:27.160 --> 1:32:29.360 or whatever the other side is. So I think we'll 1:32:29.479 --> 1:32:31.680 we'll find ourselves in the center. It just need more 1:32:31.720 --> 1:32:34.960 people being honest and like compassionate, caring about each other 1:32:35.040 --> 1:32:37.280 in a real way and not just caring for whatever 1:32:37.400 --> 1:32:38.400 game we're trying to gain. 1:32:38.520 --> 1:32:44.200 So nice to see you in the center, sir type shit, Well, 1:32:44.200 --> 1:32:46.280 thank you so much for coming on the show. Thank 1:32:46.320 --> 1:32:48.560 you for spending time with us. It's late. I appreciate you. 1:32:48.800 --> 1:32:49.799 Thank y'all for invitement. 1:32:49.920 --> 1:32:52.000 Absolutely, tell our people where they can find you. 1:32:52.920 --> 1:32:58.120 Deontay dot cayle on TikTok and Instagram, This Niggs podcast 1:32:58.240 --> 1:33:01.599 on Instagram and you and if you want to follow 1:33:01.640 --> 1:33:06.280 us on Patreon, it is the Instagra the Grit Names podcast. 1:33:06.280 --> 1:33:09.200 Or for everything, you can go to Deontay Kyle dot com. 1:33:09.880 --> 1:33:13.360 Hey, and we're both on Patreon, so make sure you 1:33:13.360 --> 1:33:16.240 follow our Patreon to patreon dot com slash Good Mom's 1:33:16.280 --> 1:33:18.640 Bad Choices. You know where to find us, hopefully, just 1:33:18.760 --> 1:33:21.960 go to the description and click all the ship and subscribe. 1:33:22.479 --> 1:33:25.880 Subscribe to both podcasts. Yeah, man, be resourceful, man, it's important, 1:33:26.000 --> 1:33:28.280 like use common sense. You might have to click a 1:33:28.320 --> 1:33:30.400 few things. It's okay, I know, I know. 1:33:30.600 --> 1:33:34.280 It seems we're not gonna your algorithm'n aith. 1:33:34.720 --> 1:33:37.439 My algorithm is better because you're on it. Deontay, I'm 1:33:37.439 --> 1:33:38.040 gonna keep it real. 1:33:38.120 --> 1:33:38.760 I appreciate that. 1:33:39.240 --> 1:33:40.559 Thank you guys, see you later. 1:33:40.800 --> 1:33:41.040 Bye,