WEBVTT - deiondra sanders 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:00.920 They called me. 0:00:05.720 --> 0:00:08.320 Broadcasting live from Atlanta, Georgia. This is the Ball Alert Show. 0:00:08.320 --> 0:00:10.240 I go by the name of Ferrari Simmons, my co host. 0:00:10.280 --> 0:00:12.840 You know, BT is out being famous with Bow Wow 0:00:13.119 --> 0:00:15.000 in New York. But I got some good friends that 0:00:15.080 --> 0:00:17.360 pulled up. Do y'all dream to build that yond? Saander's 0:00:17.360 --> 0:00:19.920 my bad in the building. Make sure I say it right. 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:26.000 Chanelle and Nicole Scott? What's up, lady? How y'all doing? Now? 0:00:26.040 --> 0:00:28.480 You pulled up relationship matters? You got some cards you're from, 0:00:28.560 --> 0:00:31.400 play some games we're from talking about We're gonna talk 0:00:31.440 --> 0:00:32.240 about some stuff today. 0:00:32.320 --> 0:00:34.400 Yeah, we're gonna talk about sex and we're gonna talk 0:00:34.440 --> 0:00:36.200 about navigating past pain and trauma. 0:00:36.320 --> 0:00:38.840 Okay, just a little bit, okay, Yeah? Now when when? When? 0:00:38.880 --> 0:00:41.760 When I got a call they said, oh yeah, Deandrean's 0:00:41.760 --> 0:00:43.279 come on the show. I was like cool, But then 0:00:43.320 --> 0:00:45.120 they was like, she's bringing somebody to I was like, 0:00:45.120 --> 0:00:47.800 who the hell you finna bring? And now we're talking 0:00:47.800 --> 0:00:49.680 about you. I get the whole press release and I'm 0:00:49.680 --> 0:00:53.680 reading through it. I really want to get right into it. 0:00:54.840 --> 0:00:57.920 What exactly do you do? Are you a relationship expert coach? 0:00:58.600 --> 0:00:59.959 Are you a therapist. 0:01:01.400 --> 0:01:03.040 So I like to talk about relationships. 0:01:03.040 --> 0:01:05.360 I would consider myself to be a conversationalist or a 0:01:05.360 --> 0:01:08.520 thought leader. Other people may say a relationship expert. I 0:01:08.560 --> 0:01:12.080 have experiential knowledge, I have personal experiences that I can 0:01:12.080 --> 0:01:14.120 speak from, and I spend a lot of time in 0:01:14.120 --> 0:01:14.600 this space. 0:01:14.840 --> 0:01:17.959 Okay, now, how did you meet this young lady here? Wow? 0:01:19.080 --> 0:01:21.199 You really want to get into It's a nice combo. 0:01:21.280 --> 0:01:23.240 I like it, like so uh. 0:01:23.680 --> 0:01:24.479 As everyone knows. 0:01:24.480 --> 0:01:27.640 Deandra had something play out on social media, and it 0:01:27.680 --> 0:01:29.640 was because I do relationship talk, and you know, I 0:01:29.680 --> 0:01:31.000 spent a lot of time in this space. It was 0:01:31.080 --> 0:01:34.400 very triggering to me, and so I wanted to connect 0:01:34.440 --> 0:01:36.320 with her and maybe. 0:01:36.040 --> 0:01:37.320 Work on a couple of projects. 0:01:37.640 --> 0:01:40.399 Right. I really focus on the whole idea of operating 0:01:40.400 --> 0:01:42.920 in purpose because I truly believe that when you operate 0:01:43.000 --> 0:01:45.679 in purpose, a lot of the stuff that we go 0:01:45.720 --> 0:01:48.960 through in relationships it has no effect. When you know 0:01:49.000 --> 0:01:50.720 who you are, when you know who your what your 0:01:50.880 --> 0:01:54.360 identity is, then you're like, Okay, so you don't like me, 0:01:54.520 --> 0:01:56.760 or you're mistreating me, then I'm gonna move around. We're 0:01:56.800 --> 0:01:58.520 not gonna stay we not We're not gonna stick around. 0:01:58.600 --> 0:02:00.960 We're not gonna overstay all welcome, We're gonna move forward. 0:02:01.320 --> 0:02:03.120 And so I wanted to connect with her to work 0:02:03.120 --> 0:02:06.480 on some things. She's working on a journal about pre 0:02:06.720 --> 0:02:07.120 and what. 0:02:07.080 --> 0:02:10.320 Is it pre postpartum, pre and post partum. 0:02:10.520 --> 0:02:12.280 Yes, yes, I definitely want to talk about that. Now 0:02:12.320 --> 0:02:14.720 you are engaged to a good friend of mine, Jack Queese. 0:02:15.320 --> 0:02:17.440 I've been knowing this guy since you were like seventeen 0:02:17.520 --> 0:02:20.320 years old, and uh, whoa, whoa was that? 0:02:20.400 --> 0:02:20.480 What? 0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:22.440 We gotta start drinking water for a friend down? 0:02:22.800 --> 0:02:23.760 I think she's thirsty. 0:02:23.840 --> 0:02:26.000 Okay, okay, well, I pay attention to it. I pay 0:02:26.040 --> 0:02:30.320 attention to okay. Cool. And some stuff did play out 0:02:30.320 --> 0:02:33.600 on social media? Do you care to give us a 0:02:33.639 --> 0:02:35.240 small summary of what happened? 0:02:37.200 --> 0:02:38.800 I mean, I feel like everyone. 0:02:38.480 --> 0:02:41.360 Knows what for the people that may not know, I. 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:51.640 Just I just honestly feel like people were giving a 0:02:51.720 --> 0:02:55.680 platform to say how they feel and I wasn't given 0:02:55.720 --> 0:02:58.519 a platform to say how I feel. So that's kind 0:02:58.520 --> 0:03:02.120 of why I said the stuff that I said, you know, 0:03:02.320 --> 0:03:03.920 on social media, which. 0:03:05.760 --> 0:03:07.960 Which tends to when you say things on social media, 0:03:08.080 --> 0:03:09.520 people take it all the way to tea. 0:03:09.560 --> 0:03:12.440 You know that they misinterpret my stuff they do it, 0:03:12.840 --> 0:03:16.639 I will say, though I probably shouldn't have done that, 0:03:18.000 --> 0:03:20.320 but I don't regret what I said because that is 0:03:20.360 --> 0:03:22.239 how I felt at the time. But I do take 0:03:22.639 --> 0:03:26.440 you know, responsibility and accountability for I shouldn't have handled 0:03:26.480 --> 0:03:30.359 it that way. Wow, what about? 0:03:31.320 --> 0:03:33.640 It's just something that feels good when I hear the 0:03:33.680 --> 0:03:39.840 opposite sex say I take accountability and responsibility. Wow. 0:03:40.200 --> 0:03:42.800 Yeah, But I just you know, the reason why, like 0:03:42.840 --> 0:03:44.640 I said, I felt like I did it is because 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:47.440 I wasn't given the opportunity to say how I feel. 0:03:47.720 --> 0:03:52.160 And it honestly just started, you know. I just people 0:03:52.200 --> 0:03:55.960 read the comments. Someone asked where was your fiance? So 0:03:56.000 --> 0:03:59.520 I thought the need to respond, like so that's kind 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:03.360 of how it's started from there, and then just going forward, 0:04:03.400 --> 0:04:06.600 it's just like different stuff that I've heard. I've seen 0:04:08.440 --> 0:04:11.000 stuff that has you know, in the past, stuff just 0:04:11.120 --> 0:04:15.000 like how I said before, just how she moves. I 0:04:15.080 --> 0:04:17.320 just feel like as women we should support one another, 0:04:17.839 --> 0:04:20.440 especially knowing the situation that he is in now, you know, 0:04:20.520 --> 0:04:23.800 becoming a family man. If you're his real friend, then 0:04:24.000 --> 0:04:27.320 you should be happy and accept the person that he chooses, 0:04:27.560 --> 0:04:30.360 you know, to live his life with instead of you. 0:04:30.400 --> 0:04:32.560 Don't even want to meet me. You can't even address 0:04:32.600 --> 0:04:34.920 me by my name. You say all his women, all 0:04:34.960 --> 0:04:36.920 this kind of stuff. That's just kind of like you're 0:04:36.920 --> 0:04:39.320 not a girl's girl. Like like I said on my 0:04:39.360 --> 0:04:42.359 other interview, I went to her, approached her and introduced myself, 0:04:42.800 --> 0:04:44.320 and she didn't want to meet me, like he had 0:04:44.360 --> 0:04:47.840 to be like dage. She's saying, you know what I'm saying. 0:04:47.839 --> 0:04:50.120 So that's the whole thing that I just don't really 0:04:50.200 --> 0:04:52.880 like the image that's getting viewed of me when I've 0:04:52.880 --> 0:04:54.840 actually tried to do it the right way. So it's like, 0:04:54.839 --> 0:04:57.800 if y'all are going to say this, how my daddy say, 0:04:57.839 --> 0:05:00.240 put it on the table, Let's tell the true truth. 0:05:00.279 --> 0:05:03.520 I was learned to put stuff on the table, say 0:05:03.560 --> 0:05:05.320 the truth, and it is what it is. So that's 0:05:05.360 --> 0:05:07.159 the whole thing with that. 0:05:07.240 --> 0:05:09.080 When you put things on the table. How was it 0:05:09.120 --> 0:05:12.880 received on your fiance side? What was his response? 0:05:14.080 --> 0:05:19.480 It wasn't good. But you know we've talked about between us, 0:05:19.480 --> 0:05:20.920 like why it wasn't good, it. 0:05:20.880 --> 0:05:23.200 Wasn't good, or you didn't like what he say? What 0:05:23.240 --> 0:05:23.560 he said? 0:05:23.960 --> 0:05:26.480 I mean, well I feel like that it wasn't good. 0:05:26.520 --> 0:05:29.000 I didn't like what he said, But once we talked 0:05:29.000 --> 0:05:33.240 about it, it's like, I won't say I'm more understanding, 0:05:33.880 --> 0:05:37.880 but it's just like it's certain things that you know, 0:05:39.200 --> 0:05:41.159 he kind of got to make sure to make sure 0:05:41.200 --> 0:05:44.479 that this project goes through. And that's all I'm gonna say. 0:05:45.080 --> 0:05:47.840 Okay, shout out to my wife Tanisha. She just had 0:05:47.839 --> 0:05:50.080 a baby not too long ago. I mean it's actually 0:05:50.360 --> 0:05:53.080 over a year. But I was telling her I was 0:05:53.080 --> 0:05:55.520 an interview. She was like, you know what, you should 0:05:55.560 --> 0:05:57.800 ask her about this, And I'm gonna ask you, now, 0:05:59.760 --> 0:06:04.440 how is postpartum? And do men take that for granted? 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:08.479 It's real? It's I didn't really think it was that 0:06:08.600 --> 0:06:10.360 real because I was like, oh, I have a lot 0:06:10.360 --> 0:06:12.240 of help, you know, I don't think I'll be going 0:06:12.279 --> 0:06:15.599 through it. Baby. It hit me hard. It hit me 0:06:15.800 --> 0:06:19.279 very hard. Still, I had so much help and I 0:06:19.279 --> 0:06:21.560 still have so much help, And it's still thoughts that 0:06:21.640 --> 0:06:24.080 I'm like, why do I think like this? Even in 0:06:24.120 --> 0:06:26.840 the very beginning, I'm like, I feel like I should 0:06:26.880 --> 0:06:29.400 be happier me having a new baby. Why do I 0:06:29.400 --> 0:06:34.720 feel like this different emotions that I had. It's very real, 0:06:34.760 --> 0:06:37.960 and no one really tells you how to deal with it. 0:06:38.320 --> 0:06:40.600 No one tells you, like a lot of stuff you 0:06:40.640 --> 0:06:42.919 will feel it is not real. No one tells you 0:06:42.960 --> 0:06:45.880 that a lot of thoughts you will think about it's 0:06:45.960 --> 0:06:49.200 not real. Just this is your emotions and your hormones 0:06:49.279 --> 0:06:51.440 trying to get back in tech. So you feel things. 0:06:52.040 --> 0:06:54.159 I felt things one hundred times more, stuff that I 0:06:54.160 --> 0:06:57.839 probably wouldn't even care about. It's like it stays in 0:06:57.880 --> 0:06:59.640 my mind, you know what I'm saying. And I've never 0:06:59.680 --> 0:07:02.320 been that type of person, so it's very real. And 0:07:02.360 --> 0:07:03.919 like I said, I had all the help, so it 0:07:03.920 --> 0:07:07.720 doesn't matter the help you have, it's still I could 0:07:07.720 --> 0:07:09.800 have someone you know, helping me with my child, and 0:07:09.840 --> 0:07:13.520 it's still the thoughts that I have about just done 0:07:13.600 --> 0:07:17.680 lost my identity me being a new mom? Should I 0:07:17.720 --> 0:07:21.480 be happier? Like I don't lost myself? Do is what 0:07:21.640 --> 0:07:24.400 I ever become the person I was, you know before? 0:07:24.760 --> 0:07:28.040 Which I realized I never will like that, DeAndre before 0:07:28.080 --> 0:07:30.800 Snow is gone, and I have to be okay with 0:07:30.840 --> 0:07:33.320 that and start to live in my new person as 0:07:33.360 --> 0:07:35.320 a mother. You know what I'm saying. But it definitely 0:07:35.360 --> 0:07:37.000 is a lot, and I think one of the biggest 0:07:37.040 --> 0:07:39.960 things is just for a new mom that's never had 0:07:39.960 --> 0:07:43.520 any kids, just you know, losing your identity and trying 0:07:43.520 --> 0:07:44.600 to regain it as a mother. 0:07:45.880 --> 0:07:48.920 What are some things that you did or happened that 0:07:49.000 --> 0:07:52.080 you got through it or are you still dealing with 0:07:52.120 --> 0:07:52.800 it now? 0:07:53.240 --> 0:07:55.080 I feel like I'm still dealing with it, but it's 0:07:55.080 --> 0:07:57.200 on the lower end. I feel like when I did 0:07:57.240 --> 0:08:01.280 have that in the beginning, and when everyone's say my 0:08:01.400 --> 0:08:03.800 crash out or whatever, I. 0:08:03.680 --> 0:08:05.960 Do feel maybe I just call it a moment. 0:08:05.800 --> 0:08:08.080 Yeah, my moment, because I'm like, I don't yet my moment. 0:08:08.640 --> 0:08:11.560 I feel like that was probably that month was probably 0:08:11.560 --> 0:08:14.800 the highest peak because I really couldn't control my emotions. 0:08:14.880 --> 0:08:17.840 And I've always been the type that worked on myself mentally, 0:08:17.880 --> 0:08:20.760 so I've always been able to control myself. But it's 0:08:20.840 --> 0:08:26.320 like postpartum. I don't know what's going on. So a 0:08:26.360 --> 0:08:28.520 lot of things that I have done to help it, 0:08:28.960 --> 0:08:33.280 I feel like, is like Chanelle said, finding something to do, 0:08:34.120 --> 0:08:37.079 walking in my purpose, praying to God. I'm a journaler. 0:08:37.120 --> 0:08:39.440 That's why if a journal come alout, writing down my thoughts, 0:08:39.440 --> 0:08:41.880 writing down my stuff that I feel like no one 0:08:41.920 --> 0:08:43.880 will understand, but I can write it out, you know, 0:08:43.960 --> 0:08:46.600 give it to God. Pray about it and just really 0:08:46.720 --> 0:08:49.880 just do more things to where I'm just not sitting 0:08:49.960 --> 0:08:52.200 around taking care of my child having an idle mind, 0:08:52.240 --> 0:08:55.040 because that's when it gets you have too much time 0:08:55.080 --> 0:08:57.280 to think about, too much negativity. 0:08:58.559 --> 0:09:00.560 With someone like yourself to have as a dad that 0:09:00.679 --> 0:09:04.640 is extremely popular, that takes so much public criticism. Did 0:09:04.679 --> 0:09:06.600 you call him or talk to him about any things 0:09:06.600 --> 0:09:07.720 like that? You give you some advice? 0:09:08.280 --> 0:09:10.280 Yeah, you know, my dad always gives me advice. My 0:09:10.400 --> 0:09:12.360 dad knows me, so he's. 0:09:12.240 --> 0:09:19.880 Always, Oh, somebody won't you, somebody won't you? Oh, what's up? Dog? 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:22.880 What's up? 0:09:22.920 --> 0:09:23.679 Man? 0:09:24.440 --> 0:09:28.800 Fascinated? They I'm good with babies. I got five. Wow, 0:09:29.200 --> 0:09:30.360 I don't even get me started. 0:09:31.520 --> 0:09:34.920 But yeah, you know, my daddy knows me. So when 0:09:34.960 --> 0:09:38.000 I did have my moment, he was like, I knew 0:09:38.000 --> 0:09:40.640 it was coming sooner or later. But you can't do that. 0:09:40.920 --> 0:09:43.440 You have to you know, you have to go about 0:09:43.440 --> 0:09:46.800 it like this. You can't just go off when you're 0:09:46.840 --> 0:09:49.240 mad like that, you know, Deandra. So we talked about it. 0:09:49.320 --> 0:09:52.280 He told me different ways to you know, handle stuff 0:09:52.280 --> 0:09:54.480 when I'm provoked, and just how to just kind of 0:09:54.520 --> 0:09:56.760 like walk away and just I need to just you know, 0:09:57.320 --> 0:09:58.480 get more back to me. 0:10:00.240 --> 0:10:02.959 Now, are you practicing these things that he told you? 0:10:03.720 --> 0:10:07.120 I'm practicing me because it's a lot of stuff I 0:10:07.120 --> 0:10:09.560 wanted to stay on social media that I haven't lately, 0:10:09.920 --> 0:10:12.920 So I would definitely say I'm practicing these things. 0:10:13.000 --> 0:10:14.760 And are you and jack Ueeze in a good space 0:10:14.840 --> 0:10:15.240 right now? 0:10:16.080 --> 0:10:18.920 You know, we're working on it, and I'm like I 0:10:18.960 --> 0:10:21.199 said before, I'm gonna let God take control and we're 0:10:21.200 --> 0:10:23.720 gonna see. We're gonna see what is what we see? 0:10:23.800 --> 0:10:26.520 Now, you guys gonna be good? Man. Okay, I'm ready. 0:10:26.559 --> 0:10:27.840 I'm ready. Come on, let's play. 0:10:28.240 --> 0:10:30.600 Okay, so we'll go start light. 0:10:31.160 --> 0:10:33.840 Start light. Yeah, what's the difference in colors? What's the 0:10:33.880 --> 0:10:35.200 blue color and the purple color? 0:10:35.240 --> 0:10:39.560 So the purple is dealing with sex. The conversation started 0:10:40.240 --> 0:10:41.319 on sex and relationships. 0:10:41.360 --> 0:10:44.280 My daddy might see this, and. 0:10:44.240 --> 0:10:46.720 Then it's a little bit deeper hell and journey navigating 0:10:46.720 --> 0:10:47.760 past pain and trauma. 0:10:48.240 --> 0:10:52.240 Okay, I've been in therapy, so I'm good. Oh lord, Okay, 0:10:52.280 --> 0:10:54.760 we're gonna go blue. Yeah, Okay, can my wife be mad? 0:10:54.840 --> 0:10:55.600 I gotta read this. 0:10:55.840 --> 0:10:56.440 Yeah. 0:10:56.840 --> 0:10:59.680 Have you sought professional help or therapy to address your 0:10:59.679 --> 0:11:02.960 past pain or trauma, and how has your that experience 0:11:02.960 --> 0:11:04.760 been for you. This is great because I just graduated 0:11:04.800 --> 0:11:09.240 from weekly therapy to once a month. I have had 0:11:09.280 --> 0:11:14.000 a lot of like personal trauma that I feel like 0:11:14.440 --> 0:11:19.600 guarded me from trusting people one hundred percent. I still 0:11:19.600 --> 0:11:21.439 don't even take it all the way to one hundred percent. 0:11:21.520 --> 0:11:27.040 But I had really bad trust issues. I had bad temper, Okay, 0:11:27.360 --> 0:11:30.160 So I just understood that I had to channel my energy. 0:11:30.160 --> 0:11:32.760 But I didn't close a lot of things that were 0:11:32.800 --> 0:11:36.800 kind of still open and passed relationships, friendships. A couple 0:11:36.800 --> 0:11:39.960 of my good friends passed away. One of them was murdered, 0:11:40.559 --> 0:11:43.840 so I never really got over it and then talking 0:11:43.880 --> 0:11:45.920 it out, crying it out. You know, I think as 0:11:45.960 --> 0:11:48.920 men like you just taught not to be emotional or cry. 0:11:49.679 --> 0:11:52.080 So in this therapy session, I was crying and I 0:11:52.160 --> 0:11:54.640 just kept getting mad every time I cried. Wow, So 0:11:54.679 --> 0:11:56.959 I kept saying damn, like what's going on. So by 0:11:57.000 --> 0:11:59.120 the time I graduated through it, I ain't trying to 0:11:59.120 --> 0:12:02.160 get too deep. But I graduated through it. I was 0:12:02.240 --> 0:12:05.880 learning how to channel my emotions and my temper. And 0:12:06.200 --> 0:12:09.480 that's what I did. I did seek professional help. It's 0:12:09.520 --> 0:12:10.600 the best thing ever happened to me? 0:12:10.920 --> 0:12:13.480 Okay, and I would ask in a situation like this, 0:12:14.040 --> 0:12:16.080 how does that play out in your relationship? 0:12:16.520 --> 0:12:19.240 It plays out and everything, because now when my wife 0:12:19.320 --> 0:12:23.880 and I have a moment, I'm not saying things I 0:12:23.880 --> 0:12:26.120 shouldn't say. I'm not saying things that I don't mean 0:12:26.280 --> 0:12:28.880 in that I don't mean in the heat of an argument. 0:12:29.280 --> 0:12:31.360 I'm just taking a little breather because I'm over here, 0:12:31.400 --> 0:12:33.720 like you know, I really do love you. This is 0:12:33.760 --> 0:12:37.079 a ridiculous argument. Were gonna be cool in twenty minutes. 0:12:38.320 --> 0:12:41.160 So you know that has helped me that way, because 0:12:41.920 --> 0:12:45.640 now we went from little small moments to I barely 0:12:45.679 --> 0:12:48.200 even have an issue with my wife. Yeah, she truly 0:12:48.240 --> 0:12:50.840 is my best friend. So yeah, it helps, man, it helps. 0:12:50.840 --> 0:12:54.360 But you gotta want to you gotta want to grow too, 0:12:55.080 --> 0:12:57.600 damn man. Man, Dad, I try to get too deep 0:12:57.640 --> 0:12:58.400 too early. 0:12:58.200 --> 0:13:02.240 Man, because a lot of black men don't believe. 0:13:03.080 --> 0:13:05.439 I didn't believe until a long time. To me a 0:13:05.480 --> 0:13:07.319 long time, just like. 0:13:07.520 --> 0:13:09.960 Just giving you your flowers, because it takes a lot 0:13:10.000 --> 0:13:12.680 to really go to therapy and even like you said, 0:13:12.720 --> 0:13:14.000 continue doing the work. 0:13:14.679 --> 0:13:16.719 Look, I got multiple baby mamas that used to be 0:13:16.720 --> 0:13:19.120 a bad I don't say a bad guy. I was 0:13:19.160 --> 0:13:22.200 outside and I never I kept realizing it's the same 0:13:22.320 --> 0:13:26.320 argument with a different person. It's me. Yeah, So I 0:13:26.360 --> 0:13:28.520 went and got help. So I know I have a platform, 0:13:28.559 --> 0:13:30.079 so I got to say it as much as possible 0:13:30.160 --> 0:13:32.880 per platform, because when I do say these things, people 0:13:32.960 --> 0:13:35.520 do DM me and say, hey, bro, I appreciate you 0:13:35.679 --> 0:13:38.559 saying that on that particular episode, I went and got help, 0:13:39.000 --> 0:13:40.280 so I appreciate that, yeah, for sure. 0:13:40.280 --> 0:13:42.760 So that's the epitome of what it is that I do, 0:13:42.880 --> 0:13:45.760 having you articulate that and allowing other people who have 0:13:45.800 --> 0:13:49.320 similar experiences as you do hear you say that that 0:13:49.559 --> 0:13:50.720 you just planted a seed. 0:13:51.200 --> 0:13:53.160 I just couldn't. I didn't. It took me so long 0:13:53.200 --> 0:13:56.439 to mentally articulate myself to be able to receive it too, 0:13:57.200 --> 0:13:59.120 because I just I'm just trying to get money, Like 0:13:59.160 --> 0:14:02.600 we just think, I get money, you know girls and 0:14:02.720 --> 0:14:04.600 go to the crib and just repeat and just get 0:14:04.600 --> 0:14:08.240 some money and some girls. You know. That's literally all 0:14:08.280 --> 0:14:11.040 I thought in my head. I didn't think legacy, family, 0:14:11.600 --> 0:14:14.040 I didn't think that deep into who I am and 0:14:14.800 --> 0:14:17.959 leaving a legacy for people to say, Okay, wow, that 0:14:18.160 --> 0:14:21.000 what he did when he was here meant something. Yeah, 0:14:21.000 --> 0:14:22.280 and he touched a lot of people. So I I 0:14:22.320 --> 0:14:24.160 really didn't pay attention to it until I was at 0:14:24.160 --> 0:14:25.800 an age where I don't even think it was an 0:14:25.800 --> 0:14:27.200 age thing. I think I was at a moment in 0:14:27.200 --> 0:14:30.240 my life while I was ready to receive it. So 0:14:30.280 --> 0:14:33.920 I don't know. I think men we all mature differently. 0:14:34.400 --> 0:14:38.080 Some men never really mature fully to say, Okay, I'm 0:14:38.080 --> 0:14:42.000 cool with receiving this type of advice or mentorship or 0:14:42.440 --> 0:14:45.240 dealing with conflict. You know, a lot of men issues 0:14:45.280 --> 0:14:48.640 are conflict resolution. It's just dumb arguments that lead to 0:14:48.720 --> 0:14:50.760 death that has nothing to do with it. Could have 0:14:50.800 --> 0:14:53.360 just been a quick conversation. Absolutely, If you really look 0:14:53.400 --> 0:14:55.600 at what we argue about as men, it's like the 0:14:55.680 --> 0:14:59.720 dumbest stuff ever. Yeah, it's like streets and neighborhoods and yeah, 0:15:00.200 --> 0:15:02.080 you looked at me wrong, and now I'll shoot you 0:15:02.080 --> 0:15:04.840 and your dad, and it's the cycle continues. There's literally 0:15:04.840 --> 0:15:05.520 stuff like that. 0:15:06.320 --> 0:15:08.840 So yeah, all right, so let's do something a little lighter. 0:15:08.880 --> 0:15:15.720 Yeah, let's go lighter man. Now, let's let bro the 0:15:15.760 --> 0:15:17.600 hell I feel I feel like I'm getting interviewed. 0:15:18.560 --> 0:15:21.000 What are your views on the importance of sex and 0:15:21.080 --> 0:15:22.560 a romantic relationship. 0:15:22.840 --> 0:15:24.240 Damn, go ahead this one. 0:15:24.280 --> 0:15:32.920 It's not that bad my views are. You know, how 0:15:32.960 --> 0:15:36.640 important is it? It's important, but I will say that 0:15:36.880 --> 0:15:41.160 it's very important. I also will say that when you 0:15:41.200 --> 0:15:44.360 love someone and the chemistry is there, I feel like 0:15:44.360 --> 0:15:47.440 the other stuff is gonna, you know, be there as well. 0:15:47.600 --> 0:15:49.960 It's no way you're weird about. Especially if you have chemistry, 0:15:50.720 --> 0:15:53.240 then you know the sex is gonna be great because 0:15:53.280 --> 0:15:55.040 y'all have that type of chemistry. 0:15:55.080 --> 0:15:57.120 Oh so you're saying you and Jack have great sex? 0:15:58.600 --> 0:16:01.320 Is that what you're saying? That's how, that's how, that's 0:16:01.320 --> 0:16:02.160 how the baby got here. 0:16:02.760 --> 0:16:10.600 Well, y'all know how the baby got It's like I 0:16:10.640 --> 0:16:13.640 feel like, I mean, y'all should know the answer to that. 0:16:15.480 --> 0:16:20.280 We want to hear you say it, but it's like, 0:16:20.320 --> 0:16:22.080 I'm scared because my family might watch this. 0:16:22.200 --> 0:16:23.040 Oh my god, I. 0:16:25.600 --> 0:16:27.680 Know, but I don't want to talk about it. But 0:16:27.720 --> 0:16:30.400 I mean, shoot, y'all know what that nigga talk about 0:16:30.440 --> 0:16:36.520 sing about? Yeah, I know what's going on. 0:16:36.600 --> 0:16:39.640 Okay, everything on top. 0:16:40.400 --> 0:16:42.560 But yeah, so I just want to say it is 0:16:42.640 --> 0:16:44.920 it is very important because I have had a relationship 0:16:44.960 --> 0:16:47.440 like I said before, in the past where we had 0:16:47.520 --> 0:16:50.680 no sexual chemistry. It even got to the point where 0:16:50.760 --> 0:16:54.040 I felt bad for not you know, like having sex 0:16:54.080 --> 0:16:57.680 with him. And I was like, you know what, you 0:16:57.720 --> 0:17:00.840 can have sex with someone else if you will WHOA 0:17:01.000 --> 0:17:03.080 Because I was like, you know, I know you're a man, 0:17:03.160 --> 0:17:06.159 I know you have needs, but it's just it's not 0:17:06.200 --> 0:17:08.440 there for me, Like it's not there for me. But 0:17:08.840 --> 0:17:11.760 so then you're in the relationship though. I mean, the 0:17:11.840 --> 0:17:13.400 thing is he treated me so good. 0:17:15.000 --> 0:17:19.720 She's not talking about Jack Quice. Guys, definitely not you 0:17:19.760 --> 0:17:20.320 know what I'm saying. 0:17:20.880 --> 0:17:23.520 Definitely not talking about him. But I was like, God, 0:17:25.000 --> 0:17:29.200 please let it in. Oh wow, Like, please do something 0:17:29.200 --> 0:17:31.320 where its naturally where I don't have to like you know, 0:17:31.400 --> 0:17:34.320 break him and stuff like that. And to what you 0:17:34.359 --> 0:17:36.359 pray for, a god will do. So God let it in. 0:17:36.480 --> 0:17:38.800 Something natural happen where we ended, and you know, it 0:17:38.840 --> 0:17:41.520 was what it was. It wasn't ended on super horrible terms. 0:17:41.520 --> 0:17:42.320 It was what it was. 0:17:42.359 --> 0:17:50.760 So my turn, I'm going purple. I'm going purple. Do 0:17:50.840 --> 0:17:52.960 you have any boundaries or limits when it comes to 0:17:53.000 --> 0:17:57.639 sexual activities? I definitely got some boundaries for sure, Like 0:17:57.680 --> 0:18:00.800 what I don't you know I don't like you know, 0:18:01.760 --> 0:18:06.000 I mean, I mean I feel like I feel like, 0:18:06.200 --> 0:18:09.399 don't touch my butt. Okay, well I don't touch don't 0:18:09.400 --> 0:18:12.440 touch like, don't touch back there. You know what I'm saying. 0:18:13.119 --> 0:18:15.359 I would just like to say I have great sexual 0:18:15.440 --> 0:18:17.399 chemistry with my wife. I've been with her for a 0:18:17.440 --> 0:18:20.720 long I love the way she smelled, taste all types 0:18:20.720 --> 0:18:26.400 of man. Savannah one time for Tanisa five years, six 0:18:26.440 --> 0:18:29.960 years this year. But again, she's the first woman I 0:18:30.359 --> 0:18:32.720 really said. I was like, wow, like I okay, this 0:18:32.760 --> 0:18:35.840 is this is when someone says my person right. I 0:18:35.840 --> 0:18:37.880 didn't know what that felt like until I met her. 0:18:38.160 --> 0:18:38.760 Talk about that. 0:18:38.960 --> 0:18:40.560 I just was I was outside a lot. You know, 0:18:40.560 --> 0:18:42.840 baby mama's child supports all type of shit. I'm good, 0:18:43.119 --> 0:18:45.040 but I just say that to say, you know, when 0:18:45.040 --> 0:18:47.320 I met her, I was like, wow, okay, one of 0:18:47.359 --> 0:18:50.760 my grooms men is back there, Jay Rock. I cried 0:18:50.800 --> 0:18:54.040 when I was saying the vows, like I was perfectly 0:18:54.080 --> 0:18:55.680 fine until I had to talk. You know what I'm saying. 0:18:55.720 --> 0:18:58.080 He was getting married, So like, you know, she cool. 0:18:58.119 --> 0:19:00.879 I feel like we have great chem street and everything. 0:19:00.920 --> 0:19:02.800 I can literally sit down and talk to her for 0:19:03.080 --> 0:19:07.320 an hour straight person. I don't want to embarrass. I 0:19:07.359 --> 0:19:08.960 don't want to make her feel sad. I don't want 0:19:09.040 --> 0:19:10.840 her to I don't want to hear her feelings. You 0:19:10.840 --> 0:19:11.280 know what I'm saying. 0:19:11.760 --> 0:19:15.160 Again, Yeah, say it again. 0:19:15.880 --> 0:19:17.440 You know I'm not I'm not an R and B 0:19:17.560 --> 0:19:21.080 group singer. Man, Okay, I don't have a female audience. 0:19:21.280 --> 0:19:24.600 I just want to hear what I didn't hear it. 0:19:25.960 --> 0:19:29.280 You'll get into that, man, say that because you don't 0:19:29.320 --> 0:19:30.400