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Speaker 2: And welcome back to George Norry along with doctor Donna Marx.
Speaker 2: Our books are called Healing, Moment, Exit Amaze. You've got
Speaker 2: a live Facebook program you're working on, Donna, don't you.
Speaker 3: Yes, we are going to be launching on a course
Speaker 3: live on Facebook, a three day challenge to help people
Speaker 3: embrace their miracle moment or their New Year's resolution, however
Speaker 3: you want to look at that. And we also are
Speaker 3: going to be offering an online course for people who
Speaker 3: want to stop a particular behavior or start a new one.
Speaker 3: So we are here to help and support people who
Speaker 3: are ready and willing to transform themselves.
Speaker 2: What are some of the great points for people to
Speaker 2: keep their resolutions?
Speaker 3: Well, first of all, make sure that you're ready to
Speaker 3: do it and to be committed. That's the biggie. And
Speaker 3: as I said earlier, to make sure that you're specific
Speaker 3: about what you're going to do. You can't just say
Speaker 3: you want to save money. How much money do you
Speaker 3: want to save every week? And where are you going
Speaker 3: to put that money? So it's not easily accessible and
Speaker 3: you can just justify spending it. So you have to
Speaker 3: really have a concrete plan, don't get distracted. It's so
Speaker 3: easy to listen to that part of the mind that says, oh,
Speaker 3: I don't really feel like doing that this week or today,
Speaker 3: I'll do it tomorrow, I'll do it later. That is
Speaker 3: a killer because it will not work. You have to
Speaker 3: do it now. You know that expression do it now.
Speaker 3: Don't even listen to the part of the mind that says,
Speaker 3: do it later. Later doesn't exist. We don't know that
Speaker 3: we even have it later. So doing it now is
Speaker 3: very important. And then getting support. If your family isn't
Speaker 3: going to support you, find people that will so that
Speaker 3: you can stay on track. And the biggest thing, the
Speaker 3: real biggie, is that you have to be willing to
Speaker 3: be uncomfortable. Whenever you make a big behavior change, you
Speaker 3: get uncomfortable just thinking about doing that thing, but there's
Speaker 3: no growth in staying the same. You have to be
Speaker 3: willing to be uncomfortable to experience the miracles that come
Speaker 3: from these New Year's resolutions, or any type of resolution
Speaker 3: anytime in your life. It's not comfortable to change. It's
Speaker 3: not comfortable to feel like you're giving up something that
Speaker 3: you like doing, even if it's not good for you.
Speaker 3: So when you're willing to be uncomfortable, you've taken your
Speaker 3: power back. And that's really the key here is that
Speaker 3: you're willing to have your whole self, all of yourself,
Speaker 3: and your brain, which is your command center, is now
Speaker 3: under your control instead of something else that's not good
Speaker 3: for you.
Speaker 2: Donal Why is it easier for some people to change
Speaker 2: and to commit and others have a difficult time doing that?
Speaker 3: Well, some people enjoy growing. Some people really get excited
Speaker 3: with making us kind into changes and they like, this
Speaker 3: is what happens. Most people do not understand what self
Speaker 3: love means. So once you start saying, once you start
Speaker 3: claiming your power and you claim that you're going to
Speaker 3: make some changes and then you succeed, you feel better
Speaker 3: and better and better about yourself, and that builds an
Speaker 3: internal momentum that makes you unstoppable. So you have more energy,
Speaker 3: You feel positive, you feel connected, You go out into
Speaker 3: the world on fire like you are. George. I hear
Speaker 3: it in your voice on your show and you're just
Speaker 3: doing your thing and you're bringing in all these amazing subjects.
Speaker 3: So people that are embracing that life never stays the same.
Speaker 3: And I want to keep growing and changing. They do
Speaker 3: much better than someone who's like, no, no, no, that's
Speaker 3: not comfortable for me. Yeah, maybe that kind of thing,
Speaker 3: and the negativity, the fear based people, the people that
Speaker 3: live in fear, they aren't willing to be uncomfortable. They
Speaker 3: aren't willing to step out of what they're doing all
Speaker 3: the time. They're in patterns. They're comfortable enough, and so
Speaker 3: they settle for less and they never really achieve that
Speaker 3: level of self love that makes life a wonderful, exciting,
Speaker 3: fiery turned on experience.
Speaker 2: You're on with me in April of twenty twenty three
Speaker 2: talking about your book Healing Moment. But tell us again
Speaker 2: about that title, Healing Moment. What does that mean.
Speaker 3: It's when the light bulb goes off in the mind.
Speaker 3: It's when you are thinking something's not right here, or
Speaker 3: something terrible has happened to you. Maybe you're going through
Speaker 3: a divorce, or maybe you had an accident, or maybe
Speaker 3: you lost your job, or you had a bad breakup,
Speaker 3: and the light bulb goes off and you see something
Speaker 3: totally different than rather than seeing it from a place
Speaker 3: of fear and sorrow and grief. This amazing insight comes
Speaker 3: to you that you're going to do something with this
Speaker 3: and it's going to turn into a miracle. And that's
Speaker 3: the healing moment where instead of being a victim of
Speaker 3: whatever happened, you become empowered and find meaning and purpose
Speaker 3: in what happened and turn that into the miracle. It's
Speaker 3: all about learning how to love yourself, how to love
Speaker 3: other people. That's the only reason we're here.
Speaker 2: You find that most people can make these things happen
Speaker 2: by themselves or do they need this outside help?
Speaker 3: Well, I think that the biggest support is internally and
Speaker 3: then that need and then we need reinforcement from outside
Speaker 3: because when we are trying to since we're talking about
Speaker 3: New Year's resolutions, if someone's been smoking cigarettes for thirty years,
Speaker 3: they need support. Very few people can just make just
Speaker 3: swear off a habit and feed. Maybe one and ten
Speaker 3: million people can do that. Those are not very good odds.
Speaker 3: Plus the fact that it's so much it's pleasant to
Speaker 3: have a support system and to have encouragement and the
Speaker 3: add of boys and you're doing this and that's great,
Speaker 3: and to be able to talk about those challenges emotionally
Speaker 3: from change, so that when we talk about being uncomfortable,
Speaker 3: you don't have to be uncomfortable because when you share
Speaker 3: that discomfort with other people who've gone through That's why
Speaker 3: twelve step programs are so powerful. You have the support
Speaker 3: of people who are on the other side of the discomfort,
Speaker 3: and you're seeing their joy and happiness, so you know
Speaker 3: that you can have that too. So internally, to listen
Speaker 3: to that little voice that says you can do this,
Speaker 3: and you have that light bulb moment and you have
Speaker 3: that breakthrough, and then take that and go get the
Speaker 3: support that you need to be able to maintain that miracle.
Speaker 2: What creates an addiction, Donna, Well.
Speaker 3: That's a very good question, and I think that it's
Speaker 3: created externally. I believe that it's nobody's fault as they've
Speaker 3: become addicted. The first time I slept a cigarette, I
Speaker 3: couldn't wait to smut finish the whole pack. I mean,
Speaker 3: it was just unbelievable. Things are made to get us addicted.
Speaker 3: It's intentional. People study behavior, they study the brain, and
Speaker 3: then they invent things in order to get people addicted.
Speaker 3: Whether it's cigarettes, whether it's alcohol, whether it's pornography, whether anything.
Speaker 3: Sugar is like crack cocaine in the brain, we now know,
Speaker 3: and then they refine it now and high fre those
Speaker 3: corn SUPs, so it becomes more and more addictive. So
Speaker 3: what happens is the brain wants more the minute that
Speaker 3: the person's exposed to whatever they become addicted to, and
Speaker 3: then then they truly are a victim of what happened
Speaker 3: to them. I want people to take back their power
Speaker 3: and control. If we never start these things to begin with,
Speaker 3: and we won't ever become addicted. But now we've got
Speaker 3: a whole new movement in addiction that's telling everybody that, oh,
Speaker 3: do you have a brain disorder and you've been born
Speaker 3: this way? Well, I think that we do develop a
Speaker 3: brain disorder. I certainly developed a brain disorder from torturing
Speaker 3: my brain with substances and alcohol and nicotine and all.
Speaker 3: It became disordered. But it's perfectly fine now that I'm
Speaker 3: abstinate and that I'm healthy, so I don't need to
Speaker 3: take more drugs to deal with the drugs. It just
Speaker 3: makes no sense at all. So many mental health disorders
Speaker 3: are diagnosed prematurely, and people are put on drugs that
Speaker 3: alter their moods forever change their moods. And I'm not
Speaker 3: anti medication. There are people who need medication, but it's
Speaker 3: way over prescribed, and we have become a very addicted society.
Speaker 3: And I think that it's time that we begin to
Speaker 3: raise our children, to teach them to love their brains,
Speaker 3: to love their lungs, to love their hearts, to love themselves,
Speaker 3: and to know how to eat healthy and how to
Speaker 3: play outside, and how to talk about their feelings in
Speaker 3: healthy ways and not act them out. It's really easy
Speaker 3: to raise healthy children. It just takes a little bit
Speaker 3: of effort to teach children that they deserve to treat
Speaker 3: themselves with love and to be loved. And so once
Speaker 3: we have that kind of consciousness, we don't really want
Speaker 3: to put poison in our bodies. We don't really want
Speaker 3: to damage ourselves, we don't really want to disease our brains.
Speaker 3: We want to feel good about ourselves. And so that's
Speaker 3: what I really teach people when they come to see
Speaker 3: me and they have call it bad habits or addictions,
Speaker 3: I don't care what you call it. They had behaviors
Speaker 3: that aren't serving them, are making them unhealthy mentally or physically,
Speaker 3: and they want to change. And so those people that
Speaker 3: I work with are willing to be uncomfortable and go
Speaker 3: through those steps that will help them to be free
Speaker 3: and reclaim their power and learn how to replace those
Speaker 3: behaviors with self love.
Speaker 2: Last week I had Howard Reebeck on he's an expert
Speaker 2: on addictions to gambling. Is there a difference between an
Speaker 2: addiction to a physical thing like a drug or an
Speaker 2: alcohol as opposed to something that's more emotional.
Speaker 3: Well, it's all emotional, and it's all giving me that
Speaker 3: same hit, that dopamine hit, that adrenaline, and not charge,
Speaker 3: So it doesn't matter what it is. Gambling has become
Speaker 3: a really serious problem. Pornography and gambling are really at
Speaker 3: the top of the list right now. Sex addiction as well,
Speaker 3: because people since the book Fifty Shades of Grade Tea
Speaker 3: were coming more and more into more and more things
Speaker 3: to get more and more turned on, and course, just
Speaker 3: like any addiction, the more you do, the more you need.
Speaker 3: Pornography has become for young men, a very very serious issue.
Speaker 3: I've seen a lot of young men in my office
Speaker 3: that cannot sustain a relationship with a partner because they've
Speaker 3: become so addicted to pooring that they it's almost impossible
Speaker 3: to learn how to have healthy intimacy and gambling. Because
Speaker 3: of the phones and the laptops and the iPads, and
Speaker 3: that it's so accessible, people are just simply become addicted.
Speaker 3: Then they get financially in trouble before they ever even
Speaker 3: realize it, and so then they get that cycle. I'll
Speaker 3: gamble my way out of it. That's like drinking your
Speaker 3: way out of alcoholism. It just doesn't happen.
Speaker 2: Does the addiction somehow start when you're a kid, Now,
Speaker 2: not necessarily pornography or anything like that, but something within
Speaker 2: the human body to create the addiction.
Speaker 3: Well, that's the current theory is that children are born
Speaker 3: with this brain disease. But I don't believe that there's
Speaker 3: hundreds of millions people with addictions. So I don't believe
Speaker 3: that the babies are born with that many babies are
Speaker 3: born with brain diseases. I think that there is a
Speaker 3: genetic factor that if you have addiction and your family
Speaker 3: you are probably more likely to develop an addiction. But
Speaker 3: there's no gene that says you have to smoke, you
Speaker 3: have to drink, you have to watch porn or gamble.
Speaker 3: There's no gene that dictates that you ever start doing that.
Speaker 3: That's why we need to raise our consciousness to a
Speaker 3: whole new level. Maybe some of these aliens that are
Speaker 3: coming here are trying to deliver that message to us
Speaker 3: that we need to start loving ourselves instead of medicating
Speaker 3: ourselves so much and really take our power back.
Speaker 2: Are the parents responsible for this?
Speaker 3: Well? The family environment has a lot to do with
Speaker 3: a child's mental health, of course, and so when children's
Speaker 3: needs aren't met, if they aren't held, nurtured, fed, cuddled,
Speaker 3: affirm that they're wonderful and fantastic, and given structure and discipline,
Speaker 3: then they do not understand self love because they didn't
Speaker 3: at it from the person who's supposed to love them. So, yes,
Speaker 3: there is there is a role there. But it's not
Speaker 3: like parents intentionally want to go have babies so that
Speaker 3: they can turn them into addicts. It's just that as
Speaker 3: a society we are evolving and understanding the factors of
Speaker 3: raising a mentally healthy child. I was recently speaking at
Speaker 3: a for a group and they were talking about children
Speaker 3: and what children need to do, and what I finally said,
Speaker 3: I can't take it anymore. It's not what the children
Speaker 3: need to do. The parents need to be the healthiest
Speaker 3: version of themselves so that they can raise healthy children.
Speaker 3: You can't just expect the children to be healthy while
Speaker 3: you're doing all kinds of unhealthy things around them.
Speaker 2: I was born in Detroit, so I'm a Detroit fan
Speaker 2: for sports, and my son was born in Saint Louis,
Speaker 2: but I taught him to like the Detroit teams and
Speaker 2: loves and he loves them.
Speaker 1: Well.
Speaker 2: He's got a thirteen year old daughter, my granddaughter, Charlotte.
Speaker 2: We call her Charlie. He's got her turned on with
Speaker 2: the Detroit Lions football team, and so every Sunday when
Speaker 2: the Lions are playing, she'll watch the game. She'll put
Speaker 2: her Detroit Lions jersey on her hat. She'll be at
Speaker 2: home sharing, sending me text measures Papa, Papa, they're winning, Papa,
Speaker 2: they lost. They're playing pretty well this year.
Speaker 1: By the way.
Speaker 2: But I mean, is that an addiction? What would you
Speaker 2: call that?
Speaker 3: I think that's a wonderful family tradition, and family traditions
Speaker 3: are important. She's not out smoking weed with her girlfriends.
Speaker 3: She's at home with her family. She has an interest
Speaker 3: and she's sharing that with you and her father, and
Speaker 3: that is a wonderful, enthusiastic, passionate moment for her. To
Speaker 3: be able to do.
Speaker 2: That, But is it an addiction.
Speaker 3: I would not call that an addiction. Addiction is something
Speaker 3: that you continue to do despite harm to yourself or others.
Speaker 3: I'm not hearing any harm in what you just said
Speaker 3: describe to herself for others. I'm hearing sharing a loving
Speaker 3: experience and exciting time which is going to be in
Speaker 3: her consciousness and in her template and will and fill
Speaker 3: her heart with warmth and joy the rest of her
Speaker 3: life when she thinks back on those moments.
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