WEBVTT - Good Moms Get Dominated Feat. Sir Marvelous 0:00:04.040 --> 0:00:06.760 It's only weeks before we go to Costa Rica. 0:00:07.440 --> 0:00:08.600 I can't fucking wait. 0:00:08.960 --> 0:00:11.160 I literally can't wait. I've been dreaming about it. 0:00:11.320 --> 0:00:14.360 You guys, stop waiting and go ahead and book that trip. 0:00:14.400 --> 0:00:17.120 Because we've handled everything for you. This is an all 0:00:17.239 --> 0:00:21.800 inclusive experience. You're getting, first of all, a whole property takeover, 0:00:21.880 --> 0:00:23.120 so our titties are about to be out. 0:00:23.160 --> 0:00:24.800 Our titties are definitely going to be out. 0:00:25.160 --> 0:00:29.960 We're going to have tarot readers, natal chart readings, a 0:00:30.000 --> 0:00:35.879 goddess bath, excursion to the waterfall, daily yoga, gourmet meals. 0:00:35.920 --> 0:00:37.920 You know that's top of my list because I likes 0:00:37.960 --> 0:00:38.400 to eat. 0:00:38.600 --> 0:00:41.120 We have a little beach party, a pool party. It's 0:00:41.200 --> 0:00:43.880 gonna be a party all and I can't wait to 0:00:43.920 --> 0:00:46.360 see you guys there. If you guys have been thinking 0:00:46.360 --> 0:00:49.879 about prioritizing your self care and you're like, when the 0:00:49.880 --> 0:00:51.680 fuck am I actually going to do this, this is 0:00:51.720 --> 0:00:54.440 your sign to do it now. We have two different 0:00:54.440 --> 0:00:57.240 retreats you can pick from, two different dates, the same 0:00:57.320 --> 0:01:00.279 exact experience with a group of like minded women. So 0:01:00.320 --> 0:01:04.480 stop waiting and fucking click that link and book that trip. 0:01:04.680 --> 0:01:07.480 Girl, you don't have to be a mom to join us. 0:01:07.600 --> 0:01:09.839 You just have to be a woman who wants to hang, 0:01:10.000 --> 0:01:13.240 connect and have a good time and relax. So we're 0:01:13.360 --> 0:01:17.080 so excited to see you in the jungle. And guess what, 0:01:17.240 --> 0:01:20.280 you can even ask friends and family to contribute to 0:01:20.400 --> 0:01:23.119 your trip. When people ask you what you want for Christmas, 0:01:23.280 --> 0:01:26.160 tell them put some money on this retreat for me. 0:01:26.240 --> 0:01:28.760 Okay, yeah, there's a little link in the website where 0:01:28.760 --> 0:01:31.759 you book your trip where people can make donations. So 0:01:32.240 --> 0:01:34.960 go ahead and ask that baby daddy, as that lover, 0:01:35.120 --> 0:01:39.160 ask that mama, ask whoever put five on my trip? Okay, 0:01:39.760 --> 0:01:58.320 ho ho ho. Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. 0:01:58.480 --> 0:02:00.720 I'm Erica and I'm me and. 0:02:00.640 --> 0:02:03.360 It's Wednesday, bitches, Happy Wednesday. 0:02:03.000 --> 0:02:04.760 Happy mother fucking Wednesday. 0:02:04.960 --> 0:02:07.200 Guys. We're back in New York City, our favorite place, 0:02:07.280 --> 0:02:11.280 the place that when we're here, it's very highly recommended 0:02:11.280 --> 0:02:13.960 that you join our Close Friends because more times than not, 0:02:14.080 --> 0:02:16.600 we're up to some shit. We definitely have been up 0:02:16.600 --> 0:02:19.359 to some shit. I'm so sorry if you're not part 0:02:19.400 --> 0:02:21.560 of Close Friends, because then our stories have expired from 0:02:21.600 --> 0:02:22.240 the Harder. 0:02:21.960 --> 0:02:24.040 Soft show, which you didn't want to miss. 0:02:24.080 --> 0:02:27.320 Wow, legendary. We are not a sex podcast. I've been 0:02:27.320 --> 0:02:29.600 telling me a lot since that show. I was like, yeah, 0:02:29.680 --> 0:02:32.160 we're not a sex podcast. No, because people always like 0:02:32.160 --> 0:02:35.400 categorize us as that. Nope, Nope, we are fucking. 0:02:35.160 --> 0:02:39.760 Pg as fuck compared to that parents parents fuck. 0:02:39.840 --> 0:02:41.840 We try to be cool, but it doesn't compare to 0:02:41.880 --> 0:02:43.880 the Harder Soft sex podcast. 0:02:45.639 --> 0:02:47.119 How are you feeling, my dear. 0:02:47.440 --> 0:02:49.640 I'm good. I you know, when I'm here, I just 0:02:49.720 --> 0:02:53.080 love being here. There's like an energy in New York 0:02:53.240 --> 0:02:57.400 that just speaks to my soul, my spirit. I'm staying 0:02:57.400 --> 0:03:00.760 in Brooklyn, which I usually stay in the city, which 0:03:00.760 --> 0:03:03.280 has been nice, and now I get like y, like, 0:03:03.320 --> 0:03:05.160 don't ever want to leave Brooklyn. People keep asking me 0:03:05.200 --> 0:03:05.840 to come to the city. 0:03:05.880 --> 0:03:10.160 I'm like, I do love Brooklyn. And you know, it's 0:03:10.280 --> 0:03:12.959 fall here, we get seasons. It's not like La where 0:03:12.960 --> 0:03:14.000 it's ninety eight degrees. 0:03:14.639 --> 0:03:14.920 I know. 0:03:15.000 --> 0:03:17.320 It's so nice, Like I feel creative when I'm in 0:03:17.360 --> 0:03:20.280 New York and I just love it here. Can't wait 0:03:20.280 --> 0:03:23.519 to we get that Brownstone baby, it's coming. 0:03:24.520 --> 0:03:24.920 Well. 0:03:25.400 --> 0:03:28.079 Without further ado, we have a very special guest that 0:03:28.120 --> 0:03:32.760 we actually met at the Hardersoft Podcast live show this weekend, 0:03:33.360 --> 0:03:39.160 So please welcome the Lovely amazing, Sir Marvelous, Hello, Hello, 0:03:39.240 --> 0:03:43.120 Hello professional dom cancer father extraordinaire. 0:03:43.360 --> 0:03:44.560 Oh yeah, I'll do it all. 0:03:46.200 --> 0:03:47.200 Welcome to the show. 0:03:47.440 --> 0:03:49.800 I'm so happy to be here with you. I am. 0:03:49.880 --> 0:03:51.320 This is like super excited. 0:03:51.360 --> 0:03:52.760 As soon as I stay, I was like, oh my god, 0:03:52.800 --> 0:03:55.320 I wanted to she's seen my own performance. 0:03:55.320 --> 0:03:56.600 Hopefully she bring me on the show. 0:03:56.760 --> 0:03:58.120 Oh we saw that. 0:03:57.560 --> 0:04:00.800 So he came up to me at the show and 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:04.040 was like, uh. He mentioned he was like, oh, you 0:04:04.040 --> 0:04:05.520 should have me as a guest on your podcast, and 0:04:05.560 --> 0:04:06.960 I was like okay, and he was like, did you 0:04:06.960 --> 0:04:09.280 see my performance? And I was like no, I did not. 0:04:10.760 --> 0:04:12.120 However, but then we. 0:04:12.080 --> 0:04:14.440 Went to the play party afterwards and I saw his 0:04:14.480 --> 0:04:17.279 performance up close and personal. I was just like literally 0:04:17.360 --> 0:04:18.640 up close and personal, and I was. 0:04:18.600 --> 0:04:22.400 Like she was She was literally like talking to me 0:04:22.480 --> 0:04:24.120 like she was. It was like going to a movie 0:04:24.160 --> 0:04:25.680 and like the bitch is talking. I was like, I 0:04:25.680 --> 0:04:27.920 don't think you're supposed to be talking. I think he 0:04:27.960 --> 0:04:30.440 brought her pussy. That was a pussy, the fire, the 0:04:30.480 --> 0:04:32.760 fire her pussy. Okay, So if you guys don't know 0:04:32.800 --> 0:04:35.840 so Marvelous, you should go check him out. He's a dumb, 0:04:36.000 --> 0:04:37.760 but I don't know if this is true, but I'm 0:04:37.760 --> 0:04:40.359 gonna go ahead and say it. He specializes in fire play, 0:04:41.080 --> 0:04:44.279 and he was doing some magic tricks with that pussy 0:04:44.480 --> 0:04:46.880 with the fire and it looks a little scary. But 0:04:46.920 --> 0:04:48.880 I also I was like, can I happen to my pussy? 0:04:49.720 --> 0:04:51.159 I'm scared, but I want to try it. 0:04:51.560 --> 0:04:56.560 I was yeah, same, I was like, what how please? Yeah? 0:04:56.600 --> 0:05:00.080 Th fireplay is literally the epitome of what BDS that 0:05:00.279 --> 0:05:02.440 is to me, so on the outside looking in, a 0:05:02.440 --> 0:05:04.200 lot of things that we do in BDSM could be 0:05:04.279 --> 0:05:07.520 very intimidating, and fireplay is probably one of the most 0:05:07.560 --> 0:05:10.240 intimidating things to think about trying. Nobody wakes up like 0:05:10.240 --> 0:05:11.839 I want to put fire them up us here, right, 0:05:12.320 --> 0:05:14.520 But when you're in a room with somebody who's a professional, 0:05:14.560 --> 0:05:16.640 they could explain the science behind it, why it burns 0:05:16.640 --> 0:05:19.000 at a lower temperature, to sensation, it feels, all of 0:05:19.000 --> 0:05:21.560 that great stuff. Then you're like wow, like I can't 0:05:21.560 --> 0:05:24.479 believe I was so afraid to try, or you know whatever. 0:05:24.560 --> 0:05:26.800 Same thing with impact play and you know, everything else 0:05:26.800 --> 0:05:27.280 that we do. 0:05:28.000 --> 0:05:32.839 So well for our listeners who are vanilla because we're 0:05:32.839 --> 0:05:38.799 not a sex podcast, what is BDSM. 0:05:37.160 --> 0:05:39.760 So BDSM to me, I'm not going to use the 0:05:40.120 --> 0:05:43.480 traditional definitions or whatever. For me what I do in 0:05:43.520 --> 0:05:45.480 my personal life, I look at it as an extension 0:05:45.520 --> 0:05:48.159 of foreplay. So a lot of times I feel like 0:05:48.480 --> 0:05:51.320 four play is missing from the sexual experience. So a 0:05:51.320 --> 0:05:53.480 lot of the things that I do personally, I just 0:05:53.520 --> 0:05:56.280 look at it as four play sensation play. You know, 0:05:56.440 --> 0:05:59.280 whether it be taking away someone's ability to see, ability 0:05:59.320 --> 0:06:02.760 to move, these are ways to heighten the experience. Using 0:06:02.800 --> 0:06:05.880 different tools to create different sensations on the body to 0:06:06.000 --> 0:06:08.799 encourage blood flow is something that we are like big 0:06:08.839 --> 0:06:11.400 on when it comes to different forms of play. But 0:06:11.440 --> 0:06:14.640 everything is about just providing a different sensation from my experience. 0:06:15.040 --> 0:06:17.800 There are other psychological aspects to it, like when you 0:06:17.880 --> 0:06:21.960 talk about the dominant submissive versions of BDSM, where your 0:06:22.400 --> 0:06:25.160 people are in relationships in there, you know they have 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:27.840 specific rules in ways that they go about, you know 0:06:27.880 --> 0:06:29.960 how they're going to navigate their dynamics. 0:06:30.000 --> 0:06:32.520 But for me, it's just for play. It's just full 0:06:32.520 --> 0:06:33.000 play for me. 0:06:33.120 --> 0:06:37.000 So how did you get into this play and how 0:06:37.040 --> 0:06:39.320 did you like? Yeah, has it been something that you've 0:06:39.360 --> 0:06:44.599 always felt a natural knack for or was it was 0:06:44.600 --> 0:06:46.080 it introduced to you by someone. 0:06:46.240 --> 0:06:48.520 Do you remember your first time? And you're like, wow, 0:06:48.560 --> 0:06:52.000 I do like to control a bitch. Wow, this seems fun. 0:06:52.279 --> 0:06:55.360 Well, to be honest, I'm less controlling than well. No, 0:06:55.560 --> 0:06:57.839 that's a lie, because I'm very directive when I am 0:06:57.960 --> 0:07:00.800 seeing with someone, but it's not so much that I 0:07:00.839 --> 0:07:03.840 want to control. What happened was I've always been into 0:07:04.200 --> 0:07:06.520 sex toys. I mentioned this all the time. I brought 0:07:06.560 --> 0:07:08.320 my first sex story when I was sixteen years old. 0:07:08.400 --> 0:07:08.839 Wow. 0:07:08.960 --> 0:07:10.600 And it was by accident, and I was just looking 0:07:10.640 --> 0:07:13.200 for a way to last longer in bed because I 0:07:13.200 --> 0:07:14.920 was dating a woman I was older than me at 0:07:14.960 --> 0:07:17.360 the time, and I kept coming fast. So I went 0:07:17.360 --> 0:07:19.800 on Google trying to find something to learn how to 0:07:19.840 --> 0:07:22.360 stop coming so fast, And then Google led me to 0:07:22.440 --> 0:07:25.600 these stories about women talking about their experiences sexually and 0:07:25.680 --> 0:07:27.400 how their only way they get to come is with 0:07:27.440 --> 0:07:31.440 their vibrator. And I was like, hmm, I kept hearing vibrator, vibratior, vibrator, 0:07:31.440 --> 0:07:33.400 and I'm like, let me go buy a vibrator. I 0:07:33.560 --> 0:07:36.600 used it during sex with my partner, and I was 0:07:36.640 --> 0:07:38.000 so entertained by how. 0:07:37.960 --> 0:07:40.520 Much pleasure she was experienced. I didn't even think about coming. 0:07:40.840 --> 0:07:43.480 And I was like, Wow, you know what if this 0:07:43.680 --> 0:07:45.360 one toy does this, let me see if I can 0:07:45.400 --> 0:07:47.760 buy more and more and more. And I just started collecting. 0:07:48.200 --> 0:07:50.680 I had no idea that a lot of the type 0:07:50.720 --> 0:07:53.320 of players that I was doing was kinky or anything. 0:07:53.360 --> 0:07:54.160 I just thought I was a freak. 0:07:54.160 --> 0:07:54.280 Oh. 0:07:54.320 --> 0:07:56.000 My friend's like, yo, you're a big freaking all these 0:07:56.040 --> 0:07:56.680 toys in your house. 0:07:56.760 --> 0:07:59.160 I was like, were these toys in your mom? 0:07:59.600 --> 0:08:02.760 Well, your parents? You know us boys, teenage boys, we 0:08:02.840 --> 0:08:05.720 have some secret hottest bots under the mattress. And all 0:08:05.720 --> 0:08:06.840 this as being a. 0:08:06.800 --> 0:08:09.600 Mom and opening up your son's drawer and being like. 0:08:10.000 --> 0:08:12.240 Oh I had I had. I had a vibrator in 0:08:12.320 --> 0:08:12.760 high school. 0:08:12.800 --> 0:08:16.000 But I'm saying, like a boy, my son, I'd be like, wow, 0:08:16.040 --> 0:08:18.000 I would be proud. I would be like, but my 0:08:18.040 --> 0:08:21.000 son is very he's very ahead of his game. And 0:08:21.080 --> 0:08:21.960 I am a proud mother. 0:08:22.120 --> 0:08:24.640 I was raised my grandmother, so she was more. 0:08:26.200 --> 0:08:29.040 So it's safe to say she never found your box trick. 0:08:29.160 --> 0:08:32.400 Actually, confessionist, the first time I've ever admitted this. I 0:08:32.480 --> 0:08:35.000 came home one day and all of my toys and 0:08:35.040 --> 0:08:36.800 pornos and stuff was on my bed. 0:08:36.960 --> 0:08:38.679 Oh my god, Grandma. 0:08:38.840 --> 0:08:41.120 Literally, I was like, I was blow it away, and 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:42.880 I knew that the home atendant had to help her 0:08:43.000 --> 0:08:45.400 take all that stuff out. My drawers because my hiding 0:08:45.440 --> 0:08:48.240 place I had these like like six tier draw big 0:08:48.320 --> 0:08:50.960 dresser draw, a big old fashioned dresser, and I said, 0:08:51.000 --> 0:08:52.840 and it was so deep. I used to pull the 0:08:52.880 --> 0:08:55.280 drawers out and put everything behind the draw and then 0:08:55.320 --> 0:08:58.720 put the drawer back in. And apparently I had something 0:08:58.760 --> 0:09:01.240 sticking out from under it, and they found it that way, 0:09:01.280 --> 0:09:03.079 and I came home and everything was laid out on it, 0:09:03.120 --> 0:09:03.840 and she was like, what is this. 0:09:03.920 --> 0:09:05.400 I was like, I don't know, I don't know. My 0:09:05.880 --> 0:09:08.960 favorite it wasn't mine. It's not mine my room, but 0:09:09.000 --> 0:09:09.560 it ain't mine. 0:09:10.679 --> 0:09:12.400 Yeah, I mean, I've been checking out your pins. He 0:09:12.480 --> 0:09:16.400 is so marvelous. Is if you're watching this episode then 0:09:16.559 --> 0:09:20.679 he's very looking quite dapper. Right now. He's wearing navy 0:09:20.679 --> 0:09:25.400 blue suit with a burgundy tie, and he has. 0:09:25.280 --> 0:09:27.040 These two pins. 0:09:27.200 --> 0:09:31.040 One is a vibrator, yes, yes, At first I wasn't 0:09:31.040 --> 0:09:32.280 sure what that was and I was like. 0:09:32.200 --> 0:09:34.320 Oh, yeah, it's the magic one is magic. 0:09:34.720 --> 0:09:36.920 I've seen that one. That's how I could identify it. 0:09:37.080 --> 0:09:42.760 And the other is a whip floggerger podcaster. I told you, 0:09:42.800 --> 0:09:46.720 I'm not even I know that ship. 0:09:47.880 --> 0:09:50.480 Well, yeah, these are two of my favorite toys, probably 0:09:50.840 --> 0:09:53.480 two of the most popular toys in general. So you know, 0:09:53.840 --> 0:09:55.240 I might have to get a rose and put that 0:09:55.280 --> 0:09:57.080 on here now because the Rose is stepping. 0:09:56.840 --> 0:10:00.280 Up broad review about that rose. I gotta get that, 0:10:00.360 --> 0:10:00.520 you know. 0:10:00.559 --> 0:10:03.160 Actually, my sub said he was gonna I'm a sub, 0:10:03.280 --> 0:10:05.320 but I'm also a dom in my DMS. 0:10:06.440 --> 0:10:07.559 If no one knew I do. 0:10:07.600 --> 0:10:10.880 I have a sub in my DM specifically, and he 0:10:10.960 --> 0:10:14.199 calls me Daddy Mila, and he actually said he was 0:10:14.240 --> 0:10:16.680 going to send Erica and I money for the Rose. 0:10:17.160 --> 0:10:20.560 We've spent it on dinner, but maybe maybe he'll send. 0:10:20.320 --> 0:10:21.840 More beautiful beautiful. 0:10:22.040 --> 0:10:24.560 Yeah, I've heard great reviews about this rose. My friend 0:10:24.600 --> 0:10:26.080 said it to me a while ago, and I was like, 0:10:26.120 --> 0:10:28.480 maybe you don't know. I was like, m But then 0:10:28.559 --> 0:10:30.880 I just keeps popping up, Like I swear, the last month, 0:10:31.200 --> 0:10:32.880 someone has like talked to me about this shit at 0:10:32.960 --> 0:10:35.120 least three to four times, So I think you have 0:10:35.240 --> 0:10:36.679 my money coming. 0:10:38.120 --> 0:10:38.880 I'm so jealous. 0:10:38.920 --> 0:10:40.760 We don't have as many great sex toy as far 0:10:40.760 --> 0:10:42.240 as but they're coming out more and more. 0:10:42.520 --> 0:10:45.800 Please ask Orlando that Nigga has about Oh yeah, next 0:10:45.800 --> 0:10:46.760 toy that a man like. 0:10:46.760 --> 0:10:49.440 What is appealing to you as a man like in 0:10:49.480 --> 0:10:50.080 a sex toy? 0:10:50.320 --> 0:10:51.040 What are you looking for? 0:10:51.120 --> 0:10:52.920 I mean, I think most men we just want something 0:10:52.960 --> 0:10:54.600 that's wet and warm to stick on things. 0:10:55.600 --> 0:10:59.720 I know, sounds crazy, it sounds accurate, it makes sense, 0:11:00.160 --> 0:11:00.880 but yeah. 0:11:00.840 --> 0:11:01.760 I think it would be dope. 0:11:01.960 --> 0:11:03.880 I'm pretty sure they have it now where you can 0:11:03.960 --> 0:11:07.040 like control the bluetooth, so like perhaps if your partners 0:11:07.120 --> 0:11:08.720 like on the other side of the world or whatever, 0:11:08.800 --> 0:11:09.720 they can control how. 0:11:09.760 --> 0:11:11.920 Oh they do shout out to satisfire. If you guys 0:11:11.960 --> 0:11:14.680 haven't tried satisfied, they have the SATISFI or connect app. 0:11:15.679 --> 0:11:19.680 We love Satisfire and that shit really works because I've 0:11:19.760 --> 0:11:21.840 used it across the country. 0:11:22.280 --> 0:11:24.040 So yeah, yeah, you. 0:11:23.960 --> 0:11:25.640 Can also fuck to your own You can also fuck 0:11:25.640 --> 0:11:26.079 to music. 0:11:26.200 --> 0:11:28.880 Yes, that's something I love to do so and during 0:11:28.920 --> 0:11:31.480 my sessions, I have one of the Lush toys and 0:11:31.520 --> 0:11:34.319 I connected to my playlist that everybody was getting that 0:11:34.400 --> 0:11:37.960 meal atn't play the party, but yeah, I connected to 0:11:38.000 --> 0:11:41.440 my playlist and as the playlist gets more intense, the sodas, 0:11:41.440 --> 0:11:44.520 the vibrations so during their massage, they're filling that experience 0:11:44.559 --> 0:11:46.520 and then once that happens, I. 0:11:46.480 --> 0:11:48.079 Take them over to the cross and now this stuff 0:11:48.120 --> 0:11:48.719 happens after that. 0:11:49.000 --> 0:11:53.480 Yeah, well you talked about like exploring toys at a 0:11:53.559 --> 0:11:56.880 very young age. When did you, like, at what point 0:11:56.920 --> 0:11:58.679 did you become a professional dumb? 0:11:59.240 --> 0:11:59.560 Okay? 0:11:59.720 --> 0:12:02.840 So I went through a breakup with my ex fiance 0:12:03.480 --> 0:12:06.400 and I finally got my mojo bag got on Tender. 0:12:06.520 --> 0:12:09.079 Wait side note, he's a cancer was a table full 0:12:09.120 --> 0:12:11.640 of modern signs. Yes, you know we have a hard 0:12:11.640 --> 0:12:16.280 time letting go. Oh trust me, your people hoarders, I'll 0:12:16.280 --> 0:12:17.600 speak for you when I say I know. 0:12:18.800 --> 0:12:21.360 So I was going through break and finally got my 0:12:21.360 --> 0:12:23.880 mojo back and I joined Tender and I met this 0:12:23.920 --> 0:12:26.480 woman on there. At first, I didn't think she was 0:12:26.480 --> 0:12:30.839 a woman at all, mainly because the way she was speaking. 0:12:30.840 --> 0:12:32.840 As soon as we got as soon as the conversation started, 0:12:32.840 --> 0:12:33.840 she was like yeah. 0:12:33.960 --> 0:12:35.360 I was like, you know, sell me some things. You 0:12:35.520 --> 0:12:36.200 like you're into it. 0:12:36.200 --> 0:12:37.720 She's like, yeah, I want a man and control me, 0:12:37.760 --> 0:12:39.880 tell me what to do, you know, fuck me hard 0:12:39.920 --> 0:12:42.760 and treat me like a slut. And I'm like I'm like, 0:12:42.880 --> 0:12:46.120 this is literally like five minutes into the conversation, I'm like, 0:12:46.160 --> 0:12:48.439 no woman really speaks like that, especially you know, someone 0:12:48.480 --> 0:12:50.320 that seems to have so much going for yourself, Like 0:12:50.320 --> 0:12:52.439 why are you just throwing it so like red flag? 0:12:52.440 --> 0:12:54.520 You're trying to steal my kidneys or some shit like that. 0:12:54.960 --> 0:12:57.120 But I was like, you know, that's a red flag. 0:12:57.200 --> 0:12:59.080 She let it go, and then we started a conversation 0:12:59.120 --> 0:13:02.360 about something else, and then the conversation once again came up, like, hey, so. 0:13:02.280 --> 0:13:03.760 Tell me some things you like. Well, I like to 0:13:03.840 --> 0:13:06.760 be treated like a slut and whatever. 0:13:06.880 --> 0:13:08.480 I'm maybe put that in my profile. 0:13:09.840 --> 0:13:12.000 And I'm like, long walks on the beach and being 0:13:12.080 --> 0:13:14.960 treated like a slut, like a slat. 0:13:15.120 --> 0:13:15.520 Whoa. 0:13:15.720 --> 0:13:18.640 So I'm like, yeah, that's a red flag because women 0:13:18.679 --> 0:13:22.040 don't normally talk like that right away, and I got blocked. 0:13:22.400 --> 0:13:24.599 And what happened was I remember her name, and I 0:13:24.640 --> 0:13:27.360 looked up on Facebook at the time and I found 0:13:27.400 --> 0:13:29.880 her and apparently she had a lot of live videos 0:13:30.200 --> 0:13:33.000 and inbox are just mad like drippy tip videos. 0:13:33.600 --> 0:13:36.040 Fuck it, I'm afreik to here. What's a drip Drippy 0:13:36.080 --> 0:13:38.360 tip video is a video where you jerk up till 0:13:38.360 --> 0:13:42.400 you come and the tip is drippy? Well, my, my, 0:13:42.400 --> 0:13:44.840 my famous close it a drippy tip video because you 0:13:44.880 --> 0:13:45.480 know you're dripping. 0:13:47.320 --> 0:13:49.679 You went from red flag toppy tips. 0:13:49.720 --> 0:13:51.440 Yeah, because I confirmed it was a real woman. 0:13:51.520 --> 0:13:54.360 I was like, if anyone wants a dripping tip is. 0:13:54.559 --> 0:13:56.640 I'm like, because I'm part of the reason. I'm not 0:13:56.640 --> 0:14:01.160 gonna lie like money motherfuckers. So time, I'm like, my 0:14:01.280 --> 0:14:04.480 concern was, is this a real person really talking like this? 0:14:04.679 --> 0:14:06.880 Like if so, if not, what's the trap. 0:14:06.880 --> 0:14:09.640 With a video? Sexual or they were just confirmation that 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:10.319 she was a woman. 0:14:10.559 --> 0:14:14.000 The videos were confirmation that this was a real person, 0:14:14.080 --> 0:14:16.599 like her post like, she was very very active on 0:14:17.840 --> 0:14:20.920 Facebook and everything. So as soon as I sent all 0:14:20.960 --> 0:14:23.360 of those videos in those news or whatever, she replied 0:14:23.400 --> 0:14:24.600 literally like that's. 0:14:24.400 --> 0:14:27.160 More like it, and now we can continue. And mind you, 0:14:27.320 --> 0:14:29.160 she was she was very well off. 0:14:29.240 --> 0:14:31.200 She was trying not to give her too much information, 0:14:31.280 --> 0:14:33.560 but she she was very well off. That's why it 0:14:33.680 --> 0:14:35.680 was surprising to me because in her picture she looked 0:14:35.680 --> 0:14:38.400 so successful. I like, you know what I mean, Yes, 0:14:38.600 --> 0:14:42.120 she was a black woman, And once again I started 0:14:42.120 --> 0:14:44.040 to look at you know, I'm a big nurse, So 0:14:44.080 --> 0:14:45.480 I was like, you know, why would women want to 0:14:45.520 --> 0:14:47.840 be treated like this, especially women are successful. Then I 0:14:47.880 --> 0:14:49.800 came across these articles that was like a lot of 0:14:49.840 --> 0:14:52.440 times when people are very dominant in their regular lives, 0:14:52.680 --> 0:14:55.360 they desire to relinquish control when it comes to the 0:14:55.400 --> 0:14:58.800 bedroom and other experiences like that. So I was like, Okay, 0:14:58.920 --> 0:15:00.880 that makes a lot of sense, and I started reading 0:15:00.880 --> 0:15:03.720 more and more. What she was into wasn't my king 0:15:03.880 --> 0:15:07.360 per se. She wanted literally somebody to like, you know, 0:15:07.440 --> 0:15:10.360 slap her around, choke her, and she wants she loved. 0:15:10.400 --> 0:15:12.320 She was very much into fear play and fearing the 0:15:12.360 --> 0:15:15.240 person she was into. And there's no no shame in that. 0:15:15.560 --> 0:15:17.200 But at the time I wasn't at that level. 0:15:17.400 --> 0:15:17.640 You know. 0:15:17.800 --> 0:15:19.640 I was trying to fake the funk as much as 0:15:19.640 --> 0:15:23.760 I could because I'm like, she she paid, she fine, 0:15:23.880 --> 0:15:26.520 she paid, She's a real she into everything, but it 0:15:26.560 --> 0:15:28.520 was just wasn't my thing. I couldn't keep it up long. 0:15:28.920 --> 0:15:30.800 But I did walk away with a lot of the 0:15:30.880 --> 0:15:32.840 terminology I learned. I walked through with a lot of 0:15:32.960 --> 0:15:35.600 knowledge in general, and I realized a lot of the 0:15:35.640 --> 0:15:37.920 things that you know that they say a dominant is 0:15:38.080 --> 0:15:40.360 what stuff that I was into. I look at her 0:15:40.400 --> 0:15:42.920 dominant as just a leader or the person who's you know, 0:15:43.000 --> 0:15:45.960 creating the scene, so to speak. So we're all dominant 0:15:46.000 --> 0:15:48.760 if you are the types of you know, create the playlist, 0:15:49.320 --> 0:15:51.960 you know, turn the lights down, cook dinner, create that 0:15:52.040 --> 0:15:55.160 ambiance for a person that's you being dominant because you're leading, 0:15:55.200 --> 0:15:57.440 you're creating the scene for that person, you know what 0:15:57.480 --> 0:15:59.240 I mean, or that experience, and. 0:15:59.600 --> 0:16:01.120 That's whole I've always been. 0:16:01.160 --> 0:16:03.360 I'm the type of person like even before I you know, 0:16:03.400 --> 0:16:05.120 I knew about the terminology. I'm like, I want to 0:16:05.200 --> 0:16:07.000 use this toy. Then I'm gonna go over here. Then 0:16:07.000 --> 0:16:08.360 we're gonna go in the living room, and then we're 0:16:08.400 --> 0:16:10.000 gonna go here, and we're gonna end over here. Like 0:16:10.040 --> 0:16:11.960 I had it all playing out of my head and 0:16:12.080 --> 0:16:13.360 it just works out so dope. 0:16:13.440 --> 0:16:15.120 So I was like, yeah, that's for me. 0:16:15.680 --> 0:16:17.520 You like to curate the sexual experience. 0:16:17.640 --> 0:16:20.680 You end up meeting her and okay, you guys ended 0:16:20.760 --> 0:16:22.040 up you know, fucking. 0:16:22.960 --> 0:16:25.800 But she was more experienced. He couldn't cha through. 0:16:25.680 --> 0:16:28.800 Your No, it wasn't that, it was through your level. 0:16:28.600 --> 0:16:30.920 One, your level one face domina. 0:16:31.000 --> 0:16:32.920 I just couldn't. I just couldn't keep up, Like she 0:16:33.120 --> 0:16:35.800 was always on flights and going here and there, and 0:16:35.840 --> 0:16:39.200 like she also was very much into the psychological thing, 0:16:39.280 --> 0:16:41.720 like I'm more like I'm not a dom on the phone. 0:16:41.760 --> 0:16:43.800 I'm not. I tell people that I'm not a virtual domina. 0:16:43.960 --> 0:16:45.640 I can't be like yeah girl, do do do do 0:16:46.000 --> 0:16:48.120 like I'm not that I'm more in person. I want 0:16:48.120 --> 0:16:49.880 to put my hands on you and things like that. 0:16:49.960 --> 0:16:51.840 And she was so busy that I couldn't get that 0:16:51.960 --> 0:16:54.680 leverage of like like my my semesters, because's like when 0:16:54.680 --> 0:16:56.520 they Philly's hands is a different thing, you know what 0:16:56.560 --> 0:16:59.440 I'm saying. So, because she was always busy and always 0:16:59.440 --> 0:17:01.720 on the goal, didn't never really cross paths. She came 0:17:01.760 --> 0:17:04.199 to New York City one time and she stuck me 0:17:04.240 --> 0:17:06.280 into her hotel. She had like a whole management team 0:17:06.280 --> 0:17:08.679 that she brought out the whole floor for but like 0:17:08.800 --> 0:17:11.320 yeah something, she was like, yeah, come on in, now 0:17:11.320 --> 0:17:12.920 we can get it in. It was like twenty minutes. 0:17:12.960 --> 0:17:16.000 It was the most like my biggest underperformance. I could 0:17:16.040 --> 0:17:17.720