1 00:00:00,480 --> 00:00:09,880 Speaker 1: Hi Chip, Happy Friday. Good Friday. It's really Thursday, but 2 00:00:09,960 --> 00:00:12,960 Speaker 1: the people are listening to this on a Friday. It 3 00:00:13,000 --> 00:00:16,040 Speaker 1: will be live on a Friday, live on Friday night, 4 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:20,320 Speaker 1: I mean morning Friday, Friday night, morning, Friday morning. Whenever 5 00:00:20,400 --> 00:00:24,280 Speaker 1: you're listening, I hope that you're having a Friday experience. 6 00:00:24,560 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: Let's say that holiday Friday at that oh right along weekend. 7 00:00:29,240 --> 00:00:32,240 Speaker 1: You know, I feel as though we could all use 8 00:00:32,400 --> 00:00:36,760 Speaker 1: a long weekends. Yes, I need a weekend in general. 9 00:00:36,840 --> 00:00:38,960 Speaker 1: I've been traveling so much. Like this is my first 10 00:00:38,960 --> 00:00:43,040 Speaker 1: weekend and I'm home and weeks so I plan on 11 00:00:43,159 --> 00:00:45,159 Speaker 1: being fairly luzy, although I amn't going to come over 12 00:00:45,159 --> 00:00:48,600 Speaker 1: to your house and pressure wash pressure wash, which is 13 00:00:48,640 --> 00:00:51,280 Speaker 1: so excited the things that get excited about at this age. 14 00:00:53,080 --> 00:00:54,960 Speaker 1: It's like Poppins. It's you're gonna I'm gonna teach you 15 00:00:54,960 --> 00:00:57,120 Speaker 1: how to do it, and you're gonna be You're gonna 16 00:00:57,120 --> 00:01:00,240 Speaker 1: buy your own pressure washer. Well, you know, we really 17 00:01:00,240 --> 00:01:01,960 Speaker 1: do like to bring you guys a lot of joy, 18 00:01:02,160 --> 00:01:04,080 Speaker 1: but it's been a really heavy week here in America. 19 00:01:04,120 --> 00:01:05,840 Speaker 1: I know some of our listeners are not even here, 20 00:01:05,959 --> 00:01:09,160 Speaker 1: and like, honestly, good for y'all. I just feel like 21 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:13,080 Speaker 1: our country is like a fucking mess where a mass 22 00:01:13,600 --> 00:01:15,720 Speaker 1: the whole the whole world is talking about it. So 23 00:01:15,800 --> 00:01:19,119 Speaker 1: it's not like you know it really it's just such 24 00:01:19,160 --> 00:01:23,000 Speaker 1: a shame. Like I woke up yesterday morning and I 25 00:01:23,080 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 1: doom scrolled for a minute on the Instagram, and I 26 00:01:25,200 --> 00:01:27,520 Speaker 1: was like, I just want to go back to bed 27 00:01:29,040 --> 00:01:34,280 Speaker 1: because it's like it feels like such a big problem 28 00:01:34,319 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 1: and nobody is Nobody in a position of power is 29 00:01:40,240 --> 00:01:43,600 Speaker 1: truly stepping up and just getting something done. I feel 30 00:01:43,600 --> 00:01:46,720 Speaker 1: like if there were a company that was this just 31 00:01:46,760 --> 00:01:51,160 Speaker 1: like in shambles, it would either go out of business 32 00:01:51,280 --> 00:01:53,120 Speaker 1: or someone would have to step up and be like, 33 00:01:53,480 --> 00:01:56,600 Speaker 1: this is what we're doing. Everyone fall in line. Can 34 00:01:56,600 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: America go out of business? I mean we need to 35 00:01:59,680 --> 00:02:01,920 Speaker 1: go with do we needed to file bankruptcy right now? 36 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:06,000 Speaker 1: I like the Roman Empire fell, you know, like fail 37 00:02:06,280 --> 00:02:10,360 Speaker 1: like well, it's it's that interesting thing where it's like 38 00:02:10,400 --> 00:02:12,480 Speaker 1: I feel like Americans for so many years we've been 39 00:02:12,480 --> 00:02:15,880 Speaker 1: this like arrogant country that's just like, oh, America, you know, 40 00:02:15,960 --> 00:02:18,320 Speaker 1: we're so great, and we don't. We're the country that 41 00:02:18,360 --> 00:02:21,000 Speaker 1: doesn't know anything about other countries. They all know so much, 42 00:02:21,080 --> 00:02:23,639 Speaker 1: they all speak multiple languages and we're the assholes. We 43 00:02:23,720 --> 00:02:26,320 Speaker 1: only speak English, just like that kind of ship. And 44 00:02:26,320 --> 00:02:29,400 Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, we're really showing our true 45 00:02:29,440 --> 00:02:32,800 Speaker 1: colors here and that we do not have ship figured out. 46 00:02:33,040 --> 00:02:37,639 Speaker 1: And honestly, it feels like we're like a teenager country 47 00:02:37,680 --> 00:02:40,120 Speaker 1: that is trying to act like adults that doesn't know 48 00:02:40,240 --> 00:02:43,600 Speaker 1: what the hell is going on, and we're imploding, like 49 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:47,720 Speaker 1: literally imploding. You guys somehow live under a rock and 50 00:02:47,760 --> 00:02:51,320 Speaker 1: have escaped this news we're talking about. Um, there was 51 00:02:51,360 --> 00:02:56,000 Speaker 1: a massive school shooting this week in Texas and a 52 00:02:56,160 --> 00:02:59,720 Speaker 1: kid urn eighteen, went and bought an assault rifle and 53 00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:03,320 Speaker 1: then USA Rifles went straight to a school and just 54 00:03:04,080 --> 00:03:06,240 Speaker 1: started shooting. And there's a lot more too. He's shot 55 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:08,960 Speaker 1: as grandmother before. Did you know this? I didn't even 56 00:03:09,000 --> 00:03:11,720 Speaker 1: know that part until today I was reading about it. Um. 57 00:03:11,800 --> 00:03:13,840 Speaker 1: But it's sort of like what you said in the 58 00:03:13,919 --> 00:03:17,079 Speaker 1: reading and everything. You do have to really guard your 59 00:03:17,160 --> 00:03:20,840 Speaker 1: energy because it's very overwhelming. And if this was the 60 00:03:20,919 --> 00:03:24,720 Speaker 1: first problem that I think we had undergone in the 61 00:03:24,800 --> 00:03:28,000 Speaker 1: last couple of years, it would be like, Okay, here 62 00:03:28,040 --> 00:03:29,640 Speaker 1: we go. This is the thing we got to focus on. 63 00:03:29,680 --> 00:03:31,720 Speaker 1: This is a real problem here. But this is like 64 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:35,360 Speaker 1: one of the things, like we have so many issues, 65 00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:40,040 Speaker 1: it feels like and it just keeps piling on top 66 00:03:40,080 --> 00:03:43,560 Speaker 1: of each other, and so it's extremely overwhelming. It's a 67 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:47,640 Speaker 1: very helpless feeling. There's a hopeless feeling that I've been 68 00:03:47,680 --> 00:03:49,960 Speaker 1: getting of, just like I want to do something. I 69 00:03:50,040 --> 00:03:52,640 Speaker 1: want there to be changed. There has to be changed, 70 00:03:52,640 --> 00:03:54,960 Speaker 1: like to me, it's not even an option anymore. But 71 00:03:55,000 --> 00:03:57,280 Speaker 1: it's so hard to know where you can even start, 72 00:03:57,360 --> 00:04:00,320 Speaker 1: or how you can help or what you can do. Yeah, 73 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:06,200 Speaker 1: I mean, it's the thing that really sucks, is um. 74 00:04:06,280 --> 00:04:11,080 Speaker 1: I mean, aside from the carnage, because that's the kids 75 00:04:11,120 --> 00:04:13,200 Speaker 1: piece of it is what sets me over the edge. 76 00:04:13,280 --> 00:04:17,120 Speaker 1: I just it's where where are the parents that we're 77 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:19,680 Speaker 1: screaming about their kids having to mask in school? Like 78 00:04:20,120 --> 00:04:22,440 Speaker 1: I would be livid if my child was having to 79 00:04:22,520 --> 00:04:27,160 Speaker 1: do you know, armed you know, gunmen drills. It's like 80 00:04:28,880 --> 00:04:31,360 Speaker 1: the stress that that must put on a child, distress 81 00:04:31,480 --> 00:04:34,320 Speaker 1: Like say, I've seen some some posts that are like, 82 00:04:34,680 --> 00:04:36,520 Speaker 1: you know, we can take this is how much it 83 00:04:36,520 --> 00:04:39,320 Speaker 1: would cost to put armed veterans at the entrance of 84 00:04:39,360 --> 00:04:44,160 Speaker 1: every school in America. And it's like, but also why 85 00:04:45,120 --> 00:04:46,600 Speaker 1: you know how stressed out I get when I walk 86 00:04:46,680 --> 00:04:49,560 Speaker 1: by an armed guard at the airport? Right, Why is 87 00:04:49,600 --> 00:04:52,760 Speaker 1: that the first solution here? Like, there's so many other 88 00:04:52,800 --> 00:04:55,320 Speaker 1: steps that could be taken, in my opinion. The other 89 00:04:55,400 --> 00:04:58,479 Speaker 1: piece of this is like there is the huge issue 90 00:04:58,520 --> 00:05:00,400 Speaker 1: that we have with gun laws that other Truths have 91 00:05:00,560 --> 00:05:04,119 Speaker 1: changed their laws, and obviously it has made a huge impact. 92 00:05:04,160 --> 00:05:07,159 Speaker 1: They're not having these issues. So I'm kind of like, uh, 93 00:05:07,240 --> 00:05:10,400 Speaker 1: other than people making a lot of money off of this, like, 94 00:05:10,480 --> 00:05:13,880 Speaker 1: give me one good reason that we should not be 95 00:05:13,960 --> 00:05:16,680 Speaker 1: changing ship And that that's where it gets very twisted 96 00:05:16,680 --> 00:05:21,400 Speaker 1: and convoluted and really fucking gross. It's really gross. Um. 97 00:05:21,440 --> 00:05:24,719 Speaker 1: But the other piece is this bigger issue that I 98 00:05:24,760 --> 00:05:27,440 Speaker 1: really feel like it's magnified in a bunch of the 99 00:05:27,440 --> 00:05:30,280 Speaker 1: different scenarios in our culture right now, and that is 100 00:05:30,360 --> 00:05:34,599 Speaker 1: our mental health and not like mental health, like people 101 00:05:34,600 --> 00:05:36,640 Speaker 1: are so sick and twisted that they would go do this, 102 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:39,560 Speaker 1: and this guy is like so off his rocker. I 103 00:05:39,640 --> 00:05:43,480 Speaker 1: actually think it is basic mental health. And we've become 104 00:05:43,600 --> 00:05:50,480 Speaker 1: so removed from love, inner love, family love, Like we're 105 00:05:50,520 --> 00:05:55,039 Speaker 1: just literally so disconnected as humans. And so maybe it's 106 00:05:55,080 --> 00:05:59,159 Speaker 1: this shooter. Maybe it's like all these other things happening 107 00:05:59,160 --> 00:06:02,080 Speaker 1: in our world, the arguments that we're like we're so 108 00:06:02,200 --> 00:06:05,560 Speaker 1: fucking divided on and can't listen to people anymore, communicate 109 00:06:05,640 --> 00:06:10,040 Speaker 1: like we have no skills as human beings. It feels 110 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:13,000 Speaker 1: like like it is just literally we're missing it. We 111 00:06:13,080 --> 00:06:15,640 Speaker 1: are so missing it. And so it's like if you 112 00:06:15,800 --> 00:06:18,800 Speaker 1: don't have that in line, we can make gun laws 113 00:06:18,800 --> 00:06:21,800 Speaker 1: and stuff too, which I think we need to, but 114 00:06:21,880 --> 00:06:24,240 Speaker 1: like there's gonna be other issues because we're not dealing 115 00:06:24,279 --> 00:06:28,160 Speaker 1: with the root problem here, right right, Well, I mean 116 00:06:28,360 --> 00:06:32,000 Speaker 1: the truth is, is that problem I saw someone post 117 00:06:32,040 --> 00:06:36,680 Speaker 1: the other day, like mental health problems exists around the world, right, 118 00:06:37,279 --> 00:06:40,279 Speaker 1: but mass shootings are only a problem in the US. 119 00:06:40,800 --> 00:06:42,960 Speaker 1: I know. That's why it's both. I don't think it's 120 00:06:42,960 --> 00:06:46,600 Speaker 1: like one or the other. I think both issues greatly 121 00:06:46,640 --> 00:06:48,680 Speaker 1: being magnified, like I said, and we got to look 122 00:06:48,680 --> 00:06:52,000 Speaker 1: at all of it, right, But but the the argument 123 00:06:52,080 --> 00:06:56,040 Speaker 1: for those who are like um, you know, would would 124 00:06:56,040 --> 00:06:58,000 Speaker 1: die on the sort of the Second Amendment, which, by 125 00:06:58,000 --> 00:06:59,839 Speaker 1: the way, I think we should protect the Second Amendment, 126 00:07:00,040 --> 00:07:02,800 Speaker 1: but I think it should be read correctly and it's 127 00:07:02,839 --> 00:07:05,240 Speaker 1: not just this all encompassing thing that's like a free 128 00:07:05,279 --> 00:07:07,480 Speaker 1: for all, Like it was first of all, written at 129 00:07:07,480 --> 00:07:10,160 Speaker 1: a time when muskets were the gun of choice and 130 00:07:10,200 --> 00:07:13,320 Speaker 1: you could shoot like two bullets a minute, and now 131 00:07:13,400 --> 00:07:16,800 Speaker 1: you can shoot like forty five. Why do we need reference? 132 00:07:16,880 --> 00:07:19,200 Speaker 1: To me? I'm just like, we don't know what what 133 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:21,400 Speaker 1: what are we doing here? Why is an eighteen year 134 00:07:21,400 --> 00:07:24,960 Speaker 1: old able to just walk in and buy an assault rifle? Right? 135 00:07:25,080 --> 00:07:28,520 Speaker 1: What in the actual fuck? Especially when you look at 136 00:07:28,560 --> 00:07:30,760 Speaker 1: the regulations that are put on women that want to 137 00:07:30,800 --> 00:07:33,640 Speaker 1: get an abortion, and you know, like you have to 138 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:35,840 Speaker 1: see a psychiatrist and you have to wait weeks and 139 00:07:35,840 --> 00:07:37,840 Speaker 1: you've got all of these things, but you could just 140 00:07:37,880 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 1: go buy a gun. Anyone could just go buy a 141 00:07:40,080 --> 00:07:44,080 Speaker 1: gun at a certain age. Like it's insanity to me. Um, 142 00:07:44,120 --> 00:07:47,760 Speaker 1: you know, I think I joke, but I'm like not joking, 143 00:07:47,880 --> 00:07:50,720 Speaker 1: Like I feel like they're is a loophole for all 144 00:07:50,760 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 1: the people that are like you don't you can't take 145 00:07:52,800 --> 00:07:58,880 Speaker 1: our guns. It does not mention anywhere in the Second 146 00:07:58,920 --> 00:08:03,360 Speaker 1: Amendment lits. It doesn't mention any unitions. It mentions arms. 147 00:08:04,120 --> 00:08:07,880 Speaker 1: And you know, why don't we regulate bullets? Make them 148 00:08:07,880 --> 00:08:11,400 Speaker 1: really expensive? Like whn't you think twice about like firing 149 00:08:11,400 --> 00:08:14,640 Speaker 1: a bullet that cost you a hundred dollars. You know, 150 00:08:14,680 --> 00:08:17,520 Speaker 1: it's like I love, I do think people should have 151 00:08:17,520 --> 00:08:19,440 Speaker 1: the right to bear arms and protect their families and 152 00:08:19,480 --> 00:08:22,080 Speaker 1: protect their homes. But I just think that there needs 153 00:08:22,080 --> 00:08:24,280 Speaker 1: to be better regulation. It can't be a free for all. 154 00:08:24,520 --> 00:08:26,320 Speaker 1: I also think the cats out of the bag in 155 00:08:26,360 --> 00:08:28,480 Speaker 1: our country and there's so there's more guns in our 156 00:08:28,520 --> 00:08:32,000 Speaker 1: country than there are people. And you know, that to 157 00:08:32,120 --> 00:08:36,319 Speaker 1: me feels like an insurmountable problem to solve. Um that said, 158 00:08:36,559 --> 00:08:40,440 Speaker 1: when there was a mass shooting in New Zealand or Australia. Australia, 159 00:08:40,480 --> 00:08:43,040 Speaker 1: New Zealand, I can't remember, they changed their gun laws 160 00:08:43,160 --> 00:08:45,839 Speaker 1: and they haven't had a mass shooting, this is what 161 00:08:45,960 --> 00:08:47,880 Speaker 1: I'm saying. And they and they bought that they had 162 00:08:47,920 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 1: a buyback program, so it was voluntary. I posted something 163 00:08:51,960 --> 00:08:54,400 Speaker 1: that a lot of people are posting about the buyback 164 00:08:54,480 --> 00:08:59,400 Speaker 1: stuff here. Yeah, it's like good volunteery. It's a great start, 165 00:08:59,520 --> 00:09:01,920 Speaker 1: you know, Like that's no one taking your guns. That's 166 00:09:01,960 --> 00:09:05,400 Speaker 1: somebody saying you're there's value to that. If you don't 167 00:09:05,440 --> 00:09:07,160 Speaker 1: have a need for it, we'll take it off of 168 00:09:07,200 --> 00:09:11,400 Speaker 1: your hands and dispose of it properly, right, because a 169 00:09:11,480 --> 00:09:13,800 Speaker 1: gun that's sitting there unused, there's also a gun that 170 00:09:13,840 --> 00:09:17,840 Speaker 1: could be stolen by a thief, could be accidentally engaged 171 00:09:17,840 --> 00:09:20,920 Speaker 1: by a child. You know, this is like the other 172 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:24,000 Speaker 1: thing they have the capabilities now to have, like the 173 00:09:24,120 --> 00:09:28,120 Speaker 1: fingerprint activation all that stuff, Like why has that not more? 174 00:09:28,679 --> 00:09:31,600 Speaker 1: I just don't understand, Like I think I'm literally I'm 175 00:09:31,640 --> 00:09:35,840 Speaker 1: not a gun person, but like I'm just literally baffled 176 00:09:36,280 --> 00:09:38,960 Speaker 1: by the whole thing, Like it does not make sense. 177 00:09:39,160 --> 00:09:41,560 Speaker 1: And then the only thing that makes sense is that 178 00:09:41,679 --> 00:09:44,440 Speaker 1: certain people are making a ship ton of money and 179 00:09:44,480 --> 00:09:47,240 Speaker 1: so it keeps going. And that is where I just 180 00:09:47,280 --> 00:09:51,800 Speaker 1: get really disgusted by everything. But um, again, though I 181 00:09:51,840 --> 00:09:55,560 Speaker 1: was reading about I think some of the gun regulation stuff, 182 00:09:55,600 --> 00:09:58,720 Speaker 1: like if you do want to help and participate in that, 183 00:09:58,800 --> 00:10:01,079 Speaker 1: like posting about the buy back thing is a really 184 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:05,320 Speaker 1: good thing to do. I also think there's certain um organizations. 185 00:10:05,360 --> 00:10:07,840 Speaker 1: The one that I have donated to since the Vegas 186 00:10:07,840 --> 00:10:10,040 Speaker 1: shooting that a bunch of our friends are at is 187 00:10:10,080 --> 00:10:14,200 Speaker 1: called every Town and um. We actually was talking to 188 00:10:14,200 --> 00:10:15,920 Speaker 1: another friend that this will be on the podcast next 189 00:10:15,960 --> 00:10:18,280 Speaker 1: week with Melody Godfred, but she told me that every 190 00:10:18,320 --> 00:10:19,760 Speaker 1: sounds really good because even if you don't have the 191 00:10:19,800 --> 00:10:22,520 Speaker 1: money to donate, or you don't because I know, funds 192 00:10:22,520 --> 00:10:25,400 Speaker 1: are really tight for a lot of people right now. Um, 193 00:10:25,440 --> 00:10:28,480 Speaker 1: they have forms you can fill out that automatically send 194 00:10:28,520 --> 00:10:33,200 Speaker 1: things to your government and so, um it's really easy 195 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:35,520 Speaker 1: if you don't have money to donate right now, that's 196 00:10:35,559 --> 00:10:37,680 Speaker 1: something you could do to contribute and do your part, 197 00:10:37,800 --> 00:10:43,199 Speaker 1: you know. Um, there's also the Moms Against Gun Violence. 198 00:10:43,240 --> 00:10:44,920 Speaker 1: I might be saying the name wrong on that, so 199 00:10:45,040 --> 00:10:47,160 Speaker 1: don't quote me, But Glenn and Doyle did a podcast 200 00:10:47,160 --> 00:10:50,719 Speaker 1: that was really really great and very informative about some 201 00:10:50,880 --> 00:10:54,520 Speaker 1: of the gun laws, why things aren't changing, why all 202 00:10:54,559 --> 00:10:57,240 Speaker 1: of this you know, hasn't been changed. Sandy Hook was 203 00:10:57,320 --> 00:11:00,520 Speaker 1: a decade ago, by the way, and nothing has changed. 204 00:11:00,679 --> 00:11:03,640 Speaker 1: Pat is where I get really sick at my stomach. Um, 205 00:11:03,679 --> 00:11:06,160 Speaker 1: but that podcast is up right now. And if you 206 00:11:06,200 --> 00:11:11,240 Speaker 1: guys want more information on what the laws actually are, 207 00:11:11,760 --> 00:11:13,920 Speaker 1: who to go to to try to get changes made, 208 00:11:14,000 --> 00:11:16,800 Speaker 1: and other organizations that are really working hard. The Mom's 209 00:11:16,880 --> 00:11:19,959 Speaker 1: against Gun Violence is one of them. Um, it's all 210 00:11:20,000 --> 00:11:22,120 Speaker 1: in that podcast. I do recommend going to listen to 211 00:11:22,160 --> 00:11:25,480 Speaker 1: those things as well. Did I lose you chick? No? No, 212 00:11:26,360 --> 00:11:29,920 Speaker 1: I was just writing down some nuts and thoughts. Um. 213 00:11:30,080 --> 00:11:32,400 Speaker 1: But the the big thing that I was just reading 214 00:11:32,440 --> 00:11:34,560 Speaker 1: about was like this kid, And this is what I 215 00:11:34,800 --> 00:11:39,240 Speaker 1: just this is an overall feeling that I've had for 216 00:11:39,320 --> 00:11:43,240 Speaker 1: a really long time, but probably since COVID, I think 217 00:11:43,240 --> 00:11:46,280 Speaker 1: it really really got amplified. Um. And this has been 218 00:11:46,280 --> 00:11:48,440 Speaker 1: happening in our country for even longer than that. But 219 00:11:48,480 --> 00:11:52,960 Speaker 1: I think it's just like so overwhelmingly everywhere. But like 220 00:11:53,280 --> 00:11:55,440 Speaker 1: this kid, when you read about him, you know, like 221 00:11:55,720 --> 00:11:57,839 Speaker 1: he I guess he had a really bad list, and 222 00:11:58,000 --> 00:12:00,000 Speaker 1: you like he was kind of a loner in school, 223 00:12:00,120 --> 00:12:03,320 Speaker 1: but he got really bullied really bad, and he was 224 00:12:03,400 --> 00:12:08,800 Speaker 1: going into school every day either isolating or getting in fights. 225 00:12:09,280 --> 00:12:12,160 Speaker 1: So like it's not like the signs aren't there, right, 226 00:12:12,520 --> 00:12:14,640 Speaker 1: But I think it goes back to this thing that 227 00:12:14,679 --> 00:12:17,559 Speaker 1: I've been saying for a while, like we keep acting 228 00:12:17,760 --> 00:12:21,839 Speaker 1: like human beings aren't human beings, and so if we 229 00:12:21,920 --> 00:12:24,240 Speaker 1: keep putting this pressure on people like you just need 230 00:12:24,280 --> 00:12:26,080 Speaker 1: to take it. This is what I argued really bad 231 00:12:26,120 --> 00:12:29,040 Speaker 1: with the will Smith thing, like, and nobody got what 232 00:12:29,080 --> 00:12:30,960 Speaker 1: I was trying to send. Not nobody, but like a 233 00:12:31,000 --> 00:12:33,080 Speaker 1: lot of people were like, well, violence is never the answer, No, 234 00:12:33,240 --> 00:12:35,600 Speaker 1: fucking ship, y'all. Like I get it. I don't do 235 00:12:35,640 --> 00:12:38,760 Speaker 1: you think violence is the answer here, but like there's 236 00:12:38,800 --> 00:12:41,559 Speaker 1: a reason it's happening. And if we don't start looking 237 00:12:41,679 --> 00:12:44,480 Speaker 1: at what we need to do as humans to be 238 00:12:44,480 --> 00:12:46,720 Speaker 1: better to each other and to help each other and 239 00:12:46,760 --> 00:12:50,160 Speaker 1: love each other. I don't see that like this kind 240 00:12:50,160 --> 00:12:53,480 Speaker 1: of stuff um goes away. I really don't. And I 241 00:12:53,520 --> 00:12:56,280 Speaker 1: don't see that the arguing and the fighting goes away, 242 00:12:56,440 --> 00:12:59,120 Speaker 1: Like I do. Think it's a bigger issue of how 243 00:12:59,160 --> 00:13:01,800 Speaker 1: we treat people bowl and what we're bringing to the 244 00:13:01,880 --> 00:13:06,920 Speaker 1: table externally, like not just caring about ourselves, you know, 245 00:13:07,200 --> 00:13:13,080 Speaker 1: like being better people, treating people like with respect and kindness, 246 00:13:13,720 --> 00:13:15,719 Speaker 1: whether you like them or agree with them or not. 247 00:13:16,040 --> 00:13:18,920 Speaker 1: It's just like there's no need to be mean and 248 00:13:19,080 --> 00:13:23,880 Speaker 1: angry and volatile and like spread hate like not to 249 00:13:23,880 --> 00:13:26,360 Speaker 1: to not to simplify it, but that is truly a 250 00:13:26,400 --> 00:13:28,720 Speaker 1: major thing happening here. We don't know what's going on 251 00:13:28,760 --> 00:13:32,120 Speaker 1: in people's houses, so like all you can do is 252 00:13:32,280 --> 00:13:33,920 Speaker 1: I mean, I think like a simple thing to do, 253 00:13:33,960 --> 00:13:35,880 Speaker 1: like smiling is something you don't fucking know that could 254 00:13:36,000 --> 00:13:40,240 Speaker 1: change the whole narrative for somebody's day, Right, Yeah, you 255 00:13:40,320 --> 00:13:44,640 Speaker 1: could ever know what is going on in someone's mind. Um, 256 00:13:44,760 --> 00:13:49,199 Speaker 1: and we we can't expect people that are constantly beat 257 00:13:49,240 --> 00:13:54,280 Speaker 1: down to not break at some point exactly. And I'm 258 00:13:54,280 --> 00:13:58,280 Speaker 1: not saying anybody has the excuse to do this obviously 259 00:13:59,440 --> 00:14:04,280 Speaker 1: whatever was happening, but but it's happening everywhere. This is 260 00:14:04,320 --> 00:14:07,960 Speaker 1: exactly what happened with Will Smith. You pokey pokey poke, 261 00:14:08,040 --> 00:14:10,240 Speaker 1: and we just go, well, he's a celebrity, he needs 262 00:14:10,240 --> 00:14:12,679 Speaker 1: to take it or this is you know, It's like 263 00:14:12,720 --> 00:14:15,960 Speaker 1: it's happening all over right now with arguments about abortion 264 00:14:16,320 --> 00:14:21,440 Speaker 1: and um, women's bodies or politics and COVID and mask 265 00:14:21,600 --> 00:14:24,400 Speaker 1: and all this stuff. And it's like, Okay, it is 266 00:14:24,480 --> 00:14:27,000 Speaker 1: fine to have an opinion, and it is great to 267 00:14:27,080 --> 00:14:29,760 Speaker 1: go do things to you know, fight the cause you 268 00:14:29,880 --> 00:14:32,600 Speaker 1: fight or whatever, but can we change the way that 269 00:14:32,640 --> 00:14:35,720 Speaker 1: we're treating each other because it is showing itself to 270 00:14:35,760 --> 00:14:40,320 Speaker 1: be a huge issue, like a huge one. And humans, 271 00:14:40,320 --> 00:14:43,640 Speaker 1: I don't care who you are, you have feelings and 272 00:14:43,720 --> 00:14:46,920 Speaker 1: we need connection. We're wired for connection. And so I 273 00:14:47,040 --> 00:14:48,960 Speaker 1: just it makes me sad because I just feel like 274 00:14:49,000 --> 00:14:50,800 Speaker 1: we're like, oh, we want to write it off, like 275 00:14:50,840 --> 00:14:54,320 Speaker 1: this kid had mental issues, Well he did he did, 276 00:14:54,960 --> 00:14:58,040 Speaker 1: and there was probably a contributing factor of how he 277 00:14:58,080 --> 00:15:01,360 Speaker 1: was being treated at his house and schools and all 278 00:15:01,360 --> 00:15:05,480 Speaker 1: this stuff. You know. Yeah, yeah, I mean and look, 279 00:15:05,560 --> 00:15:07,920 Speaker 1: I think none of us are sitting here on our 280 00:15:08,000 --> 00:15:12,480 Speaker 1: high horse. We've all done things incorrectly and our people. 281 00:15:13,000 --> 00:15:14,920 Speaker 1: But I think the point is is that like we 282 00:15:14,960 --> 00:15:18,760 Speaker 1: need to all take a deep breath and recognize what 283 00:15:18,760 --> 00:15:22,920 Speaker 1: we're contributing on the fall of our society. I mean, 284 00:15:22,920 --> 00:15:24,760 Speaker 1: we've got we've gotten to a point now where like 285 00:15:24,840 --> 00:15:30,280 Speaker 1: political politics is so um ingrained in everything. Like now 286 00:15:30,360 --> 00:15:34,400 Speaker 1: every issue is political, you know, it's um and it's 287 00:15:34,440 --> 00:15:37,720 Speaker 1: about like right versus wrong and everything like that doesn't 288 00:15:37,720 --> 00:15:39,800 Speaker 1: matter what side of the line you're on you think 289 00:15:39,840 --> 00:15:45,880 Speaker 1: you're right and um that Like, look, opinions are exactly that, 290 00:15:45,920 --> 00:15:51,040 Speaker 1: they are opinions. They are not facts. Um. And we 291 00:15:51,040 --> 00:15:53,040 Speaker 1: we've gotten to a point in our society where like 292 00:15:53,440 --> 00:15:57,000 Speaker 1: everyone believes that their opinion is the truth. And that's 293 00:15:57,040 --> 00:15:59,120 Speaker 1: just we can't to the other side at all. Yeah, 294 00:15:59,160 --> 00:16:01,160 Speaker 1: it's just not the it. We all have to be 295 00:16:01,240 --> 00:16:04,720 Speaker 1: willing to like hear a different point of view and 296 00:16:04,760 --> 00:16:08,640 Speaker 1: ship that's how we grow and change. And like, you know, 297 00:16:08,680 --> 00:16:11,200 Speaker 1: it's like if we all think that we're right, we're wrong. 298 00:16:12,000 --> 00:16:16,360 Speaker 1: You know. It's just um, it's it's it's really saddening 299 00:16:16,400 --> 00:16:20,320 Speaker 1: because it's such an overwhelmingly massive problem now. But I 300 00:16:20,320 --> 00:16:22,880 Speaker 1: don't know that there's any coming back. I just don't. 301 00:16:23,560 --> 00:16:26,880 Speaker 1: I feel like our society is just broken and I 302 00:16:26,920 --> 00:16:29,240 Speaker 1: don't I don't know that there's a solution, and it 303 00:16:29,280 --> 00:16:32,960 Speaker 1: makes me really sad. Um. So, you know, I do 304 00:16:33,120 --> 00:16:39,120 Speaker 1: think that those of us who choose kindness need to 305 00:16:39,160 --> 00:16:43,160 Speaker 1: continue to make a concertive, concerted effort to put as 306 00:16:43,200 --> 00:16:45,160 Speaker 1: much kindness in the world, because I do think that 307 00:16:45,240 --> 00:16:47,480 Speaker 1: love and kindness is really the only thing that's going 308 00:16:47,560 --> 00:16:49,800 Speaker 1: to save us, you know, And I know that sounds 309 00:16:49,840 --> 00:16:53,040 Speaker 1: really hippy dippy, but it's like, I don't think going 310 00:16:53,080 --> 00:16:55,680 Speaker 1: and screaming at the other side and like trying to 311 00:16:55,760 --> 00:16:58,480 Speaker 1: just get them to change their opinion is the way, 312 00:16:58,520 --> 00:17:01,960 Speaker 1: because as sit here and drop bombs because I'm saying 313 00:17:01,960 --> 00:17:04,760 Speaker 1: that in either direction. Though, Look, I think we can 314 00:17:04,800 --> 00:17:08,200 Speaker 1: be angry. I'm angry all of those things, but like 315 00:17:09,280 --> 00:17:11,280 Speaker 1: it doesn't I don't think it does any good to 316 00:17:11,320 --> 00:17:14,439 Speaker 1: be like to direct that anger at people like you 317 00:17:14,480 --> 00:17:19,400 Speaker 1: can you can be angry and voice your opinion and um, 318 00:17:19,440 --> 00:17:21,679 Speaker 1: but I just like, I just feel like we're all 319 00:17:21,800 --> 00:17:26,640 Speaker 1: yelling at each other on on on Instagram and Facebook 320 00:17:26,680 --> 00:17:28,440 Speaker 1: and all this ship and it's like not doing anything, 321 00:17:28,480 --> 00:17:31,480 Speaker 1: Like it's not doing anything. That when when I saw 322 00:17:31,520 --> 00:17:33,879 Speaker 1: the gun buy back thing that's I think it was 323 00:17:33,920 --> 00:17:37,320 Speaker 1: Sacramento did like it was just a lightbulb moment like 324 00:17:37,359 --> 00:17:41,359 Speaker 1: wait a minute, this is simple, Like suddenly I felt 325 00:17:41,400 --> 00:17:44,240 Speaker 1: a little peace in my heart because I'm like, that's 326 00:17:44,240 --> 00:17:47,439 Speaker 1: a local thing, Like starting small is the way to 327 00:17:47,560 --> 00:17:53,280 Speaker 1: like wave to make something big. The ups man is coming, 328 00:17:53,480 --> 00:17:55,760 Speaker 1: My dog's about to nd so I'm going to meet 329 00:17:55,840 --> 00:17:59,600 Speaker 1: my thing. So you can talk, Okay, let me get 330 00:17:59,600 --> 00:18:05,000 Speaker 1: a thought. Uh yeah, I mean we could go on 331 00:18:05,119 --> 00:18:07,600 Speaker 1: and on for days. And it's interesting you said the 332 00:18:07,680 --> 00:18:10,240 Speaker 1: hippie dippie thing, because I've been feeling that a lot. 333 00:18:10,440 --> 00:18:13,080 Speaker 1: Like I posted on my Instagram, I did a psilocybin 334 00:18:13,160 --> 00:18:16,080 Speaker 1: journey about a year ago with a shaman and I 335 00:18:16,280 --> 00:18:21,480 Speaker 1: finally talked about it publicly, which was a new you know, 336 00:18:21,720 --> 00:18:25,880 Speaker 1: maybe people would have different varying thoughts about it, our opinions, 337 00:18:25,920 --> 00:18:27,760 Speaker 1: like you said, but for me, it was a very 338 00:18:28,520 --> 00:18:34,200 Speaker 1: healing spiritual experience, experience and well last week. It's sort 339 00:18:34,240 --> 00:18:36,639 Speaker 1: of weird when you do something like that, like certain 340 00:18:36,680 --> 00:18:39,800 Speaker 1: things will trigger the memories and it's awesome because it 341 00:18:39,880 --> 00:18:42,359 Speaker 1: takes your body right back to that feeling of peace 342 00:18:42,480 --> 00:18:46,800 Speaker 1: and happiness and love and like, um, the big thing 343 00:18:46,880 --> 00:18:49,800 Speaker 1: that I got was like, none of the bullshit that 344 00:18:49,880 --> 00:18:51,920 Speaker 1: I really worry about on the day to day is 345 00:18:52,000 --> 00:18:54,320 Speaker 1: the actual thing, Like all that really matters is love. 346 00:18:54,760 --> 00:18:57,840 Speaker 1: And I felt immense love and coming out of that, 347 00:18:58,000 --> 00:19:01,040 Speaker 1: even for people who had caused me harm, like I 348 00:19:01,119 --> 00:19:03,520 Speaker 1: didn't want them on my journey anymore, but I could 349 00:19:03,600 --> 00:19:06,720 Speaker 1: look at them and say, you know, thank you for 350 00:19:06,800 --> 00:19:09,040 Speaker 1: the experience. I send you off with love and light. 351 00:19:09,280 --> 00:19:13,240 Speaker 1: Like it was just a very freeing, freeing feeling. Um. 352 00:19:14,040 --> 00:19:16,359 Speaker 1: And I've been thinking a lot about that this last week. 353 00:19:16,440 --> 00:19:18,800 Speaker 1: And and I don't want to be hippie dippy or 354 00:19:18,880 --> 00:19:21,040 Speaker 1: accused of that or whatever. I guess either or maybe 355 00:19:21,080 --> 00:19:24,000 Speaker 1: I do. I don't know, um, but it's it's not 356 00:19:24,440 --> 00:19:27,399 Speaker 1: really it's like getting back to the basic human needs 357 00:19:27,760 --> 00:19:31,240 Speaker 1: to me, and I think that we've gotten so wrapped 358 00:19:31,480 --> 00:19:35,919 Speaker 1: up in this like you know, capitalistic culture and all 359 00:19:35,960 --> 00:19:39,800 Speaker 1: these things, and like self just furthering yourself and the 360 00:19:39,880 --> 00:19:42,480 Speaker 1: focus on, like our egos have just been driving the show. 361 00:19:42,560 --> 00:19:45,000 Speaker 1: And I'm saying this as a person that has completely 362 00:19:45,560 --> 00:19:49,760 Speaker 1: participated contributed all of the things. But I think that 363 00:19:49,880 --> 00:19:53,080 Speaker 1: what we're being asked right now is just this. It's like, hey, 364 00:19:53,240 --> 00:19:55,240 Speaker 1: this ship is right in front of us, Like we 365 00:19:55,520 --> 00:19:58,720 Speaker 1: cannot deny it anymore, you can, but like it's just 366 00:19:58,760 --> 00:20:02,040 Speaker 1: gonna keep re appearing and showing itself in different ways. 367 00:20:02,200 --> 00:20:05,159 Speaker 1: It's shown us that now, so like we have to 368 00:20:05,240 --> 00:20:09,760 Speaker 1: pay attention, and what we're being asked is to change 369 00:20:10,040 --> 00:20:12,639 Speaker 1: the way we've been living. And I think that like 370 00:20:12,880 --> 00:20:17,640 Speaker 1: all of these different facets, the arguments, the divisiveness, the shootings, 371 00:20:17,840 --> 00:20:23,160 Speaker 1: the violence in general, like the violence against black people, 372 00:20:23,320 --> 00:20:27,440 Speaker 1: it is like it's everywhere, It's everywhere, And if we 373 00:20:27,560 --> 00:20:32,040 Speaker 1: don't change the narrative to stop thinking just about ourselves 374 00:20:32,200 --> 00:20:34,919 Speaker 1: and furthering our own lives and think in a bigger, 375 00:20:35,040 --> 00:20:38,080 Speaker 1: greater hole of how to love each other because we're 376 00:20:38,119 --> 00:20:41,680 Speaker 1: all connected, it isn't going to change, You're right, And 377 00:20:42,119 --> 00:20:45,239 Speaker 1: we're just gonna keep existing in this world that I mean, 378 00:20:45,280 --> 00:20:46,920 Speaker 1: we might as well just build an arc or something, 379 00:20:46,960 --> 00:20:50,800 Speaker 1: because like no one's coming like this ship. We're done, 380 00:20:51,040 --> 00:20:53,600 Speaker 1: Like the universe is gonna you know, like I think 381 00:20:53,600 --> 00:20:56,359 Speaker 1: it just will clean us out in some capacity because 382 00:20:57,080 --> 00:21:01,320 Speaker 1: it's too toxic. Yeah yeah, I mean I think that's 383 00:21:02,280 --> 00:21:05,040 Speaker 1: you know, when I was referencing like watching an empire fall, 384 00:21:05,200 --> 00:21:08,560 Speaker 1: like I fear that that's what we're witnessing right now, 385 00:21:08,880 --> 00:21:13,320 Speaker 1: you know. And um, and you know, there's a whole 386 00:21:13,400 --> 00:21:15,560 Speaker 1: lot of like wetting things to be the way that 387 00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:17,560 Speaker 1: they used to be and not just like I don't 388 00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:22,119 Speaker 1: think such an antiquated um way of thinking, like the 389 00:21:22,280 --> 00:21:26,440 Speaker 1: only way forward is forward and change is good, but 390 00:21:26,560 --> 00:21:29,840 Speaker 1: it's got to be for the greater good. Um. And 391 00:21:31,240 --> 00:21:34,119 Speaker 1: you know it's I hear so many people just like 392 00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:39,120 Speaker 1: arguing for themselves, like it sounds so selfish, and it's 393 00:21:39,880 --> 00:21:41,920 Speaker 1: we have to we have to think about community and 394 00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:46,360 Speaker 1: our neighbors and um, you know, what what makes America 395 00:21:46,520 --> 00:21:50,880 Speaker 1: amazing in particular, what makes the world amazing is how 396 00:21:51,040 --> 00:21:53,960 Speaker 1: different we all are, you know. And it's like we've 397 00:21:53,960 --> 00:21:57,280 Speaker 1: got to stop like leading with fear and lead with 398 00:21:57,440 --> 00:22:02,399 Speaker 1: love and um, I don't know, it's I totally agree, 399 00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:05,840 Speaker 1: except accept the beauty and the differences. It's what makes 400 00:22:06,000 --> 00:22:10,760 Speaker 1: like life really unique. Yeah, so um, you know, my 401 00:22:10,960 --> 00:22:13,879 Speaker 1: my heart is broken for not just the families that 402 00:22:13,960 --> 00:22:18,080 Speaker 1: lost lost loved ones, but just for society in general. 403 00:22:18,240 --> 00:22:22,120 Speaker 1: Like it's a really scary place, Like there's so much uncertainty, 404 00:22:22,840 --> 00:22:26,639 Speaker 1: there's no security, no safety. Other those are other basic 405 00:22:26,760 --> 00:22:33,080 Speaker 1: human needs. Yeah, so you know, I hope that, um, 406 00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:38,199 Speaker 1: there are some people working behind the scenes with real solutions. UM. 407 00:22:38,960 --> 00:22:41,440 Speaker 1: But I do think it's the one way to like 408 00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:43,920 Speaker 1: ease some of our stress is to stop thinking that 409 00:22:44,040 --> 00:22:46,280 Speaker 1: we have to fix the whole world at once. You know, 410 00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:48,800 Speaker 1: start in your home, start in your backyard, start in 411 00:22:48,880 --> 00:22:51,240 Speaker 1: your local communities and see what you can change there, 412 00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:54,040 Speaker 1: and you know, hopefully it can you can create a 413 00:22:54,119 --> 00:22:57,320 Speaker 1: grounds will inspire you know, other communities nearby to do 414 00:22:57,440 --> 00:23:00,800 Speaker 1: the same thing. Something I've been doing every day. And 415 00:23:01,760 --> 00:23:03,840 Speaker 1: I mean, you guys can think I'm cheesy, but it 416 00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:08,000 Speaker 1: really has changed the way every day goes for me. Um, 417 00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:10,520 Speaker 1: Because you know, like I think the last couple of 418 00:23:10,560 --> 00:23:12,280 Speaker 1: years I've talked about it really overly on here, they've 419 00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:14,680 Speaker 1: been really hard, like really hard, and I've had my 420 00:23:14,720 --> 00:23:17,640 Speaker 1: whole world has changed. But I can get really down 421 00:23:17,800 --> 00:23:21,600 Speaker 1: and like stuck in that still or victimized, you know, like, ah, 422 00:23:21,720 --> 00:23:25,320 Speaker 1: this isn't fair, or I can um get out of 423 00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:27,440 Speaker 1: myself for a second and see what I can do 424 00:23:27,520 --> 00:23:30,679 Speaker 1: for someone else. And so the simplest thing that changes 425 00:23:30,720 --> 00:23:35,000 Speaker 1: your entire day, literally is if you ask someone how 426 00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:39,240 Speaker 1: they are and actually wait for the real answer, Like 427 00:23:39,480 --> 00:23:41,920 Speaker 1: you're not just like hey, how are you good and 428 00:23:42,160 --> 00:23:44,639 Speaker 1: keep walking or whatever. But I've been asking either, Like 429 00:23:44,760 --> 00:23:47,040 Speaker 1: sometimes I'll ask a random person in a grocery store, 430 00:23:47,119 --> 00:23:48,920 Speaker 1: like when I'm checking out, like how are you today? 431 00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:50,920 Speaker 1: And if they say good, I'm like, great, Well, what's 432 00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:53,600 Speaker 1: so great about your day? Like enquiring further. And I 433 00:23:53,800 --> 00:23:57,880 Speaker 1: swear to God, if you saw people's faces when you inquire, 434 00:23:58,560 --> 00:24:02,040 Speaker 1: they're like so it can back at first, but also 435 00:24:02,320 --> 00:24:05,600 Speaker 1: every single time I'll walk away and the person you 436 00:24:05,720 --> 00:24:07,600 Speaker 1: can tell, it's like they have a different light in 437 00:24:07,680 --> 00:24:10,760 Speaker 1: their eyes because they just connected with another human. And 438 00:24:10,840 --> 00:24:13,120 Speaker 1: that's all that we that's all any of us really 439 00:24:13,160 --> 00:24:16,600 Speaker 1: actually want, is to feel seen and heard and connected. 440 00:24:17,560 --> 00:24:20,520 Speaker 1: And if you do that, even call one of your 441 00:24:20,560 --> 00:24:23,440 Speaker 1: friends you haven't talked to, or just anybody and do that, 442 00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:26,720 Speaker 1: it will change your day too. And I just wonder 443 00:24:26,840 --> 00:24:29,760 Speaker 1: if we all started operating with a different mentality of like, 444 00:24:29,960 --> 00:24:32,720 Speaker 1: how can I serve others in in most you know, 445 00:24:32,880 --> 00:24:36,960 Speaker 1: in most moments, um what would happen in our own lives, 446 00:24:37,359 --> 00:24:40,280 Speaker 1: Like it just changes everything. You're not so angry, you're 447 00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:43,440 Speaker 1: not so scared, you feel more secure, the little things 448 00:24:43,520 --> 00:24:46,159 Speaker 1: don't matter. And I just think that that is another 449 00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:50,080 Speaker 1: like really important thing to pay attention to here, because 450 00:24:50,400 --> 00:24:52,879 Speaker 1: I don't think we get to all these things if 451 00:24:52,920 --> 00:24:55,480 Speaker 1: people aren't broken and hurting, and we can't save the world, 452 00:24:55,560 --> 00:25:00,399 Speaker 1: but like it can help. Yeah, yeah, I mean it 453 00:25:00,520 --> 00:25:03,960 Speaker 1: looks even a text, you know, it's so funny, like 454 00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:06,200 Speaker 1: I'll do this, Like I'll think of somebody that I 455 00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:09,040 Speaker 1: haven't spoken to and forever, and I'll text them, and 456 00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:12,240 Speaker 1: not only does it I do I know based on 457 00:25:12,320 --> 00:25:15,440 Speaker 1: their response, like the joy that it brings to them, 458 00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:18,680 Speaker 1: it makes me feel really good. That's what I'm saying. 459 00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:22,760 Speaker 1: You know, it's just like wow, to reconnect with somebody 460 00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:26,080 Speaker 1: over like just a random thought or you see something 461 00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:29,840 Speaker 1: that reminds you of somebody, Like it's it's pretty amazing. 462 00:25:29,960 --> 00:25:33,239 Speaker 1: Like as a human race, we are more connected now 463 00:25:33,359 --> 00:25:38,119 Speaker 1: than we've ever been, yet disconnected. I totally agree. We 464 00:25:38,760 --> 00:25:42,520 Speaker 1: have the technology to be connected, but we're completely disconnected. Yeah, 465 00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:45,920 Speaker 1: all right, let's get off our soapbox. I feel like 466 00:25:45,960 --> 00:25:47,560 Speaker 1: I could go on and on about this all day, 467 00:25:47,640 --> 00:25:50,320 Speaker 1: but I just hope that you guys are doing okay 468 00:25:50,359 --> 00:25:52,040 Speaker 1: and taking care of yourself through this, because I know 469 00:25:52,160 --> 00:25:56,840 Speaker 1: it can be really overwhelming and the helpless feelings and 470 00:25:56,880 --> 00:25:59,800 Speaker 1: hopeless feelings are really real. So guard your heart and 471 00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:04,240 Speaker 1: Chip and I are here if you need. Um. Let's 472 00:26:04,240 --> 00:26:07,119 Speaker 1: talk about below Deck. Let's let's let's light the people's 473 00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:11,480 Speaker 1: fridays of little We got a message that said, one yes, 474 00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:13,920 Speaker 1: if you look. First of all, let me go back. 475 00:26:14,560 --> 00:26:17,400 Speaker 1: Chip went on a boat trip without me a couple 476 00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:21,479 Speaker 1: of years ago, and they the big thing was, they 477 00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:25,040 Speaker 1: got a casting director reaching out to them asking if 478 00:26:25,080 --> 00:26:27,399 Speaker 1: they wanted to be the group that went on this 479 00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:30,960 Speaker 1: boat wanted to be? Was it guest on the show 480 00:26:31,600 --> 00:26:35,479 Speaker 1: Below Deck? And so you were telling that story recently 481 00:26:35,520 --> 00:26:37,680 Speaker 1: on the podcast, debating whether or not you guys should 482 00:26:37,680 --> 00:26:40,440 Speaker 1: go on it. I said, personally, my reality TV days, 483 00:26:41,320 --> 00:26:44,640 Speaker 1: the shoes have been hung up. Unless I'm an executive producer. 484 00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:47,880 Speaker 1: You were, you were serious though, you thought it could 485 00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:49,159 Speaker 1: be kind of fun. So this is what one of 486 00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:52,880 Speaker 1: the listeners said back, One yes, you and Chip needs 487 00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:54,800 Speaker 1: to go on below deck, but the tips are usually 488 00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:57,639 Speaker 1: like twenty k. So if you can do that, go 489 00:26:57,920 --> 00:27:00,119 Speaker 1: did you know that chip, because you were like, all 490 00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:05,280 Speaker 1: you're responsible for is tipping the staff. Um, no, I 491 00:27:05,320 --> 00:27:08,359 Speaker 1: had no idea. I'm not going. Okay, so thank you. 492 00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:13,480 Speaker 1: You just saw that issue for us, and you're you're 493 00:27:13,520 --> 00:27:16,440 Speaker 1: paying twenty dollars to go on a reality show and 494 00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:19,560 Speaker 1: not even be featured. Like what is the point? Yeah? No, 495 00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:23,840 Speaker 1: I mean you can rent a yacht for right, Why 496 00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:27,119 Speaker 1: wouldn't you just do that? Okay, so by below deck 497 00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:30,400 Speaker 1: we're done with. The second point she said was when 498 00:27:30,400 --> 00:27:32,280 Speaker 1: I was in college, like junior year, my friend and 499 00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:34,919 Speaker 1: I went to visit my boyfriend who was from Long Island, 500 00:27:35,040 --> 00:27:37,879 Speaker 1: so seven hour drive from Rochester, New York. This was 501 00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:41,600 Speaker 1: Circo two thousand three. He lived with his mom and stepdad, 502 00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:43,399 Speaker 1: and he was going to run the train station to 503 00:27:44,040 --> 00:27:46,800 Speaker 1: run to the train station to pick up our other 504 00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:49,600 Speaker 1: college friends. And we're like, oh my god, finally we 505 00:27:49,680 --> 00:27:53,000 Speaker 1: can go to the bathroom. My friend goes, then I go, 506 00:27:53,560 --> 00:27:57,320 Speaker 1: then I then have one. They have one bathroom, a 507 00:27:57,440 --> 00:27:59,840 Speaker 1: flush and the water comes into the toilet and continues 508 00:27:59,880 --> 00:28:02,880 Speaker 1: to rise and literally right to the brim of the bowl. 509 00:28:03,359 --> 00:28:08,240 Speaker 1: I'm like sweating, like, oh my effing god, and had 510 00:28:08,320 --> 00:28:11,479 Speaker 1: to go to the living room where his mom stepped, 511 00:28:11,520 --> 00:28:14,399 Speaker 1: dad and grandma were and say, Robin, I think the 512 00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:17,760 Speaker 1: toilet is plugged. Then my boyfriend came back and said, 513 00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:22,680 Speaker 1: we had dino dumps this meet. This might beat chips. 514 00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:24,760 Speaker 1: Never have I ever story so a couple of weeks ago, 515 00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:26,560 Speaker 1: I never have I ever? The question was, have you 516 00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:31,879 Speaker 1: ever clogged the toilet and someone else's she did? This? 517 00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:34,720 Speaker 1: Is that's embarrassing with a boyfriend. You and your friend 518 00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:37,000 Speaker 1: clogged the toilet like a new boyfriend is how I 519 00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:39,480 Speaker 1: would imagine that. And he called her out for a 520 00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:42,760 Speaker 1: dino doup. A dino dump that sounds like a sweet 521 00:28:42,840 --> 00:28:48,959 Speaker 1: kill god. Um. I got a lot of messages from 522 00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:50,720 Speaker 1: you guys about the episode I did this month with 523 00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:53,760 Speaker 1: Jaguar Heart. It was probably one of my most favorite 524 00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:56,760 Speaker 1: episodes I ever did. He was so great to talk to, 525 00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:59,400 Speaker 1: so informative. I love the work he's doing. He's from 526 00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:02,360 Speaker 1: watch Straw uh um, so he's fun to listen to too. 527 00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:05,120 Speaker 1: He has a cute accent, but he really shifted some 528 00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:09,200 Speaker 1: stuff for me and this girl. We will talk through 529 00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:11,320 Speaker 1: We went through an exercise where he made me kind 530 00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:14,800 Speaker 1: of um address some of my core wounding around attachment, 531 00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:17,000 Speaker 1: and we got to the bottom of what it is 532 00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:19,000 Speaker 1: that I was feeling and it was just not safe, 533 00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:21,440 Speaker 1: which sounds really simple, but the way that he did 534 00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:23,920 Speaker 1: it resonated in my body in such a different way 535 00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:26,360 Speaker 1: and I had this huge physical release. It was crazy. 536 00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:28,200 Speaker 1: But anyway, it's all on the podcast. If you guys 537 00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:32,640 Speaker 1: want to go listen. Um Eva asked do you were Oh, 538 00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:34,800 Speaker 1: she said, do you record videos of your calls? I do, 539 00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:36,760 Speaker 1: And if this is something that you guys would be 540 00:29:36,880 --> 00:29:40,640 Speaker 1: interested in, email me at Kelly at velvet's Edge dot com. Um. 541 00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:42,800 Speaker 1: I've had a couple of people ask about this, and 542 00:29:42,880 --> 00:29:44,840 Speaker 1: I think you just go about it by putting stuff 543 00:29:44,920 --> 00:29:48,080 Speaker 1: up on YouTube, which I haven't really thought about. But 544 00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:51,240 Speaker 1: all of these podcasts are recorded like video wise, so 545 00:29:51,440 --> 00:29:54,240 Speaker 1: it is something that I could do if people would watch. 546 00:29:54,280 --> 00:29:55,960 Speaker 1: I don't want to spend time doing it if it's 547 00:29:56,000 --> 00:29:58,600 Speaker 1: not something that's of interest to you guys, so SIMI 548 00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:01,240 Speaker 1: messages or fail me and let me know if that's 549 00:30:01,280 --> 00:30:04,480 Speaker 1: of interest. Um. He would be an actually really great 550 00:30:04,520 --> 00:30:07,800 Speaker 1: one because you could physically watch what was happening. You're 551 00:30:07,840 --> 00:30:11,880 Speaker 1: gonna have to do your glam though, rude because he's 552 00:30:11,920 --> 00:30:14,320 Speaker 1: looking at me right now. Listen, I've been in this 553 00:30:14,400 --> 00:30:17,440 Speaker 1: outfit all day. This is like some somewhat like pajama Like. 554 00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:21,520 Speaker 1: I didn't brush my hair, I did brush my teeth, 555 00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:25,440 Speaker 1: no makeup though, Yeah, you're gonna have to do your 556 00:30:25,480 --> 00:30:27,680 Speaker 1: clamor raid. Well. I just know, well, I know that 557 00:30:27,760 --> 00:30:30,040 Speaker 1: you would be like, I'm not putting this up. I know. 558 00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:33,760 Speaker 1: I did have that conversation though, Um, the podcast that 559 00:30:33,800 --> 00:30:36,200 Speaker 1: goes up next week with Melody Godfred, we were both like, oh, 560 00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:38,760 Speaker 1: we look like shit in the podcast is about self love, 561 00:30:39,360 --> 00:30:44,120 Speaker 1: so like like something here fears feels weird. And because 562 00:30:44,160 --> 00:30:46,480 Speaker 1: we had said maybe we wouldn't post that video because 563 00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:50,120 Speaker 1: we looked like shit, but maybe we should because we're 564 00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:52,800 Speaker 1: loving ourselves. I don't know, y'all. You know I'm a 565 00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:56,720 Speaker 1: work in progress on that one. Um. Have you reflected 566 00:30:56,760 --> 00:30:59,080 Speaker 1: on your combo with Jaguar thoughts and comments on it? 567 00:30:59,240 --> 00:31:02,240 Speaker 1: I have. And actually after we got off the call, 568 00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:06,640 Speaker 1: he gave me a tangible mantra. And the really cool 569 00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:11,360 Speaker 1: thing about him is he's a linguistic I can't remember 570 00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:13,240 Speaker 1: the other word. It was it's a very like the 571 00:31:14,640 --> 00:31:17,200 Speaker 1: physiologist or something. I don't know, it's that's not even it. 572 00:31:17,480 --> 00:31:20,120 Speaker 1: But you guys know because I said in the last one. Um. 573 00:31:20,480 --> 00:31:23,880 Speaker 1: But basically he talks about the importance of words, and 574 00:31:23,960 --> 00:31:26,160 Speaker 1: so a lot of times when we do mantras like 575 00:31:26,520 --> 00:31:28,960 Speaker 1: you would chip, what would you think the opposite of 576 00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:35,160 Speaker 1: I'm not safe would be? I am in danger. No, 577 00:31:38,400 --> 00:31:44,760 Speaker 1: I'm not safe. I am the safe. Sorry. Oh god, 578 00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:52,640 Speaker 1: I'm dense. I'm not saying I'm in danger. Okay, I'm sorry. 579 00:31:52,640 --> 00:32:02,560 Speaker 1: I yeah, I said the opposite. Okay, sorry anyway, So 580 00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:08,280 Speaker 1: for everyone listening that God, I am safe accurately, next time, 581 00:32:08,280 --> 00:32:10,719 Speaker 1: I won't ask you. I'll just continue on myself. Um. 582 00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:14,040 Speaker 1: He actually told me that that is not the right 583 00:32:14,160 --> 00:32:16,120 Speaker 1: mantra to say to yourself. So, like if you were 584 00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:19,240 Speaker 1: saying I'm not safe in your head, that's like the 585 00:32:19,360 --> 00:32:21,200 Speaker 1: narrative you're trying to get rid of. You wouldn't say 586 00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:24,160 Speaker 1: to yourself as a new mantra, I am safe because 587 00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:27,080 Speaker 1: that actually communicates to our body that at some point 588 00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:30,240 Speaker 1: we weren't safe. So he has me doing a mantra 589 00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:34,920 Speaker 1: that says I'm not not safe. It's like the double negative, 590 00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:38,080 Speaker 1: and so it cancels it out because it means that 591 00:32:38,160 --> 00:32:40,960 Speaker 1: I've always been safe. Like even when I've been in 592 00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:44,720 Speaker 1: relationships or situations that maybe weren't safe for me, I 593 00:32:44,840 --> 00:32:47,560 Speaker 1: still made a decision to in the relationship, to get 594 00:32:47,640 --> 00:32:50,600 Speaker 1: out of that situation, to make a different move. And 595 00:32:50,720 --> 00:32:53,040 Speaker 1: so at thirty nine years old, what he told me 596 00:32:53,120 --> 00:32:55,520 Speaker 1: is He's like, and you're safe, right, And I was like, 597 00:32:55,720 --> 00:32:58,280 Speaker 1: oh yeah, but there have been things that have crept 598 00:32:58,400 --> 00:33:01,520 Speaker 1: up since we had that conversation. And so the mantra 599 00:33:01,600 --> 00:33:05,520 Speaker 1: I repeat to myself is I'm not not safe. So 600 00:33:05,680 --> 00:33:07,960 Speaker 1: if you have yeah, if you know what the messaging 601 00:33:08,160 --> 00:33:13,840 Speaker 1: is inside internally that you're trying to shift, Um, try 602 00:33:13,920 --> 00:33:18,720 Speaker 1: the not not like I'm not not what would your 603 00:33:19,000 --> 00:33:27,200 Speaker 1: chip in danger? I'm not not in danger? Yeah, there 604 00:33:27,240 --> 00:33:32,760 Speaker 1: you go. Okay, good one. Um. This girl said sunglasses. 605 00:33:32,880 --> 00:33:35,640 Speaker 1: This is a style question. She said, sunglasses that are 606 00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:38,360 Speaker 1: in style for men. It's Pattio susan baby, and I 607 00:33:38,400 --> 00:33:40,400 Speaker 1: don't know what to get my husband chip. Do you 608 00:33:40,440 --> 00:33:44,400 Speaker 1: want to jump in on this one. I'm really bad 609 00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:47,920 Speaker 1: about sunglasses. High cheap ones, um, because you have high 610 00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:51,480 Speaker 1: cheek bones. No, I buy cheap ones. But like ra 611 00:33:51,920 --> 00:33:55,080 Speaker 1: is always a class. Like the thing is is sunglasses 612 00:33:55,160 --> 00:33:57,600 Speaker 1: canna be tricky because people are very particular about how 613 00:33:57,640 --> 00:34:02,880 Speaker 1: things look on their face. But I've never met an 614 00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:06,200 Speaker 1: aviator that doesn't look good on somebody. I could not 615 00:34:06,320 --> 00:34:08,279 Speaker 1: agree more, but I will. I will say this, like 616 00:34:08,360 --> 00:34:12,720 Speaker 1: from the stylist in me perspective, it is really difficult 617 00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:15,640 Speaker 1: to buy sunglasses for other people because everyone's face shape 618 00:34:15,680 --> 00:34:19,279 Speaker 1: is different. So without seeing your husband, I can't really 619 00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:22,120 Speaker 1: make a recommendation because we don't know what his face 620 00:34:22,200 --> 00:34:25,400 Speaker 1: looks like. And that's a good sunglass. That's your face, right. 621 00:34:26,160 --> 00:34:28,839 Speaker 1: My go to is also an aviator. I think it's 622 00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:31,399 Speaker 1: the hottest thing on guys, and ray Band probably makes 623 00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:35,920 Speaker 1: the best one that's affordable. So that's our answer. Um, 624 00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:39,440 Speaker 1: how do you balance being happy single and wanting a relationship? 625 00:34:39,960 --> 00:34:44,920 Speaker 1: Happy single and wanting one? Yes, you're not not in danger, 626 00:34:45,520 --> 00:34:54,279 Speaker 1: You're not I'm not not single. I'm not not going 627 00:34:54,360 --> 00:34:58,319 Speaker 1: to dialone. There you go. That's a good one. Um, 628 00:34:58,600 --> 00:35:03,279 Speaker 1: how do you balance it? I mean, for me, it's 629 00:35:03,320 --> 00:35:05,239 Speaker 1: not that I don't want a relationship, it's that I'm 630 00:35:05,239 --> 00:35:07,279 Speaker 1: not just putting any energy into it. I think if 631 00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:10,120 Speaker 1: the right person came along, I'm open to I'm trying 632 00:35:10,200 --> 00:35:13,360 Speaker 1: to be open to it. Um. And I don't know 633 00:35:13,440 --> 00:35:15,880 Speaker 1: that this is necessarily the healthiest answer, but I do 634 00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:19,080 Speaker 1: stay really busy. I also surround myself with people that 635 00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:22,680 Speaker 1: I love being around. So it's like I don't feel 636 00:35:22,800 --> 00:35:28,560 Speaker 1: alone because I've got great friends. Um. So I mean, 637 00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:30,480 Speaker 1: I guess that's kind of how I balanced it. It's 638 00:35:30,520 --> 00:35:33,080 Speaker 1: like I'm I'm not upset that I'm single. I have 639 00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:37,160 Speaker 1: a pretty great life. Yeah, but I also would like 640 00:35:37,440 --> 00:35:39,960 Speaker 1: to be in a relationship. So I mean, I think 641 00:35:40,360 --> 00:35:42,160 Speaker 1: the easiest thing to do is not beat yourself up 642 00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:46,280 Speaker 1: about it, don't course it. Um, you have to remind 643 00:35:46,320 --> 00:35:49,719 Speaker 1: yourself that you're not not single, Like you're not not single. Yeah, 644 00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:53,759 Speaker 1: you know you're not not single because always, Yeah, you're 645 00:35:53,800 --> 00:35:55,880 Speaker 1: not not al You're you're in a relationship with yourself 646 00:35:55,920 --> 00:35:59,400 Speaker 1: at all times. Yeah. Um. And the truth is is 647 00:35:59,520 --> 00:36:01,600 Speaker 1: like I know that I still have work to do 648 00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:04,040 Speaker 1: with myself and that's really my That's what holds me 649 00:36:04,160 --> 00:36:05,880 Speaker 1: back to the most is like knowing that I need 650 00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:09,920 Speaker 1: to do that. And um, and I know historically when 651 00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:14,239 Speaker 1: I have like started relationships or been more open to dating, like, 652 00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:17,480 Speaker 1: it's because it's like I was feeling myself more and 653 00:36:17,600 --> 00:36:20,759 Speaker 1: not just like and it's not necessarily because I thought 654 00:36:20,800 --> 00:36:22,520 Speaker 1: I looked better or anything. It's like I was just 655 00:36:22,640 --> 00:36:26,719 Speaker 1: feeling myself in general. Um, And you know, I think 656 00:36:26,760 --> 00:36:28,520 Speaker 1: we all go through these seasons of our lives were 657 00:36:28,600 --> 00:36:31,120 Speaker 1: like we recognize we need to do a little bit 658 00:36:31,160 --> 00:36:32,920 Speaker 1: more work, and it's you have to arrive at the 659 00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:37,000 Speaker 1: relationships and the best shape, you know, both physically and 660 00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:40,879 Speaker 1: mentally as possible, so that you can, you know, give 661 00:36:40,920 --> 00:36:46,560 Speaker 1: your best self. Yeah, I really like that answer. I 662 00:36:46,600 --> 00:36:48,640 Speaker 1: mean I think another thing, and I've talked about this 663 00:36:48,680 --> 00:36:51,520 Speaker 1: a little bit, is um, one of the things, like, 664 00:36:51,800 --> 00:36:55,240 Speaker 1: you know, I've been not dating and I've actually become 665 00:36:55,320 --> 00:36:58,600 Speaker 1: really content in that. And I actually didn't think that 666 00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:02,800 Speaker 1: I would. I had this like panics sort of like, 667 00:37:02,960 --> 00:37:05,759 Speaker 1: oh god, my my last relationship was ending, and I 668 00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:08,080 Speaker 1: didn't I didn't want to be single. I didn't really 669 00:37:08,200 --> 00:37:11,000 Speaker 1: want to like have to go through a breakup or whatever, 670 00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:15,080 Speaker 1: but it just wasn't working, and so I did. And Um, 671 00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:18,239 Speaker 1: it was really took me a minute to adjust to 672 00:37:18,360 --> 00:37:20,520 Speaker 1: like single life again. But one of the things that 673 00:37:20,640 --> 00:37:25,560 Speaker 1: really helped me was to date myself, which sounds so cheesy, 674 00:37:26,640 --> 00:37:30,480 Speaker 1: but it's like if you give yourself the things that 675 00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:33,320 Speaker 1: you want from a relationship, like you want to go 676 00:37:33,400 --> 00:37:35,840 Speaker 1: to the movies, well go to the movies. Like I 677 00:37:35,920 --> 00:37:39,279 Speaker 1: think that is part of the problem with single life 678 00:37:39,320 --> 00:37:41,239 Speaker 1: a lot of times, as we stopped doing the things 679 00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:43,120 Speaker 1: that we love, or we don't do the things we 680 00:37:43,200 --> 00:37:45,759 Speaker 1: want to do that we do in relationships, and so 681 00:37:45,880 --> 00:37:48,520 Speaker 1: you do feel this like deprivation. Like I would find 682 00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:50,480 Speaker 1: myself like I like to cook at home and like 683 00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:53,800 Speaker 1: have a nice meal and um get you know, like 684 00:37:54,160 --> 00:37:57,360 Speaker 1: get a new recipe and try something different. And I 685 00:37:57,400 --> 00:37:59,760 Speaker 1: wouldn't do it that much when I was by myself 686 00:38:00,000 --> 00:38:02,200 Speaker 1: because you're like cooking for one person and it just 687 00:38:02,280 --> 00:38:05,319 Speaker 1: sort of feels like a waste sometimes. But I was like, wait, 688 00:38:05,680 --> 00:38:07,560 Speaker 1: I need to do that still. Like I used to 689 00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:09,120 Speaker 1: like to drink a glass of wine or whatever. So 690 00:38:09,160 --> 00:38:11,480 Speaker 1: I'll get like a non alcoholic bottle of wine and 691 00:38:11,560 --> 00:38:13,560 Speaker 1: I'll like make my meal and have my music on 692 00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:17,080 Speaker 1: and light the candles and um, dance around or whatever. 693 00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:19,200 Speaker 1: And if I have leftovers, I just do it for 694 00:38:19,200 --> 00:38:21,640 Speaker 1: the next day. Like and so I'm still doing the 695 00:38:21,719 --> 00:38:24,040 Speaker 1: activities that I love when I'm in a relationship. Or 696 00:38:24,080 --> 00:38:25,840 Speaker 1: the reasons that I love to be in a relationship, 697 00:38:26,120 --> 00:38:29,160 Speaker 1: and so you don't really feel the deprivation as much 698 00:38:29,239 --> 00:38:32,400 Speaker 1: as in the the panic, you know, And I think 699 00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:34,759 Speaker 1: it's like what you said where it's like and then 700 00:38:34,800 --> 00:38:37,360 Speaker 1: if you're giving yourself all these things, you don't have 701 00:38:37,600 --> 00:38:41,200 Speaker 1: this like desperation for the relationship, and so then when 702 00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:43,920 Speaker 1: someone does come into your life, it just flows a 703 00:38:43,960 --> 00:38:47,719 Speaker 1: little more fluidly. Or um, you're not like, oh my god, 704 00:38:47,719 --> 00:38:49,439 Speaker 1: I have to find a guy, and so you're making 705 00:38:49,520 --> 00:38:52,360 Speaker 1: bad decisions to get in a relationship versus seeing if 706 00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:57,120 Speaker 1: you're really truly compatible with somebody. Right, So that's our tip, 707 00:38:57,200 --> 00:39:03,479 Speaker 1: fate yourself. Um, okay, So this is another question. Because 708 00:39:03,520 --> 00:39:05,759 Speaker 1: I posted about the psilocybin thing, a lot of people 709 00:39:05,880 --> 00:39:11,319 Speaker 1: message me asking for just information about that journey, and um, 710 00:39:11,400 --> 00:39:13,160 Speaker 1: I'll just try to keep it kind of brief. But 711 00:39:13,200 --> 00:39:15,920 Speaker 1: it was a really interesting experience. Like you come in, 712 00:39:16,360 --> 00:39:19,560 Speaker 1: you drink a drink with your shaman, and I mean 713 00:39:19,800 --> 00:39:24,000 Speaker 1: I was pretty out pretty fast, Like basically I went 714 00:39:24,080 --> 00:39:27,239 Speaker 1: to lay down and within ten minutes, I like got 715 00:39:27,320 --> 00:39:30,080 Speaker 1: into the trip. But basically what he did was he 716 00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:36,040 Speaker 1: has a playlist and it's this like completely crafted playlist 717 00:39:36,239 --> 00:39:39,560 Speaker 1: based off of all this research from Johns Hopkins about 718 00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:42,560 Speaker 1: what triggers the mind into these different places. And so 719 00:39:43,280 --> 00:39:46,360 Speaker 1: you have the headphones on, he starts the playlist, you 720 00:39:46,440 --> 00:39:49,200 Speaker 1: have an eye mask, and you just lay down. And 721 00:39:50,320 --> 00:39:53,520 Speaker 1: it was crazy because it's like you're there like your present, 722 00:39:54,040 --> 00:39:57,520 Speaker 1: but you're going on a journey of your life basically, 723 00:39:57,600 --> 00:39:59,839 Speaker 1: like it was like watching a movie of different parts 724 00:39:59,880 --> 00:40:02,480 Speaker 1: of my life, and then every time the song would change, 725 00:40:02,800 --> 00:40:04,840 Speaker 1: it would take me to a different thing. And like 726 00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:07,000 Speaker 1: I didn't know who was going to pop in, like 727 00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:10,440 Speaker 1: a lot of people from my life popped in a 728 00:40:10,520 --> 00:40:14,040 Speaker 1: lot of past experiences. I was really nervous before that 729 00:40:14,120 --> 00:40:16,960 Speaker 1: it was going to be painful and like bring up 730 00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:20,040 Speaker 1: a lot of old trauma or anything that was unresolved 731 00:40:20,239 --> 00:40:22,800 Speaker 1: that I hadn't dealt with. And I was scared like 732 00:40:22,880 --> 00:40:26,480 Speaker 1: that that would be really hard or scary. I did 733 00:40:26,560 --> 00:40:29,279 Speaker 1: apparently cry for the whole first half of it, UM, 734 00:40:29,560 --> 00:40:32,960 Speaker 1: but then but I never felt sad. It was really weird. 735 00:40:33,200 --> 00:40:35,360 Speaker 1: I didn't feel sad, but I was crying. I felt 736 00:40:35,440 --> 00:40:38,120 Speaker 1: like it was like a release, like my body needed 737 00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:42,319 Speaker 1: to release from certain experiences and let go of even 738 00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:47,600 Speaker 1: certain people. UM from my past. But again, like I said, 739 00:40:47,640 --> 00:40:50,640 Speaker 1: it was all done with such love that it wasn't 740 00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:53,400 Speaker 1: like sad. It was just like, oh, I just need 741 00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:56,640 Speaker 1: to let them go now, like thank you next kind 742 00:40:56,640 --> 00:40:59,120 Speaker 1: of vibe, you know, and like sending them off lovingly 743 00:40:59,320 --> 00:41:02,239 Speaker 1: to live their life and know that I didn't want 744 00:41:02,280 --> 00:41:04,439 Speaker 1: them in mine anymore or whatever it was. I didn't 745 00:41:04,480 --> 00:41:05,800 Speaker 1: want them on this journey with me. And then I 746 00:41:05,840 --> 00:41:08,000 Speaker 1: would bounce, the song would change and I would bounce 747 00:41:08,040 --> 00:41:10,759 Speaker 1: somewhere else, and it was so interesting, Like the way 748 00:41:10,800 --> 00:41:14,560 Speaker 1: that it ended was in where the playlist ended. Um. 749 00:41:14,719 --> 00:41:17,239 Speaker 1: It was a lot of like Beatles songs and just 750 00:41:17,400 --> 00:41:22,520 Speaker 1: songs about love. Uh. And I remember like when I 751 00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:27,279 Speaker 1: kind of was coming to feeling literally like my heart 752 00:41:27,320 --> 00:41:29,600 Speaker 1: could explode with love. Do you remember me texting you. 753 00:41:32,880 --> 00:41:35,840 Speaker 1: I don't remember what I said specifically, but I was 754 00:41:35,920 --> 00:41:38,320 Speaker 1: sitting in my backyard under this big tree that I have, 755 00:41:38,480 --> 00:41:42,040 Speaker 1: and all the leaves looked awesome by the way you 756 00:41:42,080 --> 00:41:44,319 Speaker 1: could see a breathing. Yeah. I was just like, oh 757 00:41:44,440 --> 00:41:49,880 Speaker 1: my god, this is so beautiful. Um. And I texted 758 00:41:50,120 --> 00:41:51,960 Speaker 1: it was you and two other of our friends and 759 00:41:52,040 --> 00:41:54,480 Speaker 1: I because somebody had asked me how it was, and 760 00:41:54,560 --> 00:41:57,480 Speaker 1: I was just like you guys. I literally have to 761 00:41:57,560 --> 00:42:01,120 Speaker 1: tell y'all I love you so much, Like my heart 762 00:42:01,200 --> 00:42:03,960 Speaker 1: could explode with how much I love all of you guys. 763 00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:06,480 Speaker 1: And and that was just what I felt, was just 764 00:42:06,640 --> 00:42:09,399 Speaker 1: like I just wanted to love. I mean, God, does 765 00:42:09,440 --> 00:42:14,239 Speaker 1: a whole country you need to start taking psilocybin? Would 766 00:42:14,280 --> 00:42:16,240 Speaker 1: you ever do that? Would you ever do a journey 767 00:42:16,320 --> 00:42:22,080 Speaker 1: with a shaman? Yeah? Yeah, I would love to. Um, Yeah, 768 00:42:22,160 --> 00:42:25,880 Speaker 1: sign me up. Okay, you know what I'm getting you 769 00:42:25,960 --> 00:42:31,680 Speaker 1: for your birthday? Um? What if I did it and 770 00:42:31,760 --> 00:42:35,120 Speaker 1: we recorded it and played it? Oh my god, I'm 771 00:42:35,880 --> 00:42:40,480 Speaker 1: to anybody, don't promise that. But also like there's a 772 00:42:40,560 --> 00:42:42,320 Speaker 1: part of me that's like this could change the world. 773 00:42:44,160 --> 00:42:47,080 Speaker 1: I just feel like I don't know, these flower essences 774 00:42:47,160 --> 00:42:50,200 Speaker 1: that I'm doing are a very very very muted version 775 00:42:50,400 --> 00:42:53,400 Speaker 1: of this. UM. But it's interesting, Like I really do 776 00:42:53,520 --> 00:42:57,080 Speaker 1: buy into plant medicine. That's I'm a big supporter. And 777 00:42:57,520 --> 00:43:00,120 Speaker 1: especially if you're doing it in a guided place like 778 00:43:00,640 --> 00:43:02,920 Speaker 1: you know, in It's like it's like it's such a 779 00:43:02,960 --> 00:43:06,040 Speaker 1: spiritual experience. I don't know how else to say it. Um, 780 00:43:06,760 --> 00:43:08,840 Speaker 1: but yeah, I'm gonna have the girl who creates my 781 00:43:08,960 --> 00:43:11,520 Speaker 1: flower essences on in a couple of weeks, so she 782 00:43:11,600 --> 00:43:14,719 Speaker 1: can kind of talk you guys through that because it's 783 00:43:14,840 --> 00:43:16,759 Speaker 1: you know, it's a very muted version, like I said, 784 00:43:16,840 --> 00:43:19,440 Speaker 1: but it can bring up certain traumas that we need 785 00:43:19,520 --> 00:43:21,520 Speaker 1: to heal, still, a certain messaging we need to let 786 00:43:21,560 --> 00:43:24,319 Speaker 1: go of. And it also just like can reset our 787 00:43:24,400 --> 00:43:28,200 Speaker 1: bodies into this high capacity for what we're truly here for, 788 00:43:28,480 --> 00:43:32,239 Speaker 1: which I believe is love. So there, Yeah, I mean 789 00:43:32,400 --> 00:43:34,520 Speaker 1: I think too. It's like those things like really push 790 00:43:34,520 --> 00:43:36,239 Speaker 1: sure you go aside and let me just kind of 791 00:43:36,320 --> 00:43:42,759 Speaker 1: be present. That's really nice, you know. Um, you know 792 00:43:43,040 --> 00:43:48,560 Speaker 1: sometimes we just need a vacation from literally life. Yeah, yeah, 793 00:43:49,080 --> 00:43:53,080 Speaker 1: the grind and it we'll just remembering what's important to 794 00:43:53,440 --> 00:43:58,560 Speaker 1: you know. Um. The other ones that I have are 795 00:44:00,000 --> 00:44:02,120 Speaker 1: mostly just about how things resonated with you guys, and 796 00:44:02,200 --> 00:44:04,320 Speaker 1: so I'm actually not going to read this today. I 797 00:44:04,480 --> 00:44:08,760 Speaker 1: do really appreciate them personally and always keep them coming. 798 00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:12,200 Speaker 1: I love hearing about your experiences. I know there's been 799 00:44:12,200 --> 00:44:13,840 Speaker 1: a couple of times that I've been really open about 800 00:44:13,920 --> 00:44:16,319 Speaker 1: like past relationships recently, and a lot of people were 801 00:44:17,040 --> 00:44:19,680 Speaker 1: sending me their stories that related, and I can't tell 802 00:44:19,719 --> 00:44:23,080 Speaker 1: you guys, how much that helps me. Like speaking of 803 00:44:23,200 --> 00:44:26,640 Speaker 1: human connection, it's just like knowing that anything I'm saying 804 00:44:26,760 --> 00:44:29,920 Speaker 1: is actually resonating or you're you've been through the same thing. Like, 805 00:44:30,040 --> 00:44:32,480 Speaker 1: it's just that that piece of human connection that I 806 00:44:32,520 --> 00:44:36,479 Speaker 1: think we all need. Um, there was one more. Okay, 807 00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:39,680 Speaker 1: let me well, we probably need to go. I'm gonna 808 00:44:39,680 --> 00:44:41,880 Speaker 1: say this one for the next time. Um. But it's 809 00:44:41,920 --> 00:44:44,360 Speaker 1: about basically how I've talked a little bit about the 810 00:44:44,400 --> 00:44:47,280 Speaker 1: word love addiction, which I hate, but codependency, love addiction, 811 00:44:47,719 --> 00:44:52,200 Speaker 1: all of that stuff, how it affected my friendships. And actually, Chip, 812 00:44:52,239 --> 00:44:53,839 Speaker 1: I might get you to speak on this too, because 813 00:44:53,880 --> 00:44:55,800 Speaker 1: you witnessed a lot of it and we're probably affected 814 00:44:56,280 --> 00:44:58,040 Speaker 1: by some of the things that were happening for me 815 00:44:58,719 --> 00:45:00,839 Speaker 1: in the last couple of years. And so we'll talk 816 00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:04,440 Speaker 1: about that next time. I'm not forgetting about you. Next 817 00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:09,200 Speaker 1: time on a very special It sounds like like a 818 00:45:09,320 --> 00:45:12,480 Speaker 1: lifetime so I know it was like blossom remember next 819 00:45:12,520 --> 00:45:18,800 Speaker 1: week on a very special blossom it next time on 820 00:45:18,840 --> 00:45:25,920 Speaker 1: a very special episode. Um. Okay, I really do hope 821 00:45:25,920 --> 00:45:27,759 Speaker 1: you guys are out there taking care of yourselves a 822 00:45:27,800 --> 00:45:30,960 Speaker 1: little bit and just really being kind to one another 823 00:45:31,000 --> 00:45:33,680 Speaker 1: and being kind to yourself because it is very hard 824 00:45:33,719 --> 00:45:35,440 Speaker 1: out there right now, and we're all just doing the 825 00:45:35,480 --> 00:45:38,000 Speaker 1: best week cand So spread a little up, give a 826 00:45:38,040 --> 00:45:40,880 Speaker 1: little smile, and as you go into your weekend and 827 00:45:41,040 --> 00:45:42,960 Speaker 1: you are living on the edge, I hope you guys 828 00:45:43,000 --> 00:45:46,520 Speaker 1: always remembered to a casual by