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Speaker 1: My brother uninvited me from his wedding, so I canceled

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Speaker 2: Petty if he if you can't be at his wedding,

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Speaker 2: there won't be a wedding. I can't go, No one can.

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Speaker 1: So I thirty seven Mel, have a younger brother, Tom

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Speaker 1: twenty six Mel, who's getting married in three months. A

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Speaker 1: year ago, he and his fiance were planning their wedding.

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Speaker 1: They were struggling to find an affordable venue. So I

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Speaker 1: own a vacation property with the large yard that used

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Speaker 1: I offered it to him as a wedding venue rent free.

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Speaker 2: WHOA, that's nice, dude.

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Speaker 1: You were saving half yeah of the money.

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Speaker 2: A lot of money on a venue.

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Speaker 1: My only condition was I wanted to be a part

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Speaker 1: of the wedding party, which he agreed to. Everything seems fine.

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Speaker 1: As a brother, you have a right away to be ready.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, why aren't you going to be in his bar?

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Speaker 2: Aren't you going to be one of the grooms men already?

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Speaker 2: That is why did you have to pay your way

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Speaker 1: You had to venue your way in. By the way,

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Speaker 1: this comes from aromatic coal eighty one to seventy on

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Speaker 1: the best of Reddit or updates subreddit. So last week

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Speaker 1: Tom and I got into a small argument. Really wasn't

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Speaker 1: texted me and said he and his fiance decided to

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Speaker 1: to be a groomsman.

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Speaker 2: Well, oh, he's about to downsize your wedding. Yeah, your venue,

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Speaker 2: the venue's gone. You can go use a shock for

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Speaker 2: all He cares.

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Speaker 1: Says, you don't need that many people. Yeah, it makes sense.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there's less people in your wedding, so you don't need.

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Speaker 1: The space exactly. I was shocked because I thought this

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Speaker 1: was set in a stone a year ago. I called

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Speaker 1: him to ask what's going on and he said it

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Speaker 1: not important enough to be at his wedding party. Why

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Speaker 1: should I host the wedding at my place? So I

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Speaker 1: need to find another venue.

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Speaker 2: I think it's petty, but I think honestly, that's kind

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Speaker 1: It was the deal.

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Speaker 2: That was the deal. They made the deal. If you're

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Speaker 2: going to back out of the deal, that's on you.

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Speaker 1: That's true. It was the deal. Tom and his fiance

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Speaker 1: are furious. They say they can't afford another venue at

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Speaker 1: this point and that I'm ruining their big day. My

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Speaker 2: Because everybody wants to not pay for it. They're like, oh, well,

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Speaker 2: we don't want our kids to have to pay for

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Speaker 2: to have our wedding for free and Hope. He's like, well,

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Speaker 2: you're just taking advance image of me now.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. The only way I would be okay with not

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you got a new exciting role.

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Speaker 1: I'm the DJ. Now I get to call the shot,

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Speaker 1: I get to do a speech. In speech, I would

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Speaker 2: Yeah you are, You were giving them a venue for

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Speaker 1: Yeah, since the most expensive for the wedding. Oh my gosh,

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Speaker 1: I see repeatedly. Number one, why did I need to

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Speaker 1: He's like thirty seven and the brother's twenty six.

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Speaker 1: I hope my brothers don't think of me like that.

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Speaker 1: I'm like thirteen years older than them, eleven Yeah, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I hope they don't think he's unokay. But I've climbed

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I think it's just like a little

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Speaker 2: if he's not really thinking of you as you know,

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Speaker 1: It sounds OP wants to mend the relationship. Yeah, the

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Speaker 1: relationship is very transactional. Yes, I'm successful. The brother is

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Speaker 2: But I feel like in trying to mend the relationship

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Speaker 1: I can't have a relationship built off of many yes objects,

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Speaker 1: But I guess that isn't enough. He always finds something

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Speaker 1: to say I'm doing wrong. Number three are you still

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Speaker 1: All try to talk to him to see what the

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Speaker 1: one down voted You're the a hole. It's very inappropriate

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Speaker 1: for you to manipulate someone into being in their wedding.

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Speaker 1: so they don't have to deal with you and your behavior,

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Speaker 1: I don't really feel like I'm manipulating anyone. I figured

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I agree with that. It was

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Speaker 1: the way winning uh Commenter number two, Petty, it just

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Speaker 1: for them to find something. You should tell them that

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Speaker 1: as long as your brother can't honor his part of

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Speaker 1: your deal, you're okay for them to do the venue

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Speaker 1: payable right now, because well the confidence is broken. That's

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Speaker 1: already realistically they're already saving half of the money from

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Speaker 1: like more food and stuff. It comment or three, I'm

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Speaker 1: Why would it be a condition if he didn't ask

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Speaker 1: you even before the property was offered. Why you to

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Speaker 1: not really get along or that close? Was this argument?

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Speaker 1: What was this argument? About now. You say it it

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Speaker 1: wasn't a big deal, but maybe you don't think it was.

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Speaker 1: But he does. What happened for him to make up

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Speaker 1: that excuse, which you know is is the deal, tells

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Speaker 1: begin with. In regard, I don't blame you. I think

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Speaker 1: you need to elaborate regarding your relationship with your brother.

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Speaker 1: So we're going to get into the update right now.

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Speaker 1: Update September sixth. That just happened.

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Speaker 2: That literally, what is it?

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Speaker 1: It's the sixth and eighthing.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, it was ten days ago.

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Speaker 1: Ten days ago, this year's gone. It's been a good year.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's been a good I think it's my best

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Speaker 2: He's like, hey, can you do can you do my chores?

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Speaker 2: This is everything I learned about. Oh he is kind

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Speaker 2: Everywhere, you know what. I'm kind of wondering if that

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Speaker 1: Everyone we got a little bit more.

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Speaker 2: I do think that Coca Cola has its own kind

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because if it's the you know, the brother's big day,

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Speaker 1: You'd be surprised who does it. That's what some people

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Speaker 1: double hockey sticks. That's the funny part about her calling

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: You should probably take both of them to her and

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Speaker 2: Testimony this way, do a little tester.

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Speaker 1: You just don't worry Coca Cola smack. You can be

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah it is. I think it is very much

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Speaker 1: Wolf of wall Streak was right. Does that mean I

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Speaker 1: do that? More? Financially works?

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Speaker 1: Final comments, Well, after scrolling through a decent amount of comments,

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Speaker 1: I've come to the conclusion that I'm obviously a terrible

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Speaker 1: For those of you that are familiar with we don't

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Speaker 2: You're just waiting for me to read it.

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Speaker 1: I'm single serving friend kind of person. I don't really

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Speaker 1: Snip snip. My brother is a settled down kind of guy,

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Speaker 1: I want to be the grunisland for him because I

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Speaker 1: But in a capacity I can handle. One last note,

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Speaker 1: Peace out friends, Okay, so Ope responds to one comment,

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Speaker 1: I'll read this. I'm getting older. I'm seeing just how

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Speaker 1: Has completely changed my perspective. Also, smack and Coca Cola

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Speaker 1: Do they think you're going to be strung out during

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Speaker 1: but not the Coca Cola head. It make it make sense?

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Speaker 1: Not the a hole OPI I use how you're describing.

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Speaker 1: You're one correct. I don't touch smack, just recreational Coca Cola,

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Speaker 2: I I I don't know much about Coca cola. What

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Speaker 2: just using it a little bit. That's my experience. Okay,

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Speaker 2: that's what he means by that? Gotcha?

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Speaker 1: Uh, probably not healthy, but I see it like alcohol.

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Speaker 2: Those ones are a little bit different.

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Speaker 1: My brother didn't say who they heard it from. But

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Speaker 1: so I obviously wouldn't have got gone to their wedding

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Speaker 1: You're absolutely right, there you go, that's the story.

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Speaker 2: I will say, I think I think still probably I

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Speaker 2: am on the page of everyone sucks here, just because

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Speaker 2: you can't kick someone out of a wedding that they're

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Speaker 2: giving you like a free place for. But also the

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Speaker 2: way that Opie was telling this story just did not

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Speaker 2: make him look good.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he definitely does seem I was getting an arccissistic vibes.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it was just like, oh, I'm so much richer

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Speaker 2: than my family. He's jealous of me. And then like

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Speaker 2: every time he was talking about he was like, I'm

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Speaker 2: not addicted, I'm not let me tell you more about this,

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Speaker 2: and I was like, okay, dude, all right, dude, yeah,