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Speaker 1: What up, it's a lift service. I'm Angela Yee, I'm G. G. Maguire,

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Speaker 1: I'm Stephanie Santiago, I'm A D. Johnson, A J. Johnson.

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Speaker 1: Is that everybody just telling her? This is a record

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Speaker 1: breaking thing for us. This is the first because we've

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Speaker 1: never had a guest come back this quickly. I'm honored.

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Speaker 1: I'm honored that we could break records. Right. We had

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Speaker 1: a few repeat guests. Some people have been here like

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Speaker 1: three or four times, but not like not in we

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Speaker 1: have to bring you right back there. Last time you

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Speaker 1: were on, things went a little viral, a little a

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Speaker 1: lot of viral, a lot of we could talk about

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Speaker 1: the threesome with the two men. Okay, so we wanted

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Speaker 1: to come back and really like address that right away,

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Speaker 1: amongst other things. Because, by the way, you look amazing.

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Speaker 1: Just got back from St. Thomas. Yeah, everybody's like, I

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Speaker 1: don't like tailnes. I'm like, well, I love and how

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Speaker 1: do you know your tan without Yeah? The St. Thomas

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Speaker 1: and got Love Retreat, Yes they do the self love retreat.

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Speaker 1: Off the chain. Gotta get you all with me. Everybody

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Speaker 1: was crazy, but you gotta come. I mean the peace

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Speaker 1: and just like you know, swimming with the fish and

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Speaker 1: praying at sunset and silent meditations on a yacht cruising.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know, I pulled out all the stops

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Speaker 1: for for the group and it was amazing. How dare

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Speaker 1: we be at work right? Right? But since you said

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Speaker 1: CEO mean you here? You that's what I heard. I know,

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Speaker 1: now listen to a lot of people had things to

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Speaker 1: say and weigh in on you, you know, and like

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Speaker 1: you said, you did never said you had intercourse with

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Speaker 1: these two men. But even if you did so, well,

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Speaker 1: but you said, that's not what you said. It was

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Speaker 1: a dance, and people had a lot of things to

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Speaker 1: say about it. They were saying it was a train.

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Speaker 1: And remember I was saying, for some reason, when a

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Speaker 1: but when a man is with two women, it's a right.

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Speaker 1: So okay, So can I ask a question? Because we

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Speaker 1: didn't know what was gonna happen like that, so we

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Speaker 1: really didn't even talk about those details. So I kind

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Speaker 1: of want to know, as as my girls, what you think, like, okay,

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Speaker 1: let me just say this. I was very, very surprised

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Speaker 1: I was because the thing, but you know, I was, yeah,

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Speaker 1: you're used to the course. No, I was because I

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Speaker 1: feel like nowadays we should be so free with expressing

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Speaker 1: really really shocked that there would be so much judgment,

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Speaker 1: primarily for men, which I also think leads to another

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Speaker 1: thing we're gonna talk about, which is the why. Well,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you why I and I want to

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Speaker 1: change where we're going. Why I'm not surprised is because

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Speaker 1: we got a lot of judgment on this podcast period,

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Speaker 1: just for even talking about sex, which is why I

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Speaker 1: did it, right. I love that. The reason why I

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Speaker 1: be talking about sex. People hate that. Um guys would

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Speaker 1: never understood why it's so taboo to have these conversations that,

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Speaker 1: talking about it. Yes, there's judgment, but I just don't

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Speaker 1: is not even stress is just and some people don't

424
00:21:49,840 --> 00:21:54,800
Speaker 1: orgasm easily. And I think I've had some really simple

425
00:21:54,920 --> 00:21:57,360
Speaker 1: sex where I did come, but it wasn't the best

426
00:21:57,400 --> 00:22:01,360
Speaker 1: sex of my life. But my seas like cay, Right,

427
00:22:01,840 --> 00:22:06,040
Speaker 1: I think I probably have maybe, like maybe I'll have

428
00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:10,840
Speaker 1: pagasm about seventy percent of the time, do you Yeah,

429
00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:14,760
Speaker 1: Because here's the thing about me, right, it's just hard.

430
00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:17,600
Speaker 1: I think when you're with somebody for a long time,

431
00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:21,040
Speaker 1: they know how you so it could it also could

432
00:22:21,040 --> 00:22:23,040
Speaker 1: feel really mechanical because they know if I do it

433
00:22:23,119 --> 00:22:25,760
Speaker 1: in this position, it's gonna make you come, and so

434
00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:28,359
Speaker 1: it might not be the most passionate, but they know

435
00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:31,240
Speaker 1: how to make you. So when you are with someone

436
00:22:31,320 --> 00:22:35,280
Speaker 1: long term like that, who is the most creative? I

437
00:22:35,359 --> 00:22:37,960
Speaker 1: think fresh I think I am because I find that

438
00:22:38,080 --> 00:22:40,800
Speaker 1: like most guys that well, yeah, I'm the most creative

439
00:22:40,880 --> 00:22:43,440
Speaker 1: because I feel like I be like super traditional until

440
00:22:45,720 --> 00:22:47,680
Speaker 1: one thing that they got that they're good at, and

441
00:22:47,760 --> 00:22:49,399
Speaker 1: then that's what they hit you with every time. They

442
00:22:49,440 --> 00:22:51,760
Speaker 1: would do the same ship over and over again. Would

443
00:22:51,760 --> 00:22:54,120
Speaker 1: you say I'm I'm very creative, but I think I'm

444
00:22:54,160 --> 00:22:57,680
Speaker 1: the more spontaneous one, Like, hey, we're in the Carla suck.

445
00:22:58,119 --> 00:22:59,760
Speaker 1: They want to getting dick sucked and I didn't want

446
00:22:59,800 --> 00:23:03,400
Speaker 1: to have sex and just stick it in and like hump,

447
00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:06,600
Speaker 1: pump pump, and it's like no, sometimes you gotta slow,

448
00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:10,560
Speaker 1: go fast, warm it up, switch positions. I'm really thinking

449
00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:13,640
Speaker 1: about the bucket list, the sexual bucket list. Yeah, because

450
00:23:13,680 --> 00:23:15,360
Speaker 1: there's some things like what let me saying, Well, I've

451
00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:19,200
Speaker 1: never squared it. I would love to square Yeah, I've

452
00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:25,399
Speaker 1: squired it. Second, because I was thinking about who it

453
00:23:25,520 --> 00:23:27,440
Speaker 1: was and I was like, yeah, but not a lot.

454
00:23:28,240 --> 00:23:31,159
Speaker 1: You know, how many times do you think maybe I

455
00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:34,040
Speaker 1: mean same person twice but not not so twice in

456
00:23:34,119 --> 00:23:36,320
Speaker 1: your life? Yeah, and say you haven't done it at all,

457
00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:43,879
Speaker 1: same person? Wow, you do it? I mean, you know

458
00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:50,720
Speaker 1: you know listen, y'all know my marathon squirt story. Yeah,

459
00:23:51,440 --> 00:24:00,440
Speaker 1: somebody squared it again. The town that was impeccable but why,

460
00:24:00,480 --> 00:24:02,159
Speaker 1: why is it? Why is it a thing for you?

461
00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:05,359
Speaker 1: Because it seems it would be amazing, Like I always

462
00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:08,159
Speaker 1: tear people talk about it and it's like some like

463
00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:11,920
Speaker 1: they can't control that, and and and they say every

464
00:24:11,960 --> 00:24:15,119
Speaker 1: woman can do it, and I've never done it. But

465
00:24:15,240 --> 00:24:17,280
Speaker 1: I don't know what to do for you to squirt.

466
00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:18,800
Speaker 1: I know how to make you do it. Come in,

467
00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:25,959
Speaker 1: not know just the next time you have sex, drink

468
00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:29,880
Speaker 1: a whole one liader of every because I think having sex,

469
00:24:30,040 --> 00:24:34,240
Speaker 1: I would be like, we're talking about pea squirt though.

470
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:40,200
Speaker 1: I was just watching this, um, I was just watching

471
00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:45,560
Speaker 1: this YouTube. Google what is what squirting really is? And

472
00:24:45,720 --> 00:24:47,880
Speaker 1: they said that the porn there was a porn starr

473
00:24:47,880 --> 00:24:50,320
Speaker 1: and they that's how they squirt so much in the porn.

474
00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:52,480
Speaker 1: They drink a lot of I don't want to. I

475
00:24:52,520 --> 00:24:54,040
Speaker 1: don't want to have to pee. I hate having to

476
00:24:54,080 --> 00:24:57,320
Speaker 1: p during sex. They like because that's what it feels

477
00:24:58,119 --> 00:25:00,520
Speaker 1: because right before you square, you can feel a bladder.

478
00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:08,119
Speaker 1: So you've like, O me too. Yeah, I feel like

479
00:25:08,480 --> 00:25:11,280
Speaker 1: I drink the mixture one of liter of What about

480
00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:17,600
Speaker 1: about I am going to say that every time, like

481
00:25:17,880 --> 00:25:19,760
Speaker 1: not every time I squired it, but when I had

482
00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:22,159
Speaker 1: that marathon squirt session a lot of water. I was

483
00:25:22,200 --> 00:25:23,960
Speaker 1: drinking a lot of tequila. Oh yeah, it was the

484
00:25:24,040 --> 00:25:31,000
Speaker 1: nineteen two Okay you want to say, I'm want to say,

485
00:25:31,080 --> 00:25:34,840
Speaker 1: prior to that one guy that I had that marathon

486
00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:39,800
Speaker 1: squirt session with, shout out to you. Yeah, I mean

487
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:43,160
Speaker 1: he wears the crown. Not the best sex I've ever had, sorry,

488
00:25:43,240 --> 00:25:47,040
Speaker 1: but the best. But I squired it like a million times,

489
00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:52,040
Speaker 1: like in period. I think it was the two Well no, um,

490
00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:56,119
Speaker 1: he figured out how to do it and then he

491
00:25:56,240 --> 00:25:58,080
Speaker 1: just I called it dropped the pen like he dropped

492
00:25:58,119 --> 00:25:59,439
Speaker 1: the pen, and then he just went right back, went

493
00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:01,960
Speaker 1: right back back. I was squirting back to back to back.

494
00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:04,159
Speaker 1: But prior to that, I thought that I couldn't do

495
00:26:04,240 --> 00:26:06,119
Speaker 1: it because I had never done it. So well, no,

496
00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:07,680
Speaker 1: I did do it, but I didn't know I did it.

497
00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:10,680
Speaker 1: So I squirted on my baby daddy and neither he

498
00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:12,800
Speaker 1: was kids, so neither one of us knew what it was. Right.

499
00:26:13,160 --> 00:26:15,560
Speaker 1: He's like a long time ago. No, Yeah, he's like no,

500
00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:17,280
Speaker 1: I was sixteen and he's like, you pead on me,

501
00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:19,399
Speaker 1: and I'm like, no, I didn't. And then when I

502
00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:21,520
Speaker 1: became an adult and I learned what squirt was. I

503
00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:24,560
Speaker 1: was like, oh, I squirted. He was squirting before square

504
00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:28,600
Speaker 1: and had a name right before. So you feel like

505
00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:31,400
Speaker 1: there's such a thing as having that deep of an orgasm.

506
00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:35,159
Speaker 1: But it's not with great sex always. Oh it was.

507
00:26:35,320 --> 00:26:37,960
Speaker 1: I'm thinking it was very that makes it great? That

508
00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:40,119
Speaker 1: does that make it great? Because you said it was

509
00:26:40,240 --> 00:26:42,760
Speaker 1: you said the sex was okay. No, no, no, I

510
00:26:42,840 --> 00:26:44,840
Speaker 1: say he wears the crown for the amount of times

511
00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:46,920
Speaker 1: that I like he made me. He's like squirt master

512
00:26:47,000 --> 00:26:51,040
Speaker 1: flex like he made me squirt, so does so? Does

513
00:26:51,080 --> 00:26:55,960
Speaker 1: squirt equal great sex? It's a very intense orgasm. Yeah,

514
00:26:56,240 --> 00:26:59,640
Speaker 1: it's very it was a great sex for you. I've

515
00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 1: made myself squirt from my vibrator. Yeah, so if I

516
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:08,320
Speaker 1: could do it myself, this is amazing. It's amazing. It's

517
00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:13,320
Speaker 1: like it's like it's like you cannot you cannot hold

518
00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:16,440
Speaker 1: it back, like it's gonna there's no and you don't

519
00:27:16,480 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 1: like it though, question Now I hate it, like getting

520
00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:24,640
Speaker 1: fucked and it's like splashing it every every question. It's

521
00:27:24,680 --> 00:27:28,920
Speaker 1: like Stephanie projects. I know Stephanie said that you could

522
00:27:28,920 --> 00:27:32,879
Speaker 1: feel your bladder fould right, Like when that's happening, are

523
00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:35,399
Speaker 1: you wondering if that's pete or squirt, Like, how do

524
00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:38,159
Speaker 1: you know the difference. I know what's squirted because I

525
00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:41,600
Speaker 1: know it's gonna come. Yeah, and it's like I'm holding

526
00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:44,840
Speaker 1: it and I'm like, oh god, I don't want to happen. Yeah,

527
00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:53,080
Speaker 1: because I squirted before a couple of times. But you

528
00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:56,440
Speaker 1: feel like you had to be yeah, you can't hold

529
00:27:56,480 --> 00:27:58,720
Speaker 1: it no more. And then yeah, you just gotta hope

530
00:27:58,720 --> 00:28:00,200
Speaker 1: it because I feel like about the like I have

531
00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:01,760
Speaker 1: to pee, I'm gonna be that. Excuse me, I gotta

532
00:28:02,160 --> 00:28:04,359
Speaker 1: right to me. It doesn't feel like pee. It's a

533
00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:06,840
Speaker 1: sensation close to it, because if you never squired it,

534
00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:09,680
Speaker 1: you think it's gonna be pete. Huh. And then this

535
00:28:09,920 --> 00:28:13,600
Speaker 1: boom because it's not gonna feel good to me. It

536
00:28:13,640 --> 00:28:15,080
Speaker 1: doesn't feel good to me when I got a pee

537
00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:18,320
Speaker 1: that it don't even know I'm missing anything, the worre.

538
00:28:18,400 --> 00:28:20,879
Speaker 1: And then after I learned that I could do it, now,

539
00:28:20,920 --> 00:28:22,560
Speaker 1: I learned like, Okay, don't do it because it's gonna

540
00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:24,960
Speaker 1: be squared. Like he like saved me. Where was that?

541
00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:32,119
Speaker 1: And I the one guy I was really comfortable with,

542
00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:34,920
Speaker 1: And I think that's part of it. I was so

543
00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:39,800
Speaker 1: relaxed and so comfortable with him that he knew what

544
00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:41,800
Speaker 1: he was doing, so it was easy for me to relax.

545
00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:47,880
Speaker 1: So you can get out of your head with capricorns.

546
00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:51,680
Speaker 1: W our head a lot about most or some shrooms,

547
00:28:53,440 --> 00:28:55,360
Speaker 1: but I think that's part. I think that's part of

548
00:28:55,440 --> 00:28:57,600
Speaker 1: what happened for me, is that I was just not

549
00:28:57,840 --> 00:29:01,440
Speaker 1: in my head and relax and come after balling. Yeah,

550
00:29:01,440 --> 00:29:03,280
Speaker 1: because I feel like it's not like I ever tried

551
00:29:03,320 --> 00:29:05,640
Speaker 1: to stop myself from squirting, but there are times and

552
00:29:05,720 --> 00:29:07,680
Speaker 1: I legitimately had to pee. It didn't feel like I

553
00:29:07,720 --> 00:29:10,000
Speaker 1: was about to orgasm. I really felt like I gotta pee,

554
00:29:10,360 --> 00:29:11,920
Speaker 1: and I have stopped sex to be like, excuse me,

555
00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:14,440
Speaker 1: I gotta pee. You know now you was trobingly about

556
00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:17,800
Speaker 1: the goal. No, I don't think. It didn't feel like that.

557
00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:20,720
Speaker 1: It felt like it was preventing me from enjoying sex

558
00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:23,480
Speaker 1: because I had to feel like but it felt like

559
00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:25,680
Speaker 1: you had to orgasm, like you had to squirt, but

560
00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:29,760
Speaker 1: it didn't feel like an orgasm. Every time I felt

561
00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:33,280
Speaker 1: like a fireworks. How about you stuff for me? Um.

562
00:29:34,360 --> 00:29:36,120
Speaker 1: The thing about me when I score it is it

563
00:29:36,240 --> 00:29:38,840
Speaker 1: doesn't it doesn't always have to come with an orgasm, right,

564
00:29:38,920 --> 00:29:41,760
Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying. It's just splash, So that's what

565
00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:46,400
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Sometimes you could have. It's like there's times

566
00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:51,160
Speaker 1: that you know and it's in a certain position with position,

567
00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:56,280
Speaker 1: it's in the position with your legs up on his shoulders. Yeah,

568
00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:07,800
Speaker 1: so you know that, right, and just happens like and

569
00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:10,000
Speaker 1: it's like I'm not coming and they're like, oh you came,

570
00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:17,240
Speaker 1: and I'm like, no, I didn't, Bros. That's what I

571
00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:19,560
Speaker 1: was saying. And sometimes it might not feel like it's

572
00:30:19,560 --> 00:30:23,600
Speaker 1: an orgasm for you, but you still might. Almost I

573
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:26,160
Speaker 1: felt like, I feel like I'm gonna square. Next time

574
00:30:26,200 --> 00:30:28,160
Speaker 1: you feel like you gotta pee, just let it loose,

575
00:30:28,240 --> 00:30:29,520
Speaker 1: but just make sure it's not in your own it's

576
00:30:30,480 --> 00:30:32,760
Speaker 1: it's gonna Honestly, when I feel like I have to pee,

577
00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:34,680
Speaker 1: it makes me not enjoy sex. I just feel like

578
00:30:34,760 --> 00:30:38,560
Speaker 1: I'm about to pee, like I don't want to peeking

579
00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:42,360
Speaker 1: my bladder. Does he know you've never squirted ya? How

580
00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:45,840
Speaker 1: does he feel about it? I mean orgasm? So I

581
00:30:45,960 --> 00:30:48,520
Speaker 1: think that's fine, Like that's still great. I just haven't

582
00:30:48,560 --> 00:30:50,600
Speaker 1: squirted it. So there's something left for you to do

583
00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:53,480
Speaker 1: in this long term or take relationship. Yeah, So how

584
00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:55,440
Speaker 1: does that work when when you're in a long term

585
00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:57,520
Speaker 1: because I haven't had the long ones, when you're in

586
00:30:57,560 --> 00:31:03,200
Speaker 1: a longest relationship you've been in, Um, honestly, it's been

587
00:31:03,200 --> 00:31:05,480
Speaker 1: a lot of off and on. It's been years, but

588
00:31:05,640 --> 00:31:09,960
Speaker 1: off and on not not still the longest steady probably

589
00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:13,840
Speaker 1: a year and a half. That was the same man

590
00:31:13,960 --> 00:31:15,600
Speaker 1: for over ten years, and he never made me squirk.

591
00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:17,520
Speaker 1: That's why I thought I couldn't do it. I was

592
00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:21,600
Speaker 1: with someone for eight almost eight years, and when he

593
00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:24,640
Speaker 1: discovered the ark score and he knew how to get

594
00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:29,000
Speaker 1: it done, he just wanted to do whatever. I'm telling you.

595
00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:33,520
Speaker 1: The guy didn't like her and were tested and I'm

596
00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:35,840
Speaker 1: not gonna lie my son's fall. He used to do

597
00:31:36,000 --> 00:31:44,520
Speaker 1: it with the dick at his hands like this, and

598
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:50,360
Speaker 1: exactly what happened. If I can orgasm, because I've heard

599
00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:53,480
Speaker 1: women say they can't orgasm, So I'm glad that that's

600
00:31:53,520 --> 00:31:56,520
Speaker 1: not hard for me, you know. So that's fine, But

601
00:31:56,640 --> 00:31:58,360
Speaker 1: I will say when I do, I could really only

602
00:31:58,440 --> 00:32:00,560
Speaker 1: do it once and then I need a break like

603
00:32:00,960 --> 00:32:03,200
Speaker 1: the dream like a guy. Yeah, I could come one

604
00:32:03,240 --> 00:32:05,680
Speaker 1: time and then it might take me like twenty minutes

605
00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:08,920
Speaker 1: oh my god. The other day. I mean usually after

606
00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 1: I come, like I can have sex, but it's like

607
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:17,320
Speaker 1: like like sex, that's like, you know, because I just came,

608
00:32:17,360 --> 00:32:19,480
Speaker 1: I could really go to seed and come. I want

609
00:32:19,520 --> 00:32:21,080
Speaker 1: you to carry up and come right after. I'm not

610
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:24,040
Speaker 1: oh my god. The other day, I'm getting my pussy a.

611
00:32:24,280 --> 00:32:28,680
Speaker 1: I come and he don't stop, and I'm like fighting

612
00:32:28,760 --> 00:32:35,560
Speaker 1: him like so, and he always kept going and I

613
00:32:35,720 --> 00:32:41,000
Speaker 1: scored it. That is that is that what's next? In

614
00:32:41,120 --> 00:32:43,880
Speaker 1: that feeling of get off me, get off me. I

615
00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:46,360
Speaker 1: didn't know I was gonna squirt, but I did. I

616
00:32:46,760 --> 00:32:49,680
Speaker 1: scored it the first time too, and he's just so nasty.

617
00:32:50,000 --> 00:32:53,000
Speaker 1: Light it in his face, but you're like a consistent

618
00:32:53,080 --> 00:32:58,440
Speaker 1: squirter that the second time, like right before I came,

619
00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:01,360
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm gonna squirt. Got a squirt and

620
00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:05,520
Speaker 1: he moved and it was like, oh man, and that

621
00:33:06,600 --> 00:33:10,040
Speaker 1: moved if I said, just going his face, yeah, I

622
00:33:10,120 --> 00:33:16,400
Speaker 1: get this shower. It made me come again and I

623
00:33:16,560 --> 00:33:22,400
Speaker 1: was just like dad, so I anymore. After that, I

624
00:33:22,560 --> 00:33:25,840
Speaker 1: was having sex with this guy from the back and

625
00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:28,600
Speaker 1: he made me squirt and I turned around and he

626
00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:33,120
Speaker 1: was gargling it. He caught it in his Now they

627
00:33:33,280 --> 00:33:39,440
Speaker 1: liked it, and he was like like squirting like it

628
00:33:39,520 --> 00:33:44,160
Speaker 1: in their fallow. He caught it in his mouth and

629
00:33:44,320 --> 00:33:52,800
Speaker 1: was like, for sure, it's amazing. I think it was

630
00:33:53,120 --> 00:34:02,520
Speaker 1: swallow like sporting will shower in that ship, like they

631
00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:05,320
Speaker 1: wanted all on their face, like they wanted to like

632
00:34:05,480 --> 00:34:07,720
Speaker 1: drip down their beer, and they're like, it's like the

633
00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:09,680
Speaker 1: little toy that you get out of the cracker jackbox.

634
00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:15,919
Speaker 1: I like. I like. I like when a guy comes

635
00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:18,440
Speaker 1: up and white ain't comes to kiss me, I think

636
00:34:18,480 --> 00:34:23,719
Speaker 1: he's my pussy. It's like, I don't mind how this

637
00:34:23,800 --> 00:34:28,800
Speaker 1: guy was gargling your squirt. What did you say? Okay?

638
00:34:29,640 --> 00:34:31,279
Speaker 1: But I said it, yeah, but I said in a

639
00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:38,480
Speaker 1: sexy way, like you nasty and I like you. I

640
00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:40,399
Speaker 1: think that was kind of alright. I said my thing.

641
00:34:40,600 --> 00:34:44,440
Speaker 1: Now what about the yeah, I'm still thinking that you're

642
00:34:44,480 --> 00:34:46,879
Speaker 1: done me too. I don't got no bucket. I didn't

643
00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:49,799
Speaker 1: done it. You've done it all. You haven't not done

644
00:34:50,760 --> 00:34:55,320
Speaker 1: y'all know. I haven't done it all done ing. I

645
00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:57,080
Speaker 1: feel like we've had people on here. You're like, okay,

646
00:34:57,080 --> 00:35:00,880
Speaker 1: they don't do more than me having suck toes. I

647
00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:05,560
Speaker 1: have really right, that's so like, that's not like mediocre,

648
00:35:05,760 --> 00:35:14,080
Speaker 1: right menstos, Yeah, I mean too, you are very I'll

649
00:35:14,120 --> 00:35:15,960
Speaker 1: never putting no toes. In my mind, I would massage

650
00:35:16,320 --> 00:35:18,440
Speaker 1: his feet, but I would not. I've never sucker man,

651
00:35:20,080 --> 00:35:23,480
Speaker 1: and I like getting my out. They like it, but

652
00:35:23,560 --> 00:35:26,480
Speaker 1: they like it. I'm just like my boyfriend, Yeah, suck.

653
00:35:26,520 --> 00:35:30,560
Speaker 1: I'm like, how about nipples, Well, yeah, guys like their nipples. Guys,

654
00:35:30,719 --> 00:35:34,600
Speaker 1: guess what I just got my nipples pears? You did

655
00:35:35,560 --> 00:35:39,000
Speaker 1: did hurt? No? Really? I mean my my pain threat

656
00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:42,040
Speaker 1: shoulders a little high. I'm a freaking nature, so I like,

657
00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:46,160
Speaker 1: but she likes got your first time getting No. I

658
00:35:46,280 --> 00:35:48,560
Speaker 1: had them pears back when I was dancing, when I

659
00:35:48,640 --> 00:35:51,880
Speaker 1: had my old titties. But when I when I got

660
00:35:51,920 --> 00:35:53,759
Speaker 1: my new tip, not the new one. I had to

661
00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:57,640
Speaker 1: take them out for the surgery, and my best friend

662
00:35:57,719 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 1: was like, bitch, dumputing the back end. It's like putting

663
00:35:59,239 --> 00:36:01,520
Speaker 1: the bump stick on Bentley. So I didn't put them

664
00:36:01,520 --> 00:36:04,680
Speaker 1: back in. But um, it's like putting a bumper stick.

665
00:36:04,760 --> 00:36:07,719
Speaker 1: That's what she said. That's what she said. But because

666
00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:10,560
Speaker 1: my new titties was so fabulous compared to my old titties, right,

667
00:36:11,320 --> 00:36:14,400
Speaker 1: But it was actually a Valentine's stay, part of my

668
00:36:14,480 --> 00:36:17,399
Speaker 1: boyfriend's Valentine's they give because he was well. He didn't

669
00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:19,839
Speaker 1: say he wanted it, but in the regular conversation months

670
00:36:19,840 --> 00:36:21,520
Speaker 1: ago he told me that it was something that he liked.

671
00:36:22,160 --> 00:36:24,920
Speaker 1: So I remembered that and it was part of his

672
00:36:25,280 --> 00:36:27,560
Speaker 1: So what do you say he loved it? Okay, when

673
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:29,080
Speaker 1: you get your nipples pears, do you do one at

674
00:36:29,120 --> 00:36:33,600
Speaker 1: a time or both one? And yeah, just like a person,

675
00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:38,360
Speaker 1: really did you get them? Done them both at the

676
00:36:38,400 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 1: same time? Like it's just stimulating when he plays? But

677
00:36:43,320 --> 00:36:45,560
Speaker 1: how does that work for you? Are you? Are you

678
00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:47,800
Speaker 1: a fair of your nipples being played with and everything?

679
00:36:48,040 --> 00:36:50,520
Speaker 1: So let me tell y'all. Every time I got my

680
00:36:50,920 --> 00:36:54,880
Speaker 1: first is redone my sensitation really because some people it

681
00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:58,279
Speaker 1: gets rid of their saying no, no, no, my more.

682
00:36:58,400 --> 00:37:01,719
Speaker 1: Same of my birth, and my nipples got so much

683
00:37:01,800 --> 00:37:05,400
Speaker 1: more pensive. So right now my nipples are hard off

684
00:37:05,440 --> 00:37:08,680
Speaker 1: fucking day. And the first couple of days I was

685
00:37:08,760 --> 00:37:13,520
Speaker 1: so wet, really yeah, until they healed, like the first

686
00:37:13,520 --> 00:37:17,239
Speaker 1: couple of days you love pain. I was what its fun? Like?

687
00:37:18,239 --> 00:37:20,200
Speaker 1: Crazy thing is I was trying to hide it from

688
00:37:20,280 --> 00:37:22,040
Speaker 1: him because it was a surprise. I got it done.

689
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:24,239
Speaker 1: Like two weeks with Valentine's Day, you wanted to be here,

690
00:37:24,360 --> 00:37:26,239
Speaker 1: and yeah, I wanted them to be nice to hell

691
00:37:26,360 --> 00:37:28,280
Speaker 1: for him when he saw them, so he can actually

692
00:37:28,360 --> 00:37:31,400
Speaker 1: enjoy them. And just by coincidence, we didn't see each

693
00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:32,840
Speaker 1: other during that time. But I had a whole lot

694
00:37:32,880 --> 00:37:37,760
Speaker 1: of fun by myself. Okay, well there you go, thinking

695
00:37:37,840 --> 00:37:41,479
Speaker 1: you didn't come with anything either, bucking list. I feel

696
00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:44,600
Speaker 1: like there's a lot I haven't done, Like I wish

697
00:37:44,640 --> 00:37:48,400
Speaker 1: I enjoyed anal. I've never done anal. I mean I've tried,

698
00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:50,320
Speaker 1: it didn't work. I feel like I would like to

699
00:37:50,440 --> 00:37:53,120
Speaker 1: enjoy everything. Yeah, me too. I think I'm open to

700
00:37:53,280 --> 00:37:55,680
Speaker 1: stuff if it's the right person, you know what I mean.

701
00:37:55,760 --> 00:37:59,920
Speaker 1: If it's someone that is open to like different experiences,

702
00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:04,920
Speaker 1: the spontaneous, for sure. I would try. People who like

703
00:38:05,040 --> 00:38:07,879
Speaker 1: ant like people who love an't know love it. Yeah,

704
00:38:08,040 --> 00:38:10,320
Speaker 1: Like I've heard people be like that is the best orgasm,

705
00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:12,279
Speaker 1: Like that is the only way I can come. I

706
00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:14,759
Speaker 1: don't think I love it, but I'll do it. It's

707
00:38:14,800 --> 00:38:16,600
Speaker 1: something to do it. But the people who are like

708
00:38:16,760 --> 00:38:18,719
Speaker 1: that is my favorite thing. I don't love it, but

709
00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:21,320
Speaker 1: I'll do it. Listen, I know this childhood. One of

710
00:38:21,400 --> 00:38:23,680
Speaker 1: my childhood best friends. She that's her favorite way to

711
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:26,960
Speaker 1: have sucks. Yeah, listen, I know this girl. Her husband

712
00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:29,200
Speaker 1: does not know that she loves that, and she has

713
00:38:29,280 --> 00:38:31,239
Speaker 1: never told me, and he's never done it. I don't

714
00:38:31,239 --> 00:38:34,719
Speaker 1: get that. You know, there are some men that think

715
00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:37,640
Speaker 1: their wife is supposed to be like very like like

716
00:38:37,840 --> 00:38:41,240
Speaker 1: the way that we're supposed to be quote unquote supposed

717
00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:43,480
Speaker 1: to be like really conservative, and they don't want to

718
00:38:43,480 --> 00:38:45,680
Speaker 1: look at their wife in that way. And that's how

719
00:38:45,760 --> 00:38:47,840
Speaker 1: her husbands because he doesn't want her to be a freak.

720
00:38:48,040 --> 00:38:49,520
Speaker 1: And a lot of men I feel like that are

721
00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:53,040
Speaker 1: like that are hollering at the more freak women, cheating

722
00:38:53,280 --> 00:38:55,680
Speaker 1: with the freak and cheating with the horse. That's why

723
00:38:55,680 --> 00:39:00,200
Speaker 1: he'd be watching porn in the other room, but care

724
00:39:00,280 --> 00:39:02,120
Speaker 1: her and watching for in the other room. Yeah, and

725
00:39:02,200 --> 00:39:03,680
Speaker 1: she's like, but he doesn't want to do none of

726
00:39:03,719 --> 00:39:05,239
Speaker 1: those things. I think, I know what friend you talking about.

727
00:39:05,239 --> 00:39:07,239
Speaker 1: We talked about that. But you know, those situations are

728
00:39:07,360 --> 00:39:10,359
Speaker 1: interesting because maybe he feels like he has to be conservative,

729
00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:14,400
Speaker 1: so he's also afraid to just in general, she doesn't

730
00:39:14,400 --> 00:39:16,279
Speaker 1: want him to know that she liked it because they've

731
00:39:16,320 --> 00:39:18,320
Speaker 1: never done it, so she feels like if she's funding

732
00:39:18,360 --> 00:39:21,880
Speaker 1: out him now, it's gonna seem weird. Yeah, you know,

733
00:39:22,239 --> 00:39:25,240
Speaker 1: because sometimes are there things that you would be scared

734
00:39:25,320 --> 00:39:28,640
Speaker 1: to tell a guy that you like. I don't think

735
00:39:28,680 --> 00:39:35,480
Speaker 1: it's at this point. Yeah, no, and scared? Why though,

736
00:39:35,719 --> 00:39:38,399
Speaker 1: to keep coming back to that, Why would there be fear?

737
00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:42,520
Speaker 1: Fear of rejection? I used to not be scared, but

738
00:39:42,640 --> 00:39:45,400
Speaker 1: I used to hold back from telling guys that I

739
00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:48,520
Speaker 1: like to have sex with girls. You do, you wouldn't

740
00:39:48,520 --> 00:39:50,839
Speaker 1: tell them that. I would not tell him, let's ask

741
00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:55,399
Speaker 1: because it wasn't really as accepted before. And I also

742
00:39:55,440 --> 00:39:57,400
Speaker 1: had a guy break up with me for it. So

743
00:39:58,080 --> 00:40:00,680
Speaker 1: he actually literally court me in bed with one my friends. Well,

744
00:40:00,760 --> 00:40:03,400
Speaker 1: it's probably more because of that, and he broke and

745
00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:08,040
Speaker 1: not because you like women, but because he's competing where

746
00:40:08,120 --> 00:40:12,000
Speaker 1: he can't compete, you know what I mean? Quite you

747
00:40:12,040 --> 00:40:14,920
Speaker 1: with one of your friends. He literally walked in like,

748
00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:18,279
Speaker 1: oh this is what you're doing. Oh your scissoring in here?

749
00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:26,000
Speaker 1: I probably laugh and kept going that time, you're telling

750
00:40:26,040 --> 00:40:27,880
Speaker 1: the story wrong. He didn't break up with you because

751
00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:34,560
Speaker 1: you like women with you because he walked on sis.

752
00:40:35,920 --> 00:40:40,320
Speaker 1: That's probably what if you're walking on your boyfriend with

753
00:40:40,440 --> 00:40:47,040
Speaker 1: another guy. We can't have double standards, now, no, we cannot.

754
00:40:47,400 --> 00:40:50,719
Speaker 1: You cannot have double standards. This is a no judgment zone.

755
00:40:51,440 --> 00:40:53,719
Speaker 1: But yeah, no, I can't. What you said, you can't

756
00:40:53,719 --> 00:40:55,880
Speaker 1: compete when you can't come. But I'm not competing with penis.

757
00:40:56,360 --> 00:40:58,239
Speaker 1: So I don't have a penis that we can't. It's

758
00:40:58,280 --> 00:41:00,360
Speaker 1: not a fair fight. Yeah, it's not. That's a different

759
00:41:00,440 --> 00:41:03,359
Speaker 1: level of pleasure. Yeah, I can't me and I can

760
00:41:03,400 --> 00:41:04,920
Speaker 1: buy one, and I got one of my door. Actually

761
00:41:05,680 --> 00:41:13,960
Speaker 1: I can't get you think, Okay, so is that a

762
00:41:14,280 --> 00:41:16,399
Speaker 1: breaking like what if you walked in on your dude

763
00:41:16,440 --> 00:41:18,480
Speaker 1: with another guy or what if he told you like

764
00:41:18,600 --> 00:41:21,919
Speaker 1: every now and then every now and then, Like, yeah,

765
00:41:23,080 --> 00:41:30,840
Speaker 1: that's no different pasure and again no judgment. It's just

766
00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:33,600
Speaker 1: not my thing, right, Like, that's gonna have to be

767
00:41:33,920 --> 00:41:37,800
Speaker 1: with someone else. That's that's the bottom. You can't compete

768
00:41:37,840 --> 00:41:41,640
Speaker 1: with it, right, Well, you know, like I don't have

769
00:41:41,719 --> 00:41:46,040
Speaker 1: a Somebody has sent in a question. Okay, so he said,

770
00:41:46,560 --> 00:41:49,520
Speaker 1: long story short, I've always cheated on every woman I've

771
00:41:49,560 --> 00:41:51,279
Speaker 1: been with. I had to come to Jesus moment and

772
00:41:51,320 --> 00:41:53,000
Speaker 1: would like to no longer be a cheater with this

773
00:41:53,080 --> 00:41:55,200
Speaker 1: new girl I started dating, but I just don't know

774
00:41:55,280 --> 00:41:59,000
Speaker 1: how to be monogamous. Please help. It's a choice. Make

775
00:41:59,080 --> 00:42:02,440
Speaker 1: the choice. Cut off all your other holes, all your

776
00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:05,680
Speaker 1: other girls. But if you feel something, you would ask

777
00:42:05,760 --> 00:42:07,680
Speaker 1: this because if this is how he's been his whole life,

778
00:42:07,719 --> 00:42:10,239
Speaker 1: and maybe things that he's seen around him, and you

779
00:42:10,280 --> 00:42:14,040
Speaker 1: know society has programmed men. I feel like the only

780
00:42:14,160 --> 00:42:17,240
Speaker 1: way to get out of being a cheater to stop

781
00:42:17,520 --> 00:42:21,440
Speaker 1: being if you want to be faithful and stop being unfaithful,

782
00:42:21,520 --> 00:42:26,120
Speaker 1: it's prioritize this person when something is your priority. You

783
00:42:26,200 --> 00:42:29,880
Speaker 1: don't violate that because when you when you go against

784
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:33,200
Speaker 1: your own priorities, you're going against yourself. So if you

785
00:42:33,360 --> 00:42:36,520
Speaker 1: really feel like it's time that this is a time

786
00:42:36,600 --> 00:42:39,120
Speaker 1: where you want to be faithful, you want to be monogamous,

787
00:42:39,200 --> 00:42:43,520
Speaker 1: you have to turn this person into a priority. Should

788
00:42:43,560 --> 00:42:46,359
Speaker 1: you tell her like, I've always cheated and I really

789
00:42:46,480 --> 00:42:51,800
Speaker 1: want to make sure in this situation this doesn't happen, nty.

790
00:42:53,680 --> 00:42:58,400
Speaker 1: That just opens up the door for more realness, more honesty.

791
00:42:58,640 --> 00:43:02,279
Speaker 1: But people confuse love and monogamy as if they are

792
00:43:02,440 --> 00:43:07,120
Speaker 1: the same thing, and love is not monogamy. Love does

793
00:43:07,320 --> 00:43:12,200
Speaker 1: love as a feeling monogamy something Okay, So if somebody

794
00:43:12,320 --> 00:43:16,120
Speaker 1: cheats on you, you think they still love you, it's

795
00:43:16,160 --> 00:43:20,520
Speaker 1: monoga be your choice for men, you mean or period period, period,

796
00:43:20,960 --> 00:43:24,040
Speaker 1: It's not. It's a feeling. Love is a feeling. Love

797
00:43:24,080 --> 00:43:27,160
Speaker 1: as an emotion, you choose to only be with one person,

798
00:43:28,680 --> 00:43:31,520
Speaker 1: like lying and cheating. You don't think that that means

799
00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:35,319
Speaker 1: that that's not really love. I feel like you can

800
00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:39,799
Speaker 1: love somebody and do you know and when they only

801
00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:41,680
Speaker 1: get hurt if they find out what I feel like

802
00:43:41,800 --> 00:43:44,120
Speaker 1: when you're not a person, when you're not a person,

803
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:47,160
Speaker 1: um if they want and your friend when you're not

804
00:43:47,280 --> 00:43:51,560
Speaker 1: the person, when you don't have you know, that discipline

805
00:43:51,800 --> 00:43:56,320
Speaker 1: and you like just just for an example as an example,

806
00:43:56,640 --> 00:43:59,080
Speaker 1: you know, like I know that I'm not the same

807
00:43:59,200 --> 00:44:04,439
Speaker 1: person today that I was before I decided to give

808
00:44:04,640 --> 00:44:06,920
Speaker 1: my life to my faith, you know what I mean?

809
00:44:07,400 --> 00:44:11,120
Speaker 1: So when like a person like me who before I

810
00:44:11,239 --> 00:44:14,160
Speaker 1: didn't have this, I didn't have this discipline in me,

811
00:44:14,280 --> 00:44:17,160
Speaker 1: I didn't have this thing about me that made me

812
00:44:17,239 --> 00:44:19,719
Speaker 1: want to do better, you know what I mean. I

813
00:44:19,840 --> 00:44:22,880
Speaker 1: still love myself, I still love the people that I

814
00:44:23,040 --> 00:44:25,399
Speaker 1: was around, but I just didn't honor myself or honor

815
00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:29,560
Speaker 1: God enough to not go against these things, you know

816
00:44:29,640 --> 00:44:32,200
Speaker 1: what I mean. So I just feel like you could

817
00:44:32,239 --> 00:44:35,400
Speaker 1: love somebody, you're just not honoring them correctly. You know,

818
00:44:35,840 --> 00:44:37,960
Speaker 1: you can still love someone and cheat on them because

819
00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:41,719
Speaker 1: you're falling into a temptation. You know what, I have

820
00:44:41,840 --> 00:44:45,360
Speaker 1: to do more about yourself than sometimes I don't. I

821
00:44:45,360 --> 00:44:48,040
Speaker 1: don't want to get into the god called the faith conversation.

822
00:44:48,120 --> 00:44:50,160
Speaker 1: But you know, it's all about how you're using your

823
00:44:50,160 --> 00:44:54,640
Speaker 1: free will. Like I said before, I'm I'm monogamous by spirit.

824
00:44:55,280 --> 00:44:58,200
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's a choice for me. I think, right,

825
00:44:58,320 --> 00:45:00,880
Speaker 1: that's just the way you have. Where I want to be,

826
00:45:01,120 --> 00:45:04,759
Speaker 1: and that's who you are. My choice and where I'm

827
00:45:04,800 --> 00:45:08,120
Speaker 1: happiest is with one man. When I think of love,

828
00:45:08,200 --> 00:45:10,719
Speaker 1: I don't think of love with many men. I think

829
00:45:10,719 --> 00:45:13,799
Speaker 1: of love with a man. But I feel like, back

830
00:45:13,840 --> 00:45:18,560
Speaker 1: to the question, I feel like monogamy is a choice

831
00:45:18,640 --> 00:45:22,680
Speaker 1: for men. I feel like men are not monogamous unless

832
00:45:22,760 --> 00:45:25,720
Speaker 1: it's a choice. I don't feel like it's a natural

833
00:45:25,800 --> 00:45:28,600
Speaker 1: thing for men like it. It's definitely more natural for women.

834
00:45:28,880 --> 00:45:31,640
Speaker 1: I also feel like for men, they become anogamous when

835
00:45:31,640 --> 00:45:33,520
Speaker 1: they go through a bunch of ships and they like,

836
00:45:34,160 --> 00:45:36,440
Speaker 1: you know, they gotta get it out their system. Yeah.

837
00:45:36,560 --> 00:45:41,240
Speaker 1: Well no, I mean when there's some life changing things happen,

838
00:45:41,400 --> 00:45:43,759
Speaker 1: they realize people not in their corner, like they think,

839
00:45:47,680 --> 00:45:55,279
Speaker 1: almost died. But what about what about person was there

840
00:45:55,360 --> 00:45:57,600
Speaker 1: for me? But what about the men who are monogamous

841
00:45:57,600 --> 00:46:01,040
Speaker 1: because there are many rooms there are on what was

842
00:46:01,160 --> 00:46:04,760
Speaker 1: that about? Is that just because of maybe their upbringing

843
00:46:04,920 --> 00:46:07,719
Speaker 1: or their beliefs? I think so, yeah, because men are

844
00:46:07,800 --> 00:46:11,040
Speaker 1: not just one way, you know, yeah, just like women

845
00:46:11,080 --> 00:46:14,640
Speaker 1: aren't at all. And again I'm going back to the

846
00:46:14,680 --> 00:46:18,000
Speaker 1: global thing, you know, meeting men around the world. A

847
00:46:18,080 --> 00:46:20,680
Speaker 1: lot of the men that I've met that are really

848
00:46:20,760 --> 00:46:25,200
Speaker 1: truly monogamous is because they've been And um, let's talk

849
00:46:25,200 --> 00:46:28,160
Speaker 1: about like I said, Synegal, which is a Muslim country

850
00:46:28,680 --> 00:46:31,279
Speaker 1: I visited during Ramadan, and they were praying four times

851
00:46:31,360 --> 00:46:34,279
Speaker 1: a day. That man has been praying since that way,

852
00:46:34,360 --> 00:46:36,399
Speaker 1: since he was ten years old. This is what I'm talking.

853
00:46:36,600 --> 00:46:39,399
Speaker 1: He's going to be a different man at twenty five

854
00:46:40,040 --> 00:46:43,759
Speaker 1: than you know, a man from Chattanooga. So not not

855
00:46:43,960 --> 00:46:47,520
Speaker 1: more or less, just different. Different, and so so again

856
00:46:47,960 --> 00:46:55,120
Speaker 1: he's raised with a certain level of and and women

857
00:46:55,360 --> 00:47:00,279
Speaker 1: my girlfriend and he's Pujabi, and I've been lead that

858
00:47:00,360 --> 00:47:02,360
Speaker 1: a lot of the way, a lot of his ways

859
00:47:02,600 --> 00:47:05,560
Speaker 1: come from his culture and his face. Absolutely, that's how

860
00:47:05,760 --> 00:47:08,399
Speaker 1: That's what I feel. I feel like, like getting back

861
00:47:08,440 --> 00:47:12,400
Speaker 1: to the question, like, if you want, you know, try

862
00:47:12,840 --> 00:47:16,480
Speaker 1: to go to church, you know, figure out what religion

863
00:47:16,560 --> 00:47:21,320
Speaker 1: you want to do, and find that discipline and yourself

864
00:47:21,440 --> 00:47:25,840
Speaker 1: to honor something or make this woman your church prioritize

865
00:47:25,840 --> 00:47:29,920
Speaker 1: her honor and you won't cheat. If you have respect

866
00:47:30,040 --> 00:47:34,360
Speaker 1: for yourself and your priorities, you won't cheat it. And

867
00:47:34,440 --> 00:47:36,960
Speaker 1: I feel like and I feel like men of men

868
00:47:37,040 --> 00:47:40,960
Speaker 1: who honor God, it's more likely that they're gonna honor you.

869
00:47:41,320 --> 00:47:44,800
Speaker 1: It's just a higher possibility, yes, because there's a different

870
00:47:44,880 --> 00:47:48,840
Speaker 1: level of values and morals and um and a different

871
00:47:48,920 --> 00:47:52,680
Speaker 1: level of discipline and focus. How do you feel about

872
00:47:52,800 --> 00:47:55,160
Speaker 1: like a guy being all up under you all the time?

873
00:47:55,400 --> 00:47:57,120
Speaker 1: Do you like that or do you not like it?

874
00:47:57,560 --> 00:48:00,239
Speaker 1: Like I love it to like hate it? Same because

875
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:04,200
Speaker 1: I'm hella clingy and affectionate and I'm taying all times

876
00:48:04,239 --> 00:48:06,879
Speaker 1: we got a whole hands and I'm like, but then

877
00:48:07,560 --> 00:48:11,839
Speaker 1: but then I want to I want my space. Yeah,

878
00:48:11,960 --> 00:48:16,279
Speaker 1: but then we haven't been in my house, I'm going home.

879
00:48:17,520 --> 00:48:20,279
Speaker 1: Everywhere you go, he wants to go with you. And

880
00:48:21,000 --> 00:48:22,719
Speaker 1: you know, if you're in the house, he's like all

881
00:48:22,840 --> 00:48:25,520
Speaker 1: up in whatever room you're in, he's right there with you.

882
00:48:25,760 --> 00:48:29,240
Speaker 1: He's texting you all day if you're not there, always

883
00:48:29,360 --> 00:48:34,440
Speaker 1: checking in. I think there's levels because because I'm definitely clingy, right, Like,

884
00:48:34,520 --> 00:48:37,040
Speaker 1: I want someone that does pay attention to me, that

885
00:48:37,280 --> 00:48:40,800
Speaker 1: does communicate, because there are men that barely will text you,

886
00:48:41,000 --> 00:48:44,200
Speaker 1: and you crave that, right, You crave that attention and

887
00:48:44,320 --> 00:48:48,719
Speaker 1: that affection and just that intimacy. So I think as

888
00:48:48,760 --> 00:48:50,680
Speaker 1: long as you have your own thing going on, and

889
00:48:51,080 --> 00:48:53,080
Speaker 1: you're able to have your friends and your life, you're

890
00:48:53,120 --> 00:48:55,640
Speaker 1: making your money, but you want to be around me,

891
00:48:55,760 --> 00:48:57,600
Speaker 1: that's going to turn me on more now if you

892
00:48:58,120 --> 00:49:01,520
Speaker 1: I did. When I was younger, I was dating someone

893
00:49:01,640 --> 00:49:04,960
Speaker 1: like that, and I felt like I started going to college.

894
00:49:05,120 --> 00:49:06,960
Speaker 1: I was, you know, hanging with my friends, doing a

895
00:49:07,000 --> 00:49:08,560
Speaker 1: lot of things, and he just wanted to be a

896
00:49:08,719 --> 00:49:11,560
Speaker 1: super home body, which I wasn't upset about. But then

897
00:49:11,640 --> 00:49:13,479
Speaker 1: he wasn't going to school. He was kind of lazy

898
00:49:13,560 --> 00:49:15,880
Speaker 1: in so many areas, and that's when I kind of

899
00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:18,320
Speaker 1: was like, all right, Like I can't be elevating in

900
00:49:18,440 --> 00:49:20,879
Speaker 1: this way, and you're kind of stagnant in that way.

901
00:49:20,920 --> 00:49:23,879
Speaker 1: We're growing apart, So in that sense it's not good.

902
00:49:24,000 --> 00:49:25,799
Speaker 1: But if you love me and want to spend time

903
00:49:25,880 --> 00:49:28,080
Speaker 1: with me, but you still got your life, I love that.

904
00:49:29,200 --> 00:49:33,200
Speaker 1: I'm gonna my bucket list. But it's not just sex.

905
00:49:34,000 --> 00:49:37,440
Speaker 1: It's not just I would love to find a man

906
00:49:38,520 --> 00:49:44,520
Speaker 1: that is as complex and as diverse in what he

907
00:49:44,719 --> 00:49:47,879
Speaker 1: likes and what I like life life wise, not just sex,

908
00:49:48,120 --> 00:49:51,880
Speaker 1: but life wise. Like I said, I have everything, like

909
00:49:52,560 --> 00:49:54,239
Speaker 1: different foods, you know, guys who don't be like going

910
00:49:54,280 --> 00:49:56,440
Speaker 1: to try. Oh I don't eat Indian food though I

911
00:49:56,480 --> 00:50:01,840
Speaker 1: don't eat all of that. Yeah, yeah, please come in

912
00:50:01,880 --> 00:50:05,680
Speaker 1: Africa with me talking about worst KFC. You know what

913
00:50:05,719 --> 00:50:08,640
Speaker 1: I mean. So so so that's all my bucket list,

914
00:50:08,880 --> 00:50:13,600
Speaker 1: to actually find someone who is as diverse and complex

915
00:50:14,120 --> 00:50:17,040
Speaker 1: and respecting of it and turned on by it like

916
00:50:17,160 --> 00:50:20,560
Speaker 1: I am, so that we can enjoy so much. Yeah,

917
00:50:20,719 --> 00:50:22,239
Speaker 1: and girl, and I want to learn from you too,

918
00:50:22,719 --> 00:50:24,320
Speaker 1: because I don't want to be the one that's always

919
00:50:24,360 --> 00:50:25,880
Speaker 1: bringing up. Let me ask you this, have you ever

920
00:50:25,960 --> 00:50:28,640
Speaker 1: dated a guy who was so good on paper and

921
00:50:28,719 --> 00:50:32,719
Speaker 1: you wanted to like him? And you just couldn't. That's

922
00:50:32,719 --> 00:50:36,080
Speaker 1: the story of my life. I mean, that's the story

923
00:50:36,080 --> 00:50:41,000
Speaker 1: of my life. Well, and he was we were talking

924
00:50:41,160 --> 00:50:44,200
Speaker 1: on another episode. We talked about like, when was the

925
00:50:44,320 --> 00:50:46,800
Speaker 1: last time you were impressed? And I thought about it.

926
00:50:46,800 --> 00:50:49,279
Speaker 1: I didn't answer it, and I thought about it. And

927
00:50:49,960 --> 00:50:53,480
Speaker 1: the last guy who really impressed me perfect on paper,

928
00:50:54,200 --> 00:50:57,719
Speaker 1: swept me off my feet, but the real him was

929
00:50:57,840 --> 00:51:02,799
Speaker 1: just trash. It's harder now with social media and he's

930
00:51:03,080 --> 00:51:06,239
Speaker 1: car but he got like something, there's a tick in

931
00:51:06,360 --> 00:51:09,919
Speaker 1: his brain. That's something good person. I love him to stuf,

932
00:51:10,000 --> 00:51:12,680
Speaker 1: God bless him, but it's just a sick in his brain.

933
00:51:12,920 --> 00:51:17,120
Speaker 1: How much of that list is your sexual attraction? Like

934
00:51:17,280 --> 00:51:20,040
Speaker 1: for me, I'm not. I'm not just the physical attractor anymore.

935
00:51:20,440 --> 00:51:23,640
Speaker 1: Like he can be fine and sexy, but they're still

936
00:51:23,680 --> 00:51:28,960
Speaker 1: gotta you gotta make me laugh. Yeah, there's got to

937
00:51:29,000 --> 00:51:33,600
Speaker 1: be something more than you just fine and what you

938
00:51:33,680 --> 00:51:35,600
Speaker 1: could be fine, and I could not be sexually attracted

939
00:51:35,640 --> 00:51:38,680
Speaker 1: to you, and you could be like, well other people

940
00:51:38,760 --> 00:51:40,600
Speaker 1: might say funny looking, and I could be attracted to you.

941
00:51:40,680 --> 00:51:43,880
Speaker 1: It's just what you like. Yeah, Yeah, there's gotta be

942
00:51:44,360 --> 00:51:48,920
Speaker 1: it's it's it's personality and characteristics and just chemistry for

943
00:51:49,000 --> 00:51:51,160
Speaker 1: me because I feel like intelligent and s's a humor

944
00:51:51,239 --> 00:51:56,160
Speaker 1: go hand in hand for somebody to be smart and funny,

945
00:51:56,320 --> 00:51:58,560
Speaker 1: Like if you're to be really funny, you have to

946
00:51:58,600 --> 00:52:00,960
Speaker 1: be really smart too. That I feel like, yes, because

947
00:52:00,960 --> 00:52:03,600
Speaker 1: a lot of men don't understand that that intellectual turn

948
00:52:03,680 --> 00:52:11,640
Speaker 1: on it. I mean, it's brain for me. I need

949
00:52:11,719 --> 00:52:14,520
Speaker 1: to be mentally stimulated. Of course, I like to learn

950
00:52:14,640 --> 00:52:19,560
Speaker 1: from my man. But when I was when I was

951
00:52:19,880 --> 00:52:24,160
Speaker 1: out to have a six pack, when I was, yeah,

952
00:52:24,280 --> 00:52:27,920
Speaker 1: definitely definitely needs a man with stomachs um. When I

953
00:52:28,040 --> 00:52:30,319
Speaker 1: was saying with these past two years. During that time,

954
00:52:30,680 --> 00:52:35,040
Speaker 1: I briefly dated a guy and I had to like

955
00:52:35,520 --> 00:52:38,279
Speaker 1: fall back from him because of his lack of intelligence

956
00:52:39,719 --> 00:52:42,960
Speaker 1: that only last for so long, Like that was the

957
00:52:43,120 --> 00:52:45,080
Speaker 1: thing with him. He just was the dummy, And I

958
00:52:45,200 --> 00:52:48,120
Speaker 1: was just like, I'm way too smart, I'm way too intelligence.

959
00:52:48,120 --> 00:52:50,120
Speaker 1: Why don't they know that though? Why don't they know?

960
00:52:50,400 --> 00:52:52,400
Speaker 1: Why do they think it's other things? Like I've had

961
00:52:52,440 --> 00:52:54,520
Speaker 1: men think oh, because I didn't have enough money. No,

962
00:52:54,800 --> 00:53:01,319
Speaker 1: it's because intellectually we weren't weren't not that smart. Well,

963
00:53:01,360 --> 00:53:03,480
Speaker 1: they know they're diating a smart woman but they don't

964
00:53:03,520 --> 00:53:06,040
Speaker 1: know that they I think most guys think they're smart,

965
00:53:06,120 --> 00:53:09,760
Speaker 1: even if they're not. Thing. It's an ego thing. Girl.

966
00:53:10,760 --> 00:53:12,880
Speaker 1: I'm just saying this guy thought he was smart. He

967
00:53:13,000 --> 00:53:14,799
Speaker 1: probably watched it, so I don't want to say too much,

968
00:53:15,360 --> 00:53:21,000
Speaker 1: but he would but he would ask me like general

969
00:53:21,080 --> 00:53:23,840
Speaker 1: knowledge questions like well, what is that up? And I'm like,

970
00:53:24,160 --> 00:53:27,680
Speaker 1: how do you not know that? There's certain things that

971
00:53:27,840 --> 00:53:30,640
Speaker 1: turned me off, like I definitely want a guy that

972
00:53:30,719 --> 00:53:34,399
Speaker 1: has a great personality, like I need mental stimulation, because again,

973
00:53:34,440 --> 00:53:36,239
Speaker 1: you could be attractive when you could be dumb, I

974
00:53:36,280 --> 00:53:39,879
Speaker 1: would be like, not funny, uninteresting. There was this one

975
00:53:39,920 --> 00:53:42,719
Speaker 1: guy I was seeing and it was a super casual situation.

976
00:53:42,880 --> 00:53:46,319
Speaker 1: But I'm private about my ship, you know what I mean.

977
00:53:46,360 --> 00:53:47,880
Speaker 1: I don't need to go out there and tell nobody

978
00:53:47,920 --> 00:53:49,880
Speaker 1: on with you. I don't I'm a grown woman, you

979
00:53:49,960 --> 00:53:51,960
Speaker 1: know what I mean. We can have our situation. And

980
00:53:52,160 --> 00:53:54,200
Speaker 1: I didn't like the fact that he kind of was

981
00:53:54,360 --> 00:53:57,920
Speaker 1: like out there about us, you know what I mean,

982
00:53:58,040 --> 00:54:04,319
Speaker 1: Like we wasn't exclusive, but but he was saty. Don't

983
00:54:04,360 --> 00:54:05,960
Speaker 1: be chatty because that's a turn off. How do you know,

984
00:54:06,000 --> 00:54:08,719
Speaker 1: I want people to know with you? You know, he

985
00:54:08,960 --> 00:54:11,880
Speaker 1: was proud. I love that kind of like he was proud.

986
00:54:13,600 --> 00:54:16,760
Speaker 1: It wasn't even necessarily proud. I think it was boastful.

987
00:54:16,760 --> 00:54:18,640
Speaker 1: I think it was ego. I think it was arrogant,

988
00:54:18,680 --> 00:54:21,960
Speaker 1: like you know something, will be like, yeah, don't don't.

989
00:54:23,080 --> 00:54:25,360
Speaker 1: I'm quick to cut you off because how you want

990
00:54:25,400 --> 00:54:27,080
Speaker 1: people don't know? I know you would you lying and

991
00:54:27,160 --> 00:54:31,200
Speaker 1: be like no, it depends like I don't ever mind

992
00:54:31,280 --> 00:54:35,640
Speaker 1: being honest. But that's what I mean. We're both in

993
00:54:35,719 --> 00:54:38,320
Speaker 1: the situation. So you're a part of this story, so

994
00:54:38,440 --> 00:54:40,520
Speaker 1: you have your own narrative. But who's to say I

995
00:54:40,640 --> 00:54:43,240
Speaker 1: want you to be spreading my information on my business,

996
00:54:43,600 --> 00:54:45,120
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? And then in a way

997
00:54:45,200 --> 00:54:47,239
Speaker 1: where I don't know how you're saying it, so I

998
00:54:47,320 --> 00:54:50,080
Speaker 1: know how people are taking look at me, you know

999
00:54:50,160 --> 00:54:52,440
Speaker 1: what I mean. That's and then people coming in with

1000
00:54:53,000 --> 00:54:58,839
Speaker 1: the wrong interpretation, and he's just like, turn off, goodbye. Dick.

1001
00:54:58,920 --> 00:55:03,440
Speaker 1: Wasn't even that great, Okay. So I do think intelligence

1002
00:55:03,480 --> 00:55:05,800
Speaker 1: and sense of humor like right at the top. But

1003
00:55:06,320 --> 00:55:08,719
Speaker 1: attraction does matter. And when I say attraction, it doesn't

1004
00:55:08,760 --> 00:55:12,200
Speaker 1: necessarily mean you gotta have a six pack, right, right,

1005
00:55:12,800 --> 00:55:15,800
Speaker 1: that's definitely right, But I have to be attracted to

1006
00:55:15,840 --> 00:55:19,080
Speaker 1: you and somebody, and there's certain things I'm attracted to physically,

1007
00:55:19,760 --> 00:55:21,279
Speaker 1: Like I like a guy he don't have to have

1008
00:55:21,360 --> 00:55:23,400
Speaker 1: a six pack, but I tend to like guys who

1009
00:55:23,400 --> 00:55:29,600
Speaker 1: are more lean six pack. She's like, I don't, but

1010
00:55:29,640 --> 00:55:31,879
Speaker 1: I don't even like guys are really buff and must

1011
00:55:31,880 --> 00:55:34,320
Speaker 1: feel like that. I don't like big guys period. Like

1012
00:55:34,400 --> 00:55:36,320
Speaker 1: I like guys that are kind of like you like

1013
00:55:36,440 --> 00:55:38,879
Speaker 1: the lean muscle, not the chunky. Yeah. I like guys

1014
00:55:38,920 --> 00:55:41,920
Speaker 1: who are just lean and then physically that's what I'm

1015
00:55:41,920 --> 00:55:45,279
Speaker 1: attracted to. I I actually am more attracted to the

1016
00:55:45,400 --> 00:55:50,320
Speaker 1: chunky guys. Believe it or not. Most people are surprised

1017
00:55:50,360 --> 00:55:53,000
Speaker 1: because I'm so into fitness and he'll be living there. Like, really,

1018
00:55:53,080 --> 00:55:55,839
Speaker 1: you like the chunky guy. I mean he has more

1019
00:55:55,880 --> 00:55:59,040
Speaker 1: to talk about. Most time, he's funny. You know, he's

1020
00:55:59,040 --> 00:56:01,960
Speaker 1: not about him. I mean a lot of times the muscle,

1021
00:56:02,120 --> 00:56:04,560
Speaker 1: the muscle guys. It's like, you know, once you talk

1022
00:56:04,560 --> 00:56:07,560
Speaker 1: about how you workout was today, there's that intellectual thing.

1023
00:56:07,640 --> 00:56:09,839
Speaker 1: It's like what we're gonna talk about talk about? It's

1024
00:56:09,840 --> 00:56:12,000
Speaker 1: not a lot else happening, but you know what time

1025
00:56:12,000 --> 00:56:13,960
Speaker 1: you're working out tomorrow. See that's not fair because you

1026
00:56:14,080 --> 00:56:15,920
Speaker 1: work out all the time. I work out enough for

1027
00:56:15,960 --> 00:56:20,239
Speaker 1: both of us to talk about. But thank god I

1028
00:56:20,320 --> 00:56:23,040
Speaker 1: got other ship to talk about. Right, It's not just

1029
00:56:23,120 --> 00:56:25,480
Speaker 1: about fitness and that's they've been working out. Yeah, there's

1030
00:56:25,480 --> 00:56:28,239
Speaker 1: definitely guys like if they're super into fitness and they're

1031
00:56:28,320 --> 00:56:31,719
Speaker 1: like buff, that gets to their heads. Oh my god.

1032
00:56:31,760 --> 00:56:33,719
Speaker 1: My ex boyfriend had to go to the gym every

1033
00:56:33,760 --> 00:56:37,200
Speaker 1: single day and one year on my birthday, he was

1034
00:56:37,960 --> 00:56:39,840
Speaker 1: he was dying. I was like, Okay, what time are

1035
00:56:39,880 --> 00:56:41,920
Speaker 1: we going? He was like, well, you know after where

1036
00:56:41,960 --> 00:56:44,560
Speaker 1: I got in, you're not going to skip the gym

1037
00:56:44,680 --> 00:56:49,320
Speaker 1: for one day to take me out. It was leg day. Okay.

1038
00:56:49,880 --> 00:56:54,360
Speaker 1: I was so haritated. I was like, but he was

1039
00:56:55,120 --> 00:56:57,120
Speaker 1: he was not playing, like he really did go to

1040
00:56:57,239 --> 00:57:00,200
Speaker 1: the gym every single day and you're not going to

1041
00:57:00,320 --> 00:57:02,239
Speaker 1: skip the gym on my birthday so that we can

1042
00:57:02,280 --> 00:57:03,960
Speaker 1: go out earlier because I have to get up early

1043
00:57:04,040 --> 00:57:07,680
Speaker 1: for work. You know. It's so so I want to

1044
00:57:07,719 --> 00:57:10,200
Speaker 1: hear like, Okay, you're your your body. They don't have

1045
00:57:10,320 --> 00:57:17,800
Speaker 1: to be buff. No, what's your favorite body part? Well,

1046
00:57:17,880 --> 00:57:23,680
Speaker 1: besides that peanuts like hands? Yeah, I like arms, I

1047
00:57:23,800 --> 00:57:25,400
Speaker 1: like a little like you know, you can see a

1048
00:57:25,440 --> 00:57:37,080
Speaker 1: little like the shoulder shoulder suit, but but right that

1049
00:57:37,320 --> 00:57:41,600
Speaker 1: different but even just a strong posture right like where

1050
00:57:41,640 --> 00:57:44,520
Speaker 1: you have like a good chest, good shoulders. You know, Like,

1051
00:57:45,000 --> 00:57:46,520
Speaker 1: have you ever did a guy who had like no

1052
00:57:46,720 --> 00:57:51,480
Speaker 1: ask at all, like his ask because I gotta have

1053
00:57:51,560 --> 00:57:55,320
Speaker 1: like a little you know, a little something something they

1054
00:57:55,400 --> 00:58:02,600
Speaker 1: do spots day with athletic body types, but sometimes you

1055
00:58:02,760 --> 00:58:05,120
Speaker 1: find that, you know, they just don't have asked jeans.

1056
00:58:05,360 --> 00:58:08,760
Speaker 1: So it's like like their genetics and the ass area.

1057
00:58:09,040 --> 00:58:11,640
Speaker 1: It is just like a muscle and it's small and

1058
00:58:11,760 --> 00:58:14,760
Speaker 1: it's high and it's not but it can't be like

1059
00:58:14,920 --> 00:58:20,720
Speaker 1: a soggy I'm not gonna I've never been with anybody

1060
00:58:20,800 --> 00:58:27,480
Speaker 1: with a saw. I not that's I'm not into like

1061
00:58:27,880 --> 00:58:30,680
Speaker 1: looking at guy's asses. But there's definitely been a couple

1062
00:58:30,720 --> 00:58:32,680
Speaker 1: of guys in the past where they had, you know,

1063
00:58:32,880 --> 00:58:36,080
Speaker 1: like some structure and I was like, okay, oh my god,

1064
00:58:36,160 --> 00:58:39,560
Speaker 1: I'll never forget the first time, the first time I

1065
00:58:39,720 --> 00:58:43,880
Speaker 1: was with a guy who just came out of jail, right, Okay,

1066
00:58:45,760 --> 00:58:50,600
Speaker 1: it's just like seven years. You know that his body

1067
00:58:50,800 --> 00:58:55,000
Speaker 1: was crazy. You know what I like, you know what

1068
00:58:55,080 --> 00:58:59,480
Speaker 1: I like on the man no, but listen, listen. The

1069
00:58:59,560 --> 00:59:03,080
Speaker 1: first time we have sex, he did these incredible acrobatic

1070
00:59:03,240 --> 00:59:06,960
Speaker 1: moves on me. I was like, wow, he me on

1071
00:59:07,040 --> 00:59:09,280
Speaker 1: the bed and I'm just there like dead, like lying,

1072
00:59:09,400 --> 00:59:11,400
Speaker 1: and he goes to get the rag and I'm watching

1073
00:59:11,560 --> 00:59:13,760
Speaker 1: him as he goes to the bathroom, and I was

1074
00:59:13,880 --> 00:59:20,680
Speaker 1: like because his body was like a statue, like he

1075
00:59:20,840 --> 00:59:26,880
Speaker 1: had those muscular thought yes, his back was. I was like,

1076
00:59:29,640 --> 00:59:31,480
Speaker 1: and when he came back out to like put my job,

1077
00:59:31,640 --> 00:59:38,840
Speaker 1: like you again, gootiful? Can you go rint off this room? Like,

1078
00:59:39,360 --> 00:59:44,600
Speaker 1: oh look, I threw the drag pott. No. I swear

1079
00:59:44,680 --> 00:59:48,520
Speaker 1: he was so let's not skip over that. This is

1080
00:59:48,560 --> 00:59:50,680
Speaker 1: one of my first boyfriends. Is the first person I

1081
00:59:50,840 --> 00:59:54,320
Speaker 1: ever was engaged to. He he told the first person

1082
00:59:54,400 --> 00:59:58,160
Speaker 1: I ever say to. It's a crazy description this this

1083
00:59:58,320 --> 01:00:00,800
Speaker 1: per no. But and I was a kid and he um.

1084
01:00:01,240 --> 01:00:02,880
Speaker 1: He used to bring me breakfast and bad he used

1085
01:00:02,880 --> 01:00:04,200
Speaker 1: to He taught me how to cook. He used to

1086
01:00:04,240 --> 01:00:06,480
Speaker 1: cook for me all the time we used to be

1087
01:00:06,600 --> 01:00:11,560
Speaker 1: having sex and give me four head kisses. I swear,

1088
01:00:11,920 --> 01:00:15,640
Speaker 1: I swear he was so. He was so catering, like

1089
01:00:15,800 --> 01:00:18,000
Speaker 1: he was just so grateful with some be with somebody

1090
01:00:18,520 --> 01:00:21,440
Speaker 1: who had never been with too many guys like you

1091
01:00:21,520 --> 01:00:23,640
Speaker 1: could sell like I was really young, and he felt

1092
01:00:23,680 --> 01:00:26,440
Speaker 1: like I was really pure. He just wanted to treat

1093
01:00:26,520 --> 01:00:33,840
Speaker 1: me really good. For like three months. That night he

1094
01:00:33,960 --> 01:00:40,120
Speaker 1: became yeah, for like three months. Then he became really ambusus.

1095
01:00:40,160 --> 01:00:42,920
Speaker 1: But listen, I know we have to go back. I

1096
01:00:45,680 --> 01:00:48,480
Speaker 1: question tell us no. One of the questions I was

1097
01:00:48,520 --> 01:00:52,880
Speaker 1: gonna ask, is is there anything that you are afraid

1098
01:00:53,800 --> 01:00:58,040
Speaker 1: to say that is really your truth with with your

1099
01:00:58,160 --> 01:01:00,520
Speaker 1: when you're with someone or just period and you're life

1100
01:01:00,520 --> 01:01:02,440
Speaker 1: when you're really with somebody. Is there anything like you've

1101
01:01:02,440 --> 01:01:05,280
Speaker 1: been a long term relationship? Is there anything you're afraid

1102
01:01:05,320 --> 01:01:08,960
Speaker 1: to say to tell her husband? And she likes, like

1103
01:01:09,240 --> 01:01:11,880
Speaker 1: like that something I'm afraid to tell the guys that

1104
01:01:12,040 --> 01:01:16,400
Speaker 1: I date. You know, I just switched and when i'm

1105
01:01:16,480 --> 01:01:18,880
Speaker 1: I'm even the guy I was with last It was

1106
01:01:18,920 --> 01:01:21,080
Speaker 1: an on and off thing, like you said, for five years,

1107
01:01:21,440 --> 01:01:24,720
Speaker 1: six years almost, and I'm scared to tell him I

1108
01:01:24,760 --> 01:01:27,760
Speaker 1: want to get married really because I'm not sure if

1109
01:01:27,800 --> 01:01:29,840
Speaker 1: I want to marry him, and I'm definitely not sure

1110
01:01:29,840 --> 01:01:32,800
Speaker 1: if I want to marry the new one, But it's

1111
01:01:32,840 --> 01:01:35,240
Speaker 1: like I do want to get married and it's something

1112
01:01:35,320 --> 01:01:37,800
Speaker 1: that I feel like I should be able to do.

1113
01:01:38,600 --> 01:01:40,480
Speaker 1: But that's the thing, and I don't watch. I don't

1114
01:01:40,480 --> 01:01:42,760
Speaker 1: want to bring up that conversation. And then this this

1115
01:01:43,000 --> 01:01:45,600
Speaker 1: man thinks that I want to marry him. If you

1116
01:01:45,680 --> 01:01:48,960
Speaker 1: tell the guy I want to get married, he's so

1117
01:01:50,960 --> 01:01:54,160
Speaker 1: I can't have that conversation. Is it with everybody that

1118
01:01:54,280 --> 01:01:57,000
Speaker 1: you date? Or are you afraid to talk about with

1119
01:01:57,200 --> 01:02:00,800
Speaker 1: my acts? We have spoken about marriage because he brought

1120
01:02:00,840 --> 01:02:03,640
Speaker 1: it up because he wanted he's talking about it, and

1121
01:02:03,760 --> 01:02:08,320
Speaker 1: I'll be like, Okay, we'll have this conversation, but it's

1122
01:02:08,360 --> 01:02:10,320
Speaker 1: not I don't ever want it because I don't want

1123
01:02:10,360 --> 01:02:12,160
Speaker 1: them to get nervous like, oh, she just wants to

1124
01:02:12,160 --> 01:02:14,000
Speaker 1: get married, she's trying to get me to marry her.

1125
01:02:14,840 --> 01:02:20,360
Speaker 1: Or I don't want to. I don't right, and I

1126
01:02:21,160 --> 01:02:23,480
Speaker 1: don't ring from you. I don't want to get married.

1127
01:02:23,480 --> 01:02:25,240
Speaker 1: I didn't mean tomorrow like you should tell somebody you

1128
01:02:25,320 --> 01:02:28,720
Speaker 1: want to get married and listen to them, right, But

1129
01:02:28,840 --> 01:02:30,600
Speaker 1: I mean I generally want to get married. I just

1130
01:02:30,640 --> 01:02:32,800
Speaker 1: don't know to who yet. How about you? Is this

1131
01:02:32,920 --> 01:02:38,160
Speaker 1: something that you're afraid to say? Um? I think for

1132
01:02:38,320 --> 01:02:43,000
Speaker 1: me in general, it's probably expressing my needs in a relationship,

1133
01:02:43,960 --> 01:02:47,640
Speaker 1: whatever that is, because I think I'm honestly, I'm used

1134
01:02:47,640 --> 01:02:50,120
Speaker 1: to just settling for what I get because I've never

1135
01:02:50,240 --> 01:02:54,240
Speaker 1: actually seen I've never actually seen what true love is,

1136
01:02:54,800 --> 01:02:57,040
Speaker 1: you know, So I deal with what comes with the

1137
01:02:57,120 --> 01:02:59,760
Speaker 1: bullshit and I kind of try to like, okay, well,

1138
01:03:00,360 --> 01:03:03,600
Speaker 1: and you know, being single and going through a self

1139
01:03:03,680 --> 01:03:06,840
Speaker 1: love journey of myself, I've realized like I have to

1140
01:03:06,960 --> 01:03:09,960
Speaker 1: be honest about what I need, like if I want monogamy,

1141
01:03:10,600 --> 01:03:12,600
Speaker 1: if I want this or that, I have to not

1142
01:03:12,760 --> 01:03:15,240
Speaker 1: be afraid to express it, because why am I afraid

1143
01:03:15,320 --> 01:03:17,920
Speaker 1: to say what I need in order to just deal

1144
01:03:18,000 --> 01:03:20,400
Speaker 1: with the bare minimum and be I feel like, you know,

1145
01:03:20,640 --> 01:03:22,560
Speaker 1: letting somebody have sex with you, you should be able

1146
01:03:22,560 --> 01:03:26,440
Speaker 1: to tell them for sure. And I think it's just fear, right,

1147
01:03:26,520 --> 01:03:29,160
Speaker 1: I think subconsciously it's fear of rejection or fear of

1148
01:03:29,280 --> 01:03:32,160
Speaker 1: somebody maybe not being able to give you what you want.

1149
01:03:32,240 --> 01:03:34,400
Speaker 1: But we're not wanting to. But I've learned that if

1150
01:03:34,440 --> 01:03:36,280
Speaker 1: you don't want you, then you're not the person for me,

1151
01:03:38,960 --> 01:03:40,480
Speaker 1: because I feel like you got to lay it out

1152
01:03:40,520 --> 01:03:42,800
Speaker 1: there and be like, if our needs are not aligned

1153
01:03:42,920 --> 01:03:46,000
Speaker 1: and I am not still gonna work with you or not.

1154
01:03:46,240 --> 01:03:48,360
Speaker 1: And I think I've gotten better at that, right because

1155
01:03:48,400 --> 01:03:51,280
Speaker 1: I've gotten more confident in just like, Okay, if you're

1156
01:03:51,320 --> 01:03:54,240
Speaker 1: not the person, you're not the person, you know what

1157
01:03:54,320 --> 01:03:58,880
Speaker 1: I mean, Like I'm changing the narrative for myself. So yeah,

1158
01:03:59,080 --> 01:04:01,480
Speaker 1: and it's you know, it's been while because again I've

1159
01:04:01,520 --> 01:04:04,320
Speaker 1: never had those like real experiences of what true love

1160
01:04:04,400 --> 01:04:07,800
Speaker 1: and relations, real good relationships are, you know. So I've

1161
01:04:07,840 --> 01:04:10,720
Speaker 1: kind of just settled for whatever I could get because

1162
01:04:11,080 --> 01:04:12,640
Speaker 1: this is how men are, or this is what we

1163
01:04:12,680 --> 01:04:14,919
Speaker 1: should settle for as women. Say. Now I'm like, funk

1164
01:04:15,000 --> 01:04:16,480
Speaker 1: that if you can't give me what I need, you

1165
01:04:16,600 --> 01:04:19,760
Speaker 1: gotta go because I'm no longer settling and being unhappy

1166
01:04:19,880 --> 01:04:22,480
Speaker 1: but giving you what you want. That's the mentality that

1167
01:04:22,600 --> 01:04:25,640
Speaker 1: led to our conversation first time. It's like, no more settling,

1168
01:04:26,120 --> 01:04:29,000
Speaker 1: no more settling, no more sacrifice. If you can't handle

1169
01:04:29,080 --> 01:04:31,960
Speaker 1: what my truth is, then that just means we're great friends.

1170
01:04:32,600 --> 01:04:35,080
Speaker 1: But yeah, we can't be more than that. If you

1171
01:04:35,480 --> 01:04:39,080
Speaker 1: if my if my truth upsets you, intimidates you, or

1172
01:04:39,640 --> 01:04:42,320
Speaker 1: makes you feel any kind of way outside of wanting

1173
01:04:42,400 --> 01:04:45,600
Speaker 1: to help please me, then what do we have? Because

1174
01:04:45,680 --> 01:04:48,120
Speaker 1: we have to accept men's truth, right, like not have to,

1175
01:04:48,280 --> 01:04:50,640
Speaker 1: but that's what society has painted on us. And I

1176
01:04:50,680 --> 01:04:53,520
Speaker 1: feel like we're better at it accepting. I do too, Yeah,

1177
01:04:53,720 --> 01:04:55,520
Speaker 1: we're better at it. We're like, okay, we at it,

1178
01:04:55,680 --> 01:05:01,000
Speaker 1: you know, settling no more? All right, So that's the goal,

1179
01:05:01,120 --> 01:05:04,160
Speaker 1: No more settling, no more, No more settling, no more.

1180
01:05:04,560 --> 01:05:06,040
Speaker 1: And that I don't know if we should tell Stephanie

1181
01:05:06,080 --> 01:05:07,640
Speaker 1: to express that she wants to get married or not,

1182
01:05:07,800 --> 01:05:10,479
Speaker 1: but I vote, unless that's who you want to marry,

1183
01:05:10,560 --> 01:05:13,080
Speaker 1: just keep it going right, right. But I think just

1184
01:05:13,200 --> 01:05:15,960
Speaker 1: the idea of marriage in general, what you want, right.

1185
01:05:16,000 --> 01:05:18,080
Speaker 1: You're not essentially saying that that's the person you want

1186
01:05:18,120 --> 01:05:20,400
Speaker 1: to marry, but that's what you see for your future,

1187
01:05:21,120 --> 01:05:23,400
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But and and that's um

1188
01:05:24,960 --> 01:05:27,840
Speaker 1: because I feel if he proposed to you and you

1189
01:05:27,840 --> 01:05:29,520
Speaker 1: don't want to marry him because he thinks that's what

1190
01:05:29,600 --> 01:05:32,280
Speaker 1: you want, and that's how I try to deliver that news. Like,

1191
01:05:33,000 --> 01:05:35,840
Speaker 1: here's the thing. I feel like in my previous relationships,

1192
01:05:35,920 --> 01:05:40,320
Speaker 1: I was too cool, you know, like accepting bullshit, too

1193
01:05:40,560 --> 01:05:43,600
Speaker 1: too nice about too forgiving. And I don't think there's

1194
01:05:43,600 --> 01:05:47,160
Speaker 1: anything wrong with forgiving. I think forgiving is very needed

1195
01:05:47,760 --> 01:05:53,280
Speaker 1: for everything. You can't stay upset with people. But I

1196
01:05:53,480 --> 01:05:57,200
Speaker 1: just feel like now I'm not on that now. It's

1197
01:05:57,320 --> 01:05:59,440
Speaker 1: it's more like I'm doing all of this for myself.

1198
01:05:59,520 --> 01:06:02,240
Speaker 1: What you got, you know, And if you ain't, if

1199
01:06:02,240 --> 01:06:04,880
Speaker 1: you don't have, if you don't have anything to bring

1200
01:06:05,000 --> 01:06:08,760
Speaker 1: to my table, because it's my table we're talking about here,

1201
01:06:09,280 --> 01:06:13,400
Speaker 1: then you're not invited. You can't exactly, you can't you

1202
01:06:13,480 --> 01:06:18,760
Speaker 1: have that right bring the tables, like just you know,

1203
01:06:19,000 --> 01:06:22,920
Speaker 1: I just I don't feel like at this point when

1204
01:06:22,960 --> 01:06:26,200
Speaker 1: I even start with with guys, I'm right at the door,

1205
01:06:26,320 --> 01:06:28,800
Speaker 1: like what what you what? What are we doing? Like,

1206
01:06:28,840 --> 01:06:31,360
Speaker 1: because we're not gonna just be hanging out in the house.

1207
01:06:31,560 --> 01:06:35,280
Speaker 1: Are we going on vacations or not? If not, I'm cool.

1208
01:06:35,280 --> 01:06:37,960
Speaker 1: I'd rather just be by myself anymore. Yeah, I think

1209
01:06:38,040 --> 01:06:40,080
Speaker 1: my boyfriend be like scared to mess up with me,

1210
01:06:40,560 --> 01:06:46,200
Speaker 1: Like he'd be nervous and scared to mess up. When

1211
01:06:46,240 --> 01:06:49,720
Speaker 1: you lay down your rules, people have no choice. That's

1212
01:06:49,800 --> 01:06:52,840
Speaker 1: love and respect when you're when you're afraid to to

1213
01:06:52,960 --> 01:06:55,680
Speaker 1: mess up with somebody, fraid to light to them, fraid

1214
01:06:55,720 --> 01:06:57,800
Speaker 1: to I mean, that's that's love, respect and honor. Like

1215
01:06:57,920 --> 01:07:03,360
Speaker 1: you said, I love that I let him know. I

1216
01:07:03,440 --> 01:07:05,360
Speaker 1: thought you were tired of walking on eggshells, you know,

1217
01:07:05,560 --> 01:07:07,400
Speaker 1: But I'm you know, I'm super chill. But I do

1218
01:07:07,560 --> 01:07:09,880
Speaker 1: feel like, because I'm so chill, when I get mad,

1219
01:07:10,000 --> 01:07:13,000
Speaker 1: I get so mad that it's like sometimes there's no

1220
01:07:13,160 --> 01:07:15,840
Speaker 1: going back because I'm not I'm not like I don't

1221
01:07:15,880 --> 01:07:18,280
Speaker 1: get mad at little things, and I let a lot

1222
01:07:18,320 --> 01:07:21,360
Speaker 1: of stuff slide. But if you try it too much,

1223
01:07:22,160 --> 01:07:24,320
Speaker 1: it's like to the point in the return. So we

1224
01:07:24,400 --> 01:07:26,840
Speaker 1: got to do this retreat. I know. Listen, we're planning it.

1225
01:07:27,320 --> 01:07:31,600
Speaker 1: Details to come, yes, okay, because a j and Live

1226
01:07:31,680 --> 01:07:34,440
Speaker 1: Service are going to be doing a joint retreat for

1227
01:07:34,640 --> 01:07:42,640
Speaker 1: us all. And like we said, every woman bring two men. Didn't.

1228
01:07:48,320 --> 01:07:50,080
Speaker 1: But I do appreciate you so much because I know

1229
01:07:50,160 --> 01:07:52,120
Speaker 1: you just got back from your retreat and St. Thomas

1230
01:07:52,160 --> 01:07:53,720
Speaker 1: and I know we wanted to address this because this

1231
01:07:53,840 --> 01:07:56,360
Speaker 1: was going crazy if he wanted you earlier, you know,

1232
01:07:56,440 --> 01:07:59,120
Speaker 1: on social media. But I do appreciate you for being

1233
01:07:59,240 --> 01:08:01,560
Speaker 1: honest and being being able to express yourself no matter

1234
01:08:01,680 --> 01:08:05,280
Speaker 1: what idiots have to say about it online. And it

1235
01:08:05,360 --> 01:08:07,440
Speaker 1: did open up a conversation. And I love seeing the

1236
01:08:07,520 --> 01:08:11,280
Speaker 1: support from people like that part. I love but I

1237
01:08:11,360 --> 01:08:13,400
Speaker 1: also know that a lot of judgment comes in doing

1238
01:08:13,480 --> 01:08:15,320
Speaker 1: what we do and I'm used to it. I'm up

1239
01:08:15,360 --> 01:08:17,720
Speaker 1: for it. You know. I see people commenting on the

1240
01:08:17,760 --> 01:08:20,240
Speaker 1: why are y'all talking about this? Well, guess what. Sex

1241
01:08:20,400 --> 01:08:23,360
Speaker 1: is a huge part of society. How did you not

1242
01:08:23,560 --> 01:08:27,200
Speaker 1: talk about And it's helping somebody. Yeah, it's helping somebody

1243
01:08:27,280 --> 01:08:29,760
Speaker 1: and it's fun. Like, honestly, there's nothing wrong with having

1244
01:08:29,800 --> 01:08:32,200
Speaker 1: a good time having the discussions that we have had

1245
01:08:32,280 --> 01:08:35,200
Speaker 1: these conversations with my friends, not on you know, not

1246
01:08:35,400 --> 01:08:37,840
Speaker 1: on the service, on live service, and so we are

1247
01:08:37,880 --> 01:08:40,720
Speaker 1: not ashamed to discuss these and how many people have

1248
01:08:41,120 --> 01:08:43,720
Speaker 1: don't have these conversations in private and are afraid to

1249
01:08:43,840 --> 01:08:46,000
Speaker 1: have them in public because they're afraid to be shamed.

1250
01:08:47,720 --> 01:08:49,280
Speaker 1: For a lot of my friends that I wasn't having

1251
01:08:49,320 --> 01:08:51,040
Speaker 1: with them and they were like, you know, now they

1252
01:08:51,080 --> 01:08:53,400
Speaker 1: want to talk to me. That's a plus. And I'm

1253
01:08:53,439 --> 01:08:55,080
Speaker 1: sure there's a lot of women who are now wanting

1254
01:08:55,080 --> 01:08:57,320
Speaker 1: to talk I know, I my dms are full of

1255
01:08:57,439 --> 01:09:00,880
Speaker 1: women want to talk about it. Retreats fault. So I

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