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Speaker 2: Hi, Cheeky's, how are you. I hope everything's going great

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Speaker 2: with you. I actually have an update. Last time that

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Speaker 2: since then, he has enrolled himself into an addictions therapist

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Speaker 2: and it is the best thing that could have ever

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Speaker 2: secondly for getting better. We are so much happier. His

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Speaker 2: to your advice. It gave me the courage to stand

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Speaker 2: and be like, listen, if you don't fix this for

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Speaker 2: You're basically the older sister that some of us never had,

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Speaker 2: So thank you so much for that. And I hope

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Speaker 2: for you from me.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Oh my anonymous listener, I love updates.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for updating us. That makes me

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Speaker 1: so freaking happy that my advice helped. I don't know

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Speaker 1: it all. I can be wrong, I can make mistakes,

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Speaker 1: So thank you for updating us, and yeah, I'm wishing

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Speaker 1: again and enjoy your beautiful summer. Okay, enjoy, have fun

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Speaker 1: and that money that you guys are saving now because

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Speaker 3: Hi teekys, So I just want to say, please do

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Speaker 1: I left it lit, of course, be safe. Put in

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Speaker 1: it reminds you, Okay, I love myself. It's gonna be okay.

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Speaker 1: It's kind of it's a light in the midst of darkness.

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Speaker 1: That's what a candle is. Write yourself a letter, give

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Speaker 1: So just be patient, be compassionate, like, hold some space

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Speaker 1: being an older sister, I always like to take care

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Speaker 1: siblings are grown. They're all doing their own thing. My

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Speaker 1: husband's my husband, and I love him and he's great.

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Speaker 1: But now I'm like, oh, how I'm at home sometimes

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Speaker 1: this too, shall pass. I tell myself that all the time.

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Speaker 1: I should probably get it tighted on me to be honest,

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Speaker 1: but I feel you. I understand, and I'm with you.

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Speaker 1: And I go through it too, and I'm holding your

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