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Thanks for listening to 34 00:01:34,040 --> 00:01:36,800 Speaker 4: our podcast and thanks for supporting the ministry. 35 00:01:36,920 --> 00:01:39,280 Speaker 5: If you enjoy today's message, why don't you be a 36 00:01:39,319 --> 00:01:40,840 Speaker 5: blessing and share it with a friend. 37 00:01:41,160 --> 00:01:43,880 Speaker 4: We appreciate you and pray for God's very best in 38 00:01:43,959 --> 00:01:58,960 Speaker 4: your life. Well, God bless you. Always enjoy to come 39 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:02,040 Speaker 4: into your homes. We love you, We know God has 40 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:04,240 Speaker 4: good things in store for each one of you. And 41 00:02:04,480 --> 00:02:06,480 Speaker 4: if you're ever in our area, I hope you'll come 42 00:02:06,520 --> 00:02:08,680 Speaker 4: out and be a part of one of our services. 43 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:11,000 Speaker 4: I promise you we'll make you feel right at home. 44 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:13,800 Speaker 4: But thanks so much for tuning in today. I like 45 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:15,960 Speaker 4: to get started each week with something kind of funny. 46 00:02:16,160 --> 00:02:17,920 Speaker 4: And I heard about this lady. She was on an 47 00:02:17,919 --> 00:02:21,720 Speaker 4: airplane reading her Bible. The man sitting next to her said, 48 00:02:21,960 --> 00:02:24,000 Speaker 4: you don't believe all that stuff in there, do you? 49 00:02:24,480 --> 00:02:27,240 Speaker 4: She said, sure, I do, it's the Bible. He said, well, 50 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:29,840 Speaker 4: what about that guy that got swallowed by the well? 51 00:02:30,160 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 4: She said, you mean Jonah, Yes, I believe that too. 52 00:02:33,000 --> 00:02:35,560 Speaker 4: He said, well, how could he possibly survive all that 53 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:38,760 Speaker 4: time inside of a well. She thought about it a moment, 54 00:02:38,960 --> 00:02:41,120 Speaker 4: finally said, I don't know. When I get to heaven, 55 00:02:41,160 --> 00:02:44,400 Speaker 4: I'll have to ask him. He said, sarcastically, What if 56 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:46,880 Speaker 4: he's not in heaven? She said, then you're going to 57 00:02:46,919 --> 00:02:51,480 Speaker 4: have to ask him. All right, hold up your Bible. 58 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:54,600 Speaker 4: Say it like you mean it. This is my Bible. 59 00:02:55,040 --> 00:02:57,640 Speaker 4: I am what it says I am. I have what 60 00:02:57,720 --> 00:03:00,280 Speaker 4: it says I have. I can do what it says 61 00:03:00,360 --> 00:03:03,320 Speaker 4: I can do. Today I will be taught the Word 62 00:03:03,360 --> 00:03:08,120 Speaker 4: of God. I boldly confess. My mind is alert, my 63 00:03:08,280 --> 00:03:11,960 Speaker 4: heart is receptive. I will never be the same. I 64 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:18,040 Speaker 4: am about to receive the incorruptible, indestructible, ever living seed 65 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:22,720 Speaker 4: of the Word of God. I'll never be the same. Never, never, never, 66 00:03:23,200 --> 00:03:27,480 Speaker 4: I'll never be the same. In Jesus's name, God bless you. 67 00:03:28,440 --> 00:03:30,560 Speaker 4: I want to talk to you today about how to 68 00:03:30,639 --> 00:03:34,600 Speaker 4: handle criticism. Every one of us in life will have 69 00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:39,200 Speaker 4: times when we're being criticized. Somebody's talking about us, trying 70 00:03:39,200 --> 00:03:42,240 Speaker 4: to make us look bad, blowing things out of proportion, 71 00:03:42,800 --> 00:03:45,840 Speaker 4: and these people have no interest in helping us. They're 72 00:03:45,840 --> 00:03:49,280 Speaker 4: just trying to drag us down. And I found most 73 00:03:49,280 --> 00:03:53,160 Speaker 4: criticism is based out of jealousy. It's based out of 74 00:03:53,160 --> 00:03:57,480 Speaker 4: a competitive spirit. You have something that they want, but 75 00:03:57,560 --> 00:04:01,119 Speaker 4: instead of being happy for you, keeping a good attitude, 76 00:04:01,200 --> 00:04:04,080 Speaker 4: knowing that God can do it for them, that jealousy 77 00:04:04,200 --> 00:04:07,480 Speaker 4: rises up. And the way they release it is by talking, 78 00:04:08,160 --> 00:04:11,440 Speaker 4: being critical, being cynical, trying to make you look bad. 79 00:04:12,000 --> 00:04:15,880 Speaker 4: The more successful you are, the more criticism you will encounter. 80 00:04:16,560 --> 00:04:19,680 Speaker 4: You get that promotion at the office, don't be surprised 81 00:04:19,800 --> 00:04:22,479 Speaker 4: if your critics come out of the woodwork. Well, he's 82 00:04:22,520 --> 00:04:25,760 Speaker 4: not that talented. He's just a manipulator. He just plays 83 00:04:25,839 --> 00:04:28,719 Speaker 4: up to the boss or your friends. They may be 84 00:04:28,880 --> 00:04:31,839 Speaker 4: fine as long as you're all single, but the moment 85 00:04:31,920 --> 00:04:35,400 Speaker 4: you get married, don't be surprised if they start talking, well, 86 00:04:35,440 --> 00:04:40,719 Speaker 4: I can't believe he married her. She has no personality whatsoever. See, Unfortunately, 87 00:04:41,480 --> 00:04:45,400 Speaker 4: not everybody will celebrate your victories with you. All your 88 00:04:45,440 --> 00:04:47,680 Speaker 4: single friends may not jump up and down when you 89 00:04:47,720 --> 00:04:50,680 Speaker 4: marry the man of your dreams. Your coworkers may not 90 00:04:50,800 --> 00:04:54,680 Speaker 4: sing your praises when you get that promotion. Very often 91 00:04:54,720 --> 00:04:58,560 Speaker 4: it draws out that jealous, critical spirit. But here's the key, 92 00:04:58,960 --> 00:05:02,719 Speaker 4: you shouldn't take that personally. Many times it's not even 93 00:05:02,800 --> 00:05:06,440 Speaker 4: directed at you. If it wasn't you, it'd be somebody else. 94 00:05:06,880 --> 00:05:10,239 Speaker 4: It's something on the inside of them. Unless they deal 95 00:05:10,279 --> 00:05:12,480 Speaker 4: with it, it's going to keep them from rising higher. 96 00:05:13,000 --> 00:05:15,680 Speaker 4: One of the most important things I've ever learned is 97 00:05:15,760 --> 00:05:20,000 Speaker 4: to celebrate other people's victories. If my co worker gets 98 00:05:20,040 --> 00:05:24,360 Speaker 4: the promotion I wanted, Yes, there's a tendency to be jealous. Yes, 99 00:05:24,400 --> 00:05:26,960 Speaker 4: there's a tendency to think, Man, why didn't that happen 100 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:29,520 Speaker 4: for me? I work hard, that's not fair. 101 00:05:30,279 --> 00:05:30,359 Speaker 3: No. 102 00:05:30,720 --> 00:05:33,600 Speaker 4: If we'll keep the right attitude and be happy for 103 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:36,960 Speaker 4: them at the right time, God will open up something 104 00:05:37,000 --> 00:05:40,039 Speaker 4: even better for us. But I found if I can't 105 00:05:40,080 --> 00:05:42,640 Speaker 4: rejoice with them, I'm not going to get to where 106 00:05:42,680 --> 00:05:45,960 Speaker 4: I want to be. How many times does God have 107 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:50,159 Speaker 4: a promotion in store, But first he sends along a test. 108 00:05:50,680 --> 00:05:53,760 Speaker 4: He wants to see if we're ready. So our best 109 00:05:53,760 --> 00:05:56,719 Speaker 4: friend will get married, but we're still single. Can we 110 00:05:56,800 --> 00:06:00,800 Speaker 4: be happy for or our relatives move into their dream home. 111 00:06:01,120 --> 00:06:02,920 Speaker 4: We've been praying for years, but we're still in a 112 00:06:02,920 --> 00:06:06,400 Speaker 4: little apartment. That's a test. And if we get jealous 113 00:06:06,600 --> 00:06:09,960 Speaker 4: and start finding fault with them, start being critical, it's 114 00:06:10,000 --> 00:06:12,679 Speaker 4: going to keep us right where we are. Let's learn 115 00:06:12,839 --> 00:06:17,200 Speaker 4: to celebrate other people's victories. Let it inspire you know 116 00:06:17,279 --> 00:06:19,719 Speaker 4: that if God did it for them, he can certainly 117 00:06:19,720 --> 00:06:23,159 Speaker 4: do it for you. But too many people today fall 118 00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:28,440 Speaker 4: into that trap of being jealous. There's so much competitiveness 119 00:06:28,440 --> 00:06:31,800 Speaker 4: and even cynicism in our society today, and if we're 120 00:06:31,839 --> 00:06:33,680 Speaker 4: going to be our best, we need to know how 121 00:06:33,720 --> 00:06:36,920 Speaker 4: to deal with people that are talking about us, people 122 00:06:36,920 --> 00:06:40,560 Speaker 4: that are judging us, people that are even making false accusations. 123 00:06:41,200 --> 00:06:44,599 Speaker 4: And in the Old Testament, these people were called slingers, 124 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:47,760 Speaker 4: and the way they got their name is when an 125 00:06:47,880 --> 00:06:51,360 Speaker 4: enemy went to attack a city. Many times, the first 126 00:06:51,360 --> 00:06:54,680 Speaker 4: thing they would do was take the stones off of 127 00:06:54,680 --> 00:06:58,119 Speaker 4: the wall that was protecting that city, and they would 128 00:06:58,160 --> 00:07:02,200 Speaker 4: sling those stones into their wells. They knew if they 129 00:07:02,200 --> 00:07:05,120 Speaker 4: could get the wells clogged up with these stones, then 130 00:07:05,160 --> 00:07:07,760 Speaker 4: eventually the people would have to come out, their water 131 00:07:07,800 --> 00:07:11,040 Speaker 4: supply would be gone. And it's the same parallel today. 132 00:07:11,440 --> 00:07:14,360 Speaker 4: We all have a well of good things on the inside, 133 00:07:14,840 --> 00:07:17,240 Speaker 4: a well of joy, a well of peace, a well 134 00:07:17,240 --> 00:07:20,960 Speaker 4: of victory. But too often we let the slingers clog 135 00:07:21,080 --> 00:07:25,200 Speaker 4: up our wells. Somebody's talking about us. Instead of letting 136 00:07:25,240 --> 00:07:29,680 Speaker 4: it go, we go around dwelling on it, upset, thinking, man, 137 00:07:29,880 --> 00:07:32,040 Speaker 4: I'm gonna pay you back. You're talking about me. Let 138 00:07:32,120 --> 00:07:34,640 Speaker 4: me tell you what I know about them. Now, you 139 00:07:34,760 --> 00:07:38,160 Speaker 4: have to make it a priority to keep your well pure. 140 00:07:39,000 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 4: Somebody's being critical towards you. Somebody's trying to show you 141 00:07:42,440 --> 00:07:46,000 Speaker 4: in a bad light. Recognize that's a stone come in 142 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:50,040 Speaker 4: your way. If you start dwelling on it, get upset 143 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:54,640 Speaker 4: and get revengeful, they've accomplished their goal. They landed another 144 00:07:54,720 --> 00:07:58,080 Speaker 4: stone in your well. Now the joy, the peace, the 145 00:07:58,160 --> 00:08:01,440 Speaker 4: victory gets a little more restrict Does it flow like 146 00:08:01,480 --> 00:08:05,520 Speaker 4: it should? Really? We all have slingers in our lives, 147 00:08:06,040 --> 00:08:07,920 Speaker 4: people that are going to try to bring us down 148 00:08:08,240 --> 00:08:11,280 Speaker 4: with their words. They may be a friend to your face, 149 00:08:11,520 --> 00:08:14,040 Speaker 4: but you know behind your back they would cut you 150 00:08:14,160 --> 00:08:17,440 Speaker 4: up and down. What are they doing slinging another stone. 151 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:22,760 Speaker 4: The way you overcome is not to get revengeful. Don't 152 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:25,720 Speaker 4: sink down to their level and start talking bad about them. 153 00:08:26,360 --> 00:08:29,640 Speaker 4: Don't get defensive trying to prove that you're right and 154 00:08:29,680 --> 00:08:33,040 Speaker 4: they're wrong. Now, the way you really defeat a slinger 155 00:08:33,440 --> 00:08:35,760 Speaker 4: is to just shake it off, just let it go. 156 00:08:36,600 --> 00:08:39,800 Speaker 4: This is what Jesus told his disciples. He sent them 157 00:08:39,800 --> 00:08:42,400 Speaker 4: out to the different towns to teach the people and 158 00:08:42,440 --> 00:08:45,240 Speaker 4: to care for their needs. But he knew they would 159 00:08:45,280 --> 00:08:49,839 Speaker 4: suffer rejection. He knew not everybody would like them. Some 160 00:08:49,880 --> 00:08:52,760 Speaker 4: people would get jealous and start talking and trying to 161 00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:55,120 Speaker 4: make them look bad. In other words, he knew the 162 00:08:55,240 --> 00:08:58,080 Speaker 4: slingers would be out there, and so he said in 163 00:08:58,120 --> 00:09:01,520 Speaker 4: Matthew ten, verse fourteen, when you go into a town, 164 00:09:02,240 --> 00:09:06,520 Speaker 4: whoever will not receive and welcome your message. When you 165 00:09:06,640 --> 00:09:10,280 Speaker 4: leave that place, shake the dust off of your feet. 166 00:09:10,640 --> 00:09:12,880 Speaker 4: Notice he didn't say if they start talking about you 167 00:09:12,880 --> 00:09:16,240 Speaker 4: in spreading rumors, get revengeful and try to pay him back. 168 00:09:16,760 --> 00:09:19,480 Speaker 4: He didn't say to get defensive and try to set 169 00:09:19,520 --> 00:09:23,480 Speaker 4: the record straight. He simply said, shake the dust off 170 00:09:23,480 --> 00:09:26,520 Speaker 4: of your feet. That was a symbolic way of saying, 171 00:09:26,880 --> 00:09:29,760 Speaker 4: you're not gonna steal my joy. You may be talking 172 00:09:29,800 --> 00:09:32,280 Speaker 4: about me, but I'm not gonna sink down to your level. 173 00:09:32,600 --> 00:09:34,280 Speaker 4: I'm not gonna get in there and fight with you. 174 00:09:34,480 --> 00:09:37,880 Speaker 4: I'm gonna let God be my vindicator. Sometimes when you 175 00:09:37,960 --> 00:09:41,400 Speaker 4: leave the office, you gotta shake it off people talking 176 00:09:41,480 --> 00:09:44,680 Speaker 4: playing politics, trying to bring you down. Don't take that 177 00:09:44,800 --> 00:09:49,120 Speaker 4: junk home. Shake it off. Sometimes, even leaving your relatives house, 178 00:09:49,360 --> 00:09:54,120 Speaker 4: I'm shaking this off. I'm not gonna drink it their poison. Well, 179 00:09:54,200 --> 00:09:57,600 Speaker 4: you say, Joel, I heard one of my competitors at 180 00:09:57,640 --> 00:10:01,480 Speaker 4: work is talking about me. I'm gonna fight fire with fire. 181 00:10:01,480 --> 00:10:03,760 Speaker 4: I'm gonna let him have it. Now, that's not the 182 00:10:03,760 --> 00:10:07,240 Speaker 4: way you win. Let God be your vindicator. If you'll 183 00:10:07,240 --> 00:10:09,760 Speaker 4: stay on the high road, God will fight your battles 184 00:10:09,760 --> 00:10:12,960 Speaker 4: for you. But you never really win by sinking down 185 00:10:12,960 --> 00:10:16,679 Speaker 4: to their level and attacking them personally. Rise above that. 186 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:21,360 Speaker 4: When somebody's being critical and negative towards you, just recognize, 187 00:10:21,400 --> 00:10:25,000 Speaker 4: here comes another stone, and our attitude should be I'm 188 00:10:25,040 --> 00:10:27,840 Speaker 4: smarter than that. I'm not gonna let their stone clog 189 00:10:27,960 --> 00:10:29,960 Speaker 4: up my well. In other words, I'm not gonna let 190 00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:33,079 Speaker 4: their jealous spirit poison my life. I'm gonna stay full 191 00:10:33,120 --> 00:10:35,880 Speaker 4: of joy. And some of you today you don't have 192 00:10:35,960 --> 00:10:39,320 Speaker 4: the victory that you should because you're not shaking things off. 193 00:10:39,920 --> 00:10:43,120 Speaker 4: You're letting the slingers get the best of you. Dwelling 194 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:45,920 Speaker 4: on the criticism and who's talking about you and who 195 00:10:45,960 --> 00:10:50,040 Speaker 4: rejected you, your wells all clogged up. I think about 196 00:10:50,040 --> 00:10:53,160 Speaker 4: the apostle Paul. One time he was shipwrecked on a 197 00:10:53,200 --> 00:10:56,000 Speaker 4: small island and he went to pick up some firewood 198 00:10:56,200 --> 00:10:59,319 Speaker 4: and a poisonous snake bit him. The people thought he 199 00:10:59,360 --> 00:11:02,360 Speaker 4: would immediately die. And that's kind of what it's like 200 00:11:02,679 --> 00:11:06,640 Speaker 4: when somebody criticizes us, When somebody's talking behind our back, 201 00:11:07,200 --> 00:11:09,400 Speaker 4: trying to put us in a bad light, we can 202 00:11:09,440 --> 00:11:12,600 Speaker 4: feel the stem of their words. But I love what 203 00:11:12,720 --> 00:11:16,400 Speaker 4: Paul did. He just shook it off. One translation says 204 00:11:16,679 --> 00:11:20,200 Speaker 4: he simply shook it off. In other words, no big deal. 205 00:11:20,640 --> 00:11:23,160 Speaker 4: I'm not gonna let this thing bother me. It may 206 00:11:23,360 --> 00:11:26,640 Speaker 4: be poisonous, it may look big, but I know God's 207 00:11:26,640 --> 00:11:29,400 Speaker 4: in control. I know God will fight my battles for me. 208 00:11:30,040 --> 00:11:33,200 Speaker 4: And do you know that snake bite never did harm Paul. 209 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:36,960 Speaker 4: Yes it was poisonous, Yes it was harmful, but he 210 00:11:37,040 --> 00:11:40,880 Speaker 4: knew this secret of simply shaking it all. But a 211 00:11:40,880 --> 00:11:43,800 Speaker 4: lot of people today they let these negative words and 212 00:11:43,960 --> 00:11:48,080 Speaker 4: what people think about them totally run their life. They 213 00:11:48,160 --> 00:11:50,880 Speaker 4: live to please everybody and try to keep them happy. 214 00:11:51,240 --> 00:11:53,720 Speaker 4: They don't want anybody to ever say a negative word 215 00:11:53,800 --> 00:11:58,080 Speaker 4: about them. The problem with that is it's impossible. You 216 00:11:58,200 --> 00:12:01,839 Speaker 4: have to accept the fact that not everybody's gonna like you, 217 00:12:02,480 --> 00:12:06,680 Speaker 4: not everybody's gonna accept you, and you certainly cannot keep 218 00:12:06,720 --> 00:12:11,120 Speaker 4: everybody happy. Some people, no matter what you do for them, 219 00:12:11,240 --> 00:12:14,679 Speaker 4: they're gonna find some reason to find fault. You can 220 00:12:14,720 --> 00:12:17,080 Speaker 4: be there for them a thousand times in a row, 221 00:12:17,200 --> 00:12:19,560 Speaker 4: but that one time you can't show up, they're gonna 222 00:12:19,559 --> 00:12:22,880 Speaker 4: start talking, start bad mouthing you. Listen, life is too 223 00:12:22,920 --> 00:12:26,320 Speaker 4: short to try to keep people like that happy. And yes, 224 00:12:26,600 --> 00:12:29,880 Speaker 4: we should be kind, we should be loving, but don't 225 00:12:29,920 --> 00:12:34,120 Speaker 4: spend all your time trying to please somebody that's impossible 226 00:12:34,120 --> 00:12:37,560 Speaker 4: to please. Until they deal with their own issues on 227 00:12:37,600 --> 00:12:40,800 Speaker 4: the inside, they're not gonna be happy and people like that, 228 00:12:41,040 --> 00:12:43,720 Speaker 4: it's much better to just love them from a distance, 229 00:12:44,280 --> 00:12:46,440 Speaker 4: say you know what, I'm not gonna play up to them. 230 00:12:46,520 --> 00:12:49,000 Speaker 4: I'm not gonna try to keep them happy, because I 231 00:12:49,120 --> 00:12:51,680 Speaker 4: know no matter what I do or don't do, a 232 00:12:51,720 --> 00:12:54,720 Speaker 4: month later, they're gonna be running me down. There is 233 00:12:54,760 --> 00:12:57,480 Speaker 4: a real freedom when you accept the fact that not 234 00:12:57,559 --> 00:13:02,440 Speaker 4: everybody's gonna like youriptures as in Proverbs, a gossiping, fault 235 00:13:02,520 --> 00:13:07,240 Speaker 4: finding tongue is like a venomous snake. People's words, if 236 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:11,040 Speaker 4: we allow them, can poison our lives. If somebody's talking 237 00:13:11,080 --> 00:13:14,319 Speaker 4: about you, don't go around dwelling on it three days. 238 00:13:14,480 --> 00:13:18,000 Speaker 4: You have to immediately shake that off. The longer you 239 00:13:18,120 --> 00:13:21,520 Speaker 4: think about it, the more venom goes into you. I know, 240 00:13:21,520 --> 00:13:24,040 Speaker 4: if somebody comes up to me to tell me something 241 00:13:24,120 --> 00:13:27,160 Speaker 4: bad somebody said about myself or my family, first thing 242 00:13:27,240 --> 00:13:29,600 Speaker 4: I'll do is try to stop them, say, you know what, 243 00:13:29,640 --> 00:13:31,640 Speaker 4: I don't really want to hear that. I don't want 244 00:13:31,640 --> 00:13:35,040 Speaker 4: to get that poison on the inside. I found it's 245 00:13:35,080 --> 00:13:37,480 Speaker 4: a lot easier to shake things off if you don't 246 00:13:37,520 --> 00:13:40,680 Speaker 4: know all the details. So if somebody's talking about you, 247 00:13:41,080 --> 00:13:43,160 Speaker 4: don't go home and call seven of your friends say 248 00:13:43,200 --> 00:13:46,040 Speaker 4: what do you hear about this? No, just shake it 249 00:13:46,080 --> 00:13:49,240 Speaker 4: off and remember, most of the time it's not really 250 00:13:49,280 --> 00:13:52,120 Speaker 4: about you. It's the fact that they hadn't dealt with 251 00:13:52,160 --> 00:13:55,880 Speaker 4: that jealous, critical spirit on the inside. But we can't 252 00:13:55,920 --> 00:13:59,559 Speaker 4: live with this idealistic view of life where we think 253 00:14:00,080 --> 00:14:03,200 Speaker 4: a good person JUELI, I'm kind, I'm loving, Nobody's gonna 254 00:14:03,200 --> 00:14:06,720 Speaker 4: talk bad about me. No. Sometimes the nicer you are, 255 00:14:06,960 --> 00:14:09,560 Speaker 4: the more people will talk about you. It's because the 256 00:14:09,600 --> 00:14:12,440 Speaker 4: good in you stirs up the bad in them. They 257 00:14:12,480 --> 00:14:16,160 Speaker 4: feel convicted by the purity of your heart. I mean 258 00:14:16,200 --> 00:14:19,200 Speaker 4: you can. You can go out and feed the poor, 259 00:14:19,280 --> 00:14:21,680 Speaker 4: you can go mow your neighbor's lawn. You'd think they'd 260 00:14:21,680 --> 00:14:24,240 Speaker 4: be happy, but no, here comes that jealous spirit. Well, 261 00:14:24,280 --> 00:14:26,280 Speaker 4: who do they think they are, Mister goodie too shoes? 262 00:14:27,760 --> 00:14:29,920 Speaker 4: Why do they get to work every day early? He 263 00:14:30,080 --> 00:14:32,640 Speaker 4: just playing up to the boss. Why she's so friendly 264 00:14:32,640 --> 00:14:34,720 Speaker 4: to everybody all the time, She's just trying to get something. 265 00:14:35,080 --> 00:14:37,120 Speaker 4: This is the best thing you can do is just 266 00:14:37,200 --> 00:14:41,280 Speaker 4: shake that off. Some people are just slingers. They wan't 267 00:14:41,360 --> 00:14:43,840 Speaker 4: do what they know they should do to be their best, 268 00:14:44,240 --> 00:14:46,680 Speaker 4: so they feel like they got to tear you down 269 00:14:47,000 --> 00:14:51,440 Speaker 4: to help ease their conscience. When you hear those negative comments, 270 00:14:51,440 --> 00:14:55,160 Speaker 4: those false accusations, your attitude should be no big deal, 271 00:14:55,480 --> 00:14:58,120 Speaker 4: just another slinger and I've already made up my mind, 272 00:14:58,200 --> 00:15:00,640 Speaker 4: no more stones going into my well. I'm gonna live 273 00:15:00,640 --> 00:15:03,680 Speaker 4: my life free. You know what those slingers really are. 274 00:15:03,920 --> 00:15:07,600 Speaker 4: They're distractions. They're trying to get you to lose focus 275 00:15:07,960 --> 00:15:10,520 Speaker 4: on what you really should be doing. But you shouldn't 276 00:15:10,560 --> 00:15:14,360 Speaker 4: waste five seconds of your emotional energy trying to figure 277 00:15:14,400 --> 00:15:17,200 Speaker 4: out why somebody said something or what they really meant. 278 00:15:17,320 --> 00:15:21,080 Speaker 4: That's a distraction. And you only have so much energy 279 00:15:21,160 --> 00:15:25,160 Speaker 4: each day. If you don't shake this off immediately, you 280 00:15:25,240 --> 00:15:26,920 Speaker 4: want to have the strength to do what you really 281 00:15:26,960 --> 00:15:29,040 Speaker 4: need to be doing, you'll go to work and not 282 00:15:29,120 --> 00:15:31,640 Speaker 4: be able to give it your best. You'll come home 283 00:15:31,680 --> 00:15:34,560 Speaker 4: and not really want to interact with your family. It's 284 00:15:34,560 --> 00:15:38,320 Speaker 4: because you're emotionally drained. You got distracted and poured all 285 00:15:38,360 --> 00:15:42,040 Speaker 4: your energy into something that really didn't even matter. And 286 00:15:42,120 --> 00:15:45,720 Speaker 4: we have to recognize we cannot stop people from talking. 287 00:15:46,000 --> 00:15:48,360 Speaker 4: It's a free world. If you're trying to be the 288 00:15:48,400 --> 00:15:51,360 Speaker 4: gossip police and make sure that nobody ever says a 289 00:15:51,400 --> 00:15:54,120 Speaker 4: negative thing about you, you're going to live a frustrated 290 00:15:54,160 --> 00:15:57,160 Speaker 4: life now. Except the fact that people are gonna talk. 291 00:15:57,560 --> 00:16:00,400 Speaker 4: People are gonna make cutting remarks. But the good news 292 00:16:00,480 --> 00:16:03,000 Speaker 4: is you don't have to drink of their poison. You 293 00:16:03,040 --> 00:16:04,840 Speaker 4: can rise above it. You can stay on the high 294 00:16:04,920 --> 00:16:08,840 Speaker 4: road and enjoy your life anyway. I don't know about you, 295 00:16:09,720 --> 00:16:12,200 Speaker 4: but I don't have time to sit around thinking about 296 00:16:12,200 --> 00:16:15,680 Speaker 4: all the people that don't like me. I realize every 297 00:16:15,760 --> 00:16:18,760 Speaker 4: day is a gift from God, and my time is 298 00:16:18,840 --> 00:16:21,880 Speaker 4: way too valuable to go around trying to figure out 299 00:16:22,120 --> 00:16:25,160 Speaker 4: how I can please everybody and make them understand me 300 00:16:25,240 --> 00:16:28,760 Speaker 4: and change their mind. No, I've already accepted the fact 301 00:16:29,320 --> 00:16:31,800 Speaker 4: not only is not everybody going to like me, but 302 00:16:31,880 --> 00:16:35,240 Speaker 4: not everybody is going to understand me. You don't have 303 00:16:35,360 --> 00:16:38,960 Speaker 4: to try to explain yourself. Don't spend all your time 304 00:16:39,040 --> 00:16:42,080 Speaker 4: trying to win your critics over. Just run your own race. 305 00:16:43,080 --> 00:16:46,080 Speaker 4: I know I start off every morning searching my own heart. 306 00:16:46,840 --> 00:16:49,840 Speaker 4: I make sure to the best of my ability that 307 00:16:49,880 --> 00:16:52,000 Speaker 4: I'm doing what I believe God wants me to do. 308 00:16:52,600 --> 00:16:55,320 Speaker 4: And I know, as long as I feel good about 309 00:16:55,360 --> 00:16:57,200 Speaker 4: it in my own heart, as long as down in 310 00:16:57,240 --> 00:16:59,680 Speaker 4: here I feel like I'm on course, that's all that matters. 311 00:17:00,320 --> 00:17:04,119 Speaker 4: You cannot let the critics and the negative voices distract you. 312 00:17:04,920 --> 00:17:08,800 Speaker 4: I know people today they spend more time focused on 313 00:17:08,840 --> 00:17:11,439 Speaker 4: what other people are saying about them than they do 314 00:17:11,480 --> 00:17:15,359 Speaker 4: their own dreams and goals. But understand, if you're gonna 315 00:17:15,440 --> 00:17:18,320 Speaker 4: do anything great in life, if you're going to be 316 00:17:18,359 --> 00:17:22,280 Speaker 4: a great teacher, a great business person, a great athlete, 317 00:17:22,920 --> 00:17:26,639 Speaker 4: not everybody is going to be your cheerleader. Not everybody 318 00:17:26,720 --> 00:17:29,920 Speaker 4: is going to be excited about your dreams. In fact, 319 00:17:30,440 --> 00:17:33,040 Speaker 4: some people are gonna be downright jealous. Some people are 320 00:17:33,080 --> 00:17:36,280 Speaker 4: going to start to find fault and criticize. It's so 321 00:17:36,359 --> 00:17:39,280 Speaker 4: important you learn to shake it off because the moment 322 00:17:39,680 --> 00:17:43,280 Speaker 4: you start changing to try to please people, the moment 323 00:17:43,560 --> 00:17:45,399 Speaker 4: you say, you know what, I'm not gonna show up 324 00:17:45,400 --> 00:17:47,879 Speaker 4: at work early anymore because they're starting to talk about me, 325 00:17:48,680 --> 00:17:50,840 Speaker 4: or I'm not gonna buy that car that I really 326 00:17:50,880 --> 00:17:53,320 Speaker 4: want because I know people are gonna judge, people are 327 00:17:53,359 --> 00:17:56,719 Speaker 4: gonna condemn me. Now listen, I found no matter what 328 00:17:56,800 --> 00:18:00,280 Speaker 4: you do or don't do, somebody's gonna talk is going 329 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:02,800 Speaker 4: to be critical. You might as well do what God 330 00:18:02,840 --> 00:18:05,439 Speaker 4: has put in your heart and just trust him to 331 00:18:05,480 --> 00:18:09,160 Speaker 4: take care of the critics. One thing that I'm good 332 00:18:09,200 --> 00:18:12,760 Speaker 4: at is staying focused. I don't allow what people are 333 00:18:12,800 --> 00:18:16,679 Speaker 4: saying to get me distracted. I realize not everybody's going 334 00:18:16,760 --> 00:18:19,720 Speaker 4: to understand me, and it's not my job to spend 335 00:18:19,760 --> 00:18:22,760 Speaker 4: all my time trying to convince them to change their mind. 336 00:18:23,480 --> 00:18:26,600 Speaker 4: I know I'm called to plan a seed of hope 337 00:18:26,640 --> 00:18:32,000 Speaker 4: in people's hearts. I'm not called to teach deep theological truths. 338 00:18:32,040 --> 00:18:35,120 Speaker 4: I'm not called to explain any deep kind of doctrine. 339 00:18:35,359 --> 00:18:39,520 Speaker 4: My gifting is to encourage, to challenge, to inspire. People 340 00:18:39,560 --> 00:18:41,280 Speaker 4: say well, Joe, he's not enough of this, or he's 341 00:18:41,320 --> 00:18:44,439 Speaker 4: too much of this. Listen. If I changed with every critic, 342 00:18:44,480 --> 00:18:47,159 Speaker 4: I wouldn't have a chance. Now, I believe one reason 343 00:18:47,359 --> 00:18:53,000 Speaker 4: God has promoted me. One reason God has promoted me 344 00:18:53,640 --> 00:18:56,080 Speaker 4: is because that I stayed true to who I am 345 00:18:56,720 --> 00:18:59,239 Speaker 4: and I have not let people talk me out of 346 00:18:59,280 --> 00:19:01,560 Speaker 4: doing what I know in my heart. God wants me 347 00:19:01,640 --> 00:19:05,800 Speaker 4: to go. Some of you today, you need to get 348 00:19:05,840 --> 00:19:09,000 Speaker 4: free from trying to please everybody. You need to break 349 00:19:09,119 --> 00:19:12,199 Speaker 4: free from worrying that somebody's going to criticize you, and 350 00:19:12,280 --> 00:19:16,240 Speaker 4: just remember, if you're criticized, you're in good company. Jesus 351 00:19:16,280 --> 00:19:20,639 Speaker 4: was probably criticized more than anybody. He got criticized for 352 00:19:20,760 --> 00:19:23,199 Speaker 4: healing a man on the Sabbath, in other words, for 353 00:19:23,240 --> 00:19:26,480 Speaker 4: doing something good. He was criticized for going to dinner 354 00:19:26,520 --> 00:19:29,360 Speaker 4: with a tax collector. They called him a friend of sinners. 355 00:19:29,560 --> 00:19:32,760 Speaker 4: He was criticized for helping a lady in need, somebody 356 00:19:32,760 --> 00:19:35,399 Speaker 4: that they were about to stone. But one thing I 357 00:19:35,440 --> 00:19:38,760 Speaker 4: love about Jesus is he didn't change to try to 358 00:19:38,800 --> 00:19:42,480 Speaker 4: fit into everybody's mind. He didn't try to explain himself 359 00:19:42,520 --> 00:19:45,800 Speaker 4: and make everybody understand him. He just ran his race. 360 00:19:46,160 --> 00:19:48,040 Speaker 4: He didn't look to the left or to the right. 361 00:19:48,280 --> 00:19:51,240 Speaker 4: He stayed focused on the prize that was set before him. 362 00:19:51,440 --> 00:19:55,359 Speaker 4: He fulfilled his destiny. And this really helped to set 363 00:19:55,400 --> 00:19:57,960 Speaker 4: me free because there was a time in my life 364 00:19:58,040 --> 00:20:00,679 Speaker 4: where I really wanted everybody to like me. It's just 365 00:20:00,720 --> 00:20:03,200 Speaker 4: a part of my personality. And if I ever heard 366 00:20:03,240 --> 00:20:06,560 Speaker 4: somebody say one negative comment, I thought, oh man, I failed. 367 00:20:06,880 --> 00:20:09,040 Speaker 4: What have I done wrong? Where do I need to change? 368 00:20:09,600 --> 00:20:13,240 Speaker 4: One day I realized it's impossible to have everybody like you. 369 00:20:13,600 --> 00:20:16,160 Speaker 4: And that's why now I don't let my critics upset 370 00:20:16,200 --> 00:20:18,520 Speaker 4: me and steal my joy. I know most of the 371 00:20:18,520 --> 00:20:21,320 Speaker 4: time it's not about me, it's about the success God's 372 00:20:21,359 --> 00:20:25,520 Speaker 4: given me. Stirs up the jealousy in them. If you're 373 00:20:25,560 --> 00:20:28,720 Speaker 4: making a difference in your family, if you're making a 374 00:20:28,760 --> 00:20:31,040 Speaker 4: difference at the office, if you're making a difference in 375 00:20:31,080 --> 00:20:33,960 Speaker 4: your workplace, you're going to have your share of critics. 376 00:20:34,400 --> 00:20:36,440 Speaker 4: The higher you go, the more people going to want 377 00:20:36,440 --> 00:20:39,440 Speaker 4: to take shots at you. I think about the Apostle Paul. 378 00:20:39,920 --> 00:20:43,560 Speaker 4: He had great crowds following him, but time and time again, 379 00:20:43,760 --> 00:20:46,159 Speaker 4: the people got jealous, They got all stirred up and 380 00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:48,840 Speaker 4: ran him out of town. What did Paul do? Get 381 00:20:48,880 --> 00:20:52,440 Speaker 4: all depressed and say, God, I'm trying to do my best. 382 00:20:52,560 --> 00:20:55,320 Speaker 4: Nobody understands me. They keep criticizing me, running me out 383 00:20:55,359 --> 00:20:57,399 Speaker 4: of town. Now you know what he did. He shook 384 00:20:57,440 --> 00:21:00,240 Speaker 4: the dust off of his feet. He was saying, in act, 385 00:21:00,440 --> 00:21:03,040 Speaker 4: it's your loss, not mine, because I'm gonna do great 386 00:21:03,080 --> 00:21:05,960 Speaker 4: things for God. I'm not gonna lie your rejection, your 387 00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:08,560 Speaker 4: negative words, They're not gonna keep me from my destiny. 388 00:21:09,119 --> 00:21:11,920 Speaker 4: His attitude was sling all you want to I've got 389 00:21:11,960 --> 00:21:14,760 Speaker 4: a lid on my well. I'm not gonna let you 390 00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:19,640 Speaker 4: poison my life. I heard somebody say, if people run 391 00:21:19,680 --> 00:21:21,520 Speaker 4: you out of town, just get to the front of 392 00:21:21,520 --> 00:21:24,760 Speaker 4: the line and act like you're leading the parade. In 393 00:21:24,800 --> 00:21:28,040 Speaker 4: other words, shake it off and keep moving forward. I 394 00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:31,439 Speaker 4: love the scripture in Isaiah. No weapon formed against us 395 00:21:31,480 --> 00:21:35,560 Speaker 4: will prosper, But every tongue raised against us in judgment 396 00:21:35,960 --> 00:21:38,840 Speaker 4: you will show to be in the wrong. We all 397 00:21:38,920 --> 00:21:42,440 Speaker 4: have these tongues that come against us in judgment, in criticism. 398 00:21:42,800 --> 00:21:44,680 Speaker 4: But if you can just stay on the high road 399 00:21:45,000 --> 00:21:47,520 Speaker 4: and keep doing your best, you will show it to 400 00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:50,480 Speaker 4: be in the wrong. In other words, God will pour 401 00:21:50,520 --> 00:21:55,360 Speaker 4: out his favor in spite of your critics. Understand, your 402 00:21:55,400 --> 00:21:58,960 Speaker 4: destiny is not tied to what people are saying about you. 403 00:22:00,000 --> 00:22:02,840 Speaker 4: Critics told us we'd never get this building. They told 404 00:22:02,920 --> 00:22:05,639 Speaker 4: us we didn't have a chance. In fact, one man 405 00:22:05,920 --> 00:22:09,080 Speaker 4: was at a big business luncheon with all the city leaders. 406 00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:11,719 Speaker 4: He told the people at his table, it'll be a 407 00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:14,720 Speaker 4: cold day in hell before Lake could ever gets the 408 00:22:14,760 --> 00:22:17,800 Speaker 4: Compact Center. When I heard that, I did just what 409 00:22:17,840 --> 00:22:20,720 Speaker 4: I'm asking you to do. I shook it off. I 410 00:22:20,800 --> 00:22:24,080 Speaker 4: knew our destiny was not tied to one goofball. I 411 00:22:24,119 --> 00:22:29,960 Speaker 4: mean one man. I knew that was just a distraction, 412 00:22:31,359 --> 00:22:34,560 Speaker 4: and I realized not everybody was going to understand. I 413 00:22:34,600 --> 00:22:37,159 Speaker 4: heard people saying, why do they need to move. Why 414 00:22:37,200 --> 00:22:39,200 Speaker 4: do they want a bigger church? Why are they leaving 415 00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:42,520 Speaker 4: their roots? People were talking many times. I wanted to 416 00:22:42,520 --> 00:22:44,679 Speaker 4: get in there and try to explain it and convince 417 00:22:44,720 --> 00:22:46,720 Speaker 4: them that it was a good idea, But I knew 418 00:22:46,960 --> 00:22:51,200 Speaker 4: not everybody wanted to understand, not everybody had an open mind, 419 00:22:51,359 --> 00:22:53,760 Speaker 4: so we just shook it off and kept pressing forward. 420 00:22:54,280 --> 00:22:56,720 Speaker 4: I guess today it's a cold day in hell because 421 00:22:56,760 --> 00:23:04,720 Speaker 4: here we are but friends, your destiny is not tied 422 00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:08,199 Speaker 4: to your critics. God has the final say, and some 423 00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:10,760 Speaker 4: of you need to get your fire back and quit 424 00:23:10,840 --> 00:23:13,359 Speaker 4: listening to what the naysayers are telling you, quit living 425 00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:16,640 Speaker 4: to please people. Just shake that off and keep pressing 426 00:23:16,680 --> 00:23:20,439 Speaker 4: forward in life. Another important key is don't allow the 427 00:23:20,480 --> 00:23:23,919 Speaker 4: criticism to change you. We need to be tough on 428 00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:27,720 Speaker 4: the outside, but you have to stay tender on the inside. 429 00:23:28,440 --> 00:23:32,679 Speaker 4: Too often we become hard and critical and cynical if 430 00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:35,720 Speaker 4: we're not careful. When we've seen people be two faced, 431 00:23:36,160 --> 00:23:39,600 Speaker 4: when we've seen hypocritical people that talk behind our back, 432 00:23:39,880 --> 00:23:42,440 Speaker 4: it's easy to let their poison get on the inside 433 00:23:42,440 --> 00:23:45,080 Speaker 4: of us and start to change us. But you've got 434 00:23:45,080 --> 00:23:47,760 Speaker 4: to keep those stones out of your well. You've got 435 00:23:47,800 --> 00:23:50,760 Speaker 4: to keep your heart pure and learn to stay true 436 00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:53,680 Speaker 4: to who God has made you to be. I found 437 00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:57,879 Speaker 4: sometimes when people see little quirks in our personality or 438 00:23:57,920 --> 00:24:00,480 Speaker 4: even something about our appearance, they start to kind of 439 00:24:00,480 --> 00:24:05,320 Speaker 4: make fun of it. Very often we overcompensate. It starts 440 00:24:05,840 --> 00:24:09,919 Speaker 4: affecting our personality and the way we carry ourselves. But 441 00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:14,199 Speaker 4: we cannot let people's cutting remarks and their insensitive words 442 00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:17,480 Speaker 4: to cause us to be overly self conscious and start 443 00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:20,880 Speaker 4: to change. Or remember a friend of mine in high school. 444 00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:25,800 Speaker 4: He was very popular, very well liked, fun and outgoing, 445 00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:30,360 Speaker 4: but he had a very unusual laugh. It was real 446 00:24:30,520 --> 00:24:34,520 Speaker 4: high pitched, real distinct, And one day a couple of 447 00:24:34,520 --> 00:24:37,840 Speaker 4: our friends started making fun of him. They were going 448 00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:40,560 Speaker 4: around the school imitating his laugh, and they didn't mean 449 00:24:40,640 --> 00:24:43,159 Speaker 4: any harm. They were just trying to have fun. But 450 00:24:43,280 --> 00:24:46,800 Speaker 4: I noticed how this young man started to change. He 451 00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:50,920 Speaker 4: quit laughing as much, He got much more quiet and reserved. 452 00:24:51,400 --> 00:24:53,440 Speaker 4: Here At one time he was a life of the party, 453 00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:57,280 Speaker 4: fun and outgoing, but little by little he began to change. 454 00:24:57,359 --> 00:24:59,520 Speaker 4: And I know it was because those guys were making 455 00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:02,119 Speaker 4: fun of him. He didn't know to shake it off. 456 00:25:02,480 --> 00:25:05,640 Speaker 4: He let it get down on the inside. He started thinking, man, 457 00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:09,359 Speaker 4: something's wrong with me. I got a weird laugh. Before long, 458 00:25:09,520 --> 00:25:14,720 Speaker 4: he lost his confidence, he became insecure, started overcompensating. That's 459 00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:17,880 Speaker 4: what happens when we don't shake things off. You may 460 00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:20,480 Speaker 4: have something kind of distinct about you, but know this, 461 00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:24,680 Speaker 4: God made you like you are on purpose. If people 462 00:25:24,680 --> 00:25:27,080 Speaker 4: are trying to make fun of you or make you 463 00:25:27,119 --> 00:25:30,200 Speaker 4: feel overly self conscious, you got to just shake that off. 464 00:25:31,200 --> 00:25:34,280 Speaker 4: I know in my case, I smile a lot. In fact, 465 00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:37,040 Speaker 4: I smile all the time. I can't help but I've 466 00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:39,320 Speaker 4: been doing this since I was a little baby. One time, 467 00:25:39,359 --> 00:25:40,840 Speaker 4: when I was seven years old, I was in a 468 00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:43,000 Speaker 4: car accident and I had this big cut on my 469 00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:46,200 Speaker 4: head and some friends came up to the emergency room 470 00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:48,439 Speaker 4: to see me. They were so worried that I'd be 471 00:25:48,520 --> 00:25:51,359 Speaker 4: upset and crying when they came in. I was laying 472 00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:53,800 Speaker 4: there on the emergency room table, and they said, Joel, 473 00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:55,800 Speaker 4: we walked in there, and you were smiling from ear 474 00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:58,240 Speaker 4: to ear, big old cut on my head. That's just 475 00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:01,879 Speaker 4: the way God made me. And sometimes people kind of 476 00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:04,480 Speaker 4: make fun of me for smiling, give me a hard time. 477 00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:08,199 Speaker 4: You'd think they'd be happy that you're happy, but you know, 478 00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:11,800 Speaker 4: I've heard people say I've heard people say, why does 479 00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:14,840 Speaker 4: he smile so much? Almost like there's something wrong with him, 480 00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:18,600 Speaker 4: you know. You know, after my father went to be 481 00:26:18,640 --> 00:26:21,760 Speaker 4: with the Lord, a few months after I began ministering, 482 00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:25,480 Speaker 4: somebody started calling me the Smiling Preacher, and it really 483 00:26:25,480 --> 00:26:28,040 Speaker 4: caught on. And one day has been interviewed by this 484 00:26:28,440 --> 00:26:31,280 Speaker 4: very well known reporter and he said, kind of sarcastically, 485 00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:33,560 Speaker 4: kind of demeaning, what do you think about being known 486 00:26:33,560 --> 00:26:36,520 Speaker 4: as the smiling Preacher? And I think my answer kind 487 00:26:36,560 --> 00:26:38,520 Speaker 4: of surprised him because I said, you know what, I 488 00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:41,560 Speaker 4: kind of like it. I'm happy. I believe God wants 489 00:26:41,600 --> 00:26:43,719 Speaker 4: us to be happy, so that's just fine with me. Now. 490 00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:47,160 Speaker 4: I'll never forget his jaw drop wide open. He didn't 491 00:26:47,200 --> 00:26:50,639 Speaker 4: know what to think. But see, we should not allow 492 00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:53,919 Speaker 4: what other people say or what other people think change 493 00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:55,960 Speaker 4: us from being who God made us to be. Be 494 00:26:56,160 --> 00:26:59,159 Speaker 4: confident in who you are. Now I've learned to just 495 00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:01,840 Speaker 4: roll with the punch. The other day, I saw this 496 00:27:01,960 --> 00:27:05,439 Speaker 4: parody that somebody made about me. It was a clip 497 00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:08,600 Speaker 4: of me speaking, and every time I smiled, my front 498 00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:11,800 Speaker 4: teeth would ping. This star would come off kind of 499 00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:16,040 Speaker 4: like a toothpaste commercial. I laughed more than the people 500 00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:19,359 Speaker 4: that were watching it with me, But I thought to myself, 501 00:27:19,560 --> 00:27:22,760 Speaker 4: that doesn't bother me one bit. I can't help it. 502 00:27:22,840 --> 00:27:25,720 Speaker 4: I know I smile a lot. If somebody doesn't like it, 503 00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:39,240 Speaker 4: take a look at the slow motion replay. Oh y, 504 00:27:40,640 --> 00:27:42,639 Speaker 4: I'm gonna see if I can't get Crest to sponsor 505 00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:48,480 Speaker 4: this program. Well, what I'm saying is one you ought 506 00:27:48,520 --> 00:27:50,280 Speaker 4: to be able to laugh at yourself. The other thing, 507 00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:54,840 Speaker 4: don't let the criticism change you. Start shaking stuff off. 508 00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:57,920 Speaker 4: You're gonna do anything great in life. You're gonna have 509 00:27:58,160 --> 00:28:01,040 Speaker 4: the critics. The slingers will all always be there, But 510 00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:03,480 Speaker 4: I'm asking you today not to drink of their poison 511 00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:06,320 Speaker 4: when those stones come. Make sure you got to live 512 00:28:06,359 --> 00:28:10,560 Speaker 4: on your well, keep your heart pure. Remember not everybody's 513 00:28:10,560 --> 00:28:13,320 Speaker 4: gonna understand you, Not everybody's gonna accept you. Just run 514 00:28:13,359 --> 00:28:16,240 Speaker 4: your race, stay focused on what God's called you to do. 515 00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:19,720 Speaker 4: If you'll handle criticism the right way, not let it 516 00:28:19,760 --> 00:28:22,239 Speaker 4: get on the inside. I know this, God will not 517 00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:24,600 Speaker 4: only fight your battles for you, but he'll take care 518 00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:26,919 Speaker 4: of your critics for you. You'll live that life of 519 00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:30,639 Speaker 4: victory he has in story. Amen, we never like to 520 00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:34,080 Speaker 4: close our broadcast without giving you an opportunity to make 521 00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:37,119 Speaker 4: Jesus the lord of your life. Would you pray with me? 522 00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:42,960 Speaker 4: Just say, Lord Jesus, I repent of my sins. Come 523 00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:46,440 Speaker 4: into my heart. I make you my Lord and savior. 524 00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:50,000 Speaker 4: If you prayed that simple prayer, we believe you got 525 00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:53,040 Speaker 4: born again. Get in a good Bible based church. God's 526 00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:55,880 Speaker 4: going to take your places you've never dreamed out. Thank 527 00:28:55,920 --> 00:28:59,280 Speaker 4: you for listening to the Juelus Dean podcast. 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