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Speaker 1: It's the one the most dangerous morning to you to breakfast club

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Speaker 1: God just hilarious. DJ Envy is off today, but it's time.

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Speaker 1: But just fix my mess Just tell them what, Just

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Speaker 1: fix my messages?

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Speaker 2: Just fix my mess.

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Speaker 3: You can find that on the Black Effect Network under iHeart.

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Speaker 4: That ain't true. Ain't none of that true.

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Speaker 2: It ain't.

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Speaker 1: The podcast called Carefully Reckless just said that, didn't you

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Speaker 1: have a segment on there called.

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Speaker 4: Just fix my mess? See you still hung over?

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Speaker 2: No, I'm not.

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Speaker 3: I just that's not how I say it. You're not

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Speaker 3: gonna tell me how I said. Okay, I'm listening, all right,

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Speaker 3: So just fix my mess as a segment on my podcast,

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Speaker 3: Carefully Reckless under the Black Effect Network. Y'all, y'all can

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Speaker 3: catch it each and every Wednesday. Actually air today a

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Speaker 3: new episode came out to new episode comes out each

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Speaker 3: and every Wednesday. Also, will make sure y'all catch that

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Speaker 3: anyway you find your podcast, but mainly iHeart make sure

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Speaker 3: now I'm about to do just fix my mess.

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Speaker 2: I want to take some calls.

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Speaker 1: Just does give good advice though, because she's a mother

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Speaker 1: and I love the way her and her baby daddy

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Speaker 1: brother Roome co parent with each other. And you know,

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Speaker 1: she got a she's an entrepreneur, she's a business woman,

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Speaker 1: so she does give good advice.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, thank you the nicest thing you said to me online.

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Speaker 4: But go ahead, yeap, who's on the forearad?

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Speaker 2: Oh, let's stop it. The first one.

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Speaker 3: I love it.

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Speaker 5: Good morning, sunshine, good morning.

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Speaker 6: I need you to fix my mask. And I mean

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Speaker 6: it gets pretty messy.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, I see her.

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Speaker 3: You say, how long to wait to bring in a

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Speaker 3: significant other to introduce to your kids?

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Speaker 5: Ooh yeah, and I and I'm asking that because her

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Speaker 5: my situation, it was a mutual friend of he and ours,

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Speaker 5: my baby daddy, and he chose to move her into

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Speaker 5: the house like immediately after I left, right and my

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Speaker 5: kids know her as you know, just the friend or

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Speaker 5: the babysitter because she used to actually.

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Speaker 6: Babysit our kids.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow.

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Speaker 5: And now they live together and we are trying to

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Speaker 5: cope it peacefully. And it bothers me when my six

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Speaker 5: year old would come home and say, you know, why

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Speaker 5: is daddy sleeping in the bed with the babysitter legend

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Speaker 5: and so you know, I just felt like that was

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Speaker 5: a little too fresh to just put in front of

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Speaker 5: the kids like that, especially when I mean like it

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Speaker 5: could be any other to be to be very honest,

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Speaker 5: but you could be any other bitual world, but this

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Speaker 5: one in particular. And then you're putting that in our

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Speaker 5: kid's face like it's normal. Yeah, so what is the

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Speaker 5: appropriate way.

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Speaker 3: Time to introduce Okay, well that that wouldn't even apply

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Speaker 3: to this situation because she was already around them. She

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Speaker 3: was their nanny, right, yeah, yeah, so she had already

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Speaker 3: known the kids. Oh my god.

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Speaker 2: So then the question this don't even apply to you.

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Speaker 2: They already knew her. That the thing is just for myself.

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Speaker 7: Sorry, go ahead, Bay.

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, no, that was Charlaine Chawlaine making noise.

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Speaker 3: All right, what you say, James Man, Now I'm.

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Speaker 5: Asking for myself because I've actually been out here and

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Speaker 5: you know, jump back on the bandwagon a little bit

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Speaker 5: and started dating and like I have a little I

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Speaker 5: have a start lineup, and I I really like the

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Speaker 5: first top three, but I don't want to introduce them

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Speaker 5: to my kids because I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Better not introduce three niggas to your children. You better

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Speaker 3: not do that, damn all right, now are you past?

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Speaker 3: But are you fully past?

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Speaker 2: Their father.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Absolutely, we actually talked about this on your Brother and

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Speaker 5: Baby Daddy Talk. Okay, I don't like that nigga at all.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, oh oh okay, yeah, okay, I remember your voice,

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Speaker 3: all right. So, yeah, it's really nothing that you can

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Speaker 3: do about that. If they together, they living together, that's

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Speaker 3: just what it is. I know you don't like the

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Speaker 3: way it happened, but damn that dad is notorious for that,

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Speaker 3: to be honest. But it's really nothing because that look

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Speaker 3: seem like he has a lot of other women around

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Speaker 5: Right, Actually, no, they actually date other women together. Messy bro,

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Speaker 5: excuse me, it gets massy.

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Speaker 3: Well, that's still like, you know, his personal life. As

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Speaker 3: long as the kids ain't around that, then that's a

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Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying person.

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Speaker 5: Like that's part of the reason why he and I

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Speaker 5: aren't together anymore, because he wanted me to be like

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Speaker 5: the HBI C and like, that doesn't work for me.

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Speaker 5: That's not the lifestyle that I'm trying to live. No,

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Speaker 5: he wants my ques to be accepting of that.

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Speaker 2: Well, girl, did you know who you married before you

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Speaker 2: married him? Because doing I did not. Yeah, so that's

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Speaker 2: the advice for.

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Speaker 6: You, slater.

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Speaker 5: He turned into a completely different person.

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Speaker 2: That's the advice for you. Pay attention to.

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Speaker 3: That's them starting three, so another one will end up

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Speaker 3: like the ex husband.

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Speaker 5: All right, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I can do that.

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Speaker 3: I can do that.

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Speaker 2: I love it. I love you damn all right.

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Speaker 1: I mean that that was something appropriate going on when

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Speaker 1: from the beginning he ain't just start sleeping with that baby.

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Speaker 4: Babies, they didn't got knocked off in that house.

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Speaker 3: You dare going right, and this is something that he

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Speaker 3: been doing obviously. Shana, Hello, good morning.

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Speaker 2: How are you, bab Good morning?

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Speaker 8: That's how you doing.

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Speaker 2: I'm good, I'm good. I'm trying to forguret. What's going

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Speaker 2: on with you? Your boyfriend married, but you love him?

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Speaker 6: Yes, girl, let me tell you so. My boyfriend he

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Speaker 6: probably is just a whole bunch of mess. Actually, what

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Speaker 6: coming out of my mouth? My boyfriend he just got

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Speaker 6: out in January. He did five years and that's fair.

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Speaker 6: I did not hold him down, so I knew he

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Speaker 6: like he'd been married for ninety days.

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Speaker 2: Oh, he was married for ninety days, so they still

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Speaker 2: was in May.

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Speaker 5: He's married right now for still and then got married and.

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Speaker 6: Then came looking for me and then went back to

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Speaker 3: But he knew you before he before he went to

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well boom, there you go me.

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Speaker 6: After came and found me after he got married though.

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Speaker 2: But no, that that's but see you wasn't.

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Speaker 3: If you was just a little bit before then you

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Speaker 3: would have probably been a white But now you're not.

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Speaker 6: Damn my wife or nobody that's going to find people

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Speaker 6: that wasn't even holding them out in jail.

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Speaker 2: Oh so you mad at the wife.

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Speaker 6: I'm mad at Yeah, I am mad at the wife.

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Speaker 4: Actually she never was.

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Speaker 3: You look in the mirror and be mad at yourself,

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Speaker 3: because girl, you were second, and you don't need to

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Speaker 3: be second.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why you got. You gotta laugh at yourself.

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Speaker 2: I'm ready to give you don't get a day, damn it,

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Speaker 2: don't be doing it. Get me donkey a damn right.

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Speaker 3: Girl, because this nigga is all right, and he got

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Speaker 3: me down down back.

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Speaker 4: Just said with your stupid ass.

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Speaker 2: Lease ain't my dad time for this JJ.

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Speaker 1: Just Fix My messundred and five five one oh five one.

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Speaker 1: If you need any type of advice, She's not an

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Speaker 1: expert than anything, but she asked some experiences.

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Speaker 2: I bet. Look, but I'm getting the most calls that

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Speaker 2: y'all ever got in the history.

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Speaker 1: Of shut with the Breakfast Club, one of the most

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Speaker 1: dangerous morning show to Breakfast Club CHARLAMAGNEA God, Just Hilarious

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Speaker 1: DJ Envy is off today. We're in the middle of

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Speaker 1: Just Fix My Mess. That is where Just Hilarious gives

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Speaker 1: you advice on all things.

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Speaker 4: Look what you got over that? Who you got?

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Speaker 2: Oh? Line eight? Line eight? I want to see what's

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Speaker 2: going on? This is this is good. Hello, Hey, what's up? Hi?

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Speaker 6: How you doing?

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Speaker 2: Rick?

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Speaker 7: I'm good. I love y'all. Bet to the Lack Effect podcast.

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Speaker 2: Oh thank you.

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Speaker 7: My question, Rick, My question is, so I lost my father,

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Speaker 7: then I lost my mother saw the kind of like

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Speaker 7: uh Dionne, Yeah, I did change. I got real snappy,

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Speaker 7: I got real moody.

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Speaker 8: Yeah.

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Speaker 7: And I started to like fitsiness myself from friends and

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Speaker 7: But don't nobody really want me?

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Speaker 2: Okay?

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Speaker 4: Well curse Rick?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well Rick first and foremost, I'm sorry. I'll give

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Speaker 3: you my condolences for both of your parents, but just

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Speaker 3: an obvious question, what the hell do they expect you

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Speaker 7: You know, like, what the within a year less than

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Speaker 7: a year, I lost both.

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Speaker 2: Of my parents, broke both of them.

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Speaker 3: And I'm very sorry, and I can imagine that it's

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Speaker 3: still hard to even talk about. But like Dion said,

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Speaker 3: you would think that people would notice that something is wrong,

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Speaker 3: you're going through. And it's like, okay, you know what,

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Speaker 3: he needs some time away from everything. How can we

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Speaker 3: cater better to our friend until he get back?

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Speaker 8: Right?

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Speaker 3: Even if you do snaping me, brother, you ain't got

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Speaker 3: parents or your friend's parents are still here. Maybe maybe

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Speaker 3: they are, maybe they're not, but they're supposed to understand,

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Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying. So that that's just the

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Speaker 7: Yeah, and just for you. So my baby mom, she's

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Speaker 7: trying to be like, you know, cool for the kids

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Speaker 7: and stuff like that. How did you and you get

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Speaker 7: to a point where y'all was cool?

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna do it with you for one, thanks, he said.

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Speaker 3: So me and Rom got to the point where we

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Speaker 2: And Rome, it's really just my friend. We've just bonded. Uh,

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Speaker 2: just eight years straight.

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Speaker 3: No intimacy, no, nine years I'm sorry, nine years straight,

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Speaker 3: No intimacy, no, none of that.

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Speaker 2: He's just really my friend.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, in somewhat like a therapy sister for Rome.

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Speaker 2: You know, I help him unload all his.

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Speaker 3: All his trauma, you know, all his mental you know

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Speaker 2: And it's okay for him to cry to me.

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Speaker 3: So that is how we that's how we move, that's

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Speaker 2: I'm his friend.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I I feel like that's your stile me. But

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think you did. We're gonna take the next

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Speaker 3: already got two questions.

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Speaker 4: Somebody say that.

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Speaker 2: No, I don't blush, thank you. Line three, Yo, you

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Speaker 2: get on my nerves. Show Man the vone. What's going on?

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Speaker 2: How you doing?

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Speaker 8: I'm doing pretty good?

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Speaker 2: Are you sure?

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Speaker 8: Yeah? Please don't tell me. You're gonna say, oh, you

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, you just sound like you want a cheeseburger.

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Speaker 3: You sound hungry. I don't sound depressed. Nah, okay, Well

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Speaker 3: tell me your problems.

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Speaker 2: I see it. Say you're having co parents and issues

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Speaker 6: All?

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Speaker 4: Right?

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Speaker 8: So the mother and my daughter, Like I try to

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Speaker 2: So you want to be more included.

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Speaker 3: You want to be more included like cole parents, and

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Speaker 3: you want to come to a decision as a whole,

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Speaker 3: you know, when she does things without me.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, okay yeah, And then like at the same time,

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Speaker 8: and we're always separated because like me, growing up, I

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Speaker 7: Never do that to my kids.

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Speaker 8: I would want my kids to see that I'm able

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Speaker 3: Okay, And so I was, okay, So y'all got two

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Speaker 3: how long ago has the business y'all.

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Speaker 8: Broke up the start of the pandemic?

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Speaker 2: Oh wow?

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Speaker 3: Okay, So I think maybe it just sounds like two

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Speaker 3: y'all not trying to get back together and none of that, right, y'all,

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Speaker 3: y'all done.

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Speaker 2: You're just trying to find a way to cope.

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Speaker 8: I mean, to me, I don't mind getting back together

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Speaker 8: and that was pretty much that. And I was like Hey,

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Speaker 8: you're moving too fast because we just had a child

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Speaker 3: Okay, cool, So before I get out of here because

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Speaker 3: we have to go. Yeah, what is not helping that

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Speaker 3: And she maybe feels like she don't want to confuse

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Speaker 3: like she's well past you. And so I'm sorry, but yes,

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Speaker 3: you do sound depressed, and I think you do need

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Speaker 3: move past the love that you have for her, because

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Speaker 3: it don't sound like she coming back. But I do

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Speaker 3: love you, and I want you if you have any

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Speaker 3: then we can continue there.

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Speaker 1: But let me know your cash after almost gen you

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Speaker 1: some money for a chief Burger.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely I want you to laugh at that, because you

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I'm gonna give them a there's some information

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Speaker 1: from the Mentalwealth.

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Speaker 4: Onlines dot org. Thanks Vegan, you the money, you get

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Speaker 4: a plant based cheat burger. Yes, we'll be.

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Speaker 2: Very big after this, I think. Is that what we're

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Speaker 1: Well, actually, we got to thank you, Jess for doing

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Speaker 1: just it's my mess, no problem, and we have just

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Speaker 1: with the mess coming up, right, Yes we do. You

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Speaker 1: don't know what we're talking about, no, no, okay, So

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Speaker 1: when we come back, it's just gonna make it all

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Speaker 1: all the better.

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Speaker 2: See it coming.

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Speaker 4: It's such a work in progress. It's the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 4: The Breakfast Club.