1 00:00:15,720 --> 00:00:18,320 Speaker 1: Yes, Yes, I am Dramas And this is the Street 2 00:00:18,440 --> 00:00:21,680 Speaker 1: Stoic Podcast, bring you your daily dose of timeless stoic 3 00:00:21,680 --> 00:00:25,240 Speaker 1: philosophy remix for the hip hop generation. And with that 4 00:00:25,280 --> 00:00:27,840 Speaker 1: in mind, let's get things started with your daily shot 5 00:00:27,920 --> 00:00:37,000 Speaker 1: of inspiration. Now. Today we are going to be focusing 6 00:00:37,040 --> 00:00:42,120 Speaker 1: all around the stoic idea of taking action, right, but 7 00:00:42,240 --> 00:00:45,800 Speaker 1: also this is going to be specifically about mental health, right, 8 00:00:46,040 --> 00:00:49,720 Speaker 1: and making it a priority to take care of yourself 9 00:00:49,760 --> 00:00:51,320 Speaker 1: and to not just think that things are going to 10 00:00:51,360 --> 00:00:55,080 Speaker 1: magically go away. Right. And a lyric that stuck out 11 00:00:55,120 --> 00:00:58,040 Speaker 1: to me on this conversation is from Fabulous and it's 12 00:00:58,040 --> 00:01:01,760 Speaker 1: on the song That's Not Love, and he says, say 13 00:01:01,760 --> 00:01:04,880 Speaker 1: what's on your heart if you're real, because the scars 14 00:01:04,920 --> 00:01:09,959 Speaker 1: you can't see be the hardest to heal. And this 15 00:01:10,040 --> 00:01:13,319 Speaker 1: is such a profound sentence if you really break down 16 00:01:13,360 --> 00:01:17,200 Speaker 1: what he's saying here, right, because he's asking somebody to 17 00:01:17,240 --> 00:01:20,800 Speaker 1: be open and honest, right, And he's talking about and 18 00:01:20,840 --> 00:01:24,480 Speaker 1: acknowledging the fact that if you are not speaking about 19 00:01:24,800 --> 00:01:27,880 Speaker 1: something that has hurt you or some sort of trauma 20 00:01:27,959 --> 00:01:30,360 Speaker 1: that you have, that wound is just going to become 21 00:01:30,480 --> 00:01:33,440 Speaker 1: harder and harder. To heal, right, and I think to me, 22 00:01:34,640 --> 00:01:37,080 Speaker 1: we talk about this idea of action and how it 23 00:01:37,160 --> 00:01:40,920 Speaker 1: relates to our own mental health, happiness. It takes effort, right, 24 00:01:41,000 --> 00:01:43,920 Speaker 1: as sort of like weird as that sounds, as crazy 25 00:01:43,959 --> 00:01:47,319 Speaker 1: as that might sound, and sort of just counterintuitive to 26 00:01:47,640 --> 00:01:49,920 Speaker 1: the fact that why can't we just be happy? Right, 27 00:01:50,280 --> 00:01:55,800 Speaker 1: It's just a harsh truth of life as a human being. Happiness, fulfillment, 28 00:01:56,320 --> 00:01:59,480 Speaker 1: all of that takes ongoing work, right, and the work 29 00:01:59,560 --> 00:02:02,480 Speaker 1: never ends. But you have to be willing to take 30 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:05,880 Speaker 1: that action if you're actually genuinely trying to heal. If not, 31 00:02:06,040 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 1: these wounds, these scars, they just keep getting deeper and 32 00:02:09,360 --> 00:02:13,840 Speaker 1: deeper until eventually they become something even worse. Right, If 33 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:16,320 Speaker 1: we're talking with the wound analogy, if you don't heal 34 00:02:16,320 --> 00:02:19,639 Speaker 1: a wound, it just gets infected, and you know, beyond 35 00:02:19,639 --> 00:02:23,840 Speaker 1: that can become something far worse than the initial cut itself. Right, 36 00:02:23,880 --> 00:02:26,680 Speaker 1: that's why it's important to take care of those cuts 37 00:02:26,680 --> 00:02:29,280 Speaker 1: and scrapes and gashes early on, right, And it's no 38 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:32,200 Speaker 1: different when it comes to our mental health. And this 39 00:02:32,360 --> 00:02:34,280 Speaker 1: leads to a quote from one of the Stoic Seneca 40 00:02:34,320 --> 00:02:38,560 Speaker 1: where he says man conquers the world by conquering himself. 41 00:02:39,639 --> 00:02:42,760 Speaker 1: And to me, in this instance, it means you have 42 00:02:42,800 --> 00:02:47,120 Speaker 1: to heal yourself before you can truly achieve greatness, right, 43 00:02:47,360 --> 00:02:50,800 Speaker 1: And to me, greatness is not just like career success 44 00:02:50,919 --> 00:02:53,360 Speaker 1: or anything like that. It's also happiness when we're talking 45 00:02:53,360 --> 00:02:56,440 Speaker 1: about fulfillment, right, not carrying around all this weight on 46 00:02:56,480 --> 00:03:00,000 Speaker 1: your shoulders. Being a full balanced human being and all 47 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:03,400 Speaker 1: all of that requires you taking the time to do 48 00:03:03,440 --> 00:03:07,440 Speaker 1: the healing work. And I think it's obvious for us 49 00:03:07,480 --> 00:03:09,120 Speaker 1: to kind of say that we've heard a lot of 50 00:03:09,160 --> 00:03:12,080 Speaker 1: these sort of conversations at this point in time in 51 00:03:12,120 --> 00:03:15,880 Speaker 1: twenty twenty three, But the reality is mental health and 52 00:03:16,040 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 1: therapy and talking to somebody is so incredibly stigmatized, you know, 53 00:03:20,320 --> 00:03:23,240 Speaker 1: and a lot of us are too scared to open 54 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:26,520 Speaker 1: up or are holding back and thinking we can do 55 00:03:26,600 --> 00:03:28,840 Speaker 1: this on our own, and it's really coming at a 56 00:03:28,919 --> 00:03:31,920 Speaker 1: detriment to ourselves and those around us, right. And I 57 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:33,600 Speaker 1: relate to this on a very deep level. You know, 58 00:03:33,639 --> 00:03:35,960 Speaker 1: I've been seeing a therapist since I was in my 59 00:03:36,040 --> 00:03:38,600 Speaker 1: early twenties, and I've you know, gone through periods where 60 00:03:38,640 --> 00:03:41,760 Speaker 1: I've had a therapist actively, I've stopped seeing one, and 61 00:03:41,920 --> 00:03:45,400 Speaker 1: I recently this year started seeing one again for the 62 00:03:45,440 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 1: first time and probably maybe year year and a half, 63 00:03:48,760 --> 00:03:52,440 Speaker 1: and it was just me being honest that, Okay, I've 64 00:03:52,720 --> 00:03:55,520 Speaker 1: got some things that I've recognized about myself that I 65 00:03:55,600 --> 00:03:58,720 Speaker 1: need to deal with. They're not getting better on their own. 66 00:03:59,040 --> 00:04:01,000 Speaker 1: Now is the time for me to start talking to 67 00:04:01,040 --> 00:04:04,520 Speaker 1: somebody again, right, but not having any fear and being 68 00:04:04,520 --> 00:04:06,040 Speaker 1: able to look myself in the mirror and say, like, 69 00:04:06,080 --> 00:04:09,360 Speaker 1: it doesn't mean anything about me, right, I'm not crazy, 70 00:04:09,400 --> 00:04:11,760 Speaker 1: that there's not something wrong with me. I'm not, you know, 71 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:15,880 Speaker 1: lesser than I'm not a weak man, because I'm needing 72 00:04:15,920 --> 00:04:18,760 Speaker 1: to go talk to somebody, right, having no fear and 73 00:04:18,760 --> 00:04:21,640 Speaker 1: deciding that I need to take action in this moment. 74 00:04:21,640 --> 00:04:23,279 Speaker 1: If I want to be happy, if I want to 75 00:04:23,279 --> 00:04:25,799 Speaker 1: be fulfilled, there's going to be some sort of action 76 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:27,760 Speaker 1: and it's not going to be comfortable, but it has 77 00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:30,000 Speaker 1: to be taken in order for me to progress and 78 00:04:30,080 --> 00:04:32,520 Speaker 1: continue on the path towards becoming the man that I 79 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:35,400 Speaker 1: want to be. And again, it's moving past the shame, 80 00:04:35,520 --> 00:04:39,839 Speaker 1: the stigma, you know, the nervousness of talking to a stranger, 81 00:04:39,880 --> 00:04:42,479 Speaker 1: all of the above, right, because we have to understand 82 00:04:42,520 --> 00:04:45,880 Speaker 1: that you know, life is all about the things that 83 00:04:45,920 --> 00:04:48,120 Speaker 1: we choose to do. You know, the life that we 84 00:04:48,160 --> 00:04:50,200 Speaker 1: want is not just going to fall in our laps, 85 00:04:50,240 --> 00:04:53,240 Speaker 1: and that can mean anything from our careers to our relationships, 86 00:04:53,320 --> 00:04:55,919 Speaker 1: but also our own personal happiness. Right, all of that, 87 00:04:56,160 --> 00:04:58,640 Speaker 1: every single thing, all those aspects of what make a 88 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:02,960 Speaker 1: happy and fulfilled person requires some sort of action behind them, 89 00:05:03,120 --> 00:05:05,159 Speaker 1: and we have to push past the discomfort and the 90 00:05:05,200 --> 00:05:08,719 Speaker 1: fear and be comfortable with taking those leaps of faith 91 00:05:08,800 --> 00:05:10,960 Speaker 1: in knowing that it's just going to make us better. Right. 92 00:05:11,560 --> 00:05:14,240 Speaker 1: So we've heard from man Fabulous on this topic. We've 93 00:05:14,240 --> 00:05:15,800 Speaker 1: heard from one of the Stoics, Seneca. I've given you 94 00:05:15,880 --> 00:05:18,880 Speaker 1: some insight into my own life. Now let's talk about 95 00:05:18,880 --> 00:05:21,680 Speaker 1: how you can make it your mantra for today. We first, 96 00:05:21,720 --> 00:05:23,960 Speaker 1: let's take a quick break and then we'll be right back, 97 00:05:33,480 --> 00:05:35,680 Speaker 1: all right, So today we're talking all about the Stoic 98 00:05:35,760 --> 00:05:40,400 Speaker 1: idea of taking action, and specifically today really diving into 99 00:05:40,480 --> 00:05:43,680 Speaker 1: it from the vantage point of making sure you're not 100 00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:48,400 Speaker 1: just you know, burying down feelings or traumatic events and 101 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:51,080 Speaker 1: thinking that they're just going to magically go away, and 102 00:05:51,120 --> 00:05:53,200 Speaker 1: that you're going to be a happy and fulfilled person 103 00:05:53,200 --> 00:05:56,039 Speaker 1: without having to face those things right. And we've heard 104 00:05:56,040 --> 00:05:58,279 Speaker 1: from Fabulous on this topic, we've heard from Seneca, one 105 00:05:58,320 --> 00:06:00,520 Speaker 1: of the stoics myself. Now, let's talk talk about how 106 00:06:00,520 --> 00:06:03,120 Speaker 1: you can make it your mantra for today. And I 107 00:06:03,120 --> 00:06:08,640 Speaker 1: think first and foremost, it just starts with acceptance, right, 108 00:06:09,240 --> 00:06:13,039 Speaker 1: acceptance of the fact that none of us are able 109 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:16,440 Speaker 1: to do this on our own. It's okay to ask 110 00:06:16,480 --> 00:06:19,240 Speaker 1: for help. We have to change the stigma around mental 111 00:06:19,240 --> 00:06:23,880 Speaker 1: health and expressing feelings, you know, and you know, opening 112 00:06:23,960 --> 00:06:26,839 Speaker 1: up to other people and being vulnerable. The reality is, 113 00:06:27,200 --> 00:06:29,719 Speaker 1: the things that we hold on to that are anger 114 00:06:29,839 --> 00:06:34,159 Speaker 1: or sadness or trauma, they never actually go away unless 115 00:06:34,200 --> 00:06:36,080 Speaker 1: we deal with them head on. Right. We can bury 116 00:06:36,120 --> 00:06:38,120 Speaker 1: them down, we can pretend like they're not there, but 117 00:06:38,160 --> 00:06:41,400 Speaker 1: eventually they're going to come up in some sort of way, right, 118 00:06:41,440 --> 00:06:44,000 Speaker 1: they will show their face. And it's never pretty usually, 119 00:06:44,120 --> 00:06:46,640 Speaker 1: and it's always going to be for the most part, 120 00:06:46,680 --> 00:06:50,000 Speaker 1: coming out in a way that is literally has nothing 121 00:06:50,040 --> 00:06:52,520 Speaker 1: to do with the situation itself, or it's going to 122 00:06:52,560 --> 00:06:54,480 Speaker 1: come out at a particular time where it's not a 123 00:06:54,520 --> 00:06:57,280 Speaker 1: healthy venue for you to be expressing these feelings. Right. 124 00:06:57,320 --> 00:06:59,800 Speaker 1: You might be taking it out on other people. Someone 125 00:06:59,839 --> 00:07:01,800 Speaker 1: might triggering you and the next thing you know, they're 126 00:07:01,839 --> 00:07:03,719 Speaker 1: going to get the brunt of all of the lifetime 127 00:07:03,760 --> 00:07:06,760 Speaker 1: of trauma that you have been building up inside, that 128 00:07:06,800 --> 00:07:09,760 Speaker 1: pent up aggression, anger, and sadness. Right, either way, all 129 00:07:09,840 --> 00:07:12,480 Speaker 1: of that is is not conducive to us being happy. 130 00:07:12,480 --> 00:07:14,560 Speaker 1: That that's just a miserable way to be living, to 131 00:07:14,560 --> 00:07:17,520 Speaker 1: be carrying around this weight and this negative energy. So 132 00:07:18,040 --> 00:07:20,960 Speaker 1: I think the reality is we have to just accept 133 00:07:20,960 --> 00:07:25,080 Speaker 1: the fact that every single person needs somebody to talk to, 134 00:07:25,240 --> 00:07:27,360 Speaker 1: and it's okay to talk to somebody. It's a part 135 00:07:27,400 --> 00:07:30,680 Speaker 1: of being human. And in order for us to really 136 00:07:30,760 --> 00:07:32,640 Speaker 1: be happy, it's not going to come from us just 137 00:07:32,680 --> 00:07:36,000 Speaker 1: sitting back and pretending like everything's okay. It requires the 138 00:07:36,480 --> 00:07:39,400 Speaker 1: action that the stoics talk about. Right, So to recap 139 00:07:39,440 --> 00:07:41,440 Speaker 1: all we've been talking about today, I mean, we look 140 00:07:41,480 --> 00:07:44,920 Speaker 1: at someone like Fabulous and he's talking about how the 141 00:07:45,480 --> 00:07:49,840 Speaker 1: scars you can't see are the hardest to heal. Right, 142 00:07:49,960 --> 00:07:52,440 Speaker 1: the ones that you are not acknowledging, basically, the ones 143 00:07:52,440 --> 00:07:54,640 Speaker 1: that are not up on the surface, are going to 144 00:07:54,640 --> 00:07:56,400 Speaker 1: be the ones that are hardest to heal. That's why 145 00:07:56,440 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 1: it's important for you to be expressing yourself and opening 146 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:02,400 Speaker 1: up about things and not thinking if you just bury 147 00:08:02,400 --> 00:08:04,360 Speaker 1: them down, it's going to get better. And then words 148 00:08:04,400 --> 00:08:07,200 Speaker 1: from Seneca, one of the Stoics, talking about how man 149 00:08:07,240 --> 00:08:10,520 Speaker 1: conquers the world by conquering himself. You can't expect to 150 00:08:10,560 --> 00:08:13,280 Speaker 1: achieve the level of greatness that you're hoping for in 151 00:08:13,320 --> 00:08:15,840 Speaker 1: your career, your personal life, whatever it is, if you 152 00:08:15,920 --> 00:08:20,080 Speaker 1: haven't first done the work to heal yourself right. And 153 00:08:20,200 --> 00:08:22,920 Speaker 1: for me, you know, I talk open and honestly about 154 00:08:22,960 --> 00:08:25,680 Speaker 1: therapy because I want to take away that stigma. I 155 00:08:25,720 --> 00:08:27,840 Speaker 1: want to acknowledge the fact that it shouldn't be a 156 00:08:27,840 --> 00:08:32,600 Speaker 1: big deal for anybody you know, and for anyone who 157 00:08:32,640 --> 00:08:34,840 Speaker 1: is you know, sort of living by old world ideas. 158 00:08:34,880 --> 00:08:36,600 Speaker 1: Be it. You know that we don't talk about those 159 00:08:36,600 --> 00:08:38,599 Speaker 1: things in our community. We don't talk to strangers or 160 00:08:38,679 --> 00:08:41,120 Speaker 1: as men. It's weak to share feelings like We have 161 00:08:41,160 --> 00:08:43,440 Speaker 1: to stop that nonsense. If we're truly trying to progress, 162 00:08:43,480 --> 00:08:45,640 Speaker 1: we're trying to get it to a better place, both 163 00:08:45,679 --> 00:08:49,120 Speaker 1: as a culture and as just individual human beings. We 164 00:08:49,280 --> 00:08:52,079 Speaker 1: have to shed the old world ideas that no longer 165 00:08:52,120 --> 00:08:55,040 Speaker 1: serve us and take action on things that are actually 166 00:08:55,080 --> 00:08:58,640 Speaker 1: going to bring us to living a better life and 167 00:08:59,040 --> 00:09:01,240 Speaker 1: bring us to what I think we're all searching for, 168 00:09:01,280 --> 00:09:04,600 Speaker 1: which is genuine happiness and fulfillment. Now, with that said, 169 00:09:04,920 --> 00:09:07,720 Speaker 1: thank you for checking out the Streets podcast. Do your 170 00:09:07,720 --> 00:09:10,480 Speaker 1: best to apply these concepts that we discussed today, and 171 00:09:10,559 --> 00:09:12,880 Speaker 1: see you everyday life and I will catch you next time. 172 00:09:18,960 --> 00:09:22,520 Speaker 1: The Street Stove podcast is a production of Iheart's Microtura 173 00:09:22,760 --> 00:09:23,760 Speaker 1: podcast network.