WEBVTT - I can't believe it's come to this 0:00:00.360 --> 0:00:02.520 My question is in regard to the podcast that you 0:00:02.560 --> 0:00:07.160 had in early April. The topic of the question you're 0:00:07.200 --> 0:00:10.720 answering was suicide, and I was wondering your opinion on this. 0:00:11.320 --> 0:00:14.920 Is the trauma people may experience in life that leads 0:00:14.960 --> 0:00:18.600 to suicide, perhaps more trauma to the soul than it 0:00:18.680 --> 0:00:21.760 is to the brain. I know. I've struggled with suicide 0:00:21.800 --> 0:00:23.680 a few different times in my life over the years, 0:00:24.040 --> 0:00:26.200 and the only way I got through those times was 0:00:26.239 --> 0:00:29.840 by leaning into God and by being out in nature. 0:00:30.400 --> 0:00:32.479 Looking back. For me, I believe it was damaging to 0:00:32.560 --> 0:00:35.360 the soul, but that's just me. I don't know. Hopefully 0:00:35.440 --> 0:00:37.720 diving into this question may help a listener out there 0:00:37.800 --> 0:00:53.000 somewhere back on the podcast. This is episode ninety two 0:00:54.000 --> 0:00:57.320 and you've done like eighty of them special guests. Do 0:00:57.360 --> 0:01:00.120 you have big plans for number one hundred? I was 0:01:00.240 --> 0:01:03.000 just thinking about that yesterday. Actually, I don't know what 0:01:03.000 --> 0:01:04.759 what it would be, but I think we should do something. 0:01:05.240 --> 0:01:07.479 It should be are you able to get more people 0:01:07.520 --> 0:01:10.080 around the table now that you've got this round table? 0:01:10.200 --> 0:01:13.319 Maybe we should do multiple like you and Amber and 0:01:13.360 --> 0:01:16.360 Bernie and Parker. Yeah, and do like the All Star 0:01:16.520 --> 0:01:19.840 Cast let's do it. That's a great idea, number one hundred, 0:01:20.440 --> 0:01:24.920 number one. I'm in okay, all right, Chad Warren guest 0:01:25.080 --> 0:01:28.720 back on the podcast today. We are answering your questions 0:01:29.520 --> 0:01:32.759 email Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com and we'll answer 0:01:32.760 --> 0:01:37.120 whatever you have like a campfire setting Montana chats for 0:01:37.200 --> 0:01:40.160 Montana's we'll do it like a Montana campfire setting. Yeah, 0:01:40.160 --> 0:01:43.880 and you are, what's the process on your podcast? So 0:01:44.600 --> 0:01:47.240 we've got kind of all this stuff set up. We're 0:01:47.280 --> 0:01:50.560 going to start to record some We're gonna have you 0:01:51.040 --> 0:01:54.440 and kind of have some other people come in record things, 0:01:54.520 --> 0:01:57.800 get get it all squared away, get the editing figured out, 0:01:57.920 --> 0:02:00.520 and you know, because we're brand new to this world. 0:02:00.560 --> 0:02:05.120 But yeah, we're gonna hopefully I could see us launching 0:02:05.400 --> 0:02:10.400 in August or September, so early fall, So stay tuned. 0:02:10.560 --> 0:02:13.200 And what this is, this is going to be Chad 0:02:13.320 --> 0:02:15.960 is going to start his own podcast and it is 0:02:16.040 --> 0:02:18.960 going to be the next level from this podcast. So this, 0:02:19.240 --> 0:02:22.840 if this is like answer your questions at a campfire setting, 0:02:23.240 --> 0:02:25.200 then his podcast is going to be. All right, let's 0:02:25.200 --> 0:02:29.560 get deep. Let's get deep thought, and not that we 0:02:29.600 --> 0:02:31.280 don't get deep on this podcast. But this is going 0:02:31.360 --> 0:02:35.200 to be biblically based scriptural base. So read a scripture 0:02:35.320 --> 0:02:38.040 and let's get deep about that scripture. Yep, yeah, in 0:02:38.080 --> 0:02:40.160 a similar format. I mean, we're gonna it's gonna be 0:02:40.160 --> 0:02:43.160 you and I will take a passage of scripture. We'll 0:02:43.200 --> 0:02:45.600 read it, and then how would we I mean how 0:02:45.600 --> 0:02:47.839 do we? Normally when you and I get together, it's 0:02:48.360 --> 0:02:52.440 what are we reading and what is the Lord showing us? 0:02:53.080 --> 0:02:55.720 And we talk about how that starts to trickle into 0:02:56.120 --> 0:02:58.960 all aspects of life and how does it help us 0:02:59.000 --> 0:03:04.680 be better husbands, fathers, and friends. No preparation, right, no 0:03:04.760 --> 0:03:08.320 prep Yeah, besides picking the scripture obviously, Yeah. I mean 0:03:08.360 --> 0:03:12.000 the idea is that you would be able to I mean, 0:03:12.040 --> 0:03:14.200 it's really for if you want to go deeper in 0:03:14.240 --> 0:03:15.760 your own walk with the Lord and just hear some 0:03:15.800 --> 0:03:20.120 people talk about the word and how to just approach 0:03:20.160 --> 0:03:23.200 the scripture. That's one level. If you don't know anything 0:03:23.240 --> 0:03:26.359 about the Bible and you've never even opened it, and 0:03:26.400 --> 0:03:28.480 you thought you know what I at least should know 0:03:28.480 --> 0:03:31.200 what it talks about, this would be a good opportunity 0:03:31.200 --> 0:03:34.120 for you to hear two people who believe it's true 0:03:34.639 --> 0:03:37.640 and talk about it and read it and try to 0:03:37.720 --> 0:03:42.720 understand it. And yeah, and if you want some midweek encouragement, 0:03:43.080 --> 0:03:44.800 then this is a good one for you on your 0:03:44.800 --> 0:03:48.080 way to work. Yeah, if you're at work and you 0:03:48.120 --> 0:03:50.360 need you just want to hear a couple of guys 0:03:50.360 --> 0:03:52.560 talk about the word or gals. We might have some 0:03:52.640 --> 0:03:55.480 gals on the podcast here and we'll stay we'll keep 0:03:55.480 --> 0:03:57.920 that all that up to date on when that's launching 0:03:57.960 --> 0:04:02.200 and details behind that. Yeah, that's true. Today, I wanted 0:04:02.240 --> 0:04:04.280 to start with these questions. I want to kind of 0:04:05.280 --> 0:04:08.200 I found a couple of lighte ones, so I want 0:04:08.200 --> 0:04:15.160 to start with where's the super light? When I saw man? 0:04:15.480 --> 0:04:17.480 I didn't see well, I will start with the one 0:04:17.600 --> 0:04:22.280 called softball question. It says, hey, Gray angel and friend 0:04:22.360 --> 0:04:26.080 of the day, Friend of the day, insert typical comment 0:04:26.160 --> 0:04:28.440 of I'm a huge fan, love of music, lovery podcast, 0:04:28.440 --> 0:04:31.560 in your apparel in the Smiths, thank you so much. 0:04:32.000 --> 0:04:33.680 It says, now the touring is back. I just have 0:04:33.800 --> 0:04:35.960 the question, do you ever get tired of smiling for 0:04:36.080 --> 0:04:38.719 pictures or does your face start to hurt? I got 0:04:38.760 --> 0:04:41.760 married in October with your music playing, of course, and 0:04:41.839 --> 0:04:44.279 my face hurts so bad from smiling after so many 0:04:44.279 --> 0:04:46.240 pictures at my wedding. I love what you do for 0:04:46.279 --> 0:04:50.200 the community. Thank you. That is Kelsey from North Texas. 0:04:50.520 --> 0:04:52.600 When the comment first that I did the same thing 0:04:52.640 --> 0:04:58.800 at my wedding, I remember my face hurting. So I 0:04:58.800 --> 0:05:02.599 don't think it takes being in entertainment business too. But 0:05:02.680 --> 0:05:05.479 you've got all these muscles in your face, and so 0:05:05.560 --> 0:05:07.920 you're working them out, and maybe you do a wedding, 0:05:07.960 --> 0:05:11.240 you know, and it's a one off experience, and you're 0:05:11.320 --> 0:05:14.320 kind of it starts to freeze in place, and you 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:16.719 wonder if it looks fake because it feels fake, but 0:05:16.839 --> 0:05:19.640 you're still you're smiling big, and you look back at 0:05:19.640 --> 0:05:22.160 those pictures and you go, man, we looked happy. But 0:05:22.200 --> 0:05:26.960 for you, like a weightlifter, like you're lifting those those 0:05:27.040 --> 0:05:29.320 muscles get worked, don't they. I mean, he's got a 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:32.680 good point because I don't know what, like, just walk 0:05:32.760 --> 0:05:35.720 us through what would it look like to be on 0:05:35.760 --> 0:05:41.040 your hip pocket for the day of a concert. Yeah, 0:05:41.200 --> 0:05:42.640 you've kind of done that a little bit with me. 0:05:42.760 --> 0:05:47.440 But the meet and greet is by far the most 0:05:47.520 --> 0:05:50.360 grueling part of my day. It's also the most fulfilling part. 0:05:50.680 --> 0:05:53.599 That's well, I will meet about one hundred and fifty people, 0:05:54.480 --> 0:05:59.440 and I try to kind of slow down and have 0:05:59.480 --> 0:06:02.359 a get some engagement with every one of them. So 0:06:02.960 --> 0:06:05.960 that is that is the part that sometimes you got 0:06:05.960 --> 0:06:07.480 to be if a guy comes in and he say, 0:06:08.200 --> 0:06:09.839 you got to kind of get up, and then sometimes 0:06:09.880 --> 0:06:12.440 someone's like, I got to tell you something about my grandpa, 0:06:12.880 --> 0:06:14.240 and then you kind of got to get down with 0:06:14.320 --> 0:06:17.400 them and you just kind of ride that emotional roller coaster. 0:06:17.520 --> 0:06:20.440 So that takes its toll, but it's also the most fulfilling. 0:06:21.040 --> 0:06:24.000 And I can't imagine skipping that I actually did during 0:06:24.000 --> 0:06:26.359 the pandemic when we played a few shows there was 0:06:26.360 --> 0:06:30.480 no meet and greets, and my day was pretty meaningless. 0:06:30.880 --> 0:06:33.839 And Chris, my tour manager, and I we quickly noticed 0:06:33.880 --> 0:06:36.559 that although we thought we would be excited with less work, 0:06:36.560 --> 0:06:39.240 of no meet and greets, it made the show just 0:06:39.360 --> 0:06:42.960 kind of blend because you don't have that connection with 0:06:43.160 --> 0:06:48.839 the people. So yeah, maybe the muscles do get well then, 0:06:48.880 --> 0:06:52.599 I imagine, but you're you're a happy guy. Yeah, well 0:06:52.720 --> 0:06:55.760 you're you're a joyful guy, and so I can imagine 0:06:56.000 --> 0:06:57.880 and even getting to be there with you a little 0:06:57.920 --> 0:07:02.159 bit at a recent show. You love to interact with people, 0:07:02.720 --> 0:07:06.120 and so yeah, to some degree, it's probably natural, and 0:07:06.200 --> 0:07:08.800 you just get excited when people are excited, and you're like, yeah, 0:07:09.040 --> 0:07:14.560 but you probably have like cheekbone muscles that are Yeah. 0:07:13.480 --> 0:07:17.000 I thought that was a hilarious question because I've thought 0:07:17.040 --> 0:07:19.240 about that and people ask me that, and I don't 0:07:19.240 --> 0:07:21.000 really have a true answer. I don't know if you 0:07:21.040 --> 0:07:24.880 could get cheek muscles that could work them out or not. 0:07:25.280 --> 0:07:30.000 But your smile always seems genuine. So that's good. I'm 0:07:30.000 --> 0:07:35.560 glad you say that. Thank you, Kelsey. So I'm gonna 0:07:35.600 --> 0:07:38.800 kick it over you, Chad. We're gonna do some We're 0:07:38.800 --> 0:07:43.360 gonna do some reading the subjects and you picking. We 0:07:43.440 --> 0:07:46.560 have a man of the house. We have I'm in 0:07:46.600 --> 0:07:50.760 a predicament. We have Navy or baby. I like the 0:07:50.840 --> 0:07:55.520 rhyme of them struggling with sin, and then we have 0:07:55.560 --> 0:07:57.360 a mister Smith, and I know that mister Smith is 0:07:57.360 --> 0:08:00.559 a lighthearted one. Okay, we'll go man of the House 0:08:00.680 --> 0:08:04.559 and then struggling with Sin. Okay, and we'll see what happens. Okay. 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:07.920 Man of the House says, dear Grander, just wanted to 0:08:07.920 --> 0:08:10.480 start off and say that ever since my wife introduced 0:08:10.520 --> 0:08:12.120 me to your music when we were dating. You and 0:08:12.120 --> 0:08:14.360 your family and your brothers and everything that EG stands for. 0:08:14.400 --> 0:08:17.160 It's been a huge blessing and inspiration. Thank you, buddy. 0:08:18.520 --> 0:08:23.400 It says, I love how your faith in Christ is 0:08:24.160 --> 0:08:26.280 something that we could see as you lead your family 0:08:26.280 --> 0:08:28.000 as the head of your house, and it inspired me 0:08:28.120 --> 0:08:30.560 to be that for my wife and son. I'm twenty 0:08:30.600 --> 0:08:33.640 eight years old in the Air Force. I'm an Air 0:08:33.679 --> 0:08:37.840 Force veteran, and my wife and son and I recently 0:08:37.840 --> 0:08:41.079 moved back to Texas from being stationed in California. One 0:08:41.080 --> 0:08:43.840 of the ideas that we have when we're in the 0:08:43.840 --> 0:08:46.959 process of moving was to live with my in laws 0:08:47.040 --> 0:08:49.439 because they had the space and we liked the idea 0:08:49.440 --> 0:08:51.480 of not having to pay rent for a little bit. 0:08:51.520 --> 0:08:53.880 When we got settled back in Texas, fast forward nine 0:08:53.880 --> 0:08:56.760 months and we're still living with them, And for me, 0:08:56.840 --> 0:09:00.160 being independent most of my adult life and being in 0:09:00.200 --> 0:09:04.760 the military, I started to feel real resentment towards my 0:09:04.840 --> 0:09:06.920 in laws and the fact that we're still living with 0:09:07.000 --> 0:09:09.079 him for what was supposed to be just a couple 0:09:09.080 --> 0:09:11.800 of months. So how do I, as the man of 0:09:11.840 --> 0:09:15.560 my family, lead my wife and sons spiritually while not 0:09:15.640 --> 0:09:19.200 feeling like I am in constant pissing contest with my 0:09:19.320 --> 0:09:21.840 father in law, who's the leader of his house which 0:09:21.880 --> 0:09:25.000 we reside in. I know, this is just a season 0:09:25.040 --> 0:09:28.080 of my life where my faith is being tested because 0:09:28.120 --> 0:09:29.600 of the fact that I'm living with my in laws. 0:09:29.600 --> 0:09:33.040 But I'm just really struggling with my anger towards them 0:09:33.400 --> 0:09:38.319 and feeling like my wife sometimes doesn't want to move out, 0:09:38.760 --> 0:09:41.680 or when will this all be over? Thank you for 0:09:41.679 --> 0:09:47.400 your time, justin this is one of those where it's 0:09:47.480 --> 0:09:50.840 unfortunate that's an email and like he's not actually sitting 0:09:50.840 --> 0:09:53.600 here around the campfire. I have so many questions and 0:09:53.679 --> 0:09:56.720 want to dig deeper, and so you just have to. 0:09:56.920 --> 0:09:59.360 I mean, he was very thorough though, and included a 0:09:59.400 --> 0:10:02.680 lot of detail, which I think is cool, And at 0:10:02.840 --> 0:10:06.200 first my first impression is that he seems to be 0:10:06.400 --> 0:10:10.959 very aware of himself and his own kind of internal 0:10:11.000 --> 0:10:16.679 frustrations and wrestlings and areas where yes, he is frustrated, 0:10:16.679 --> 0:10:20.160 he's angry, but he also realizes the situation. He seems 0:10:20.200 --> 0:10:22.679 pretty self aware that, yeah, this is his father in 0:10:22.760 --> 0:10:26.600 law's domain, and his father in law is the head 0:10:26.640 --> 0:10:30.199 of his own home, and he is kind of in 0:10:30.240 --> 0:10:35.840 submission to that authority, and rightly so, that would be 0:10:35.880 --> 0:10:39.040 a there's a shelf life on that for sure, that 0:10:39.080 --> 0:10:42.760 would be a frustrating situation after a while. Sounds like 0:10:42.800 --> 0:10:45.480 he needs to go on vacation, to get out of 0:10:45.559 --> 0:10:48.400 the house and go somewhere, go on a trip. Yeah, 0:10:48.440 --> 0:10:52.040 that's true. Justin' you're very validated in all of this 0:10:52.120 --> 0:10:55.240 that you're saying, and like Chad said, it sounds like 0:10:55.280 --> 0:10:57.280 you've been thinking a lot about it. You have some 0:10:57.320 --> 0:10:59.720 good thoughts about it. And with this is not the 0:10:59.720 --> 0:11:03.000 first time we've seen emails from people that are living 0:11:03.040 --> 0:11:06.080 within laws and having problems. It seems to be a 0:11:06.160 --> 0:11:10.240 problem or reoccurring problem because it's a it's a it's 0:11:10.280 --> 0:11:15.080 a nice sounding solution to a young couple, a young 0:11:15.120 --> 0:11:17.240 married couple that goes, well, we're trying to get our 0:11:17.240 --> 0:11:20.120 feet on the ground and get something settled or move 0:11:20.320 --> 0:11:22.480 or maybe we're building a house, or we're in the 0:11:22.520 --> 0:11:27.040 process of going between leases. And I always see these 0:11:27.040 --> 0:11:29.880 problems arise within laws. I've never lived within laws, so 0:11:29.960 --> 0:11:33.040 have you. No, No, I can't. I can't totally relate. 0:11:33.440 --> 0:11:39.560 And I think as I as a student of kind 0:11:39.559 --> 0:11:43.120 of the East and the West, being somebody who obviously 0:11:43.160 --> 0:11:45.040 grew up in the West and what I mean like 0:11:45.120 --> 0:11:50.200 Western civilization, Western culture. But you study Eastern cultures and 0:11:52.040 --> 0:11:56.200 you notice there's a difference in the West, especially in 0:11:56.240 --> 0:12:00.640 the United States of independence, a priority on independent and 0:12:01.280 --> 0:12:05.120 launching and kind of being your on your own, whereas 0:12:05.600 --> 0:12:08.120 you look at other cultures in the Middle East and 0:12:08.240 --> 0:12:12.400 throughout Asia, they're very family centric and so living with 0:12:13.040 --> 0:12:16.679 both sets of parents, this idea that everyone's under the 0:12:16.720 --> 0:12:19.160 same roof, they tend to do it. I mean that 0:12:19.160 --> 0:12:22.880 that works for them, But it's so not American to 0:12:23.000 --> 0:12:25.320 be more common, right, very yeah, a lot more common 0:12:25.320 --> 0:12:28.560 in those circumstances, but it is not common here, and 0:12:28.600 --> 0:12:33.080 so we definitely struggle with it more. And I'm yeah, 0:12:33.080 --> 0:12:38.360 I'm there aren't a lot of patterns to look at 0:12:38.640 --> 0:12:43.080 or examples to to look at where or maybe it's 0:12:43.120 --> 0:12:45.680 so it's so let's just walk through it, Chad. Let's 0:12:45.679 --> 0:12:50.319 walk through it from a biblical standpoint and then from 0:12:50.360 --> 0:12:53.200 a from a friend standpoint. If we were given this 0:12:53.280 --> 0:12:58.319 advice around a campfire, So you have to put it, 0:12:58.360 --> 0:13:00.280 seems to me you have to put a deadline on 0:13:00.360 --> 0:13:03.640 these type things, a hard deadline, and you have to 0:13:03.679 --> 0:13:11.000 be in agreeance with your wife. But in the scenario, 0:13:11.240 --> 0:13:14.120 it feels like the father in law would be the 0:13:14.160 --> 0:13:16.800 man of the house. I mean, it's his house, so 0:13:16.840 --> 0:13:20.360 he is justin You're right in thinking that he is 0:13:21.440 --> 0:13:23.160 technically the man of the house, no matter how you 0:13:23.200 --> 0:13:26.480 look at it, no matter what perspective. Now you are 0:13:27.920 --> 0:13:32.319 you are? How do I say this on the podcast? 0:13:34.760 --> 0:13:37.160 I suddenly got this flash of people getting pissed at 0:13:37.200 --> 0:13:38.880 me when I say, you're the leader of your wife, 0:13:39.520 --> 0:13:45.880 but you are the your wife. Okay, let me flip it. 0:13:46.120 --> 0:13:48.800 Your wife is should be more loyal to you than 0:13:48.840 --> 0:13:51.280 her father because you're married. We'll say it that way. 0:13:51.320 --> 0:13:52.599 That way, I don't have to say any kind of 0:13:52.600 --> 0:13:55.200 weird dominance thing. What I'm meant to say is she 0:13:55.480 --> 0:13:58.760 should be more loyal to you than her father, and 0:13:58.800 --> 0:14:02.160 that happened when you got married. But it puts a 0:14:02.200 --> 0:14:05.079 weird twist on it because you're living under his roof. 0:14:05.960 --> 0:14:09.080 So you understand that. Because you're an air force fat 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:12.880 you kind of see this. You know about hierarchy and 0:14:12.920 --> 0:14:19.200 you know about the way this works. And so I 0:14:19.200 --> 0:14:21.760 believe that your relationship with them and your anger, all 0:14:21.800 --> 0:14:25.960 that will be restored when you move out right, I 0:14:25.960 --> 0:14:27.520 would think so, I don't think there's going to be 0:14:27.720 --> 0:14:30.800 much long lasting pain, but you got to leave before 0:14:30.840 --> 0:14:34.080 that would potentially happen, because, yeah, you want to leave 0:14:34.120 --> 0:14:38.880 before it spoils. Yeah, And I would imagine too. I 0:14:38.880 --> 0:14:41.120 don't know what the relationship is like with the father 0:14:41.160 --> 0:14:45.400 in law, but need to have open communication with him. 0:14:45.600 --> 0:14:47.960 If you guys were to talk man to man about 0:14:48.640 --> 0:14:52.840 kind of boundaries expectations, there may be a sense in 0:14:52.880 --> 0:14:56.160 which the in laws are frustrated that they're still there too. 0:14:56.240 --> 0:14:58.440 I don't know, but they may be wondering, Hey, what's 0:14:58.480 --> 0:15:01.400 their game plan, when's when they're when are they launching, 0:15:01.400 --> 0:15:03.600 when are they leaving? How long is this going to last? 0:15:03.720 --> 0:15:06.080 Or maybe they're like, we love it our whole families together. 0:15:06.680 --> 0:15:10.320 I don't know, but I think that you know, to 0:15:10.400 --> 0:15:14.280 initiate a conversation with my father in law about expectations 0:15:14.920 --> 0:15:18.600 and constantly kind of revisiting that conversation and checking in 0:15:19.280 --> 0:15:22.760 I think would help alleviate tensions. As long as there's 0:15:22.760 --> 0:15:26.160 more and more communication, that's a great point. So as 0:15:26.200 --> 0:15:28.560 an Air Force vet, treated like you're a commanding officer 0:15:29.000 --> 0:15:31.120 and you're going into the commanding officer and said, sir, 0:15:31.200 --> 0:15:33.800 I'm gonna I'm going to give you a couple of deadlines, 0:15:33.840 --> 0:15:35.920 and these are my thoughts. What are your thoughts. I 0:15:36.400 --> 0:15:40.720 think that we should, for various reasons, look at an 0:15:40.760 --> 0:15:46.160 apartment one betterment apartment, and I want to make sure 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:49.200 our relationship stays strong and just build. And man, that's 0:15:49.240 --> 0:15:51.000 going to cost a lot of money to do that, 0:15:51.680 --> 0:15:55.120 but I think it's worth it. It's worth it. And 0:15:55.400 --> 0:15:58.000 you were in California, so moving to Texas it's already 0:15:58.000 --> 0:16:01.080 going to be way cheaper than that. But I think 0:16:01.120 --> 0:16:03.480 you say, let's see when of them. This email came 0:16:03.520 --> 0:16:06.640 in April, so I'm not sure what has happened, but 0:16:06.680 --> 0:16:09.760 I was probably like, dude, I couldn't last another week. 0:16:09.840 --> 0:16:12.480 I've been out of there for months. Maybe so, but man, 0:16:12.520 --> 0:16:14.960 you gotta if this was happening in real time, I 0:16:14.960 --> 0:16:18.040 would say, you're in like a thirty day know this 0:16:18.160 --> 0:16:22.920 type thing? The shelf life? Yeah, awesome, appreciate you. Justin 0:16:23.320 --> 0:16:28.840 let's go to let's go to this one, says mister Smith. 0:16:28.880 --> 0:16:30.960 In the light of your history degree, do you ever 0:16:31.000 --> 0:16:33.960 consider being did you ever consider being a history teacher? 0:16:35.040 --> 0:16:38.440 Would you have been the quintessential history teacher and football coach. 0:16:40.680 --> 0:16:44.520 Professor Smith funny question, that's that has a good ring? 0:16:45.600 --> 0:16:49.920 I do. I do love history, and I could. I 0:16:49.960 --> 0:16:56.000 could see teaching history, I could. Yeah, music stole my 0:16:56.040 --> 0:16:58.160 heart before any of that could happen. I think I 0:16:58.200 --> 0:17:00.920 probably would have been in the Middle military before I 0:17:00.960 --> 0:17:03.120 did that, or maybe both. Maybe it would have been military, 0:17:03.240 --> 0:17:07.320 come back home, settled down history teacher at the high school, 0:17:08.720 --> 0:17:11.640 and then football. I love the idea of coaching football. 0:17:11.720 --> 0:17:13.600 So there's a lot of things that I would have done. 0:17:13.920 --> 0:17:16.480 I don't believe in anything that would have been because 0:17:16.480 --> 0:17:21.159 it didn't happen. So it just didn't. But what about you? 0:17:21.240 --> 0:17:24.439 Is there anything that is there a path it's a 0:17:24.440 --> 0:17:28.560 young boy that you would have taken outside of the ministry. Yes, 0:17:28.680 --> 0:17:31.000 So I wanted to go into the military. I wanted 0:17:31.040 --> 0:17:36.040 to go into special warfare. My older brother served in 0:17:36.080 --> 0:17:39.520 the Navy for quite a while and he really turned 0:17:39.520 --> 0:17:44.080 me on to the special warfare community and kind of 0:17:45.200 --> 0:17:49.800 helped me picture the you know, the warrior lifestyle. So 0:17:49.920 --> 0:17:52.359 I thought I was going to do that up until 0:17:53.080 --> 0:17:56.639 freshman year of college. I was in an ROTC program 0:17:57.000 --> 0:18:00.160 and just ready to go. And then the Lord word 0:18:00.680 --> 0:18:05.639 intervened and then re routed me. So definitely wanted to 0:18:05.680 --> 0:18:09.960 head that direction. So we're similar in that aspect. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 0:18:11.640 --> 0:18:13.520 So I'm gonna kick it back to you, Chad, struggling 0:18:13.560 --> 0:18:17.040 with sin? Navy or baby? Did you already say struggling 0:18:17.080 --> 0:18:21.560 with sin? Yeah's jumping to that, says Hey Granger. I 0:18:21.600 --> 0:18:25.720 will remain anonymous. I've been battling with lust and sin, 0:18:26.440 --> 0:18:29.199 and I hope that Pastor Chad is there when you 0:18:29.240 --> 0:18:33.240 see this, because I've been battling with lust and sin 0:18:33.480 --> 0:18:35.920 and wondering what is the best way to stop or 0:18:35.960 --> 0:18:38.639 deal with it. I'm a strong Christian and I know 0:18:38.680 --> 0:18:41.040 it's wrong, but I keep doing it. I feel like 0:18:41.080 --> 0:18:43.680 God won't forgive me anymore because I've done it again 0:18:43.760 --> 0:18:46.280 and again and again. How do I deal with this? 0:18:46.720 --> 0:18:50.000 Sorry for the long question, So we'll keep him anonymous. 0:18:50.040 --> 0:18:55.959 It is is a male theological theologically, we know that 0:18:56.000 --> 0:18:59.480 he will forgive you. Yeah, that's that's the easy question. 0:18:59.480 --> 0:19:03.800 That's the easy the question, yep. And the idea of 0:19:05.440 --> 0:19:08.399 here's something that I learned, and I didn't learn it 0:19:08.480 --> 0:19:13.400 until later in my Christian walk, But this idea of 0:19:14.320 --> 0:19:17.960 Paul says and Paul's an apostle, one of the early 0:19:18.040 --> 0:19:21.080 church leaders. He wrote a letter to a group of 0:19:21.119 --> 0:19:25.280 believers in an area called coloss A. So the Book 0:19:25.280 --> 0:19:29.120 of Colossians is in the New Testament. And it's interesting 0:19:29.160 --> 0:19:33.159 because he he loves to use analogies, and so he says, 0:19:33.240 --> 0:19:37.919 in the same way that you received Christ Jesus, so 0:19:38.240 --> 0:19:43.359 walk in Him, rooted and built up. And as I 0:19:43.480 --> 0:19:47.960 chewed on that verse for quite a while, realized that 0:19:48.480 --> 0:19:52.920 this idea of so I am going to walk in 0:19:53.040 --> 0:19:56.239 Christ in the same way that I received Jesus. And 0:19:56.280 --> 0:20:01.119 we receive Christ, and two things happen. There is an 0:20:01.480 --> 0:20:05.679 acknowledgment of who we are and who Christ is. And 0:20:05.800 --> 0:20:08.879 in that acknowledgment, when we become aware and our eyes 0:20:09.000 --> 0:20:13.800 are opened to this reality, we see our self and 0:20:13.840 --> 0:20:19.320 our sin, and we see Him and his perfection. And 0:20:19.400 --> 0:20:22.040 so we look at the sin and we say that 0:20:22.160 --> 0:20:24.399 sin when we see it for what it is, and 0:20:24.440 --> 0:20:27.760 then we turn from it and trust Him by faith. 0:20:27.840 --> 0:20:31.240 So faith and repentance are the two key ingredients. When 0:20:31.280 --> 0:20:35.240 I first receive Christ, those things are present. And what 0:20:35.320 --> 0:20:38.040 Paul is telling us is, therefore, in the same way 0:20:38.080 --> 0:20:42.359 you receive Christ, Jesus by faith and repentance. So walk 0:20:42.400 --> 0:20:47.280 in Him, rooted and built up. So whatever sin struggle 0:20:47.320 --> 0:20:50.680 you have, one of the things we recognize is once 0:20:50.720 --> 0:20:56.320 we are in Christ, we don't therefore act righteously or 0:20:57.760 --> 0:21:01.160 behave in a christ like way in order to maintain 0:21:01.440 --> 0:21:04.800 our salvation or even to earn more of God's love. 0:21:05.520 --> 0:21:08.800 But it's a response of faith and repentance every day 0:21:08.920 --> 0:21:11.359 that when we see sin bubble up in our lives, 0:21:11.359 --> 0:21:15.040 we go, WHOA, I know, now that's sin, and I 0:21:15.080 --> 0:21:18.080 need to turn from it to Christ. A lot of times, 0:21:18.440 --> 0:21:20.240 I mean, I remember struggling as a young man with 0:21:20.840 --> 0:21:24.640 various temptations in sin, and even today I can get 0:21:24.680 --> 0:21:28.080 caught up in dwelling on the sin itself and going, man, 0:21:28.400 --> 0:21:30.439 don't do that, don't do that, don't do that. But 0:21:30.800 --> 0:21:33.560 as I think and dwell on not doing the sin, 0:21:33.600 --> 0:21:36.240 I'm still dwelling on the sin, and I'm not dwelling 0:21:36.280 --> 0:21:44.080 on Christ's So right, man, anonymous emailer, I'll say your 0:21:44.200 --> 0:21:47.040 question that might be the oldest question that mankind has 0:21:47.040 --> 0:21:52.800 ever had. It's very common. You're not alone. You were 0:21:52.840 --> 0:21:56.560 asking one of the top five most common questions that 0:21:56.640 --> 0:22:01.520 any man has said I'm not, so I'm not suitable 0:22:01.800 --> 0:22:05.399 for God, and so is he going to forgive me? 0:22:06.080 --> 0:22:09.439 Like the crazy thing about Christianity is it really happens 0:22:09.440 --> 0:22:11.159 in the opposite way. It's the only one of the 0:22:11.200 --> 0:22:15.320 major religions that happens in the opposite way most most people, 0:22:15.440 --> 0:22:19.280 almost I think every religion other than Christianity is clean 0:22:19.359 --> 0:22:24.000 yourself up and then go present yourself to God. Christianity 0:22:24.119 --> 0:22:27.240 is go to God and He will clean you up. 0:22:28.040 --> 0:22:30.840 And it's even. It starts with you need to realize 0:22:30.880 --> 0:22:35.400 how unclean you really are. And they start with this, Wow, 0:22:36.440 --> 0:22:40.120 Chad sitting here behind this microphone, we're buddy, in God's eyes, 0:22:40.119 --> 0:22:43.120 we're not any better than you. We're all we're all 0:22:43.160 --> 0:22:47.800 wretched and uh and inherently we're we're sinners. And so 0:22:49.320 --> 0:22:52.520 what you're doing, here's here's what I could. Here's what 0:22:52.600 --> 0:22:56.280 Chad said. Let me say what Chad said. Instead of 0:22:56.359 --> 0:23:01.160 trying to quit doing something, instead of trying to move 0:23:01.240 --> 0:23:06.480 backwards and stop, instead move forwards towards God, and don't 0:23:06.560 --> 0:23:09.760 worry about stopping, because He's going to stop it for you. 0:23:10.680 --> 0:23:14.360 And it's a crazy thing if you are aligned with him. 0:23:14.600 --> 0:23:16.200 And so how do you be aligned with him. Well, 0:23:16.800 --> 0:23:19.479 starts with the Bible. It starts with It starts with 0:23:19.600 --> 0:23:25.240 praying and reading and praying. Part of your prayer is 0:23:26.440 --> 0:23:29.520 that when you read, you'll understand and that it will 0:23:29.880 --> 0:23:32.439 those words will matter to you the way that they should. 0:23:33.040 --> 0:23:37.400 They're inspired, divine words, and you want to pray God. 0:23:37.400 --> 0:23:39.760 I'm about to open this book and I got all 0:23:39.800 --> 0:23:42.640 this sin going on, and I know, I know it's 0:23:42.680 --> 0:23:45.160