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Speaker 1: Oh right, everybody, we're scrubbing Hi everybody, Oh, good morning,

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Speaker 1: and happy birthday to Mamaad. Happy birthday, mam Aad. It's

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Speaker 1: also three fifteen, it's not the morning. Did I say

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Speaker 1: but also you're used to that when you're on a microphone,

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Speaker 1: you're saying good morning to Ryan decissity to the listeners.

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Speaker 1: And technically we just recently switched up our time frame,

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Speaker 1: good afternoon, everybody. We're scrubbing in. Um. Before we get

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Speaker 1: because of their kindness and how they treat each other

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Speaker 1: I I don't think there was any justification in what happened,

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Speaker 1: And I was a little bit of a blur, you know,

428
00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:32,040
Speaker 1: I was drinking all Chris Harrison's new seagroom drinks. I

429
00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:33,879
Speaker 1: was too, and I was like, did I Maybe I

430
00:25:33,920 --> 00:25:35,920
Speaker 1: was too drunk and I don't remember meeting her, but no,

431
00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:37,320
Speaker 1: He's like, no, I just went up to her and

432
00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:39,600
Speaker 1: said hi, that he was a fan. And I'm like,

433
00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:42,440
Speaker 1: it's just so funny because my boyfriend's just not really

434
00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:45,000
Speaker 1: phased by much and like he's not really phased by

435
00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:48,200
Speaker 1: much Hollywood stuff, but he's a massive fan of the Bachelor,

436
00:25:48,880 --> 00:25:53,560
Speaker 1: and so it's so interesting. It's so interesting. It's so funny.

437
00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:56,480
Speaker 1: My dad was never a fan, like he never watched

438
00:25:56,520 --> 00:25:58,600
Speaker 1: The Bachelor, he didn't know, and then whenever I got

439
00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:00,919
Speaker 1: on it, now he's like a sue b fan of it.

440
00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:04,280
Speaker 1: And I always get like messages from people and they're like, um,

441
00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:06,439
Speaker 1: like my husband hates The Bachelor, like doesn't watch it,

442
00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:08,560
Speaker 1: or my boyfriend like doesn't ever watch it with me.

443
00:26:08,600 --> 00:26:11,400
Speaker 1: But whenever you come on the screen, they always get

444
00:26:11,400 --> 00:26:13,520
Speaker 1: really excited because they love you. And I'm like, what's

445
00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 1: up with dad's and boyfriends loving me? I think because

446
00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:23,359
Speaker 1: you're just like unapologetically yourself. I'm keeping it entertaining, that's

447
00:26:23,359 --> 00:26:26,360
Speaker 1: for sure. Yeah. I was gonna say, like, what, So

448
00:26:26,560 --> 00:26:28,840
Speaker 1: you're in a new relate. I guess it's I mean,

449
00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:31,280
Speaker 1: I feel like it's been a while, but time is moving,

450
00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:35,960
Speaker 1: so I can't really tell the moving right now, but um,

451
00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:39,200
Speaker 1: you're in a relationship now and so. But people from

452
00:26:39,200 --> 00:26:41,080
Speaker 1: The Bachelor love you and they want more of you.

453
00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:44,320
Speaker 1: So is it like, do you join Wells as a bartender?

454
00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:47,440
Speaker 1: Like what are you done with the Bachelor franchise? I would.

455
00:26:47,560 --> 00:26:49,119
Speaker 1: I would do whatever they would ask me to do

456
00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:51,160
Speaker 1: if it was something like that, Like, of course Wells

457
00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:52,879
Speaker 1: has the best job out there. Are you kidding me?

458
00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:57,600
Speaker 1: He's not going through any emotional trauma. He's just making drinks. Yeah,

459
00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:01,199
Speaker 1: listening to the emotional trauma just and I love like

460
00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:03,720
Speaker 1: helping people with that kind of stuff, like relationship advice

461
00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:06,040
Speaker 1: and stuff like that. And like, I'm not afraid to

462
00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:08,240
Speaker 1: tell somebody like, all right, you're being you're being a

463
00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:10,720
Speaker 1: little much. You need to like have a different perspective.

464
00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:12,720
Speaker 1: Let me show you that. So I would totally do

465
00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:14,520
Speaker 1: something like that. I don't know, you know, if they

466
00:27:14,560 --> 00:27:16,560
Speaker 1: would ever want me to, but if they did, I

467
00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:20,480
Speaker 1: think it'd be a good opportunity. I mean, yeah, I

468
00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:24,800
Speaker 1: think the Bachelor fan base would be thrilled with that,

469
00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:27,200
Speaker 1: because you know, it's funny when you see someone who

470
00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:30,399
Speaker 1: you want to see find love on TV again, you

471
00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:34,320
Speaker 1: see them in a normal relationship like outside of Bachelor world,

472
00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:37,400
Speaker 1: It's like, how do I get my fix of that

473
00:27:37,440 --> 00:27:40,680
Speaker 1: person if they're not on my TV screen? They need me,

474
00:27:41,040 --> 00:27:48,040
Speaker 1: they need me. How long have you been with your boyfriend? Um?

475
00:27:48,160 --> 00:27:54,639
Speaker 1: So May fourth was our three month Okay, yeah, so

476
00:27:54,720 --> 00:27:56,439
Speaker 1: see in my head I thought it had been like

477
00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:58,640
Speaker 1: six months that you are together. So just that gives

478
00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:01,040
Speaker 1: me a good time of good idea of how time

479
00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:03,760
Speaker 1: is moving in my head. Yeah. Well, during the quarantine,

480
00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:07,720
Speaker 1: it feels like it's been six months. Are you all living?

481
00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:10,520
Speaker 1: Are y'all like quarantining together right now? Yes, we have

482
00:28:10,560 --> 00:28:12,960
Speaker 1: been quarantined together the whole time I went to my

483
00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:17,639
Speaker 1: apartment for one night. Oh my gosh. So wait, okay,

484
00:28:17,680 --> 00:28:19,879
Speaker 1: so you get into a relationship and then a month

485
00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:25,439
Speaker 1: in the pandemic happens in your quarantine pretty much right, Yeah,

486
00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:28,359
Speaker 1: how did them? Was there an adjustment period or was

487
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:31,359
Speaker 1: it just like easy going? So we had like the

488
00:28:31,440 --> 00:28:33,600
Speaker 1: day that we met. Ever since that day, we hadn't

489
00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:36,480
Speaker 1: spent any time apart. We had been together like every night,

490
00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:38,040
Speaker 1: like I would you know, go home during the day

491
00:28:38,120 --> 00:28:40,000
Speaker 1: or something, and we'd be like, we probably shouldn't be

492
00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:42,200
Speaker 1: together every night, and then nighttime would come around and

493
00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:43,560
Speaker 1: I was like, I miss you, Like we need to

494
00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:46,000
Speaker 1: be together right now. Uh. So we were kind of

495
00:28:46,080 --> 00:28:49,120
Speaker 1: already in the groove of that, and then the quarantine

496
00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:51,920
Speaker 1: happened and we just kind of like we're together and

497
00:28:51,960 --> 00:28:55,240
Speaker 1: we were just like, all right, we're doing this, and um,

498
00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:58,040
Speaker 1: it's been really good. Though there has been you know,

499
00:28:58,120 --> 00:29:01,200
Speaker 1: a lot more like bickers stupid things like that. Then

500
00:29:01,240 --> 00:29:03,480
Speaker 1: they're probably normally would be because we don't get space

501
00:29:03,520 --> 00:29:07,000
Speaker 1: away from each other. But uh, you know, I'll like

502
00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 1: go to my apartment for a little bit, or like

503
00:29:09,760 --> 00:29:11,840
Speaker 1: I have a friend who she's been quarantined this whole

504
00:29:11,880 --> 00:29:13,680
Speaker 1: time and so have I, and so now that a

505
00:29:13,720 --> 00:29:16,600
Speaker 1: lot of the rules are kind of getting a little laxed. Um,

506
00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:18,720
Speaker 1: I'll go and spend some time with her or something

507
00:29:18,880 --> 00:29:23,240
Speaker 1: and then come back here later on. It's definitely growing

508
00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:26,760
Speaker 1: our relationships so much, and it's it's pretty insane though,

509
00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:29,160
Speaker 1: Like I think about it, like from an outside perspective,

510
00:29:29,200 --> 00:29:31,240
Speaker 1: and it's like, what, you just got into a relationship

511
00:29:31,280 --> 00:29:34,200
Speaker 1: and you've been together NonStop for three months. That doesn't

512
00:29:34,240 --> 00:29:41,400
Speaker 1: sound healthy. I mean, honestly, sometimes that's just how when

513
00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:43,480
Speaker 1: you meet someone that you want to be with all

514
00:29:43,520 --> 00:29:47,560
Speaker 1: the time. This is honestly an ideal situation because, especially

515
00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:49,640
Speaker 1: in the beginning, that's all you want to do. That's

516
00:29:49,640 --> 00:29:51,959
Speaker 1: the only person you want to see. It's like you

517
00:29:52,040 --> 00:29:56,880
Speaker 1: almost have to. I had to really make myself hang out,

518
00:29:56,920 --> 00:29:59,240
Speaker 1: like make time for my friends, because I'm like, these

519
00:29:59,280 --> 00:30:02,800
Speaker 1: people are as important I need to give them the time.

520
00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:05,520
Speaker 1: But all I wanted to do was be the person

521
00:30:05,600 --> 00:30:08,920
Speaker 1: I newly started dating. So I totally get that. I

522
00:30:08,960 --> 00:30:12,960
Speaker 1: would have loved having quarantine during the beginning of the relationship.

523
00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:15,240
Speaker 1: It's so funny though, because like I get what you're

524
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:18,600
Speaker 1: what you're saying, but normally I'll go like two weeks

525
00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:21,160
Speaker 1: spending so much time with the person I'm newly interested in,

526
00:30:21,680 --> 00:30:24,000
Speaker 1: and then I will be like so sick of them

527
00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:26,560
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh, like you're gonna drive me crazy,

528
00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:28,600
Speaker 1: like I'm not even interested in you anymore, and all

529
00:30:28,600 --> 00:30:31,120
Speaker 1: this stuff. But with him, he like just keeps it

530
00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:33,120
Speaker 1: so fun and like it's such a different feeling than

531
00:30:33,120 --> 00:30:35,280
Speaker 1: I've ever had, and it's like I just always want

532
00:30:35,320 --> 00:30:41,920
Speaker 1: to be with him. Tanya is in a newer relationship too,

533
00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:45,440
Speaker 1: and so we've talked a lot about like going from

534
00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:49,520
Speaker 1: getting to know each other too. We're kind of together

535
00:30:49,560 --> 00:30:52,040
Speaker 1: a lot more because of what's happening. I think it's

536
00:30:52,040 --> 00:30:57,200
Speaker 1: definitely like ex expedited. Is that the right word. Yeah? Expedited. Yeah,

537
00:30:57,240 --> 00:31:00,000
Speaker 1: it's expedited our relationship, I think in so many ways

538
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:02,720
Speaker 1: because I think before the pandemic hit, like he would

539
00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:07,640
Speaker 1: stay here, you know, maybe on the weekends if that. Um.

540
00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:09,920
Speaker 1: Because I'm also very like cautious too about like my

541
00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:12,480
Speaker 1: time and my energy because in a past relationship, I've

542
00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:15,640
Speaker 1: like thrown all my like just my complete self into

543
00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:17,640
Speaker 1: the relationship and I lost like my friends and I

544
00:31:17,680 --> 00:31:19,520
Speaker 1: lost that kind of my identity. So I just never

545
00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:21,280
Speaker 1: want to go back there. So I've been very careful

546
00:31:21,320 --> 00:31:25,400
Speaker 1: about the time I give to him. But now essentially

547
00:31:25,440 --> 00:31:27,240
Speaker 1: it's like we lived together half the time and it's

548
00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 1: so nice. And when did y'all start dating? We started

549
00:31:32,440 --> 00:31:35,000
Speaker 1: dating in November, but we like made it official like

550
00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:38,000
Speaker 1: three months ago, kind of the same time frame. Wait

551
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:42,800
Speaker 1: do you oh my god? Yes, of course, how far?

552
00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:47,640
Speaker 1: It wasn't far, I'll tell you that. So what happened

553
00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:49,560
Speaker 1: was was like I met him and then I was

554
00:31:49,640 --> 00:31:51,960
Speaker 1: with him like every night, every you know, most of

555
00:31:52,040 --> 00:31:54,320
Speaker 1: days and stuff. And it was just for a couple

556
00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:56,800
Speaker 1: of days you know that I've known him. And I

557
00:31:56,880 --> 00:32:00,000
Speaker 1: had a trip to New York um for New York

558
00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:02,600
Speaker 1: Fashion Week, and I was like, do you want to

559
00:32:02,600 --> 00:32:04,640
Speaker 1: go to New York with me? And at first he

560
00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:07,479
Speaker 1: was kind of like whoa, And then he was like

561
00:32:07,560 --> 00:32:09,120
Speaker 1: I think I have something to do, but then he

562
00:32:09,160 --> 00:32:11,320
Speaker 1: didn't have it ended up like getting canceled whatever he

563
00:32:11,360 --> 00:32:13,200
Speaker 1: had to do, and he was like should we do this?

564
00:32:13,240 --> 00:32:15,640
Speaker 1: Should we go to New York together? And I was like, yes,

565
00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:19,200
Speaker 1: please come with me. And so like I got him

566
00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,480
Speaker 1: a ticket to New York and the first class like

567
00:32:21,600 --> 00:32:25,240
Speaker 1: laying down like you know, super Bugy and we had

568
00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:28,240
Speaker 1: the best time together and I mean, I don't know,

569
00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:30,080
Speaker 1: it was just perfect. And then we were still spending

570
00:32:30,120 --> 00:32:31,920
Speaker 1: every day together. So it's probably like a few weeks

571
00:32:31,920 --> 00:32:36,000
Speaker 1: in and it was like, like he said it first,

572
00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:37,880
Speaker 1: but it was like, I don't know if this is

573
00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:40,400
Speaker 1: too much, but like I really more than like you.

574
00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:46,000
Speaker 1: Oh that's cute. Yeah, he was like scared to say

575
00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:49,200
Speaker 1: the word, but he said the sentiment yeah, And I

576
00:32:49,240 --> 00:32:55,480
Speaker 1: was like, I don't even really love you. Did you

577
00:32:55,520 --> 00:32:58,440
Speaker 1: feel were you because y'all are pretty You're pretty public

578
00:32:58,480 --> 00:33:02,320
Speaker 1: and open, you know, like pd A on Instagram and stuff,

579
00:33:02,360 --> 00:33:04,600
Speaker 1: did you feel hesitant to do that after having such

580
00:33:04,640 --> 00:33:07,800
Speaker 1: a public relationship and then breakup or were you kind

581
00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:10,000
Speaker 1: of like this in my life if you taken or

582
00:33:10,080 --> 00:33:12,360
Speaker 1: leave it, you know, I want to share it. Yeah.

583
00:33:12,520 --> 00:33:16,760
Speaker 1: I think that in the past, I've been um, like obviously,

584
00:33:16,800 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 1: I've been really public with things, but it's made me

585
00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:22,560
Speaker 1: uncomfortable being like still public with relationships because I've just

586
00:33:23,000 --> 00:33:26,120
Speaker 1: I don't know, I wanted like selfishly, like wanted to

587
00:33:26,160 --> 00:33:28,440
Speaker 1: be like my Instagram's about me and all this stuff,

588
00:33:28,480 --> 00:33:32,280
Speaker 1: and uh, getting into this relationship with somebody who I

589
00:33:32,360 --> 00:33:35,120
Speaker 1: really truly love, like in a way I've never loved

590
00:33:35,120 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 1: anyone before. I want to show him off and I

591
00:33:38,080 --> 00:33:40,760
Speaker 1: want to like show all that stuff. It's just really different.

592
00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:46,440
Speaker 1: That's that's really yeah. Does he what does he think

593
00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:49,800
Speaker 1: about like all the Bachelor and your fandom and every

594
00:33:49,840 --> 00:33:52,680
Speaker 1: I mean, because you have like a very intense loyal

595
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:56,320
Speaker 1: group of fans who I mean they when I look

596
00:33:56,360 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 1: at your post and I've read the comments, they're also

597
00:33:58,880 --> 00:34:01,480
Speaker 1: supportive of every thing you do, which is really cool

598
00:34:01,520 --> 00:34:06,240
Speaker 1: because you know what's people are, so they just feel

599
00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:09,200
Speaker 1: like they can say anything and do anything on Instagram

600
00:34:09,239 --> 00:34:12,279
Speaker 1: and kind of disregard feelings. But your fans are pretty

601
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:14,920
Speaker 1: like they just want you to be happy. So is

602
00:34:14,960 --> 00:34:16,600
Speaker 1: he does he like it? Or is he kind of

603
00:34:16,640 --> 00:34:19,680
Speaker 1: like well this is crazy? Um? Well, like, first I

604
00:34:19,719 --> 00:34:22,000
Speaker 1: want to say that I love my fans too, because

605
00:34:22,080 --> 00:34:25,040
Speaker 1: they like go and attack all the haters and stuff,

606
00:34:25,040 --> 00:34:27,160
Speaker 1: like I don't even have to defend myself because they

607
00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:29,279
Speaker 1: just hop in there and they're like shut up, like

608
00:34:29,440 --> 00:34:31,840
Speaker 1: she's doing this this, I'm like, thank you guys robbing

609
00:34:31,880 --> 00:34:34,400
Speaker 1: my back. Um, It's like having like a bunch of

610
00:34:34,440 --> 00:34:37,600
Speaker 1: really loyal friends that won't let anyone mess with you. Um,

611
00:34:38,480 --> 00:34:41,400
Speaker 1: but in regards to like how he feels about all

612
00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:43,719
Speaker 1: of it, Like, I mean, I think he thinks it's cool,

613
00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:45,719
Speaker 1: but he's really focused on himself and like you know,

614
00:34:45,920 --> 00:34:49,200
Speaker 1: getting to where he wants to be and whatnot. So, um,

615
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:51,120
Speaker 1: we don't really talk about it that much. I don't

616
00:34:51,160 --> 00:34:53,399
Speaker 1: really know. I mean, probably thinks it's cool. Like who

617
00:34:53,440 --> 00:34:55,320
Speaker 1: doesn't think it's cool? Like, you know, you got fans,

618
00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:57,440
Speaker 1: you got a whole lot of people that love you,

619
00:34:57,600 --> 00:35:04,440
Speaker 1: like it's awesome, here's exit good. I mean, yeah, you

620
00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:07,600
Speaker 1: hope for that when you have that many people, um

621
00:35:07,600 --> 00:35:10,840
Speaker 1: ready to defend you. You know, it feels really good

622
00:35:11,000 --> 00:35:14,399
Speaker 1: for you. But I always wonder, like dating someone, if

623
00:35:14,440 --> 00:35:19,000
Speaker 1: it's like intimidating to think, okay, if something goes wrong

624
00:35:19,120 --> 00:35:22,759
Speaker 1: or if something goes public, that all these people they'll

625
00:35:22,800 --> 00:35:26,960
Speaker 1: turn into heartbeat you know. Yeah, I don't know. He

626
00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:29,759
Speaker 1: has such an interesting personality, like he's such like a

627
00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:34,360
Speaker 1: star himself, Like he's this huge personality. He's so easy

628
00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:37,080
Speaker 1: to love. He's the kind of guy that, like, you

629
00:35:37,080 --> 00:35:39,680
Speaker 1: you know, whenever before I was on the Bachelor and stuff,

630
00:35:39,680 --> 00:35:41,000
Speaker 1: I always said, like I'm going to be a star,

631
00:35:41,120 --> 00:35:43,480
Speaker 1: Like I know something's going to happen. I have a

632
00:35:43,480 --> 00:35:45,839
Speaker 1: feeling I know who I am whenever I walk into

633
00:35:45,880 --> 00:35:48,799
Speaker 1: a room. And he doesn't say that, but like he

634
00:35:48,920 --> 00:35:51,359
Speaker 1: has that essence like you can just like everyone knows

635
00:35:51,400 --> 00:35:54,560
Speaker 1: like slitters like a star, even you know, without all

636
00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:57,560
Speaker 1: the fame or whatever, Like he's going to be something amazing.

637
00:35:57,640 --> 00:36:01,239
Speaker 1: And so I feel like I don't know, he's just

638
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:04,799
Speaker 1: not intimidated. Maybe it just like excites him, like he's like, oh,

639
00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:09,759
Speaker 1: it's so cool, Like you have fans, yeah, Like he's like,

640
00:36:09,840 --> 00:36:11,960
Speaker 1: I'm I mean, I feel like he has that. I

641
00:36:12,000 --> 00:36:15,080
Speaker 1: feel like he has that that fan base already and

642
00:36:15,120 --> 00:36:18,840
Speaker 1: it can only grow, you know. Um, we we like

643
00:36:18,880 --> 00:36:22,520
Speaker 1: talked all about this. How did y'all meet? Um? Through Katie?

644
00:36:22,560 --> 00:36:25,080
Speaker 1: So Katie one day said like, do you want to

645
00:36:25,120 --> 00:36:26,920
Speaker 1: go to lunch with me and my friends? And I

646
00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:29,440
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, sure, And I had no idea, Like

647
00:36:29,480 --> 00:36:31,600
Speaker 1: I had heard of Slater before, but I had never

648
00:36:31,880 --> 00:36:34,560
Speaker 1: seen him or looked at his Instagram or anything, like

649
00:36:34,840 --> 00:36:36,560
Speaker 1: you know, I thought Katie would have told me he

650
00:36:36,640 --> 00:36:39,640
Speaker 1: was hot, but she didn't. And so I just like

651
00:36:39,640 --> 00:36:41,279
Speaker 1: went to go get in the car, like dressed like

652
00:36:41,280 --> 00:36:44,400
Speaker 1: a total dirt and I opened the car door and

653
00:36:44,400 --> 00:36:47,000
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, what. I was like,

654
00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:51,120
Speaker 1: it's over for me, Like this is it? He's so cute.

655
00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:53,560
Speaker 1: And so then we like spent the whole day together

656
00:36:53,680 --> 00:36:57,239
Speaker 1: and everything, and yeah, it was it was awesome. It

657
00:36:57,320 --> 00:37:00,000
Speaker 1: was a fun day. We went to Hot Topic, m

658
00:37:01,320 --> 00:37:04,000
Speaker 1: the road back right, it was awesome. I was like,

659
00:37:04,040 --> 00:37:10,279
Speaker 1: you like hot Topic too, soul mates. Was it like

660
00:37:10,360 --> 00:37:13,239
Speaker 1: love first sight? Oh? It was like absolutely like that.

661
00:37:13,360 --> 00:37:16,160
Speaker 1: And like honestly, I was like talking to somebody else

662
00:37:16,880 --> 00:37:19,520
Speaker 1: at the time and it just completely went out the

663
00:37:19,560 --> 00:37:22,480
Speaker 1: window whenever I met him, and like I've would never

664
00:37:22,520 --> 00:37:24,279
Speaker 1: be that person. But I was like, this is like

665
00:37:24,640 --> 00:37:27,319
Speaker 1: rocking my world. Like he was just like look at

666
00:37:27,320 --> 00:37:29,200
Speaker 1: me and smile at me, and I was like, oh

667
00:37:29,239 --> 00:37:36,160
Speaker 1: my gosh, I'm so happy for you. It's such a

668
00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:38,640
Speaker 1: good feeling to find that with someone, you know, like

669
00:37:39,520 --> 00:37:42,239
Speaker 1: you think you you meet people on you date and

670
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:44,200
Speaker 1: you're like this is as good as it gets, but

671
00:37:44,239 --> 00:37:46,760
Speaker 1: then you meet someone and it really like changes everything

672
00:37:46,800 --> 00:37:49,640
Speaker 1: for you. It's the most different thing that I've ever experienced.

673
00:37:49,680 --> 00:37:53,600
Speaker 1: Like I've thought I've like I don't know, I thought

674
00:37:53,600 --> 00:37:56,480
Speaker 1: I knew what love was, but I really didn't at all,

675
00:37:56,600 --> 00:37:59,360
Speaker 1: Like it's I've never felt anything like this, Like I

676
00:37:59,360 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 1: get really anoid really easily, and like, yeah, he annoys me,

677
00:38:02,239 --> 00:38:04,560
Speaker 1: but not to the point where it's like I don't

678
00:38:04,560 --> 00:38:07,279
Speaker 1: want to look at you. It's like you're annoying me.

679
00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:09,360
Speaker 1: And I love that I can tell you you're annoying

680
00:38:09,360 --> 00:38:11,239
Speaker 1: me and you continue to do it because you're not

681
00:38:11,280 --> 00:38:15,680
Speaker 1: scared of me, right, yeah, yeah, he likes He's like,

682
00:38:15,800 --> 00:38:18,719
Speaker 1: you don't intimidate me exactly, and like I intimidate so

683
00:38:18,719 --> 00:38:20,840
Speaker 1: many people, so it's so cool to see somebody's like

684
00:38:20,880 --> 00:38:23,399
Speaker 1: not intimidated and it's like, look, this is me. I'm

685
00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:30,200
Speaker 1: gonna be me, and do you like it or not? Um? Wait,

686
00:38:30,239 --> 00:38:33,279
Speaker 1: So we taught I love that. We our podcast we

687
00:38:33,360 --> 00:38:36,160
Speaker 1: love talking about, you know, relationships in love, and we

688
00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:38,840
Speaker 1: always get so many of our listeners that are dating

689
00:38:38,920 --> 00:38:41,200
Speaker 1: and it's hard and they're like, when will I ever

690
00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:43,879
Speaker 1: find someone? So we love hearing the stories of how

691
00:38:43,960 --> 00:38:47,240
Speaker 1: people people meet and what was different and how they knew.

692
00:38:47,280 --> 00:38:51,160
Speaker 1: So now that we've talked about that, let's talk about

693
00:38:51,320 --> 00:38:55,239
Speaker 1: you and what you're doing. Because coming out of the

694
00:38:55,640 --> 00:38:59,200
Speaker 1: Bachelor is such a strange thing because all of a

695
00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:05,080
Speaker 1: sudden you've masked this massive loyal following and then you're

696
00:39:05,120 --> 00:39:07,440
Speaker 1: like getting to do all this really cool stuff and

697
00:39:07,480 --> 00:39:10,920
Speaker 1: then it's kind of like, Okay, now what do I

698
00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:13,360
Speaker 1: do with all this? You know, like what direction do

699
00:39:13,400 --> 00:39:17,080
Speaker 1: I want to go? Um? So you just launched your podcast,

700
00:39:17,160 --> 00:39:19,480
Speaker 1: and I just wanted you to tell us about that,

701
00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:24,959
Speaker 1: because we obviously really excited we hear about new podcast. Thanks. Yeah,

702
00:39:25,000 --> 00:39:27,400
Speaker 1: it is really crazy coming out of the Bachelor world

703
00:39:27,400 --> 00:39:29,640
Speaker 1: and just being like what do I do? Like, what

704
00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:33,040
Speaker 1: should I do? Uh? You know, I'm I'm from a

705
00:39:33,080 --> 00:39:37,279
Speaker 1: small Texas town, never experienced anything like this, never even

706
00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:40,839
Speaker 1: went to l A before the Bachelor or anything. First

707
00:39:40,880 --> 00:39:42,360
Speaker 1: time I went was whenever they flew me out for

708
00:39:42,400 --> 00:39:48,360
Speaker 1: like the finalist weekend. Um. And it's very overwhelming and

709
00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:53,160
Speaker 1: really scary and exciting and all these emotions. And so

710
00:39:54,200 --> 00:39:57,160
Speaker 1: I'm doing the podcast because I feel, like, you know,

711
00:39:57,280 --> 00:40:00,480
Speaker 1: I'm It's something that I like to do. I like

712
00:40:00,520 --> 00:40:02,680
Speaker 1: to talk. I like to try to help people whenever

713
00:40:02,719 --> 00:40:04,800
Speaker 1: I can. I want to, like, you know, encourage people

714
00:40:04,840 --> 00:40:06,879
Speaker 1: to be more confident with themselves and be more real

715
00:40:06,960 --> 00:40:09,560
Speaker 1: about things and be okay with who they are and

716
00:40:09,600 --> 00:40:11,480
Speaker 1: not you know, try to be more like other people.

717
00:40:11,640 --> 00:40:13,600
Speaker 1: Because you know, you get on Instagram and you see

718
00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:17,000
Speaker 1: people like with all these amazing photos and you're like,

719
00:40:17,040 --> 00:40:19,759
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, like they're living their best life. Why

720
00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 1: am I not living that life? And it's like, okay,

721
00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:24,480
Speaker 1: like let's be real, let's all facade. Like somebody had

722
00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:26,880
Speaker 1: to sit there and take like fifty photos of that

723
00:40:26,920 --> 00:40:29,239
Speaker 1: girl sitting in a chair, like you know what I mean,

724
00:40:29,320 --> 00:40:33,920
Speaker 1: like and a chair, yeah, like sitting in yeah. And

725
00:40:34,000 --> 00:40:37,360
Speaker 1: so I just felt like with the podcast, I would

726
00:40:37,400 --> 00:40:40,640
Speaker 1: have a good outlet to just be more open and

727
00:40:40,800 --> 00:40:42,799
Speaker 1: you know, because I can't do like an Instagram Live

728
00:40:42,840 --> 00:40:45,799
Speaker 1: every day and stuff like that, and I wanna I

729
00:40:45,840 --> 00:40:47,839
Speaker 1: want to hear back from other people. I want to

730
00:40:48,239 --> 00:40:50,399
Speaker 1: talk about what people want to talk about. I want

731
00:40:50,480 --> 00:40:54,600
Speaker 1: to like make people feel better about themselves because I

732
00:40:54,680 --> 00:40:57,239
Speaker 1: know whenever I have like you know, felt low, or

733
00:40:57,680 --> 00:41:02,080
Speaker 1: I felt like um, not offidite and secure all those things,

734
00:41:02,320 --> 00:41:03,759
Speaker 1: I wish I would have had someone that could have

735
00:41:03,800 --> 00:41:07,239
Speaker 1: like genuinely boosted me. Because people, you know, they kind

736
00:41:07,239 --> 00:41:09,799
Speaker 1: of just like nonchalantly and kind of shallow like oh no,

737
00:41:09,880 --> 00:41:12,160
Speaker 1: you're great whatever, and it's like no, like I need

738
00:41:12,160 --> 00:41:13,759
Speaker 1: to hear more. So like I want to give more

739
00:41:13,800 --> 00:41:16,840
Speaker 1: to people, and I want to entertain people. I love entertaining,

740
00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:20,719
Speaker 1: I love making people laugh. I just love people. And

741
00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:23,120
Speaker 1: so I was like, you know what, what better way

742
00:41:23,160 --> 00:41:25,920
Speaker 1: to connect with my audience than through a podcast? Like

743
00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:27,879
Speaker 1: and I want to make it about them and what

744
00:41:27,920 --> 00:41:31,240
Speaker 1: they want, what they need. And of course I'm always

745
00:41:31,239 --> 00:41:34,399
Speaker 1: in my little tyrants and stuff, but I really want

746
00:41:34,400 --> 00:41:39,279
Speaker 1: to make it about everyone else. I love that what if, Like,

747
00:41:39,360 --> 00:41:41,359
Speaker 1: I'm sure you get a lot of people to ask

748
00:41:41,480 --> 00:41:45,080
Speaker 1: this because you have such a big personality and you

749
00:41:45,080 --> 00:41:47,200
Speaker 1: you are so confident and you know who you are,

750
00:41:47,400 --> 00:41:52,719
Speaker 1: and um, when people when girls, especially like I feel

751
00:41:52,719 --> 00:41:56,040
Speaker 1: like the Bachelor audience is getting younger and younger. So

752
00:41:56,120 --> 00:42:00,520
Speaker 1: it's a lot of young girls that are like actively

753
00:42:00,560 --> 00:42:03,480
Speaker 1: following you with their eyes on you, you know, everything

754
00:42:03,520 --> 00:42:06,920
Speaker 1: you do when they when they message you like how

755
00:42:06,960 --> 00:42:10,040
Speaker 1: are you so confident? How do how do I get

756
00:42:10,040 --> 00:42:12,200
Speaker 1: that kind of confidence? What advice do you give? Like?

757
00:42:12,239 --> 00:42:16,360
Speaker 1: What do you tell these girls that are constantly searching

758
00:42:16,400 --> 00:42:20,320
Speaker 1: for that? Um? I'm pretty bad at like honestly reading

759
00:42:20,360 --> 00:42:22,360
Speaker 1: all of the d m s and stuff, just because

760
00:42:22,400 --> 00:42:25,200
Speaker 1: I'm like a really present person. But whenever I do,

761
00:42:25,320 --> 00:42:27,200
Speaker 1: like have time, and I'll go back, like you know,

762
00:42:27,200 --> 00:42:29,320
Speaker 1: I'll go to the d M requests or the Twitter

763
00:42:29,320 --> 00:42:31,480
Speaker 1: replies and like you know, our messages or whatever and

764
00:42:31,520 --> 00:42:35,440
Speaker 1: reply to them. I'll I usually just say, like, honestly,

765
00:42:35,520 --> 00:42:38,520
Speaker 1: in the beginning of like finding yourself and finding confidence,

766
00:42:38,560 --> 00:42:41,000
Speaker 1: which it's not gonna you're not gonna feel confident every day.

767
00:42:41,040 --> 00:42:43,080
Speaker 1: I don't. I feel insecure still too. It's not like

768
00:42:43,320 --> 00:42:46,719
Speaker 1: that went away. It's just about, like I say, like

769
00:42:46,800 --> 00:42:48,839
Speaker 1: the first step is faking it till you make it,

770
00:42:49,120 --> 00:42:52,120
Speaker 1: Like tell yourself that you are the coolest person in

771
00:42:52,160 --> 00:42:56,080
Speaker 1: the world and act that way, and then the more

772
00:42:56,120 --> 00:42:59,000
Speaker 1: that you do that, you will actually become that because

773
00:42:59,000 --> 00:43:02,440
Speaker 1: you like you, yeah, you faked it, and then you

774
00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:05,000
Speaker 1: realize that, oh wait, I am really awesome. You faked

775
00:43:05,000 --> 00:43:08,120
Speaker 1: it till you made it, So that's yeah, it's kind

776
00:43:08,160 --> 00:43:11,840
Speaker 1: of like habitual, like telling yourself that you look beautiful,

777
00:43:12,040 --> 00:43:15,879
Speaker 1: like actively exact complimenting yourself instead of I mean, I'm

778
00:43:15,960 --> 00:43:17,719
Speaker 1: the worst. I look in the mirror, you know, you

779
00:43:17,760 --> 00:43:19,400
Speaker 1: look in the mirror and it's like I don't like

780
00:43:19,440 --> 00:43:21,799
Speaker 1: how these clothes better, how my body looks, or how

781
00:43:21,840 --> 00:43:25,359
Speaker 1: my skin looks, and it's just everyone has this day.

782
00:43:25,440 --> 00:43:28,080
Speaker 1: I actively like do that. Like I literally sometimes if

783
00:43:28,080 --> 00:43:30,120
Speaker 1: I'm feeling like salzy about my body, like I will

784
00:43:30,160 --> 00:43:32,080
Speaker 1: literally get naked and stand in front of a mirror

785
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:36,319
Speaker 1: and like tell myself, like I love that part of

786
00:43:36,320 --> 00:43:38,080
Speaker 1: my body and like why I love it? Like it's

787
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:41,680
Speaker 1: like super weird and I do weird things. I think

788
00:43:41,800 --> 00:43:44,520
Speaker 1: like I do think saying things out loud and like

789
00:43:44,600 --> 00:43:47,640
Speaker 1: being proactive in that way does totally make a difference,

790
00:43:47,680 --> 00:43:49,399
Speaker 1: because it's like all mental, you know what I mean,

791
00:43:49,440 --> 00:43:51,239
Speaker 1: Like it really is. I think words and thoughts are

792
00:43:51,320 --> 00:43:54,600
Speaker 1: very powerful. They are, and it's all about like I

793
00:43:54,600 --> 00:43:56,279
Speaker 1: if I'm being I look in the mirror and I

794
00:43:56,280 --> 00:43:58,640
Speaker 1: feel negative about something and I'm like thinking all these

795
00:43:58,680 --> 00:44:02,640
Speaker 1: negative things. I'll be like, stop positivity. You need to

796
00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:04,600
Speaker 1: be positive. You have to train your brain and like

797
00:44:04,640 --> 00:44:06,239
Speaker 1: get those thoughts out of your head no matter how

798
00:44:06,320 --> 00:44:07,600
Speaker 1: much they like eat it you. And I think that's

799
00:44:07,600 --> 00:44:09,120
Speaker 1: a really good point too, because like I look in

800
00:44:09,160 --> 00:44:10,920
Speaker 1: the mirror and I do the same thing everyone does.

801
00:44:10,920 --> 00:44:14,200
Speaker 1: We're women. We have body dysmorphia, and so you know,

802
00:44:14,280 --> 00:44:15,959
Speaker 1: I'm like looking at my stomach and I'm like wow,

803
00:44:16,280 --> 00:44:18,400
Speaker 1: like I would look so much butterified, like abs and

804
00:44:18,480 --> 00:44:19,920
Speaker 1: you know, I didn't have this little pooch and all

805
00:44:19,920 --> 00:44:22,560
Speaker 1: this stuff, and I'm like, you know what, that stomach

806
00:44:22,680 --> 00:44:26,040
Speaker 1: right there is digesting all of my food. That stomach

807
00:44:26,239 --> 00:44:29,440
Speaker 1: is working hard every day for me. It's it's keeping

808
00:44:29,440 --> 00:44:32,719
Speaker 1: me alive. It's doing its best. Don't sit here and

809
00:44:32,760 --> 00:44:38,000
Speaker 1: criticize it, like, you know, like just be grateful. It's

810
00:44:38,040 --> 00:44:41,040
Speaker 1: so weird. It's like I try to. I try to

811
00:44:41,280 --> 00:44:44,799
Speaker 1: think about it. I think about it often because you know,

812
00:44:45,239 --> 00:44:47,320
Speaker 1: I just think it's like, yeah, we're inundated with photos

813
00:44:47,320 --> 00:44:49,560
Speaker 1: and things like that, and especially during this time because

814
00:44:49,560 --> 00:44:51,480
Speaker 1: I think everybody's just like eating more because we're at

815
00:44:51,520 --> 00:44:54,840
Speaker 1: home more and sitting more and just sitting, yeah, just

816
00:44:54,920 --> 00:44:57,479
Speaker 1: sitting and that, and it's just like it is. It's

817
00:44:57,560 --> 00:45:01,799
Speaker 1: it's it's so easy to be negative, especially like we're

818
00:45:01,840 --> 00:45:03,920
Speaker 1: our own worst critic. And it's so funny because I

819
00:45:03,920 --> 00:45:06,400
Speaker 1: can like build up my friends all the time, like

820
00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:08,880
Speaker 1: you're so beautiful, like you're crazy, you're so this or

821
00:45:08,920 --> 00:45:11,200
Speaker 1: so that, and then we talked to ourselves and we're

822
00:45:11,239 --> 00:45:13,120
Speaker 1: so mean to ourselves. And I'm always just like yeah,

823
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:14,360
Speaker 1: like it's like how do I get rid of this?

824
00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:16,359
Speaker 1: And how do I, you know, get rid of that,

825
00:45:16,440 --> 00:45:19,520
Speaker 1: and it's like it's just me. It's so hard to do.

826
00:45:19,600 --> 00:45:22,120
Speaker 1: But like every now and then, like I'll you know,

827
00:45:22,160 --> 00:45:24,879
Speaker 1: walk by a mirror something and i won't think I'm

828
00:45:24,920 --> 00:45:27,440
Speaker 1: looking at myself, you know, I'll just like glance in

829
00:45:27,480 --> 00:45:30,520
Speaker 1: a mirror and I'll like not register immediately that that's me,

830
00:45:31,160 --> 00:45:33,920
Speaker 1: And I'm like, hey, you're you're not as ugly as

831
00:45:34,000 --> 00:45:36,719
Speaker 1: you think you are right now, like you actually look

832
00:45:36,760 --> 00:45:40,439
Speaker 1: like a human being, and that's awesome. It's like don't yeah,

833
00:45:40,480 --> 00:45:42,719
Speaker 1: like you said, like we can't be so hard on ourselves.

834
00:45:43,040 --> 00:45:45,440
Speaker 1: I have the same thing for a while with my vagina,

835
00:45:45,640 --> 00:45:48,640
Speaker 1: Like I thought my vagina was so ugly and like

836
00:45:48,719 --> 00:45:50,840
Speaker 1: it didn't look like it was supposed to look like

837
00:45:50,840 --> 00:45:54,520
Speaker 1: like I've been there. And then when I like saw

838
00:45:54,560 --> 00:45:56,759
Speaker 1: what other people's vaginas looked like, I was like, oh

839
00:45:56,800 --> 00:45:59,680
Speaker 1: my gosh, they all look so different. Minds not ugly,

840
00:45:59,719 --> 00:46:03,360
Speaker 1: mind just like cute. It's because it's fine, it's cute.

841
00:46:03,360 --> 00:46:06,560
Speaker 1: And I watched like she's thirteen, I watched too many

842
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:09,160
Speaker 1: like porn vaginas, and I was like, dear God, like

843
00:46:09,200 --> 00:46:11,320
Speaker 1: why does it mine look that perfect? And then I

844
00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:16,400
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, everyone's looks different, and like every single

845
00:46:16,440 --> 00:46:19,000
Speaker 1: girl at some point has had that thought of like

846
00:46:20,200 --> 00:46:24,719
Speaker 1: why why does mine look like? Yea, even like my boobs,

847
00:46:24,719 --> 00:46:26,200
Speaker 1: Like I'm like you, we see all these photos of

848
00:46:26,200 --> 00:46:28,040
Speaker 1: people in bikinis and their boobs are all perked up,

849
00:46:28,080 --> 00:46:30,960
Speaker 1: and I'm like, mine just looked like what do I

850
00:46:31,160 --> 00:46:34,320
Speaker 1: kind of like I'm trying to think of the fruit

851
00:46:34,400 --> 00:46:36,880
Speaker 1: that they look like. I did this thing where I

852
00:46:37,000 --> 00:46:39,000
Speaker 1: stare at them for so long and I'm like just

853
00:46:39,040 --> 00:46:40,959
Speaker 1: looking at my boobies and I'm like, my right one

854
00:46:41,080 --> 00:46:43,680
Speaker 1: is so much bigger, and I'm like I look like

855
00:46:43,719 --> 00:46:46,320
Speaker 1: a freak of nature. But I've been staring in the

856
00:46:46,360 --> 00:46:48,279
Speaker 1: mirror for like ten minutes just looking at my tips,

857
00:46:48,320 --> 00:46:51,440
Speaker 1: and I'm like do people notice this too? Like does

858
00:46:51,480 --> 00:46:54,000
Speaker 1: everyone notice that my tips are two different sizes? And

859
00:46:54,040 --> 00:46:57,600
Speaker 1: it's like no, nobody notices. Nobody. Then, like my boobs,

860
00:46:57,640 --> 00:47:00,400
Speaker 1: I'm sure look fine to the common eye, but like

861
00:47:00,760 --> 00:47:03,000
Speaker 1: like I look at them and I'm like, it looks

862
00:47:03,040 --> 00:47:08,320
Speaker 1: like common em My boyfriend loves them and there's no complaints.

863
00:47:08,520 --> 00:47:10,520
Speaker 1: When I look at them, I see like the saggy

864
00:47:10,640 --> 00:47:13,040
Speaker 1: fruit and I can't put my finger on what I see,

865
00:47:13,239 --> 00:47:18,720
Speaker 1: but it's just like I'm so curious of what fruit

866
00:47:18,760 --> 00:47:21,080
Speaker 1: you're talking Like, Okay, they look like they're plump, they're

867
00:47:21,080 --> 00:47:22,920
Speaker 1: plump on top, and then they kind of get like

868
00:47:23,000 --> 00:47:25,359
Speaker 1: smaller and like like that, do you know what I'm

869
00:47:25,360 --> 00:47:27,359
Speaker 1: talking about? Like that type of boom that's just like

870
00:47:28,320 --> 00:47:34,400
Speaker 1: oh like um, like a squash, yellow squash. I can't

871
00:47:34,560 --> 00:47:41,000
Speaker 1: like a yellow. It's like an upside down squash. Yeah,

872
00:47:41,200 --> 00:47:47,840
Speaker 1: like a big and then it just yea, things out

873
00:47:47,400 --> 00:47:53,640
Speaker 1: are good, wonderful. I love titties. Yeah, I don't imagine

874
00:47:53,680 --> 00:47:57,640
Speaker 1: that most people, no one notices any of the things

875
00:47:57,640 --> 00:48:01,520
Speaker 1: that we criticize ourselves about them for. Since like I've

876
00:48:01,560 --> 00:48:03,799
Speaker 1: been I've been with men, I've been with women, and

877
00:48:03,840 --> 00:48:07,280
Speaker 1: like every woman I've been with, they've all had different boobs,

878
00:48:07,280 --> 00:48:10,680
Speaker 1: and I've never thought differently of them because like they

879
00:48:10,719 --> 00:48:13,279
Speaker 1: didn't have these perfect porn star boobs, you know what

880
00:48:13,280 --> 00:48:15,439
Speaker 1: I mean. Like I was like I loved, I loved

881
00:48:15,440 --> 00:48:18,520
Speaker 1: every single set of titties I've ever seen, like for

882
00:48:18,640 --> 00:48:24,000
Speaker 1: their own unique thing. There's no discriminating, No, there's not.

883
00:48:24,040 --> 00:48:25,600
Speaker 1: And it's like we get in our heads so hard

884
00:48:25,640 --> 00:48:28,560
Speaker 1: because we don't look like you know, this vision that

885
00:48:28,600 --> 00:48:31,040
Speaker 1: we have made up in our heads it's like perfect

886
00:48:31,480 --> 00:48:34,799
Speaker 1: and it's like no true. But I honestly, I think

887
00:48:34,880 --> 00:48:37,520
Speaker 1: like there's something that like I talk a lot about

888
00:48:37,719 --> 00:48:40,239
Speaker 1: um imposter syndrome and how I never feel good enough,

889
00:48:40,800 --> 00:48:43,880
Speaker 1: and it's crazy to me the amount of people that

890
00:48:43,920 --> 00:48:46,239
Speaker 1: reach out about the exact same feeling that they have,

891
00:48:46,360 --> 00:48:49,400
Speaker 1: and I think it all stems from these tiny little

892
00:48:49,520 --> 00:48:51,920
Speaker 1: insecurities that we have that all add up to this

893
00:48:52,040 --> 00:48:55,759
Speaker 1: like big overarching feeling that we have about ourselves. And

894
00:48:55,760 --> 00:48:57,359
Speaker 1: it's like we just have to, like I mean, take

895
00:48:57,400 --> 00:48:58,960
Speaker 1: it one step at a time and like peel it

896
00:48:58,960 --> 00:49:03,280
Speaker 1: back and really just kind of realized that like nobody's perfect.

897
00:49:03,840 --> 00:49:07,720
Speaker 1: We all look and feel and smell and like everything

898
00:49:07,800 --> 00:49:10,120
Speaker 1: just looks different and like, I don't know, it's so weird.

899
00:49:10,120 --> 00:49:12,800
Speaker 1: I'm having like these really weird life epiphanies during quarantine.

900
00:49:12,960 --> 00:49:15,200
Speaker 1: I love that for you, but it's so true because

901
00:49:15,400 --> 00:49:18,799
Speaker 1: we're so hard on ourselves. But if you think about it,

902
00:49:19,000 --> 00:49:22,480
Speaker 1: there's like nothing like whenever you like love somebody, like

903
00:49:22,520 --> 00:49:24,839
Speaker 1: even if it's your friend or a significant other and

904
00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:27,880
Speaker 1: you love them, you never would pick them apart because

905
00:49:27,880 --> 00:49:30,040
Speaker 1: like those things don't matter to you, because what matters

906
00:49:30,120 --> 00:49:31,799
Speaker 1: is like the relationship you have with them and like

907
00:49:31,840 --> 00:49:33,799
Speaker 1: the love you have for them, And it's like, why

908
00:49:33,800 --> 00:49:35,600
Speaker 1: do I think that the whole world is out to

909
00:49:35,600 --> 00:49:38,480
Speaker 1: get me? And everyone is thinking about how like my

910
00:49:38,520 --> 00:49:40,480
Speaker 1: body is not perfect and things like that, and it's

911
00:49:40,520 --> 00:49:43,080
Speaker 1: like they're not thinking it either, Like they're your friend,

912
00:49:43,160 --> 00:49:46,040
Speaker 1: your boyfriend, your girlfriend, whoever. They love you for you,

913
00:49:46,160 --> 00:49:52,000
Speaker 1: so quit tripping. Yeah, it's true. I had to quote

914
00:49:52,040 --> 00:49:55,200
Speaker 1: like I thought I how to like realization a few

915
00:49:55,280 --> 00:49:57,760
Speaker 1: months ago, and I was like, no one's ever changed

916
00:49:57,840 --> 00:50:00,520
Speaker 1: my life because of how they looked physically, Like I

917
00:50:00,600 --> 00:50:04,560
Speaker 1: just you know, people love you because of how you

918
00:50:04,560 --> 00:50:09,719
Speaker 1: make them feel. Really, I mean, so that's su true.

919
00:50:09,760 --> 00:50:12,319
Speaker 1: Wait are you on TikTok? I am, but I'm not.

920
00:50:12,480 --> 00:50:14,839
Speaker 1: I don't TikTok often. I should do it more, but

921
00:50:15,080 --> 00:50:18,239
Speaker 1: I am on TikTok. Do you enjoy it? Do you

922
00:50:18,280 --> 00:50:22,240
Speaker 1: find it difficult? Do you feel old? Um? I find

923
00:50:22,280 --> 00:50:26,799
Speaker 1: TikTok annoying and like it's hard to keep up with.

924
00:50:26,960 --> 00:50:29,279
Speaker 1: And it's like, here's the thing I hate. I hate

925
00:50:29,320 --> 00:50:33,400
Speaker 1: all this stage stuff. Like you know, lately, I've been

926
00:50:33,400 --> 00:50:35,160
Speaker 1: seeing a lot of these things where somebody will go

927
00:50:35,280 --> 00:50:39,440
Speaker 1: up to a random a random person and be like, hey,

928
00:50:39,800 --> 00:50:42,520
Speaker 1: throw their iPad across the mall, and then they'll be

929
00:50:42,560 --> 00:50:45,319
Speaker 1: like what happened And then they like bring out a

930
00:50:45,320 --> 00:50:48,040
Speaker 1: new iPad out of their backpack and I'm like, okay,

931
00:50:48,080 --> 00:50:50,319
Speaker 1: you're an idiot, like that didn't. This is all a fake.

932
00:50:50,440 --> 00:50:53,040
Speaker 1: You know that person like you staged this. I need

933
00:50:53,120 --> 00:50:58,520
Speaker 1: some good, authentic quality videos here. But then sometimes I

934
00:50:58,520 --> 00:51:01,080
Speaker 1: can find myself on there. Don't really get on there much.

935
00:51:01,080 --> 00:51:03,520
Speaker 1: I probably get on maybe like once every couple of

936
00:51:03,560 --> 00:51:05,759
Speaker 1: weeks just to look and I can get in a

937
00:51:05,800 --> 00:51:08,919
Speaker 1: hole like I'm like, yeah, I'm I'll be TikToker. And

938
00:51:09,400 --> 00:51:12,160
Speaker 1: everyone always wants to make TikTok's too. Now that's exhausting,

939
00:51:12,239 --> 00:51:14,759
Speaker 1: you know. You want to just chat with somebody or like,

940
00:51:14,800 --> 00:51:17,360
Speaker 1: you know, my boyfriend want to hang out or something,

941
00:51:17,440 --> 00:51:19,799
Speaker 1: and he's like, like a dick talk, and I'm like,

942
00:51:20,080 --> 00:51:22,120
Speaker 1: that's the last thing I want to do. I don't

943
00:51:22,120 --> 00:51:24,840
Speaker 1: want to practice for three hours to make a dick talk.

944
00:51:26,800 --> 00:51:29,160
Speaker 1: I know it's so much, it's so much work. I've

945
00:51:29,160 --> 00:51:31,080
Speaker 1: been trying to do it, but I'm like, this isn't

946
00:51:32,080 --> 00:51:33,880
Speaker 1: I'm doing it because I feel like I need to,

947
00:51:34,080 --> 00:51:36,160
Speaker 1: but I'm not really having fun because it's a lot

948
00:51:36,200 --> 00:51:37,960
Speaker 1: of well, what is the point in doing it if

949
00:51:37,960 --> 00:51:42,120
Speaker 1: it's not fun for the cloud? And it would be fun,

950
00:51:42,480 --> 00:51:45,040
Speaker 1: but I'm not there. I'm trying to get these kids

951
00:51:45,080 --> 00:51:47,040
Speaker 1: to follow me. I'm trying to keep up my cloud.

952
00:51:47,080 --> 00:51:51,440
Speaker 1: I'm trying to stay relevant, and like I am, the

953
00:51:51,600 --> 00:51:55,799
Speaker 1: kids on there, they did not watch The Bachelor when

954
00:51:55,800 --> 00:51:57,920
Speaker 1: I was on there, so I don't really stand a chance.

955
00:51:57,960 --> 00:52:04,080
Speaker 1: So really, I just I just won't give up. But wait,

956
00:52:04,320 --> 00:52:06,840
Speaker 1: I also saw that you have spent a lot of

957
00:52:06,880 --> 00:52:09,520
Speaker 1: time playing Nintendo Switch. Oh yeah, it's right next to me.

958
00:52:11,120 --> 00:52:13,400
Speaker 1: What do you do? Do you do Mario Kart? I

959
00:52:13,440 --> 00:52:16,600
Speaker 1: do play Mario Kart. I play with Slater's brother sometimes,

960
00:52:16,640 --> 00:52:19,560
Speaker 1: but mainly I play Animal Crossing. I'm full blown addicted

961
00:52:19,760 --> 00:52:24,640
Speaker 1: and I can't stop. Yeah. I haven't gotten into Animal Crossing,

962
00:52:24,640 --> 00:52:26,520
Speaker 1: but I do some. I do some good work on

963
00:52:26,640 --> 00:52:30,080
Speaker 1: Mario Kart. Oh you have a switch? Okay, after this,

964
00:52:30,120 --> 00:52:31,760
Speaker 1: you have to send me your friend code. You should

965
00:52:31,760 --> 00:52:34,080
Speaker 1: get into Animal Crossing. And if you're into that kind

966
00:52:34,080 --> 00:52:35,879
Speaker 1: of thing. Like, I don't know what your video game

967
00:52:35,960 --> 00:52:40,479
Speaker 1: vibe is, but it's really really nice. I didn't ever

968
00:52:40,560 --> 00:52:44,120
Speaker 1: really have a video game vibe before, Like, you know

969
00:52:44,200 --> 00:52:47,000
Speaker 1: playing I play Donkey Kong and stuff growing up, but

970
00:52:47,120 --> 00:52:50,400
Speaker 1: Mario Kart. Tanya checks out at this conversation because she does,

971
00:52:50,640 --> 00:52:53,160
Speaker 1: I will I will never have a I will never

972
00:52:53,320 --> 00:52:57,319
Speaker 1: have a video game bybe That'll be like like if

973
00:52:57,360 --> 00:53:00,920
Speaker 1: I run out of like play rooms, to mean books,

974
00:53:00,920 --> 00:53:04,840
Speaker 1: to read, TV shows, to watch manicures, to do things

975
00:53:04,880 --> 00:53:09,759
Speaker 1: to pluck, then I might play have you things to plug? Right?

976
00:53:10,200 --> 00:53:14,920
Speaker 1: What are you plucking beside your brows? One time I

977
00:53:14,920 --> 00:53:16,960
Speaker 1: had to pluck my bikini line because I couldn't get

978
00:53:17,000 --> 00:53:19,880
Speaker 1: into my waxing appointment. I've heard about people doing that before.

979
00:53:20,280 --> 00:53:25,000
Speaker 1: M Becca, I need to know. Did you ever play SIMS? No?

980
00:53:25,120 --> 00:53:29,239
Speaker 1: I didn't, But Animal Crossings is it's similar to SIMS, right,

981
00:53:29,320 --> 00:53:31,520
Speaker 1: yeah kind of? It kind of is. Like That's why

982
00:53:31,600 --> 00:53:33,120
Speaker 1: I was wondering if you had played it, because if

983
00:53:33,120 --> 00:53:36,480
Speaker 1: you like SIMS and you'd really like Animal Crossing, yeah

984
00:53:36,520 --> 00:53:38,520
Speaker 1: I didn't, But I mean my friends who are into

985
00:53:38,520 --> 00:53:42,560
Speaker 1: Animal Crossing are like in it. It's like really really dangerous.

986
00:53:42,600 --> 00:53:45,000
Speaker 1: I'm like so addicted and like it's all I think about.

987
00:53:45,040 --> 00:53:47,359
Speaker 1: And if I'm not playing it on my switch, I'm

988
00:53:47,440 --> 00:53:50,080
Speaker 1: reading about it on a subreddit and I'm reading I'm

989
00:53:50,080 --> 00:53:52,960
Speaker 1: like getting inspiration from all this stuff. I'm reading articles

990
00:53:52,960 --> 00:53:56,960
Speaker 1: about animal crossing like it's gotten out of hand. Wow,

991
00:53:57,080 --> 00:54:00,160
Speaker 1: that's yeah, you're pretty the articles in the subre it,

992
00:54:00,239 --> 00:54:07,040
Speaker 1: so that's you've really committed. I'm in deep. Yeah. Um, well,

993
00:54:07,080 --> 00:54:09,280
Speaker 1: can you tell people where they can listen to your podcast?

994
00:54:09,360 --> 00:54:13,160
Speaker 1: It launched on April, and you've had Slater, you have

995
00:54:13,200 --> 00:54:15,480
Speaker 1: an episode of Slater, and you have um an episode

996
00:54:15,480 --> 00:54:18,480
Speaker 1: with Ashley and Jared. Yeah. I want to say I Connett,

997
00:54:18,680 --> 00:54:22,040
Speaker 1: but have been That's right. I know. I never know

998
00:54:22,080 --> 00:54:24,719
Speaker 1: what to say. I could, you know, I couldn't even

999
00:54:24,760 --> 00:54:27,480
Speaker 1: Actually I couldn't say her last name for like the

1000
00:54:27,520 --> 00:54:30,279
Speaker 1: first year I knew her. I was like, as we

1001
00:54:30,480 --> 00:54:37,279
Speaker 1: I I something'll always I really like I like them

1002
00:54:37,280 --> 00:54:39,120
Speaker 1: both a lot. Um. Yeah, So you can listen to

1003
00:54:39,160 --> 00:54:42,560
Speaker 1: my podcast on Spotify and on Apple podcasts and on

1004
00:54:42,719 --> 00:54:46,120
Speaker 1: podcast one an on podcast one, so everyone check it out.

1005
00:54:46,160 --> 00:54:48,680
Speaker 1: Thank you Jimmy for taking time to hang out with us,

1006
00:54:48,840 --> 00:54:52,279
Speaker 1: and hopefully we'll meet in person one day. I know, right,

1007
00:54:52,320 --> 00:54:54,000
Speaker 1: Oh no, it's over. I'm so sad. I was having

1008
00:54:54,040 --> 00:54:56,960
Speaker 1: a great time, but like I was having a girl's night,

1009
00:54:57,040 --> 00:55:00,160
Speaker 1: I had more to talk about. Animal cross and come on, lady, ease,

1010
00:55:00,239 --> 00:55:04,520
Speaker 1: let's chat. No, I'm just kidding. All right, thanks so much,

1011
00:55:04,600 --> 00:55:21,680
Speaker 1: Thank you so much, Thank you guys. Have a great night. Um.

1012
00:55:21,719 --> 00:55:24,080
Speaker 1: I really love her and I need to get her

1013
00:55:24,320 --> 00:55:29,720
Speaker 1: Nintendo Switch. I'd play some games. Yeah, so just Tanya,

1014
00:55:29,880 --> 00:55:31,880
Speaker 1: it's an urgent matter. We need to get time to

1015
00:55:31,880 --> 00:55:36,960
Speaker 1: play a video games. I know she would love it

1016
00:55:37,400 --> 00:55:40,400
Speaker 1: after she got into it. No, I want to play Taboo.

1017
00:55:40,480 --> 00:55:41,840
Speaker 1: I still I am so exct we didn't play that

1018
00:55:41,840 --> 00:55:45,840
Speaker 1: at our picnic. Really fun? Can you social differance taboo?

1019
00:55:45,840 --> 00:55:48,160
Speaker 1: Because you have to look over their shoulder and buzz them.

1020
00:55:48,200 --> 00:55:51,000
Speaker 1: Oh you do. I don't really know how to play. Yeah,

1021
00:55:51,040 --> 00:55:53,920
Speaker 1: you have to look at the same card. Yeah, it

1022
00:55:53,960 --> 00:55:59,719
Speaker 1: would be was more appropriate I guess for social distancing. Um,

1023
00:56:00,040 --> 00:56:03,800
Speaker 1: so mark email. We have some emails you want to answer.

1024
00:56:03,880 --> 00:56:08,120
Speaker 1: And then we have a guest Zoom, who was supposed

1025
00:56:08,120 --> 00:56:10,799
Speaker 1: to be part of our virtual live podcast, but there

1026
00:56:10,880 --> 00:56:14,799
Speaker 1: was a miscommunication. If you can't even believe that that

1027
00:56:14,840 --> 00:56:19,960
Speaker 1: could happen in that live show. Um, somebody remember that

1028
00:56:20,040 --> 00:56:22,480
Speaker 1: when when we brought in somebody and I said, hi,

1029
00:56:22,800 --> 00:56:25,040
Speaker 1: your name is Caitlyn, As she goes, no, my Emily

1030
00:56:25,120 --> 00:56:28,160
Speaker 1: is like, okay, Well, Caitlin was supposed to Caitlin was

1031
00:56:28,160 --> 00:56:29,680
Speaker 1: supposed to be part of that and she didn't get

1032
00:56:29,719 --> 00:56:33,360
Speaker 1: to be. So we're gonna we're in say hi, yes, hello,

1033
00:56:33,880 --> 00:56:45,640
Speaker 1: hey guys. We're so dumb this whole time. No black

1034
00:56:45,680 --> 00:56:49,960
Speaker 1: for a while, it's just a black screen. Oh hi hi.

1035
00:56:50,880 --> 00:56:55,120
Speaker 1: Sorry that the virtue of the live virtual podcast moment

1036
00:56:55,160 --> 00:56:58,280
Speaker 1: didn't work out. But here we are. We made it happen.

1037
00:56:59,120 --> 00:57:01,480
Speaker 1: I can't believe that I have the best husband in

1038
00:57:01,520 --> 00:57:09,720
Speaker 1: the world. He made things happen. Yes, yes, husband, that's pretty.

1039
00:57:09,840 --> 00:57:15,960
Speaker 1: That's a girth the word. No, it's not. They're married,

1040
00:57:16,280 --> 00:57:20,280
Speaker 1: I know, but that's a big word. Yeah, it's the

1041
00:57:20,400 --> 00:57:27,120
Speaker 1: right word. How long have you been married? Do you

1042
00:57:27,280 --> 00:57:32,640
Speaker 1: want tomorrow? I knew you were newly weds. Well they

1043
00:57:32,680 --> 00:57:37,040
Speaker 1: look like they're in high school. That's why you knew that. Ye. Wait,

1044
00:57:37,040 --> 00:57:42,080
Speaker 1: where do you all live? North Carolina? Oh? Nice? There's

1045
00:57:42,080 --> 00:57:46,640
Speaker 1: a tropical storm coming there right or happening. That's actually

1046
00:57:46,640 --> 00:57:49,840
Speaker 1: funny because we're actually at his aunt's beach house right now,

1047
00:57:50,000 --> 00:57:52,720
Speaker 1: and we weren't sure about coming because our weather app

1048
00:57:52,720 --> 00:57:55,840
Speaker 1: said tropical storm. But we sat out all day. It

1049
00:57:55,880 --> 00:57:58,680
Speaker 1: was super hot, it's not raining we have I don't know,

1050
00:58:00,320 --> 00:58:09,280
Speaker 1: interesting they're lying. I'm just kidding. Um wait, so yeah,

1051
00:58:09,400 --> 00:58:13,520
Speaker 1: y'all are y'all? Um? Is it? What? What is everything

1052
00:58:13,560 --> 00:58:17,160
Speaker 1: like in North Carolina right now? Are rules strict? What

1053
00:58:17,520 --> 00:58:23,240
Speaker 1: is Are the beaches crowded? What's the de leo? Um?

1054
00:58:23,280 --> 00:58:26,240
Speaker 1: The beach wasn't crowded at all, but like restaurants are

1055
00:58:26,240 --> 00:58:31,480
Speaker 1: still closed? Um? What else even is there? I still

1056
00:58:31,480 --> 00:58:36,240
Speaker 1: work because I'm a grass so unfortunately I haven't gotten quarantine.

1057
00:58:36,320 --> 00:58:45,360
Speaker 1: But yeah, what you haven't gotten to quarantine? No? I know,

1058
00:58:45,520 --> 00:58:48,880
Speaker 1: but it's almost like having the opportunity to still work

1059
00:58:48,920 --> 00:58:52,560
Speaker 1: and make money. It's actually like ye blessing right now

1060
00:58:53,160 --> 00:58:57,800
Speaker 1: for sure. Yeah, it's been really good. Yeah. Wait, we're

1061
00:58:57,800 --> 00:59:02,800
Speaker 1: really thankful for that. How did you meet? What's your story?

1062
00:59:03,120 --> 00:59:06,840
Speaker 1: So we met in college actually, um, I was a

1063
00:59:06,880 --> 00:59:10,720
Speaker 1: senior when he was a freshman, and so he liked me,

1064
00:59:10,760 --> 00:59:13,920
Speaker 1: and I had no idea. I mean people, we were

1065
00:59:13,920 --> 00:59:15,919
Speaker 1: like really good friends who hang out all the time,

1066
00:59:16,360 --> 00:59:18,600
Speaker 1: and so people would always ask me if i'd be

1067
00:59:18,640 --> 00:59:20,960
Speaker 1: interest said, and I'm like, heck no, he's a freshman.

1068
00:59:21,080 --> 00:59:23,400
Speaker 1: Like I'm cooler than that. You know, I'm not going

1069
00:59:23,440 --> 00:59:27,360
Speaker 1: to day, the younger guy, and then we just we're

1070
00:59:27,480 --> 00:59:30,520
Speaker 1: best friends for I don't know, probably like a semester

1071
00:59:30,560 --> 00:59:33,680
Speaker 1: and a half. And then finally he asked me out,

1072
00:59:33,920 --> 00:59:38,440
Speaker 1: and yeah, so there as a story. So you liked

1073
00:59:38,480 --> 00:59:41,560
Speaker 1: whom you just were like, I can't be a senior

1074
00:59:41,560 --> 00:59:44,440
Speaker 1: who dates a freshman. I think so, yeah, I just

1075
00:59:44,560 --> 00:59:48,640
Speaker 1: my ego wouldn't let me admit that. I like the

1076
00:59:48,840 --> 00:59:53,960
Speaker 1: societal expectations and pressure. I know it. I'm into it.

1077
00:59:54,040 --> 01:00:03,560
Speaker 1: Love me a younger guy, me out. That's a girthy word.

1078
01:00:03,720 --> 01:00:06,560
Speaker 1: Don plus a younger guy who can who can rock

1079
01:00:06,600 --> 01:00:11,600
Speaker 1: a friend's hoodie? You gotta like that? Yeah, I love

1080
01:00:12,680 --> 01:00:19,440
Speaker 1: best show ever, dream guy, I will fig out. He

1081
01:00:20,080 --> 01:00:24,360
Speaker 1: when when we were dating, I had him voting for

1082
01:00:24,520 --> 01:00:30,840
Speaker 1: the People's Choice toward every day, I was like, thank you.

1083
01:00:32,120 --> 01:00:35,200
Speaker 1: I know it's really our votes that put you all through.

1084
01:00:35,320 --> 01:00:38,840
Speaker 1: So you're welcome. Yeah. I had a feeling when when

1085
01:00:39,280 --> 01:00:41,160
Speaker 1: I saw y'all, it was like, oh, they're the reason

1086
01:00:41,240 --> 01:00:47,440
Speaker 1: we want the People's Choice. You're welcome. I really appreciate you.

1087
01:00:47,520 --> 01:00:54,200
Speaker 1: Thank you for Wow, that's glory. Um, Wait, what did

1088
01:00:54,280 --> 01:00:57,479
Speaker 1: you all think about the live virtual podcast? He really

1089
01:00:57,520 --> 01:01:01,000
Speaker 1: like you were dying like I would crying, lasting so

1090
01:01:01,040 --> 01:01:03,320
Speaker 1: hard that Tanya kept trying and did get a hold

1091
01:01:03,320 --> 01:01:09,960
Speaker 1: of you guys. It was it wasn't planned or anything,

1092
01:01:10,000 --> 01:01:14,960
Speaker 1: but I know afterwards, like we were so stressed out,

1093
01:01:15,000 --> 01:01:17,360
Speaker 1: and then the response was so positive that we're like,

1094
01:01:17,840 --> 01:01:19,640
Speaker 1: if we try to do another one, do we need

1095
01:01:19,680 --> 01:01:24,240
Speaker 1: to incorporate disaster for it to be successful, because like

1096
01:01:24,240 --> 01:01:26,600
Speaker 1: the perfectionist in me was like, really, just I didn't

1097
01:01:26,640 --> 01:01:28,200
Speaker 1: sleep well that night, Like I had to take a

1098
01:01:28,200 --> 01:01:30,560
Speaker 1: bath and like really come down from that. Like it

1099
01:01:30,720 --> 01:01:34,440
Speaker 1: was like I was really round up. Yeah, it was

1100
01:01:34,440 --> 01:01:37,920
Speaker 1: pretty stressful until we until we were able to realize

1101
01:01:37,960 --> 01:01:41,560
Speaker 1: that people had fun. Yeah, totally, because when I saw

1102
01:01:41,600 --> 01:01:43,280
Speaker 1: the start of seeing the comment was like, oh people,

1103
01:01:44,120 --> 01:01:49,880
Speaker 1: we liked it. That's great. Now we loved it. We

1104
01:01:49,920 --> 01:01:52,479
Speaker 1: watched every second of it. It was a real range

1105
01:01:52,480 --> 01:01:58,960
Speaker 1: of emotions and emotional roller coasters. Some may say that

1106
01:01:58,960 --> 01:02:02,320
Speaker 1: that is Tanya's life, though it is an emotional little creaster.

1107
01:02:03,400 --> 01:02:08,880
Speaker 1: We're here for um. Well, thank you all so much.

1108
01:02:08,880 --> 01:02:11,160
Speaker 1: I'm glad we have to finally talk to y'all. Even

1109
01:02:11,200 --> 01:02:13,720
Speaker 1: though it wasn't as planned, I'm glad it worked out

1110
01:02:13,840 --> 01:02:16,840
Speaker 1: and y'all be safe at the beach, watch out for

1111
01:02:16,880 --> 01:02:23,120
Speaker 1: the potential tropical storm. And congrats on your newly wedding.

1112
01:02:24,160 --> 01:02:31,600
Speaker 1: Thank you your new weddedness. Congrat wedded bliss. Oh that's

1113
01:02:31,600 --> 01:02:35,160
Speaker 1: what she said. Okay, thank you, thank you, welcome Bye, guys,

1114
01:02:35,200 --> 01:02:40,800
Speaker 1: all right bye, it's wrong with me in quarantine. I

1115
01:02:40,960 --> 01:02:44,080
Speaker 1: can't even speak. No change. I have not detected any

1116
01:02:44,120 --> 01:02:48,320
Speaker 1: kind of change there. Yeah, I mean, it's just like

1117
01:02:48,360 --> 01:02:52,280
Speaker 1: your phrases that you always say nothing good luck on

1118
01:02:52,320 --> 01:02:55,960
Speaker 1: your wedding weddings there by the way, it's so cute

1119
01:02:55,960 --> 01:03:02,040
Speaker 1: those two. I know, they're so cute. I love a

1120
01:03:02,040 --> 01:03:05,439
Speaker 1: guy that watches shows that I like, you know, I mean,

1121
01:03:05,440 --> 01:03:08,280
Speaker 1: friends is pretty universal, I feel like on both sides.

1122
01:03:08,360 --> 01:03:11,120
Speaker 1: But it's so fun when like he was wearing a sweatshirt.

1123
01:03:11,160 --> 01:03:14,760
Speaker 1: That's ultimate fan. I can't wait for the day till

1124
01:03:14,800 --> 01:03:17,439
Speaker 1: I sit down to watch episode one of season one

1125
01:03:17,880 --> 01:03:19,760
Speaker 1: of Gray's Nammy with Red Star. It's gonna be a

1126
01:03:19,800 --> 01:03:24,520
Speaker 1: beautiful day. Oh, I don't be a really big moment

1127
01:03:24,560 --> 01:03:27,400
Speaker 1: for yall. Relationship might be the knife that I'll say

1128
01:03:27,440 --> 01:03:30,880
Speaker 1: the L word to each other might be probably not,

1129
01:03:30,960 --> 01:03:36,680
Speaker 1: But um, okay, do we want to do some emails

1130
01:03:36,760 --> 01:03:40,400
Speaker 1: that we got? Yes? Yes, indeed, this is an anonymous

1131
01:03:40,400 --> 01:03:43,240
Speaker 1: email er. I grew up in a very conservative Christian family,

1132
01:03:43,280 --> 01:03:46,280
Speaker 1: and I've been secretly dating my best friend for two years.

1133
01:03:46,840 --> 01:03:49,960
Speaker 1: We're both female. I'm thirty one, she's twenty eight. I

1134
01:03:50,040 --> 01:03:52,280
Speaker 1: know my family and some friends would not be supportive

1135
01:03:52,280 --> 01:03:54,280
Speaker 1: of this. I hate living a lie, but I'm so

1136
01:03:54,320 --> 01:03:56,840
Speaker 1: scared to tell everyone any advice. We've been living together

1137
01:03:56,880 --> 01:03:59,560
Speaker 1: for five years, but my family thinks we just roommates.

1138
01:04:00,040 --> 01:04:01,360
Speaker 1: This is kind of what we covered a couple of

1139
01:04:01,400 --> 01:04:03,480
Speaker 1: weeks ago with that documentary. We were talking about how

1140
01:04:03,520 --> 01:04:07,400
Speaker 1: it's so difficult that you have to live you have

1141
01:04:07,440 --> 01:04:09,640
Speaker 1: to hide these things from people. But it's a tough

1142
01:04:09,680 --> 01:04:11,960
Speaker 1: situation because it sounds like you don't have a choice

1143
01:04:12,040 --> 01:04:17,320
Speaker 1: in a lot of ways. Yeah. Um, it's so interesting.

1144
01:04:18,800 --> 01:04:23,600
Speaker 1: I'm reading this book by Glennon Doyle and she the

1145
01:04:23,600 --> 01:04:26,120
Speaker 1: book is called Untamed, and her story is that she

1146
01:04:26,240 --> 01:04:29,360
Speaker 1: was like a Christian blogger and author who was married

1147
01:04:29,360 --> 01:04:32,520
Speaker 1: with kids and then um. One of her books was

1148
01:04:32,560 --> 01:04:37,360
Speaker 1: about rebuilding her marriage to her husband after he was unfaithful,

1149
01:04:37,840 --> 01:04:40,080
Speaker 1: and during her book tour, she fell in love with

1150
01:04:40,080 --> 01:04:44,120
Speaker 1: a woman that she met at one of the like

1151
01:04:44,160 --> 01:04:46,720
Speaker 1: I guess a conference or something, but it's she's a

1152
01:04:46,720 --> 01:04:50,240
Speaker 1: soccer player, Abby Wombox, she's like famous, but she fell

1153
01:04:50,240 --> 01:04:55,000
Speaker 1: in love with her and made the decision to continue

1154
01:04:55,040 --> 01:04:57,800
Speaker 1: that relationship and in her marriage with her husband, which

1155
01:04:57,880 --> 01:05:01,240
Speaker 1: was already like not you know, she was trying her best,

1156
01:05:01,280 --> 01:05:05,640
Speaker 1: but um, And she was talking about how when they

1157
01:05:05,680 --> 01:05:08,560
Speaker 1: first got together, a lot of her family members, her

1158
01:05:08,880 --> 01:05:11,880
Speaker 1: mom specifically, was really fearful of what people would think.

1159
01:05:12,000 --> 01:05:15,120
Speaker 1: And I think a lot of times that's especially parents,

1160
01:05:15,160 --> 01:05:17,400
Speaker 1: that's their fear is like what are their kids going

1161
01:05:17,440 --> 01:05:21,040
Speaker 1: to go through from society and what people think? And

1162
01:05:21,080 --> 01:05:23,640
Speaker 1: it's not even it's more it's out of a place

1163
01:05:23,720 --> 01:05:27,280
Speaker 1: of love, but it's a place of fear too. It's

1164
01:05:27,480 --> 01:05:30,960
Speaker 1: and and obviously there's some people who are just homophobic

1165
01:05:31,120 --> 01:05:34,920
Speaker 1: and hateful and they're gonna have their stance forever. But

1166
01:05:35,000 --> 01:05:36,680
Speaker 1: I think a lot of times, when it's family and

1167
01:05:36,720 --> 01:05:38,880
Speaker 1: friends who love you, it comes from a place of

1168
01:05:38,960 --> 01:05:41,600
Speaker 1: fear of what are people going to think and how

1169
01:05:41,640 --> 01:05:46,280
Speaker 1: are you going to be treated in this world? And anyways,

1170
01:05:46,280 --> 01:05:48,560
Speaker 1: Glennon was saying that she was her mom was really

1171
01:05:48,600 --> 01:05:52,040
Speaker 1: worried about that, and Abby was like, listen, we're on

1172
01:05:52,080 --> 01:05:56,080
Speaker 1: this island and we love each other and we celebrate

1173
01:05:56,120 --> 01:06:00,240
Speaker 1: our love and our kids. Um, celebrate our love, and

1174
01:06:00,240 --> 01:06:03,560
Speaker 1: we're not going to let fear or hate or people

1175
01:06:03,600 --> 01:06:06,920
Speaker 1: who don't understand our relationship come onto our island like

1176
01:06:06,960 --> 01:06:09,760
Speaker 1: they're not allowed to be here. And so I think

1177
01:06:10,000 --> 01:06:13,120
Speaker 1: you're as long as you feel that it's safe for

1178
01:06:13,200 --> 01:06:16,680
Speaker 1: it to be yours in private, I think that's okay.

1179
01:06:16,720 --> 01:06:18,480
Speaker 1: But if there are people in your life who you

1180
01:06:18,520 --> 01:06:20,800
Speaker 1: trust that you can share it with, that you know

1181
01:06:20,880 --> 01:06:23,640
Speaker 1: will support you and love you through it, then I

1182
01:06:23,680 --> 01:06:26,240
Speaker 1: say invite them onto your island and let them be

1183
01:06:26,280 --> 01:06:31,080
Speaker 1: there to support you. Um, because you'll be surprised by people,

1184
01:06:31,400 --> 01:06:36,000
Speaker 1: and you have to give people the chance to surprise you. UM.

1185
01:06:36,120 --> 01:06:40,120
Speaker 1: So I'm really sorry. It's a really tough thing to

1186
01:06:40,200 --> 01:06:44,040
Speaker 1: go through. And after watching that documentary, it was really

1187
01:06:44,040 --> 01:06:47,840
Speaker 1: eye opening because this wasn't a time where people literally

1188
01:06:47,840 --> 01:06:51,160
Speaker 1: got thrown in jail or were murdered for who they love.

1189
01:06:51,800 --> 01:06:54,880
Speaker 1: And luckily we've come a long way. But I totally

1190
01:06:54,880 --> 01:07:00,440
Speaker 1: get coming from a conservative Christian family, So I mean,

1191
01:07:00,520 --> 01:07:05,680
Speaker 1: I don't even honestly like, I I don't even know

1192
01:07:05,720 --> 01:07:09,000
Speaker 1: how to explain how I would feel in that situation,

1193
01:07:09,040 --> 01:07:11,640
Speaker 1: because I think if if I was ever made to feel,

1194
01:07:12,440 --> 01:07:16,360
Speaker 1: you know, like I couldn't share, um, especially with my family,

1195
01:07:16,520 --> 01:07:18,440
Speaker 1: the person that I love and want to be with,

1196
01:07:18,600 --> 01:07:20,080
Speaker 1: I just feel like that's such a that's such a

1197
01:07:20,120 --> 01:07:22,280
Speaker 1: hard and difficult place to be in. And so I

1198
01:07:22,320 --> 01:07:24,480
Speaker 1: think that you just kind of have to listen to

1199
01:07:24,520 --> 01:07:28,800
Speaker 1: your heart and go with what feels the best for you.

1200
01:07:29,640 --> 01:07:31,840
Speaker 1: Um But just know that, like there's so many people

1201
01:07:31,880 --> 01:07:34,080
Speaker 1: that I've walked this walk before you, and they've gotten

1202
01:07:34,080 --> 01:07:36,520
Speaker 1: through it, and they've been able to like open up

1203
01:07:36,520 --> 01:07:38,400
Speaker 1: to their family and open up to their friends and

1204
01:07:38,440 --> 01:07:41,080
Speaker 1: like live this life of feeling free. And I think

1205
01:07:41,120 --> 01:07:44,600
Speaker 1: there's something so important about feeling that sense of freedom

1206
01:07:44,640 --> 01:07:48,280
Speaker 1: for yourself. Um. So, just know that, like a lot

1207
01:07:48,280 --> 01:07:50,360
Speaker 1: of people have walked that same journey as you, and

1208
01:07:50,400 --> 01:07:52,040
Speaker 1: they've gotten on the other side. So it's like the

1209
01:07:52,120 --> 01:07:54,920
Speaker 1: storm only lasts for so long, Like there's sunlight at

1210
01:07:54,920 --> 01:07:58,160
Speaker 1: the end of the day. Yeah. I was also going

1211
01:07:58,200 --> 01:08:00,800
Speaker 1: to say, there's so many people, Like if your friends

1212
01:08:00,800 --> 01:08:04,120
Speaker 1: and family they don't support you, and they don't support

1213
01:08:04,120 --> 01:08:08,000
Speaker 1: you in love with who you're who you love, there

1214
01:08:08,000 --> 01:08:11,520
Speaker 1: are so many people who have their arms open and

1215
01:08:11,560 --> 01:08:13,760
Speaker 1: are ready to support you and love you. Like, there

1216
01:08:13,800 --> 01:08:17,080
Speaker 1: are such a huge community in the LGBTQ community and

1217
01:08:17,200 --> 01:08:22,200
Speaker 1: people who, I would say, if not more, come from

1218
01:08:22,360 --> 01:08:26,160
Speaker 1: your same background and have the same fears that you do.

1219
01:08:26,360 --> 01:08:30,280
Speaker 1: And um, I think maybe you reach out to people

1220
01:08:30,320 --> 01:08:33,200
Speaker 1: who have been in your situation and find a new

1221
01:08:33,240 --> 01:08:38,880
Speaker 1: community if you're current one doesn't support your life and

1222
01:08:38,960 --> 01:08:42,920
Speaker 1: who you love, right And oh, last thing is that

1223
01:08:43,120 --> 01:08:45,559
Speaker 1: Kaitlin Bristow post a quote the other day and it

1224
01:08:45,680 --> 01:08:47,680
Speaker 1: was something along let me see if I can find it.

1225
01:08:47,960 --> 01:08:55,080
Speaker 1: It was something along the lines of um. It was

1226
01:08:55,680 --> 01:08:59,639
Speaker 1: because like we're always scared to do things. She said,

1227
01:08:59,680 --> 01:09:03,640
Speaker 1: if you can't beat fear, do it scared. So like

1228
01:09:04,400 --> 01:09:06,800
Speaker 1: you're probably there's never going to be a moment where

1229
01:09:06,800 --> 01:09:10,479
Speaker 1: you don't feel scared to tell your parents or your

1230
01:09:10,720 --> 01:09:13,639
Speaker 1: family or your friends of truth. But you can do

1231
01:09:13,680 --> 01:09:17,639
Speaker 1: it scared. And like TOMMYA said, there is the other

1232
01:09:17,720 --> 01:09:20,920
Speaker 1: side to where you are. I gotta say, um, step

1233
01:09:21,000 --> 01:09:24,040
Speaker 1: on the other side of fear. That reminds me of

1234
01:09:24,080 --> 01:09:26,240
Speaker 1: a quote I've used with my daughters that that being

1235
01:09:26,320 --> 01:09:28,720
Speaker 1: brave and pretending to be brave are the same thing.

1236
01:09:29,560 --> 01:09:34,880
Speaker 1: It's so true. Um. So we talked earlier in this

1237
01:09:34,920 --> 01:09:37,360
Speaker 1: podcast about how we don't all know what it's like

1238
01:09:37,479 --> 01:09:40,040
Speaker 1: to be you know. I only know what it's like

1239
01:09:40,120 --> 01:09:43,400
Speaker 1: to be a white, straight dude in society. I have

1240
01:09:43,400 --> 01:09:44,800
Speaker 1: no idea what it's like to be a woman. I

1241
01:09:44,840 --> 01:09:46,400
Speaker 1: have no idea what it's like to be gay. I

1242
01:09:46,439 --> 01:09:48,599
Speaker 1: have no idea. But it seems to me you've got

1243
01:09:48,640 --> 01:09:51,160
Speaker 1: to live your authentic life and be your authentic self

1244
01:09:51,240 --> 01:09:53,799
Speaker 1: and that may cost you some people, and that sucks,

1245
01:09:53,840 --> 01:09:57,439
Speaker 1: but that's on them, it's not on you. And maybe

1246
01:09:57,439 --> 01:10:00,120
Speaker 1: that's naive and naive. It could be a naive way

1247
01:10:00,120 --> 01:10:01,760
Speaker 1: of looking at it, because I understand that you don't

1248
01:10:01,760 --> 01:10:03,400
Speaker 1: want to lose those people, and maybe you do feel

1249
01:10:03,400 --> 01:10:05,880
Speaker 1: like you have to keep your light hidden like that,

1250
01:10:05,920 --> 01:10:07,800
Speaker 1: But I don't want you to do that. So I'm

1251
01:10:07,800 --> 01:10:09,400
Speaker 1: hoping that you can just kind of do it, and

1252
01:10:09,439 --> 01:10:11,840
Speaker 1: some people you lose temporarily and they come around again.

1253
01:10:12,439 --> 01:10:14,600
Speaker 1: People are gone and there's nothing you can do about that.

1254
01:10:14,640 --> 01:10:16,120
Speaker 1: But I still think you got to live your life.

1255
01:10:16,520 --> 01:10:19,640
Speaker 1: So yeah, I think, and I think if it's like

1256
01:10:20,600 --> 01:10:24,160
Speaker 1: just having people in your life, even if it's just

1257
01:10:24,200 --> 01:10:27,599
Speaker 1: a few who know the truth and who are able

1258
01:10:27,680 --> 01:10:31,080
Speaker 1: to be there for you, I think it's so important

1259
01:10:31,120 --> 01:10:34,920
Speaker 1: to even just have you know a few people who

1260
01:10:34,960 --> 01:10:36,640
Speaker 1: know if that's how you have to start out to

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Speaker 1: feel safe. Like sometimes it starts small, and it doesn't

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01:10:39,320 --> 01:10:41,200
Speaker 1: mean you have to like shout it from the rooftops,

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01:10:41,240 --> 01:10:44,519
Speaker 1: but it means you tell that one first person. And

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Speaker 1: it's probably like a sense of like the freedom you

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01:10:47,680 --> 01:10:50,840
Speaker 1: get from just telling one person something that you fear

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Speaker 1: opening up about. That's just a snowball effect for sure,

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Speaker 1: all right, And this one is also anonymous, and this

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Speaker 1: is a serious issue, she says twenty six. My husband

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Speaker 1: and I have been married for less than a year.

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Speaker 1: We've been together for eight years. I have some pretty

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Speaker 1: bad thyroid issues and now it's diagnosed with Graves disease

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Speaker 1: six years ago, and it's been a battle. I was

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01:11:10,800 --> 01:11:13,759
Speaker 1: supposed to have my thyroid worked on before COVID nineteen,

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01:11:13,800 --> 01:11:16,280
Speaker 1: but now everything is pushed back for at least seven months.

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Speaker 1: My doctors want me to fix it before we have

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Speaker 1: a baby, but if I go ahead with a radio

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01:11:21,800 --> 01:11:25,599
Speaker 1: activiodine pill, I can't have a baby for two years. However,

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Speaker 1: my husband does not take this as seriously as I'd

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01:11:28,280 --> 01:11:30,679
Speaker 1: like him to, and will not stop talking about having

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01:11:30,720 --> 01:11:33,920
Speaker 1: a baby right now. He keeps saying women have babi

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01:11:33,960 --> 01:11:35,880
Speaker 1: as while they have worse issues than you, and you'll

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01:11:35,920 --> 01:11:38,960
Speaker 1: be fine. I'm terrified of the possibility of having issues

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01:11:38,960 --> 01:11:41,920
Speaker 1: getting pregnant or staying pregnant because my mom also has

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01:11:41,960 --> 01:11:45,559
Speaker 1: thyroid issues and had three miscarriages. Any advice would be

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01:11:45,560 --> 01:11:54,439
Speaker 1: greatly appreciated. Go Tanny. I know, I can see I'm

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01:11:54,520 --> 01:11:57,639
Speaker 1: making a lot of faces right now. I know ahead

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01:11:57,760 --> 01:11:59,519
Speaker 1: and just say that I don't. I don't think I'm

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01:11:59,560 --> 01:12:03,040
Speaker 1: qualified to give advice on this because my first instinct

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01:12:03,040 --> 01:12:05,760
Speaker 1: would be I mean, first of all, it sucks that

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01:12:05,800 --> 01:12:09,000
Speaker 1: you and your husband are on the same page. Um,

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01:12:09,120 --> 01:12:11,760
Speaker 1: that's unfortunate, and I wish that he was more on

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01:12:11,760 --> 01:12:14,519
Speaker 1: like the side of you, because it is like, you

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01:12:14,560 --> 01:12:16,640
Speaker 1: know your body and the stuff that you're going through

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01:12:16,640 --> 01:12:17,960
Speaker 1: and the you know, the fact that you're going to

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01:12:18,040 --> 01:12:20,160
Speaker 1: have to carry the baby. So it's like I wish

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01:12:20,200 --> 01:12:23,519
Speaker 1: she was a little more empathetic to your opinion on it.

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01:12:23,920 --> 01:12:26,680
Speaker 1: But that aside, I don't know like what the risk

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01:12:26,760 --> 01:12:30,479
Speaker 1: factors are in terms of an iodine, and like all

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01:12:30,520 --> 01:12:33,559
Speaker 1: I know is that like you could talk to one doctor,

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01:12:33,560 --> 01:12:36,320
Speaker 1: but I would just suggest getting multiple opinions on things

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01:12:36,360 --> 01:12:39,040
Speaker 1: because just coming from experience and issues that I've had,

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01:12:39,240 --> 01:12:42,280
Speaker 1: like medically in the past. Some doctors think it's one thing,

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01:12:42,400 --> 01:12:44,519
Speaker 1: and then another doctor thinks that something else, And you

1304
01:12:44,600 --> 01:12:46,400
Speaker 1: have to be the person that's in charge of your

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01:12:46,439 --> 01:12:49,720
Speaker 1: body and know what's going on UM and you have

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01:12:49,760 --> 01:12:52,080
Speaker 1: to be proactive about it. So I would just suggest

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01:12:52,080 --> 01:12:54,960
Speaker 1: getting multiple opinions from doctors as to like the best

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01:12:54,960 --> 01:12:56,840
Speaker 1: way to proceed, because maybe he is right, maybe your

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01:12:56,880 --> 01:13:00,280
Speaker 1: husband there is something to it and it my not

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01:13:00,520 --> 01:13:03,280
Speaker 1: affect it. I don't know. I can't speak to that,

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01:13:03,360 --> 01:13:10,560
Speaker 1: but I would just suggest getting multiple um opinions. I

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01:13:10,600 --> 01:13:13,320
Speaker 1: disagree a little bit with Tanya on this because it

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01:13:13,479 --> 01:13:15,600
Speaker 1: is your body and you're the one that's going to

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01:13:15,720 --> 01:13:18,280
Speaker 1: be having to go through this carrying a baby, and

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01:13:18,920 --> 01:13:21,680
Speaker 1: if if things go the way that they did for

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01:13:21,720 --> 01:13:27,679
Speaker 1: your mom and you miscarry, the the emotional and physical

1317
01:13:27,720 --> 01:13:30,680
Speaker 1: trauma that you go through is going to be very

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01:13:30,680 --> 01:13:34,040
Speaker 1: different than what your husband experiences. And your twenty six

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01:13:34,120 --> 01:13:38,800
Speaker 1: years old. Two years in the long run is not

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01:13:38,920 --> 01:13:41,080
Speaker 1: that long to take care of your body and make

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01:13:41,120 --> 01:13:44,080
Speaker 1: sure that you are healthy and stronger to be able

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01:13:44,080 --> 01:13:47,200
Speaker 1: to carry a child. So I don't really think I

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01:13:47,200 --> 01:13:49,920
Speaker 1: think him not taking you seriously and kind of like

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01:13:50,080 --> 01:13:54,200
Speaker 1: dismissing the issues, are saying that people have worse issues

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01:13:54,240 --> 01:13:56,720
Speaker 1: than you, and they have babies, you'll be fine. I

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01:13:56,760 --> 01:13:59,679
Speaker 1: don't really like that because he's not the one that's

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01:13:59,680 --> 01:14:02,680
Speaker 1: going to be having to put his body through that. No,

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01:14:02,840 --> 01:14:06,280
Speaker 1: I agree, that's what I said. No, I think you're

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01:14:06,280 --> 01:14:08,599
Speaker 1: saying like, maybe he's right, Like I don't. I don't

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01:14:08,600 --> 01:14:11,360
Speaker 1: really feel like, we don't know, we're not doctors. We

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01:14:11,439 --> 01:14:15,679
Speaker 1: don't know what what the measures are for that, you know, Yeah,

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01:14:15,720 --> 01:14:18,240
Speaker 1: but I feel like it's very how she worded in

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01:14:18,320 --> 01:14:21,360
Speaker 1: the email, seems like he's totally dismissing what her, what

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01:14:21,560 --> 01:14:25,040
Speaker 1: she could potentially go through. I just don't like it

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01:14:25,080 --> 01:14:28,479
Speaker 1: because to me, it's like almost it's just I think,

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01:14:28,600 --> 01:14:30,639
Speaker 1: I think you take care of yourself, and I think

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01:14:30,640 --> 01:14:32,760
Speaker 1: the reason you wrote an email because you know what

1338
01:14:32,880 --> 01:14:35,120
Speaker 1: the right answer is because you want to take care

1339
01:14:35,120 --> 01:14:38,680
Speaker 1: of yourself and you don't want to feel pressured to

1340
01:14:38,960 --> 01:14:42,519
Speaker 1: jump into something that you don't feel safe with right now.

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01:14:43,520 --> 01:14:45,720
Speaker 1: I'll say it's lovely that he wants a baby. That's

1342
01:14:45,800 --> 01:14:48,599
Speaker 1: great that a lot of guys are hesitant to become father,

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01:14:48,760 --> 01:14:51,200
Speaker 1: so good for him that he wants that. But I

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01:14:51,240 --> 01:14:53,360
Speaker 1: do think you have to take your doctor's advice over

1345
01:14:53,400 --> 01:14:55,400
Speaker 1: your husband, who doesn't seem to know much about this,

1346
01:14:55,479 --> 01:14:58,719
Speaker 1: but to tiny point, if it makes your husband feel better,

1347
01:14:58,920 --> 01:15:01,519
Speaker 1: maybe a second doctor his opinion would convince him this

1348
01:15:01,560 --> 01:15:03,599
Speaker 1: isn't the best idea right now. Or maybe a second

1349
01:15:03,640 --> 01:15:05,960
Speaker 1: doctor might disagree and agree with your husband. So maybe

1350
01:15:06,240 --> 01:15:09,000
Speaker 1: you two agree that we go to a neutral fourth

1351
01:15:09,040 --> 01:15:11,840
Speaker 1: party and find out what the second opinion says about

1352
01:15:11,880 --> 01:15:13,920
Speaker 1: this whole thing, because I do think the medical advice

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01:15:13,960 --> 01:15:18,639
Speaker 1: has got to be adhered to. Yeah for sure. Yeah, yeah,

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01:15:18,720 --> 01:15:22,639
Speaker 1: Tony has had Tony, I feel like you've had moments

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01:15:22,640 --> 01:15:24,960
Speaker 1: where you've gotten a second opinion and it's been like

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01:15:25,040 --> 01:15:27,720
Speaker 1: really helpful for you. Yeah. I had one doctor that

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01:15:27,760 --> 01:15:32,920
Speaker 1: put me on steroids. I'm like yeah, I'm like, okay,

1358
01:15:32,960 --> 01:15:35,040
Speaker 1: popping these steroids. And then this other doctor was like

1359
01:15:35,080 --> 01:15:37,320
Speaker 1: that is not a long term solution for what's happening

1360
01:15:37,320 --> 01:15:39,760
Speaker 1: to you. Like, I'm sorry, you need to stop that immediately,

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01:15:39,760 --> 01:15:41,200
Speaker 1: like we're going to figure this out. And I was

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01:15:41,240 --> 01:15:43,240
Speaker 1: just like, you know, who do you not like? Who

1363
01:15:43,240 --> 01:15:46,120
Speaker 1: do you trust? Who do you listen to? It's like, yeah, Y,

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01:15:46,200 --> 01:15:48,519
Speaker 1: you have to really be like in charge and in

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01:15:48,640 --> 01:15:54,120
Speaker 1: tune with your own body. It's true. Yeah. Well, I

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Speaker 1: need to give a shout out before we go. I

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Speaker 1: need to give it a big hello to Bryn Waltner

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Speaker 1: and Liz ramire Is. Hey, Brennan, Liz. They live here

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Speaker 1: in Newberry Park, California, where I live, and Brin's parents

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Speaker 1: live across the street from me. And she was um

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Speaker 1: delighted to find out that Mark from the Scrubbing In

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Speaker 1: podcast lives across the street from her parents because she

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01:16:14,000 --> 01:16:16,680
Speaker 1: and Liz, who are roommates, they love you too, and

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01:16:16,720 --> 01:16:19,960
Speaker 1: they love this show. So thank you to them for listening.

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Speaker 1: I've never met her, but I hopefully I will someday.

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01:16:23,360 --> 01:16:28,000
Speaker 1: Down around the call to Sack. I love that girls,

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01:16:28,200 --> 01:16:34,200
Speaker 1: we love you, we love you. Shout out. Wow, that

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01:16:34,400 --> 01:16:37,360
Speaker 1: was good. Give me some oat balls are in your

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01:16:37,360 --> 01:16:41,800
Speaker 1: future if you're lucky, the balls are good. I like

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01:16:41,880 --> 01:16:44,599
Speaker 1: thoat balls, and send me some oat balls. I'll leave

1381
01:16:44,640 --> 01:16:49,400
Speaker 1: them on this stuff across the street. Totally totally. Um.

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Speaker 1: All right, well that'll do it for today's podcast. Um,

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01:16:53,360 --> 01:16:56,280
Speaker 1: thank you for listening. We missed you all. It feels

1384
01:16:56,280 --> 01:16:58,520
Speaker 1: like it's been so long since we did a podcast,

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01:16:58,560 --> 01:17:01,960
Speaker 1: but we had the live show so um, have a

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01:17:01,960 --> 01:17:07,680
Speaker 1: great week. Reminder, please be kind and loving and respectful

1387
01:17:07,760 --> 01:17:12,280
Speaker 1: to each other and um and happy birthday Mom, and

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01:17:12,320 --> 01:17:16,559
Speaker 1: happy birthday Mamaad. We love you guys. She's like listener,

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01:17:16,680 --> 01:17:18,640
Speaker 1: Like she listens to these podcasts a minute. They go

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01:17:18,720 --> 01:17:22,320
Speaker 1: up babies, so she will hear it. We love mam Aurad.

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01:17:22,760 --> 01:17:25,400
Speaker 1: No mom should know that much about her own daughter, truly.

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01:17:25,520 --> 01:17:32,160
Speaker 1: It's I feel sad for her at times. Yeah, she

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01:17:32,200 --> 01:17:36,840
Speaker 1: knows a lot. She's like writing as an anonymous like

1394
01:17:36,880 --> 01:17:43,800
Speaker 1: my daughter shares too much, so I do. Yeah, Um, alrighty,

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01:17:43,840 --> 01:17:47,160
Speaker 1: we love you guys, have a great week, and we'll

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Speaker 1: see you next week, or we'll talk to you next

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Speaker 1: week and I'll see you y'all next week. By