Speaker 1: So we had a nice day. We went off with
Speaker 1: my home Quila, my homegirl Quila and her husband. It
Speaker 1: was his birthday. I recently lost a bunch of weight
Speaker 1: from doing a bunch of unhealthy shit, taking these crazy
Speaker 1: pills from a gas station, that's what he called them.
Speaker 1: But it's really a health food store. But it's not English,
Speaker 1: but it's a health food store. This next day, beauty
Speaker 1: splast store on Pico and it's got Chinese letters on it.
Speaker 1: I don't know it's in it, but it makes you
Speaker 1: not eat food. So he wasn't really happy with that
Speaker 1: and was like, I want you to get healthier habits.
Speaker 1: So whatever, I lost a wife. So we're on the
Speaker 1: couch watching Hunting Wives and I go get popcorn and
Speaker 1: raisin ets and I bring it back and I said
Speaker 1: do you want some? And he looked at me like no.
Speaker 1: It kept watching TV. I was like, oh, you want
Speaker 1: food or something? No, Kila, I don't need to eat
Speaker 1: right now, mind you. I know why he said it
Speaker 1: like that, because we just had sugarfish. I don't need
Speaker 1: to eat right now. Really gives you need to eat
Speaker 1: right now? So I'm like, hold on, Stott falls the screen.
Speaker 1: I'm like what the fuck is that. It's like nothing,
Speaker 1: you feel judged. I'm not judging you. I said, how
Speaker 1: do you know I feel judge if you wasn't judging me, nigga.
Speaker 1: I was like, at the end of the day, we
Speaker 1: all know that I gained weight because the birth control
Speaker 1: is making me eat everything, and I was craving everything.
Speaker 1: But I'm not gonna be in this place with you
Speaker 1: where I'm uncomfortable to eat a fucking snack. I fucking
Speaker 1: worked out this morning, Like I can't have popcorn now.
Speaker 1: He's like, you want to make the choices you want
Speaker 1: to make, but you basically feel like you need me
Speaker 1: to indulge, and I'm not gonna indulge with you. Every
Speaker 1: time you need to have a snack, I don't need
Speaker 1: to eat. We just ate. You want to have popcorn?
Speaker 1: Feel free? I was like, Nah, the way that you're
Speaker 1: talking to me is like you need to be this
Speaker 1: accountability person for me. I don't need you to be accountable.
Speaker 1: I'm my own person. This is my body. He goes,
Speaker 1: that's my body too. We're talking about having a baby.
Speaker 1: We're gonna be together forever. Your body's my body. If
Speaker 1: I was sitting here chain smoking cigarettes and doing crazy shit.
Speaker 1: Wouldn't you be telling me don't put certain things in
Speaker 1: my body? And now I'm like, so I can't put
Speaker 1: popcorn in my body. He's like, I'm not saying it's popcorn,
Speaker 1: but if you want to choose to eat late and
Speaker 1: do certain things, I'm gonna make sure to always hold
Speaker 1: you accountable when this is the stuff you said you
Speaker 1: don't want to do. So then we got into this
Speaker 1: thing of nigga. I don't need you to keep me accountable.
Speaker 1: Check the fuck up. He's like, I'm not gonna shut
Speaker 1: the fuck up when two months ago you were depressed
Speaker 1: talking about, oh my god, I hate myself. No, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna make sure you stay on point because now you're
Speaker 1: in this place of loving yourself again. So that made
Speaker 1: me feel bad because I'm like, I always love myself.
Speaker 1: I've always been a bad bag teme when I little
Speaker 1: twenty pounds on it. So then we start arguing, We
Speaker 1: start arguing, We start arguing, and you know he's very quiet,
Speaker 1: is he not? Yes, I never heard this media very quiet.
Speaker 1: So he's sitting there and I'm eating the vopera and he goes,
Speaker 1: you know what I think you want? I think you
Speaker 1: would like him. Man who just says yes, I think
Speaker 1: you want to yesk me? Oh I lost it. Don't
Speaker 1: tell me what type of nigga I need. Nigga? Who
Speaker 1: the fuck you need? Now you want to bitch who
Speaker 1: don't eat? That's what you want? Okay, go to one
Speaker 1: of my house and I don't need you to me
Speaker 1: what I need because I got you. So what the
Speaker 1: fuck you gonna do? Fuck you? So now I'm mad.
Speaker 1: So now I get up. And now you know when
Speaker 1: they start laughing when you get mad, and that's that
Speaker 1: really puts me off. So that's what I do. You
Speaker 1: already know that's my ship. I'm like, oh you about
Speaker 1: to I'm about to whoop his ass. So I go
Speaker 1: in the kitchen, I start washing dishes. I'm doing something
Speaker 1: else and he gets in the cabinet. Now he's going
Speaker 1: through the cabinet. Now there's vitamins and shit in there,
Speaker 1: advil whatever in some of my stuff. And he said,
Speaker 1: I said, what do you want. I'm just looking for
Speaker 1: those pills that you need to calm you down. Whoa,
Speaker 1: I just fighting words. Whoa, that's crazy, I said, excuse me, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's that's what I need. I don't know what it's called,
Speaker 1: because you know, xanax is also like stuff anyway, So
Speaker 1: I wanted to get mad, but then I started laughing
Speaker 1: because I was like, oh, you really think he funny?
Speaker 1: I start laughing. He started laughing. Now you're going to
Speaker 1: ca I go sit on the couch. Offcorn's still there
Speaker 1: and his boxers are on his legs open, so I
Speaker 1: see the tip of the dick. So I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: let me suck it, let's make up. I put my
Speaker 1: hand towards this dick. He goes, I'm good. Actually, what
Speaker 1: you you fucking ho nigga? We fuck all the time,
Speaker 1: four times a day, and he's out the house, and
Speaker 1: now you don't want to go pussy, I say, so
Speaker 1: now you don't want to fuck me? He said. I
Speaker 1: just realized we are in this relationship because I've changed
Speaker 1: my eating habits for you. I was vegan, I didn't
Speaker 1: even red meat. I never ate this fry shit all
Speaker 1: the time, and so basically, if I never changed that,
Speaker 1: we wouldn't be together. So now I'm trying to go
Speaker 1: back into healthy shit and you won't let me. So
Speaker 1: what the fuck? I'm like, Okay, So now you want
Speaker 1: to tell me you want to go be with a
Speaker 1: bitch who being a go be the bigger badge ass.
Speaker 1: So now I'm mad. He's like, I'm not saying that.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying that I've changed something for you, and
Speaker 1: you don't want to change anything. To change anything, I
Speaker 1: didn't eat fucking popcorn, you don't need to eat it.
Speaker 1: He's like, that's not true. If I started this relationship
Speaker 1: and I was actually raw plant based vegan like I was,
Speaker 1: we would never be together because of the way you
Speaker 1: like to eat. I'm just telling you I've made changes.
Speaker 1: I'm like, so basically telling me I need to change.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, you know what, you're kissing me off.
Speaker 1: So Gila's husband because it was his birthday that night
Speaker 1: going to the strip club. So I hit the group
Speaker 1: chat with all four of us. I'm like, hey, we're
Speaker 1: all going to go off drinks. That was the hour
Speaker 1: when he was a fighting. I was like, let's go
Speaker 1: to Davala. He's like, I'm going with the boys. So
Speaker 1: he used to asking Mammy, oh you want to come.
Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, because we don't argue
Speaker 1: and kick each other out or do any of that.
Speaker 1: I was like, I think you should go to the
Speaker 1: strip club with nag go I have a good time,
Speaker 1: so we could have a little space. Now, I was
Speaker 1: flying to LA the next day because this is only
Speaker 1: a few days ago. So he started getting dressed and
Speaker 1: then I got out the shower and I was like,
Speaker 1: I can't believe you. What is wrong with everything? Ruh?
Speaker 1: I could it's crazy. I want you to go, but
Speaker 1: I also just feel like I'm mad because we were
Speaker 1: supposed to have a fucking date night. But you ain't shit, brun,
Speaker 1: You're crazy. I know this is every story. Wait crazy,
Speaker 1: So now you're looking at me. I'm not saying that
Speaker 1: you shouldn't go to strip club. It's just said I
Speaker 1: wanted to go out, and I'm like, really mad because
Speaker 1: this is all a bullshit fight and now you're going
Speaker 1: to strip club. Well, I'm gonna get at home reading
Speaker 1: a fucking book. So he's looking at me like I
Speaker 1: don't know what to do. So I called for yall
Speaker 1: to choose out one her gay friends. I'm like, where
Speaker 1: are you at. She's like, oh, now, we're just rent
Speaker 1: the house. I'm like, let's go out, and the like
Speaker 1: we're in bad right now. Hang up on his bitch,
Speaker 1: I get my book. I'm sitting near with Nina. Now
Speaker 1: this nigga getting up and he's putting on his good
Speaker 1: little fit too, the fucking tabbies and shit and his
Speaker 1: little fucking shit fuck you. So he comes over to
Speaker 1: give me a kiss and I'm like, oh whatever. So
Speaker 1: he's gone for thirty minutes. They won't text each other.
Speaker 1: I love you. I'm like, all right, we're gonna make it.
Speaker 1: He comes home and it wasn't lately, but whatever time
Speaker 1: it was, he won a fuck and I'm just like, no,
Speaker 1: runna fight and sleep nigga. You whoa? So then brouh.
Speaker 1: When I heard this the first time, I was just like,
Speaker 1: you know what, I can't even say that. That's why
Speaker 1: I'm not saying nothing now. I'm gonna let the audience
Speaker 1: make all the faces warm. But bro, what what you
Speaker 1: dead ass? I was not supposed to suck him at
Speaker 1: five in the morning when I was sleeping. Nigga. All
Speaker 1: the ship leading up to that is.
Speaker 2: Ship was all you like you say, an argument, there's
Speaker 2: like two sides and like one person's little.
Speaker 1: I will tell you this whole ship was just well,
Speaker 1: I will tell you why I react this way. He
Speaker 1: ain't doing a single thing. He's a single thing, did
Speaker 1: he not? Why are you laughing at me because I'm
Speaker 1: getting food out? You gotta remember, bro, I just lost
Speaker 1: this weight. But if he's just also, as a partner
Speaker 1: dealt with someone who was depressed because they were overweight,
Speaker 1: there's a thing to where. Okay, well, you finally are
Speaker 1: in a good place. Now I can see where. I
Speaker 1: don't want you to be depressed because you feel overweighted.
Speaker 1: That of course is why he's doing that, and I
Speaker 1: understand that, but I can't get to a place where
Speaker 1: I start hiding through from you feeling judged and feeling
Speaker 1: like shit.
Speaker 2: He ain't say nothing.
Speaker 1: He gave you a little eye roll. And he also said,
Speaker 1: I don't want the popcorn with you. You eat it,
Speaker 1: but I don't want to eat just cause you'll get
Speaker 1: You felt the way right, But I made it. Anyone's
Speaker 1: taking into account that if someone's watching food habits like
Speaker 1: that's gonna start a weird thing in my head. First
Speaker 1: of all, I already did someone healthy shit to get here. Okay,
Speaker 1: if we're gonna be honest about it, being in a
Speaker 1: place where you're feeling guilty about food and I'm now
Speaker 1: like Bro, I'm working out a lot, a lot. I'm
Speaker 1: really trying my best to not only maintain the weight,
Speaker 1: but cut up like I've never taken creatine and macros
Speaker 1: did all this shit counted things before I got a
Speaker 1: food scale. One would think it's cut for cocaine. It's not.
Speaker 1: It's for food in my house, and you can got
Speaker 1: You've got to understand what it's like because you were
Speaker 1: dating a vegan and she changed. So imagine if it's
Speaker 1: like you started looking at her different and she started
Speaker 1: looking at you like it doesn't feel good.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but he didn't say anything to make you change.
Speaker 2: He just said, Hey, I'm just I don't want incorn.
Speaker 1: But the look and the whole thing of I mean,
Speaker 1: you guys could take it hot you want. But I
Speaker 1: don't believe he wasn't he was judging me about the food.
Speaker 2: But he's it's more it's coming from a place like, hey,
Speaker 2: I'm disappointed that you're making choosing to do things that
Speaker 2: you know is going to make you feel bad.
Speaker 1: Oh, that's actually what really hurts my feelings the most.
Speaker 1: I'm allowed to have balance and indulge.
Speaker 2: And he's allowed to feel disappointed.
Speaker 1: No, he's not. All I do is have popcorn watching
Speaker 1: a movie with you.
Speaker 2: But everything if you just it wasn't like I was
Speaker 2: just a food and now you're about to consume food
Speaker 2: that has no nutritional So when you go to dinner.
Speaker 1: In a movie, do you not get popcorn after the dinner?
Speaker 1: What's wrong with me having podcast?
Speaker 2: I personally usually don't.
Speaker 1: So like I'm dead as nothing. I really don't think
Speaker 1: there's anything wrong with having a snack or indulging in
Speaker 1: something as long as you're living and eating healthy. So
Speaker 1: to me, now that like, mind you for the last
Speaker 1: two months while losing the weight, but I've completely changed
Speaker 1: my diet like I did intereven in basting, I only
Speaker 1: ate between eleven to seven, like it was really really hard.
Speaker 2: Okay and not even So he has two options. He
Speaker 2: can either just ignore you making what in his eyes
Speaker 2: is a bad decision, and I think you would agree
Speaker 2: would be a bad yeah food decision.
Speaker 1: No, actually no, So that's that is where the lenk.
Speaker 1: That's where the wires are crossing in the argument. I
Speaker 1: don't think having popcorn is bad now that I'm at
Speaker 1: a healthier.
Speaker 2: Pan and raisin ets.
Speaker 1: No, I think I don't care if I had a
Speaker 1: fucking slice of pizza, but that I think you're allowed
Speaker 1: to have balance. It's like, so, then why not judge
Speaker 1: somebody for drinking alcohol late at night? You just got
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Speaker 1: hey girlies, I'll keep this as short as I can,
Speaker 1: but you both have helped me in my journey into
Speaker 1: my womanhood as I approach twenty four years old. Before
Speaker 1: I dropped my question, i'd appreciate any general advice you'd
Speaker 1: give to someone my age. I also love advice from
Speaker 1: the both of you. Okay. I met this guy as
Speaker 1: a server at a celebrity chef restaurant in DC. I'm
Speaker 1: a black woman from Miami, big as fuck, and the
Speaker 1: best way I could describe him is as a skinny
Speaker 1: but cultured white guy. Long story short. We hung out
Speaker 1: after his shift and he gave me submissive vibes. When
Speaker 1: I gave him my number, he told me to Apple
Speaker 1: pay myself whatever I wanted, and the convo after was
Speaker 1: so flirty, and he's really funny. I've never fucked a
Speaker 1: white guy or honestly had anything other than vanilla sex
Speaker 1: and toys. However, I know that I'm kink here, I
Speaker 1: let on and all I would need is a man
Speaker 1: to make me feel safe enough to explore that. Naturally,
Speaker 1: I'm more of a sub, but he gave me he
Speaker 1: wanted to be my sub yo, bitch. He was saying
Speaker 1: things like whatever I call him, he or respond I'm
Speaker 1: his queen, etc. Anyways, that was literally all twenty four
Speaker 1: hours of our encounter, and I want to follow up.
Speaker 1: He didn't text me the next day, so I want
Speaker 1: to reach out because I want to explore this more.
Speaker 1: How should I proceed even if he isn't a sub?
Speaker 1: Not gonna lie? I want to fuck him, but I've
Speaker 1: never been so forward before. Any advice is helpful. I
Speaker 1: feel like Mandy's looking at me because he's white, and
Speaker 1: I don't know what's to say. However, when I go like,
Speaker 1: that's why she think he has sub because I think
Speaker 1: white man give me sub all the time. Because I
Speaker 1: ain't never been with a white man. To me, I
Speaker 1: always feel like I could just rough up a white man.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I feel like also white guys are a little
Speaker 1: bit more trepidationous, like when they meet a black woman
Speaker 1: because they're like, who are you into me? Or you're not?
Speaker 1: So then you think such energy because it's not very
Speaker 1: dominant but hmm, by the way, fuck you for saying
Speaker 1: that he gave you his Apple pay and told you
Speaker 1: to Apple pay yourself whatever, and you ain't tell us
Speaker 1: how much you Apple paid yourself because that would let
Speaker 1: me know what you think of yourself. Because I'm also
Speaker 1: that's what makes me think. Okay said she's trying to
Speaker 1: come to him with like this, how much it's going
Speaker 1: to be the sub bois out because the Apple pay
Speaker 1: comment is throwing me. It's not given me that she
Speaker 1: wants to sex work because she said he didn't hit
Speaker 1: me the next day, but not gonna lie. I still
Speaker 1: want to fuck him, So it's not giving that she
Speaker 1: wants to charge at all or make it any type
Speaker 1: of thing. I think she said that to allude to
Speaker 1: his submissiveness. So whenever I haven't gotten a text back,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna find it works every single time. I've
Speaker 1: never been rejected by this, but it's not necessarily something
Speaker 1: I would always recommend. But I like to be a
Speaker 1: little fake dramatic. I'll say things like, waiting by the
Speaker 1: phone for you to text me has been really annoying,
Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah blah, and then I'll send a
Speaker 1: cute picture of me looking sad, and then they always
Speaker 1: have to reply because here's the thing, niggas forget you fine,
Speaker 1: but all the time. One of my homeboys told me
Speaker 1: he gets so many numbers that sometimes he has to
Speaker 1: write in the notes like what they had on so
Speaker 1: he remembered the bitch. Oh yeah, Oh. I had to
Speaker 1: my boyfriend. I had to change my name in his phone.
Speaker 1: He had Mandy light skin. I said, I don't like
Speaker 1: this name, and I said, and how many mandy do
Speaker 1: you have? Oh? None? So then I should be able
Speaker 1: to stand alone you putting Mandy light skin in cart egg. Bro.
Speaker 1: I made him change an egg on and off for
Speaker 1: years that I talked about on the show. Bitch. My
Speaker 1: name was Gigi blue in his phone, and I said,
Speaker 1: what he's like? The day I met you, you was
Speaker 1: wearing a blue wade the suit at Soho House ages
Speaker 1: when your name was I was like, Bro, Mandy light
Speaker 1: skin is great, glue is worse. No, it's not. Why
Speaker 1: are you fucking talking about my skin color? I felt away,
Speaker 1: and you couldn't have put Let's take us pretty smile
Speaker 1: blind like Nigga light skin is so Gennaire octrog Gila
Speaker 1: podcast once Bruh, I'm sorry, light skin is generic as fuck,
Speaker 1: and I felt like he didn't really know no meat
Speaker 1: very well. Well, here's the thing for the text. If
Speaker 1: you want to fuck, you gotta start off gate the flirt.
Speaker 1: The first's gotta be whether it be the emoji. The
Speaker 1: emoji's gotta have the tongue. It's gotta be a you
Speaker 1: gotta get emoji. It's gotta be something that happened that night.
Speaker 1: If you're trying to lean into like the sexual energy,
Speaker 1: you gotta bring the sexual energy because for the most part,
Speaker 1: men are pretty much gonna try to be respectful because
Speaker 1: they all scared to getting me food right now. So
Speaker 1: it's the gift. It's the photo of you, it's a
Speaker 1: sexy moment from that night, or even saying something like
Speaker 1: bringing you back. I can't think of what you wrote
Speaker 1: because I'm really hungry when my brain's broken. But whatever
Speaker 1: he was saying to you that night, be like remember
Speaker 1: when you x y Z. How come we haven't followed
Speaker 1: up on that? I'm ready. Yeah, things like that that
Speaker 1: it's so hard for it, and I think that that's
Speaker 1: the that's actually the first part you said that you're
Speaker 1: normally sub leaning into dominance looks like you taking that
Speaker 1: first sep then like in the most subtle way. I
Speaker 1: think women often look at being submissive as being the
Speaker 1: one that is getting chased. And in this essence, if
Speaker 1: he didn't hit you back and bitch, if you want
Speaker 1: that dick and you want that little pink, you gotta
Speaker 1: go get it. And what that looked like is you
Speaker 1: hitting him up and being like, hey, so where's your
Speaker 1: next day off? Because I'm trying to see you where
Speaker 1: you're taking me. I think that's what you should also
Speaker 1: lean into. Don't be too dominant to where it seemed
Speaker 1: like you're trying to take him out. If he don't
Speaker 1: already lead with like apple, pay lean into that. That
Speaker 1: might be a part of his kick. He might be
Speaker 1: he might want to be financially dominated. Something so good.
Speaker 1: A piece of advice that you just gave I was
Speaker 1: thinking about it when you were talking, is you said,
Speaker 1: don't be too dominant. So now it is like, don't
Speaker 1: be too dominant, don't be too much. You did no, no,
Speaker 1: I know, I said in terms of if you think
Speaker 1: he is a sub I didn't say that. I said
Speaker 1: you got to lean into the dominance and what I'm
Speaker 1: saying is to make sure that and that's why I
Speaker 1: was leaning into the findom of it. If he pulled
Speaker 1: out the Apple pay, what I was going to say
Speaker 1: was that you should tell him when are you taking
Speaker 1: me out? I'd like to go here? Don't be like,
Speaker 1: don't ask him to go out, Like I was going
Speaker 1: to lean into being full fledged dominant. If you want
Speaker 1: to be dominant now outside of taking him out, be like,
Speaker 1: so when you're taking me out, I'm free this day?
Speaker 1: Are you taking me out here? It's a better thing
Speaker 1: to start off with. When I heard you saying don't
Speaker 1: be too something, I was going to say, don't be
Speaker 1: too forthcoming more than you want to be braddy. Think
Speaker 1: of the word braddy as your guys for how you'll
Speaker 1: start off with being dominant, because if you're not naturally
Speaker 1: that bitch, it can come off kind of weird, or
Speaker 1: you'll go too hard, or it just won't feel natural.
Speaker 1: Definitely be bratty girl. Braddy is a part of dominating,
Speaker 1: and you can amp it up once he gives it
Speaker 1: back to you. So maybe like she really don't know
Speaker 1: how to start, so I would definitely start off with one.
Speaker 1: The text got to be annoyed with him in some
Speaker 1: way but sexually flirting, annoyed that he hasn't hit you,
Speaker 1: annoyed that he didn't follow up on something from that date. Also,
Speaker 1: like Mandy said, recommending, you need to be telling me
Speaker 1: x y Z where we're going. It's been forty eight hours,
Speaker 1: like amp up and flirting with the brattiness. I haven't
Speaker 1: had a man yet that doesn't like my little brad shit.
Speaker 1: But that's only when men are super attracted to you,
Speaker 1: and it's very clear, Yeah, you know you can't just
Speaker 1: be it, So I wouldn't lead someone. I'm fine with
Speaker 1: being a bride wants you get to know someone like
Speaker 1: My advice would not be to be a bread out
Speaker 1: the gate, which is why I'm like, just be dominant
Speaker 1: and forthcoming, like when you're taking me out, when am
Speaker 1: I seeing you like and not making it seem like
Speaker 1: you're asking him out, like, oh my god, I can't. Like,
Speaker 1: I would just be dominant in that way. Brady to
Speaker 1: me always comes later. I don't get to show my
Speaker 1: bridy ways, like even my main nigga. Now, it took
Speaker 1: me four years to be able to be a bread
Speaker 1: with him to where I felt comfortable that it would
Speaker 1: result in what I wanted from him. I guess bratt
Speaker 1: looks different to us, so to be brat looks different
Speaker 1: for niggas like to me Brady, especially in an era
Speaker 1: where all these niggas complain about a bitch asking for
Speaker 1: too much to saying that. I think being dominant and
Speaker 1: being too demanding can look different to men too, So
Speaker 1: I guess that's why we have two different opinions on that.
Speaker 1: I think, Yeah, so there you go. You got two
Speaker 1: different options ago. You could be a brat or you
Speaker 1: could be the dom that you want to be with
Speaker 1: the sub or you could be the dom brat, which,
Speaker 1: how the dog hasn't worked for me. That's more subby
Speaker 1: so to me, I guess that's why I'm leaning on
Speaker 1: her being stronger because she said he gave off sub vibes.
Speaker 1: I honestly think too before leading into all this BDS
Speaker 1: some terms which a lot of people I guess like
Speaker 1: to do. Now, you really don't notice, nigga. You literally
Speaker 1: said you met him at a restaurant. You don't know him,
Speaker 1: you don't know how he's in the bedroom, you don't
Speaker 1: know technically how he wants to show up. In any
Speaker 1: sort of relationship. So honestly, I would just lead with
Speaker 1: the Hey, it was really nice meeting you the other night.
Speaker 1: I don't want us to be strangers, so don't be
Speaker 1: a stranger. When can I see you again? Leave out
Speaker 1: the BDSM topics and conversations altogether. I know we led
Speaker 1: very sexually, and again I think that those are things
Speaker 1: that unless you're meeting someone in the lifestyle on the
Speaker 1: scene or have a rapport with them, some of these
Speaker 1: things could be like off puttish. So then I would
Speaker 1: just say not taking a step into BDSM out the gate.
Speaker 1: Second time you got damn textas nigga literally just not
Speaker 1: a nigga because he white, but literally just express that
Speaker 1: you're interested, you really liked his energy and you want
Speaker 1: to see him again. How soon can you see him again?
Speaker 1: That removes you being too dominant, It removes the brightness
Speaker 1: of it, and you coming off is all the things
Speaker 1: that men are also sharing that they don't like at
Speaker 1: the moment. So I would say, for anyone listening at
Speaker 1: twenty four years old, if you aren't really sure the
Speaker 1: space that you're in in terms of BDSM, it could
Speaker 1: be tricky to lean into or look at every relationship
Speaker 1: dynamic in a BDSM way without really knowing how confident
Speaker 1: you are and where you stand and the B, the D,
Speaker 1: the S and the M. That would be like my
Speaker 1: full fledged advice to also, considering that you're twenty four
Speaker 1: and you think you're a sub never been a dom,
Speaker 1: that would be my advice to you overall, and then
Speaker 1: you can lean into the other things that Weezye and
Speaker 1: I said later on once you actually continue seeing this Nigga, yes,
Speaker 1: breaking that first text ice, it's tough. The other day
Speaker 1: we were at a table actually it was that same
Speaker 1: Fashion Week table where I was bitching about obey. My
Speaker 1: homeboy was like, yo, we ran into someone and he
Speaker 1: was like, damn. I was like one of my top
Speaker 1: top three. I was like, nigga, you said that was
Speaker 1: gonna go top three dubs your top Like, who the
Speaker 1: fuck is one and two? He's like, all right, maybe
Speaker 1: she was, And I'm like, so what are you gonna do?
Speaker 1: How do you like, hit her up? You're in the
Speaker 1: same city, you both don't live here. He lives in London,
Speaker 1: Like hit this bitch up? So he's like, how do
Speaker 1: I do this? So we're now all going around the
Speaker 1: table because their last interaction wasn't necessarily the best. Okay,
Speaker 1: He's like, where do I go from here? And I'm like,
Speaker 1: in my head, you gotta go basic. It was good
Speaker 1: seeing you even on my mind. That's basic. Next person's like, say,
Speaker 1: thinking the last time I missed that pussy that don't work,
Speaker 1: prompt that don't work, that don't work. Good seeing you
Speaker 1: again with the heart works, And I'll tell you why
Speaker 1: period don't. I don't want a nigga depending on for
Speaker 1: him to go straight to I missed that pussy or
Speaker 1: I miss how that fee and all these niggas that
Speaker 1: are getting it now due to nigga, like make me
Speaker 1: feel as a woman missed because of my presence, not
Speaker 1: because of my pussy mind from my mouth. I know already,
Speaker 1: I know, I know now. What else you should know
Speaker 1: is that there is more content from you, and you
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Speaker 1: to us, and we're going to give it to you straight.
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Speaker 1: ho Hi, see you next week. I'm Dave. Bye,