1 00:00:01,400 --> 00:00:02,720 Speaker 1: So we had a nice day. We went off with 2 00:00:02,720 --> 00:00:05,120 Speaker 1: my home Quila, my homegirl Quila and her husband. It 3 00:00:05,160 --> 00:00:08,239 Speaker 1: was his birthday. I recently lost a bunch of weight 4 00:00:08,640 --> 00:00:11,639 Speaker 1: from doing a bunch of unhealthy shit, taking these crazy 5 00:00:11,880 --> 00:00:14,200 Speaker 1: pills from a gas station, that's what he called them. 6 00:00:14,240 --> 00:00:16,040 Speaker 1: But it's really a health food store. But it's not English, 7 00:00:16,079 --> 00:00:17,520 Speaker 1: but it's a health food store. This next day, beauty 8 00:00:17,520 --> 00:00:20,040 Speaker 1: splast store on Pico and it's got Chinese letters on it. 9 00:00:20,079 --> 00:00:21,200 Speaker 1: I don't know it's in it, but it makes you 10 00:00:21,239 --> 00:00:24,320 Speaker 1: not eat food. So he wasn't really happy with that 11 00:00:24,360 --> 00:00:27,080 Speaker 1: and was like, I want you to get healthier habits. 12 00:00:27,880 --> 00:00:30,040 Speaker 1: So whatever, I lost a wife. So we're on the 13 00:00:30,080 --> 00:00:33,920 Speaker 1: couch watching Hunting Wives and I go get popcorn and 14 00:00:33,960 --> 00:00:36,080 Speaker 1: raisin ets and I bring it back and I said 15 00:00:36,080 --> 00:00:41,559 Speaker 1: do you want some? And he looked at me like no. 16 00:00:43,200 --> 00:00:46,080 Speaker 1: It kept watching TV. I was like, oh, you want 17 00:00:46,080 --> 00:00:49,480 Speaker 1: food or something? No, Kila, I don't need to eat 18 00:00:49,520 --> 00:00:52,640 Speaker 1: right now, mind you. I know why he said it 19 00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:55,880 Speaker 1: like that, because we just had sugarfish. I don't need 20 00:00:55,920 --> 00:00:59,160 Speaker 1: to eat right now. Really gives you need to eat 21 00:00:59,200 --> 00:01:01,920 Speaker 1: right now? So I'm like, hold on, Stott falls the screen. 22 00:01:02,000 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 1: I'm like what the fuck is that. It's like nothing, 23 00:01:05,760 --> 00:01:08,880 Speaker 1: you feel judged. I'm not judging you. I said, how 24 00:01:08,880 --> 00:01:10,920 Speaker 1: do you know I feel judge if you wasn't judging me, nigga. 25 00:01:11,400 --> 00:01:14,039 Speaker 1: I was like, at the end of the day, we 26 00:01:14,160 --> 00:01:16,640 Speaker 1: all know that I gained weight because the birth control 27 00:01:16,680 --> 00:01:18,480 Speaker 1: is making me eat everything, and I was craving everything. 28 00:01:18,640 --> 00:01:19,959 Speaker 1: But I'm not gonna be in this place with you 29 00:01:19,959 --> 00:01:23,319 Speaker 1: where I'm uncomfortable to eat a fucking snack. I fucking 30 00:01:23,319 --> 00:01:25,720 Speaker 1: worked out this morning, Like I can't have popcorn now. 31 00:01:26,400 --> 00:01:28,119 Speaker 1: He's like, you want to make the choices you want 32 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:30,520 Speaker 1: to make, but you basically feel like you need me 33 00:01:30,600 --> 00:01:32,880 Speaker 1: to indulge, and I'm not gonna indulge with you. Every 34 00:01:32,880 --> 00:01:35,399 Speaker 1: time you need to have a snack, I don't need 35 00:01:35,440 --> 00:01:38,000 Speaker 1: to eat. We just ate. You want to have popcorn? 36 00:01:38,040 --> 00:01:40,880 Speaker 1: Feel free? I was like, Nah, the way that you're 37 00:01:40,880 --> 00:01:42,440 Speaker 1: talking to me is like you need to be this 38 00:01:42,520 --> 00:01:44,880 Speaker 1: accountability person for me. I don't need you to be accountable. 39 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:47,840 Speaker 1: I'm my own person. This is my body. He goes, 40 00:01:49,120 --> 00:01:52,120 Speaker 1: that's my body too. We're talking about having a baby. 41 00:01:52,480 --> 00:01:55,480 Speaker 1: We're gonna be together forever. Your body's my body. If 42 00:01:55,520 --> 00:01:58,000 Speaker 1: I was sitting here chain smoking cigarettes and doing crazy shit. 43 00:01:58,080 --> 00:02:00,680 Speaker 1: Wouldn't you be telling me don't put certain things in 44 00:02:00,720 --> 00:02:02,600 Speaker 1: my body? And now I'm like, so I can't put 45 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:06,120 Speaker 1: popcorn in my body. He's like, I'm not saying it's popcorn, 46 00:02:06,160 --> 00:02:08,560 Speaker 1: but if you want to choose to eat late and 47 00:02:08,600 --> 00:02:11,720 Speaker 1: do certain things, I'm gonna make sure to always hold 48 00:02:11,720 --> 00:02:13,320 Speaker 1: you accountable when this is the stuff you said you 49 00:02:13,320 --> 00:02:15,120 Speaker 1: don't want to do. So then we got into this 50 00:02:15,160 --> 00:02:17,480 Speaker 1: thing of nigga. I don't need you to keep me accountable. 51 00:02:17,600 --> 00:02:19,320 Speaker 1: Check the fuck up. He's like, I'm not gonna shut 52 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:21,240 Speaker 1: the fuck up when two months ago you were depressed 53 00:02:21,240 --> 00:02:23,280 Speaker 1: talking about, oh my god, I hate myself. No, I'm 54 00:02:23,280 --> 00:02:24,919 Speaker 1: gonna make sure you stay on point because now you're 55 00:02:24,960 --> 00:02:26,720 Speaker 1: in this place of loving yourself again. So that made 56 00:02:26,760 --> 00:02:28,440 Speaker 1: me feel bad because I'm like, I always love myself. 57 00:02:28,440 --> 00:02:30,080 Speaker 1: I've always been a bad bag teme when I little 58 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:33,520 Speaker 1: twenty pounds on it. So then we start arguing, We 59 00:02:33,520 --> 00:02:35,840 Speaker 1: start arguing, We start arguing, and you know he's very quiet, 60 00:02:35,919 --> 00:02:39,560 Speaker 1: is he not? Yes, I never heard this media very quiet. 61 00:02:40,000 --> 00:02:42,919 Speaker 1: So he's sitting there and I'm eating the vopera and he goes, 62 00:02:42,960 --> 00:02:46,480 Speaker 1: you know what I think you want? I think you 63 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:48,840 Speaker 1: would like him. Man who just says yes, I think 64 00:02:48,880 --> 00:02:52,280 Speaker 1: you want to yesk me? Oh I lost it. Don't 65 00:02:52,320 --> 00:02:54,440 Speaker 1: tell me what type of nigga I need. Nigga? Who 66 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:56,359 Speaker 1: the fuck you need? Now you want to bitch who 67 00:02:56,400 --> 00:02:59,080 Speaker 1: don't eat? That's what you want? Okay, go to one 68 00:02:59,080 --> 00:03:00,200 Speaker 1: of my house and I don't need you to me 69 00:03:00,200 --> 00:03:01,680 Speaker 1: what I need because I got you. So what the 70 00:03:01,680 --> 00:03:04,040 Speaker 1: fuck you gonna do? Fuck you? So now I'm mad. 71 00:03:04,200 --> 00:03:05,560 Speaker 1: So now I get up. And now you know when 72 00:03:05,600 --> 00:03:07,320 Speaker 1: they start laughing when you get mad, and that's that 73 00:03:07,360 --> 00:03:12,040 Speaker 1: really puts me off. So that's what I do. You 74 00:03:12,080 --> 00:03:14,800 Speaker 1: already know that's my ship. I'm like, oh you about 75 00:03:14,840 --> 00:03:16,920 Speaker 1: to I'm about to whoop his ass. So I go 76 00:03:16,960 --> 00:03:19,680 Speaker 1: in the kitchen, I start washing dishes. I'm doing something 77 00:03:19,720 --> 00:03:22,760 Speaker 1: else and he gets in the cabinet. Now he's going 78 00:03:22,800 --> 00:03:25,239 Speaker 1: through the cabinet. Now there's vitamins and shit in there, 79 00:03:25,320 --> 00:03:29,600 Speaker 1: advil whatever in some of my stuff. And he said, 80 00:03:29,639 --> 00:03:32,280 Speaker 1: I said, what do you want. I'm just looking for 81 00:03:32,320 --> 00:03:35,280 Speaker 1: those pills that you need to calm you down. Whoa, 82 00:03:35,880 --> 00:03:44,280 Speaker 1: I just fighting words. Whoa, that's crazy, I said, excuse me, Yeah, 83 00:03:44,480 --> 00:03:46,880 Speaker 1: that's that's what I need. I don't know what it's called, 84 00:03:46,920 --> 00:03:52,120 Speaker 1: because you know, xanax is also like stuff anyway, So 85 00:03:52,200 --> 00:03:54,080 Speaker 1: I wanted to get mad, but then I started laughing 86 00:03:54,880 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 1: because I was like, oh, you really think he funny? 87 00:03:57,680 --> 00:03:59,840 Speaker 1: I start laughing. He started laughing. Now you're going to 88 00:03:59,840 --> 00:04:04,320 Speaker 1: ca I go sit on the couch. Offcorn's still there 89 00:04:05,080 --> 00:04:07,480 Speaker 1: and his boxers are on his legs open, so I 90 00:04:07,520 --> 00:04:10,480 Speaker 1: see the tip of the dick. So I was like, okay, 91 00:04:10,560 --> 00:04:14,120 Speaker 1: let me suck it, let's make up. I put my 92 00:04:14,120 --> 00:04:18,559 Speaker 1: hand towards this dick. He goes, I'm good. Actually, what 93 00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:22,080 Speaker 1: you you fucking ho nigga? We fuck all the time, 94 00:04:22,320 --> 00:04:24,359 Speaker 1: four times a day, and he's out the house, and 95 00:04:24,360 --> 00:04:25,840 Speaker 1: now you don't want to go pussy, I say, so 96 00:04:25,880 --> 00:04:27,400 Speaker 1: now you don't want to fuck me? He said. I 97 00:04:27,480 --> 00:04:32,239 Speaker 1: just realized we are in this relationship because I've changed 98 00:04:32,279 --> 00:04:35,400 Speaker 1: my eating habits for you. I was vegan, I didn't 99 00:04:35,400 --> 00:04:37,720 Speaker 1: even red meat. I never ate this fry shit all 100 00:04:37,760 --> 00:04:42,040 Speaker 1: the time, and so basically, if I never changed that, 101 00:04:42,400 --> 00:04:44,560 Speaker 1: we wouldn't be together. So now I'm trying to go 102 00:04:44,640 --> 00:04:47,320 Speaker 1: back into healthy shit and you won't let me. So 103 00:04:47,680 --> 00:04:50,360 Speaker 1: what the fuck? I'm like, Okay, So now you want 104 00:04:50,360 --> 00:04:51,400 Speaker 1: to tell me you want to go be with a 105 00:04:51,440 --> 00:04:53,559 Speaker 1: bitch who being a go be the bigger badge ass. 106 00:04:53,839 --> 00:04:55,479 Speaker 1: So now I'm mad. He's like, I'm not saying that. 107 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:58,040 Speaker 1: I'm just saying that I've changed something for you, and 108 00:04:58,120 --> 00:05:01,159 Speaker 1: you don't want to change anything. To change anything, I 109 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:02,960 Speaker 1: didn't eat fucking popcorn, you don't need to eat it. 110 00:05:03,000 --> 00:05:05,200 Speaker 1: He's like, that's not true. If I started this relationship 111 00:05:05,240 --> 00:05:07,560 Speaker 1: and I was actually raw plant based vegan like I was, 112 00:05:07,640 --> 00:05:09,720 Speaker 1: we would never be together because of the way you 113 00:05:09,760 --> 00:05:13,080 Speaker 1: like to eat. I'm just telling you I've made changes. 114 00:05:13,120 --> 00:05:14,880 Speaker 1: I'm like, so basically telling me I need to change. 115 00:05:15,040 --> 00:05:16,640 Speaker 1: So I'm like, you know what, you're kissing me off. 116 00:05:16,960 --> 00:05:19,000 Speaker 1: So Gila's husband because it was his birthday that night 117 00:05:19,160 --> 00:05:21,400 Speaker 1: going to the strip club. So I hit the group 118 00:05:21,440 --> 00:05:22,760 Speaker 1: chat with all four of us. I'm like, hey, we're 119 00:05:22,760 --> 00:05:24,120 Speaker 1: all going to go off drinks. That was the hour 120 00:05:24,200 --> 00:05:26,280 Speaker 1: when he was a fighting. I was like, let's go 121 00:05:26,320 --> 00:05:29,800 Speaker 1: to Davala. He's like, I'm going with the boys. So 122 00:05:29,800 --> 00:05:31,279 Speaker 1: he used to asking Mammy, oh you want to come. 123 00:05:32,120 --> 00:05:33,919 Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, because we don't argue 124 00:05:33,920 --> 00:05:35,359 Speaker 1: and kick each other out or do any of that. 125 00:05:36,040 --> 00:05:37,240 Speaker 1: I was like, I think you should go to the 126 00:05:37,240 --> 00:05:39,559 Speaker 1: strip club with nag go I have a good time, 127 00:05:40,160 --> 00:05:43,200 Speaker 1: so we could have a little space. Now, I was 128 00:05:43,279 --> 00:05:44,920 Speaker 1: flying to LA the next day because this is only 129 00:05:44,960 --> 00:05:47,760 Speaker 1: a few days ago. So he started getting dressed and 130 00:05:47,760 --> 00:05:49,040 Speaker 1: then I got out the shower and I was like, 131 00:05:49,880 --> 00:05:54,880 Speaker 1: I can't believe you. What is wrong with everything? Ruh? 132 00:05:55,839 --> 00:05:58,599 Speaker 1: I could it's crazy. I want you to go, but 133 00:05:58,680 --> 00:06:02,760 Speaker 1: I also just feel like I'm mad because we were 134 00:06:02,800 --> 00:06:05,919 Speaker 1: supposed to have a fucking date night. But you ain't shit, brun, 135 00:06:06,320 --> 00:06:10,280 Speaker 1: You're crazy. I know this is every story. Wait crazy, 136 00:06:10,480 --> 00:06:12,159 Speaker 1: So now you're looking at me. I'm not saying that 137 00:06:12,160 --> 00:06:14,080 Speaker 1: you shouldn't go to strip club. It's just said I 138 00:06:14,160 --> 00:06:16,960 Speaker 1: wanted to go out, and I'm like, really mad because 139 00:06:17,400 --> 00:06:20,600 Speaker 1: this is all a bullshit fight and now you're going 140 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:22,280 Speaker 1: to strip club. Well, I'm gonna get at home reading 141 00:06:22,279 --> 00:06:24,960 Speaker 1: a fucking book. So he's looking at me like I 142 00:06:24,960 --> 00:06:26,599 Speaker 1: don't know what to do. So I called for yall 143 00:06:26,640 --> 00:06:28,200 Speaker 1: to choose out one her gay friends. I'm like, where 144 00:06:28,200 --> 00:06:29,960 Speaker 1: are you at. She's like, oh, now, we're just rent 145 00:06:30,040 --> 00:06:32,400 Speaker 1: the house. I'm like, let's go out, and the like 146 00:06:32,440 --> 00:06:35,080 Speaker 1: we're in bad right now. Hang up on his bitch, 147 00:06:35,680 --> 00:06:38,000 Speaker 1: I get my book. I'm sitting near with Nina. Now 148 00:06:38,240 --> 00:06:40,000 Speaker 1: this nigga getting up and he's putting on his good 149 00:06:40,000 --> 00:06:42,279 Speaker 1: little fit too, the fucking tabbies and shit and his 150 00:06:42,360 --> 00:06:44,719 Speaker 1: little fucking shit fuck you. So he comes over to 151 00:06:44,720 --> 00:06:47,400 Speaker 1: give me a kiss and I'm like, oh whatever. So 152 00:06:47,440 --> 00:06:49,640 Speaker 1: he's gone for thirty minutes. They won't text each other. 153 00:06:49,680 --> 00:06:51,880 Speaker 1: I love you. I'm like, all right, we're gonna make it. 154 00:06:53,120 --> 00:06:57,320 Speaker 1: He comes home and it wasn't lately, but whatever time 155 00:06:57,360 --> 00:06:59,719 Speaker 1: it was, he won a fuck and I'm just like, no, 156 00:07:00,120 --> 00:07:07,799 Speaker 1: runna fight and sleep nigga. You whoa? So then brouh. 157 00:07:08,839 --> 00:07:12,000 Speaker 1: When I heard this the first time, I was just like, 158 00:07:12,480 --> 00:07:15,040 Speaker 1: you know what, I can't even say that. That's why 159 00:07:15,040 --> 00:07:16,840 Speaker 1: I'm not saying nothing now. I'm gonna let the audience 160 00:07:17,160 --> 00:07:21,240 Speaker 1: make all the faces warm. But bro, what what you 161 00:07:21,520 --> 00:07:23,920 Speaker 1: dead ass? I was not supposed to suck him at 162 00:07:23,920 --> 00:07:26,320 Speaker 1: five in the morning when I was sleeping. Nigga. All 163 00:07:26,360 --> 00:07:27,840 Speaker 1: the ship leading up to that is. 164 00:07:29,920 --> 00:07:32,440 Speaker 2: Ship was all you like you say, an argument, there's 165 00:07:32,520 --> 00:07:35,080 Speaker 2: like two sides and like one person's little. 166 00:07:35,040 --> 00:07:38,920 Speaker 1: I will tell you this whole ship was just well, 167 00:07:38,960 --> 00:07:40,720 Speaker 1: I will tell you why I react this way. He 168 00:07:40,720 --> 00:07:44,320 Speaker 1: ain't doing a single thing. He's a single thing, did 169 00:07:44,320 --> 00:07:46,400 Speaker 1: he not? Why are you laughing at me because I'm 170 00:07:46,440 --> 00:07:49,560 Speaker 1: getting food out? You gotta remember, bro, I just lost 171 00:07:49,560 --> 00:07:51,680 Speaker 1: this weight. But if he's just also, as a partner 172 00:07:51,720 --> 00:07:54,560 Speaker 1: dealt with someone who was depressed because they were overweight, 173 00:07:54,880 --> 00:07:57,320 Speaker 1: there's a thing to where. Okay, well, you finally are 174 00:07:57,320 --> 00:07:59,880 Speaker 1: in a good place. Now I can see where. I 175 00:08:00,040 --> 00:08:02,280 Speaker 1: don't want you to be depressed because you feel overweighted. 176 00:08:02,600 --> 00:08:05,120 Speaker 1: That of course is why he's doing that, and I 177 00:08:05,200 --> 00:08:08,080 Speaker 1: understand that, but I can't get to a place where 178 00:08:08,120 --> 00:08:10,560 Speaker 1: I start hiding through from you feeling judged and feeling 179 00:08:10,600 --> 00:08:10,920 Speaker 1: like shit. 180 00:08:11,040 --> 00:08:11,880 Speaker 2: He ain't say nothing. 181 00:08:11,920 --> 00:08:15,000 Speaker 1: He gave you a little eye roll. And he also said, 182 00:08:15,040 --> 00:08:17,080 Speaker 1: I don't want the popcorn with you. You eat it, 183 00:08:17,080 --> 00:08:18,640 Speaker 1: but I don't want to eat just cause you'll get 184 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:21,560 Speaker 1: You felt the way right, But I made it. Anyone's 185 00:08:21,600 --> 00:08:27,760 Speaker 1: taking into account that if someone's watching food habits like 186 00:08:27,880 --> 00:08:30,280 Speaker 1: that's gonna start a weird thing in my head. First 187 00:08:30,320 --> 00:08:33,199 Speaker 1: of all, I already did someone healthy shit to get here. Okay, 188 00:08:33,800 --> 00:08:36,280 Speaker 1: if we're gonna be honest about it, being in a 189 00:08:36,320 --> 00:08:40,520 Speaker 1: place where you're feeling guilty about food and I'm now 190 00:08:40,800 --> 00:08:43,360 Speaker 1: like Bro, I'm working out a lot, a lot. I'm 191 00:08:43,400 --> 00:08:45,400 Speaker 1: really trying my best to not only maintain the weight, 192 00:08:45,800 --> 00:08:48,720 Speaker 1: but cut up like I've never taken creatine and macros 193 00:08:48,760 --> 00:08:50,200 Speaker 1: did all this shit counted things before I got a 194 00:08:50,200 --> 00:08:52,920 Speaker 1: food scale. One would think it's cut for cocaine. It's not. 195 00:08:53,040 --> 00:08:56,080 Speaker 1: It's for food in my house, and you can got 196 00:08:56,160 --> 00:08:59,120 Speaker 1: You've got to understand what it's like because you were 197 00:08:59,200 --> 00:09:02,280 Speaker 1: dating a vegan and she changed. So imagine if it's 198 00:09:02,320 --> 00:09:04,440 Speaker 1: like you started looking at her different and she started 199 00:09:04,480 --> 00:09:06,000 Speaker 1: looking at you like it doesn't feel good. 200 00:09:06,240 --> 00:09:09,199 Speaker 2: Yeah, but he didn't say anything to make you change. 201 00:09:09,240 --> 00:09:14,240 Speaker 2: He just said, Hey, I'm just I don't want incorn. 202 00:09:13,880 --> 00:09:15,680 Speaker 1: But the look and the whole thing of I mean, 203 00:09:16,040 --> 00:09:17,400 Speaker 1: you guys could take it hot you want. But I 204 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:21,040 Speaker 1: don't believe he wasn't he was judging me about the food. 205 00:09:21,080 --> 00:09:23,920 Speaker 2: But he's it's more it's coming from a place like, hey, 206 00:09:24,080 --> 00:09:29,080 Speaker 2: I'm disappointed that you're making choosing to do things that 207 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:31,200 Speaker 2: you know is going to make you feel bad. 208 00:09:31,200 --> 00:09:34,120 Speaker 1: Oh, that's actually what really hurts my feelings the most. 209 00:09:34,480 --> 00:09:37,160 Speaker 1: I'm allowed to have balance and indulge. 210 00:09:36,760 --> 00:09:38,239 Speaker 2: And he's allowed to feel disappointed. 211 00:09:38,240 --> 00:09:41,840 Speaker 1: No, he's not. All I do is have popcorn watching 212 00:09:41,880 --> 00:09:42,719 Speaker 1: a movie with you. 213 00:09:42,880 --> 00:09:45,400 Speaker 2: But everything if you just it wasn't like I was 214 00:09:46,120 --> 00:09:49,400 Speaker 2: just a food and now you're about to consume food 215 00:09:49,400 --> 00:09:51,760 Speaker 2: that has no nutritional So when you go to dinner. 216 00:09:51,559 --> 00:09:54,160 Speaker 1: In a movie, do you not get popcorn after the dinner? 217 00:09:54,960 --> 00:09:56,319 Speaker 1: What's wrong with me having podcast? 218 00:09:56,800 --> 00:09:58,280 Speaker 2: I personally usually don't. 219 00:09:58,320 --> 00:10:01,120 Speaker 1: So like I'm dead as nothing. I really don't think 220 00:10:01,160 --> 00:10:04,280 Speaker 1: there's anything wrong with having a snack or indulging in 221 00:10:04,360 --> 00:10:07,360 Speaker 1: something as long as you're living and eating healthy. So 222 00:10:07,440 --> 00:10:10,480 Speaker 1: to me, now that like, mind you for the last 223 00:10:10,520 --> 00:10:13,200 Speaker 1: two months while losing the weight, but I've completely changed 224 00:10:13,240 --> 00:10:15,680 Speaker 1: my diet like I did intereven in basting, I only 225 00:10:15,840 --> 00:10:18,320 Speaker 1: ate between eleven to seven, like it was really really hard. 226 00:10:18,240 --> 00:10:21,720 Speaker 2: Okay and not even So he has two options. He 227 00:10:21,760 --> 00:10:25,320 Speaker 2: can either just ignore you making what in his eyes 228 00:10:25,440 --> 00:10:27,199 Speaker 2: is a bad decision, and I think you would agree 229 00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:29,480 Speaker 2: would be a bad yeah food decision. 230 00:10:29,640 --> 00:10:32,559 Speaker 1: No, actually no, So that's that is where the lenk. 231 00:10:32,640 --> 00:10:35,320 Speaker 1: That's where the wires are crossing in the argument. I 232 00:10:35,360 --> 00:10:38,160 Speaker 1: don't think having popcorn is bad now that I'm at 233 00:10:38,200 --> 00:10:39,040 Speaker 1: a healthier. 234 00:10:38,679 --> 00:10:39,560 Speaker 2: Pan and raisin ets. 235 00:10:39,960 --> 00:10:41,400 Speaker 1: No, I think I don't care if I had a 236 00:10:41,440 --> 00:10:44,199 Speaker 1: fucking slice of pizza, but that I think you're allowed 237 00:10:44,200 --> 00:10:46,760 Speaker 1: to have balance. It's like, so, then why not judge 238 00:10:46,760 --> 00:10:49,439 Speaker 1: somebody for drinking alcohol late at night? You just got 239 00:10:49,440 --> 00:10:52,719 Speaker 1: a little taste of the Horrible Decisions patreons. But why 240 00:10:52,720 --> 00:10:55,839 Speaker 1: it's that there? Tap in for the full, uncut and 241 00:10:56,000 --> 00:10:59,640 Speaker 1: way naster episodes over on Patreon. Go to patreon dot 242 00:10:59,679 --> 00:11:04,360 Speaker 1: com Backslash Horrible Decisions and unlock all the messyt wild 243 00:11:04,440 --> 00:11:09,400 Speaker 1: stories and bonus content you won't hear anywhere else. And 244 00:11:09,520 --> 00:11:13,000 Speaker 1: now here's You've Got Decisions if you would like to 245 00:11:13,040 --> 00:11:16,120 Speaker 1: have us answer your questions. If you have a terrible job, 246 00:11:16,200 --> 00:11:21,880 Speaker 1: a terrible boyfriend, or a terrible throufle guess what, You've 247 00:11:21,880 --> 00:11:28,599 Speaker 1: got decisions? You've got decisions. But y'all, it's a humpday. 248 00:11:28,880 --> 00:11:32,160 Speaker 1: This is our You Got Decision is our segment that 249 00:11:32,200 --> 00:11:34,600 Speaker 1: we've made an episode for you. Every single week we 250 00:11:34,640 --> 00:11:36,480 Speaker 1: answer one of your questions you send to us. If 251 00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:39,839 Speaker 1: you want to get your question prioritized, you got to 252 00:11:39,880 --> 00:11:42,440 Speaker 1: DM it to us on Patreon, Patreon dot com Backslash 253 00:11:42,480 --> 00:11:46,920 Speaker 1: Horrible Decisions where the show never died, or you can 254 00:11:46,960 --> 00:11:50,800 Speaker 1: also send us your email at Decisions pod at gmail 255 00:11:50,880 --> 00:11:55,120 Speaker 1: dot com. Now we're gonna get right into it this 256 00:11:55,200 --> 00:11:57,880 Speaker 1: week because we're not gonna hold you too long. This 257 00:11:58,000 --> 00:12:03,360 Speaker 1: actually comes from a Patreon member who writes in oh lord, 258 00:12:04,080 --> 00:12:08,480 Speaker 1: hey girlies, I'll keep this as short as I can, 259 00:12:08,720 --> 00:12:11,280 Speaker 1: but you both have helped me in my journey into 260 00:12:11,280 --> 00:12:15,800 Speaker 1: my womanhood as I approach twenty four years old. Before 261 00:12:15,800 --> 00:12:19,160 Speaker 1: I dropped my question, i'd appreciate any general advice you'd 262 00:12:19,160 --> 00:12:23,079 Speaker 1: give to someone my age. I also love advice from 263 00:12:23,240 --> 00:12:26,600 Speaker 1: the both of you. Okay. I met this guy as 264 00:12:26,600 --> 00:12:30,199 Speaker 1: a server at a celebrity chef restaurant in DC. I'm 265 00:12:30,240 --> 00:12:33,200 Speaker 1: a black woman from Miami, big as fuck, and the 266 00:12:33,200 --> 00:12:35,840 Speaker 1: best way I could describe him is as a skinny 267 00:12:35,880 --> 00:12:39,920 Speaker 1: but cultured white guy. Long story short. We hung out 268 00:12:39,960 --> 00:12:43,960 Speaker 1: after his shift and he gave me submissive vibes. When 269 00:12:43,960 --> 00:12:46,240 Speaker 1: I gave him my number, he told me to Apple 270 00:12:46,280 --> 00:12:49,560 Speaker 1: pay myself whatever I wanted, and the convo after was 271 00:12:49,600 --> 00:12:53,120 Speaker 1: so flirty, and he's really funny. I've never fucked a 272 00:12:53,120 --> 00:12:56,840 Speaker 1: white guy or honestly had anything other than vanilla sex 273 00:12:56,920 --> 00:13:00,160 Speaker 1: and toys. However, I know that I'm kink here, I 274 00:13:00,240 --> 00:13:02,199 Speaker 1: let on and all I would need is a man 275 00:13:02,240 --> 00:13:05,600 Speaker 1: to make me feel safe enough to explore that. Naturally, 276 00:13:06,120 --> 00:13:08,480 Speaker 1: I'm more of a sub, but he gave me he 277 00:13:08,559 --> 00:13:11,360 Speaker 1: wanted to be my sub yo, bitch. He was saying 278 00:13:11,400 --> 00:13:14,760 Speaker 1: things like whatever I call him, he or respond I'm 279 00:13:14,800 --> 00:13:19,440 Speaker 1: his queen, etc. Anyways, that was literally all twenty four 280 00:13:19,440 --> 00:13:21,920 Speaker 1: hours of our encounter, and I want to follow up. 281 00:13:22,920 --> 00:13:25,160 Speaker 1: He didn't text me the next day, so I want 282 00:13:25,160 --> 00:13:27,120 Speaker 1: to reach out because I want to explore this more. 283 00:13:27,640 --> 00:13:31,000 Speaker 1: How should I proceed even if he isn't a sub? 284 00:13:31,160 --> 00:13:33,760 Speaker 1: Not gonna lie? I want to fuck him, but I've 285 00:13:33,800 --> 00:13:38,720 Speaker 1: never been so forward before. Any advice is helpful. I 286 00:13:38,720 --> 00:13:41,560 Speaker 1: feel like Mandy's looking at me because he's white, and 287 00:13:41,760 --> 00:13:43,719 Speaker 1: I don't know what's to say. However, when I go like, 288 00:13:43,760 --> 00:13:46,360 Speaker 1: that's why she think he has sub because I think 289 00:13:47,000 --> 00:13:48,719 Speaker 1: white man give me sub all the time. Because I 290 00:13:48,720 --> 00:13:50,400 Speaker 1: ain't never been with a white man. To me, I 291 00:13:50,440 --> 00:13:52,679 Speaker 1: always feel like I could just rough up a white man. 292 00:13:52,800 --> 00:13:55,319 Speaker 1: Sometimes I feel like also white guys are a little 293 00:13:55,320 --> 00:13:57,800 Speaker 1: bit more trepidationous, like when they meet a black woman 294 00:13:57,840 --> 00:13:59,320 Speaker 1: because they're like, who are you into me? Or you're not? 295 00:13:59,360 --> 00:14:01,360 Speaker 1: So then you think such energy because it's not very 296 00:14:01,360 --> 00:14:06,800 Speaker 1: dominant but hmm, by the way, fuck you for saying 297 00:14:06,840 --> 00:14:10,520 Speaker 1: that he gave you his Apple pay and told you 298 00:14:10,559 --> 00:14:12,679 Speaker 1: to Apple pay yourself whatever, and you ain't tell us 299 00:14:12,679 --> 00:14:14,520 Speaker 1: how much you Apple paid yourself because that would let 300 00:14:14,520 --> 00:14:16,280 Speaker 1: me know what you think of yourself. Because I'm also 301 00:14:16,720 --> 00:14:20,160 Speaker 1: that's what makes me think. Okay said she's trying to 302 00:14:20,160 --> 00:14:21,800 Speaker 1: come to him with like this, how much it's going 303 00:14:21,840 --> 00:14:23,960 Speaker 1: to be the sub bois out because the Apple pay 304 00:14:24,040 --> 00:14:25,920 Speaker 1: comment is throwing me. It's not given me that she 305 00:14:25,960 --> 00:14:27,920 Speaker 1: wants to sex work because she said he didn't hit 306 00:14:28,000 --> 00:14:30,480 Speaker 1: me the next day, but not gonna lie. I still 307 00:14:30,520 --> 00:14:32,200 Speaker 1: want to fuck him, So it's not giving that she 308 00:14:32,240 --> 00:14:34,280 Speaker 1: wants to charge at all or make it any type 309 00:14:34,320 --> 00:14:36,760 Speaker 1: of thing. I think she said that to allude to 310 00:14:36,800 --> 00:14:39,520 Speaker 1: his submissiveness. So whenever I haven't gotten a text back, 311 00:14:39,560 --> 00:14:41,960 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna find it works every single time. I've 312 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:44,480 Speaker 1: never been rejected by this, but it's not necessarily something 313 00:14:44,480 --> 00:14:47,880 Speaker 1: I would always recommend. But I like to be a 314 00:14:47,920 --> 00:14:51,680 Speaker 1: little fake dramatic. I'll say things like, waiting by the 315 00:14:51,680 --> 00:14:54,040 Speaker 1: phone for you to text me has been really annoying, 316 00:14:54,200 --> 00:14:56,320 Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah blah, and then I'll send a 317 00:14:56,320 --> 00:14:58,360 Speaker 1: cute picture of me looking sad, and then they always 318 00:14:58,360 --> 00:15:03,000 Speaker 1: have to reply because here's the thing, niggas forget you fine, 319 00:15:02,360 --> 00:15:05,560 Speaker 1: but all the time. One of my homeboys told me 320 00:15:06,280 --> 00:15:09,560 Speaker 1: he gets so many numbers that sometimes he has to 321 00:15:09,640 --> 00:15:12,360 Speaker 1: write in the notes like what they had on so 322 00:15:12,400 --> 00:15:15,320 Speaker 1: he remembered the bitch. Oh yeah, Oh. I had to 323 00:15:15,840 --> 00:15:18,520 Speaker 1: my boyfriend. I had to change my name in his phone. 324 00:15:18,840 --> 00:15:23,080 Speaker 1: He had Mandy light skin. I said, I don't like 325 00:15:23,120 --> 00:15:24,840 Speaker 1: this name, and I said, and how many mandy do 326 00:15:24,840 --> 00:15:27,200 Speaker 1: you have? Oh? None? So then I should be able 327 00:15:27,240 --> 00:15:31,600 Speaker 1: to stand alone you putting Mandy light skin in cart egg. Bro. 328 00:15:31,960 --> 00:15:34,400 Speaker 1: I made him change an egg on and off for 329 00:15:34,520 --> 00:15:38,160 Speaker 1: years that I talked about on the show. Bitch. My 330 00:15:38,240 --> 00:15:40,960 Speaker 1: name was Gigi blue in his phone, and I said, 331 00:15:41,160 --> 00:15:43,440 Speaker 1: what he's like? The day I met you, you was 332 00:15:43,480 --> 00:15:46,760 Speaker 1: wearing a blue wade the suit at Soho House ages 333 00:15:46,800 --> 00:15:50,480 Speaker 1: when your name was I was like, Bro, Mandy light 334 00:15:50,520 --> 00:15:54,760 Speaker 1: skin is great, glue is worse. No, it's not. Why 335 00:15:54,800 --> 00:15:58,560 Speaker 1: are you fucking talking about my skin color? I felt away, 336 00:15:59,080 --> 00:16:01,720 Speaker 1: and you couldn't have put Let's take us pretty smile 337 00:16:01,920 --> 00:16:05,480 Speaker 1: blind like Nigga light skin is so Gennaire octrog Gila 338 00:16:05,600 --> 00:16:09,040 Speaker 1: podcast once Bruh, I'm sorry, light skin is generic as fuck, 339 00:16:09,080 --> 00:16:11,760 Speaker 1: and I felt like he didn't really know no meat 340 00:16:11,840 --> 00:16:21,680 Speaker 1: very well. Well, here's the thing for the text. If 341 00:16:21,680 --> 00:16:25,160 Speaker 1: you want to fuck, you gotta start off gate the flirt. 342 00:16:25,520 --> 00:16:28,720 Speaker 1: The first's gotta be whether it be the emoji. The 343 00:16:28,720 --> 00:16:31,640 Speaker 1: emoji's gotta have the tongue. It's gotta be a you 344 00:16:31,680 --> 00:16:34,560 Speaker 1: gotta get emoji. It's gotta be something that happened that night. 345 00:16:34,600 --> 00:16:37,840 Speaker 1: If you're trying to lean into like the sexual energy, 346 00:16:38,040 --> 00:16:40,560 Speaker 1: you gotta bring the sexual energy because for the most part, 347 00:16:40,600 --> 00:16:42,440 Speaker 1: men are pretty much gonna try to be respectful because 348 00:16:42,440 --> 00:16:44,280 Speaker 1: they all scared to getting me food right now. So 349 00:16:44,800 --> 00:16:46,920 Speaker 1: it's the gift. It's the photo of you, it's a 350 00:16:46,960 --> 00:16:50,120 Speaker 1: sexy moment from that night, or even saying something like 351 00:16:50,440 --> 00:16:52,320 Speaker 1: bringing you back. I can't think of what you wrote 352 00:16:52,320 --> 00:16:54,840 Speaker 1: because I'm really hungry when my brain's broken. But whatever 353 00:16:54,880 --> 00:16:56,400 Speaker 1: he was saying to you that night, be like remember 354 00:16:56,400 --> 00:16:58,680 Speaker 1: when you x y Z. How come we haven't followed 355 00:16:58,760 --> 00:17:02,600 Speaker 1: up on that? I'm ready. Yeah, things like that that 356 00:17:02,720 --> 00:17:04,359 Speaker 1: it's so hard for it, and I think that that's 357 00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:07,120 Speaker 1: the that's actually the first part you said that you're 358 00:17:07,200 --> 00:17:10,639 Speaker 1: normally sub leaning into dominance looks like you taking that 359 00:17:10,680 --> 00:17:13,600 Speaker 1: first sep then like in the most subtle way. I 360 00:17:13,600 --> 00:17:18,000 Speaker 1: think women often look at being submissive as being the 361 00:17:18,040 --> 00:17:21,000 Speaker 1: one that is getting chased. And in this essence, if 362 00:17:21,000 --> 00:17:22,920 Speaker 1: he didn't hit you back and bitch, if you want 363 00:17:22,920 --> 00:17:25,920 Speaker 1: that dick and you want that little pink, you gotta 364 00:17:25,960 --> 00:17:29,159 Speaker 1: go get it. And what that looked like is you 365 00:17:29,320 --> 00:17:33,520 Speaker 1: hitting him up and being like, hey, so where's your 366 00:17:33,520 --> 00:17:34,960 Speaker 1: next day off? Because I'm trying to see you where 367 00:17:35,000 --> 00:17:37,040 Speaker 1: you're taking me. I think that's what you should also 368 00:17:37,119 --> 00:17:40,240 Speaker 1: lean into. Don't be too dominant to where it seemed 369 00:17:40,240 --> 00:17:42,280 Speaker 1: like you're trying to take him out. If he don't 370 00:17:42,280 --> 00:17:45,639 Speaker 1: already lead with like apple, pay lean into that. That 371 00:17:45,720 --> 00:17:47,400 Speaker 1: might be a part of his kick. He might be 372 00:17:47,600 --> 00:17:50,200 Speaker 1: he might want to be financially dominated. Something so good. 373 00:17:50,520 --> 00:17:52,159 Speaker 1: A piece of advice that you just gave I was 374 00:17:52,200 --> 00:17:54,720 Speaker 1: thinking about it when you were talking, is you said, 375 00:17:54,840 --> 00:17:57,200 Speaker 1: don't be too dominant. So now it is like, don't 376 00:17:57,200 --> 00:17:59,879 Speaker 1: be too dominant, don't be too much. You did no, no, 377 00:18:00,080 --> 00:18:02,160 Speaker 1: I know, I said in terms of if you think 378 00:18:02,200 --> 00:18:04,240 Speaker 1: he is a sub I didn't say that. I said 379 00:18:04,320 --> 00:18:06,120 Speaker 1: you got to lean into the dominance and what I'm 380 00:18:06,160 --> 00:18:08,359 Speaker 1: saying is to make sure that and that's why I 381 00:18:08,359 --> 00:18:10,600 Speaker 1: was leaning into the findom of it. If he pulled 382 00:18:10,640 --> 00:18:13,119 Speaker 1: out the Apple pay, what I was going to say 383 00:18:13,560 --> 00:18:16,119 Speaker 1: was that you should tell him when are you taking 384 00:18:16,160 --> 00:18:18,800 Speaker 1: me out? I'd like to go here? Don't be like, 385 00:18:19,280 --> 00:18:21,280 Speaker 1: don't ask him to go out, Like I was going 386 00:18:21,320 --> 00:18:24,440 Speaker 1: to lean into being full fledged dominant. If you want 387 00:18:24,480 --> 00:18:26,840 Speaker 1: to be dominant now outside of taking him out, be like, 388 00:18:27,240 --> 00:18:28,920 Speaker 1: so when you're taking me out, I'm free this day? 389 00:18:29,040 --> 00:18:30,879 Speaker 1: Are you taking me out here? It's a better thing 390 00:18:31,320 --> 00:18:34,760 Speaker 1: to start off with. When I heard you saying don't 391 00:18:34,760 --> 00:18:37,119 Speaker 1: be too something, I was going to say, don't be 392 00:18:37,160 --> 00:18:39,920 Speaker 1: too forthcoming more than you want to be braddy. Think 393 00:18:40,000 --> 00:18:44,000 Speaker 1: of the word braddy as your guys for how you'll 394 00:18:44,000 --> 00:18:46,520 Speaker 1: start off with being dominant, because if you're not naturally 395 00:18:46,560 --> 00:18:48,800 Speaker 1: that bitch, it can come off kind of weird, or 396 00:18:48,840 --> 00:18:51,159 Speaker 1: you'll go too hard, or it just won't feel natural. 397 00:18:51,960 --> 00:18:56,040 Speaker 1: Definitely be bratty girl. Braddy is a part of dominating, 398 00:18:56,080 --> 00:18:57,960 Speaker 1: and you can amp it up once he gives it 399 00:18:58,000 --> 00:18:59,960 Speaker 1: back to you. So maybe like she really don't know 400 00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:03,399 Speaker 1: how to start, so I would definitely start off with one. 401 00:19:03,840 --> 00:19:05,680 Speaker 1: The text got to be annoyed with him in some 402 00:19:05,720 --> 00:19:08,159 Speaker 1: way but sexually flirting, annoyed that he hasn't hit you, 403 00:19:08,400 --> 00:19:11,639 Speaker 1: annoyed that he didn't follow up on something from that date. Also, 404 00:19:11,800 --> 00:19:15,199 Speaker 1: like Mandy said, recommending, you need to be telling me 405 00:19:15,280 --> 00:19:17,640 Speaker 1: x y Z where we're going. It's been forty eight hours, 406 00:19:17,680 --> 00:19:21,480 Speaker 1: like amp up and flirting with the brattiness. I haven't 407 00:19:21,520 --> 00:19:24,000 Speaker 1: had a man yet that doesn't like my little brad shit. 408 00:19:24,119 --> 00:19:26,119 Speaker 1: But that's only when men are super attracted to you, 409 00:19:26,160 --> 00:19:28,359 Speaker 1: and it's very clear, Yeah, you know you can't just 410 00:19:28,440 --> 00:19:32,240 Speaker 1: be it, So I wouldn't lead someone. I'm fine with 411 00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:34,919 Speaker 1: being a bride wants you get to know someone like 412 00:19:35,000 --> 00:19:36,600 Speaker 1: My advice would not be to be a bread out 413 00:19:36,640 --> 00:19:38,720 Speaker 1: the gate, which is why I'm like, just be dominant 414 00:19:38,760 --> 00:19:41,040 Speaker 1: and forthcoming, like when you're taking me out, when am 415 00:19:41,080 --> 00:19:43,919 Speaker 1: I seeing you like and not making it seem like 416 00:19:43,920 --> 00:19:46,840 Speaker 1: you're asking him out, like, oh my god, I can't. Like, 417 00:19:47,200 --> 00:19:50,960 Speaker 1: I would just be dominant in that way. Brady to 418 00:19:51,000 --> 00:19:53,320 Speaker 1: me always comes later. I don't get to show my 419 00:19:53,359 --> 00:19:55,720 Speaker 1: bridy ways, like even my main nigga. Now, it took 420 00:19:55,720 --> 00:19:57,040 Speaker 1: me four years to be able to be a bread 421 00:19:57,080 --> 00:19:59,560 Speaker 1: with him to where I felt comfortable that it would 422 00:19:59,600 --> 00:20:02,480 Speaker 1: result in what I wanted from him. I guess bratt 423 00:20:02,480 --> 00:20:05,000 Speaker 1: looks different to us, so to be brat looks different 424 00:20:05,000 --> 00:20:08,000 Speaker 1: for niggas like to me Brady, especially in an era 425 00:20:08,040 --> 00:20:10,840 Speaker 1: where all these niggas complain about a bitch asking for 426 00:20:10,880 --> 00:20:15,080 Speaker 1: too much to saying that. I think being dominant and 427 00:20:15,119 --> 00:20:17,000 Speaker 1: being too demanding can look different to men too, So 428 00:20:17,080 --> 00:20:19,520 Speaker 1: I guess that's why we have two different opinions on that. 429 00:20:20,440 --> 00:20:22,240 Speaker 1: I think, Yeah, so there you go. You got two 430 00:20:22,240 --> 00:20:24,119 Speaker 1: different options ago. You could be a brat or you 431 00:20:24,119 --> 00:20:25,840 Speaker 1: could be the dom that you want to be with 432 00:20:25,960 --> 00:20:30,040 Speaker 1: the sub or you could be the dom brat, which, 433 00:20:30,760 --> 00:20:32,840 Speaker 1: how the dog hasn't worked for me. That's more subby 434 00:20:32,920 --> 00:20:34,600 Speaker 1: so to me, I guess that's why I'm leaning on 435 00:20:34,640 --> 00:20:37,720 Speaker 1: her being stronger because she said he gave off sub vibes. 436 00:20:37,880 --> 00:20:41,400 Speaker 1: I honestly think too before leading into all this BDS 437 00:20:41,400 --> 00:20:43,040 Speaker 1: some terms which a lot of people I guess like 438 00:20:43,119 --> 00:20:45,960 Speaker 1: to do. Now, you really don't notice, nigga. You literally 439 00:20:46,040 --> 00:20:49,120 Speaker 1: said you met him at a restaurant. You don't know him, 440 00:20:49,160 --> 00:20:50,680 Speaker 1: you don't know how he's in the bedroom, you don't 441 00:20:50,680 --> 00:20:52,680 Speaker 1: know technically how he wants to show up. In any 442 00:20:52,680 --> 00:20:55,760 Speaker 1: sort of relationship. So honestly, I would just lead with 443 00:20:55,800 --> 00:20:58,200 Speaker 1: the Hey, it was really nice meeting you the other night. 444 00:20:58,520 --> 00:21:00,560 Speaker 1: I don't want us to be strangers, so don't be 445 00:21:00,600 --> 00:21:03,320 Speaker 1: a stranger. When can I see you again? Leave out 446 00:21:03,359 --> 00:21:07,520 Speaker 1: the BDSM topics and conversations altogether. I know we led 447 00:21:07,640 --> 00:21:09,720 Speaker 1: very sexually, and again I think that those are things 448 00:21:09,760 --> 00:21:12,800 Speaker 1: that unless you're meeting someone in the lifestyle on the 449 00:21:12,800 --> 00:21:15,280 Speaker 1: scene or have a rapport with them, some of these 450 00:21:15,280 --> 00:21:18,480 Speaker 1: things could be like off puttish. So then I would 451 00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:22,000 Speaker 1: just say not taking a step into BDSM out the gate. 452 00:21:22,200 --> 00:21:25,520 Speaker 1: Second time you got damn textas nigga literally just not 453 00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:29,320 Speaker 1: a nigga because he white, but literally just express that 454 00:21:30,000 --> 00:21:33,640 Speaker 1: you're interested, you really liked his energy and you want 455 00:21:33,640 --> 00:21:35,840 Speaker 1: to see him again. How soon can you see him again? 456 00:21:36,760 --> 00:21:40,240 Speaker 1: That removes you being too dominant, It removes the brightness 457 00:21:40,320 --> 00:21:42,920 Speaker 1: of it, and you coming off is all the things 458 00:21:42,920 --> 00:21:45,159 Speaker 1: that men are also sharing that they don't like at 459 00:21:45,160 --> 00:21:48,479 Speaker 1: the moment. So I would say, for anyone listening at 460 00:21:48,520 --> 00:21:51,320 Speaker 1: twenty four years old, if you aren't really sure the 461 00:21:51,320 --> 00:21:54,080 Speaker 1: space that you're in in terms of BDSM, it could 462 00:21:54,080 --> 00:21:57,240 Speaker 1: be tricky to lean into or look at every relationship 463 00:21:57,320 --> 00:22:02,640 Speaker 1: dynamic in a BDSM way without really knowing how confident 464 00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:05,199 Speaker 1: you are and where you stand and the B, the D, 465 00:22:05,520 --> 00:22:08,399 Speaker 1: the S and the M. That would be like my 466 00:22:08,480 --> 00:22:11,320 Speaker 1: full fledged advice to also, considering that you're twenty four 467 00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:14,359 Speaker 1: and you think you're a sub never been a dom, 468 00:22:15,000 --> 00:22:17,000 Speaker 1: that would be my advice to you overall, and then 469 00:22:17,040 --> 00:22:19,800 Speaker 1: you can lean into the other things that Weezye and 470 00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:24,320 Speaker 1: I said later on once you actually continue seeing this Nigga, yes, 471 00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:28,560 Speaker 1: breaking that first text ice, it's tough. The other day 472 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:30,960 Speaker 1: we were at a table actually it was that same 473 00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:34,919 Speaker 1: Fashion Week table where I was bitching about obey. My 474 00:22:34,960 --> 00:22:40,119 Speaker 1: homeboy was like, yo, we ran into someone and he 475 00:22:40,240 --> 00:22:42,720 Speaker 1: was like, damn. I was like one of my top 476 00:22:43,400 --> 00:22:45,440 Speaker 1: top three. I was like, nigga, you said that was 477 00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:48,679 Speaker 1: gonna go top three dubs your top Like, who the 478 00:22:48,680 --> 00:22:50,960 Speaker 1: fuck is one and two? He's like, all right, maybe 479 00:22:50,960 --> 00:22:53,399 Speaker 1: she was, And I'm like, so what are you gonna do? 480 00:22:53,960 --> 00:22:56,560 Speaker 1: How do you like, hit her up? You're in the 481 00:22:56,600 --> 00:22:59,800 Speaker 1: same city, you both don't live here. He lives in London, 482 00:22:59,920 --> 00:23:04,879 Speaker 1: Like hit this bitch up? So he's like, how do 483 00:23:05,000 --> 00:23:07,480 Speaker 1: I do this? So we're now all going around the 484 00:23:07,520 --> 00:23:10,959 Speaker 1: table because their last interaction wasn't necessarily the best. Okay, 485 00:23:11,080 --> 00:23:16,320 Speaker 1: He's like, where do I go from here? And I'm like, 486 00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:19,880 Speaker 1: in my head, you gotta go basic. It was good 487 00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:26,640 Speaker 1: seeing you even on my mind. That's basic. Next person's like, say, 488 00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:30,320 Speaker 1: thinking the last time I missed that pussy that don't work, 489 00:23:31,680 --> 00:23:35,159 Speaker 1: prompt that don't work, that don't work. Good seeing you 490 00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:38,080 Speaker 1: again with the heart works, And I'll tell you why 491 00:23:38,119 --> 00:23:41,119 Speaker 1: period don't. I don't want a nigga depending on for 492 00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:43,399 Speaker 1: him to go straight to I missed that pussy or 493 00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:46,720 Speaker 1: I miss how that fee and all these niggas that 494 00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:49,919 Speaker 1: are getting it now due to nigga, like make me 495 00:23:50,119 --> 00:23:53,119 Speaker 1: feel as a woman missed because of my presence, not 496 00:23:53,119 --> 00:23:57,080 Speaker 1: because of my pussy mind from my mouth. I know already, 497 00:23:57,600 --> 00:24:01,840 Speaker 1: I know, I know now. What else you should know 498 00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:04,399 Speaker 1: is that there is more content from you, and you 499 00:24:04,440 --> 00:24:07,080 Speaker 1: can also see this on video. All you have to 500 00:24:07,119 --> 00:24:09,560 Speaker 1: do is go to patreon dot com backslash Horrible Decisions 501 00:24:09,600 --> 00:24:11,800 Speaker 1: to get the t to get the views, to see 502 00:24:11,800 --> 00:24:14,040 Speaker 1: how cute we are, and to send in your question 503 00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:15,680 Speaker 1: to us, and we're going to give it to you straight. 504 00:24:15,720 --> 00:24:17,080 Speaker 1: Include a picture too. I want to see what you 505 00:24:17,080 --> 00:24:19,359 Speaker 1: look like. And thank you guys so much for tuning 506 00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:22,080 Speaker 1: in too. Yet another episode you got to say us 507 00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:31,080 Speaker 1: ho Hi, see you next week. I'm Dave. Bye,