1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,599 Speaker 1: Okay, lady, I don't know about you, but the top 2 00:00:02,640 --> 00:00:05,120 Speaker 1: of this year, I was in a place where I 3 00:00:05,160 --> 00:00:08,280 Speaker 1: was trying to let go of a relationship that was 4 00:00:08,320 --> 00:00:11,240 Speaker 1: not serving me anymore. And I'm gonna be real with you, Okay. 5 00:00:12,080 --> 00:00:14,200 Speaker 1: This was coming off the hills of what I like 6 00:00:14,240 --> 00:00:16,560 Speaker 1: to call domin I talked about this on the podcast 7 00:00:16,880 --> 00:00:21,439 Speaker 1: an eventful whole phase. Okay. I had been exploring and experimenting, 8 00:00:21,800 --> 00:00:24,919 Speaker 1: and had been outside dating, doing all the things, and 9 00:00:24,960 --> 00:00:27,840 Speaker 1: I reached a point where my spirit was like, all right, lady, 10 00:00:28,040 --> 00:00:31,120 Speaker 1: it's time to come back home. Time to sit yourself down, okay. 11 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:34,000 Speaker 1: And I wanted to right. I wanted to choose alignment. 12 00:00:34,040 --> 00:00:36,720 Speaker 1: I wanted to choose clarity. I wanted to choose myself. 13 00:00:36,800 --> 00:00:41,120 Speaker 1: But wanting it and living it, those are two different things. 14 00:00:41,600 --> 00:00:43,559 Speaker 1: So this year brought up some challenges I think for 15 00:00:43,640 --> 00:00:46,000 Speaker 1: many of us right when we think about what's happening 16 00:00:46,040 --> 00:00:47,680 Speaker 1: in the world. When I think about some of the 17 00:00:47,720 --> 00:00:49,879 Speaker 1: patterns that I found myself in and some of the 18 00:00:49,920 --> 00:00:52,720 Speaker 1: truths I wasn't expecting to face. I found myself in 19 00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:55,840 Speaker 1: a space of trying to release things that had been 20 00:00:55,840 --> 00:00:59,240 Speaker 1: tied to my identity and my coping and my sense 21 00:00:59,280 --> 00:01:02,400 Speaker 1: of comfort, give you my idea of love and intimacy. 22 00:01:02,640 --> 00:01:04,759 Speaker 1: And so today we're going to talk briefly about that 23 00:01:05,240 --> 00:01:08,039 Speaker 1: and talk about what we're releasing in this year so 24 00:01:08,040 --> 00:01:10,840 Speaker 1: that we can walk into twenty twenty six and how 25 00:01:10,840 --> 00:01:13,039 Speaker 1: we can actually release things in a way that lands. 26 00:01:13,200 --> 00:01:15,280 Speaker 1: So I'm going to pass it over to Dom to 27 00:01:15,280 --> 00:01:16,800 Speaker 1: share our quote of the day and some of the 28 00:01:16,840 --> 00:01:19,160 Speaker 1: exciting updates before we jump into this conversation. 29 00:01:20,720 --> 00:01:24,600 Speaker 2: All right, so our quote of the day. To become 30 00:01:25,080 --> 00:01:29,400 Speaker 2: who you're becoming, you have to be willing to release 31 00:01:29,640 --> 00:01:34,199 Speaker 2: who you were. I'm gonna say that one more time 32 00:01:34,240 --> 00:01:35,840 Speaker 2: for the folks in the back to make sure you 33 00:01:36,080 --> 00:01:43,120 Speaker 2: hurt it. To become who you're becoming, you have to 34 00:01:43,160 --> 00:01:50,840 Speaker 2: be willing to release who you were, all right, all right, 35 00:01:50,920 --> 00:01:54,960 Speaker 2: so you know how we do. So when you hear 36 00:01:55,080 --> 00:01:59,360 Speaker 2: that quote and think about what we're trying to do 37 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:03,760 Speaker 2: and why we're having this bonus episode, what comes up 38 00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:05,320 Speaker 2: for you? Girl? 39 00:02:05,360 --> 00:02:07,920 Speaker 1: I'm a visual person, so as you were stating that, 40 00:02:07,960 --> 00:02:09,760 Speaker 1: I'm thinking about what that looks like in the physical 41 00:02:09,880 --> 00:02:12,560 Speaker 1: So outside of the becoming part, I'm thinking about like 42 00:02:12,680 --> 00:02:15,560 Speaker 1: the drawers in my room, right and getting new clothes. 43 00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:19,080 Speaker 1: If I want to get more clothes, my drawers are 44 00:02:19,080 --> 00:02:20,679 Speaker 1: already full. I have to take some stuff out. I 45 00:02:20,720 --> 00:02:22,320 Speaker 1: got to let some stuff go. I have to release 46 00:02:22,360 --> 00:02:24,520 Speaker 1: it so I can make space for what's to come. 47 00:02:24,919 --> 00:02:26,600 Speaker 1: And so when I think about it from that perspective, 48 00:02:27,160 --> 00:02:29,760 Speaker 1: it makes sense. But thinking about it from a human 49 00:02:29,880 --> 00:02:32,280 Speaker 1: perspective of like, oh my gosh, there are parts of 50 00:02:32,320 --> 00:02:35,200 Speaker 1: me that I need to release in order to be 51 00:02:35,320 --> 00:02:38,840 Speaker 1: open to this new version. It sounds scary. It sounds scary, 52 00:02:38,840 --> 00:02:42,680 Speaker 1: it sounds daunting, and yeah, that's what comes up to me. 53 00:02:42,919 --> 00:02:44,760 Speaker 1: That's what comes up for me when I hear that quote, 54 00:02:44,760 --> 00:02:46,400 Speaker 1: what about you? What comes up for you? 55 00:02:47,639 --> 00:02:51,920 Speaker 2: I think what comes up for me is the idea 56 00:02:51,960 --> 00:02:56,040 Speaker 2: that growth has to happen and that we're all on 57 00:02:56,080 --> 00:03:02,640 Speaker 2: a journey, and that part of that growth doesn't always 58 00:03:02,720 --> 00:03:10,480 Speaker 2: feel good. But in order to get to the sweet spot, 59 00:03:10,600 --> 00:03:14,400 Speaker 2: to get to the good stuff, you have to go 60 00:03:14,440 --> 00:03:18,520 Speaker 2: through things like it's not gonna come in super easy. 61 00:03:21,560 --> 00:03:24,240 Speaker 2: And so I think the other piece that comes up 62 00:03:24,280 --> 00:03:26,720 Speaker 2: for me is thinking about like, again, the point of 63 00:03:26,760 --> 00:03:31,280 Speaker 2: this bonus episode is to talk about being in community, 64 00:03:31,320 --> 00:03:35,840 Speaker 2: because I know that oftentimes the healing that we need 65 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:44,600 Speaker 2: the growth that we need doesn't happen solely when we're alone. 66 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:48,760 Speaker 2: That for a lot of us, particularly as black women, 67 00:03:50,160 --> 00:03:54,960 Speaker 2: we need to be in community. And so that's why 68 00:03:55,040 --> 00:03:57,240 Speaker 2: we're talking about that's why we're having this bonus episode 69 00:03:57,240 --> 00:04:05,600 Speaker 2: today to bring you too, opportunities for you to be 70 00:04:05,720 --> 00:04:08,960 Speaker 2: in community. So see, you want to tell them about 71 00:04:08,960 --> 00:04:09,400 Speaker 2: the first. 72 00:04:09,200 --> 00:04:12,720 Speaker 1: One, let's do it. So, lady, we are hosting a 73 00:04:12,840 --> 00:04:16,720 Speaker 1: virtual sleepover. Okay, we had our live event two years ago, 74 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:19,920 Speaker 1: our live event in Oakland that was so amazing and 75 00:04:19,960 --> 00:04:21,760 Speaker 1: time has been flying. You We're like, Okay, we want 76 00:04:21,760 --> 00:04:23,400 Speaker 1: to meet with our people again, but we know that 77 00:04:23,440 --> 00:04:25,240 Speaker 1: everyone isn't in the bay. And if this is your 78 00:04:25,240 --> 00:04:27,680 Speaker 1: first time listening to the episode, you are welcome to 79 00:04:27,720 --> 00:04:30,200 Speaker 1: come through, but also go check out our episodes that 80 00:04:30,200 --> 00:04:32,880 Speaker 1: are longer, because this is not really the vibe of 81 00:04:32,880 --> 00:04:35,280 Speaker 1: all our episodes. This is a bonus episode. We want 82 00:04:35,279 --> 00:04:37,440 Speaker 1: to share with you what's going on. So during this 83 00:04:37,520 --> 00:04:40,160 Speaker 1: virtual sleepover, we will have different activities. You can come 84 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:43,800 Speaker 1: and bring your pajamas, your journals, your favorite drinks, and 85 00:04:43,839 --> 00:04:45,919 Speaker 1: we're going to be reflecting on the year in a 86 00:04:46,040 --> 00:04:49,560 Speaker 1: very intentional way and we'll be figuring out what we 87 00:04:49,560 --> 00:04:51,760 Speaker 1: want to call in in twenty twenty six. So it's 88 00:04:51,800 --> 00:04:54,119 Speaker 1: going to be gentle guided and so full of love 89 00:04:54,240 --> 00:04:57,400 Speaker 1: and good energy and good vibes. And if you are 90 00:04:57,400 --> 00:05:00,400 Speaker 1: in a space where that sounds appealing to you, you 91 00:05:00,440 --> 00:05:02,080 Speaker 1: definitely want to check it out. Okay, it's going to 92 00:05:02,120 --> 00:05:06,200 Speaker 1: be on November tenth at six pm Pacific time. That 93 00:05:06,200 --> 00:05:08,840 Speaker 1: should be nine pm Eastern time. So come on out 94 00:05:08,920 --> 00:05:10,480 Speaker 1: with us, lady. We would love to have you there, 95 00:05:10,520 --> 00:05:12,599 Speaker 1: and we're gonna share with this information later. But you 96 00:05:12,600 --> 00:05:16,080 Speaker 1: can visit herspacepodcast dot com or visit us on Instagram 97 00:05:16,120 --> 00:05:18,760 Speaker 1: at her Space podcast to click the links center bio 98 00:05:18,920 --> 00:05:21,160 Speaker 1: for both events. And then Don's gonna tell us about 99 00:05:21,320 --> 00:05:22,280 Speaker 1: the second event. 100 00:05:23,680 --> 00:05:28,960 Speaker 2: So yes, our second event, specifically for those who are 101 00:05:29,200 --> 00:05:32,400 Speaker 2: in the Bay area and can meet with us in person, 102 00:05:32,920 --> 00:05:40,080 Speaker 2: we are having our eleven eleven Manifestation height on Tuesday, 103 00:05:40,240 --> 00:05:46,640 Speaker 2: November eleventh at eleven eleven am. And so again this 104 00:05:46,680 --> 00:05:50,600 Speaker 2: is in the Bay Area and it's for those who 105 00:05:51,360 --> 00:05:54,640 Speaker 2: live locally or if you want to travel in, come on. 106 00:05:54,839 --> 00:05:59,120 Speaker 2: We welcome that too, and it will occur specifically in 107 00:05:59,240 --> 00:06:04,520 Speaker 2: San Francisco. Go on this manifestation hike. We are going 108 00:06:04,640 --> 00:06:08,919 Speaker 2: to breathe together. We are gonna move through nature together. 109 00:06:09,120 --> 00:06:14,719 Speaker 2: We will take a moment to write and release some things, 110 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:19,559 Speaker 2: let some things go again in community and so we 111 00:06:19,640 --> 00:06:23,600 Speaker 2: will have more details on the link if you click 112 00:06:23,640 --> 00:06:28,159 Speaker 2: her Space podcast dot com and we want you to know, like, 113 00:06:28,200 --> 00:06:30,919 Speaker 2: if you're listening and you're like, yep, that's exactly where 114 00:06:30,960 --> 00:06:36,480 Speaker 2: I need to be, then listen to yourself and come 115 00:06:36,680 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 2: and join us again. That's herspacepodcast dot com. Or you 116 00:06:42,480 --> 00:06:46,040 Speaker 2: can click our bio on our Instagram page at her 117 00:06:46,160 --> 00:06:47,120 Speaker 2: Space podcast. 118 00:06:48,520 --> 00:06:50,840 Speaker 1: All right, now, let's get into a little teaser on 119 00:06:50,920 --> 00:06:54,240 Speaker 1: what you can expect at the Virtual Sleepover. Okay, we're 120 00:06:54,240 --> 00:06:56,560 Speaker 1: all about reflection. If you've been listening to the podcast, 121 00:06:56,600 --> 00:06:58,359 Speaker 1: you know we love a good journal intry. Okay, so 122 00:06:58,360 --> 00:07:00,280 Speaker 1: we have some questions that we want you to consider. 123 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:03,680 Speaker 1: So one of the questions is what have I been 124 00:07:03,800 --> 00:07:10,600 Speaker 1: caring that no longer fits who I'm becoming? All Right? 125 00:07:11,120 --> 00:07:14,000 Speaker 1: The second question is where in my life am I 126 00:07:14,080 --> 00:07:17,440 Speaker 1: still trying to hold on even though I know it's 127 00:07:17,480 --> 00:07:20,600 Speaker 1: time to let go. Is it a job, is it 128 00:07:20,640 --> 00:07:24,600 Speaker 1: a relationship? Is it a habit? Okay, see what comes 129 00:07:24,640 --> 00:07:27,680 Speaker 1: up for you. And then the last question here is 130 00:07:27,760 --> 00:07:38,000 Speaker 1: what is my spirit quietly asking for right now? Ooh child, Okay. 131 00:07:37,920 --> 00:07:41,760 Speaker 2: Listen, I'll tell y'all, I'll be honest. In this very moment, 132 00:07:41,880 --> 00:07:45,679 Speaker 2: I don't know what my spirit, my spirit is asking 133 00:07:45,760 --> 00:07:51,880 Speaker 2: for rest Okay, my spirit is asking for some sleep. Yeah, 134 00:07:51,960 --> 00:07:55,480 Speaker 2: and so, but that that's not necessarily what my spirit 135 00:07:55,640 --> 00:07:59,920 Speaker 2: generally asks for in in a general in a general 136 00:08:00,080 --> 00:08:03,760 Speaker 2: every day since right, but in this specific moment, and so, lady, 137 00:08:03,960 --> 00:08:07,080 Speaker 2: we want you to also think about that, right that 138 00:08:07,400 --> 00:08:11,000 Speaker 2: as you show up in that space, in the sleepover space, 139 00:08:11,200 --> 00:08:16,720 Speaker 2: that the questions that we're asking may be what's coming 140 00:08:16,800 --> 00:08:20,239 Speaker 2: up for you in that specific moment, how you are 141 00:08:20,360 --> 00:08:26,640 Speaker 2: showing up at that specific moment in time, or it 142 00:08:26,760 --> 00:08:30,520 Speaker 2: could be something that you've been holding for a long 143 00:08:30,640 --> 00:08:34,840 Speaker 2: time that you've been needing the space to release. You know, 144 00:08:35,120 --> 00:08:40,560 Speaker 2: as they say in some of the old school churches, 145 00:08:40,640 --> 00:08:44,080 Speaker 2: come as you are, and so we want you to 146 00:08:44,440 --> 00:08:50,160 Speaker 2: join us in this sleepover as you are in that moment. 147 00:08:50,559 --> 00:08:54,080 Speaker 2: We recognize that some of you, depending on where you 148 00:08:54,160 --> 00:08:57,160 Speaker 2: are in the country at the time that you'll join us, 149 00:08:57,760 --> 00:09:01,240 Speaker 2: some of you may be having dinner, some of you 150 00:09:01,320 --> 00:09:06,480 Speaker 2: may already be in your pajamas down, all the kids 151 00:09:06,480 --> 00:09:11,640 Speaker 2: are down, and you're winding down for the night. However 152 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:16,319 Speaker 2: you are showing up, we want you in the space. 153 00:09:17,840 --> 00:09:21,400 Speaker 1: Yes, and lady, don't worry about things being awkward or 154 00:09:21,840 --> 00:09:23,920 Speaker 1: please don't overthink and they like, oh, I don't know 155 00:09:23,960 --> 00:09:25,640 Speaker 1: anyone there, like I don't know if I want to 156 00:09:25,640 --> 00:09:28,480 Speaker 1: show up for the heiight go to sleepover. We literally 157 00:09:28,520 --> 00:09:30,600 Speaker 1: exude the same vibe that we have on the podcast 158 00:09:30,679 --> 00:09:33,720 Speaker 1: in person. It's a safe space. We're going to have love, 159 00:09:33,800 --> 00:09:36,600 Speaker 1: good energy, we'd like to say, kind girl energy. So 160 00:09:36,679 --> 00:09:39,200 Speaker 1: come on out. If you are seeking community, if you 161 00:09:39,240 --> 00:09:42,680 Speaker 1: are seeking sisterhood, if you are seeking authentic women who 162 00:09:43,400 --> 00:09:45,960 Speaker 1: get you or are open to getting you, this is 163 00:09:46,000 --> 00:09:49,720 Speaker 1: the place for you. So again, herspacepodcast dot com will 164 00:09:49,760 --> 00:09:51,720 Speaker 1: add some links in the show notes for you as well, 165 00:09:52,080 --> 00:09:54,960 Speaker 1: or you can visit our Instagram at her Space podcast 166 00:09:55,120 --> 00:09:57,120 Speaker 1: and you can click the links in our bio. Lady, 167 00:09:57,120 --> 00:09:58,960 Speaker 1: we hope to see you there for the virtual sleepover, 168 00:09:59,000 --> 00:10:00,360 Speaker 1: and if you're in the Bay area or want to 169 00:10:00,400 --> 00:10:02,280 Speaker 1: come out here, we hope to see you for our 170 00:10:02,280 --> 00:10:06,520 Speaker 1: eleven eleven manifestation hike. 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