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Speaker 1: Let's it all right, before we get into some of
Speaker 1: those great questions, let's do our topic of the day.
Speaker 1: All right, you're ready? What questions should you be asking
Speaker 1: on the first few dates when you're seeing someone? And
Speaker 1: what should I know about someone before making them my
Speaker 1: official boyfriend or girlfriend?
Speaker 2: Recently I've shared this with you about how to get
Speaker 2: to know somebody within the first few minutes. So Kathy,
Speaker 2: you go ahead and answer first, and then I'm going
Speaker 2: to read these five power quote No, I have them, Okay,
Speaker 2: go ahead, go ahead. I haven't used it yet. Okay,
Speaker 2: I just wrote them down and I really want to
Speaker 2: do this, all right, Five powerful questions so that you
Speaker 2: kind of know somebody. Number one, what makes you feel
Speaker 2: most alive? How about if we pretend we're the first one. Kathy,
Speaker 2: I'm going to ask you these questions and then at
Speaker 2: the end we'll see how much we know. So if
Speaker 2: someone to ask.
Speaker 1: Me, this is only a half hour show and we
Speaker 1: have trying for this.
Speaker 2: What makes you feel most alive? I would have to
Speaker 2: think about that, right, No, what.
Speaker 1: Makes me most alive is being outside, walking, hiking, scene
Speaker 1: sights that I've never seen before.
Speaker 2: Okay, what's the best compliment you ever received?
Speaker 1: That the best compliment? Oh, I don't know. I can't
Speaker 1: answer that.
Speaker 2: I mean, okay, what's your idea of a perfect day?
Speaker 1: Perfect day for me alone or with someone. If I
Speaker 1: were with someone, it would be getting up, sharing coffee together,
Speaker 1: chatting about the day, and then doing something together.
Speaker 2: A perfect day having someone to do that with. Right,
Speaker 2: what's the best piece of advice you've ever received.
Speaker 1: Live your life and do the things you love, and
Speaker 1: the right people will come into your life.
Speaker 2: What's one thing that you wish people could understand about
Speaker 2: you better?
Speaker 1: That my sense of humor is often trying to cover
Speaker 1: or a sensitive.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but if you were to ask somebody knew those
Speaker 2: fives I think they've done for the hills, Well, I
Speaker 2: would share, like I just got this. Let's play this
Speaker 2: game and we'll get to know each other, make it fun.
Speaker 2: But I think you would know somebody a little bit
Speaker 2: how they think and what they think a fun day
Speaker 2: is and right? How else are you going to figure
Speaker 2: those things out?
Speaker 1: No? I think those are actually very good questions. Yeah,
Speaker 1: how much would you need to know about someone before
Speaker 1: you made them your official boyfriend? Enough? Did you say enough?
Speaker 2: Yeah? I mean how much can you know? You know
Speaker 2: the outward signs, you know, what kind of a job
Speaker 2: he has, what kind of a family life he has?
Speaker 2: They are all no brainers. But you don't really know
Speaker 2: somebody until you are the girlfriend or the boyfriend. You know,
Speaker 2: if you get into the little things, Because like we
Speaker 2: just talked about not too long ago, all the fun
Speaker 2: fuzzy stuff the girl that doesn't one doesn't have enough
Speaker 2: sex or they don't make out, you know what I mean,
Speaker 2: as you lose things that when you get too comfortable
Speaker 2: with one another. So, yeah, how about you.
Speaker 1: I think i'd have to know for me if if
Speaker 1: he's my boyfriend, which so at my age sounds so
Speaker 1: weird to say that, But if he's my boyfriend, that
Speaker 1: my person. I like that better. That we're committing to
Speaker 1: each other. That means we're only sleeping with each other.
Speaker 2: To make it know we're on the same page.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're on the same page, absolutely. I mean that's that.
Speaker 2: Was Yeah, that was an easy one.
Speaker 1: Yeah, any think all right? How about we give some
Speaker 1: advice here? Okay, I love this all right? Anonymous asks, Hi,
Speaker 1: Kathy and Susan. I've been loving your podcast and I'm
Speaker 1: hoping you are able to offer me some advice. I
Speaker 1: don't know, Susan, you think we can offer some advice?
Speaker 2: I think so?
Speaker 1: All right. I am twenty eight and developed a close
Speaker 1: friendship with a coworker this year who is twenty nine.
Speaker 1: We work together and hit it off right away with
Speaker 1: mutual interests, similar senses of humor and values. Up until recently,
Speaker 1: we saw each other just as friends, but started chatting
Speaker 1: more outside of work. Feelings grew, and we both admitted
Speaker 1: that we like each other as more than friends. The
Speaker 1: only problem is that we are both healing from past
Speaker 1: relationships and that neither of us are ready to pursue
Speaker 1: one another and give one hundred percent to a relationship
Speaker 1: right now. He was engaged and his fiance cheated on
Speaker 1: him right before their wedding last year, and I'm coming
Speaker 1: out of a toxic relationship, so there's a lot to
Speaker 1: unpack on both ends. I am planning to start therapy
Speaker 1: as is he, and we have already taken positive steps
Speaker 1: forward from our past. We have put boundaries in place
Speaker 1: regarding how often we chat, texts, etc. Though have struggled
Speaker 1: to maintain this as we both really like each other
Speaker 1: and have a strong attraction. We have discussed focusing on
Speaker 1: our friendship right now while trying to put our feelings
Speaker 1: for one another side. I really like him and want
Speaker 1: to continue talking and just spend time together as friends,
Speaker 1: but I don't know if this would help or hurt
Speaker 1: things between us and any potential relationship. While I'm not
Speaker 1: holding out hope on a relationship, I truly do hope
Speaker 1: this is just a right person, wrong timing kind of thing.
Speaker 1: If anything, I do not want to lose our friendship.
Speaker 1: You two always share such great advice, and I'm hoping
Speaker 1: you can help me out with this. Love you both.
Speaker 1: I think you and I are going to come up
Speaker 1: with the same answer. What do you say say is that?
Speaker 2: Well? First of all, I'm still stuck on we have
Speaker 2: put boundaries in place regarding how often we chatized.
Speaker 1: I told you we were going to buck you don't
Speaker 1: do that. Hey, listen, I love you, Susan. I going
Speaker 1: to agree on this. I was like, there's no way,
Speaker 1: not only that the right one that I love to
Speaker 1: do all this work about it, You're going to ruin it, Anonymous.
Speaker 1: If you have strong feelings from and he does for you,
Speaker 1: it couldn't It could be the right guy right time.
Speaker 1: Why why do you insist on? Do you can do
Speaker 1: the work while you're still seeing him?
Speaker 2: She's saying, I would for this opportunity to actually discussed
Speaker 2: focusing on our friendship right now.
Speaker 1: That's you know what's Anonymous, You're gonna end up with
Speaker 1: a friend, not a boyfriend. I think you should go
Speaker 1: down the road. You just get the therapy, there's wouldn't
Speaker 1: you go down the road? Isn't?
Speaker 2: Well, what we don't know is how long ago the
Speaker 2: breakup was. I mean, i'll give her that said.
Speaker 1: Well, her fiance was a year last, you know, the
Speaker 1: last year.
Speaker 2: Okay, and he's planning on going to therapy and it's
Speaker 2: already been a year.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so that's a little I like.
Speaker 2: Read things all over the place.
Speaker 1: I mean, if you are.
Speaker 2: Struggling inside only you know that, then you need therapy
Speaker 2: for yourself, that's great. But if you've found somebody that you're.
Speaker 1: A she's just coming out of the toxic though. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so I think you know your chance, you take a chance.
Speaker 1: But Susan's absolutely right. If there's the only red flag
Speaker 1: I see in this is he broke up a year
Speaker 1: ago and he hasn't done any work yet, So I might.
Speaker 2: Be her with all this focusing stuff like you need
Speaker 2: to to out it and you know what, if it
Speaker 2: doesn't work out, it tried and you enjoyed the moment.
Speaker 2: I mean, don't read into Harry Free lighting up.
Speaker 1: This person anonymous. We love you, We love that you
Speaker 1: have this opportunity with this guy. You know, too many boundaries,
Speaker 1: you know what too many boundaries cause more a wall
Speaker 1: a wall that you just can't get all a brick wall.
Speaker 1: So try try, just go for it, go for it
Speaker 1: and let and please let right back and let us know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we you want to know how this goes. But I
Speaker 1: don't think it's the right I think it could be
Speaker 1: the right person. I just disagree with you that.
Speaker 2: It sounds like the chemistry is there. It sounds as
Speaker 2: if like they're both attracted and off to wh whoa wait,
Speaker 2: we don't want to get ahead of ourselves. And then
Speaker 2: you kiss him and it's like.
Speaker 1: Forget him out. I don't know you, and I just
Speaker 1: will you and I believe in love. And if she's
Speaker 1: into the sky and he says into her, take a
Speaker 1: chance to get your word tire dating.
Speaker 2: The word toxic is scary, and I hear where she's
Speaker 2: coming from. But let things go a little bit. Heal yourself,
Speaker 2: all right. The next question is it so you said
Speaker 2: let it go your past? Oh, let go your past? Okay, yeah,
Speaker 2: the toxic thing.
Speaker 1: And I'm glad you're going to therapy and hopefully he
Speaker 1: does too.
Speaker 2: So we have another another anonymous Hi, Susan and Kathy,
Speaker 2: I need some advice on how to help my in
Speaker 2: laws with their finances. Here's a little background. My father
Speaker 2: in law's business fell apart fifteen years ago and the
Speaker 2: family lost everything the business, their house, their cars. My
Speaker 2: husband and his parents were in and out of hotels
Speaker 2: during this time, and they racked up a lot of debt.
Speaker 2: Over the past fifteen years. My mother in law has
Speaker 2: worked multiple jobs to support the family, while my father
Speaker 2: in law refused to go back to work after this
Speaker 2: because he was depressed. Now in the present, my husband
Speaker 2: and I are thirty years old with a two year
Speaker 2: old and hopefully another on the way soon. Congratulations. My
Speaker 2: in laws received recently informed us of several debts that
Speaker 2: they have that they are adding up. My husband and
Speaker 2: I do well for ourselves, but by no means are
Speaker 2: raking in extra money that we don't know what to
Speaker 2: do with. That being said, we have come to the
Speaker 2: realization that we will likely have to help financially when
Speaker 2: my mother in law retires in four years. My in
Speaker 2: laws are hesitant to discuss these debts and their finances further,
Speaker 2: but my husband and I feel like we deserve to
Speaker 2: know what their money is going towards. If we are
Speaker 2: likely going to be funding their retirement. We have explained
Speaker 2: to them that we would need them to move closer
Speaker 2: to us. Currently they are a twelve hour drive away.
Speaker 2: Oh god, as my husband is the only child, and
Speaker 2: we won't be able to do a hop, skip and
Speaker 2: jump away if something medically happens to one of them.
Speaker 2: They can't just fly over there. Okay, this conversation never
Speaker 2: goes over well as they are reluctant, reluctant to move
Speaker 2: down south? How would you address this conversation with them?
Speaker 2: And do you think we are being unreasonable for want
Speaker 2: enclaslay into their finances and them to move closer to us.
Speaker 2: Thank you? Wow, I record, they're not changing. They're not changing,
Speaker 2: and they're not They're not going to The only child
Speaker 2: is going to be stuck. I mean, that's why you
Speaker 2: never want to be an only child. First of all,
Speaker 2: I have so many problems with this. First of all, Anonymous,
Speaker 2: I think you are lovely you and your husband that
Speaker 2: you are willing to consider supporting them given that your
Speaker 2: father in law never got another job. Doesn't sound like
Speaker 2: he got therapy, doesn't sound like he did any group
Speaker 2: work to get him out of his depression. I don't
Speaker 2: know if he took medication, but you know, it's sort
Speaker 2: of like he's going to do his thing and now
Speaker 2: you're going to take care of him.
Speaker 1: So I struggled out a little bit. I think you absolutely,
Speaker 1: I don't know, Susan. You know me. I think you
Speaker 1: absolutely can say. Look, guys, if if you need money
Speaker 1: from us, money comes at a cost, and the cost
Speaker 1: is you have to share your finances with us, and
Speaker 1: where the money's going, you have to move closer to
Speaker 1: us because we can't get there to you. Now.
Speaker 2: They don't want to ask them for money yet they're
Speaker 2: just telling them the debt that's growing.
Speaker 1: Well, they think they're telling them because they want them to,
Speaker 1: you know, buy a box of chocolates. They're telling them
Speaker 1: because they need help. But that is a good point, Susan.
Speaker 1: Maybe they should wait until they ask for help. Maybe
Speaker 1: you do that.
Speaker 2: Because it's not going to change a damn thing. They
Speaker 2: are who they are. I'm a little concerned with the
Speaker 2: father never going back to work. Depression is real. I
Speaker 2: get it. I'm not excusing it. And there's medication, but
Speaker 2: he sounds like he gave up. Yeah, and that's not
Speaker 2: fair to his only ch that's.
Speaker 1: What I'm saying.
Speaker 2: He's supposed to pick up the pieces.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and they have a young family, and you know
Speaker 1: it says my in laws recently informed us. Well, they,
Speaker 1: like I said, they weren't informing you because they were
Speaker 1: about to tell you they want the lottery. They're informing
Speaker 1: you because they want help. And I believe them. Who
Speaker 1: has the gold makes the rules, right, So if you, Anonymous,
Speaker 1: and your husband are going to be supporting them and
Speaker 1: funding their life, guess what you get to make the rules.
Speaker 1: And I don't mean to sound harsh.
Speaker 2: No, I know, but I still want to know what
Speaker 2: the father's doing and what is he doing.
Speaker 1: He's probably sitting around reading the newspapers or.
Speaker 2: And the mother's out working and she's not going to
Speaker 2: retire for four more years, right? Is there a pension?
Speaker 2: Is there a just working odd jobs? Don't I need
Speaker 2: more details?
Speaker 1: But I also think they need to. Yes, we need
Speaker 1: more details. And guess who else needs more details? They do?
Speaker 1: They do? So Anonymous, you need to have this hard
Speaker 1: conversation with your husband. Does your husband needs to say, Okay.
Speaker 2: Look, you know she is a saint, this woman, Like.
Speaker 1: That's what I said, You're a sant anonymous, Well, let
Speaker 1: us know what happens. Good luck. It's a very hard
Speaker 1: situation to be in. And I'm sorry, and I hope
Speaker 1: you do have that second child, and.
Speaker 2: I would start stashing some money that nobody knows about it,
Speaker 2: because if you guys go broke, at least just well
Speaker 2: you knowsthy, they end up moving in with you because
Speaker 2: you can't. It's nightmare. I see a nightmare.
Speaker 1: Don't let that happen, Anonymous. Don't not make as bad
Speaker 1: choices they did. Sometimes you have them, don't move them
Speaker 1: closed right away? No no, no, no, no no no,
Speaker 1: keep them. Well, it depends how old they are. What
Speaker 1: are they going to do? They don't have any other family,
Speaker 1: and they have health issues. That's a no brainer. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I think you I really were beating a dead horser.
Speaker 1: But I really think if you guys are going to
Speaker 1: be supporting them, you get to set the allowance, you
Speaker 1: get to set the rules. And it's really hard because
Speaker 1: you're switching roles. You're becoming the parents and they're becoming
Speaker 1: the kids. And that's resist. All right, let's move on,
Speaker 1: all right. Another anonymous, Another anonymous, how do you compromise
Speaker 1: on wedding expectations. I come from a small family that
Speaker 1: I am not close to, and I have had to
Speaker 1: work really hard for my savings and everything I have.
Speaker 1: My significant other comes from a large family that is
Speaker 1: used to grand get together as weddings, et cetera. My
Speaker 1: family will not help me pay for a wedding, and
Speaker 1: I do not want to disappoint my significant other when
Speaker 1: the time comes, because I want to use my savings
Speaker 1: on a home rather than pain to provide food and
Speaker 1: alcohol to hundreds. Love you ladies, and I listen every week.
Speaker 2: You definitely do have a conversation. And if his family
Speaker 2: loves all that, a lot of times his family will
Speaker 2: help pay. That's the only way they're going to have
Speaker 2: the kind of wedding that they expect. They're going to
Speaker 2: have to help pay for it. Because you have a
Speaker 2: great brain and you're right use that money for a
Speaker 2: down payment on it.
Speaker 1: Yes, exactly, And you know what I thought you were
Speaker 1: going to say? Our favorite word, Susan. You need to communicate, communicate,
Speaker 1: come to your significant What are the three c's. I
Speaker 1: don't know, Collaborate, communic co I don't know what compromise.
Speaker 2: Compromise, communicate, compromise, create. I was going to say, consider it.
Speaker 2: I forgot my three words.
Speaker 1: We'll come backward.
Speaker 2: This is what happens when you're sixty seven. Anybody else
Speaker 2: out there forget things?
Speaker 1: Yeah, just a little, But listen to what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I really do think that you you have to talk
Speaker 1: to your significant other, communicate with him or her about
Speaker 1: and more expectations.
Speaker 2: Huh, and her mother in law to be just be
Speaker 2: sad puppy face and go talk to the mother in law.
Speaker 2: Say you don't have just a mother in law, yes,
Speaker 2: because that's who's going to pay No excuse me, I'm
Speaker 2: just picturing the whole You.
Speaker 1: Don't I disagree, Susan, You don't go to the mother
Speaker 1: in law. If the in laws want to step up
Speaker 1: and say, listen a lot guys, we know you don't
Speaker 1: have a lot of money. We'd like to throw you
Speaker 1: the wedding and provide food and alcohol for hundreds, then
Speaker 1: you can do that. But but Anonymous, here's I just
Speaker 1: said this in the last question. Them who has the
Speaker 1: gold makes the rules. If they pay for your wedding,
Speaker 1: they're going to have a lot of expectations about how
Speaker 1: it should be. So if you want the wedding you want,
Speaker 1: then you talk to your partner, you guys working among yourselves,
Speaker 1: and then if they come to you and say, well,
Speaker 1: you know we want this, we want that, you can say, well,
Speaker 1: you know what, it's our wedding and this is what
Speaker 1: we've decided to do.
Speaker 2: No mom, Mom comes in with the checkbook. Yeah, just
Speaker 2: how it is with you. I know I don't spend
Speaker 2: your house money on No do not.
Speaker 1: All right?
Speaker 2: Question number four another anonymous Hi, Kathy and Susan. I
Speaker 2: am loving the podcast. I really look forward to hearing
Speaker 2: your podcast each week, especially the fan questions Friday episodes.
Speaker 2: I have a question for y'all about job happiness and
Speaker 2: what is normal. I recently graduated school in May of
Speaker 2: this year and have been working since the middle of June.
Speaker 2: I got a job in what I went to school for,
Speaker 2: so it would seem like I am right where I
Speaker 2: want it, except I am unhappy in my job. It
Speaker 2: is hard to put every single thing that I am
Speaker 2: unhappy about into words here, but it basically stems from
Speaker 2: me feeling like my boss doesn't fully appreciate me and
Speaker 2: what I do for him. And I have an hour
Speaker 2: long commute one way which I also don't like. I
Speaker 2: do like the majority of my coworkers, so it isn't
Speaker 2: all bad. I guess. My question is, how do you
Speaker 2: know that it is time to leave a job, and
Speaker 2: when is it too soon to leave a job? How
Speaker 2: do you discern being unhappy because this is my first
Speaker 2: real job and work is work, versus being unhappy because
Speaker 2: it is actually not a good job. I have asked
Speaker 2: my family and friend's opinions, but I'd love an unbiased opinion.
Speaker 2: Thank you in advance if you choose to answer my question. Well,
Speaker 2: of course we are oh an hour each way is
Speaker 2: a lot. It's your first one. You definitely want to
Speaker 2: have something good on the resume, so you don't want
Speaker 2: to leave too soon? Am I right? Kathy?
Speaker 1: There? Yeah? I mean she says that she graduated school
Speaker 1: in May and he's been working since the middle of June,
Speaker 1: so she's been working five what five months? Well, here's
Speaker 1: the thing I think she can start. You're looking your
Speaker 1: boss when you say he doesn't fully appreciate you, sweetie.
Speaker 1: I don't mean to sound awful, but you're working.
Speaker 2: He doesn't.
Speaker 1: He doesn't know it. Yeah, yeah, and he doesn't have to,
Speaker 1: you know, he has to provide a civil, good work environment,
Speaker 1: but he doesn't have to, you know, come into which
Speaker 1: he appreciates you. That may be your age a little
Speaker 1: bit that.
Speaker 2: You' yes, you know what I'm saying. I'm curious about
Speaker 2: what kind of job it was. She said she got
Speaker 2: a job that she went to school for. There's a
Speaker 2: lot of people that train and go to school and
Speaker 2: get degrees in something that they just don't love. And
Speaker 2: my advice is do something you enjoy doing.
Speaker 1: Well. Two things here. She took the job knowing it
Speaker 1: was an hour commute each way, So that to me is, yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, that's not much you can do about that.
Speaker 1: I think that you haven't been in the workforce long
Speaker 1: enough to know. Susan's absolutely right. If you've decided, you know,
Speaker 1: you went to school to be a nurse and you
Speaker 1: hate nursing because you pass out at the sight of blood,
Speaker 1: then you know, maybe you have to backtrack and rethink
Speaker 1: the whole thing. But understand, I don't mean to be
Speaker 1: a naysayer here, but you know, we've lived a long
Speaker 1: time here. If you are trained for that field and
Speaker 1: there aren't jobs in your neighborhood, clearly you would have
Speaker 1: taken one there. If it was.
Speaker 2: Kathy, let me do something. What do you get from
Speaker 2: I feel like it basically stems from me feeling like
Speaker 2: my boss doesn't fully appreciate me.
Speaker 1: I think that's due for him. I think that's her. Yes,
Speaker 1: that's you, That's what I'm saying. I don't That's why
Speaker 1: I started by saying. I don't want to sound mean,
Speaker 1: but you know, you're young and not everyone appreciates or.
Speaker 2: Has to being coddled anymore.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're not being you know, they're not giving you
Speaker 1: extra credit for passing an extra credit assignment in college.
Speaker 1: This is the real workforce. We're, sweetie or sir whoever
Speaker 1: I'm speaking with here. You have to earn your stripes.
Speaker 1: And we've all had first jobs. I don't want to
Speaker 1: tell you about my first job, and I worked my
Speaker 1: tail off and I never felt appreciated either. That's kind
Speaker 1: of the nature of a first job. So I think
Speaker 1: you've got to stick it out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm curious as to what she's doing, but like
Speaker 2: we said, you definitely want and you're in the corporate
Speaker 2: or a professional world now, something that looks good on
Speaker 2: your resume, so you don't want to quit too soon
Speaker 2: and you do like your coworkers the hour commute, that's
Speaker 2: a lot.
Speaker 1: To me, But I would get but Susan think positively.
Speaker 1: You know what if you have an hour in the car,
Speaker 1: take up reading books on tape, learn a foreign language.
Speaker 1: You know, you make use of that hour. Make use
Speaker 1: of that hour. It's not the worst thing, you know,
Speaker 1: make youse to that hour.
Speaker 2: And I would, what kind of relationship does she have?
Speaker 2: Wea her boss? Maybe you know you say, I hope
Speaker 2: you appreciate everything I do. Am I doing a good job?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 1: Like, well, if I'm guessing level, obviously I'm guessing she's
Speaker 1: entry left. She could be so so I know it's hard.
Speaker 1: It's a tough transition from school to the workforce. I would.
Speaker 1: I'm guessing your family and friends have said you cannot
Speaker 1: quit this job yet you know you And I'm going
Speaker 1: to get jump on that bandwagon and say you need
Speaker 1: to stick it out a litt at least a year.
Speaker 2: At least that's the business you want to be in.
Speaker 1: That right And if that's the business you want to
Speaker 1: be in, then that's really easy. Look for jobs closer
Speaker 1: to your home, and you can say the commute became
Speaker 1: that could be your reason for leaving. I love my job,
Speaker 1: I love my boss. I want to continue this, but
Speaker 1: the commute was just too long. And see if you
Speaker 1: can find a job closer to home. But give this
Speaker 1: guy a chance. You know, work hard for you anonymous
Speaker 1: that it is a good job though. Yeah, yes, yes,
Speaker 1: need to all right, because.
Speaker 2: Kay, Kathy, you're ready, it's my turn to say. We're
Speaker 2: going to play a game.
Speaker 1: Oh yes, moral quandary.
Speaker 2: No, we're going to play would you rather so we'll switch?
Speaker 1: I'd rather play questrants and we will both give our thoughts.
Speaker 1: I'll start us off.
Speaker 2: Okay. Would you rather win a lifetime supply of skin
Speaker 2: care products or high end shoes?
Speaker 1: Okay, Susan, I want you to guess, and I'll guess yours.
Speaker 1: I what do you think? I would rather have skincare? Yes?
Speaker 1: And you would rather have the shoes.
Speaker 2: I want both?
Speaker 1: Oh well, here she is back with both? All right?
Speaker 1: Would you rather be able to instantly do your makeup
Speaker 1: perfectly or have perfect hair every day?
Speaker 2: Instantly being able to do my makeup.
Speaker 1: Perfect that's because you have perfect hair. I want bear
Speaker 1: and makeup. I want no but your own hair. I'm
Speaker 1: talking about it. Listen, guys, I visited Susan where I'm
Speaker 1: literally with the round brush blowing my hair like you can.
Speaker 1: You can, you could read the Bible from front to
Speaker 1: back By the time I get my hair dry. Susan's
Speaker 1: like just ten seconds. I just need the hair and
Speaker 1: not She's not kidding in her hair is dry and
Speaker 1: looks perfect.
Speaker 2: Okay, I Did you rather have a time machine for
Speaker 2: one night or a chance to redo one day in
Speaker 2: your past?
Speaker 1: Oh? What do you? What do you want?
Speaker 2: I want to redo one day in my past?
Speaker 1: Are you gonna tell me what day? No?
Speaker 2: I am not.
Speaker 1: I'll get you later. You know what, I don't really
Speaker 1: have a preparation.
Speaker 2: You want to go forward or backward?
Speaker 1: I don't. Oh, I don't want to ever go forward.
Speaker 2: I like to see element of surprise.
Speaker 1: All right? Would you rather be known? Oh God, wait
Speaker 1: a minute, you're gonna you are going to laugh at
Speaker 1: my answer? Would And gentlemen, this is like so unbelievably
Speaker 1: a question for not me? Well, all right? Would you
Speaker 1: rather be known for your cooking skill? And you cannot
Speaker 1: say both? Would you rather be known for your cooking
Speaker 1: skills or your party hosting skills? Susan, you said, I
Speaker 1: can't say both, so I'm not so pick one. I'm
Speaker 1: already known for my cooking skills and my party skills,
Speaker 1: so you know what I don't I have to answer cooking.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm what the party? I am a party?
Speaker 2: You don't cook.
Speaker 1: I'm known for my party because, you know what I
Speaker 1: learned a long time ago, make everyone feel when they
Speaker 1: come in like the parties not complete until you're there.
Speaker 1: So I'm so glad you made it.
Speaker 2: I don't think that was a good question for us. Okay,
Speaker 2: would you rather give up wine or cheese forever? How
Speaker 2: dare they?
Speaker 1: I mean, I'd rather give up cheese. I have high cholesterol?
Speaker 1: What wine?
Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm a cheeze girl.
Speaker 1: I can't you give up?
Speaker 2: I'm going to be punished. I'm failing this test again.
Speaker 1: Alla, right, you know what. We could go on and on,
Speaker 1: but unfortunately our time has come to an end here,
Speaker 1: I did I know? Okay?
Speaker 2: One more, just one quick one? Okay?
Speaker 1: Can you pick it?
Speaker 2: Okay, while you're on your first date, would you rather
Speaker 2: accidentally spill your drink on your date or have the
Speaker 2: waiter accident in your lap?
Speaker 1: What's your answer? You wanted this question? What's your answer?
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I would like the waiter to spill
Speaker 2: my dinner in my lap, so.
Speaker 1: Would I know? And I'd get a clear, a full
Speaker 1: lipethan out of it. And I'd love to see what my
Speaker 1: date did to make me feel better.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I know we have to go. I'm
Speaker 2: so sorry. But would you rather accidentally text your ex?
Speaker 1: Boss? Oh?
Speaker 2: Your ex or your boss after a few glasses of wine?
Speaker 2: Which would you rather?
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't work anymore. What do you think?
Speaker 2: Okay, well that doesn't episode?
Speaker 1: Yeah really okay, Well, Susan would like to play this
Speaker 1: game all day. I can't get her to do moral
Speaker 1: quandary for thirty seconds, but she played would you rather forever? Anyway?
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