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<v Speaker 1>Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks for

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<v Speaker 1>joining us. Hey, Susan, how are you doing? We're so

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<v Speaker 1>excited to be here.

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<v Speaker 2>What's do with it? My stitches are almost all melting here,

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<v Speaker 2>so melting? How are you feeling?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm kind of with you on the stitches, they are

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<v Speaker 1>and I can't imagine there's one of you who don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Susan and I had some minimal plastic surgery done to

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<v Speaker 2>That's right. So, and I know everybody you're following our

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we just have fun doing this. We love all

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<v Speaker 2>you guys, and this week has been great because people

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<v Speaker 1>I know, don't you love that? I love your career

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<v Speaker 1>ahead of us. I know. I mean, it's it's not

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<v Speaker 1>that we're giving We're not therapists for sure, but we've

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<v Speaker 1>lived a lot of life, We've lived a lot of advice,

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<v Speaker 1>and so we've you know, we got some answers here.

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<v Speaker 2>So anyway, keep about to submit the questions.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's it all right, before we get into some of

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<v Speaker 1>those great questions, let's do our topic of the day.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, you're ready? What questions should you be asking

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<v Speaker 1>on the first few dates when you're seeing someone? And

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<v Speaker 1>what should I know about someone before making them my

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<v Speaker 1>official boyfriend or girlfriend?

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<v Speaker 2>Recently I've shared this with you about how to get

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<v Speaker 2>to know somebody within the first few minutes. So Kathy,

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<v Speaker 2>you go ahead and answer first, and then I'm going

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<v Speaker 2>to read these five power quote No, I have them, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>go ahead, go ahead. I haven't used it yet. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I just wrote them down and I really want to

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<v Speaker 2>do this, all right, Five powerful questions so that you

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<v Speaker 2>kind of know somebody. Number one, what makes you feel

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<v Speaker 2>most alive? How about if we pretend we're the first one. Kathy,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to ask you these questions and then at

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<v Speaker 2>the end we'll see how much we know. So if

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<v Speaker 2>someone to ask.

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<v Speaker 1>Me, this is only a half hour show and we

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<v Speaker 1>have trying for this.

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<v Speaker 2>What makes you feel most alive? I would have to

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<v Speaker 2>think about that, right, No, what.

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<v Speaker 1>Makes me most alive is being outside, walking, hiking, scene

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<v Speaker 1>sights that I've never seen before.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, what's the best compliment you ever received?

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<v Speaker 1>That the best compliment? Oh, I don't know. I can't

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<v Speaker 1>answer that.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, okay, what's your idea of a perfect day?

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<v Speaker 1>Perfect day for me alone or with someone. If I

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<v Speaker 1>were with someone, it would be getting up, sharing coffee together,

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<v Speaker 1>chatting about the day, and then doing something together.

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<v Speaker 2>A perfect day having someone to do that with. Right,

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<v Speaker 2>what's the best piece of advice you've ever received.

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<v Speaker 1>Live your life and do the things you love, and

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<v Speaker 1>the right people will come into your life.

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<v Speaker 2>What's one thing that you wish people could understand about

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<v Speaker 2>you better?

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<v Speaker 1>That my sense of humor is often trying to cover

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<v Speaker 1>or a sensitive.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but if you were to ask somebody knew those

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<v Speaker 2>fives I think they've done for the hills, Well, I

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<v Speaker 2>would share, like I just got this. Let's play this

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<v Speaker 2>game and we'll get to know each other, make it fun.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think you would know somebody a little bit

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<v Speaker 2>how they think and what they think a fun day

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<v Speaker 2>is and right? How else are you going to figure

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<v Speaker 2>those things out?

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<v Speaker 1>No? I think those are actually very good questions. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>how much would you need to know about someone before

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<v Speaker 1>you made them your official boyfriend? Enough? Did you say enough?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? I mean how much can you know? You know

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<v Speaker 2>the outward signs, you know, what kind of a job

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<v Speaker 2>he has, what kind of a family life he has?

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<v Speaker 2>They are all no brainers. But you don't really know

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<v Speaker 2>somebody until you are the girlfriend or the boyfriend. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>if you get into the little things, Because like we

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<v Speaker 2>just talked about not too long ago, all the fun

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<v Speaker 2>fuzzy stuff the girl that doesn't one doesn't have enough

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<v Speaker 2>sex or they don't make out, you know what I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>as you lose things that when you get too comfortable

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<v Speaker 2>with one another. So, yeah, how about you.

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<v Speaker 1>I think i'd have to know for me if if

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<v Speaker 1>he's my boyfriend, which so at my age sounds so

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<v Speaker 1>weird to say that, But if he's my boyfriend, that

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<v Speaker 1>my person. I like that better. That we're committing to

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<v Speaker 1>each other. That means we're only sleeping with each other.

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<v Speaker 2>To make it know we're on the same page.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we're on the same page, absolutely. I mean that's that.

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<v Speaker 2>Was Yeah, that was an easy one.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, any think all right? How about we give some

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<v Speaker 1>advice here? Okay, I love this all right? Anonymous asks, Hi,

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<v Speaker 1>Kathy and Susan. I've been loving your podcast and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>hoping you are able to offer me some advice. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, Susan, you think we can offer some advice?

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<v Speaker 2>I think so?

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<v Speaker 1>All right. I am twenty eight and developed a close

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<v Speaker 1>friendship with a coworker this year who is twenty nine.

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<v Speaker 1>We work together and hit it off right away with

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<v Speaker 1>mutual interests, similar senses of humor and values. Up until recently,

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<v Speaker 1>we saw each other just as friends, but started chatting

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<v Speaker 1>more outside of work. Feelings grew, and we both admitted

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<v Speaker 1>that we like each other as more than friends. The

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<v Speaker 1>only problem is that we are both healing from past

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<v Speaker 1>relationships and that neither of us are ready to pursue

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<v Speaker 1>one another and give one hundred percent to a relationship

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<v Speaker 1>right now. He was engaged and his fiance cheated on

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<v Speaker 1>him right before their wedding last year, and I'm coming

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<v Speaker 1>out of a toxic relationship, so there's a lot to

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<v Speaker 1>unpack on both ends. I am planning to start therapy

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<v Speaker 1>as is he, and we have already taken positive steps

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<v Speaker 1>forward from our past. We have put boundaries in place

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<v Speaker 1>regarding how often we chat, texts, etc. Though have struggled

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<v Speaker 1>to maintain this as we both really like each other

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<v Speaker 1>and have a strong attraction. We have discussed focusing on

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<v Speaker 1>our friendship right now while trying to put our feelings

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<v Speaker 1>for one another side. I really like him and want

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<v Speaker 1>to continue talking and just spend time together as friends,

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<v Speaker 1>but I don't know if this would help or hurt

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<v Speaker 1>things between us and any potential relationship. While I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>holding out hope on a relationship, I truly do hope

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<v Speaker 1>this is just a right person, wrong timing kind of thing.

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<v Speaker 1>If anything, I do not want to lose our friendship.

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<v Speaker 1>You two always share such great advice, and I'm hoping

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<v Speaker 1>you can help me out with this. Love you both.

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<v Speaker 1>I think you and I are going to come up

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<v Speaker 1>with the same answer. What do you say say is that?

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<v Speaker 2>Well? First of all, I'm still stuck on we have

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<v Speaker 2>put boundaries in place regarding how often we chatized.

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<v Speaker 1>I told you we were going to buck you don't

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<v Speaker 1>do that. Hey, listen, I love you, Susan. I going

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<v Speaker 1>to agree on this. I was like, there's no way,

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<v Speaker 1>not only that the right one that I love to

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<v Speaker 1>do all this work about it, You're going to ruin it, Anonymous.

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<v Speaker 1>If you have strong feelings from and he does for you,

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<v Speaker 1>it couldn't It could be the right guy right time.

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<v Speaker 1>Why why do you insist on? Do you can do

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<v Speaker 1>the work while you're still seeing him?

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<v Speaker 2>She's saying, I would for this opportunity to actually discussed

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<v Speaker 2>focusing on our friendship right now.

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<v Speaker 1>That's you know what's Anonymous, You're gonna end up with

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<v Speaker 1>a friend, not a boyfriend. I think you should go

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<v Speaker 1>down the road. You just get the therapy, there's wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>you go down the road? Isn't?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, what we don't know is how long ago the

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<v Speaker 2>breakup was. I mean, i'll give her that said.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, her fiance was a year last, you know, the

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<v Speaker 1>last year.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, and he's planning on going to therapy and it's

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<v Speaker 2>already been a year.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so that's a little I like.

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<v Speaker 2>Read things all over the place.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, if you are.

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<v Speaker 2>Struggling inside only you know that, then you need therapy

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<v Speaker 2>for yourself, that's great. But if you've found somebody that you're.

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<v Speaker 1>A she's just coming out of the toxic though. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so I think you know your chance, you take a chance.

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<v Speaker 1>But Susan's absolutely right. If there's the only red flag

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<v Speaker 1>I see in this is he broke up a year

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<v Speaker 1>ago and he hasn't done any work yet, So I might.

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<v Speaker 2>Be her with all this focusing stuff like you need

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<v Speaker 2>to to out it and you know what, if it

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't work out, it tried and you enjoyed the moment.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, don't read into Harry Free lighting up.

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<v Speaker 1>This person anonymous. We love you, We love that you

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<v Speaker 1>have this opportunity with this guy. You know, too many boundaries,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what too many boundaries cause more a wall

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<v Speaker 1>a wall that you just can't get all a brick wall.

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<v Speaker 1>So try try, just go for it, go for it

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<v Speaker 1>and let and please let right back and let us know. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we you want to know how this goes. But I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think it's the right I think it could be

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<v Speaker 1>the right person. I just disagree with you that.

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<v Speaker 2>It sounds like the chemistry is there. It sounds as

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<v Speaker 2>if like they're both attracted and off to wh whoa wait,

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<v Speaker 2>we don't want to get ahead of ourselves. And then

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<v Speaker 2>you kiss him and it's like.

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<v Speaker 1>Forget him out. I don't know you, and I just

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<v Speaker 1>will you and I believe in love. And if she's

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<v Speaker 1>into the sky and he says into her, take a

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<v Speaker 1>chance to get your word tire dating.

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<v Speaker 2>The word toxic is scary, and I hear where she's

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<v Speaker 2>coming from. But let things go a little bit. Heal yourself,

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<v Speaker 2>all right. The next question is it so you said

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<v Speaker 2>let it go your past? Oh, let go your past? Okay, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>the toxic thing.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm glad you're going to therapy and hopefully he

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<v Speaker 1>does too.

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<v Speaker 2>So we have another another anonymous Hi, Susan and Kathy,

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<v Speaker 2>I need some advice on how to help my in

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<v Speaker 2>laws with their finances. Here's a little background. My father

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<v Speaker 2>in law's business fell apart fifteen years ago and the

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<v Speaker 2>family lost everything the business, their house, their cars. My

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<v Speaker 2>husband and his parents were in and out of hotels

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<v Speaker 2>during this time, and they racked up a lot of debt.

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<v Speaker 2>Over the past fifteen years. My mother in law has

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<v Speaker 2>worked multiple jobs to support the family, while my father

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<v Speaker 2>in law refused to go back to work after this

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<v Speaker 2>because he was depressed. Now in the present, my husband

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<v Speaker 2>and I are thirty years old with a two year

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<v Speaker 2>old and hopefully another on the way soon. Congratulations. My

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<v Speaker 2>in laws received recently informed us of several debts that

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<v Speaker 2>they have that they are adding up. My husband and

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<v Speaker 2>I do well for ourselves, but by no means are

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<v Speaker 2>raking in extra money that we don't know what to

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<v Speaker 2>do with. That being said, we have come to the

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<v Speaker 2>realization that we will likely have to help financially when

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<v Speaker 2>my mother in law retires in four years. My in

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<v Speaker 2>laws are hesitant to discuss these debts and their finances further,

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<v Speaker 2>but my husband and I feel like we deserve to

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<v Speaker 2>know what their money is going towards. If we are

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<v Speaker 2>likely going to be funding their retirement. We have explained

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<v Speaker 2>to them that we would need them to move closer

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<v Speaker 2>to us. Currently they are a twelve hour drive away.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh god, as my husband is the only child, and

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<v Speaker 2>we won't be able to do a hop, skip and

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<v Speaker 2>jump away if something medically happens to one of them.

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<v Speaker 2>They can't just fly over there. Okay, this conversation never

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<v Speaker 2>goes over well as they are reluctant, reluctant to move

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<v Speaker 2>down south? How would you address this conversation with them?

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<v Speaker 2>And do you think we are being unreasonable for want

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<v Speaker 2>enclaslay into their finances and them to move closer to us.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you? Wow, I record, they're not changing. They're not changing,

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<v Speaker 2>and they're not They're not going to The only child

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<v Speaker 2>is going to be stuck. I mean, that's why you

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<v Speaker 2>never want to be an only child. First of all,

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<v Speaker 2>I have so many problems with this. First of all, Anonymous,

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<v Speaker 2>I think you are lovely you and your husband that

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<v Speaker 2>you are willing to consider supporting them given that your

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<v Speaker 2>father in law never got another job. Doesn't sound like

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<v Speaker 2>he got therapy, doesn't sound like he did any group

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<v Speaker 2>work to get him out of his depression. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know if he took medication, but you know, it's sort

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<v Speaker 2>of like he's going to do his thing and now

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<v Speaker 2>you're going to take care of him.

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<v Speaker 1>So I struggled out a little bit. I think you absolutely,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, Susan. You know me. I think you

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<v Speaker 1>absolutely can say. Look, guys, if if you need money

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<v Speaker 1>from us, money comes at a cost, and the cost

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<v Speaker 1>is you have to share your finances with us, and

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<v Speaker 1>where the money's going, you have to move closer to

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<v Speaker 1>us because we can't get there to you. Now.

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<v Speaker 2>They don't want to ask them for money yet they're

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<v Speaker 2>just telling them the debt that's growing.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, they think they're telling them because they want them to,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, buy a box of chocolates. They're telling them

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<v Speaker 1>because they need help. But that is a good point, Susan.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe they should wait until they ask for help. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>you do that.

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<v Speaker 2>Because it's not going to change a damn thing. They

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<v Speaker 2>are who they are. I'm a little concerned with the

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<v Speaker 2>father never going back to work. Depression is real. I

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<v Speaker 2>get it. I'm not excusing it. And there's medication, but

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<v Speaker 2>he sounds like he gave up. Yeah, and that's not

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<v Speaker 2>fair to his only ch that's.

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<v Speaker 1>What I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>He's supposed to pick up the pieces.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and they have a young family, and you know

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<v Speaker 1>it says my in laws recently informed us. Well, they,

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<v Speaker 1>like I said, they weren't informing you because they were

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<v Speaker 1>about to tell you they want the lottery. They're informing

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<v Speaker 1>you because they want help. And I believe them. Who

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<v Speaker 1>has the gold makes the rules, right, So if you, Anonymous,

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<v Speaker 1>and your husband are going to be supporting them and

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<v Speaker 1>funding their life, guess what you get to make the rules.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't mean to sound harsh.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I know, but I still want to know what

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<v Speaker 2>the father's doing and what is he doing.

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<v Speaker 1>He's probably sitting around reading the newspapers or.

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<v Speaker 2>And the mother's out working and she's not going to

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<v Speaker 2>retire for four more years, right? Is there a pension?

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<v Speaker 2>Is there a just working odd jobs? Don't I need

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<v Speaker 2>more details?

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<v Speaker 1>But I also think they need to. Yes, we need

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<v Speaker 1>more details. And guess who else needs more details? They do?

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<v Speaker 1>They do? So Anonymous, you need to have this hard

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<v Speaker 1>conversation with your husband. Does your husband needs to say, Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Look, you know she is a saint, this woman, Like.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what I said, You're a sant anonymous, Well, let

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<v Speaker 1>us know what happens. Good luck. It's a very hard

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<v Speaker 1>situation to be in. And I'm sorry, and I hope

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<v Speaker 1>you do have that second child, and.

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<v Speaker 2>I would start stashing some money that nobody knows about it,

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<v Speaker 2>because if you guys go broke, at least just well

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<v Speaker 2>you knowsthy, they end up moving in with you because

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<v Speaker 2>you can't. It's nightmare. I see a nightmare.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't let that happen, Anonymous. Don't not make as bad

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<v Speaker 1>choices they did. Sometimes you have them, don't move them

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<v Speaker 1>closed right away? No no, no, no, no no no,

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<v Speaker 1>keep them. Well, it depends how old they are. What

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<v Speaker 1>are they going to do? They don't have any other family,

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<v Speaker 1>and they have health issues. That's a no brainer. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but I think you I really were beating a dead horser.

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<v Speaker 1>But I really think if you guys are going to

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<v Speaker 1>be supporting them, you get to set the allowance, you

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<v Speaker 1>get to set the rules. And it's really hard because

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<v Speaker 1>you're switching roles. You're becoming the parents and they're becoming

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<v Speaker 1>the kids. And that's resist. All right, let's move on,

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<v Speaker 1>all right. Another anonymous, Another anonymous, how do you compromise

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<v Speaker 1>on wedding expectations. I come from a small family that

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<v Speaker 1>I am not close to, and I have had to

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<v Speaker 1>work really hard for my savings and everything I have.

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<v Speaker 1>My significant other comes from a large family that is

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<v Speaker 1>used to grand get together as weddings, et cetera. My

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<v Speaker 1>family will not help me pay for a wedding, and

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<v Speaker 1>I do not want to disappoint my significant other when

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<v Speaker 1>the time comes, because I want to use my savings

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<v Speaker 1>on a home rather than pain to provide food and

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<v Speaker 1>alcohol to hundreds. Love you ladies, and I listen every week.

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<v Speaker 2>You definitely do have a conversation. And if his family

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<v Speaker 2>loves all that, a lot of times his family will

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<v Speaker 2>help pay. That's the only way they're going to have

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<v Speaker 2>the kind of wedding that they expect. They're going to

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<v Speaker 2>have to help pay for it. Because you have a

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<v Speaker 2>great brain and you're right use that money for a

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<v Speaker 2>down payment on it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, exactly, And you know what I thought you were

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<v Speaker 1>going to say? Our favorite word, Susan. You need to communicate, communicate,

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<v Speaker 1>come to your significant What are the three c's. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, Collaborate, communic co I don't know what compromise.

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<v Speaker 2>Compromise, communicate, compromise, create. I was going to say, consider it.

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<v Speaker 2>I forgot my three words.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll come backward.

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<v Speaker 2>This is what happens when you're sixty seven. Anybody else

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<v Speaker 2>out there forget things?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, just a little, But listen to what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>I really do think that you you have to talk

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<v Speaker 1>to your significant other, communicate with him or her about

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<v Speaker 1>and more expectations.

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<v Speaker 2>Huh, and her mother in law to be just be

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<v Speaker 2>sad puppy face and go talk to the mother in law.

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<v Speaker 2>Say you don't have just a mother in law, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>because that's who's going to pay No excuse me, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>just picturing the whole You.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't I disagree, Susan, You don't go to the mother

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<v Speaker 1>in law. If the in laws want to step up

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<v Speaker 1>and say, listen a lot guys, we know you don't

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<v Speaker 1>have a lot of money. We'd like to throw you

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<v Speaker 1>the wedding and provide food and alcohol for hundreds, then

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<v Speaker 1>you can do that. But but Anonymous, here's I just

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<v Speaker 1>said this in the last question. Them who has the

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<v Speaker 1>gold makes the rules. If they pay for your wedding,

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<v Speaker 1>they're going to have a lot of expectations about how

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<v Speaker 1>it should be. So if you want the wedding you want,

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<v Speaker 1>then you talk to your partner, you guys working among yourselves,

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<v Speaker 1>and then if they come to you and say, well,

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<v Speaker 1>you know we want this, we want that, you can say, well,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what, it's our wedding and this is what

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<v Speaker 1>we've decided to do.

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<v Speaker 2>No mom, Mom comes in with the checkbook. Yeah, just

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<v Speaker 2>how it is with you. I know I don't spend

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<v Speaker 2>your house money on No do not.

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<v Speaker 1>All right?

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<v Speaker 2>Question number four another anonymous Hi, Kathy and Susan. I

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<v Speaker 2>am loving the podcast. I really look forward to hearing

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<v Speaker 2>your podcast each week, especially the fan questions Friday episodes.

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<v Speaker 2>I have a question for y'all about job happiness and

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<v Speaker 2>what is normal. I recently graduated school in May of

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<v Speaker 2>this year and have been working since the middle of June.

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<v Speaker 2>I got a job in what I went to school for,

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<v Speaker 2>so it would seem like I am right where I

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<v Speaker 2>want it, except I am unhappy in my job. It

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<v Speaker 2>is hard to put every single thing that I am

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<v Speaker 2>unhappy about into words here, but it basically stems from

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<v Speaker 2>me feeling like my boss doesn't fully appreciate me and

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<v Speaker 2>what I do for him. And I have an hour

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<v Speaker 2>long commute one way which I also don't like. I

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<v Speaker 2>do like the majority of my coworkers, so it isn't

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<v Speaker 2>all bad. I guess. My question is, how do you

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<v Speaker 2>know that it is time to leave a job, and

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<v Speaker 2>when is it too soon to leave a job? How

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<v Speaker 2>do you discern being unhappy because this is my first

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<v Speaker 2>real job and work is work, versus being unhappy because

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<v Speaker 2>it is actually not a good job. I have asked

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<v Speaker 2>my family and friend's opinions, but I'd love an unbiased opinion.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you in advance if you choose to answer my question. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>of course we are oh an hour each way is

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<v Speaker 2>a lot. It's your first one. You definitely want to

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<v Speaker 2>have something good on the resume, so you don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to leave too soon? Am I right? Kathy?

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<v Speaker 1>There? Yeah? I mean she says that she graduated school

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<v Speaker 1>in May and he's been working since the middle of June,

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<v Speaker 1>so she's been working five what five months? Well, here's

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<v Speaker 1>the thing I think she can start. You're looking your

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<v Speaker 1>boss when you say he doesn't fully appreciate you, sweetie.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't mean to sound awful, but you're working.

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<v Speaker 2>He doesn't.

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<v Speaker 1>He doesn't know it. Yeah, yeah, and he doesn't have to,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, he has to provide a civil, good work environment,

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<v Speaker 1>but he doesn't have to, you know, come into which

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<v Speaker 1>he appreciates you. That may be your age a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit that.

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<v Speaker 2>You' yes, you know what I'm saying. I'm curious about

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<v Speaker 2>what kind of job it was. She said she got

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<v Speaker 2>a job that she went to school for. There's a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of people that train and go to school and

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<v Speaker 2>get degrees in something that they just don't love. And

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<v Speaker 2>my advice is do something you enjoy doing.

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<v Speaker 1>Well. Two things here. She took the job knowing it

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<v Speaker 1>was an hour commute each way, So that to me is, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, that's not much you can do about that.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that you haven't been in the workforce long

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<v Speaker 1>enough to know. Susan's absolutely right. If you've decided, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you went to school to be a nurse and you

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<v Speaker 1>hate nursing because you pass out at the sight of blood,

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<v Speaker 1>then you know, maybe you have to backtrack and rethink

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<v Speaker 1>the whole thing. But understand, I don't mean to be

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<v Speaker 1>a naysayer here, but you know, we've lived a long

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<v Speaker 1>time here. If you are trained for that field and

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<v Speaker 1>there aren't jobs in your neighborhood, clearly you would have

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<v Speaker 1>taken one there. If it was.

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<v Speaker 2>Kathy, let me do something. What do you get from

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like it basically stems from me feeling like

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<v Speaker 2>my boss doesn't fully appreciate me.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's due for him. I think that's her. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>that's you, That's what I'm saying. I don't That's why

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<v Speaker 1>I started by saying. I don't want to sound mean,

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<v Speaker 1>but you know, you're young and not everyone appreciates or.

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<v Speaker 2>Has to being coddled anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you're not being you know, they're not giving you

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<v Speaker 1>extra credit for passing an extra credit assignment in college.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the real workforce. We're, sweetie or sir whoever

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<v Speaker 1>I'm speaking with here. You have to earn your stripes.

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<v Speaker 1>And we've all had first jobs. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>tell you about my first job, and I worked my

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<v Speaker 1>tail off and I never felt appreciated either. That's kind

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<v Speaker 1>of the nature of a first job. So I think

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<v Speaker 1>you've got to stick it out.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm curious as to what she's doing, but like

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<v Speaker 2>we said, you definitely want and you're in the corporate

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<v Speaker 2>or a professional world now, something that looks good on

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<v Speaker 2>your resume, so you don't want to quit too soon

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<v Speaker 2>and you do like your coworkers the hour commute, that's

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<v Speaker 2>a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>To me, But I would get but Susan think positively.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what if you have an hour in the car,

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<v Speaker 1>take up reading books on tape, learn a foreign language.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, you make use of that hour. Make use

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<v Speaker 1>of that hour. It's not the worst thing, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>make youse to that hour.

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<v Speaker 2>And I would, what kind of relationship does she have?

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<v Speaker 2>Wea her boss? Maybe you know you say, I hope

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<v Speaker 2>you appreciate everything I do. Am I doing a good job?

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<v Speaker 2>You know?

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<v Speaker 1>Like, well, if I'm guessing level, obviously I'm guessing she's

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<v Speaker 1>entry left. She could be so so I know it's hard.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a tough transition from school to the workforce. I would.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm guessing your family and friends have said you cannot

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<v Speaker 1>quit this job yet you know you And I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to get jump on that bandwagon and say you need

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<v Speaker 1>to stick it out a litt at least a year.

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<v Speaker 2>At least that's the business you want to be in.

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<v Speaker 1>That right And if that's the business you want to

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<v Speaker 1>be in, then that's really easy. Look for jobs closer

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<v Speaker 1>to your home, and you can say the commute became

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<v Speaker 1>that could be your reason for leaving. I love my job,

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<v Speaker 1>I love my boss. I want to continue this, but

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<v Speaker 1>the commute was just too long. And see if you

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<v Speaker 1>can find a job closer to home. But give this

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<v Speaker 1>guy a chance. You know, work hard for you anonymous

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<v Speaker 1>that it is a good job though. Yeah, yes, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>need to all right, because.

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<v Speaker 2>Kay, Kathy, you're ready, it's my turn to say. We're

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<v Speaker 2>going to play a game.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yes, moral quandary.

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<v Speaker 2>No, we're going to play would you rather so we'll switch?

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<v Speaker 1>I'd rather play questrants and we will both give our thoughts.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll start us off.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay. Would you rather win a lifetime supply of skin

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<v Speaker 2>care products or high end shoes?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Susan, I want you to guess, and I'll guess yours.

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<v Speaker 1>I what do you think? I would rather have skincare? Yes?

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<v Speaker 1>And you would rather have the shoes.

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<v Speaker 2>I want both?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh well, here she is back with both? All right?

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<v Speaker 1>Would you rather be able to instantly do your makeup

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<v Speaker 1>perfectly or have perfect hair every day?

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<v Speaker 2>Instantly being able to do my makeup.

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<v Speaker 1>Perfect that's because you have perfect hair. I want bear

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<v Speaker 1>and makeup. I want no but your own hair. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>talking about it. Listen, guys, I visited Susan where I'm

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<v Speaker 1>literally with the round brush blowing my hair like you can.

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<v Speaker 1>You can, you could read the Bible from front to

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<v Speaker 1>back By the time I get my hair dry. Susan's

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<v Speaker 1>like just ten seconds. I just need the hair and

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<v Speaker 1>not She's not kidding in her hair is dry and

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<v Speaker 1>looks perfect.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I Did you rather have a time machine for

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<v Speaker 2>one night or a chance to redo one day in

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<v Speaker 2>your past?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh? What do you? What do you want?

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<v Speaker 2>I want to redo one day in my past?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you gonna tell me what day? No?

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<v Speaker 2>I am not.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll get you later. You know what, I don't really

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<v Speaker 1>have a preparation.

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<v Speaker 2>You want to go forward or backward?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. Oh, I don't want to ever go forward.

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<v Speaker 2>I like to see element of surprise.

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<v Speaker 1>All right? Would you rather be known? Oh God, wait

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<v Speaker 1>a minute, you're gonna you are going to laugh at

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<v Speaker 1>my answer? Would And gentlemen, this is like so unbelievably

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<v Speaker 1>a question for not me? Well, all right? Would you

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<v Speaker 1>rather be known for your cooking skill? And you cannot

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<v Speaker 1>say both? Would you rather be known for your cooking

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<v Speaker 1>skills or your party hosting skills? Susan, you said, I

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<v Speaker 1>can't say both, so I'm not so pick one. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>already known for my cooking skills and my party skills,

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<v Speaker 1>so you know what I don't I have to answer cooking.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm what the party? I am a party?

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<v Speaker 2>You don't cook.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm known for my party because, you know what I

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<v Speaker 1>learned a long time ago, make everyone feel when they

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<v Speaker 1>come in like the parties not complete until you're there.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm so glad you made it.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think that was a good question for us. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>would you rather give up wine or cheese forever? How

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<v Speaker 2>dare they?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'd rather give up cheese. I have high cholesterol?

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<v Speaker 1>What wine?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I'm a cheeze girl.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't you give up?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to be punished. I'm failing this test again.

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<v Speaker 1>Alla, right, you know what. We could go on and on,

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<v Speaker 1>but unfortunately our time has come to an end here,

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<v Speaker 1>I did I know? Okay?

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<v Speaker 2>One more, just one quick one? Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>Can you pick it?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, while you're on your first date, would you rather

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<v Speaker 2>accidentally spill your drink on your date or have the

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<v Speaker 2>waiter accident in your lap?

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<v Speaker 1>What's your answer? You wanted this question? What's your answer?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, I would like the waiter to spill

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<v Speaker 2>my dinner in my lap, so.

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<v Speaker 1>Would I know? And I'd get a clear, a full

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<v Speaker 1>lipethan out of it. And I'd love to see what my

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<v Speaker 1>date did to make me feel better.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, I know we have to go. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>so sorry. But would you rather accidentally text your ex?

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<v Speaker 1>Boss? Oh?

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<v Speaker 2>Your ex or your boss after a few glasses of wine?

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<v Speaker 2>Which would you rather?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, I don't work anymore. What do you think?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, well that doesn't episode?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah really okay, Well, Susan would like to play this

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<v Speaker 1>game all day. I can't get her to do moral

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<v Speaker 1>quandary for thirty seconds, but she played would you rather forever? Anyway?

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<v Speaker 1>This was a great episode. We had so much fun

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<v Speaker 1>on Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour today and we're so

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<v Speaker 1>glad you all joined us.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, and keep those questions coming back, they were really

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<v Speaker 1>Say it with me, Cat, I'm trying to work. I

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<v Speaker 1>always have any care have a great week.